Everyone knows that addictions
are harmful because they often
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cause physical, psychological,
social, and financial problems
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for people who
struggle with them.
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Addictions kill thousands
of people every year and impact
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millions of lives. Addiction is
an intense craving for something
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that you know is bad for you
but you just can't seem to stop.
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Somehow this thing has gotten
a hold on you without your
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realizing it and now it
has you strongly in its grasp.
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We long for that state
of euphoria, pleasure, and
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happiness so we keep coming
back for more only to discover
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that the more we indulge,
the less fulfilled we feel.
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If you are searching for
the keys to fulfillment and
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lasting happiness, then
join me Gary Kent as we discuss
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the science behind
addictions with a special guest
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and uncover the secrets
that can set people free
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and bring us happiness.
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No one ever intends to
become addicted, but at sometime
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when we feel sad or
empty on the inside,
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we search for something to make
us feel better. We make a choice
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and we reason that just
doing it once won't hurt us.
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We feel that we are
still in control of our lives,
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but maybe we aren't as
in control as we thought.
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In fact statistics show that
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over
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which is the highest
rate of gambling in the world.
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In fact, we gamble away
$23 billion dollars a year
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and it's increasing every year.
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Sometimes we choose alcohol,
cigarettes, drugs, gambling,
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gaming, or even
seemingly harmless things like
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social media, sugar, and
chocolate, to give us a few
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moments of pleasure. We
long for that feeling so we keep
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coming back for more until
soon we're in a vicious cycle
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of indulge, binge, feel guilty
and then we do it all over
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again. Drug abuse is escalating
around the world at an alarming
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rate. Statistics
reveal that one in ten people
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are addicted to alcohol.
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Although we think it
is our choice what we do,
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the results of our addictions
can seriously impact the people
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around us through
related crime, disease,
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and mental health issues.
Addictions destroy marriages,
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friendships, careers, and
threaten a person's basic health
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and safety.
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What started the path
to pleasure and happiness
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ends in emptiness,
heartache, and brokeness.
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If you think you know
someone battling an addiction,
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and you would like to learn
more about the warning signs
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and find out what you can do to
help, then join me as we visit
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Doctor Neil Nedley, a
specialist in internal medicine
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with an emphasis on mental
health and lifestyle medicine.
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Doctor Nedley is the president
of Weimar Health Institute
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and is the author of
the acclaimed Depression and
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Anxiety Recovery Program.
He's done extensive research
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into addictions, how to
identify them, what causes them,
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and the damage they do to
our brains and what it takes to
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untangle yourself from
them when they have taken a hold
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on you.
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Dr. Nedley, It's a pleasure
to have you on our program
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today to discuss
this important topic.
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What are the most common
addictions today that people
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are struggling with?
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Well, it's great to be here
again Gary, thanks for having me
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and the most common addictions
are actually becoming more
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common but there are many.
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There are Benzodiazepine
addictions these are drugs
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like Zanax, Ativan, Lorazepam,
Alprazolam, there's a whole
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class in there's a host of
people in the western society
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that are addicted
to the these drugs.
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Even more serious are
the narcotic addictions
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these are pain relievers,
morphine and it can get even
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into the point of heroin.
In fact in the United States
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and Australia deaths due
to overdose of those narcotics
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are rising rapidly and it's
actually due to the addictive
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component of these drugs
and needing more and more.
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Now in addition of course
alcohol, some of the ones that
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been around for a long time,
alcoholism is still way too
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high and still kills
many people prematurely.
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We also have tobacco and some
people actually kind of because
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these other addictions
gotten so big so we forget about
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the big tobacco problem.
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Some of the other addictions
are gambling which is rapidly
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rising in western societies
and also sexual addictions,
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pornography is at an all-time
high in both males and females.
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Female pornography
rapidly rising significantly
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in the western world.
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And in regards to
self-mutilation just to show you
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how rapidly some of these
addictions are rising, in 1993
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only 1% of girls or
females under the age of 25 cut.
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Now at that time, that
was seen as a lot because
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self-mutilation was very
rare, much more rare prior to
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this in the 50's and '60s
and 70's but every seven years
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there's a national survey and
in 2000, 2% at the age of 25 cut
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in 2007 it was 4%, so you
can see the exponential rise
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and so in 2014, 25.6%, so
even broke the exponential curve
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that was forming before, one out
four females now self-mutilate
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under the age of 25 and
this is due the active component
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Yes, there's anxiety and
depression in those things
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behind it but when people
self-medicate through these
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types of addictions it actually
starts to accelerate and so
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they don't want to do it per sae
but they don't know how to stop
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and that's one of the
characteristics of addictions.
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Are there other addictions
that we are not aware of?
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Yeah, there are a lot of
addictions out there that
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people don't actually don't
necessarily classify that way
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but they actually fit
the addiction definition.
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Caffeine is an addictive drug
and so coffee, Pepsi, Coca-Cola,
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Mountain Dew, all these
thing actually are addictive.
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And of course, it's a good
commercial business enterprise
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when you can when you can
give somebody something that is
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addictive because they are going
to go back to it and that's
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how business's thrive is to
put things that are addictive
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in these types of
beverages and food.
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Marijuana actually is addictive
and there are people that have
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denied that but we've
had many marijuana patients
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come and they have withdrawal,
nausea, vomiting when they're
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on it on a regular basis
in consuming large amounts.
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And then there are things
like sugar, sugar can be quite
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addictive and there are
non- substances as well like
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technology, social media can
be addictive, entertainment on
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television, a rapid scene
of reference changes, movies,
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people can get addicted to
entertainment television movies.
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Gaming, video gaming, a huge
addiction and it can be quite
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problematic, even entertainment
sports and particularly watching
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sports can fit that
classification of addiction.
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And then music, particularly
the music that has a syncopated
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rhythm. Now some music
is actually not addictive,
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other music is addictive,
this is why some people say,
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well, I have an addiction to
food, that's not really true,
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they're only addicted to some
foods and it's the sugary foods
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that tend to have that
addictive component and it's the
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syncopated rhythm aspect of
music that tends to be addictive
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and also not healthy as far as
the frontal lobe is concerned.
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Gaming is a big issue, we
have a lot of people come to our
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program with this addiction
and it's rapidly rising.
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They even have gaming sporting
events online and things where
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they'll give prizes so people
are trying to get better and
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better at these video
games and they can encompass
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14/16 hours a day where
they're just totally engrossed
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and they think, boy,
there's this prize at the end,
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I can get better. But the
problem is, there's millions
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of others trying to do the same
thing and it is a rapidly rising
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addiction that causes all
sorts of mental health problems
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and then they don't know
how they can get away from it
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and they end up in our
program before they are able
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to get the victory
over their gaming habits.
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A lot of us are involved
in some of these activities
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how do we know
whether we are addicted?
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Well, some of the clues that
we are addicted are if we are
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lying about our behavior, that's
a major clue in other words
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kind of denying when someone
asks us if we're involved
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in this or we act like as
we are not involved as we are.
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If we notice that we are
needing a little more of this
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and there is this craving,
this kind of need and then
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also, if we stop using it if
we actually feel kind of worse,
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in other words, if we are
having kind of withdraw symptoms
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those are major clues that
there is an addiction there.
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And of course the other aspect
of it is the addiction is often
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what the addicted person doesn't
realize is there is an adverse
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effect on them and others.
So are others being adversely
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affected? Can you admit that
you are actually being adversely
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affected? Those are out
there, that is a major clue
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that there is
an addiction there.
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In fact, a study was done
recently showing that those in
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generation Z which is the young
generation, those born after
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1995, 40% of them actually
admit to being addicted to their
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IPhone or their electronic
device in fact they can't
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even imagine life without
them and so their life seems to
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totally centered in these
devices but yet we recognize
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things are not going right with
these kids, they're that way.
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They are not relating
right socially more inept,
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they don't have good strong
relationships with their parents
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and their siblings,
their ability to learn is down
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and their ability to
manage their emotions and so
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some have intuitively put
two and two together but a good
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share of people do not recognize
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what this is causing
until they see the evidence.
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And then once they see
the studies and the evidence
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are becoming abundant,
just look up complications are
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risks of devices and you'll
be able to see some of the
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studies...Then they realize,
you know what a lot of my
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problems I had no idea was
linked to this gripping device,
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I carry around in my pocket
all the time and I'm having
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trouble staying off of.
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And so they need to be educated
and that's why I'm glad for
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shows like your' s Gary that
are getting the word out there.
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Because the technology companies
are not going to get the word
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out there. Dr.
Nedley, how do addictions
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work? How do they
such a hold on us?
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How addictions work and
how they take hold of us,
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actually has to do with brain
chemistry...They're involving
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our dopamine pathway. And
addictive substances actually
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more of a surge in a
spike in dopamine levels
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and so it can get us up into
a euphoric stage, particularly
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the first few times we are
using the addictive substance.
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And then the dopamine
starts to go down pretty fast
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as well, but at first it just
goes down a little less than
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neutral, but the more we utilize
the substance, the less surge
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we're getting the dopamine
isn't going up as high now.
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But in between times our levels
are going far less than neutral
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and after we use it hundreds
of times, we're actually
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no longer using it for euphoria
we're just using it to feel
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neutral or numb. And in
between times there's this deep
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distressing sense of deprivation
even though there's nothing
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bad going on in your life,
and so in reality we first do it
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in order to gain this pleasure
and this euphoria but eventually
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we're only to get numb.
But because this process is so
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gradual, we often don't
recognize that we're actually
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getting far less dopamine
in our day above neutral
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than what we used to get before
we ever had this addiction
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to begin with. And so what's
interesting is people that
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aren't addicted to substances
they actually have dopamine
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levels far above neutral
the vast majority of their day
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because simple things
just resolved in pleasurable
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activities and
pleasurable levels of dopamine
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without it surging downwards.
So going for a nice walk
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for instance, if you're not
addicted, that can produce a
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nice dopamine high and it will
last much longer than going to
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and addictive substance.
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Reading a good book,
listening to healthy music,
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these things can produce nice
dopamine levels and what the
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addict does not realize, they
get to the point where they're
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thinking, you know this
is bad for most people but
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because of who I am,
I need this, I need this
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because without it,
I'm just in bad shape,
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but they don't realize
that if they recovered,
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their happiness and
success and fulfillment in life
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would be far greater than this
dependency to have to go back
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to this in order to try to
feel more neutral or normal.
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What is the best way to
over- come an addiction?
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The best way to overcome an
addiction is to first recognize
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that your habit is destructive
that it's not healthy for you
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and it's not healthy for people
around you and that you can
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actually live a far
better life once you recover and
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get over this addiction.
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So that's step number one is to
recognize that it is destructive
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and then step
number two is make a choice
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and say, you know what,
I'm going to do what it takes
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to get rid of this, this is
adversely affecting my life.
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And then step three
is where the work begins.
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That involves a decision point
where you are going to abstain
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from it and you might
suffer from withdrawal symptoms.
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These withdrawal symptoms are
not going to kill you per se,
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unless it's heavy alcohol
all the time, or unless it's
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heavy narcotics or benzos,
those might need a professional
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involved. These other addictions
don't require necessarily
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a professional to help
you, you just have to make this
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decision and be willing to
go through withdrawal symptoms.
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Now, how is the
best way to do this?
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Exercise regularly,
try to get enough sleep,
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and then also rely
on spiritual resources.
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One of the things we are finding
is that virtually everybody
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that overcomes an addiction
that has a grip on that
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does it through
spiritual resources.
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That means the frontal lobe has
to be involved and you have to
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recognize that this is
not something that you can
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get over yourself, yes,
you are the one that makes the
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choice, it's the willpower,
it's not going to do it without
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your choice. But then once
you make that choice, ask God
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to help you, and God does
actually, help those who are
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who are willing to put
their all in to develop that
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relationship with him to help
them overcome these powerful
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addictions and then a
life starts to improve.
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At first, they are
wondering, boy, my life is worse
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but over time they will
actually as I mentioned,
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they'll actually have
much higher Dopamine levels
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just doing the simple pleasures
in life that are not addictive
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and they will have
far better relationships,
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far more productivity at
work far better family life
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it's worth all the effort you
can do to overcome any addiction
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that you might have.
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Well, you know interestingly
Gary in the medical/psychiatric
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establishment the highest
rates of agnosticism and atheism
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are in the
psychiatric profession.
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So in my psychiatry learning,
I learned from these individuals
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that didn't really have God
in their life but what I would
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notice is that when they had
people with powerful addictions
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coming to them and
begging them as a psychiatrist
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please, is there anything
that you can give me to overcome
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this addiction, don't
you have a pill for it doc?
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Or don't you
have...and the doctor would say
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I have nothing, there is no
pill that's going to help you.
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I actually don't have
anything to help you but I can
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tell you that my
patients that have gotten help,
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they've all gone the spiritual
route and let me tell you
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where you can go where the other
patients have gone to get help.
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He said I don't know what
happens there but I know the
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spiritual part is the
way my patients have overcome
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addictions like that.
So you need to see them.
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So, in general, the psychiatric
community recognizes God in a
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spiritual power is involved
in that, they're not necessarily
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in contact with that
power but they recognize from
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their own experience that
patients who overcome addictions
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have a strong spiritually
influence that helps them to
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overcome. To overcome an
addiction obviously requires
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change, can you tell
us a little about that?
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Yes, overcoming addiction,
there are four stages of change.
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The first stage is when
the addict doesn't even realize
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that they need to change, that's
what we call unconsciously
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incompetent. They are
incompetent but they don't
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recognize that
they are incompetent.
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The second stage is to
become consciously incompetent.
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That means that you actually
are convinced that it is harmful
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and it often takes knowledge
for an addict to recognize that.
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And so some good knowledge
this is why we have to teach
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people the harms of this
behavior, what it would be like
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without the behavior and
then show them the evidence
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and then they realize, alright,
this is more of a problem
00:21:02.32\00:21:05.99
than I thought it was, it's
probably causing all sorts of
00:21:06.03\00:21:08.73
problems in my life
that I don't even recognize.
00:21:08.76\00:21:11.40
But they still haven't changed
as far as getting rid of the
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addiction they are now
just conscious that they are
00:21:15.17\00:21:18.14
incompetent. And that's
an important step an addict
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will not overcome
without some knowledge.
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And then the third
aspect is now to become
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consciously competent, that
means that you have with your
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willpower and choice,
you've made a decision,
00:21:32.65\00:21:35.36
you are giving
up this addiction.
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And it is no more going
to be a part of your life.
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Yes, ask God to help
you, recognize your dependence
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on Him and do what you can
with your own body with exercise
00:21:45.77\00:21:49.14
and sleep and type of things
to get over it but you need
00:21:49.17\00:21:52.27
to recognize...Let's
just talk a simple addiction.
00:21:52.31\00:21:55.14
If you're addicted to
Pepsi, when you get thirsty
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your still going to think
of Pepsi and you're going to
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have to say No, not
Pepsi, it's going to be water.
00:22:01.58\00:22:05.05
The next time your thirsty,
you're going to think of Pepsi
00:22:05.09\00:22:07.86
again and you're going to
have to say, No, not Pepsi,
00:22:07.89\00:22:10.93
it's going to be water.
That's conscious competence
00:22:10.96\00:22:14.00
and you have to continue
in that competence phase
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differing amounts of time
depending on the addiction.
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But with caffeine, it's about
a month and after one month
00:22:21.27\00:22:24.74
when you get thirsty,
you're now thinking of water.
00:22:24.77\00:22:28.74
Your actually enjoying
water that you didn't like
00:22:28.78\00:22:31.48
the taste before and you
recognize, you know what?
00:22:31.51\00:22:34.72
I don't have the
problems with caffeine anymore,
00:22:34.75\00:22:36.52
I'm not irritable, I don't
have my reflux, I don't have
00:22:36.55\00:22:41.22
those types of symptoms and
that's when you have reached
00:22:41.26\00:22:44.06
stage four which is
unconsciously competent
00:22:44.09\00:22:48.30
and so it's no
longer a struggle.
00:22:48.33\00:22:50.37
A lot of addicts think
it's going to be this lifelong
00:22:50.40\00:22:53.74
struggle and they are going to
go back and forth between stages
00:22:53.77\00:22:56.54
two and three, conscious
competence and they don't
00:22:56.57\00:23:00.34
realize if they stick with it,
there is unconscious competence
00:23:00.38\00:23:04.11
coming and that's when
the Dopamine levels are above
00:23:04.15\00:23:06.92
neutral a vast majority of the
day we're getting nice Dopamine
00:23:06.95\00:23:11.92
satisfactions, irritations, the
usual irritations or the nuances
00:23:11.95\00:23:16.06
of life don't get them
down at all anymore and they are
00:23:16.09\00:23:18.89
able to live above the fray
and they become more productive,
00:23:18.93\00:23:22.40
relationships improve,
and success and fulfillment
00:23:22.43\00:23:25.77
skyrockets. That's unconscious
competence and its waiting
00:23:25.80\00:23:31.11
every addict that goes through
those four stages of change.
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Dr. Nedley, what message
would you give to those who were
00:23:35.18\00:23:39.61
struggling with addictions?
00:23:39.65\00:23:40.98
The message I would give
for those struggling with an
00:23:41.02\00:23:43.85
addiction is I don't care who
you are, I don't care what your
00:23:43.89\00:23:47.62
addiction is, you can
overcome with the power of God
00:23:47.66\00:23:53.09
in your life. Do what it takes
to make this choice, depend
00:23:53.13\00:23:58.23
upon God, He will help
you and you can break free.
00:23:58.27\00:24:03.14
Dr. Nedley, thank you for
being on our program today
00:24:03.17\00:24:06.51
and for sharing such
valuable information with us.
00:24:06.54\00:24:09.98
Thanks for having me, Gary,
it's always great being here.
00:24:10.01\00:24:12.88
Happiness and fulfillment
are what we all really want
00:24:15.95\00:24:19.49
in life, turning to things
that only fill us for a moment
00:24:19.52\00:24:23.93
but lead to heartache and
misery, anxiety, and depression,
00:24:23.96\00:24:27.30
are like seeing a mirage after
a long walk through a thirsty
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desert but never experiencing
the life-giving water that we
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desperately crave.
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In the Bible, there was a
woman with addictions that had
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taken a hold on her leaving
her socially isolated and empty
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inside. Jesus met her one
day at a well in the desert and
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offered her the water of
life that could truly quench her
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thirst and fill her
deepest needs. He said to her,
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This woman had been looking
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in all the wrong places.
But what she was really missing
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was Jesus. The day she met
her savior, she found hope.
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The day she let Him into
her heart, she found peace, and
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real joy that satisfied
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Dear Heavenly Father,
Thank you that you are the
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