Stay tuned to meet a woman
who was abused, homeless at 13
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and illiterate until
she was 23-years-old...
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Find out how God has
transformed her life...
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My name is Yvonne Lewis,
and you're watching Urban Report
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Hello and
welcome to Urban Report
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my guest today is Cheri Peters
founder of True Step Ministries
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author, speaker and host of
Celebrating Life in Recovery
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on 3abn and Dare to Dream...
Welcome my precious friend...
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You know what... we
have not got to hang out
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together... this is
like the first time...
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I know, I know, I'm so excited
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that you're here because I
was looking forward to just
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spending some time with
you, I know our viewers already
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watch you on
Celebrating Life in Recovery
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but some might not know
you, so, I want to kind of
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let them know who you
are, what you're doing,
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I got to tell you this,
so, like about a year or two
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before I actually met
you... I was watching you
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on Celebrating Life in
Recovery and I'm saying,
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"Man, this woman
is so transparent,
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is so on fire for God,
she just exudes God's love,
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and I said, "I have to
meet you" and then when the Lord
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brought me here... it's like...
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you had to be
on Dare to Dream...
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because what you're
doing is so appropriate for our
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Dare to Dream audience...
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Well, when you say that,
what's really interesting is
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you talked about coming
from... I mean, my parents were
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just lost in their own stuff...
they had parents that were
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lost in addictions... they
got lost in that kind of stuff,
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my dad was sexually
twisted and was molesting us...
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they were both kids, you
know, and I was on the streets
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by the time I was young,
but I remember, you know,
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even in their addiction,
if you liked something,
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if I had a toy and I
liked it, it was like...
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they'd get agitated
and I would lose that toy,
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so, I stopped daring
to dream about anything
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Hmmmm... ... and
so, in my recovery
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at 23... I meet
God and God shows me...
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not only who am I...
after my.. coming out of my drug
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addiction because by
this time, I am illiterate
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but I'm strung out on heroin,
I've been 10 years on the street
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I've seen stuff that would
just make you want to throw up,
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and He shows me who I am
the day after resurrection...
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Whoa... ... not
who am I after the day
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that I stopped using heroin...
the day after resurrection...
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who are you?
Unpack that for us...
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Well, you know, just
like... what I saw was this
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incredibly healthy,
innocent, "whole" person,
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that is myself... but is not
close to anything I ever knew,
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you know... when
you... I love this network...
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Dare to Dream...
because you talk to people
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that are really lost sometimes,
in some hard places...
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they're raising kids
and they're financially
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are going from
paycheck to paycheck...
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or they're struggling
with all that kind of stuff
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or single parents...
all of that kind of stuff
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but you know...
it's just like...
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who are we after
all this is over...
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you know, who are we
after all that, you know,
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and I'm thinking... I
just wept and I thought,
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"If you can get me there... if
you can literally get me there,
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I will do
whatever... " so I'm standing up
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not to just stop using heroin,
I'm standing up to find out
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how do I get to the
day after resurrection...
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How do I get
there? and God says,
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"You allow me to love you...
you allow me to transform you,
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you allow me to show
you what your talents are...
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and I don't care who you
are, but you have talents
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that you never even explored...
the enemy has lied to you
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sometimes from the
womb, all of your life...
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you've got this lie...
and this society that may be
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even lying to you because of
your circumstances and God says,
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"Can you step away from the
lies just briefly... and let me
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show you how cool you are,
how incredible you are... "
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How amazing is God!
because... you came from a
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situation of rejection
and so you needed to feel this
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enveloping love and God showed
you who you are at your essence
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because you were
rejected by your parents...
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but so loved and accepted by Him
and He's showing you who you are
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and not only who you are...
but the plan that He had for you
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Absolutely...
Your divine destiny...
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which is what we talk about
on this network all the time
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where He wanted you to be
and the things that you've
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accomplished... by
the grace of God...
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Cheri, did you ever
think that God would use you
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to host a
program, to write books,
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to do all of these things...
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that God has done for
you... He's shown you...
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who you are... at your essence.
And Yvonne... and some of your
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viewers are going
to actually get this...
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but even in the
writing of the book...
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someone hears my story
and my recovery and they said,
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"We want to
write that as a book"
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and they assigned a writer to me
I mean, I was illiterate at 23,
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I had to learn to
read... went back to school...
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did all that kind of stuff...
but, you know, I'm not a writer,
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and so, they assigned
this writer who is so normal
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she's been
4th-generation Adventist...
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she's vegan... vegetarian...
and I'm thinking...
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my sister has a porn
site and is a stripper
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and my other
sister is a meth addict...
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my dad dies in a crack house,
I was strung out on heroin
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how are you going
to write this story?
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and I asked her, I
said, "Have you ever... "
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you know... like...
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"Have you ever done
anything" and I mean,
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that's a ridiculous question
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but, "Have you ever done
anything?" and so I called my
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sister in LA and I say,
"You know what... I'm going to
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send this woman over to
you... can you kind of take her
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to work and just
walk around with her...
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and she's doing a drug
deal, she's stripping at a club,
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and I'm sending this writer
that's been assigned to me
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by a publishing
house... to a strip club...
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and I'm saying,
"Just hang out... "
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and my sister meets her
at the airport and says,
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"What do I do with her again..
" "Just hang out with her... "
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and even when she came back,
I realized, you can't write this
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so I had to let her go...
and then she wasn't real happy
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with me... "I just
have to let you go... "
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and I'm crying to
God... I'm saying,
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"God, I just fired the
writer... and I'm not a writer
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and I know that... "
Wasn't she horrified though
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when she was hanging
out with your sister?
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No, she just didn't get
it... she couldn't relate at all
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and she was so out of
the thing... and I said,
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"How do you write this story
and not write it as if you're
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horrified... or not
write it in such self-pity...
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don't pity me...
just help me to stand... "
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you know what I
mean... Yes... yes...
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and a lot of people
just yell like that...
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"Don't you look at me like
that, I just need to stand... "
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Yeah... "I just need to learn...
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and I don't want you to
teach you... have you teach me
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as if I'm ignorant... teach me
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with respect... " Yeah...
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"You know, I really
want to look at that stuff. "
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So, I let her go and I'm crying
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to God and I'm
praying, and I said,
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"God, I just fired the writer"
and I hear the Holy Spirit say,
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"You know what... I can
help you write that... "
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and I'm even crying
more, I'm not a writer...
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I couldn't even... I mean...
I was illiterate at 23...
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I mean... this is
ridiculous for me to think that
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and I hear God
saying, "You know what Cheri,
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I've written a book
before and it's doing okay... "
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And I thought... shut
up... how cool is that?
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I love that... I love that...
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This is nothing new for God
right... "I think I got this. "
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And being able to
say... even in our ignorance
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and to anybody that's
listening please get this,
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when you feel like
you have nothing to offer
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God says... "Please don't even
give that to me... I am God...
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I spoke the world into existence
and I can speak whatever
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into your life... I
know you baby girl... "
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you know what I mean...
Yes... yes... yes... yes
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...and so for me... it
was... coming from the lifestyle
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I came from... and
even looking back now...
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I look back at my mom and my
dad I still have more compassion
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on them than I did in the
first part of my recovery...
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because they didn't
have what they needed
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in order to be loved, I
mean, so, now I'm looking at
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God and saying, "I so...
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I want to kiss you on the face,
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I want to thank you for
every time you woke me up
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and showed me something
else, gave me the courage
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to dare to dream... gave
me the courage to stand up,
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gave me the courage to allow
people to speak into my life
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so that I'm not
saddled with the lies that were
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generationally old... "
And, you know, we need to...
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we need to focus on that
just for a minute because
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so many of our viewers
feel that they are so encumbered
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by their circumstances, you
know, my family didn't love me,
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my family rejected me... my
family abused me... whatever,
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and you're saying
that God gave you the
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spirit of forgiveness... a way
to look at them with compassion,
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that you didn't have before...
because you were in it...
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you were in the throes of
it, and God can do that...
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He can give us that forgiveness,
He can give us that compassion,
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so that we can forgive
those who really hurt us...
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Not only... you can forgive...
but you literally can step back
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in... and ask
them to forgive you...
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my mom... every time...
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as a 3-year-old girl,
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even younger...
every time I needed her to
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love me or touch
me... or hold me...
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she's got so guilt-ridden...
so angry with you
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so much... that
because of her shame
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of not knowing how to do that,
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not knowing how to be there...
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that she withdrew
more and more and more...
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when God showed me that...
I felt like... what a cycle...
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so the devil strategically
came against her...
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even when I just
wanted to be kissed...
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so, I called her one day
and I said, "Forgive me for that
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because I didn't
know... " and she's like,
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"What... to
forgive you... " you know,
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and it was just a cool place
to be... is that... you know,
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I no longer am demanding
someone to make it right...
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God is making it right...
I'm releasing the people
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around me and all the
strategies that the devil had
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to ruin my
life... just fall away...
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Yes, because when you forgive
and when you release that
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it's so healing to you...
it's not just what happens
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for them... it
also helps to heal you
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and God is
releasing you from the pain...
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and from all of
that you went through...
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He's releasing you from
it... It's an amazing thing...
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So not only
healing psychologically
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Why... ...
because I'm so damaged,
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I'm so twisted... I'm flaky...
I've got attachment disorder,
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bonding disorder... those
that really heavy issues...
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and yet all of a
sudden... I'm forgiving,
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and I feel like...
somehow... I'm an inch taller...
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my bones feel
healthier, I laugh deeper,
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do you know what I mean,
and all those kinds of things
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You feel joy... It's huge...
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"The joy of the
Lord is our strength... "
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and when we hold
on to bitterness...
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even if it's... you
know... I have the right...
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my dad molested me from
the time I was 3-months-old,
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I have the right to
be angry with someone...
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but God said, "You know what...
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I paid the debt for
you... and all those things
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you ever did... pay His
debt... and release him...
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and then surrender
his debt to me... "
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Hmmmmm... ... and
all of the strongholds,
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all of the
strategies, all of the stuff...
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that you're
worthless, you're no good...
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the world is not going
to be trusted, I'm angry,
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I'm homicidal, suicidal,
I'm all of those kinds of things
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will drop away...
because the enemy will have
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no more power in your life...
and I thought... really...
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you know... and I
couldn't do that...
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how do I do
that... how do I look at
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my dad... who was
so sexually twisted...
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how do I look at
it and forgive him...
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and at one point...
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I had this little baby shoes...
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you know those little
white ones with the little...
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Yeah... yeah... yeah ...
that they bronze later on...
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Yeah... ... so the
little baby shoe...
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and I heard the Holy Spirit say,
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"I want you to
look at this shoe... "
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and I don't know how I
got it... it was my dad's...
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I don't know how I got
it, so I look at this shoe
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and then He
said, "at one point...
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your dad was a baby... he
wasn't molesting anybody...
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and so... say
right now... out loud...
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"I forgive my dad as a baby...
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before whatever
happened to him, in his life...
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before all of that... to
where he couldn't even be
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appropriate with
his own children... "
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and so I forgive
him in that state...
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I couldn't forgive
him as an adult male
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because my injury was so intense
so I forgave him as a baby
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later on... God brought it
all the way up to the sadness
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of when we're so twisted...
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that we never have
the joy of families...
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we never have the joy
of raising our own kids
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we're off doing
all of this crazy stuff
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like on-line porn... we're
doing all this kind of stuff
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now... I can
forgive him later on...
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but I couldn't start
there, my mom... I saw a picture
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of her as a
3-year-old girl, on a swing...
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forgive her as that little
girl, look how cute she was...
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and she could never even
hold you... what happened?
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and so... being
able to release them
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at the time that I
could release them...
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and then up to an adult
woman, and I can say to my mom,
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"I forgive you...
" and somebody says,
00:12:28.67\00:12:30.46
"Does she love you
right now?" No, she doesn't...
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and I never had her
look at me with love...
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in fact... the last time
I saw her... she was so...
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she doesn't like Christians
either... and I became one...
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I think she'd rather me be
a stripper or a heroin addict,
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you know... but now
that I'm a Christian...
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that's even worse for
her... and so, you know,
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I don't have that
but man... I love her...
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and I have forgiven her...
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and I pray someday...
that on the streets of gold
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she will turn
around and hug me, Yes...
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...you know... it
may not be until then...
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but I can wait...
because I've see myself today
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after resurrection...
Yes, and look at how
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God took you from the place
where you could accept her...
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as a baby... you
know... babies are harmless...
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babies are... you know...
it's an innocuous situation...
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so God brought you there... and
took you a little bit further
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at your pace... God
takes us... where we are...
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and grows us... as He
can... because He knows...
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what you
need... where you are...
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and He knows what you need
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to get you from
Point A to Point B
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Amen... ... and
He's so faithful...
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He's so
faithful... in each of us
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and I would love to... you
know, sometimes I'd love to
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like jump out and get on
the other side of the cameras
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and grab whoever is viewing
and say, "Every single one of us
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God delights in our recovery,
delights in our healing,
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and wants to
restore us to sanity
00:13:54.72\00:13:57.09
wants to stand us up...
and help us to step away
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from all the
lies... wants that...
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more than anything
else... and will patiently wait
00:14:01.96\00:14:05.42
until we can
receive and accept that...
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and He doesn't care...
I think He cares that it's
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our last breath... He said,
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"Even if it's your last
breath, I'll wait for you... "
00:14:11.77\00:14:15.00
That's right... that's
right, so, God took you
00:14:15.04\00:14:18.14
from this place of
brokenness... brought you into
00:14:18.18\00:14:21.22
a place of healing... and
now... you're in... ministry
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that is all around the world...
tell us about what you're doing
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in Ministry... Well, I
got to say... you know,
00:14:28.38\00:14:30.12
I've been... I've worked
with heroin addicts in Russia...
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I've worked with prostitutes
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in the Red Light
Districts in Thailand...
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I've worked with kids
being mutilated in Kenya
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and sold into marriage young...
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you know, it's like...
He's taking us all over
00:14:42.29\00:14:44.41
because the human
condition... Yes...
00:14:44.45\00:14:46.90
is that... the devil
is tenaciously after us
00:14:46.94\00:14:49.26
and we are being
destroyed on every level...
00:14:49.30\00:14:51.59
so you know, God is just
saying, you know... I want to...
00:14:51.63\00:14:54.19
you know... work
in... like you got this
00:14:54.22\00:14:57.29
the Urban Ministries...
it's like... I don't know why
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people... I was on the streets
of South Gate, California
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Lynwood... you
know... in areas... Oakland...
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in areas that were
really intense areas...
00:15:06.86\00:15:09.39
and I don't think people
realize that the cultural damage
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that happens in those...
so He sends us all over...
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we do prison, rehab ministries,
recovery ministries in other
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countries... all of
that kind of stuff...
00:15:20.29\00:15:22.01
and then I look
at my own Church...
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and I pray that nobody
gets offended with this...
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but one of the things that
we lack in the Church building
00:15:27.41\00:15:30.38
because we have 20 million
members in the denomination
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as Seventh-day
Adventist denomination...
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20 million members...
and somebody can stumble
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into an Adventist Church...
and not be able to say out loud,
00:15:38.45\00:15:41.54
that I've been through a divorce
so, now, I'm a drug addict
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stumbling in... and I
know that you can't say
00:15:44.66\00:15:46.71
you're divorced... and so I'm so
not saying that I'm an addict...
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you know... and then
I go to potluck and say,
00:15:49.39\00:15:51.61
"I don't like brown rice...
" and I feel guilty on that...
00:15:51.64\00:15:54.00
you know... so it's
like... being able to say...
00:15:54.03\00:15:57.24
"Is there something we
could do to bridge that... "
00:15:57.86\00:16:00.26
is there something we can
do when people are coming in
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to actually
allow them to come in
00:16:03.31\00:16:06.33
and not be ashamed... of
what they've been rescued from
00:16:06.36\00:16:08.65
not be ashamed
of their journey...
00:16:08.68\00:16:10.51
being able to sit
down and say out loud...
00:16:10.54\00:16:12.73
"Thank you so much
because I need a safe place... "
00:16:12.76\00:16:15.40
and so we ended up
writing the program...
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and the first thing...
I got to show you this...
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that the first thing
that we ended up doing
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is... Steps to Christ was one of
the books that changed my life,
00:16:20.91\00:16:24.74
but it was really
tough for me to open it up...
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and the language was a barrier,
because it was written in a...
00:16:27.53\00:16:31.98
in a style that I
wasn't used to and I'm more...
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not more "street ignorant"
but I'm just... more kind of
00:16:36.71\00:16:41.89
recovery or street or
whatever... and so I...
00:16:41.92\00:16:44.68
Yeah, you wanted more of the
common language versus something
00:16:44.71\00:16:48.36
that's kind of archaic...
something that's kind of
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"old time"... you wanted the
more contemporary kind of speech
00:16:50.44\00:16:54.07
Absolutely... so
you know what I did?
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What? I grabbed 3
addicts that I loved
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from different kind of
addictions and then I grabbed
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four writers that I
loved... and all of us sat down
00:17:01.97\00:17:05.01
and went through every
page of Steps to Christ...
00:17:05.04\00:17:08.05
and did a
recovery edition to that...
00:17:08.14\00:17:10.30
so we brought it up
to "recovery language"
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weaved the 12-step stuff
in, when... instead of saying,
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"God is love" we said,
"God is crazy about you...
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delights in your recovery,
00:17:17.62\00:17:18.80
can restore you to sanity...
loves you more than a mother
00:17:18.83\00:17:23.25
loves her rebellious child... "
you know, because you know what
00:17:23.28\00:17:26.57
a mother... you know... your
child is acting out being crazy
00:17:26.60\00:17:29.85
are you going to
forget that child?
00:17:29.89\00:17:31.83
No... no... No...
you're going to call them
00:17:31.86\00:17:34.58
you're going to say,
"Come home, let me make dinner"
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all of that kind of stuff...
and so, God is like that with us
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Yeah... "Come
home" you know, please...
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I love that...
God is crazy about you
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if more people
really internalized how much
00:17:44.87\00:17:48.54
God really loves us... I mean...
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so much healing would
take place but they...
00:17:51.53\00:17:54.31
so many people
feel like... God...
00:17:54.35\00:17:56.10
"Well, I've done
too many bad things"
00:17:56.14\00:17:57.86
I've had people
tell me, "Well, I've done
00:17:57.89\00:17:59.09
too many bad things,
God can't forgive me. "
00:17:59.12\00:18:00.98
No, in the Bible God forgave
00:18:01.02\00:18:03.28
murderers and all kinds
of people that were doing
00:18:03.32\00:18:05.99
the worst things possible...
God loves us and this book...
00:18:06.02\00:18:10.23
it's just so fabulous because
you're talking about how crazy
00:18:10.26\00:18:14.44
God is... about us...
What to do with doubt...
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What does repentance mean...
all of that kind of stuff...
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and you know what's
really interesting to me
00:18:19.63\00:18:22.18
about all of that kind of stuff
as far as God's love towards us
00:18:22.22\00:18:27.65
and His feelings
towards us is that He says
00:18:27.69\00:18:30.45
that I can't let go of you...
I can't turn away from you...
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I can't do any of that kind
of stuff... that I am love...
00:18:34.13\00:18:36.60
and so, one day, I'm sitting
there thinking of all of the
00:18:36.63\00:18:38.47
stuff I'm doing... I'm
still stumbling around,
00:18:38.50\00:18:40.82
I'm still manipulating,
you know, I wanted a computer
00:18:40.85\00:18:43.65
from my husband and so I
seduced into the computer
00:18:43.69\00:18:46.45
and got the
money... and God said,
00:18:46.49\00:18:47.98
"Is that a good thing to do
for him... you're treating him
00:18:48.01\00:18:50.41
like a trick... "
you know what I mean...
00:18:50.45\00:18:51.94
I want to say
that in a nice way...
00:18:51.97\00:18:54.68
but God is just
nailing me about that...
00:18:54.71\00:18:56.40
so, I feel shame... and
so, now, I'm sitting there
00:18:56.44\00:18:59.88
like
repenting... and I said, "God"
00:18:59.91\00:19:01.79
I felt like He had a
checklist and He's like checking
00:19:01.83\00:19:04.93
everything that I
do wrong, and He said,
00:19:04.97\00:19:06.46
"Now, let me tell
you how it really is... "
00:19:06.50\00:19:08.50
and I really feel
like He gave me this image
00:19:08.53\00:19:10.50
is that... "I
don't check anything...
00:19:10.53\00:19:13.39
until you actually just
feel loved and safe enough
00:19:13.43\00:19:17.12
to not play the
people around you... "
00:19:17.15\00:19:18.76
and then... all
of heaven wakes up...
00:19:18.79\00:19:20.32
we definitely checked that...
but we don't have to check
00:19:20.36\00:19:22.93
too much because you
don't get it very often...
00:19:22.96\00:19:24.86
do you know what I
mean... and so it's like
00:19:24.89\00:19:26.76
He doesn't check
our bad behavior...
00:19:26.79\00:19:28.90
He checks the
behavior that actually is
00:19:28.93\00:19:30.97
loving and is connected
with Him and they get it...
00:19:31.00\00:19:34.28
and He said,
"That's the only thing
00:19:34.31\00:19:35.72
I'm looking for you guys...
to get it... so that your
00:19:35.76\00:19:38.18
behaviors change naturally...
because you feel safe. "
00:19:38.22\00:19:40.61
Yeah... .. and we
end up writing that...
00:19:40.65\00:19:42.05
we did the book Steps to
Christ, and so we did the book
00:19:42.08\00:19:44.75
Steps to Christ and so
I'm praying and I'm so excited
00:19:44.79\00:19:47.67
about that... we actually
put it into a 14-week program
00:19:47.71\00:19:50.56
for the Church... and
so... let me just show you..
00:19:50.60\00:19:53.01
Tell us about
that... the program...
00:19:53.04\00:19:54.22
The Program is a 14-week program
with participating guides
00:19:54.25\00:19:57.71
and all of that kind of
stuff... and it's 14 weeks
00:19:57.75\00:19:59.83
with Steps to
Christ... 28 video clips
00:19:59.86\00:20:02.20
so that you're
seeing real testimonies
00:20:02.24\00:20:04.47
all that kind of stuff...
00:20:04.51\00:20:05.55
and all in Recovery
Language all with a really...
00:20:05.59\00:20:09.21
the only goal is to help you
to connect with each other...
00:20:09.25\00:20:12.68
connect with God
and in friendship...
00:20:12.71\00:20:14.94
and not sink away in shame...
00:20:14.97\00:20:16.63
you know... just come out...
00:20:16.67\00:20:18.26
Yes... this is so important
because so many of our churches
00:20:18.29\00:20:21.26
in fact, I want to
say... most of our churches
00:20:21.30\00:20:23.74
have no clue about
00:20:23.77\00:20:25.37
how to deal with...
00:20:25.41\00:20:26.94
someone comes in
off the street...
00:20:26.97\00:20:28.87
and they're an
addict... and they're...
00:20:28.91\00:20:30.54
I see this in the
churches in the inner cities...
00:20:30.58\00:20:32.45
What do I do? What if
they're just divorced,
00:20:32.49\00:20:34.30
what if they're a workaholic
what if they're just somebody
00:20:34.33\00:20:36.87
that's angry... we
don't know how to deal
00:20:36.91\00:20:38.11
with any of that...
so... and I mean that...
00:20:38.14\00:20:40.63
I'm not meaning
that in a bad way...
00:20:40.66\00:20:42.45
So, what we did was... we
tried to put a program together
00:20:42.49\00:20:45.04
...some tools... what
we tried to do then...
00:20:45.07\00:20:47.80
is... let's make
it really simple...
00:20:47.83\00:20:49.51
all of the books
that you see right here...
00:20:49.55\00:20:51.20
are on this card... and
you stick it into your computer
00:20:51.24\00:20:53.75
and have it on the computer...
so, we tried to make it
00:20:53.78\00:20:56.26
very simple...
and then... one day...
00:20:56.30\00:20:58.28
I'm literally praying,
right... and I have a program
00:20:58.32\00:21:02.91
that I said... is
let's do a children's program
00:21:02.95\00:21:05.55
so that if the
families have kids
00:21:05.59\00:21:07.37
they can bring the
kids and it goes into the
00:21:07.41\00:21:09.14
children's
program... but God says,
00:21:09.17\00:21:10.96
"But what are you
going to do for them?"
00:21:10.99\00:21:12.65
and I'm thinking...
you know... I'm thinking
00:21:12.68\00:21:14.30
I'm hearing the
Holy Spirit say that
00:21:14.33\00:21:15.66
but I'm thinking... "I
don't know what you mean"
00:21:15.69\00:21:17.39
And He says,
"Well, why don't you do a
00:21:17.42\00:21:19.38
Steps to Christ
version for a 5-year-old... "
00:21:19.41\00:21:22.14
and I'm thinking...
"What does that mean...
00:21:22.18\00:21:24.84
for a 5-year-old... "
"Well, how about a 5-year-old
00:21:24.87\00:21:27.10
that's been
dealing with bullying...
00:21:27.14\00:21:28.26
what about a 5-year-old
that has a broken home...
00:21:28.30\00:21:30.79
what about a 5-year-old
being raised by a single parent,
00:21:30.82\00:21:33.27
or dealt with molest...
is how can you honestly
00:21:33.30\00:21:35.74
talk to them about that kind of
stuff... blaming each other...
00:21:35.78\00:21:39.24
fighting... all of
that kind of stuff...
00:21:39.27\00:21:41.62
so, I got this whole vision
and you know how He does this
00:21:41.65\00:21:45.85
Yvonne, you just
get this whole vision...
00:21:45.88\00:21:47.25
Yes... ... this whole vision...
00:21:47.29\00:21:48.42
and it's a book
called Skips to Jesus...
00:21:48.46\00:21:50.68
so instead of Steps to
Christ... Skips to Jesus...
00:21:50.72\00:21:54.44
and the entire book is
about God... teaching kids...
00:21:54.47\00:21:58.16
the basic concepts
of Steps to Christ...
00:21:58.19\00:22:00.15
so the 14-week program
now... is for adults...
00:22:00.19\00:22:02.97
14-week program for kids...
and now I have to find Jesus
00:22:03.01\00:22:06.57
right... and so I'm
looking for Jesus in Wal-Mart...
00:22:06.60\00:22:08.96
as I'm driving down the street
and I'm looking for somebody
00:22:08.99\00:22:11.78
that looks Middle-Eastern...
they can play the part...
00:22:11.82\00:22:14.52
and I'm getting my computer
fixed at the Mac store...
00:22:14.55\00:22:17.67
and I look up... and this
guy it's just as beautiful...
00:22:17.70\00:22:20.68
I thought Middle-Eastern
guy, beard... dark hair...
00:22:20.72\00:22:23.66
and just looks like
the Holy Spirit is shining
00:22:23.69\00:22:26.32
off of him... and I said to him,
00:22:26.35\00:22:27.99
"Hey, I'm looking for
Jesus" and he said, "What?"
00:22:28.02\00:22:32.75
and I told him
about the whole project
00:22:32.79\00:22:34.66
and so, he's
Christian... so I said...
00:22:34.70\00:22:36.53
"Would you play
the part for us?"
00:22:36.57\00:22:38.07
and he said...
"Can I pray about that?"
00:22:38.11\00:22:40.29
and I said,
"Jesus would so say that"
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so... "Yes" so we end up...
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I bring a seamstress...
just in case he says, "Yes"
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we're walking in
front of the Mac store
00:22:48.42\00:22:50.01
we're checking out his size,
so in case we make his clothes
00:22:50.04\00:22:53.60
we end up hiring
him... bringing him in
00:22:53.64\00:22:55.77
bringing him in
with a photographer...
00:22:55.81\00:22:57.76
we're doing all the
shots with the kids...
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for the book Skips to
Jesus, and he tells me...
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he looks at me and he
said, "You know, the only reason
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I said 'Yes' is for
one... you're a Christian...
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one... you're a Seventh-day
Adventist Christian... "
00:23:07.46\00:23:09.29
and I thought...
"Well, how did you know that?"
00:23:09.32\00:23:11.12
he said, "Well, I
went to your website"
00:23:11.16\00:23:12.32
and I said, "What made
you say 'yes' about that...?"
00:23:12.35\00:23:14.64
and he said, "I was a
starving kid in India,
00:23:14.67\00:23:17.61
and I was picked up by
the Adventist School System
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and they saved my
life. " Praise the Lord...
00:23:20.42\00:23:23.19
and I thought, "shut
up"... so God just brings us
00:23:23.22\00:23:25.99
full circle... I
think it's about us
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and our
projects... and it's about this
00:23:28.15\00:23:30.27
incredible guy in his
journey... so, you know,
00:23:30.31\00:23:32.39
even as we're
putting this together...
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for our church of
20 million people...
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equipping them to
start honestly talking about
00:23:36.39\00:23:39.42
"stuff" you know...
so that we can go out
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and minister to 7
billion people on the planet...
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more effectively... you know,
00:23:46.98\00:23:49.31
God is healing people
even in the making of it...
00:23:49.34\00:23:53.46
in the putting
together of that...
00:23:53.50\00:23:54.68
so now you got this
homeless, illiterate, flaky,
00:23:54.72\00:23:58.69
ADD kid... that God
just gives it the privilege
00:23:58.73\00:24:02.67
of putting together
something so cool...
00:24:02.70\00:24:05.38
and I am thinking...
"How can we not kiss you
00:24:05.41\00:24:08.14
on the face... " how
can we not trust the fact
00:24:08.17\00:24:10.40
Jeremiah 29:11 says, "I
have a future and a plan
00:24:10.43\00:24:13.68
for you... not to bring evil
into your life... but good. "
00:24:13.72\00:24:17.08
Absolutely... and
look at what He's done...
00:24:17.12\00:24:20.01
again... it's a
system... God doesn't do things
00:24:20.05\00:24:22.91
haphazardly...
you have a system...
00:24:22.94\00:24:25.03
from childhood... Skips to Jesus
all the way through adulthood...
00:24:25.07\00:24:30.19
and it's just not about drugs
00:24:30.23\00:24:31.61
it's about recovery from any
kind of addiction... correct...
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Yeah, blame... fear... divorce..
dysfunctional home stuff, molest
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and then... when they learn...
for this 14-week program
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what's really fun about it...
is when the child leaves their
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night in the
program, and the adult leaves
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they study the
same thing... Oh...
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...and so the child can say,
"Mom, man! did you study tonight
00:24:54.30\00:24:57.74
about prayer?" "I did... "
00:24:57.77\00:24:59.53
know what they
told me in my class...
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so now you start to do
that dialog with parent to child
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and sometimes... people
don't know how to do that
00:25:06.53\00:25:09.06
they step into recovery...
"and I really don't know
00:25:09.10\00:25:10.84
how to talk to my
kids about normal stuff
00:25:10.87\00:25:13.03
or spiritual things... "
and we've done it in a way
00:25:13.07\00:25:16.20
that it's just really natural...
00:25:16.24\00:25:17.68
and we've done it... I
hope... for everyone...
00:25:17.71\00:25:21.67
you know what I
mean... is that...
00:25:21.70\00:25:23.81
to me... I was a kid...
living in... in a drug house...
00:25:23.84\00:25:29.94
in a dysfunctional
home... all that kind of stuff
00:25:29.97\00:25:32.15
and there are kids
that are not from that...
00:25:32.18\00:25:34.43
they're in a more normal
home, or they're in a more
00:25:34.47\00:25:36.40
affluent home...
but it doesn't matter
00:25:36.43\00:25:38.37
in this kind of a program
because we all have been hit
00:25:38.40\00:25:40.79
with stuff... we're at the
end of the great controversy
00:25:40.82\00:25:43.17
none of us escape...
one of my best friends...
00:25:43.20\00:25:46.58
lost her son to SIDS...
so her thing is not drugs
00:25:46.61\00:25:50.35
it's grief... but grief
is as destructive as drugs...
00:25:50.39\00:25:54.09
and so the
Program works for that...
00:25:54.13\00:25:55.66
let's talk out loud
about what our issues are...
00:25:55.70\00:25:58.37
and start to love each other.
That's tremendous... you know,
00:25:58.41\00:26:01.45
you can... the
children and their parents
00:26:01.49\00:26:04.76
can build memories with this...
00:26:04.80\00:26:06.49
this is a memory builder...
this is a bridge builder
00:26:06.53\00:26:09.76
between the
children and the parents...
00:26:09.79\00:26:12.53
you know... where they can
talk about the same lessons...
00:26:12.57\00:26:15.05
this is so healthy...
it's building families...
00:26:15.09\00:26:18.12
helping to repair families...
this is tremendous...
00:26:18.16\00:26:21.16
God is using you
in a tremendous way...
00:26:21.19\00:26:23.63
...and once we start repairing
families in that way...
00:26:23.66\00:26:27.08
we get our lives back...
Yes... yes we do... we do...
00:26:27.12\00:26:30.50
What would you say,
what do you want to say
00:26:30.54\00:26:33.23
to the viewer who is
struggling with something
00:26:33.26\00:26:35.89
in like 30 seconds... what
would you say to the viewer
00:26:35.92\00:26:39.07
who is struggling
with an issue like this?
00:26:39.10\00:26:40.79
I would say, "Say out
loud 'help... God... help'"
00:26:40.82\00:26:44.70
and then connect with somebody
that actually has walked
00:26:44.73\00:26:47.67
a little further along than
you, because you can't do this
00:26:47.70\00:26:50.61
by yourself...
we're not meant to do it
00:26:50.64\00:26:52.57
by ourselves... and find
somebody that you can trust...
00:26:52.61\00:26:55.23
that will give you
good spiritual advice...
00:26:55.27\00:26:57.90
and stand up... because
God has a plan for your life...
00:26:57.93\00:27:00.54
Absolutely...
Cheri... thank you so much...
00:27:00.57\00:27:03.10
what is... before we
close... what would you say
00:27:03.14\00:27:06.67
is the plan for getting
this out to the churches...
00:27:06.71\00:27:10.21
how can people find out
more about this recovery program
00:27:10.24\00:27:13.93
I would say, "Go to
our website truestep. org
00:27:13.96\00:27:16.19
go to the
website... this program...
00:27:16.23\00:27:18.34
you can use for yourself
as couples in your home,
00:27:18.38\00:27:20.95
in your small
groups, or the churches
00:27:20.98\00:27:22.78
and get a hold of it
and see what you think
00:27:22.82\00:27:25.32
and man... be blessed... "
00:27:25.36\00:27:27.36
Thank you so much,
I love you so much...
00:27:27.40\00:27:29.68
and I'm so glad you are here...
You know it's the same...
00:27:29.71\00:27:31.72
Yeah, we're like this...
00:27:31.75\00:27:32.96
I know that God has
00:27:33.00\00:27:35.31
such a great
plan... for this program
00:27:35.35\00:27:37.59
because it's so needed...
our people need this... so badly
00:27:37.63\00:27:41.56
and this is going to address
some basic fundamental issues
00:27:41.59\00:27:45.49
that we have
within our churches...
00:27:45.53\00:27:47.10
So, thank you Cheri...
again... because I don't know...
00:27:47.13\00:27:50.67
Amen... ... we
need what you do...
00:27:50.71\00:27:52.33
we need what you offer...
00:27:52.36\00:27:53.63
so, thank you so much...
and thank you... for tuning in..
00:27:53.67\00:27:56.79
Tune in next time... it
just wouldn't be the same...
00:27:56.82\00:27:59.66
without you...
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