There is a secret sin that
has taken a hold of the church.
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Stay tuned to
find out what it is.
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My name is Yvonne
Lewis and I'm Jason Bradley
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and you're
watching Urban Report.
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Hello and welcome to a special
one-hour edition of Urban Report
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I have my co-host,
Jason Bradley, with me...
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yeah... Jays...
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and we have a very
special guest today,
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Lance Brown...
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Lance is no
stranger to Urban Report.
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I've interviewed him
on two other occasions.
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He is a Lay Evangelist
who is on fire for God.
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Recently, I was talking to him
and he mentioned the strong hold
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that sexual sin
has on the church,
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I told him that we should do
a program about this very topic.
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Welcome Brother Lance.
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God be praised, Sister Yvonne.
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It's so good to have you
here, you are a blessing.
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And we also have with us
via Skype, Dr. John Jacob.
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He's an Author
and a Psychotherapist
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and he's also the host
of Dare to Dream's Program,
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Road to Romance,
welcome Dr. Jacob.
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Thank you Dr.
Lewis, nice to be here.
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It's so good to
have you with us.
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Today we're going to
discuss the silent sin.
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According to the National
Association of Evangelicals,
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80 percent of unmarried,
Evangelical Christians
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between ages 18 to 29
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admit to having
had premarital sex.
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80 percent... and you
know, there are some aspects
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of sex and sexual addiction that
many people are not aware of
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so we invited Dr. Jacob in
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to talk about
the Chemistry of sex,
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to talk about what
happens in the human body
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during sexual arousal,
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now, some people might
feel a little uncomfortable
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having young
children watch this program,
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if you do, send
them into another room
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but make sure you watch
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this is a
critical, critical, program,
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so Dr. Jacob,
let's start with you
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because you have
some vital information
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about the Chemistry of sex
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and what happens to two
people chemically and hormonally
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when they are involved
in a sexual relationship.
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Tell us a bit about that.
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Yes, I've heard your statistic,
80 percent, that's pretty high,
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that's alarming, actually,
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sexual sin... or let's
just call it sexual addiction
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it's like any other addiction,
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basically what it
means is you're better off
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never having touched the
stuff, you know how that goes,
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never having
started in the first place,
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what it does to your
brain is mind blowing
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and difficult to recover
from and as you each would know,
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it requires a lot of
God's grace and a lot of prayer
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to reverse a situation
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that didn't need to be
started in the first place.
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So what you're saying is...
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and let me see if
I'm clear on this,
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what you're saying is,
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"If you never
begin that whole journey,
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it's so much better for you"
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unless it's within the
context of marriage, of course.
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We're not talking about
the God-ordained place for sex,
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we're talking about
premarital or extramarital sex,
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so what you're saying is,
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"It's better to not
start that whole thing
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because once you do,
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you can get very
caught up into it," correct?
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Yes, that's correct,
scientifically speaking,
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there's a difference
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between the
brains of a young person
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that has never had
sex, and one that has,
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so the first time
someone actually engages
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in sexual intercourse,
there are receptors in the brain
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that open for the first
time and they're opening because
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they're opening to
absorb the hormones,
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we have about eight hormones
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that are associated
with dating and marriage
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and so, some of those hormones
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are never released and
never absorbed into the body
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until those receptors are open
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now, once those
receptors are open...
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they do not close back.
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so what you have is, you
have the young person who
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thinks to themselves,
"Okay, I love this guy,
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I'm going to do
what he asks," you know,
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"I'm just going
to do this once,"
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but it never works
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and it doesn't work
because the receptors
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that open to
receive the hormones
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associated with that
activity are the same receptors
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that open to receive hormones
associated with Cocaine...
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Wow... Wow...
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So, these hormones are
addicting... very addicting,
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which is why, once they start,
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most of those 80 percent that
you mentioned will not stop.
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Now, they may have
started because of love,
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but here's the
thing, you have no guarantee
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that the person that you
decided to go that far with
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is going to stick with
you and follow this through
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to that natural progression,
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doing the right thing,
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getting into a
committed relationship,
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finally, one day...
proposing to you and, you know,
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walking with
you up to that alter
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you have no way to know that
that person is going to do that
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because that individual
doesn't know it, themselves.
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Look at what you just said,
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that there is some
powerful information in there,
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first of all,
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all of these
hormones that come into play,
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during that sexual act,
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God gave us those to
bind us to our spouse,
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but... this...
what you're saying is,
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once that cascade starts...
if it's not with your spouse,
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then you are... kind
of connected in a sense,
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chemically to that person...
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in other words... they
initiate a chemical response
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within the body
that was not intended
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for anyone other than
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the person that
you are married to.
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Correct... Is that correct?
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That's correct,
and you're right,
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those hormones were
never created... to date...
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they're not for
dating, you know,
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our first parents weren't given
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dating opportunities
if you know what I mean
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they were married on the
day that they were created
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and they were
given these hormones
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for marriage, not for dating...
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That's powerful,
that is powerful.
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So, let's talk about
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some of those
hormones and what they do.
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Okay, so we have
about eight hormones
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and basically they have
four main things that they do
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bonding is one,
blinding is another,
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addicting is another,
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and
novelty-seeking is the fourth.
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What was the fourth?
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Novelty seeking...
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so, they're responsible
for you wanting "newness"
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in a relationship,
in your relationship
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which is why, if we
only looked at marriages
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even marriages, of
course, in trouble,
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you know, today we're
talking about the singles,
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but married people are also
in trouble... in part because
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they neglect the novelty,
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so, they say, after
about nine years of marriage,
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most marriages
begin to run afoul
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because one partner
or maybe both partners
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say that they're feeling bored,
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so in Year Nine of marriage,
boredom is the biggest complaint
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not infidelity,
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so the hormones
that we were given were
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intended for us to
keep our relationships fresh
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and keep our
relationships alive,
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now take that out of
the context of marriage,
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and you have two young
people that are not married
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and guess what
the young man uses...
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novelty-seeking hormone four,
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they use it to keep going
from flower to flower to flower
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to flower and
actually get addicted
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to the novelty of it.
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Hmmm...
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So, promiscuity...
you don't think that...
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that novelty-seeking hormone
can create infidelity or do you?
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Well, it does, it does,
if partners are not careful
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to always keep
their relationships fresh
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you know, of
course, stay prayed up
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you've got to
take all the defenses
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and all the
measures that you can
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but a lot of relationships
do just the opposite
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couples do just the opposite,
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"Oh, finally I have my husband
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so now, I can wear my
rollers... every night. "
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No, no, no...
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"I'm good, I'm good,
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he signed on the dotted
line... where can he go?
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He's not going to go anywhere,
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so... here are the rollers...
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and here I am looking in ways
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that I would never present
to my friends on the outside"
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and so... you
get stuck in this rut
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instead of keeping it fresh
and exciting for your partner
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and that causes some problems,
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now, if you
switch that as I said,
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to the singles, we've
actually discovered...
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scientifically...
we've discovered
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that your body actually
responds to those hormones
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differently... if you
are serious about the person,
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that if you were
just in it for a fling,
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for a good time, for
another notch on the belt
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your body actually knows.
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Wow! so how does
it... what's the difference,
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what's the
difference in the response?
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Well the difference is
this, you engage... sexually
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and if you did not come in
with the frame of mind that
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you know, "I'm really
in love with this person,
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this is the person
that I'm interested in"
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especially for men,
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there's a hormone
called Vasopressin
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and it's sort of
the opposite of Oxytocin
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now, Vasopressin does the
same thing that Oxytocin does
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which is... it's
responsible for the bonding
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but here's the thing,
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if you went into this
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and you weren't 100 percent
sure that this is the person
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you wanted to spend
the rest of your life with,
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there is a strong possibility
that right after the act,
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Vasopressin causes
you to feel repulsed
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by the very person
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that you thought you were in
love with... prior to the act.
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Jason, there's a
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woman in the
Bible... it was actually,
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I can't remember her name,
but it was David's daughter
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her half-brother,
Amnon, was in love with her
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and ended up
raping her and shaming her
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and right after the act,
immediately after the act,
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all the love that he
had for her... dissipated...
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it was gone and he
hated her, the Bible said,
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and that is similar
to what Doc is saying
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with this
hormone... that initially,
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there can be a
lot of love there,
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but immediately, it can be gone,
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that is really powerful!
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So, a couple more hormones, Doc,
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and then I want to bring Lance
in to talk about his experience.
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Okay, so some of the addiction
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comes from the
fact... like any addiction
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that there is a
reward for taking it.
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If you're
addicted to a substance,
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your brain rewards
everything you take it,
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if you're addicted to sex,
the sex becomes an addiction
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which, very often it does,
there are centers in your brain
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the same receptors, and they use
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certain other hormones
like dopamine, norepinephrine,
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and the combination of these,
is powerful, it's addicting,
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and it's rewarding
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and its' the reward
that your body seeks
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over and over and
over, so the problem is this,
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if you attach
yourself to someone
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and you become
sexually involved,
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and your brain
begins to get this reward,
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your receptors are
open for the first time
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and then you have that
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"Amnon experience"
where... the brother,
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as soon as he's done, he's like,
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"This was a mistake... I don't
really feel this way about you,"
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the problem is,
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you also have that
last hormone, Oxytocin...
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that is
responsible for the bonding,
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and remember it bonds
us together like superglue
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when God put it
into Adam and Eve,
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it had to be so strong
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that Adam and Eve would
be able to stay together
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for eternity, that's
how strong that glue is,
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so imagine now, we,
in this fallen state,
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that we are in, and we
still have the same glue,
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it didn't change,
but now we're using it
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and I believe the enemy
is using it in such a way
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to have us bound to individuals
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who really don't have
our best interests at heart,
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so, what happens?
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You're attached
to this young man
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as we know, sexual
intercourse produces
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five times more Oxytocin...
that bonding hormone,
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than anything
else, five times...
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very, very, very strong,
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so by the time you're done,
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he gets this signal from
his brain that tells him,
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"She's not the
one... " he walks away...
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you're left there
with a broken heart
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because your heart is
really still attached to his,
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he's walked away with it,
he has your heart with him,
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and you're sitting there,
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what's the big deal
about that, what's the problem?
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The Problem is...
maybe the next person
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that would show up next
Saturday... next Sabbath,
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right there... was the one that
God had intended but guess what?
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You are not
available because emotionally
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your heart is
still with that young man
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who was trifling and,
you know, just took off.
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So it really is Russian Roulette
when young people decide
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to play with sin and
play with sex, in particular,
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because it leaves them, I think,
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in a very, very,
very desperate state.
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Thank you so
much, that is so rich,
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that's powerful, isn't it Jay?
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Yeah, that sounds
like the "lust hormone"
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or like the hormone
for one-night stands
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or something like that
because people get involved
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and then they're gone.
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Hmmm... hmmm... hmmm...
hmmm... the one-night stand...
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let's talk about your testimony,
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you have a very
interesting journey,
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share that with us if you would.
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You know when Dr.
John was speaking about
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those hormones and things
that trigger in a child's mind,
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I couldn't help but in
thinking about my experience,
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you know, as I had shared
before that when I was a child,
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growing up in the rural
hills of the West Indies,
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there were a couple of
attractions for us as children,
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some of them,
we would never try,
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you know, I was
growing up in the hills
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of the West Indies in Jamaica,
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and up in the
hills where we were,
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Marijuana grew wild
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and we saw the
effects of that on people,
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White Rum was a
product of Jamaica
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because of the
sugar plantations,
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but we could see what happened,
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but another export from
Jamaica was Reggae music,
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now, our house was
right next to a local bar,
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and they would
have a lot of parties
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and we would hear
certain types of music,
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now, a lot of
people know the friendly
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Bob Marley-type Reggae songs
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that were being
exported back then
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but they didn't
know some of the local,
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very sexually
explicit and graphic songs,
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and I'll never forget when
I was about four years old,
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I was at my grandmother's
house in the back yard
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and there was a party
and I heard the lyrics
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of a very
descriptive sexual song,
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and that song...
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you know they have a part
of the song called the "hook"
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and the hook is
meant to go in and hook
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and the words of that song
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went in... and hooked
my little child-like mind
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and the devil then
asked me a question,
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"What would that
experience be like?"
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Because the song was so
graphic and I pulled back at it
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and just went about business,
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going to church
and things like that.
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And how old were
you at this point?
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I was about four
years old at that point
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and the devil...
as I look back now
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was trying to get those...
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he knew I wouldn't try
the Marijuana chemicals,
00:16:06.23\00:16:08.53
I wouldn't try the
White Rum chemicals,
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so he knew that the
body naturally manufactures
00:16:11.00\00:16:14.60
these drugs... that
in the mind of a child
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as Dr. John just explained,
it's... like we said...
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like giving the
child keys to a locomotive
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and telling them to drive
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Hmmm...
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and so... the devil
couldn't get an atmosphere
00:16:24.85\00:16:27.88
for me to be able to try this
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because my grandparents were...
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you know my
grandfather was a preacher,
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my grandmother was a
treasurer in the church,
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we're not going to parties,
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we're not going
anywhere near parties,
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there was no
"atmosphere" being created
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for that seed that
was planted to grow.
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So the devil does
what he learned from God,
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he puts us in a
different atmosphere
00:16:46.74\00:16:48.60
just like Abraham was
moved from the land where he was
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and God said, "I
have to bring you to
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another land to fulfill
what I want to fulfill. "
00:16:54.04\00:16:56.64
My parents called my
grandparents and said,
00:16:56.71\00:16:59.08
"We want our children to come
to the United States of America"
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and when we got here,
at that time, I was five...
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and my parents
had left the church,
00:17:04.15\00:17:07.76
they were with the social
group who were making money
00:17:07.79\00:17:12.53
and, you know, the typical,
00:17:12.56\00:17:14.66
wanting to be
with the "in crowd"
00:17:14.73\00:17:16.06
and be cool and... now,
00:17:16.10\00:17:18.33
when they went to a party,
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all the kids used to be
put in the little kids' room
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while the parents were
outside dancing and drinking
00:17:23.34\00:17:25.84
so now I was in an
atmosphere that I could see
00:17:25.87\00:17:30.28
not the actual
"act" being performed
00:17:30.35\00:17:33.92
but the
suggestive motions of that
00:17:33.95\00:17:37.49
the seed didn't get
watered with the rain,
00:17:37.52\00:17:40.16
it got watered with the dew,
the "essence" of what it was
00:17:40.19\00:17:46.63
and so, having
looked out into that party
00:17:46.70\00:17:49.30
and seeing the
dancing and the carousing
00:17:49.33\00:17:51.70
and the sexual
dancing and the moves
00:17:51.73\00:17:54.70
you know, those
words got played back
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and I began to...
00:17:57.61\00:17:59.47
even as a child...
make the connections.
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The Bible says,
00:18:01.34\00:18:02.84
"Even a little child
is known by his ways"
00:18:02.88\00:18:05.55
and I went back
into the children's room
00:18:05.58\00:18:07.82
and my curious
little scientific mind
00:18:07.85\00:18:10.12
wanted to experiment to see,
00:18:10.15\00:18:12.02
"Hey, is this stuff true?"
00:18:12.05\00:18:13.92
And I ended up doing
something in that little room
00:18:13.99\00:18:19.26
with someone my
age that was just
00:18:19.29\00:18:21.73
mind-blowing to the two of
us and as Dr. John explained
00:18:21.76\00:18:28.87
when those doors were opened up
00:18:28.90\00:18:31.44
and those
hormones were triggered,
00:18:31.47\00:18:34.01
it was like
giving Crack to a baby.
00:18:34.08\00:18:37.81
Hmmm...
00:18:37.85\00:18:39.31
And years later, it
was... go get more...
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get more... get
more... get more...
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And seeing your parents
and seeing it within the home
00:18:48.62\00:18:55.53
not the act, but
the suggestive acts...
00:18:55.56\00:18:58.57
And it wasn't my
parents doing that,
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It wasn't? Who was it?
00:19:01.67\00:19:03.14
Because my parents were
Seventh-day Adventist parents
00:19:03.17\00:19:04.74
you can tell a
Seventh-day Adventist at a party
00:19:04.77\00:19:07.31
because there's but
so far they will go,
00:19:07.34\00:19:09.54
they just want to
sometimes be there
00:19:09.58\00:19:10.91
to hang out with their friends,
00:19:10.98\00:19:12.31
so, I've never seen my parents
00:19:12.35\00:19:13.68
in those types of provocative
dance and things like that,
00:19:13.72\00:19:18.22
but you had
other "family friends"
00:19:18.25\00:19:22.06
who you'll call "Uncle or
Aunty" who... they were never
00:19:22.09\00:19:24.79
Seventh-day Adventists
they never went to church,
00:19:24.83\00:19:26.26
they drink a lot more alcohol,
and they don't have any limits
00:19:26.29\00:19:29.53
placed on them because
00:19:29.56\00:19:30.90
they didn't grow
up in that atmosphere.
00:19:30.97\00:19:33.03
And did you feel
like it was acceptable
00:19:33.07\00:19:35.20
because you saw that?
00:19:35.24\00:19:37.21
You know, for me, it was,
00:19:37.24\00:19:39.11
"Hey, is that
what grown-up people do
00:19:39.14\00:19:41.41
when they have
license to do that?"
00:19:41.44\00:19:43.65
And it just gave the
devil the opportunity to say,
00:19:43.68\00:19:47.12
"Hey," you know, just
like he said to Eve, from you,
00:19:47.15\00:19:48.98
"God is holding
out something from you,
00:19:49.02\00:19:51.42
let me show it to you"
that's what happened with me
00:19:51.45\00:19:55.26
and I said, "You know
what? I want to try that"
00:19:55.29\00:19:57.56
you know, and it's
no different than the..
00:19:57.63\00:20:00.20
the children who
end up trying alcohol
00:20:00.23\00:20:02.56
for the first time because
someone made it look cool.
00:20:02.60\00:20:05.67
Someone made it look attractive
00:20:05.73\00:20:07.40
and to shorten the
story a little bit,
00:20:07.44\00:20:10.57
by the time I was
eight, it had grown
00:20:10.61\00:20:13.74
and I wanted to
learn more, you know,
00:20:13.78\00:20:16.48
"How does this thing
give so much pleasure
00:20:16.51\00:20:18.45
to myself and someone else?"
00:20:18.48\00:20:19.81
And there had been other little
girls in school who... you know
00:20:19.85\00:20:23.12
their parents were
watching pornographic movies,
00:20:23.15\00:20:25.15
and they were sharing it
00:20:25.19\00:20:26.52
and this was all
in Elementary School.
00:20:26.55\00:20:28.42
You know, we don't
think about the... well...
00:20:28.46\00:20:34.23
sometimes we do,
it's covered under,
00:20:34.30\00:20:36.73
"Well, children
will be children,
00:20:36.80\00:20:39.20
they're going to explore,
00:20:39.23\00:20:40.57
they're going to see
what things are about
00:20:40.60\00:20:43.54
but it's okay,
don't worry about it
00:20:43.57\00:20:45.47
it's all normal,
it's all natural"
00:20:45.51\00:20:47.41
but what you're saying is,
from a spiritual perspective,
00:20:47.44\00:20:52.21
the seeds are being planted,
00:20:52.25\00:20:54.65
those seeds of sexual
activity are being planted
00:20:54.68\00:21:00.06
and the
pleasures that that brings,
00:21:00.09\00:21:03.83
before a child... I mean... a
child is experimenting with it
00:21:03.86\00:21:07.66
not realizing that this
is not meant for children.
00:21:07.66\00:21:10.83
And it doesn't help
that everywhere that you look
00:21:10.87\00:21:14.00
I mean, sex is being exploited,
00:21:14.04\00:21:15.67
so when you look
at these cartoons,
00:21:15.70\00:21:17.37
you see, even the cartoons
00:21:17.41\00:21:20.34
the women on there will have...
like... real curvy bodies...
00:21:20.38\00:21:23.61
Jessica Rabbit...
00:21:23.65\00:21:24.98
Yeah, that's what I was
thinking about when I...
00:21:25.01\00:21:27.75
with the curvy bodies and
they throw in little subtle
00:21:27.78\00:21:36.39
suggestions and
now, as time progresses,
00:21:36.42\00:21:40.36
it's getting worse
and worse and worse
00:21:40.46\00:21:44.27
it's like... the cartoons
are geared towards adults.
00:21:44.30\00:21:48.57
Absolutely, for me it got worse
00:21:48.60\00:21:50.91
and by the time I
was in third grade,
00:21:50.94\00:21:53.07
I remember there was a time
when we were sent to summer camp
00:21:53.11\00:21:56.01
and there was a Camp Counselor
00:21:56.04\00:21:57.75
that snuck off
with her boyfriend
00:21:57.78\00:21:59.11
and then I kind of
wanted to see where did they go
00:21:59.15\00:22:00.98
and what are they doing and
and I snuck around the corner
00:22:01.02\00:22:05.25
at the wrong time
and saw engagement
00:22:05.29\00:22:08.59
and they were not
dressed or anything like that
00:22:08.62\00:22:11.83
but they were just being
so passionate... and again,
00:22:11.86\00:22:15.40
just like we, in the
church, are called to show
00:22:15.43\00:22:20.20
how passionate we are about
Christ... so people can say,
00:22:20.24\00:22:22.64
"What makes you look so
happy when you talk about Jesus"
00:22:22.67\00:22:25.11
the devil does the same thing
00:22:25.14\00:22:26.88
because he was
trained by Jesus in heaven,
00:22:26.94\00:22:29.31
so having seen them look so
00:22:29.34\00:22:31.18
passionate about
what they were doing,
00:22:31.21\00:22:33.21
and I came up and
they split... of course
00:22:33.25\00:22:35.18
and you know, he runs this way
00:22:35.22\00:22:36.55
and she's trying to run that way
00:22:36.58\00:22:37.92
and she turns
to me and she says,
00:22:37.95\00:22:39.32
"Hey Lance... " now
adults and even young adults
00:22:39.35\00:22:43.69
they think,
"Children aren't perceptive,
00:22:43.73\00:22:46.66
they didn't know what it is
00:22:46.70\00:22:48.16
so let's just kind of distract
them, let's not say anything,"
00:22:48.20\00:22:50.40
so she says, "Hey
Lance, how are you doing?"
00:22:50.43\00:22:51.83
To distract me, come here, come
here again, give me a big kiss,
00:22:51.87\00:22:54.30
and I jumped up and I
grabbed her and embraced her
00:22:54.34\00:22:57.87
and gave her the same
kiss that I saw her giving him.
00:22:57.91\00:23:01.58
Wow!
00:23:01.61\00:23:02.94
She was 18 years old
and I was just eight...
00:23:02.98\00:23:05.75
Wow! How did she respond?
00:23:05.78\00:23:08.48
First of all, you
know, it was such a shock
00:23:08.52\00:23:12.85
that I was doing this,
00:23:12.89\00:23:15.36
at first she got caught
up in the moment, literally,
00:23:15.39\00:23:18.03
and after a while she realized,
00:23:18.06\00:23:19.63
"Hold on, I'm kissing
an eight-year-old boy"
00:23:19.66\00:23:21.86
Wow!
00:23:21.90\00:23:23.73
And then she pulled
me back and she said,
00:23:23.77\00:23:25.10
"Where did you
learn that?" you know,
00:23:25.13\00:23:27.30
and I didn't say
it out of my mouth
00:23:27.34\00:23:29.37
but in my mind, I
said that same thing
00:23:29.40\00:23:31.41
that many children
say, when parents and others
00:23:31.44\00:23:34.31
try to hide their wrongdoing
00:23:34.34\00:23:35.68
that they think
the child didn't see,
00:23:35.71\00:23:37.05
in the back of my mind I
said, "You just taught me"
00:23:37.11\00:23:39.45
and I jumped and walked away
00:23:39.48\00:23:42.02
but what I had
just learned is now,
00:23:42.08\00:23:44.89
being the experimental child
00:23:44.92\00:23:46.32
I go and try...
does it really work,
00:23:46.35\00:23:48.92
it worked with her but
will it work for someone else?
00:23:48.96\00:23:51.86
And I'm doing this and
I'm trying this and, you know,
00:23:51.93\00:23:54.56
woman after woman just
like Brother John said,
00:23:54.60\00:23:56.90
the newness goes away, you know,
00:23:56.93\00:23:59.60
and the music says what we think
00:23:59.63\00:24:02.34
like Jay Z says,
"On to the next one,
00:24:02.37\00:24:04.31
on to the next
one... on to the next one,"
00:24:04.34\00:24:06.61
you know, Rapper's Delight said,
00:24:06.68\00:24:08.34
"If your girl starts acting
up, then you... take her friend"
00:24:08.38\00:24:12.45
that's what the music was saying
00:24:12.48\00:24:14.92
and when I got that mixture
00:24:14.95\00:24:17.49
of the message of
what the music was saying,
00:24:17.52\00:24:21.16
the videos and the
shows that presented it
00:24:21.19\00:24:24.86
that glorified
it, it was addicting
00:24:24.89\00:24:27.96
and then... what's
church going to look like then,
00:24:28.00\00:24:29.96
you know, you
have people at church
00:24:30.03\00:24:31.73
saying, "Yes, we love the
Lord" but it looks so fake
00:24:31.77\00:24:34.80
and you have people at
parties and other places that
00:24:34.84\00:24:37.81
you can tell when they're
enjoying something to the full,
00:24:37.84\00:24:41.64
and by the time I got
into the Music Industry,
00:24:41.68\00:24:45.88
forget it, now I had the money,
00:24:45.91\00:24:49.12
I had the car, I had the house,
00:24:49.15\00:24:52.32
I still had the
Corporate job, so...
00:24:52.35\00:24:54.92
all the things that
could feed those pleasures
00:24:54.96\00:24:57.79
to attract the girls
and wine and dine them
00:24:57.83\00:25:00.13
and take them
there and go to the party
00:25:00.16\00:25:02.36
and then... we also
had singers and songs
00:25:02.43\00:25:05.67
and music also has
a way of triggering
00:25:05.70\00:25:09.27
and creating an
atmosphere, you know
00:25:09.30\00:25:12.77
if a Seventh-day Adventist
girl came over to a nice house
00:25:12.84\00:25:16.41
and she's along with
somebody and there is,
00:25:16.44\00:25:20.45
"Holy, holy, holy... "
and it's in the middle...
00:25:20.52\00:25:24.82
broad daylight,
what are the chances that
00:25:24.89\00:25:27.56
you know... but if
she comes in the evening
00:25:27.59\00:25:30.23
and the sun is going
down, and the lights are dimming
00:25:30.26\00:25:34.30
and back in those days
we put on Teddy Pendergrass
00:25:34.30\00:25:37.60
and he starts singing
"Turn off the lights... "
00:25:37.63\00:25:40.94
and all of a sudden
the whole atmosphere
00:25:40.97\00:25:45.47
just changed and it's conducive
for seeds that were planted
00:25:45.51\00:25:50.61
to be watered and
take their effect.
00:25:50.65\00:25:52.98
That is such an
interesting concept that...
00:25:53.01\00:25:56.45
that the atmosphere,
00:25:56.52\00:25:58.99
the music...
changes the atmosphere,
00:25:59.02\00:26:03.29
so holy music,
yes, worship music
00:26:03.32\00:26:07.50
changes the atmosphere,
sexual music... changes...
00:26:07.56\00:26:12.40
so for everything that God has,
00:26:12.43\00:26:14.27
we know that the
enemy has a counterfeit.
00:26:14.30\00:26:15.64
Absolutely...
00:26:15.67\00:26:17.01
Well, look at what
Lucifer did in heaven
00:26:17.04\00:26:19.67
he was... over
music... Hmmm... hmmm...
00:26:19.71\00:26:22.41
and so, he knows all about music
00:26:22.44\00:26:24.81
he's had plenty
of time to practice,
00:26:24.85\00:26:27.62
and he's exploited
that. Hmmm... hmmm...
00:26:27.65\00:26:30.42
Absolutely...
00:26:30.49\00:26:31.82
so, I want to touch on something
else that Dr. John said,
00:26:31.85\00:26:34.16
when you begin to
experience these different
00:26:34.19\00:26:39.86
internally-produced drugs
00:26:39.93\00:26:42.36
that addict you to this thing,
00:26:42.40\00:26:46.07
you begin to act like others
who are addicted to drugs,
00:26:46.10\00:26:48.90
others who are addicted
to Cocaine or whatever else.
00:26:48.94\00:26:53.01
These internally-produced
hormones, right?
00:26:53.04\00:26:55.24
Lance: Correct...
Yvonne: That act like a drug.
00:26:55.28\00:26:58.11
Absolutely, absolutely,
00:26:58.15\00:26:59.65
things like
dopamine and serotonin
00:26:59.68\00:27:02.12
and norepinephrine, and
the whole cocktail mixes...
00:27:02.15\00:27:05.25
like mixing drinks,
00:27:05.29\00:27:06.62
and when the novelty
wears off and you get more,
00:27:06.65\00:27:11.03
and the novelty
wears off and you get more,
00:27:11.06\00:27:12.59
it's like a Cocaine high
that you can never fulfill again
00:27:12.66\00:27:15.80
and it never gets fulfilled,
00:27:15.83\00:27:17.17
and at that point, you
know, women... for guys
00:27:17.20\00:27:23.20
as well as men... for...
00:27:23.24\00:27:24.84
because there are women
who do that as well too...
00:27:24.87\00:27:26.78
you know...
become throw-away items
00:27:26.81\00:27:29.18
and I ended up with
three different baby mothers
00:27:29.21\00:27:35.92
and walking away
from children, that...
00:27:35.95\00:27:38.92
"Oh, yeah, their born but...
I got to go make music and... "
00:27:38.95\00:27:42.02
and the destruction that
it caused was no different
00:27:42.06\00:27:45.93
than that Crack mother who
leaves her baby in the house
00:27:45.96\00:27:50.17
to go out on the street...
to go and get more Crack
00:27:50.23\00:27:54.40
and get more
Cocaine and get more alcohol
00:27:54.44\00:27:56.60
and she's like an ostrich
with her head buried in the sand
00:27:56.67\00:28:00.51
doesn't care about her
children and that's why...
00:28:00.54\00:28:03.61
I don't know if he wants to
touch on the effects of dopamine
00:28:03.68\00:28:06.31
but that just
created that situation for me
00:28:06.35\00:28:12.09
and we didn't even touch on
the spiritual side of it yet...
00:28:12.12\00:28:15.52
Let's come back,
00:28:15.56\00:28:17.06
let's come back
to that in one second
00:28:17.09\00:28:19.63
Doc, can you come
back in for a second?
00:28:19.66\00:28:21.66
Sure...
00:28:21.70\00:28:23.13
Because one of the
things that we're looking at is
00:28:23.16\00:28:28.54
what happens when you
embark upon that whole journey,
00:28:28.57\00:28:34.18
those receptors that
are triggered that...
00:28:34.21\00:28:36.95
as you mentioned before
00:28:36.98\00:28:38.48
and this chemical
cocktail that takes place
00:28:38.51\00:28:42.42
as you mentioned
before, what would you say,
00:28:42.45\00:28:46.25
the effect of the
music is hormonally,
00:28:46.32\00:28:50.83
as you're listening to music
00:28:50.86\00:28:52.39
what's happening
chemically to the body?
00:28:52.46\00:28:54.93
Music acts like an
accelerant, it speeds things up
00:28:54.96\00:29:01.60
and it also, as we've been told,
it's a direct conduit, like,
00:29:01.64\00:29:08.41
if I wanted to
explain something to you
00:29:08.44\00:29:10.11
I would have to say it to you
00:29:10.18\00:29:12.01
and then it would have to
go into the auditory channels
00:29:12.05\00:29:14.25
in your brain and get processed,
00:29:14.35\00:29:16.12
music doesn't
have to get processed,
00:29:16.15\00:29:18.52
it goes
directly into your psyche
00:29:18.55\00:29:20.89
and prepares you like
the Brother just said,
00:29:20.92\00:29:24.06
to do some things
that you wouldn't have done
00:29:24.09\00:29:27.23
and now, what
we're finding is that
00:29:27.23\00:29:29.00
the hormones
that we talked about,
00:29:29.03\00:29:30.67
they're also...
they're blinding hormones
00:29:30.70\00:29:34.24
so it actually blinds
you to some things that
00:29:34.27\00:29:37.41
if you were not being blinded,
you would have... awakened
00:29:37.51\00:29:41.81
and thought to yourself,
"What am I doing here?"
00:29:41.84\00:29:43.58
you know like the
Prodigal son you'd want to run,
00:29:43.65\00:29:45.31
but
unfortunately, unfortunately,
00:29:45.35\00:29:48.48
the pre-frontal
cortex of your brain,
00:29:48.52\00:29:51.59
the part right in front...
right behind the forehead,
00:29:51.62\00:29:55.12
they've actually done
some fMRI studies and found
00:29:55.16\00:29:58.63
that the blood
flow during these times
00:29:58.66\00:30:00.73
with the music, with the intent,
00:30:00.80\00:30:03.53
because a lot of it
has to do with the intent,
00:30:03.57\00:30:05.57
what are you intending to do?
00:30:05.60\00:30:07.24
What are you thinking to do?
00:30:07.30\00:30:08.70
so when you get on that
road, the pre-frontal cortex
00:30:08.74\00:30:12.51
begins to get less
oxygen and what that results in
00:30:12.54\00:30:16.31
is a complete drop in judgment
00:30:16.34\00:30:19.68
and a complete
drop in decision making
00:30:19.75\00:30:22.78
so you find at
Clubs, if you ask people
00:30:22.82\00:30:25.82
so many of the
mistakes that they made
00:30:25.85\00:30:28.36
were made at clubs
where there was music
00:30:28.39\00:30:30.83
where there was alcohol,
00:30:30.89\00:30:32.23
where there were
half-naked bodies
00:30:32.26\00:30:34.23
all of this mix
dropped their inhibitions
00:30:34.30\00:30:37.20
and also affected... judgment,
00:30:37.23\00:30:39.60
you know, so they
would do things that...
00:30:39.63\00:30:40.97
when they woke up the
next morning, they would think,
00:30:41.00\00:30:42.64
"How did I do that?
I would never do that,"
00:30:42.70\00:30:44.57
so...
00:30:44.61\00:30:47.44
as I was
listening to the brother,
00:30:47.51\00:30:48.88
I thought to myself,
and you know, as a child,
00:30:48.91\00:30:51.78
there are other things
called "Neuroplasticity"
00:30:51.81\00:30:54.65
I don't know if
you've heard of that...
00:30:54.68\00:30:56.02
Neuroplasticity simply says that
00:30:56.05\00:30:58.05
your environment is
able to shape your brain
00:30:58.09\00:31:00.59
now, we're not just
talking about the receptors,
00:31:00.66\00:31:02.96
we're talking about a brain with
Neurons that have been created
00:31:02.99\00:31:06.70
just for this experience
that you're exposing yourself to
00:31:06.73\00:31:09.23
so that, by the
time you're a teenager,
00:31:09.26\00:31:12.17
it really, really
would take a miracle
00:31:12.20\00:31:15.10
to change things around
00:31:15.14\00:31:16.47
because we cannot
destroy those neurons
00:31:16.50\00:31:18.51
all we can do is,
we can rewrite them,
00:31:18.54\00:31:20.48
we can create
neurons around them
00:31:20.54\00:31:22.54
and create a path
00:31:22.58\00:31:23.91
on top of the
path that was negative
00:31:23.95\00:31:26.05
you can't really wipe
them off or wipe them away,
00:31:26.08\00:31:28.82
so, we have to
rewrite it which means
00:31:28.85\00:31:30.99
conversion... you know
when conversion comes along,
00:31:31.02\00:31:33.66
it rewrites all the
things that you had before.
00:31:33.72\00:31:36.12
There's just one other
thing that I wanted to add
00:31:36.16\00:31:38.59
that concerns me a lot,
00:31:38.63\00:31:39.96
because I work in schools with
middle-aged school children,
00:31:40.00\00:31:43.23
and I don't know if
you guys have noticed
00:31:43.30\00:31:45.27
how much time they
spend on their devices.
00:31:45.30\00:31:47.30
Every time you look at a child,
00:31:47.37\00:31:49.34
they're on their
little cell phones.
00:31:49.37\00:31:51.31
If you come close
to them as an adult,
00:31:51.37\00:31:53.31
for some strange reason,
00:31:53.34\00:31:54.68
they click out of
whatever they were looking at,
00:31:54.71\00:31:56.58
pull the phone away, you
can't see what they're doing
00:31:56.61\00:31:59.78
I am convinced that the
easy access to pornography...
00:31:59.81\00:32:02.98
you can Google anything you want
00:32:03.02\00:32:05.52
and boom! you have
ten sites with naked women
00:32:05.55\00:32:09.12
and this is what our
children have access to.
00:32:09.16\00:32:12.69
and I've talked to
some of the parents
00:32:12.76\00:32:14.10
but then... the argument is
00:32:14.10\00:32:15.43
"But he needs the internet so
he can do research for school"
00:32:15.46\00:32:18.30
so the kid keeps the internet
00:32:18.33\00:32:20.30
but the parent goes to their
bed at 9:00 o'clock, you know,
00:32:20.34\00:32:23.07
trying to keep the
Eight Laws of Health,
00:32:23.10\00:32:25.11
and there's the kid in his room
00:32:25.14\00:32:27.44
it's 10
o'clock, it's 11 o'clock,
00:32:27.48\00:32:29.11
it's 12 o'clock, it's 1 o'clock
00:32:29.18\00:32:30.81
and he's just going
from site to site to site
00:32:30.85\00:32:33.58
actually changing the
structure of his brain
00:32:33.62\00:32:36.65
and preparing him to
reduce his inhibitions
00:32:36.69\00:32:39.29
and do the devil's bidding.
00:32:39.32\00:32:40.82
Wow!
00:32:40.86\00:32:42.22
So that's an area, I think,
we can't leave alone at all.
00:32:42.26\00:32:44.56
That's powerful.
00:32:44.59\00:32:45.93
And you know, it's the
internet for these children
00:32:45.96\00:32:48.06
but for us, it was
the television programs
00:32:48.10\00:32:50.03
we weren't allowed to watch
00:32:50.10\00:32:51.43
until our parents
went to work late,
00:32:51.47\00:32:52.83
or the video we weren't
allowed to watch that we snuck
00:32:52.87\00:32:55.57
or we were able to
watch at a friend's house
00:32:55.60\00:32:57.67
whose parents forgot
that it was there and...
00:32:57.71\00:33:00.11
and those things have its effect
00:33:00.18\00:33:02.71
at the same time, the
whole "atmosphere" issue
00:33:02.74\00:33:08.78
you know... as...
I used to be a DJ...
00:33:08.82\00:33:10.62
and.. you know...
when I was in the Club
00:33:10.69\00:33:14.79
I would literally see
00:33:14.82\00:33:16.49
someone's wife walk in,
00:33:16.52\00:33:18.13
you can tell, she's
married, she has a ring on
00:33:18.16\00:33:19.59
she came with her girlfriends
00:33:19.63\00:33:20.96
and you could tell
she's going under some stress,
00:33:20.96\00:33:24.13
and the girlfriends
are trying to take her out
00:33:24.17\00:33:25.97
so that she can
relieve the stress,
00:33:26.00\00:33:28.50
and guys are asking her to dance
00:33:28.54\00:33:30.94
and she says, "No, I'm
married" and things like that,
00:33:30.97\00:33:33.48
and I could,
literally, as a DJ...
00:33:33.54\00:33:35.44
begin to play
certain types of music
00:33:35.48\00:33:37.75
to first get her
to drop her guard
00:33:37.78\00:33:39.98
relax, stop being the
one to watch the pocketbooks
00:33:40.02\00:33:43.75
and get out and have some fun
00:33:43.79\00:33:45.12
and then now... the
devil is doing his work...
00:33:45.15\00:33:48.06
he's planting suggestions,
and the way the devil does it is
00:33:48.12\00:33:52.26
he doesn't
necessarily use a lie...
00:33:52.29\00:33:54.73
he uses the truth.
00:33:54.76\00:33:56.50
Hmmm... how so?
00:33:56.53\00:33:57.97
"Listen, I know you're
depressed... you look so sad,"
00:33:58.00\00:34:00.97
you hear it all the
time, "You look so sad,
00:34:01.00\00:34:03.17
did you come here to stay sad
00:34:03.20\00:34:06.41
or did you come
here to have fun?"
00:34:06.44\00:34:07.78
The devil, many times
doesn't make statements,
00:34:07.81\00:34:10.45
he asks questions,
00:34:10.48\00:34:12.18
that's why when
Jesus was dealing with
00:34:12.21\00:34:15.22
Scribes and Pharisees,
who were very argumentative
00:34:15.25\00:34:18.05
He didn't make
statements, He asked questions.
00:34:18.12\00:34:20.86
He would say, "What
does the Scripture say?"
00:34:20.89\00:34:23.53
Because if a
person is defensive,
00:34:23.56\00:34:26.53
and you don't want
to give them information
00:34:26.56\00:34:29.10
for them to be defensive
00:34:29.13\00:34:30.47
you ask them a question
00:34:30.53\00:34:31.87
for them to break
down their own defenses.
00:34:31.90\00:34:33.80
So the Devil got his
methods of course from Jesus.
00:34:33.84\00:34:36.77
Absolutely, he
was trained in heaven.
00:34:36.81\00:34:39.24
And so, asking
the right questions
00:34:39.27\00:34:41.64
and then... while those
questions are being asked,
00:34:41.68\00:34:43.85
the "appeal song" is
being played at the Club,
00:34:43.91\00:34:48.42
and the music is
suggesting to her,
00:34:48.45\00:34:50.75
"A few stolen moments...
are all that we share...
00:34:50.79\00:34:54.66
you've got your
family... stay with me... "
00:34:54.69\00:34:57.86
you know...
"stay with me tonight"
00:34:57.89\00:34:59.53
or if, you know,
"Let me hold you tight,"
00:34:59.56\00:35:01.73
by Luther Vandross...
00:35:01.76\00:35:03.10
"for only just one
night, it will be all right
00:35:03.13\00:35:05.20
if only just... "
00:35:05.23\00:35:07.04
and the music
now is swelling that
00:35:07.07\00:35:09.17
and before you know it,
00:35:09.20\00:35:10.91
she has left her
pocketbooks and she starts...
00:35:10.94\00:35:13.21
"Oh, I'll just
dance with my girlfriends"
00:35:13.24\00:35:15.34
but what she doesn't
understand spiritually
00:35:15.38\00:35:17.35
is that when you
dance to something
00:35:17.45\00:35:20.65
it's an act of celebration
and whatever is being said
00:35:20.72\00:35:25.22
is being celebrated,
00:35:25.25\00:35:28.16
Hmmm... say that again,
00:35:28.19\00:35:31.13
that's some deep stuff.
00:35:31.16\00:35:32.66
When you dance to something
it's an act of celebration
00:35:32.69\00:35:36.67
and whatever is being said
is what's being celebrated.
00:35:36.73\00:35:40.70
For instance, if you
had a party for your mother,
00:35:40.74\00:35:43.87
and they're
playing a song that says,
00:35:43.91\00:35:46.41
"Your mother is the
best woman in the world
00:35:46.44\00:35:47.84
get dancing... "
00:35:47.88\00:35:49.21
but if you have
a song that says,
00:35:49.24\00:35:50.71
"Oh, your mother is so dumb,
don't you all hate her... "
00:35:50.75\00:35:52.95
you're saying, "I
don't agree with that"
00:35:52.98\00:35:54.85
so what do you
do? You stop dancing.
00:35:54.88\00:35:56.69
I would yank that
thing off the CD player.
00:35:56.75\00:35:58.65
Mom: Thank you...
Son: You're welcome.
00:35:58.69\00:36:00.59
But if someone sees you
still dancing to that...
00:36:00.69\00:36:03.59
they're sitting back and saying,
00:36:03.66\00:36:04.99
"Something happened that
made him to not like his mother"
00:36:05.03\00:36:08.40
so, let's go back to the Club,
00:36:08.43\00:36:11.17
now a guy who is wondering
00:36:11.20\00:36:13.87
if she's willing
to go home with him
00:36:13.94\00:36:15.37
is seeing her dance to a
song and begin to enjoy...
00:36:15.40\00:36:18.54
she's getting caught up in the
00:36:18.57\00:36:21.48
"What if" questions
that the devil asks,
00:36:21.51\00:36:23.48
"What if you did what
your husband did to you?
00:36:23.55\00:36:26.75
He cheated on you,
don't you deserve this,
00:36:26.82\00:36:29.82
don't you deserve better?"
00:36:29.85\00:36:31.25
The "What if?" questions.
00:36:31.29\00:36:32.62
"What if you went home with
him, what if you enjoyed...?"
00:36:32.65\00:36:35.19
The "What if?"
questions, the same questions
00:36:35.22\00:36:36.93
that people get privately
at home in their bedroom.
00:36:36.96\00:36:39.26
What if that person
that you're "weak to"
00:36:39.29\00:36:41.40
suddenly came and called you?
00:36:41.43\00:36:42.76
And, of course, the devil
is going to call his demon
00:36:42.80\00:36:44.80
and say, "All right,
let him call right now!"
00:36:44.87\00:36:46.37
And then they
call you, and they go,
00:36:46.40\00:36:47.74
"I was just thinking about you"
it's all the setup of the devil.
00:36:47.77\00:36:51.74
Now... you used to DJ,
00:36:51.77\00:36:54.28
I used to do Club
Promotions, back in the day,
00:36:54.31\00:36:59.65
have you seen the
Club without the lights on
00:36:59.68\00:37:05.02
and without the atmosphere,
00:37:05.05\00:37:07.89
have you seen it
during the day when...
00:37:07.92\00:37:10.36
Yes, and it looks horrible.
00:37:10.39\00:37:12.79
Terrible, black
and dirty and it's...
00:37:12.83\00:37:16.53
cheap looking and everything...
00:37:16.56\00:37:18.63
but at night...
with those lights,
00:37:18.67\00:37:21.04
and the alcohol
and all that stuff,
00:37:21.07\00:37:23.41
it's a whole 'nother world.
00:37:23.44\00:37:26.34
You know, it's...
there's something else that
00:37:26.37\00:37:28.74
Dr. John talked
about... about the blinding...
00:37:28.81\00:37:31.15
have you ever
gone home from the club
00:37:31.18\00:37:34.12
and the next day
you pick up that suit
00:37:34.15\00:37:36.15
or whatever you're
wearing and smell it,
00:37:36.18\00:37:38.92
and you go,
"Eeewwww... what is that?"
00:37:38.95\00:37:41.69
Well, guess what?
00:37:41.72\00:37:43.06
That's the smell of
that atmosphere you were in
00:37:43.09\00:37:46.80
but you were blinded to it
00:37:46.83\00:37:49.43
because of what you were
focused on... like he said,
00:37:49.46\00:37:52.57
what you were focused...
what your pre-frontal cortex
00:37:52.63\00:37:55.40
or whatever he said,
00:37:55.44\00:37:56.81
was focused on
going there to get
00:37:56.87\00:37:58.77
so you didn't think of
all that cigarette smoke
00:37:58.81\00:38:01.38
you were inhaling and
all that Marijuana smoke,
00:38:01.41\00:38:03.88
and you didn't know that
00:38:03.91\00:38:05.25
you were in that
atmosphere of death
00:38:05.28\00:38:07.15
that was literally killing
you with the second-hand smoke,
00:38:07.25\00:38:10.25
killing you with the
alcohol, all at once,
00:38:10.32\00:38:12.95
all because you
wanted to get that pleasure.
00:38:12.99\00:38:15.59
Doc, let's bring you back
in to talk a little bit about
00:38:15.62\00:38:19.76
that blinding hormone because
that's a powerful thing too.
00:38:19.79\00:38:24.53
You don't even see the faults
of the person that you're with
00:38:24.57\00:38:29.04
because of that
blinding hormone, correct?
00:38:29.07\00:38:32.61
Right, that's correct,
and we have to remember that
00:38:32.64\00:38:35.54
all of these hormones
were intended for good use,
00:38:35.58\00:38:38.41
a good purpose, and so,
00:38:38.48\00:38:40.75
blinding serves a
really good purpose
00:38:40.82\00:38:42.98
if your intentions
are... you know, pure,
00:38:43.02\00:38:45.39
you meet someone,
you wouldn't want to see
00:38:45.42\00:38:47.72
all of their faults,
right upfront on the first day
00:38:47.79\00:38:49.86
you would have run
away, anyone of us... would...
00:38:49.89\00:38:51.96
so... God knowing
that... set it up so that
00:38:51.99\00:38:57.03
you are blinded long enough
00:38:57.07\00:38:58.90
so that you could
see their positives
00:38:58.93\00:39:00.90
and fall in love with that.
00:39:00.97\00:39:02.30
So the "blinding" had a
purpose, but the problem is
00:39:02.34\00:39:05.17
outside of the
context of marriage
00:39:05.21\00:39:07.11
and especially in the
world that we live in today,
00:39:07.14\00:39:09.28
there are some things
that you would want to see
00:39:09.31\00:39:11.48
but you don't...
because... Serotonin...
00:39:11.51\00:39:13.28
one of the
biggest blinding agents
00:39:13.31\00:39:15.62
prevents you from fully
grasping... so, the person says,
00:39:15.65\00:39:18.75
"Oh, you know I
snore... " and you are like...
00:39:18.79\00:39:20.99
"Oh, don't worry
about that, who doesn't?"
00:39:21.02\00:39:24.26
Serotonin...
Serotonin does that to you.
00:39:24.29\00:39:27.50
And then the person says,
00:39:27.56\00:39:28.86
"You know, it's one
o'clock in the morning,
00:39:28.90\00:39:30.40
we've been talking
for the last seven hours
00:39:30.47\00:39:31.87
don't you have to go
to work in the morning?"
00:39:31.90\00:39:33.27
"Yes, but don't worry about that
I stay up late all the time... "
00:39:33.34\00:39:37.24
But you don't...
you go to bed at 9:00...
00:39:37.31\00:39:39.44
Serotonin does that to you,
it makes you like a superman
00:39:39.47\00:39:43.01
and that's how it
works, so it blinds you
00:39:43.04\00:39:45.91
and the blinding is
good in that respect.
00:39:45.95\00:39:49.25
But unfortunately,
it will also blind you
00:39:49.28\00:39:51.15
along with Oxytocin,
00:39:51.19\00:39:52.52
they say Oxytocin
raises your level of trust,
00:39:52.55\00:39:54.72
it's one of the
side effects of Oxytocin,
00:39:54.79\00:39:57.13
people who are high on
Oxytocin, they trust easily,
00:39:57.23\00:39:59.59
if it's extremely
high... then you're gullible
00:39:59.63\00:40:01.30
but the point is,
00:40:01.33\00:40:02.66
you're getting
into a relationship
00:40:02.70\00:40:04.47
where you are
getting Oxytocin to flow,
00:40:04.50\00:40:06.37
because you're
either holding hands
00:40:06.40\00:40:07.77
or you're
touching or you're talking,
00:40:07.80\00:40:09.37
or you're taking
it a little further
00:40:09.40\00:40:10.91
and you actually... open
yourself up to this individual
00:40:10.97\00:40:14.84
who might not have
your best interest at heart
00:40:14.88\00:40:17.01
and that's one of the problems
so you're completely blinded,
00:40:17.05\00:40:19.88
completely taken,
and before you know it
00:40:19.91\00:40:21.52
he's on his way with your heart.
00:40:21.58\00:40:23.35
Hmmm... that's good stuff.
00:40:23.39\00:40:25.35
You know it's one thing
when it happens in the Club
00:40:25.39\00:40:27.62
where an Adventist
knows that they shouldn't be,
00:40:27.66\00:40:29.76
it's another thing when it
happens in a church setting,
00:40:29.79\00:40:33.70
where they should be.
00:40:33.76\00:40:35.46
Hmmm... unpack that for us.
00:40:35.50\00:40:37.00
The Bible says that
when Satan went to the church
00:40:37.03\00:40:42.10
of the Garden of Eden,
00:40:42.17\00:40:43.54
the first Seventh-day Adventist
Church of the Garden of Eden,
00:40:43.57\00:40:45.77
he knew that he couldn't
be obvious... like the Club...
00:40:45.81\00:40:50.11
at the Club... you
know why you're there,
00:40:50.18\00:40:51.95
you know what somebody wants,
00:40:52.01\00:40:53.68
you know when they come
to you, they're going to say,
00:40:53.75\00:40:55.52
"Hey, can I go home
and sleep with you?"
00:40:55.55\00:40:57.12
At the Club, it's
obvious... but in the church
00:40:57.15\00:41:00.89
when someone wants
to be engaged in that,
00:41:00.96\00:41:03.56
they have to do what
Satan did in the Garden of Eden.
00:41:03.63\00:41:06.09
The Bible says, "but the
serpent was the most subtle,"
00:41:06.13\00:41:10.03
the most subtle, so
the difference I've seen is
00:41:10.07\00:41:14.74
you begin to act
to drop subtle hints
00:41:14.77\00:41:17.11
and why do you
drop subtle hints,
00:41:17.17\00:41:19.44
because you don't
want to be discovered,
00:41:19.47\00:41:22.78
you want to be
fishers of men or women...
00:41:22.84\00:41:25.65
right there in the
church so what do you do?
00:41:25.68\00:41:28.18
You throw a little bait
and see if someone nibbles
00:41:28.22\00:41:30.79
and I've seen both
men and women do it,
00:41:30.85\00:41:34.29
and we've... many
people have been guilty of that
00:41:34.32\00:41:36.52
and so you'll get a situation
where a brother will say,
00:41:36.56\00:41:41.60
"Hey, Sis, you're you
doing, come give me a hug"
00:41:41.63\00:41:43.90
and now... the
sisters in our church,
00:41:43.93\00:41:46.17
we'll talk about ladies,
if a brother comes to hug you,
00:41:46.20\00:41:48.20
let them hug
you... you know... here...
00:41:48.24\00:41:50.54
you're at church... you know...
00:41:50.57\00:41:53.07
where you greet-them-with-a-
holy-kiss-type of thing,
00:41:53.14\00:41:55.74
but... then they tell him,
00:41:55.78\00:41:57.78
"Don't let him hug you
around the waist... like this"
00:41:57.81\00:42:00.75
because, sex is
more about stimulation,
00:42:00.82\00:42:06.25
sex, like drugs, is
a stimulant and so...
00:42:06.29\00:42:11.69
there are different things
that stimulates an individual
00:42:11.73\00:42:14.73
and one of the things that I was
listening to that I don't know
00:42:14.73\00:42:19.57
that Dr. John
didn't touch on yet was...
00:42:19.60\00:42:21.80
one of the areas in
the brain that lights up
00:42:21.84\00:42:24.07
during sexual intercourse...
are the areas that affect
00:42:24.11\00:42:27.61
emotions and long-term memory,
00:42:27.64\00:42:30.21
so a person can always go back
and process... years later...
00:42:30.25\00:42:34.78
someone could be a grandma
00:42:34.82\00:42:36.45
and run into that
old lover that she knew
00:42:36.52\00:42:38.19
from Junior High School...
00:42:38.22\00:42:39.55
that old feeling just
comes back and goes, "boom"
00:42:39.59\00:42:42.49
and then when Michael
Jackson starts playing,
00:42:42.52\00:42:45.13
"Do you remember... "
00:42:45.19\00:42:46.53
and those feelings and all
the emotions with them come back
00:42:46.56\00:42:51.57
so in a church setting,
00:42:51.63\00:42:53.67
you know, the devil will give
you things in small amounts,
00:42:53.70\00:42:57.57
now, I can get you
to eat a cannonball,
00:42:57.61\00:43:00.81
you'll say, "I'll
never eat a cannonball. "
00:43:00.88\00:43:03.45
Really? how can I get
you to eat a cannonball?
00:43:03.48\00:43:06.85
Well, do you like carrot cake?
00:43:06.92\00:43:09.15
Oooooh!
00:43:09.18\00:43:11.59
Smell this carrot cake...
00:43:11.62\00:43:13.12
how does that smell?
00:43:13.15\00:43:14.79
Oh, my word...
00:43:14.82\00:43:16.46
Smells like... "I have
to eat this carrot cake"
00:43:16.49\00:43:19.73
so now I just found
out you love carrot cake
00:43:19.76\00:43:23.20
but you hate
cannonballs so what I do is,
00:43:23.23\00:43:26.63
I grind up the cannon ball
and I put it in little bits...
00:43:26.70\00:43:30.17
little untraceable bits...
00:43:30.21\00:43:32.41
little tiny bits of
microscopic-almost...
00:43:32.44\00:43:35.18
iron-ball powders...
00:43:35.21\00:43:36.91
and I lace it all
throughout that carrot cake...
00:43:36.95\00:43:38.48
do you think that
they'll be able to discern it?
00:43:38.51\00:43:39.98
Probably not...
00:43:40.02\00:43:41.85
I give you all the
carrot cake you want
00:43:41.88\00:43:43.75
and once all
those things assemble...
00:43:43.79\00:43:45.45
then you've just
eating a cannonball.
00:43:45.49\00:43:47.12
I just put my magnet to you
00:43:47.16\00:43:49.19
and I'm drawing you
anywhere I want to take you.
00:43:49.22\00:43:50.83
Hmmm...
00:43:50.89\00:43:53.36
And in the church, those
little subtleties happen.
00:43:53.40\00:43:57.13
"Hey, how're you
doing?" "How are you doing?"
00:43:57.20\00:44:00.04
"Hey, happy
Sabbath," "Happy Sabbath,"
00:44:00.07\00:44:02.37
you know, the
looks... and the attractions
00:44:02.40\00:44:07.64
and sometimes... we...
00:44:07.71\00:44:10.35
whether male or female
00:44:10.38\00:44:12.88
provide the stimulus
for sexual temptation.
00:44:12.91\00:44:15.38
What I mean... the
guy on the Praise Team,
00:44:15.42\00:44:18.69
who is a young
guy, he's working out,
00:44:18.72\00:44:20.39
so he wants to
wear the muscled...
00:44:20.46\00:44:22.02
you know, he wants to
wear the muscled shirt...
00:44:22.06\00:44:24.13
I see Sister Lewis smiling...
00:44:24.16\00:44:25.79
I know, because... I
know... you know what?
00:44:25.83\00:44:28.70
I can do that
smell, it's like ooooh...!
00:44:28.73\00:44:31.53
And now he's this young
buff in this muscled shirt
00:44:31.57\00:44:35.70
singing on the Praise Team
00:44:35.74\00:44:37.07
and he's wearing
these close-fitting pants,
00:44:37.11\00:44:39.64
and he's beginning to
move, but he's singing a song
00:44:39.67\00:44:44.68
praising the Lord,
00:44:44.71\00:44:46.15
but how focused can the
sisters in the front row be
00:44:46.18\00:44:48.82
when... they're saying...
00:44:48.88\00:44:50.79
"Lord, I've been
waiting for a husband
00:44:50.85\00:44:52.22
and look at this man...
" and all of those things,
00:44:52.25\00:44:55.79
and the devil now...
could stimulate their eyes,
00:44:55.82\00:44:59.33
and it's worse now...
00:44:59.36\00:45:01.00
if, after church he
has on a nice cologne,
00:45:01.03\00:45:02.96
and they hug
him, they go, "ooooh!"
00:45:03.00\00:45:06.00
simulate the nasal capacities
00:45:06.03\00:45:07.97
and not guarding
the avenues of the soul.
00:45:08.00\00:45:10.11
Later on... when she's home...
00:45:10.14\00:45:12.64
and all her friends are gone
00:45:12.67\00:45:14.71
and she has nothing to do,
00:45:14.74\00:45:16.75
the devil starts
playing the... "What if... "
00:45:16.78\00:45:18.88
Hmmm...
00:45:18.91\00:45:20.62
And all those
stimulants can now be processed
00:45:20.65\00:45:24.29
recalled back to memory...
00:45:24.32\00:45:26.65
same thing with
this young gentlemen
00:45:26.69\00:45:29.09
who hugged the young
lady around her waist,
00:45:29.12\00:45:31.33
and said, "Hmmm... she
got a nice little shape
00:45:31.36\00:45:33.60
I didn't know she...
yeah, she had on a church dress,
00:45:33.63\00:45:36.13
I couldn't tell she had this
kind of shape in a church dress"
00:45:36.16\00:45:38.57
And now when he releases,
the sensory areas of the brain
00:45:38.63\00:45:43.04
has recorded that
for processing later...
00:45:43.10\00:45:45.54
and will play back
that video tape later,
00:45:45.57\00:45:47.98
and the devil will have
some edits to add in there
00:45:48.01\00:45:50.75
and some sound effects
and things of that nature,
00:45:50.81\00:45:53.78
you know, and so, people
in the church begin to...
00:45:53.88\00:45:56.85
to get these subtleties built up
00:45:56.89\00:45:59.49
and if they never get rid of it,
it adds up to that cannonball
00:45:59.52\00:46:05.79
and after a while,
they don't realize it,
00:46:05.86\00:46:09.33
"Why is this thing pulling
me, where did it come from?
00:46:09.36\00:46:12.77
How can I deal with
it, it's so strong,"
00:46:12.80\00:46:15.17
you know...
"it's... what's happening?"
00:46:15.20\00:46:17.61
Hmmm... hmmm...
00:46:17.64\00:46:18.97
And the devil
couldn't say, "well... "
00:46:19.01\00:46:20.71
they'll say... after
a while they get bored
00:46:20.78\00:46:22.11
with this packaging,
00:46:22.14\00:46:23.48
and the devil
will say, "No problem,
00:46:23.51\00:46:25.08
I'll provide the same
thing in better packaging. "
00:46:25.15\00:46:30.19
And what do you see
when you see a package
00:46:30.22\00:46:31.99
that's closed,
what do you want to do?
00:46:32.02\00:46:33.79
Open it.
00:46:33.86\00:46:35.19
You want to open it and
see if it looks any better
00:46:35.22\00:46:38.03
so, the devil says,
"Yeah... go ahead... open it up,
00:46:38.06\00:46:41.10
ah... it's
good... it's okay... "
00:46:41.13\00:46:43.10
I don't know if I should pop
this thing or pull the string.
00:46:43.16\00:46:45.40
Go ahead... pop it...
00:46:45.47\00:46:46.80
Ah... see... you see
that... "go ahead... pop it"
00:46:46.84\00:46:50.77
I got all caught up.
00:46:50.81\00:46:52.97
And now, he shows you...
00:46:53.01\00:46:55.11
Oh... Oh...
00:46:55.14\00:46:57.21
Let me see if I can
show it out on the screen,
00:46:57.25\00:46:58.75
he shows you a delectable cake
00:46:58.78\00:47:02.05
and he says
now, "smell this... "
00:47:02.08\00:47:05.29
Hmmm...
00:47:05.32\00:47:07.39
Okay, all right.
00:47:07.42\00:47:09.82
And now, how are you
going to be able to say,
00:47:09.86\00:47:14.93
"You can't have that"
00:47:14.96\00:47:16.36
Hmmm...
00:47:16.43\00:47:18.13
It's like me putting
this before you and saying,
00:47:18.17\00:47:20.57
"Save it till...
how old are you now...
00:47:20.64\00:47:23.81
fifteen... all right...
00:47:23.84\00:47:26.21
save it till 10 or 15
years later... when you marry. "
00:47:26.24\00:47:29.44
And you've already
had a little taste of it.
00:47:29.48\00:47:32.48
A little taste, a little whiff
and now it's in your system.
00:47:32.51\00:47:34.62
Hmmm... hmmm...
00:47:34.65\00:47:35.98
As Dr. John says,
"Unless you have something else
00:47:36.02\00:47:39.02
to displace that,
it's in your system. "
00:47:39.05\00:47:42.36
And let's talk
about that because we...
00:47:42.39\00:47:45.63
let's talk about the
tools now to break the hold,
00:47:45.66\00:47:50.03
we've got to break this
hold that's on so many people
00:47:50.07\00:47:54.30
that so many
people are dealing with,
00:47:54.34\00:47:56.67
and we want you to know
that if you're dealing with it,
00:47:56.71\00:47:59.94
God can fix it,
00:48:00.04\00:48:02.84
so you can start right
now you don't have to say,
00:48:02.88\00:48:05.68
"Oh, I can't do
it, it's too hard... "
00:48:05.71\00:48:08.38
no, God can do it you
have to make the choice
00:48:08.42\00:48:11.72
let's talk about the
tools now to breaking that hold.
00:48:11.75\00:48:15.49
You know, there are a
couple of different ways,
00:48:15.52\00:48:19.43
the Apostle Paul says,
00:48:19.46\00:48:21.00
"Win some through love,
others... win through fear"
00:48:21.03\00:48:25.40
there are two
different kinds of motivators,
00:48:25.43\00:48:27.64
anyone who has
children knows that
00:48:27.67\00:48:29.54
you can scare one
child into stopping,
00:48:29.57\00:48:31.44
but there's another child,
00:48:31.47\00:48:32.81
you can do anything you
want, you're not scaring them,
00:48:32.84\00:48:34.48
you have to love
that child into stopping.
00:48:34.51\00:48:37.45
So, one... is a
different type of stimulus
00:48:37.48\00:48:41.08
and so, a person
that needs to understand,
00:48:41.12\00:48:44.72
"Okay, first of all, what was it
00:48:44.75\00:48:47.56
that caused me to be
addicted to this thing?
00:48:47.59\00:48:50.23
I have to trace it
back to the source of it
00:48:50.26\00:48:52.83
because when they're now
dealing with this situation
00:48:52.86\00:48:57.33
and they're
putting it before the Lord,
00:48:57.37\00:48:59.20
and the Bible says,
"My people are destroyed
00:48:59.23\00:49:01.57
for lack of...
knowledge... " Hmmm... hmmm...
00:49:01.60\00:49:03.84
If a person knows,
00:49:03.87\00:49:05.54
"Okay, sex deals
with what stimulates you,"
00:49:05.57\00:49:10.08
they begin to know,
00:49:10.11\00:49:11.58
"Okay, what are the things
that I know... stimulates me?
00:49:11.61\00:49:14.05
I need to know what stimulates
me... so I know what to avoid,
00:49:14.08\00:49:16.85
if not, I have no idea"
00:49:16.92\00:49:18.25
and the other thing
that I find spiritually,
00:49:18.29\00:49:22.86
now this is going to sound
strange... embrace yourself,
00:49:22.89\00:49:25.86
are people who
pray for forgiveness
00:49:25.89\00:49:29.33
and receive
forgiveness, it's a bad thing.
00:49:29.36\00:49:33.27
Now you're looking at
me like I have two heads.
00:49:33.34\00:49:35.27
Explain it.
00:49:35.30\00:49:36.81
Because it's
incomplete, the Scriptures say,
00:49:36.84\00:49:41.34
"I'm the Lord,
who forgives your sins
00:49:41.38\00:49:45.35
and heals all
your diseases" Hmmm...
00:49:45.38\00:49:49.32
He's faithful to just...
00:49:49.35\00:49:50.69
He's faithful and just
to forgive us of our sins
00:49:50.72\00:49:53.22
and cleanse us of
all unrighteousness.
00:49:53.25\00:49:55.49
What I find is...
a lot of people say,
00:49:55.52\00:49:57.69
"Lord, forgive me," and
they get the forgiveness
00:49:57.76\00:50:00.50
but they didn't
say, "Heal me... "
00:50:00.53\00:50:03.00
So now they're not
healed and they go back out
00:50:03.03\00:50:07.10
and commit the
same thing again. Why?
00:50:07.20\00:50:08.67
They were forgiven but
they weren't healed from it.
00:50:08.74\00:50:10.91
Hmmm...
00:50:10.94\00:50:12.27
And they are not
thinking "healing"
00:50:12.31\00:50:14.41
so they're not looking for
going towards a healing process
00:50:14.44\00:50:17.88
whether it means... talking
to a doctor like Dr. John,
00:50:17.91\00:50:20.08
whether it means talking to
someone close that you can trust
00:50:20.12\00:50:23.69
and I want to make
a point about that,
00:50:23.75\00:50:25.55
because the
Apostle Paul does say that
00:50:25.59\00:50:27.32
when those situations happen
00:50:27.36\00:50:30.29
and then counseling is happening
00:50:30.33\00:50:31.66
you have to be careful that
someone is not caught up in it
00:50:31.69\00:50:33.80
and themselves
become a castaway,
00:50:33.86\00:50:36.10
because to share
those very intimate moments,
00:50:36.13\00:50:38.80
pull somebody
in... Dr. Yvonne: Yes.
00:50:38.83\00:50:40.67
And as you begin to describe
what you did and what happened,
00:50:40.70\00:50:44.04
the word takes
affect and that movie
00:50:44.07\00:50:47.04
of whatever happened
begins to play in your mind
00:50:47.11\00:50:49.18
and if a person is
not spiritually grounded,
00:50:49.24\00:50:51.28
it can pull... the devil can
use that to pull more people.
00:50:51.31\00:50:55.55
And that's how so many
people get... the counsel...
00:50:55.58\00:51:01.16
the pastor sometimes
with the vulnerable woman
00:51:01.19\00:51:06.09
can get... brought
into a relationship
00:51:06.16\00:51:10.57
that is questionable at best,
00:51:10.63\00:51:14.50
and so, it's... we have
to really think about that.
00:51:14.54\00:51:18.87
We've been having a conversation
00:51:18.91\00:51:21.81
on sexual
immorality and all that,
00:51:21.84\00:51:24.65
but, I think it's
important that the education
00:51:24.71\00:51:29.42
should start in the home
00:51:29.45\00:51:30.79
you know, I think
that a lot of times
00:51:30.85\00:51:33.05
parents are...
00:51:33.09\00:51:34.42
they don't know how
to approach the subject
00:51:34.46\00:51:36.79
they don't know how to talk
about it because it's an awkward
00:51:36.89\00:51:39.76
tense subject to
take to their kids
00:51:39.79\00:51:43.30
but parents, what
you have to realize
00:51:43.33\00:51:46.77
is that, your
kids are going to learn
00:51:46.80\00:51:50.24
one way or another, so
if you're not teaching them
00:51:50.27\00:51:53.31
they're going to
learn in the streets
00:51:53.34\00:51:54.68
and what the streets
are going to teach them,
00:51:54.71\00:51:58.38
is about lust and how
many women can you get...
00:51:58.41\00:52:02.12
Lance: But they're
going to call it love.
00:52:02.15\00:52:04.72
Yes, yes and so...
like you said earlier,
00:52:04.75\00:52:07.26
the devil likes to...
he likes to give you mostly
00:52:07.29\00:52:11.76
truth and throwing
that little bit of lie,
00:52:11.79\00:52:14.86
and that subtle, little
lie, really messes you up.
00:52:14.93\00:52:21.10
Absolutely, you know
another thing that...
00:52:21.14\00:52:23.30
Sister White was
such a great source
00:52:23.37\00:52:25.94
in ways that we
would have never thought
00:52:25.97\00:52:28.48
she said that when
parents are training themselves
00:52:28.51\00:52:32.15
and their children,
they need to understand
00:52:32.21\00:52:34.92
the issues of
how principles work
00:52:34.95\00:52:39.29
because everything
is based on a principle,
00:52:39.32\00:52:41.42
she says... so you can't expect
00:52:41.46\00:52:44.29
you're going to
train a child's brain
00:52:44.33\00:52:47.23
to develop those
Neurons by rewarding them
00:52:47.30\00:52:50.40
with something that's
bad and saying it's good.
00:52:50.43\00:52:53.57
"Oh, you were good today,
00:52:53.60\00:52:55.10
I know you have a
bunch of cavities,
00:52:55.17\00:52:56.64
but... have some candies...
see, don't you love mommy,
00:52:56.67\00:52:59.57
don't you love grandma?"
00:52:59.61\00:53:01.01
you're training them
with the principle that says,
00:53:01.04\00:53:03.68
"This is bad for
you, but when you do good,
00:53:03.75\00:53:06.01
reward yourself with it" Hmmm...
00:53:06.05\00:53:08.32
you know, she says that
00:53:08.35\00:53:09.78
the devil is not
going to come to you
00:53:09.85\00:53:12.15
this is in
"Counsels on Diet and Food"
00:53:12.19\00:53:14.42
and say, "All
right... well you know...
00:53:14.49\00:53:17.06
it's wrong but do
it anyway... with sex"
00:53:17.13\00:53:19.63
he's going to
say, "You know what?
00:53:19.66\00:53:22.76
your doctor says,
00:53:22.80\00:53:24.93
you're getting to
be a little overweight
00:53:24.97\00:53:27.80
and you're
beginning to have diabetes,
00:53:27.84\00:53:30.67
you know, it's not the
best but it smells so good,
00:53:30.71\00:53:33.64
just reward yourself,
00:53:33.68\00:53:35.14
you know, you were good
all last week on that diet,
00:53:35.18\00:53:37.75
just reward
yourself with a little slice"
00:53:37.78\00:53:40.12
and she says, and in doing that,
00:53:40.18\00:53:42.95
in doing that,
00:53:42.98\00:53:44.55
the principle that
you're saying to yourself is,
00:53:44.59\00:53:47.92
"I know it's wrong for
me but it tastes so good"
00:53:47.96\00:53:50.89
Hmmm...
00:53:50.93\00:53:52.26
"I know it's bad for me,
00:53:52.29\00:53:53.63
but I'm going to
reward myself with it"
00:53:53.66\00:53:56.80
and many times when
husbands cheat on wives
00:53:56.83\00:54:00.24
and wives cheat on
husbands, I've heard them say,
00:54:00.27\00:54:02.57
"You know what, I
know it was wrong,
00:54:02.60\00:54:04.61
but I deserved better,
00:54:04.64\00:54:07.28
I deserved this moment. "
00:54:07.31\00:54:09.84
I've literally heard,
wives and husbands say,
00:54:09.91\00:54:12.91
"I know Jesus said
that this is wrong,
00:54:12.95\00:54:15.18
but I need this right now,"
00:54:15.25\00:54:17.29
and that's the
atmosphere that Satan creates.
00:54:17.32\00:54:21.46
I think that
applies to a lot of things
00:54:21.49\00:54:23.43
I mean... Ellen
White, I'm not sure,
00:54:23.46\00:54:25.26
in which of her
writings it's in,
00:54:25.29\00:54:27.10
I don't know if
it's in "Adventist Home"
00:54:27.13\00:54:28.60
or "Letters to Young
Lovers" or something like that
00:54:28.66\00:54:31.03
but it's about how
we, as human beings,
00:54:31.07\00:54:34.64
like to justify and
rationalize our sin,
00:54:34.67\00:54:37.94
because we're
comfortable in our sins,
00:54:37.97\00:54:41.21
and so we try and find reasons
00:54:41.24\00:54:43.75
to make it seem
like it's not so bad.
00:54:43.81\00:54:47.52
Because we want the pleasure
but we don't want the guilt.
00:54:47.58\00:54:49.22
You know...
00:54:49.25\00:54:51.79
and we'll find a reason
00:54:51.82\00:54:55.16
you know, even God
confessed it of us,
00:54:55.19\00:54:57.43
he said, "Behold man is become
one of us knowing good and evil"
00:54:57.49\00:55:00.06
and then He said,
of the antediluvians...
00:55:00.13\00:55:01.80
he said, "Listen, the thing
00:55:01.83\00:55:03.57
that they have
set their mind to do,
00:55:03.67\00:55:05.17
nothing shall be
impossible for them to do it. "
00:55:05.20\00:55:08.24
Hmmm...
00:55:08.27\00:55:09.60
He said, "So now, let's
confound their language"
00:55:09.64\00:55:12.77
Well, guess what? If a
person is decided that...
00:55:12.81\00:55:16.11
"Listen, I don't see
anything wrong with this,"
00:55:16.18\00:55:19.18
they will find a
way to justify it
00:55:19.21\00:55:22.02
and give every
reasonable excuse,
00:55:22.05\00:55:24.82
I'm sure as a therapist,
Dr. John has probably heard
00:55:24.85\00:55:26.96
many "justifications"
for what's being done.
00:55:26.99\00:55:30.56
So, if someone is
caught up in this stronghold,
00:55:30.63\00:55:34.10
give us a few
things to do to stop it.
00:55:34.20\00:55:38.23
Number one, I'll give you three,
00:55:38.27\00:55:40.24
because I know
we're wrapping up,
00:55:40.30\00:55:42.14
the physical, the
mental and the spiritual,
00:55:42.17\00:55:43.67
physically... educate yourself,
00:55:43.71\00:55:46.64
get information about it,
00:55:46.68\00:55:50.11
you know, "My people are
destroyed for lack of knowledge"
00:55:50.15\00:55:52.68
it's so grossly... understated
and so grossly... underutilized.
00:55:52.71\00:55:56.65
Get information so
you could understand
00:55:56.69\00:55:59.35
what you're dealing with
you can handle something better
00:55:59.39\00:56:02.12
when you know about
it and understand it,
00:56:02.16\00:56:04.36
you may see that,
"Ah, these lights are here"
00:56:04.39\00:56:06.66
but if you have no idea
what controls the lights,
00:56:06.73\00:56:08.83
you're trying to climb up on
a ladder that you can't get on
00:56:08.90\00:56:11.67
to touch a hot light
that's going to burn your hand
00:56:11.70\00:56:14.77
and then you touch
it and it burns you,
00:56:14.80\00:56:16.14
"I'm not trying that
again" not knowing that,
00:56:16.17\00:56:18.11
"No, you just
didn't learn about it,
00:56:18.14\00:56:19.54
go to the wall and
flip the switch off,"
00:56:19.57\00:56:20.98
so get educated. Hmmm... hmmm...
00:56:21.01\00:56:22.64
Mentally, also,
understand those things
00:56:22.71\00:56:26.95
that affect you
mentally, some of it is diet...
00:56:27.02\00:56:29.78
you know, there
are certain foods that
00:56:29.82\00:56:32.59
help produce more
serotonin and less serotonin
00:56:32.62\00:56:35.62
and things of that nature,
but the most important thing
00:56:35.66\00:56:38.59
is the spiritual
part, you have to feed on...
00:56:38.63\00:56:42.93
just like you fed
on the word of Satan
00:56:42.96\00:56:44.87
that got you into that sin
00:56:44.90\00:56:46.60
and you fed on the word
of Satan and your "friends"
00:56:46.70\00:56:49.47
that kept you in that sin,
00:56:49.54\00:56:50.91
you need to feed
on something else
00:56:50.94\00:56:53.27
that's going to
displace that word.
00:56:53.34\00:56:55.61
When the devil makes you
say, "Jesus is coming soon,
00:56:55.64\00:56:59.41
this sin is too strong,
00:56:59.45\00:57:00.98
you are never
going to give it up,
00:57:01.02\00:57:02.65
you might as well
just keep going...
00:57:02.68\00:57:04.02
eat, drink and be
merry, for tomorrow you die,"
00:57:04.05\00:57:06.02
you got to get
that Word that says,
00:57:06.05\00:57:07.99
"No, I'll never
leave you or forsake you,
00:57:08.02\00:57:09.89
I am the one that
will work in you. "
00:57:09.92\00:57:11.63
Get that Word in... and
just be honest with God.
00:57:11.66\00:57:14.63
And don't put
yourself in a position
00:57:14.66\00:57:17.47
where you can
yield to temptation.
00:57:17.50\00:57:19.47
That's right.
00:57:19.50\00:57:21.00
Stay out of that atmosphere.
00:57:21.04\00:57:22.37
Yeah, don't go to that room
00:57:22.40\00:57:23.74
listening to
Teddy P late at night.
00:57:23.81\00:57:25.44
That's right, that's right,
00:57:25.47\00:57:27.64
know your
triggers... know your triggers,
00:57:27.68\00:57:29.08
I can't believe that
00:57:29.11\00:57:31.28
we have reached the
end of another Program,
00:57:31.31\00:57:32.88
thank you so much,
Brother Lance, for being with us
00:57:32.91\00:57:35.55
thank you Dr. John Jacob.
00:57:35.58\00:57:37.49
Praise God, you're welcome.
00:57:37.52\00:57:39.05
What a blessing you were,
00:57:39.09\00:57:40.86
what a blessing
were, Brother Lance,
00:57:40.89\00:57:42.62
my dear Jason,
00:57:42.66\00:57:44.13
thank you so much
for being with us,
00:57:44.16\00:57:47.50
and thank you...
00:57:47.50\00:57:48.83
make sure that
you join us next time,
00:57:48.86\00:57:50.53
and know that God
has a plan for you,
00:57:50.57\00:57:52.47
He's going to take care of it,
00:57:52.50\00:57:54.34
just turn it over
to Him and trust Him.
00:57:54.40\00:57:56.81
Join us next time
because you know what?
00:57:56.87\00:57:59.37
It just wouldn't be
the same without you.
00:57:59.41\00:58:02.01