TODAY'S SPECIAL EVENT. ¤ ¤
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¤ ¤ ¤ HELLO AND WELCOME THURSDAY
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NIGHT LIVE. ITS
LIVE ALL THE WAY LIVE.
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YOU DO NOT WANT TO
MISS TONIGHT'S PROGRAM.
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YOU. IF YOU
NORTH MAR RUD THEN PLAN
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ON GETTING MARRIED
WATCH THIS PROGRAM.
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PROGRAM. NOTHING.
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WANT TO RECORD
THIS PROGRAM. RIGHT.
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MARRIAGE. CONFLICT.
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BLENDED FAMILIES. RIGHT SOP.
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WE ARE SO EXCITED WE
HAVE BEEN MARRY FOR 38 YEARS.
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BELIEVE ME. WE
ARE STILL STANDING.
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FOR BOATER WORSE.
THAT IS WHAT WE NEED.
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TO HAVE AND HOLD ON.
WE WILL INTRODUCE YOU IN A
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MOMENT BUT I AM TELLING
YOU. WE HAVE SPOKEN AHEAD TIME.
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WE WILL HOLD THEM UNTIL WE ARE
READY TO TELL YOU WHO THEY ARE.
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THIS IS AN EXCITING PROGRAM.
RELATIONSHIPS THE FOUNDATION OF
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EVERYTHING TODAY.
THE MRG AND FAMILY ARE
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FOUNDATION OF THE CHURCH.
PHYSICAL THE MARRIAGE AND THE
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FAMILY IS WEAK.
THE CHURCH IS WEAK.
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LIKE WE DO AND WE ARE REAL WITH
EACH OTHER AND DEALING WITH THE
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DIFFICULT AND EASY ISSUES WE
TALK THE FREEDOM TO LEARN HOW TO
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SAY IT. WE TALK
ABOUT COMMUNICATION.
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BUILD AROUND YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
HOW TO DEAL WITH GENERATIONAL
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ISSUES YOU BRING
INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
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ALL OF THAT. CHILDREN.
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GOOD YOU HAVE
HERE TODAY. THANK YOU.
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SO TELL THE PEOPLE THAT ARE
WATCHING LISTENING IN THE SHIRT.
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STAM MALL FOR
LIFE. STAM MA FOR LIFE.
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WHAT IS STAM MA. OUR NAMES.
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A LITTLE DIF
REB. WE ARE DIFFERENT.
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YEAH. PASTOR.
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AND SOUTHEASTERN MICHIGAN FOR
THE LAST 15 YEARS AND SPENT SOME
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TIME IN NEW YORK
AND IN NEW JERSEY.
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PART OF THAT AND TENNESSEE IS
WHERE OUR PAST CONVERGE AND FROM
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CLEVELAND OHIO. OK.
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MUCH, MUCH LATER. OK.
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BUTEDFUL. TONIGHT.
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PEOPLE IN THE LORD
FIND A WAY TO UNITE.
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CONCERNED ABOUT IS WE ARE
NOT GOING TO HAVE ENOUGH TIME.
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THANK FOR THE FINANCIAL SUPPORT.
WE KNOW WE ARE COMMITTED TO
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PRODUCING AND GIVING YOU
BEST AND MY WIFE WORKS FOR 3 ABN
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RADIO. LISTENING,
WE DON'T HAVE WATCH
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ON THE RADIO. WE HAVE LISTENERS.
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SO IF YOU ARE DRIVING OR
LISTENING ON THE RADIO OR
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INTERNET OR WHATEVER MEDIUM
WE WANT TO SAY STAY TUNED.
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LISTEN CAREFULLY TONIGHT BECAUSE
WE MAY BE ABLE TO SHARE WITH YOU
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WITH OUR GUESTS SOMETHING THAT
COULD ENHANCE AND STRENGTHEN
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YOUR RELATIONSHIP. ISSUE
YOU HAVE BEEN AVOIDING AND
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CONFRONT AND GO
BEYOND THAT WALL AND HAVE A.
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THINK RELATIONSHIP. WE
HAVE QUESTIONS THE SECOND
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HALF AND SEND THEM
BY TEXT. 618-228-3975.
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39.75 OR YOU CAN SEND
E-MAILS TO LIVE AT 3 ABN.TV.
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THAT IS LIVE AT 3 ABN! 
TV. WHEN YOU SEND THEM IN.
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WE WILL SEND THE QUESTIONS TO
OUR COUPLE HERE AND BECAUSE THEY
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HAVE STAMINA FOR LIFE
AND TRAY TO GET ALL WE CAN.
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AMEN. OUR GOOD
FRIEND AND THE SONG IS
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CALLED ARISE REASON. ¤ ¤
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¤ ¤ ¤ ¤
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¤ ¤ ¤ ¤
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¤ ¤ ¤ THANK YOU,
STEPHANIE, FOR THAT
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SONG, RIDES, SHINE.
AND HER FATH HERB DAN.
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THAT IS RYE, DAN. THANK YOU.
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THE SONG IS TALKING ABOUT ARISE
AND SHINE AND ALLOW THE LIGHT OF
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GOD TO GIVE GOD THE GLORY
THE LIGHT SHINING IN YOUR LIFE.
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TONIGHT WE WANT TO DO THAT
FOR MARRIAGES BECAUSE THERE ARE
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LIGHTS IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP.
THEY ARE SHINING OR THEY ARE
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NOT. MAKE SURE THAT MARRIAGE IS
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EVERYTHING GOD INTEND IT TO BE.
IF HAVE YOU HAVE BEEN MARRED ANY
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LENGTH OF TIME, 38, YOU
SHOULDN'T HAVE DONE THAT.
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>> IT WENT FAST,
THOUGH. IT DID GO FAST.
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THAT'S THE CLOCK.
OUR MARRIAGE HAS GROWN
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TREMENDOUSLY. TO THEM TONIGHT.
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TRY NOT TO IMPOSE MY IDEOLOGIES
BASS I WANT TO SEE WHAT GOD IS
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DOING IN YOUR LIFE.
THANK YOU ONCE GAIN FOR COMING.
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STAM MA NOR LIFE. TALK
ABOUT SOMETHING THAT IS
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COMING UP WITH 3
ABN. SOMETHING NEW.
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YEAH. THE 3 ABN WEBSITE.
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WE HAVE A BLOG. WHAT IS THAT?
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AN OBJECT USED TO IG NIGHT A
FIRE, LIABILITY OR SET ON FIRE
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FEELING. I THOUGHT
I WAS COUNTRY WORD FOR
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KINFOLK AND MEANS NIGHTING.
BLOG IS GOING TO BE SOMETHING
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THAT IS TELL US
ABOUT IT. EVERY MONDAY.
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YOU CLICK ON IT. AND
FM INSPIRING, BOBBY DAVIS,
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SO MANY PEOPLE HERE.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO SIGN UP.
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YOU DON'T HAVE TO
SIGN UP OR DO ANYTHING.
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WILL SEE THE BOX, THE SQUARE.
LISTEN FOR SOME WONDERFUL
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DEVOTIONS NOT
DEVOTIONS BUT BLOGS.
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I LIKE THAT 3 ABN IS LOOKING TO
DO SOMETHING NEW AND NOEL THE 3
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ABN PLUS AND THAT IS ANOTHER
THING AND TELL US ABOUT THAT.
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THIS MONTH. OK.
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JULY 5th. JULY
5th AND QUICK CLICK ON
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THAT BLOG AND BE BLESSED.
GOOD I WANT TO TRY, TOO.
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MONDAY JULY 5th. WE
WILL AFTER THE HOLIDAY.
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YOU KNOW. BUT
LOOKING FOR FORWARD TO THAT.
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WELL, MY FRIEND,
AND WE HAD IT TOGETHER.
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WE GOT A CHANCE
TO KNOW EACH OTHER.
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GOT INTO EACH
OTHER'S BUSINESS. IT FINS.
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YOU BERT. THE
UNTER CITY AND GIVES A
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LITTLE BIT OF A TEST TASTE OF
THE BACKGROUND BECAUSE THEY SEE
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COUPLE LOOK YOU. THEY
HAVE BEEN ALL THEIR LIVES.
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NO PROBLEM. OF ALL.
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KINDTELL US. WILLING
AND COME FROM A BLENDED
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FAMILIES THINGS DON'T ALWAYS
GO AS AS WELL AS THEY COULD AND
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1:00 THE
BEGINNING EX TRACKLY ROUGH.
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ROUGHEN MY HOME. A
NICE SMILE FOR EVERYONE.
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THERE WAS CHAOS. AND I
HAD A LOT OF BAD CHOICE
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THAT I MADE IN LIFE. WHEN
WAS 17 I WAS KICKED OUT OF
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THE HOME. I WAS
BOUNCING AROUND FROM FLIES
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PLACING LIKE THAT.
THE LORD GRABBED MENED.
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I HAD POWERFUL CONVERSION, THERE
INNED UP COMING BACK TO GO TO
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SCHOOL. WHERE
DID YOU TO GO SCHOOL.
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WHICH SANG IN
THE CHOIR TOGETHER.
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CRAIG WAS THE BUS DRIVER.
WE HAD ADVENTURES TRACKING UP
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AND DOWN THE ROAD TOGETHER.
THAT IS THE THING ABOUT THAT IS,
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EVEN WHEN I WENT TO SCHOOL
AT HEARTLAND, NO ONE THERE KNEW
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WHERE I COME FROM. IT
IS A TESTIMONY AND I DON'T
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ALWAYS SHARE EVERY
DETAIL OF MY TESTIMONY.
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AT YOU. TRE MEN
DOWNS YOUR LIFE AND THAT
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WAS FIRST PART AND THE SECOND
PART WAS AND TELL US ABOUT THAT.
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>> YES. WE KNEW
EACH OWNER HIGH SCHOOL.
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IN HIGH SCHOOL. THAT.
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WHAT WAS YOUR BACKGROUND.
MY FAMILY IS PENTECOSTAL.
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WHILE ME WERE PENTECOSTAL
NOT LIVING ANY TYPE OF LIFE.
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YOU KNOW, PEOPLE WOULD PROBABLY
LOOK AT ME BACK IN THOSE DAYS,
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WAYS GOOD GIRL.
BEHIND THE SCENES I WAS NOT
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DOING WELL. BEING
PER MISS CUE LOUSE.
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I GOT PREGNANT AS
TEENAGER AND MAKING BAD CHOICE.
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MY DAD WAS AN
ALCOHOLIC. I SAID WAS.
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MY FAMILY HAD THE BAGGAGE WITH
ABUSE, DIFFERENT THINGS OF THAT
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NATURE. AWENT
THROUGH ISSUES, THEN,
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TRYING TO FIGURE IT IT. THE
LORD ALOUD MY PARENTS TO GET
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REMARRIED WHAT WHEN WAS 19 AND I
WAS NOT ACTUALLY HAPPY ABOUT IT.
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I WAS NOT. TRAINED
MYSELF NOT TO NEED MY
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ARE RENS. LOFT YOUNG PEOPLE.
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MYSELF NOT TO. U
KNOW,LE I HAVE BEEN TALKING
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ABOUT THE NEED OF PEOPLE TO
TRAIN THEMSELVES IN RIGHT HABITS
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IN RATINGOUS LIVING TO THINKING
RIGHT THOUGHTS BECAUSE YOU DON'T
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END UP A CERTAIN WAY AND WE
DON'T THINK ABOUT HABITS THAT
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ARE REPEATED WHAT WE
CALL INCOGNITO TRAINING.
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REPETITIVE THINGS THAT WE
DO, WE ARE SUBLIMELY TRAINING
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OURSELVES. A LOT OF
PEOPLE DO IN ORDER TO
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PROTECT OURSELVES AND SO IN
ORDER TO PROTECT MYSELF FROM ANY
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CHOICES AND DECISIONS
MY PARENTS WENT THROUGH.
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I ISOLATE MYSELF IN WHAT I DID.
I GOT GOOD GRADES IN SCHOOL.
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BECAME ACTIVE SO PEOPLE WOULD
LOOK AT ME AND THINK I WAS OK.
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I WAS CHEERLEADER.
WAS HAPPY ALL THE TIME.
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SIDE I WAS STRUGGLING. AS
I SAID AT 19 WHEN MY PARENT,
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THAT WAS WORK OF GOD,
NEEDED THEM TO SMASH ME UP OUT.
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I WAS REALLY GOING
DOWN. REALLY, REALLY BAD.
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AND I REMEMBER MY FATHER
COMING BACK TO THE HOME THIS IS
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IMPORTANT THING FOR YOUNG WOMEN
TO HEAR ABLE NEED MID FATHER.
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MY MOM HAD RAISED ALL CHILDREN
IN A TOO HAVE A BLENDED FAMILY.
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MY MOTHER HAD CHILDREN.
ONE AT 16 AND WON A FEW YEARS
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LATER AND RAISING THOSE BOYS
ALONE AND MARRIED MY FATHER SO
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HE BECAME THEIR FATHER THAT THAT
BLENDED FAMILY TAME ARE CAME
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INTO PLAY. INTO MY
LIFE SOBER IN HIS RIGHT
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MIND, HE WAS ABLE TO REACH
ME, BRING ME OUT OF THAT BROKEN
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RELATIONSHIPS AND
I LOOK BACK ON IT.
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>> YOUNG LADIES
NEED THEIR FAM FATHER.
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YOU DIDN'T NEED.
PARENTS HAVE IMPACT ON EACH
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CHILD AND I NEEDED MY
FATHER. >> SO INTERESTING.
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I WAS
REMEMBERING AS YOU SAID THAT.
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WE WERE TALKING
ABOUT A COUPLE YEARS AGO.
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YEAH. BRING
THINGS FROM FUME LIS AND
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OUR BAGGAGE AND ASK QUESTIONS
AND THE QUESTIONS CENTERED
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AROUND THE FATHER OF THE
YUNG WOMANED SAID OH I DIDN'T HE
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LIVED AROUND THE CONNOR FROM ME
AND I MET ONCE AND GONE THROUGH
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NICE SCHOOLS. JUST
REMEMBER THE LOOK ON HER
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HUSBAND'S FACE. SOMETHING.
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SOMETHING. YOU MIGHT
NOT HAVE TO PAY FOR IT
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LATER. SO YOU
DIDN'T NEED YOUR FATHER.
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RIGHT. SO YOU AND
HE LIVED AROUND THE
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CORNER YOU FROM.
IT DON'T BOTH ARE YOU.
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IT DIDN'T BOTHER YOU HE WASN'T
THERE WHEN YOU GRADUATED HIGH
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SCHOOL. WE WENT
THROUGH THOSE THINGS
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BEFORE LONG AND SHE WAS TEARS
WERE STREAMING DONE THE FACE SO
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SHE HAD JUST LIKE YOU SAID,
WE TALKED ABOUT THIS TRAINING
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OURSELVES. SURVIVOR MODE.
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SHE HAD TOUGHENED
HERSELF UP AND DIDN'T NEED HIM.
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IT WAS PROFOUNDLY AFFECTING
HER INABILITY TO HEAL THERE AND
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PROFOUNDLY AFFECTING THE WE
CAN TRAIN OURSELVES TO THINK
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WE ARE OK. FATHER.
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PASSED AWAY WHEN I WAS THREE
YEARS OLD AND SO GOD HAVE A
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PERSON THAT HOME AND RAISED WITH
>> MY MOM AND DAD ABANDONED ME
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AT THREE MONTHS OLD AND PUT INTO
A HOME OF A MOTHER AND FATHER
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WHO WERE 49 AND 50 YEARS
OLD. MY SISTER WAS THREE.
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I WOULD NOT BE THE MAN,
THAT IMAGE IS MISSING TODAY, MEN
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MISSION THEIR DADS DON'T GROW
UP WITH THE STRONG MALE IMAGE.
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WOMEN MISSING THEIR MOTHER OR
FATHER AND RAISED BAY MOTHER THE
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FATHER IS A ROLE HE
PLAYED THAT THE MOTHER CAN PLAY.
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YOU KNOW THAT. THAT.
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COULD.
AFRICAN-AMERICAN WOMAN AND SO
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THE JOINING WAS TO TOUGHEN MIP
AND HELP ME NOT TO NEED ANYONE.
00:21:57.21\00:22:00.88
THE INFORMATION SHE GAVE ME,
AS A YOUNG WOMAN, WAS TO BE A
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STRONG BLACK WOMAN.
BLACK WOMEN WHOLE ARE HURTING.
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MANY STRONG WOMEN WHO ARE
HURTING, BECAUSE WE ARE TRYING
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TO FIGHT AGAINST SOMETHING THAT
GOD NEVER TINNED FOR US TO DEAL
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WITH. IF YOU DON'T HAVE.
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GOD CREATED US TO HAVE.
WHAT I LOVE ABOUT YOUR STORY IS
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THERE ARE THINGS
THAT HAP PIN LIFE.
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RIGHT. MAYBE I AM
AEGON BUT GOD HAS WAY
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OF PUTTING PEOPLE IN OUR LIVES
TO FILL THOSE ROLES SO FOR SOME
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OF US WE CANNOT RIGHT. I
AM ANOMALY IN THE SENSE THAT
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DOESN'T HAPPEN FOR EVERYONE.
GOD BRINGING BACK TOGETHER.
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IT IS NOT GOING TO
HAPPEN FOR EVERYBODY.
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ENSURE WE SURRENDER OUR LIVES
TO FILM THOSE ROLES OWN LIVES.
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RIGHT. THAT WAS PASSED TON YOU.
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YEAH. DON'T NED A MAN.
00:22:57.24\00:23:01.58
YEAH. HERE I COME.
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OH-OH. LOVE.
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THESE GUYS, SHE HAS HARTIVE THAT
IS NOW WOVEN INWHO SHE IS AND
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THAT SAYS I DON'T NEED YOU.
SO IT WAS, IT WAS VERY HARD.
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>> IT WAS VERY HARD. >> YEAH.
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LETTING GO AND ALLOWING YOU INTO
A MIND SET AND MY HEART AND MY
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MIND THAT I DIDN'T NEED YOU. NO.
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OK. FOOT OF THE CROSS.
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NOT TAKING ON HIM. MY FATHER.
00:23:56.67\00:24:05.77
NOBODY YEAH. THEY
WANT THING AS TO BE.
00:24:05.77\00:24:14.95
YOU BE YOU. I
CALL IT TRAILER TRASH.
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WE DON'T KNOW. WE
WONDER WHY ITS IS FILLED AND
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THE
RELATIONSHIPS ARE UNINSPIRING.
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WANT TO HANG UP ON MYSELF.
A LOT OF COUPLES WE DO A LOT
00:24:42.78\00:24:46.88
TOGETHER. AM.
00:24:46.88\00:24:52.89
I TAKES TO WORK GET
THAT POINT. YES, IT DOES.
00:24:52.89\00:24:57.96
SUCCESS. SUCCESS
ONLY COMES BEFORE WRK
00:24:57.96\00:25:01.80
IN THE DIGSARY. YEAH.
00:25:01.80\00:25:07.57
WANT TO ADD
SOMETHING. WE TALKED ABOUT THIS.
00:25:07.57\00:25:10.27
BRING THIS IN. YOU GOT YOU.
00:25:10.27\00:25:12.37
I DON'T NEED YOU ATTITUDE.
THEN HE COMES CAN ALONG.
00:25:12.37\00:25:16.68
AFTER GOD BROUGHT HIM OUT OF THE
GANGSTER LIFE THAT LIVING LIFE
00:25:16.68\00:25:19.98
THAT LOSES LIFE. TACKS
TO YOU VEHICLE GAS, THE
00:25:19.98\00:25:24.89
CITY OF SIN, YOU FIND JESUS.
>> COME ON NOW, ALL RIGHT.
00:25:24.89\00:25:29.19
>> YEAH. VENTURE
OF YOUR LIFE AND WHEN
00:25:29.19\00:25:34.10
YOU SEE HIM, WHAT WAS YOUR
REACTION TO THIS GUY THAT YOU
00:25:34.10\00:25:38.43
WHAT IS UP WITH HIM. HE
GROUP IN THE SAME CITY, TOWN,
00:25:38.43\00:25:43.47
OUR FRIENDS KNEW EACH OTHER.
SO SEEING HIM WAS MANY LEVELS A
00:25:43.47\00:25:49.31
SHOCK. CITY FROM
THE HOOD WHERE WE
00:25:49.31\00:25:56.45
WERE. KOREA THE
GOODNESS' SAKE HE
00:25:56.45\00:26:02.52
AFRICA YOU KNOW, WE
JUST, YOU ARE IN THE CITY.
00:26:02.52\00:26:06.49
THERE. WE WOULD WERE LIKE WHAT?
00:26:06.49\00:26:10.27
WHEN YOU WEAR PATCH ON THE
JACK KETS, THAT IS SERIOUS.
00:26:10.27\00:26:13.67
LOOK YOU REALLY,
REALLY LOVE LOWED THIS LORD.
00:26:13.67\00:26:20.44
YOU KNOW? IT BLEW ALL OUR MINDS.
00:26:20.44\00:26:25.11
YEAH. LIKE A GUY
WAS COMING AT YOU.
00:26:25.11\00:26:29.45
>> WHICH WAS STRANGE.
MY HEART TO GOD, RIGHT.
00:26:29.45\00:26:36.16
SO EVENING TO I HAD GIVE MINE
I HAD THOUGHT PROCESS, THOUGH.
00:26:36.16\00:26:40.33
THAT STILL GOD
NEEDED TO MAY SURE ME IN.
00:26:40.33\00:26:42.86
HOW MEN TREAT WOMEN.
HOW THEY APPROACH THEM.
00:26:42.86\00:26:45.80
AND HE JUST WASN'T
THAT. HE DIDN'T DO THAT.
00:26:45.80\00:26:49.64
WE WAS NEVER TRYING TO SNEAK,
WHISPER, LET ME GET YOUR NUMBER.
00:26:49.64\00:26:55.14
LET'S GO DO THIS.
I DIDN'T REALLY KNOW.
00:26:55.14\00:26:59.11
I HAD DONE THAT
PREVIOUSLY. >> YOU KNOW?
00:26:59.11\00:27:03.49
>> YEAH. >> YEAH.
00:27:03.49\00:27:08.62
A VERY, WAITS A
POWERFUL THING. >> YEAH.
00:27:08.62\00:27:18.27
>> WOW. IT IS CALLED FAMILY FOR
00:27:18.27\00:27:25.27
LIFE.COM. IT IS STAMENA.
00:27:25.27\00:27:32.58
IT IS A PORTMAN SMASH
IT TOGETHER TWO WORDS.
00:27:32.58\00:27:37.69
BUT YES. IT WAS
KIND OF BORN OUT OF THE
00:27:37.69\00:27:41.79
TIMES WE LIVE IN.
THE WAY IN WHICH PEOPLE
00:27:41.79\00:27:43.89
COMMUNICATE AND
DO THINGS. YOU KNOW?
00:27:43.89\00:27:46.66
PEOPLE ARE TECHNICAL NOW. RIGHT.
00:27:46.66\00:27:49.03
RIGHT. CENTRAL
LOCATION AND DIDN'T HAVE
00:27:49.03\00:27:52.93
THE ABILITY TO BE ABLE TO MEET
DEMAND FOR SO MANY PEOPLE WHO
00:27:52.93\00:27:59.84
NEEDED HELP. WHAT
SHOULD DOZE ONE OF THEM WAS
00:27:59.84\00:28:03.75
A PODCAST. THAT US
HOW EVERYTHING STARTED.
00:28:03.75\00:28:08.95
OUR CONVERSATION IS CALLED AT
OF COURSE, IT ISBUILT OFF A TO
00:28:08.95\00:28:12.72
THEN BIBLE WHERE THE WOMAN
MEETSES WHERE HE SUGGESTION AT
00:28:12.72\00:28:15.42
THE WELL AND SHARES PROFOUND
THINGS WITH HER AND TALK ABOUT A
00:28:15.42\00:28:18.03
LOT OF IMPORTANT
STOPPICS EVERYTHING.
00:28:18.03\00:28:22.46
BLENDED FAMILIES. ABUSE.
00:28:22.46\00:28:26.70
OUT. THAT ARE IMPORTANT TO LIFE.
00:28:26.70\00:28:29.74
YEAH. HOW DID
YOUR MACHINE INDUSTRY
00:28:29.74\00:28:34.91
PASTORING. LIFE.
00:28:34.91\00:28:40.02
AHEAD AND START
A MACHINE INDUSTRY.
00:28:40.02\00:28:48.36
A LABORATORY. MIX
THESE THINGS TOGETHER.
00:28:48.36\00:28:51.96
POOF. THERE IS WONDERFUL MACHINE
00:28:51.96\00:28:56.10
WAN YEAR OR TWO OF OUR MARRIAGE,
WE DISCOVERED A LOT OF THE PEERS
00:28:56.10\00:29:03.91
WHO HAD GOTTEN MARRIED
AROUND THE SAME TIME WE DID.
00:29:03.91\00:29:07.51
THEIR MARRIAGES BEGAN TO END.
THAT KEPT ON FOR ABOUT FIVE TO
00:29:07.51\00:29:13.68
SEVEN YEARS. I MAN
GIN BEING MARRIED AND
00:29:13.68\00:29:17.79
HAVING PEOPLE THAT YOU HAVE
LAUGHED AND CRIED AND PRAYED
00:29:17.79\00:29:22.29
WITH ABOUT MARRIAGE AND TRIED TO
DO THINGS GOD'S WAY AND SEEING
00:29:22.29\00:29:27.13
THESE COUPLES EXPERIENCE
DIFFICULTIES AND THEN FINALLY
00:29:27.13\00:29:32.37
HEARING THAT THEY ARE DIVORCED
THEN IT IS LAKE, THEN, SEVERAL
00:29:32.37\00:29:35.77
THINGS NUMBER ONE. WE
WERE LIKE, WHAT IS THIS?
00:29:35.77\00:29:40.34
LUCK WE DON'T
WANT TO CATCH IT. YEAH.
00:29:40.34\00:29:48.82
HAVE WE INTENTIONALLY FOCUS
ON BUILDING UP WHAT WE HAVE?
00:29:48.82\00:29:53.82
SO THAT OUR MARRIAGE WILL BE
ABLE TO STAND THE TEST OF TIME.
00:29:53.82\00:29:56.62
THERE WAS POINT
WHERE WE THOUGHT, YEAH.
00:29:56.62\00:30:01.53
RIGHT? LIKE NO.
00:30:01.53\00:30:09.57
WHY HE. YEAH.
00:30:09.57\00:30:14.51
YEAH. ROCKIES.
00:30:14.51\00:30:19.28
YEAH. LIFE
HEALING AS A PERSON AS A
00:30:19.28\00:30:27.52
CHILD WHO IN DURED ABUSE,
AS CHILD WHO CAME FROM A BROKEN
00:30:27.52\00:30:31.09
HOME, A CHILD WHOLE
CAMEL FROM ADDICTED FAMILIES.
00:30:31.09\00:30:39.10
JUST NEEDED TO THINGS.
HIS MOM, WHO I LOVE TO DEATH.
00:30:39.10\00:30:44.54
SHE GAVE US A SET OF TAMES.
YOU HAVE THE SET OF TAP!  TAPES?
00:30:44.54\00:30:49.48
YEAH. LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING.
00:30:49.48\00:30:56.42
PLAYED A PART IN US HEALING
AND WHILE WE ARE STILL MARRIED
00:30:56.42\00:31:01.19
TODAY. WE FROM
DRIVING LISTENING TO THE
00:31:01.19\00:31:06.63
CASSETTE TAPE. AND
THEY CREATED NOT ONLY
00:31:06.63\00:31:11.60
HEALING MOMENTS FOR US BUT
TEACHABLE MOMENT AND I WOULD
00:31:11.60\00:31:18.04
PRESS STOP AND I
WOULD SAY THAT IS ME.
00:31:18.04\00:31:25.41
LIKE DO YOU SEE ME DOING
THAT. OR I WOULD SAY I HEARD
00:31:25.41\00:31:29.88
SOMETHING. SHE IS LIKE YEAH.
00:31:29.88\00:31:35.06
YEAH. MOMENTS WE
HAVE AN OPPORTUNITY
00:31:35.06\00:31:41.33
TO POUR INTO US. OUR
DEFENSES WERE NOT UP.
00:31:41.33\00:31:45.43
THE TAPES IN TO THE
HOUSE. WE WOULD SIT TOGETHER.
00:31:45.43\00:31:49.94
BECAUSE WE BOTH WERE HEALING.
WE BOTH WERE RECOGNIZING AND
00:31:49.94\00:31:54.21
SEEING THE DEP TONIGHT AND
THE BREADTH OF OUR WOUNDEDNESS,
00:31:54.21\00:31:59.58
BROKENNESS, AT THE SAME TIME,
THE LORD WAS HEALING US, PUTTING
00:31:59.58\00:32:04.39
THAT PRECIOUS OINTMENT ON
US. BECAUSE WE WERE ABLE TO GO
00:32:04.39\00:32:09.19
WHEN YOU KNOW YOU HAVE GONING
THAT THE TRENCHES WITH SOMEONE
00:32:09.19\00:32:13.03
AND POURED
TOGETHER. BROKE TOGETHER.
00:32:13.03\00:32:17.53
POUR PECT TOGETHER WHEN
YOU HAD YOU BETTER BELIEVE IT.
00:32:17.53\00:32:21.64
WHEN YOU GO THROUGH THE THINGS
LAY GOOD THING FOR MARRIAGES
00:32:21.64\00:32:26.71
BECAUSE IT DRAWS
US CLOSER TOGETHER.
00:32:26.71\00:32:31.71
FORMATIVE FOR US. THAT
SET OF TAPES BINNING THE
00:32:31.71\00:32:36.25
WOUNDS THEY USED TO CALL IT.
BINNING THE WOUNDS THEN FIRST
00:32:36.25\00:32:39.85
YEAR OF OUR
MARRIAGE. WITHOUT THAT.
00:32:39.85\00:32:44.69
>> OH. PROGRAM IS
DEN AND HOW YOU CAN
00:32:44.69\00:32:50.80
GET PARTICIPATING ACCESS TO
THE PODCAST BECAUSE WE GIVE THE
00:32:50.80\00:32:53.27
INFORMATION. WHEN YOU
GET MARRIED SELF THINS
00:32:53.27\00:32:58.51
WAY. I AM STUB BORN.
00:32:58.51\00:33:03.98
YOU KNOW? MARRIED.
00:33:03.98\00:33:10.75
SIDE, DATING NINE YEARS, BRINGS
CHALLENGES INTO A RUPP YOU DON'T
00:33:10.75\00:33:14.16
NEED TO BE EXPOSED TO. BUT
ALSO ALLOWED US TO GET A LOT
00:33:14.16\00:33:17.53
OF THE SELFISHNESS OUT OF
THE WHICH AND MET AT 16 GROUP
00:33:17.53\00:33:22.73
TOGETHER. THIS.
00:33:22.73\00:33:28.80
MARRIAGE. I WAS NOT
PREPARED FOR MARRIAGE.
00:33:28.80\00:33:34.48
FUNCTIONALLY, OTHER WAYS,
I WAS GETTING BACK TO CHURCH.
00:33:34.48\00:33:38.71
SHE WAS THE ANCHOR OF MY LIFE
THAT HELPED THAT SPIRITUAL SIDE
00:33:38.71\00:33:42.92
COME BACK. AND
GORGEOUS ALL GET OUT.
00:33:42.92\00:33:46.96
LIKE, SHE IS STILL
GORGEOUS. >> COME ON, AMEN.
00:33:46.96\00:33:49.99
TELL I. BUT ARE
GETTING MORE BEAUTIFUL.
00:33:49.99\00:33:55.20
>> I HONESTLY. MEN
TOED A MARE THEIR WIVES TO
00:33:55.20\00:34:00.84
COMPLIMENT THEM. AND
THIS IS NOT, IT IS NOT ABOU
00:34:00.84\00:34:04.61
ABOUT -- SOMEBODY
ELSE WILL ADMIRE HEM.
00:34:04.61\00:34:09.21
YOU. THOUGHS ARE DOOR THAT'S THE
00:34:09.21\00:34:17.12
OF. ENGAGEMENT
WAS SO INADVERTENT IT
00:34:17.12\00:34:22.39
IS AMAZING WE ARE
STILL MARRIED TO THIS DAY.
00:34:22.39\00:34:25.59
HER BROTHER SAIDED TO ME.
ARE YOU GOING TO DATE MY CYST
00:34:25.59\00:34:29.26
WELL. I THOUGHT HE WAS JOKING.
00:34:29.26\00:34:34.20
HE SAID WHAT?
GOING TO MARRY HER.
00:34:34.20\00:34:43.51
WHAM ARE GOING TO DO? WHEN?
00:34:43.51\00:34:48.68
>> MARRIED NEXT MONTH. >> OK.
00:34:48.68\00:34:54.52
YOU ARE NOT DATE MIGHT
SISTER. MERRY-GO-ROUND FOREVER.
00:34:54.52\00:35:03.23
HIT THE RAD. ARE
HELPING PEOPLE IN THIS
00:35:03.23\00:35:06.60
PODCAST. THAGES.
00:35:06.60\00:35:19.45
AGO THEN IN THE
WHITE SWAT HE, ABIGAIL, 16.
00:35:19.45\00:35:25.29
PRAY FOR ME. HER NAME IS ANGEL.
00:35:25.29\00:35:28.92
GABRIEL IS 11. >> ANGEL.
00:35:28.92\00:35:32.99
END. WE WERE
HAVING FAMILY WORSHIP
00:35:32.99\00:35:42.67
TOGETHER. I READ A NAME.
00:35:42.67\00:35:52.98
LITERALLY EVERYBODY JUST
AND WE LOOKED AT EACH OTHER.
00:35:52.98\00:35:58.02
THINKING. ANGEL.
00:35:58.02\00:36:02.59
>> YEAH. GABRIEL.
00:36:02.59\00:36:07.93
I'M IS GOING TO
HEAR YOU AND SHOW UP.
00:36:07.93\00:36:12.40
>> WE NEED HIM SOMETIMES
TOO. YOU GIVE DIFFERENT PLACE.
00:36:12.40\00:36:16.24
YEAH. BLESSED IN
VITTED TO MANY PLACES
00:36:16.24\00:36:20.24
AND ACTUALLY GOT OFF DOING
MARRIAGE RETREAT IN MICHIGAN.
00:36:20.24\00:36:24.65
THAT WAS CALLED LOVE.
THOSE ARE ON THE WEBSITE NOW FOR
00:36:24.65\00:36:28.78
FREE. >> YEAH.
00:36:28.78\00:36:37.96
THE BASICS OF LEARNING NOT ONLY
HOW TO SPEAK THAT IS A PART OF
00:36:37.96\00:36:43.33
IT. HOW TO COMMUNICATE.
00:36:43.33\00:36:48.00
SO WE BELIEVE THAT RELATIONSHIPS
HAVE SOME PHONICS THAT ARE
00:36:48.00\00:36:52.17
INVOLVED THERE ARE BASICS
THAT ARE EXTREMELY IMPORTANT TO
00:36:52.17\00:36:57.98
LEARNING HOW TO COMMUNICATE
AND HOW TO ALSO HEAR.
00:36:57.98\00:37:01.75
SPEAK. YES.
00:37:01.75\00:37:09.26
IT IS PROBABLY, YEAH.
SOMEBODY SAYS, THE LORD GAVE US
00:37:09.26\00:37:14.30
TWO EARS AND ONE MOUTH. IT
IS PROBABLY ONE OF THE MOST
00:37:14.30\00:37:19.67
IMPORTANT ONE OF THE
MOST IMPORTANT THINGS YEAH.
00:37:19.67\00:37:25.84
AND THERE ARE YEAH. WE
GOT A BUNCH OF STUFF ON OUR
00:37:25.84\00:37:31.15
SITE ABOUT THE DIFFERENT
WAYS THAT PEOPLE LISTEN.
00:37:31.15\00:37:34.82
AND I THINK ONE OF THE PRIMARY
ONES THAT IS PEOPLE LISTEN.
00:37:34.82\00:37:40.52
DEFENSE OFLY. I
THINK MY WIFE IS TRYING TO
00:37:40.52\00:37:43.99
ATTACK ME. GENE MAY
SELF AND PREOCCUPIED
00:37:43.99\00:37:49.90
WITH DEFENDING MYSELF THEN NOT
ACTUALLY HEARING WHAT IT IS THAT
00:37:49.90\00:37:52.93
SHE IS SAYING. WE
ALSO HAVE ANOTHER, OH, I AM
00:37:52.93\00:37:57.67
MAKING YOU CRY.
WE HAVE A SAYING.
00:37:57.67\00:38:09.08
HOW MANY TIMES WE COMMUNICATE
WITH HE THIS OTHER PERSON'S
00:38:09.08\00:38:13.05
SHADOW. SOMETHING
THAT MY WIFE HAS DONE
00:38:13.05\00:38:20.46
IN THE PAST. I AM
SPEAKING TO THAT PERSON.
00:38:20.46\00:38:23.90
I AM LISTENING TO THAT PERSON.
I AM NOT HEARING THIS PERSON.
00:38:23.90\00:38:27.20
ROOTING HERE. WHAT
THEY HAVE NOT SAID.
00:38:27.20\00:38:39.15
REAL COMMUNICATION
THAT COULD TAKE PLACE.
00:38:39.15\00:38:42.45
RIGHT HERE. >> INTERESTING.
00:38:42.45\00:38:44.52
>> DEEP. >> YEAH.
00:38:44.52\00:38:50.69
WE PRAY FOR FOAM CHANGE
WHEN THEY DO, WE DON'T LIKE IT.
00:38:50.69\00:38:53.93
WE WOULDN'T SAY THAT VERBALLY.
WE ARE USED TO THEIR SHADOW.
00:38:53.93\00:38:57.67
RIGHT. THAT THE
CHANGE COMES WE ARE NOT
00:38:57.67\00:39:04.37
HAPPY THEN EITHER. SO
VERY IMPORTANT PHENOMENON
00:39:04.37\00:39:10.15
THAT HAPPENS. BOX OVERHEAR.
00:39:10.15\00:39:14.98
NOT JUST THAT.
HOW DOES IT SOUND.
00:39:14.98\00:39:17.65
LET ME REFLAYS. HOW
DOES THAT I HAVE BEEN
00:39:17.65\00:39:20.86
TELLING MAY WIFE. I
WANT HER TO DO SOMETHING AND
00:39:20.86\00:39:24.29
DOES WHAT IT IS. SO
TELL ME YOU LOVE ME AND NEED
00:39:24.29\00:39:28.50
ME. YOU ONLY SAID THAT BECAUSE I
00:39:28.50\00:39:35.27
TOLD YOU TO. >> OH-OH.
00:39:35.27\00:39:41.04
TOLD YOU TO SAY THAT.
THAT IS NOT WHAT YOU REALLY
00:39:41.04\00:39:45.45
IT LOVE COUPLES.
ABOUT WHEN WE TALK ABOUT
00:39:45.45\00:39:49.85
COMMUNICATING
WITH A PERSON'S SHADOW.
00:39:49.85\00:39:56.02
THAT AFFECT LISTENING WITH
FILTERS ON THERE ARE THINGS THAT
00:39:56.02\00:39:59.39
I BELIEVE ABOUT MAY
SELF. EVEN WITH MY SPOUSE IS
00:39:59.39\00:40:06.40
HYPOTHETICALLY SCREAMING WITH
RECEIVE THAT BECAUSE IT IS NOT
00:40:06.40\00:40:11.91
SOMETHING I BELIEVE.
AGAIN MANY PICK UP FROM
00:40:11.91\00:40:14.84
CHILDHOOD THE BAGGAGE RIGHT.
WHEN WE HEAR PEOPLE SPEAKING
00:40:14.84\00:40:18.58
POSITIVELY THE NEG OF I PICKED
UP AND CARRIED WITH ME PRESENTS
00:40:18.58\00:40:24.45
FLE HEARING IT. HE
DISTORTS THE TRUTH YOU KNOW.
00:40:24.45\00:40:27.09
HE IS GOOD AT THAT. HE IS
GOOD AT POISONING MY MIND,
00:40:27.09\00:40:31.33
MY THOUGHTS. IT IS
A CYCLE WE GET INTO.
00:40:31.33\00:40:35.66
YEAH. YEAH.
00:40:35.66\00:40:41.64
AND THE CUP THAT
HARDLY NOTHING GETS THROUGH.
00:40:41.64\00:40:44.77
RIGHT. >> SO THE
CONCENTRATION IS RIGHT
00:40:44.77\00:40:49.51
FILTERS. WHAT YOU
HAVE BEEN TOLD ABOUT
00:40:49.51\00:40:56.42
>> YEAH. THE TRUTH
ABOUT YOURSELF AND THE
00:40:56.42\00:41:01.69
TIME I POURED A WHOLE QUART OF
WART YOU GOT TWO OUNCES BECAUSE
00:41:01.69\00:41:06.36
I COULDN'T GET
THROUGH. THAT IS RYE.
00:41:06.36\00:41:08.56
THAT IS A LOT OF TIMES AND THEN
WHAT HAPPENS IS GET THROUGH.
00:41:08.56\00:41:12.97
THAT IS NOT
ENOUGH. ABOUT THEMSELVES.
00:41:12.97\00:41:18.41
PEOPLE COMPLIMENT ME.
THEY WERE SAYING THAT.
00:41:18.41\00:41:20.64
YEAH. YEAH.
00:41:20.64\00:41:25.08
DO THEY KNOW YOU. DO
THEY OH YOU ANYTHING?
00:41:25.08\00:41:27.82
NO. >> YEAH.
00:41:27.82\00:41:37.79
RESPONSES. PEOPLE AWAY.
00:41:37.79\00:41:41.26
PEOPLE GET EXHAUSTED WITH
FIGHTING THROUGH THE FILTERS.
00:41:41.26\00:41:44.87
YOU KNOW? IT IS
IMPORTANT TO IDENTIFY YOU
00:41:44.87\00:41:49.24
HAVE THEM. COACHING SERIES.
00:41:49.24\00:41:54.38
YEAH. YOU CAME UP WITH THIS.
00:41:54.38\00:42:00.35
YEAH. THE
MARRIAGE COACHING SORRIES
00:42:00.35\00:42:04.49
THAT WE HAVE BEEN
WORK ON FOR AWHILE.
00:42:04.49\00:42:09.62
THE FACT WE CANNOT BE EVERYWHERE
AND CANNOT MEET WITH EVERYONE SO
00:42:09.62\00:42:13.73
CREATE AT VIDEO SERIES. A
SIX-PART SERIES WHICH WE TALK
00:42:13.73\00:42:17.77
ABOUT THESE THING AND HAVE
EXERCISE FOR COUPLES TO DO.
00:42:17.77\00:42:23.97
AND ALSO WE OFFER THEM TWO
SEGS WITH US VIA THE ZOOM OR THE
00:42:23.97\00:42:30.81
PHONE WHICHEVER THEY HAVE.
THIS IS A WAY FOR US TO BE ABLE
00:42:30.81\00:42:33.28
TO TAKE A LOT OF THIS
INFORMATION AND MAKE IT
00:42:33.28\00:42:38.59
ACCESSIBLE TO
OTHER PEOPLE. >> SUCCESS.
00:42:38.59\00:42:46.73
THEY CAN HAVE
SUCCESS WITHOUT A PROCESS.
00:42:46.73\00:42:54.90
JUST GETS THERE
BAY FALLING INTO IT.
00:42:54.90\00:43:00.41
>> THERE IS
INTENTIONALLY. THERE IS WORK.
00:43:00.41\00:43:06.31
IS GOING INTO IT. YOU
KNOW ANY SUCCESS HAS PROCESS
00:43:06.31\00:43:11.22
THAT IS INVOLVED WITH IT.
SO WE BELIEVE, WE BELIEVE THAT
00:43:11.22\00:43:15.76
WE LOOKED AT THE STATISTICS
ON. WHAT DO PEOPLE SPEND ON THE
00:43:15.76\00:43:19.43
AVERAGE WEDDING? WHAT
DO PEOPLE SPEND ON THE
00:43:19.43\00:43:22.40
AVERAGE HONEYMOON?
WHAT DO PEOPLE SPEND ON THE
00:43:22.40\00:43:25.13
AVERAGE, YOU KNOW,
ENGAGEMENT RING, WEDDING RING.
00:43:25.13\00:43:30.51
>> SUFFERING. [LAUGHTER]
00:43:30.51\00:43:34.88
>> RIGHT. >> RIGHT.
00:43:34.88\00:43:40.15
INVESTMENTS AND YET VERY FEW
PEOPLE ACTUALLY INVEST AND IN
00:43:40.15\00:43:45.19
PREPARATION NOT FOR THE
WEDDING, BUT TOSH THE MARRIAGE.
00:43:45.19\00:43:48.72
>> MARRIAGE. >> OK.
00:43:48.72\00:43:53.83
10,000 OR SOMETHING
FROM GOING IN YOUR FINGER.
00:43:53.83\00:43:57.07
RIGHT. >>
-$650,000 ON THE WEDDING THAT
00:43:57.07\00:44:00.07
IS GOING TO LAST
ONE DAY. >> YEAH.
00:44:00.07\00:44:04.64
OF YOUR LIVES TOGETHER. YEAH.
00:44:04.64\00:44:09.11
>> WOW.
PREMARITAL COUNS LISTENING IS
00:44:09.11\00:44:11.61
VERY IMPORTANT. ABOUT
THAT THAT MANY COUPLES
00:44:11.61\00:44:17.85
FEAR GETTING PREMARRIAGE
COACHING OR PREMARRIAGE COUNS
00:44:17.85\00:44:21.76
EVEN FOR US AND
GOT ENGAGED RIGHT.
00:44:21.76\00:44:25.89
RIGHT. TO GET GOING IN THERE.
00:44:25.89\00:44:28.83
NO. YOU ARE NOT A MATCH.
00:44:28.83\00:44:37.27
OH, MAN. WE HAD
TREPIDATION AND THIS
00:44:37.27\00:44:39.51
CONCERN AND WHEN WE WENT THERE,
BE THIS IS A GOODLY COUPLE.
00:44:39.51\00:44:43.08
NORTH CAROLINA LIKE IT.
VERY SPECIAL OUR HEARTS.
00:44:43.08\00:44:47.18
AND THEY HAD BEEN MARRIED
AT THE TIME MAYBE 50 YEARS.
00:44:47.18\00:44:53.96
YEAH. WE WERE REAL.
00:44:53.96\00:44:59.19
YEAH. CORRECT AND
WHAT NOT, THEY WERE
00:44:59.19\00:45:05.80
GIVING US TOOLS.
THEY WERE SAYING, LISTEN,
00:45:05.80\00:45:09.47
BECAUSE REALLY, YOU CANNOT
PREDICT EVERY CHALLENGE THAT YOU
00:45:09.47\00:45:13.24
ARE GOING TO FASHION IN
BUT IF YOU HAVE TOOLS, RIGHT?
00:45:13.24\00:45:19.68
IF LIKE, YOU KNOW, WHEN
RUP GOING TO HAVE A FLAT TIRE?
00:45:19.68\00:45:23.72
WHO KNOWS. THE
QUESTION IS DO YOU HAVE A
00:45:23.72\00:45:26.99
TOOLS IN YOUR VEHICLE BEING SO
YOU CAN REPAIR IT AND GET BACK
00:45:26.99\00:45:33.23
ON THE ROAD. RIGHT.
00:45:33.23\00:45:36.97
THAT IS SO TRUE. WOW.
00:45:36.97\00:45:41.57
REMACHINE DOUSELY BLESSED I WANT
TO TOUCH ON ONE OF THE VIDEOS
00:45:41.57\00:45:45.31
BEFORE WE GO
THE TOP OF THE HOUR.
00:45:45.31\00:45:50.45
YOU CAN SEND UNQUESTIONS AND
TAKE QUESTIONS THE SECOND HOUR.
00:45:50.45\00:45:53.52
LIVE. 3 ABN.TV.
00:45:53.52\00:45:56.18
THAT IS IF YOU WANT TO E-MAIL
LIVE AT 3 ABN.TV OR IF YOU WANT
00:45:56.18\00:46:02.19
TO TEXT THOSE
618-228-37975 ONE MORE TIME.
00:46:02.19\00:46:12.50
618-228-3957 AND TAKED A TRAJ
OF THE PROGRAM BECAUSE WE HAVE A
00:46:12.50\00:46:15.44
COUPLE THAT IS GROWING IN
THE LORD AND LET ME TELL YOU
00:46:15.44\00:46:18.61
SOMETHING ABOUT
MARRIAGES. WE KNOW THIS.
00:46:18.61\00:46:22.78
YES. AND MAY WIFE
IS ALWAYS LEARNING
00:46:22.78\00:46:28.38
SOMETHING NEW. REALLY.
00:46:28.38\00:46:33.69
EVERY 30 TO 60 DAYS IS A NEW
COME NOW IN ADDED TO THE LIFE.
00:46:33.69\00:46:38.46
UNLESS YOU
COMMUNICATE, YOU WILL MISS.
00:46:38.46\00:46:42.56
FOR GRANTED. WE
SHOULD NOT ONLY APPRECIATE
00:46:42.56\00:46:45.43
SAY IT WHO THE SPOUSE
IS. WHO SHE IS BECOMING?
00:46:45.43\00:46:50.17
AMEN. CONCERNED ABOUT MINE.
00:46:50.17\00:46:54.78
BECAUSE IT IS
NOT A ONE WAY CIRCLE.
00:46:54.78\00:47:00.45
WE WIN TECT OR WE LOSE TOGETHER.
ON A BASEBALL TEAM, CAN IMAGINE
00:47:00.45\00:47:06.15
WEFUL HE WON, BUT LOST.
AREN'T WE ON THE SAME TEAM.
00:47:06.15\00:47:09.52
I WANT TO GO TO THIS
VIDEO. WE'LL TALK ABOUT THAT.
00:47:09.52\00:47:17.40
IT IS SOMETHING WE FEEL STRONGLY
ABOUT AND WHAT WE USE IN THE
00:47:17.40\00:47:20.90
PREMARRIAGE CULL TUR
AND EVERY ASPECT OF LIFE.
00:47:20.90\00:47:25.14
RIGHT. YEAH.
00:47:25.14\00:47:35.45
THE TRUTH IS THERE IS POWER
IN WHAT ARE DOING OR DISCOVERING
00:47:35.45\00:47:37.99
ABOUT ONE ANOTHER. NOW
UNFORT FLAY HELP US, LORD,
00:47:37.99\00:47:44.23
NOW BECAUSE I KNOW YOU NEED
THIS, I KNOW IT IS LIKE I WILL
00:47:44.23\00:47:48.20
GIVE IT TO YOU. YOU
KNOW WHAT AM I SAYING?
00:47:48.20\00:47:51.83
>> YEAH. IF I
REALLY WANT TO TAKE A DIG
00:47:51.83\00:47:55.80
AT YOU. SAY
ANYTHING AND WON'T TEXT YOU
00:47:55.80\00:48:00.44
BECAUSE I KNOW THAT IS
GOING TO DEEPLY DISTURB YOU.
00:48:00.44\00:48:07.65
THIS IS MAIM TA TUR THINKING.
THIS IS IMMATURE THINKING.
00:48:07.65\00:48:13.79
IMMATURE
BEHAVIOR. NO I AM HURTING.
00:48:13.79\00:48:16.09
BECAUSE I HAVE NOT
TAKEN OWNERSHIP OF MY HURT.
00:48:16.09\00:48:19.46
YOU CAUSED MY HEART
HURT NOW CAUSE TO YOU HURT.
00:48:19.46\00:48:23.20
THAT HURTING PEOPLE HURT
PEOPLE. GET INTO THAT CYCLE.
00:48:23.20\00:48:26.84
YEAH. EVEN HOW CAN
PEOPLE DOLL THAT IT
00:48:26.84\00:48:32.41
HAPPENS ALL THE
TIME. YOU ALL RIGHT ME.
00:48:32.41\00:48:38.25
VICIOUS CYCLE AND WAITING FOR
THE NEXT OPPORTUNITY YOU DON'T
00:48:38.25\00:48:41.98
WANT TO TRUST ME
MARRIAGES DON'T LAST LONG.
00:48:41.98\00:48:44.29
YEAH.
POST-TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER.
00:48:44.29\00:48:52.76
YES. WAYS WITH THIS.
00:48:52.76\00:48:59.03
THE HURT. THE HURT
OF OUR FAMILIES INTO
00:48:59.03\00:49:06.64
OUR MARRIAGES. HAVE MARCY.
00:49:06.64\00:49:10.38
MY MOTHER WAS NOT THERE.
THEY ARE GOING TO OR ATON DONNED
00:49:10.38\00:49:15.05
ME OR LEFT ME. I BRING
THAT STRESS OR TRAM MALL
00:49:15.05\00:49:20.42
INTO MY CURRENT RELATIONSHIP AND
NOW BEGIN TO TREAT MY WIFE AS
00:49:20.42\00:49:24.23
THOUGH SHE IS MY MOTHER AND
AS THOUGH SHE IS MY FATHER AND
00:49:24.23\00:49:28.06
WHOEVER HURT ME. ET CETERA.
00:49:28.06\00:49:33.97
DISOTHER IS WHEN I TAKING A TRA
MAT UK EXPERIENCE IN MY LIFE AND
00:49:33.97\00:49:38.21
IMPOSE IT ON THE EVERYDAY
EXPERIENCES OF MY LIFE NOW.
00:49:38.21\00:49:42.18
BRING THE NOOSE THE PRESENT.
THEN EVERY EXPERIENCE BECOMES A
00:49:42.18\00:49:47.52
TRAUMA AND IN ARE
CLOONED MIGHT MARRIAGE.
00:49:47.52\00:49:51.55
DETRIMENTAL FOR
THOSE WHO WANTON HAVE A.
00:49:51.55\00:50:02.30
HAPPEN? RATING.
00:50:02.30\00:50:08.07
PEOPLE ARE CATCH
WATCHING THAT IS UP.
00:50:08.07\00:50:10.61
RIGHT NOW. WE HA DO WE DO.
00:50:10.61\00:50:14.38
YOU CAN GET OFF
THE ROLLER COAST ER.
00:50:14.38\00:50:19.28
CONSCIOUS EFFORT TO DO
IT. I WILL BE HONst WITH YOU.
00:50:19.28\00:50:22.08
SOMETIMES YOU ARE IN A >> IT.
00:50:22.08\00:50:28.42
LOOK AT THEIR FEARS.
ANOTHER PERSON MAY NOT.
00:50:28.42\00:50:31.56
WHAT WE WITNESSED THIS IS.
ONE INDIVIDUAL WHO IS WILLING TO
00:50:31.56\00:50:35.30
TAKE OWNERSHIP
AND SAY YOU KNOW WHAT?
00:50:35.30\00:50:41.64
EXAMINE MYSELF AND SEE
WHAT IT THAT IS ILING TO TABLE.
00:50:41.64\00:50:48.44
YOUR ROW REACTION
RIGHT. AND IT CAUSES THE OTHER
00:50:48.44\00:50:53.65
INDIVIDUAL TO NOT
HAVE ANYONE TO DANCE WITH.
00:50:53.65\00:50:59.22
YOU LOOK CRAZY
WHEN YOU DANCE. YEAH.
00:50:59.22\00:51:04.59
PEOPLE LOOK AT YOU. YOU
START LOOK AT YOURSELF LIKE.
00:51:04.59\00:51:08.80
OK. CRAZY.
00:51:08.80\00:51:12.60
YOU KNOW WHAT I AM
SAYING. THAT IS INSIGHTFUL.
00:51:12.60\00:51:20.04
SOME PEOPLE HAVE
MANY. YOU TALK ABOUT THAT.
00:51:20.04\00:51:23.61
THAT CLIP WE WERE TALKING ABOUT
ONCE WE FIND OUT WHAT THE CORE
00:51:23.61\00:51:29.48
FEARS ARE. AND
SPOUSES CORE FEARS WE
00:51:29.48\00:51:40.00
ALREADY KNOW WHAT PRESSES
ONE ANOTHER'S BUTTONS RIGHT.
00:51:40.00\00:51:43.67
I KNOW THERE ARE CERTAIN THINGS
I CAN DO THAT WILL PRESS MY
00:51:43.67\00:51:48.20
WE'VE BUTTONS. ONE
OF MY CORE FEARS IS
00:51:48.20\00:51:52.04
REJECTION. >> YEAH.
00:51:52.04\00:51:56.28
CLOSE TO MY WIFE.
YOU LOVE PHYSICAL TOUCH.
00:51:56.28\00:51:59.15
THAT'S MY LOVE LANGUAGE. MY
WIFE DOESN'T FEEL LIKE THAT.
00:51:59.15\00:52:02.92
BECAUSE SHE IS TIRED.
THEN YOU KNOW, AND MY REJECTION
00:52:02.92\00:52:08.19
THING THEN I WITHDREW AND CORE
FEAR WHICH IS AUPON DONEMENT AND
00:52:08.19\00:52:12.76
THEN I COME BACK.
YOU FELT THAT WAY.
00:52:12.76\00:52:17.13
NOW SHE WANTS TO
WITHDREW AND GET EVEN.
00:52:17.13\00:52:22.97
IT IS VICIOUS TOO.
THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN
00:52:22.97\00:52:27.01
THE CYCLE FOR WEEKS. MONTHS.
00:52:27.01\00:52:31.61
YOU DON'T
REMEMBER WHEN STARTERRED.
00:52:31.61\00:52:37.82
IN. HOW ON
EARTH CAN YOU BEGIN TO
00:52:37.82\00:52:42.56
FIND WHICH OUT. THAT
IS ONE OF THE THINGS THE
00:52:42.56\00:52:47.50
ROCKY SERIES WAS IMPORTANT FOR.
KNEW WHERE THING ABOUT AGE CAME
00:52:47.50\00:52:50.63
FROM. I KNOW WHERE IT CAME FROM.
00:52:50.63\00:52:53.60
WHEN MY FATHER LEFT. AND
I WAS CHILD AND THE SEXUAL
00:52:53.60\00:52:58.84
ABUSE I PIECE,ED AS
CHILD. IMAGINE TWO PEOPLE COME
00:52:58.84\00:53:02.71
TOGETHER. IT WORKS.
00:53:02.71\00:53:05.81
IF YOU DON'T GET A HOLD OF
IT IT COULD ADEDEE STROY YOU.
00:53:05.81\00:53:09.35
I WANT TO SAY THAT, TOO.
KNOWING IS ONE ASPECT OF IT.
00:53:09.35\00:53:17.73
BUT TAKING RESPONSIBILITY TAKE
PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY MY WIFE
00:53:17.73\00:53:23.67
CANNOT MAKE ME
FEEL A SEASON WAY.
00:53:23.67\00:53:29.90
THINKING THAT DRIVES WHATEVER
EMOTIONAL STATE I END UP IN.
00:53:29.90\00:53:38.45
THAT WAS BAGGAGE AND TRASH THAT
I DRAW FLEW THE RELATIONSHIP.
00:53:38.45\00:53:42.88
THE CRAZY THING FOR ME WAS
LIBERATING IS LIKE, WELL, I
00:53:42.88\00:53:49.49
WOULD HAVE THAT THAD
IF I WAS MARRIED TO HER.
00:53:49.49\00:53:54.20
I WOULD HAVE HAD THOSE ISSUE.
IT DOES ME NO GOOD TO SAY IF YOU
00:53:54.20\00:53:58.87
WERE ONLY OR YOU
SHOULD. I WOULDN'T.
00:53:58.87\00:54:01.34
NO. LORD.
00:54:01.34\00:54:07.78
LOVE, TOO. GOD IS NOT GOD.
00:54:07.78\00:54:13.28
GOD DOESN'T WANT
USES TO TRIM THE BUSHES.
00:54:13.28\00:54:16.62
OH, NO. GOD WANTS
US TO UPROOT STUFF.
00:54:16.62\00:54:21.52
RIGHT. LORD.
00:54:21.52\00:54:28.30
WIFE. REJECTION.
00:54:28.30\00:54:35.24
OF IN IF YOU ARE OR TY AND
SO NOW I AM NOT JUST PRAYING AND
00:54:35.24\00:54:39.57
ASKING GOD CHANGE BEHAVIOR BUT
ASKING GOD TO DEAL WELL ME AT
00:54:39.57\00:54:43.01
THE HEART LEVEL. I AM
SAYING LORD MAY I FIND MY
00:54:43.01\00:54:47.25
SENSE OF PURPOSE AND BEA
LODGING AND FULFILLMENT IN YOU.
00:54:47.25\00:54:52.52
RATING. THEN
BEHAVIORS WILL FOLLOW.
00:54:52.52\00:54:58.89
THAT IS DEEP
WORK. THAT IS DEEP WORK.
00:54:58.89\00:55:02.50
I JUST SAID THAT.
PEOPLE DON'T WANT TO DO THE
00:55:02.50\00:55:10.81
WORK. CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT.
00:55:10.81\00:55:14.98
THE DEALING WITH
ISSUES. SECONDARY.
00:55:14.98\00:55:21.52
BACK TO THE EX
A PELL. BEAUTIFUL.
00:55:21.52\00:55:26.29
ELSE'S PUSHES. LOOK AT THAT.
00:55:26.29\00:55:32.09
CUT THAT DOWN. THEY
MAKE PEOPLE RESPONSIBLE FOR
00:55:32.09\00:55:35.16
THEIR BEHAVIORS. IF
YOU MAKE SOMEBODY ELSE
00:55:35.16\00:55:39.60
RESPONSIBLE. I AM ON THIS WAY.
00:55:39.60\00:55:44.87
OH. YOU CANNOT BE SAVED.
00:55:44.87\00:55:47.68
DEEPER THAN JUST
YOU CAN'T BE HEALED.
00:55:47.68\00:55:53.31
PROBLEM. BE
FOCUSING ON EVERYBODY ELSE'S
00:55:53.31\00:55:58.02
SIN. THE BIBLE
SAYS WAY WAS VIPER IN
00:55:58.02\00:56:02.76
THE WAY THAT BITES THE HORSE'S
HEEL FOR THE RIDER FALLS BACK.
00:56:02.76\00:56:06.63
HIS JOB WAS TO TOW CUSS ON WHAT
YOUR PROBLEM IS, THAT WHOLE YOU
00:56:06.63\00:56:09.96
TRY TO GET SOMEWHERE, HE WILL
BITE YOU HEEL AND MAKE YOU FALL
00:56:09.96\00:56:14.64
BACK. WE TALK THESE THINGS.
00:56:14.64\00:56:20.54
WE WILL TALK ABOUT
SYSTEM OTHER THINGS.
00:56:20.54\00:56:26.31
PART OF THE HOUR. I
WILL NOT SAY ANYTHING.
00:56:26.31\00:56:28.92
I AM ENJOYING THIS.
YOU GET FREE COUNSELING.
00:56:28.92\00:56:32.52
I KNOW. I KNOW.
00:56:32.52\00:56:41.76
WERE I LKE TO. MAKE A CHANNEL.
00:56:41.76\00:56:45.53
ONLY GOD CAN HELP YOU. AMEN.
00:56:45.53\00:56:49.27
GOD PROMISES TO HELP US.
PRAISE THE LORD FOR THAT.
00:56:49.27\00:56:55.31
GOD WILL NOT DO. HE
WILL NOT EXAMINE YOURSELF.
00:56:55.31\00:57:00.55
YEAH. HE WILL
SAY HE HAS PURIFIED.
00:57:00.55\00:57:06.99
GOD WILL NOT WATCH. YOU
CANNOT WASH AWAY THE SINS.
00:57:06.99\00:57:11.96
I WILL MAKE PURE CHOICE
FOR YOU. WE TALK ABOUT THAT.
00:57:11.96\00:57:17.87
EVERYBODY LISTENING TO THE
NEW PROGRAM HAS OR HAVE HAD.
00:57:17.87\00:57:23.97
MAYBE ARE DEALING WITH FEAR
NOW. WE'LL TALK ABOUT WALLS.
00:57:23.97\00:57:29.88
WHAT WALLS ARE ALREADY THERE.
WHAT RALES NEED TO COME DOWN.
00:57:29.88\00:57:36.35
HOW TO BRING THOSE WALLS DOWN.
THE CONWAYS ARE GETTING FORKED
00:57:36.35\00:57:40.86
SECOND HOUR. YOU
DON'T WANT TO MISS IT.
00:57:40.86\00:57:45.93
WE'LL BE BACK. IN
JUST A FEW MINUTES.
00:57:45.93\00:57:49.43