Have you ever wondered 00:00:01.36\00:00:02.70 about God's way for relationships today? 00:00:02.73\00:00:04.77 If so, stay tuned to get some tokens of love. 00:00:04.80\00:00:07.74 My name is Jason Bradley 00:00:07.77\00:00:09.17 and you're watching Urban Report. 00:00:09.20\00:00:11.34 Hello and welcome to Urban Report. 00:00:34.00\00:00:36.16 My guests today are Brandon and Sheretta Taylor 00:00:36.20\00:00:38.83 and they are both authors and international speakers. 00:00:38.87\00:00:42.70 Welcome to Urban Report, Brandon and Sheretta. 00:00:42.74\00:00:46.31 Hello. Hi. 00:00:46.34\00:00:47.68 Thank you for having us. 00:00:47.71\00:00:49.04 I'm so glad you guys could be here. 00:00:49.08\00:00:50.45 I wish you were physically here in the studio, 00:00:50.48\00:00:53.35 but hey, we'll utilize technology 00:00:53.38\00:00:56.32 to the best of our abilities. 00:00:56.35\00:00:58.85 There you go. 00:00:58.89\00:01:00.22 That's right. 00:01:00.26\00:01:01.59 So this is your first time 00:01:01.62\00:01:02.96 on Dare to Dream on Urban Report. 00:01:02.99\00:01:06.26 But I want to kind of dive into your testimony 00:01:06.29\00:01:10.97 and your journey 00:01:11.00\00:01:12.33 before we start getting into Tokens of Love. 00:01:12.37\00:01:16.07 Sure. 00:01:16.10\00:01:17.74 So how did you guys meet? 00:01:17.77\00:01:19.11 So we actually met at college at Cornell University. 00:01:21.08\00:01:26.45 I was a freshman, 00:01:26.48\00:01:27.82 Brandon was a junior at the time 00:01:27.85\00:01:29.62 and we were just acquaintances after, 00:01:29.65\00:01:32.42 I'm sorry, you were a sophomore. 00:01:32.45\00:01:35.19 We were just acquaintances. 00:01:35.22\00:01:37.26 You know, at first, just hello. 00:01:37.29\00:01:39.26 And we knew each other, 00:01:39.29\00:01:40.63 but we'd never really talked until his senior year. 00:01:40.66\00:01:44.80 We were actually the last semester 00:01:44.83\00:01:46.60 of his senior year, 00:01:46.63\00:01:47.97 we were enrolled in the same class 00:01:48.00\00:01:49.34 and we just so happened to start talking 00:01:49.37\00:01:50.97 a little bit more. 00:01:51.01\00:01:52.41 And at that time, 00:01:52.44\00:01:54.78 you know, Brandon could share more, 00:01:54.81\00:01:56.21 but he was on a journey to really, 00:01:56.24\00:02:00.25 you know, walk back closer to God. 00:02:00.28\00:02:02.85 And I had been through that experience 00:02:02.88\00:02:04.72 a couple of years before that. 00:02:04.75\00:02:06.65 And so a lot of our conversations 00:02:06.69\00:02:08.39 grew around, 00:02:08.42\00:02:09.76 you know, God and just living as a Christian 00:02:09.79\00:02:12.56 and that sort of thing. 00:02:12.59\00:02:13.93 And the more that we talked couple of months, 00:02:13.96\00:02:16.93 his interest developed 00:02:16.97\00:02:18.70 and pursued courtship 00:02:18.73\00:02:21.40 and we began our relationship there. 00:02:21.44\00:02:24.21 And we got married... 00:02:24.24\00:02:27.24 Two years. 00:02:27.28\00:02:28.61 Well, we got married two years later in 2015 00:02:28.64\00:02:31.81 and we now have one son and yeah. 00:02:31.85\00:02:35.48 Nice. Nice. 00:02:35.52\00:02:36.85 Now you use the word there. 00:02:36.89\00:02:38.32 You said courtship. 00:02:38.35\00:02:40.16 Now there may be some people out there 00:02:40.19\00:02:42.72 that don't know the difference between courtship and dating. 00:02:42.76\00:02:46.03 So why don't you unpack that a little bit? 00:02:46.06\00:02:48.83 Sure. 00:02:48.86\00:02:50.20 So when we use the word courtship, 00:02:50.23\00:02:51.73 it's really just a matter of preference for us. 00:02:51.77\00:02:55.27 Courtship and dating, neither courtship nor dating, 00:02:55.30\00:02:57.04 you'll find in the Bible. 00:02:57.07\00:02:58.41 So for us, the word courtship, 00:02:58.44\00:03:00.54 it truly signifies the purpose 00:03:00.58\00:03:02.71 with which you should pursue relationships 00:03:02.74\00:03:05.78 and really value this the institution of marriage 00:03:05.81\00:03:09.15 and the journey that God desires 00:03:09.18\00:03:10.72 for two people to travel 00:03:10.75\00:03:12.22 in leading up to marriage. 00:03:12.25\00:03:13.59 And when we use the word courtship, 00:03:13.62\00:03:14.96 it just signifies to us the purpose, 00:03:14.99\00:03:17.63 the intentionality behind your actions 00:03:17.66\00:03:19.76 and behind that relationship. 00:03:19.79\00:03:21.53 And that's why we prefer to use the word courtship 00:03:21.56\00:03:23.67 to describe that, that period leading up 00:03:23.70\00:03:26.43 to an engagement into marriage. 00:03:26.47\00:03:28.10 Got you. So it was all purposeful? 00:03:28.14\00:03:31.74 Yeah. 00:03:31.77\00:03:33.11 Exactly. Purposeful and prayerful. 00:03:33.14\00:03:35.68 I like that that two-piece, purposeful and prayerful. 00:03:35.71\00:03:38.85 So I'm sure that 00:03:38.88\00:03:40.38 you had boundaries in place and all of that, 00:03:40.42\00:03:43.15 you know, a healthy relationship 00:03:43.18\00:03:44.62 involves boundaries. 00:03:44.65\00:03:46.25 So what kind of boundaries did you have in place? 00:03:46.29\00:03:52.09 Yeah, so this was actually 00:03:52.13\00:03:53.83 the first relationship for the both of us 00:03:53.86\00:03:56.26 where we really wanted to put God into the center. 00:03:56.30\00:03:59.27 We had made a lot of mistakes in the past with our choices 00:03:59.30\00:04:02.30 and, you know, some ignorance in there 00:04:02.34\00:04:04.74 when it came to certain things. 00:04:04.77\00:04:06.37 And so from the very beginning, 00:04:06.41\00:04:08.38 we were intentional about physical boundaries, 00:04:08.41\00:04:11.01 how we didn't want to touch each other 00:04:11.05\00:04:12.91 in an inappropriate way. 00:04:12.95\00:04:14.28 We were saving ourselves for marriage. 00:04:14.32\00:04:16.52 Also being intentional about how we spent our time together. 00:04:16.55\00:04:19.45 So we tried to be very creative 00:04:19.49\00:04:21.79 with our dates and that sort of thing. 00:04:21.82\00:04:24.59 But most notably, 00:04:24.63\00:04:26.43 I think from our story of boundaries is 00:04:26.46\00:04:29.36 actually when we first set our boundaries, 00:04:29.40\00:04:34.10 we said we were okay with kissing 00:04:34.14\00:04:35.70 and that wasn't gonna be a problem. 00:04:35.74\00:04:37.97 And then a couple months into our relationship, 00:04:38.01\00:04:41.74 it started to get a little bit more difficult. 00:04:41.78\00:04:44.15 And we were saying if we're waiting for marriage, 00:04:44.18\00:04:48.58 I don't know how successful we're gonna be 00:04:48.62\00:04:50.72 if this is how it's going. 00:04:50.75\00:04:52.42 And so exactly around that time, 00:04:52.45\00:04:54.42 I had to leave the country to go study abroad in England 00:04:54.46\00:04:58.36 for a few months. 00:04:58.39\00:04:59.73 And while I was there, I started to feel impressed, 00:04:59.76\00:05:02.10 you know, as I was continuing to pray and read 00:05:02.13\00:05:05.00 that we should save kissing for marriage, 00:05:05.03\00:05:07.84 but I said, you know, 00:05:07.87\00:05:09.20 Lord if this is what You want us to do, 00:05:09.24\00:05:10.57 you're gonna have to tell Brandon, 00:05:10.61\00:05:12.14 and he's going to have to be the one to bring it up. 00:05:12.17\00:05:14.54 And sure enough, like it was either that day 00:05:14.58\00:05:16.85 or later that week, 00:05:16.88\00:05:18.28 Brandon brought up how he felt that, 00:05:18.31\00:05:20.78 you know, he should honor me and honor God more and that 00:05:20.82\00:05:23.18 we should really save kissing for marriage. 00:05:23.22\00:05:26.96 And so we made that decision, 00:05:26.99\00:05:28.89 you know, hundreds and thousands of miles 00:05:28.92\00:05:30.53 apart from each other 00:05:30.56\00:05:31.89 that we were gonna save hundreds and thousands. 00:05:31.93\00:05:35.06 We're gonna save our next kiss for our wedding day. 00:05:35.10\00:05:39.30 And that's what we did. 00:05:39.33\00:05:41.14 So almost 00:05:41.17\00:05:42.50 maybe almost two years later is the next time 00:05:42.54\00:05:45.37 that we shared our kiss on our wedding day. 00:05:45.41\00:05:48.11 And that video is actually on our YouTube channel 00:05:48.14\00:05:50.48 of our wedding ceremony 00:05:50.51\00:05:51.85 when that happened. 00:05:51.88\00:05:53.21 Wow. That's awesome. 00:05:53.25\00:05:54.58 Brandon, how many seconds was that? 00:05:54.62\00:05:57.45 Two years down, 653 days. 00:05:57.49\00:06:01.02 I know for a fact there, 00:06:01.06\00:06:03.22 I have to think about the hours and the seconds, 00:06:03.26\00:06:04.89 but it felt like a very long time 00:06:04.93\00:06:08.06 but it was worth the wait. 00:06:08.10\00:06:09.43 Right. Yes, for sure, for sure. 00:06:09.46\00:06:12.30 So tell us a little bit about Love At Home Ministries. 00:06:12.33\00:06:16.20 How did that get started and what is it all about? 00:06:16.24\00:06:20.38 Of course, yes. Thank you. 00:06:20.41\00:06:21.74 So Love At Home Ministries is a ministry that allows us 00:06:21.78\00:06:27.25 to work with couples and individuals 00:06:27.28\00:06:29.15 directly and also indirectly 00:06:29.18\00:06:31.15 on how to experience healthy, happy, and holy romance. 00:06:31.19\00:06:34.79 And it really grew out of our years of doing relationship 00:06:34.82\00:06:38.89 focused content on YouTube. 00:06:38.93\00:06:40.83 Back in 2014, we were searching online 00:06:40.86\00:06:44.17 trying to find resources about courtship 00:06:44.20\00:06:46.13 and just how to do this thing, 00:06:46.17\00:06:47.50 that we were both so new to 00:06:47.54\00:06:50.01 and God really allowed... 00:06:50.04\00:06:51.37 God really impressed our hearts at that time, 00:06:51.41\00:06:53.21 that if we weren't seeing what we were looking for, 00:06:53.24\00:06:55.91 why not start making content 00:06:55.94\00:06:57.75 and sharing this content online with people 00:06:57.78\00:06:59.65 about what we were experiencing 00:06:59.68\00:07:01.42 and what God was teaching us from His Word. 00:07:01.45\00:07:03.45 And by God's grace, we did that. 00:07:03.49\00:07:04.92 So we started releasing a series of different videos. 00:07:04.95\00:07:08.12 The first series was entitled The Courtship series. 00:07:08.16\00:07:10.13 And just the response that we received from people 00:07:10.16\00:07:13.29 literally all around the world 00:07:13.33\00:07:15.00 that were messaging us and sharing that, 00:07:15.03\00:07:17.03 you know, something that we had shared 00:07:17.07\00:07:18.40 had resonated with them 00:07:18.43\00:07:19.77 or that they really appreciated, 00:07:19.80\00:07:21.20 you know, the content that we were bringing in, 00:07:21.24\00:07:22.80 just the vulnerability that we have with our videos. 00:07:22.84\00:07:26.07 And we were so thankful for that. 00:07:26.11\00:07:27.44 And this truly been overwhelming 00:07:27.48\00:07:28.88 throughout the years. 00:07:28.91\00:07:30.51 In 2018, about four years later, 00:07:30.55\00:07:33.55 God blessed us with our first son. 00:07:33.58\00:07:35.55 And after he was born, 00:07:35.58\00:07:38.82 we started to really see the need for more ministry 00:07:38.85\00:07:43.12 towards the home, towards the home life. 00:07:43.16\00:07:46.13 Maybe I was starting to realize that 00:07:46.16\00:07:48.20 the weight of responsibility now on us 00:07:48.23\00:07:49.96 as parents or whatnot, 00:07:50.00\00:07:51.60 we just had to think that 00:07:51.63\00:07:53.20 the whole needs to be ministered to. 00:07:53.23\00:07:55.00 And that there's a mission for us, 00:07:55.04\00:07:57.14 I think, to address the needs of parents and families, 00:07:57.17\00:08:00.58 and husbands and wives, and daughters and sons, 00:08:00.61\00:08:03.38 and by God's grace, 00:08:03.41\00:08:04.75 that's what we sought out to do 00:08:04.78\00:08:06.95 with starting Love At Home Ministries. 00:08:06.98\00:08:08.62 And, you know, seeing the home as this, 00:08:08.65\00:08:11.29 as the center of communities, as the center of churches, 00:08:11.32\00:08:14.49 as the center of our nation 00:08:14.52\00:08:15.96 and administrators that we needed right now. 00:08:15.99\00:08:18.89 Yes, yes. 00:08:18.93\00:08:20.73 That is awesome. 00:08:20.76\00:08:22.10 You know, I've seen your YouTube channel, 00:08:22.13\00:08:23.47 I've seen some of your videos 00:08:23.50\00:08:24.93 and I have to second what everybody's saying is, 00:08:24.97\00:08:28.74 you know, I appreciate your transparency 00:08:28.77\00:08:30.31 and all of that. 00:08:30.34\00:08:31.67 And I think that that is very helpful 00:08:31.71\00:08:33.51 when dealing with the subject of relationships and marriage 00:08:33.54\00:08:37.11 and all of that stuff, 00:08:37.15\00:08:38.48 because sometimes the picture is painted as, 00:08:38.51\00:08:41.52 "Oh, you know, 00:08:41.55\00:08:42.88 once you get married, everything's perfect." 00:08:42.92\00:08:44.25 Like even if there's red flags that arise 00:08:44.29\00:08:46.19 and you ignore it. 00:08:46.22\00:08:47.56 Oh, yeah, it'll get better. 00:08:47.59\00:08:48.92 You know, people have that impression. 00:08:48.96\00:08:51.69 So what are some challenges 00:08:51.73\00:08:54.03 that guys have faced as a couple 00:08:54.06\00:08:57.90 and maybe as a married couple as well. 00:08:57.93\00:09:01.84 And how did you overcome those? 00:09:01.87\00:09:05.77 That's a great question. I'll start off. 00:09:05.81\00:09:07.14 And I think that one of the first challenge 00:09:07.18\00:09:08.84 that comes to my mind is 00:09:08.88\00:09:10.51 after our son was born 00:09:10.55\00:09:12.21 continuing to place one another 00:09:12.25\00:09:14.35 at the forefront of our relationship. 00:09:14.38\00:09:16.25 So when you have a new baby in your life, 00:09:16.28\00:09:17.99 and you're so excited to be a father, to be a mother, 00:09:18.02\00:09:20.72 sometimes you can begin 00:09:20.76\00:09:22.09 to slip as far as how much care, 00:09:22.12\00:09:24.13 how much, you know, devotion, 00:09:24.16\00:09:25.63 you really show into your spouse 00:09:25.66\00:09:27.53 and the attention that you're giving to them. 00:09:27.56\00:09:29.40 And that was an adjustment for us. 00:09:29.43\00:09:30.77 And it still is an adjustment today. 00:09:30.80\00:09:32.17 We still haven't perfect. 00:09:32.20\00:09:33.54 We're trying to get better. Right? 00:09:33.57\00:09:34.90 We're trying to get, you know, 00:09:34.94\00:09:36.27 a little bit more regimented in the, 00:09:36.30\00:09:37.64 you know, the date nights 00:09:37.67\00:09:39.01 that we'll have with one another 00:09:39.04\00:09:40.38 and just the intentional conversations 00:09:40.41\00:09:42.14 that will satisfy to make sure that we can have time 00:09:42.18\00:09:44.85 every single day to just talk and to catch up. 00:09:44.88\00:09:46.82 But it is challenging 00:09:46.85\00:09:48.22 when a child that when children come into the picture, 00:09:48.25\00:09:50.99 but that's one of the, that's an example, 00:09:51.02\00:09:52.35 one of the challenges that we faced. 00:09:52.39\00:09:54.32 Yeah. 00:09:54.36\00:09:55.86 I think in the beginning, 00:09:55.89\00:09:57.23 especially when you have 00:09:57.26\00:09:58.59 a really solid foundation of friendship, 00:09:58.63\00:09:59.96 that can be easy to just sail on through 00:10:00.00\00:10:03.47 'cause really with marriage, 00:10:03.50\00:10:04.83 you have to be very intentional. 00:10:04.87\00:10:06.53 And I think, you know, like Brandon said, 00:10:06.57\00:10:08.60 having a child open up our eyes 00:10:08.64\00:10:10.31 to the fact like, yes, you're always gonna be friends 00:10:10.34\00:10:12.57 and you like each other, 00:10:12.61\00:10:14.08 but you do have to intentionally keep sowing 00:10:14.11\00:10:16.85 into your marriage 00:10:16.88\00:10:18.25 communicating, building those memories 00:10:18.28\00:10:19.91 and those special moments together. 00:10:19.95\00:10:21.48 So we try to really apply what we tell others to do, 00:10:21.52\00:10:27.26 as we need to share, 00:10:27.29\00:10:28.62 but, you know, we have to put into application, 00:10:28.66\00:10:31.06 you know, what God has already shown us. 00:10:31.09\00:10:32.86 So that's how we try to address it now. 00:10:32.89\00:10:35.33 Amen. 00:10:35.36\00:10:36.70 So you practice what you preach. 00:10:36.73\00:10:38.07 I love it. 00:10:38.10\00:10:39.43 That's what we preach. 00:10:39.47\00:10:40.80 I love it. 00:10:40.84\00:10:42.17 So what led to the creation of Tokens of Love? 00:10:42.20\00:10:47.14 Yeah. 00:10:47.18\00:10:48.51 Tokens of Love is really, it was a multiple year journey. 00:10:48.54\00:10:52.91 The idea actually came from us putting together presentations. 00:10:52.95\00:10:58.09 So whenever we would do different seminars, 00:10:58.12\00:11:00.72 we would always try to find examples in the Bible 00:11:00.76\00:11:03.29 to give the principle for what we were sharing. 00:11:03.32\00:11:06.56 And we started noticing that every love story in the Bible 00:11:06.59\00:11:09.80 had a lesson or a token, if you would say 00:11:09.83\00:11:13.64 that we could use to apply to our relationships. 00:11:13.67\00:11:16.54 So in 2016, 00:11:16.57\00:11:18.14 we started actually just writing down the couples 00:11:18.17\00:11:20.44 we were finding in the Bible. 00:11:20.48\00:11:22.44 And then the next year after that 00:11:22.48\00:11:24.65 really challenged ourselves 00:11:24.68\00:11:26.15 to start finding what are those themes 00:11:26.18\00:11:28.42 that we can pull out from each couple, 00:11:28.45\00:11:30.12 until we finally narrowed it down 00:11:30.15\00:11:32.05 and we started writing 00:11:32.09\00:11:33.96 and, you know, it took some time 00:11:33.99\00:11:35.69 and we would, you know, lay it down 00:11:35.72\00:11:37.39 and then God would send something 00:11:37.43\00:11:38.76 to remind us, to pick it back up again. 00:11:38.79\00:11:40.66 And after our son was born, 00:11:40.70\00:11:42.10 I think that really gave us the push 00:11:42.13\00:11:43.47 that we needed to really finish the book. 00:11:43.50\00:11:45.90 And that's when Tokens of Love was born. 00:11:45.93\00:11:47.87 So we had 31 couples, 31 stories and 31 lessons 00:11:47.90\00:11:52.21 that we can take away from these Bible stories. 00:11:52.24\00:11:55.11 Wow. That's huge. 00:11:55.14\00:11:57.05 You were gonna say something, Brandon? 00:11:57.08\00:11:59.31 No, no. I was just agreeing with her. 00:11:59.35\00:12:01.28 Okay. 00:12:01.32\00:12:03.02 So, what is the structure of the book? 00:12:03.05\00:12:07.79 Yeah, so the book I should have mentioned 00:12:07.82\00:12:09.16 the book takes you through 31 different couples 00:12:09.19\00:12:12.13 and different relationships 00:12:12.16\00:12:13.50 that we see recorded in the Bible. 00:12:13.53\00:12:15.00 And then along with each day's devotional entry, 00:12:15.03\00:12:17.80 while we're also, also able to provide them 00:12:17.83\00:12:20.64 the devotional was a prayer starter 00:12:20.67\00:12:22.84 for us to have, you know, 00:12:22.87\00:12:24.21 concentrated prayer on each particular theme 00:12:24.24\00:12:26.91 and, you know, by day by day, 00:12:26.94\00:12:28.64 and then also additional scriptures 00:12:28.68\00:12:30.31 for individuals to study or couples to study. 00:12:30.35\00:12:33.48 I mean, there's just only so much 00:12:33.52\00:12:35.42 you could put into one devotional entry. 00:12:35.45\00:12:37.29 So we did our best to 00:12:37.32\00:12:38.65 also provide reference scriptures 00:12:38.69\00:12:40.29 for additional study 00:12:40.32\00:12:42.46 that folks can also entertain. 00:12:42.49\00:12:44.96 And then second, thirdly 00:12:44.99\00:12:47.13 we thought it was really important 00:12:47.16\00:12:48.50 to provide a personal reflection space. 00:12:48.53\00:12:50.80 So if you're reading this devotion 00:12:50.83\00:12:52.17 and you're going through it, 00:12:52.20\00:12:53.54 and you know, sometimes when we get devotions 00:12:53.57\00:12:54.90 we can just go day by day and not really think about 00:12:54.94\00:12:57.17 what we're actually reading 00:12:57.21\00:12:58.57 and what we're no longer receiving. 00:12:58.61\00:13:01.04 And so this personal reflection space was designed 00:13:01.08\00:13:03.11 so that individuals can, can journal and can write 00:13:03.14\00:13:06.01 in response to the devotional theme 00:13:06.05\00:13:07.38 for that day. 00:13:07.42\00:13:08.75 And when we think about 00:13:08.78\00:13:10.12 how does this practically apply to my life and to my walk 00:13:10.15\00:13:12.65 particularly around, 00:13:12.69\00:13:14.02 particularly around relationships. 00:13:14.06\00:13:15.39 And then lastly 00:13:15.42\00:13:16.76 there's a couples corner discussing question 00:13:16.79\00:13:18.36 for each day, 00:13:18.39\00:13:19.73 but we wanna encourage those 00:13:19.76\00:13:21.10 who are choosing to read this book together, 00:13:21.13\00:13:22.76 that they can have healthy conversations 00:13:22.80\00:13:24.73 with one another about these topics. 00:13:24.77\00:13:26.47 Maybe you're doing the Bible study. 00:13:26.50\00:13:27.84 Maybe you're just, 00:13:27.87\00:13:29.20 you know, reading it with your significant 00:13:29.24\00:13:30.57 other whatnot, 00:13:30.61\00:13:31.94 but these couples corners can be really helpful 00:13:31.97\00:13:33.31 to sparking conversation and dialogue 00:13:33.34\00:13:35.58 around the different things in the book. 00:13:35.61\00:13:37.35 Yes. 00:13:37.38\00:13:38.71 You know, and I love 00:13:38.75\00:13:40.08 how you have that couples corner in there 00:13:40.12\00:13:41.78 because I think I can really see 00:13:41.82\00:13:43.55 how that would enhance things. 00:13:43.59\00:13:45.35 You know, it's practical exercises 00:13:45.39\00:13:47.46 and stuff for the couples to do. 00:13:47.49\00:13:49.16 That is awesome questions to get them thinking. 00:13:49.19\00:13:52.83 Sorry. Yeah. 00:13:52.86\00:13:54.20 I think that's huge. 00:13:54.23\00:13:55.56 Now, what about for that single person 00:13:55.60\00:13:57.80 that's out there and they're like, 00:13:57.83\00:13:59.17 well, you know, 00:13:59.20\00:14:00.54 I'd like to be in a relationship one day. 00:14:00.57\00:14:02.90 I'd like to be married one day. 00:14:02.94\00:14:04.97 What do you have for them? 00:14:05.01\00:14:06.34 How can this book benefit them? 00:14:06.37\00:14:11.28 Yeah, I think I always say that, 00:14:11.31\00:14:14.05 you know, the journey to marriage 00:14:14.08\00:14:16.25 or into a relationship is a faith journey 00:14:16.28\00:14:18.82 because it really involves a total surrender 00:14:18.85\00:14:21.76 and trusting that God knows best 00:14:21.79\00:14:24.26 and He will provide what is best. 00:14:24.29\00:14:26.36 And I know even just in my own personal journey, 00:14:26.39\00:14:28.96 I had to go through that. 00:14:29.00\00:14:30.33 So, Tokens of Love, 00:14:30.37\00:14:31.77 because we're going through the different Bible stories, 00:14:31.80\00:14:33.77 what we hope readers take away, 00:14:33.80\00:14:35.54 especially if they're single, 00:14:35.57\00:14:37.07 is knowing that God cares 00:14:37.11\00:14:39.41 and that He intricately cares 00:14:39.44\00:14:40.81 about each and every person, every story, 00:14:40.84\00:14:43.38 He cares about how you experienced love. 00:14:43.41\00:14:45.88 He cares about when you're frustrated 00:14:45.91\00:14:47.28 or you're angry. 00:14:47.32\00:14:48.65 He cares about 00:14:48.68\00:14:50.02 when you're waiting for something. 00:14:50.05\00:14:51.39 There are just so many components 00:14:51.42\00:14:52.75 to relationship, 00:14:52.79\00:14:54.12 and all through the Bible we can see God's care. 00:14:54.16\00:14:56.26 And I think we, 00:14:56.29\00:14:57.63 I think when a person starts there 00:14:57.66\00:14:59.39 and they're strengthened in their faith 00:14:59.43\00:15:00.83 and their understanding that 00:15:00.86\00:15:02.20 God wants to be very involved in this area of their life 00:15:02.23\00:15:05.43 that will inspire them 00:15:05.47\00:15:07.27 as they're on that journey of preparation. 00:15:07.30\00:15:09.97 Well said, well said. 00:15:10.01\00:15:12.27 Why do you think that 00:15:12.31\00:15:13.78 the area of love and relationships 00:15:13.81\00:15:16.28 and why do you think that's such a huge, huge topic 00:15:16.31\00:15:20.52 that seems to be very high in demand? 00:15:20.55\00:15:23.85 Yes. Yeah. 00:15:23.89\00:15:25.22 Well, when you think about the fact that God, 00:15:25.25\00:15:26.96 you know, He created 00:15:26.99\00:15:28.32 this institution of marriage, right? 00:15:28.36\00:15:29.86 He created the desire in our hearts 00:15:29.89\00:15:33.63 to want companionship. 00:15:33.66\00:15:35.20 And so when you understand that, 00:15:35.23\00:15:37.87 I think it makes sense that 00:15:37.90\00:15:39.23 so many people are just attracted 00:15:39.27\00:15:40.60 to talk about love and relationships, 00:15:40.64\00:15:42.70 because we all have that little thing in our hearts 00:15:42.74\00:15:44.41 that, you know, goes off and makes us want to feel loved 00:15:44.44\00:15:47.18 or want to love someone else. 00:15:47.21\00:15:49.44 And so I think that, you know, especially today, 00:15:49.48\00:15:51.45 when we look at what's happening right now 00:15:51.48\00:15:53.01 with just the marriage rates over the last few years, 00:15:53.05\00:15:56.28 and also the divorce rate 00:15:56.32\00:15:57.65 and even the rates of cohabitation 00:15:57.69\00:15:59.49 and even most recently, the epidemic of loneliness 00:15:59.52\00:16:03.02 that we're dealing within the United States. 00:16:03.06\00:16:05.36 It's apparent that 00:16:05.39\00:16:06.90 love and relationships is on people's minds 00:16:06.93\00:16:09.96 and that individuals are seeking information, 00:16:10.00\00:16:12.77 want to know how to actually do these different things 00:16:12.80\00:16:15.50 that pertain to the matters of my heart. 00:16:15.54\00:16:18.27 And I know that, you know, 00:16:18.31\00:16:19.64 we probably don't even have research on this yet, 00:16:19.67\00:16:21.21 but the year of the COVID-19 pandemic 00:16:21.24\00:16:24.25 and we see what's transpired and just, you know, 00:16:24.28\00:16:26.75 I think that also the pressure that many homes have been under 00:16:26.78\00:16:29.78 as a result of this has also increased, 00:16:29.82\00:16:32.42 I think the desire, the need for more ministry, 00:16:32.45\00:16:35.92 more I think more getting back to God's Word. 00:16:35.96\00:16:39.89 What does it mean to have healthy, happy, 00:16:39.93\00:16:41.33 and holy romance 00:16:41.36\00:16:42.70 and healthy relationships in your home. 00:16:42.73\00:16:45.53 And how do you cultivate those happy, healthy, 00:16:45.57\00:16:48.74 you know, and holy romances in your home? 00:16:48.77\00:16:51.31 How do you go about cultivating that? 00:16:51.34\00:16:55.01 It really starts with God being the foundation. 00:16:55.04\00:16:58.91 And I know it sounds, 00:16:58.95\00:17:00.28 probably sounds a little cliche, 00:17:00.32\00:17:01.65 but really, you know, 00:17:01.68\00:17:03.28 there's nothing we can do outside of Christ 00:17:03.32\00:17:05.49 and so if you want something to be strong 00:17:05.52\00:17:07.39 and to be happy and healthy, that's gonna come from Him. 00:17:07.42\00:17:10.06 So, you know, praying together and it's so important. 00:17:10.09\00:17:14.23 One thing we have really tried to do 00:17:14.26\00:17:16.77 and be consistent with, 00:17:16.80\00:17:18.13 with our son is family worship time. 00:17:18.17\00:17:20.64 So just gathering together in the Word and prayer 00:17:20.67\00:17:23.44 can do amazing things for a family. 00:17:23.47\00:17:25.74 And when you do it on a consistent basis as well, 00:17:25.77\00:17:28.08 I think also having an understanding 00:17:28.11\00:17:29.91 of communication. 00:17:29.94\00:17:31.28 So now that we are all spending a lot of time at home 00:17:31.31\00:17:34.08 on the same four walls with each other. 00:17:34.12\00:17:37.19 Do we know how to have healthy communication habits, 00:17:37.22\00:17:40.29 you know, that can foster more love and more kindness 00:17:40.32\00:17:43.12 and those sorts of things. 00:17:43.16\00:17:44.49 So it's all about 00:17:44.53\00:17:45.86 just equipping ourselves with the skills, 00:17:45.89\00:17:47.46 but on top of the foundation of God being the center. 00:17:47.50\00:17:50.97 Amen. 00:17:51.00\00:17:52.33 Now what about finances? 00:17:52.37\00:17:54.60 You know, 'cause married couples, 00:17:54.64\00:17:56.07 you know, when they come together 00:17:56.10\00:17:57.71 and the whole financial component, 00:17:57.74\00:18:00.44 how does that factor into a happy, healthy marriage? 00:18:00.48\00:18:05.38 That's so important too. 00:18:05.41\00:18:06.75 I mean, we work with couples 00:18:06.78\00:18:08.12 and premarital coaching sessions with couples. 00:18:08.15\00:18:10.85 We've focused explicitly on finances 00:18:10.89\00:18:13.25 because, you know, many fight some money problems 00:18:13.29\00:18:16.09 is one of the leading cause of divorce in America. 00:18:16.12\00:18:20.26 And so we know that 00:18:20.30\00:18:21.63 there's so much work that needs to be done 00:18:21.66\00:18:23.33 leading up to marriage. 00:18:23.37\00:18:24.80 And even before you're in a relationship 00:18:24.83\00:18:26.74 to make sure you have those right financial principles. 00:18:26.77\00:18:29.87 So yes, understanding your finances, 00:18:29.90\00:18:32.21 understanding how to properly manage family finances. 00:18:32.24\00:18:35.18 And then I think also as a couple coming together 00:18:35.21\00:18:37.65 on the same page 00:18:37.68\00:18:39.05 on your finances, 00:18:39.08\00:18:40.42 and there like Sheretta was mentioning earlier, 00:18:40.45\00:18:41.92 just the communication. 00:18:41.95\00:18:43.89 One time I heard somebody telling me that, 00:18:43.92\00:18:45.65 you know, they and their spouse don't talk about finances 00:18:45.69\00:18:48.42 except for once a year. 00:18:48.46\00:18:49.92 And I said that just can't happen. 00:18:49.96\00:18:51.76 You can't have a healthy, happy, and holy home 00:18:51.79\00:18:54.30 with just talking about finances once a year. 00:18:54.33\00:18:56.13 So having that regular time with the communicating 00:18:56.16\00:18:59.43 and sharing about your finances 00:18:59.47\00:19:00.80 and your dreams and your goals and your plans, 00:19:00.84\00:19:03.51 it's very healthy for a relationship. 00:19:03.54\00:19:05.37 And I'd also add starting with the good financial habits. 00:19:05.41\00:19:08.38 You know, the Bible has a lot to say about 00:19:08.41\00:19:10.51 how to handle money. 00:19:10.55\00:19:12.11 And so, really building those healthy skills. 00:19:12.15\00:19:14.58 I know we all need that. 00:19:14.62\00:19:17.29 Yes, absolutely. 00:19:17.32\00:19:20.79 You guys also do premarital counseling. 00:19:20.82\00:19:23.39 What do those sessions look like? 00:19:23.43\00:19:25.63 How do you start? 00:19:25.66\00:19:27.46 How do you start with the couples? 00:19:27.50\00:19:29.00 Like what do you do? 00:19:29.03\00:19:31.43 Yeah. 00:19:31.47\00:19:32.80 So we take each couple through a customized assessment where, 00:19:32.83\00:19:36.81 you know, they fill out this sort of questionnaire 00:19:36.84\00:19:39.27 and they, then we get a report 00:19:39.31\00:19:40.98 where we can look at the different areas 00:19:41.01\00:19:43.41 of their relationship 00:19:43.45\00:19:44.91 such as, you know, how they communicate, 00:19:44.95\00:19:47.05 conflict resolution, 00:19:47.08\00:19:48.42 their thoughts on parenting in the future, et cetera. 00:19:48.45\00:19:51.35 And we walk them week by week through each of those areas 00:19:51.39\00:19:54.56 and just have discussion and also sharing, 00:19:54.59\00:19:57.33 transparent sharing of our experiences. 00:19:57.36\00:20:00.03 And I'm really just trying to, 00:20:00.06\00:20:01.63 we call it the marriage toolbox. 00:20:01.66\00:20:03.26 So we are trying to give them all the tools 00:20:03.30\00:20:05.33 that they will need 00:20:05.37\00:20:06.70 to be able to build a foundation 00:20:06.74\00:20:08.57 for a successful marriage. 00:20:08.60\00:20:09.94 And yeah, that's what we do with them. 00:20:09.97\00:20:14.08 That is wonderful. 00:20:14.11\00:20:16.04 What are some, maybe some testimonies 00:20:16.08\00:20:18.58 that you can share about 00:20:18.61\00:20:20.65 how people have been blessed by the book 00:20:20.68\00:20:23.62 and perhaps the premarital counseling? 00:20:23.65\00:20:28.82 Well, great. Yeah, that's a great question. 00:20:28.86\00:20:30.69 So I guess I would take the... 00:20:30.73\00:20:33.16 I'll take the book one first. 00:20:33.19\00:20:34.53 So we had somebody who wrote, 00:20:34.56\00:20:35.90 actually wrote an endorsement for our book 00:20:35.93\00:20:37.93 and they had reached out to us after reading it 00:20:37.97\00:20:41.87 and after receiving the book 00:20:41.90\00:20:43.24 and share that 00:20:43.27\00:20:44.61 they were going to actually purchase another book 00:20:44.64\00:20:46.44 to provide to a couple 00:20:46.47\00:20:48.31 that was on the brink of divorce. 00:20:48.34\00:20:50.78 And that was so... 00:20:50.81\00:20:52.28 That experience was so humbling for us 00:20:52.31\00:20:54.15 to realize that 00:20:54.18\00:20:56.08 someone thought so much about 00:20:56.12\00:20:58.09 what God placed on our hearts through this book 00:20:58.12\00:21:01.79 that they believe that would be a helpful resource 00:21:01.82\00:21:04.29 for somebody to rekindle their relationship 00:21:04.33\00:21:06.70 and to revive 00:21:06.73\00:21:08.26 just the happiness in their home 00:21:08.30\00:21:09.83 and hopefully, you know, keep their marriage. 00:21:09.86\00:21:11.73 And that was just an awe-inspiring moment for us. 00:21:11.77\00:21:15.67 Yes, yes. 00:21:15.70\00:21:17.04 Rekindle the flame. 00:21:17.07\00:21:20.11 That's right. That's right. 00:21:20.14\00:21:21.74 So what about the premarital counseling side? 00:21:21.78\00:21:26.28 Yeah, we've been blessed to see, 00:21:26.31\00:21:28.68 you know, different couples get married 00:21:28.72\00:21:30.92 and we certainly keep in touch after 00:21:30.95\00:21:33.25 and wanna make sure that, 00:21:33.29\00:21:34.62 you know, all is starting off well, 00:21:34.66\00:21:37.93 so I remember 00:21:37.96\00:21:40.26 this is little connected to the book as well, 00:21:40.30\00:21:42.66 but there was a couple who was courting 00:21:42.70\00:21:44.90 and they were reading the book together, 00:21:44.93\00:21:47.04 going through each entry one by one, 00:21:47.07\00:21:49.44 I'm sorry, week by week. 00:21:49.47\00:21:51.11 And they shared how the couples corner 00:21:51.14\00:21:54.58 was actually really helpful for them 00:21:54.61\00:21:56.08 getting a little bit deeper in their conversations 00:21:56.11\00:21:59.65 about their relationship 00:21:59.68\00:22:01.02 and about how God is a part of that relationship. 00:22:01.05\00:22:04.85 And I'm not saying this is because they read the book, 00:22:04.89\00:22:07.89 but they did get engaged recently 00:22:07.92\00:22:10.03 and are planning to get married. 00:22:10.06\00:22:11.73 So it's just exciting to see how, 00:22:11.76\00:22:13.76 you know, God is just using this 00:22:13.80\00:22:15.30 to facilitate the discussions that are needed. 00:22:15.33\00:22:17.97 And for people to really, as we mentioned before, 00:22:18.00\00:22:20.60 that purposeful, prayerful journey to marriage, 00:22:20.64\00:22:23.71 it's really helping people get there. 00:22:23.74\00:22:26.81 Praise the Lord. Yeah. 00:22:26.84\00:22:28.18 It sounds like the journey has been successful. 00:22:28.21\00:22:31.85 Amen. By His grace. 00:22:31.88\00:22:34.02 Amen. 00:22:34.05\00:22:35.58 Did you incur any challenges in writing this book? 00:22:35.62\00:22:41.62 Oh, we had several challenges Sheretta, 00:22:41.66\00:22:44.63 I think Sheretta mentioned earlier that, 00:22:44.66\00:22:46.43 you know, we started in 2016 00:22:46.46\00:22:48.53 with just kind of thinking about the book 00:22:48.56\00:22:49.96 and the book wasn't published until 2019. 00:22:50.00\00:22:52.23 So there was a bevy of challenges 00:22:52.27\00:22:54.17 all up and down those three years. 00:22:54.20\00:22:56.50 But I think in the, you know, in the most, 00:22:56.54\00:22:59.54 I guess when we were about to publish the book, 00:22:59.57\00:23:02.18 we sent out, you know, a query letter 00:23:02.21\00:23:05.21 and a proposal to some different agencies, 00:23:05.25\00:23:07.58 inquiring if they were going to, 00:23:07.62\00:23:09.72 you know, want to publish the book for us. 00:23:09.75\00:23:11.39 And after getting interest from these agencies, 00:23:11.42\00:23:14.99 we ultimately decided not to go the traditional publishing hub. 00:23:15.02\00:23:20.06 God impressed our hearts at that moment. 00:23:20.10\00:23:21.70 We were just struggling with like, 00:23:21.73\00:23:23.16 do we really want to go the traditional route? 00:23:23.20\00:23:24.70 Do we prefer to go self publishing? 00:23:24.73\00:23:26.23 And God reveal to us that we had the skills 00:23:26.27\00:23:29.30 and we had the resources 00:23:29.34\00:23:30.67 to be able to have to self-publish. 00:23:30.71\00:23:32.57 And so that was an overcoming 00:23:32.61\00:23:33.94 that challenge of that decision right there 00:23:33.98\00:23:36.54 and God has tremendously blessed 00:23:36.58\00:23:37.91 beyond our, you know, beyond our imagination. 00:23:37.95\00:23:40.32 Ah, praise the Lord. 00:23:40.35\00:23:42.62 I want to put up your address page. 00:23:42.65\00:23:46.05 I know that our time is dwindling down, 00:23:46.09\00:23:48.69 but I wanna put up your address. 00:23:48.72\00:23:51.56 And so people know how to get in touch with you 00:23:51.59\00:23:53.86 if they wanna book you for seminars, 00:23:53.90\00:23:55.46 if they'd like to get your book, 00:23:55.50\00:23:57.43 all of that. 00:23:57.47\00:23:58.80 So I'd like for you to read that for us. 00:23:58.83\00:24:02.87 Sure. 00:24:02.90\00:24:04.24 So the address where you can contact us 00:24:04.27\00:24:06.61 is 88 Glocker Way 00:24:06.64\00:24:09.11 #177 is the box, Pottstown, Pennsylvania 19525. 00:24:09.14\00:24:15.05 Our website is lahministries.com 00:24:15.08\00:24:19.85 and email if you want to have us speak 00:24:19.89\00:24:22.92 or you just want to get in touch with us 00:24:22.96\00:24:24.79 or interested in premarital coaching 00:24:24.83\00:24:26.63 is info@lahministries.com. 00:24:26.66\00:24:31.73 And then you could also call our phone number 00:24:31.77\00:24:33.40 at (267) 225-7115. 00:24:33.44\00:24:37.31 All right. 00:24:37.34\00:24:38.67 And that's Love At Home Ministries. 00:24:38.71\00:24:41.34 Yes. Yes, sir. 00:24:41.38\00:24:42.88 So real quick, 00:24:42.91\00:24:45.01 are there any final thoughts 00:24:45.05\00:24:46.41 that you have, Brandon or Sheretta? 00:24:46.45\00:24:49.28 Yeah. 00:24:52.29\00:24:54.09 Well, I think that 00:24:54.12\00:24:55.49 when we talk about love and relationships, 00:24:55.52\00:24:57.33 it's important for us to always remember that 00:24:57.36\00:25:01.70 courtship and marriage are really great opportunities 00:25:01.73\00:25:05.47 to enjoy companionship with one another, 00:25:05.50\00:25:08.00 but most important in our minds 00:25:08.04\00:25:09.84 is to be ready for the greatest marriage 00:25:09.87\00:25:11.54 of all to Jesus Christ 00:25:11.57\00:25:13.24 and to be ready for His soon coming. 00:25:13.27\00:25:15.94 And so, you know, as we're enjoying relationships 00:25:15.98\00:25:18.55 and seek relationships and trying, 00:25:18.58\00:25:20.12 it's trying to find our one to find our match. 00:25:20.15\00:25:23.52 It's important for us not to take our eyes off of 00:25:23.55\00:25:26.82 preparing for that great ceremony 00:25:26.86\00:25:29.06 that we want to be a part of. 00:25:29.09\00:25:30.99 And so one thing that we always tell people is that, 00:25:31.03\00:25:32.93 you know, knowing God and knowing His love 00:25:32.96\00:25:36.20 is so integral 00:25:36.23\00:25:38.20 to actually being able to love someone else. 00:25:38.23\00:25:41.60 As God transforms our lives, 00:25:41.64\00:25:43.44 as He transforms us as individuals, 00:25:43.47\00:25:45.67 we will be better able to love other people 00:25:45.71\00:25:48.18 and love that one 00:25:48.21\00:25:49.54 that God desires to bring into our lives. 00:25:49.58\00:25:51.48 We say that a life transformed is a love transformed. 00:25:51.51\00:25:54.95 Amen. I like that. 00:25:54.98\00:25:56.38 And I just... 00:25:56.42\00:25:58.52 Yes, and I would just like to add as well, 00:25:58.55\00:26:00.49 just from my personal experience, 00:26:00.52\00:26:02.56 I had gone through so many years 00:26:02.59\00:26:03.99 of not considering God as a part of my love life, 00:26:04.03\00:26:08.20 like when it came to romantic relationships 00:26:08.23\00:26:11.20 or someone being interested in me 00:26:11.23\00:26:12.93 or vice versa, 00:26:12.97\00:26:14.30 I never considered 00:26:14.34\00:26:15.67 God needing to be a part of that, 00:26:15.70\00:26:17.11 of consulting Him and talking to Him. 00:26:17.14\00:26:19.87 And, you know, 00:26:19.91\00:26:21.24 that led to a lot of really poor decisions. 00:26:21.28\00:26:23.38 But when I finally surrendered and I realized like, 00:26:23.41\00:26:26.11 no, God should very much be a part of this 00:26:26.15\00:26:28.58 just as I pray for protection, 00:26:28.62\00:26:30.92 traveling mercies and all of those things, 00:26:30.95\00:26:33.42 He should very much be a part of my relationships. 00:26:33.46\00:26:37.26 And I surrendered it over to Him. 00:26:37.29\00:26:38.73 That's when everything changed for me. 00:26:38.76\00:26:40.93 So I just wanna encourage 00:26:40.96\00:26:42.30 anyone listening to this program, 00:26:42.33\00:26:43.67 that if you haven't surrendered, 00:26:43.70\00:26:45.53 you know, your love life to God, 00:26:45.57\00:26:47.47 if you haven't included Him along the way, 00:26:47.50\00:26:49.14 it's not too late. 00:26:49.17\00:26:50.54 And you can certainly do that 00:26:50.57\00:26:51.91 because He is the one who has created this 00:26:51.94\00:26:53.94 and He knows best. 00:26:53.98\00:26:55.48 And He certainly always has a plan 00:26:55.51\00:26:57.01 more than we could ever imagine. 00:26:57.05\00:26:59.08 Amen. 00:26:59.11\00:27:00.45 Excellent, excellent advice. 00:27:00.48\00:27:02.32 And that just shows people 00:27:02.35\00:27:03.69 why they need to go get this book. 00:27:03.72\00:27:05.55 They need to pick up Tokens of Love. 00:27:05.59\00:27:09.72 Go get it, go get Tokens of Love. 00:27:09.76\00:27:12.33 Real quick, what would be your favorite Bible couple? 00:27:12.36\00:27:18.70 For me that is Hosea and Gomer. 00:27:18.73\00:27:20.27 I love the story of forgiveness that we see recorded there 00:27:20.30\00:27:24.01 and just how it reflects God's love 00:27:24.04\00:27:25.74 and His forgiveness towards us and His children. 00:27:25.77\00:27:28.94 Yeah. 00:27:28.98\00:27:30.31 It's hard to pick a favorite, 00:27:30.35\00:27:31.85 but the one that I think really resonated with me 00:27:31.88\00:27:34.98 was Nabal and Abigail 00:27:35.02\00:27:36.85 and just seeing her love come through 00:27:36.89\00:27:40.19 when he was very unlovable. 00:27:40.22\00:27:42.39 I think that's what we called it, 00:27:42.42\00:27:43.76 loving the unlovable. 00:27:43.79\00:27:45.26 So just learning how to deal with that. 00:27:45.29\00:27:46.80 Wow. That's huge. 00:27:46.83\00:27:48.16 Well, thank you so much for coming on 00:27:48.20\00:27:49.53 and sharing with us today, 00:27:49.56\00:27:51.10 and we wanna thank you for joining us. 00:27:51.13\00:27:53.13 Well, we've reached the end of another program. 00:27:53.17\00:27:54.74 Join us next time and remember, 00:27:54.77\00:27:56.37 it just wouldn't be the same without you. 00:27:56.40\00:27:58.77