>> Welcome back to 3 even today
live from Jill Meagher County.
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We've had an incredible first
hour with the ladies here from
3ABN as we talk about the face
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of love, we're talking
specifically about the 5 love
languages, how we incorporate
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that in our relationships,
whether it's a spouse or a child
or co-worker or even in the
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church. How God expresses his
love to us and how we can show
our love to got. So we have
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tonight the Hildebrandt and Cain
Francine Bergman and Angela van
der Valk engine. No one is just
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a privilege to share with each
one of you. Love you all as my
sisters. And so blessed not
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only to work together in
ministry, but just to know we're
sisters that we can away
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with each other and we share
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tonight. In fact, we have
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a question from the first hour.
We're going to start with this.
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This from Shirley in Wyoming. My
daughter has recently decided to
move. And in this she is not let
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me know where she's moving. Is
there a time of testing to her
that she's doing this to me? Her
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mother should I just say going
don't get upset if it doesn't
work out, she's taking her. 25
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year-old son with her that while
living with me never worked or
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made its way so he could live
here. I feel very So it sounds
like there's difficulty
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fracturing in the relationship
there and her family. And she
feels used. How would you
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recommend she handle this with
her daughter and grandson looks
and son. praying. I to me just
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say, hey. You can't change what
they want to do early, you know,
don't want to do that.
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But >> just keep reassuring that
you will always be there for
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them when their and pray. And
and that prayer, of course. But
yeah, I just letting them
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know because I've seen that
happen in where there's a
faction family point.
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Something's happening. And
there's a reason for that. But
if you just reassure them that
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you will always be that's good
because you do have to give them
over to the law or have
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continue praying for them. But
you cannot force someone to
treat you right? Are to love
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So all you can do is love them
in an appropriate way. So let
them know that you still love
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them. I'm still here. and >>
maybe after some time, right
time given the things.
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>> And hopefully they'll be able
to see it. You know, that
change, but maybe maybe one
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person might be gone and maybe
they'll change after to get any
other help them. No, okay.
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>> Well, we will pray for you.
Surely here when we get some
more pretty close make sure we
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pray special for you in that
difficult situation. But that
some very good advice, ladies,
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we talked in the first hour
about quality time in acts of
service were transition now to
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do And we're going to talk about
physical touch. So this is one
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of the 5 love languages. Talk to
us about that. Sure. Well, as
few of the other ladies
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mentions. This is actually one
of my top languages. And I just
want to say, I appreciate
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>> that the man these said Gary
Chapman, that did I believe that
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was ordained by God because I
mean, think about how much we
miss communicate things to
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people and I just think that
it's it's awesome that we can.
We have a way to to show love.
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And if we know someone's love
language, we can give that to
them. And so for of course,
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just want to reiterate again
that I'll be talking about
appropriate touch and not
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inappropriate which of course we
know classified as abuse or
things like that. But I'm
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talking about appropriate touch.
And so and as far as like the
personal side of for
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me touch makes me feel valued.
Noticed appreciated and loved.
And I love hugs. I'm I have a
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couple of friends that give
really big bear hugs. And I just
love that my sister does
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too. And sometimes she she hugs
me and says it's like, OK, I
can't breathe. I I love
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the bear. Hugs. >> sometimes
I just had my husband because I
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love hugs. And love when he
hugged me from behind. And and
you know, that kind of stuff and
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just the affection and so I
think it's really interesting
the way that we all have our
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love language and I'm not sure
exactly where mine comes from.
As far as the affection and
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the touch. I do know and I
remember that as when we when we
come home at the end of
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long day or something like that,
we would read each other's feet,
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you know, and things like that.
And it's funny because when my
husband first met my family, I
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have a really big family. And
when he first met my family, we
all hugged each other. We first
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see each other and then we leave
and he was not used to out of
his comfort zone. But
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now he loves it and he's used to
it. And so so that's kind of,
you know, some personal
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things. And so. Also on the on
the topic of touch how toward me
and how God touches me in
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different ways. In a house story
about something that happened a
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few years ago, that. It I don't
even remember what happened to
to cause this. But I woke up
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with the feeling that there was
a strong male presence around
like, like large hands around,
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like protective hand. And I knew
it was God because it was very
secure and protective.
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And it was just like a fairy.
Very good feeling. Just feeling
very safe from sleep.
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Yeah. I woke up from sleep with
this. Just this feeling of big
hands around me. And it
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was like it was a good feeling.
And it was just such a a
precious moment that I
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never experienced before. But it
was something I knew that was
from God. And he was
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giving me a message. And so
another way to shows me
affection and touches through
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hugs from other people. As I
mention and also from animals
talked about animals and I
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love to have my hold their nose,
you know, and that kind of
stuff. And animals can be
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so affectionate. And I love
that. And so and also touch of
me towards kind is I think,
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being sensitive to someone that
needs a shoulder to cry on or
just a hug of course,
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I'm cautious with hugs with men
because of obvious reasons. I
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want them to get the wrong idea.
But I think there's a way to
still be compassionate and
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caring maybe not as touchy as I
would be with a woman like, you
know, right hand on the shoulder
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and that kind of stuff. But but
I think it's important to be
sensitive to people that to
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the listening ear like we talked
about, too. But I'm just being
there for a person.
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And I think that's ways that I
can do that towards God. And so
another another in this
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area physical touches. There's
so many stories in the Bible and
theirs. There was a lot to
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try to narrow down for me. And I
know the the most obvious one
that came to my mind was
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from Matthew 9.20. And I wonder
if we can read that the story of
the woman to have an
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issue of it was. Yeah. And we
actually just yeah. We talked
about Bible study last night.
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Yeah, we've it yet. We had
a servant about. >> Yeah. Haha
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nurse in the different gospels,
there's different accounts of
this. Tory and this was Matthew
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9.20, through. TWENTY-TWO and
behold, a woman which was
diseased with an issue of
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blood. 12 years came behind
behind him. That's Jesus and
touch the hem of his garment
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for she said within yourself, if
I may be touch, his garment, I
shall be whole. But
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Jesus turned around about. And
when he saw her, he said
daughter be of good comfort by
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faith, have maybe hole. And the
woman was made whole from that
hour. Yeah. I love the
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fact that she just touch his.
The edge of his karma. Like she
didn't even touch his
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body. >> She just a touch,
something that he was wearing
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like. That's he's the ultimate
healer. And to be able to just
touch that little piece of
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Jesus and says that. He said her
faith made her whole just and
wasn't the garment. It was
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because her faith in Jesus. And
it's just it's amazing how just
that one little bit of
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touch. And in one of the other
gospels that talks about how
Jesus asked the question, who
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touched he knew a lot of people.
Yeah, there's there's so many
people. But of course,
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teases new the he asked the
question, I think maybe to
prompt her. But it's just a
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love. That story in then another
window just mentioned is from
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Genesis to the creation of man
and how God formed man of the
and 3 didn't his nostrils. Yeah.
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I was thinking about the
intimacy of God in me and and
how God just use his hands and
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formed the clay and just that
intimacy there and that the
touch there and then on the
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opposite side would be people
that had leprosy in the Bible
and nobody wanted to touch them
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and just think about, you know,
and I think we kind of had a
small glimpse of this
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with COVID because like when we
had COVID, call a folk kind of
like lepers because like
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nobody when I mean at first,
especially because we didn't
know we're dealing COVID with
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such a mystery. And so it was
kind of like that. I think at
first and I think that without
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human touch, we forget that
we're human. It's just you know,
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it's like with the lepers. I'm
sure that that was very
traumatic. Yes. And so kind of
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along with that. I think that,
you know, there I don't remember
exactly where this is. This is
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found, but it talks about the
love of money growing cold and
so I look at that the lack of
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human interaction now less and
less human interaction as far as
like technology, shopping
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experiences, things like that.
Self check-in and Airbnb you
know, that kind of stuff. It's
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so like lacking the human
interaction. And there was just
a couple of things I want
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to read from the article that I
It's really interesting from wet
and dot com. It's called
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Touch starvation to it talks
about how touch is a condition
that happens when you don't
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get as much physical touch as
you're used to or any at all.
You crave contact that can
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interact with others. For some
reason, it's also known as touch
deprivation or skin
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hunger and people developed
touch starvation because of
social distancing during
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COVID. It can happen with any
lack of physical touch such as
children in orphanages,
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elderly people and hospitals and
just people that don't get
enough positive physical
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contact and then also talks
about why touch is important.
It's how we interact with each
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other. We shake shaking hands.
Used to be a way of feeling a
deal and that kind of thing
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and we have our loved ones. We
high 5 people we know and that
kind of thing. And I thought
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this was really interesting to
says that skin is the largest
organ in your body and sends
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good and bad sensations to your
brain. When you engage in
pleasant touch, like a hug,
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your brain releases a hormone
called oxytocin. This makes you
feel good and firms up
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emotional and social bonds
without while lowering anxiety
and fear. And something we saw
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a lot with COVID was anxiety,
fear depression. Yes, even talks
about it birth and how
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babies. You know, you guys
probably heard the stories
before, but that babies, you
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know, when they first the the
doctors suggest some others hold
them to bond with them
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and it actually helps their
their sleep, their digestion
bills immune system, fight
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infections and you know that
it's such an important thing to
have touch. And it says if
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you don't get enough physical
touch, you become stressed.
Anxious, depressed as response
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to stress your body makes a
hormone called cortisol. This
can make your heart blood
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pressure and muscle tension and
breathing rate go up and also
has bad effects on our
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immune system and digestive
system. I mean, all of these
different things can be caused
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from lack of touch. And so it it
also affects our medical
conditions like diabetes,
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asthma, high blood pressure and
things like that can actually be
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worse. And can even this is it
can even trigger PTSD people.
And also talks about ways we can
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fights touch starvation things
that we can do like a video chat
which is not touch, that we
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can have that human interaction
and you can do exercises in a
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social setting and that kind of
stuff and seeing which we, you
know, seeing in church and that
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kind of stuff. And I'm sitting
with other people. one of my
favorites was like I mentioned
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earlier is interacting with your
pets my husband and I we we have
little things that we
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do for each other and but I I
enjoy cuddling with him on the
couch with their cats. And
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it's just it's just special. I
think it's it's important to
have that because and like I
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mentioned the beginning, it is
it. It helps a person feel
valued and noticed. And it's
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I'm really thankful for the gift
of touch and God gave us these
ways that we can reach
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out to other people. And I'm
just thankful that, you know, we
can actually. you know,
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because if we couldn't do that,
just imagine right. so it's just
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a blessing to be able to touch
and to be touched. >> thank so
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much. In great job on line to
pick with Yeah, that's powerful.
I was thinking you reference the
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lepers and it's interesting
because I was thinking Matthew
8, remember when Jesus healed
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collector and witnesses say he
reached out and touched is going
to heal them with the
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word in the letter was clearly
untouchable as in one of those
outcasts from society that
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would have felt that touch
deprivation, that isolation. And
yet Jesus touch So. We
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touch the untouchable people who
are and yeah, how do we do that?
And I it's not like
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people have leprosy was some
people do. But I by and large,
we're not going to come in
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contact. Probably someone with
leprosy, but yet there might be
some people that may be
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from both the wrong way. Maybe
we're >> You know, you prickly
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or maybe their prickly and you
don't want to even reach out and
say, hey, how you doing?
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Because their prickly. So how do
we do that? How do we reach out?
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>> For the Untouchables mind
there are other love Maybe isn't
it? Maybe, you know, act
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sort of action acts of service
or, you know, just talking to
them, cooking them something
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or yes, showing love to them.
And once they feel loved by you,
they may allow. Yeah.
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Once you went you. >> Once they
learn to trust you in your feed,
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their pain is And then maybe
they will allow. Yeah, some of
yeah. Even it's the elbow boys
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just yeah. >> I like that.
My husband always. Gave all the
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windows in the church. Hugs all.
I was a big guy. He's a big guy.
come up to him and just fight
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just Later on after hours what I
was like. Thank you, David Frum.
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>> Pain far some hugs for me
because >> you do. I understand
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touch. Yeah. For a shun it that
David, I always held hands. So
there was always a touchy
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time. We're it. Our second
loveline ridges. Both of us was
touch. And so we were
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always touching, holding hands.
So that is that is something
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that pets animals. Good
substitute. That also just what
about getting if you're a single
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person? What about getting some
children in your life? Just
maybe 2 help out a single
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mothers, something and then you
can hug a her hand. >> And you
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can talk to them. Children love
to have attention paid to them.
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So if you >> are are lacking in
your life right now with touch.
>> Think about helping the
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children that are in the church
in your neighborhood. You have
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to be careful, of course, to be
appropriate and you have to gain
the parents truck today after an
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animal touches every special. if
you can. I like that. This
question actually pertains to
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touch. So we're going to go to
this now. And this is a
sensitive question. If you
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have. >> Children, young
children in the home right now,
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maybe get them involved in
something else. Just while we
have this one discussion. This
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is from they just gave their
initials. My husband prefers the
Internet over me. I'm married
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almost 4 years. He has not
touched me in 3 years. He says I
am at normal to need
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intimacy. I am. What would you
say to this one? That's why. >>
I would tell her that her
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value is so much more these
women that he may be viewing not
to compare yourself with
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anyone else. And because God
loves and tear special to him.
Even though it hurts. And
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there's comparison. It's it's
difficult. But your special to
guide us. That's beautiful.
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Anyone pray for your husband.
You sometimes men do reasons
they don't even know why
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they're doing it. Maybe
something happened in their
00:19:38.57\00:19:41.11
life. >> That's causing them to
do that. And pray for go to
council. And if you both want
00:19:41.11\00:19:47.88
to stay in the match and can
work it pray for your has been.
Yeah, you know, talk
00:19:47.88\00:19:54.46
find out what his Loveland is.
Find out what you can do to be a
better wife. Pray for God to
00:19:54.46\00:20:00.66
help me to be a better wife.
Pray for your husband and just
know God loves you. You feed
00:20:00.66\00:20:09.20
and use the word of God. I have
been through that. I'm telling
you, my cousin. She
00:20:09.20\00:20:14.11
would tell me girl to street
songs. Just just do respond your
your feel so out. I would
00:20:14.11\00:20:18.08
go. I'll go cry. >> And but
it got got me through it have a
00:20:18.08\00:20:25.69
beautiful marriage now, but
don't give up. Payton wants
parents just to, you know, just
00:20:25.69\00:20:31.59
forget it just help but no fight
for you pray for your husband.
You know, I also want to add to
00:20:31.59\00:20:37.03
that pornography is also
referred to as false And so
someone that goes after false
00:20:37.03\00:20:47.71
intimacy needs. >> Needs to find
out why they have that need.
00:20:47.71\00:20:51.61
There's something that's lacking
and it's. It's an issue that.
Like you're saying, pray for
00:20:51.61\00:21:00.46
your husband because he has a
need for intimacy that is being
fulfilled that he doesn't that
00:21:00.46\00:21:06.66
there's there's a need there
in. God can feel that. That
00:21:06.66\00:21:14.50
intimacy. >> But her, your
strength and your love will come
from. Seen Scott sees you. You
00:21:14.50\00:21:21.88
are beloved right. Daughter of
the law your beautiful. Still
your strength to be able to do
00:21:21.88\00:21:26.48
all these things that they're
saying that you can do is it's
got to be anchored in the
00:21:26.48\00:21:32.29
Lord. that's where your beauty
and your being loved will come
from U.S.. Firms only married
00:21:32.29\00:21:39.93
4 years or you that about one
to happen to me. Yeah. spray and
00:21:39.93\00:21:46.27
find a Christian counselor.
Yeah. Find a >> Yeah. >> This is
00:21:46.27\00:21:50.81
one more question and then we'll
switch to another love language.
This one says this was a
00:21:50.81\00:21:56.81
sensitive topic to up in this
one says I love my children.
This is from Judy in Oregon. But
00:21:56.81\00:22:01.85
I feel so guilty about the abuse
they had to deal with from the
father growing up. How do I
00:22:01.85\00:22:06.79
stop feeling guilty about this?
Can God forgive? Then she says
they are adults now
00:22:06.79\00:22:13.76
and doing great. So her made it
through that difficult time and
are doing well. But she
00:22:13.76\00:22:17.00
feels guilt over. What they
experienced as a child at the
hands of their Anything you
00:22:17.00\00:22:22.90
would give her. the past. Just
move forward. Give it to the
Give it to the floor.
00:22:22.90\00:22:33.28
>> God has already. If you've
asked God for forgiveness by
Angie is already giving
00:22:33.28\00:22:37.55
forgiveness, but you have to
accept it and then move forward
and and and take joy
00:22:37.55\00:22:44.79
and that God help them to
overcome that and that they have
these beautiful lives.
00:22:44.79\00:22:49.76
Yeah, got does not want you
beating yourself up. That's not
all. What a daughter of
00:22:49.76\00:22:55.20
God needs to do. Again. Look at
yourself to God ties. He has
already forgiven. You.
00:22:55.20\00:23:03.31
That's right. Except that from
him. And the children well. >>
They're from and that's not
00:23:03.31\00:23:09.92
from guide. Sorry. Yes, not from
God kill that, you know, that's
00:23:09.92\00:23:16.12
not from I say and resist say
and he will flee from you. And
let me tell you took me a long
00:23:16.12\00:23:18.99
time to realize that when I
finally. >> God showed it to me.
I stepped in it continue to.
00:23:18.99\00:23:25.00
Take those thoughts out of my
head and I said, no, not today
say and not today. And let me
00:23:25.00\00:23:33.04
tell you, those thought to leave
and they forward, you know, if
00:23:33.04\00:23:37.88
her children are grown in and
they're doing well. Yeah, yeah.
means you must have done Not
00:23:37.88\00:23:44.52
respond you for your husband's
Andy. >> It's not something you
probably could have stopped
00:23:44.52\00:23:50.33
that you had to have done
something right or your children
00:23:50.33\00:23:55.46
wouldn't be with. dealing with
guilt. yeah. Guilt is not. >> As
an add to that, I think
00:23:55.46\00:24:01.70
that even though the children
who are doing fine, sometimes
things are buried under the
00:24:01.70\00:24:06.17
surface that maybe they seem
find it. Good counsel, Christian
00:24:06.17\00:24:11.78
counselor can help with the
things that have happened
because it's so easy to bury
00:24:11.78\00:24:15.12
things and look like we're good
on the surface. And so maybe
even counseling all together as
00:24:15.12\00:24:22.06
a family, just to process what
happened have dinner with them
and talk to them and let them
00:24:22.06\00:24:26.06
know how you feel. I feel bad
because this your father, you
know, how are you doing?
00:24:26.06\00:24:30.50
>> Are you over it to we need
to, you know, see counseling. Is
there anything I can do to
00:24:30.50\00:24:35.00
help you? You know, let them
know that you care. Good. EB
00:24:35.00\00:24:41.48
Salute Lee. >> We have many
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We have 2 faces of Love, love
00:25:13.34\00:25:21.02
languages. Francine, we're
coming to you, OK? And you have
get cy-hawk. Do you have?
00:25:21.02\00:25:27.32
>> This was a little interesting
and I'll start with real quick
00:25:27.32\00:25:32.23
with my grandfather would always
go to different countries and
bring back a little doll and now
00:25:32.23\00:25:36.20
and he would bring back a doll
for myself and for my assistant
now, both of us had a
00:25:36.20\00:25:42.37
different reaction. And, you
know, sometimes we get one of
them. One of us might be
00:25:42.37\00:25:46.27
really into the gift like all
this is so precious. And I have
to be honest, I kept I
00:25:46.27\00:25:52.78
still have my dolls. Not that
that's my strongest which but I
still have, you know, those
00:25:52.78\00:25:59.19
And, you know, my sister would
be more interested in like we
did. You get like, where's the
00:25:59.19\00:26:04.29
story behind it? And so again,
that's talking about the love
languages. And so icon for the
00:26:04.29\00:26:10.13
stop giving both of us the
saying get you know what I'm
saying. So even though you
00:26:10.13\00:26:15.90
love language is not necessarily
the gift, but maybe it's the
00:26:15.90\00:26:18.44
process of the time that you
took for it. You know, sometimes
when we're talking about gifts,
00:26:18.44\00:26:22.38
it doesn't mean just necessarily
the physical, you element of it.
But it's also the other
00:26:22.38\00:26:31.39
different languages that it took
to get those gifts or 2. We see
those gifts now I have
00:26:31.39\00:26:36.56
we have some of us blast by I
had to share this. But we yeah,
young lady say the spill
00:26:36.56\00:26:45.70
she gets all these little, she
this one has to be forgot about
that one. And she just
00:26:45.70\00:26:52.27
gives us a little things of
calendar. Sometimes a little
book markers. And there's
00:26:52.27\00:26:57.11
always a calling patients that I
can color with my daughter but
these are just a little
00:26:57.11\00:27:04.35
gifts like it's not really.
She's so good at the but has us
that she loves or that
00:27:04.35\00:27:10.13
cares about us. And, you know,
sometimes and there's certain
people that they seem like
00:27:10.13\00:27:16.90
they don't want to hug. >> You
know, and even when you start
having them, but then
00:27:16.90\00:27:22.54
they're the ones that really
need because maybe something in
their life has changed and
00:27:22.54\00:27:28.28
they don't have that problem. >>
And, you know, I of course, my
favorite person is Jesus.
00:27:28.28\00:27:33.82
But how Jesus was always worried
about they that hatch, of
course. But also he was
00:27:33.82\00:27:42.66
giving gifts. Now he would often
give it food or whatever. And we
00:27:42.66\00:27:49.23
see that he would. Of course, we
know that he gave his life for
us. We know that he, you know,
00:27:49.23\00:27:52.50
did a lot of things. But
remember, it was the physical
need to. And that was the
00:27:52.50\00:27:58.41
feeding of the 4th out of 4,005
1000 and not Luke. And then we
see those things. That guy was
00:27:58.41\00:28:07.25
worried about. I need you. And
he was always willing to give.
But favorite story that I feel
00:28:07.25\00:28:14.06
like encompasses all the 5
languages. It's really win. The
children. One the parents
00:28:14.06\00:28:24.17
brought their children and you
know that reminds me, you know,
this is again, how Jesus
00:28:24.17\00:28:34.74
wanted. 2 blasts these children
now the parents selfish in
wanting a gift from
00:28:34.74\00:28:44.29
God. And he with the disciples
doing first. And they they said
no, but I can. It was
00:28:44.29\00:28:54.10
interesting because Jesus
rebuked the disciples. Yes. And
ferrying affirming that
00:28:54.10\00:29:01.20
let the little children come to
me affirming that And then what
was he doing? I mean,
00:29:01.20\00:29:06.04
let's talk about it. You
physically bringing the kids on
your lap. we're talking
00:29:06.04\00:29:13.11
about the physical touch. okay.
What talking about the quality
00:29:13.11\00:29:20.76
time. Each child blessing each
And of course, the active
service in my book is actually
00:29:20.76\00:29:29.26
doing what the parents were
requesting, you know, just
saying, can you imagine that?
00:29:29.26\00:29:32.27
You know, these parents wanted.
Favor for their children, not
for themselves, but for their
00:29:32.27\00:29:40.44
And then, of course, you know,
we all have these different
gifts, but I like that story
00:29:40.44\00:29:46.25
in that when we think about
Jesus, he was example of
demonstrating each of these
00:29:46.25\00:29:54.66
different 5 love languages. Yes,
absolutely. And they say even
though we think that
00:29:54.66\00:29:58.69
babies. Need that touch and we
know about orphans and we've
heard the stories, you know,
00:29:58.69\00:30:06.84
the ones that didn't have the
physical touch, but it's really
all those 5 elements
00:30:06.84\00:30:11.14
and that we don't know how much
that develops that child, but
the ones that have been
00:30:11.14\00:30:18.18
held early on as a child, other
ones that grow up to be adults
that feel successful
00:30:18.18\00:30:26.86
are, you know, feel like they
have something to contribute.
They're not the ones that I
00:30:26.86\00:30:33.96
always struggling so much.
There's tell for sure they know
their direction. No
00:30:33.96\00:30:36.70
goals, goal oriented. I should
say. Again, you know, just
thinking about the children
00:30:36.70\00:30:45.01
and when you don't know, for
example, children are hard to
read. You know, especially if
00:30:45.01\00:30:49.58
they're younger than 2 and
whatnot. Yeah. But if you attach
these different love
00:30:49.58\00:30:54.22
languages and even whoever in
your family even, you know, just
because you know, your
00:30:54.22\00:31:01.59
husband is year or, you know,
it's affirmation, for example.
Do you give up on the other
00:31:01.59\00:31:09.30
no, you know. And so I seeing
that Jesus was. Was able to do
all of often. And as a
00:31:09.30\00:31:21.48
teacher, I mean, I remember love
languages for children. Trying
00:31:21.48\00:31:29.15
to do that in a classroom of I
don't know. 25, you what, you've
got to do those things. And
00:31:29.15\00:31:33.46
sometimes it was motion that,
you know, but it was all those
things and you couldn't do it to
00:31:33.46\00:31:38.79
one more than the other. Like
even the affirmation, you know,
you had to make sure that you're
00:31:38.79\00:31:42.56
taking a turn. And I think
that's an example that we can
see what Jesus saw and other
00:31:42.56\00:31:49.30
people. And so don't think that
just because we're talking about
00:31:49.30\00:31:52.54
a particular love language and
this is your U.S.. I think the
00:31:52.54\00:31:58.95
wholeheartedly. And I focus
needs to be have to be honest
with you. And I had to research
00:31:58.95\00:32:02.65
this because they were asking me
what is my love language. And I
was like, well, I think it's
00:32:02.65\00:32:07.69
changed and I looked it up and
can it change? Yes, it can. You
love language can actually
00:32:07.69\00:32:11.86
change. And I see that because
him and that she loves gifts,
Utah. She is. So my thank you.
00:32:11.86\00:32:19.17
My daughter loves these gifts.
And so, you know, she wants to
know what this is. And sometimes
00:32:19.17\00:32:24.31
it's a little raccoon I cameras
something, you know, whatever it
is, you know, and you realize
00:32:24.31\00:32:29.04
that you kind of. >> More from
little more into that, I think
00:32:29.04\00:32:34.12
what I'm saying because of the
people that you're around with
you more to have, know, anyway,
00:32:34.12\00:32:40.76
just food for >> Where you love
you that. Thank you so much.
00:32:40.76\00:32:43.89
That's beautiful. What I love is
the story of Jesus in the
children need to and how that
00:32:43.89\00:32:50.00
incorporates all. That's D
really good because yeah, we all
respond to all of the love
00:32:50.00\00:32:57.21
like apps We measure primary
frying. We usually have a Yeah.
All of them affect us.
00:32:57.21\00:33:05.25
You know, what's interesting is
supposedly a steady happened. I
00:33:05.25\00:33:11.89
think it was 2022. >> And gift
is one of the ones that was
mentioned, the that they say
00:33:11.89\00:33:15.59
people. >> That they love
language. And I thought really,
you know, you part of me was
00:33:15.59\00:33:22.26
like, oh, OK, but but again,
it's all those other attributes
that, you know, might be in
00:33:22.26\00:33:27.37
the gift. So we still give all
like receiving and giving gives
might. But it's more the
00:33:27.37\00:33:34.48
other elements that come into
that play. Well, that's true
because you can give our
00:33:34.48\00:33:36.48
remember when I was a little
kid, we didn't have money we
want to get her mom and dad a
00:33:36.48\00:33:42.58
gift and we didn't know how to
do it in ISIS turn. I didn't
have any money to contribute.
00:33:42.58\00:33:46.15
>> So I remember that we wrote
down. I can just barely write. I
would probably 5, 6, And I
00:33:46.15\00:33:51.99
remember I wrote Down, Wash the
car. right. Axis are cook food,
even though I could
00:33:51.99\00:34:01.24
hardly and give shoulder rubs.
So and I was just my mom and
dad. And this was my gift for
00:34:01.24\00:34:08.28
Christmas. And it was all it was
a gift, but it encompasses
quality time. this service and
00:34:08.28\00:34:13.28
encompass physical touch words
of affirmation. So, you know, it
doesn't compass. That's
00:34:13.28\00:34:19.29
really like them. Friends, you
know, the full on. We know it.
What gifts to give other
00:34:19.29\00:34:24.73
people. You ever face. That is a
woman. Oh, I don't even know it
by them. I want to give
00:34:24.73\00:34:32.20
even know what gift to give
someone I've actually paid about
it. And it's interesting
00:34:32.20\00:34:36.91
when somebody says, how did you
know? And I'm like I It really
wasn't always scared. I
00:34:36.91\00:34:43.14
had to be honest because you get
to those moments where we
honestly don't know. We don't,
00:34:43.14\00:34:49.88
but you might be intuitive. You
might start seeing things and
00:34:49.88\00:34:54.26
then somehow. >> I seen it time
and time again. It's the Holy
Spirit. It really Absolutely.
00:34:54.26\00:34:59.89
And being observant, into what
they. >> What colors they like,
00:34:59.89\00:35:04.63
what they wear like the colors
that they wear. If it's. >>
Something like that and
00:35:04.63\00:35:08.70
what they talk about and >>
usually go ask somebody, what
does this think they
00:35:08.70\00:35:18.41
like. Yeah. So I usually just go
around. Good. Those are a good
way like them. Let's
00:35:18.41\00:35:23.92
transition to the last
face of love out his words of
00:35:23.92\00:35:32.49
affirmation it. >> Well, I
thought about it quite a You
know, we all respond to the
00:35:32.49\00:35:39.87
different love languages we just
respond Each of us to each of
them because I think they're all
00:35:39.87\00:35:44.31
a part of us. >> If your primary
love language is words of
00:35:44.31\00:35:50.25
affirmation by Dan, you react or
respond very strongly to words
They can take you up to
00:35:50.25\00:35:58.89
that high mountain top 5th. The
loved ones. Some some loved one
00:35:58.89\00:36:03.02
says something to you. Arthel.
Loved one can take you down to
the valley ally of despair with
00:36:03.02\00:36:10.63
just a careless word. Okay. When
we're reading our Bible, we will
come to passages that
00:36:10.63\00:36:19.07
speak to us regarding something
that word. Currently happening
00:36:19.07\00:36:27.38
or going through. And then that
becomes very intimate to us.
These are lifting us up to the
00:36:27.38\00:36:42.36
and also. It gives us a feeling
of his presence. know, I'm this.
I'm close to the Lord. I'm on
00:36:42.36\00:36:46.84
valley. And then sometimes it.
Pixar conscience because it's
something that we need to fix.
00:36:46.84\00:36:55.24
Yeah. Feeling guilty about and
the desire for given forgiveness
00:36:55.24\00:37:02.82
is very intense and us. So then
it's a matter of how we respond.
If we respond very quickly with
00:37:02.82\00:37:08.26
an affirmation action. Then. Our
emotions after reading that and
studying the Bible because
00:37:08.26\00:37:19.47
it is God speaking directly
to us. If we go to him and it
00:37:19.47\00:37:25.24
positive action of forgiveness,
then we will have a piece that
we're not going to have that
00:37:25.24\00:37:31.68
piece and tell we go to the Lord
and and if we do that quickly,
do it the quicker we have the
00:37:31.68\00:37:41.32
Okay. gods. The study in reading
the Bible. God is speaking
directly to us and our current
00:37:41.32\00:37:51.17
situation. Emotions are affected
by that. But even if our
primary, even if our
00:37:51.17\00:37:58.54
primary language is not words of
affirmation, we have a response
to his words in a way
00:37:58.54\00:38:04.65
that we would not have to human
words. just different, OK? Now,
00:38:04.65\00:38:11.09
my primary love language is
words of from a I? There were
several Bible verses that I
00:38:11.09\00:38:19.93
claimed in held on to once I
became without one being. I'm
right here. I have it written
00:38:19.93\00:38:29.54
down as some 68 5. And that's
where God David says that God
says that that God is a defender
00:38:29.54\00:38:38.85
of without just in. I had to
claim that my husband was 6 foot
8 and he was very broad
00:38:38.85\00:38:43.72
in the shoulders. And when he
hugged me, I always feel very
safe and protected from him
00:38:43.72\00:38:51.69
when he wrapped his arms around
me. In my mind and heart, no one
00:38:51.69\00:38:58.27
could touch or harm me and I and
completely loved so didn't know
So when I lost David, I meant it
00:38:58.27\00:39:08.31
had to completely lean on the
Lord. So there was nobody so
Isaiah 41 to 10. Someone gave
00:39:08.31\00:39:16.79
that to me and I have loved it.
I haven't hung in my bed roads.
It's like Isaiah. 41 1 fear
00:39:16.79\00:39:23.73
not for I am with you. Yes. Be
not dismayed for I am your God.
I was trying to new. Yes,
00:39:23.73\00:39:30.13
I will help you. I will uphold
you with my righteous. Just my
right hand. God is so good
00:39:30.13\00:39:39.07
with words of affirmation and a
and lifting a softening courage.
And so the Bible was
00:39:39.07\00:39:44.71
where I got my strength. That
was it was what carried me
through night. And I became
00:39:44.71\00:39:51.15
closer with God because I had
lost a month because human
words. Are not as good. And
00:39:51.15\00:40:01.66
David was very good with words
and he could lift me up to the
sky and encourage me and make
00:40:01.66\00:40:05.40
me believe that there was
nothing we could do together
everything. Anything we can do
00:40:05.40\00:40:11.27
together. It was going to be
able to be able to that.
However, a careless could of
00:40:11.27\00:40:18.15
criticism could. Devastating.
And he didn't even know he was
doing it. You didn't do it
00:40:18.15\00:40:26.32
deliberately. He wasn't trying
to hurt me. And we didn't know
our own languages of love. We
00:40:26.32\00:40:33.16
were married a lot of years be
because we got married and 71.
He wrote the book and 92?
00:40:33.16\00:40:40.97
Yeah. was and I tell them that
we found out. But our love
language was so we I would do
00:40:40.97\00:40:49.08
I would talk to him about
wonderful things and he would do
acts of service for me.
00:40:49.08\00:40:55.15
Vehicle. We appreciated them. I
was told he was acts of service,
00:40:55.15\00:41:00.16
which I was completely in So I
wouldn't come just tell him how
wonderful he was. He would
00:41:00.16\00:41:06.26
bring me it Claire's. >> But it
wasn't that big of a deal. But
00:41:06.26\00:41:18.27
once we so we accidentally fed
each other once in a while,
really needed >> I know that he
00:41:18.27\00:41:23.11
would say to me. Dear, we having
lunch had like, well, are you
00:41:23.11\00:41:36.52
hungry? He'd like? >> his and
I'm working. I don't even think
about eating. And he was like I
00:41:36.52\00:41:41.46
shouldn't have to tell you. It's
Making sense to me if you're
hungry, just tell me. that once
00:41:41.46\00:41:49.60
learned each other's once we
learned each other's love
language, then we could be we
00:41:49.60\00:41:58.85
could deliberately and
intentionally start speaking in
filling each other's love
00:41:58.85\00:42:03.85
need a different. It was
wonderful and we could laugh
00:42:03.85\00:42:08.12
about it. >> Him the last few
months, Scott has begun to show
me that my love language of
00:42:08.12\00:42:15.73
words of affirmation was a gift.
He gave me along with gifts of
helps. So how is I use in my
00:42:15.73\00:42:19.57
words? The fire is a question.
Christian. I use my words often
00:42:19.57\00:42:28.84
to be funny and sarcastic way.
So people would laugh. And I was
entertaining. But a lot of
00:42:28.84\00:42:35.05
times, even the person. They
would laugh. But maybe I hurt
them too. So after I became a
00:42:35.05\00:42:43.09
Christian, I still continue to
be entertaining. I think I said
what about? Curtis was set. He
00:42:43.09\00:42:53.37
he'll know he's funny. And in
that he'll never be as
entertaining as I ever
00:42:53.37\00:43:04.28
>> so I got has impressed me.
>> That I need to be intentional
00:43:04.28\00:43:14.49
speaking in my words of 2 other
people and not just entertaining
or not just So it's made a
00:43:14.49\00:43:22.46
difference in because if I'm
going to try to intentionally
speak to someone. I have to
00:43:22.46\00:43:27.20
start paying attention to them
what are their needs reading
them. And and it takes you out
00:43:27.20\00:43:34.94
of yourself. And I am very
grateful. It makes a difference.
00:43:34.94\00:43:40.82
So I'm successful in doing this.
99% of the time. there's always.
My days are better than I am
00:43:40.82\00:43:49.79
successful. then when I don't
quite be as successful, it can
cause a disaster. It makes my
00:43:49.79\00:44:01.10
day not so good and it can. It
can be not a very good. David
also can turn into a disaster
00:44:01.10\00:44:07.48
I want have 100% surrender
because there are consequences
to fail I'm not only to me but
00:44:07.48\00:44:14.72
to others to So I'm grateful
that God. Helps me try to stay
on this path and I'm working.
00:44:14.72\00:44:25.13
so if you hear me sometimes, I
am open to So everyone out that
let me encourage you the
00:44:25.13\00:44:31.53
cause. Words of affirmation do
touch all of us no matter what
our love Yes. So I would
00:44:31.53\00:44:41.21
encourage you with God's words
of songs. 37 24 4. And that is
though he or she. Fall, they
00:44:41.21\00:44:51.69
shall not be utterly cast down.
for the Lord of holds him with
00:44:51.69\00:44:58.49
his hands. >> Whether your love
languages, affirmation, words of
affirmation or not. I
00:44:58.49\00:45:05.10
encourage you to use them well
and be a voice for the Lord to
uplift your brothers and
00:45:05.10\00:45:12.67
sisters. no matter what your
love languages, let words of
affirmation be a part of it.
00:45:12.67\00:45:16.38
>> And I think it will. Change
your world that's someone
else's. Yeah. Thank you so
00:45:16.38\00:45:22.52
much. She that's beautiful. >>
He had a for years by your desk.
I hope I can remember,
00:45:22.52\00:45:29.09
right, Lord, please keep your
hand on my shoulder. Now and
your hand over my mask.
00:45:29.09\00:45:37.23
>> Haha. >> Now one that
said, please let my words to be
00:45:37.23\00:45:41.57
pleasant. I may have to eat him
haha office and laugh and go.
Those are good that says.
00:45:41.57\00:45:53.38
>> It is better to I forgot what
it says. No nevermind better
just to right words and
00:45:53.38\00:46:00.39
have to I try and do what you
can and do they do? >> I have a
00:46:00.39\00:46:04.29
question that came mind as
you're talking is how do you
distinguish words of affirmation
00:46:04.29\00:46:13.50
and flattery? And not do you
know because flattery is? >> Not
to me. It's very easy
00:46:13.50\00:46:18.77
when someone starts trying to
lift media, I consider that I
don't know. It had to when
00:46:18.77\00:46:26.65
someone starts getting a little
too. Yeah. And the flowery and
00:46:26.65\00:46:38.63
kanji. I just love that. Hand
worked for me what do you want
to buy? Nation are.
00:46:38.63\00:46:49.64
>> And gee, I free on lifting
you up. You do different job.
I'm very happy. Yeah. That God
00:46:49.64\00:46:57.25
gave hassle, indicate a
wonderful someday. >> I think
00:46:57.25\00:47:03.82
yeah. Time raise, you know, look
in the eye I yeah, motive motive
makes it does. And when people
00:47:03.82\00:47:11.19
do flatter you and there are
there, you're getting
uncomfortable. You just give
00:47:11.19\00:47:12.79
it to the larger like, well,
thank you. I praise the Lord
that he is blessed. always say
00:47:12.79\00:47:19.33
that give it right back with a
of praise. The Lord raise alarm
about gave me a gift to
00:47:19.33\00:47:24.21
help where we're so happy to do
this for Thank you, Lord. >>
Words are so varying
00:47:24.21\00:47:28.61
important. You know, they say
sticks and stones may break my
bones was never words would
00:47:28.61\00:47:34.38
never Words hurt extremely. And
so it's so important. The words
we use or if we mess up
00:47:34.38\00:47:41.19
with the words we used to go
back and say I'm so sorry
hurting you. I'm sorry. For
00:47:41.19\00:47:46.19
the words I used to edify and
lift up our and sisters. Let's
have some prayer request of
00:47:46.19\00:47:58.51
This just to read them through
and then we'll spend some time
in prayer. Andrew Whitaker
00:47:58.51\00:48:02.31
from Canada, ivory per request.
I need to move to a safer and
more affordable this
00:48:02.31\00:48:10.35
one is just initials from New
York. Please pray. For healing
for this friends foot from
00:48:10.35\00:48:21.16
someone else needs prayer for
healing. He's very sick right
now in the hospital. This one
00:48:21.16\00:48:27.40
says pray for my nephew,
Nehemiah who's chosen to live a
life of l***. Pray for my
00:48:27.40\00:48:34.88
siblings and nieces and nephews
who are being consumed by the
00:48:34.88\00:48:39.88
distractions of worldliness and
seeking man's approval.
Following faults profits and
00:48:39.88\00:48:46.35
fault sconce pray for my
children to keep holding the
hand of the Lord. Never take
00:48:46.35\00:48:50.96
their eyes off him. Pray for my
husband. It was losing his
family by ignoring the tugging
00:48:50.96\00:48:56.43
on his heart of Jesus Christ.
Pray that God would obliterate
Satan's hold on his family. This
00:48:56.43\00:49:06.01
one's is from Thompson in
Maryland. Pray for me for God to
perform eye surgery tomorrow
00:49:06.01\00:49:13.01
through my doctor. Don't know
what's are you having Thompson
tomorrow? But we will be
00:49:13.01\00:49:14.88
praying for you. This is pray
for my son and a lot around
battling with the pain of
00:49:14.88\00:49:22.56
prostate and for his wife and
children in this one says. My
daughter does not go to school
00:49:22.56\00:49:28.30
on a regular basis. And I feel
sad in my heart. What kind of
mother would allow this to
00:49:28.30\00:49:34.67
keep happening? Please pray.
She's dealing with guilt as
well. seems like several
00:49:34.67\00:49:39.54
tonight. Yeah. Out with a or
not. Sure if God can forgive you
so let's spend a moment
00:49:39.54\00:49:45.35
just talking about that guilt
for this mom and then maybe we
can go to the Lord in prayer,
00:49:45.35\00:49:50.19
but anything you would tell her.
But not holding on to guilt or
not caring, killed.
00:49:50.19\00:49:56.39
You know, self talk. >> We we we
carry that guilt and we do a lot
00:49:56.39\00:50:02.96
of self talk to to emphasize it.
And just just after words of
affirmation that Lord, I
00:50:02.96\00:50:10.21
accept your Thank you for for
giving me change. You are in
negative words in your
00:50:10.21\00:50:17.68
negative thoughts and you need
to speak them out loud. This may
sound silly and you may
00:50:17.68\00:50:22.45
not be able to do it at first,
but tuck yourself in a mere.
Lord. Thank you for for giving
00:50:22.45\00:50:32.23
me. And and and say right words
of affirmation to yourself.
Shelley talks about
00:50:32.23\00:50:36.23
that a lot from what we feed our
brain is what kind of goes into
our heart in a bean. So
00:50:36.23\00:50:41.80
you have to start after doing
affirmations of what the Bible
read, the promises in the
00:50:41.80\00:50:50.05
Bible out loud. Yes, and
internalize them to you because
00:50:50.05\00:50:56.82
guilt is Satan's. Yeah. And he's
trying to take you down. Telly.
Look, raise your eyes of to have
00:50:56.82\00:51:03.86
look up to lift to rise up and
speak words of affirmation I
would say there is a true guilt
00:51:03.86\00:51:10.93
that comes from God. And true
because God brings conviction.
Yes conviction of got the
00:51:10.93\00:51:20.68
condemnation. >> This from the
and a and Satan is the accuser,
00:51:20.68\00:51:24.48
the brother. So you do. You can
differentiate between 2 2 more
prayer requests and then we'll
00:51:24.48\00:51:28.55
pray. This is from Jamaica. And
Jane Point like that great for
me and my children to
00:51:28.55\00:51:31.72
have. >> Peace. >>
Enjoy game and all. And
00:51:31.72\00:51:36.49
this one is Sandy in Michigan.
Pray for my boyfriend, John, who
is believing a lie about
00:51:36.49\00:51:42.40
me. cannot get past. Don't know.
Yeah. It's difficult when you
have that with let's
00:51:42.40\00:51:49.67
go around the circle. I think we
have enough time. Let's around
the circle, start wind
00:51:49.67\00:51:53.81
tunnel and go all the way around
and let's all pray and just pick
00:51:53.81\00:51:55.81
whoever the Lord puts on your
heart from >> Okay. >> To
heavily father. We do.
00:51:55.81\00:52:01.35
Thank you that we can come to
us. Our needs there are so many
needs. Lauren, you see
00:52:01.35\00:52:06.59
and you hear them all even if
they're not even spoken. I'm
thinking of the mothers and
00:52:06.59\00:52:12.43
those that express that they
have guild as we talked about
that condemnation that comes
00:52:12.43\00:52:19.13
from the enemy. But you can lift
that you can give us the spirit
of it of. Your love.
00:52:19.13\00:52:26.51
Instead of the spirit of
heaviness that puts on us. I
just pray that you was lift us
00:52:26.51\00:52:31.61
from those that are experienced
in spirit seeing and that you
00:52:31.61\00:52:36.32
would help them help them to see
their value in you the enemy has
Yeah, they can hold nothing over
00:52:36.32\00:52:41.36
them that they don't allow. You
can take that away. Just help
them to allow you to take
00:52:41.36\00:52:45.39
that away. Word. Thank you. I
have really fallen Regis. >>
love you and show. Your
00:52:45.39\00:52:52.87
love to these people or that the
right people in their way toward
and the one that sticks
00:52:52.87\00:52:57.57
out to me right now is how
people just believe lies. Lord
the couple. They're dating.
00:52:57.57\00:53:06.78
pray there and your faith, lord
and Lord, if you don't want them
together or may you
00:53:06.78\00:53:15.59
give them peace and weave them
to you lord and lead them to.
But for your word and guide
00:53:15.59\00:53:21.50
them. if you want them a baby
together, lording it with
everyone that's sick and the
00:53:21.50\00:53:27.40
Perth test your hand in hand on
them or more let him know that
you're there with have
00:53:27.40\00:53:34.41
really father. There's so many
people like the nephew that has
the children there so many
00:53:34.41\00:53:41.12
they want them to turn to you
specifically and Lord. >> What
can we give you given
00:53:41.12\00:53:45.75
us so much how we can give us a
hard that's the honest pair of I
loved ones they want to
00:53:45.75\00:53:54.40
give to you in Lloyd. And again,
we just at your feet. Please
continue to send the
00:53:54.40\00:54:00.97
Holy Spirit >> He and fathers.
We continue in prayer. I like
00:54:00.97\00:54:08.74
John did a few names and Andrew
needs a place to Lord, please
provide the right place at the
00:54:08.74\00:54:14.08
right time. You know exactly
what he needs to He also the
nephew who's living the life of
00:54:14.08\00:54:22.62
lost all there's a chain that's
find in this young man. I pray,
father, that you he'll
00:54:22.62\00:54:29.10
come to you to break this chain
prayers. Lots of prayers for
this young man is going
00:54:29.10\00:54:34.80
and we pray for the surgery.
Someone's having surgery
tomorrow. All that the speed
00:54:34.80\00:54:42.08
with that person has in the
hospital and please help them to
come through the surgery
00:54:42.08\00:54:48.75
wonderfully. And we know you're
the massive physician. So thank
00:54:48.75\00:54:52.39
you for being and thank you for
our prayer. Thank you for the
wonderful program to 9 and all
00:54:52.39\00:55:00.26
the viewers and be with them.
Fogging up. We look forward to
that. Great. Hey, when will
00:55:00.26\00:55:04.80
meet and that glorious day
in. Haven't faced a blessed with
00:55:04.80\00:55:12.74
pace in name. >> Father, I lift
up to all of up to that. Did not
Colin or Texan, but having of
00:55:12.74\00:55:22.15
pain or of lost children.
Father, we we left our family
and loved ones up we ask that
00:55:22.15\00:55:31.26
you continue striving with them
that they may find you and open
their hearts views you
00:55:31.26\00:55:35.00
are the and father. I also lift
up this gentleman for. Surging.
Give the knowledge,
00:55:35.00\00:55:48.81
let your healing hand there and
then open their minds up to know
00:55:48.81\00:55:53.72
exactly what to do make this a
successful surgery and give him
a piece of yes is he goes into
00:55:53.72\00:55:58.62
this father. And we thank Are.
His luge of prairie privilege of
being your hands and feet
00:55:58.62\00:56:06.63
¤ >> Thank you all so much
for being here. I do now and
00:56:06.63\00:56:14.40
Angela Angie, Andy, you're all
my sister's love you all. Thank
you for sharing your
00:56:14.40\00:56:21.81
heart. experience from the word
of God. And I'm I'm my heart's
been blessed to 9 to
00:56:21.81\00:56:28.05
thank you very much. And just
reminded one of you pray this in
your prayer. What shall I
00:56:28.05\00:56:33.46
rendered to the Lord for all his
benefits toward me? And that is
an incredible psalm.
00:56:33.46\00:56:38.49
What shall I render took on. So
whether you are struggling in
the depths of despair,
00:56:38.49\00:56:45.60
claim the promises in the word
of God, look Jesus, turn him.
And if you are. Relaxing
00:56:45.60\00:56:54.94
basking in the joy of Jesus. We
turn to him your heart returned
to him your service
00:56:54.94\00:57:03.02
and reach out to other people.
know that we love you will see
you next time. He's a rose is
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a ¤ ¤
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¤ ¤ ¤
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