I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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I want to spend my life
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Removing pain
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Lord, let my words
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Let my words
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Heal a heart that hurts
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I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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Hello, and welcome to another
3ABN today Family Worship.
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My name is Jill Morikone.
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And we just want to
wish you happy Sabbath.
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Thank you for spending
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these opening hours
of the Sabbath with us
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as we sit around the
table and share with you
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at home as part
of our 3ABN family.
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You may have noticed that
Greg wasn't sitting beside me.
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And any time I'm not sitting
on Family Worship with Greg,
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I feel incomplete
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but we are having
ladies Family Worship here.
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And we are sharing a
sisters together at the table.
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And we're so blessed that
you are joining us as well.
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So I want to introduce
our family at this time.
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Sitting on my
left is Shelley Quinn,
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and it's just a joy and blessing
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to have you here, Shelley.
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No, it's always a
joy to be here with you.
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And next to
Shelley is Dee Hilderbrand.
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And, Dee, we work in
the same office together?
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Yes, we do. And
it's a joy to have you.
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I know you're not
always in front of the camera,
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but tell us what
your role is here at 3ABN?
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I do the scheduling.
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So I'm working with
the studio scheduling
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and I work with
the crew scheduling.
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So that's kind of part time now
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and it seems to be
working out quite well.
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We're not sure
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we like the part
time thing going on here
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but we are blessed.
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Dee is a blessing here and
Shelley is a blessing here.
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And sitting on my right
here is Mollie Steenson.
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And, Mollie, it's
always a privilege to share
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and do Family Worship
and to share with you.
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It's a joy to be here
with this group of ladies.
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And I say about Dee, as long as
she keeps all of her work done,
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she can retire if she wants to.
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You just got to
keep the work done, Dee.
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Well, that's working out
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because I've
watched God take some of,
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distribute some of my work.
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3ABN didn't do that but God did.
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Yeah. He's in charge.
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And it's
wonderful to watch Him work.
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Amen.
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And it's just exciting
to see God work at 3ABN.
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You know you see
how God graces and gifts
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each one of the people
who are called to ministry.
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I could look
around this table and know
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that God has graced and gift
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each one of you
women for the job
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that He has called you to do.
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And I could say each
one of you have mentored me.
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I'm the kid on the
block, I guess you can say,
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but each one of
you have mentored me
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and helped me grow in Jesus.
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And mentorship, older
godly women to younger women
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is a wonderful thing.
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You know, but I do want to
mention that our topic tonight
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is not just for women.
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This is a topic that
men need to hear as well.
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Every breathing,
living need to hear.
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Amen. Amen. It is a great topic.
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We're talking about
the topic of self-control.
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And Greg and I were discussing
this just the other night
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that I thought God couldn't
you have had us pick a topic
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that maybe I'm
getting some good victory.
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And this is a topic
that God wants each one of us
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to grow and to learn,
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and to learn how
to surrender to Him,
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and how to let Him
control us in our lives.
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So we want to encourage you
to have your Bibles and pens
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and share along with us
on the topic of self-control.
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But before we do that,
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we're going to
have a word of prayer
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and then go to our music.
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Shelley, would
you open up in prayer?
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Absolutely.
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Our most gracious
loving heavenly Father,
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we come today to
thank You for this Sabbath
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that reminds us.
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Lord, You said it is a sign
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that You were the
one who sanctifies us.
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And, Lord, we ask
in the name of Jesus
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that You will send
Your Holy Spirit now
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to be our teacher to
guide our conversation.
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We thank You and praise You
for the gift of Your Spirit,
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the gift of Your Son
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most especially
in Your Word, Lord.
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And now, Lord, as
our brothers and sisters
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who are watching,
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watching and
listening to this program.
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I pray that we will
all have ears to hear
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what the Holy
Spirit has to say, Father.
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And help us to
walk yielded to you
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in Jesus' name, amen.
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Amen.
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We have at the
piano, Tim Parton.
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And he is our brother in Jesus,
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and we're so blessed by
Tim's ministry here at 3ABN.
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And I know that if
you're all familiar with 3ABN,
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you're familiar with
him and his heart for God.
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And so thank you, Tim,
for being here with us.
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And that's all
we're going to do,
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the words will come
up on the screen for you.
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It's perfect that fits
with our theme of self-control,
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"Have Thine own way
Lord! Have Thine own way"!
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Have Thy own way Lord!
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Have Thine own way!
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Thou art the Potter
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I am the clay
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Mold me and make me
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After Thy will
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While I am waiting
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Yielded and still
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Have Thine own way, Lord!
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Have Thine own way!
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Search me and try me
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Master, today!
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Whiter than snow, Lord
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Wash me just now
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As in Thy presence
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Humbly I bow
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Have Thine own way, Lord!
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Have Thine own way!
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Hold o'er my being
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Absolute sway!
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Fill with Thy Spirit
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Till all shall see
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Christ only, always
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Living in me!
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Amen. Amen.
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I know that's our
prayer here at the table.
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I know for you at home as
well, Lord, have Your own way.
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Work out Your own will and
way in my heart and in my life.
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So we're so glad
that you were joining us
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for 3ABN Family Worship.
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We're talking
today about self-control.
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And as we jump into the topic
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before we
discuss it and talk about
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biblical examples of people
who exercised self-control
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or maybe didn't
exercised self-control.
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And we'll talk about
scriptures, in the Word of God,
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how we can develop self-control
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or really how the Lord
can develop self-control
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in our hearts and lives.
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Before we do any of that,
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let's look at the fruit
of the spirit in Galatians 5,
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kind of a foundational
scripture as we get going.
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And, Mollie, you
want to read that for us,
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Galatians 5:22 and 23.
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Okay.
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"But the fruit of the
Spirit is love, joy, peace,
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long suffering, kindness,
goodness, faithfulness,
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gentleness, self-control.
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Against such
things there is no law."
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So what is if I
were to ask you ladies
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maybe a
definition of self-control?
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What would come to your mind?
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It can be a biblical definition
or one from the dictionary
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or one from hard-won experience.
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What would you
say self-control is?
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Well, self-control, the
ability to control oneself
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your feelings, your
emotions or your actions.
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Your ability to
control yourself.
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Okay.
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And I think of it is,
you know, in particularly
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with in context with
the scripture of the vine
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and the branch and
the fruit being developed.
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And that is a part of the fruit
of the Spirit is self-control.
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It is to, its Christ
character being worked out in me
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as the Holy Spirit teaches me
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not to fulfill
the lusts of the flesh
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and the lust of the eyes.
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So self-control is something
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that I have nothing of without
the Spirit of God really.
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Amen. Amen. Dee, any thoughts?
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That's how I feel is it that is
one of my greatest weaknesses.
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I don't feel like I have
self-control without the Lord
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because self
just gets in the way.
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Self
centeredness gets in the way,
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and so there's no
self-control without the Lord.
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Can I make a
point? Yeah, please.
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It's interesting because
in the previous scripture
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beginning with verse 19,
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he's talking about
the works of the flesh.
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And, you know,
it's interesting to me
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that I think that he started
when he's listing the fruit.
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He starts with the love
which is the essence of God.
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That's the root of it all.
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But I think he ended
with self-control on purpose
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and is an emphasis because
all of the works of the flesh
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reflect a lack of self-control.
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So it's kind of like,
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he's talked about all
of these things that are,
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you know, the
adultery, fornication,
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uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry
sorcery, hatred contentions,
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jealousies, outburst of wrath,
you know, it goes on and on,
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envy drunkenness,
M&Ms, peanuts, no.
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It covers everything.
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With women around the table,
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you know that's
got to come in, right?
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But it's
something that it seems like
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by ending with self-control.
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Don't all of the
works of the flesh
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reflect a lack of self-control?
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And that's just what's natural,
like what you said, Dee,
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there is, there's
no real self-control
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without the Holy
Spirit working in our life.
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I agree with you, Shelley,
'cause if you look at them,
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these are all either sensual
passions or selfish passions
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or wanting my own way.
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And to me self-control is just
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my own self
getting in the way, right.
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My own passions, my
attitude, my action,
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all of that getting in the
way of what God wants to do.
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Our carnal
nature, our fallen nature.
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Yeah. Absolutely.
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Well, let's look at
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some biblical
examples of self-control.
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Let's start with...
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To me this is
the best one, Jesus.
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Let's look at that.
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I don't think
we'll get to all of these
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but we're looking at Jesus.
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Now He exhibited self-control
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in many different
areas of His life.
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But the one we're looking at
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specifically is in Matthew,
the temptations of Jesus.
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Matthew 4.
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Matthew 4:1-11. Matthew 4:1-11.
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So, Mollie, you want to,
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I know we'd probably
won't read the whole thing.
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But you want to
give us a summary
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of what the temptations are,
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what Jesus experienced there
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and which ones do you
think went with self-control?
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Or do you think all of the
temptations dealt with that?
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I know, I'm kind of
putting you on the spot here.
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Well, Jesus had just
been coming from His baptism.
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And what happened to
Jesus at the baptism.
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The Holy Spirit descended
as a dove and God spoke.
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What did He say?
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This is My beloved Son
in whom I am well pleased.
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And then the scripture says
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that Jesus was led
into the wilderness by whom?
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The Holy Spirit.
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But the Holy Sprit led
Jesus into the wilderness
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there to be
tempted, tested and tried,
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40 days and 40
nights by the devil.
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And, you know, something that
we have learned in the garden.
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Going back to the garden,
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Eve was tempted,
tested and tried,
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and she failed.
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But in the three
areas, the same three areas
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that we see here in
Matthew that Jesus overcame
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and which were
lust of the flesh,
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lust of the eyes, pride of life.
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Were those all
temptations of the flesh?
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Of course, they are.
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Eve failed, Jesus
however was victorious
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in every single one
of these temptations
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that came His way,
every area He was tested,
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and how did He overcome?
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Through His
Father. The Word of God.
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It is written, it is written
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which is the same
way you can overcome,
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we can't overcome any other way
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than through the power of God
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working in our lives
through the power of His Word.
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Amen. Amen. That's beautiful.
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You think going
40 days without food.
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And I think one of my battles
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would be self-control with food.
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Right, you think oh,
I want this sweet treat
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or oh, I like this.
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And yet He went
40 days with no food.
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And yet at the
end of that 40 days,
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He was able to stand
that test for self-control.
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That's amazing to me. Shelley?
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The first thing
that the enemy did come
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and test him with was,
turned the stones into bread.
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And what did the
Satan test Eve with?
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Eat this apple.
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Eat this fruit,
it's good. Eat the fruit.
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The lust of the flesh,
those appetites of ours.
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You know, I
think that I feel like
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God has given me a lot
of control in many areas.
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But, and I'm not an overeater.
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But sometimes I get
on these little kicks,
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and especially if
I'm really working hard
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and really pushing myself a lot.
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Chocolate is a temptation to me.
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Chocolate covered peanut.
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M&M's peanuts are just
a real temptation to me.
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They give me a
little energy if you will.
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But in Romans 13:14, Paul said,
"Put on the Lord Jesus Christ
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and make no
provision for the flesh."
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So typically it is very
rare that I will buy them
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because I know, I mean,
and so to me that's the area,
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that's where the Lord gives me
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self-control is not
making the purchase.
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Now, however, if
somebody gives me some...
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Like a good friend.
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Like my good friends,
when they give me some.
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You know, that is something
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that I still need
to pray to overcome
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because I will sit.
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If you put a bowl of
M&M's peanuts in front of me
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before the afternoon
is over they all be gone.
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But if you
didn't have them there,
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you wouldn't go
out and purchase some.
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Yes. That
reminded me of something.
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Some years ago,
now, I don't know
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if you all ever
played video games.
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My children had a video game
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until I'll just tell
myself, it was called Tetris.
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It was a challenge and
I love a good challenge.
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And I would play Tetris
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and it was my children's
game they never liked it.
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So they didn't
bother they end it up with,
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that was Jeremy's actually.
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And I realized I
would find spare time
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to get to go play
with that video game
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and I did not like what
that was doing to my time,
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I was kind of pulled drawn to
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you know what I did,
Hal laughed about this.
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I took that Tetris
game out into the garage
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and I got a
hammer and I beat it up.
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Amen! Amen!
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That's powerful one.
My children didn't care.
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They didn't like it anyway.
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But I realized I
can't overcome this thing
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sitting by my television,
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you played it on the television.
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But if I just
smashed it to smithereens,
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hey, I won't gonna
go to buy another one.
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And, you know,
that's kind of the same way
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what I was doing for some time
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when I would be
writing a book for the Lord.
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And then at the end of
that, I would get myself,
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you know, I'd be
maybe 11 o'clock at night.
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I'd give myself a reward
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and play some kind of
a game on my computer.
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But it was robbing me of sleep
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'cause it maybe
11 o'clock at night,
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when I would do this.
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And suddenly I'm up to,
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you know, one game turns
into three, turns into ten.
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And I just took all
the games off my computer
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because I thought I
started developing a pattern
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and it was not
one of self-control,
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so make no
provision for the flesh.
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I just took it
off from my computer.
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Go ahead, Dee.
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Satan, see Satan just keeps
trying different little things
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because each individual is
tempted by something different.
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None of us fall
in the same area.
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So Satan is
constantly throwing things at us
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to see, where is your weakness,
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how can I tempt you?
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And I think many
times we fall into this
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not having self-control
before we realize it.
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And then all of a
sudden, we look and say,
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oh, we're spending time
here or we're doing this.
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We don't recognize
it as something that is,
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that we're out of
control until it's too late.
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Then Satan is hoping that
we will not have the self will
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or the self power to
go take a hammer to it
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or not purchase it.
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So he's going to
constantly find our weakness,
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then it takes the
Holy Spirit to impress.
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You had to be
impressed by the Holy Spirit
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that that's what
you needed to go and do.
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I know that there
are certain things
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that if I go
purchase or buy I'm sunk,
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I'm not going to use
self-control in the house.
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I'm like you.
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I have to make my
list and stick to it
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when it comes to food.
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But that happens
to other things too
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till he finds
our little hot button
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of no self-control.
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That's so true.
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I love the scripture
you used there, Shelley.
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Romans 13:14, make no
provision for the flesh
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to fulfill the lust there of,
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because in my own experience,
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I experienced the same thing.
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And I think as you
said, if we have it there
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readily
available in the cupboard,
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or in my experience it
was when I was a teenager,
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I became hooked
on romance novels.
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And then when Greg and
I first got married there
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that I thought, okay, I'm
going to throw the books out,
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because if they're in the home
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that's
constantly pulling me back.
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And you think
I'm strong in Jesus
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but then a weak moment comes
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and it's
staring you in the face.
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And in our
experience, my experience
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when we first got married,
we had the little 13 inch TV.
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You know with a
rabbit ear antenna
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and it's kind of
fuzzy but excuse me,
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we got maybe I don't know,
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how many channels
locally are there?
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Four or five. Five.
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Just a few channels but
I discovered soap operas.
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And it was like a
romance novel come to life.
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You know all that
infidelity and high drama
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and all that
stuff that is ungodly
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that does not
go with Philippines
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for a whatsoever
things are pure and lovely,
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think on those things.
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And so in our experience,
Greg and I sat down and talked
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and decided to throw out the TV
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or get rid of the rabbit ears.
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We have 3ABN
with a satellite dish
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but we don't get local TV.
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And the reason for that
is because I know I'm weak.
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I know if I went back to that,
it's going to come right back.
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So kind of your illustration...
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You took your hammer.
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I took my hammer
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and that was just simply
getting rid of the rabbit ears.
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So that then I'm not fulfilling
that lust of the flesh.
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It won't be there to like
hold me in a weaker moment.
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Amen. Amen.
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I had to, I got
rid of my library...
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I didn't get rid
of my library card,
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I let it expire,
00:21:01.02\00:21:02.52
because I switched
from reading novels
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to reading Christian literature,
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it's just another, you
see other side of the coin.
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You steal time
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that you should be
doing something else
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is still an addiction.
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And we just try to re-label it,
00:21:17.84\00:21:19.17
that it's okay if
it's Christian literature.
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And still we have to identify
00:21:22.88\00:21:25.85
and then make no
way for that temptation
00:21:25.88\00:21:29.98
because if it's
right in front of us...
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And the point is
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the point is that
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reading Christian
literature is not wrong.
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But if it is
consuming for some of us
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when we have something
that consumes our time.
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And, you know, when we're
not exercising self-control
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that's when we just
get rid of that, right?
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You see that's why I was saying,
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each person has their own...
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You're right,
there's nothing wrong
00:21:53.38\00:21:54.98
with Christian literature.
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And it's okay for
some people. Right.
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Just like M&Ms are
okay for some people.
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My husband could have
eaten a handful and walked away.
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That's JD, he can
eat four and walk away.
00:22:04.75\00:22:06.96
So each person has to recognize
00:22:06.99\00:22:11.16
what Satan finds to addict them
00:22:11.19\00:22:16.97
without the self-control.
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Let's look at
another biblical example.
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We'll turn to
the story of Joseph.
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I think Joseph, Shelley,
00:22:22.87\00:22:24.21
is one of my favorite
characters in the Word of God.
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We're going to
turn to Genesis 39.
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And there's so much
in the story of Joseph,
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but we're going
look specifically at
00:22:32.05\00:22:35.15
Potiphar's wife coming at him.
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And this would be a temptation.
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I guess to the lust
of the flesh, Mollie,
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or it would be
the lust of the eyes?
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Lust of, yeah, both.
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Both. Maybe both.
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I don't know.
00:22:44.83\00:22:46.16
More, maybe more
lust of the flesh.
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Lust of the flesh.
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Okay, so, Shelley,
we won't take the time
00:22:48.93\00:22:50.43
to read that whole chapter,
00:22:50.47\00:22:51.80
but you want to give us a brief
synopsis of what took place.
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Well, what happens in Genesis 39
00:22:55.60\00:22:58.37
is that here Joseph
has come out of prison.
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He is now the steward
for the home of Potiphar,
00:23:01.98\00:23:05.81
he has been put
in the top position.
00:23:05.85\00:23:08.48
He came out of slavery,
he hasn't gone to prison yet.
00:23:08.52\00:23:10.95
Oh, excuse me.
00:23:10.99\00:23:12.32
Yeah, out of slavery. Sorry.
00:23:12.35\00:23:13.69
Thank you, thank
you, out of slavery.
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He is the top administrator
for the household of Potiphar.
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And Potiphar's wife is thinking,
00:23:21.33\00:23:24.80
Joseph looks pretty good.
00:23:24.83\00:23:26.33
So she's constantly after him.
00:23:26.37\00:23:28.90
And he says to her,
00:23:28.94\00:23:31.24
you know, your
husband's given me
00:23:31.27\00:23:33.71
everything under my
control except you basically.
00:23:33.74\00:23:36.64
And so as she is trying
to seduce him into an affair,
00:23:36.68\00:23:41.55
he flees from her.
00:23:41.58\00:23:42.92
She's grabbing his coat.
00:23:42.95\00:23:44.29
He flees from her.
00:23:44.32\00:23:45.65
He said, "I cannot do this.
00:23:45.69\00:23:47.89
How can I do this against God?"
00:23:47.92\00:23:51.06
I mean, again so he
can't do it against Potiphar
00:23:51.09\00:23:52.93
but he knew that it
was as a sin of adultery.
00:23:52.96\00:23:57.00
So you know that I imagine
00:23:57.03\00:24:01.14
that she was
probably a pretty woman.
00:24:01.17\00:24:04.07
I think if
Potiphar was so wealthy,
00:24:04.11\00:24:05.91
he probably had
chosen a fairly, lovely lass.
00:24:05.94\00:24:09.88
And he just used
exercise self-control.
00:24:09.91\00:24:16.08
And so that was
a beautiful story.
00:24:16.12\00:24:18.49
And he did it.
00:24:18.52\00:24:20.69
Not, he didn't say,
00:24:20.72\00:24:22.66
I don't want to
sin against Potiphar...
00:24:22.69\00:24:24.99
Yeah, I don't want
to sin against God.
00:24:25.03\00:24:26.36
He was
faultiness on inside of him
00:24:26.39\00:24:28.90
which was his
relationship with God
00:24:28.93\00:24:31.97
and the power of
God, it worked in him
00:24:32.00\00:24:35.00
that gave him the impetus
to overcome in that situation
00:24:35.04\00:24:39.44
because a young man, a
willing woman that's situation,
00:24:39.47\00:24:45.71
you know, fit for failure.
00:24:45.75\00:24:47.45
But because of
his character makeup,
00:24:47.48\00:24:50.65
he stood strong.
00:24:50.69\00:24:52.02
Amen. Amen.
00:24:52.05\00:24:53.39
He made his decision
prior to this ugly issue.
00:24:53.42\00:24:55.86
Absolutely. That's a good point.
00:24:55.89\00:24:57.99
He had the relationship
in the solid ground.
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And I doubt if she
came at him just once.
00:25:02.23\00:25:04.93
Or she came at him...
00:25:04.97\00:25:06.30
The Bible says, she said,
day after, what does this say?
00:25:06.33\00:25:10.77
Verse say, he refused.
00:25:10.81\00:25:13.74
Verse 10, so what was it
she spoke to Joseph day by day.
00:25:13.78\00:25:16.54
So that means
00:25:16.58\00:25:17.91
this is a consistent
temptation in his face.
00:25:17.95\00:25:19.28
Right, trying to wear him down.
00:25:19.31\00:25:21.52
But he determined
in his heart and mind
00:25:21.55\00:25:23.95
and he had to have
kept the relationship
00:25:23.99\00:25:25.72
with the Lord strong,
00:25:25.75\00:25:27.26
because he did that through,
00:25:27.29\00:25:29.36
he did that through not
just self-control on his own
00:25:29.39\00:25:33.46
but through the relationship
he had already established.
00:25:33.50\00:25:37.07
You know what I love
about this scripture to me,
00:25:37.10\00:25:38.90
it's one of the
points that it proves
00:25:38.93\00:25:40.84
that the Ten Commandments
were well-known before,
00:25:40.87\00:25:45.04
you know, God
taught them to Abraham
00:25:45.07\00:25:47.01
and Abraham taught
them to his children
00:25:47.04\00:25:49.71
and it's something that God...
00:25:49.74\00:25:52.71
They knew God's commandments.
00:25:52.75\00:25:54.68
And this is before
God wrote them on stone.
00:25:54.72\00:25:57.09
So they knew adultery was wrong.
00:25:57.12\00:25:58.79
And the decision that
Joseph may cost him something.
00:25:58.82\00:26:02.02
Oh, boy, did it
cost him everything.
00:26:02.06\00:26:05.16
He ended up in prison for it.
00:26:05.19\00:26:06.90
And so you think, okay,
I'm making a choice for God.
00:26:06.93\00:26:09.56
I'm making a stand to
honor God and the principles
00:26:09.60\00:26:13.67
and my relationship with God
00:26:13.70\00:26:15.50
above any other
temptation or sin.
00:26:15.54\00:26:18.24
And yet he was thrown in prison
00:26:18.27\00:26:20.31
because of the
choice and the stance
00:26:20.34\00:26:22.44
that he made, you are right.
00:26:22.48\00:26:23.81
I talk to my young
adults all the time about.
00:26:23.85\00:26:28.08
In classes we're
talking about things
00:26:28.12\00:26:30.32
is that if you're
going to have self-control,
00:26:30.35\00:26:33.09
you have to make these decisions
00:26:33.12\00:26:34.66
prior to the
temptation coming at you.
00:26:34.69\00:26:39.13
And you also
have to be prepared.
00:26:39.16\00:26:41.13
You have to have that
relationship prior too
00:26:41.16\00:26:43.57
and make your
decision prior too.
00:26:43.60\00:26:45.23
Amen.
00:26:45.27\00:26:46.60
But Satan is going
to still keep trying
00:26:46.63\00:26:49.90
to find that weak
spot, that weak point.
00:26:49.94\00:26:52.97
So it is a ongoing battle.
00:26:53.01\00:26:57.01
And you may think that you
are not subject to something
00:26:57.05\00:27:02.02
but you don't,
you don't always know.
00:27:02.05\00:27:04.92
If a man think he
stand take heed lest he fall.
00:27:04.95\00:27:09.59
But you know when you
think about it as young people,
00:27:09.62\00:27:13.86
you may make a
decision in your heart.
00:27:13.90\00:27:15.66
I mean, this is
an amazing example
00:27:15.70\00:27:17.03
because he was a
virile young man.
00:27:17.07\00:27:19.77
You may make a
decision in your heart,
00:27:19.80\00:27:21.20
I'm not going
to sin against God.
00:27:21.24\00:27:23.10
But if you put yourself,
00:27:23.14\00:27:25.11
see I think he was very careful
to avoid getting in that place
00:27:25.14\00:27:29.98
where she could
corner him in that day
00:27:30.01\00:27:31.98
that she actually
grabs hold of his coat.
00:27:32.01\00:27:34.32
He flees.
00:27:34.35\00:27:35.68
So for younger people
00:27:35.72\00:27:37.09
or don't have to
be younger people,
00:27:37.12\00:27:39.02
if you're just
of the dating age,
00:27:39.05\00:27:40.66
you know, you might
determine in your heart,
00:27:40.69\00:27:43.36
I'm never going to, you
know, have sex before marriage.
00:27:43.39\00:27:48.16
But then if you put
yourself in a position
00:27:48.20\00:27:50.23
where you're constantly alone
with the one that you're dating
00:27:50.27\00:27:53.60
or that you're kissing
and you're carrying on,
00:27:53.64\00:27:56.50
you know,
hormones kick into action
00:27:56.54\00:27:58.77
and that decision that you made
can just suddenly seem it's...
00:27:58.81\00:28:05.65
You can't walk
on Satan's ground.
00:28:05.68\00:28:08.08
That's it, that's it.
00:28:08.12\00:28:09.45
You cannot put
the M&Ms on the shelf
00:28:09.48\00:28:11.89
right in front of your eyes
00:28:11.92\00:28:13.29
and say, I'm not gonna eat them.
00:28:13.32\00:28:14.96
It goes back to Romans 13:14,
making provision for the flesh
00:28:14.99\00:28:18.89
or not making
provision for the flesh,
00:28:18.93\00:28:21.40
because that's what
makes all the difference
00:28:21.43\00:28:23.10
is those
decisions ahead of time.
00:28:23.13\00:28:25.77
Those decisions not to
put yourself in that position
00:28:25.80\00:28:28.80
or in that dangerous thing.
00:28:28.84\00:28:30.21
I know in my own experience,
00:28:30.24\00:28:31.91
there have been times
when I have felt weak.
00:28:31.94\00:28:34.68
You know, from a
human perspective,
00:28:34.71\00:28:37.48
but if I get on my knees
00:28:37.51\00:28:39.91
and if I pray
and ask God about it,
00:28:39.95\00:28:41.85
you know, what's
happening, I have placed myself
00:28:41.88\00:28:45.62
somehow in some area
on the enemy's territory.
00:28:45.65\00:28:50.59
And he has more
access to my life.
00:28:50.63\00:28:53.29
It could be just simply
making provision for the flesh
00:28:53.33\00:28:56.16
in whatever area I'm weakened.
00:28:56.20\00:28:58.17
And then it makes it
easier to give in to that.
00:28:58.20\00:29:01.50
So you... Boy, the
way you said that...
00:29:01.54\00:29:03.04
I don't know if I'm making that.
00:29:03.07\00:29:04.41
Yeah, you were in that
position before you got in,
00:29:04.44\00:29:07.84
when you're on your
knees before the Lord,
00:29:07.88\00:29:10.08
now, He is removing
you from that place.
00:29:10.11\00:29:12.58
Yes, He's saying,
Jill, this is where you were,
00:29:12.61\00:29:14.72
this is why the temptation
was so strong in your life.
00:29:14.75\00:29:18.19
This is why you felt
like, you can't overcome
00:29:18.22\00:29:21.19
because I'd go
before God and say,
00:29:21.22\00:29:22.62
I'm so weak and
why is it so hard.
00:29:22.66\00:29:25.43
Because I had already
00:29:25.46\00:29:27.16
previously placed
myself in a position,
00:29:27.20\00:29:30.90
where it sort of
broke down that wall,
00:29:30.93\00:29:33.37
and Satan had
easier access to come in.
00:29:33.40\00:29:36.04
So I think if we
never get to the place
00:29:36.07\00:29:38.71
of the breaking
down of the wall,
00:29:38.74\00:29:40.11
so much better,
00:29:40.14\00:29:41.48
and if the wall is broken down,
00:29:41.51\00:29:43.21
don't be
discouraged because God says,
00:29:43.24\00:29:45.65
"If we confess our sins,
00:29:45.68\00:29:47.22
He is faithful
and just to forgive us
00:29:47.25\00:29:50.15
and that cleanses
from all unrighteousness."
00:29:50.19\00:29:52.72
So no matter
where you are right now
00:29:52.75\00:29:55.29
in this battle for self-control,
00:29:55.32\00:29:57.39
God says, "I
forgive you, I cleanse you,
00:29:57.43\00:30:00.36
and I want you to enable
you to walk new with me today."
00:30:00.40\00:30:03.83
Yeah, he's a
repairer of the breach.
00:30:03.87\00:30:06.80
I was thinking...
00:30:06.84\00:30:10.17
With our young people,
when my children were...
00:30:10.21\00:30:13.07
When Dee Dee,
my oldest daughter,
00:30:13.11\00:30:14.58
when she was 13, 14, 15,
00:30:14.61\00:30:16.95
the youth group
taught the young people
00:30:16.98\00:30:21.15
that where
holding hands leads to.
00:30:21.18\00:30:24.45
And they were,
00:30:24.49\00:30:26.05
you know, specific about
the beginning of a relationship
00:30:26.09\00:30:29.42
and they taught
dating, group dating,
00:30:29.46\00:30:31.86
you never go out.
00:30:31.89\00:30:33.23
So they were trained, so
there was that training up,
00:30:33.26\00:30:37.40
and I think about that
00:30:37.43\00:30:39.37
so strongly we
teach our young people of,
00:30:39.40\00:30:43.30
you know, refraining
until marriage and so forth,
00:30:43.34\00:30:47.21
which is, you
know, vitally important.
00:30:47.24\00:30:49.48
I think about the calls
00:30:49.51\00:30:51.01
that we have got in
our pastoral department.
00:30:51.05\00:30:53.11
Oh, boy.
00:30:53.15\00:30:54.48
From people, they
were in their 70s and 80s,
00:30:54.52\00:30:58.22
they aren't doing what they did
00:30:58.25\00:31:00.49
back when they were 16 or 17.
00:31:00.52\00:31:03.32
They are giving
in to temptation.
00:31:03.36\00:31:06.36
And uh... There is no age limit
00:31:06.39\00:31:10.10
on when we need to be in
right relationship with God
00:31:10.13\00:31:13.60
and obedient to His word,
00:31:13.64\00:31:15.40
and exercise, you know,
we're saying self-control,
00:31:15.44\00:31:20.54
but it's Christ control.
00:31:20.58\00:31:21.91
That's right. That's right.
00:31:21.94\00:31:23.28
It is the fruit of
the Spirit, exactly.
00:31:23.31\00:31:25.31
And knowing, when you said
00:31:25.35\00:31:27.68
something about
young people dating,
00:31:27.72\00:31:29.15
I'm thinking, I'm
widowed, I could date,
00:31:29.18\00:31:31.59
actually I did date
briefly and it was interesting,
00:31:31.62\00:31:35.12
I said to this person "I have
never dated as a Christian,"
00:31:35.16\00:31:38.99
so we need to set
and I was in my 60s.
00:31:39.03\00:31:42.60
So it's like we need to
set our boundaries right now,
00:31:42.63\00:31:45.83
what is
acceptable and what is not.
00:31:45.87\00:31:48.50
And I think that is affective
in every area of our life
00:31:48.54\00:31:53.94
is setting the boundaries
00:31:53.98\00:31:55.51
whether it's food,
00:31:55.54\00:31:58.75
or what we eat,
or what we drink,
00:31:58.78\00:32:00.58
or constantly setting boundaries
00:32:00.62\00:32:03.28
and not beating
ourselves up when we fail,
00:32:03.32\00:32:06.62
because when we
stumble and fall...
00:32:06.65\00:32:10.26
And also the Word tells us,
00:32:10.29\00:32:12.16
"God always gives us an
escape, if we turn to Him."
00:32:12.19\00:32:14.93
Yes. Amen.
00:32:14.96\00:32:16.30
And so, often we
don't turn to it,
00:32:16.33\00:32:18.97
but then there is still
that path of forgiveness,
00:32:19.00\00:32:22.60
because that is our
path of forgiveness.
00:32:22.64\00:32:25.21
Amen.
00:32:25.24\00:32:26.57
Let's turn to John 15,
00:32:26.61\00:32:28.04
I know, we have some
more biblical examples,
00:32:28.08\00:32:29.84
but I want to make sure
we get to some scriptures,
00:32:29.88\00:32:32.41
for how God can
develop His control in us.
00:32:32.45\00:32:34.78
And I like what you
said, Mollie, Christ control,
00:32:34.82\00:32:37.65
because self-control
is a fruit of the Spirit,
00:32:37.69\00:32:40.76
but it has nothing to do with me
00:32:40.79\00:32:42.42
exercising control,
or me gritting my teeth
00:32:42.46\00:32:45.19
has everything to do
with me surrendering.
00:32:45.23\00:32:47.96
My self, my life,
my appetites, passions,
00:32:48.00\00:32:52.43
desires to the control
of the Lord Jesus Christ.
00:32:52.47\00:32:55.20
So you referenced this
at the beginning, Shelley,
00:32:55.24\00:32:57.34
John 15, abiding in the vine.
00:32:57.37\00:33:00.58
And, let me turn
there, I'm not even there.
00:33:00.61\00:33:03.51
Dee, you want to read the first,
00:33:03.55\00:33:05.25
I'm not sure how
many verses because I'm...
00:33:05.28\00:33:06.68
Well, in the very
beginning, it says...
00:33:06.72\00:33:08.72
Okay, you want to
read the first five verses?
00:33:08.75\00:33:10.09
"I'm the true vine
00:33:10.12\00:33:11.45
and my father
is of vine dresser.
00:33:11.49\00:33:14.39
Every branch in Me
that does not bear fruit,
00:33:14.42\00:33:17.29
He takes away
00:33:17.33\00:33:18.66
and every branch
that bears fruit,
00:33:18.69\00:33:20.16
He prunes that it
may bear more fruit."
00:33:20.20\00:33:24.83
Okay, and in 4 it says,
"Abide in Me, and I in you.
00:33:24.87\00:33:30.21
As the branch
cannot bear fruit of itself
00:33:30.24\00:33:32.54
unless it abides in the vine,
00:33:32.57\00:33:34.01
neither can you
unless you abide in Me."
00:33:34.04\00:33:37.05
And one more verse.
00:33:37.08\00:33:38.41
"I am the vine,
you are the branches.
00:33:38.45\00:33:41.72
He who abides in me and
I in him bears much fruit,
00:33:41.75\00:33:46.35
for without me
you can do nothing."
00:33:46.39\00:33:48.29
Amen.
00:33:48.32\00:33:49.66
What does that
verse say to you, Dee?
00:33:49.69\00:33:52.19
Well, when I first
became a Christian,
00:33:52.23\00:33:55.13
I was smoking, and
after I became a Christian
00:33:55.16\00:33:59.47
it was still struggle.
00:33:59.50\00:34:02.50
I quit, I was baptized
00:34:02.54\00:34:04.97
and it came back after me again.
00:34:05.01\00:34:07.28
So here I am, crying and praying
00:34:07.31\00:34:10.11
and smoking all
at the same time,
00:34:10.15\00:34:12.31
it was such a struggle.
00:34:12.35\00:34:15.32
And I couldn't overcome
and I just felt so discouraged
00:34:15.35\00:34:21.06
and I was so weak.
00:34:21.09\00:34:23.86
But something
happened in my life,
00:34:23.89\00:34:25.39
it was a horrible
time in my life, I was...
00:34:25.43\00:34:29.53
Something awful happened.
00:34:29.56\00:34:31.30
And all of a
sudden, three days later
00:34:31.33\00:34:34.77
as I was going through
this emotional turmoil,
00:34:34.80\00:34:39.87
I realized I'm not smoking.
00:34:39.91\00:34:44.25
Oh, wow!
00:34:44.28\00:34:46.11
And I didn't go through with...
00:34:46.15\00:34:47.55
It was just a miracle
where all of a sudden,
00:34:47.58\00:34:51.49
because when there
was no place else to go,
00:34:51.52\00:34:53.79
I went to God, I
just buried myself in Him
00:34:53.82\00:34:57.36
and when I wasn't
trying to quit smoking,
00:34:57.39\00:35:00.76
God miraculously
just took it from me.
00:35:00.80\00:35:03.03
Amen. Amen.
00:35:03.06\00:35:04.63
It is not something you
could ever tempt me with,
00:35:04.67\00:35:06.94
and it's not
something that I could ever say,
00:35:06.97\00:35:09.57
"Oh, I quit smoking."
00:35:09.60\00:35:10.94
Right.
00:35:10.97\00:35:12.31
And I'm not a non...
00:35:12.34\00:35:13.68
I am not an
ex-smoker, I am a non smoker.
00:35:13.71\00:35:17.48
Amen. Amen.
00:35:17.51\00:35:18.85
There isn't even the
desire anything in me now,
00:35:18.88\00:35:21.35
I know he doesn't
always do that for everyone,
00:35:21.38\00:35:23.52
but I think he does different.
00:35:23.55\00:35:25.85
He does a miracle in
every life when we allow Him to.
00:35:25.89\00:35:29.36
So I give Him all the glory,
00:35:29.39\00:35:30.89
it was Christ's
control that did it,
00:35:30.93\00:35:34.50
and it's my
miracle that I hang on to
00:35:34.53\00:35:36.87
knowing that He will do
whatever He needs for me
00:35:36.90\00:35:41.30
if I allow it.
00:35:41.34\00:35:44.67
That's great...
00:35:44.71\00:35:46.04
And being in the
vine. Go ahead, Shelley.
00:35:46.07\00:35:47.94
I was just going to
say that what struck me
00:35:47.98\00:35:49.74
as you were
talking about this is,
00:35:49.78\00:35:51.11
it's a progressive walk,
00:35:51.15\00:35:52.58
because, you know,
there's nine things
00:35:52.61\00:35:55.72
that are listed as
the fruit of the Spirit.
00:35:55.75\00:35:58.35
It's not nine
fruits of the Spirit,
00:35:58.39\00:36:00.32
it is the fruit of the Spirit,
00:36:00.36\00:36:02.52
but this is
something that as we...
00:36:02.56\00:36:06.19
You know, you can only be filled
00:36:06.23\00:36:08.30
with the Holy
Spirit to the degree
00:36:08.33\00:36:09.66
you're emptied of self.
00:36:09.70\00:36:11.03
Amen. Right?
00:36:11.07\00:36:12.40
So as we continue to walk
00:36:12.43\00:36:14.30
and try to walk in
obedience to what we know,
00:36:14.34\00:36:17.74
then we give up a
little more of self,
00:36:17.77\00:36:20.08
we are dying to self,
00:36:20.11\00:36:21.44
the Holy Spirit
is working in us,
00:36:21.48\00:36:23.58
and the more we go, this is how,
00:36:23.61\00:36:25.41
self-control
isn't just something
00:36:25.45\00:36:27.15
that we develop
00:36:27.18\00:36:29.18
or that the Holy
Spirit develops in us,
00:36:29.22\00:36:31.99
as he's developing
the character of Christ.
00:36:32.02\00:36:34.96
It doesn't just
happen overnight.
00:36:34.99\00:36:37.63
It's something that
progressively goes forward.
00:36:37.66\00:36:41.50
And I know even
now can't you see
00:36:41.53\00:36:43.40
in the last few years,
00:36:43.43\00:36:44.77
I can see areas in
which I know I've grown
00:36:44.80\00:36:47.27
in areas of self-control
that I didn't have before.
00:36:47.30\00:36:50.61
Amen.
00:36:50.64\00:36:51.97
But he had to
reveal it to you to.
00:36:52.01\00:36:53.88
See, I thought
when I quit smoking
00:36:53.91\00:36:55.54
and did all
these outward things,
00:36:55.58\00:36:56.95
well, I practically had arrived.
00:36:56.98\00:36:59.55
But the minute you get
rid of the outward stuff
00:36:59.58\00:37:02.22
that is not Christ like.
00:37:02.25\00:37:04.89
He turns a spirit
inward and it is...
00:37:04.92\00:37:09.16
I am not sure,
00:37:09.19\00:37:10.53
He always reveals something new.
00:37:10.56\00:37:12.23
Every time we have
victory through the Holy Spirit
00:37:12.26\00:37:16.60
and Christ's
control over something,
00:37:16.63\00:37:20.57
He reveals something else,
00:37:20.60\00:37:22.20
He allows things to happen to us
00:37:22.24\00:37:24.24
so that we recognize, oh,
I don't have control here.
00:37:24.27\00:37:30.48
I need to submit,
00:37:30.51\00:37:32.21
commit this particular
area or this issue to Him
00:37:32.25\00:37:35.82
and have Christ
centered control over this.
00:37:35.85\00:37:38.89
Isn't that the
graciousness of God though?
00:37:38.92\00:37:40.82
It used to discourage me like,
"Look, there is something else,
00:37:40.86\00:37:45.19
but then I thought
this is a blessing."
00:37:45.23\00:37:47.80
You look at it as God loves me,
00:37:47.83\00:37:50.57
and He wants to show me
something that's in my life,
00:37:50.60\00:37:53.44
that's a beautiful thing.
00:37:53.47\00:37:55.37
If God showing us
stuff, I love that.
00:37:55.40\00:37:57.97
I like John 15,
00:37:58.01\00:37:59.34
because it
reminds me that of myself,
00:37:59.37\00:38:02.64
I can't do nothing
apart from the vine
00:38:02.68\00:38:05.31
or disconnected from the vine.
00:38:05.35\00:38:07.25
You know, Greg, I'll
try to share this quickly.
00:38:07.28\00:38:10.02
He grew up in West Virginia,
and they had a grapevine swing,
00:38:10.05\00:38:14.72
that they cut the grape vine,
00:38:14.76\00:38:16.19
you know, how
they start at the base
00:38:16.22\00:38:17.56
and they grow up and
they wrap around a tree.
00:38:17.59\00:38:19.76
And so, they cut
it off at the base
00:38:19.79\00:38:21.86
and then they
made it into a swing,
00:38:21.90\00:38:23.37
so they jump on it
00:38:23.40\00:38:24.73
and they'd swing
out over the valley
00:38:24.77\00:38:26.10
and come back to
the little mountainside.
00:38:26.13\00:38:27.97
And this worked for some time,
until one day they had company.
00:38:28.00\00:38:32.37
And Greg says they jumped on,
00:38:32.41\00:38:35.48
this is how the
grapevine swing works.
00:38:35.51\00:38:37.21
They jumped on,
went over the valley,
00:38:37.25\00:38:38.95
everything went
great, then the friend got on
00:38:38.98\00:38:41.42
and he jumped on
00:38:41.45\00:38:42.78
and went out over
the valley and it broke.
00:38:42.82\00:38:45.69
Because, and he, I think
he landed on a tree stumper
00:38:45.72\00:38:48.56
or something, but he was okay.
00:38:48.59\00:38:49.92
So praise the Lord,
00:38:49.96\00:38:51.29
but it just
reminds me of this passage,
00:38:51.33\00:38:53.36
because it
looked good for a while.
00:38:53.40\00:38:55.86
So we can disconnect
from our source from the sap,
00:38:55.90\00:38:59.63
from Jesus Christ,
00:38:59.67\00:39:01.00
the Holy Spirit flowing into us,
00:39:01.04\00:39:02.57
we can disconnect.
00:39:02.60\00:39:04.14
And for some time, we
look like we're still okay,
00:39:04.17\00:39:07.48
and we still even
function within the church body,
00:39:07.51\00:39:11.18
within, whatever,
but there comes a time
00:39:11.21\00:39:13.92
when that
disconnection becomes apparent,
00:39:13.95\00:39:16.25
because the sap of
Jesus is no longer flowing.
00:39:16.28\00:39:18.15
Absolutely.
00:39:18.19\00:39:19.52
So I think as we talk
about Christ's control,
00:39:19.55\00:39:22.72
it is His life
flowing in and through us.
00:39:22.76\00:39:27.06
Otherwise, we can't do anything,
00:39:27.10\00:39:29.06
we're just dry and
brittle and we break, you know.
00:39:29.10\00:39:31.63
Amen.
00:39:31.67\00:39:33.00
You mentioned,
Shelley, surrender to self.
00:39:33.03\00:39:34.90
So let's look at
a verse about that.
00:39:34.94\00:39:36.27
I like that emptying self.
00:39:36.30\00:39:37.81
Let's look at Galatians 2:20.
00:39:37.84\00:39:43.45
Oh, I like this one.
00:39:43.48\00:39:44.95
And I don't want
to run past too fast
00:39:44.98\00:39:47.08
that part where
God loves us so much
00:39:47.12\00:39:50.82
that He continues to work in us,
00:39:50.85\00:39:53.09
work in us, work in
us, so you're right,
00:39:53.12\00:39:55.59
don't ever feel discouraged
00:39:55.62\00:39:57.26
because God is never
going to give up on you.
00:39:57.29\00:39:59.13
That's right. Thank you, Dee.
00:39:59.16\00:40:01.53
Who wants to read
that Galatians 2:20?
00:40:01.56\00:40:05.67
"I have been
crucified with Christ,
00:40:05.70\00:40:07.17
it is no longer I who
live, but Christ lives in me,
00:40:07.20\00:40:11.17
and the life which I
now live in the flesh,
00:40:11.21\00:40:13.81
I live by faith
in the Son of God,
00:40:13.84\00:40:16.48
who loved me and
gave Himself for me."
00:40:16.51\00:40:19.98
So someone might be saying,
00:40:20.02\00:40:22.45
what does it mean to
be crucified with Christ?
00:40:22.48\00:40:25.35
I don't even
understand that concept.
00:40:25.39\00:40:27.66
So anyone want to tackle that.
00:40:27.69\00:40:29.26
What does that even mean
that, it's not me that's living,
00:40:29.29\00:40:32.19
but it's Christ
that's living in me?
00:40:32.23\00:40:34.03
I think of...
00:40:34.06\00:40:35.40
You know, Acts 13...
00:40:35.43\00:40:37.63
Excuse me, Romans 13. Okay.
00:40:37.67\00:40:40.60
I think it's
Romans 13, let me see.
00:40:40.64\00:40:42.50
We're all
looking... No, Romans 8:13.
00:40:42.54\00:40:44.31
Okay, Romans 8:13. Yes.
00:40:44.34\00:40:46.54
You know, when
we come to the Lord,
00:40:46.57\00:40:50.28
what God asks of us, He
has a plan for our life,
00:40:50.31\00:40:52.91
He just simply ask
that we yield to His plan.
00:40:52.95\00:40:55.25
He will not, when we're
talking about Christ's control,
00:40:55.28\00:40:58.42
Christ never comes in
and just takes over us.
00:40:58.45\00:41:00.92
He's developing
in us this ability
00:41:00.96\00:41:04.33
for the self-control,
00:41:04.36\00:41:05.89
but when we say, "Okay, Lord,
00:41:05.93\00:41:11.33
I'm going to
yield myself to you,
00:41:11.37\00:41:13.44
have Your own way, Lord,
00:41:13.47\00:41:14.94
I know You've got
a plan for my life
00:41:14.97\00:41:16.50
that's better than
the one that I've got."
00:41:16.54\00:41:19.11
Then when the idea
of being crucified is
00:41:19.14\00:41:22.44
the idea of being dead to self.
00:41:22.48\00:41:24.58
And the only way
that can happen is
00:41:24.61\00:41:26.38
if we look at Romans
8:13, and if I can find it,
00:41:26.41\00:41:30.79
Romans 8:13, where it says,
00:41:30.82\00:41:33.56
"If you live according
to the flesh, will die,
00:41:33.59\00:41:35.79
but if by the Spirit
00:41:35.82\00:41:38.83
you put to death the deeds
of the body, you will live."
00:41:38.86\00:41:42.43
So, when Paul is saying,
"It's no longer I who live,"
00:41:42.46\00:41:45.93
he was just
totally surrendered to God.
00:41:45.97\00:41:48.07
He was giving full
consent, saying Lord,
00:41:48.10\00:41:50.74
"Use me as You
want, do what You want,
00:41:50.77\00:41:53.41
I'm now, you know,
00:41:53.44\00:41:54.94
I'm dead to self
and alive to Christ."
00:41:54.98\00:41:58.01
Amen. Amen.
00:41:58.05\00:41:59.38
But that still are working,
because I've asked the Lord,
00:41:59.41\00:42:03.42
please just fix this.
00:42:03.45\00:42:05.62
I mean, it's like I
surrender, please fix this.
00:42:05.65\00:42:09.29
Don't let me do this or
don't let me get impatient,
00:42:09.32\00:42:12.69
don't let me get upset,
you know but He is a gentleman,
00:42:12.73\00:42:17.30
He will not force the will.
00:42:17.33\00:42:22.47
It's growing in the Spirit
00:42:22.50\00:42:23.97
and allowing His
Spirit to develop in.
00:42:24.01\00:42:26.61
So you're saying, I
want, you're making a choice,
00:42:26.64\00:42:29.41
I die to Your
will and Your Spirit,
00:42:29.44\00:42:33.48
but again is something
that we have to practice,
00:42:33.52\00:42:36.52
we die to my will, yes.
00:42:36.55\00:42:38.35
You have to practice
that, and let it become a habit
00:42:38.39\00:42:44.19
because Jesus
will not force you.
00:42:44.23\00:42:48.40
I thought you were
going to say something.
00:42:48.43\00:42:49.76
Yeah, I was
thinking the same thing,
00:42:49.80\00:42:51.13
you really look like
you're ready to talk, Mollie,
00:42:51.17\00:42:52.57
it looks like you're bursting.
00:42:52.60\00:42:54.74
Now, I appreciate
what you're saying.
00:42:54.77\00:42:56.14
Jesus never forces
over and this is about,
00:42:56.17\00:42:59.97
you know, we're
looking at self-control, self,
00:43:00.01\00:43:03.85
and we don't want self.
00:43:03.88\00:43:05.78
We want Jesus
control, but we are taught from
00:43:05.81\00:43:09.88
how young to be in
control, to be in charge,
00:43:09.92\00:43:13.42
and so, see it's
contrary to our upbringing.
00:43:13.46\00:43:17.59
Absolutely.
00:43:17.63\00:43:18.96
To yield control to anybody else
00:43:18.99\00:43:23.47
including God, and so...
00:43:23.50\00:43:25.23
I kind of thought of it
00:43:25.27\00:43:27.57
as the other
side of self-control.
00:43:27.60\00:43:30.41
We do want to have self control.
00:43:30.44\00:43:32.51
It is good when,
by an act of our will
00:43:32.54\00:43:35.28
we choose not to do something,
that's, that's self control
00:43:35.31\00:43:40.02
and we realize as Christians
00:43:40.05\00:43:42.78
that it's God
prompting and helping
00:43:42.82\00:43:45.35
and strengthening us,
00:43:45.39\00:43:46.96
but if you are so in control,
you can be so in control.
00:43:46.99\00:43:51.66
I knew a lady once
00:43:51.69\00:43:53.60
and Hal taught a
strong sermon on sin
00:43:53.63\00:43:58.43
and crucifying
the deeds of the flesh
00:43:58.47\00:44:00.34
and she came up
afterwards and she told him.
00:44:00.37\00:44:05.47
That sermon
wasn't for me tonight
00:44:05.51\00:44:07.81
because I've looked at my life
and there is no sin in my life.
00:44:07.84\00:44:12.41
Bless her heart. Oh, mercy.
00:44:12.45\00:44:13.95
She was a little myopic.
00:44:13.98\00:44:15.32
She came and I
mean, it was no time
00:44:15.35\00:44:19.59
until she fell
into sins of the flesh,
00:44:19.62\00:44:24.03
she had an affair and
then just openly proclaimed
00:44:24.06\00:44:30.30
that this was God putting
her together with, you know,
00:44:30.33\00:44:33.77
and the reason was
she was so in control,
00:44:33.80\00:44:37.11
she didn't
smoke, she didn't drink.
00:44:37.14\00:44:40.68
By an act of her
will, she didn't curse.
00:44:40.71\00:44:43.08
By an act of her
will, she didn't do, Dee,
00:44:43.11\00:44:45.45
you were talking
about him earlier,
00:44:45.48\00:44:47.02
the sins that stink.
00:44:47.05\00:44:49.28
She had got rid of all
of the sins that stink,
00:44:49.32\00:44:52.42
but on the inside she
had pride and haughtiness
00:44:52.45\00:44:57.33
and pride goes
before destruction,
00:44:57.36\00:45:00.90
like haughtiness,
did I get that backwards,
00:45:00.93\00:45:02.70
I mean,
haughtiness before a fall.
00:45:02.73\00:45:04.63
I might have got that backwards,
00:45:04.67\00:45:06.00
but the point being,
00:45:06.03\00:45:07.37
if that's in your
life, God will deal with it,
00:45:07.40\00:45:09.84
if you don't
allow God to prune you,
00:45:09.87\00:45:12.07
deal with those areas.
00:45:12.11\00:45:14.11
He'll cut your tree down.
00:45:14.14\00:45:16.04
And so... Like Daniel.
00:45:16.08\00:45:17.68
Not Daniel, but the
tree of the Nebuchadnezzar,
00:45:17.71\00:45:20.72
the vision Daniel interpreted,
you got that right, yeah.
00:45:20.75\00:45:23.05
So the point being
with her, it took a while,
00:45:23.08\00:45:26.15
it took maybe a year before
she came back around and says,
00:45:26.19\00:45:29.62
"I am the chiefest
of sinners, thank God,
00:45:29.66\00:45:31.99
by the power of a Spirit,
00:45:32.03\00:45:33.36
he drew her out of darkness
and he drew her back into life,
00:45:33.40\00:45:37.03
but she was again the
other side of self-control,
00:45:37.07\00:45:40.77
so in control that
you don't yield to God
00:45:40.80\00:45:43.61
and allow Him to do the working
that He needs to do within you.
00:45:43.64\00:45:47.68
But, you know,
sometimes would...
00:45:47.71\00:45:49.04
I'm sorry, go ahead.
00:45:49.08\00:45:50.41
God will reveal in us
00:45:50.45\00:45:51.78
what He needs to work
on if we allow Him to.
00:45:51.81\00:45:53.45
Yes. Yes.
00:45:53.48\00:45:54.82
But I was just
going to say is that,
00:45:54.85\00:45:56.48
if you grew up in a
really dysfunctional environment
00:45:56.52\00:45:59.05
in which I did, and I
know, I know you did as well,
00:45:59.09\00:46:03.06
in probably more
of a dysfunction here,
00:46:03.09\00:46:06.09
but the thing
is when you grow up
00:46:06.13\00:46:08.50
in a very
dysfunctional environment,
00:46:08.53\00:46:10.63
you learn to be very independent
00:46:10.67\00:46:14.90
and you learn to put
this barrier up around you...
00:46:14.94\00:46:17.34
I don't need anybody, I
can take care of myself.
00:46:17.37\00:46:20.51
You're going to do it.
00:46:20.54\00:46:22.24
And so, as you said it is
contrary to our human nature
00:46:22.28\00:46:26.08
once we've learned to be
independent to surrender,
00:46:26.11\00:46:29.05
but what we don't recognize
is all that pain has made us,
00:46:29.08\00:46:33.46
we become
prideful as this woman was,
00:46:33.49\00:46:36.06
thinking that we're in control
that what we've got it handles,
00:46:36.09\00:46:40.56
whereas humility is
surrendering to God's will,
00:46:40.60\00:46:44.70
that's what
humility is all about.
00:46:44.73\00:46:46.77
It's just
surrounding to God's will
00:46:46.80\00:46:49.10
and He's got the better plan,
00:46:49.14\00:46:50.71
He's got the power
and He will give it to us.
00:46:50.74\00:46:53.27
Amen. That's beautiful.
00:46:53.31\00:46:55.18
To me... One of the...
00:46:55.21\00:46:56.54
Go ahead, please.
00:46:56.58\00:46:57.91
One of the worst
things I ever said
00:46:57.95\00:46:59.65
before I was a
Christian is I said to someone,
00:46:59.68\00:47:02.92
"I've never had
anything break me.
00:47:02.95\00:47:07.12
I will not be broken." Yeah.
00:47:07.16\00:47:09.59
And I was
referring to worldly things,
00:47:09.62\00:47:13.09
it's like I've never come up
00:47:13.13\00:47:14.46
against something
I couldn't handle.
00:47:14.50\00:47:16.73
Well, praise God, I came up
against God and He broke me,
00:47:16.77\00:47:21.70
but He breaks you to heal you.
00:47:21.74\00:47:24.91
Yes.
00:47:24.94\00:47:27.78
Praise God that
He will break you
00:47:27.81\00:47:29.88
and now I choose to yield
00:47:29.91\00:47:32.78
because that's
where the healing is,
00:47:32.81\00:47:34.92
that's where the
power is, His will,
00:47:34.95\00:47:37.25
He has a better plan for my life
00:47:37.29\00:47:38.99
than I could possibly dream of.
00:47:39.02\00:47:40.79
Amen. And He
never gives up on us.
00:47:40.82\00:47:43.69
I was thinking of that
verse as you were talking, Dee,
00:47:43.73\00:47:45.69
and now I'm not
sure I can find it,
00:47:45.73\00:47:47.10
it talks about a
bruised reed He will not break,
00:47:47.13\00:47:50.07
and the smoking
flax He will not quench."
00:47:50.10\00:47:53.40
This also comes
from the Lord of hosts
00:47:53.44\00:47:54.90
who is marvelous and working
something about that and...
00:47:54.94\00:47:57.71
Isaiah, is it? Okay.
00:47:57.74\00:47:59.07
So it's beautiful to me
00:47:59.11\00:48:00.88
because that's what God
wants to do in our lives,
00:48:00.91\00:48:03.71
whether we come from a hard,
00:48:03.75\00:48:05.55
I can do it myself background
00:48:05.58\00:48:07.32
or a broken past or
somewhere in between God says,
00:48:07.35\00:48:10.92
"No matter where we are,
00:48:10.95\00:48:12.29
He will work in our
lives to redeem us."
00:48:12.32\00:48:16.06
He never breaks destructively.
He loved me before He broke me.
00:48:16.09\00:48:19.43
That's right. It's
always redemptively.
00:48:19.46\00:48:21.60
May I take just a quick
second to tell the story,
00:48:21.63\00:48:23.93
because we heard this
when we were in Israel
00:48:23.97\00:48:27.34
that the shepherd there
when they've got the flock,
00:48:27.37\00:48:30.87
the shepherd will
take a little lamb
00:48:30.91\00:48:33.27
and break its leg on purpose
00:48:33.31\00:48:34.91
and then put that lamb
around his neck and the lamb
00:48:34.94\00:48:39.15
while the whole
time the lamb is healing,
00:48:39.18\00:48:40.82
the shepherd's
loving on the lamb,
00:48:40.85\00:48:42.48
the shepherd has him,
00:48:42.52\00:48:44.29
you know, he's getting
close, they know the scent,
00:48:44.32\00:48:47.56
the lamb knows his voice.
00:48:47.59\00:48:49.72
Well, the lamb
grows up to be a leader
00:48:49.76\00:48:52.46
and he always stays
close to the shepherd.
00:48:52.49\00:48:56.60
And I think that's a
beautiful picture of what
00:48:56.63\00:48:59.60
when God breaks us of something,
00:48:59.63\00:49:02.50
what He does is He
draws us in closely,
00:49:02.54\00:49:06.44
He loves on us, He lets us
get familiar with His voice,
00:49:06.47\00:49:09.98
and as you said anytime
00:49:10.01\00:49:11.41
we're being broken of something,
00:49:11.45\00:49:13.55
it is for redemptive purpose.
00:49:13.58\00:49:15.48
It's so that we will
learn to stay close to him,
00:49:15.52\00:49:17.99
and it's just a beautiful thing.
00:49:18.02\00:49:19.62
Amen. That's a beautiful story.
00:49:19.65\00:49:21.39
I don't remember that story,
00:49:21.42\00:49:22.76
we were only
there once in Israel,
00:49:22.79\00:49:24.13
but that's a beautiful story.
00:49:24.16\00:49:25.49
Let's look at...
00:49:25.53\00:49:26.86
I think we have time
for one more scripture,
00:49:26.90\00:49:28.23
let's look at 1 Corinthians 6.
00:49:28.26\00:49:31.33
1 Corinthians 6.
00:49:31.37\00:49:33.57
And we'll look at 19 and 20.
00:49:33.60\00:49:36.30
1 Corinthians 6:19 and 20.
00:49:39.57\00:49:43.45
Now this is all in the
section on sexual immortality.
00:49:43.48\00:49:46.68
So really we could say this is
the lust of the flesh for sure,
00:49:46.72\00:49:49.85
but I think it
applies to anything.
00:49:49.88\00:49:52.55
Verse 19, "Do you not know
00:49:52.59\00:49:54.32
your body is the
temple of the Holy Spirit,
00:49:54.36\00:49:57.99
who is in you,
whom you have from God
00:49:58.03\00:50:00.70
and you are not your own,
00:50:00.73\00:50:03.30
for you are bought with a price.
00:50:03.33\00:50:05.50
Therefore
glorify God in your body
00:50:05.53\00:50:08.17
and in your
spirit which are God's."
00:50:08.20\00:50:10.27
You know, in the Greek the word
for temple is naos, N-A-O-S.
00:50:10.31\00:50:14.74
It was in their pagan
culture, it was a sacred,
00:50:14.78\00:50:17.81
innermost sacred
dwelling place for the God.
00:50:17.85\00:50:20.68
Little G, but in this case,
00:50:20.72\00:50:23.28
it's a dwelling place
for the Lord Jesus Christ.
00:50:23.32\00:50:26.92
So dwell within our hearts
00:50:26.96\00:50:29.12
with the power
of the Holy Spirit,
00:50:29.16\00:50:31.03
and I think as Christ
comes in, He changes us.
00:50:31.06\00:50:36.56
You can't have Jesus dwelling
in your heart without Him
00:50:36.60\00:50:41.37
gaining access to those
broken, those hurt places,
00:50:41.40\00:50:44.41
those places that
need more self-control
00:50:44.44\00:50:47.08
and then Him
putting His hand over
00:50:47.11\00:50:48.98
and working to
develop His character in us.
00:50:49.01\00:50:52.35
Can I say one thing that the
Lord's really convicting me of
00:50:52.38\00:50:55.08
though is that
M&M's peanuts aside which,
00:50:55.12\00:50:58.19
that's a very rare thing but...
00:50:58.22\00:51:01.62
Where I'm not
exercising self-control
00:51:01.66\00:51:04.09
is in my work schedule.
00:51:04.13\00:51:06.23
You can be working for
the Lord and you can overwork,
00:51:06.26\00:51:11.67
I mean to the point
00:51:11.70\00:51:13.03
where you're not
getting the exercise you need,
00:51:13.07\00:51:15.04
where you're not treating
your body as the temple.
00:51:15.07\00:51:17.61
So when we're talking
about self-control and,
00:51:17.64\00:51:21.38
you know, it could be some,
00:51:21.41\00:51:23.38
some people may have
a problem with anger.
00:51:23.41\00:51:25.88
Angry outbursts,
or some people may
00:51:25.91\00:51:28.48
just have a quick
temper that flares up.
00:51:28.52\00:51:31.45
You know, sometimes
I'll hear people say,
00:51:31.49\00:51:33.15
well, that's just because
I'm choleric, and I'll say,
00:51:33.19\00:51:36.09
"No, God doesn't accept
that 'cause when you are...
00:51:36.12\00:51:39.76
'Cause you're out of
control. You're out of control.
00:51:39.79\00:51:41.46
Yes, right. It's right.
00:51:41.50\00:51:44.33
But there's a lot of
areas for self control
00:51:44.37\00:51:46.74
and that's why we always
need to be looking at the Lord.
00:51:46.77\00:51:48.77
You can work so
hard for the Lord
00:51:48.80\00:51:50.37
that you forget the
Lord in your own life.
00:51:50.41\00:51:52.41
That's true too.
That's sad, many, many people.
00:51:52.44\00:51:56.64
Aren't we just kind of
talking about yielding to God...
00:51:56.68\00:51:59.18
Absolutely.
00:51:59.21\00:52:00.55
Willing to His will,
you know, my prayer I pray.
00:52:00.58\00:52:02.52
The choice.
00:52:02.55\00:52:03.89
But before I'd do
anything, I prayed it
00:52:03.92\00:52:06.35
before I came out here,
00:52:06.39\00:52:07.72
"Oh, Father, in my
inability be my ability,
00:52:07.76\00:52:10.99
in my weakness be made strong.
00:52:11.03\00:52:13.50
In my insufficiency,
be my all sufficiency.
00:52:13.53\00:52:17.17
Yielding to God I
can do all things,
00:52:17.20\00:52:20.27
but it's only through
Christ, as He strengthens me,
00:52:20.30\00:52:24.21
as I'm in Him and He's in me.
00:52:24.24\00:52:27.18
So self-control, I don't
want to have self-control,
00:52:27.21\00:52:31.28
I want to have Christ control.
00:52:31.31\00:52:33.11
But it is the
fruit of the spirit is,
00:52:33.15\00:52:35.85
is part of the
fruit is that he works,
00:52:35.88\00:52:38.99
the Holy Spirit works out
that character of Christ in us
00:52:39.02\00:52:41.99
and it is Christ control,
00:52:42.02\00:52:44.49
but it's exercise manifested
in our life as self-control.
00:52:44.53\00:52:47.56
But don't you find
yourself needing to yield.
00:52:47.60\00:52:50.63
It's a necessity
to yield on a daily...
00:52:50.67\00:52:54.40
Day by day.
00:52:54.44\00:52:55.77
Second by
second. Moment by moment.
00:52:55.80\00:52:57.14
That's how we need
to lift each other up
00:52:57.17\00:52:59.01
so that no one feels like
00:52:59.04\00:53:00.48
they're the only one struggling.
00:53:00.51\00:53:02.64
Our brothers and sisters
00:53:02.68\00:53:04.01
we all need to
know as God's children
00:53:04.05\00:53:06.68
that we all
struggle with self-control
00:53:06.72\00:53:10.35
so that no one feels alone or...
00:53:10.39\00:53:13.49
And we hope that you
don't feel alone that,
00:53:13.52\00:53:15.89
you know, around
this table we pray for you
00:53:15.92\00:53:18.19
and that God is on your side
00:53:18.23\00:53:21.03
and that day by day as we
yield more to His control,
00:53:21.06\00:53:24.83
allow His life giving sap
to flow into us and through us,
00:53:24.87\00:53:29.50
He can develop
within us His control.
00:53:29.54\00:53:31.47
We want to spend
just a couple moments here
00:53:31.51\00:53:33.58
at the closing time in prayer.
00:53:33.61\00:53:36.04
Prayer for you at home,
00:53:36.08\00:53:37.81
whatever the Lord puts
on each one of your hearts
00:53:37.85\00:53:40.02
and we'll start
with Mollie, I guess,
00:53:40.05\00:53:41.62
and just go around the circle.
00:53:41.65\00:53:43.02
Okay.
00:53:43.05\00:53:44.39
Holy Father, I
do come before You
00:53:44.42\00:53:45.75
in the name of
the Lord Jesus Christ
00:53:45.79\00:53:47.52
and I praise You
and I thank You, Lord,
00:53:47.56\00:53:49.89
for Your grace
and for Your mercy
00:53:49.92\00:53:51.89
that those mercies
are renewed every morning.
00:53:51.93\00:53:54.60
And, Father, I bring
before You every person
00:53:54.63\00:53:58.73
that is
listening, that's watching.
00:53:58.77\00:54:02.04
Father, I just stand in before
Your throne of grace and ask,
00:54:02.07\00:54:05.21
Lord, that You would touch them,
00:54:05.24\00:54:07.08
that You would draw them.
00:54:07.11\00:54:08.58
Father, fill them
with Your holy presence,
00:54:08.61\00:54:11.35
fill us all, Lord,
even at this table,
00:54:11.38\00:54:13.85
fill us with Your
holy presence, Lord.
00:54:13.88\00:54:16.25
Father, we yield to You that
You would take our characters,
00:54:16.28\00:54:20.36
conform us to Your image
and Your likeness is our prayer
00:54:20.39\00:54:24.59
in Jesus' name.
00:54:24.63\00:54:25.96
Amen. Thank you.
00:54:25.99\00:54:27.33
Oh, Father, I just ask that
00:54:27.36\00:54:29.36
each one of Your
sons and daughters
00:54:29.40\00:54:30.97
will feel Your love, Father,
00:54:31.00\00:54:33.44
that You want to help them
00:54:33.47\00:54:35.64
to be self-control
with Christ control
00:54:35.67\00:54:42.01
and don't let
any of us feel alone,
00:54:42.04\00:54:44.25
let us feel as
one with You, Father,
00:54:44.28\00:54:47.32
that we're all together working
and we just thank You, Father,
00:54:47.35\00:54:50.99
for the
blessings that You give us
00:54:51.02\00:54:53.22
and this the love, Father,
00:54:53.25\00:54:55.96
I just know Your love and I want
00:54:55.99\00:54:57.99
each one of my
brothers and sisters
00:54:58.03\00:54:59.43
to feel that love, Father,
00:54:59.46\00:55:01.06
that You will be there with them
00:55:01.10\00:55:02.90
and help them,
don't be discouraged.
00:55:02.93\00:55:04.73
Thank you.
00:55:04.77\00:55:06.10
Father, I thank You that
00:55:06.13\00:55:07.47
Your plan of salvation is
total dependence upon You.
00:55:07.50\00:55:10.04
I thank You that You are the God
00:55:10.07\00:55:11.64
who saves us and
sanctifies us and that,
00:55:11.67\00:55:14.58
Lord, that Jesus
Christ lives in our heart,
00:55:14.61\00:55:17.38
by the power of
Your Holy Spirit.
00:55:17.41\00:55:20.05
Lord, we pray in the
name of Jesus that You will...
00:55:20.08\00:55:24.35
We just say, take our hearts
for we can't give them glory.
00:55:24.39\00:55:28.46
Oh, Father, we
want to yield to You
00:55:28.49\00:55:32.23
and I pray that You will,
00:55:32.26\00:55:34.60
Lord, increase our humility,
00:55:34.63\00:55:36.87
where we recognize our
total dependence upon You.
00:55:36.90\00:55:40.04
And, Father, I
pray that for someone
00:55:40.07\00:55:42.70
who is watching,
who is in Christ,
00:55:42.74\00:55:44.47
who's struggling with something
that they will remember,
00:55:44.51\00:55:47.21
You said there is therefore
now no condemnation for those
00:55:47.24\00:55:51.25
who walk
according to the spirit.
00:55:51.28\00:55:53.38
So just let them know, Lord,
00:55:53.42\00:55:55.78
that You are
working out Your will
00:55:55.82\00:55:59.45
in their moment by moment.
00:55:59.49\00:56:01.02
It's just a
matter of turning to You
00:56:01.06\00:56:04.06
and I thank You the Holy Spirit
00:56:04.09\00:56:06.59
really when we do fall,
00:56:06.63\00:56:08.50
he brings us to your feet
00:56:08.53\00:56:10.37
that we can just say forgive me,
00:56:10.40\00:56:12.67
cleanses of all unrighteousness,
00:56:12.70\00:56:14.87
but I thank You, Father,
00:56:14.90\00:56:16.24
that we are continuing to grow
00:56:16.27\00:56:19.17
in the fullness of stature
of Christ in Jesus' name.
00:56:19.21\00:56:23.45
And, Father, as we
continue in prayer,
00:56:23.48\00:56:25.21
we thank You for
the gift of Jesus.
00:56:25.25\00:56:27.62
We thank You for the
gift of the Holy Spirit
00:56:27.65\00:56:30.39
and that You want to
work in us and through us
00:56:30.42\00:56:33.82
for Your good pleasure.
00:56:33.86\00:56:35.19
Right now, I lift up
my brothers and sisters
00:56:35.22\00:56:37.63
who may be feel
broken, struggling with things.
00:56:37.66\00:56:41.93
And, Lord, we ask
for Your deliverance,
00:56:41.96\00:56:43.90
we ask for Your healing,
we ask for Your comfort,
00:56:43.93\00:56:47.34
we ask for Your peace
00:56:47.37\00:56:49.07
and that You
could reveal Yourself
00:56:49.10\00:56:51.07
to them in a very special way.
00:56:51.11\00:56:52.54
We thank You
00:56:52.57\00:56:53.91
for what You are
going to do in the precious,
00:56:53.94\00:56:56.58
in the holy name of Jesus.
00:56:56.61\00:56:58.81
Amen. Amen and amen.
00:56:58.85\00:57:00.78
Thank you, Mollie,
and Shelley, and Dee,
00:57:00.82\00:57:03.72
for sharing your heart
with our 3ABN family at home.
00:57:03.75\00:57:07.16
Thank you, Jill, for having us.
00:57:07.19\00:57:08.69
It's been a
blessing to share together,
00:57:08.72\00:57:10.49
and we thank you for joining us.
00:57:10.53\00:57:12.63
Know that, at 3ABN, we love you.
00:57:12.66\00:57:15.23
That we pray for you,
and that most importantly,
00:57:15.26\00:57:17.97
the Lord, Jesus
Christ is on your side.
00:57:18.00\00:57:20.37
He has made a plan of salvation
for you, so accept Him.
00:57:20.40\00:57:23.87
If you have not done
that, accept Him just now.
00:57:23.91\00:57:26.64
Have a wonderful Sabbath.
We'll see you next time.
00:57:26.68\00:57:29.21
Bye-bye. Bye-bye.
00:57:29.24\00:57:30.61