Teen Pathways, with Tuwan Ussery
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Hi, and welcome to Teen
Pathways. My name is Tuwan
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Ussery and here I have with
me some students from Fletcher
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Academy. My name is Becca
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Gallant and I am 16 and I am
a junior at Fletcher Academy.
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Hi my name is Rebekah
Nicholaides, and I am a senior,
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finally, and I am 17 years old.
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My name is Andrew Eszler and I'm
a junior and I'm 16 years old.
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Hi I'm Jonathan Bonjour I'm
a senior and I'm 17 years old.
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Hi I'm Casey Herbert
I'm 16 and I'm a junior.
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Hi I'm Kristin Eszler I'm a
senior and I'm 18 years old.
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Alright, so it seems that
we have juniors and seniors.
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Are you all happy and
ready to get out of school?
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- YES! - Oh, YES!
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Well, I love talking to people
and when I talk to young people
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I see that some of the
problems that they go through is
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learning how to
deal with temptations.
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Does anybody have
that problem here?
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- No. - Not really?
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Well, have you ever made
a compromise for somebody,
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or for a friend, have you
ever compromised your beliefs,
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for somebody?
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My sister is an atheist and she
doesn't believe in anything and
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she came down here this summer
and I usually don't listen to
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secular music on Sabbath,
if ever, and she wanted to
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and I compromised it and
it's just a little thing, but it
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still kind of affected me.
So... - How did it affect you?
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It made me feel really bad and
it made me feel like I was weak
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and that my faith wasn't enough
and that I wasn't a very good
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witness to my sister.
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So we do have some problems with
temptation from time to time.
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Has anybody else had
a circumstance where you
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made a compromise for somebody?
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Well, I have situations all the
time where, you know, you may be
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at a party at a friend's house
and it could be their birthday
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or something and they may
decide to watch something on TV
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that you wouldn't watch
normally, but you watch it
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because you don't want to upset
anyone. It's their birthday,
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it's supposed to be a
happy occasion and so you
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compromise and do something
that you wouldn't normally do.
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Just because you want to
keep the peace, basically.
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Because you want
to keep the peace...
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When you make those compromises
how does it make you feel?
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What's going on inside of you?
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Well, I know when I
make compromises all the time
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You always feel like
there's something in the back of
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your mind saying that was wrong,
you shouldn't have done that
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and it bothers you a long time.
- Sometimes you feel that your
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faith wasn't strong enough to
stand up for what you believe in
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and that just leaves you feeling
guilty and not good about
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yourself sometimes.
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What are some of the things
that we can do to stand up
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against the crowd and
not make these compromises?
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What are some things that we
can do to help us out with that?
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Well we can get together with
friends and go out on hikes or
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somewhere out in nature or
just play games in the house or
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something that wouldn't be
compromising to us, you know,
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that everyone would enjoy doing.
- You just surround yourself
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with good Christian people who
you know aren't going to try to
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tempt you to do something
that you're uncomfortable with.
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Make sure that you choose
the right people and that you
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stay away from the people that
may be making bad decisions.
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I mean, you can witness to
them but you should always just
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keep yourself around people
who will encourage you and
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not bring you down.
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You plan positive activities
that keep you busy and then
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you're not going to be bored
and want to do something that
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may not be so good.
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I hear a lot of you talking
about friends and the people
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that you hang around with.
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Tell me, what is a true friend?
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Someone who's loyal and
trustworthy. Someone who can
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listen to you and
someone you can relate to.
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Why is loyalty so important?
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Because if someone's not loyal
then how could you rely on them
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because if they're
not loyal to you then
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they usually don't really care.
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What are some other
things that are important?
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What are some qualities
you look for when you're
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trying to find
some good friends?
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I look for a friend who
can be honest, that is their,
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they can listen to
you... and they wouldn't mind
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telling you if
you're doing something wrong
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- Right. and
pointing out to you.
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They're not going to tell you
something just because that's
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what you want to hear.
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Now, how much honesty is
too much honesty, do you think?
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Would you want somebody telling
you totally and truly about
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yourself, even though
you can't really handle it?
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You don't want a
friend to bash you,
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and completely tell you
that what you're doing is wrong
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and that you're a
bad person or anything.
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But you want them to be able
to correct you in a positive way
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and uplift you and encourage
you not just point out your
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mistakes. Yeah, you don't
want them to be critical of
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everything you do but you want
them to be to where you're doing
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something that may not be
good, that they're going to care
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enough about you that they
are going to want to tell you,
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that's not to be good. That's
going to hurt you or someone
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else in the long run so you
need to be thinking about that.
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So honesty, somebody that really
cares about you so they can
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totally be honest and let you
know what's going on with you
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without letting you down.
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What are some other qualities
in friends that you look for?
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What's some more qualities?
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Someone who is willing to
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listen. Friends are so
important in our lives.
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Half of the reason we go to
school is because of friends
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and we have struggles,
those temptations that we do go
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through we want to be able to
talk to our friends because they
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can help us to encourage us
to do the right thing and just
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listening helps so much in a
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friend. I think you also
want, I personally would want
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somebody that has a sense
of humor too, because if you're
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having a bad day
and you're really down,
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if somebody has a sense of
humor it's really easy to...
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lift somebody's spirits.
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I would like to look for someone
who is similar to you and
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has similar likes
and goals in life about
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religious things but
wouldn't have to necessarily be
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religious either.
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So those are definitely some
good points, some good qualities
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that we look for in
friends. Let me ask you this.
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At first we were
talking about compromises.
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I want to ask you a question.
Has anybody here tried to get
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somebody to compromise
for their own selfish reasons?
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Have you ever tried to get
somebody, have you ever tried to
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tempt somebody to do something
that you wanted them to do?
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When I lived in
California, we used to always...
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I had a friend
who was a Christian
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and I always used to think that
he was just a bummer because
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he wouldn't go out on Sundays,
he wouldn't do anything,
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go anywhere and
just have fun on Sundays.
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He just wanted to stay
home and spend time with God
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and we always tried to get
him to come with us, because we
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really thought that it was a
drag that he wouldn't do it, so.
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What does the
Bible say about friends?
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It has a couple of
things to say about it:
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One's in James 1:5, it
says, If any of you lacks wisdom
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he should ask God who
gives generously to all without
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finding fault, and
it will be given to him.
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So if we ask Him, He'll give
us wisdom to choose the right
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friends that can help us
when we need them, and we can
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help each other.
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That's very good
that you brought that out.
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I appreciate that.
When we think about
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the life of Jesus,
let me ask you a question.
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Do you think
Jesus was a good friend?
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- Yes. - He was?
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How was Jesus a good friend?
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He was very loyal, an example
is with Peter. Peter denied Him
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three times, but God
never deserted him or left him
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or talked bad about him.
He was still his friend and
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He forgave him and
He still loved him.
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That's how we should
be toward our friends and
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that's how we should want
our friends to be with us.
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What are some other things
that Jesus did to show His
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true friendship to his
disciples or just to people
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He came in contact with?
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Jesus was a friend to people
that didn't necessarily have
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any other friends, people
that were considered outcasts.
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He was a Jew, He spoke to
the Samaritan woman at the well,
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He spoke to... - Mary Magdalene.
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Mary Magdalene, yes.
People that just had a very
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poor reputation and He
talked to them anyway because,
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He wanted to show that God
loved those people too, and so
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He was nice to them as well.
He was even nice to people that
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persecuted Him and that told Him
and tried to catch Him in the
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act of blasphemy and He was even
nice to those people and He even
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tried to just be encouraging to
them and even when He was on the
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cross He said "God forgive them.
" He was trying to reach out and
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be friends to everyone
and that's the perfect friend.
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That's totally awesome!
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He was the example for
us. He had unconditional love,
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He showed to everyone,
He preached, He healed.
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There's so many things
that He did for people and
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He did it willingly.
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He didn't even
think about it twice.
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You mentioned the
cross, you mentioned when Jesus
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was on the cross and
He said to His Father,
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"Father forgive them for
they know not what they do. "
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What happened with the
situation with the thief?
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Was Jesus a friend to the thief,
that was beside him on the
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cross? Yes, the thief didn't
have time to go out and show
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that he could follow
all the Ten Commandments or
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sell his stuff
and give to the poor,
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but he asked God and God said
that he could be with Him in
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heaven, he had the faith and
that is all he could do at that
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time. God was just so
encouraging to him and even
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though, like Kristin said,
he didn't have time to make
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everything right, God knew his
heart and He knew that he really
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did want to repent and He just
reached out in love to the guy
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and that's just the perfect
friend that anybody could ever
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have. - Absolutely. -
And not only that, you know.
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He's excepting the thief as
he is with all his problems,
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but not only that,
Jesus is in His worst hour,
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He's on the cross, He's
separated from His Father.
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Which has never happened to
Him before, but He still takes
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the time to help someone else
even though it's the worst time
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that He's ever been through.
He's still thinking of others
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first, which is what we should
do as friends if we want to
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follow Jesus' example.
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Exactly, Jesus when He was
on the cross, was at His worst
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moment, but then He took
time off to stop dying to help
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somebody else and to
deal with that person's needs.
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What about Thomas?
When Jesus was resurrected.
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What happened with Thomas?
Jesus made a special trip to see
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Thomas for what reason?
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Well, when the disciples told
him that He was risen, he didn't
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believe them. He thought, well,
they might have been seeing
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things or something and
when Jesus came there he was,
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I think, in ah that he just
didn't believe him and wasn't
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what he should have done.
And Christ took the time to
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show Himself that He was real
to His friend, even though he
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doubted, even though he didn't
have the faith. Christ still
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took the time just to say I'm
here, I'm here for you, I know
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you didn't believe it, but I
want to show you that I am here
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for you and I truly am alive.
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And I hear what you're saying.
If we want to know the true
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qualities of a friendship, of a
friend we can look to the Bible
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and see what Jesus did and
see how Jesus treated people
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and just look at all
the things that He did.
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What else does the
Bible say about friends?
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It also says, that,
in 1 Corinthians 15:33,
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"Do not be misled: Bad company
corrupts good character. "
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And so, when we are around
bad people who do bad stuff
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like drugs and stuff we're
going to get pulled in to that
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cause it's hard to stay true to
what you believe and so you have
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to have your friends that
will keep you from doing those
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things. Being human, everybody
is tempted by all these
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temptations and especially
in America we have so many
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temptations, because we've been
desensitized to so much stuff
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and then it doesn't seem that
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bad to us. But there's hope for
us because even though we are
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tempted God was tempted in all
respects and, you know, He will
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provide a way out if we choose
to let Him help us in that
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situation. But it's best that we
don't place our self in it, you
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know to have friends that will
be an encouragement and uplift
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you and show you God, through
their actions in their lives.
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And God even said in the
Bible, if a door closes another
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will open, and He says that He
will never tempt us and just the
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fact that He says that He will
never tempt us beyond what we
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can take is so encouraging,
because there are so many things
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in this world that we wouldn't
be able to say no to, because
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we are human beings and we do
have sin our lives and it's so
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cool that God is just standing
there like a wall, just saying
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I won't let them tempt you,
tempt you beyond what you can
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do. It shows what His love is.
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That's the reason we need
Jesus as our friend, our best
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friend, while we may have
earthly friends, but we need
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Jesus as our best friend,
because He's the one who's going
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to be there for us all the
time and that can understand
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everything that goes on because
He's been tempted the same way
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and so he can help us and if
we ask for His help we can get
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through anything. How do we ask
for his help? what are some of
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the things we can do to ask for
His help, when we need that help
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from Jesus? By praying, I think
prayer is one of the main ways
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to communicate with Him, because
we can pray wherever we're at.
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We can pray while were driving
down the road or when we are
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kneeling beside our bed at
night. We don't even have to
have our eyes closed,
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just to commune with Him.
And I think that really draws
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you closer to Him.
Also studying the Bible too.
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Studying the Bible helps
you to know how to avoid the
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temptations and it also shows
you who Christ was and how to
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live like Him and how He avoided
the temptation is just an
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example for us. I found when I
study the Bible and pray in the
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morning, sometimes I get
out of that routine. When I do
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it helps you be nicer that day,
it helps you treat people better
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and you have a better attitude
that just improves your day.
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It's not always going to
be a good day, but it will
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help you get through the day and
have a good attitude about it.
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I heard a preacher saying,
not to long ago, that when
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you get out of bed the first
thing you should do is roll out
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on your knees and surrender
your will to God that day and
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let Him lead and direct you
in the choices that you should
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make. And we should be able
to talk to God all day just like
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when we're hanging
out with our friends.
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We're not necessarily sitting
there talking to them the
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whole time we're hanging out,
but it should be the same way
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with God. We should know that
He's always right there with us
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and that whenever we want to
start up a conversation with Him
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that He's right
there, He's ready listen,
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He's ready to hear our
problems and to give us advice.
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So we should just, we should
never shut the door to Him.
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He should always be right there
in our minds, where we know
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we can talk to Him any
time and He's going to listen.
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Now you said something quite
interesting, that we should
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never shut the door to God.
Just reflecting back on Jesus
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and His situation with Peter
and situation with Thomas, how
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Peter denied Him and Thomas
didn't really believe until
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Jesus showed. You know,
if that was us we probably
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would have wrote Peter
and Thomas off as friends.
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Do you agree?
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- Yeah. - Yeah.
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What are some of the
things that we can do
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to be a positive influence?
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I heard someone say,
about reading the Bible
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and how the Bible changes our
behavior and how it has such a
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overwhelming
influence on our behavior.
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What are some of the things
we can do to have a positive
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behavior and to be a positive
influence to our friends?
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Basically through our actions we
show our friends everything of
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who we are and if we show them
something negative they're going
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to think of us negative and it
will bring us down and make us
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think negatively, but if we
try and have a positive outlook,
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if we pray to have a positive
outlook God will give it to us
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and we'll show our friends what
it's like to be a Christian and
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how happy we are and
how peaceful we are and
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just seeing my friends after
I'm kind to them or we have
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a good time when we're in
a positive mood, just seeing
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them get happy makes me even get
more excited about everything.
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So I heard you said attitude.
is there anything else that
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will help us be a positive
influence besides having
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the right attitude?
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I think you also need to be an
example, a specific example of
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Jesus or try to be as close as
possible, because then if you do
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you would just be more happy,
you'll make everyone around you
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happy and it would just
make the environment happy.
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Well, and when you're praising
God you have to remember
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that God created you so when
you're going through your day
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every single breath that
you take, God has given you that
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breath and so as a way
of thanking Him as a way of
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praising Him and glorifying Him,
if you just live your day to the
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best of your ability and ask God
to help you and let Him lead you
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through your day that is
glorifying Him and witnessing
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for Him and giving Him back
some of what He's given to you
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and just letting you
live through the day.
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And just that thought alone
helps you want to stay away
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from temptation. Just the
thought that He gave us our
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breath and He gave us our bodies
and our life just encourages us
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that we don't want to mess it
up. We don't want to be the ones
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to destroy the most
precious thing to God.
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I believe that God is
a fun loving God and He
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wants us to enjoy life,
but through the people we
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hang out with and different
things like that we can share
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the message and we can make
it interesting. It depends on
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your attitude, as you were
saying earlier, your attitude
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makes a big difference on
how you show others around you
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what God is like and when you're
witnessing and you want to draw
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people into the church, you
want to have that happiness,
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you want to show them not only
the respect, but also how much
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God loves you and
that He sent His son and
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everything else like that too.
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Has there ever been a time your
attitude was not quite positive
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and it was negative and instead
of having a positive influence
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on your friends you had
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sort of a negative
influence on your friends?
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Has that ever
happened to anybody here?
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You had a negative influence
on your friend when you know
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that you should have had
a positive influence on him?
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Well I know I have several times
because when you just have a bad
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attitude about the day you're
being a negative influence
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because Jesus was happy all
the time. He didn't get down,
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He was always uplifting and when
you get in a bad attitude about
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something it makes the
rest of everybody around you
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the same way.
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It's like a rotten
apple in a group of good ones.
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Absolutely.
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What does the Bible
say on this situation?
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Give me other scripture of what
the Bible says about friendships
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and about
compromising your beliefs.
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Well, Proverbs 13:20: It says,
"He who walks with the wise
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grows wise, but a companion
of fools suffers harm. "
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And so it depends who we go with
and that's how we're going to
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probably end up being like.
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If they're mean to everybody,
will probably end up being
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like them. I don't
think we really want that.
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You should just want to surround
yourself with people you
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want to be like.
That's all it's saying.
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Yeah and that's the best
way to avoid temptation and the
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best way to stay away from all
that kind of stuff is to just
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surround yourself with people
who want to stay away from it
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as much as you do.
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And that can also work the other
way too 'cause if you're looking
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to be a good friend and you're
looking to follow Jesus' example
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then what your going to want
to do, if you have to surround
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yourself with positive friends
in order to stay away from
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temptation that means that you
should also be a positive friend
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and be a positive influence to
the people that are around you
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because it can really make
a difference in their life.
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I think, like you said,
being a positive influence.
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It doesn't just go by, your
actions and your words should
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be the same. You shouldn't act
one way but then talk another.
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We need to be consistent
in what we do and what we say.
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That's a very good point because
Jesus was definitely consistent.
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He was consistent with
His attitude, being positive
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to people. He was consistent
with pretty much his whole life,
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everything that He did.
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Have you ever been inconsistent
any way to any of your friends?
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Inconsistent? Did
your friend need you to do
00:23:26.82\00:23:29.73
something, but you didn't do
it because you were inconsistent
00:23:29.76\00:23:34.06
in the situation?
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I know a lot of times I've been
in situations where sometimes
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it'll hit me when I'm
doing something because
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I may have been talking
to someone the day before,
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someone that'll ask me
for advice. Should I do this?
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Should I not do that?
What does the Bible say?
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Is this wrong or is it right?
Sometimes if it's wrong I'll be
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telling them well, I think it's
wrong and I'll show them where
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it says. And then sometimes
I'll find the next day that
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I may be doing something that's
almost exactly the same thing
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that I told them what
was wrong the day before and
00:24:03.71\00:24:06.08
if I'm doing it and then I can't
tell them that it's wrong 'cause
00:24:06.11\00:24:11.90
that's just doing the
opposite of what I say.
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It's
inconsistent. It's inconsistent.
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'Cause if we tell them something
and then we turn around and
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do something else then they
see our inconsistency and we are
00:24:21.84\00:24:25.37
not being a true friend to them.
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Is there any other situation
or experience that you had
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where you were inconsistent with
any friend or maybe your parents
00:24:29.62\00:24:33.29
or some time in school
where you were inconsistent?
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It could be with a teacher.
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I've always had trouble getting
along with my teachers and stuff
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I've always been inconsistent.
One time I'll be nice to them,
00:24:43.27\00:24:48.98
be really excited to see them,
then the next day I'll just be
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horribly mean to them and
I feel bad about doing that.
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It's hard to get out of a
habit when you get into it.
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Why do you think we're
inconsistent from time to time?
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Why do you think we go through
our day and we try really hard
00:25:08.01\00:25:12.88
to be consistent to be a
positive influence to do the
00:25:12.91\00:25:15.64
right thing to be a good friend
but just certain times we don't
00:25:15.81\00:25:20.04
carry it out totally.
00:25:20.08\00:25:21.53
Why are we so
inconsistent at times?
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Well, I think we're humans and
were not going to be perfect.
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The only way we really can
do right is through Christ and
00:25:27.85\00:25:32.95
the Holy Spirit. We have to
ask Him in our life to direct us
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because everyone has sinned.
All have fallen short of the
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glory of God, of the kingdom.
Without God sending His Son
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down here we
couldn't go to heaven.
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Yeah, being that we are
human beings we all fall
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and I don't think any of
us are ever consistent because
00:25:52.80\00:25:58.53
one day you may be having a
bad day and you just don't feel
00:25:58.56\00:26:02.73
like being nice to someone
so you're not and that ruins it
00:26:02.77\00:26:07.10
all over and we have
to start over everyday.
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So it's really hard for
us to ever be consistent.
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So we have to go day to
day asking for God's help
00:26:13.05\00:26:16.07
on a regular basis because
otherwise there's no way that
00:26:16.10\00:26:18.82
we can ever be the true
reflection of Jesus' character
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that we are
supposed to be as Christians.
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There is no way without
Christ that we could ever
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avoid temptation.
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You know, when Jesus was tempted
in the wilderness He drew power
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from His Father and
He often time prayed.
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So at this time let us do that
let's end with the Lord's prayer
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Let us close our eyes, and bow
our heads and say it together.
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Our Father which art in
heaven, hallowed be Thy name.
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Thy kingdom come. Thy will be
done, on earth as it is in heavn
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Give us this
day our daily bread.
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And forgive us our debts
as we forgive our debtors.
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And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.
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For Thine is the kingdom and
the power and the glory forever.
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Amen.
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Alright well
thank you, thank you.
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You know, when Jesus was tempted
He knew exactly what to say
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to hush Satan up and
through the power of prayer
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He was able to
overcome the wiles of the Devil.
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Through just
depending upon His father,
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He was able to
overcome the wiles of the Devil.
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Just by being consistent,
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He was able to
overcome the wiles of the Devil.
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So let us be
consistent in what we do and
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let us always call upon Jesus.
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