Are you or a loved one crippled by sin? 00:00:01.36\00:00:03.57 Are you struggling with the stronghold 00:00:03.60\00:00:05.70 of same-sex attraction or sexual immorality? 00:00:05.73\00:00:09.00 Well, stay tuned to meet someone 00:00:09.04\00:00:10.77 who has some strategies to defeat the strongholds. 00:00:10.81\00:00:14.44 My name is Jason Bradley, 00:00:14.48\00:00:16.04 and you're watching Urban Report. 00:00:16.08\00:00:18.21 Hello, and welcome to Urban Report. 00:00:40.74\00:00:42.77 My guest today is Michael Carducci, 00:00:42.80\00:00:45.04 co-founder and speaker For Coming Out Ministries. 00:00:45.07\00:00:48.21 Welcome to Urban Report, Michael. 00:00:48.24\00:00:51.41 It's good to be here. It's great to have you here. 00:00:51.45\00:00:54.08 I wish you were here with me in person. 00:00:54.12\00:00:56.75 So we could talk about this incredible topic. 00:00:56.79\00:01:00.16 This is a powerful thing 00:01:00.19\00:01:01.52 we're going to be discussing today. 00:01:01.56\00:01:03.56 Yeah, I'm grateful for the opportunity, Jason. 00:01:03.59\00:01:05.73 Yes. 00:01:05.76\00:01:07.10 And I'm grateful for you stepping out 00:01:07.13\00:01:08.46 and taking this on. 00:01:08.50\00:01:10.67 So why don't you tell us about who is Coming Out Ministries? 00:01:10.70\00:01:15.70 Sure, thank you. 00:01:15.74\00:01:17.37 Coming Out Ministry started 11 years ago by five 00:01:17.41\00:01:20.58 individuals that all had testimonies 00:01:20.61\00:01:22.54 of coming out of sexual sin. 00:01:22.58\00:01:24.88 Specifically some of us were coming out of bisexuality, 00:01:24.91\00:01:29.02 transgenderism, lesbianism, bisexual addiction, 00:01:29.05\00:01:34.56 porn addiction, everything. 00:01:34.59\00:01:36.39 And as we realize that each one of us had a ministry, 00:01:36.42\00:01:39.26 we thought, you know, if one of us told a story, 00:01:39.29\00:01:42.23 that would be a good thing, but what if five people got 00:01:42.26\00:01:44.37 together and formed a ministry to tell their stories? 00:01:44.40\00:01:47.27 So that's how it started since then we now have six speakers. 00:01:47.30\00:01:50.81 We have 10 people on our board. 00:01:50.84\00:01:52.91 We have probably 25 volunteers, a volunteer behind the scenes. 00:01:52.94\00:01:56.98 So Coming Out Ministries has evolved into something 00:01:57.01\00:01:59.61 much greater than even what we anticipated 00:01:59.65\00:02:01.85 11 years ago. 00:02:01.88\00:02:03.22 Wow. Wow. 00:02:03.25\00:02:04.59 And it seems like 00:02:04.62\00:02:06.32 the climate is right for it right now 00:02:06.35\00:02:10.76 with all that's going on. 00:02:10.79\00:02:12.16 Well, do you know Jason? 00:02:12.19\00:02:13.53 I think, yeah, I think that our popularity hasn't necessarily 00:02:13.56\00:02:15.96 been because we're strong speakers 00:02:16.00\00:02:17.93 or incredible celebrities, I think is because of the... 00:02:17.97\00:02:20.97 It's the issue of the day. 00:02:21.00\00:02:22.34 As a matter of fact, Dwayne Lemon even calls us 00:02:22.37\00:02:24.54 the present truth ministry, because we're dealing about 00:02:24.57\00:02:28.14 the issues that contemporary society 00:02:28.18\00:02:30.35 is dealing with from a biblical perspective. 00:02:30.38\00:02:33.15 Yes. Yes. 00:02:33.18\00:02:35.65 What have been some of your triumphs? 00:02:35.68\00:02:39.32 Some of our triumphs? 00:02:39.35\00:02:40.69 I, well, it really, it really kind of goes back. 00:02:40.72\00:02:43.76 I think, to some of the ministry 00:02:43.79\00:02:45.86 opportunities that we've had in the past 00:02:45.89\00:02:47.46 where we've met people, 00:02:47.50\00:02:48.93 we've encouraged people along the way, 00:02:48.96\00:02:50.77 and they've chosen to walk away from their LGBT identities. 00:02:50.80\00:02:54.67 And as we were working with them, 00:02:54.70\00:02:56.40 we were studying with them and promoting them. 00:02:56.44\00:02:59.74 They were telling their stories, 00:02:59.77\00:03:01.11 their incredible stories and you know, 00:03:01.14\00:03:03.04 something, it's interesting that you bring it up 00:03:03.08\00:03:04.91 so early in the interview 00:03:04.95\00:03:06.48 and I really want to unpack this. 00:03:06.51\00:03:08.65 But one of the things that we started to realize 00:03:08.68\00:03:10.82 is that God gives us this incredible gift 00:03:10.85\00:03:13.62 and that's the gift of the will. 00:03:13.66\00:03:15.59 We have the choice of the will each and every day 00:03:15.62\00:03:18.69 and several times in a day. 00:03:18.73\00:03:20.70 And sometimes because of that precious gift, 00:03:20.73\00:03:23.37 that there's also a huge risk that goes to that gift 00:03:23.40\00:03:26.74 is that I can choose at any time to walk away. 00:03:26.77\00:03:30.41 And it's not a gay thing. 00:03:30.44\00:03:31.77 It's not a straight thing. 00:03:31.81\00:03:33.14 It's basically God's respecting of the will. 00:03:33.17\00:03:35.98 So in the last 11 years, we've had individuals 00:03:36.01\00:03:39.81 that chose to go back into the gay culture 00:03:39.85\00:03:42.15 or they fell back into addictions, 00:03:42.18\00:03:45.19 and Coming Out Ministries had to really assess ourselves 00:03:45.22\00:03:48.52 and say, wait a minute, you know, 00:03:48.56\00:03:50.16 is this what kind of a ministry do we have? 00:03:50.19\00:03:52.63 Do we just turn and walk away from these individuals 00:03:52.66\00:03:54.83 and act as if they never existed? 00:03:54.86\00:03:57.07 We don't talk about it. We don't mention it anymore. 00:03:57.10\00:03:59.93 But instead what we did is we started to establish 00:03:59.97\00:04:02.67 on Wednesday mornings, we started to pray 00:04:02.70\00:04:05.07 and fast for individuals that we have lost 00:04:05.11\00:04:07.78 for individuals that are in the ministry, 00:04:07.81\00:04:10.28 that we are encouraging relationships with. 00:04:10.31\00:04:13.58 And through that process, and I can't even, 00:04:13.62\00:04:17.35 I mean, we've had opportunities where we've spoken 00:04:17.39\00:04:19.42 around the world, but I think the greatest, 00:04:19.45\00:04:22.52 the greatest events that have happened in Coming Out 00:04:22.56\00:04:24.09 Ministries is when two of those individuals 00:04:24.13\00:04:26.26 have actually come back. 00:04:26.29\00:04:27.63 One of them was actually a founding member 00:04:27.66\00:04:29.36 of Coming Out Ministries. 00:04:29.40\00:04:30.93 If you go to our February newsletter, 00:04:30.97\00:04:32.73 you can read all about it because one of the things 00:04:32.77\00:04:36.40 that I'm the most proud about this ministry 00:04:36.44\00:04:39.14 is that everybody has the right to choose. 00:04:39.17\00:04:42.08 And the consequences of those decisions are always there. 00:04:42.11\00:04:45.18 And we face them every day, but there are many ministry 00:04:45.21\00:04:48.42 leaders that have fallen away because of not only 00:04:48.45\00:04:51.59 sexual sin, but because of other sins 00:04:51.62\00:04:54.56 or other reasons that they walk away from ministry. 00:04:54.59\00:04:57.09 So does that mean that the Bible 00:04:57.13\00:04:59.09 is still not the truth? 00:04:59.13\00:05:00.46 Does that mean that the word doesn't have any value? 00:05:00.50\00:05:02.90 No. 00:05:02.93\00:05:04.27 It just means that we're human beings 00:05:04.30\00:05:05.63 that are frail and fall into temptations. 00:05:05.67\00:05:07.70 So as we were talking about how to bring these people back, 00:05:07.74\00:05:12.97 we felt that we had an opportunity 00:05:13.01\00:05:15.21 and an honor to talk about how God still 00:05:15.24\00:05:17.45 is in the business of restoration. 00:05:17.48\00:05:20.75 One of the examples that I want to use 00:05:20.78\00:05:22.45 is my colleague Wayne Blakely, 00:05:22.48\00:05:24.55 who walked away from our ministry before years ago. 00:05:24.59\00:05:27.26 And he really had to assess some things 00:05:27.29\00:05:28.92 that were going on in his life. 00:05:28.96\00:05:30.73 He had to really assess the power of temptation 00:05:30.76\00:05:34.43 and what that was doing not only in his representation 00:05:34.46\00:05:38.27 of the ministry, but was that even 00:05:38.30\00:05:40.14 the goal of what he wanted as far as you know, 00:05:40.17\00:05:43.34 his eternal salvation. 00:05:43.37\00:05:45.01 And through that process, we didn't drop him. 00:05:45.04\00:05:47.08 We didn't let him go and pretend like 00:05:47.11\00:05:48.64 he never existed. 00:05:48.68\00:05:50.01 But instead what we did is we rallied around him. 00:05:50.05\00:05:52.28 We loved him. 00:05:52.31\00:05:53.65 And in that process, 00:05:53.68\00:05:55.12 not that it had anything to do with us, 00:05:55.15\00:05:56.62 but as the Lord was ministering to his soul, 00:05:56.65\00:05:59.02 he began to start writing again. 00:05:59.05\00:06:01.42 He began to really start praying again, 00:06:01.46\00:06:03.73 and he started to pursue Jesus Christ in a whole different way 00:06:03.76\00:06:07.60 that I believe made it an even better part of his testimony. 00:06:07.63\00:06:11.93 So just because somebody falls, 00:06:11.97\00:06:13.60 you know, the Bible is very clear. 00:06:13.64\00:06:14.97 Mary had to be healed the demon seven times. 00:06:15.00\00:06:17.61 And we know that in the Bible, in Proverbs, 00:06:17.64\00:06:19.11 it talks about the righteous man and the wicked man, 00:06:19.14\00:06:21.81 they both fall. 00:06:21.84\00:06:23.18 And the righteous man falls seven times. 00:06:23.21\00:06:24.81 And what that means is that he falls until he gets it right. 00:06:24.85\00:06:28.78 And so just because somebody falls, 00:06:28.82\00:06:30.19 it doesn't mean that their ministry is over. 00:06:30.22\00:06:32.45 It just means that they're human 00:06:32.49\00:06:34.39 and that the power of Jesus Christ 00:06:34.42\00:06:35.99 can still be manifested in their life. 00:06:36.02\00:06:37.63 So not only did that happen for Wayne, 00:06:37.66\00:06:39.59 but it also happened for another colleague 00:06:39.63\00:06:41.30 that we spoke with internationally. 00:06:41.33\00:06:43.26 And she had come out of transgenderism and lesbianism. 00:06:43.30\00:06:47.50 And while she was speaking for us these, 00:06:47.54\00:06:49.80 the temptation again got overwhelming. 00:06:49.84\00:06:52.01 She said, you know, I can't represent 00:06:52.04\00:06:53.38 the ministry anymore. 00:06:53.41\00:06:54.74 She went back into the gay life. 00:06:54.78\00:06:56.31 And then while she was in the gay life, 00:06:56.34\00:06:58.55 we were praying and fasting. 00:06:58.58\00:06:59.91 Again, her mother was with us. 00:06:59.95\00:07:01.32 We were all desperately pleading 00:07:01.35\00:07:03.92 for the Holy Spirit to work in her life. 00:07:03.95\00:07:05.59 And you know, miraculously, two weekends ago, 00:07:05.62\00:07:08.36 she got baptized again, coming back into a relationship 00:07:08.39\00:07:11.49 with Jesus Christ. 00:07:11.53\00:07:12.86 She has a podcast, 00:07:12.89\00:07:14.23 she's got a ministry that she's starting as well. 00:07:14.26\00:07:16.43 And so, those are the most powerful things 00:07:16.46\00:07:19.40 I think that has happened to Coming Out Ministry. 00:07:19.43\00:07:21.77 I can't believe you asked that as the second question. 00:07:21.80\00:07:23.71 It's like, we've so much more to cover. 00:07:23.74\00:07:25.64 I was hoping we'd save that for the last, but it's good. 00:07:25.67\00:07:28.24 Let it get out. 00:07:28.28\00:07:29.61 That's right. That's right. 00:07:29.64\00:07:30.98 And we want to hear even more stories. 00:07:31.01\00:07:32.55 So we've got, we've got this whole time to hear 00:07:32.58\00:07:34.58 some powerful stories about how God is moving. 00:07:34.62\00:07:38.05 What are some of your greatest challenges that you face? 00:07:38.09\00:07:42.12 Some of the greatest challenges that we face are really 00:07:42.16\00:07:45.09 not with the world so much 00:07:45.13\00:07:47.23 and what the world's attitudes are about LGBT promotion 00:07:47.26\00:07:50.97 and acceptance. 00:07:51.00\00:07:53.13 I'm just gonna put it out there. 00:07:53.17\00:07:54.67 Jason, 'cause you asked is the acceptance 00:07:54.70\00:07:57.67 of our own church inside. 00:07:57.71\00:07:59.61 There is a huge polarization going on in our church that, 00:07:59.64\00:08:04.91 that when I came back into the church, 00:08:04.95\00:08:06.98 you know, 20 years ago, the issue was that, 00:08:07.02\00:08:10.22 you know, gays can't change and that God hates them. 00:08:10.25\00:08:12.82 And now all of a sudden it's, there's this complete opposite 00:08:12.85\00:08:16.49 side that, you know, that gays can change, 00:08:16.52\00:08:18.99 but God loves them. 00:08:19.03\00:08:20.36 So what's amazing to me is that the message is the same 00:08:20.40\00:08:23.10 saying that God, gays can't change, 00:08:23.13\00:08:25.27 but we either hate them or we love them. 00:08:25.30\00:08:27.47 And you know what? 00:08:27.50\00:08:28.84 Did anybody read 1 Corinthians Chapter 6? 00:08:28.87\00:08:31.07 If you will look at verse 11, 00:08:31.11\00:08:32.44 it says such worse some of you after explained all 00:08:32.47\00:08:35.11 of the abominations that won't be in heaven. 00:08:35.14\00:08:38.55 And yes, homosexuality is just one of many. 00:08:38.58\00:08:41.52 Did you know that even gossips are listed as an abomination, 00:08:41.55\00:08:45.65 that won't be in heaven. 00:08:45.69\00:08:47.02 So isn't that interesting that God puts gossips 00:08:47.06\00:08:49.06 and homosexuals right on the same level. 00:08:49.09\00:08:50.76 There's not one that's better than the other. 00:08:50.79\00:08:52.46 They're the same. 00:08:52.49\00:08:53.83 It's the same with fornication, adultery, murder stealing. 00:08:53.86\00:08:58.07 So, all right. 00:08:58.10\00:08:59.53 So if we're going to pick on one group of people, 00:08:59.57\00:09:02.60 we have to at least be inclusive 00:09:02.64\00:09:05.27 of all the other issues that, 00:09:05.31\00:09:07.24 that the Bible is very clear about. 00:09:07.28\00:09:09.11 So if we're going to be inclusive, 00:09:09.14\00:09:11.11 then that means that we shouldn't be exclusive either 00:09:11.15\00:09:13.68 and allow the LGBT community to identify 00:09:13.72\00:09:16.02 themselves in their temptations or their simple behaviors. 00:09:16.05\00:09:20.06 So, so again, we don't, 00:09:20.09\00:09:21.82 we don't isolate one from the other. 00:09:21.86\00:09:23.19 We put them all in the same level, 00:09:23.22\00:09:24.56 the same category, 00:09:24.59\00:09:25.93 which may actually bring you to another question 00:09:25.96\00:09:28.06 about Coming Out Ministries. 00:09:28.10\00:09:29.66 We're not about LGBT issues anymore, Jason. 00:09:29.70\00:09:32.53 And while we all had that in common, 00:09:32.57\00:09:34.57 we had many other things that were in common as well. 00:09:34.60\00:09:37.57 And we found that people as they were coming to us 00:09:37.61\00:09:40.84 and listening to us, they thought, oh, 00:09:40.88\00:09:42.54 I thought this was all about the gay issue. 00:09:42.58\00:09:44.51 But really I realized that you're talking about me. 00:09:44.55\00:09:47.55 And even though I never struggled with, 00:09:47.58\00:09:49.38 with homosexuality, they, people would say 00:09:49.42\00:09:52.35 that they struggle with porn addiction or they struggled 00:09:52.39\00:09:54.46 with masturbation or premarital sex, 00:09:54.49\00:09:56.86 or these other things started coming up. 00:09:56.89\00:09:58.29 And they were realizing that the victory over sin 00:09:58.33\00:10:02.63 was really our message. 00:10:02.66\00:10:04.50 And so we started to be more inclusive about Coming Out 00:10:04.53\00:10:07.34 Ministries is not just about coming out 00:10:07.37\00:10:10.07 of the closet or going back into the closet as LGBT, 00:10:10.11\00:10:13.31 but instead it's about restoring all men 00:10:13.34\00:10:15.91 and women back to the image of our Creator God, 00:10:15.94\00:10:18.58 which isn't a gay thing or a straight thing, 00:10:18.61\00:10:20.48 it's about holiness. 00:10:20.52\00:10:21.98 You know, Jesus says be holy, even as I am holy. 00:10:22.02\00:10:24.65 So what does that look like in our world 00:10:24.69\00:10:27.06 today with all of these social constructs about being 00:10:27.09\00:10:29.86 who you are and identifying as who you are being 00:10:29.89\00:10:32.19 comfortable with who you are? 00:10:32.23\00:10:33.90 Well, the Bible says I have to die daily. 00:10:33.93\00:10:35.96 And what does that mean? How do I get there? 00:10:36.00\00:10:38.67 And how do I learn the process of embracing something 00:10:38.70\00:10:42.20 other than what did define me other than the things 00:10:42.24\00:10:45.17 that I was attracted to, 00:10:45.21\00:10:46.81 that I was allowing to define me 00:10:46.84\00:10:48.91 and to find identity in something 00:10:48.94\00:10:50.45 that gave me something better 00:10:50.48\00:10:52.25 than what the world is giving me? 00:10:52.28\00:10:53.68 And that may seem like going around my elbow 00:10:53.72\00:10:56.12 to get to my wrist, Jason. 00:10:56.15\00:10:57.49 But I think that that's the biggest challenge 00:10:57.52\00:10:59.69 that we have right now is convincing the church 00:10:59.72\00:11:02.29 that they've really dropped the ball. 00:11:02.32\00:11:03.76 They dropped the ball because what they've done 00:11:03.79\00:11:06.09 now is, is they've given up the biblical evidence 00:11:06.13\00:11:08.86 that God can restore and redeem. 00:11:08.90\00:11:10.97 And, and what we've done is 00:11:11.00\00:11:12.33 we sold into these social constructs, 00:11:12.37\00:11:13.77 whether it's because schools are accepting, 00:11:13.80\00:11:17.24 you know, government funding, whether it's our universities, 00:11:17.27\00:11:20.28 whether they're just trying to meet, you know, 00:11:20.31\00:11:22.84 these different social constructs halfway, 00:11:22.88\00:11:24.65 I don't know. 00:11:24.68\00:11:26.01 But unfortunately we have lost the fact 00:11:26.05\00:11:28.68 that Jesus still has the power to redeem and to restore lives. 00:11:28.72\00:11:32.22 And 2 Timothy 3:5 is very clear. 00:11:32.25\00:11:34.66 It says, there's a form. 00:11:34.69\00:11:36.56 There's a people that have a form of godliness, 00:11:36.59\00:11:38.89 but they deny the power thereof, from such stay away. 00:11:38.93\00:11:42.53 So when you do not have the power of Jesus Christ 00:11:42.56\00:11:44.70 to restore what you're doing, you're basically saying 00:11:44.73\00:11:47.64 that the, that the, that the example 00:11:47.67\00:11:50.21 of what Jesus gave us on the cross is impotent, 00:11:50.24\00:11:52.54 that everything that Jesus accomplished for us 00:11:52.57\00:11:54.81 is basically null and void. 00:11:54.84\00:11:56.44 And, of course, you would say that that's only 00:11:56.48\00:11:58.18 some people that's not all the church. 00:11:58.21\00:12:00.48 That's not all the universities. 00:12:00.52\00:12:02.32 That's not all the, yeah. 00:12:02.35\00:12:04.69 We want to make that, that clear. 00:12:04.72\00:12:06.45 Yeah. 00:12:06.49\00:12:07.82 Well, you know, Jason it's tough. 00:12:07.86\00:12:10.29 It's really tough. 00:12:10.33\00:12:11.79 There's very few of our universities that will actually 00:12:11.83\00:12:15.03 embrace biblical evidence of biblical truth on sexuality. 00:12:15.06\00:12:18.63 And while in every school, in every conference 00:12:18.67\00:12:21.44 and in every union, there are people that, 00:12:21.47\00:12:23.71 that support our ministry that support our message. 00:12:23.74\00:12:26.61 But unfortunately there's enough strong 00:12:26.64\00:12:29.58 leadership that certain countries will not allow 00:12:29.61\00:12:31.95 Coming Out Ministries to even enter into their country 00:12:31.98\00:12:34.88 or speaking to their churches. 00:12:34.92\00:12:36.52 And sometimes we've even been escorted off 00:12:36.55\00:12:39.15 the campuses because they didn't want Coming 00:12:39.19\00:12:41.72 Out Ministries to talk about the biblical evidence 00:12:41.76\00:12:44.33 of God's restoration. 00:12:44.36\00:12:47.00 You touched on something earlier 00:12:47.03\00:12:49.16 that I want to revisit it, 00:12:49.20\00:12:50.53 you know, in terms of putting sin on a pedestal, 00:12:50.57\00:12:55.24 why is it do you think that people put particular 00:12:55.27\00:12:59.97 sins up on a pedestal when the Bible says, 00:13:00.01\00:13:03.24 you know, for the wages of sin is death? 00:13:03.28\00:13:07.88 You know, I like the way you put that, 00:13:07.92\00:13:10.75 because I didn't say that they put it on a pedestal, 00:13:10.79\00:13:12.42 they kind of separated. 00:13:12.45\00:13:13.79 They kind of made, you know, like years ago, 00:13:13.82\00:13:15.86 years ago, like homosexuality was this horrible thing. 00:13:15.89\00:13:19.26 And that there was just no way that God could redeem it 00:13:19.29\00:13:21.60 so that wasn't putting it up on a pedestal. 00:13:21.63\00:13:23.53 It was really kind of separating it out. 00:13:23.57\00:13:24.93 Meaning, if you send like that, that's really bad. 00:13:24.97\00:13:27.97 Like that's so bad that God can't even help you. 00:13:28.00\00:13:30.37 But now I think you're right. 00:13:30.41\00:13:32.04 I think they put that on a pedestal because now 00:13:32.07\00:13:34.58 things have switched around. 00:13:34.61\00:13:35.94 Isaiah 5:20 says, 00:13:35.98\00:13:37.75 "Woe to them that make evil good and good evil." 00:13:37.78\00:13:40.78 So now we've taken LGBT issue 00:13:40.82\00:13:42.98 and we put it up on this pedestal and said, 00:13:43.02\00:13:45.12 yeah, you know, what is hateful to tell 00:13:45.15\00:13:46.99 gays that they can change. 00:13:47.02\00:13:48.66 And if the gays can't change that they were 00:13:48.69\00:13:50.93 born that way and that we should love them 00:13:50.96\00:13:53.83 because God loves them. 00:13:53.86\00:13:55.20 So we've completely thrown away by the gospel. 00:13:55.23\00:13:58.53 We've thrown away the power of God to redeem 00:13:58.57\00:14:00.50 and to restore. 00:14:00.54\00:14:01.87 So now, if, if, if I've got same-sex attraction, Jason, 00:14:01.90\00:14:04.94 and then if I understand that the Adventist Church 00:14:04.97\00:14:07.38 now says that it's okay to identify as a gay Christian, 00:14:07.41\00:14:11.18 then what that means is that 00:14:11.21\00:14:13.01 I don't have anything to confess. 00:14:13.05\00:14:14.82 Remember, 1 John 1:9 says, that 00:14:14.85\00:14:16.72 "If we confess our sins, 00:14:16.75\00:14:18.12 He is faithful and just not only to forgive our sins, 00:14:18.15\00:14:20.59 but to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." 00:14:20.62\00:14:22.89 But if I don't believe that I have to confess 00:14:22.92\00:14:26.29 that I have same-sex attraction. 00:14:26.33\00:14:28.36 Then if I don't confess that, then I have cut myself off 00:14:28.40\00:14:31.47 from the cleansing, forgiveness and restoration 00:14:31.50\00:14:33.60 that Jesus has provided for me. 00:14:33.64\00:14:36.27 So again, when we take a sin temptation 00:14:36.30\00:14:38.91 and to attach it on our identity in Christ, 00:14:38.94\00:14:41.54 we're making that sinful behavior or that identity, 00:14:41.58\00:14:45.78 we're making that exclusive from all the other identities 00:14:45.81\00:14:48.18 that haven't got a chance, you know, 00:14:48.22\00:14:49.85 that God says in Chapter 6, 00:14:49.88\00:14:51.95 that these are the abominations that won't be in heaven. 00:14:51.99\00:14:54.72 So I don't get that. 00:14:54.76\00:14:56.09 And you know, a very prominent pastor told me, he said, 00:14:56.12\00:14:59.36 we don't want to be exclusive here. 00:14:59.39\00:15:01.86 And we want to allow LGBT people to be put in the same 00:15:01.90\00:15:06.40 group as everybody else. 00:15:06.43\00:15:07.77 And I said to this person, then why would you allow 00:15:07.80\00:15:10.31 a gay person to identify as a gay Christian unless 00:15:10.34\00:15:13.48 you're willing to identify as a lying Christian 00:15:13.51\00:15:16.01 or an adulterating Christian or a fornicating Christian. 00:15:16.04\00:15:20.25 You get my point. It doesn't make sense. 00:15:20.28\00:15:22.38 But if you're going to allow someone to identify 00:15:22.42\00:15:23.95 as a gay Christian, which is a sinful temptation, 00:15:23.99\00:15:27.29 and let me be clear, 00:15:27.32\00:15:28.76 God does not condemn the person that has same sex attraction. 00:15:28.79\00:15:31.83 He condemns the behavior. 00:15:31.86\00:15:33.36 And that also applies to transgenderism as well. 00:15:33.40\00:15:36.33 But I can't continue to identify as a gay Christian, 00:15:36.36\00:15:41.47 if God is asking me to walk away from that identity that I, 00:15:41.50\00:15:44.71 that I lived in for over 20 years. 00:15:44.74\00:15:47.11 Why would I continue to call myself something 00:15:47.14\00:15:50.35 when God says I'm a new creature, 00:15:50.38\00:15:52.01 in Christ, I'm a new creature. 00:15:52.05\00:15:53.38 All things have passed away. 00:15:53.42\00:15:54.75 Behold, everything becomes new. 00:15:54.78\00:15:56.52 Well, even though everything is becoming new 00:15:56.55\00:15:58.72 over the last 20 years that I've been walking this walk, 00:15:58.75\00:16:00.56 Jason, it doesn't mean that God took away my history 00:16:00.59\00:16:03.49 or my memory. 00:16:03.53\00:16:04.86 And we know that that Paul prayed to be relieved 00:16:04.89\00:16:07.16 of this thorn in the flesh. 00:16:07.20\00:16:08.53 So maybe his thorn in the flesh was, 00:16:08.56\00:16:10.90 you know, his old thoughts and his old behaviors. 00:16:10.93\00:16:14.24 And while God doesn't promise to take away my temptations, 00:16:14.27\00:16:17.41 what he does promise is to give me strength 00:16:17.44\00:16:19.27 and grace to overcome those temptations. 00:16:19.31\00:16:21.68 And I believe that that's what every single one of us 00:16:21.71\00:16:24.58 is learning to do. 00:16:24.61\00:16:25.95 Whether you are same-sex attracted, 00:16:25.98\00:16:27.65 whether you were addicted to pornography 00:16:27.68\00:16:29.88 and masturbation, whether you were in premarital sexual 00:16:29.92\00:16:33.82 relationships or whatever that was, 00:16:33.86\00:16:35.42 God doesn't take away the memory of that. 00:16:35.46\00:16:36.99 But He does promise to give us power to overcome 00:16:37.03\00:16:39.26 those temptations and behaviors. 00:16:39.29\00:16:40.73 Yes. 00:16:40.76\00:16:42.10 Right now, how about you give us some tips 00:16:42.13\00:16:44.13 and some strategies to overcome some of those strongholds, 00:16:44.17\00:16:47.57 like, what do you tell people when you're counseling them 00:16:47.60\00:16:49.77 or when you're speaking with them? 00:16:49.80\00:16:53.14 Well, this is really interesting. 00:16:53.17\00:16:55.28 I've had some recent conversations with a few people 00:16:55.31\00:16:58.41 that really alarmed me. 00:16:58.45\00:17:00.62 And I think that when 40 years ago 00:17:00.65\00:17:03.95 when I was 20 years old 00:17:03.99\00:17:05.32 and I was struggling with same-sex attraction, 00:17:05.35\00:17:08.06 I hadn't actually gone into the gay life or anything. 00:17:08.09\00:17:10.53 But I remember that I had two thoughts. 00:17:10.56\00:17:12.83 I had two decisions that I could make. 00:17:12.86\00:17:14.80 Number one, I could either be gay 00:17:14.83\00:17:17.10 or I could be a Christian, but I couldn't be both. 00:17:17.13\00:17:20.94 And now what I hear is that people have this kind 00:17:20.97\00:17:25.37 of warped sense of the gospel, meaning that that cheap grace 00:17:25.41\00:17:28.88 basically says that I can be addicted to porn 00:17:28.91\00:17:31.61 and I could be fornicating 00:17:31.65\00:17:33.55 and still have a place in heaven. 00:17:33.58\00:17:35.32 And some of them are preachers and teachers 00:17:35.35\00:17:37.82 and people that are getting baptized. 00:17:37.85\00:17:40.29 And, and here's the big misunderstanding is, 00:17:40.32\00:17:43.53 yes, God loves us just as we are, 00:17:43.56\00:17:47.46 but He's not going to leave us where we are. 00:17:47.50\00:17:49.56 And so while He does love us, even though we're sinful, 00:17:49.60\00:17:52.67 He's willing for us to accept Him 00:17:52.70\00:17:54.74 as He is and walk according to, to, to the foundation 00:17:54.77\00:18:00.11 of what He established that He said is good for you. 00:18:00.14\00:18:02.88 You know, people get caught up in this thing that 00:18:02.91\00:18:04.55 if I give up my, my life, according to what the Bible 00:18:04.58\00:18:08.12 says is simple, then, then I'm losing something 00:18:08.15\00:18:11.05 like I'm not being true to myself. 00:18:11.09\00:18:12.85 Well, the Bible says that everything is permissible, 00:18:12.89\00:18:15.62 but not everything is beneficial. 00:18:15.66\00:18:17.43 And while God allows us to make the choice 00:18:17.46\00:18:19.43 and to live by those choices, 00:18:19.46\00:18:21.40 our choices have become perverted because we've 00:18:21.43\00:18:24.23 indulged in the things that come naturally, 00:18:24.27\00:18:26.74 God isn't going to take perverted characters to heaven. 00:18:26.77\00:18:29.80 And while I come to Him, as I am polluted and, 00:18:29.84\00:18:32.57 and perverted, He says, take hold of my strength. 00:18:32.61\00:18:36.61 In Philippians 2:5, "Let this mind be in you 00:18:36.64\00:18:39.31 so that you can have my thoughts and my feelings. 00:18:39.35\00:18:42.05 Let me take your perverted thoughts and feelings 00:18:42.08\00:18:44.22 and heal them and give you holy thoughts and feelings." 00:18:44.25\00:18:48.26 And that is a process. 00:18:48.29\00:18:49.92 One of the things that have recently come to my mind, 00:18:49.96\00:18:53.93 which is really powerfully convicting 00:18:53.96\00:18:55.90 is that my sister was in church 00:18:55.93\00:18:58.70 and this little old lady in her 90s said that for three, 00:18:58.73\00:19:02.60 for three generations her family has been Adventist, 00:19:02.64\00:19:05.21 and now I said, oh, Jesus is coming soon. 00:19:05.24\00:19:07.11 Jesus is coming soon. 00:19:07.14\00:19:08.58 And she said that, this woman said, 00:19:08.61\00:19:10.41 I'm not saying that anymore. 00:19:10.45\00:19:11.78 Once I've seen the pandemic take over the world 00:19:11.81\00:19:14.42 and I've seen LGBT acceptance and these laws 00:19:14.45\00:19:17.85 and everything that's happening in the church today, 00:19:17.89\00:19:20.36 she said, Jesus isn't coming soon. 00:19:20.39\00:19:22.79 Jesus is just playing coming. 00:19:22.82\00:19:24.53 And when she said that, my sister had her mouth dropped 00:19:24.56\00:19:26.73 open when she realized that. 00:19:26.76\00:19:28.10 And I thought, wow, that's right. 00:19:28.13\00:19:29.93 Jesus really is coming soon if you're watching the way 00:19:29.96\00:19:31.97 march in the prophecy, you can tell what's on the horizon. 00:19:32.00\00:19:35.40 And I was sharing that with a brother in Switzerland 00:19:35.44\00:19:38.01 and we were just walking one night and he said, wow, Mike. 00:19:38.04\00:19:40.94 He said, when you think about that, 00:19:40.98\00:19:42.68 if Jesus is coming soon, he said, 00:19:42.71\00:19:45.25 that means not very long from now, 00:19:45.28\00:19:47.12 there won't be any more sin. 00:19:47.15\00:19:48.88 And that absolutely grabbed my attention. 00:19:48.92\00:19:51.45 And my reaction was the same as mine. 00:19:51.49\00:19:53.36 I thought, wait a minute. 00:19:53.39\00:19:54.72 If sin won't be any more than as a Christian, 00:19:54.76\00:19:57.69 I need to make sure that my sins are in the sanctuary 00:19:57.73\00:20:00.53 and that daily, I am asking God to help me to hate 00:20:00.56\00:20:03.90 sin perfectly. 00:20:03.93\00:20:05.27 That's my new prayer, Jason. 00:20:05.30\00:20:06.77 Lord, help me to hate sin perfectly because honestly 00:20:06.80\00:20:10.14 on our own, Jason, none of us can do that. 00:20:10.17\00:20:12.04 None of us can hate sin perfectly. 00:20:12.07\00:20:14.18 So how do we get to that process 00:20:14.21\00:20:15.84 of learning the character of Jesus Christ, 00:20:15.88\00:20:18.45 learning the process of getting those sins in the sanctuary? 00:20:18.48\00:20:22.18 And I was reading well, actually, 00:20:22.22\00:20:23.85 I've been reading for probably the last month, 00:20:23.89\00:20:26.02 the book, Mind, Character and Personality, Chapter 15. 00:20:26.05\00:20:29.29 And that is a very startling chapter when you read it, 00:20:29.32\00:20:33.76 because it talks about the will. 00:20:33.80\00:20:36.03 And that is the bottom line for people 00:20:36.06\00:20:37.53 who are addicted, for people who have 00:20:37.57\00:20:39.77 fallen in the temptations, for people 00:20:39.80\00:20:41.94 who are stuck with certain behaviors 00:20:41.97\00:20:45.27 that they don't like anymore. 00:20:45.31\00:20:46.81 You read that chapter, and it tells you exactly 00:20:46.84\00:20:49.64 how to overcome sin by, by surrendering the will. 00:20:49.68\00:20:54.72 And I think that that we've made that kind 00:20:54.75\00:20:56.28 of a cavalier statement, we're all, yes, 00:20:56.32\00:20:58.15 when you will surrender your will, 00:20:58.19\00:21:00.16 but what does that really mean? 00:21:00.19\00:21:01.52 And what I'm finding in my own pursuit 00:21:01.56\00:21:04.06 is that asking the Lord to give me His will. 00:21:04.09\00:21:08.26 And as simple as that sounds, 00:21:08.30\00:21:10.23 it just means that I'm acquiescing. 00:21:10.27\00:21:12.30 That means that I'm giving Jesus permission. 00:21:12.33\00:21:14.37 I just give Him permission because you know what? 00:21:14.40\00:21:16.64 Oh, this is so cool. 00:21:16.67\00:21:18.01 Jason, listen to me, listen, 00:21:18.04\00:21:20.18 I'm going to preach it for just a minute 00:21:20.21\00:21:21.54 that you're gonna love this. 00:21:21.58\00:21:22.91 Hey preach, take your time. 00:21:22.94\00:21:24.98 All right. Right. All right. 00:21:25.01\00:21:26.35 I'm going to, but there was this young woman 00:21:26.38\00:21:28.05 that accidentally came on our reformer's line 00:21:28.08\00:21:30.35 and it was my fault. 00:21:30.39\00:21:31.72 It was my fault. 00:21:31.75\00:21:33.09 Let me just, let me just be honest about that. 00:21:33.12\00:21:34.46 She was, she was a lesbian woman 00:21:34.49\00:21:36.59 that I'd met in Switzerland 00:21:36.62\00:21:38.16 and I was speaking there and she came up 00:21:38.19\00:21:39.63 and she was really kind of, you know, 00:21:39.66\00:21:41.70 dismissed by my presentation. 00:21:41.73\00:21:43.13 And she said, if I was ever to pray again, 00:21:43.16\00:21:46.23 I would never ask God to take away my relationship. 00:21:46.27\00:21:49.04 And so we exchanged phone numbers, 00:21:49.07\00:21:51.14 we dialogue a little bit. 00:21:51.17\00:21:52.67 She was a beautiful woman in her mid 30s. 00:21:52.71\00:21:54.61 And so I was scrolling. 00:21:54.64\00:21:56.88 I was, look, I was scrolling through my phone 00:21:56.91\00:21:59.11 and I'm trying to find these people 00:21:59.15\00:22:00.52 to invite to our reformer's line. 00:22:00.55\00:22:02.58 And we have an international reformer's line 00:22:02.62\00:22:04.22 which is really incredible. 00:22:04.25\00:22:05.59 Ask me, ask me about that later on. 00:22:05.62\00:22:07.26 So I was asking all these people that come in 00:22:07.29\00:22:09.86 and I was inviting people from South Africa, 00:22:09.89\00:22:12.03 New Zealand Zimbabwe, you know, 00:22:12.06\00:22:16.46 all around Europe, Sweden, Denmark. 00:22:16.50\00:22:18.13 So I found her name and I go, oh, lesbian from Switzerland. 00:22:18.17\00:22:22.20 Boop. I invited her. 00:22:22.24\00:22:23.57 So when I opened up the zoom line 00:22:23.61\00:22:25.24 and I looked and I see this young woman, 00:22:25.27\00:22:27.08 she goes, Hey, Mike, remember me? 00:22:27.11\00:22:28.64 And I'm like, no, not really. 00:22:28.68\00:22:30.05 She said, I'm from Zurich, Switzerland. 00:22:30.08\00:22:32.61 And then it hit me. 00:22:32.65\00:22:33.98 And I thought, oh, I've made a huge mistake. 00:22:34.02\00:22:35.35 I've invited this woman to an ex, 00:22:35.38\00:22:38.22 you know, to an ex-gay zoom chat, prayer line. 00:22:38.25\00:22:42.12 And so she said, well, she goes, that's okay. 00:22:42.16\00:22:44.99 She said, I was curious about what you had to say. 00:22:45.03\00:22:47.86 And the Holy Spirit said, do not let her go, 00:22:47.90\00:22:49.96 do not let her go. 00:22:50.00\00:22:51.33 And I thought, well, how am I going to incorporate 00:22:51.37\00:22:52.77 her into this group? 00:22:52.80\00:22:54.14 And we had like 20 some people in this group 00:22:54.17\00:22:55.74 all over the world. 00:22:55.77\00:22:57.11 And so I thought, okay. 00:22:57.14\00:22:58.71 I said, would you be willing to share what your reaction 00:22:58.74\00:23:01.04 was when I gave my testimony in your church? 00:23:01.08\00:23:03.78 And she said, I'd be happy to. 00:23:03.81\00:23:06.31 And so it was a, with a little bit of fear and trepidation, 00:23:06.35\00:23:09.32 but I brought her into the group 00:23:09.35\00:23:11.72 and she was very plain. 00:23:11.75\00:23:13.09 And she said, Mike, you're old. 00:23:13.12\00:23:14.52 You know, you don't have any sexual attractions anymore. 00:23:14.56\00:23:17.23 She said, but I'm young. 00:23:17.26\00:23:18.59 And I like sex and it feels good. 00:23:18.63\00:23:20.76 And as we were talking or whatever, 00:23:20.80\00:23:22.33 she basically dismissed me. 00:23:22.36\00:23:23.83 But what was so incredible, Jason is she started to hear 00:23:23.87\00:23:27.00 20 other people around the world talking about 00:23:27.04\00:23:30.01 how they had given God their identities and sexuality 00:23:30.04\00:23:34.44 and their addictions and their drives. 00:23:34.48\00:23:36.44 And there was a 20 year old man that had been walking 00:23:36.48\00:23:39.05 with Jesus for three years, talking about it was difficult, 00:23:39.08\00:23:42.05 but that he realized that God was offering him something 00:23:42.08\00:23:44.42 so much better. 00:23:44.45\00:23:45.79 And then other people started to share. 00:23:45.82\00:23:47.26 By the end of that two hour zoom call, 00:23:47.29\00:23:49.72 she was in tears and she continues to come back. 00:23:49.76\00:23:53.09 Jason, that's what I'm talking about. 00:23:53.13\00:23:55.36 Praise God. Praise God. 00:23:55.40\00:23:57.40 Well, wait, wait, wait, wait, here's the other part, 00:23:57.43\00:23:59.67 here's the other part. 00:23:59.70\00:24:01.04 And I'm sorry, I was just going around my elbow, 00:24:01.07\00:24:02.70 but it's necessary because I called her 00:24:02.74\00:24:05.87 another time and we were having this long conversation 00:24:05.91\00:24:08.08 and she said, you know what? 00:24:08.11\00:24:09.44 I know it's wrong. 00:24:09.48\00:24:10.81 She said, I know being gay is wrong. 00:24:10.85\00:24:12.75 She said, but you know what? 00:24:12.78\00:24:14.32 Fifty percent of me can't help it. 00:24:14.35\00:24:16.89 Fifty percent of me, I just can't do it. 00:24:16.92\00:24:19.05 And she said, and 50% of me doesn't want to. 00:24:19.09\00:24:22.62 Jason, that's it, make a bumper 00:24:22.66\00:24:24.19 sticker because it's not about sexual sin, 00:24:24.23\00:24:26.13 it's about all sin. 00:24:26.16\00:24:27.50 Fifty percent of us, we know we can't. 00:24:27.53\00:24:29.83 And 50% of us doesn't want to. 00:24:29.86\00:24:31.77 And when I put that together with the will, 00:24:31.80\00:24:34.50 surrendering the will, that's exactly what I pray now. 00:24:34.54\00:24:37.11 Lord, 50% of me can't 00:24:37.14\00:24:39.67 and 50% of me doesn't want to, 00:24:39.71\00:24:41.48 but I choose to give You my will. 00:24:41.51\00:24:45.05 And you know what? 00:24:45.08\00:24:46.41 That's when the power and the grace of Jesus Christ 00:24:46.45\00:24:49.78 comes in and swoops in and gives me the strength 00:24:49.82\00:24:53.76 that otherwise on my own, I wouldn't have known 00:24:53.79\00:24:56.32 or what I want to. 00:24:56.36\00:24:57.93 Lord, help me to hate sin perfectly. 00:24:57.96\00:25:01.33 That's powerful. That's powerful. 00:25:01.36\00:25:02.70 Mike, tell us a little bit about 00:25:02.73\00:25:04.33 the prayer line real quick? 00:25:04.37\00:25:07.84 Okay. 00:25:07.87\00:25:09.20 So the prayer line is probably, 00:25:09.24\00:25:10.57 I think the greatest thing that Coming Out Ministries 00:25:10.61\00:25:13.11 has ever done it, if not anything else, 00:25:13.14\00:25:15.44 because we meet three times a week. 00:25:15.48\00:25:17.81 On Monday evenings, 00:25:17.85\00:25:19.18 we have a zoom call at 7 o'clock Eastern Time. 00:25:19.21\00:25:21.78 Also 9:00 AM on Thursdays 00:25:21.82\00:25:24.95 Eastern Standard Time in our phone prayer line 00:25:24.99\00:25:27.76 and also Friday mornings at 6:00 AM. 00:25:27.79\00:25:29.86 So we try to include the East Coast 00:25:29.89\00:25:31.66 and the West Coast, but in these prayer lines 00:25:31.69\00:25:34.60 we mostly have parents, parents that are pleading, 00:25:34.63\00:25:38.20 parents that are fasting and praying on behalf 00:25:38.23\00:25:40.64 of their children and loved ones. 00:25:40.67\00:25:42.40 And you know what? 00:25:42.44\00:25:43.77 Parents, I didn't know this, but parents struggle 00:25:43.81\00:25:45.87 with a deeper sense of guilt and shame 00:25:45.91\00:25:48.04 than even people that are LGBT, because now everyone's 00:25:48.08\00:25:50.48 embracing it and claiming it. 00:25:50.51\00:25:52.81 But when the parents come together, 00:25:52.85\00:25:55.15 woo, some of them now have become best friends. 00:25:55.18\00:25:57.92 They realize that we've created a community now 00:25:57.95\00:26:00.12 where people can come without shame, 00:26:00.16\00:26:02.06 without condemnation, and they can find encouragement 00:26:02.09\00:26:05.59 and support, you know, people that they, 00:26:05.63\00:26:08.96 that know exactly what they're going through, 00:26:09.00\00:26:10.83 things that they can share their, their heartaches 00:26:10.87\00:26:13.17 and also the victories. 00:26:13.20\00:26:14.54 Yeah, and that's extremely important is to have 00:26:14.57\00:26:16.94 that support group, to have that support is, 00:26:16.97\00:26:19.54 is crucial. 00:26:19.57\00:26:21.38 You know, I want to put up your contact information right now. 00:26:21.41\00:26:23.98 And if you would just read that because somebody out 00:26:24.01\00:26:26.38 there that's gonna want to get in touch with you, 00:26:26.41\00:26:28.05 maybe they need help. 00:26:28.08\00:26:29.42 Maybe they're struggling with something 00:26:29.45\00:26:30.79 and they want to reach you, 00:26:30.82\00:26:32.15 or maybe they want to support you. 00:26:32.19\00:26:33.52 So if you could just read your contact information 00:26:33.56\00:26:35.62 that would be great. 00:26:35.66\00:26:36.99 Sure. 00:26:37.03\00:26:38.36 Coming Out Ministries, we're located at PO Box 107, 00:26:38.39\00:26:42.53 Tilly, Arkansas. That's Tilly, Arkansas 72679. 00:26:42.56\00:26:48.10 If you want to email, or if you want to contact us, 00:26:48.14\00:26:50.54 you go to comingoutministries.org 00:26:50.57\00:26:52.91 On our website we have powerful resources. 00:26:52.94\00:26:55.94 We have our movie Journey Interrupted, 00:26:55.98\00:26:58.31 which you can watch for free in 12 different languages. 00:26:58.35\00:27:01.08 At comingoutministries.org 00:27:01.12\00:27:02.45 you can also find powerful testimonies, 00:27:02.48\00:27:06.09 resources, books, videotapes, music, all kinds of things. 00:27:06.12\00:27:10.16 We have a free library there. 00:27:10.19\00:27:11.93 We have different tabs to address the different issues 00:27:11.96\00:27:15.16 that you may want information on as well as 00:27:15.20\00:27:18.17 if you want to email us, you can go to 00:27:18.20\00:27:19.77 admin@comingoutministries.org 00:27:19.80\00:27:22.90 and we can move your prayer requests. 00:27:22.94\00:27:24.74 We can answer your questions and send you any kind 00:27:24.77\00:27:27.34 of resources that you may need. 00:27:27.38\00:27:28.91 Thank you, Jason. You're welcome. 00:27:28.94\00:27:30.75 Thank you, Mike. That is beautiful. 00:27:30.78\00:27:32.51 And I'm so glad that you have those resources 00:27:32.55\00:27:35.42 available to the public and that you're going out, 00:27:35.45\00:27:38.42 you're being transparent and you're sharing with them. 00:27:38.45\00:27:41.56 You know, that they can gain the victory. 00:27:41.59\00:27:44.43 They don't have to be stuck in that lifestyle. 00:27:44.46\00:27:46.56 And so if you're out there 00:27:46.59\00:27:48.00 and you're listening to this right now, 00:27:48.03\00:27:49.40 know that God wants to deliver you 00:27:49.43\00:27:51.43 from whatever you are being held and bondage by. 00:27:51.47\00:27:55.44 Until next time, God bless you. 00:27:55.47\00:27:57.24