¤ I WANT TO SPEND MY
LIFE ¤ ¤ SPEND MY LIFE ¤
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¤ MENDING BROKEN PEOPLE ¤
¤ I WANT TO SPEND MY LIFE ¤
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¤ REMOVING PAIN ¤ ¤
LORD, LET MY WORDS ¤
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¤ LET MY WORDS ¤ ¤
HEAL UP HEARTS THAT HURT ¤
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¤ I WANT TO SPEND MY LIFE
¤ ¤ MENDING BROKEN PEOPLE ¤
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¤ I WANT TO SPEND MY LIFE
¤ ¤ MENDING BROKEN PEOPLE ¤
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>> HELLO, FRIENDS.
WELCOME TO THURSDAY NIGHT LIVE
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HERE AT 3ABN. I'M
SITTING HERE WITH MY
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CO-PILOT, MY SWEET
WIFE -- [ LAUGHTER ]
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>> I'M SO HAPPY TO BE HERE
TONIGHT AND SO GLAD THAT YOU
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HAVE DECIDED TO TUNE IN
TO -- WHAT ARE WE -- 3ABN?
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>> 3ABN "TODAY LIVE." >> YES.
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>> THIS IS ALL THE WAY LIVE. AND
TONIGHT, HONEY, THE PROGRAMIS
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AMAZING. WHAT IS IT
CALLED? THE SEVEN --
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>> FACES. > -- FACES OF ABUSE.
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THIS IS A PROGRAM IF YOU ARE A
WIFE, OR A HUSBAND, OR CHILDREN
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BEYOND THE AGE OF 18, YOU DON'T
HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT THE CONTENT,
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BUT THIS IS AN ISSUE THAT
IS VERY PREVALENT IN OUR WORLD.
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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE,
ABUSE IN RELATIONSHIPS.
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AND OUR GUEST TONIGHT IS
GOING TO TALK ABOUT THIS.
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SHE HAS A MINISTRY THAT DEALS
WITH THIS TOPIC AND A NUMBER OF
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OTHER THINGS WHEN IT
COMES TO RELATIONSHIPS.
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SHE HAS A WONDERFUL MINISTRY.
BUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS A VERY
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REAL ISSUE. THE
SEVENTH-DAY ADVENTIST CHURCH
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HAS TAKEN THE INITIATIVE -- WHAT
IS THE PROGRAM THAT YOU HAVE?
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>> IT'S CALLED END
IT NOW. >> THAT'S RIGHT.
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>> AND THAT'S TALKING ABOUT
ENDING ABUSE, WHICH IS WORLDWIDE
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AS YOU MENTIONED.
>> IT'S WORLD OVER.
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TO GOD HAS BROUGHT US A GUEST
TONIGHT THAT IS GOING TO REALLY
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INFORM YOU, BUT WE'RE GOING TO
TALK ABOUT THE SEVEN FACES, HOW
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TO IDENTIFY IT. SOME
PEOPLE DON'T EVEN KNOW THAT
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THEY ARE BEING
ABUSED, BECAUSE IT'S THE NORM.
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>> THAT'S RIGHT. BUT
THIS TOPIC TODAY -- IT'S A
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SENSITIVE TOPIC, BUT
IT'S VERY INFORMATIVE.
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YOU WILL ALL BE EDUCATED, AND
WE'LL SHOW YOU HOW TO GET HELP.
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>> THAT'S RIGHT. >> WE
ALSO HAVE A WONDERFUL ROLE
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THAT WE'RE GOING TO
TALKING ABOUT TONIGHT.
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AND IN THE SECOND HOUR, YOU'LL
GET A CHANCE TO CALL IN -- CALL
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IN YOUR QUESTIONS. THE
PHONE NUMBER THAT YOU'LL
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CALL IS 618-627-4651 FOR
YOUR QUESTIONS AND COMMENTS.
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THAT WE'LL BE ADDRESSING IN
THE SECOND HOUR OF THE PROGRAM.
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I'M EXCITED ABOUT THE TOPIC,
AND BEFORE WE DO OUR MUSIC, WE
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SHOULD TAKE THE TIME
AND INTRODUCE OUR GUEST.
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>> WE NEED TO. >>
GOOD TO HAVE YOU HERE, MS.
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LIZZIE CHAMBWA.
>> GOOD TO BE HERE.
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PRAISE GOD. >> YOU
BOTH KNOW EACH OTHER VERY
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WELL. >> YES, WE DO.
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HE IS THE FOUNDER AND CEO OF
HARRISON'S REFERRAL SERVICES.
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>> YES. >> AND YOU
ALSO HAVE A PROGRAM
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ON 3ABN RADIO CALLED
"WOMEN AT THE WHEEL."
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YOU CO-HOST IT
WITH JILL MORIKONE.
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>> YES. >> AND
IT'S BEEN A WONDERFUL
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PROGRAM, AND WE'RE STILL
RUNNING "WOMEN AT THE WELL."
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AND WE ARE TALKING
ABOUT WOMEN IN THE BIBLE --
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>> YES, HOW THEY
APPLY TO OUR LIFE.
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IT'S A VERY AWESOME
PROGRAM. >> YES, EXACTLY.
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AND YOU ALSO HAVE -- YOU HAVE SO
MANY THINGS -- YOUR HAND IS IN
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SO MANY WONDERFUL THINGS.
YOU HAVE A MINISTRY ABOUT
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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, CORRECT?
>> YES, AND WE HAVE TWO FULL
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FOOD PANTRIES IN ST. LOUIS.
AND WE'RE FEEDING AT LEAST
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ABOUT -- CLOSE TO
500 FAMILIES A MONTH.
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WE ALSO -- I HAVE A BIBLE STUDY
CLASS THAT'S GOING ON IN ST.
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LOUIS, WHERE MANY PEOPLE HAVE
COME, YOU KNOW, INTO THE LORD,
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AND ARE JUST A BLESSING THAT
GOD HAS ALOUD ME TO WORK IN HIS
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VINEYARD. >> AND CHURCH PLANT.
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>> YES, CHURCH PLANT. IT
HAS BEEN IN THE MAKING FOR
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QUITE A FEW YEARS, BUT,
YOU KNOW, THE LORD IS GOOD, AND
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WE'RE CONTINUING TO MINISTER TO
PEOPLE AND SHARE THE GOSPEL OF
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JESUS CHRIST WITH THEM. >> AMEN.
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AMEN. THERE ARE A
LOT OF THINGS WE'RE
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GOING TO TALK
ABOUT IN THIS HOUR.
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AND I'M SO GLAD
THAT LIZZIE IS HERE.
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WE CALL HER LIZZIE
CASUALLY, BUT LIZZIE CHAMBWA.
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AND WE HAVE
MUSIC TONIGHT, HONEY.
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>> YEAH. >> AND
THE GUESTS -- I THINK
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IT'S A GROUP OF WOMEN. SO
INTRODUCE THE MUSIC FOR US
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TONIGHT. >> IT'S
CALLED "LIFT YOUR EYES"
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BY MESSAGE OF MERCY. ¤
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¤ THERE IS SOMEONE WHO
SEES ¤ ¤ SOMEONE WHO KNOWS ¤
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¤ ALL THE SACRIFICE
AND STRUGGLE HERE BELOW ¤
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¤ WHEN THE FUTURE IS UNCLEAR
¤ ¤ AND THE ROAD AHEAD IS LONG ¤
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¤ LOOK BEYOND
THE DARKEST YEARS ¤
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¤ TO THE SOURCES IN THE CLOUD
¤ ¤ LIFT YOUR EYES UNTO THE
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HEAVENS ¤ ¤ AND YOU WILL FIND ¤
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¤ A STRENGTH UP THERE ¤
¤ AND LAY YOUR TRUST IN THE
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MIGHTY GOD ¤ ¤
FOR THERE IS NO REST ¤
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¤ WHEN EVIL
COMES INTO YOUR LIFE ¤
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¤ LIFT YOUR EYES
¤ ¤ LIFT YOUR EYES ¤
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¤ JESUS KNOWS YOUR EVERY NEED
¤ ¤ HE SEES THE TEARS YOU CRY ¤
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¤ HE IS YOUR COMFORT IN
THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT ¤
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¤ WHEN YOUR
HEART IS FEELING LOW ¤
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¤ IN A TIME OF GREAT DESPAIR ¤
¤ SEE BEYOND THE PAIN YOU KNOW ¤
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¤ LOOK TO HEAVEN FOR AIR ¤
¤ LIFT YOUR EYES UP TO HIM ¤
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¤ AND YOU WILL FIND
YOUR SOURCE OF HELP ¤
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¤ PLACE YOUR TRUST IN THE MIGHTY
GOD ¤-¤ FOR THERE IS NOBODY ELSE
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¤ ¤ WHEN EVIL
COMES INTO YOUR LIFE ¤
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¤ LIFT YOUR EYES
¤ ¤ LIFT YOUR EYES ¤
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¤ WHEN YOU
BEHOLD A SAVIOR ABOVE ¤
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¤ SAVIOR ABOVE ¤ ¤ HE
WILL MAKE YOUR HEART SING ¤
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¤ FIND STRENGTH IN HIM ¤
¤ YOU WILL FIND STRENGTH OF
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HIM ¤ ¤ YOU WILL RISE ABOVE ¤
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¤ ALL THE EMPTY
PROMISES OF EARTHLY BEINGS ¤
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¤ LIFT YOUR EYES ¤
¤ UP TO THE HILLS ¤
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¤ UP TO THE HILLS ¤
¤ AND YOU WILL FIND ¤
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¤ YOU WILL FIND YOUR SOURCE OF
HELP ¤-¤ PLACE YOUR TRUST IN A
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MIGHT EYE GOD ¤ ¤ FOR
THERE IS NOBODY ELSE ¤
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¤ NOBODY ELSE ¤ ¤
WHEN EVIL COMES INTO YOUR
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LIFE ¤ ¤ TO YOUR LIFE ¤
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¤ LIFT YOUR EYES
¤ ¤ LIFT YOUR EYES ¤
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¤ LIFT YOUR EYES
¤ ¤ LIFT YOUR EYES ¤
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¤ LIFT YOUR EYES ¤
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>> THANK YOU SO MUCH
FOR THAT WONDERFUL SONG.
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"LIFT YOUR EYES." >> AND
IT'S APPROPRIATE TONIGHT,
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I THINK, THAT
IT'S WOMEN SINGING.
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I THINK IT LAYS THE FOUNDATION
WONDERFULLY, LIFT YOUR EYES
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WHENEVER YOU DON'T
KNOW WHERE TO TURN.
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I WILL LIFT UP ANY EYES INTO THE
HILLS FROM WHENCE COMES MY HELP.
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AND TONIGHT THE LORD IS NOT ONLY
GOING TO GIVE HIS HELP, BUT HE
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SERVANTS ON EARTH WHO ARE THE
EXTENSION OF THE COMFORT, THE
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KINDNESS, THE CONSOLATION THAT
WE OFTEN MISS WHEN IT COMES TO
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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. >> YES.
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>> ONCE AGAIN SO GOOD TO
HAVE YOU HERE, LIZZIE CHAMBWA.
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>> THANK YOU SO MUCH. >>
THANK YOU FOR ANSWERING GOD'S
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CALL. >> THAT'S RIGHT.
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>> SHARE A LITTLE BIT OF WHO YOU
ARE, SO OUR VIEWERS CAN GET TO
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KNOW YOU. >> I'M LIZZIE CHAMBWA.
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I RESIDE HERE IN
ST. LOUIS. I'M MARRIED.
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I HAVE SIX GRANDCHILDREN,
AND FOUR CHILDREN.
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ACTUALLY TODAY IS MY
SON'S BIRTHDAY, SIX YEARS OLD.
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SO I KNOW HE'S LOOKING FOR
MOMMY RIGHT NOW, BUT I'M JUST SO
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BLESSED TO JUST BE ALIVE TODAY
WITH EVERYTHING THAT GOD HAS
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BROUGHT ME THROUGH. I
WAS A VICTIM OF DOMESTIC
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VIOLENCE, AND I DECIDED
TO TURN MY PAIN INTO POWER.
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I DIDN'T WANT TO BE ANGRY AT
MY ABUSER OR MYSELF FOR ALLOWING
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MYSELF TO STAY IN AN ABUSIVE
RELATIONSHIP FOR AS LONG AS I
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DID. SO I JUST
STARTED PRAYING AND
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CRYING OUT, AND THE LORD SAYS,
YOU KNOW, I WANT TO USE THAT
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ANGER FOR SOMETHING POWERFUL FOR
ME, OR I CAN HELP EMPOWER OTHER
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WOMEN AND MEN AND CHILDREN THAT
ARE ALSO GOING THROUGH ABUSE.
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SO I WAS RAISED IN THE BAPTIST
CHURCH, AND I DECIDED TO JUST GO
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AND JUST, YOU KNOW, SEE WHAT
I CAN FIND IN THE HOUSE OF GOD.
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I HAD NO IDEA WHAT I
WAS REALLY GOING FOR.
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I JUST NEW IT WAS THE SAFEST
PLACE TO BE AT THE TIME I WAS
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GOING THROUGH MY ABUSE, AND
SOMETHING JUST CHANGED IN MY
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LIFE, AND I GOT
TIRED OF BEING ANGRY.
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I GOT TIRED OF
BEING STRESSED OUT.
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I LOST ABOUT 117
POUNDS FROM JUST STRESS.
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I WASN'T EATING. I WAS
SMOKING ALMOST A PACK OF
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CIGARETTES A DAY,
BECAUSE OF THE STRESS.
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>> OH, YES. >> AND EVERYTHING.
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AND SOMETIMES IT'S KIND OF
HARD TO COPE WITH WHAT YOU ARE
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DEALING WITH, AND A LOT OF
TIMES WHEN YOU ARE GOING THROUGH
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ABUSE, IT CAN LEAD TO
ALCOHOLISM, OR DRUGS, OR SOME
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KIND OF WAY TO COPE WITH IT,
ESPECIALLY WHEN NOBODY IS THERE
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TO REALLY UNDERSTAND
WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH.
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SO THE LORD -- I
JUST STEPPED OUT ON FAITH.
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AND I JUST WANTED TO SAY LORD,
YOU KNOW, WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP
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OTHER PEOPLE? I
DIDN'T KNOW WHAT I WAS DOING,
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AND I JUST STARTED GOING UP AND
DOWN THE STREETS OF DOWNTOWN ST.
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LOUIS, AND I WAS GIVING AWAY
FOOD TO WOMEN AND CHILDREN OUT
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OF A TWO-DOOR
JEEP I USED TO HAVE.
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AND I WAS GETTING SCRAP
FROM GROCERY STORES AND OTHER
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CHURCHES, AND I WOULD HAND
THINGS TO THEM, AND PRAY WITH
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THEM. I HAD NO IDEA THAT THIS
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MINISTRY, 15 YEARS LATER, I
WOULD BE SITTING HERE AND 15
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YEARS LATER,
LIVES HAVE BEEN CHANGED.
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>> AND ABOUT HOW MANY PEOPLE
THAT YOU SERVICE ON A CONTINUOUS
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BASIS? THE PEOPLE
THAT YOU FEED, YOUR
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MINISTRY FEEDS. >>
CLOSE TO ALMOST ABOUT 500
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FAMILIES A MONTH. >> WOW.
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>> THIS LAST WEEK, WE GAVE
AWAY LIKE 32,000 POUNDS OF FOOD.
00:14:02.60\00:14:08.14
AND I HAVE VOLUNTEERS THAT
RUN THE FOOD PANTRIES, THEY RUN
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THEIR MOBILE MARKET FOOD TRUCKS.
THEY COME IN AND WE JUST FEED
00:14:13.11\00:14:16.82
HUNDREDS OF FAMILIES. WE
FEED THE HOMELESS AS WELL.
00:14:16.82\00:14:21.52
WE DISTRIBUTE DIAPERS. I
HAVE DIAPERS AND TOILETRIES,
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PERSONAL ITEMS, THINGS THAT
I CAN GIVE THE WOMEN FOR THEIR
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BABIES. >> YOU BECAME ADVENTIST,
00:14:31.10\00:14:33.17
CORRECT? >> YES,
ACTUALLY IN 2005, I WAS
00:14:33.17\00:14:37.01
GOING TO AN
EVANGELISTIC MEETING.
00:14:37.01\00:14:39.44
I DIDN'T REALLY
KNOW WHAT IT WAS.
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I JUST KNEW I WAS INVITED
TO THIS POWERFUL MEETING.
00:14:41.21\00:14:46.28
AND THE LATE PASTOR
WILLIAM FERGUSON WAS MY MENTOR.
00:14:46.28\00:14:52.15
HE ACTUALLY TRAINED ME IN
MINISTRY AND COMMUNITY SERVICE.
00:14:52.15\00:14:57.39
AND I WAS SO EXCITED
ABOUT WHAT I WAS HEARING.
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I HAD NEVER HEARD THE GOSPEL
PREACHED LIKE THAT BEFORE IN MY
00:15:00.86\00:15:04.33
LIFE. AND I WAS
GOING TO CHURCH FOR
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ABOUT 20 YEARS. AND I DIDN'T
MISS ONE NIGHT.-pTHE MEETING
LAST FOR SIX WEEKS,
00:15:06.57\00:15:12.47
AND I DIDN'T MISS ONE NIGHT.
I WAS SO, YOU KNOW, EXCITED
00:15:12.47\00:15:15.71
ABOUT WHAT WAS HAPPENING.
AND I HAD JUST GOT BAPTIZED IN
00:15:15.71\00:15:20.68
THE MISSISSIPPI RIVER IN
A BAPTIST CHURCH, AND A WEEK
00:15:20.68\00:15:24.62
LATER, I WAS BAPTIZED
AGAIN IN THE ADVENTIST CHURCH.
00:15:24.62\00:15:30.56
AND I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT WAS
HAPPENING, BUT I JUST FELT THIS
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FIRE GO THROUGH ME. AND
IT'S LIKE, I'M GOING TO USE
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FOR SOMETHING AWESOME. AND
NOW EVEN TODAY I UNDERSTAND
00:15:38.90\00:15:41.80
WHAT THAT AWESOME IS.
>> I WANT TO GO BACK TO
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SOMETHING YOU SAID
IN YOUR STORY EARLIER.
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IT'S A PRAISE THE
LORD MOMENT, ISN'T IT?
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>> YES, IT IS. I WAS
SO OVERWHELMED, I WAS JUST
00:15:51.21\00:15:55.95
ON MY KNEES THIS MORNING, AND
I WAS PRAYING, AND I SAID GOD, I
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REALLY DON'T KNOW
WHAT TO SAY OR WHAT TO DO.
00:16:00.66\00:16:04.13
BECAUSE MY PRAYERS HAVE ALWAYS
BEEN FOR GOD TO GIVE ME THE
00:16:04.13\00:16:09.66
WORDS TO SAY. AND
JUST MY TESTIMONY ALONE IN
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CHRIST JESUS, I WANT THAT
TO BE SOMEONE ELSE'S TESTIMONY.
00:16:14.74\00:16:21.08
I WANT TO LET THEM KNOW YOU
DON'T HAVE TO LIVE LIKE THIS.
00:16:21.08\00:16:24.91
THERE IS A WAY OUT.
THERE IS PROGRAMS AND THERE ARE
00:16:24.91\00:16:28.28
PEOPLE THAT WILL PRAY FOR
YOU, YOU KNOW, THERE IS A WAY OF
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ESCAPE. >> WE'RE
GOING TO TALK ABOUT
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THAT, BECAUSE THERE ARE
RESOURCES THAT YOU ARE GOING TO
00:16:34.22\00:16:36.46
BE SHARING WITH OUR VIEWERS AND
LISTENERS, AND SHARING WAYS ON
00:16:36.46\00:16:40.20
HOW TO IDENTIFY AND GET OUT, AND
WE HAVEN'T YET GOTTEN INTO THE
00:16:40.20\00:16:45.10
SEVEN FACES OF ABUSE, BUT BEFORE
WE DO THAT, I WAS INTERESTED IN
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WHAT YOU SAID EARLIER, WHEN YOU
WERE GOING THROUGH TURBULENCE,
00:16:49.44\00:16:54.68
YOU JUST FELT THE NEED TO
WITH YOUR PAIN, ALLEVIATE OTHER
00:16:54.68\00:17:01.15
PEOPLE'S PAIN.
PICKING UP SCRAPS, AND I THINK
00:17:01.15\00:17:04.55
THAT'S AN AMAZING WAY WHEN
PEOPLE SOMETIMES ARE SURROUNDED
00:17:04.55\00:17:09.39
OR GOING THROUGH THEIR
OWN INTERNAL STORM, SOMETIMES
00:17:09.39\00:17:13.36
CHANGING THE FOCUS AND BEGINNING
TO HELP OTHERS, IT BEGINS TO
00:17:13.36\00:17:17.20
SAY, I'M NOT THE ONLY
ONE GOING THROUGH A STORM.
00:17:17.20\00:17:20.44
OTHER PEOPLE ARE. AND
TELL US HOW THAT WAS, WHILE
00:17:20.44\00:17:23.94
YOU WERE GOING THROUGH A STORM,
YOU ARE HELPING OTHER PEOPLE
00:17:23.94\00:17:28.18
THROUGH THEIR
STORMS. WHAT WAS THAT LIKE?
00:17:28.18\00:17:31.11
>> TO ME AT THE TIME, AS A
VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE,
00:17:31.11\00:17:36.95
ABUSERS ARE A TAKER. AND
I DIDN'T WANT TO BE A TAKER.
00:17:36.95\00:17:40.06
I WANTED TO BE A GIVER.
AND I REALIZED EVERY TIME I WAS
00:17:40.06\00:17:44.33
FEELING SAD AND DOWN AND
DEPRESSED, I WOULD HEAR THIS
00:17:44.33\00:17:48.96
VOICE SAY, YOU KNOW, DO
SOMETHING, YOU KNOW, THAT YOU
00:17:48.96\00:17:51.57
LIKE TO DO TO TAKE YOUR FOCUS
OFF OF IT, AND GIVING WAS ALWAYS
00:17:51.57\00:17:56.30
MY WAY OF TAKING MY FOCUS OFF
OF MYSELF AND WHAT I WAS GOING
00:17:56.30\00:18:00.41
THROUGH, AND BEFORE YOU KNEW
IT, I WOULD FORGET WHAT I WAS
00:18:00.41\00:18:05.18
ACTUALLY, YOU KNOW, FEEING AT
THAT MOMENT, BECAUSE I WOULD SEE
00:18:05.18\00:18:08.78
SMILES ON OTHER PEOPLE'S FACES.
I WOULD SAY OTHER WOMEN AND
00:18:08.78\00:18:12.55
OTHER CHILDREN, AND EVEN
MEN -- I HAVE HAD MEN CALL ME
00:18:12.55\00:18:15.69
AND TALK ABOUT THE ABUSE THEY
WERE GOING THROUGH AS WELL, AND
00:18:15.69\00:18:20.60
THE NEXT THING I
KNOW I FELT MY NICHE.
00:18:20.60\00:18:23.43
NOW I'M NOT A COUNSELOR. I
HAVE NEVER BEEN TO COLLEGE IN
00:18:23.43\00:18:29.24
MY LIFE, BUT FOR SOME REASON I
JUST FELT LIKE GOD GAVE ME THIS
00:18:29.24\00:18:37.91
GIFT. AND I FELT
THAT WAS MY HEALING,
00:18:37.91\00:18:40.52
JUST KEEP GIVING, KEEP GIVING,
AND EVEN TO THIS DAY, THAT'S
00:18:40.52\00:18:44.35
WHAT I LIKE TO DO FULL-TIME.
I JUST LIKE TO GIVE AND GIVE
00:18:44.35\00:18:48.76
EVERY DAY. I GAVE
AT WORK IN A FULL-TIME
00:18:48.76\00:18:51.66
JOB IN 2006. I WAS SO
MISERABLE IN MY JOB, I
00:18:51.66\00:18:57.60
WOULD CRY EVERY DAY. AND
MY COWORKERS WOULD SAY WHAT
00:18:57.60\00:19:01.40
IS GOING ON? AND I
WOULD SAY I JUST FEEL LIKE
00:19:01.40\00:19:05.24
I NEED TO BE SOMEWHERE ELSE.
AND EVEN THOUGH I NEED TO BE
00:19:05.24\00:19:09.21
HERE TO MAKE MONEY TO PAY
MY BILLS, I STILL FEEL LIKE
00:19:09.21\00:19:14.32
SOMEBODY OUT THERE NEEDS ME WHEN
I WAKE UP IN THE MORNING, SO I
00:19:14.32\00:19:18.32
NEED BE WITH THE PEOPLE. I
GOT THIS THING -- I'M ALWAYS
00:19:18.32\00:19:21.92
WITH PEOPLE. EVEN
WHEN I'M AT CHURCH, I'M
00:19:21.92\00:19:25.36
SITTING THERE, AND YES, I ENJOY
THE SERMONS, BUT INSIDE OF ME,
00:19:25.36\00:19:30.90
IT'S LIKE I GOT TO GO. I
CAN'T SIT IN THE PUGH TOO
00:19:30.90\00:19:35.37
LONG. YOU LOOK AROUND, I'M GONE.
00:19:35.37\00:19:37.94
I'M IN THE COMMUNITY. >>
IN THE HIGHWAYS AND BIWAYS.
00:19:37.94\00:19:42.28
>> YES, I HAVE GOT
TO GO PRAY WITH PEOPLE.
00:19:42.28\00:19:45.35
I GIVE THEM MY CARD AND SAY, IF
YOU NEED FOOD OR CLOTHING, THIS
00:19:45.35\00:19:49.48
IS WHERE I'M LOCATED, AND I FEEL
SO GOOD WHEN I GO TO SLEEP AT
00:19:49.48\00:19:53.69
NIGHT, BECAUSE I KNOW I WA ABLE
TO EXTEND MY HAND TO SOMEONE
00:19:53.69\00:19:57.86
ELSE, AND EVEN IF IT'S TELLING
THEM EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE
00:19:57.86\00:20:04.03
OKAY. >> AND YOU
ARE MOVING TO WEST
00:20:04.03\00:20:06.94
FRANKFORT, RIGHT? [ LAUGHTER ]
00:20:06.94\00:20:08.10
>> HONESTLY. I LOVE COMING HERE.
00:20:08.10\00:20:11.57
I FEEL FREE. I'M
MORE CONNECTED TO GOD.
00:20:11.57\00:20:14.68
AND I LIKE THE ATMOSPHERE.
SO YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT GOD HAS
00:20:14.68\00:20:18.71
PLANNED. IF MY
FAMILY WANTS TO COME, I'LL
00:20:18.71\00:20:22.48
COME. >>
WHEREVER THE LORD LEADS.
00:20:22.48\00:20:24.19
>> EXACTLY. >> TELL
US YOUR ABUSE STORY, IF
00:20:24.19\00:20:28.36
YOU DON'T MIND? >>
WELL, ONE THING THAT I'M
00:20:28.36\00:20:34.83
EXCITED ABOUT NOW IS I FEEL
COMFORTABLE TALKING ABOUT IT.
00:20:34.83\00:20:39.20
AT ONE POINT IN MY LIFE I FELT
LIKE I WOULD NEVER BE ABLE TO
00:20:39.20\00:20:44.17
SHARE THE TRUTH ABOUT
WHAT REALLY TOOK PLACE AND WHAT
00:20:44.17\00:20:46.74
REALLY HAPPENED, AND AT THE
TIME WHEN I WAS GOING THROUGH MY
00:20:46.74\00:20:51.45
ABUSE, YOU KNOW, I DIDN'T KNOW
WHAT THE DIFFERENCE WAS WHEN YOU
00:20:51.45\00:20:57.32
TALK ABOUT THE MENTAL,
SPIRITUAL, AND PSYCHOLOGICAL
00:20:57.32\00:21:04.76
PART OF IT. THE
WORDS WAS REALLY HARD.
00:21:04.76\00:21:07.20
THE LETDOWNS, THE PUTDOWNS,
AND THE -- MAKING ME FEEL LIKE I
00:21:07.20\00:21:12.80
WILL NEVER BE ANYTHING, OR
BE ANYBODY OR NOBODY WOULD EVER
00:21:12.80\00:21:18.01
LOVE ME AGAIN. AND
GOING THROUGH THAT JOURNEY,
00:21:18.01\00:21:20.84
I FELT THAT,
AND I BELIEVED THAT.
00:21:20.84\00:21:23.81
ONCE SOMEONE TELLS YOU, YOU WILL
NEVER BE ANYTHING, AND YOU ARE
00:21:23.81\00:21:28.45
LOOKING IN THE MIRROR AND YOUR
FACE IS ALL SWOLLEN AND YOU ARE
00:21:28.45\00:21:32.89
ALL BRUISED UP, AND WHEN I
WAS GOING THROUGH MY ABUSE, IT
00:21:32.89\00:21:37.29
WASN'T JUST PHYSICAL, IT
WAS MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL.
00:21:37.29\00:21:40.56
I HAD TO HIDE AND LEAVE HOME
FOR A YEAR TO SEPARATE FROM MY
00:21:40.56\00:21:46.74
CHILDREN BECAUSE MY ABUSER WAS
TRYING TO KILL ME AT THE TIME.
00:21:46.74\00:21:50.11
I HAD GUNS PUT ON ME.
I HAD KNIVES PUT ON ME.
00:21:50.11\00:21:53.51
I WAS AFRAID TO
GO DIFFERENT PLACES.
00:21:53.51\00:21:56.38
I WOULD WEAR HOODIES OR OTHER
CLOTHES TO I WOULD BLEND IN.
00:21:56.38\00:22:01.68
I STAYED WITH THE HOMELESS,
I WOULD STAY WITH THE DRUG
00:22:01.68\00:22:06.42
DEALERS, I LIVED AMONG THEM,
BECAUSE I NEW I WOULD BE SAFER.
00:22:06.42\00:22:09.89
I KNEW MY ABUSER WOULDN'T
FIND ME AMONG THOSE PEOPLE.
00:22:09.89\00:22:13.73
AND I FELT SAFER WITH
THEM. >> THAT ACTUALLY BUILT A
00:22:13.73\00:22:18.70
CONNECTION IN A STRANGE ODD
WAY, THAT CONNECTED YOU TO YOUR
00:22:18.70\00:22:23.37
COMMUNITY. >> I NEVER KNEW THAT.
00:22:23.37\00:22:25.11
>> IT KIND OF TOOK YOUR
FEAR AWAY FROM YOUR COMMUNITY.
00:22:25.11\00:22:28.74
THAT'S CRAZY HOW
THE LORD DID THAT.
00:22:28.74\00:22:31.18
THAT IS SO PROVIDENTIAL.
HE PUT YOU -- YOU GO TO TH
00:22:31.18\00:22:39.79
DREGS OF LIFE TO FIND OUT
ABOUT THE PEOPLE YOU WOULD BE
00:22:39.79\00:22:43.86
MINISTERING TO IN THIS FUTURE.
>> AND I NEVER KNEW THAT.
00:22:43.86\00:22:47.46
WHEN I WENT TO THIS PLACE, THE
PEOPLE TOLD ME -- IT WAS LIKE,
00:22:47.46\00:22:52.10
WHO ARE YOU? IT WAS
LIKE, YOU ARE NOT FROM
00:22:52.10\00:22:54.94
HERE? YOU DON'T
EVEN LOOK LIKE YOU ARE
00:22:54.94\00:22:57.11
FROM HERE. WHATEVER
YOU ARE RUNNING FROM,
00:22:57.11\00:23:01.01
YOU KNOW, IT'S FINE WITH
US. THEY PROTECTED WITH ME.
00:23:01.01\00:23:04.81
EVEN IN THE MIDST OF
EVERYTHING THEY WERE DOING.
00:23:04.81\00:23:07.45
THEY KNEW I WASN'T A PART
OF WHAT THEY WERE DOING, THEY
00:23:07.45\00:23:10.89
PROTECTED ME. AND
THEY WOULD TELL OTHER
00:23:10.89\00:23:14.22
PEOPLE, DON'T
MESS WITH THIS LADY.
00:23:14.22\00:23:16.16
JUST LEAVE HER ALONE. >> REALLY?
00:23:16.16\00:23:17.99
>> BECAUSE IT WAS LIKE GOD
ALLOWED THEM TO KNOW THAT, YOU
00:23:17.99\00:23:21.50
KNOW, IT WAS SOMETHING
ABOUT ME, AND THEY PROTECTED ME.
00:23:21.50\00:23:26.47
I JUST FELT LIKE A CUB. >> WOW.
00:23:26.47\00:23:30.87
RIGHT, YOU WERE LIKE THE
ANGEL WITH THE CAMP AROUND YOU,
00:23:30.87\00:23:38.55
BECAUSE THE LORD SAID, ALTHOUGH
YOU MAY BE GOING THROUGH THE
00:23:38.55\00:23:42.35
VALLEY OF SHADOWS NOW, I'M GOING
TO PREPARE A TABLE BEFORE YOU.
00:23:42.35\00:23:46.15
>> YES. >> AND ONE
DAY YOUR CUP IS GOING
00:23:46.15\00:23:48.39
TO RUN OVER, AND GOODNESS AND
MERCY IS GOING TO FOLLOW YOU.
00:23:48.39\00:23:52.56
AND THE OTHER STRANGE THING
ABOUT THAT, LIZZIE, A PART OF
00:23:52.56\00:23:56.26
THE JOURNEY, ALL OF US HAVE HAD
THOSE EXPERIENCES WHERE YOU ARE
00:23:56.26\00:24:01.57
GOING THROUGH THIS VALLEY
OF SHADOWS, BUT YOU TOOK A BIG
00:24:01.57\00:24:05.17
CHUNK OF YOUR EMOTIONS OUT OF
YOUR LIFE TO JUST -- YOU DIDN'T
00:24:05.17\00:24:09.94
DO IT BECAUSE YOU
WANTED TO LEAVE HIM.
00:24:09.94\00:24:12.88
YOU JUST -- IF I STAY
HOME, WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO ME?
00:24:12.88\00:24:15.82
>> AND I LEFT HOME
WHEN I WAS 15 YEARS OLD.
00:24:15.82\00:24:18.29
>> WOW. >> YOUNG.
00:24:18.29\00:24:20.96
>> AND THAT WAS MY FIRST ABUSIVE
RELATIONSHIP WHEN I FIRST LEFT
00:24:20.96\00:24:25.23
HOME WHEN WAS 15 YEARS OLD.
AND I HAD EXPERIENCED SOME ABUSE
00:24:25.23\00:24:29.86
WHEN I WAS AT HOME. I
DIDN'T TALK ABOUT THAT A LOT.
00:24:29.86\00:24:35.74
I LEFT HOME WHEN
I WAS 15 YEARS OLD.
00:24:35.74\00:24:40.78
MY BOYFRIEND WAS 21
YEARS OLE. I WAS 15 YEARS OLD.
00:24:40.78\00:24:44.85
AND I JUST WANTED TO LEAVE
AND JUST ESCAPE AND FINE A SAFE
00:24:44.85\00:24:49.72
PLACE TO GO TO.
GOT INVOLVED AND THAT
00:24:49.72\00:24:53.72
RELATIONSHIP AT FIRST IT SEEMED
LIKE IT WAS FINE, AND THEN ALL
00:24:53.72\00:24:56.59
OF A SUDDEN, COME TO FIND OUT
THAT MY BOYFRIEND AT THE TIME
00:24:56.59\00:25:01.13
WAS DOING
COCAINE, AND I DIDN'T KNOW.
00:25:01.13\00:25:03.26
>> OH, NO. >> HE
WOULD DO THE DRUGS AT
00:25:03.26\00:25:06.47
NIGHT WHEN I WAS ASLEEP.
AND NEXT THING I KNOW HE JUST
00:25:06.47\00:25:10.97
CHANGED. HE WOULD
GO INTO THESE RAGES.
00:25:10.97\00:25:12.97
AND ONE DAY HE PINNED ME DOWN ON
THE BED AND HE JUST REALLY BEAT
00:25:12.97\00:25:17.51
ME REALLY BAD, AND ALL I COULD
REMEMBER WAS A BASEBALL BAT WAS
00:25:17.51\00:25:30.53
ON THE SIDE OF THE BED, AND I
COULDN'T SEE, BUT I JUST STARTED
00:25:30.53\00:25:38.30
SWINGING. AND I
GRABBED SOME MACE AND THE
00:25:38.30\00:25:42.57
NEXT THING I KNEW I WAS IN THE
MIDDLE OF THE STREET SCREAMING
00:25:42.57\00:25:45.84
AT THIS GUY, AND
I JUST LEFT THERE.
00:25:45.84\00:25:49.51
I DIDN'T KNOW WHERE I WAS GOING.
SO I WENT TO ONE HOME, AND THERE
00:25:49.51\00:25:54.18
WAS MORE ABUSE. AND
IT WAS ONE HOME AFTER
00:25:54.18\00:25:58.82
ANOTHER, BUT I
NEVER LOST MY FAITH.
00:25:58.82\00:26:01.42
I FELT LIKE SOMEONE WA WATCHING
OVER ME, AND I DIDN'T GIVE UP.
00:26:01.42\00:26:08.06
>> NOW YOU KNOW
WHO IT IS. >> YES.
00:26:08.06\00:26:10.03
>> ANGIE, SHE IS TALKING ABOUT
THINGS -- AND OUR VIEWERS AND
00:26:10.03\00:26:16.17
LISTENERS -- LIZZIE IS TALKING
ABOUT EXPERIENCES THAT SOME OF
00:26:16.17\00:26:22.58
YOU MAY BE GOING
THROUGH RIGHT NOW.
00:26:22.58\00:26:25.61
YOU MAY BE A TEENAGER, YOU MAY
BE FEARFUL FOR YOUR LIFE, LIKE
00:26:25.61\00:26:30.59
LIZZIE JUST TALKED ABOUT.
AND I WANT YOU TO KEEP WATCHING
00:26:30.59\00:26:33.52
THE PROGRAM, BECAUSE WE'RE NOT
JUST TELLING YOU WHAT OUR GUEST
00:26:33.52\00:26:37.06
WENT THROUGH, BUT HOW THE
LORD BROUGHT HER OUT OF IT.
00:26:37.06\00:26:41.36
>> SO MANY TYPES
OF ABUSES OUT THERE.
00:26:41.36\00:26:43.83
AND WE'RE GOING TO TALK ABOUT
THE SEVEN FACES OF ABUSE, AND IT
00:26:43.83\00:26:48.27
DOES HAVE A
FACE. >> YES, IT DOES.
00:26:48.27\00:26:50.61
AND I WANT TO MAKE IT
CLEAR -- BECAUSE WITH DOMESTIC
00:26:50.61\00:26:55.64
VIOLENCE, IT'S REALLY A TOUCHY
SUBJECT, AND I LIKE TO MAKE SURE
00:26:55.64\00:26:59.15
THAT IT'S CLEAR -- AND I DON'T
LIKE TO PUSH THINGS UNDER THE
00:26:59.15\00:27:02.38
RUG. BECAUSE IT
HAS BEEN SHOVED UNDER
00:27:02.38\00:27:04.65
THE RUG LONG ENOUGH. AND
I JUST LIKE TO PUT IT OUT
00:27:04.65\00:27:08.06
THERE, AND LET PEOPLE KNOW THAT
IT DOESN'T MATTER, YOU KNOW,
00:27:08.06\00:27:10.86
WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH.
YOU KNOW, GOD IS THERE FOR YOU.
00:27:10.86\00:27:15.06
AND IF YOU TRUST AND BELIEVE,
YOU KNOW, THAT GOD IS THERE FOR
00:27:15.06\00:27:18.57
YOU, THERE'S
NOTHING THAT YOU CAN'T DO.
00:27:18.57\00:27:20.57
>> AMEN. >> I COME
TO FIND OUT THAT THE
00:27:20.57\00:27:23.14
FACES OF ABUSE -- THOSE FACES
CAN BE -- YOU KNOW, YOUR FAMILY
00:27:23.14\00:27:28.78
MEMBERS, YOUR COWORKERS,
YOUR HUSBAND, YOUR WIFE, YOUR
00:27:28.78\00:27:34.88
CHILDREN. ABUSE
CAN COME FROM ANY FORM.
00:27:34.88\00:27:38.02
>> IT'S TRUE. >>
AND, YOU KNOW, WE WANT TO
00:27:38.02\00:27:41.99
SHARE TONIGHT ABOUT THOSE RED
FLAGS AND THOSE THINGS TO LOOK
00:27:41.99\00:27:45.69
FOR WHERE YOU CAN BE CAUTIOUS.
SO IF YOU ARE IN THE MIDST OF
00:27:45.69\00:27:53.17
LOOKING TO BE MARRIED OR DATING,
OR EVEN IF YOU AREN'T, WE JUST
00:27:53.17\00:28:00.38
WANT TO MAKE SURE WE EDUCATE
PEOPLE ON THE WARNING SIGNS, SO
00:28:00.38\00:28:05.08
THAT WAY IT WILL KIND OF HELP
KEEP YOU FROM BEING INVOLVED IN
00:28:05.08\00:28:09.45
THOSE RELATIONSHIPS. WE
NEED TO SPEND TIME ALONE AND
00:28:09.45\00:28:14.29
GETTING TO KNOW WHO WE ARE AS
A PERSON, AS AN INDIVIDUAL, AND
00:28:14.29\00:28:19.03
LET GOD AND THE HOLY SPIRIT LEAD
YOU INTO WHO GOD WANTS YOUR SOLE
00:28:19.03\00:28:23.63
MATE TO BE. AND IF
YOU ARE WATCHING AND
00:28:23.63\00:28:26.63
LISTENING AND CONTEMPLATING
A RELATIONSHIP, JUST TAKE YOUR
00:28:26.63\00:28:30.17
TIME. DON'T RUSH IT.
00:28:30.17\00:28:30.94
>> EXACTLY. >> IF
YOU SEE THESE RED FLAGS
00:28:30.94\00:28:34.48
THAT WE'RE GOING TO TALK
ABOUT ON THE, IF YOU FEEL THAT
00:28:34.48\00:28:38.05
SOMETHING IS NOT
RIGHT, IT IS NOT RIGHT.
00:28:38.05\00:28:40.18
PLEASE DON'T SETTLE. I
DONE THAT -- I DID THAT PLENTY
00:28:40.18\00:28:44.05
OF TIMES, SETTLING, BECAUSE YOU
DON'T WANT TO BE BY YOURSELF,
00:28:44.05\00:28:48.72
AND YOU THINK IF THIS
PERSON WOULD CHANGE -- IF WE GET
00:28:48.72\00:28:53.26
MARRIED, THEY MIGHT CHANGE.
IF I LOVE THEM A CERTAIN WAY
00:28:53.26\00:28:56.87
THEY MIGHT CHANGE. IF I
DO WHAT THEY WANT ME TO DO,
00:28:56.87\00:29:00.70
THEY MIGHT CHANGE. NO.
00:29:00.70\00:29:02.80
THE ONLY WAY A PERSON CAN CHANGE
IS IF THEY ALLOW THEMSELVES TO
00:29:02.80\00:29:07.44
CHANGE, AND
ONLY GOD CAN DO THAT.
00:29:07.44\00:29:09.31
>> THAT'S RIGHT. >>
IT'S NOT THAT A PERSON CAN'T
00:29:09.31\00:29:13.95
RECOVER FROM ABUSE. IF
YOU ARE AN ABUSER OR BEEN
00:29:13.95\00:29:17.82
THROUGH ABUSE,
THERE ARE PROGRAMS.
00:29:17.82\00:29:19.69
THERE ARE PEOPLE THAT YOU
CAN TALK TO THAT CAN HELP YOU
00:29:19.69\00:29:23.26
THROUGH THAT. YOU
KNOW, WE -- I TALKED TO A
00:29:23.26\00:29:25.83
LOT OF MARRIED COUPLES
TOO ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
00:29:25.83\00:29:29.53
I'M NOT A COUNSELOR, LIKE I
SAID BEFORE, BUT JUST FROM MY
00:29:29.53\00:29:34.37
EXPERIENCE OF WHAT I HAVE BEEN
THROUGH, I MENTOR AND COUNSEL
00:29:34.37\00:29:39.04
MARRIED COUPLES ON
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND ABUSE.
00:29:39.04\00:29:41.74
AND SOMETIMES WE DON'T
THINK THAT WE'RE ABUSIVE.
00:29:41.74\00:29:44.41
>> THT'S TRUE. >> A
LOT OF TIMES WE THINK I'M
00:29:44.41\00:29:49.28
NOT ABUSIVE, BUT LIKE WE'RE
GOING TO TALK ABOUT TONIGHT,
00:29:49.28\00:29:53.22
THERE ARE SEVEN FACES OF ABUSE,
SO WE WANT TO EDUCATE YOU ON
00:29:53.22\00:29:57.66
WHAT TO LOOK FOR AND NOT
TO PUSH IT UNDER THE RUG.
00:29:57.66\00:30:02.13
IF YOU ARE EXPERIENCING DOMESTIC
VIOLENCE, TALK TO SOMEONE ABOUT
00:30:02.13\00:30:06.13
IT. BECAUSE AS
LONG AS YOU KEEP IT
00:30:06.13\00:30:08.37
QUIET, YOU ARE PROTECTING YOUR
ABUSER, THAT WILL ALLOW YOUR
00:30:08.37\00:30:13.21
ABUSER TO BE ABLE
TO ABUSE A LOT LONGER.
00:30:13.21\00:30:17.88
AND SAD TO SAY I HAVE HAD WOMEN
WHO DIDN'T COME OUT OF THIS
00:30:17.88\00:30:23.69
ALIVE. I HAVE HAD
CLIENTS WHO HAVE BEEN
00:30:23.69\00:30:26.05
SHOT, KILLED, BRUTALLY
BEATEN, RAPED IN FRONT OF THEIR
00:30:26.05\00:30:30.89
CHILDREN. ALL
DIFFERENT TYPES OF THINGS
00:30:30.89\00:30:32.23
THAT I HAVE EXPERIENCED, SO IT
TAKES A LOT FOR ME TO ENDURE THE
00:30:32.23\00:30:36.93
DIFFERENT CASES
THAT I HAVE. >> WOW.
00:30:36.93\00:30:39.10
>> AND ANOTHER THING WE DON'T
LIKE TO TALK ABOUT IS DOMESTIC
00:30:39.10\00:30:43.04
VIOLENCE IN OUR CHURCHES.
WE HAVE LEADERS THAT ARE
00:30:43.04\00:30:46.81
ABUSIVE. WE
PASTORS THAT ARE ABUSIVE TO
00:30:46.81\00:30:50.31
THEIR SPOUSER, ELDERS WHO ARE
ABUSIVE TO THEIR WIVES, WOMEN
00:30:50.31\00:30:57.79
WHO ARE ABUSIVE TO THEIR
HUSBANDS, BUT WE DON'T TALK
00:30:57.79\00:31:01.99
ABOUT THAT. IT
NEEDS TO BE SHARED.
00:31:01.99\00:31:04.43
BECAUSE IF WE'RE ASKING PEOPLE
TO COME INTO THE FOLD OF JESUS
00:31:04.43\00:31:07.60
CHRIST, THESE PEOPLE ARE
HURTING, AND THEY NEED A PLACE
00:31:07.60\00:31:10.20
TO COME TO, WHERE THEY
KNOW THAT WHAT THEY ARE GOING
00:31:10.20\00:31:14.67
THROUGH --
SOMETHING IS GOING TO HAPPEN.
00:31:14.67\00:31:16.94
SOMEBODY IS GOING TO PRAY
FOR THEM, TO INTERCEDE FOR THEM.
00:31:16.94\00:31:21.21
AND WE NEED TO STOP
HIDING BEHIND OUR OWN FACES.
00:31:21.21\00:31:24.91
SOME OF US HIDE
BEHIND MASKS AS WELL.
00:31:24.91\00:31:27.78
AND WE COME TO CHURCH AND
MAKE IT SEEM LIKE IT'S OKAY.
00:31:27.78\00:31:31.49
SOME OF US WEAR MAKEUP
COVERING UP THE BRUISES.
00:31:31.49\00:31:35.59
AND WE SAY HAPPY SABBATH
OR HOW IS YOUR DAY GOING?
00:31:35.59\00:31:39.46
AND WE'RE JUST SMILING, BUT
HONESTLY IT'S NOT HAPPY AT ALL.
00:31:39.46\00:31:44.47
>> IT'S PRIVATE PAIN. >>
IT'S PRIVATE PAIN, AND WHEN
00:31:44.47\00:31:47.80
THEY GO HOME, THEY
ARE IN A WHOLE NEW WORLD.
00:31:47.80\00:31:51.14
A WORLD WE CAN NEVER IMAGINE.
AND THOSE SAME PEOPLE THAT
00:31:51.14\00:31:54.18
MINISTER TO US, AND THOSE SAME
PEOPLE THAT WE MINISTER, WERE
00:31:54.18\00:32:01.82
UNDERCOVER ANIMALS.
AND EVEN IN OUR CHURCHES, I
00:32:01.82\00:32:05.02
WOULD LIKE FOR PEOPLE TO
UNDERSTAND THAT WE HAVE TICKING
00:32:05.02\00:32:07.69
TIME BOMBS
RIGHT IN OUR CHURCHES.
00:32:07.69\00:32:09.72
>> WOW. >> THE
ABUSERS ARE SITTING
00:32:09.72\00:32:11.86
THERE. >> WOW.
00:32:11.86\00:32:12.49
>> THE VICTIMS
ARE SITTING THERE.
00:32:12.49\00:32:16.53
THE CHILDREN ARE BEING ABUSED,
MOLESTERED, PHYSICALLY ABUSED,
00:32:16.53\00:32:25.07
SEXUALLY ABUSED. WE
NEED TO STAND UP AND BE THERE
00:32:25.07\00:32:27.74
FOR PEOPLE. WE
NEED TO BE THERE FOR OUR
00:32:27.74\00:32:30.45
YOUNG PEOPLE. WE NEED
TO BE THERE FOR THOSE WE
00:32:30.45\00:32:34.32
COME IN CONTACT WITH. EVEN
IF THEY ARE NOT PART OF OUR
00:32:34.32\00:32:40.26
CHURCH. THERE ARE
BROKEN PEOPLE SITTING
00:32:40.26\00:32:41.86
RIGHT IN OUR
CHURCHES, RIGHT IN OUR HOMES.
00:32:41.86\00:32:44.43
>> AND THE LORD HAS ALLOWED YOU
TO BE A SURVIVOR, NOT A SURVIVOR
00:32:44.43\00:32:51.57
ALONE, BUT A THRIVER.
THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A
00:32:51.57\00:32:55.20
PERSON THAT SURVIVES
AND PEOPLE THAT THRIVE.
00:32:55.20\00:32:59.41
THE LORD BROUGHT YOU TO PUT YOU
NOW IN A POSITION WHERE YOU NOT
00:32:59.41\00:33:03.85
ONLY COULD IDENTIFY IT, AS WE'RE
GOING TO TALK ABOUT THAT IN A
00:33:03.85\00:33:08.88
MOMENT, BUT NOW GOD HAS ALLOWED
YOU TO BECOME HIS EXTENDING ARM,
00:33:08.88\00:33:14.19
TO HELP PEOPLE HEAL, TO
HELP PEOPLE IDENTIFY IT.
00:33:14.19\00:33:17.73
AND WE'RE GOING
TO TALK ABOUT THAT.
00:33:17.73\00:33:20.23
YOU HAVE ANOTHER MINISTRY -- I
WANT TO SEGUE JUST BRIEFLY, AND
00:33:20.23\00:33:24.10
WHILE PEOPLE ARE THINKING
ABOUT WHAT YOU JUST SAID.
00:33:24.10\00:33:26.47
I WANT TO HIGHLIGHT, JUST
-- NOT TOO LONG AGO, WE HAD AN
00:33:26.47\00:33:30.41
OPPORTUNITY TO VISIT YOU IN ST.
LOUIS, MISSOURI, TO TALK ABOUT
00:33:30.41\00:33:35.21
HARRISON'S REFERRAL SERVICES.
TELL US WHY IS IT CALLED
00:33:35.21\00:33:37.68
HARRISON'S REFERRAL SERVICES,
JUST BEFORE WE SHOW THEM THIS
00:33:37.68\00:33:41.95
WONDERFUL VIDEO THAT LIGHTS
YOUR MINISTRY AND WHAT YOU DO.
00:33:41.95\00:33:46.35
>> WELL, HONESTLY, THE NAME
HARRISON'S REFERRAL SERVICES
00:33:46.35\00:33:52.59
CAME FROM MY
MAIDEN NAME. >> OKAY.
00:33:52.59\00:33:54.76
>> AND I JUST FELT
LIKE I JUST HAD TO USE IT.
00:33:54.76\00:34:00.14
I JUST FELT LIKE IT WAS MY -- MY
FOUNDATION OF WHERE I CAME FROM.
00:34:00.14\00:34:04.57
>> UH-HUH. >> IT'S
JUST A NAME, BUT IT WAS
00:34:04.57\00:34:07.88
THOUGH FOUNDATION OF THE
NAME THAT THIS ABUSE WAS FOUNDED
00:34:07.88\00:34:13.48
UPON. >> WOW.
00:34:13.48\00:34:14.12
>> IT'S WHERE I
CAME FROM. >> I SEE.
00:34:14.12\00:34:16.92
>> SO EVERY TIME I TALK ABOUT
HARRISON'S REFERRAL SERVICES, IT
00:34:16.92\00:34:20.06
BRINGS ME BACK TO WHERE
I NEVER WANT TO BE AGAIN.
00:34:20.06\00:34:23.43
IT TAKES ME BACK AND MAKES
ME STRONGER, SO THAT THE PERSON
00:34:23.43\00:34:27.60
SITTING IN FRONT OF ME -- I WANT
TO MAKE SURE THAT THEY DON'T
00:34:27.60\00:34:30.27
HAVE TO GO THROUGH
WHAT I WENT THROUGH.
00:34:30.27\00:34:32.73
>> THAT'S RIGHT. >> I
DON'T WANT THEM TO HAVE TO
00:34:32.73\00:34:35.94
GO THROUGH, LEAVING THEIR HOME,
OR -- YOU KNOW, TO THE POINT
00:34:35.94\00:34:40.28
THEY ARE UNRECOGNIZABLE. I
DON'T WANT THEM TO HAVE TO GO
00:34:40.28\00:34:43.91
TO THE EMERGENCY ROOM BECAUSE
THEY NEED STITCHES, OR THEIR
00:34:43.91\00:34:50.15
HEADS ARE SPLIT OPEN
OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT.
00:34:50.15\00:34:51.95
I WANT TO GET THEM TO THE POINT
WHERE YOU CAN GO FROM WHATEVER
00:34:51.95\00:34:55.72
YOU ARE GOING THROUGH, TO
GETTING THE WISDOM AND THE
00:34:55.72\00:34:59.09
GUIDANCE THAT YOU NEED, SO
THAT WAY YOU CAN MOVE FORWARD IN
00:34:59.09\00:35:05.40
PEACE AND HEALTH. AND
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS A PART
00:35:05.40\00:35:09.10
OF HEALTH. WE
TALK ABOUT THE HEALTH
00:35:09.10\00:35:11.17
MESSAGE. WE TALK
ABOUT BEING HEALTHY.
00:35:11.17\00:35:13.21
WE TALK ABOUT, YOU KNOW,
WHAT WE PUT IN OUR BODIES.
00:35:13.21\00:35:16.71
BUT WE DON'T UNDERSTAND THAT
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS A PART OF
00:35:16.71\00:35:20.38
HEALTH. >> DEALING
WITH IT AND GETTING
00:35:20.38\00:35:22.82
THAT RESOLVED
CONTRIBUTES TO YOUR HEALTH.
00:35:22.82\00:35:25.65
>> IT DOES. BECAUSE
DEPRESSION IS INVOLVED,
00:35:25.65\00:35:27.89
IT CAN LEAD TO DRUGS,
ALCOHOLISM, DEPRESSION IS A
00:35:27.89\00:35:32.03
REALLY BIG THING. A LOT
OF PEOPLE THAT I WORK WITH
00:35:32.03\00:35:36.16
IN THE MINISTRY NOW ARE
SUFFERING FROM DEPRESSION.
00:35:36.16\00:35:38.93
SOME ARE TRYING TO GET OFF OF
THE CIGARETTES AND THE ALCOHOL,
00:35:38.93\00:35:41.97
AND TRYING TO GET TO THE POINT
WHERE THEY CAN JUST FORGIVE.
00:35:41.97\00:35:47.78
AND SO I'M TRYING TO GET THEM
TO RELEASE THAT, AND JUST LET IT
00:35:47.78\00:35:52.91
GO, FORGIVE
YOURSELF, FORGIVE THE ABUSER.
00:35:52.91\00:35:55.68
TAKE THAT PAIN AND TURN IT INTO
POWER TO LIFT UP SOMEONE ELSE.
00:35:55.68\00:35:59.79
>> HOW DID YOU
DEAL WITH FORGIVENESS?
00:35:59.79\00:36:03.66
>> AT FIRST I DIDN'T
EVEN THINK ABOUT FORGIVENESS.
00:36:03.66\00:36:09.06
FORGIVENESS
WASN'T EVEN ON MY MIND.
00:36:09.06\00:36:10.63
I WAS ANGRY. I WAS
UPSET, AND EVEN THOUGH I
00:36:10.63\00:36:14.47
WAS GOING THROUGH THE ABUSE, TWO
WRONGS DIDN'T MAKE A RIGHT, AND
00:36:14.47\00:36:20.11
WHEN I WAS GOING THROUGH
MY ABUSE, MY FIRST HUSBAND
00:36:20.11\00:36:24.48
COMMITTED ADULTERY, HE WOULD
STAY OUT ALL NIGHT AND GAMBLE,
00:36:24.48\00:36:28.72
AND I WOULD STAY HOME WITH THE
CHILDREN, AND EVENTUALLY I JUST
00:36:28.72\00:36:32.65
GOT TIRED OF IT, AND I FOUND
MYSELF DOING THE SAME THING, NOT
00:36:32.65\00:36:36.99
KNOWING THAT EVEN THOUGH I HAD
A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD LATER IN
00:36:36.99\00:36:40.26
LIFE, AT THE TIME I
WASN'T GOING TO CHURCH.
00:36:40.26\00:36:42.63
I DIDN'T HAVE A
RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD.
00:36:42.63\00:36:45.23
I STILL HAD TO PAY FOR THAT SIN.
BECAUSE I WAS STILL MARRIED,
00:36:45.23\00:36:49.57
EVEN THOUGH HE
WAS MY ABUSER. >> WOW.
00:36:49.57\00:36:52.51
>> IT DIDN'T GIVE ME A LICENSE
TO GO OUT AND TO DO THE SAME
00:36:52.51\00:36:55.91
THING HE DID TO
ME. >> NO, IT DIDN'T.
00:36:55.91\00:36:58.35
>> WOW. WE'RE
GOING TO TALK ABOUT THAT.
00:36:58.35\00:37:00.58
>> OH, YEAH. >> WE'RE
GOING TO TALK ABOUT IT
00:37:00.58\00:37:03.45
IN THE SECOND
HALF OF THE PROGRAM.
00:37:03.45\00:37:05.75
YOU CAN SEE WE'RE ABOUT
TO OPEN UP THE SEVEN FACS.
00:37:05.75\00:37:11.39
BUT WE WANT TO HIGHLIGHT
LIZZIE CHAMBWA'S MINISTRY CALLED
00:37:11.39\00:37:17.00
HARRISON'S REFERRAL SERVICES.
AND RIGHT AFTER THIS, WE'LL COME
00:37:17.00\00:37:18.97
BACK AND CONTINUE
THE PROGRAM. >> YES.
00:37:18.97\00:37:27.58
¤ >> WELCOME TO ST. LOUIS, MOVE.
00:37:28.64\00:37:48.73
WE'RE SO GLAD TO
BE HERE, SHELLEY.
00:37:48.73\00:37:51.20
WE'RE IN FRONT
OF THE GATEWAY ARCH.
00:37:51.20\00:37:53.60
THIS IS WHAT LEWIS AND
CLARK -- THEY STARTED HERE AND
00:37:53.60\00:37:56.74
THEY WENT CLEAR TO THE PACIFIC
OCEAN, AND THAT WAS IN THE 19DTH
00:37:56.74\00:38:01.44
CENTURY. WHAT DO YOU THINK?
00:38:01.44\00:38:02.54
>> WELL, WE'RE HERE BECAUSE THIS
MAY BE THE GATEWAY TO THE WEST,
00:38:02.54\00:38:06.68
BUT WE'RE HERE TO TALK ABOUT
THE TRUE GATEWAY TO FREEDOM, AND
00:38:06.68\00:38:11.09
THAT IS JESUS CHRIST. >> MAIN.
00:38:11.09\00:38:12.49
>> WE'RE GOING TO BE
INTERVIEWING SOME FOLK FROM THE
00:38:12.49\00:38:18.09
HARRISON'S REFERRAL SERVICES,
AND WHAT THEY DO -- IT'S A
00:38:18.09\00:38:21.36
MARVELOUS MINSTRY, BUT THEY ARE
MINISTERING PRIMARILY TO PEOPLE
00:38:21.36\00:38:26.84
WHO ARE SUFFERING FROM
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, SO JOIN US.
00:38:26.84\00:38:30.11
¤
00:38:30.11\00:38:33.04
>> WELL, HERE AT HARRISON'S
REFERRAL SERVICES, WHAT I DO IS
00:38:39.21\00:38:41.58
I TAKE THE CALLS IN.
I WILL PRAY WITH THEM.
00:38:41.58\00:38:45.69
I WILL FIND OUT THEIR SITUATION,
ASSESS THE SITUATION, FIND OUT
00:38:45.69\00:38:49.56
WHETHER THEY ARE IN
DANGER -- IMMEDIATE DANGER, AND
00:38:49.56\00:38:53.33
THEN WE REFER THEM TO
SHELTERS. WE HAVE CARE PACKAGES.
00:38:53.33\00:38:57.57
WE HAVE BIBLE STUDY. WE
HAVE TRANSITIONAL HOUSING IF
00:38:57.57\00:39:01.54
THEY ARE TRANSITIONING FROM
THE SHELTER BACK INTO THEIR NEW
00:39:01.54\00:39:05.34
HOMES WITH FOOD AND ITEMS
AND DIFFERENT THINGS LIKE THAT.
00:39:05.34\00:39:08.14
WE ALSO GET THEM INVOLVED IN THE
COMMUNITY TO GIVE BACK, BECAUSE
00:39:08.14\00:39:11.68
WE WANT THEM TO UNDERSTAND THAT
WHAT HAPPENED TO THEM IS NOT
00:39:11.68\00:39:18.72
THEIR FAULT. >>
HIS FRUSTRATION AND HIS
00:39:18.72\00:39:24.69
ANGER, SO THINGS WOULD HAPPEN
AND ARGUMENTS WOULD COME, AND IT
00:39:24.69\00:39:30.60
TORE THE WHOLE FAMILY
DOWN. WE HAVE CHILDREN TOGETHER.
00:39:30.60\00:39:33.67
AND IT BECAME TO ME EMOTIONAL
FOR THEM, AS WELL AS EXTREME I
00:39:33.67\00:39:37.81
WILL EMOTIONAL FOR ME, SO AT
THAT POINT, I REALIZED I WAS IN
00:39:37.81\00:39:42.21
A BATTLE TO DO WHAT WAS
BEST FOR ME AND MY CHILDREN.
00:39:42.21\00:39:45.98
I WAS BROUGHT UP WITHOUT A
FATHER, SO BEING BROUGHT UP
00:39:45.98\00:39:49.42
WITHOUT A FATHER, YOU FEEL LIKE
THE MOST I WANT TO DO IS GIVE MY
00:39:49.42\00:39:53.72
CHILDREN A TWO-PART HOME, SO
YOU STAY IN SOMETHING THAT IS
00:39:53.72\00:39:57.43
EMOTIONALLY TEARING YOU DOWN,
WHEN ACTUALLY YOU ARE HURTING
-THE CHILDREN AS WELL AS
00:39:57.43\00:40:02.90
YOURSELF BECAUSE IT'S BETTER FOR
THEM TO HAVE AN EMOTIONAL STABLE
00:40:02.90\00:40:07.44
LIFE, THAN AN
EMOTIONAL UNSTABLE LIFE. ¤
00:40:07.44\00:40:12.81
>> AS I STARTED THE MINISTRY IN
2002, OUT OF A LITTLE JEEP THAT
00:40:12.81\00:40:17.55
I USED TO HAVE, AND I JUST WENT
THROUGH THE NEIGHBORHOOD JUST
00:40:17.55\00:40:20.82
TRYING TO FIND PEOPLE I COULD
HELP, AND I WENT INTO DOWNTOWN
00:40:20.82\00:40:24.52
ST. LOUIS, AND THE LOW-INCOME
HOUSING PROJECTS AND I JUST
00:40:24.52\00:40:28.62
MOTHERS WITH THEIR BABIES IN THE
COMMUNITY, AND I JUST HAD EXTRA
00:40:28.62\00:40:32.46
THINGS IN THE CAR I WOULD GIVE
AWAY TO THEM AND TALK TO THEM,
00:40:32.46\00:40:36.40
AND JON -- YOU
KNOW, JUST PRAY WITH THEM.
00:40:36.40\00:40:41.27
I TURNED MY PAIN INTO POWR BY
GIVING TO OTHERS, AND I REALIZED
00:40:41.27\00:40:45.41
WHEN I WAS HELPING OTHERS,
I FELT SO MUCH MORE PEACEFUL.
00:40:45.41\00:40:49.41
>> IT -- IT STARTED GETTING
PHYSICAL TOWARDS THE END, LIKE I
00:40:49.41\00:40:56.95
SAY, HE BROKE MY JAW, AND
THEN ONE TIME WE GOT INTO IT, HE
00:40:56.95\00:41:02.02
FOUGHT ME REALLY BAD AND WAS
TRYING TO STOMP ME ON MY FACE,
00:41:02.02\00:41:06.03
AND FOR MONTHS AND YEARS --
I THINK I STAYED BECAUSE I HAD
00:41:06.03\00:41:09.80
SMALL KIDS THEY WERE IN SCHOOL,
AND LIKE I SAY, HE WAS PROVIDING
00:41:09.80\00:41:13.20
FOR US AND STUFF LIKE THAT,
SO WHEN MY DAUGHTER FINALLY
00:41:13.20\00:41:18.51
GRADUATED FROM HIGH SCHOOL, I
MADE UP IN MY MIND, I'M GOING TO
00:41:18.51\00:41:21.61
LEAVE, BUT I DIDN'T KNOW HOW
TO LEAVE, BECAUSE LIKE I SAY HE
00:41:21.61\00:41:26.35
TOOK CARE OF EVERYTHING.
SO ONE DAY HE WAS GONE, AND I
00:41:26.35\00:41:30.12
JUST SAID THIS IS MY
TIME TO GO, AND I JUST LEFT.
00:41:30.12\00:41:33.05
I JUST LEFT
EVERYTHING. I JUST LEFT.
00:41:33.05\00:41:37.79
AND I CAME ACROSS -- I WAS
OUTSIDE, AND I WAS LIKE, I DON'T
00:41:37.79\00:41:41.43
HAVE ANYTHING. I
DON'T HAVE ANYTHING.
00:41:41.43\00:41:43.67
AND I MET HER, AND WE CROSSED
PATHS, AND SHE CAME BACK AND
00:41:43.67\00:41:49.07
SAID THAT GOD TOLD HER TO GIVE
ME THE PAMPHLET, AND I GOT ON
00:41:49.07\00:41:54.24
THE BUS, AND I WAS READING
THE PAMPHLET, AND SOMETHING SAID
00:41:54.24\00:41:58.41
CALL HER. AND SO I
CALLED HER, AND THAT'S
00:41:58.41\00:42:02.82
WHEN MY WHOLE LIFE CHANGED.
IT CHANGED FOR THE BETTER.
00:42:02.82\00:42:06.29
I DIDN'T REALLY HAVE
A RELATIONSHIP FOR GOD.
00:42:06.29\00:42:09.22
AND I STARTED TALKING TO
LIZ. SHE GOT ME INTO A WOMEN'S
00:42:09.22\00:42:13.03
SHELTER, AND WE STARTED HAVING
GROUP STUDIES AND STUFF LIKE
00:42:13.03\00:42:16.56
THAT. AND I
STARTED INCREASING MY
00:42:16.56\00:42:19.30
RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD, AND HE
STARTED SHOWING ME A BETTER WAY
00:42:19.30\00:42:22.40
OF LIFE, AND THINGS JUST STARTED
IMPROVING FOR ME, AND NOW, YOU
00:42:22.40\00:42:26.81
KNOW, MY RELATIONSHIP
WITH CHRIST IS AWESOME.
00:42:26.81\00:42:29.91
I'M HIS DAUGHTER, AND I KNOW
HE LOVES ME, AND HE HAS SHOWN ME
00:42:29.91\00:42:35.78
THAT, AND I'M JUST
HAPPY WHERE I AM NOW.
00:42:35.78\00:42:38.45
¤ >> I'M THANKFUL FOR THE
00:42:38.45\00:42:46.26
PRIVILEGE TO BE
ABLE TO SERVE GOD.
00:42:46.26\00:42:48.20
I'M THANKFUL FOR THE PRIVILEGE
OF LIFE EVERY DAY, EVERY MOMENT.
00:42:48.20\00:42:52.83
I DON'T WANT TO WASTE IT. I
DON'T WANT TO WASTE IT ON, YOU
00:42:52.83\00:42:58.64
KNOW, THINGS THAT I WANT TO
DO FOR MYSELF, WHICH IS A GOOD
00:42:58.64\00:43:02.91
THING TO TAKE CARE OF OURSELVES,
BUT EVERY DAY I WAKE UP AND SAY
00:43:02.91\00:43:07.58
IT'S A NEW DAY, WHO CAN
I BE A BLESSING FOR TODAY?
00:43:07.58\00:43:13.79
>> IT WAS MY STEPFATHER THAT
FIRST ABUSED ME, AND LATER ON IN
00:43:13.79\00:43:18.59
THE YEARS, I HAD -- AT 13, GOT
PREGNANT, AND HAD THE BABY AT
00:43:18.59\00:43:26.67
14, AND THEN I HAD MET
THIS --THIS GUY FROM DOWN
00:43:26.67\00:43:30.87
SOUTH. THAT'S THE
ONE THAT -- MY MOTHER
00:43:30.87\00:43:32.87
AND MY -- AND HER
BROTHER MARRIED ME OFF TO.
00:43:32.87\00:43:37.78
I WAS 17. I WASN'T OLD ENOUGH.
00:43:37.78\00:43:42.78
SO SOME WAY I STILL WAS
MARRIED -TO HIM. AND HE WAS VERY
00:43:42.78\00:43:47.09
ABUSIVE. AND WE MOVED OUT, AND
WE WERE LIVING IN [ INAUDIBLE ]
00:43:47.09\00:43:53.43
BECAUSE HE LIKED THE [ INAUDIBLE
]. AND HE WOULD TAKE THE INCOME
00:43:53.43\00:43:58.33
AND BACK -- EVERY -- EVERY
MONTH, AND WE WERE STILL LIVING
00:43:58.33\00:44:01.90
IN THE CAR. GOT WORSE AND WORSE.
00:44:01.90\00:44:03.44
AND HE STARTED HOLLERING AT THE
CHILDREN, HOLLERING AT ME, MAKES
00:44:03.44\00:44:08.74
THE CHILDREN
HOLLER LOUDER AND LOUDER.
00:44:08.74\00:44:10.85
THEY WERE SCARED OF
HIM. I WAS SCARED OF HIM.
00:44:10.85\00:44:14.12
AND I WAS CONFUSED AND DIDN'T
HAVE NOWHERE TO GO, BECAUSE I
00:44:14.12\00:44:18.92
DIDN'T WANT TO GO BACK
HOME, BECAUSE -- IT WAS WORSE.
00:44:18.92\00:44:23.89
SO I JUST STAYED WITH HIM. ¤
00:44:23.89\00:44:27.60
>> A LOT OF PEOPLE GO THROUGH
PHYSICAL ABUSE AND THEY GO
00:44:27.60\00:44:31.17
THROUGH A LOT OF THINGS.
MINE WAS MORE ON AN EMOTIONAL
00:44:31.17\00:44:34.87
ABUSE ISSUE, AND I DIDN'T
REALIZE, YOU KNOW, GROWING UP,
00:44:34.87\00:44:38.44
YOU THINK THAT A DOMESTIC ABUSE
RELATIONSHIP IS SOLELY JUST
00:44:38.44\00:44:48.38
PHYSICAL. BUT IF
ANYTHING TAKES DOWN YOUR
00:44:48.38\00:44:52.12
SELF-ESTEEM.
TAKES DOWN YOUR VALUE OF
00:44:52.12\00:44:54.56
YOURSELF, IT BECOMES ABUSE.
IT BECOMES TO THE POINT THAT YOU
00:44:54.56\00:44:58.36
DON'T VALUE YOURSELF
THE SAME, IT BECOMES ABUSE.
00:44:58.36\00:45:01.10
>> HE WASN'T REALLY ABUSIVE IN
THE BEGINNING, WASN'T PHYSICALLY
00:45:01.10\00:45:07.64
ABUSIVE, BUT MORE
EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE.
00:45:07.64\00:45:10.47
HE DIDN'T WANT ME
TO BE AROUND MY FAMILY.
00:45:10.47\00:45:13.78
ALWAYS KEPT ME ISOLATED ALWAYS
WANTED TO KNOW WHERE MY WHERE
00:45:13.78\00:45:24.02
ABS WERE. AND I
WAS LIKE THAT'S NOT
00:45:24.02\00:45:26.62
HEALTHY. ONE DAY
MY DAUGHTER CAME HOME
00:45:26.62\00:45:28.96
AND HE LOCKED US OUT. AND
MY DAUGHTER CAME TO ME AND
00:45:28.96\00:45:33.36
SAID MOM, WE ARE GOING
TO HAVE NOVEMBER AGAIN?
00:45:33.36\00:45:37.00
AND I STARTED PAYING ATTENTION.
AND HE WOULD GET MAD AT ME FOR
00:45:37.00\00:45:42.94
CERTAIN THINGS, AND TAKE THE
GIFTS THAT WE GAVE ME AND TRY TO
00:45:42.94\00:45:47.11
HIDE THEM, OR MAKE ME PAY
BY TAKING THINGS AWAY FOR ME.
00:45:47.11\00:45:50.85
AND I'M LIKE, YOU BOUGHT
THESE THINGS TO CONTROL ME.
00:45:50.85\00:45:54.68
THOSE ARE NOT FOR ME, THEY
ARE FOR CONTROLLING, SO -- SO I
00:45:54.68\00:45:59.09
THINK THAT'S HOW IT STARTED.
>> YOU KNOW WHAT I LOVE YOU
00:45:59.09\00:46:04.26
MENTIONED EARLIER WHEN WE WERE
TALKING -- BEFORE WE SAT HERE,
00:46:04.26\00:46:08.16
THAT AS YOU ARE GOING -- TAKING
THESE LADIES THROUGH A -- BIBLE
00:46:08.16\00:46:19.31
STUDY, AND THEY BECOME
BAPTIZED, THEN YOU PUT THEM IN A
00:46:19.31\00:46:24.28
DESIMPLESHIP PROGRAM. AND
THAT'S WHAT SOLIDIFIES THEIR
00:46:24.28\00:46:29.98
RELATIONSHIP WITH CHRIST.
I'M NOT SURE WHO SAID IT FIRST,
00:46:29.98\00:46:32.92
BUT YOU LEARN TO TEACH, BUT YOU
TEACH TO LEARN, SO THAT REALLY
00:46:32.92\00:46:38.16
DOES SOLIDIFY. >> WITH
OUR WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP,
00:46:38.16\00:46:42.53
WE ENCOURAGE THOSE WOMAN IN
FORGIVENESS, AND GIVING BACK
00:46:42.53\00:46:47.20
THROUGH THEIR TESTIMONY.
WE'RE HERE AS A SUPPORT SYSTEM
00:46:47.20\00:46:50.71
TO GET YOU FROM -- FROM
THE -- THE ABUSIVE SITUATION TO
00:46:50.71\00:46:56.18
A SAFER SITUATION, AND THEN WE
CAN HELP REHABILITATE, AND HELP
00:46:56.18\00:47:02.08
WITH PREVENTION AND INTERVENTION
OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, AND
00:47:02.08\00:47:05.49
TEACHING THEM HOW THEY
CAN BE THERE FOR SOMEONE ELSE.
00:47:05.49\00:47:08.39
>> WE CERTAINLY KNOW
HOW PASSIONATE YOU ARE.
00:47:08.39\00:47:11.33
IT IS JUST WRITTEN ALL OVER YOU,
AND WE TALK TO OTHER PEOPLE THAT
00:47:11.33\00:47:17.90
ARE FUNDAMENTAL WITH HARRISON'S
REFERRAL SERVICES, AND YOU ARE
00:47:17.90\00:47:20.70
JUST A SPECIAL, SPECIAL LADY.
AND I KNOW A LOT OF PEOPLE OUT
00:47:20.70\00:47:26.68
THERE ARE ON FIRE WITH
THE LORD. AND YOU HAVE THAT
00:47:26.68\00:47:33.45
STICK-TO-IT-NESS. >> DO
YOU EVER FEEL DISCOURAGED?
00:47:33.45\00:47:35.78
>> I HAVE MY MOMENTS,
BUT I FEEL EXTRA SPECIAL.
00:47:35.78\00:47:39.59
I KNOW THAT'S PROBLEM SOMETHING
THAT PEOPLE SAY, WHAT DOES SHE
00:47:39.59\00:47:42.72
MEAN? I JUST FEEL
EXTRA SPECIAL WITH
00:47:42.72\00:47:45.03
GOD. I JUST FEEL
LIKE, I KNOW WHAT
00:47:45.03\00:47:47.40
I'M SUPPOSED TO DO. IT'S
DIFFERENT WHEN -- WHEN YOU
00:47:47.40\00:47:51.07
ARE BETWEEN -- I DON'T KNOW WHAT
I'M SUPPOSED TO DO, AND WHERE
00:47:51.07\00:47:55.14
GOT WANTS ME. MY
PRAYER EVERY DAY TO GOD IS
00:47:55.14\00:47:59.21
GOD, I WANT TO BE WHERE YOU
ARE, WHERE YOU WANT ME TO BE.
00:47:59.21\00:48:04.55
ONE THING THAT I KNOW GOD KNOWS
ABOUT ME, IS THAT I'M REALLY
00:48:04.55\00:48:11.52
ANXIOUS. I HAVE
A DRIVE FOR SOULS.
00:48:11.52\00:48:15.66
I LOVE
EVANGELISM. I LOVE MINISTRY.
00:48:15.66\00:48:18.19
I LOVE HELPING PEOPLE. I
LOVE MINISTERING TO THEM.
00:48:18.19\00:48:24.07
BECAUSE NO ONE WAS THERE FOR ME.
SO I WANT TO MAKE SURE I'M THERE
00:48:24.07\00:48:30.47
FOR THEM. BUT I
KNOW GOD IS THE ULTIMATE
00:48:30.47\00:48:33.58
TOOL. BUT IF GOD
PUTS SOMEONE IN MY
00:48:33.58\00:48:36.48
PATH, I WANT TO BE READY, AND
EVERY DAY I SAY, GOD, USE ME TO
00:48:36.48\00:48:41.58
BE A BLESSING TO SOMEONE,
EVEN JUST TO TOUCH THEM ON THE
00:48:41.58\00:48:45.75
SHOULDER TO SAY THINGS
ARE GOING TO BE JUST FINE.
00:48:45.75\00:48:48.39
I HAVE MY OWN
STRUGGLES EVERY DAY.
00:48:48.39\00:48:50.93
I STILL HAVE MY OWN UPS AND
DOWNS, AND SOMETIMES I FEEL A
00:48:50.93\00:48:54.03
LITTLE BIT DISCOURAGED, BUT
THEN I GET THIS -- THIS PILE OF
00:48:54.03\00:48:58.60
ENERGY THAT TELLS ME, DON'T
BE DISCOURAGED, I GOT THIS.
00:48:58.60\00:49:03.54
JUST STAY FOCUSED. >> I
CAN'T LET THIS END WITHOUT
00:49:03.54\00:49:07.68
ASKING YOU -- THERE'S
SOMEONE -- MORE THAN SOMEONE,
00:49:07.68\00:49:12.51
UNFORTUNATELY, WHO IS.
WATCHING TODAY WHO IS IN AN
00:49:12.51\00:49:18.52
ABUSIVE SITUATION -- AS I SAID,
THEY MAY NOT BE IN ST. LOUIS.
00:49:18.52\00:49:23.19
HOW -- WHAT WOULD YOU RECOMMEND,
IF SOMEONE IS IN AN ABUSIVE
00:49:23.19\00:49:29.13
SITUATION? >> THE
FIRST THING I WOULD SAY
00:49:29.13\00:49:31.43
IS STOP, DROP, AND
PRAY. THAT'S THE FIRST THING.
00:49:31.43\00:49:34.30
IF YOU ARE ABLE TO DO THAT.
CALL THE POLICE IF YOU ARE IN
00:49:34.30\00:49:39.14
ANY TYPE OF --
ESPECIALLY F PHYSICAL ABUSE.
00:49:39.14\00:49:45.85
THERE ARE SO MANY
DIFFERENT TYPES OF ABUSE.
00:49:45.85\00:49:48.35
CALL THE POLICE, FIND OUT WHAT
YOUR NEXT LEVEL -- OR NEXT STEP
00:49:48.35\00:49:51.79
YOU NEED TO GET TO. A
LOT OF TIMES THEY WILL HELP
00:49:51.79\00:49:55.16
YOU GET INTO SHELTERS, OR FIND
LOVED ONE THAT MAYBE YOU CAN
00:49:55.16\00:50:01.26
STAY WITH FOR JUST A
TIME FOR YOU TO TRANSITION.
00:50:01.26\00:50:04.73
JUST PRAY AND ASK GOD
WHAT IS YOUR NEXT STEP?
00:50:04.73\00:50:08.04
AND HE WILL LEAD AND GUIDE YOU.
IF YOU GET AHOLD OF HARRISON'S
00:50:08.04\00:50:11.81
REFERRAL
SERVICES. THEY CAN CALL ME.
00:50:11.81\00:50:14.04
I CAN LEAD THEM
THROUGH THAT STEP BY STEP.
00:50:14.04\00:50:17.31
IF YOU'RE HERE IN ST.
LOUIS, I WILL HELP YOU.
00:50:17.31\00:50:24.62
I CAN HELP GET YOU
TO THAT NEXT LEVEL.
00:50:24.62\00:50:27.69
IF THAT MEANS TO GET YOU TO A
SAFE SITUATION WHERE YOU CAN
-THINK AND FOCUS AND PRAY, AND
00:50:27.69\00:50:34.83
MOST DEFINITELY SURROUND
YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE THAT ARE
00:50:34.83\00:50:39.27
GOD FEARING, THAT LOVE
GOD. GOD IS HERE TO HELP US.
00:50:39.27\00:50:45.11
AND EVEN WHEN YOU ARE FEELING
DISCOURAGED, GOD SAYS CALL UPON
00:50:45.11\00:50:48.91
ME AND I WILL BE
HERE FOR YOU. >> AMEN.
00:50:48.91\00:50:51.91
>> LIFE IS MUCH BETTER
NOW SINCE I CAME INTO CHRIST.
00:50:51.91\00:51:00.26
THIS MINISTRY HELPED ME AND
GAVE ME STRENGTH TO KEEP GOIN.
00:51:00.26\00:51:04.89
I STILL KNOW THAT GOD
LOVES ME. AND HE'S IN HERE.
00:51:04.89\00:51:11.00
¤ >> MY
FOUNDATION WITH CHRIST HAS
00:51:11.00\00:51:14.87
CARRIED ME THROUGH
EVERYTHING I HAVE BEEN THROUGH.
00:51:14.87\00:51:17.27
KNOWING I CAN SEEK HIM, AND
KNOWING HE HAS BEEN MY PROVIDER
00:51:17.27\00:51:21.64
AND WAY MAKER.
KNOWING THAT HE HAS CARRIED ME
00:51:21.64\00:51:24.58
FROM PLACES IN MY LIFE THAT MOST
PEOPLE WOULD NEVER EVER COME OUT
00:51:24.58\00:51:28.95
OF, BUT I PRAY THAT THEY WILL
UNDERSTAND THAT YOU CAN WALK OUT
00:51:28.95\00:51:32.42
AND YOU CAN BE FAITHFUL TO
CHRIST AND HE WILL BE FAITHFUL
00:51:32.42\00:51:35.82
TO YOU. THE THINGS
THAT I THOUGHT THAT I
00:51:35.82\00:51:38.16
WAS GIVING UP, WHEN I
SURRENDERED TOTALLY AND
00:51:38.16\00:51:44.00
COMPLETELY FOR CHRIST, I
HAVE GAINED SO MUCH MORE.
00:51:44.00\00:51:46.33
>> FANTASTIC TESTIMONIES,
WEREN'T THEY, SHELLEY?
00:51:46.33\00:51:49.50
>> YES, THEY WERE. BUT
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE COVERS
00:51:49.50\00:51:53.91
EVERY SOCIAL AND
ECONOMIC STRATUS.
00:51:53.91\00:51:57.15
IT REALLY IS PERVASIVE, SO AS
YOU ARE GIVING UP, AND OFFERING
00:51:57.15\00:52:01.35
A THANKS GIVING TO THE LORD
THIS-YEAR, BE SURE AND THANK HIM
FOR PEOPLE LIKE LIZZIE, WHO HAVE
00:52:01.35\00:52:08.19
SUCH A PASION TO
HELP THOSE WHO ARE LOST.
00:52:08.19\00:52:12.43
>> THAT'S RIGHT. ¤
00:52:12.43\00:52:18.07
>> WOW, THAT WAS
VERY INFORMATIVE.
00:52:22.70\00:52:25.07
>> YEAH. >> WHAT DO YOU THINK?
00:52:25.07\00:52:26.31
>> YEAH, IT WAS. IT
TOUCHED MY HEART TO SEE WHAT
00:52:26.31\00:52:30.58
THESE LADIES HAVE GONE THROUGH,
AND WHILE WE WERE WATCHING, I
00:52:30.58\00:52:36.62
SAW YOU -- IT
REALLY GOT TO YOUR HEART.
00:52:36.62\00:52:40.76
>> YES. >> HOW
ARE YOU FEELING NOW?
00:52:40.76\00:52:43.02
>> WELL YOU KNOW, I -- I LOOK
BACK AND I JUST CAN'T BELIEVE
00:52:43.02\00:52:47.76
IT. >> I KNOW.
00:52:47.76\00:52:49.50
>> YOU KNOW, AND THE GOOD
PART ABOUT IT IS, THESE LADIES
00:52:49.50\00:52:52.53
THEY -- THEY ARE
IN CHURCH NOW. >> YES.
00:52:52.53\00:52:55.70
>> YOU KNOW? AND
NOW THEY ARE TALKING TO
00:52:55.70\00:52:58.24
OTHER WOMEN AND SHARING
THEIR TESTIMONIES WITH THEM, AND
00:52:58.24\00:53:01.54
ENCOURAGING OTHERS, AND JUST
SHARING HOW THEY STARTED WITH
00:53:01.54\00:53:05.71
HARRISON'S REFERRAL SERVICES,
AND WHERE, YOU KNOW, THEY ARE AT
00:53:05.71\00:53:08.05
NOW, SO IT'S ALL ABOUT
LIFTING UP AND BUILDING --
00:53:08.05\00:53:10.85
>> YES. >> --
THAT -- THAT CHARACTER.
00:53:10.85\00:53:13.92
BUILDING UP THAT ENERGY, YOU
KNOW, TO SAY, YOU KNOW, IM HERE
00:53:13.92\00:53:18.13
FOR YOU. I'LL TAKE
WHAT GOD HAS GIVEN ME
00:53:18.13\00:53:21.23
TO STRENGTHEN ME THROUGH WHAT I
HAVE BEEN THROUGH, AND I'M GOING
00:53:21.23\00:53:24.70
TO GIVE THAT ENERGY TO
YOU. I CALL THAT AN INVESTMENT.
00:53:24.70\00:53:28.47
>> YES. >> WOW, AN INVESTMENT.
00:53:28.47\00:53:33.41
YOU'LL ALWAYS GET
BACK WHEN YOU GIVE.
00:53:33.41\00:53:36.38
>> THESE LADIES
HOW DID YOU FIND THEM?
00:53:36.38\00:53:40.85
>> JUST RUNNING MY ERRANDS, AND
I WOULD BE WALKING, AND THE LORD
00:53:40.85\00:53:44.95
WOULD SAY STOP HER, TALK
TO HER, GIVE HER YOUR CARD.
00:53:44.95\00:53:51.16
LIKE THE ONE LADY ON THE BUS,
I JUST STOPPED AND SAID I DON'T
00:53:51.16\00:53:56.83
KNOW WHAT IT IS BUT GOD TOLD ME
TO GIVE YOU MY PAMPHLET, AND SHE
00:53:56.83\00:54:05.04
CALLED ME WITHIN ABOUT AN
HOUR, AND WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER
00:54:05.04\00:54:09.41
NOW -- ABOUT 12
YEARS. >> REALLY?
00:54:09.41\00:54:12.01
>> MOST OF THE OTHER LADIES
IN THE VIDEO, WE'RE STILL REALLY
00:54:12.01\00:54:17.19
CLOSE, EVERY DAY. >> AND
THESE ARE PEOPLE THAT GOD
00:54:17.19\00:54:21.56
IS LEADING YOU TO. WE
HAVEN'T EVEN GOTTEN TO THE
00:54:21.56\00:54:27.03
SEVEN FACES YET. >> I KNOW.
00:54:27.03\00:54:28.76
AND IN THE SECOND HALF
WE'RE GOING TO TAKE CALLS AND
00:54:28.76\00:54:33.67
QUESTIONS. AND COMMENTS.
00:54:33.67\00:54:35.07
>> INTRODUCE THE
FIRST FACE OF ABUSE.
00:54:35.07\00:54:37.84
>> THE FIRST FACE
OF ABUSE IS VERBAL.
00:54:37.84\00:54:40.78
VERBAL ABUSE IS
A MAJOR TEAR DOWN.
00:54:40.78\00:54:43.58
>> YES. >> I
REMEMBER WHEN I WAS GOING
00:54:43.58\00:54:45.28
THROUGH VERBAL ABUSE -- THAT'S
WHEN SOMEONE PUTS YOU DOWN, AND
00:54:45.28\00:54:49.88
TELLS YOU WILL
NEVER BE ANYTHING.
00:54:49.88\00:54:52.62
NOBODY EVER WANT
YOU. THEY CALL YOU NAMES.
00:54:52.62\00:54:55.29
THEY MAKE YOU FEEL UNWORTHY,
TO THE POINT WHERE AFTER A WHILE
00:54:55.29\00:54:59.86
YOU DON'T LOVE YOURS.
YOU DON'T FEEL BEAUTIFUL.
00:54:59.86\00:55:02.86
YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE
YOU ARE NEEDED IN SOCIETY.
00:55:02.86\00:55:05.40
AND THAT ALSO
BRINGS ON DEPRESSION.
00:55:05.40\00:55:08.10
ALSO LEADS TO STRESS
AND HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE.
00:55:08.10\00:55:12.91
IT ALSO LEADS TO
SUICIDE TENDENCIES AS WELL.
00:55:12.91\00:55:15.88
I HAD A LOT OF LADIES THAT WOULD
CALL ME WITH SUICIDAL TENDENCIES
00:55:15.88\00:55:21.05
THAT WOULD WANT TO KILL
THEMSELVES BECAUSE OF THE VERBAL
00:55:21.05\00:55:24.59
ABUSE, THE YELLING AND
SCREAMING AND PUTDOWNS.
00:55:24.59\00:55:27.59
AND THESE WERE WOMEN
THAT WERE HIGHLY EDUCATED.
00:55:27.59\00:55:30.89
YOU KNOW, THEY HAD PhD'S AND
THEY WERE REALLY WELL-KNOWN BY
00:55:30.89\00:55:35.53
OTHER PEOPLE, BUT IN AN ABUSIVE
RELATIONSHIP, YOU CAN GO FROM
00:55:35.53\00:55:40.64
ONE STAGE OF YOUR LIFE TO ALL OF
A SUDDEN FEELING LIKE NOTHING.
00:55:40.64\00:55:44.74
SO VERBAL ABUSE IS SOMETHING
THAT -- WE WANT TO MAKE SURE YOU
00:55:44.74\00:55:48.11
LOOK OUT FOR THOSE THINGS, IF
YOU FEEL LIKE SOMEONE IS PUTTING
00:55:48.11\00:55:51.31
YOU DOWN OR MAKING YOU
FEEL BAD, YOU KNOW, THAT'S NOT
00:55:51.31\00:55:54.52
LOVE -- IT'S NOT LOVE AT ALL.
AND PLEASE WE ASK -- THAT'S A
00:55:54.52\00:55:59.82
RED FLAG. >> THAT'S RIGHT.
00:55:59.82\00:56:01.69
>> YOU MIGHT SAY HE DIDN'T MEAN
THAT, OR SHE DIDN'T MEAN THAT.
00:56:01.69\00:56:05.73
OF COURSE IF SOMEONE SAYS THOSE
THINGS TO YOU, THEY MEAN IT.
00:56:05.73\00:56:08.76
>> DON'T EXCUSE
IT IN OTHER WORDS.
00:56:08.76\00:56:12.40
>> YES. AND WHEN
SOMEONE SHOWS YOU WHO
00:56:12.40\00:56:14.54
THEY ARE, BELIEVE THEM.
>> AND THE VERBAL ABUSE IS
00:56:14.54\00:56:18.21
SOMETIMES WORSE
THAN PHYSICAL ABUSE.
00:56:18.21\00:56:20.18
I HAVE A RELATIVE
THAT HAS GONE THROUGH THAT.
00:56:20.18\00:56:23.24
AND THE PERSON SAID THE VERBAL
ABUSE WAS JUST HORRIFIC, BECAUSE
00:56:23.24\00:56:27.08
YOU FEEL LIKE YOU ARE NOTHING.
>> AND IT'S SO TRUE, BECAUSE IT
00:56:27.08\00:56:30.82
ALSO EXTENDS TO THE CHILDREN.
AND I TIE THE VERBAL ABUSE IN
00:56:30.82\00:56:36.62
WITH BULLYING. I LOOK
AT AN ABUSER AS A BULLY.
00:56:36.62\00:56:43.67
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND VERBAL
ABUSE IS A PART OF BULLYING.
00:56:43.67\00:56:47.84
I BELIEVE AN ABUSER IS A BULLY.
THEY TEAR YOU DOWN AND TO MAKE
00:56:47.84\00:56:52.74
YOU FEEL LESS OF YOURSELF.
THAT'S HOW THE ABUSER GAINS
00:56:52.74\00:56:56.68
CONTROL. THAT'S THE
FIRST STEP OF GAINING
00:56:56.68\00:56:58.25
THE CONTROL, AND THAT'S
WHEN EVERYTHING ELSE COMES IN.
00:56:58.25\00:57:02.55
>> SMASH YOUR VALUES, SO
THAT YOU'LL THINK YOUR VALUE IS
00:57:02.55\00:57:06.76
LOCKED INTO THE PERSON. >>
YES, AND THE ABUSER WILL MAKE
00:57:06.76\00:57:10.46
YOU FEEL LIKE YOU NEED THEM.
EVERY TOOL THAT THEY HAVE, IS
00:57:10.46\00:57:15.23
GOING TO COME FROM
THEM. I'M THE PROVIDER.
00:57:15.23\00:57:18.13
I'M THE ONE THAT MAKES THE
MONEY, THAT PAYS THE BILLS, THAT
00:57:18.13\00:57:21.87
PUTS THE ROOF OVER YOUR HEAD.
>> HOLD THAT THOUGHT, BECAUSE WE
00:57:21.87\00:57:26.88
HAVE ABOUT 22 SECONDS
BEFORE THEN OF THE FIRST HOUR.
00:57:26.88\00:57:31.81
THIS PROGRAM IS NOT JUST SHARING
WITH YOU WHAT HAPPENS, BUT HOW
00:57:31.81\00:57:39.62
TO FIND DELIVERANCE
FROM ANY KIND OF ABUSE.
00:57:39.62\00:57:42.66
DON'T GO AWAY. WE'RE
GOING TO TAKE ABOUT TWO
00:57:42.66\00:57:46.03
MINUTES, AND
WE'LL BE RIGHT BACK.
00:57:46.03\00:57:47.40
¤
00:57:47.40\00:57:49.20