Stay tuned to meet a couple
that dared to dream their way
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out of the inner city
and into a powerful ministry
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for Christ. My
name is Yvonne Lewis
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and you're
watching Urban Report.
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Hello and
welcome to Urban Report.
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My guests today are
Pastor John and Angela Lomacang.
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Welcome to Urban
Report John and Angie.
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Good to be
here... good to see you.
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We're so glad to be
here with my friend Yvonne.
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Our friend. You know what?
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You know, when
you go to a new place
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you need to feel
like you have family there
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and people that
you know and love.
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And we didn't know
each other well in New York
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but John was my dad's student.
My dad was his principal.
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Right, right. May I call you
John 'cause you're Pastor John?
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Sure... That's
fine... get comfortable.
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My dad's student at
Bethel Elementary School.
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And so coming here...
And of course, I knew Ken.
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Yes, she knew my brother
Ken and his wife Jackie, yeah.
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So it's like
having a family here.
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It's even though we
didn't grow up together
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because I'm
considerably older...
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Let's just say I'm just older.
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Not the adjective
considerably... adverb.
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My dad was a
stickler for grammar.
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Let's not say that
but let's just say older.
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We have connections - right
- through our family members,
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and so coming here
and being with you guys
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has been such a
blessing. Praise the Lord.
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Many of our viewers
already know you because
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you are both on 3ABN regularly.
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Pastor John, you
host A Sharper Focus
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and House Calls - um-hmm -
and now you're the new host
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for our new series
Foundation of Our Faith
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on Dare to Dream.
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Of course Angie is a production
assistant for 3ABN Radio.
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So they know you but
they might not know the story
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that you have. And
our viewers love stories.
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So tell us a bit
about how you grew up
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and what happened in your life.
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How did you get
from point A to point B?
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You want to begin,
honey? Should I begin?
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OK... ladies
first. Yeah... go ahead.
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Well, I was raised in Brooklyn.
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New York, and my parents
were of Jamaican descent.
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They're Jamaican but
I was born in England.
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And after my father
died we migrated to Brooklyn.
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It was a family
of eight - Wow! -
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and so I'm the youngest of 8.
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You have seven siblings? Yes.
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Five brothers and two
sisters so eight of us.
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And after my father
passed away in England
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we all came to America -
to Brooklyn. As they say:
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"to the hood. " Did
you move to the "hood? "
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Did you live in "the hood?
" Oh yeah... wow... oh yeah.
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Right now it's not the
hood... it's downtown Brooklyn.
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It's a very classy area
now but when we lived there
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it was "the hood... " It
was right on St. James Place
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and Fulton Street
not far from Bethel.
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Yeah... and back
then it was a "hood. "
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So it must have
been hard for your mom
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to bring eight
children from England
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to the United States. Very hard.
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How did she do that?
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Well after my father
passed away we came up
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in sections. My two
oldest came up to America
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to Brooklyn. They came first.
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And my aunt came to England
and took them to New York
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with her. And then
about four years later -
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three or four years
later - we came to New York.
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My mom, my brother
Cliff, and my sister Lecia.
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We... the three
youngest ones came and then
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three years later
the other three came.
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So it was all in
sections. So your mom had
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everybody come
in shifts kind of.
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Exactly. We could
never afford... yeah.
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So once you were over
here what was your mom doing?
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How was she
caring for your family?
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Oh it was hard... it
was VERY hard because she...
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Well, she worked a
little outside of the home
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but she was always mom at home.
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She was
"mom-in-chief" if I could say.
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She was an excellent mom.
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So my mother came to New York
and she took care of people's
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homes, the Jewish
neighborhoods in Brooklyn.
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Cleaned their homes,
cooked, did all... She had like
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two and three jobs. She
just didn't have one job.
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It was like one after
the other after the other.
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Worked extremely hard
and never touched welfare
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not once. She was an
extremely hard worker.
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So my mom did that
and we all were in...
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She bought her house.
She was able to buy a house.
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And after she bought the house
we all of us lived in that house
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in Brooklyn - Monroe
Street and Throop and Tompkins -
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so we were in
Bedford-Stuyvesant. Wow!
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In the "hood" officially again.
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Now was your mom an
Adventist when she came
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to this country? Or was
that? Yes, she was an Adventist
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all her life, and so we
all... She made sure we...
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Well, we couldn't afford church
school so we went public school.
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One brother, Ken... he
went to Northeastern Academy.
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And so that was nice. He
was the only one that went
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to an academy. But my
mom was a hard worker.
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We all went to school.
She always pushed education.
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She didn't have much of an
education, but she pushed it
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on us to get your education.
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So we all worked
hard to study hard.
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And she always made
sure when you come home
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you do your homework.
You get something to eat
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but you do your homework. Yes.
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And she always had a
nice warm meal for us.
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Every time we came home
there was a nice meal for us.
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She was always a good mom.
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A great example of a mom.
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That's what I was going
to say: look at the example
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your mom set.
She worked so hard.
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She brought you over. She
brought you here in a godly
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home so that you
could know the Lord.
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She taught you the
value of education.
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And she taught you how
to be a great homemaker
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because, Ang... you are.
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You're the hostess
with the mostest, girl.
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I've got to tell you, Angie
is hostess with the mostest.
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She cooks up a storm...
I love to go eat her food.
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So, you know, your mom
gave you these wonderful lessons
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in how to be... Even
though she was no longer a wife
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she taught you
really the basics I think -
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she did - of
being a good wife. Yes.
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Yes she did. That's wonderful.
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Yeah, she's
always in the kitchen.
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My mom lived...
right John? That's right.
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She's always in the kitchen;
that's her favorite place
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in the house. The
comfort zone. Exactly.
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And so that's where I get
that from... my mom being in the
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kitchen all the
time and cooking.
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And I remember on Sabbaths when
they would have a block party
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outside. Some people
may not know what that is.
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Tell us what that is
for those that don't know.
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It's a party for the
block that you live on.
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It's a party - a big
party - where they have music
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and food and everybody in
the neighborhood would come.
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Everybody comes out of their
apartments or homes - yes -
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and just has a
big party. Yes, and so
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on Sabbath... they usually have
those block parties on Sabbath.
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And we were to not go.
We'd hear all the music
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and stuff, and my mom would
make sure we will have worship
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and things just to keep
our minds off of the music.
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But it was really
hard... it wasn't easy.
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The music was thumping.
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You could feel the
bass on the windows, right?
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Oh yeah! After sunset
we'd go out... go outside
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and see our friends and stuff.
But it was a great childhood.
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And being a single
mom, every Friday night
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she would gather us for worship.
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That was always a big
thing in my house which I always
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remember. She would
say: "Come on everybody...
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sunset. " And dinner...
the house smelled so good.
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We ate dinner and
then we'd have worship.
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We'd be playing our Jim Reeves
music or Heritage Singers.
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That's right. And so it was
a home. My mom made it a home.
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We didn't have a father
but I had five brothers.
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They were like five fathers.
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That's the
truth... I'll tell you that.
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I'm sure... I'm sure. Yeah.
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So you had a
wonderful legacy. Yes, yes, yes.
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And that is really good for
our viewers to know as well:
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that you don't have to
have a lot of money to create
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a legacy. That's right.
You can be very poor even
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and yet teach your children the
values that they need to have
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to be successful in life.
So we praise the Lord for...
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And I also remember
my mom going to school.
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She became a nurse's
aide and worked at Brooklyn
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Jewish Hospital. And she
was always doing something.
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She always
wanted to go to school.
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Next thing you know, she
was trying to be a hairdresser.
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She was in
school. Then a masseuse.
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She was always going to
Manhattan working at night
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and going to school in the day.
She was always doing something
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to keep herself
active and her mind active.
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And so I really
appreciate that about her.
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She was a strong mom... very
strong. And she would always
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protect her little
girls - yes - always.
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Which is really important.
Yes, always talked to us about
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keeping our
virginity and things like that
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and going out with
boys. She was very protective.
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And I really
appreciate that about her.
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Amen. That's
truly important. Yes.
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What about you, Pastor John?
Tell us about your upbringing.
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You know, when I think about it
there's a text that came to my
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mind. I think it's in
Genesis 41:15 where Pharaoh said
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to Joseph: "I have had a dream
but there is no one to interpret
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it. " And I think my
life was kind of that way.
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I believe that my dream
started... and I'm using that
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in context with this
program... my dream started
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before I was born. I think
the Lord... I'm convinced the
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Lord had a dream for me
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that had to take me through
channels of disappointment
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to make that dream a reality.
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I was born in Manhattan:
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72nd Street...
Central Park West.
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I lived there for 3
months before I decided to move.
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Actually my mom and
dad were never married.
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My mom was a young
Filipino-French girl from
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the Virgin Islands
that came to New York with
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big hopes and dreams... I
think that's a phrase I like
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to use... and met a musician.
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Johnny Parker... he
was a famous jazz musician.
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Put that name on YouTube
you'll find out more about him.
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Maybe more than I know.
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And they met long enough
to conceive me, and they went
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their separate
ways. And out of that
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my mom would take me
to a babysitter every day.
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A lady by the name of
Carmen Haynes from Trinidad
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and her husband George
from Barbados. And they were the
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babysitters. And at 3 months
old my mom decided to leave
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my sister and I
at the babysitters.
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My sister was 3 years
old, I was 3 months old.
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They abandoned us
and left us there.
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I've had the privilege of
putting that story in a book...
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about us also in a book
called Abandoned But Not Alone
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by Pacific Press.
It's still available.
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An excellent book, by the way.
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It's a page turner... I mean
you just want to keep reading
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'cause it's so interesting.
Wow! That's a praise the Lord.
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And so knowing at the
early stages of my life
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the Lord allowed me to
get connected with the church
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through Momma
Haynes... everybody called her.
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Didn't have any
of her own children.
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Raised one son they
brought from Trinidad.
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But my foundation
was the most important.
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Church every
Sabbath. We'd get there before
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Sabbath School began and
the deacons would have to
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put us out on Saturday night.
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I mean: "Sr. Haynes,
we're closing up now. "
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Bethel was a big
church - 1,200 members.
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Oh yes. We spent
all day at church.
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And so even to this very day
wherever my wife and I travel
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or across the state...
even when we traveled with the
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Heritage Singers, it would be
a small church or a big church.
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Church on Sabbath
is just church for us
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because it's an
appointment with God...
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not so much just to fellowship.
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But at the age of 12
the lady that raised me
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took sick, and by the
time I was 13 she passed away.
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But before she passed away...
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Angie made a point
that I'd like to build on...
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I went to public
school all my life, too.
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But just before Momma passed
away she put me in Bethel.
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That's where I met
your dad as my principal.
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I was in Bethel for two years.
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That was important because
I was going down the road...
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I was in schools in Brooklyn.
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I was in one of the worst
high schools: 258, which was
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known to be... every other day
there's something like a fire
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or the police or the teachers
are fighting with the students
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or just such a
terrible school to be in.
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Something worse than
sometimes you see on television.
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And I was afraid to go
to school, so I was absent
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42 days from school, so
rightfully I should have been
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left back. But the
Lord had a plan for me...
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a dream that He was
bringing to fruition.
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Put me in Bethel, and
I was there for 2 years
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and started high
school. And we met.
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I'm kind of giving
the condensed version.
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Well before you go there
let me just ask you something:
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let's go back to your
mom, because once she left you
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and your sister did you
have any more contact with her
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over the years? Did
you know where she was?
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Well you were 3 months -
right - three months old -
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so you couldn't... I mean
that was a moot point. But...
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What?
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How did that shape
your perception of family?
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Well it took a long time
for my sister to convince me
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that the people raising
us were not our parents.
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You know, it's kind of
like that commercial years ago:
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look at me, look
at him, look at me.
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And she would say:
"Look at them; look at us.
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You can tell they don't
look anything like us. "
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Until one day I went to school
- I was in the second grade -
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and they told me to:
"Give this note to your parents
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when you go home. " And I
was using the name John Haynes.
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They said the note was
having to use his real name
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so I went back to school
with the name John Lomacang.
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I thought it was an assignment.
It didn't make much difference
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to me but then my sister
said: "See, I told you! "
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But there was some anxiety
to know who my parents were.
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Who my mom was. I
just had heard a name.
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Some people used to say:
"Well I think her name is Kim. "
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And I saw a picture of her once.
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And that picture disappeared.
I never knew what happened
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to that picture. And I
knew that at least her face...
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saw her face. But I
grew up through life
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with a pretty balanced home,
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so I didn't have
that separation anxiety.
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Who am I? What's going on?
Where's my mom? Where's my dad?
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'Cause God allowed me
to be put in the situation
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from young that
gave me the stability.
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Mom and dad.
So... three months old.
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I don't know
anybody else. Right.
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So by the time I start kicking
into reality and knowing what's
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going on around me
I had a balanced home
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for the most part.
We compared Christmases.
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Sometimes... Her mom had
8 so it's hard to provide
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for 8 children. You know,
we had pretty good Christmases.
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We had wonderful birthdays.
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It was just a house
filled with activity.
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Really didn't have
the need of anything.
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Did they other children of
their own? Just one little boy
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that wasn't their own naturally.
It was a boy that they
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adopted in
Trinidad and brought home.
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Brought over to
America with them.
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But the critical
point in my life was at 13
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when Momma passed away.
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I left the church a year later
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and went out into the
world. I lost my anchor.
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Were you angry with God?
Well you know, at that point
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I began to ask the question:
"Why is this happening to me? "
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And then I started
asking the question:
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"Well where is my
mom? Where's my dad? "
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I met my dad at 13
years old for the first time.
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Tell us about
that. My biological dad.
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Just one Sunday evening when the
house was filled with calypso
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which in the culture
of Trinidad and Barbados
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Sunday nights or Saturday nights
was calypso time in our home.
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Papa would bring all this
cousins over. They would play
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the guitars and drink
and smoke and play calypso.
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I had had my fill of it
that night, so I went to the
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neighbor's house.
And on my way there
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I met a man who had just
pulled up in front of the house
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in a four-door,
black Fleetwood Cadillac.
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Ummm. And he
started asking me questions
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as he was coming out of the car.
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And said: "Is your name John? "
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He said: "Your name is
probably John, isn't it? "
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"Yes. " "And your sister's
name is Vivian. " "Yes. "
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"And you're 13. " "Yes.
" "And she's 16. " "Yes. "
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And I'm: "Well
how do you know? "
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"He said: "Well I'm your dad. "
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And I said: "No you're
not; my dad's in the house. "
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And I ran in the house,
and he had told me his name.
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And I ran in the house and
over the sound of the calypso
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I said: "There's a
man said he's my dad. "
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Said: "What is his name? "
He said: "He told me his name is
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Johnny. " Said:
"That's your dad! "
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And that's how I met my
father. Thirteen years old.
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Did he come in
and visit with you?
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He came in and visited.
Came to find out that night
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I was a junior. You know
Junior's Cheesecake downtown
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Brooklyn? Oh yes. He took
me to Junior's Cheesecake.
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Gave me a $20 bill.
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And from that point till
the time he passed away in 2006
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I didn't really get to
know very much about him.
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Knew him for 30+ years, and
he never allowed me to come in.
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He was the only
child. I was an only child.
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Never got to know
my family on his side.
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It was quite a struggle
to kind of live with that.
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And so during that
identity crisis, we met.
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We met... I won't tell the year.
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OK... we met... Want
me to tell the year? No.
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OK, I won't tell the year.
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But we're going on
31 years of marriage.
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But we met as
teenagers. I was 16. Ooh...
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And we dated off
and on for nine years.
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We were just
kind of little rascals
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and didn't really
know what we wanted.
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But she was very much
in the church and I wasn't.
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I was just coming back.
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And we met, and she gave
me a family to connect to.
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Ummm... So we
became like good friends
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long before we were dating.
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We just hung out with her
brothers. Played basketball
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with her brothers on Sunday.
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Her mom became like my mom.
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When she cooked, she
always put dinner aside for me.
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Right. We were all friends
'cause I was not allowed to have
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a boyfriend at 16.
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And with all those brothers,
too. Oh yeah, that was...
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My brother would always
say: "You want a ride home? "
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They would say to him. I'd
say: "No I have my bicycle. "
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They said: "No,
you need a ride home. "
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You know how brothers are.
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They'd put his bike in
his car and take him home.
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My bike in the trunk. "You're
not sitting in this house
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with my sister. "
And I understand now.
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But you know, this sounds
strange, but I didn't think
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carnal like that back then.
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I didn't think that way.
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So it didn't
really phase me very much.
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It was a different
time. You know, back years ago
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we weren't bombarded
with so much sexual stimuli.
00:19:07.68\00:19:10.61
Now, everything...
so the kids are getting
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involved in all of that so
much earlier and it's a mess.
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So you weren't
even thinking about it.
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Three Stooges was like my max.
00:19:21.32\00:19:22.96
There's no
suggestions there at all.
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And so God brought me to the
place where He awakened in me
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this dream, 'cause she was
not about to date any person
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that wasn't
connected to the Lord.
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So her mission from God -
we talk about that in the book
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in detail - her
mission from God was to get me
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back in the church. And
you know, young ladies could
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get the attention of a young
man faster than the pastor can.
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That's true. And so
she invited me to her house
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for worship, and just
tell briefly that night...
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the changeover. Oh
yeah, I invited him
00:19:55.39\00:19:57.69
for worship, and he came over.
00:19:57.73\00:19:59.69
Said: "John, my mom always
has worship on Friday night.
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Why don't you come
over? " So he came over.
00:20:03.00\00:20:04.30
He said: "Sure. " And
so my mom said to him:
00:20:04.43\00:20:07.30
"Oh, OK John, would
you read this scripture? "
00:20:07.44\00:20:09.87
And he said: "Oh, sure. "
00:20:10.01\00:20:11.44
He took the Bible. I can't
remember what the scripture was.
00:20:11.57\00:20:13.98
For instance: "John 3:16. "
00:20:14.11\00:20:16.08
"For... God... so...
loved... " That's him.
00:20:16.21\00:20:19.55
"Loved... the...
world. " He was just...
00:20:19.68\00:20:21.15
Was he nervous reading it?
00:20:21.28\00:20:22.98
I thought he couldn't read.
00:20:23.02\00:20:24.32
But he could read
but he was just nervous.
00:20:25.59\00:20:27.66
And beads of perspiration
was dripping all over the Bible.
00:20:27.89\00:20:31.99
And I'm like: "Oh...
" What were you thinking
00:20:32.43\00:20:34.93
at that point? Well I
wasn't... He was a partier.
00:20:34.93\00:20:37.80
I was a partier.
I'm thinking: "You know,
00:20:38.03\00:20:39.50
I've got a party to go to.
Hurry up with this worship. "
00:20:39.83\00:20:41.87
I partied from
Thursday to Sunday. OK.
00:20:41.90\00:20:44.91
And I was just very
much involved in gambling
00:20:44.94\00:20:47.44
and pool hustling. Gambling
in the sense of pool tables.
00:20:47.48\00:20:50.48
I didn't do dice and all
that and buy lottery tickets.
00:20:50.61\00:20:53.18
I figured if I'm going to
gamble I'm going to do something
00:20:53.42\00:20:54.95
that I have control over.
00:20:54.98\00:20:56.32
You know, if I'm going to
lose I'm losing on my own terms.
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It's going to be
on my hand that I lost
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or my hand that I won.
00:21:01.06\00:21:02.12
But we studied, studied,
studied... but you have to tell
00:21:02.26\00:21:04.03
the rest of the story.
Yeah, we did study quite a bit.
00:21:04.06\00:21:06.36
And so anyway I
said one Friday night
00:21:06.49\00:21:08.86
'cause he kept coming
over every Friday night...
00:21:09.10\00:21:11.40
He kept coming
over. I kept inviting him.
00:21:11.53\00:21:13.30
Said: "Come on John, come
over to my house for worship. "
00:21:13.44\00:21:15.40
'Cause I knew he was so carnal;
his mind was in the world.
00:21:15.64\00:21:18.54
Yes. And so I kept kind of
inviting him. I prayed for him:
00:21:18.67\00:21:21.18
"Lord, please help him. "
00:21:21.31\00:21:22.68
So anyway, one
particular Friday night
00:21:22.91\00:21:24.98
I said: "John, have you seen
this book Great Controversy? "
00:21:25.21\00:21:27.98
He said: "Oh, yeah,
Momma used to have this
00:21:28.22\00:21:30.25
when she was alive. We
used to have that book. "
00:21:30.29\00:21:32.62
I said: "Come
on, let's read it. "
00:21:32.65\00:21:33.72
So we went toward
the end of the book
00:21:33.76\00:21:35.36
and the promises
of Christ's return.
00:21:35.59\00:21:38.93
And he started
reading it and reading it
00:21:39.06\00:21:41.93
and next thing you know
he just broke down and cried.
00:21:42.06\00:21:44.77
Oh... And he said:
"Angie, I'm wasting my life.
00:21:44.90\00:21:48.20
I'm wasting my life. "
00:21:48.34\00:21:49.94
It really got to his heart.
00:21:50.17\00:21:52.11
The Holy Spirit
worked on you then and there
00:21:52.24\00:21:54.98
and broke you -
right - right there.
00:21:55.11\00:21:58.21
To tell you how
complete the break was
00:21:58.45\00:22:00.22
on that Friday - I
worked at Bank of America -
00:22:00.35\00:22:02.78
I would go to
work with my pool stick
00:22:02.92\00:22:04.79
in my leather
case and my boom box
00:22:05.02\00:22:07.62
so that I could party down
in Battery Park or by the World
00:22:07.86\00:22:10.19
Trade Center in New
York. And so when work was over
00:22:10.23\00:22:12.59
"It's lunch
time... it's party time. "
00:22:12.63\00:22:14.83
That was Friday. On Monday I
went back to work with my Bible
00:22:15.06\00:22:18.53
and The Great Controversy. Amen.
00:22:18.67\00:22:20.10
And I would look for people
on the A Train to talk to about
00:22:20.34\00:22:22.60
the Lord. That's Broolyn...
that's New York! Yeah!
00:22:22.74\00:22:25.21
And so I was: "You
want to have Bible studies?
00:22:25.37\00:22:27.21
Where do you work? "
Lunch hour. "Let's have
00:22:27.24\00:22:29.04
Bible studies at the
World Trade. " This is Friday,
00:22:29.08\00:22:31.25
Saturday, Sunday, Monday.
00:22:31.48\00:22:33.25
I'm going from
gambling to witnessing for Jesus
00:22:33.38\00:22:36.42
on Monday. And that
started a fire in my life
00:22:36.45\00:22:38.65
which led to
many twists and turns.
00:22:38.89\00:22:41.79
In the interest of time I
want to kind of bring it to
00:22:41.92\00:22:44.49
the condensing
points. We dated together
00:22:44.53\00:22:47.66
and we eventually got
married, but just before that
00:22:47.76\00:22:50.97
one of the brothers...
We had such a relationship
00:22:51.10\00:22:53.34
one of her brothers said:
"They do everything together.
00:22:53.47\00:22:55.44
They planning on
getting married or something? "
00:22:55.47\00:22:56.87
And this is the
funny part of the story:
00:22:57.11\00:22:58.84
after dating her off
and on for nine years
00:22:58.97\00:23:00.64
one of her brothers
- he's deceased now -
00:23:00.78\00:23:02.38
he came to me
one day and he said:
00:23:02.51\00:23:04.21
"You gonna date my sister
forever or you gonna marry her?
00:23:04.35\00:23:06.48
What you gonna do? " Aahhh.
00:23:06.51\00:23:08.48
Here I am 25 years
old and he's asking him...
00:23:08.62\00:23:12.22
He said: "What you gonna do?
" I said: "Yeah, I'm going to
00:23:12.42\00:23:14.29
get married
eventually. " He said: "When? "
00:23:14.32\00:23:16.62
He was very strict.
He put you on the spot!
00:23:16.76\00:23:19.29
I looked in his
eyes and he was serious.
00:23:19.43\00:23:20.53
And I said:
"Uhhh... by next month. "
00:23:20.66\00:23:22.73
And we got
married thirty days later.
00:23:23.90\00:23:26.33
That was 30+ years ago.
00:23:26.47\00:23:28.30
Wow! We planned a
big wedding at Bethel.
00:23:28.54\00:23:31.37
So I told her: "Your brother
proposed and I accepted. "
00:23:31.51\00:23:33.74
And you know,
the Lord has taken us
00:23:36.01\00:23:38.65
from these two little
knucklehead selfish children -
00:23:38.78\00:23:41.72
very selfish - so
much into ourselves.
00:23:41.88\00:23:44.35
We got married and our
lives took off from there.
00:23:44.59\00:23:46.99
We moved down to
Florida after about three months
00:23:47.02\00:23:49.46
living in New York.
Moved to Florida and
00:23:49.59\00:23:52.69
not long after we moved to
Florida we got the invitation
00:23:52.83\00:23:54.86
to join the Heritage
Singers. And her mom...
00:23:55.00\00:23:56.83
When we didn't know what to
do what did your mother say?
00:23:56.97\00:23:58.70
"The blessing is
on the word go. "
00:23:59.03\00:24:01.97
That's right. Wow!
Like Danny says. Yeah.
00:24:02.10\00:24:04.81
He says:
"Opportunity knocks once. Go. "
00:24:05.04\00:24:07.78
And our lives took off.
00:24:07.91\00:24:09.14
You know, we say "Go. "
We've been going ever since.
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Fifty-two countries later...
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But that's because we
gave our heart to the Lord.
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But what I was saying is
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so at 19 we got
baptized together.
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Ohhh... We both recommitted
our lives to the Lord together.
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And through a
series of twists and turns
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when I gave my life to the Lord
and finally got rid of the music
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'cause I had hundreds of albums.
I was a disc jockey also.
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OK. And... oh yeah...
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I said "Ok, Lord, I'm going...
" He was always partying.
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One particular Friday night I
found out where the party was.
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And I'm like: "OK, John's
on the Windows of the World
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at the World Trade Center disc
jockeying"... disc jockeying
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and I went there
and I said: "John... "
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He had his
headsets on just jamming.
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I said: "John,
it's Friday night.
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You should be at
home. It's Sabbath. "
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"Yeah, yeah, Angie... yeah.
I've gotta go; I've gotta go.
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You go home, go home, go home. "
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I said: "John, you shouldn't.
" I had such holy boldness
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it just scares me. I'm
like "What am I doing there? "
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And when I look back
I'm like... But I went there
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and I'm telling him
"You don't belong here. "
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That's right. And eventually
so I said: "OK, Lord, I'm
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giving this up, " after the
conversion story, reading the
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Great Controversy,
but it took a little bit
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to get rid of that
out of my blood. Yeah.
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It was a while. One Sunday
- this was the cut-off point -
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we were going to disc
jockey for a wedding reception.
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Had a car accident, and I
said "If we had lost our lives,
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I know we'd of both been lost.
" This small little Honda Civic.
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She broke the windshield;
I twisted the steering wheel.
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I knew if I had lost my
life I'd have been lost.
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And that was the change
in our lives. In a nutshell
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gave our lives to the Lord.
Joined the Heritage Singers.
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After that God opened
the door for us in ministry.
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And the dream...
now we look back on it
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and what's so
amazing about a dream...
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Which we look back and
sometimes we say to ourselves
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"The secret of our
success is not what we do
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but it's being humble. "
Every day we pray for that.
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The story is so beautiful
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because you can see
how God brought both of you
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together - um-hmm - because you
have such a powerful ministry
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together. She is your
companion, your helpmeet.
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I wouldn't be who I am
without a wife like this.
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She is just the consummate
preacher's wife, pastor's wife.
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That's right! She's
wonderful; you're a godly man.
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I mean, it's just
a wonderful pairing.
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What would you tell? In
one minute, what would you
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tell our viewers about
how to keep it together?
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Oh wow! OK, honey.
We worship together.
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Yes. We pray
together. We have fun together.
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We laugh
together... we laugh together.
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Either at each
other or at somebody else.
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No, we do... We're very real.
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We speak our minds
to each other. Yes.
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She has a
voice... I have a voice.
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We don't yell. We are not
the type of people to yell.
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We don't do that.
But if she doesn't like
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something she'll say it.
If I don't like something,
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I'll just say it.
And he will say it!
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We're very real. There are
a lot of people that are stuck
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in one-way relationships
where you know the visibility
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is his or hers. I tell
people: "This is my wife.
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I take here wherever I'm
invited around the world. "
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If I get invited and
they don't want to bring her,
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I say: "Cancel me. "
'Cause God has given both of us
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a dream. And we dared to
dream - yes - and we grasped
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the vision that God had for us.
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And that's why we are
still going forward in Christ.
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Praise the Lord!
And you set boundaries
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around your relationship
and that's wonderful.
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So just unpack
that boundaries issue
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a bit for us if you would.
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You know, we have a parameter
we've set in our own lives
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about each other.
When I'm not with her,
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when she's not with
me, we don't have to worry
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about each other. We
know to whom we belong.
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I belong to
her... she belongs to me.
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And as long as we maintain
that, we know that our blessing
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will continue. That's
part of the great secret
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in our success.
Well thank you so much.
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Thank you for being
here. And thank YOU so much
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for joining us
today. Tune in next time.
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It just wouldn't be
the same without you.
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