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Series Code: TDYL
Program Code: TDYL210030A
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00:07 WE'RE LIVING IN UNPRECEDENTED TIMES JOIN US NOW FOR TODAY'S
00:13 SPECIAL PROGRAMMING. [MUSIC PLAYING] HIM [MUSIC 01:15 PLAYING]. >> HELLO AND WELCOME TO THREE 01:20 ABN LIVE. WE ARE SO EXCITED ABOUT TONIGHT 01:24 IT'S A WONDERFUL PROGRAM AND I WANT TO TELL YOU IN ADVANCE IT 01:28 WILL BE WONDERFUL BECAUSE WE HAVE SOME ANOINTED GUESTS THAT 01:30 WE WILL TALK ABOUT. SOMETHING THEY PUT A LOT OF 01:34 EFFORT INTO YOU AND THAT IS RELATIONSHIPS. 01:39 I. >> I OUGHT TO GIVE HIM A CHANCE 01:40 TO GET A WORD IN EDGE WISE BUT YOU DO YOU KNOW WHAT THE PROBLEM 01:44 IS WITH THE CHRISTIAN WORLD TODAY? 01:49 THERE IS TOO MUCH RELIGION AND NOT ENOUGH CHRISTIANITY. 01:55 CHRISTIANITY IS ALL ABOUT RELATIONSHIP. 01:58 OUR GOD IS THE GOD OF COVENANT RELATIONSHIP AND IT IS NOT ONLY 02:03 THAT WILL ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THE LORD BUT IT IS ABOUT 02:08 HOW HE EXPECTS US TO THE COVENANT COMMUNITY AND WITH 02:14 THOSE WE -- DON'T KNOW HIS NAME. TONIGHT WE WILL BE TALKING ABOUT 02:20 RELATIONSHIPS THAT ARE IMPORTANT AND LET ME GO AHEAD AND 02:25 INTRODUCE OUR SPECIAL GUEST WHO IS PART OF THE FAMILY NOW AND WE 02:28 ARE SO EXCITED ABOUT THT. WE HAVE PASTOR JAMES JAMES A 02:33 REFEREE AND YOU ARE THE THREE ABN DIRECTOR OF DISCIPLESHIP. 02:41 >> WHAT A PRIVILEGE AND BLESSING. 02:44 >> AND WEIGHT HAVE BEEN BREAKING THIS IN RIGHT TODAY HE HAS 02:50 ALREADY DONE THREE PROGRAMS TODAY AND NOW HE'S ON THE NEXT 02:55 WEEK WE WILL DO 13 SABBATH SCHOOL PROGRAMS IN FOUR DAYS AND 03:02 IT'S SO YOU ARE HITTING THE GROUND RUNNING AND THEN HE WILL 03:07 INFORM US THEN BUT WHAT DID THINK OF THAT. 03:16 I DIDN'T REALIZE HOW INTENSE IT WOULD BE INTO A GOT ON THE SET 03:19 AND THEN I THOUGHT THERE'S NO WAY WE CAN GO THROUGH THE 03:21 SOMEONE WILL HAVE TO'S BUT I WILL HAVE TO SUMMARIZE THIS AND 03:27 HIGHLIGHT THE MAIN TEXT. AS WE SPOKE ABOUT THIS IT BECAME 03:32 FREE -- CLEAR THAT YOU HAD ANSWERS TO PEOPLE THAT WERE 03:40 HUNGRY TO UNDERSTAND. >> IT IS A SOMETIMES I FEEL LIKE 03:44 I AM AN AUCTIONEER HERE AND ALSO THIS IS ANOTHER NEW ABN FAMILY 03:53 AND THAT IS THE NEVER AGING BEAUTIFUL BRIDE OF PASTOR JAMES 03:58 AND THAT'S GREASY RAFFERTY. ARE THE HEALTH MINISTER AND WE 04:04 BROKE YOU IN IT RIGHT TELL US HOW MANY PROGRAMS YOU DID. 04:11 >> WE BUILD 481 HALF MINUTE SECTIONS THROUGH THE EYES OF A 04:17 FOODIE IS WHAT IT'S CALLED WHEN PEOPLE SEE THAT THAT'S WHAT WE 04:21 DO THIS QUICK FILLER IN BETWEEN PROGRAMS CELL. 04:26 >> WHEN PEOPLE THINK COMPARED TO DEVELOPING A 50 MINUTES SERVING 04:33 SOMETIMES THE SHORT ONES ARE THE MOST DIFFICULT. 04:37 IT'S STILL A STAR THAT HAS AN IMPACT AND THAT PUTS IT IN BUT 04:41 WE ARE SO GLAD THAT YOU ARE HERE TONIGHT AND WE ARE GLAD THAT YOU 04:47 HAVE PUT SO MUCH EFFORT BUT ALSO THE BEGINNING OF THE PROGRAM HAS 04:55 A SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT AND THIS IS OUR PASTOR TO WE DEARLY LOVE 05:24 AMERICA, WHAT IS NEXT, THANK YOU BECAUSE OF THE RAFFERTY'S STAFF 05:29 WITH TWO HEALTHY LOOKING PEOPLE. THEY ARE GIFTED AND I THINK THEY 05:34 WERE HERE BEFORE ME. YOU WERE HERE BEFORE I GOT HERE 05:40 AND THEN I BECAME PART OF OUR FAMILY THANK YOU FOR HAVING US 05:46 HERE BUT THIS IS SOMETHING THE LORD PUT ON MY HEART ABOUT 2019 05:51 MARCH OF 2019 I WAS AWAKENED IN THE MORNING AND I KNOW WHAT THE 05:56 BIBLE PROPHETS MEAN WHEN THEY SAY IN MY NIGHT VISION BECAUSE I 06:01 WAS AND -- FOR 4:00 A.M. I WOKE UP AND I REACHED MY BEDSIDE TO 06:16 PICK UP MY PHONE AND THE LORD IMPRESSED ME OPEN THE BOOK, AND 06:22 THESE ARE CHRIST LESSONS FROM CHAPTER 18 I WAS NOT EVEN 06:26 READING THIS AT ALL DURING THE WEEK OR ANY RECENT TIME FOR THIS 06:32 BUT HE SAID READ THAT CHAPTER AND SO I WAS IMPRESSED AS I READ 06:36 THE CHAPTER THE HIGHLIGHT WAS ABOUT THE THREE CLASSICS 06:42 EXTENDED TO THE JEWISH LEADERS AND THE BROAD COMMUNITY. 06:49 ABOUT A PIECE OF PROPERTY AND IN THE LAST DATE THE FIRST CALL 06:57 SHOULD GO TO MEN IN HIGH POSITIONS OF OF SOCIETY 07:02 TEACHERS, POLITICIANS, LAWYERS, DOCTORS, EDUCATED SCIENTISTS AND 07:08 SHE SAID WHEN YOU REACH ONE THEY WILL REACH THOUSANDS. 07:13 AND I HIGHLIGHTED THAT AND IT STUCK IN MY MIND AND SO THE NEXT 07:19 DAY I WAS FIRED UP AND I SAID JILL WE HAVE TO DO AN 07:22 EVANGELISTIC SEARCH FOR OUR COMMUNITY BUT YOU KNOW HOW HARD 07:24 IT IS TO DO THIS. SHE SAID LET'S TRY NEXT YEAR AND 07:32 SO NEXT YEAR WAS 2020 AND WE ALL OF THE REST OF THE STORY. 07:35 THE LORD FOR THE AND FOR HER THE LORD SAID YOU DO IT AND I SAID 07:41 OKAY AND SO I RAN T THE BENTON CIVIC CENTER AND I CHOSE THREE 07:46 SERVANTS AND THEY SAID DO NOT DO SERMONS THAT CAN BE HEARD IN ANY 07:51 CHURCH. AND SO I PREACHED ON THE SECOND 07:54 COMING OF CHRIST AND ENTITLED IT AMERICA PROPHECY AND THE THIRD 07:57 WAS THE FALL O BABYLON AND HOW'S THAT FOR NOT HERE HEARING 08:01 REVELATIONS AT ALL. THE SECOND NIGHT A PASTOR CAME 08:04 IN AND HE WALKED IN AND HE CAME TO HEAR THAT LENNY WOLF AND HE 08:08 WAS NOT CONCERNED ABOUT THE MESSAGE BUT WHEN I DID AMERICAN 08:12 PROPHECY AFTER THE SERMON HE SAID TO ME, WE DON'T KNOW THAT 08:16 SERMON AND HE SAID WE WHO? ANY INTERVIEW DEUCED HIMSELF AND 08:20 HE SAID HE WAS THE PASTOR FOR 40 YEARS AND HE SAID HE WAS AN 08:25 EVANGELICAL PASTOR AND HE SAID WE DON'T KNOW THIS MESSAGE AND 08:27 THIS IS WHAT WE NEED. WE HAD NEVER HEARD IT. 08:29 WHEN HE CAME IN HE DID NOT REGISTER BUT WHEN SIX GREAT 08:34 CONTROVERSIES ALL OF THE LESSONS, A STACK OF THREE ANGELS 08:37 MESSAGES AND SUMMARIES AND HE AND HIS WIFE SAID, PASTOR, I 08:41 WANT TO TELL YOU SOMETHING I KNOW YOU'RE DISAPPOINTED BECAUSE 08:44 ALL THE FLYERS DID NOT GO OUT FOR THE ADVERTISING BUT THE LORD 08:47 KNEW WE NEEDED TO BE HERE AND WE WERE HERE AND WE HAVE HEARD AND 08:52 PRETTY MUCH EVERYONE ELSE WILL HERE IN THE NEXT FRIDAY I WAS 08:58 INVITED TO MARY IN ILLINOIS TO A LARGE EVANGELICAL PASTOR 09:02 CONFERENCE AND THEY INTRODUCED MY WIFE AND I MET THEM A WEEK IN 09:10 TWO DAYS EARLIER AND THEY SAID THE LORD PUT THIS MADE MY LIFE 09:13 FOR A REASON. AND THE THIRD NIGHT WAS THE FALL 09:19 OF BABYLON AT THE END OF THAT IS PASTOR SAID THE STATE SENATOR 09:25 WANTS TO MEET YOU AND I SAID HERE? 09:29 AND HIS IT HOW DID HE HEAR IT AND HE SAID WHEN YOU BEGIN YOUR 09:32 SERMON I BEGAN MY PHONE CALL AND I LET HIM LISTEN TO THE HOLE 09:35 SERMON AND HE WANTS TO MEET AND I MET HIM AT FRIDAY NIGHT AT THE 09:39 MARION CIVIC CENTER AND ALMOST EVERY WEDNESDAY FROM OCTOBER 20 09:44 WE HAVE MET THESE BIBLE STUDIES IN PRAYER. 09:47 WITH THIS THOUGHT CAME TO MY MIND I HAD ALREADY HAD A 09:51 SIX-HOUR BIBLE STUDY WITH THE PASTOR AND MUCH OF REVELATION 09:55 TALK ABOUT GOD OPENING AMAZING DOORS BUT I SAID WHAT DO YOU 09:59 THINK ABOUT THIS COMMITMENT -- THIS IDEA TO COMMEMORATE 911 10:01 THIS IS THE 20th YEAR END SO OUR CHURCH IS HAVING THIS ON 10:06 SATURDAY AND HE SAID PENNED ME AND I WILL BE THERE THE PASTORS 10:09 THAT I WILL BE THERE AND THEN THEY BOTH LENT THEIR SUPPORT AND 10:13 I CAN GIVE YOU A LIST OF POLITICIANS TO INVITE THE 10:16 SENATOR SAID IN THE PAST IS THAT I CAN GIVE YOU A LIST OF 249 10:20 PASTORS TO INVITE AND THE NEXT DAY THEY SENT ME THAT LIST AND 10:23 WE SENT TO THE LIST OUT AND WE DIDN'T KNOW WHO WOULD RESPOND. 10:27 BUT GOD GOT US URGENT I TOLD THE COMMITTEE TO GET IN A CHURCH AND 10:30 FILL IT WITH PEOPLE WHO WORK HERE AT THREE ABN AND THE FIRE 10:35 WAS LIT LIKE NEHEMIAH TELLING THE PEOPLE OF ISRAEL WHAT GOD 10:39 HAD TOLD THEM TO DO THE PEOPLE HAD A MIND TO WORK AMERICA WHAT 10:46 IS NEXT TO A GRAPHIC DESIGN IS ANIMATORS PEOPLE GOOD WITH 10:53 WEBSITES AND FACEBOOK ADVERTISING ALL THE DIFFERENT 10:55 THINGS THEY GOT TOGETHER AND WORK HARD AND IT WAS THIS IS 10:58 SATURDAY SEPTEMBER 11th WE PUT THIS WEBSITE TOGETHER AND THE 11:05 DEVIL TRIED HIS BEST TO IT -- JUST STOP IT AND IF YOU'RE NOT 11:11 DOING ANYTHING WORTHY OF THE DEVIL'S NOTICE HE WILL LEAVE IT 11:13 ALONE BUT WE BEGIN TO MAKE IT A PUBLIC EVENT AND ADMINISTRATION 11:20 AND THE CAUSE THE ADVERTISING ON CHANNEL SEVEN NEWS, STOP ON 11:26 FACEBOOK, DON'T SEND HER ANY MORE FLYERS WE DON'T WANT ANYONE 11:28 OF THE COMMUNITY IN OUR BUILDING TO INCREASE COVID. 11:32 AND I WAS CRUSHED. AND I SAID WHAT IS THAT ALL 11:37 ABOUT BECAUSE A WEEK BEFORE THERE WAS NO ISSUE LIKE THAT BUT 11:40 I PRAYED AND I WAS STILL IN MY PAJAMAS EDITING AND I CALLED MY 11:45 TEAM AND SAID LET'S. AND THE LORD POURED POURED 11:50 DIVISIONS IN THEIR HEAD AND SAID PASTOR THAT'S NOT A BAD IDEA AT 11:56 ALL LET'S NOT DECREASE THEIR ADVERTISING LET'S INCREASE IT 11:58 LET'S NOT MAKE IT A LOCAL EVENT LET'S MAKE IT GLOBAL LET'S NOT 12:01 MAKE IT A WALK IN THE BUILDING LET'S MAKE IT A WIDE STREAM 12:05 BECAUSE THEY SAID YOU GET THE CHURCH MEMBERS AND IF ANYONE 12:08 ELSE HAS ALREADY INVITED THEM LET THEM COME ALSO BUT DON'T 12:11 INVITE ANYONE ELSE AND ONE OF MY MEMBERS BOBBY CALLED ME AND SAID 12:16 IF I DON'T TALK TO YOU RIGHT NOW I'M GOING TO EXPLODE IN THE 12:19 PARKING LOT. HE PLANT A CHERRY BOMB EVENT AND 12:25 GOD PLANNED AN ATOMIC BLAST EVENT SO AS OF NOW AS I'M 12:28 SPEAKING TO YOU THIS HAS BEEN ADVERTISED FAR AND WIDE ON ABC 12:32 AFFILIATE RIGHT HERE. BUT THIS IS 40 DAYS IN IN A ROW 12:38 WE HAD THIS 32nd AD AND I WILL ASK PRODUCTION IF THEY HAVE THAT 12:43 AD TO RUN THE AD AND LET THEM SAY AND I GUESS RICKIE CARTER I 12:47 WILL GIVE KUDOS TO THE MAN WHO UNDERSTANDS THE MESSAGE OF 12:51 COMMUNICATING RIGHT NOW. >> THAT AD WENT VIRAL. 13:30 PEOPLE WENT TO THE WEBSITE AND I HAD PEOPLE REGISTERING FROM 13:35 AFGHANISTAN AND KABUL AND GERMANY ALL OVER AMERICA AND I 13:45 WANT TO SHOW YOU A WEBSITE HERE HOW YOU CAN GET INVOLVED WITH 13:49 YOUR COMMUNITY THERE WILL BE A LIVE STREAMING EVENT ARE CHURCH 13:55 MEMBERS WILL BE PRESENT IN ANYONE ELSE THAT WAS ALREADY 13:58 INVITED BUT YOU CAN SHARE THIS LINK AND BRING THE LINK UP FOR A 14:03 SLATE ON THE WEBSITE AND I WILL TELL YOU HOW TO GO AND WHAT TO 14:09 DO. AMERICAN NEXT .COM IS THE 14:12 WEBSITE AND SHARE THAT WEBSITE THERE IS THE WEB ADDS STRESS 14:16 BELOW IT GO TO THAT WEBSITE AND YOU CAN FIND OUT MORE ABOUT THIS 14:20 INFORMATION AND SHARE THAT WITH YOUR CHURCH FAMILY IT WILL BE A 14:24 SABBATH MORNING SEPTEMBER 11th BEGINNING AT 11:00 A.M. CENTRAL 14:29 TIME THAT'S IMPORTANT. AND LASTLY AFTER THIS EVENT IS 14:32 DONE WE ARE JUST GETTING STARTED. 14:34 WE WILL REPUBLISH THE WEBSITE WITH THE SAME LOOK AND BREAK IT 14:39 DOWN FOR YOU TO REACH INTO YOUR POCKET AND WE WILL SET UP THREE 14:42 AREAS WHEN WHEN I'M AND ANOTHER ON KNOWING CHRIST AND THE THIRD 14:47 ONE ON TEACHINGS LIKE THE SABBATH THE STATE OF THE DEAD. 14:51 WE WILL CONNECT THE VIDEO FROM DIFFERENT TEACHERS AND 14:55 INFORMATION SOLID INFORMATION TO BEGIN SO WE CAN SERIOUS ABOUT 15:03 HARVESTING THIS THROUGH THREE ABN FOR THE LAST 35 YEARS. 15:09 >> I'M SO EXCITED ABOUT YOUR DEDICATION ACTUALLY AND WORKING 15:14 AND DOING THESE BIBLE STUDIES AND TRAINING IN THESE PASSAGES. 15:19 IT'S REALLY EXCITING. AND YOU MAY HAVE NOTICED THIS IS 15:28 A BEAUTIFUL CROSS-STITCH WORK IN THIS WAS DONE AS A MEMORIAL. 15:45 THAT WAS THE REGULATION OF THE THOUGHT BUT JERRY AUSTIN'S MIND 15:51 JERRY WITH A BEAUTIFUL WILL BID -- WAS A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN FROM 15:58 MAINE AND IT TOOK HER A ONE YEAR TO THE DAY TO FINISH. 16:04 SHE ACTUALLY FINISHED THIS ON SEPTEMBER THE 11th 2000 AND 16:10 DETAILED AND SO SHE SAID THIS TO TO. 16:14 IT WAS HANGING IN OUR HALLWAYS FOR A LONG TIME BUT SHE SENT US 16:18 WITH HIS BEAUTIFUL LETTER AND SHE SENT ANOTHER LETTER HERE AND 16:23 SHE SAID MY PRAYER IS THAT GOD CONTINUES TO BLESS YOU AND YOUR 16:26 TEAM AS YOU CONTINUE TO SHARE THE THE UNDILUTED DREAM AROUND 16:32 THE WORLD. O THE JOY THAT COME TO ME AND I 16:36 ENJOYED WATCHING ALL THE MIRACLES THAT HAPPEN AT THREE 16:39 ABN AS THE MESSAGE GOES FORTH. AND EVER THE FIRST TIME WHEN I 16:49 WAS YOUNG. BUT I REMEMBER SEEING THE LITTLE 16:53 ON THE RIGHT TO THE LEFT ON THE FOOTSTEPS. 17:06 HE WENT IN AND JERRY AUSTIN -- YOU WANT TO THANK JERRY AUSTIN 17:11 AND WE ARE BLESSED BY OUR MANY MANY THREE WE WANT TO THINK ALL 17:19 OF YOU TO DO FOR YOUR PRAYERS AND YOUR FINANCIAL SUPPORT OF 17:23 THREE ABN. WE KNOW YOU LIKE MUSIC. 17:30 >> THE MESSAGE WILL BE CULMINATING IN AMERICA WHAT NEXT 17:35 ABOUT AMERICA BIBLE PROPHECIES AND WE WILL GET YOU LINKS WHERE 17:38 YOU CAN DOWNLOAD SOME MATERIAL THAT WILL BE PRESENTED. 17:48 >> WE HAVE SOME ADDITIONAL CHURCH MEMBERS SARAH WILL BE 17:54 SINGING AND PLAYING THE SAVIOR IS WAITING. 18:20 [MUSIC PLAYING]. [MUSIC PLAYING]. 20:39 [MUSIC PLAYING]. [MUSIC PLAYING] >> ISN'T THAT 22:18 FANTASTIC. I WANT TO MENTION THAT IS A 22:21 MOTHER DAUGHTER THEY ARE SO GIFTED. 22:26 >> AND MOMMA LOOKS LIKE A SISTER. 22:29 >> IF YOU'RE JUST JOINING ME OUR GUESTS ARE JAMES AND RECEIVE 22:35 PROPERTY AND WE ARE GOING TO TALK ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS. 22:42 YOU'VE STUDIED THIS A LOT AND WHAT ARE YOU DOING THIS WEEKEND 22:46 FOR TRINIDAD AND TOBAGO? >> WE ARE DOING A FAMILY SERMON. 22:56 THEY ARE GOING TO THE BIBLICAL 28 FUNDAMENTALS AND THERE ARE 23:01 NUMBER 23 AND WE GOT HERE AND CHILL PASSED ON TO US THIS 23:04 REQUEST AND I SAID WE COULD DO THAT BECAUSE OUR MINDS AND 23:08 HEARTS RIGHT NOW ON RELATIONSHIPS SINCE WE JUST HAD 23:13 OUR 32nd ANNIVERSARY. >> THIS WILL BE AIRED ON THE 23:28 YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR THE MIRABELLE SEVENTH-DAY ADVENTIST 23:33 CHURCH FOR TRINIDAD AND TOBAGO THAT IS THE YOUTUBE CHANNEL LIVE 23:38 I BELIEVE. >> HOW DO YOU SPELL MIRABELLA? 23:46 >> THIS WILL BE SABBATH MORNING. >> THAT'S WONDERFUL. 23:53 >> I KNOW REYNOLDS THE GUY IS A FANTASTIC JOB SHADOW TO HIM HE 24:02 IS A MAN OF GOD THIS IS A LIVE PROGRAM AND WE TAKING YOUR 24:14 QUESTIONS AND WE WILL PUT THEM ON THE HOT SEAT IN THE SECOND 24:19 HOUR SO IF YOU QUESTION TEXT IT AT 6182283975 AT 6182283975 OR 24:33 YOU CAN E-MAIL US AT GLIDE AT THREE ABN .TV AND WE WILL TRY TO 24:40 GET TO THOSE QUESTIONS IN THE SECOND HOUR BUT WE HAVE A LOT TO 24:45 COVER AND RECEIPT I AM GOOD THROW IT TO YOU >> WE DID NOT 24:55 CHOOSE THIS TOPIC THREE ABN SAID LET'S DO A LIVE ON RELATIONSHIPS 25:01 AND WHEN WE WERE GIVEN A TOPIC I WAS STUDYING MATTHEW 24 AND TO 25:07 ME THE CHAPTER IS THAT I HAD NEVER SEEN IS PRIORITIZING 25:12 RELATIONSHIPS AND THAT IS WHAT POPPED OUT. 25:16 MATTHEW 2425 WE THINK OF THIS IN TERMS OF EVENTS BUT NOT SO MUCH 25:20 IN TERMS OF OUR RELATIONSHIP AND WITH OUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH EACH 25:25 OTHER AND GOD ARE DEFINING ABOUT WHO WE ARE AND I THOUGHT JESUS 25:29 WAS EXPRESSING THAT AS WELL THROUGH PARABLES AND STORIES 25:33 THAT WE HAD IN THIS CHAPTER >> ANY PARTICULAR PLACE YOU WANT TO 25:40 GO. YOU MENTIONED STARTING OFF IN 25:43 VERSE 42. >> LET'S START IN MATTHEW >> 25:51 MATTHEW CHAPTER SEVEN IT REVEALS THE KEY PRINCIPLE. 25:59 AND WHEN WE LOOK AT THESE VERSUS WE WILL REALIZE THE SIGNIFICANCE 26:03 OF RELATIONSHIPS IN THE CHRISTIAN EXPERIENCE AS IT 26:10 RELATES TO US IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS BUT ALSO A 26:12 RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHERS IN MATTHEW CHAPTER SEVEN STARTING 26:15 WITH VERSE 21 AND EVERYONE IS SPEAKING HERE THEY SAID THAT THE 26:19 LORD SHALL ENTER INTO THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN BUT HE WILL DO 26:24 THE WILL OF MY FATHER AND MANY WILL SAY TO ME IN THAT DAY LORD 26:30 LORD HAVE WE NOT PROPHESY IN THE NAME I WANT TO HOLD ON FOR A 26:35 SECOND PROPHECIES WERE KNOWN FOR. 26:37 AS A CHURCH. PROPHECY IS WHAT WE ARE KNOWN 26:41 FOR. IN THE NAME WE DONE MANY 26:52 WONDERFUL WORKS THESE PEOPLE ARE CHRISTIANS WHO HAVE DONE A LOT 27:00 OF SHARING PROPHECY AND A LOT OF OTHER WORKS IN THE NAME JESUS 27:04 CHRIST. >> PROFESSED CHRISTIANS. 27:09 >> THE PRESS CHRISTIANS HAVE A LOT OF STUFF COMING THEY ARE 27:12 DOING STUFF THEY ARE DOING STUFF. 27:15 AND THEN JESUS SAYS TO WILL I PROFESS UNTO THEM I NEVER KNEW 27:21 YOU DEPART FROM ME YOUR INIQUITY. 27:25 AND SO WE THOUGHT THIS WAS A GREAT PLACE TO START BECAUSE 27:30 THIS REALLY EMPHASIZES THE IMPORTANCE OF RELATIONSHIPS 27:33 BEYOND PROPHECY AND BEYOND THE MANY WONDERFUL WORKS THAT WE CAN 27:36 DO AND BEYOND ALL THE THINGS BECAUSE OF THESE POPLE ARE 27:39 SAYING IS WE DESERVE HEAVEN AS RIGHTEOUSNESS BY WORKS WHEN WE 27:46 AS ADVENTISTS ARE PROBABLY TENDING MORE TO THIS AND ANY 27:51 OTHER CHURCH BECAUSE ALL THE PROPHECY WE KNOW EVERYTHING WE 27:55 DO HAS A LOT OF STUFF GOING FOR US AND DO SO AS WE SPOKE ABOUT 28:02 RELATIONSHIPS ARE KEY IN ITS DIVERSE AND ARE THEY ALSO KEY IN 28:06 MATTHEW 24 AND 25? >> AND BEFORE THIS REPEATING 28:13 FROM THE SIX THAT WHAT JESUS SAID IS THAT THE MOST IMPORTANT 28:22 COMMANDMENT HE SAID HERE YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD 28:26 WITH ALL OF YOUR HEART MIND AND STRENGTH AND LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR 28:33 AS YOURSELF. AND SO WE DO SEE THAT DOING THE 28:36 FATHER'S WILL IS BEING MOTIVATED BY LOVE TO WALK IN OBEDIENCE BUT 28:45 IT IS TO DO ALSO ALL ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS THAT TO GOD IS. 28:51 >> A RELATIONSHIPS. >> LOVING RELATIONSHIPS. 28:53 >> WHAT DOES THAT LOOK LIKE? >> LET'S GO. 28:59 >> IT'S INTERESTING THERE BECAUSE PERHAPS HE RECOGNIZED 29:05 BUT HE REALLY WASN'T ACQUAINTED WITH YOU. 29:09 >> HE KNOWS WHO WE ARE >> AMEN. >> MATTHEW 24 WE SEE HERE IN 29:20 VERSE 45, THAT JESUS IS TALKING ABOUT HIS SERVICE AND JUST LIKE 29:25 THE VERSE YOU JUST SHARED WE WILL TALK ABOUT GOD'S SERVICE 29:29 BUT HE DESCRIBES THIS INTO DIFFERENT CATEGORIES AND ONE IS 29:33 FAITHFUL AND THE OTHER IS EVIL. FAITHFUL AND. 29:45 SERVICEABLE. >> ASSUREDLY I SAY TO YOU HE 29:50 WILL MAKE HIM RULER OVER ALL OF THESE GOODS BUT THE EVIL SERVANT 29:55 SAYS IN MY HEART MY MASTER WILL BEGIN TO BEAT HIS FELLOW SERVICE 30:02 BECAUSE THAT'S THE PART THAT TALKS ABOUT THE DISTINCTION AND 30:05 HOW THESE TWO GROUPS PROBABLY DO RELATIONSHIPS HERE WE SEE THAT 30:09 THESE EVIL SERVANTS ARE TURNING AGAINST THE FAITHFUL THEIR 30:13 FELLOW SERVANTS HOW ARE THEY TREATING THEIR FELLOW SERVANTS? 30:17 THEY ARE SMITING THEM THAT IS WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS. 30:21 AND I FOUND THIS VERSE IN PSALM 1415 THAT SAYS LET THE RIGHTEOUS 30:25 CAN'T BE KIND AND LET THEM APPROVE ME THE WILL BE 30:30 EXCELLENT. IT IS A SMITING THAT WE WOULD 30:32 SAY IS A BLESSING AND MAYBE WHEN JAMES GENTLY APPROVES HE WOULD 30:36 SAY I THINK YOU MIGHT WANT TO THINK ABOUT THAT TWICE OR HOW 30:40 YOU'RE COMING ACROSS OR WHATEVER IT IS IT WOULD BE A BLESSING TO 30:44 ME BUT YOU HAD A THOUGHT ABOUT THE WORD SMITING MAKING IT 30:48 DIFFERENT THAN JUST APPROVED THIS IS ACTUALLY A PATTERN A 30:51 WAVE RELATING. >> AND THE WORD INDICATES THE 30:57 PATTERN REPEATED PATTERN OF ABUSE AND SO YOU KNOW HOW WE ARE 31:00 SOMETIMES WE SLIP OFF A BIG MISTAKE WE SAY I'M SORRY WHAT 31:03 EVER AND THAT IS SOMETHING THAT WE ARE ALL GUILTY OF AS COUPLES. 31:08 BUT THIS SERVANT HAS A PATTERN OF SMITING IT IS A HABIT IN 31:13 OTHER WORDS AND THAT IS THE PLACE WHERE WE NEED TO BE AWARE 31:18 OF THE TYPE OF CHARACTER WE ARE DEVELOPING AND HAD HOW DO WE 31:22 BECOME AWARE THAT WHAT IS COOL IS MATTHEW 24 IS TALKING ABOUT 31:26 THE SIGNS OF THE TIMES THAT BRING US INTO CRISIS AND YOU 31:31 KNOW WHAT CRISIS DOES. >> IT BRINGS CHARACTER. 31:36 >> IS A REVELATION. >> WE CAN THANK THE LORD FOR THE 31:41 PRESENT CRISIS AND THIS IS A BLESSING BECAUSE THIS REVEALS 31:47 OUR CHARACTER. THIS BRINGS US TO THE TOP AND 31:50 HELPS TO SEE WHO WE ARE IN JEREMIAH CHAPTER SEVEN OR SIX IT 32:00 SAYS IF YOU WALK WITH THE FOOTMAN AND WEARY THEY HOW 32:06 CONTEND WITH THE HORSES? >> YOU ARE WORN OUT. 32:11 HOW WOULD YOU CONTEND WITH THE FLOODING OF THE WATER? 32:14 WE ARE LIVING RIGHT NOW IN A TIME I THINK WHERE GOD IS 32:20 ALLOWING US WE WOULD DO IN A CRISIS SITUATION AND HOW DO WE 32:24 RESPOND IN A CRISIS SITUATION AND ONE OF THE KEY FACTORS THAT 32:28 WE ARE SEEING NOT JUST IN THE WORLD BUT IN THE CHURCH IS HOW 32:31 WE ARE RELATING TO DIFFERENCES WE HAVE ABOUT CERTAIN ISSUES. 32:42 >> WERE TALKING ABOUT SMITING SOMEONE WITH THE FRUIT OF YOUR 32:49 LIPS. PSALM 143 TALKING ABOUT THE AND 32:59 YOU NOW I'M SHOCKED BECAUSE WE SEE THIS IN THE WORLD, WE SEE 33:04 PEOPLE YELLING AND FIGHTING AND VERBALLY ABUSIVE TOWARD ONE 33:07 ANOTHER BUT YOU KNOW WHAT? IT'S HAPPENING IN THE CHURCHES 33:11 AS WELL. IT IS FRIGHTENING. 33:15 >> AND THAT'S WHAT'S HAPPENING HERE IN MATTHEW 24 >> I LOVE THE 33:22 THOUGHT THAT GOD IS REVEALING OUR CHARACTER IN THIS CRISIS 33:26 BECAUSE WE HAVE SOME GROWING TO DEAL. 33:28 >> AND THEY THERE IS OPPORTUNITY FOR THAT GROWTH TO TAKE PLACE. 33:34 >> AND BEING DIFFERENT IS NORMAL FOR OUR RELATIONSHIPS TO HAVE 33:36 DIFFERENT OPINIONS ARE DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVES THAT'S NORMAL BUT 33:39 HOW DO WE PROCESS THIS AND HOW DO WE COMMUNICATE THROUGH THOSE 33:45 DIFFERENCES THAT'S CRUCIAL. TO OUR TIME TO SMITE EACH OTHER 33:51 IN A WICKED WAY OR IN A GENTLE AND LOVING WAY. 33:55 >> AND THEN THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO ARE HAPPY WHERE THEY ARE. 34:01 FAT AND SASSY AND FULL. >> I HAVE MET A COUPLE BEFORE 34:11 WHERE MY WIFE AND I ARE SAID TO HAVE NEVER ARGUED AND THEY SAY 34:19 AM IN THE PRESENCE OF TWO REALLY HOLY PEOPLE BUT AS TIME GOES ON 34:24 I END UP FEELING SORRY FOR ONE OF THEM AND I GO WHICH ONE OF 34:27 YOU DIDN'T HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY TO EXPRESS THEIR OWN OPINION 34:32 THAT'S DIFFERENT THAN YOURS OR DOES SHE HAVE TO THINK YOUR 34:35 EXACT THOUGHTS? IT'S NOT NATURAL, IT'S NOT THE 34:38 WAY GOD MADE US HE DESIGNED FOR DIVERSITY AND FOR YOU AND 34:43 ADVOCATING EXPERIENCES BUT HOW DO WE HANDLE THOSE DIFFERENCES 34:46 THAT IS CRUCIAL AND THERE IS A GODLY WAY AND THERE'S PROBABLY 34:51 AN UNGODLY WAY. UNGODLY WAY. 34:55 >> I WANT TO READ THIS PROVERBS 24, 26 HE WHO GIVES THE RIGHT 35:03 AND A KISS ON THE LIPS BACK IN ANCIENT TIMES WASN'T ALWAYS 35:10 ROMANTIC IT WAS SHOWING SINCERE AFFECTION AND RESPECT AND SO ARE 35:14 RIGHT ANSWER CAN ONLY BE LED BY THE HOLY SPIRIT BUT THAN ONE IS 35:21 CONFLICTING INSULT AND INJURY AND THAT ALL WE SEE NOWADAYS 35:26 PEOPLE WHO ARE INSULTING OTHERS AND INJURING AND PEOPLE ARE 35:31 POSTING BRANDS ON THE INTERNET AND DO YOU WHAT? 35:35 THE HOLY SPIRIT IS NOT THE AUTHOR OF THOSE WORDS. 35:39 THAT IS WHERE SOME 140 VERSE THREE COMES IN SAYING THEY 35:44 SHARPEN THEIR TONGUES LIKE AS SERPENT. 35:49 THE POISON. AND SO OUR WORDS REVEAL WHO IS 35:56 DIRECTING OUR CONVERSATION AND WHEN WE TALK ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS 35:59 I BELIEVE CONVERSATION IS THE RELATIONSHIP. 36:07 EVEN WITH GOD IF WERE NOT PRAYING -- I DIDN'T KNOW THAT 36:14 WELL UNTIL I WENT TO MY SURGERY MY RECOVERY AND WE STARTED 36:20 TALKING EVERY DAY AND NOW SHE IS THE MOST PRECIOUS FRIEND OF THE 36:24 EARTH TO ME BECAUSE I HAVE NOT SEEN HER BECAUSE OF COLD BUT 36:30 CONVERSATION IS THE RELATIONSHIP AND THAT IS HOW WE DO THIS. 36:36 >> WHEN WE WENT TO CALIFORNIA WE MOVED INTO THIS HOUSE AND THE 36:40 WELL IS ON PIECE OF PROPERTY, NEIGHBORS PROPERTY AND WE WENT 36:43 OVER THERE WITH A REALTOR TO MEET THE PEOPLE AND IT DID NOT 36:48 IT -- WE WERE NOT ACTUALLY PART OF THE ENCOUNTER OF THE MEET AND 36:52 GREET BUT WE WERE AT A DISTANCE AND THE NEIGHBORS WERE NOT HAPPY 36:55 THAT WE WENT OVER THERE. DID NOT GO WELL. 37:05 WE BOUGHT THE HOME ANYWAY THE WELL WAS OVER THERE IN THIS 37:08 PROPERTY AND WE WERE NERVOUS ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP WE WOULD 37:11 HAVE WITH THIS PERSON WE NEVER MET LUIS WAS GOING ON AND SO WE 37:17 WERE PUTTING IT OFF AND PUTTING IT OFF AND THEN WE RAN OUT OF 37:20 WATER AND THE REASON WE DID WAS MINOR WE FOUND OUT BUT IT CAUSED 37:24 ME TOO HAVE TO GO OVER THERE AND KNOCK ON THEIR DOOR AND I WAS 37:32 PRAYING BECAUSE I WAS IN NERVOUS. 37:35 AND SO WHENEVER THERE AND THE FIRST THING THEY MENTIONED IS 37:41 WHAT HAPPENED AND THEY'RE SORRY THAT THAT HAPPENED AND IT WAS 37:48 SOMETHING WITH THE REALTOR AND AND THEN WENT ON TO SAY -- THEY 37:52 WATCH OUR HOUSE. WHEN COMMUNICATION BREAKS DOWN 38:09 ONE OF WITH COMMUNICATION BREAKS DOWN FAITHFUL SERVANTS ARE 38:17 GIVING FOOD IN THE OPPOSITE OF SMITING. 38:20 ONE OF THE WAY COMMUNICATION BREAKS DOWN IS WE GET A LITTLE 38:24 BIT NERVOUS ABOUT COMMUNICATING DIFFICULT THINGS. 38:27 WE GET DOWN WITH THE PROGRAM TODAY I HAD SOMETHING HE WANTED 38:30 TO SHARE WITH BRIAN AND I SAID IF I DON'T TALK TO RYAN NOW I 38:34 WILL TALK TO SOMEBODY ELSE LATER AND IT WILL BE HIM AND THAT IT 38:38 WILL BE AWKWARD AND I WILL TALK TO HIM RIGHT NOW ABOUT IT SO I 38:41 TALKED TO HIM ABOUT IT AND HE WAS HUMBLE AND WE INTERACTED 38:44 WITH THE GREAT THING AND MANY TIMES WE SPOKE WITH. 38:55 THE FAITHFUL SERVANT GIVE FOOD TO THE FOX OF THE HOLE POINT WAS 38:58 MY INTERACTION WITH RYAN AND THE NEIGHBORS THAT SHOULD FEED EACH 39:06 OTHER AND NURTURE ONE ANOTHER AND ENCOURAGE EACH OTHER NOT 39:10 ATTACKED AND DISMANTLE AND CRITICIZE WHICH IS WHAT WE DO 39:13 OUTSIDE OF THOSE RELATIONSHIPS. >> IF YOU DO GET INTO THIS 39:21 NORMALLY HAVE MORE THINGS IN COMMON THAT YOU DISAGREE ON BUT 39:25 YOU DON'T TAKE THAT STEP OF FAITH AND STEP OUT OF AND START 39:27 THIS CONVERSATION THEN YOU WILL NEVER LEARN THAT. 39:32 >> BUT YOU'RE RIGHT. PEOPLE HAVE SOME THINGS COME UP 39:42 AND WE HAVE TO ADDRESS NEGATIVE SITUATIONS AND A LOT OF PEOPLE 39:44 ARE NOT COMFORTABLE THEY DON'T LIKE CONFLICT AND SO WHAT THEY 39:49 DO IS THEY AVOID THE ISSUE AND THEN GUESS WHAT HAPPENS THE 39:52 LONGER YOU AVOID AVOIDED THE MORE EMOTIONAL AND CHARGED IT 39:57 BECOMES BUT A HUSBAND-AND-WIFE I HOPE YOU DON'T MIND ME BUT WHEN 40:05 HE WOULD SAY SOMETHING AND I WOULD SAY REALLY AND I WOULD SEE 40:09 IT THIS WAY AND HE WOULD SAY WHY ARE YOU ALWAYS ARGUING BUT HE 40:14 GREW UP IN A HOME WHERE PEOPLE -- THERE WAS A ONE OPINION AND 40:24 NOBODY EVER EXPRESSED THIS THIS IS SOMETHING THAT CULTURALLY WE 40:31 CAN HAVE AN AVOIDANCE BUT IF YOU ARE NEVER HAVING A DISAGREEMENT 40:39 ONE OF THE IS PROBABLY ONLY THAT'S ONE OF HIS WILL IS ALWAYS 40:46 LOOKING THEIR LIPS. >> IT IS WHY PEOPLE AVOID 40:48 CONFLICT BECAUSE WHEN WE DON'T KNOW HOW TO DO CONSTRUCTIVE 40:52 CONFLICT VERY WELL AND SO THERE ARE TOOLS AND WE HAD AND I THINK 40:57 IT'S IMPORTANT THAT WE REALIZE THAT MALWARE -- MARRIAGE IS A 41:00 SCHOOL AND THEY ARE SO MANY QUALITIES AND WAYS OF RELATING 41:05 TO HE DID NOT LEARN GROWING UP AND WE GREW UP IN SINGLE FAMILY 41:10 HOMES AND SO WE FELT DISADVANTAGED IN SOME WAY 41:13 BECAUSE HE DID NOT SEE HOW THINGS WERE WORKED OUT THIS IS A 41:20 SCHOOL FROM WHICH WE DON'T GRADUATE IN THE SCHOOL HOME IS 41:24 AN INCREDIBLE OPPORTUNITY TO LEARN THESE VITAL LESSONS 41:26 BECAUSE THAT WHERE LOVE REIGNS IN THE CONTEXT OF LOVE CAN I 41:30 FLUB UP AND I THINK THAT IS AN ENVIRONMENT WHERE WE LEARN BEST 41:33 HOW DO WE DO CONSTRUCTIVE CONFLICT? 41:36 I THINK ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS IS WERE ON THE 41:40 SAME TEAM AND THERE IS A PROBLEM FOR YOU. 41:52 IF WE CAN GET TO THE POINT WHERE I CAN SEE THIS FROM HIS LENSES 41:59 AND HE'S LOOKING TO SEE IT THROUGH ISLANDS AND WE HAD A 42:02 UNITED FRONT IT CAN BE SO POWERFUL. 42:07 >> YOU ATTACK THE PROBLEM NOT THE PERSON. 42:08 >> THAT'S RIGHT YOU LOOKING AT THE BEHAVIOR AND WHAT I HAVE 42:14 FOUND IS WORKING WITH CHILDREN WORKS OF EVERYBODY IS THAT IF 42:19 YOU ARE GIVING A WORD OF CORRECTION AND SOMETHING CAN 42:23 HAPPEN AND IF YOU FOCUS ON FUTURE BEHAVIOR IT'S ALL ABOUT 42:28 BEHAVIOR AND THE PERSON DOESN'T FEEL LIKE YOU'RE BEATING THEM UP 42:33 FOR THE PAST THEN IT'S ABOUT SETTING BOUNDARIES AND GOING FOR 42:37 IT. >> YEP. 42:40 >> SOMETHING ELSE I THINK IS CRUCIAL AS WELL ESPECIALLY 42:47 HELPING MEN DO CONFLICT AND THAT IS CAN WE CONTROL OUR EMOTIONS? 42:54 >> WOMEN DON'T LIKE CONFLICT MEN ARE ANGRY AND YELLING IT IS 42:59 DAMAGING AND WRONG AND SO I DON'T THINK IT'S PLACE FOR 43:06 YELLING IT CAN BE DONE MATURELY AND CALMLY BUT IT'S INTENSE WHEN 43:10 THERE'S A DIFFERENCE SOMETIMES AND SO THAT'S WHERE I THINK WE 43:13 NEED TO TAKE A MOMENT TO SAY HOW CAN I COUNT DOWN SO THAT I CAN 43:17 RATIONALLY TALK ABOUT THIS AND WHEN WE WERE FIRST MARRIED I 43:20 WOULD BE CRYING AND JAMES WOULD ROLL OVER IN BED AND IT HURT ME 43:24 EVEN WORSE BECAUSE I WAS LIKE OKAY IT FEELS LIKE MORE 43:28 ABANDONMENT. BUT IN REALITY HE'S THINKING I 43:30 HAVE NO IDEA HOW TO PROCESS HER HANDLE HER THERE SO MUCH EMOTION 43:36 AND SO WHERE JAMES GIVE ME A MINUTE AND EMOTIONAL RIGHT NOW 43:41 AND WHEN I GET OVER THIS I WILL BE ABLE TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOU 43:46 ABOUT THE TOPIC MUCH MORE EFFECTIVELY IN THE SAME THING 43:50 WITH ANGER. COULD GO RUN AROUND THE BLOCK OF 43:53 WHAT THAT IS AN EMOTION AN CAN DISSIPATE AND THEN YOU CAN. 44:00 >> OR MEN WE JUST WANT TO GO FIND A CAVE AND HIDE IN IT. 44:04 WE COULD SIT AND >> THAT'S RIGHT. 44:10 EXACTLY. >> FOR RECEIPT I WAS RAISED IN 44:13 AN ENVIRONMENT IN A HOME WHERE RAISING YOUR VOICE WAS JUST THE 44:17 THING YOU DID. YOU JUST DID IT YOU RAISE YOUR 44:20 VOICE YOU SPOKE ABOUT EVERYONE DEAD I WAS AFRAID TO GO TO MY 44:24 MOM'S HOUSE BECAUSE SHE WAS GOING TO BE TRAUMATIZED AND FOR 44:27 ME THAT WAS NORMAL THAT'S THE WAY THE IRISH FAMILY INTERACTED. 44:31 BUT FOR ME, FOR HER THAT WAS LIKE NO MAN DON'T TALK TO ME 44:35 LIKE THAT BUT FOR ME THE HARD THING WAS WHEN. 44:40 LIKE I'M NOT GOING TO CRY MY SISTER DIDN'T CRY SO THE 44:43 EMOTIONAL THING TO ME WAS WHAT MY RAISING MY VOICE WAS TO HER I 44:47 DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH IT AND SHE DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO DEAL 44:49 WITH ME DOING THAT AND I DID NOT KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH HER 44:51 EMOTIONS WE HAD TO ANALYZE AND JUST AS WE HAVE DONE IN OTHER 44:57 THINGS LIKE MY BACKGROUND, MY CHILDHOOD, I'M SENSITIVE TO 45:03 NEGLECT. WHERE IS MY WIFE IS SENSITIVE TO 45:06 ABANDONMENT AND SO THOSE ARE TRIGGERS AND WHEN THOSE THINGS 45:09 COME IN AND WE REACT IN WAYS THAT I AM PERCEIVED THAT 45:14 ABANDONING AND SHE IS PERCEIVED AS NEGLECTING THOSE ARE AND IT 45:18 MAY NOT EVEN BE THE ISSUE THAT IS SIGNIFICANT IT'S THE BUTTONS 45:21 THAT HAVE BEEN PUSHED FOR PAST ISSUES THAT WE NEED TO WORK 45:25 THROUGH AND TALK ABOUT AND THAT IS HUGE. 45:28 >> BUT IF YOU GET THE SILENT TREATMENT THAT DOES FEEL LIKE 45:32 ABANDONMENT IF YOU ARE TRYING TO TALK TO SOMEBODY ABOUT SOMETHING 45:36 I DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT THIS LEAVE ME ALONE. 45:41 THAT IS WHERE YOU FEEL TOTALLY EMOTIONALLY ABANDONED. 45:47 >> AND I JUST WANT TO QUICKLY SAY AN EFFUSION FOR 29, 32, PAUL 45:55 IS TELLING YOU DON'T ANY CORRUPT WORD COME OUT OF YOUR MOUTH BUT 45:58 THEN HE TELL US US THERE ARE FIVE SINS BITTERNESS RAT ANGER 46:05 CLAMOR AND MALICE AND WHAT SOME PEOPLE DON'T REALIZE IS CLAMOR 46:09 IS YELLING AND SO I HAD A YOUNG LADY WHO TOLD ME YEARS AGO SHE 46:19 SAID, CAN YOU TELL ME WHAT I CAN DO TO MAKE SABBATH BETTER AT MY 46:23 HOME? AND SHE SAID WHAT'S GOING ON 46:26 HONEY AND SHE SAID MY PARENTS ARGUE AND HOLLER ALL THE WAY 46:32 CHURCH AND WE SIT THROUGH CHURCH AND THEN SHE SAID THE REST OF 46:35 THE DAY THERE YELLING AT EACH OTHER ALL NIGHT LONG AND THAT'S 46:41 HORRIBLE THING FOR TWO PEOPLE TO INTERACT LIKE THAT BUT THEN IT 46:46 WAS DAMAGING TO KIDS AS WELL. SO MY THING IS I DON'T EVER 46:54 HOLLER. WITH THE LORD HAS TAUGHT ME IS I 46:57 WAS ON THE PHONE WITH HIM I CALLED HIM AT THE OFFICE OFFICES 47:02 TODAY AND HE SAID WE AND NEVER GOT IT BEFORE AND I SAID WHAT 47:06 YOU MEAN WITH EVER GOT TO BEFORE? 47:09 I GET THAT LITTLE AND I SAID OF COURSE WE HAVE. 47:13 AND I HUNG UP AND THE LORD TOLD ME DID YOU HEAR YOUR TONE? 47:19 AND I CALLED THEM RIGHT BACK AND I SAID IT WAS NO BIG DEAL TO ME 47:23 WHERE THAT TONE OF VOICE CAME FROM I DO DON'T ALWAYS 47:30 UNDERSTAND THAT WORD AND PLEASE SPOKE IS LIKE APPLES OF GOLD IN 47:37 A WORLD OF SILVER AND THE WAY WAY WE SPEAK IS REALLY IMPORTANT 47:43 TO GOD AND I NOTICED RECENTLY AND I DON'T REMEMBER EVER HAVING 47:48 DONE THIS BEFORE I DON'T KNOW IF IT HAPPENED SINCE I WAS 47:51 RECOVERED BUT I NOTICE MYSELF RECENTLY WHERE I GET THAT LITTLE 47:57 PITCH TO MY VOICE AND NOT TALKING LOUD BUT IT IS 48:02 CONDESCENSION WHICH IS WHAT IT IS. 48:03 >> AND I MENTIONED WHEN I WENT TO SCHOOL WE HAD A LOT TO LEARN 48:10 AND WE WERE DIFFERENT BOOKS OUT HER I READ A BOOK FOR MYSELF HE 48:16 READ A BOOK AND IT'S FUNNY BECAUSE SOME OF THOSE BOOKS WERE 48:19 REALLY LIFE-CHANGING FOR US AND JAMES READ DOWNTOWN STANDING THE 48:26 MIND OF A WOMAN AND HE NOTICED IT DIFFERENT IT'S INCREDIBLE A 48:31 MAN TAKING RESPONSIBILITY IN THE HOME FOR NOT JUST PAYING THE 48:34 BILLS AND MAKING SURE THE LAWN IS MOWED ET CETERA BUT EVEN THE 48:38 CENTER OF THE RELATIONSHIP IT WAS COOL BECAUSE I FELT LIKE HE 48:41 WAS MUCH MORE INVESTED AND THEN I READ ONE ENTITLED THE PROPER 48:49 CARE AND FEEDING OF YOUR HUSBAND. 49:00 AND HE SAID HE FELT LIKE A KING BUT I WAS LEARNING THIS IS HOW 49:05 MEN THINK RELATE THIS IS WHAT THEY NEED THIS IS WHAT THEY WANT 49:06 ET CETERA. SO IMPLEMENT THOSE THINGS AND 49:13 FOR A COUPLE TO REALIZE THAT WE WANT THE RESULTS OF THE RESULT 49:17 IS CLOSER TIGHTER MORE MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIP HAD 49:19 WHICH ACHIEVED THAT EVEN THOUGH THIS THING IS REALLY ANNOYING 49:23 AND MAKING ME ANGRY OR MAKING ME FEEL SO PAINFUL HOW CAN WE 49:27 UNITEDLY WORK TO ACHIEVE THAT. WE MENTION SOME OF THE 49:30 DYSFUNCTIONAL WAYS THAT WE ARGUE. 49:33 WE GIVE SILENT TREATMENT I CALL IT HARD BAWLING WHERE I THROW 49:37 SOMETHING HARD AT YOU AND YOU THROW IT BACK AND THOSE ARE BUT 49:43 ONE OF THE BOOKS WE READ ON DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS AND I 49:47 THINK THAT'S THE TITLE BUT IT TAUGHT US HERE. 49:55 AND HUMAN WHAT REMEMBER WHAT THAT ACRONYM STANDS FOR? 49:57 >> AND BUSY ASSERTIVENESS AND RESPECT -- EMPATHY ASSERTIVENESS 50:04 AND RESPECT IT'S CALLED FEELING GOOD TOGETHER AND IT IS THE 50:08 SECRET TO MAKING TROUBLED RELATIONSHIPS WORK. 50:10 >> A GAP PAIRED >> FEELING GOOD TOGETHER MAKING TROUBLED 50:17 RELATIONSHIPS WORK >> AND RESPECT. 50:24 >> IN THE BOOKS GIVE PRACTICAL ILLUSTRATIONS OF HOW TO USE 50:29 THOSE THREE GUIDING PRINCIPLES IN A CONVERSATION WITH SOMEONE 50:33 THAT YOU ARE REALLY DIFFERENT WITH IN THE BOOK IS NOT JUST 50:37 ABOUT MARRIAGE WE WERE USING IT FOR THE VARIOUS RELATIONSHIPS 50:40 AND HOW WILL THIS AND BUT WE HAVE DEFINITELY IMPLEMENTED IT 50:47 INTO OUR HOME. JUST LAST SABBATH WE WERE 50:49 TALKING ABOUT CHURCH AND IT WAS LIKE THE ENEMY ON SABBATH 50:53 MORNING WANTS US TO BREAK DOWN BUT HE SAID LET'S TALK ABOUT IT 50:56 RIGHT NOW AND I THOUGHT WE HAVE TO GET CHURCH AND THIS IS AN 51:00 AMAZING THING THING JAMES IS THE ONE THAT SAYS LET'S TALK AND SET 51:05 THIS HAS BEEN GROWTH AND PROGRESS WHICH I THINK IF EVERY 51:08 MARRIAGE IS NOT GROWING AND SOMETHING IS WRONG HERE. 51:17 TO THE CONTEXT OF EPHESIANS CHAPTER FOUR IS VERSE 26. 51:20 THAT'S THE KEY VERSE AND THE ONLY WAY WE CAN UNDER -- 51:24 OVERCOME THIS BITTERNESS IS IF WE FOLLOW THE COUNSEL IN VERSE 51:29 26. AND SIN NOT. 51:31 DON'T LET THE SUN GO DOWN ON YOUR ANGER. 51:34 >> BEFORE I OULD HAVE SAID LET'S TALK ABOUT IT TOMORROW AND 51:37 MEANWHILE I'M BOILING AND I'M STUFFING IT AND WHAT EVER AND 51:43 I'VE. BUT THAT'S WHY THOSE BUTTONS ARE 51:44 BEING PUSHED AND THAT IS WHY I AM FEELING NOT REALLY WHAT READS 51:48 HE IS DOING TO ME BUT THAT I'VE NEVER PROCESSED AND I'VE NEVER 51:54 BEEN ANGRY ABOUT SOMEONE ASKED ME NOT LONG AGO ABOUT A TRIAL I 51:58 WAS GOING THROUGH IN LIFE AND THEY SAID ARE YOU ANGRY? 52:02 IT WAS AN OLD FRIEND AND THERE WAS SILENCE AND SHE SAID YOU 52:06 THINK IT'S WRONG TO BE ANGRY DON'T YOU? 52:12 YOU'RE A PASTOR. >> I SAID OF A PREACHER I DON'T 52:14 THINK I SHOULD BE ANGRY AT YOU NOT BE ANGRY AND THE PREACHER 52:18 APPEARED AND SHE WENT ON TO EXPLAIN TO ME TOO LOOK UP IN THE 52:21 BIBLE THE LORD AND SEE HOW MANY TIMES IT IS THEY ARE 52:28 RELATIONSHIP TO GOD. GOD IS ANGRY THAT IS PART OF WHO 52:33 HE IS. WHAT IS HE ANGRY AT? 52:37 SIN, INJUSTICE, EVIL, EVERYTHING THAT IS WRONG HAPPENING THAT'S 52:44 HURTING HIS CREATION. HOW HE PROCESSES THAT ANGER IS 52:47 COMPLETELY DIFFERENT STORY. THE ANGER IS THERE BUT HOW WE 52:52 PROCESS IT HAS GOT TO BE IN HARMONY WITH WITH A GOD GOD 52:55 PROCESSES IT AND HE PROCESSES IT AND HE PROCESSES IT IS OF 52:57 SOMETHING WAS IN THE BIBLE GOD DOING A LOT AND BUT I TELL 53:05 SOMETHING ABOUT HOW I FELT ABOUT SOMETHING I WAIT A FEW MINUTES 53:08 OR AN HOUR AND I SAY I FELT THIS WAY ABOUT THAT'S WHAT YOU DID 53:12 EARLIER AND THAT IS A GOOD THING. 53:25 >>'S I FEEL STATEMENT AND ITS PROCESSING. 53:28 GOD'S IS A LOT OF AND JOE GODS' AT MAN IS PERFECT YOU KNOW A DID 53:36 THE SAME THING HE SAID I'M NOT HAPPY RIGHT NOW I'M NOT HAPPY 53:38 WITH GOD I'M HAPPY WITH LIFE AND NOT HAPPY WITH MY FRIEND I'M 53:43 HAPPY WITH A LOT OF STUFF AND HE VOCALIZED THIS AND TALKED ABOUT 53:46 IT BE ANGRY AND SIN NOT BECAUSE IT YOU DON'T PROCESSES OR 53:52 COMMUNICATE IT YOU WILL SIN YOU WILL SIN AND DON'T WAIT A LONG 53:59 TIME AND THEN YOU GET RID OF ANGER AND OTHER THINGS GOING OUT 54:05 OF YOUR VOCABULARY BECAUSE YOU'RE PROCESSING IT. 54:11 THEN YOU'LL BECOME A ANGRY AND WAKE UP ONE DAY AND THEN IT'S 54:17 NORMAL. >> SOMETIMES SOMEBODY WILL GET 54:24 ANGRY AND YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY'RE MAD AND THEY DON'T TALK 54:26 ABOUT IT AND IT'S A BIKE YOU BREED INSECURITY AND THE 54:34 ABANDONMENT ISSUE AGAIN AND SO IT IS IMPORTANT TO LEARN HOW TO 54:44 EXPRESS THESE EMOTIONS. ONE OF MY PET PEEVES IS A 54:55 POSITIVITY. IF YOU'RE GRIEVING THERE 55:09 SOMETHING WRONG. THEY DIDN'T VALIDATE THIS LIKE 55:20 WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU. WE ARE JUST MISSING OTHERS BUT 55:28 THEN EVEN PEOPLE IN VALIDATE THEIR OWN FAVORITES HERE THEY 55:33 COULD BE SOME ROUGH STUFF TRANSPARENT. 55:38 AND THEN AS SOON AS THEY DO IT'S LIKE I KNOW IT. 55:47 BUT THE WORST THING IS IN PEOPLE USE SCRIPTURE LIKE THIS. 55:58 IF SOMEONE IS HURTING OR SAYING GOD WON'T PUT MORE ON YOU THEN 56:03 YOU HAVE TO DID YOU KNOW PAUL SAID HEY WE WERE BURDENED BEYOND 56:11 MEASURE WE HAD'S DEATH AND HEART GOD DEFINITELY HAD MORE ON HIM 56:17 HE COULD HAVE THEIR BUT WOULD HAPPENED IS PAUL SAID HE ALLOWED 56:23 THIS TO HAPPEN SO THAT WE COULD LEARN TO LEAN ON HIM AND TRUST 56:28 ON HIM INSTEAD OF IN OURSELVES AND SO WE NEED TO QUIT TRYING TO 56:34 SILENCE OTHERS WHEN THEY ARE EXPRESSING THEMSELVES. 56:39 >> I'M SO GLAD YOU USE THE WORD IN VALIDATE BECAUSE I THINK 56:43 THAT'S ONE OF THE REASONS WHY WE DON'T EXPRESS THIS. 56:46 WHY DO PEOPLE WILL BATTLE THIS UP WITHOUT EXPRESSING THEMSELVES 56:50 AND IT IS PAINFUL WHEN YOU ARE EXPERIENCING SOMETHING UNITED. 57:07 WE WORK ON THIS ALL THE TIME. IT'S NOT JUST ME COMMUNICATING 57:11 WITH EMPATHY AND ASSERTIVENESS AND RESPECT TO YOU IT IS AND I 57:14 TRULY LISTENING TO YOU AND MY REALLY HEARING YOUR HEART THAT 57:18 IS MORE OF A SKILL THAN WE REALIZE IT'S NOT JUST THAT MY 57:21 EARS ARE OPEN AND SAY IT BACK TO ME I'LL SAY BACK TO HIM AND OFF 57:27 SAY WHAT I HEARD AND |
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