The future for many
young Black males in America
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may not seem too bright...
more often than any other group
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in this Country...
young Black men face a
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greater rate of imprisonment,
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a greater
chance of being killed,
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and greater chance
of being unemployed...
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today, on Urban
Report, we'll hear from an
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inner city Pastor
that is all too familiar
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with the plight
of Black males...
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My name is Yvonne
Lewis and you're watching
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Urban Report.
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For many young Black men
opportunities seem elusive
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and the future
holds no promise...
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the fact is... many
are living from day to day
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with very little
hope or expectation
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that life will get
better, they have no dream,
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our guest today is all too
familiar with this scenario,
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and will share
several points with us
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from a Biblical perspective...
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our guest is Pastor William Lee,
Senior Pastor of Capital City
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Seventh-day Adventist Church
in Indianapolis, Indiana...
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he's an expert
in Urban Ministries
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and he's the host
of the Dare to Dream's
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upcoming
Program... "for Guys Only"
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Welcome Pastor Lee...
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Thank you so much Dr.
Lewis for having me today...
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it's a pleasure to be here...
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Oh, we are so
thrilled to have you...
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Now, what are some
of the unique challenges
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that Black men
face in our Society?
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Yeah... the challenges are many
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they range in regards to
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violence, gangs,
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especially our Black
boys are joining gangs
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at an all-time
epidemic... so it seems...
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there's drug addiction,
unemployment, failing schools,
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negative media...
betrayal of the Black men,
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there's a big
problem, fatherlessness...
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which... we're
talking about abysmal...
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and then... just
this whole loss of morals
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and values that our
Black men are facing today,
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so, there are many
issues that we must address...
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You know... that issue of
the loss or decline of morals...
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I mean... as I watch television
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and I'm not a hip-hop fan at all
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but sometimes in passing
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you hear some of the lyrics
and it's appalling to me...
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it's appalling
because... we've gone so far...
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it's like the lyrics
are just so profoundly
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decadent...
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and so, many times our
kids are listening to this...
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and they have rhythm and
rhyme, and so, Satan is using it
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to get into the
subconscious mind...
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of our young people... and so...
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it's rather frightening to me...
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what's going on...
tell us from a Biblical
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perspective... give
us a Biblical perspective
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on what's going
on... if you would...
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Sure... it's interesting
that the Bible states in
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Genesis Chapter 1 versus
26 and 27 I believe it is...
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where the Bible says that
God made man in His own image,
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in His own
likeness God made man...
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and the Bible says
specifically that God gave man
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dominion and
power over the earth
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from the beginning of time...
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God had set man up to
be the ruler of the world
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to have leadership in
this world that we live in...
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but the problems come in
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just a couple of
Chapters down the road
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in Genesis Chapter 3...
we're seeing that man sins...
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he, so to speak,
he disobeys God...
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and now, his
leadership and everything else
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is called into
question from that standpoint
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we look right now that...
from the beginning of sin
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all the way to
where we are right now
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that man, so to speak,
has been hiding from God...
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and while God has given us
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leadership and dominion
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we've kind of put it
down the back burner...
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we've turned to other
things and other avenues...
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that are being really
detrimental to the Black family
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and to the Black men...
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So you're saying,
then, let me make sure
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I'm understanding
what you're saying...
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you're saying that
from the beginning...
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man... not just men and women...
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but man had a
particular role in the household
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and that role
has been abandoned?
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Yeah... I mean...
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I absolutely say so...
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that the Bible was
absolutely clear that man
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was to rule over the fish
over the fowls of the earth,
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of the earth...
everything... God had put really
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in the lap of man...
of Adam, so to speak,
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and from that
time... to when he sinned...
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it's been just a
tremendous downward
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spiral... especially as it
relates to the Urban Male...
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you look at most of our
cities, it's very difficult...
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even in our Churches...
to find men in our churches
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that will stand up
and really be the men
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that God has
called them to be...
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so, what we're saying
is that we have to reclaim
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the men... these missing men...
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we have to reclaim
Adam... to put Adam
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really in his rightful position
that God established him for,
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the Bible even goes a
little further says in
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Revelation Chapter 1 verse 6
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that we are in Jesus Christ
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He's forgiven us... and
that we are kings and priests
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that God has... he's
actually called us kings
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and priests... and
we need to take back
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so to speak... what the
enemy has stolen from us
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or even what we've
given over to him...
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over time... Wow! I like that...
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you know... well,
there are a few things
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Number one... it's
so important to show
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the relevance of
the Bible today...
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it's so relevant...
the principles there are so
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relevant to what we're
dealing with... today...
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and so, when you're
saying that God has given men
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a certain position... and that
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we were made in
His image and that
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we have kind of...
as men and women...
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I mean, we could talk about
what's happened with women too
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with... again... with
the media and hip-hop...
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and the music and all that...
but... with the focus on males
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that whole idea of
man being in a position
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of authority and
dominion over the earth...
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and us, actually,
removing ourselves
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from that position
that God... placed man in...
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that's a very
interesting thing to me...
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why did Adam hide
from God in the garden...
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why do you think he hid?
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Yeah... that's very interesting
because if you look at the
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account... God
had specifically given
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Adam the command on
what to do and what not to do
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in the Garden of Eden...
and Adam completely understood
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that he was not
supposed to touch the fruit
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in the garden... that
he was to stay away from it
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but it's very interesting
that somehow we believe that
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they separated themselves...
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and when they
separated themselves...
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in the Garden... and
that's when the enemy
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came in... especially to
Eve when Adam was not standing
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directly next to his woman...
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and we see from that point
that man is, sometimes, weak...
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and he falls for
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the tactics of the enemy...
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when Eve gave Adam
the fruit, you know...
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he knew better... but
he still went against God
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and from that time
on... we see God comes looking
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for Adam... and I
want you to notice that
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God came specifically to
Adam, God did not come to Eve
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the Bible says,
"Where art thou... Adam...?"
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"Where are you...
Adam...?" so God puts the
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responsibility...
right back in the hands
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of the man... and
from that point...
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Adam stands up and says...
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"God, I was
afraid... I heard you coming...
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in the garden...
so I hid myself... "
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and God asked
another question...
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God asked, "Who told
you that you were naked?"
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so to speak, so from
the beginning of time
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it seems that man...
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and once he sinned...
he has been running from
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responsibility... he's
been running... from God...
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which we must put a stop
to in our time... today...
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Yes... yes... you know
what... it dawned on me
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as you were
giving this explanation
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that some of our viewers
don't even know the story...
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of Adam and Eve...
can you just kind of...
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give us that
encapsulation of the story
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and of man's hiding from God
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and then relate it
what's going on now... again...
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sure... absolutely...
the reality is that
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God created the
entire universe...
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and the Bible says that
every day when He finished
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creation He declared
that, "It is good... "
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everything was perfect...
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it was like the
perfect Utopian Society...
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everything was just
right... and God created man
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called Adam... and He
created this woman called Eve
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and they were the
first married couple
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that God put together...
and it was Adam's responsibility
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to lead Eve and to be
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right next to her
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in the Garden of
Eden... the Bible says
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that there was a tree though...
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the Tree of the
Knowledge of Good and Evil...
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which bore fruit... and
the Bible specifically told
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Adam the man...
that you are not to eat
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from this tree... now
it's kind of an arbitrary
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command that God gives...
but He still gave the command
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"Do not do it... " and
the reality is, Dr. Lewis,
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if God said it...
we got to believe it...
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you got to do it...
there's not question about it
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God always knows
what's best for us...
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Yes... yes... so Adam and
Eve just like we do today...
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sometimes we think
we know what's best...
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and the Bible says
there was a serpent
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in the Garden...
that serpent was, in fact,
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the devil... Satan himself...
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and he tempted Eve...
he lured her, so to speak,
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to eat of that apple...
or eat of the fruit, rather,
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to eat of that fruit...
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and when they ate the
fruit, it wasn't an apple...
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many people believe
that it was an apple...
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the Bible doesn't
say what it was...
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Right... right... and
when they ate that fruit
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then they
disobeyed God and that was
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what we call sin...
that's when sin came in...
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when they disobeyed God...
and from that point forward
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they began to point
fingers at one another
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they began to
hide from one another,
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they began to accuse one another
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as it relates
like... answer the man...
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here we go
again... where the man...
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sometimes he hides
from his responsibilities...
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that God has given him...
but I love the fact, Dr. Lewis,
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that God came
looking for Adam...
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Ah... God did
not give up on Adam,
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even though Adam messed up...
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God still was there for Adam...
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and I think that's a good point
for all men that's watching
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this right
now... understand that
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no matter what
you've done in the past...
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no matter what's happened...
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over the course of history...
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or even no
matter what's happening
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even in our Society... if
we submit ourselves to God,
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God will be there for
us, every step of the way...
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God came looking
for Adam... and I think
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that's powerful right there,
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God comes looking for Adam...
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we know that God will
look for us... as well in 2012.
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Yes... that's such a
powerful point because
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when we mess up...
whether you're male or female
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when you mess up... that
fact that God seeks us out
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it's such an amazing thing...
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the creator of the
universe wants to know us...
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as the Psalmist says,
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"What is man, that
thou art mindful of him?
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and the son of man,
that thou visitest him?"
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Who are we... that
God would want to have
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fellowship with us and yet...
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God sought out Adam because
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He wanted restored fellowship
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Hmmm... hmmm... God
wanted restored fellowship
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with Adam... and I think...
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an important point too
from what you're saying...
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is that... when we go
astray, when we make a mistake
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we can come
back... there's nothing
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that anyone has done
that is too serious...
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for God to not forgive...
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God will
forgive every mistake...
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every sin that we
commit, God will forgive...
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and He seeks us
out... for that...
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one of the things that
we also need to talk about
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is the role
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that men are supposed to play
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in the household...
are they supposed to be
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domineering over the
woman, according to the Bible
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or are they supposed
to... you know because...
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God did come
looking for the man...
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so, how does the
woman fit into...
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the whole paradigm here?
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Okay... sure it was...
the first part of that is
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by no means is the man to
be domineering, so to speak,
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over the wife or not...
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but the reality is that
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God did call the man,
Adam, to be the protector...
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he called Adam to be
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the Priest of the home
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so the Bible says in
Ephesians Chapter 5...
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that husbands are
to love their wife
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as Christ loved the
Church, Hmmm... Hmmm...
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and that women are
to submit themselves
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to their husbands
as unto God... so...
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There's that word
now, you know some women
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are going to balk at that...
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but submission does
not mean that you are just
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a doormat... correct?
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Right, yeah by no means
does it mean that at all...
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but here's what
the Bible says though
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it says that they
submit... as unto God...
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so, the reality is that
if the husband is to feel
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what the spirit of God...
and is showing the character
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of God... and he's
being just like God...
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really, the woman would
have no problems submitting
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because the husband's doing
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all that he's been called to do
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and that's what
God really wants...
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for the man and the
woman to be as one...
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as the Bible says in Genesis
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once again... He
brought them together
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they were to be one flesh...
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Yes, yes... very
interesting you know...
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when you think about
Jesus and His walk here...
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and again... how
He was portrayed...
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many times we don't
see him as a manly man...
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He was often
portrayed as weak... or weepy...
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or... what do you think
about the portrayal of Jesus
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by the media...
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movies and books and things...
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what do you think about
how He's been portrayed?
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Yeah... that's a good point
I think you're right on it...
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that sometimes...
especially in our churches
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that we've kind of
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feminized Jesus
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and we have even
feminized the Gospel
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Hmmm...
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simply... kind
of meaning of this
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that men and women are...
they're wired differently...
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and Church services
especially in the Black context
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I mean... Church is
emotional, if there's a call
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and a
response... the preacher...
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I get up and say, "Say Amen.. "
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we want people to respond...
sometimes, men are just
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wired differently...
they don't show emotion
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in public sometimes...
and even when it comes to
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Jesus... we have
this, you know...
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of course the Bible
is absolutely correct
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in choosing that
term... but we see that Jesus
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when He was in a temple and
they were buying and selling
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inside the temple... we
saw another side of Jesus
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when He began to
overthrow the money changers
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and got the whip
in... and told them
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to get out of
"my Father's house"
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we call it the "House of Prayer"
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this is a totally
different side of Jesus
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this is the side
of Jesus that men
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especially can
identify with because...
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Jesus is not just
letting people walk over Him...
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walk over Him... you
know... He's standing up
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and being a man...
Jesus was a carpenter
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carpenters are not
weak and wimpy men...
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and I think that in our
Churches that we would do well
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to present Jesus
as a strong man...
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as a man that can
identify with other men...
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a man that was...
Pharisees came after Him...
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almost every day of
His life... He had problems
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just like the
Black man has today...
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but when Jesus
teaches us is that
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we can
overcome... we can stand firm
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we can stand in His
power... my father... he saw me
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from a little
age... my father, you know,
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was a strong
Black man... he said,
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"Son, there is
nothing more powerful
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than a Black man
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that knows the Lord... "
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Hmmm... and what
he was trying tell me
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is that we can
lift our head up high
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we can recognize
that "if God be for us...
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no one can be against us"
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that we don't have to settle
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to Society's
depiction of who we are...
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who we're supposed to
be, because our identity
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can be found in
Jesus... and for that...
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I'm very much grateful...
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Amen... you know...
when you tell your children
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your sons... to be like
Jesus... and then there's a
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feminized kind
of version of Him...
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you want your son to
identify with a strong man...
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and so, I see what you're
saying that we have done that
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and I think... and
because the church is
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female dominant...
there are so many more women
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than men in the
Churches... and in Schools...
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you know, you
have female teachers...
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you have more
female teachers than men...
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and then the homes...
children are raised by females
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more than by
two-parent households
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so, we can... tend to...
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distort the image again
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of Jesus Christ...
and we have to be careful
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of that in our
homes... to make Jesus
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the strong man
that He really was...
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as depicted in the Word...
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I'm going to
switch gears on you now...
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Okay... with some of the...
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again the...
challenges that Black men face
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such as sexual temptation,
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let's talk a bit about that...
because we know that again...
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the music... the
films... all of these things
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and these things are not
just relegated to Black men...
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this is a
temptation across the board...
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sexual temptation is an
issue across the Board...
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speak to that
for us, if you would,
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Yeah... this is
absolutely unbelievable
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the pressures
that men are under...
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especially as it relates
to purity... sexual purity...
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I'm doing a series
right now in my Church
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I call it the "Samson Syndrome"
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Ah... if you look at Samson...
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you see that
Samson made poor decision
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after poor decision...
and Samson... he had...
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just like Adam, so to
speak, he fell to women
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time and time
again... Adam gave in to Eve...
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and we see Samson gives in
to... he marries a prostitute...
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he goes down to Timnah...
then Delilah comes into his life
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men face this tremendous
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challenge not only to
be faithful to themselves
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but also being faithful
to their spouses as well...
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and this is something
that we need to talk more about
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in the Church... we
preached this past weekend...
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we talked about... so many times
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that the devil puts
in lure in front of us...
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and if we are not
careful the Bible says
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in 1 Corinthians 10 verse
12... "Be careful lest you think
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that you stand...
lest you fall... "
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Hmmm... hmmm... and so many...
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if you look around in Society,
there are so many of our
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leaders... so
many of our politicians
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preachers and the like...
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that are going down
because of sexual temptation,
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even through the internet
I mean, you will be amazed...
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our viewers will be amazed
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on just even on the
social media outlets...
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on how our children are
being exposed to pornography...
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being exposed to... just
all types of sexual sins...
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and what the
devil has done is that
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he's trying to hook
them at such a young age...
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and when they get
hooked young then they face
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this challenge that often
times men don't talk about
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but they carry around...
this burden or this guilt
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for such a long time, and
they don't even feel as if
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they can talk about
it... because it's been taboo,
00:20:09.34\00:20:12.60
so to speak, in our
churches for so long
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but we must address these issues
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because if our family is
going to be strengthened...
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then we've got
to... so to speak,
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we got to pour
stuff out of the closet
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so that God can deal with
us so that we can be whole
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the way that God
wants us to be...
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Absolutely... we
cannot... and that's so true...
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we can't just
sweep it under the rug
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and act as though
it doesn't exist...
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Right... it does
exist and thankfully
00:20:37.18\00:20:39.13
in an upcoming
segment, on Urban Report...
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I'm planning to
interview Brother Raymond King
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who has written
about sex and the church...
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and a life on the
down-low and all of that...
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as it pertains
spiritually, because this is a
00:20:52.32\00:20:55.19
spiritual
battle... It sure is...
00:20:55.23\00:20:57.19
this is a spiritual battle...
Satan finds a weak point
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and then...
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those are the
places that he goes for...
00:21:02.40\00:21:04.19
and for many...
sexual sin... is a weak point
00:21:04.22\00:21:07.51
so, that is, Satan
knows which buttons
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to push... so
that's a big button
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that he pushes...
Absolutely... and men are
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extremely visual... I
mean... all we have to do is
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just see the image...
and we're just like Adam...
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we're like Samson... we
go directly toward it...
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and eloquent Job
said... Job said...
00:21:25.43\00:21:28.01
in Job 31 verse
1... the Bible says that
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Job made a
covenant with his eyes...
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not to look
lustfully at a woman...
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Yes... I think that's a covenant
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that we as men...
we have to make...
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not just once...
we got to be mindful
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that we are human...
that we have weaknesses
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and to be on guard
against the attacks
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and the wiles of the enemy...
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Absolutely... and to
stay grounded in the Word
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and to keep that relationship
with Jesus Christ...
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a lot of times... if
you are engaged in any
00:21:57.94\00:22:00.31
kind of sin...
whether it's sexual sin...
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any kind of sin...
that pulls you away...
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your appetite
changes... and you no longer
00:22:05.49\00:22:07.78
desire the Word... so
you have to force yourself
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actually... you have
to turn your will over
00:22:11.16\00:22:13.70
to God and say, "Okay,
I don't really feel like
00:22:13.74\00:22:16.24
doing this... but
I'm going to do it
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because that's the
only way I can be fixed... "
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is if I spend
time... in your presence...
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we again...
here at Dare to Dream
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praise the
Lord... we have a Program
00:22:25.48\00:22:27.45
for sexual purity...
it's called "Pure Choices"
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where we look at all
these different issues...
00:22:30.80\00:22:33.96
and some very sensitive issues
00:22:34.00\00:22:36.35
but they have to be addressed...
00:22:36.39\00:22:38.67
another issue that
has to be addressed...
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and I know our time
is running out... but
00:22:41.55\00:22:44.29
but another issue that
we really need to look at
00:22:44.33\00:22:46.50
is fatherlessness...
Hmmm... hmmm...
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in our homes... what
effect has fatherlessness
00:22:48.78\00:22:51.67
had on our young men...
00:22:51.70\00:22:53.54
I mean... it's
absolutely tremendous
00:22:53.57\00:22:57.13
every boy longs to have a
male in their background...
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I don't care who you are...
especially as a Black youth...
00:23:04.45\00:23:08.67
I mean... we long to
have somebody in our corner
00:23:08.71\00:23:11.23
cheering us on...
telling us, "good job"
00:23:11.27\00:23:13.54
and when he's not
there... we always seek that
00:23:13.57\00:23:16.05
from another man...
that's one of the main reasons
00:23:16.09\00:23:18.34
why young people...
especially our young Black boys
00:23:18.37\00:23:20.59
join gangs... just
so that they can have a
00:23:20.62\00:23:23.00
sense of family... a
sense of belonging...
00:23:23.04\00:23:24.91
so somebody can
be in their corner...
00:23:24.95\00:23:26.75
kind of being there for
them, and fatherlessness is
00:23:26.78\00:23:31.39
it's just another
attack of the enemy to break
00:23:31.43\00:23:35.51
down the family... Hmmm...
00:23:35.54\00:23:37.82
I thank God... I
should have said...
00:23:37.85\00:23:39.98
I thank God that I came from
00:23:40.01\00:23:41.60
a home with two parents...
two Christian parents...
00:23:41.64\00:23:44.28
and a strong
father that took time...
00:23:44.32\00:23:47.12
he worked almost all day
long... but he always took time
00:23:47.16\00:23:50.99
for our family... I
can remember, Dr. Lewis,
00:23:51.02\00:23:54.69
many times... my
bedroom was right next to
00:23:54.72\00:23:58.32
the driveway and at
night... I just had a sense of
00:23:58.36\00:24:04.30
of un-peacefulness...
it just was not...
00:24:04.34\00:24:06.99
I wasn't so secure
as I could have been
00:24:07.03\00:24:09.61
until I heard my father's
car pull in the driveway...
00:24:09.65\00:24:13.95
Ah... and when I heard my father
00:24:13.98\00:24:15.99
pull in the
driveway... when I heard that
00:24:16.02\00:24:18.29
backdoor open...
from my bedroom...
00:24:18.33\00:24:19.89
I thought to myself...
"Ah... now, I can go to sleep...
00:24:19.93\00:24:24.06
now... I'm at peace
because I know Dad is home... "
00:24:24.09\00:24:28.18
and so many
times... our young people
00:24:28.22\00:24:30.37
especially our young Black boys
they are not getting that...
00:24:30.41\00:24:32.93
mom is there...
grandma is there...
00:24:32.96\00:24:35.20
our aunt is there...
and yes... you know...
00:24:35.24\00:24:36.93
there are many fathers, I
don't want to discredit that,
00:24:36.96\00:24:38.68
but the reality is
that there are so many
00:24:38.71\00:24:41.58
of our young boys
who are going to bed
00:24:41.62\00:24:44.45
without that sense of security
00:24:44.49\00:24:47.06
Yes... and the cycle continues
00:24:47.10\00:24:49.60
to repeat itself...
which... we have to break
00:24:49.63\00:24:52.36
that cycle right now...
00:24:52.40\00:24:53.57
Absolutely... our
children need their fathers...
00:24:53.61\00:24:57.23
they need their fathers...
00:24:57.26\00:24:58.69
they need for their fathers
00:24:58.72\00:25:00.07
to be a part of their lives...
00:25:00.11\00:25:02.15
and to step up to the plate
00:25:02.18\00:25:04.50
and to be fathers to them...
00:25:04.53\00:25:06.81
not just sire... babies...
but fathers and parents...
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That's right...
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Pastor... I have so enjoyed
this our time has flown by...
00:25:11.94\00:25:16.56
Wow... I know... I know...
00:25:16.60\00:25:18.96
the time has just flown by...
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and I just thank you so much
00:25:20.50\00:25:21.90
for your
input... you are a host of
00:25:21.94\00:25:25.11
"For Guys Only" Hmmm... hmmm...
00:25:25.14\00:25:26.73
tell us quickly, if you
would, what do we have to look
00:25:26.77\00:25:30.55
forward to... you have
about a minute to tell us
00:25:30.58\00:25:32.75
what do we have
to look forward to...
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with "For Guys Only"
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Okay, let me
say... first of all...
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we are specifically
and unapologetically
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talking to the Urban Man...
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we're dealing with
episodes with finances...
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getting your money right...
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we're talking
about... fatherlessness...
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we're talking
about being a mentor...
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for somebody
else... we recognize that
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there are a lot of
successful Black men
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in the world...
however you determine "Success"
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but the reality is that
when you have been blessed...
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you've been called to be
a blessing to somebody else
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so... we're talking
about being a mentor...
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we're talking about
looking out for another Brother
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as well... we're talking about
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this whole success
thing... not just falling to
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societal norms
but being higher...
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we are talking
about daring to dream...
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All right... all right...
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we want men to
dream and to think big...
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and to think large...
think the way that God
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wants us to think...
but we're cheerleading...
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we're not going to tear men down
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but we're going
to be in your corner
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to cheer you on... to say that,
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"If God be for you... no
one else can be against you"
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and "if any man be in
Christ he is a new creature...
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old things are passed
away, behold all things
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become brand new...
" so... dare to dream
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to be all that
God wants you to be...
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Amen... thank you so much...
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we're just so
blessed to have you...
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and have you as our
host for "For Guys Only"
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thank you so much
for being with us today
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on Urban Report...
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We know that God has a
special plan for each of us...
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now what I'm going to say
may not be politically correct
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but that's okay...
God expects the men...
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to step up to the
plate and be accountable...
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to be the
protectors and providers
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for their households...
indeed to be present
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in the household...
Pastor Lee stated that
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God sought out
the man in the Garden
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to be accountable to
Him... there are definite roles
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for husbands to
play within the home...
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our older men and
women should mentor
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the younger men and
women, and teach them
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what God expects...
and how to implement it
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within the home and community...
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in our effort to be equal
and with spiritual decline,
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we've lost our way...
we've mystified our roles
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in the household... I
pray that we will seek
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God's original plan
for men and women...
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Well, we've come to
the end of another episode
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of Urban Report...
please join us next time
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because you know... it
just wouldn't be the same
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without you...
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