I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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I want to spend my life
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Removing pain
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Lord, let my words
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Heal a heart that hurts
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I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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Hello and welcome
to 3ABN Family Worship.
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My name is John
Dinzey, and I am glad that
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my wife Idalia is with me today.
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And we're glad that
you are also with us
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so that this family can join
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with your family
in family worship.
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That's right.
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We always look
forward to Friday evening,
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sundown family
worship to receive the Sabbath
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and share
experiences of the week
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and grow together as a family.
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When we sit and
reminisce about the experiences
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we've had with our children,
sometimes we laugh and,
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of course, we thank the Lord
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for everything He has
done through the ministry
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of our family worship at home.
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Amen. Amen.
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Well, we have some members
of the family that are visiting
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and we have Tom and
Alane Waters, welcome.
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It's great to be
here. Nice to be with you.
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We love this topic
too, family worship.
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Amen.
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And we want to do
family worship with you.
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That's right. Amen.
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We're glad that you're
here and we want to welcome
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every one of you
that are joining.
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We know some of you may not be
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with all the family
members of your household,
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but we hope that you will
join in this family worship.
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Before we continue,
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we are going to go
to the Lord in prayer
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and we want to
invite you to join us,
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so that you can be
part of the blessing.
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So, Idalia, let's go
to the Lord in prayer.
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What if we asked the Lord
to be part of this meeting?
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Our loving heavenly Father,
we are grateful to You, Lord,
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because another week has ended,
another week of challenges
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or some difficulties,
problems they faced.
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We ask that You will help us
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to put those behind us
and focus in spending time
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with one another and
spending time with You.
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We thank you,
Lord, for the scriptures
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that are able make
us wise unto salvation.
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Yes.
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And we thank You that
the scriptures tell us
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about this special day
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that you have
selected to be with us.
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We ask the Lord to
be with every person
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that is joining us
wherever they may be.
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May Your Holy
Spirit also speak to them
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and draw them close to you.
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We pray that as
we discuss and share,
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you will guide us,
guide our conversations,
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bring to mind
things that should be told
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so that your name is
honored and glorified
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in your children blessed.
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We thank You, Lord, for
being with us in this week.
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And we ask You that
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You will be with us
in this Sabbath day.
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In Jesus' holy and
blessed name, amen.
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Amen.
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Well, since this
maybe new to some of you,
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some of you have heard
the word Sabbath before
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and think it means this or that.
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We want to go to the
scriptures and show you
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why we have
Family Worship on 3ABN.
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So, I am moving to the
Book of Exodus Chapter 20,
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and I'm going to
read verses 8-11.
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And the Bible says this,
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"Remember the Sabbath day
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to keep it holy.
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Six days you shall
labor and do all your work,
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but the seventh day
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is the Sabbath of
the Lord Your God.
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In it you shall do no work:
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you, nor your
son, nor your daughter,
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nor your male servant,
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nor your female servant,
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nor your cattle,
nor your stranger
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who is within your gates."
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And then he tells us why.
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"For in six days the Lord made
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the heavens and
the earth, the sea,
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and all that is in them,
and rested the seventh day.
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Therefore the Lord blessed
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the Sabbath day
and hallowed it."
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This is, of course,
one of the commandments,
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one of the Ten Commandments.
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And it's interesting that
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when you read in
Genesis Chapter 1 and 2,
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and this is the only day
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that the Lord
blessed in the special sense,
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He rested and blessed this day.
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Sanctified it. Yes.
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And it's interesting also
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what is
revealed in Isaiah 58:13,
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I'm gonna ask
Idalia to read that.
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And then we're going to ask
Tom and Alane to share with us
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about the Sabbath day?
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Isaiah 58:13,
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"But first you must
start respecting the Sabbath
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as a joyful day of worship.
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You must stop doing
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and saying whatever you
please on this special day."
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That's a very
interesting rendering of the...
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what version is that one?
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This is the...
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Oh, this is
contemporary English words.
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Yes.
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I'm going to go
ahead and read it
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from the New King James Version.
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Okay.
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And it says, "If you turn
away your foot from the Sabbath,
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from doing your
pleasure on my holy day
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and call the Sabbath a delight
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the holy day of
the Lord honorable
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and shall honor him
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not doing your own ways,
nor finding your own pleasure,
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nor speaking your own words."
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Verse 14, "Then you should
delight yourself in the Lord.
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And I will cause you to ride
on the high hills of the earth
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and feed you with
the heritage of Jacob,
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your father, the mouth
of the Lord has spoken."
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Amen. Praise the Lord. Amen.
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Well, we like to offer
you the opportunity to share
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from your heart
about these verses
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and how the
Sabbath has been a delight
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for you and your family.
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Yes.
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Well, it's great
to be here with you
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and we're
delighted to be here, we do.
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That's right.
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So for us we both grew
up Seventh-day Adventist
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and that has its positives
and it has its negatives.
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Okay?
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One of the negatives,
at least during the time
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that we grew up was
that Sabbath was sort of,
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you can't do anything.
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Okay, I mean,
I'll speak for myself.
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You had your own
experience. Right.
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Well, it says not
doing your own pleasures
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or speaking your own
words or those kinds of things.
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So that was, you know,
but it was never replaced.
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That was the missing, you know,
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we call it the
replacement principle.
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If God's asking us
not to do something
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or our parents are
asking us not to do something.
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Yeah.
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Then, okay, there's
a good reason for that.
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But then can we
fill in the gap here?
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So unfortunately for me, again,
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a little
differently than my wife
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I kind of went the
other way sometimes
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and did my own thing.
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It wasn't the right
thing, but for our children
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we wanted to make
sure that by God's grace,
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that could be different,
that they would look forward.
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Yes.
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They looked
forward to family worship.
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Free to be in delight. Yes.
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And for Sabbath, we
wanted it to be a delight.
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So we worked to make it special.
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You know, it wasn't that way.
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At first, when our
children come along
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and that was by the
time we got to Sabbath,
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I was so exhausted from the week
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'cause I still had
my nursing profession.
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I was raising two little
ones and I was exhausted.
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And then you clean the house
and you get your food ready
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and all these kinds of things
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that you feel this pressure for.
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Yes.
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And by the time this
holy sacred hours entered,
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I was exhausted.
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I was impatient.
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I was, you know,
the tension in the home
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was the worst of the week
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and on Sabbath
mornings hurry-scurry,
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get everybody ready for this.
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And, you know, God
spoke to our hearts
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because this was
the path we were on that
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we had to turn that around.
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So one of the things we
did to turn it around is
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that we began to start
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implementing
family worship every day.
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And that was such
a big help for us.
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It helped us also in
training our children
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when we went to the church
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that they could
learn to sit and listen.
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That's right.
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Because we're listening,
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we're having
worship every day at home.
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Now, that's
something I wanted to do.
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And I told my husband, you know,
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you need to lead out in this
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because you're
the head of the home.
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And he kept saying,
no, that's your job.
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You know, you're the mom,
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be too little, I
got to get to work.
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And so we kind of had this
back and forth for a while.
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And then
finally, one day I kept,
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I won't say I
did it the right way.
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I nagged.
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Wives, if you nag,
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you're not going
to get the results
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that you're looking for.
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We need to pray and not nag
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because God has
better power than we.
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Boy, I shall start a loud
amen from a gentleman out there.
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But anyway, God gave him the cup
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with the burden you have.
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The beauty of it is
that God began to work
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in my wife's
heart for your approach.
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Yes. Yes.
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And what didn't work by nagging
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because I remember the first day
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that I did
family worship my way,
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that I got halfway
through it and she said,
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"No, you don't do
it that way, honey."
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So I took, one,
it wasn't the Bible.
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I took the book that
I was reading out of.
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And I, she said,
I threw it at her,
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but I just went to her.
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Okay.
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And so she, she
started praying for me.
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And the amazing thing is,
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I'm not saying this
was the only approach,
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but for me, she
started praying for me,
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and God started
reaching into my heart
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and He started
giving me a burden.
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Let me ask you a question
because I want to make sure
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I'm understanding
what you're saying.
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You said, she
started praying for you.
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Are you saying that
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you were
hearing her pray for you
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or she told you she was praying?
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That's a good question
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because I didn't
know she was praying.
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I didn't tell him I was praying.
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Never said anything,
but this is looking back.
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Okay.
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Because I started develop,
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literally I never
had a burden and I...
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For you guys out
there, we need this burden.
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Get it from God.
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Your wife won't do a good
job of giving you the burden.
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But we don't often,
we guys are out there.
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We're the providers. Yes.
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We're supposed to be the ones
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to take care of
everything out there.
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She takes care of
everything in here.
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Right.
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But I started developing
this in my heart and I realized,
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this is God, and I
started praying about it.
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And then I said to
her, one Friday evening,
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I said, "Are you praying for me
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that God will put
this in my heart?"
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And she's, she got this
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big smile on her face, you know?
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And she said,
"Yes, I've been praying
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because it's
better than nagging."
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Amen.
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Well, and there's a
difference how we pray too.
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We can tell God what
He needs to do, right?
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Oh God, You need to fix this.
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That's me.
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It's not us, are
nagging. No, it's them.
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But it's really, it's
a submission on my part
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to put my husband
in the hands of God.
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Yes.
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God can do what He needs to do
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in my husband's heart.
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And God, I need You to
do something in my heart.
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Help me to be
thankful for where I am.
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I have a husband who
loves me. He loves his kids.
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So that's something to
be thankful for right there.
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If he doesn't have the burden
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help me to do it
in a sweet spirit
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and to represent
to our children that
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this is still family worship
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even though daddy can't be here.
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Yes. I'm doing
it in behalf of him.
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This is such a different message
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that our children need to get.
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Then when he
entered in the picture,
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the little girls were already,
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oh, goodie, daddy
can be here today.
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Like, this is all,
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daddy's been a part
of this all the time,
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but now his
presence is actually there.
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That's right. Amen.
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I think that's
an important piece
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to bring out.
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But anyway, so yeah,
we started switching,
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preparing for the Sabbath
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started during the week.
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And that was huge
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that we started
looking forward to
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and planning for the Sabbath.
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Yes.
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You know, this is new to people
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because you're, you mentioned
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something a moment ago,
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you said sacred
hours of the Sabbath
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and the Bible says,
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God says that
the Sabbath is holy.
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He sanctified it solely.
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It is, they are sacred hours.
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And so we want to make sure that
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you're
understanding what we're saying,
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because we are
accustomed nowadays
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to recognizing the
beginning of a day at midnight.
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That's right.
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Midnight begins a new day,
but the Bible does not make,
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or does not state that
the days begin that way,
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the days begin at sunset.
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If you notice in
Genesis Chapter 1,
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it says that it was the
evening and the morning,
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one day,
evening and the morning,
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second day and so on.
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So when we're
talking about a Sabbath,
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we're talking about
when the sun sets on Friday,
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the Sabbath begins.
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And so the sunset
Friday to sunset Saturday,
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that's the Sabbath.
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Those are the
sacred hours of the day
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that we're talking about.
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And you said
preparing for the Sabbath
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because, you
know, the Lord says,
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"In it you shall
not do any work."
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So we want to
keep those things away
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from the Sabbath
hours that distract us
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from having that
communion with God
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in such a special way.
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And you've mentioned
also very powerful that
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you had your
family worship every day,
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but the Sabbath became special.
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And that was the
process for you, I'm sure.
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It was. It was a process.
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So this is marvelous.
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Praise the Lord,
and I liked the fact
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that you said, have
you been praying for me?
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You noticed a change.
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And God does that in
such a marvelous way.
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He helps us. He leads us,
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so that our
thoughts can identify
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with His
thoughts and we can come
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into harmony with
Him and with one another.
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And so this is great.
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This is great the
way it happens, so.
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Yeah, so we, we
also, one of the things
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that I really
appreciated was that we noticed
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not just with
our little children,
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but with the other
children in church,
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that the kids
aren't used to sitting
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at 11 o'clock in the
morning on Sabbath morning,
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'cause that hasn't been
what they're trained in.
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So she had this idea
which I thought was great.
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She said, "I'm going to start."
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Yeah, the Lord
put it in her heart,
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but I'm going to
start reading them a story
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and have them sit quietly
at that time of the every day.
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And so, the next Sabbath,
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just one
Sabbath, we went to church
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and they were totally connected,
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not totally
connected with the preacher
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'cause they're little, you know,
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they're two, three years old,
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but they had the little quiet.
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We had these little
quiet books, felt books.
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Oh, yes. They
were totally quiet.
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It didn't have to be
me or her taking them out
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because they're screaming.
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And the people started
saying, "What is going on here?
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How did you get
them to do that?"
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Praise the Lord.
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That way everyone can enjoy
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the Sabbath program
at church or any other.
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And if they're used to
sitting for 30 minutes,
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just hearing a
story, I would speak softly
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and then I'd ask
questions and involve them.
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When they're
little I'd point to that
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where's such and
such in the picture,
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did you see this?
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Do you see that?
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And it started
training their ear to listen.
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And I think this is
also another important part
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because we need to train
our ears to listen to God.
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And He doesn't
always shout at us.
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Lot of times He
speaks to us in that
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still small voice
to conscience, right?
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Yes.
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And so training that,
that ear to listen for
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what is being
said is very important.
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And that was remarkable.
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I mean, it's like,
because actually I didn't,
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Sabbath was not a delight for me
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when I had young children,
because it was just the,
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getting it all
ready and exhausted
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and then getting
impatient, feeling guilty.
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And just, this will struggle
between child and mom...
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That's right. So
we, it is a journey.
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It doesn't happen
in a week or two weeks,
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but it happens quicker than
we recognize the transition.
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And that's the encouraging thing
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because God's
working alongside of us.
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Amen. Amen. Amen.
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Well, when I was a
young my mom did have worship
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and to her husband he
had to leave early for work.
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So he would, we...
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She would wake us up
at five in the morning
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and we would have
our family worship.
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So at five in the morning,
we will have that worship.
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And then in the evening
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we would have
another family worship,
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but we dreaded Sabbath to come
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because we couldn't do anything.
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It was so legalistic, you know,
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like you're just
going to sit there
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and you're just gonna read
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and sing and
that's it, you know?
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We're going to go door-to-door.
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Well, we enjoyed
going door-to-door
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because we're out in a Baldwin.
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We're with a
group of young people
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and we're doing something.
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But we're doing a program
that the church put out for us.
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But as a family to say that
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we had the
opportunity to sit with mom
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and really enjoy your Sabbath.
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No, you know,
that didn't happen.
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You know, it's interesting
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because it appears
that the way parents present
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the Sabbath to children is that
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maybe some parents
didn't learn the delight that
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the Sabbath is,
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and they were not
able to communicate that
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to their children.
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So we are hoping that
as we are discussing here,
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some parents
will begin to see that
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the Sabbath is a delight,
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and how can we make a
delightful for our children
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that they look
forward to the Sabbath.
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So perhaps you can share
some ideas as to how you,
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how that process
developed for you
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and ideas that the
Lord gave you to work
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with the
children, for your family?
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Yeah, definitely.
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I mean, we have so many ideas,
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but one of the
things that we wanted to...
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First of all, I'll just say
it again to the guys out there.
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I worked hard all week
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and I would come to Friday night
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and I was...
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It was a Sabbath. Okay?
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And I really, I
love the Sabbath,
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but when I would get in my chair
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and start to read the Word...
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Or after church.
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Or Sabbath
afternoon after lunch,
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I had good
intentions, but I tell you that
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I was out like a
light in about two minutes.
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Well, his chair
was a La-Z Boy chair
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and it's named
that way for a reason.
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Wrong chare to sit on.
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Because when he put that feet up
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and the head tilted back,
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that 30 to 45
seconds of Bible reading
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soon faded into oblivion.
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That communicates to the body,
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this is the position I
normally get after dinner.
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Talk about Sabbath rest, right?
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It was, I'm speaking to guys,
because one of the things that
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God put in my heart again,
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was that I needed to be
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a part of my
family on the Sabbath
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and make it a
really delightful day
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that was directed
because a lot of my issues
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when I was
younger was there wasn't,
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there wasn't the necessarily
proper the direction.
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That'd be fair.
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My family, we went
to the nursing home,
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the old people's
home on Sabbath and sang,
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and that was good.
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I didn't always
like it, but it was good.
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It was good direction.
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And so I got up out
of my La-Z-Boy chair,
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which made me very
lazy, got up out of my chair.
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And I was determined,
we're going to do some things
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that are really
enjoyable on the Sabbath.
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And so, one of the things
that we did just, you know,
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you can take a
Walmart bag or, you know,
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any little shopping bag.
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And we would go out as a family.
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If we had someone for
dinner, we would take them out,
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their family, we
would have direction.
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And that is
we're going to go out
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and we're going to
do a treasure hunt,
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and we'd done
this in Los Angeles.
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So you can do it anywhere. Wow.
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We're going to do,
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we did a backyard
treasure hunt in Los Angeles,
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but, you know,
unfortunately we...
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Talking about the
walk with the bag.
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Yeah.
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So we'll take,
we take these bags
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and we go on a
little walk in nature
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and we pick up little
things and put it into the bag.
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Nobody sees it.
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And we come and we
do a little activity
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where we're going to, you know,
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somebody's going to volunteer
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to take
something out of the bag.
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Somebody's going
to volunteer to sit
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and have, you know,
in a chair and then...
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Be blindfolded.
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Then be blindfolded,
person who volunteers
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or sit in the
chair is blindfolded.
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And then the other person
takes something out of the bag
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and puts it into their hand.
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Oh.
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And then you have
to use your senses.
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We don't
recommend taste 'cause...
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You can't have sight.
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You can't see it, but
you can smell it, feel it.
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And then they guess
what's in their hand.
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Once they guess
that, the next thing is,
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'cause it's all nature.
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Okay? It's...
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And my wife. We got him Bible.
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My wife made the rule
that you can't have anything
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that creeps or crawls.
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That's a good
role, mom. Good role.
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Right.
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So our son, you know, he
tried to figure out a way,
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so he would get
something that was dead
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that had been
crawling and put it in there.
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Only in mom's hand. Yeah.
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So she had to revise
the rules that doesn't,
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it never creeped at all.
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Okay.
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So then once
they guess what it is.
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Okay.
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So we'll just
use a simple example
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for the little children.
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So have a rock in their hand.
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So, can you think of
any story in the Bible
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that had a stone or a rock?
00:22:02.22\00:22:03.55
Yeah, of course,
00:22:03.59\00:22:04.92
children think of
David and Goliath.
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So then we would
take that Bible story.
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Yes.
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Let them share what
they know about the story
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and then how can
we apply it to them?
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Do you ever face any giants?
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And, of course,
they're thinking, no, I don't.
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Well, what about the giants
00:22:22.57\00:22:24.24
when mommy asked you to come in
00:22:24.27\00:22:25.67
and help fold the clothes,
and you want to ride your bike
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'cause they would have done it.
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Oh, yes, it is. I
never thought of that.
00:22:30.85\00:22:33.62
So I'll make it very practical.
00:22:33.65\00:22:35.52
Everybody in the family
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or if you've got a
family there for lunch,
00:22:36.92\00:22:39.02
everybody participates,
00:22:39.05\00:22:40.42
everybody gets
to sit in the chair
00:22:40.46\00:22:42.46
and have something
put into their hand
00:22:42.49\00:22:44.76
and it turns into an hour,
hour and a half and no problem.
00:22:44.79\00:22:49.06
You don't feel the
time gone. No boredom.
00:22:49.10\00:22:51.50
And even three
and four year olds
00:22:51.53\00:22:52.93
can participate in.
00:22:52.97\00:22:54.30
That's right. It's amazing.
00:22:54.34\00:22:55.67
We've done this
with our grandchildren.
00:22:55.70\00:22:57.04
And they said,
"It's the happiest Sabbath
00:22:57.07\00:22:58.41
we've ever had,"
00:22:58.44\00:23:00.11
just because it's
something different, right?
00:23:00.14\00:23:01.74
Something different.
00:23:01.78\00:23:03.38
So the key is, look
for things that we can do,
00:23:03.41\00:23:06.68
that will spark the interest.
00:23:06.72\00:23:08.65
So we always try to use nature.
00:23:08.68\00:23:13.46
Children are curious,
00:23:13.49\00:23:14.82
we learn a lot
about God through nature.
00:23:14.86\00:23:16.93
So we try in
nature to the Word of God,
00:23:16.96\00:23:21.43
a story or principle
from the Word of God,
00:23:21.46\00:23:23.67
and then take it to application.
00:23:23.70\00:23:25.93
How does that affect them
as he illustrated with the,
00:23:25.97\00:23:28.90
you know, the
giants in the life.
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That's
wonderful. That's wonderful.
00:23:31.61\00:23:34.48
You know, I don't know
why I'm thinking about this.
00:23:34.51\00:23:36.58
It's very interesting
00:23:36.61\00:23:38.31
that God has a
way of speaking to us.
00:23:38.35\00:23:42.15
I remember we were
doing a youth program on,
00:23:42.18\00:23:44.65
it was a Sabbath
afternoon we have these.
00:23:44.69\00:23:46.79
In the Spanish culture,
the Spanish churches we have...
00:23:46.82\00:23:50.79
It's very, very looked for up
00:23:50.83\00:23:55.90
a thing of the Sabbath that you.
00:23:55.93\00:23:57.60
It's like you're
closing the Sabbath together.
00:23:57.63\00:23:59.03
And the youth have the
opportunity to present.
00:23:59.07\00:24:00.40
AY. They call it AY also.
00:24:00.44\00:24:04.47
But one I said,
00:24:04.51\00:24:06.24
"Well, why don't we
look at the elephant
00:24:06.27\00:24:09.08
and see all the different things
00:24:09.11\00:24:10.45
the elephants do
and how they do."
00:24:10.48\00:24:12.55
So I gave out little portions
to kids to participate in.
00:24:12.58\00:24:16.85
And so we
presented this in the church
00:24:16.89\00:24:20.62
and it was very
interesting about the elephants.
00:24:20.66\00:24:23.66
You know, like for example,
some people think that when,
00:24:23.69\00:24:26.73
when there's an
elephant and a mouse comes in,
00:24:26.76\00:24:28.93
that the elephant
gets afraid and all this,
00:24:28.96\00:24:30.70
and it's not true.
00:24:30.73\00:24:32.50
The elephants
don't care whether or not
00:24:32.53\00:24:33.94
there's a mouse
there, it's not true.
00:24:33.97\00:24:36.14
But anyway,
after it was all over,
00:24:36.17\00:24:38.47
you know, this is
one of those times
00:24:38.51\00:24:39.84
that I know the Lord said
00:24:39.87\00:24:41.21
something to
me, it was all over.
00:24:41.24\00:24:43.24
And I'm thinking, wow,
that was really interesting.
00:24:43.28\00:24:45.75
And the Lord said in my mind,
00:24:45.78\00:24:47.88
where was I in all
of that explanation
00:24:47.92\00:24:50.72
that you did
about the elephants?
00:24:50.75\00:24:53.36
And I was, wow, I was shocked.
00:24:53.39\00:24:58.49
And I said, "I'm sorry,
Lord, you created the elephants.
00:24:58.53\00:25:02.26
You made the elephants,
00:25:02.30\00:25:03.63
the wonderful
creatures they are."
00:25:03.67\00:25:05.03
So to bring out that
00:25:05.07\00:25:07.17
God is our
creator of the Sabbath,
00:25:07.20\00:25:08.97
I think it is
especially important
00:25:09.00\00:25:12.04
because remember the seventh day
00:25:12.07\00:25:13.41
to keep it holy.
00:25:13.44\00:25:14.78
See, why?
00:25:14.81\00:25:16.14
For in six days,
00:25:16.18\00:25:17.51
God created the
heavens and the earth.
00:25:17.55\00:25:18.88
And so I learned
a valuable lesson.
00:25:18.91\00:25:20.95
I learned a
valuable lesson, so...
00:25:20.98\00:25:22.32
Amen. Yes.
00:25:22.35\00:25:23.69
So how about some other things
00:25:23.72\00:25:25.75
you have done to make
family worship a delight?
00:25:25.79\00:25:28.49
The Sabbath a delight.
00:25:28.52\00:25:29.86
I think what was
very helpful for us
00:25:29.89\00:25:32.19
is because we actually
created a Sabbath planner.
00:25:32.23\00:25:36.13
And so Sunday
morning we started planning
00:25:36.16\00:25:37.93
for the following week
00:25:37.97\00:25:39.60
and that planner is
available on our website,
00:25:39.63\00:25:42.34
rionline.org
00:25:42.37\00:25:44.37
It's under the resources.
00:25:44.41\00:25:45.74
And it's, you
have to scroll down
00:25:45.77\00:25:47.11
a little ways to find
out the printed things
00:25:47.14\00:25:50.38
because they can print it out.
00:25:50.41\00:25:51.75
Can you mention that again
00:25:51.78\00:25:53.11
just in case
somebody said, I wasn't ready?
00:25:53.15\00:25:54.48
Yes, rionline.org
00:25:54.52\00:25:58.79
and that stands for
Restoration International.
00:25:58.82\00:26:01.12
And that was so helpful to us
00:26:01.16\00:26:03.22
because we created then a theme
for the week in preparation.
00:26:03.26\00:26:06.86
A lot of times went
along with the lesson plan
00:26:06.90\00:26:09.36
for the children,
00:26:09.40\00:26:10.83
but we wanted to try to capture
all of the depth we could
00:26:10.87\00:26:16.30
from the stories in the Bible
00:26:16.34\00:26:18.37
and how it would be
applied to our children,
00:26:18.41\00:26:21.51
to their ability to understand.
00:26:21.54\00:26:23.18
And what we discovered is,
00:26:23.21\00:26:24.68
is our children
could understand much more
00:26:24.71\00:26:26.58
when we kept
trying to dig deeper
00:26:26.61\00:26:28.75
and explain
things in a simple way,
00:26:28.78\00:26:30.49
but going deep in it.
00:26:30.52\00:26:32.02
And so one, one of the things
00:26:32.05\00:26:34.36
that was very remarkable for me
00:26:34.39\00:26:38.59
was the story of Nehemiah.
00:26:38.63\00:26:41.00
I've always been
fascinated with that story,
00:26:41.03\00:26:43.47
but reading it and rereading,
00:26:43.50\00:26:45.13
and then having a week
on the life of Nehemiah,
00:26:45.17\00:26:48.44
because that's what the lesson
was about for the children
00:26:48.47\00:26:50.87
to see how focused he was,
00:26:50.91\00:26:53.14
that in spite of
all the distractions
00:26:53.17\00:26:56.24
that came in, that he
would not get off that wall.
00:26:56.28\00:26:59.18
He just kept moving forward
00:26:59.21\00:27:00.95
with the purpose
God had given him.
00:27:00.98\00:27:03.35
And it was very
interesting to me
00:27:03.39\00:27:05.39
because I
homeschooled our children
00:27:05.42\00:27:07.42
and their desks
just happened to,
00:27:07.46\00:27:09.22
each of their desks
they could look out a window.
00:27:09.26\00:27:11.19
Well, that's not necessarily
the best classroom, you know,
00:27:11.23\00:27:14.46
notice in public
schools or wherever
00:27:14.50\00:27:16.90
that the teachers
in the front, right?
00:27:16.93\00:27:18.90
And the windows are on
the side or on the back,
00:27:18.93\00:27:21.10
but we were doing
it at home, right?
00:27:21.14\00:27:22.77
We had lots of
windows in the house.
00:27:22.80\00:27:24.14
And so we had
00:27:24.17\00:27:25.51
some of the desks in the kitchen
00:27:25.54\00:27:26.88
and a desk in the office
00:27:26.91\00:27:28.24
and they all had
windows to look out.
00:27:28.28\00:27:29.61
And sometimes it
was challenging to keep
00:27:29.64\00:27:32.88
the children's focus right
00:27:32.91\00:27:34.55
on the schoolwork
instead of the squirrels
00:27:34.58\00:27:36.18
and the birds and other things.
00:27:36.22\00:27:38.25
And so that lesson,
00:27:38.29\00:27:40.22
I remember the
day I said to our son,
00:27:40.26\00:27:42.16
Josiah, remember Nehemiah,
he didn't come off the wall.
00:27:42.19\00:27:46.83
So what, and we
would bring this.
00:27:46.86\00:27:49.43
So what is your wall
that you're building?
00:27:49.46\00:27:52.47
It's your math lesson right now.
00:27:52.50\00:27:54.67
And so, when
the job is complete,
00:27:54.70\00:27:58.57
you can step off the wall.
00:27:58.61\00:28:00.94
And it was like,
just remember Nehemiah.
00:28:00.98\00:28:03.68
And it was like, okay.
00:28:03.71\00:28:05.05
And just, instead of don't keep
00:28:05.08\00:28:06.95
looking out the
window, you know,
00:28:06.98\00:28:08.62
we use the Bible as a
teacher and as authority
00:28:08.65\00:28:12.35
so that it brings those lessons.
00:28:12.39\00:28:14.19
And it's, there's so
many beautiful things
00:28:14.22\00:28:16.59
we've learned from
the Bible that we need
00:28:16.62\00:28:19.03
and can use
particularly everyday in life.
00:28:19.06\00:28:21.23
And we see so many
examples in the Bible
00:28:21.26\00:28:23.16
of just families
00:28:23.20\00:28:25.50
that didn't
have it all together,
00:28:25.53\00:28:27.37
you know, and praise the
Lord that these encounters
00:28:27.40\00:28:31.34
with our children or gatherings
with the family worship.
00:28:31.37\00:28:35.44
We talk about our
week. How was your week?
00:28:35.48\00:28:38.31
Even though we talk
about it every day really.
00:28:38.35\00:28:41.65
And so, it's good to use
these samples in the Bible
00:28:41.68\00:28:46.05
so that we can grow from that.
00:28:46.09\00:28:48.02
What is the lesson in there?
00:28:48.06\00:28:50.16
Sometimes we hear a sermon,
but we don't take it personal.
00:28:50.19\00:28:53.50
We don't make it a
reality in our life.
00:28:53.53\00:28:56.77
There's a lesson there for me.
00:28:56.80\00:28:58.67
So as we contemplate different
personalities in the Bible,
00:28:58.70\00:29:02.60
different stories we identify,
00:29:02.64\00:29:06.21
we can identify and the
Bible becomes real to us.
00:29:06.24\00:29:10.15
Yes.
00:29:10.18\00:29:11.51
You look at the
different families
00:29:11.55\00:29:12.88
of the Bible
00:29:12.91\00:29:14.25
and you do see that I say, wow,
00:29:14.28\00:29:15.62
that will say
not a good idea for,
00:29:15.65\00:29:18.72
for Joseph to get
that coat of many colors.
00:29:18.75\00:29:22.19
It didn't work out
well. Favoritism, right?
00:29:22.22\00:29:24.23
Yes, and I mean,
the father was happy,
00:29:24.26\00:29:27.90
proud of his son
00:29:27.93\00:29:29.26
and he wanted to
give him a special gift,
00:29:29.30\00:29:32.33
but he had not given
that gift to the others.
00:29:32.37\00:29:34.27
So I was like, Hey,
why did he get that?
00:29:34.30\00:29:37.17
You know? So he
creates a problem.
00:29:37.21\00:29:39.87
So... Yes, Idalia.
00:29:39.91\00:29:43.04
What I wanted to
say is, it's okay.
00:29:43.08\00:29:45.75
What about Adam?
00:29:45.78\00:29:47.12
Any of, because
we're talking about,
00:29:47.15\00:29:49.35
okay, Nehemiah,
we're talking about,
00:29:49.38\00:29:51.82
um, the people that you
just mentioned right now?
00:29:51.85\00:29:55.06
Joseph, yes, the
coat of many colors.
00:29:55.09\00:29:57.39
Many colors, but we're longing
to have this perfect home,
00:29:57.43\00:30:02.16
this perfect family.
00:30:02.20\00:30:03.53
I want my family to be happy,
00:30:03.57\00:30:05.30
but you know, it's just that
00:30:05.33\00:30:06.67
we sacrifice to do
a good job at work.
00:30:06.70\00:30:09.60
Men, they do a
good job in providing.
00:30:09.64\00:30:13.41
We want to do a good
job in uniting the family
00:30:13.44\00:30:16.64
and what we can
give our children is
00:30:16.68\00:30:19.11
the love of Jesus.
00:30:19.15\00:30:20.48
Amen.
00:30:20.52\00:30:21.85
So that their salvation,
that they will embrace that
00:30:21.88\00:30:23.89
and they will
not want to lose it.
00:30:23.92\00:30:25.75
So we look at Adam and
Eve, they had the perfect home,
00:30:25.79\00:30:29.09
they had the perfect home,
00:30:29.12\00:30:30.46
but something
happened there, you know?
00:30:30.49\00:30:33.86
And so sin entered
00:30:33.90\00:30:35.46
and now families
struggle every day.
00:30:35.50\00:30:39.43
There's a single parent.
00:30:39.47\00:30:41.30
Uh, I'm not gonna
say just single moms
00:30:41.34\00:30:43.97
because there are
single fathers out there
00:30:44.01\00:30:46.47
and we are
praying for your home.
00:30:46.51\00:30:49.58
And as a single parent,
00:30:49.61\00:30:51.95
you have all the
responsibilities of working
00:30:51.98\00:30:54.28
and providing not only material,
00:30:54.32\00:30:56.65
physical things to your family,
but also the spiritual needs.
00:30:56.69\00:31:00.09
So how can we
connect Adam and Eve
00:31:00.12\00:31:05.53
and Abraham and Isaac,
00:31:05.56\00:31:07.73
and Sarah and all these stories
00:31:07.76\00:31:11.17
so that our viewers at
home can say, you know what?
00:31:11.20\00:31:14.14
Which family do I identify with?
00:31:14.17\00:31:16.91
Which one do I identify with?
00:31:16.94\00:31:18.27
Well, it's
interesting, you know,
00:31:18.31\00:31:20.18
our water bottles
here, they've restored,
00:31:20.21\00:31:24.08
and this is something
00:31:24.11\00:31:26.21
that's been a
growing desire in our hearts
00:31:26.25\00:31:30.25
in the ministry of
Restoration International,
00:31:30.29\00:31:32.35
which grew out of the
ministry in our own home.
00:31:32.39\00:31:34.99
And this idea of living restored
00:31:35.02\00:31:37.33
is God's ideal for us.
00:31:37.36\00:31:40.46
Seeing the family restored back
to the relationship with God.
00:31:40.50\00:31:44.90
And so being honest,
00:31:44.93\00:31:47.34
okay, is very important
in our families being honest.
00:31:47.37\00:31:51.61
One of the things we did,
to come back to your question.
00:31:51.64\00:31:55.58
In the evenings every day,
00:31:55.61\00:31:58.21
we had family talk time
00:31:58.25\00:32:00.62
and it was really
family transparency time.
00:32:00.65\00:32:03.28
It was family time
together to talk about anything.
00:32:03.32\00:32:06.39
And we started it
00:32:06.42\00:32:07.76
when our children
were fairly young.
00:32:07.79\00:32:09.12
Yeah. Early school age.
00:32:09.16\00:32:10.49
Yeah. Early school age.
00:32:10.53\00:32:11.86
And that proved to
be such a blessing.
00:32:11.89\00:32:13.80
We did that a half an hour
before the evening worship,
00:32:13.83\00:32:17.23
and it was a time
to open up their hearts
00:32:17.27\00:32:19.53
and really talk, you
know, our son, some of our,
00:32:19.57\00:32:25.67
some of the
viewers know our story
00:32:25.71\00:32:28.14
from being on here before.
00:32:28.18\00:32:30.68
But, our son took some
detours, some sad detours.
00:32:30.71\00:32:35.42
Okay?
00:32:35.45\00:32:36.79
Which, you know,
he's back with the Lord.
00:32:36.82\00:32:39.45
We're very thankful.
00:32:39.49\00:32:41.12
We never doubted that he
would come back to the Lord.
00:32:41.16\00:32:43.99
And I think one of the things
00:32:44.03\00:32:45.36
that we need is
to be as parents,
00:32:45.39\00:32:47.00
as anchors for our children,
00:32:47.03\00:32:49.20
that starts the
younger the better that
00:32:49.23\00:32:52.60
in those family talk
times that we had together,
00:32:52.63\00:32:55.44
we told our children,
you can tell us anything.
00:32:55.47\00:33:00.04
You can tell us
whatever you're going through,
00:33:00.08\00:33:02.24
whatever is bad.
00:33:02.28\00:33:04.41
And it's not going to
change our love for you.
00:33:04.45\00:33:06.38
That's right.
00:33:06.41\00:33:07.75
It's not going to change
the way we relate to you.
00:33:07.78\00:33:10.19
And we're thankful for that
00:33:10.22\00:33:11.95
because when he went
through this, you know,
00:33:11.99\00:33:15.89
I'm going to say
tragic, tragic detour.
00:33:15.92\00:33:17.99
Okay?
00:33:18.03\00:33:19.36
When he went through that,
00:33:19.39\00:33:21.06
he never lost the hope
00:33:21.10\00:33:25.87
in us as his parents.
00:33:25.90\00:33:27.30
Amen. Good,
good. Praise the Lord.
00:33:27.34\00:33:28.87
He said, I knew, of course,
00:33:28.90\00:33:30.41
now we've had so
many conversations.
00:33:30.44\00:33:32.77
But he said, I knew that
you would never give up on me.
00:33:32.81\00:33:36.75
So never give up.
00:33:36.78\00:33:38.48
If some of you, I know that
00:33:38.51\00:33:39.95
there are people out
there that are going through
00:33:39.98\00:33:42.78
these things, never give up.
00:33:42.82\00:33:44.95
Jesus says, "I will never
leave you or forsake you."
00:33:44.99\00:33:47.89
Okay?
00:33:47.92\00:33:49.26
Josiah said, "I knew you would
never stop believing in me.
00:33:49.29\00:33:53.60
I knew you would
never stop loving me."
00:33:53.63\00:33:56.77
And so, we need to
develop the communication.
00:33:56.80\00:34:01.10
And this is one of our,
00:34:01.14\00:34:02.50
our, again,
passions is that parents
00:34:02.54\00:34:06.17
develop young, the connection,
00:34:06.21\00:34:09.54
we call it, winning the heart.
00:34:09.58\00:34:12.25
So if you know
out there as viewers,
00:34:12.28\00:34:14.62
if you know right now,
00:34:14.65\00:34:15.98
cause it'll be a
spontaneous thought.
00:34:16.02\00:34:17.55
If you don't have
the heart of your child,
00:34:17.59\00:34:19.75
don't beat yourself
up, but don't give up.
00:34:19.79\00:34:22.56
Look for ways to reach.
00:34:22.59\00:34:23.93
Each of our
children are individual.
00:34:23.96\00:34:25.46
They're very different.
00:34:25.49\00:34:27.10
And we want to, we wanted
00:34:27.13\00:34:28.63
to win the
hearts of our children.
00:34:28.66\00:34:30.70
And even through
the hardest times
00:34:30.73\00:34:32.93
that he went through,
00:34:32.97\00:34:35.34
he still had a
heart connection with us.
00:34:35.37\00:34:37.64
That's great.
00:34:37.67\00:34:39.01
He wouldn't talk to
his mother because he said,
00:34:39.04\00:34:40.58
"I break her heart."
00:34:40.61\00:34:41.94
He would say, "Father,
00:34:41.98\00:34:43.31
I won't talk to mother
'cause I'm breaking her heart."
00:34:43.35\00:34:45.11
But he said, I know
you, you can hear me.
00:34:45.15\00:34:47.85
And I know it's hurting you too.
00:34:47.88\00:34:50.49
But you know, when
we actually gave him
00:34:50.52\00:34:54.26
to the Lord in a
way we'd never had.
00:34:54.29\00:34:56.93
I did a little bit
earlier than she did.
00:34:56.96\00:34:59.46
He called and he said,
I can talk to mother now
00:34:59.49\00:35:02.43
because he says,
00:35:02.46\00:35:03.80
"I know she's
given me to the Lord."
00:35:03.83\00:35:05.60
Wow.
00:35:05.63\00:35:06.97
I said, "How did you know that?"
00:35:07.00\00:35:08.34
And he said, "Well, I think God
00:35:08.37\00:35:09.70
just put that in
my heart even though
00:35:09.74\00:35:11.07
I'm doing these
things I'm doing."
00:35:11.11\00:35:12.44
Because it was the day
after she made that decision.
00:35:12.47\00:35:15.24
He called me,
said, "I can talk to mom.
00:35:15.28\00:35:16.64
I can talk to mother now."
00:35:16.68\00:35:18.01
Amen. Wow.
00:35:18.05\00:35:19.38
We are not our
children's saviors.
00:35:19.41\00:35:20.75
That's right.
00:35:20.78\00:35:22.12
We can be examples,
encourage or instruction,
00:35:22.15\00:35:24.52
give instructions.
00:35:24.55\00:35:26.09
But we cannot save
them, only God can save.
00:35:26.12\00:35:29.39
That's right.
00:35:29.42\00:35:30.76
And so, you know, for
a parent it's challenging
00:35:30.79\00:35:34.16
when we see a child making
00:35:34.20\00:35:36.36
or a young adult making choices
00:35:36.40\00:35:38.30
that we know are going to
00:35:38.33\00:35:40.37
cause them pain and
agony, you know, in their life
00:35:40.40\00:35:45.11
and obviously to
the Lord as well.
00:35:45.14\00:35:48.31
We have to let the Lord,
we have to trust the Lord,
00:35:48.34\00:35:51.21
the life of that
child to the Lord
00:35:51.25\00:35:53.85
and trust the Lord with that.
00:35:53.88\00:35:55.25
And I think that's,
that's really been powerful,
00:35:55.28\00:35:57.19
but it's so important
to develop this foundation.
00:35:57.22\00:35:59.72
And I appreciate what
you were saying because,
00:35:59.75\00:36:03.53
it doesn't matter what
our family structure is.
00:36:03.56\00:36:06.06
If it's a two parent,
if it's a blended family,
00:36:06.09\00:36:08.46
if it's a single parent,
we all have the opportunity
00:36:08.50\00:36:13.70
to develop family
worship in our homes,
00:36:13.74\00:36:16.60
especially to bring
in the Sabbath hours.
00:36:16.64\00:36:19.37
It's so important
00:36:19.41\00:36:20.74
because God says it's a delight.
00:36:20.78\00:36:23.24
And that when
we delight in that,
00:36:23.28\00:36:24.71
then we will ride
00:36:24.75\00:36:26.08
on the high places of the earth.
00:36:26.11\00:36:27.45
In other words,
00:36:27.48\00:36:28.82
we're going to
have an experience.
00:36:28.85\00:36:30.19
And really it's talking
about the rewards of eternity
00:36:30.22\00:36:32.35
as well in this scripture.
00:36:32.39\00:36:34.99
And so having, making Sabbath
00:36:35.02\00:36:38.93
and family worship
00:36:38.96\00:36:40.33
a high priority is so important.
00:36:40.36\00:36:43.37
And if it's a joy for
us, it'll be a joy for them.
00:36:43.40\00:36:47.44
You know, I've often
said to our children early on,
00:36:47.47\00:36:51.07
now this is going
to be really hard.
00:36:51.11\00:36:52.51
And I know you're
not going to like it.
00:36:52.54\00:36:54.18
I've already
prepared their mind to reject
00:36:54.21\00:36:56.18
what I'm going to say to them.
00:36:56.21\00:36:57.55
That's right.
00:36:57.58\00:36:58.91
But if I say this
is going to be fun,
00:36:58.95\00:37:00.98
and you're going to learn
something new today in school,
00:37:01.02\00:37:03.32
or we're going to
learn a new task today,
00:37:03.35\00:37:05.65
and we're going to
have fun doing it together.
00:37:05.69\00:37:07.36
I have already
enlisted their will to engage.
00:37:07.39\00:37:12.19
And this is why
it's so important
00:37:12.23\00:37:14.03
when we talk about
00:37:14.06\00:37:15.40
spiritual
principles in the Bible
00:37:15.43\00:37:17.17
is that this is going to
be, bring us our greatest joy
00:37:17.20\00:37:20.54
because God has
promised it, right?
00:37:20.57\00:37:23.10
And this is going to
be something fun we do.
00:37:23.14\00:37:24.87
And so, on our website,
00:37:24.91\00:37:26.88
not only do we have
that Sabbath planner,
00:37:26.91\00:37:29.04
but we also have and it's free,
00:37:29.08\00:37:30.78
it's under the
resources in the audio section,
00:37:30.81\00:37:33.65
a whole series called
Remember the Sabbath Day.
00:37:33.68\00:37:36.65
It has four one hour
presentations of things
00:37:36.69\00:37:40.26
we can do in our
homes as families,
00:37:40.29\00:37:42.22
whether they're little biddies,
00:37:42.26\00:37:43.59
you know, toddlers
to grade schoolers,
00:37:43.63\00:37:45.73
or whether they're
young adults in our home,
00:37:45.76\00:37:47.60
things we can do to
bring a special feature
00:37:47.63\00:37:51.67
into our Sabbaths.
00:37:51.70\00:37:53.64
And that has been
00:37:53.67\00:37:55.00
some of the
highlights for our family
00:37:55.04\00:37:57.24
and other families as well.
00:37:57.27\00:37:58.61
It's like breaking
the monotony, right?
00:37:58.64\00:37:59.97
Yes.
00:38:00.01\00:38:01.34
Because we become a
routine traditional followers
00:38:01.38\00:38:05.85
of this is how we do it
every Sabbath in, Sabbath out,
00:38:05.88\00:38:09.18
this is always what we do,
00:38:09.22\00:38:11.05
but throwing in
those different surprises,
00:38:11.09\00:38:15.12
the kids start looking
forward to it, even as adults.
00:38:15.16\00:38:18.29
I mean, when you have
00:38:18.33\00:38:19.66
a special activity at the church
00:38:19.69\00:38:21.76
that also, you're
excited, like what are we doing?
00:38:21.80\00:38:26.00
Something different?
Looking forward to it.
00:38:26.03\00:38:28.64
I look forward to
Sabbaths. Sabbath is a delight.
00:38:28.67\00:38:33.68
Sabbath is a time that
we don't have to think about
00:38:33.71\00:38:36.88
what the cares of this world is.
00:38:36.91\00:38:39.08
We just focus
into, you know, Lord,
00:38:39.11\00:38:41.88
I cast all my cares on you.
00:38:41.92\00:38:44.35
You know, I lay
all of my burden,
00:38:44.39\00:38:46.89
just like the Bible says,
00:38:46.92\00:38:49.49
we want to just
lay everything aside
00:38:49.52\00:38:51.79
and connect with heaven.
00:38:51.83\00:38:53.46
We need to learn to
put separate our mind
00:38:53.50\00:38:58.27
or turn off our minds.
00:38:58.30\00:38:59.63
How do you say it?
00:38:59.67\00:39:01.37
You know, it's
this what we have to do?
00:39:01.40\00:39:03.57
Because sometimes we're
trying to worship or pray
00:39:03.61\00:39:05.54
and your mind is like,
00:39:05.57\00:39:06.91
oh, I need to do this,
and then I need to do that.
00:39:06.94\00:39:09.74
You know, that is true.
00:39:09.78\00:39:11.11
When you look at
the Sabbath the way God,
00:39:11.15\00:39:13.42
and I'm glad the way
it's worded the way it is,
00:39:13.45\00:39:15.85
the way, we read Exodus 20:8-11.
00:39:15.88\00:39:18.85
Thank you,
Lord, for the details,
00:39:18.89\00:39:21.46
because it talks about
to remember the Sabbath day
00:39:21.49\00:39:25.16
to keep it holy, you
shall not do any work.
00:39:25.19\00:39:27.76
And then you can say,
00:39:27.80\00:39:29.13
well, I don't
have to do any work.
00:39:29.16\00:39:30.50
My son and my
daughter will do all the work,
00:39:30.53\00:39:31.87
but notice it says that
00:39:31.90\00:39:33.23
neither nor your
son or your daughter.
00:39:33.27\00:39:34.74
And even, even goes
down to the animals.
00:39:34.77\00:39:37.11
They also need rest, you know?
00:39:37.14\00:39:38.87
And so it's marvelous,
00:39:38.91\00:39:40.58
it's marvelous
to read God's Word
00:39:40.61\00:39:42.81
and God tells us, what?
00:39:42.84\00:39:44.88
You mean, the Sabbath is
supposed to be a delight.
00:39:44.91\00:39:47.05
And people look
at the commandments
00:39:47.08\00:39:48.42
it's don't do
this, don't do that.
00:39:48.45\00:39:49.78
Don't do that.
00:39:49.82\00:39:51.15
But they are expressions
of God's desire for us
00:39:51.19\00:39:55.02
to be happy.
00:39:55.06\00:39:56.39
You want, I
want you to be happy.
00:39:56.42\00:39:57.83
I love you. So do
not steal, do not.
00:39:57.86\00:40:01.70
These things are
going to hurt you.
00:40:01.73\00:40:03.60
And so the Sabbath day
is like, it's different.
00:40:03.63\00:40:06.03
It's worded differently.
00:40:06.07\00:40:07.44
It doesn't say do
not forget, but he says,
00:40:07.47\00:40:11.71
remember the
Sabbath day to keep it holy.
00:40:11.74\00:40:15.58
It has a, like a
more delightful expression
00:40:15.61\00:40:19.68
if I could say,
00:40:19.71\00:40:21.05
because people
nowadays take the commandments,
00:40:21.08\00:40:23.18
thou shalt not, thou shalt not.
00:40:23.22\00:40:25.89
And the Sabbath
commandment begins different.
00:40:25.92\00:40:28.62
So the Sabbath
becoming a delight,
00:40:28.66\00:40:30.29
I liked the way
you're making expressions
00:40:30.33\00:40:33.40
that prepares the mind.
00:40:33.43\00:40:34.80
The Lord does
that with us as well,
00:40:34.83\00:40:37.10
prepares the mind for
what you're about to say.
00:40:37.13\00:40:39.67
And too often, as
parents, you know what,
00:40:39.70\00:40:45.21
the 90 something percent of that
00:40:45.24\00:40:47.48
comes out of our
mouth to the children,
00:40:47.51\00:40:49.18
perhaps it's, don't do this.
00:40:49.21\00:40:51.25
Why did you do that?
00:40:51.28\00:40:52.61
And if it's negative,
negative, negative, negative,
00:40:52.65\00:40:55.42
they need to hear some
positive things as well.
00:40:55.45\00:40:57.79
And some words that
00:40:57.82\00:40:59.15
encourage their cooperation,
00:40:59.19\00:41:02.09
encourage them to feel,
my dad really cares about me.
00:41:02.12\00:41:06.09
My mom really cares about me.
00:41:06.13\00:41:08.23
That is so important because,
00:41:08.26\00:41:10.57
we do naturally
default in real life,
00:41:10.60\00:41:13.50
especially in our homes.
00:41:13.54\00:41:15.64
We see the things
that need to be done,
00:41:15.67\00:41:18.11
the things that
aren't getting done right.
00:41:18.14\00:41:20.44
And we had a, kind of a thing
between us kind of quietly,
00:41:20.48\00:41:25.55
that if we started noticing that
00:41:25.58\00:41:28.18
we're having to
do more correcting
00:41:28.22\00:41:30.82
and maybe this will, you
know, be for you as our viewers.
00:41:30.85\00:41:35.19
If you find yourself,
you're correcting more,
00:41:35.22\00:41:38.26
one of us would
say to the other,
00:41:38.29\00:41:40.33
we're getting
back to the correcting.
00:41:40.36\00:41:43.33
Let's get back to the
positive encouragement.
00:41:43.37\00:41:47.44
Let's encourage
every good choice
00:41:47.47\00:41:49.87
our children make.
00:41:49.90\00:41:51.74
And when we did
that, okay, within a day,
00:41:51.77\00:41:57.25
the energy of
doing what was right
00:41:57.28\00:42:00.55
overcame the energy of doing
00:42:00.58\00:42:03.05
what's pushing back
because we were encouraging it.
00:42:03.08\00:42:07.19
And so we began to
encourage more and more
00:42:07.22\00:42:09.79
of what you're doing right.
00:42:09.82\00:42:11.43
And had less and less
of what you're doing wrong.
00:42:11.46\00:42:13.86
Yes. Yes. And if
this is positive.
00:42:13.90\00:42:16.13
It's very, very common
that we forgot to praise,
00:42:16.16\00:42:21.44
you know, the good.
00:42:21.47\00:42:22.90
We always
explain out the baddest,
00:42:22.94\00:42:24.54
you messed up again,
00:42:24.57\00:42:25.91
fix that up or get
this done or that done.
00:42:25.94\00:42:27.98
But what it's done, of course,
we need to recognize that.
00:42:28.01\00:42:32.38
That's what God does.
00:42:32.41\00:42:33.92
In His Word,
00:42:33.95\00:42:35.35
He continually brings us do this
00:42:35.38\00:42:37.85
and thou shall live, right?
00:42:37.89\00:42:39.22
He gives us all the positives,
but He knows our weakness.
00:42:39.25\00:42:42.19
And He also has to show us that
00:42:42.22\00:42:43.83
the way of the
transgressors a hard way.
00:42:43.86\00:42:45.86
So if you choose
not, then there are things
00:42:45.89\00:42:48.66
that are going to bring
you sadness and unhappiness.
00:42:48.70\00:42:50.80
Yes.
00:42:50.83\00:42:52.17
I wanted to
bring out this example
00:42:52.20\00:42:53.54
from Genesis Chapter 4,
because I find it interesting.
00:42:53.57\00:42:57.44
In Genesis Chapter 4,
00:42:57.47\00:42:58.81
we have the
story of Cain and Abel.
00:42:58.84\00:43:00.94
And this, what I'm talking
about now is after Cain offered
00:43:00.98\00:43:04.68
what he was not
supposed to offer,
00:43:04.71\00:43:06.75
and God approaches him.
00:43:06.78\00:43:08.55
And in verse 6, the
Lord approaches Cain.
00:43:08.58\00:43:13.19
So the Lord said to
Cain, "Why are you angry?
00:43:13.22\00:43:16.66
And why has your
countenance fallen?"
00:43:16.69\00:43:19.13
You know, it wasn't
like, what's wrong with you?
00:43:19.16\00:43:21.43
Why, why, why,
why are you that way?
00:43:21.46\00:43:23.60
What's wrong with you?
00:43:23.63\00:43:24.97
No, He approached
him in a fatherly way.
00:43:25.00\00:43:28.70
Why are you angry?
00:43:28.74\00:43:30.54
And why has your
countenance fallen?
00:43:30.57\00:43:32.87
God notices these
things. Yes, He does.
00:43:32.91\00:43:35.58
And so as parents also,
00:43:35.61\00:43:37.35
we should notice the
demeanor of our children.
00:43:37.38\00:43:40.55
So that boy easy,
00:43:40.58\00:43:42.48
he or she doesn't
seem to be happy right now.
00:43:42.52\00:43:44.62
I wonder what's going on
00:43:44.65\00:43:46.09
and approach
them instead of just,
00:43:46.12\00:43:48.22
you know, put a
smile on your face.
00:43:48.26\00:43:51.63
I really liked that
00:43:51.66\00:43:52.99
because God's
approach to the very first sin
00:43:53.03\00:43:57.97
was asking questions.
00:43:58.00\00:43:59.33
Yes.
00:43:59.37\00:44:00.70
And we tend to jump in
and say, I know what you did.
00:44:00.74\00:44:04.34
I saw that. Why did...
00:44:04.37\00:44:06.94
And instead God be all knowing,
all loving comes in and says,
00:44:06.98\00:44:12.85
"Where are you?"
00:44:12.88\00:44:14.42
Did He know
where they were hiding?
00:44:14.45\00:44:15.78
Of course, He did.
00:44:15.82\00:44:17.15
We often jump in
00:44:17.19\00:44:18.85
and we need to
ask more questions.
00:44:18.89\00:44:21.09
When we started
taking that approach
00:44:21.12\00:44:23.36
'cause he asked
a lot of questions
00:44:23.39\00:44:24.83
in the beginning.
00:44:24.86\00:44:26.19
Yes. Yes.
00:44:26.23\00:44:27.56
When we ask questions,
we give our young people
00:44:27.60\00:44:31.13
the opportunity
to open their heart.
00:44:31.17\00:44:33.34
Because when we ask, the
spirit brings conviction.
00:44:33.37\00:44:36.24
That's right.
00:44:36.27\00:44:37.61
And when we jump in
with our mouth wide open
00:44:37.64\00:44:40.51
or with our wrong spirit...
00:44:40.54\00:44:42.64
That's right. We shut them down.
00:44:42.68\00:44:44.08
Yes.
00:44:44.11\00:44:45.45
And so I really
appreciate you bringing that up.
00:44:45.48\00:44:47.68
You know, you
said something earlier,
00:44:47.72\00:44:49.78
that is it's marvelous.
00:44:49.82\00:44:51.15
You were talking about your son
and that he felt comfortable.
00:44:51.19\00:44:55.86
And he said, I knew
that, how did you express it?
00:44:55.89\00:45:00.30
I knew...
00:45:00.33\00:45:01.66
I knew you'd
never give up on me,
00:45:01.70\00:45:03.20
and you'd never stop loving me.
00:45:03.23\00:45:04.57
So that was a... That took...
00:45:04.60\00:45:07.94
It was a process.
00:45:07.97\00:45:09.30
And so as parents, you know,
00:45:09.34\00:45:10.67
what you're saying
is what I understand
00:45:10.71\00:45:12.24
you're saying is that
we should be communicating
00:45:12.27\00:45:15.41
with our children
00:45:15.44\00:45:16.81
so that they
will feel comfortable
00:45:16.85\00:45:18.91
to express to us
00:45:18.95\00:45:20.28
whatever's in
their heart, you know?
00:45:20.32\00:45:22.25
And even if you have to say,
00:45:22.28\00:45:27.86
you do this, you say, let's go.
00:45:27.89\00:45:29.52
Son, I want to
take a walk with you,
00:45:29.56\00:45:31.46
and you just go on a walk
with your son, your daughter,
00:45:31.49\00:45:33.50
and you start talking to
them, tell me, how's it going?
00:45:33.53\00:45:36.06
You know?
00:45:36.10\00:45:37.43
And if they share something
that you find something,
00:45:37.47\00:45:40.37
I need to
correct them on this one.
00:45:40.40\00:45:42.97
Ask the Lord for
guidance, you know,
00:45:43.00\00:45:44.71
because the Bible says,
00:45:44.74\00:45:46.37
let your words be
seasoned with grace.
00:45:46.41\00:45:50.71
Yes.
00:45:50.75\00:45:52.15
And so, if we ask
the Lord for wisdom
00:45:52.18\00:45:54.62
because, you know, we
can speak a lot of poison.
00:45:54.65\00:45:57.42
We can speak a lot of poison.
00:45:57.45\00:45:58.85
There was a, we call them PSA,
00:45:58.89\00:46:02.39
which is a Public
Service Announcement.
00:46:02.42\00:46:04.49
We used to have this
many years ago on 3ABN
00:46:04.53\00:46:07.00
where it shows a
child that is tastes down.
00:46:07.03\00:46:12.57
And in the background,
00:46:12.60\00:46:14.17
you hear you'll
never amount to anything.
00:46:14.20\00:46:17.34
You're not like your father.
00:46:17.37\00:46:18.71
You're not like
me at all, you know,
00:46:18.74\00:46:20.11
and different things
00:46:20.14\00:46:21.48
that parents say
that are negative.
00:46:21.51\00:46:24.15
And then the announcer
says, words are like a fist.
00:46:24.18\00:46:29.35
And it's true.
00:46:29.38\00:46:30.72
The things that we say
has an effect on people
00:46:30.75\00:46:33.99
and on our children as well.
00:46:34.02\00:46:36.42
And so it's a
challenge sometimes,
00:46:36.46\00:46:41.16
but we should make
that a matter of prayer
00:46:41.20\00:46:43.60
to be able to sit,
00:46:43.63\00:46:44.97
to speak to our
children in such a way that
00:46:45.00\00:46:47.04
it has the right
effect upon them.
00:46:47.07\00:46:49.47
And you were mentioning
that God ask questions,
00:46:49.50\00:46:52.71
instead of saying.
00:46:52.74\00:46:54.28
Accusations.
Accusations right away.
00:46:54.31\00:46:56.58
And I am guilty of, you
know, like something is missing
00:46:56.61\00:47:02.28
or say, honey, why did you move.
00:47:02.32\00:47:05.62
And it wasn't her.
00:47:05.65\00:47:08.02
Maybe I forgot I did it
00:47:08.06\00:47:09.39
or maybe one of
the children did it.
00:47:09.42\00:47:10.86
And we have to stop
and ask us, wait a minute.
00:47:10.89\00:47:14.26
Or maybe you did
it and you forgot.
00:47:14.30\00:47:17.43
That's possible.
00:47:17.47\00:47:19.30
You know, the beauty of this is,
00:47:19.33\00:47:21.94
and if we will take advantage,
00:47:21.97\00:47:23.30
all of us will
take advantage of this.
00:47:23.34\00:47:24.84
It's not even just the Sabbath.
00:47:24.87\00:47:26.37
The Sabbath is a
special and beautiful holy day,
00:47:26.41\00:47:29.11
but it's the interactions that
00:47:29.14\00:47:30.98
we have all through the week
00:47:31.01\00:47:32.68
that also can make
the Sabbath a delight.
00:47:32.71\00:47:35.78
And that it
isn't just on Sabbath
00:47:35.82\00:47:38.22
that we all of a
sudden switch on.
00:47:38.25\00:47:40.09
And now we're super,
super dads or super moms.
00:47:40.12\00:47:44.13
Okay? That's right.
00:47:44.16\00:47:45.49
Or super Christians. Exactly.
00:47:45.53\00:47:47.86
That we gain the connection.
00:47:47.90\00:47:50.07
So that on the Sabbath that,
00:47:50.10\00:47:53.03
and this is one of the tragedies
00:47:53.07\00:47:54.54
we've seen in our own family.
00:47:54.57\00:47:56.54
But in ministry is we often
00:47:56.57\00:48:00.28
are so busy on the Sabbath
00:48:00.31\00:48:03.61
that our family is
going different directions
00:48:03.65\00:48:06.41
worse than any other day.
00:48:06.45\00:48:09.28
This is true.
00:48:09.32\00:48:10.65
And we made it a
focus and a commitment,
00:48:10.69\00:48:12.85
and God has blessed us.
00:48:12.89\00:48:14.82
We made it a commitment that,
00:48:14.86\00:48:16.52
that our home truly is
our first mission field.
00:48:16.56\00:48:21.70
Now we know, we might
know that as Christians.
00:48:21.73\00:48:23.83
Okay?
00:48:23.87\00:48:25.20
But to live it takes a
higher level of commitment.
00:48:25.23\00:48:29.44
That's true.
00:48:29.47\00:48:30.81
And I said to my wife,
00:48:30.84\00:48:32.57
after praying
about this, you know,
00:48:32.61\00:48:34.78
we're the people in
the church that are taking,
00:48:34.81\00:48:37.71
you know, we were in
a 1300 member church,
00:48:37.75\00:48:40.02
you know, working
at Hinsdale Hospital
00:48:40.05\00:48:41.48
back in our medical careers.
00:48:41.52\00:48:43.69
And it's this way everywhere,
00:48:43.72\00:48:46.86
20% or less are doing 80%
of the work in the church.
00:48:46.89\00:48:51.36
And the other 80% are
saying happy for you to do it.
00:48:51.39\00:48:54.63
Thank you.
00:48:54.66\00:48:56.00
I said, I've got
to learn to say no
00:48:56.03\00:49:00.00
more to what everybody.
00:49:00.04\00:49:02.07
And I can remember
making this commitment
00:49:02.10\00:49:03.91
to my wife and to the Lord
00:49:03.94\00:49:06.78
that the next time
the nominating committee
00:49:06.81\00:49:09.14
asked me to do something,
I'm going to tell them,
00:49:09.18\00:49:12.51
I need to check with
the Lord and with my wife.
00:49:12.55\00:49:16.52
And the first
time that happened,
00:49:16.55\00:49:18.12
it had a predictable response.
00:49:18.15\00:49:20.66
It was shock
because I always said yes,
00:49:20.69\00:49:24.86
she always said yes.
00:49:24.89\00:49:26.66
And we said, it's time that
we start saying selectively no.
00:49:26.70\00:49:31.73
Yes.
00:49:31.77\00:49:33.10
When it means that
we're adding more on,
00:49:33.13\00:49:35.50
because we don't get
any more hours in the day.
00:49:35.54\00:49:37.77
When you add more on, it
subtracts somewhere else.
00:49:37.81\00:49:41.51
And it usually subtracts
00:49:41.54\00:49:42.88
from our
marriage and our family.
00:49:42.91\00:49:45.21
And that's not a
good subtraction.
00:49:45.25\00:49:46.58
Right.
00:49:46.61\00:49:47.95
We don't want to,
want our children to see
00:49:47.98\00:49:50.19
a whole totally
different person Sabbath hours,
00:49:50.22\00:49:52.39
like, are you still my mother?
00:49:52.42\00:49:54.42
What happened to my
mother? You know, I...
00:49:54.46\00:49:56.83
Super dad and super mom.
00:49:56.86\00:49:58.63
I don't know if I've
shared this story on 3ABN
00:49:58.66\00:50:01.66
and family worships before,
00:50:01.70\00:50:03.50
or it's just the Latino network.
00:50:03.53\00:50:05.83
But when our
children were small,
00:50:05.87\00:50:09.40
they were supposed to
shine their shoes by Thursday.
00:50:09.44\00:50:12.91
Everything has to
be, you know, in order.
00:50:12.94\00:50:15.88
So one Sabbath morning,
00:50:15.91\00:50:17.91
one of my sons, our sons
did not find their shoes.
00:50:17.95\00:50:23.85
It's like, what on
earth is wrong with you kid,
00:50:23.89\00:50:26.76
find the shoes, we
got to go to church.
00:50:26.79\00:50:29.46
They're your
Sabbath shoes, you know?
00:50:29.49\00:50:31.69
So anyway, I told
him, just go ahead.
00:50:31.73\00:50:35.16
And I'm dealing
with this child at home
00:50:35.20\00:50:37.60
and I am so mad at this kid.
00:50:37.63\00:50:40.00
It's like, you're
going to make a slates.
00:50:40.04\00:50:41.40
And, you know, you
should have had that.
00:50:41.44\00:50:43.37
I told you a blank, nagging,
nagging, nagging, nagging.
00:50:43.41\00:50:46.54
And the kid
finally found his shoes.
00:50:46.57\00:50:49.38
I was not about to go find them.
00:50:49.41\00:50:51.48
I'm like, you are
responsible for that.
00:50:51.51\00:50:53.45
You deal with it.
00:50:53.48\00:50:54.82
So anyway, I yelled
at this kid, my son,
00:50:54.85\00:50:57.55
and by the time when
we walked into church
00:50:57.59\00:51:00.76
where some people in the foyer,
00:51:00.79\00:51:02.96
and they were like, "Oh,
hi, Idalia, happy Sabbath."
00:51:02.99\00:51:05.53
I'm like, "Oh, how are you?"
00:51:05.56\00:51:07.96
And all loving and hugging
and all this stuffy and happy.
00:51:08.00\00:51:12.73
And it's like, the Lord
gave me a good holy slap.
00:51:12.77\00:51:16.04
You know, those
thick slaps, you know?
00:51:16.07\00:51:18.97
I'm like what did
I just do to my son.
00:51:19.01\00:51:22.74
I put him through, you
know, bad, steaming comments.
00:51:22.78\00:51:28.35
You put him on the oven.
00:51:28.38\00:51:30.79
So, and here I am sitting
or walking in and being so nice
00:51:30.82\00:51:35.22
and friendly to people
that don't live with me,
00:51:35.26\00:51:38.03
but my child, his
spirit is, you know, broken.
00:51:38.06\00:51:42.90
So I then, you know,
the Lord convicted my heart
00:51:42.93\00:51:46.13
and I was broken and
I apologized to my son,
00:51:46.17\00:51:48.77
but I will never do.
00:51:48.80\00:51:50.24
I said, I am not going to
be fighting over any shoes,
00:51:50.27\00:51:54.08
go with your gym shoes or
go barefoot, I don't care.
00:51:54.11\00:51:56.54
We're going to
make it, you know,
00:51:56.58\00:51:58.11
we're going to go to the church.
00:51:58.15\00:51:59.68
So, or maybe some
folks at home are saying,
00:51:59.71\00:52:01.78
Idalia, that was mean.
00:52:01.82\00:52:03.15
Go help him find the shoes.
00:52:03.18\00:52:04.52
But I would be
like, you know what?
00:52:04.55\00:52:07.72
Whatever you need,
00:52:07.76\00:52:09.09
let me know when you're ready,
00:52:09.12\00:52:10.46
so we can go.
00:52:10.49\00:52:11.83
So, but I don't want to
put my kids or my family
00:52:11.86\00:52:15.53
through all this
stress before going to church
00:52:15.56\00:52:19.50
and then sit like a
saint and say, amen, sister
00:52:19.53\00:52:22.27
or amen,
greetings pastor, you know?
00:52:22.30\00:52:26.04
That's very real. Thank you.
00:52:26.07\00:52:28.94
'Cause we've all experienced it.
00:52:28.98\00:52:30.95
If we're honest and
we just want to make sure
00:52:30.98\00:52:33.55
we're all good.
00:52:33.58\00:52:34.92
We've all been
social Christians, right?
00:52:34.95\00:52:36.52
Yes, you're out there.
00:52:36.55\00:52:39.05
Yeah, but our children
need to enjoy the peace
00:52:39.09\00:52:44.89
that is within
the Sabbath hours,
00:52:44.93\00:52:47.23
Friday sundown
to Sabbath sundown
00:52:47.26\00:52:49.56
and the activities and coming in
00:52:49.60\00:52:52.03
and going at the
church or activities,
00:52:52.07\00:52:54.67
going to the park,
going into nature, you know,
00:52:54.70\00:52:56.91
that is attendants that we have.
00:52:56.94\00:52:59.11
These are ideas that
are great for the Sabbath,
00:52:59.14\00:53:01.91
you know, and the Lord,
the Lord has infinite wisdom.
00:53:01.94\00:53:05.88
He can give us ideas
how to make the Sabbath
00:53:05.91\00:53:08.38
a delight for the
family, for the children,
00:53:08.42\00:53:11.35
that the whole
family will look forward
00:53:11.39\00:53:13.72
to the Sabbath instead of,
00:53:13.76\00:53:16.06
oh no, here's the Sabbath again.
00:53:16.09\00:53:18.39
And we can't do
this and we can't do that
00:53:18.43\00:53:20.40
because, how
many kinds of fruits
00:53:20.43\00:53:24.07
did the Lord make?
00:53:24.10\00:53:26.03
There are many
kinds of fruits out there,
00:53:26.07\00:53:28.00
you're so just like that.
00:53:28.04\00:53:29.70
We can find
there are many things
00:53:29.74\00:53:31.24
that we can do on the
Sabbath that is a delight.
00:53:31.27\00:53:33.91
And really the
Lord is keeping us
00:53:33.94\00:53:36.51
away from things that
interrupt our communion with Him
00:53:36.54\00:53:41.22
and are not, are
beneficial to us in some way,
00:53:41.25\00:53:46.35
because the
Sabbath is supposed to be
00:53:46.39\00:53:47.89
a special time for families
00:53:47.92\00:53:49.66
and for us to
spend with the Lord.
00:53:49.69\00:53:51.96
I'd like to expand
that just a little bit too,
00:53:51.99\00:53:53.86
because I don't want
00:53:53.90\00:53:55.46
any of our viewers to think that
00:53:55.50\00:53:56.87
we're only talking about,
if you have children at home
00:53:56.90\00:53:59.93
that you need to be
having these family worships,
00:53:59.97\00:54:03.04
or you need to be
making Sabbath a delight
00:54:03.07\00:54:05.87
because all of us
are God's children
00:54:05.91\00:54:08.28
and heaven in eternity
00:54:08.31\00:54:10.71
is going to be
full of delight, right?
00:54:10.75\00:54:12.71
And every Sabbath
will be a high day.
00:54:12.75\00:54:15.42
And so for us as
adults and maybe, you know,
00:54:15.45\00:54:18.55
our children are grown and gone.
00:54:18.59\00:54:19.92
That's our situation.
00:54:19.95\00:54:21.29
We're kind of empty nesters now.
00:54:21.32\00:54:22.89
And we still look
for ways to make Sabbath
00:54:22.92\00:54:26.19
extremely special
in our relationship.
00:54:26.23\00:54:28.50
And some of our
greatest, you know,
00:54:28.53\00:54:32.67
Sabbath experiences
has been with adults,
00:54:32.70\00:54:35.40
our young adults, right?
00:54:35.44\00:54:37.07
And us, and then
even a grandfather,
00:54:37.11\00:54:39.51
you know, who was present.
00:54:39.54\00:54:41.24
And he said to us,
00:54:41.28\00:54:42.64
this is the best
Sabbath I've ever had.
00:54:42.68\00:54:44.25
He wasn't our grandfather,
but he was grandfatherly age.
00:54:44.28\00:54:47.62
And he said, "I never knew that
00:54:47.65\00:54:49.02
all these blessings we
could have on the Sabbath."
00:54:49.05\00:54:51.05
So it's not just for
children, it's for all of us.
00:54:51.09\00:54:55.32
And to have all of us
are given this opportunity
00:54:55.36\00:54:58.06
to call the day of delight
00:54:58.09\00:54:59.96
and to ride on the high
places that God has for us.
00:55:00.00\00:55:02.63
That's what whets our appetite
to continue that relationship
00:55:02.66\00:55:06.33
through the next week.
00:55:06.37\00:55:07.80
If Sabbath is a drudgery,
00:55:07.84\00:55:09.64
then we're not
motivated to commune with God
00:55:09.67\00:55:11.87
during the week.
00:55:11.91\00:55:13.24
And the Christian experience
00:55:13.27\00:55:14.61
is just continually
going downhill and declining.
00:55:14.64\00:55:17.81
So by having worship
daily and in our home,
00:55:17.85\00:55:21.58
we went from daily worship
to morning and evening worship,
00:55:21.62\00:55:26.05
just begin the day
and end the day with God.
00:55:26.09\00:55:28.12
And then Friday evening worship
00:55:28.16\00:55:29.92
was always the
climax of the week.
00:55:29.96\00:55:32.59
Yes.
00:55:32.63\00:55:33.96
Well, our time
is gone as to say.
00:55:34.00\00:55:37.13
I would like to ask, Tom,
00:55:37.17\00:55:39.40
if you could say a few words,
00:55:39.43\00:55:41.17
the fathers that are
with us, you know, 45 seconds
00:55:41.20\00:55:45.31
and then we'll
give Alane 45 seconds.
00:55:45.34\00:55:46.81
Yeah.
00:55:46.84\00:55:48.18
So, men, fathers, husbands,
00:55:48.21\00:55:51.28
it's a privilege
to be the house band.
00:55:51.31\00:55:55.18
Okay?
00:55:55.22\00:55:56.55
The husband is the house band
00:55:56.58\00:55:58.15
that holds the
family together under God.
00:55:58.19\00:56:00.72
And he's called
each of our hearts.
00:56:00.76\00:56:03.02
And I know as
we've shared together,
00:56:03.06\00:56:05.06
that He wants you to be
00:56:05.09\00:56:07.66
all that you can be through Him.
00:56:07.70\00:56:10.93
He wants us as
men to recognize that
00:56:10.97\00:56:14.47
that our homes
00:56:14.50\00:56:15.84
is where our
hearts need to be first,
00:56:15.87\00:56:18.24
it's with our,
it's our marriage.
00:56:18.27\00:56:20.28
It's our, if we're having,
00:56:20.31\00:56:22.48
if we have children in our home,
00:56:22.51\00:56:24.18
that we are with them,
that we are leading the way
00:56:24.21\00:56:27.25
by example that
when we make a mistake,
00:56:27.28\00:56:30.32
we confess, we
make no excuses that
00:56:30.35\00:56:33.32
we tell them, we're sorry,
and that they can respect us.
00:56:33.36\00:56:36.83
Thank you so much.
00:56:36.86\00:56:38.43
And for all the ladies,
00:56:38.46\00:56:40.00
and this is really for everyone.
00:56:40.03\00:56:42.96
We just want to have that
right relationship with God.
00:56:43.00\00:56:46.03
And so taking time
every day in His Word,
00:56:46.07\00:56:48.50
spending time
in prayer with Him,
00:56:48.54\00:56:50.24
looking for the
things that He has for us
00:56:50.27\00:56:52.54
to experience in life.
00:56:52.57\00:56:54.88
And when those trials come,
00:56:54.91\00:56:56.71
don't think that
God has abandoned us,
00:56:56.75\00:56:58.45
but those are opportunities
00:56:58.48\00:56:59.81
He's giving us
right at that moment
00:56:59.85\00:57:01.75
to grow our relationship
with Him, to trust Him more.
00:57:01.78\00:57:05.29
And then to learn to
be the Proverbs 31 woman
00:57:05.32\00:57:07.92
that has the grace
of God on her tongue.
00:57:07.96\00:57:11.06
Thank you so much.
Well, Idalia, time is over.
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So we hope that
you have been blessed
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by this family worship.
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We encourage you
to talk to the Lord
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about how you
can make the Sabbath
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a delight for
yourself and your family.
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Thank you for being with us.
God bless you till next time.
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Happy Sabbath. Happy Sabbath.
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