Want to teach your family
how to wisely deal with money...
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Well, stay tuned
to meet the family
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of Dare to Dream's
host of Take it to the Bank
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and hear how they do
it... My name is Yvonne Lewis...
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and you're
watching Urban Report.
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Hello and
welcome to Urban Report.
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Recently I had the opportunity
to interview Cordell Thomas
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and his lovely
family on the set of
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Take it to the Bank...
Let's see what they have to say.
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It is such a
blessing for me to be here
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on the set of
Take it to the Bank
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with our host
Cordell Thomas and his
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lovely family...
Welcome to Urban Report
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on the Take it to the Bank
set. I'm glad to be here...
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We're glad to be here...
Now, Cordell, you have been
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giving us such
amazing information...
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Viewer, if you have not
ever watched Take it to the Bank
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please tune in...
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there's such great
information there...
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things that you can apply
immediately to your life...
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and Cordell has... God
has given him this gift
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of being able to communicate it
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so well... check out
Take it to the Bank...
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the information
there is so valuable...
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So, with your family...
because we had the privilege
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of having your family
on Take it to the Bank
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this season...
this upcoming season
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for the viewers... tell us...
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how did you decide to teach
your children about money...
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When I was growing up... I
never had any educational money
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Hmmm... I think the majority of
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us as Gen Xers and whatever
generation you come from
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we never had an
actual sit-down class on
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what money is really
about... it's a tool...
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Hmmm... hmmm... if
you use it the correct way
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you can build a future that's
a wonderful thriving future
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that you can now give back
to philanthropic efforts for God
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so, I think one of
the things I've learned
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was in 1999... I
made a six-digit income
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and I spent six
digits plus more...
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because whenever you
don't have a budget...
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typically you spend
everything that you've made...
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plus more...
people don't realize
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that by just planning...
you can save, you can invest,
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you can plan for the future
and that's when it triggered
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a thought that I need to educate
myself on what money is about
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and also, try to leave a
legacy for my kids so that
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they could also live
a comfortable life...
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without the stress.
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That's wonderful...
introduce us to your
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wonderful family...
Certainly, my newly-wed wife
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of 11 years...
she's right here... Yuriam
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and she's such a
bright part of my life...
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because she... many
people don't realize
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how impactful the wife
is or your spouse can be
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in leading out in
financial affairs...
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she does help with so much in
reference to household finances
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and she does so many
things... she's amazing...
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Aww, that's great... And
then of course my son, Caleb
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Caleb amazes me...
the way he thinks...
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his mindset... he
recently got baptized
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he's dedicated
himself to Christ Amen...
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and we're so privileged to have
him as a part of our household
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he amazes me every day...
and this beautiful young lady
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at the end.. her name is
Yulissa such a beautiful girl..
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I remember the
day she was born...
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and now she is 7 years old
and doing so many, different,
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wonderful
things... as a blessing
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to other individuals...
so they are learning as we
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move forward and amazingly
so... while we were here...
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my wife was actually
helping out with a cooking show
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with the Latino
Network... Yes...
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and I was sitting at
home watching the kids...
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she emulates... her mom...
she went around vacuuming,
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cleaning, moving our
feet to do certain things
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I was amazed and
so proud not that...
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that's her legitimate
role, but she sees her mom
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working certain roles
at home and she takes on
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that responsibility...
so kids will follow you...
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Yes... they
will follow your lead
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and as long as you
tell them and teach them...
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they'll do the right thing...
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That is very, very true...
they will follow your lead
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and how important it
is... to have a family
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that's working
together... a family in which
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Christ is at the
center... and then...
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you're teaching your
children how to deal with money,
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how to apply... these
things in a practical way
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and that is so
important... I understand that
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because you
mentioned it to me before
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that you are homeschooling
the children Yuriam
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Yes... explain
how you teach them
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about money...
when you're teaching...
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Well, just daily
life... like electricity
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or running the water,
they think that it's free
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that it just comes with
the house... then I tell them,
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"No, we have to
make a monthly payment
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and so the more the water is
on the more we have to pay...
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the more electricity, TV,
or whatever you have on...
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the more we have to pay...
" and so they get that concept
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and sometimes they tell dad,
"Dad, you left the light on... "
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or "Daddy you're
running the water...
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you're brushing your teeth"
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Yeah... so,
those things like that,
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we go to the store... we
try to get the big deal...
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and Caleb... he looks at prices
and the first thing he does is
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like, "Oh no, that's
too expensive mommy...
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let's look for something
a little bit more cheaper...
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so, that's how he's
learning and Yulissa too...
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Yulissa is... she loves to sing,
and so, she sings since morning
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until evening... and she also
plays a great part in learning
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how to save money...
when she has money...
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and I say, "Can you
lend me one dollar... "
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she like, "Are you
going to pay me back?"
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"Make sure you pay me back... "
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but they are good
with their money...
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they do give offering and
tithe whenever they earn money
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Hmmm... hmmm...
and that's a very
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important thing... we
make sure to teach them
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which I didn't realize
until Caleb had earned...
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hardly earned a 100
dollars and he was really happy
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with selling his water bottles.
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Caleb, I'm going to
hit you up for a loan...
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He's looking a little nervous...
he's like, "I don't think so...
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I don't know about that...
" Caleb, tell us about that...
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you earned some money...
Yeah, I earned some money
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to go to Europe and then
I used some of that money
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to do the tithe and offering...
Wonderful... now was your trip
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to Europe... was
that a vacation with your
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family or what was
that? Just to have fun...
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Okay, all right... very
nice... so you earned some money
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to go on a trip... now
Viewer... this is another
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important point and one
of the things that I noticed
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about a lot of
kids now-a-days is that
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there's no real understanding
of the importance of earning
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the money... a lot
of times, you know,
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kids will say, "Could I have
some money to do this or that?"
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but you... are making
your children earn their money
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so that they
understand the value of work...
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and they understand
the value of money...
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How did you feel, Caleb,
about.. like what was it like
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having to earn that
money for your trip?
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Did it feel good? Yeah...
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Yeah... why... why do
you think it felt good
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because... some people who
need it... they can use it...
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so I was happy to
give it to them...
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Oh, so you gave
some money to people too?
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Yes... Caleb,
so not only are you
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learning to work for
money, but you're also learning
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the importance of giving...
did your dad tell you anything
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about how
important it is to give?
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Yes... What did he tell you?
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He told me that
whenever you give to God...
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you get more blessings
back... Oh... I love it...
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that is great and that's
so true that's so true...
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we're going to come back
to your earning potential
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and all that... because I
want to talk more about...
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what you want to do in
life but I also want to talk
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to Yulissa and find
out about you with money...
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How are you with
money... Yulissa?
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I make bracelets... Oh...
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and I make money too...
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and give offering...
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you give
offering... that's awesome...
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I love that... it's so
important to give an offering...
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because when we give
back, God just blesses us...
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what made you decide
to incorporate the money
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into their curriculum...
instead of just like... you know
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doing it kind of... haphazardly?
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I think that one
of the main issues
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that we as parents
are concerned about
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is what the media
is actually doing...
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that's... you know...
we don't have television
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in our home... we
allow them to watch 3ABN...
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we allow them to
watch controlled programs
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but we understand that
they change when they watch
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what the media
wants them to watch...
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they will tell you on television
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many of these
companies will say,
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"We can manipulate
the way that you act...
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we can get you to buy
what we want you to buy... "
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it's a game... so as we
limit their exposure to what's
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actually out
there... in the real world...
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we're find that
they're beginning to understand
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a little bit more... of how
they can control their destiny
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by doing other
things... and of course
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when you teach that
God's way is to give...
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and it's through that giving
that you receive the blessings
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that changes your
perspective about going out...
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and buying things...
one of my major support
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mechanisms is
Caleb... when I'm out shopping,
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"No, daddy, we don't
have that in our budget...
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that's too expensive...
maybe we can find it elsewhere"
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So, Caleb knows about a budget.
He understands and he puts it
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very clear that, you know,
if we say something that's not
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as accurate as we
think it's supposed to be...
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he will come back and tell us,
"No, no, no... that's not the
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way it's supposed to
be... let's plan for this
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and let's prepare so that we can
better do the right thing and
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use the money the way
we're supposed to... "
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That is so, so... great...
do you know what you want
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to be when you
grow up Caleb? Yeah...
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What? A Paleontologist...
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Oh... ho... ho... ho...
some people can't even say that
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let alone... study
that... that's awesome...
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tell us what a
Paleontologist does...
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Well, they go
places and look for bones
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and then they
give it to a museum...
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Awesome...
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so we earn some
money that way...
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Okay... I like it... I
like it What about you, Yulissa?
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I want to be... a doctor...
Oh, do you know what kind yet?
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A nurse... Okay, so
you want to be a nurse
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and kind of a
doctor... so maybe you could be
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a Doctor of Nursing...
you know they have that...
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so you could do that...
maybe... that's wonderful...
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so you want to kind of
take care of sick people...
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Yes... That's
nice... that's very nice
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you know, to me, one of
the things that I love to see
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are children who are
really being parented...
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taught... and
parented... not just kind of...
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sent out there to kind
of do their own thing...
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what a blessing that
is... how have you found
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that people receive... what
you're doing with your family?
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There's a variety of
different perspectives...
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I think, for the majority of
those that observe what we do,
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I think they
support it very well...
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some think...
it's not traditional...
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you're aware of
this right... because,
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"You don't let your
children watch... TV...
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isn't that.. aren't they limited
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aren't they
missing something in life?"
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Now, my wife gets
more of that than I do...
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but you still get that
feedback that it's part of what
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growing up is... Hmmm...
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and I think that the
Bible has a different approach
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than what traditional approaches
are... so we find there is
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some negative feedback but
for the most part, they say,
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"Wow, you're spending a lot of
time with your kids and that's
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that's very, very important...
we find... that statistics show
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we do some life skills
training for families...
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in the Los Angeles area and
one of the things I tell them is
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a father... there's
a project "Fatherhood"
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we say that fathers
are so very important
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to the daughter's
growth... Hmmm... Hmmm...
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they need to see how a
gentleman should act...
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so, my daughter and I
have this interesting joke that
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"If you see a
gentleman writhing in a car with
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the windows down
and the music blaring...
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and it's this type of music...
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what do you do?"
"Close your ears... "
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"Close your ears... don't
look, don't be a part of that...
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that's not an individual
that emulates what daddy thinks
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is right for a young
lady... so, we talk about it...
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it's an active conversation
and so that she knows now...
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as a part of... that
she develops and grows
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we hope that sticks with
her... for a long time...
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Daddy dates... they
go on daddy dates...
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Yeah... Oh! that's awesome...
you know, one of the things
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that I'm seeing in that...
as you watch the news and
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you listen to all the statistics
we know that fatherlessness
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is a huge issue
especially in the
00:14:34.36\00:14:36.98
African American
Community, it's a huge issue and
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the role of the mother is
critical... it's so important...
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but the absence of the father...
is also so very important and
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so very impactful...
and so, we find that,
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at the root of many of these
sociological issues that we have
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these anti-social
issues... that we find...
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is fatherlessness... and so,
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whenever I see a family
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that's intact... that
is doing things for God...
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that's teaching children...
their children the ways of God
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that's so important... and
it's so heartwarming for me
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I'm so thankful for
families like yours...
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that, you know...
because the Bible says,
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"Train up a child in
the way he should go...
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and when he is old... he
will not depart from it. "
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So you're placing
that foundation now...
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and that is
critical... what kinds of things
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do you want your
children to take with them
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into adulthood...
not just about money...
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but... just in general...
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what lessons are you feeling
that you need to give them?
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Well, we want...
I want my kids...
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our major goal is
to make it to heaven...
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Hmmm... and
that's our priority...
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and to teach other
people about Christ...
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sometimes... the other
day my son was crying...
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and I said,
"Why are you crying?"
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and he's like...
"Jesus is coming soon...
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and not a lot of
people know about him...
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and I want everybody to
be with me in heaven... "
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and so... that's our
major goal because...
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it doesn't matter that you
be a doctor or a paleontologist,
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and not make it to heaven...
that will be very sad...
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so our major goal is... heaven
to meet our Jesus and Lord...
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Oh, yes, Amen, that's
beautiful, that is beautiful...
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we'd like to say that she has
three kids... I'm one of them...
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Right... it's amazing
how she is able to manage me
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in such a wonderful
and easy-going way...
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You remember...
when... I bought that CD player
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and tried to hook it up
without you... seeing it...
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you remember that?
Tell us the story...
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tell us the story...
That was quite interesting
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I went out... it was an outing
I went to pick up something
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at the retail store and
there was this great deal...
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it was a DVD
player... I still remember...
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it's a DVD Player...
we still have it... right?
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and I saw it... it was on sale,
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it was a great
price but, you know,
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I hadn't discussed with her
about making this purchase...
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So you discuss...
with your spouse...
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before you make a purchase...
or make your purchase...
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I think it's
important to do that...
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it's important to share
with her... what's going on...
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so that she's aware of
what we're trying to accomplish
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is... our goals from a
financial standpoint...
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but... I remember bringing
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it home and leaving
it in the car because
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I needed the right
moment to sneak it in
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so she didn't see... Whoa...
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Yeah... I'm
being... frank with you
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I did that and a lot of people
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don't realize that... divorce
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and a lot of other issues
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stress issues are
related to financial issues...
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especially... if the
couple doesn't communicate...
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in that situation... she said,
00:17:52.98\00:17:54.32
"Did we agree to
buy that CD player?"
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you know... and
she called me out
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All of a sudden... I
felt like the child...
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because I'm trying
to figure out an excuse
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"Well, it was on
sale... " well, all it took was
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to pick up the phone
and call and discuss...
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and it was humorous
as I look at it because
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I was then the child...
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trying to figure a way out
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of this
acquisition and rationalize why
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I bought this DVD player...
which we really didn't need
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at the time... did
we... it was just on sale...
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So, let me ask
you guys something...
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just so that we can
know... so, how do you...
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because, of course,
we know that divorce
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is often at the top of the list
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money issues... at
the top of the list...
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so, how do you
negotiate through that...
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do you guys sit down and
work a budget out every month...
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or do you just... have a
set... how do you work it out?
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We talk at length
about budgeting...
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we talk at length about money...
as we work this non-profit...
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I think we work it as a team...
she's a wonderful translator
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she's working along with
me in the bilingual community
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as well as different non-profits
that we contract with
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so, the numbers game comes up,
the thing that I love about her
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is that she's very
modest... she's very humble...
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and I don't know how to...
I don't know if I can do that
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but in our conversations
and in the activities we do...
00:19:18.92\00:19:22.23
you see her
wisdom and her brilliance
00:19:22.26\00:19:24.99
so she talks at
length about how she shops
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where she goes for her
groceries how she saves funds
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from that standpoint...
which creates additional
00:19:31.24\00:19:34.05
forms of cash flow that we can
put elsewhere in our family...
00:19:34.08\00:19:37.97
she finds... a place...
a location to find gas...
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or fuel for the vehicles
at 10 cents less per gallon
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and that's a wonderful way
of helping the bottom line...
00:19:45.34\00:19:48.96
especially as
you run a non-profit
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and try to maintain the
integrity of the Organization.
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You know, it's so
great to see couples
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working
together... because many times
00:19:56.17\00:19:59.01
people are working against
each other... so to speak...
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and so it's such a blessing...
okay, so I have to ask you...
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because I love these stories
and I know our viewers do too...
00:20:06.10\00:20:09.25
How did you guys meet?
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Wow...
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that was a
00:20:14.04\00:20:16.32
wonderful
experience... I won her heart...
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I have to admit that...
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Well, come on... I love
it... I met her in the Church...
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her smile got me...
00:20:22.82\00:20:24.30
she was sitting in a pew
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and she had this beautiful smile
00:20:25.72\00:20:27.77
which she has...
right... there it is...
00:20:27.80\00:20:29.73
I can look into
those beautiful eyes..
00:20:29.76\00:20:31.65
I had to overcome... you know...
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I did actually ask a pastor...
00:20:33.26\00:20:34.71
I said, "Is it okay if I
pursue this young lady... "
00:20:34.74\00:20:37.96
and he said, "Well, if she's
not married... so go ahead... "
00:20:37.99\00:20:41.61
and that's... you know...
I started sending her notes
00:20:41.64\00:20:45.12
and talking to her
but it wasn't until...
00:20:45.15\00:20:48.34
she was actually living
for a short amount of time
00:20:48.38\00:20:52.24
in Guatemala that I had my
first 1,000 dollar phone bill...
00:20:52.28\00:20:57.17
Wow! Yes, it was one that...
00:20:57.20\00:21:00.29
I was
committed... I really was...
00:21:00.32\00:21:03.03
I loved talking to her...
we'd sit and talk about...
00:21:03.07\00:21:05.29
"Hey, guess what...
we may be far apart...
00:21:05.32\00:21:06.82
but we're under the same moon,
and those kinds of things...
00:21:06.86\00:21:10.01
Oh, romantic stuff... Yeah...
00:21:10.05\00:21:11.62
Now at this
point... when you were here
00:21:11.66\00:21:13.54
and she was in Guatemala...
how long into the relationship
00:21:13.57\00:21:16.57
was this...
well, not too much of a
00:21:16.60\00:21:18.96
relationship because
she was still actually...
00:21:19.00\00:21:21.00
before she went...
she was actually seeing
00:21:21.04\00:21:23.00
someone else... Oh!
00:21:23.04\00:21:24.70
So, the opportunity was there
00:21:24.74\00:21:26.40
as she was there...
to call... talk to her...
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to develop a friendship
and that was really nice...
00:21:28.68\00:21:30.77
then as she came
back... we were able to talk
00:21:30.80\00:21:33.19
and develop a relationship
from that standpoint...
00:21:33.23\00:21:35.92
she says that I won her
heart when we were in San Diego
00:21:35.96\00:21:39.58
at the Park... remember
that? She had sprained her ankle
00:21:39.62\00:21:43.21
and I carried her on our walk...
00:21:43.24\00:21:45.01
I carried her on our
walk... and I tied her shoes
00:21:45.05\00:21:47.47
when she wasn't able
to reach down and do it...
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I don't remember that...
00:21:49.94\00:21:51.10
but she remembers the
romance that... shoe-tying...
00:21:51.13\00:21:55.56
that's a valuable
thing... tie their shoes...
00:21:55.60\00:21:58.43
He opened the door
for me in the car...
00:21:58.46\00:22:01.62
and he still does...
so... So the things that he did
00:22:01.66\00:22:06.12
to get you... he
continues to do, to keep you
00:22:06.15\00:22:08.91
Well he doesn't
really tie my shoes anymore
00:22:08.94\00:22:11.66
unless I need it... but
00:22:11.70\00:22:14.09
but he still opens
the door for me and
00:22:14.13\00:22:16.82
he still goes out of his
way for me to be happy...
00:22:16.86\00:22:20.87
That is so
great... do you set goals...
00:22:20.91\00:22:24.28
as a couple besides the goals
that you have for your children
00:22:24.31\00:22:29.66
do you set personal
goals for the two of you?
00:22:29.70\00:22:32.69
Yes... You do?
00:22:32.72\00:22:34.21
It's through her...
that I have a very close
00:22:34.25\00:22:37.72
relationship with Christ...
Tell us more about that...
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I was a very proud
00:22:40.28\00:22:43.17
and egotistical person...
00:22:43.20\00:22:44.73
early on in life...
correct? just be honest...
00:22:44.77\00:22:47.24
I may have had a problem...
She does not want to say
00:22:47.27\00:22:50.01
anything bless her heart...
I'm going to counter that...
00:22:50.04\00:22:52.02
I was... I was
that type of person...
00:22:52.05\00:22:54.20
Were you? But she is a prayerful
00:22:54.24\00:22:56.39
young lady... she
prays... she has a wonderful
00:22:56.43\00:22:58.67
support network... my
mother-in-law is amazing
00:22:58.70\00:23:00.91
the only problem
that I have is that...
00:23:00.94\00:23:02.49
I have not yet
learned Spanish...
00:23:02.53\00:23:04.01
so I have that
hovering over my head
00:23:04.04\00:23:06.07
the kids are bilingual and
Cordell just hasn't figured out
00:23:06.10\00:23:09.93
how to learn the
language completely yet...
00:23:09.97\00:23:12.19
But, we have a
wonderful support network...
00:23:12.22\00:23:14.21
and her prayer... as in her
prayer life... is amazing...
00:23:14.24\00:23:17.76
our Program together has lent
00:23:17.79\00:23:20.93
many opportunities
00:23:20.96\00:23:22.23
to win souls to Christ...
we have, as an example,
00:23:22.27\00:23:24.17
we have a music
program... we have acquired...
00:23:24.20\00:23:27.13
some keyboards from a
major organ producer...
00:23:27.17\00:23:29.84
we have a Six-Keyboard
Lab in the Church...
00:23:29.87\00:23:32.02
up in front...
in the choir loft...
00:23:32.05\00:23:34.17
where we teach
Christian music...
00:23:34.20\00:23:36.02
And what our
viewers might not know...
00:23:36.06\00:23:38.71
about you Cordell is that
you are an accomplished pianist
00:23:38.74\00:23:42.65
A pianist... accomplished?
yes, accomplished pianist...
00:23:42.68\00:23:46.11
that's what I've heard... I
enjoy the keyboards very much.
00:23:46.15\00:23:49.54
And so you set the
keyboards up at the Church?
00:23:49.58\00:23:52.18
One of the
innovative outreach programs...
00:23:52.21\00:23:54.78
our pastor has allowed us
to do and I think the Board
00:23:54.81\00:23:59.03
is supporting it tremendously,
is the opportunity to talk
00:23:59.07\00:24:03.26
to the Community...
send out postcards...
00:24:03.30\00:24:04.85
let them know what's
going on at our Church...
00:24:04.89\00:24:06.38
that we have a Food
Bank Program that we have...
00:24:06.42\00:24:07.80
a free Music
Program... and we have people
00:24:07.83\00:24:11.10
coming to the Music Program
that has led to individuals
00:24:11.14\00:24:14.37
taking Bible Studies and
that's where my wife takes off,
00:24:14.40\00:24:17.60
she's giving Bible
Studies to several individuals
00:24:17.63\00:24:20.24
and we're find that
Christ is reaching others
00:24:20.27\00:24:22.81
through her ministry...
so, as we work together...
00:24:22.85\00:24:25.43
we've seen that
these projects are leading
00:24:25.47\00:24:28.26
through Christ's
help are leading to people
00:24:28.30\00:24:31.02
finding out more about what
a Seventh Day Adventist is...
00:24:31.05\00:24:34.15
That's tremendous...
so, when a community person
00:24:34.18\00:24:37.71
comes to the Church
for the Music Program...
00:24:37.74\00:24:41.20
are they hearing a concert...
are they getting music lessons?
00:24:41.24\00:24:44.78
They're getting music
lessons and at the end
00:24:44.82\00:24:47.90
of a certain period,
we provide a recital...
00:24:47.93\00:24:50.95
now, the wonderful
thing is... now we've expanded
00:24:50.98\00:24:54.23
to 3
locations... we have partners
00:24:54.27\00:24:55.98
in the Community...
we all came together...
00:24:56.02\00:24:58.00
we had 14 different
pieces that were played
00:24:58.04\00:24:59.99
and we were able to show
00:25:00.03\00:25:01.41
but the important part is not
necessarily the Music Program
00:25:01.44\00:25:07.80
what it is... is
that people are now
00:25:07.83\00:25:10.17
becoming comfortable with
coming to the Church facility...
00:25:10.21\00:25:12.79
And that is very important
because a lot of people
00:25:12.83\00:25:15.99
don't know about Adventism
so they think that we're weird
00:25:16.02\00:25:18.83
or a cult and that kind
of thing Actually, yes...
00:25:18.86\00:25:21.60
Tell us... they do think that...
00:25:21.64\00:25:23.56
actually one of the ladies that
one of the moms that Cordell
00:25:23.60\00:25:27.97
teaching 3 of the
kids... she came and
00:25:28.01\00:25:31.45
she's studying...
00:25:31.49\00:25:33.30
she's studying Cordell...
she's studying every person
00:25:33.33\00:25:35.22
there in the Church and it
wasn't after a year of coming...
00:25:35.26\00:25:41.40
that she asked me to
give her Bible Studies and
00:25:41.44\00:25:45.07
she started coming to Church...
she was going to a different
00:25:45.11\00:25:47.56
different Church... but
she found out that Sabbath
00:25:47.60\00:25:50.88
was the day of worship...
so she decided that...
00:25:50.91\00:25:54.16
she was going to join the Church
00:25:54.19\00:25:56.10
and it sort of...
God is so amazing because
00:25:56.14\00:25:59.60
she is a very spiritual woman...
and she's bringing a lot of the
00:25:59.64\00:26:04.43
people from her
Church to our Church...
00:26:04.46\00:26:07.70
So, she kind of studied you guys
to see if you were legitimate
00:26:07.73\00:26:14.00
Yes... and then
when she saw that
00:26:14.04\00:26:17.41
you were... now she's bringing..
she not only is coming
00:26:17.44\00:26:20.11
but she's
bringing others... Yes...
00:26:20.15\00:26:22.06
Isn't that what
witnessing is all about?
00:26:22.09\00:26:24.86
Isn't it... It
makes you grow spiritually
00:26:24.90\00:26:27.50
and it makes you want
to work more for Christ...
00:26:27.53\00:26:30.98
Yes... because
you see the miracles
00:26:31.01\00:26:33.59
that the Holy Spirit...
is doing in other people...
00:26:33.63\00:26:35.97
Yes... yes...
that's so beautiful...
00:26:36.00\00:26:39.08
in the one minute or
so that we have left...
00:26:39.12\00:26:41.86
is there anything that
you would like to share
00:26:41.90\00:26:44.61
with the viewers about having
00:26:44.64\00:26:47.05
a family life
that's centered in Christ?
00:26:47.08\00:26:50.04
30 seconds now...
00:26:50.08\00:26:51.60
Family life centered
in Christ is a life where
00:26:51.63\00:26:56.05
both of the partners that
lead out in the family are
00:26:56.08\00:27:01.18
in sync with their
relationship with Christ...
00:27:01.21\00:27:03.56
I was not there
at one point in time
00:27:03.60\00:27:06.59
but through her
prayers... she's brought me
00:27:06.62\00:27:08.27
to a place
now... that I understand
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that I don't ask
for things anymore...
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I ask God to fill
me with His Spirit
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and lead me to what
He wants to accomplish
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and I'm blessed...
to be doing this...
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on Take it to the Bank...
because Taking it to the Bank
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will not only help someone
develop their own personal
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relationship with Christ...
but it will also help them give
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so that others can gain too...
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Thank you... thank you so much
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for all that you guys are doing,
for the cause of Christ...
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I'm so proud to know you
and blessed to know you...
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May God continue to
bless you in your ministry...
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and in your family...
May God bless you too...
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Wow! wasn't that
good? I'm always thrilled
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to see families that work...
the ones that pray together
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can stay together...
Well, that's the end of our
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Program... the
time goes by so fast...
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Thanks for tuning
in... Join us next time...
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It just wouldn't be
the same without you...
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