ALL THE WAY LIVE. WE
ARE GLAD YOU DON'T HEAR WHAT
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WE TALK ABOUT. >> NO.
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WE LAUGH A LOT
TOGETHER. WE LAUGH A LOT.
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LAUGHTER IS MEDICINE.
WHEN IT COMES TO RELATIONSHIP,
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SOMETIMES IT NIS
AT LAUGHING MATTER.
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NOTICE YOU TACKLE THOSE ISSUES
AND THEY CAN CREATE WEEDS IN A
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GARDEN THAT HAS NO REMEDY.
THANK THE LORD, 38 YEARS.
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22, 20 YEARS. 21 YEARS.
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TODAY TO GET TO TEN. A BIG DEAL.
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20. THE PAST 7 YEAR ITCH.
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YEAH. MAKE IT
PAST THE FIRST FIVE.
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>> SEVEN. >> OH.
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THEN KICKS IN. AND
THAT IS A WHOLE OTHER SHOW
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ALTOGETHER.
AFFECTION THAN THE HUSBAND.
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MERCY. HONESTLY.
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EVER SINCE WE HAD KIDS, I
DON'T KNOW WHO MY WIFE IS.
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I DON'T GET A HUG.
ALWAYS BUSY CHANNELING DIAPERS.
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RAE AL THINK. I TOLD
YOU I WAS KICKED OUT OF
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THE HOUSE AT 17 AND HAD TO CUC
MY SON OUT OF THE ROOM AT THREE
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MONTHS YOU KNOW? HE GOT TOT GO.
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HE HELD HIM IN THE HAND MY POLO
BABY LOOKING AT THE FATHER THREE
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MONTHS OLD. FAMILY.
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GIVE ME MY BABY.
BECAUSE MY WIFE IS A LIGHT
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SLEEPER ANYWAY. ADD A
BY THIS THAT AND JUMPING
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UP. ONE NIGHT,
WE ARE GOING TO DO
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EXPERIMENT TONIGHT. WAS
UP SCREAMING IN THE BED.
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>> YEAH. WHATEVER.
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LAID DOESN'T AND STARTED BEATING
HIS HEAD ON THE THING AND
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WHIMPERING. I WENT AWAY.
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HE GOTP AGAIN. EN
AND WHEN HE SEEN HER.
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WENT BALLISTIC. AH.
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HE KNEW. THEN I
SAID THEN ONE MORE.
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BACK BE BACK UP. BACK UP.
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HE WAS GOING BALLETS
TUCK. I PEAKED MY HEAD AROUND.
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AND SHE WAS LIKE, I
COULDN'T BELIEVE IT.
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THIS LITTLE MAN.
>> THREE MONTHS OLD.
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YEAH. WOW.
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ASK QUESTION ABOUTS
CHILDREN. 618-228-3975.
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RATING. TV AND
SEND YOUR QUESTIONS IN.
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E-MAIL. LIVE 3AB.
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KNOW SOME OF YOU AND GLAD
YOU MENTIONED THREE MONTHS OLD
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I WAS READING A
BOOK ON PREACHING.
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ALLOWS CHILDREN TO BE BORN SO
SMALL, HE SAID BECAUSE IF THEY
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WERE BORN AT 16 POUNDS THE WORST
MURDERS AND WORST IN SOCIETY.
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YOU KNOW? THEY HAVE
UNREGENERATED NATURE
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IT IS SO
UNTRAINED IT IS WILD. YEAH.
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YES. FASCINATING ABOUT THAT.
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WE ALWAYS SAY THAT.
CUELATED AND SELLISHNESS THAN
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MARRIAGE. CHILDREN.
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YOU KNOW? AS YOU GET
MARRIED AND WRESTLING
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AND UNDERSTAND OK. I
CANNOT DO THINGS MY WAY.
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WE HAVE TO COME TO SON THONGSES
AND COMPROMISING OR WHATEVER.
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AS ARE GETTING THE HANG OF THAT.
ENTER INTO THIS LITTLE YOU KNOW
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SELF-CENTERED INDIVIDUAL
AND YOU HAVE TOED A JUST AGAIN.
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AND NOW, I AM NOT
GEG ANYTHING IN RETURN.
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RIGHT. SACRIFICE
BECAUSE I AM GETTING
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SOMETHING IN RETURN.
EQUATION NOW I AM NOT RECEIVING
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ANYTHING IN RETURN FOR
THE SACRIFICE THAT IS AMIC ARE
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AND COULD BE
DIFFICULT FOR EVERYONE.
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IT IS DIFFICULT FOR THE MEAN.
THAT STAGE FOR US WAS REALLY
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HARD. I GOT
PREGNANT A MONTH AND A
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HALF AFTER THE
WEDDING. THE PLAN WAS TWO YEARS.
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OK. AND SO WE
WERE JUST DEALING AND
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WE TOLD YOU
BEFORE. AM GETTING TO LIFE.
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BAGGAGE THEN HERE COMES A
BABY WHEN LOOK BACK ON IT.
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GOD UNDERSTAND ARE STOOD WITH WE
NEEDED AND THE PRESSURE COOKER
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THAT WE CALL MARRIAGE
AND RELATIONSHIPS AS WHOLE.
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RELATIONSHIPS ARE PRESSURE
CORKERS WHERE GOD IS USING THEM
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TOLL MATURE US, GROW US,
GOING TO BRING UP UGLY THINGS WE
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DIDN'T KNOW EXISTED AND THAT IS
WHAT SPOUSES AND HAVING CHILDREN
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DOES. SAY MAN I
WOULD NOT BE THE WOMAN
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AAM TODAY IF IT WAS NOT
FOR THE 19-YEAR-OLD SON.
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SHE IS TALKING SO
GENTILE. YOU KNOW?
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I REMEMBER MAY
WIFE HAD POSTPARTUM.
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WE DIDN'T KNOW
WHAT WAITS. YOU KNOW.
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IF YOU KNOW. SOME FOOL.
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JUST THOUGHT THAT
SNEEDED MORE ORDER IN HER LIFE.
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ORDER? INDIVIDUAL.
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AND PUT A LIST OF A,
YOU KNOW, A SCHEDULE.
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GO TO BED THAT TIME. THE
BRIDE FRANKEN TINE!  STEIN.
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LOOKED LOOK I STICK MY
FIGER ON THE LIGHT POLE.
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SHE LOOKED AT ME. HOW
DO YOU LIKE THIS HE ASKED
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UM? WAY.
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WE NEED TO COMPLETELY
OBLIVIOUSES TO WHAT WAS GOING
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ON. THAT I NEEDED.
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LOOK I NEEDED TO
SYMPATHIZE WITH MY RIFE.
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NOT INTENTIONALLY
IN THE NAME OF JESUS.
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OH. IF YOU SAID THIS BEFORE.
00:08:03.68\00:08:07.35
TOLD MY WIFE, YOU KNOW, BECAUSE
I WAS GOING OUT AND YOU KNOW,
00:08:07.35\00:08:13.56
WORKING ON THE FARM OR WHATEVER.
I SAID, LISTEN, DON'T WALK ME UP
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FOR ANYTHING AT
NIGHT. NEWBORN BABY.
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WILL NOT GET UP
DURING THE NIGHT.
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NOW THIS BRILLIANT INDIVIDUAL
WHO I SAID I WILL NOT HELP WITH.
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I NEED GET MY SLEEP. SO
VERY!  SHE MENTIONED PRESSURE
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COOKER.
CHARACTERS WITH YOU KNOW EVEN
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WHILE WE ARE SINGLE.
BIN RELATIONSHIP, GOD
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INTENSIFIES THE CHALLENGES AND I
BELIEVE HE ALSO INTENSIFIED THE
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LEVEL OF GROWTH.
BECAUSE WHEN I WAS READY FOR
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TRANSLATION
BEFORE I GOT MARRIED.
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IFS THERE WITH A DISAGREEMENT I
WOULD LEAVE THIS PERCENT OUT OF
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MY LIFE FOR SEVERAL DAYS.
BUZZ NOW, I HAVE A WIFE AND
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SCREAMING CHILD. THEY ARE THERE.
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SOL GOD USED THAT AS A MEANS
OF BRINGING ABOUT HUMILITY IN MY
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LIFE AND HELPING ME TO HAVE A
LEVEL OF COMPASSION AND SYMPATHY
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THAT IF YOU ARE ASKING
PRIOR. I AM COMPASSIONATE.
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I AM SYMPATHETIC. DON'T
WALK ME UP AT 3:00 IN THE
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MORNING. I WILL
USE YOUR WIFE AND YOUR
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GNAW BORN TO
HELP IN THAT PROCESS.
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AMAZING HOW
GOOD CHISELS US. WOW.
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THANKS FOR THEIR SHAG.
FOR MARRIED FOR COUPLES OR
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DATING COUPLES CHIN
ARE JOINEN? >> WE EN.
00:10:02.73\00:10:07.54
RELATIONSHIPS OF
ALL KINDS BE HELPED.
00:10:07.54\00:10:12.94
YOUR JOB. YOUR STUDENT.
00:10:12.94\00:10:19.95
THINGS HAPPENING.
LOOKING TO GRE AND LOOKING TO
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LEARN AND WE HAPPENED TO BE
A MARRIED COUPLE BUT PIGS ATE
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ABOUT RUPPS OF
ALE TIME. WONDERFUL.
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BUILT HOW CAN A COUPLE RECOVER
WHEN A LOT OF DAMAGE HAS BEEN
00:10:33.80\00:10:36.87
DONE IN A MARRIAGE? AND
DIVORCE SEEMS LIKE THE ONLY
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ANSWER? ON THE VIDEO WE WATCHED
00:10:40.24\00:10:47.74
REALLYIER MY WIFE MENTIONED THAT
ONE PERSON AT THE VERY LEAST
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NEEDS TO BE ABLE TO START THE
PROCESS TO STOP OF THE SKCALLY
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CALL DESTRUCTIVE
PATTERN ISIC BEHAVIORS.
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FOR HEALING. THE
SCRAP TURES TELL YOU, I
00:11:06.53\00:11:11.60
YOU KNOW? THE
SANCTIFIED LIFE OR THE
00:11:11.60\00:11:17.64
BELIEVING WIFE CAN HAVE PROFOUND
IMPACT ON THE HUSBAND OR I
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BELIEVE THE SAME IS
TRUE THE OTHER WAY AS WELL.
00:11:21.64\00:11:25.01
THEN, WHAT WE HAVE FOUND AND WE
CANNOT WHEN IT COMES TO THINGSES
00:11:25.01\00:11:28.85
ONLY YOU GUYS KNOW, THERE
IS DIFFICULT MAKING ABC LIGHT
00:11:28.85\00:11:34.06
STATEMENTS. WE
DISCOVERED THAT BECAUSE WE
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USED TO THINK THAT INFIDELITIES
THE BIG LIKE, OH, THE WORST.
00:11:37.59\00:11:42.50
THE NEXT QUESTION. RIGHT.
00:11:42.50\00:11:47.67
MOST COUPLES WHO DIVORCE IS NOT
ACTUALLY THE IN IF I DLLITY THAT
00:11:47.67\00:11:51.71
CAUSES THE DIVORCE.
THERE ARE OTHER THINGS THAT ARE
00:11:51.71\00:11:55.78
SURROUNDING AND
ONE OF THEM TRUST.
00:11:55.78\00:12:03.05
EVER TRUST THIS
PERSON AGAIN. RIGHT.
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SO GOES MUCH
DEEPER THAN THE ACT.
00:12:08.19\00:12:13.93
SO I WOULD SAY GOD
IS ABLE. WE ARE, HE IS.
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>> YES. AMEN.
00:12:16.93\00:12:26.04
WE BELIEVE.
REMEMBER WE TALKED ABOUT IT
00:12:26.04\00:12:31.98
EARLIER. THERE
IS, THERE IS PATIENCE.
00:12:31.98\00:12:39.02
THERE IS ALL THINGS
ESSENTIAL. THE TOOLS.
00:12:39.02\00:12:41.36
RIGHT. SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE.
00:12:41.36\00:12:45.83
TO WANT TO MAKE
THAT HAPPEN. YEAH.
00:12:45.83\00:12:52.03
NO. BUILDING, AND WHAT HAS
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FOUNDATION. IT IS
THAT WE ARE TALKING ABOUT
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IN THIS THE
CONTEXT OF MIAMI. YEAH.
00:13:02.11\00:13:05.31
TAKES TWO LEGS BOTH VAT TO BE
WILLING TO WORK TOGETHER TO MAKE
00:13:05.31\00:13:08.55
IT WORK BECAUSE
IT DOESN'T HAPPEN.
00:13:08.55\00:13:12.02
BRING THAT QUESTION
UP. POWERFUL QUESTION.
00:13:12.02\00:13:15.59
TALK ABOUT COMMUNICATION.
THE COMMUNICATION.
00:13:15.59\00:13:22.46
TALK ABOUT THIS
BEFORE WE WATCH IT.
00:13:22.46\00:13:29.70
YEAH. AND THE
TRUTH OF THE MATTER IS.
00:13:29.70\00:13:35.61
ALL OF US COMMUNICATE.
BUT HOW WE COME IN KATE MAKES
00:13:35.61\00:13:39.41
THE WORLD OF DIFFERENCE. TRUE.
00:13:39.41\00:13:44.25
WE TALK ABOUT I
ON THE OTHER SIDE.
00:13:44.25\00:13:46.55
>> WE WANT TO SHARE A
SKILL WITH YOU THAT IS A COOL.
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TOOL. REQNTLY AS POSSIBLE.
00:13:50.26\00:13:53.60
THAT IS REFLECTIVE
LISTENING. REFLECTIVE LISTENING.
00:13:53.60\00:13:59.03
WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?
WE MAY THINK WE ARE GREAT
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LISTENERS BECAUSE
WE GUILTY TWO EARS.
00:14:02.07\00:14:05.31
AS WE TALK ABOUT WITH FILTERS
THE COMMUNICATION STYLES ON THE
00:14:05.31\00:14:09.24
HOMES WE GROUP IN.
THAT IS HO THE TRUTH.
00:14:09.24\00:14:14.25
IT GIVES US TREMENDOUS
NOT ONLY TO HEAR BUT GIVES THE
00:14:14.25\00:14:19.09
OPPORTUNITY FOR OUR SPOUSES TO
COMMUNICATE WITH US TO HAVE THE
00:14:19.09\00:14:23.53
SATISFACTION OF KNOWING
THEY ARE BEING UNDER STOOD.
00:14:23.53\00:14:27.40
NOW REFLECTIVE
LISTENING INVOLVES WHAT?
00:14:27.40\00:14:30.20
IT IS REQUIRES EXERCISE OF BEING
ABLE TO LISTEN TO SOMEONE SHARE
00:14:30.20\00:14:34.17
THOUGHTS WITH YOU.
THEN, MAYBE MIDWAY THROUGH OR
00:14:34.17\00:14:38.21
YOU CAN STOP THE INDIVIDUAL
AND SAY, OK, LET ME MAKE SURE I
00:14:38.21\00:14:41.84
HEARD IT. A, B,
C, D, IS THAT TRUE?
00:14:41.84\00:14:47.78
IS THAT CONSIDER
RECK? WHAT THAT OFFERS IS AN
00:14:47.78\00:14:50.92
OPPORTUNITY TO GIVE CLARITY ADDS
TO WHETHER OR NOT THAT IS WHAT
00:14:50.92\00:14:56.46
OR YOU CAN AFFIRM. SAY YES.
00:14:56.46\00:14:59.56
SO MY MIND KWAN THEN BE FREE
CONTINUE TO LISTEN RATHER THAN
00:14:59.56\00:15:03.33
TRYING TO COMPUTE WHAT
IT IS. DID HE SIGHSIVE.
00:15:03.33\00:15:07.34
INTERPRET. I
THINK YOU BRING OUT AN
00:15:07.34\00:15:11.57
IMPORTANT POINT WHEN
IF THIS IS YOU WHAT HEARD?
00:15:11.57\00:15:16.11
IT IS THIS IS NOT THE
COMPUTER OWE YOU SAID THIS.
00:15:16.11\00:15:21.72
YEAH. LISTENING
IS NOT JUST LISTENING
00:15:21.72\00:15:27.52
FOR WHAT A PERSON
SAYS ON THE SURFACE.
00:15:27.52\00:15:31.96
LISTENING FOR A
PERSON'S HEART. RIGHT.
00:15:31.96\00:15:34.20
NOW YOU MAY SAY,
YOU JUST TOLD US.
00:15:34.20\00:15:40.77
NO. BUT HERE IS A
BIBLICAL PRINCIPLE
00:15:40.77\00:15:45.54
OUT OF THE ABUNDANCES OVER
THE HEART THE MOUTH SPEAKS.
00:15:45.54\00:15:52.78
PERSON'S MIND OR
INTO A PERSON'S HEART.
00:15:52.78\00:16:01.42
ATTENTIVELY. WHILE
WE'RE NOT REPEATING WHAT
00:16:01.42\00:16:06.13
THE PERSON SAID, WHAT WE
ARE DOING IS ALONGING TO ATTACH
00:16:06.13\00:16:10.87
FEELING WORDS TO THE
THINGS THAT THEY SAY.
00:16:10.87\00:16:16.67
I LIKE THAT. DO YOU THAT.
00:16:16.67\00:16:19.37
YOU HAVE DONE IT
SEVERAL TIMES HAVE LEARNED.
00:16:19.37\00:16:23.01
THE REASON I LEARNED THAT.
BECAUSE WE LISTEN FOR YOU TO
00:16:23.01\00:16:28.35
TAKE BREATH. THAT IS
LIKE A WRESTLING MATCH.
00:16:28.35\00:16:33.46
GET THERE
BEFORE THE DOOR CLOSED.
00:16:33.46\00:16:36.76
I NEED TO KNOW WHY YOU
TELL ME. HE NEED TO TELL YOU.
00:16:36.76\00:16:41.40
WE DON'T LISTEN TO SAY,
I HEARD WHAT YOU JUST SAY.
00:16:41.40\00:16:47.74
TRYING TO SAY. I LIKE
HOW YOU SAID DON'T DOP
00:16:47.74\00:16:56.44
IT. THATS  THE SURFACE.
00:16:56.44\00:17:05.09
DID YOU HEAR THE
HEART. LE FLECT ON THAT.
00:17:05.09\00:17:07.56
NO PUN TINNED. I
THINK THAT IS SO POWERFUL.
00:17:07.56\00:17:13.29
YEAH. WORD AND
HEARD HER HEART AND
00:17:13.29\00:17:25.84
THEN SHE KNOW
LONGER HAS TO SEE ANY MORE.
00:17:25.84\00:17:28.94
NOT THAT I DON'T
WANT MY WIFE TO SEE.
00:17:28.94\00:17:35.08
THE OLD CLICHE IS ALL
WOMEN ALL THEY DO IS TALK.
00:17:35.08\00:17:42.06
LEARNED THEIR HUSBANDS HAVE NOT
LEARNED HOW TO HEAR THEIR HEART
00:17:42.06\00:17:45.03
AND HAVE TO KEEP
SPEAKING TO TROY EXPLAIN.
00:17:45.03\00:17:56.71
YOU COMPANY ON.
LEARN HOW TO SAY, MAN.
00:17:56.71\00:18:01.41
I HAR YOU SAYING THAT YOU ARE
EXTREMELY FRUSTRATED OR I HAR
00:18:01.41\00:18:06.05
YOU SAYING YOU NEED MY HELP.
I AM SORRY I HAVE NOT HELPED
00:18:06.05\00:18:10.55
YOU. THAT IS IT.
00:18:10.55\00:18:14.36
LET'S BE HONEST. YEAH.
00:18:14.36\00:18:24.33
PLAUS. [LAUGHTER]
00:18:24.33\00:18:28.77
AND LIKE, HE GOT IT. HE GOT IT.
00:18:28.77\00:18:36.81
YEAH. THROW
ANOTHER COME NONE IN THERE
00:18:36.81\00:18:44.79
AND FEEL FRO ADD. WE
ARE ON THE OTHER END.
00:18:44.79\00:18:48.32
YEAH. LISTEN.
00:18:48.32\00:18:56.40
YEAH. YOU SAY OK.
00:18:56.40\00:19:01.07
LOGICAL ME HEAR YOU WHAT
HAD TO SAY SOMETHING ALREADY.
00:19:01.07\00:19:05.84
YOU ARE TOO QUIET
AND LISTENING ACTUALLY.
00:19:05.84\00:19:09.64
BUT LISTEN. THAT.
00:19:09.64\00:19:14.85
DON'T SAY YOU WANT TO
TALK GO AHEAD TO TALK.
00:19:14.85\00:19:18.45
DON'T TALK. WAY.
00:19:18.45\00:19:22.89
COMMUNICATION WHICH PEOPLE
NEED TO TAKE THE TIME TO DO.
00:19:22.89\00:19:25.53
YEAH. YEAH.
00:19:25.53\00:19:35.17
DONE THAT MEANS LIKE I
AM TIRED OF HEARING YOU.
00:19:35.17\00:19:38.37
I HOPE YOU ARE DONE. RIGHT.
00:19:38.37\00:19:43.04
ABOUT THIS O
OFTEN. PEOPLE BELIEVE THAT
00:19:43.04\00:19:49.32
COMMUNICATION IS
JUST A ONE-WAY STREET.
00:19:49.32\00:19:55.42
COMMUNICATE AT ALL. WHY.
00:19:55.42\00:20:00.10
BECAUSE TO BE SILENT,
COMMUNICATE SOMETHING.
00:20:00.10\00:20:05.03
IN HOMES THEY DON'T TALK
ABOUT ANYTHING THAT IS SENDING A
00:20:05.03\00:20:10.61
MESSAGE. THE OWN
MESSAGE LEAVES WHATEVER.
00:20:10.61\00:20:16.28
EVEN SILENT THOUGHTS.
SELF TALK ALL THE TIME.
00:20:16.28\00:20:19.41
SELF TALK. IT CAN IN
DANGEROUS BECAUSE THE
00:20:19.41\00:20:24.45
TALK I HAVE HERE IS NOT HEALED
AND NOT COMING FROM A PLACE OF
00:20:24.45\00:20:26.72
HEALTH. BROKEN
PLACES AND SO YOU MAY
00:20:26.72\00:20:32.13
THINK WE ARE
FINE. WE DON'T ARGUE.
00:20:32.13\00:20:35.86
IT IS AS WELL. RIGHT.
00:20:35.86\00:20:43.17
HERE IS WHAT YOU ARE GETTING AT.
YOU ARE COME IN KATE SOMETHING.
00:20:43.17\00:20:46.17
I IS PROBABLY
UNINTENTIONAL. YEAH.
00:20:46.17\00:20:52.68
WHETHER IT BE YOUR
SPOUSE. YOUR CHILDREN.
00:20:52.68\00:20:56.82
LINGS SO FORTH.
COMMUNICATED IS NOT WHAT YOU
00:20:56.82\00:21:01.72
INTEND. ALL RIGHT.
00:21:01.72\00:21:09.00
CARING ABOUT THEM. BUT
NOT BEING ABLE TO NOT EVER
00:21:09.00\00:21:14.64
EVER TICK LATING THAT TO THEM
AND THEY WALK AWAY FEELING THAT
00:21:14.64\00:21:17.84
I WAS NOT LOVED AND
I WAS NOT CARED FOR.
00:21:17.84\00:21:20.74
>> I WATCHED YOU. I
WASH YOUR CLOTHINGS I PUT A
00:21:20.74\00:21:24.61
RAVE OVER YOUR
HEAD. I THOUGHT YOU KNEW.
00:21:24.61\00:21:29.25
I THOUGHT YOU KNEW.
THE QUESTION COMES BACK.
00:21:29.25\00:21:32.25
WELL, DID YOU
EVER COMMUNICATE THAT?
00:21:32.25\00:21:35.02
YEAH. WHAT IT IS I
AM TRYING TO SAY TO
00:21:35.02\00:21:43.53
YOU. WE TALKED
ABOUT THIS EARLIER.
00:21:43.53\00:21:49.64
DUAL RIGHT.
THAT IS A LARGE PART.
00:21:49.64\00:21:55.21
WHEN WE COME FROM
DIFFERENT CULTURE.
00:21:55.21\00:21:59.78
UNONE CULTURE THIS
IS HOW WE DO THINGS.
00:21:59.78\00:22:05.09
MY HUSBAND SAYS
THIS ALL THE TIME.
00:22:05.09\00:22:09.76
CULTURES  THE
HOMES WERE DIFFERENT.
00:22:09.76\00:22:11.76
YES.
COMMUNICATED AND SO THESING OF
00:22:11.76\00:22:19.10
TWO PEOPLE BECOMING ONE.
THOSE CULTURES KIND OF CO LAID.
00:22:19.10\00:22:23.00
YOU HAVE TO FIGURE
OUT HO DO WE DO THIS.
00:22:23.00\00:22:24.91
THAT IS RIGHT. CURL TURE.
00:22:24.91\00:22:32.71
CHILDREN SHOULD SOMEBODY SEEN
6:00 I COON SAY ANSWERNG THIS.
00:22:32.71\00:22:37.49
1:00 I COULDN'T SAY ANYTHING.
ESPECIALLY AROUND ADULTS IT IS
00:22:37.49\00:22:40.56
FINE. I
UNDERSTAND CHILDREN SHOULDN'T
00:22:40.56\00:22:43.56
INTERRUPT ADULTS BUT
RAISED IN THAT TYPE OF A HOME.
00:22:43.56\00:22:47.03
IT WAS TOUGH. YOU
WOULD BE SHUT DOWN.
00:22:47.03\00:22:59.17
MY HUSBAND GIVE
MEAS CHANCE TO BE HEARD.
00:22:59.17\00:23:04.01
HE LET MISHE TALK. HE
LETS ME EXPRESS MYSELF.
00:23:04.01\00:23:08.95
IT HAS MADE ME GROW
INTO THE WOMAN I AM TODAY.
00:23:08.95\00:23:12.05
AMEN. >> AWE.
00:23:12.05\00:23:17.26
VERSION OF HERSELF. BE.
00:23:17.26\00:23:27.27
A HUSBAND TO MY WIFE. GOD,
AS YOU SAID, ALL THINGS ARE
00:23:27.27\00:23:31.24
POSSIBLE. FOR
THESE ARE WATCHING.
00:23:31.24\00:23:36.24
VERSION OF YOUR SPOUSE.
THAT YOU FEEL THEY ARE JUST AS
00:23:36.24\00:23:43.22
ARE SAYING GOD GAVE ME JUNK.
THE OTHER THING WE LEARNED DON'T
00:23:43.22\00:23:48.69
CRITS SO THE SPOUSE.
YOU CRITICIZE YOURSELF.
00:23:48.69\00:23:55.60
IT IS YOU ARE RIGHT.
I DON'T MAKE ANY SENSE.
00:23:55.60\00:23:58.07
LOOK WHO I CHOSE. I
DON'T MAKE RIHT CHOICE.
00:23:58.07\00:24:03.84
THIS THAT IS.
THE WHIP CRITICISM.
00:24:03.84\00:24:07.61
YOU SWING IT. WHY I
WANT TO GET TO THE NEXT
00:24:07.61\00:24:14.08
VIDEO. THIS ISNG LOWER.
00:24:14.08\00:24:20.92
TALK TO ABOUT IT. YEAH.
00:24:20.92\00:24:27.66
COMPLETED UP IN MY MAY SEMINAR
WE DID THERE FON FLICKS THE
00:24:27.66\00:24:34.10
BUILDING BLOCS OF SOUND AND
LEARN THOUGH COME IN KATE AND
00:24:34.10\00:24:40.94
ARE BUILDING BLOCKS THAT
ARE ESSENTIAL FOR US TO NOT ONLY
00:24:40.94\00:24:44.48
HEAR YAWNEDDER STAN ONE ANOTHER
BUT ALSO TO BE UNDERSTOOD AND
00:24:44.48\00:24:49.78
OURSELVES. >> TAMLY FEAR.
00:24:49.78\00:24:59.56
WHEN PEOPLE ARE
AFRAID FOR WHATEVER REASON.
00:24:59.56\00:25:02.00
THEY LEAN TOWARD
-- I THINK FOR ME.
00:25:02.00\00:25:09.70
EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS.
MENT TOLY FINE IN OUR SOCIETY
00:25:09.70\00:25:15.08
FOR NONE ASK. ANGER.
00:25:15.08\00:25:19.01
BE ANGRY. I AM NOT
TALKING ABOUT ANGER AND
00:25:19.01\00:25:22.18
EMOTION BUT REACTION. RIGHT.
00:25:22.18\00:25:27.96
OTHER THINGS WE
CAN DO. GUESS WHAT?
00:25:27.96\00:25:29.96
WOMEN ALSO DEAL
WITH ANGER AS WELL.
00:25:29.96\00:25:36.53
NO. HANDLES RAY.
00:25:36.53\00:25:41.54
OPPORTUNITY OR TAUGHT HOW
TO DEAL WITH THAT THING IT TAKE
00:25:41.54\00:25:44.34
HOLD OF US AND ADVANTAGE
OF US AND DISTORT THE TRUTH.
00:25:44.34\00:25:47.98
DID YOU HEAR ME? GIVE
YOU ANOTHER THIS US ONE NEW
00:25:47.98\00:25:52.61
FOR ME. BELIEVE I
MISSED UT ALL THESE
00:25:52.61\00:25:56.05
YEARS. BUT
ACTUALLY, SIX ANOTHER SECOND
00:25:56.05\00:26:01.99
A. SAY WITH IT ME.
00:26:01.99\00:26:08.73
OK. CAN BE USED
AS A REPLACEMENT FOR
00:26:08.73\00:26:16.07
SOMETHING ELSE. >> YEAH.
00:26:16.07\00:26:19.81
SO I DON'T FEEL ACCEPTED.
I DON'T FEEL VALIDATED BY MY
00:26:19.81\00:26:25.01
WIFE. I WANT TO
HAVE LOADANCE LOADS OF
00:26:25.01\00:26:30.59
SEX. SHE LOVES ME.
00:26:30.59\00:26:36.56
>> RIGHT. NEED.
00:26:36.56\00:26:46.50
>> NOTHING. TOO LATE.
00:26:46.50\00:26:57.41
WHAT DID YOU SAY,
SIR. WE DIDN'TER THAT.
00:26:57.41\00:27:07.69
NO. SHOULD NOT
HAVE TO END IN SEX.
00:27:07.69\00:27:15.63
HERE IS A WORD FOR THOSE
WE HAVE THAT TAKE WIGS DOM.
00:27:15.63\00:27:20.97
WHEN YOUR WIFE IS
SHOWING YOU AFFECTION.
00:27:20.97\00:27:28.78
LAUGH. SHE IS RUBBING YOU.
00:27:28.78\00:27:36.62
YOU ARE TALKING. THAT IS IT.
00:27:36.62\00:27:38.99
YOU KNOW. YOU
RUKING TOGETHER IN A STORE.
00:27:38.99\00:27:45.16
YOU DON'T WANT TO BEEN THERE THE
FIRST POLICE AND REACH FOR YOUR
00:27:45.16\00:27:47.83
HAND NOW. LOVE THAT.
00:27:47.83\00:27:56.27
WHAT ARE YOU DOING? YOU SA.
00:27:56.27\00:28:03.51
THAT DOESN'T HAVE TO SEND IN SEX
BUT COMMUNICATES SOMETHING VERY
00:28:03.51\00:28:08.92
POWERFUL BUT A LOT OF US MISTAKE
WHAT A LOT OF COUPLES DO.
00:28:08.92\00:28:13.49
THEY FIGHT. THEY HAVE SEX.
00:28:13.49\00:28:18.99
SEX BECOMES THE VEHICLE FOR
EVERYTHING IN THE MARRIAGE TO BE
00:28:18.99\00:28:22.16
OK. BUT NOT
REALLY OK BECAUSE THEY
00:28:22.16\00:28:27.87
HAVE NOT DEALT WITH ISSUES THAT
CAUSED THAT VOL CAN EXPLOSION.
00:28:27.87\00:28:32.91
YOU HAD SEX.
OPERATING THIS MEANS X, Y, Z.
00:28:32.91\00:28:43.79
THOSE SAME ISSUES TEND
TO COME UP AGAIN AND AGAIN.
00:28:43.79\00:28:47.02
WOW. WOULD YOU
CALL THAT DISPLACED
00:28:47.02\00:28:52.13
AFFECTION. YEAH.
00:28:52.13\00:29:00.97
YEAH. BUSHES.
00:29:00.97\00:29:10.75
RIGHT. IT MAY
MAKE YOU FEEL ALL RIGHT
00:29:10.75\00:29:16.65
IN THE MOMENT. THE
RIGHT CAT LIST TO COME BACK
00:29:16.65\00:29:26.49
UP GAIN. IT ONCE
THOSE THINGS FOR EITHER
00:29:26.49\00:29:34.57
PERSON MEN OR WOMEN
IT IS JUST DIVING DEEPER.
00:29:34.57\00:29:38.97
THERE IS NOT ENOUGH SK YOU CAN
HAVE THAT CAN SOLVE THAT ROOT
00:29:38.97\00:29:43.04
PROBLEM THAT COULD NAIL WELL
OR VOD THE FIRST THING IS GOD
00:29:43.04\00:29:48.15
HIMSELF. AMEN.
00:29:48.15\00:29:55.06
DIE. ANY MAN OR
WOMAN WE PUT THIS ON
00:29:55.06\00:30:01.80
MEN. THIS, TOO.
00:30:01.80\00:30:05.57
WE ARE SEARCHING
AND LOOKING FOR WHO FIX.
00:30:05.57\00:30:14.88
YEAH. HE SAID THAT.
00:30:14.88\00:30:24.69
PARAPHRASING NOW. IN
GOD'S PLACE AND EVEN IF GOD
00:30:24.69\00:30:29.39
TINNED FOR US TO
ENJOY THAT THING.
00:30:29.39\00:30:33.80
IT WILL ONLY
DISAPPOINT US. RATING.
00:30:33.80\00:30:45.87
RIGHT. GOD.
00:30:45.87\00:30:58.39
WHAT GOD CAN DO FOR US. AGAIN.
00:30:58.39\00:31:06.63
BLESSING BUT YET IT WILL ONLY
DISAPPOINT US IF WE PUT IN A
00:31:06.63\00:31:13.37
PLACE IT DOESN'T BELONG.
DISTRACTION FROM TALKING, SHOE.
00:31:13.37\00:31:24.81
OH, YEAH. ENDORPHIN
AND FEEL HAPPY AND YOU
00:31:24.81\00:31:29.58
JUST LIKE, OH,
DON'T WE LOVE EACH OTHER.
00:31:29.58\00:31:34.52
IT BECOME AS PATCH AT
THAT MOMENT TO AVOID ADDRESSING
00:31:34.52\00:31:38.16
ISSUES. VALLEY OF
SHADOWS TO BROUGHT THE
00:31:38.16\00:31:42.60
OTHER SIDE HEAL HALT
HI. ARE REALLY IMPORTANT.
00:31:42.60\00:31:46.43
>> WOW. NEXT QUESTION.
00:31:46.43\00:31:49.90
HO DO YOU OPEN
UP ABOUT PROBLEMS.
00:31:49.90\00:31:56.14
FRM UM. YOU KNOW?
00:31:56.14\00:32:02.42
I AM BIG ON SAFE PLACE SPACES.
WE HAVE TO GET TO A POINT WHERE
00:32:02.42\00:32:09.06
WE MAKE IT NOT A TABOO. I
WILL NOT STAND IN FRONT OF THE
00:32:09.06\00:32:16.63
CHURCH WITH A BULLHORN HOWEVER
WE HAVE TO CREATE SAFE SPACES
00:32:16.63\00:32:21.20
FOR PEOPLE TO BE TRANSPARENT
ABOUT THE THING HAPPENS PENNING.
00:32:21.20\00:32:24.61
THAT HAVE HAPPENED RIGHT IN
THEIR LIVES AND AND IT COMES TO
00:32:24.61\00:32:30.51
A RELATIONSHIP OVER HUSBAND AND
WIFE AND REQUIRES THAT TRUST YOU
00:32:30.51\00:32:33.92
KNOW WHAT YOU CAN
COME TO TALK TO ME.
00:32:33.92\00:32:45.39
WOMAN. YOU KNOW.
00:32:45.39\00:33:02.71
I AM HAVING THIS EXPENSE WHAT
YOU FIND IS ONCE THAT PERSON
00:33:02.71\00:33:06.61
FEELS YOU ARE SAFE. LISTEN.
00:33:06.61\00:33:08.48
YOU ARE SAFE. THEY
WILL OPEN UP TO YOU.
00:33:08.48\00:33:13.69
I AM OUTS THE CHURCH
CONTEXT. PEOPLE TROY OPEN UP.
00:33:13.69\00:33:24.87
LE AND I THINK THE QUESTION
ASKED WHEN YOU ARE HOW DO YOU
00:33:24.87\00:33:31.74
HAVE A CONVERSATION. YES.
00:33:31.74\00:33:36.11
MACHINE CALL ITING. I
WOULD LIKEN TO IT LEARNING
00:33:36.11\00:33:39.05
ANOTHER LANGUAGE. IF
YOU ARE A NATIVE ENGLISH
00:33:39.05\00:33:43.39
SPEAKER AND YOU ARE
LEARNING A LANGUAGE, RIGHT?
00:33:43.39\00:33:48.72
IT IS GOING TO TAKE SOME
TIME. YOU WILL HAVE TO EXERCISE
00:33:48.72\00:33:52.86
PATIENCE. YOU ARE
GOING TO HAVE TO MOVE
00:33:52.86\00:33:57.17
SLOWLY WRENCH RIGHT?
WEE APPLY IN THAT SETTING
00:33:57.17\00:34:03.94
ENGLISH NATIVE ENGLISH SPEAKER
AND LEARNING THE LANGUAGE FOR
00:34:03.94\00:34:10.01
SOME REASON WITH W WOE THIS IS
MY HUSBAND UNWITCH AND I NEVER
00:34:10.01\00:34:15.75
HAD HALT THINK COMMUNICATION
MODELED THEN NEVER GAGED IN HALT
00:34:15.75\00:34:21.16
NOW. I PRAYED
LAST NIGHT AND 1:00 YOU
00:34:21.16\00:34:25.76
KNOW, GOD HAS TO
DO SOMETHING FOR ME.
00:34:25.76\00:34:29.16
WE WANT TO SKIP OVER THE
PATIENCE BECAUSE IT TAKES TIME.
00:34:29.16\00:34:34.50
ITATION PROCESS. >> MUSCLE.
00:34:34.50\00:34:37.21
>> AND WE HAVE TO BE
PATIENT WITH OURSELVES.
00:34:37.21\00:34:40.21
AS WELL BECAUSE WE DON'T
ALWAYS WE DON'T ALWAYS HEAR.
00:34:40.21\00:34:43.35
THIS IS ONE OF THE THINGS.
WHEN JR. I AM DOING SOMETHING
00:34:43.35\00:34:51.59
I TELL PEOPLE. OH THEY CRINGE.
00:34:51.59\00:34:59.36
OH, YEAH. WE DIDN'T
HEAR LIABILITY THAT.
00:34:59.36\00:35:02.70
HOW WOULD IT BE IF WE WOULD
RECORD COUPLES AND THEN ASKING
00:35:02.70\00:35:08.50
PERMISSION FIRST AND THEN
LET THEM HEAR THEMSELVES BECAUSE
00:35:08.50\00:35:12.87
VERY FEW VERY FEW OF US ACTUALLY
KNOW HOW WE SOUND AND YOUR
00:35:12.87\00:35:19.35
SPOUSE KNOW HOUSE YOU
SOUND AND DID YOU BEAT ME UP.
00:35:19.35\00:35:36.30
MAN OF I CAN'T
BELIEVE SOUND LIKE THAT.
00:35:36.30\00:35:41.87
WE WITH HAVE THE SAME
REACTION. LE IT TAGES TIME.
00:35:41.87\00:35:50.15
YEAH. POWERFUL.
00:35:50.15\00:35:53.65
GUILTY. I TELL YOU.
00:35:53.65\00:35:57.52
YOU KNOW WHAT?
EMOTIONS CLOUDS ARE PERCEPTION
00:35:57.52\00:36:02.92
OF WHAT WE SOUND LIKE. AND
EMOTION IS THAT ONE DROP OF
00:36:02.92\00:36:12.87
SOUR IN A SWEET SITUATION AND
YOU MISSED A WHOLE TO DROP ON
00:36:12.87\00:36:20.01
THE TOP AND PEOPLE SAY TO
GET PAST THAT THE REST OF US.
00:36:20.01\00:36:30.32
WHY TALKING THAT WAY. Y.
00:36:30.32\00:36:38.43
YOU TELL THEM
WHAT THEY ARE DOING.
00:36:38.43\00:36:49.84
THAT IS THE PROBLEM
WE ARE TALKING TO YOU.
00:36:49.84\00:36:55.08
NO OH YEAH. WE
EXPERIENCE IT OURSELVES AT
00:36:55.08\00:37:01.98
THAT. WHERE I SAY
THIS IS NOT A HILL.
00:37:01.98\00:37:09.32
WE'RE WORTH DYING
ON A CALM IT DOWN.
00:37:09.32\00:37:15.70
I DID PAIL GUISE. YEAH.
00:37:15.70\00:37:21.44
I R YOU REMINDED ME. YOU KNOW?
00:37:21.44\00:37:24.97
AND YOU GUIDE IT BACK.
WE HAVE EMPHASIZED THAT.
00:37:24.97\00:37:28.04
YEAH. NOT EVEN A WAY.
00:37:28.04\00:37:37.49
AND YOU BOTH DECIDE, OK.
WE ARE BOTH GOING TO LOSE.
00:37:37.49\00:37:41.56
WE ARE NOT GOING TO WIN. RIGHT.
00:37:41.56\00:37:44.43
WIN TOGETHER. INFIDELITY?
00:37:44.43\00:37:54.34
>> I THINK WE
ALLUDED TO THIS EARLIER.
00:37:54.34\00:37:59.11
BELIEVE ARE YOU NEED
JESUS. THE ONE WHOS THE AUTHOR.
00:37:59.11\00:38:04.91
FORGIVENESS. YOU KNOWS?
00:38:04.91\00:38:10.02
YOU KNOW AND HE
DECIDED TO GIVE HIMSELF.
00:38:10.02\00:38:14.46
RATING. TAKES
TALK ABOUT THIS AGAIN
00:38:14.46\00:38:18.96
TRANSPARENCY. A
WILLINGNESS TO SIT DOESN'T TO
00:38:18.96\00:38:24.40
GO DEEPER THAN THAN THE ACT AND
INFIDELITY IS FAR MORE THAN THE
00:38:24.40\00:38:29.77
ACT AND THAT HAVE TO GO
UNDERNEATH AND BE ABLE TOLOOK
00:38:29.77\00:38:32.71
AT HOW WE GOT HERE AND WAKE UP
AND DECIDE YOU ARE GOING TO BE
00:38:32.71\00:38:36.91
UNFATHFUL. THEN YOU
MAY, WE TALK ABOUT THIS
00:38:36.91\00:38:40.68
OFTEN. LIKE TO
THINK WE CAN HANDLE
00:38:40.68\00:38:46.25
THIS.
PROFESSIONAL COUNCILOR WHO CAN
00:38:46.25\00:38:51.03
WORK WITH YOU THROUGH.
WHAT DOES THAT LOOK LIKE?
00:38:51.03\00:38:58.47
SO YOU DON'T
HAVE TO GET A DIVORCE.
00:38:58.47\00:39:02.84
SO 6:00 MANY PEOPLE HAVE NOT.
THEY WERE ABLE TO MAKE IT OVER
00:39:02.84\00:39:09.74
THIS HILL. >> YEAH.
00:39:09.74\00:39:14.98
THAT AC. THERE US
SOMETHING ELSE THAT IS
00:39:14.98\00:39:23.89
THERE. ONE OF THE
APPROACHES IS THAT
00:39:23.89\00:39:30.37
CHALLENGES AND
ACTUALLY OPPORTUNITIES.
00:39:30.37\00:39:36.60
OPPORTUNITIES FOR HEALING.
OPPORTUNITIES FOR GROWTH.
00:39:36.60\00:39:41.31
TUNES TO BRING GLORY TO GOD.
SO WHAT WE HAVE DISCOVERED AND
00:39:41.31\00:39:45.61
WORKING WITH A LOT OF COUPLES
IS THAT SOMETIMES THE REASONS WE
00:39:45.61\00:39:51.15
GOT MARRIED AND FOUNDATION
WERE SHACKIAN THE FIRST PLACE.
00:39:51.15\00:40:01.93
RIGHT. THIS IS NOT AXE THERE BUT
00:40:01.93\00:40:07.97
SOMETIMES THERE HAPPENS WHAT WE
HAVE O WERE READ K AS THE 1127
00:40:07.97\00:40:17.05
PSALM SEASON THE LORD BUILD
THE HOUSE AND LABOR IN VEIN.
00:40:17.05\00:40:22.78
SO WHAT WE HAVE DISCOVERED WHEN
TRYING TO HELP COUPLES WITH IN
00:40:22.78\00:40:28.02
IF I DL TY AND VARIETY OF OH
ARE OTHER ISSUES IS THAT THESE
00:40:28.02\00:40:35.33
THINGS ROW INDIVIDUAL A THE
OPPORTUNITY HAVE A NEW START.
00:40:35.33\00:40:42.14
RIGHT HOWEVER, HOWEVER, RIGHT.
AND SOLID AND AFFIRM AND A
00:40:42.14\00:41:02.72
STRONG
FOUNDATION. SHAKY FOUNDATION.
00:41:02.72\00:41:13.00
YEAH YEAH YEAH SO AS DIFFICULT
AS SOMETHING LIKE MARITAL
00:41:13.00\00:41:18.67
INFIDELITYLITY IS AND AS
DIFFICULT AS THAT IS WE BELIEVE
00:41:18.67\00:41:22.21
AGAIN WITH GOOD ALL THINGS
ARE POSSIBLE MY WIFE MENTIONED
00:41:22.21\00:41:25.55
FORGIVENESS AND THIS IS
SOMETHING I THINK THAT IS VERY
00:41:25.55\00:41:29.35
IMPORTANT AND THAT IS THIS
IS WHY WE BELIEVE IN WE BELIEVE
00:41:29.35\00:41:34.66
HAVING GOD IN A MARRIAGE
AND TREMENDOUSLY IMPORTANT AND
00:41:34.66\00:41:40.20
BECAUSE ONE OF THE THING WE ARE
ABLE TO CHALLENGE THOSE COACHING
00:41:40.20\00:41:44.97
IS THIS. THAT WE
HAVE AN OBLIGATION AS
00:41:44.97\00:41:49.14
BELIEVERS TO EXTEND THE SAME
GRATION OUR SPOUSE THAT GOD HAS
00:41:49.14\00:41:54.48
EXTENDED TO US AND DIFFICULT.
BUT WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT THE
00:41:54.48\00:42:01.25
GRIS THAT GOD HAS TED, TO YOU
AND YOU START PROSES SESSION.
00:42:01.25\00:42:07.19
ANDY DESERVE IT. NO.
00:42:07.19\00:42:17.47
YOU START GOING GOING THAT LIST
AND LOOK AT ROMANS CHAPTER 5
00:42:17.47\00:42:23.47
INENMIES AND YET CRTAIN IN
THE WEAKNESS AND START TO SAY.
00:42:23.47\00:42:29.61
MAN. SO AND
EXPECTS ME EXTEND TO THE
00:42:29.61\00:42:39.62
FOUL. BEAUTIFUL.
00:42:39.62\00:42:45.99
HERE AND WE ARE NOT
GOING TO REPEAT THIS.
00:42:45.99\00:42:49.96
FORMATIVELY AND BY THE WAY
GIVE YOU THE INFORMATION AND
00:42:49.96\00:42:56.77
INVITE PASTOR TO COME THOUGH
CHURCH OR WHEREVER YOU MAY BE TO
00:42:56.77\00:43:01.74
CONDUCT A RELATIONSHIP
SEMINAR AND COACHING.
00:43:01.74\00:43:08.08
WHAT TYPE OF WALLS.
TELL US WHAT WE ARE WATCHING
00:43:08.08\00:43:12.75
HERE. WE COLLECT
THE BRICKS AND NOTICE
00:43:12.75\00:43:17.39
ON THE BRICKS YOU WILL
NOTICE THEY HAVE WORDS ON THEM.
00:43:17.39\00:43:23.43
REALLY VISIBLE TO US.
SOMETIMEST THIS HURT OTHER
00:43:23.43\00:43:35.61
PEOPLE. SHARING.
00:43:35.61\00:43:44.05
IT WAS BIRTHED OUT OF
HER STUDY. OH, REALLY.
00:43:44.05\00:44:20.39
¤ ¤ ¤ WOW INTEREST K SKIT RIGHT.
00:44:20.39\00:44:49.18
VERY. RELATIONSHIP.
00:44:49.18\00:45:00.60
A PERSON WHO PERSEVERES AND WE
TALKED ABOUT EARLIER A THREAT.
00:45:00.60\00:45:06.17
THEY USE THE THINGS
THAT HAVE BLT THE WALL.
00:45:06.17\00:45:11.24
HARM THE OTHER PERSON. IT
GIVES US IN SIGHT INTO THE
00:45:11.24\00:45:16.71
WHY WE RECEIVED INFORMATION
IN THE BOOK OF JOSHUA.
00:45:16.71\00:45:23.69
THEY DWELT IN LARGE
FENCED AND WALLED CITIES.
00:45:23.69\00:45:30.13
AND. CITY WITH
ENORMOUS WALLS AND THE
00:45:30.13\00:45:39.50
TRENDING THIS THING IS THAT MOST
OF THE WALLS AND CITIES AND THEY
00:45:39.50\00:45:45.61
ENDED UP BEING DEFEATED BUT
THERE WAS ONE GROUP OF PEOPLE
00:45:45.61\00:45:53.42
WHO ALSO DWELT IN
A WALL IN THE CITY.
00:45:53.42\00:46:01.26
IT WAS IN THEIR BEST INTEREST
NOT TO REMAIN BEHIND THE WALLS
00:46:01.26\00:46:04.69
BUT TO ACTUALLY COME OUT
AND MEET ISRAELITES BUT MEET THE
00:46:04.69\00:46:10.50
ISRAELITES IN A DIFFERENT
WAY THAN THE REST OF THEIR
00:46:10.50\00:46:14.27
CANNONNITE NEIGHBORS WOULD AND
THEY COUPLE OUT AND SURRENDERED
00:46:14.27\00:46:18.67
AND 1:00 WHY DOESN'T THE OTHER
CAN NIGHTITES DO THE SAME THING?
00:46:18.67\00:46:23.04
WELL THE OTHERS DID NOT WANT
TO DO THAT BECAUSE TO SURRENDER
00:46:23.04\00:46:27.68
WOULD MEAN THEY
WOULD GIVE UP CONTROL.
00:46:27.68\00:46:33.62
WATTS WAHLS THEY COULD MAINTAIN
THEIR OWN FORMS OF WORSHIP AND
00:46:33.62\00:46:37.69
COULD LIVE THE WAY THEY WANTED
TO LIVE AND TO COME OUT FROM
00:46:37.69\00:46:41.63
BEHIND THE WALLS TO YELLED
OR SUBMIT ARE SURRENDER AND MEAN
00:46:41.63\00:46:46.94
THEY WOULD BE FEEDING CONTROL OF
THEIR LIVES TO SOMEONE ELSE SO
00:46:46.94\00:46:51.04
MALTLY THE RESIST TENSE THAT WAS
EXPIRED WHEN THE ISRAELITES CAME
00:46:51.04\00:46:56.91
INTO CAN IN NA PAN WAS MORE BAR
WANNING TO MAINTAIN CONTROL OF
00:46:56.91\00:47:01.32
THAT YOU ARE OWN LIVES AND
IT WAS ABOUT ANYTHING ELSE.
00:47:01.32\00:47:03.92
AND I THINK THAT APPLIES TO WHAT
WE HAVE BEEN TAKENNING ABOUT AND
00:47:03.92\00:47:08.46
TERM INS OF
WEAN ONED WALLS. WOW.
00:47:08.46\00:47:14.10
WALLS ISOLATE. WALLS SEPARATE.
00:47:14.10\00:47:18.63
ELABORATE ON THAT THAT IS
INSIGHTFUL THAT IS EX STORY IN
00:47:18.63\00:47:22.94
FACT. BUGGER PK ARE PICTURE.
00:47:22.94\00:47:27.18
YEAH. BOUNDARIES
EVERY RELATIONSHIP
00:47:27.18\00:47:34.95
REQUIRES BOUNDARIES IT DOESN'T
MATTER WHAT RELATIONSHIP IT IS.
00:47:34.95\00:47:38.12
BUTYLENE ARE TIMES OVER IN LIVES
WHERE WE HAVE BARRIERS THAT
00:47:38.12\00:47:41.52
PRESENT US FROM
PROGRESSING AND USE IT.
00:47:41.52\00:47:45.33
THEIR BOOKS AND YOU TELL THEM TO
GO THOUGH END OF THE DRIVEWAY OR
00:47:45.33\00:47:49.36
DONE GO ANY FURTHER THAT FOR
THEIR PROTECTION AND SEE THEM.
00:47:49.36\00:47:54.60
THEY OK. THEN THERE
IS A WAY WE SOMETIMES
00:47:54.60\00:47:58.44
MENTALLY TRANSFER THAT AND
WE THINK WE ARE FOLK OURSELF AND
00:47:58.44\00:48:02.94
REALLY NOT.
COMMUNICATE AND ALLOW PEOPLE
00:48:02.94\00:48:10.15
INTO THE PORTION OF MY THOUGHTS
OR MINE AND AND AS WE SAW WE ARE
00:48:10.15\00:48:13.72
FRAYED AND AFRAID WE WOULD
TAKE ONE BRICK DOWN AND GIVING
00:48:13.72\00:48:17.36
CONTROL OVER TO SOMEONE ELSE.
WE FUND OURSELVES ICE LATED FROM
00:48:17.36\00:48:21.70
THE FAMILY. IT IS
ALL BEING YOU KNOW, IT IS
00:48:21.70\00:48:28.94
FACADE AND BLINDED
BY WHAT IS HAPPENING.
00:48:28.94\00:48:34.01
TO THE DEATH. YES.
00:48:34.01\00:48:39.78
ROOTING. NOT
BEING IN CONTROL I WILL
00:48:39.78\00:48:46.25
FIGHT SO YOU KNOW IMAGINE
THIS IN A RELATIONSHIP IMAGINE
00:48:46.25\00:48:50.56
NEITHER ONE OF US
WANT TO SEE CONTROL.
00:48:50.56\00:48:56.43
WANT? BETWEEN IT GO HERE.
00:48:56.43\00:49:00.74
NO. THIS FIGHT.
00:49:00.74\00:49:05.24
KNOW I CANNOT. I
CANNOT SEE CONTROL AND BECAUSE
00:49:05.24\00:49:09.44
IF I DO, I WILL BE
HURT. DO IN WANT TO BE HURT.
00:49:09.44\00:49:16.42
WILL KEEP YOU UP BY BUILDING
WALLS THE MORE UGLY AND ANGRY I
00:49:16.42\00:49:20.32
GET YOU ARE SURE. NOT
TOUGHEN A THING TO DO WITH
00:49:20.32\00:49:24.83
ME. YEAH.
00:49:24.83\00:49:34.30
WOW YOU HAVE A WONDERFUL
MINISTRY A NICE QUESTION.
00:49:34.30\00:49:41.11
WE LOVE THE CONWAYS. WE
APPRECIATE YOUR APPROACH.
00:49:41.11\00:49:45.55
THANK YOU FOR ALLOWING
GOD TO USE YOU TO HELP OTHERS.
00:49:45.55\00:49:51.22
YOUR MACHINE TRY HAS BEEN
A BLESSING TO US AND DO YOU
00:49:51.22\00:49:54.52
CONDUCT MARRIAGE
SEMINARS AT CHURCHES?
00:49:54.52\00:49:57.36
OH. YEAH.
00:49:57.36\00:50:00.50
WE DO. AND BUT, YOU KNOW, OH.
00:50:00.50\00:50:07.00
SO MANY
RESPONSIBILITIES. PASTORING.
00:50:07.00\00:50:13.58
ONE OF THE RUNNINGS. YOU KNOW.
00:50:13.58\00:50:16.11
YOURSELVES. THE SAM?
00:50:16.11\00:50:21.62
WE WANT TO BE ABLE TO MINISTER
TO AND SHARE TOOLS WITH PEOPLE.
00:50:21.62\00:50:27.49
E CAN TURN AROUND
AND SHARE WITH OTHERS.
00:50:27.49\00:50:32.59
SO THEM NAR WE
DID. THE LOVE PHONICS.
00:50:32.59\00:50:38.70
OH, YEAH. FREE ALL
VISITORS TO STAM FA NOR
00:50:38.70\00:50:42.94
LIFE HAVE TO DO IS REGISTER.
THEY CAN WATCH THOSE PRESENT
00:50:42.94\00:50:48.08
TAGS AND THE WALLS IN AND VIDEO
AND OTHER VIDEOS ON THE WEB SIT
00:50:48.08\00:50:53.35
ARE FREE RESOURCE AND WE
HAVE THEN WE HAVE ONE IS A PAID
00:50:53.35\00:50:59.69
RESOURCE THE
PREMARRIAGING. BASES WE KNOW.
00:50:59.69\00:51:06.43
LIKE WE HAD WITH YOU GUYS. YEAH.
00:51:06.43\00:51:15.70
COUPLES THAT OPPORTUNITY
TO K SO WE WERE THERE.
00:51:15.70\00:51:23.68
WE WERE APPROACHED WITH THE
OPPORTUNITY TO DO A COUPLE'S
00:51:23.68\00:51:29.22
REVOTE AND SO IN SOCK OF
2022 WELL BE A DOING OUR FIRST
00:51:29.22\00:51:34.59
COUPLE'S RETREAT
IN GREECE. A CREW?
00:51:34.59\00:51:41.70
COUPLES WILL HAVE THE
OF EXPERIENCE WITH US.
00:51:41.70\00:51:46.23
WE ARE DEA SOONING ACTIVITIES
THAT COUPLES WILL PARTICIPATE IN
00:51:46.23\00:51:51.74
EVERY DAY AND WILL BE TAILOR
PLAYED TO INCREASE AND HELP THEM
00:51:51.74\00:51:59.75
EXERCISE SOME TOOLS. THE
INFORMATION ABOUT THAT IS IN
00:51:59.75\00:52:02.42
ON THE WEBSITE. YEAH.
00:52:02.42\00:52:07.29
WAS READING THAT.
COUPLES BEING HELD A.
00:52:07.29\00:52:17.50
YEAH COUPLES DO THE WORK IT IS
HI A LOT OF PEOPLE WONDER IS IT
00:52:17.50\00:52:24.67
WORTH IT. THE TRUTH
IS YES IT IS WORTH IT.
00:52:24.67\00:52:28.61
WE SAID THIS
OVER AND OVER AGAIN.
00:52:28.61\00:52:39.72
BECAUSE ANYONE WHO IS ENGAGED IN
COUNSELING YOU KNOW, KNOWS  THE
00:52:39.72\00:52:43.96
TRUTH OF THIS STATEMENT.
YOU CAN NEVER WORK HARDER THAN
00:52:43.96\00:52:49.46
RIGHT. NEVER WORK HARDER.
00:52:49.46\00:52:55.57
BUT THE LORD IS GOOD.
LET'S GO AHEAD SAN WATCH THIS.
00:52:55.57\00:53:03.91
COME BACK AND JUST
MASSAGE THE END OF THE PROGRAM.
00:53:03.91\00:53:08.38
OH'S. IF NOT MAN YOU INFORM US.
00:53:08.38\00:53:14.86
WE FOUND OURSELVES IN A POSITION
WHERE WE HAVE BEEN CALLED TO
00:53:14.86\00:53:19.36
MOVE FOR WARD IN SOMETHING BUT
BECAUSE OF FEAR THE WALL COMES.
00:53:19.36\00:53:21.80
YOU SO I
RESONATED SO MUCH WITH THAT.
00:53:21.80\00:53:31.14
DRAME THE BE ABOUTBLY CALL STORY
OF THE BOOK OF YOSH WITH A.
00:53:31.14\00:53:34.48
ARE A HAB WE KNOW WAS PROSTITUTE
WHO LIVED ON THE WALLS OF JERRY
00:53:34.48\00:53:40.88
COMMITTEE AND YET ARE AHAB HAD
DID HE SIR AND A PASSION TO FOR
00:53:40.88\00:53:46.25
SOMETHING TO TAKE HER BE BEYOND
THE WALL AND HOW IT IS FOR US.
00:53:46.25\00:53:50.96
MAN ZY DREAMS ABOUT THINGS HE
CAN FOR THE LORD THAT ARE BEYOND
00:53:50.96\00:53:57.10
THESE WALLS IN OUR LOO LIVES AND
FOR SOME REASON WE FEEL TRAP AND
00:53:57.10\00:54:01.97
AFRAID AND UNABLE TO HEF FORWARD
BUT ALSO IT IS BACK TO SOMETHING
00:54:01.97\00:54:07.54
WE MENTIONED EARLIER BECAUSE
WHEN JESUS SHOWED UP JOSH WAN
00:54:07.54\00:54:13.62
JOSHUA ASKED A
QUESTION. ARE YOU FOR US.
00:54:13.62\00:54:16.42
ARE YOU AGAINST US.
THE RESPONSE WAS NO.
00:54:16.42\00:54:20.39
I AM HERE TO CAPTION THE HOPES
SO JOB NEED TO ASK YOURSELF ARE
00:54:20.39\00:54:25.73
YOU ON MY SIDE. ARE YOU WITH ME.
00:54:25.73\00:54:30.13
IT. SIDE.
00:54:30.13\00:54:36.40
ALSO A ARE A HAB ON THE INSIDE
OF THE WELL AND WHO IS ON THE
00:54:36.40\00:54:40.88
SIDE.
ILLUSTRATION OF THIS IDEA OF
00:54:40.88\00:54:45.98
PEOPLE WHOLE RER BEHINDLE WITH
AS DON'T WANT TO BE ANY MORE.
00:54:45.98\00:54:51.45
WOW. A LITTLE
ANNOUNCEMENT AS WE GO
00:54:51.45\00:55:03.23
YEAH WE MAY RUN TO
PEOPLE AND IS BEHIND WALLS.
00:55:03.23\00:55:12.81
AND DOESN'T WANT THROB.
SHE WAS LIVING IN THE WELL BUT
00:55:12.81\00:55:18.68
THE HEARTS WITH OUTSIDE.
AND LONGED TO EXPERIENCE IT.
00:55:18.68\00:55:25.25
SO IF YOU ARE MARRIED TO SOMEONE
WHO IS BARRICADED AND YOU FEEL
00:55:25.25\00:55:29.79
LOOK YOU CANNOT GET THROUGH TO
THEM BECAUSE OF THE WALLS THERE
00:55:29.79\00:55:32.63
IS GOOD NEWS.
EVERYONE BEHIND WALLS DOESN'T
00:55:32.63\00:55:36.26
WANT TO THAT I HAVE. WOW.
00:55:36.26\00:55:45.84
YEAH. EVERY MONDAY WE HAVE IT.
00:55:45.84\00:56:04.66
WONDERFUL. YEAH.
00:56:04.66\00:56:13.40
EVERY MONDAY. , IS PRE.
00:56:13.40\00:56:21.11
YOU WILL BE BLESSED.
PASTOR STEVEN AND CAMERA.
00:56:21.11\00:56:25.11
THANKS. THE WEBSITE IS THERE.
00:56:25.11\00:56:35.19
WITH THEM AGE FIND OUT ABOUT
THE COUPLE'S RETREATLE COG UP.
00:56:35.19\00:56:44.37
2022 AND I LOT OF
OTHER INFORMATION.
00:56:44.37\00:56:49.10
GIVING US COACHING. GOOD
WANTS US TO BE HEALTH NY.
00:56:49.10\00:56:56.61
WE OPERATION THE LORD. AND
ALWAYS ROOM FOR MORE GROWTH
00:56:56.61\00:57:03.39
YOUR MARRIAGE WILL
GOL FROM OK TO AMAZING.
00:57:03.39\00:57:06.99
GOD BLESS YOU
UNTIL WE SEE YOU AGAIN.
00:57:06.99\00:57:10.09
¤ ¤
00:57:10.09\00:57:25.07