Participants: Kenny Shelton (Host), Chris Shelton (Host), Greg & Jill Morikone, C.A. & Irma Murray
Series Code: TDYFW
Program Code: TDYFW016015A
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00:01 I want to spend my life
00:07 Mending broken people 00:12 I want to spend my life 00:18 Removing pain 00:23 Lord, let my words 00:29 Heal a heart that hurts 00:34 I want to spend my life 00:40 Mending broken people 00:45 I want to spend my life 00:51 Mending broken people. 01:07 Hello, and welcome to 3ABN Today Family Worship, 01:10 and happy Sabbath. 01:12 Happy Sabbath to all of our family at home, 01:15 happy Sabbath to all of you here. 01:16 That's right. Tonight we're-- 01:18 This is almost a part two, right? 01:20 This is. 01:22 Because we are continuing a study 01:24 that we started out all of us together 01:26 and the title of that study is "Making a Happy Home'. 01:31 We had 18 questions, and we made it through two. 01:35 I have no idea 01:37 how many we might make it through tonight. 01:39 But you know the Lord is good. Yes. 01:40 If we make it through one, is because He is feeding us. 01:44 There is no doubt about it. Amen. 01:46 My name is Chris Shelton, 01:48 to my right is my lovely husband 01:50 Pastor Kenny Shelton. 01:52 And then to his right 01:54 is Brother Greg and Sister Jill Morikone 01:57 Good to be here. Yes, I'm glad-- 01:59 Open up God's word and share it. 02:00 Absolutely, and I know that 02:02 you are no stranger to anyone at home. 02:04 And of course, these folks to my left 02:06 are no strangers either, 02:08 Pastor C.A and his lovely wife Irma Murray. 02:12 Amen. We are happy to be here. 02:14 Wonderful, we're happy that you're here. 02:17 We are so happy, the Lord really blessed. 02:20 And we're gonna start out tonight, 02:22 hopefully we're gonna start out with the couple of songs 02:25 and our first song is entitled 02:27 'The Word of the Lord came saying'. 02:29 And on the piano we have wonderful family member, 02:32 and her name is E.T Everett. 02:34 She is going to be accompany us. 02:36 I hope you will sing with us at home. 02:38 Yes. 02:43 The word of the Lord came saying. 02:46 ''I am He'' 02:48 The word of the Lord came saying 02:50 ''Follow Me'' 02:53 The word of the Lord came saying. 02:55 ''Trust and see 02:57 I have come to give you life abundantly." 03:02 Don't fret about tomorrow, live for the Lord today 03:07 Don't let yourself be sorrowed 03:09 Praise Jesus come what may 03:12 Take the Master at His word 03:14 No matter what you've seen or heard 03:16 Just like the flowers and the birds, it's simple faith. 03:22 The word of the Lord came saying, ''I am He'' 03:27 The word of the Lord came saying, ''Follow Me'' 03:32 The word of the Lord came saying. 03:34 ''Trust and see 03:36 I have come to give you life abundantly" 03:41 Give thanks for what He's given 03:44 He is your livelihood A bountiful provision 03:48 Be glad for the Lord is good 03:51 You are living in His hand According to the Master plan 03:56 Why you say, ''can't,'' when God says, ''can'' 03:58 Yes God is good. 04:00 Yes, He is good-- 04:01 The word of the Lord came saying. 04:04 ''I am He'' The word of the Lord came saying, 04:09 ''Follow Me'' The word of the Lord came saying. 04:13 ''Trust and see 04:16 I have come to give you life abundantly" 04:20 I have come to give you life abundantly 04:26 Praise the Lord, hallelujah. 04:28 Wow. That's really in balance. 04:30 It's a catchy one, isn't it? Yes. 04:32 This Bible says, I am, he is the creator, 04:36 he is the redeemer, he is sustainer, he says follow me. 04:40 That's right. 04:41 Trust and see, isn't that beautiful? 04:43 Yes, it is right now. 04:44 Just trust me, just have faith, follow me 04:46 and I am gonna give you life. 04:48 That remind me, I said to Pastor C.A 04:50 you could be wrong, I said, you know, 04:52 I said the word of the Lord came saying, 04:53 it sound like Jeremiah the prophet. 04:54 It does. 04:56 You know, that was in the word of the Lord came so, you know. 04:58 Yes, amen. 04:59 And when the word of the Lord comes saying something, 05:01 we need to have ears to hear don't we? 05:04 I like that song, it's catchy, I hope you enjoyed it. 05:06 I hope you enjoyed it at home 05:07 when you sing right along with us. 05:09 We want you to have good Sabbath right along with us 05:10 to bring joy into your home. 05:12 You may have a tough week, bless your heart, 05:13 this gonna be a good time 05:15 we spend it together in the word. 05:16 And this next song, I am sure many of you grew up singing it, 05:20 'We are one in the Spirit'. 05:25 We are one in the Spirit 05:29 We are one in the Lord 05:32 We are one in the Spirit 05:36 We are one in the Lord 05:39 And we pray that all unity 05:43 may one day be restored 05:46 And they'll know we are Christians by our love 05:51 By our Love Yes they'll know we are Christians by our love 05:58 Yes, they will. 05:59 We will walk with each other 06:02 We will walk hand in hand 06:06 We will walk with each other 06:09 We will walk hand in hand 06:13 And together we'll spread the news 06:16 that God is in our land 06:19 And they'll know we are Christians by our love 06:24 By our Love Yes they'll know we are Christians by our love 06:31 Yes, they will. 06:33 All praise to the Father From whom all things come 06:40 And all praise to Christ Jesus, His only Son 06:46 And all praise to the Spirit who makes us one 06:53 And they'll know we are Christians by our love 06:58 By our Love 07:00 Yes they'll know we are Christians by our love 07:05 Yes, they will. 07:08 Praise the Lord. 07:09 Amen. Praise God. 07:11 Did they know that you are Christian by our love. 07:15 That's kind of a foundation 07:17 of what we're gonna talk about tonight. 07:18 Amen. 07:20 Making a family, a happy home 07:22 we need to be walking with each other. 07:24 Yes. 07:26 We need to be working with each other 07:27 and most importantly 07:29 we need to be praising 07:30 our heavenly Father with each other. 07:33 Amen. 07:34 And then the world certainly should know 07:36 that we are Christians by our love. 07:39 Yes. 07:40 We are gonna start with question number three. 07:43 All right, let's do. 07:45 And I hope you have your Bibles. 07:47 If you don't have your Bibles, get your Bibles out, 07:49 'cause we want you to look these verses 07:51 that mark them with us. 07:53 Question number three-- 07:54 Gather the children around. Gather the children around. 07:56 Yeah. That's right. 07:57 Get little pencil and paper in, in this little quizzes. 08:00 Right, when we get done, make sure they're listening. 08:02 Yes. All right. 08:03 You know, I like that because, you know, 08:05 we grew up worship is fun. 08:06 Yes. 08:07 Mom and dad, it wasn't just like, now we read, 08:09 you know, it was very, you know, it's fun. 08:10 Worship was fun studying God's word. 08:12 That's what we find about and it's interesting, 08:14 so I liked what you said. 08:15 I told my wife just was pulling out, 08:17 she's getting ready to come here. 08:18 And I said, oh, I was thinking, 08:20 I woke up in the middle of night, like Lord said, 08:21 you take that little picture you have 08:23 of your dad sitting on the couch, 08:25 and my brother Danny was on one side 08:27 and I was on the other, 08:29 my other brother Ronnie was standing behind him 08:30 and I said that was a Friday night sundown worship service 08:36 that we were having there. 08:38 And I am sure didn't you have the picture 08:39 where my mother was there playing the piano, 08:41 and brother Tom they were playing, 08:42 the music and the singing 08:44 and I thought how nice that was 08:46 to be able to sit down with the family 08:48 and be able to pray together 08:50 and sing together and just share something. 08:52 Sweet memories. 08:54 Though I'd like to brought that picture, 08:55 maybe some other time. 08:56 That's good. 08:58 Yes, that's all wonderful points, 08:59 good memories, good bonding 09:01 but first of all we have to make an effort to do it. 09:04 We have to make an effort to set the time-- 09:06 That's the good point. To make the plan. 09:08 True. 09:09 You don't just sit down and say what are we gonna do? 09:11 You know, but let's get some happy songs together. 09:14 And a lot of times when we have these family worships, 09:16 we bring in happy songs 09:18 that we might be singing with our kids. 09:19 Absolutely. You know, they're just-- 09:21 Some of you might remember too, when you were growing up like, 09:24 you know, at home, getting close to sundown time. 09:27 And if you had an opportunity, I had a basketball in my hand, 09:30 I'll be doing something out there 09:31 and the backdoor would open and my mother would say, 09:34 Kenny, put the ball down, it's almost sundown, 09:37 it's time to get in and get ready for the Sabbath hours. 09:41 Everything would stop around the house, 09:43 it's almost sundown, you need to come in 09:45 and get prepared for the Sabbath. 09:46 So we heard that, you know, my mother calling 09:49 at the set of sun, I thought how wonderful that is, 09:51 those memories I'll never ever forget. 09:54 And I know that help to guide me 09:57 as well as each one of you had that experience 09:58 and I can still hear her calling. 10:00 Kenny put the ball down, let's get ready to meet Jesus. 10:03 Wow. Oh, how exciting. 10:04 See, that's a wonderful example. 10:06 Oh, wow. 10:07 You know, your mom and your parents set for you. 10:08 I remember as the child, Friday night, during the week 10:11 we would study our Sabbath school lesson, 10:13 just little kids we were, my mom would teach us. 10:16 And on Friday night, we got to teach mom and dad, 10:19 and so that was so fun for us. 10:21 My sister and I from four and five 10:23 would get up with the felts, 10:25 we teach the lesson 10:26 and mom and dad have heard it the thousand times, 10:28 but they would be so interested 10:30 and it got us in to the word of God. 10:32 I love that, and isn't a good idea? 10:35 All of these are wonderful ideas 10:36 that I hope you at home 10:38 are treasuring, writing down, taking notes 10:41 because were easy to forget these things, 10:43 but these are wonderful ideas. 10:45 The other morning we had our, 10:47 and we will get to question number three 10:48 I promise, but the other morning 10:52 we have our five year old grandson over, 10:54 and I already had my worship, 10:56 it is starting to get late and he got up and I said 10:58 what's time for you to have worship 11:00 and so we prayed together. 11:01 And I was, we have just moved recently, 11:04 and so I was thinking where are my little, 11:06 you know, children books. 11:08 Bible story books with all the beautiful color, 11:11 pictures and so and so, but-- 11:12 Bring it on. 11:13 By the time I was even thinking about, 11:15 he had grabbed the tablet 11:16 because I've got Bible stories on the tablet. 11:18 I suppose that's okay, 11:19 why don't you go ahead and do it this morning. 11:21 But grandma want you after you finish 11:23 you come and tell me, what you learned, 11:25 you really have to listen. 11:27 So the first time he came down the steps he said, 11:29 grandma they had a picnic. 11:32 I said, oh, they had a picnic. Oh, wow. 11:34 I said, well, you know, what was at the picnic, 11:37 what did they do, you know, who fed them 11:40 and what did they eat, and so-- 11:42 You send him back upstairs, 11:43 I know what you did and do it again. 11:44 He came back up, he had to go through the story again 11:47 and he said, well, there was boy there. 11:50 And he had two fish and five rolls of bread. 11:53 I said, well, how many people did he feed? 11:57 And he said, I don't know. 11:58 I said, well, honey, you need to go and find out. 12:00 So he went back upstairs, he turned back the story 12:04 and because it reads to him. 12:06 Yes. 12:07 And so he came back down, grandma, there were 5,000 men. 12:11 But I don't know how many other people there were. 12:15 Oh, what a beautiful, it was so neat. 12:18 Retry. 12:19 He's not gonna forget that so quickly. 12:21 He won't forget. And we can do that. 12:23 I love that because as you're learning, 12:25 you're going through the Sabbath school lesson 12:27 or whatever then they could come back 12:28 and teach us, 12:30 because in teaching us, then they learn. 12:32 So that's beautiful. Question number three. 12:35 Okay. 12:36 Who laid the foundation of the home? 12:39 And let's go to Genesis 2:8. 12:43 Genesis 2:8. 12:46 Who laid the foundation of the home? 12:48 You know, there's a lot of people in this world 12:51 that would not know the answer to that question. 12:53 Wow. 12:55 They just don't know the answer to that question. 12:57 So who has that verse and wants to read it for us. 13:00 ''The Lord God planted a garden eastward in Eden, 13:05 and there He put the man whom He had formed.'' 13:08 Yes. Okay. 13:10 Do you want nine also, or just eight? 13:12 Just eight. 13:13 Well, if you just look at just eight, 13:16 and where did God put man. 13:19 In the garden 13:20 and there's their home at that time. 13:22 And at that time, 13:24 that garden had only been in existence for how long. 13:30 But, think about it. Yeah. 13:32 Think about it, God made provision. 13:34 He didn't start out in creation 13:36 making man and women and animals first. 13:39 He started out with the air and with the water 13:43 and the sunlight and the plants and everything that man needed, 13:48 and then he formed man out of the dust of the ground. 13:52 So he laid the foundation. Yeah, he did. 13:55 He started from the bottom up in the word. 13:57 I am glad Pastor CA had the right answer, 13:59 she'll send you back upstairs until you get. 14:06 You know, when I met him, what I really liked about it 14:09 is the garden was their home, right? 14:12 You put them in the garden that could equal home. 14:15 Now in other places in Genesis, 14:17 it says the Lord, God came to meet with man, 14:20 in the garden. 14:22 I remember right after sin, 14:23 God came and said, Adam where are you? 14:24 But He came to the garden, 14:26 so to me that says in a special way 14:29 God wants to be present in home. 14:31 I love that. 14:33 God wants to be in our home. 14:35 He put it in the home 14:36 but that's where God met with them. 14:37 Oh, yeah. 14:39 God makes signs calls. 14:41 Yeah. Oh, I like that. 14:42 Yeah, He makes signs calls. Yeah, He sure does. 14:44 That is such a good thought, 14:45 because our home should be an atmosphere of heaven. 14:50 That we have choices to make 14:52 in order for God to be able to come and to visit our home, 14:55 that's beautiful. 14:56 No, now to, I am sorry, you want to? 14:57 No, you go ahead. 14:59 To touch on the controversy. Move on. 15:01 Just touch on the controversy. Okay. 15:04 God who made the home, 15:08 also define the home. 15:12 He defined the situation. Yes. 15:14 And anything else, that is not what God defined 15:20 cannot be what God's talking about. 15:23 You're getting heavy, you're getting cautious. 15:25 Politically correct, you know, 15:26 I'm trying to massage this thing a little bit. 15:28 No, it's all right. 15:29 But God who created the family-- 15:31 Gets to define the family. He does. 15:32 You know, a person who made it gets to define it. 15:34 And He has defined it as Adam and Eve in the garden. 15:39 And I don't know anywhere in this book, 15:42 where that's been altered. 15:43 That's what it is. 15:45 Not Adam and Steve? 15:46 Yeah, not Adam and no. Only Adam and Eve. 15:48 I just went little farther. 15:49 Some people are slow to get. 15:52 I like that. Thank you, pastor. 15:54 That's, it is true. It is very true. 15:55 And this is part of that foundation of the home, 15:59 because as we're examining our hearts 16:01 and our lives and our home situation, 16:04 we have to go back to the creator, 16:06 go back to how He laid it out for us. 16:10 And many times we find that our lives just don't match up. 16:14 And so when our lives don't match up, 16:16 there's a lot of people, they'll say, 16:17 well, you know, that's just a rivulet, 16:19 it just doesn't fit with today's society. 16:22 Is that the proper attitudes we're to have? 16:25 You know, one thing that I find that 16:28 when we come into the sacred hours, 16:32 sometimes we are so busy and thing has cut up with us, 16:38 because the enemy will always be trying that 16:41 to get us in. 16:43 So, but when you don't enter those hours 16:48 and even a little bit ahead of time- 16:52 as you call, it's just so beautiful 16:55 but when you don't, there is something missing. 16:59 I find that myself. 17:01 That kind of goes back to the preparation day. 17:05 And we need to guard the edges of the Sabbath. 17:09 We don't just rush in with the-- 17:12 And we're exhausted, 17:13 we're too tired for family worship. 17:14 Like on Sabbath morning, I used to hear all the time 17:17 'cause you said you're prepared, 17:19 lay things out, good to go and you say things into, 17:22 something is missing on Sabbath, 17:23 it was always I want you. 17:26 You know, or you know, 17:28 'cause it wasn't done and mama said, 17:29 if we had him laid out the way 17:30 we should have things laid out and prepared, 17:33 it would be easy. 17:34 But because we didn't, there was contingent, 17:36 there was running late, probably words, 17:40 may be the belt, it might have come out, 17:43 teach a little lesson along way. 17:44 Well, let's just be honest about it, 17:45 because that was, that's the way it went 17:47 and Tom you got to church. 17:49 You need to redo, need some adjusting again 17:51 because, you know, the attitudes 17:53 and you really wasn't prepared. 17:55 So I think it's good, if we really learn it. 17:56 If we don't know these things 17:58 to prepare for the Sabbath to come in 18:00 and prepare for Sabbath morning, 18:01 just be ready first thing in the home right 18:03 and I'm already missing so on. 18:05 You know, 'cause that's true, 18:06 'cause I've actually rushed into the Sabbath, 18:08 unfortunately sometimes, and man I tell you, I mean God, 18:11 there's always a blessing by keeping God's Sabbath, 18:13 but it couldn't be, it could have been so much more 18:16 if I hadn't rushed into the Sabbath Friday night, 18:18 you know like, just like barely making, 18:20 you know, 'cause I haven't scheduled my day correctly, 18:22 and boy, it's rough. 18:24 And it doesn't, you know, 18:26 'cause the God wants you to be prepared in your heart, 18:27 you life every thing for the Sabbath. 18:29 When you think of the preparation, 18:33 you know, think about what God. 18:35 the whole week He prepared. 18:38 Now, because sometimes we think that it comes Friday 18:41 and we rush to prepare. 18:44 But actually, we had to be preparing 18:48 through the whole week. 18:49 'Cause that's what, you know, 18:51 the Lord did created all these things for our, 18:55 for the beauty, for the enjoyment, 18:57 for just to make it so special. 19:01 When we prepare the whole week, 19:04 we can see how much better it is 19:07 when we get to the hours of the Sabbath. 19:08 We're not out frazzled. 19:11 We're out and wondering what we're gonna eat 19:14 and what are we gonna wear and but that's not-- 19:16 You know, the human's mind does not, 19:19 cannot come to a screeching halt. 19:20 If you go into a certain direction, 19:22 it takes time. 19:24 I remember, once we were-- 19:25 We actually were gonna have some people over Sabbath. 19:26 I don't want to say, we forgot something, 19:28 so we have to run to the store. 19:29 And we were on the Sabbath, 19:30 it was, still sun was not down yet. 19:33 But in the store, you hear a song, and since-- 19:37 by the time you get out of the store, 19:39 the sun is heading down. 19:40 So you get home, 19:41 and I think it's stumping in your brain, 19:43 because, you know, 19:44 you haven't allowed for adjustment time 19:46 to divorce yourself in a week, 19:48 and get into Sabbath frame of mind. 19:50 So what we always do-- 19:53 Irma turns on the little computer, 19:54 her tablet, and we sing, 19:56 'cause you got to try 19:57 to for 100 percent flush the week away. 20:00 So that you get into mindset, 20:01 because your mind doesn't come to a screeching halt 20:04 and turn into a Sabbath mode. 20:05 You got to give it time to move into that in that direction, 20:08 'cause things are gonna pop in your mind. 20:10 "Oh man, I forgot to do the 3ABN." 20:11 Oh, you know, things will come in. 20:13 there are not bad things in and of themselves. 20:15 But they are not Sabbath things. 20:17 So you need some time to step back from the week 20:20 and enter into the Sabbath mindset. 20:21 And then a round about way, 20:23 you answered the question that I had asked while ago. 20:26 When we find that there are things 20:27 that are wrong in our lives 20:29 that don't fit with the scripture, 20:31 do we throw the scripture out, 20:33 or do we come and align with it, 20:34 and you just basically are entering it, 20:36 because we are to come and align with God. 20:39 He's preparing a people 20:41 to live eternally with Him in heaven. 20:44 So He's preparing us to live 20:46 in that beautiful heavenly home. 20:49 With smells and fragrances, just things around us, trees, 20:54 grass that shimmers like silver and gold. 20:56 Oh, I'm getting homesick really. 20:57 Come on now. Things that we've never seen. 20:59 You know, the little children with their wings flying up to-- 21:01 Oh, well, oh, boy. It's just gonna be wonderful. 21:04 Sabbath-- It's a happy time. 21:06 Oh, if you've never read about Sabbath, 21:08 it's gonna be wonderful, 21:10 it's not like anything we've ever experienced. 21:12 That's right. 21:13 I think it's interesting too, it says, 21:15 who you know, you asked a question, 21:16 who laid the foundation of the home 21:17 and read Genesis 2:8, and it talks about it, 21:19 "God established or planted a garden." 21:21 I've have nothing against cities, 21:23 you know, or urban or whatever, 21:25 but it's interesting, God did a gardening, 21:27 he planted a garden. 21:29 That was their home. 21:30 Nature. Yes. 21:32 There's a lot be said about being out in nature, 21:33 and being in God's. 21:34 Oh, yeah, there is a blessing, 21:36 that's to me, that's another book. 21:37 So it's interesting that God put them there 21:39 and establish the home in the garden actually. 21:40 There's a bell going off 21:42 and my own brother C.A mentioned about, 21:44 it takes time, I won't say unwind at week, 21:48 but it's entering-- 21:49 that's everyday of our life. 21:51 Yes. 21:52 And we know how that works on us. 21:53 So much more should we be preparing 21:55 for the Sabbath to empty it out, 21:56 because there's sometime you go to bed in the evening, 21:59 and you've got all these things, 22:00 you've been busy all day. 22:02 What they do, you're like-- 22:03 they are going through your mind. 22:05 And you can never really fall into deep sleep, 22:07 I say, it's just there, it's not a restful type. 22:10 Mind still working and going, God says, 22:13 that's not what He wants on the Sabbath. 22:14 He wants us to have a good night rest 22:15 and be ready to meet Him on good Sabbath. 22:18 So clear those things out. 22:20 We know that it's bad during the week, 22:22 it's even worse on the Sabbath. 22:23 Yeah. 22:25 But let's see if we can get to question number four. 22:27 Oh, baby, it's all right. 22:29 And I think-- We can run along here. 22:30 Yeah, this is the second question. 22:31 Absolutely, yes. 22:33 Remember, watch it, watch me, 22:34 "Well, honey, remember this too, 22:36 I think it's in 1 Samuel, it talks about there in 2: 30. 22:39 It says "Those that honor God. 22:42 He will honor them." 22:44 I think He will honor. 22:45 So that's the thing. 22:46 If we honor Him, He will honor us. 22:48 We honor His Sabbath. Well, that's for sure. 22:50 He will ooh, honor us with His presence, 22:53 that we desperately need so. 22:55 You know, Pastor Kenny, you know, 22:57 you preach on the microphone to have a combination. 22:59 But you-- 23:03 God will meet with us anytime, anywhere. 23:05 Any but the formal audience is Sabbath. 23:09 That's when you come into the presence in a formal, 23:11 you know that is an appointment that is made, 23:14 that is inviolate and unbreakable. 23:16 If you are running during the week 23:17 and you missed him during the week. 23:19 You go and catch him on Sabbath. 23:21 This is His promise to be there. 23:23 So if you tap to break, He's gonna be right there. 23:26 That's a formal audience that he, 23:27 that's the appointment that he will never miss. 23:30 He will always be there. 23:31 And if you don't know where to find Him, 23:32 you go and find Him on Sabbath. 23:34 And you will find Him on Sabbath. 23:35 And that leaves all of us, I'm sure, but it's like. 23:38 I won't say this in a right way, 23:39 all struck that a creator-- 23:41 Yes. 23:42 Would want to meet with somebody like me 23:44 or maybe like any of you folks, 23:46 I don't want to go there, but with myself. 23:49 I stand amazed 23:50 that the God of this universe would say, 23:53 Kenny, I just love to spend the Sabbath hours with you. 23:55 I want to spend every day 23:56 certainly all the time in your guardian angels, 23:57 but Sabbath, I just, I need some special time. 24:00 And what He says, 24:01 "You need some special time with me?'' 24:03 You know, I need the special time. 24:05 He's made the arrangements for it, so I stay-- 24:07 I really, I stand in awe every time I think 24:10 that He would say, "I want to be with you." 24:12 And then to say, "You know, Kenny, 24:14 I want to spend eternity with you." 24:16 That just makes my mind, just lights up my life 24:17 because I can't figure it out to this day 24:20 other than that kind of love that He has for us. 24:22 He sees the finished product when I see a mess sometime. 24:25 But He sees beyond that my faults. 24:26 Isn't that something? Yes. 24:28 Beautiful. I thank God for that. 24:29 It gives me hope, it bring tears in my eyes. 24:31 And meetings like this 24:32 are spiritual dressing up for him. 24:35 'Cause He's not really concerned about your clothes. 24:37 He wants you to be spiritually ready. 24:38 And that's why a family worship is more important. 24:41 Because spiritually you're tidying up for Him. 24:44 You know, especially if you're getting ready 24:45 to come into His presence right 24:46 and you need that 24:48 after you've kind of been out there 24:49 in the world all week running to and fro, 24:50 and do what you got to do, 24:52 now it's time to get cleaned up. 24:53 You get ready to meet Jesus. Oh, wonderful. 24:56 Oh, I'm sorry, sister. That's okay. 24:57 Go ahead, go ahead. It's such a joy to-- 25:00 I love what you're saying, just the God of the universe. 25:03 You know the creator God, yet He reaches down here, 25:06 sometimes I just get this mental picture, not a vision. 25:10 But like a mental picture of God 25:13 just like sitting on the bed in the morning, 25:15 saying, "I can't wait for you to wake up." 25:17 I can't wait-- 25:21 to wake up, because- That's what it is. 25:22 I want to spend that time with you in My Word, 25:26 I want to speak to you. 25:27 And I think the Sabbath especially. 25:30 God just thinks 24 hours, you are my child 25:33 and He feels this, the same about each one of us. 25:37 And how there can be billions of people, 25:38 but He wants to spend individually 25:41 that day with each one of us, that's just an incredible God. 25:44 Maybe because He knows 25:45 what we're going to encounter for that day. 25:48 And He might be saying, "Kenny don't sleep in, 25:50 you really need this time with me 25:51 because you're going to be tested. 25:53 There's going to be some things thrown in your face today, 25:55 that if you don't spend some time with me, 25:56 you're not going to make it." 25:58 So he knows. 25:59 He does. So when-- 26:00 You can feel that little nudge you say to wake up. 26:03 She will say, a lot of times, she get up early, 26:04 I get up maybe wee hours in the middle, 26:06 it appears, oh, you think, oh, it's good. 26:08 Doesn't make you anything other than, 26:10 the spirit sometime will say 26:11 you won't sleep two or three hours. 26:13 Holy Spirit will say get up Kenny, go and study. 26:15 Go read and so I answer the call. 26:18 Get up and study. 26:19 And you think, well, 26:21 I want to sleep a couple of hours. 26:22 But I'm fresh as a daisy. Yes. 26:23 Sun comes up, I'm still feeling good. 26:25 Because he's asked it for a reason, 26:26 I find out what that reason is, and maybe day or two down. 26:29 But it's always, get up and spend some time. 26:32 Amen. Amen. 26:34 I just do it. 26:35 I think that our God is so special 26:38 that I was reading earlier on, somebody has sent an email. 26:43 And it was talking about how all the religions 26:47 that have the different gods, 26:49 what they think of as being a God, 26:52 that they make whether there is a God. 26:55 And then I was thinking to myself, 27:00 you know, 27:02 even an intelligent mind you would think 27:05 that realize that God is a special God, 27:10 because none of these gods that they make 27:13 do the things for us. 27:14 That's right. 27:16 And vie for us like the real God does. 27:18 Amen. 27:20 And one of those is the Sabbath, 27:21 because it always amazes me how your mind immediately, 27:27 when the Sabbath hours are coming. 27:30 It just changes. 27:31 It doesn't matter the problems that you have 27:34 even when you are ill, even when you are ill, 27:37 it's just mind turns and it's immediately, 27:41 there is something special, the peace, and the-- 27:45 that you can find immediately with God, 27:48 because He's the real God. 27:50 He is saving God. Amen, wow. 27:51 And He is calling you. Absolutely. 27:53 Even you too to be with Him. I'm hearing around this table. 27:56 Go ahead, honey. 27:58 That to make a happy home-- Yes. 28:00 We need to be teaching our little ones, 28:01 we need to be spending time, 28:03 we need to keep the Sabbath holy. 28:05 Amen. 28:07 Who said that question four well? 28:08 We will get to four, we will get to four. 28:12 Thank you. 28:14 But really it's a special thing. 28:16 I was thinking, you know, that 28:18 and I don't want to take all the time-- 28:20 It's all right, you know. 28:21 When I was growing up, but you know, 28:23 when we came in to the Adventists faith, 28:25 I was already 10, 11, and I was the oldest one. 28:29 But I still remember though, 28:31 my father was not accepting the faith, 28:35 but my mother was so faithful. Yeah. 28:37 So faithful that regardless of my father 28:41 and sometimes he'll walk in the middle of us having. 28:45 He'll never forget. 28:46 I never forget how we grew up, 28:49 and how that time was so special. 28:52 Amen. 28:53 We do with it-- 28:54 And with my children I think of-- 28:57 We teach them at the same time that we are learning ourselves. 29:01 Yes. 29:03 Because it's-- 29:04 they bring you to have that spirit 29:07 and that excitement. 29:08 Yes. And we need to prepare. 29:11 Some churches, they have activities all day long, 29:14 so you can be in a church 29:16 and they've got pathfinders there out, 29:18 you know, giving things to people in the neighborhood. 29:20 So they go all day long, say, you know, 29:23 around here most of our churches 12, 12:30 29:25 and they're done, they may have scholarship. 29:27 Not New York as it be. 29:28 No, they may have scholarship lunch, 29:31 that type of thing. 29:32 So as a family getting back to having a happy home, 29:37 we need to make Sabbath a happy time. 29:40 Because if the children, if all they hear is, 29:43 don't, no you can't do that today. 29:47 You know, I look at our little grandson 29:49 and he's just so excited about the Sabbath. 29:52 And if he is-- 29:53 we're going down the road and he sees people out working, 29:55 He said, "Grandma, 29:56 they just don't know about the Sabbath." 29:59 They don't know about the Sabbath. 30:01 And every opportunity she gets, 30:03 it' really good as it gets into their ear. 30:06 Sabbath is a happy day. 30:10 That's good because that puts up that music 30:12 in their ear, and they begin to think it's a happy day 30:15 but when you have like you're talking about one parent 30:18 that wants to take maturity, 30:20 other one is may be stalling a little bit 30:22 and maybe not made that call. 30:23 Because I could have been six, seven years old 30:26 and I can still never forget. 30:28 Mother said, "Kids were going to church." 30:31 My dad just didn't want to go at that time. 30:33 And I remember, we went to church 30:35 and we came home. 30:36 He had the television on. 30:38 Blow some on, we're not trying to do that 30:40 just, just listen. 30:41 Because some don't understand the difference 30:42 what maybe Sabbath is what they do. 30:44 But it was interesting because we just thought, 30:45 well, we don't need the world brought in and so on. 30:48 I mean, little guy, I walked in the front row, 30:50 I looked dad had the TV on. 30:53 Well, I knew that was kind of a no, no 30:54 and The Lone Ranger was on. 30:56 Now see, I hadn't forget 30:57 what program was on and what goes on. 30:59 And then about the time my mother walked in 31:01 and she said, "Honey, please do not have that on today. 31:04 That will influence these boys to think 31:06 that's what they are to do, 31:07 so please for their sake would you turn it off." 31:10 He turned it off. 31:12 How interesting that, but see, all these years. 31:16 And the softness, not trying to be rash. 31:17 And it did, it works, 31:19 and she was saying for the children's sake 31:21 don't, don't let them see you do that. 31:24 I'm very grateful to my mother for that 31:26 because it's-- 31:28 There are many broken homes. 31:30 There are many homes, 31:31 where one is following Christ and the other one is not. 31:36 And sometimes the differences are quite big 31:40 and but in encouraging to the parents 31:45 especially, those that are in Christ, 31:47 not to give up 31:49 and not to let that difference come 31:54 between your child, God, and you. 31:58 Because they will always remember that, 32:01 and that it will help them also to later on in life. 32:05 To understand what it is to be with Christ in those hours. 32:09 Yes, I think what we're finding more and more 32:11 is such a strong spiritual warfare. 32:16 You know all I know all of us here... 32:18 All of us here are talking to people 32:21 that are going through such heartache 32:23 and it's usually like I love what you said, 32:26 because that's so critical in making a happy home 32:29 and that is a soft answer, turneth away wrath. 32:33 Because generally when-- 32:35 Yes, you know something like that, 32:37 even though she could have come in 32:39 with righteous indignation everywhere. 32:43 And just been very forceful, 32:44 you know, and how things would have changed. 32:49 Just one word can invite the enemy back in-- 32:52 It wouldn't have worked for Shelton. 32:57 It's all right. 32:58 You're right, it was a soft answer 33:01 with love did it. 33:03 The other way would not have-- 33:04 I'm gonna get through question four, 33:06 I don't know why you haven't got to. 33:07 We're gonna get to it I have tried... 33:09 I have tried, perhaps those of you had known Paul-- 33:11 We are witnesses. Know that I have tried. 33:14 Number four, should instructions begin, 33:16 and we've talked about this somewhat already. 33:19 Should instructions be given at an early age in the home? 33:23 Well, let's look at Proverbs 22:6. 33:26 Let's see what the Bible says. Proverbs 22:6, who has that? 33:30 Mrs. Jill, you have that one? 33:32 "Train up a child in the way he should go, 33:36 And when he is old he will not depart from it." 33:40 Amen. So train up a child in the way. 33:42 It's talking about a child, it's talking about a young age. 33:47 So now let's go ahead 33:48 and let's look at 2 Timothy 3:15, 33:52 2 Timothy 3:15, And I love that promise 33:57 that we just read in Proverbs too. 34:04 2 Timothy 3:15, Brother Greg? 34:07 Sure, yup, it reads, 34:09 "And that from a child you have known the Holy Scriptures, 34:13 which are able to make you wise unto salvation through faith 34:18 which is in Christ Jesus." 34:20 Amen. Absolutely. 34:23 Were talking about a divided home, right? 34:25 So, Timothy, Paul is writing to Timothy, 34:28 he grew up in a divided home. 34:30 True. His dad was a Greek. 34:32 His mom was Jewish and you think his mom Eunice 34:36 and grandma Lois taught him from a child the scriptures. 34:41 So that's just what we were talking about. 34:42 So, you know, even for those of you at home 34:45 maybe, maybe your mom or maybe your dad, 34:48 and your spouse is not walking with Jesus. 34:52 But yet, you can train. 34:54 You can reach out and train your little ones for Jesus. 34:58 Amen. Amen. 34:59 And there's hope, because Timothy grew up 35:01 to be a powerful witness for Jesus. 35:04 I love that, that's when their characters are being formed, 35:08 and they say so much of the characters 35:10 form before the age of three. 35:13 So we need to be praying you know, 35:15 mothers need to be praying 35:16 while that child is still in her womb. 35:19 And you know, even as the baby to have the right atmosphere, 35:23 the right things on in the home and the right teaching 35:27 at a very, very early age. 35:30 You know, I've had people say, 35:31 "Well, they're too young to come to church. 35:33 You know why? I can't keep them still." 35:35 That's when they need to be there. 35:36 Yes. 35:38 As, as a toddler as a baby in arms they need to be there 35:42 because that's when they're learning. 35:44 That's when they're hearing, 35:46 that's when they begin as he was mentioning earlier, 35:48 to sing those little songs about Jesus, 35:51 to know who He is. 35:52 And I've often mentioned this and, and it breaks my heart, 35:56 because a child two or three years old. 35:58 Once they begin to talk. 36:00 They can tell you every hero superman and batman. 36:03 And a girl can tell you every princes, that Disney has, 36:07 but how many heroes have faith? 36:09 Yes. 36:11 How many heroes have faith do they know? 36:14 Can they tell you? So we have a job. 36:17 And even if you don't have your own children, 36:18 you have a job with other children. 36:21 And those of you at home I encourage you, 36:24 I encourage you to turn the channel to different 36:27 in a different direction, 36:29 start teaching them about real heroes. 36:32 Amen. 36:33 Heroes of faith, that have done tremendous miracles. 36:36 The one that we talked about earlier, 36:37 where my grandson said, they were having a picnic. 36:40 Yes. I said, "Was that a miracle?" 36:43 Because two little fish and five loaves bread 36:47 could not feed over 5000. 36:50 Over, you're right. It could have been over 10,000. 36:53 Let's say it if every man had a wife with them, 36:55 and then they have some children with them. 36:57 That's right. 36:58 What a miracle, that's a superhero. 37:00 I think sure is. 37:01 That was real, so I encourage you 37:04 yes, yes, yes, we need to start early. 37:06 But, you know, you can, 37:07 you can run in difficulties with different children 37:09 because, they're different, they have a different mindset, 37:12 they have a different temperament. 37:14 You know, me, 37:15 I didn't necessarily want to sit and listen 37:17 to anything anybody as little one. 37:18 I was busy doing things, you know. 37:20 And so it took, 37:22 as I've already said they're out of correction. 37:24 To get me to want to sit, at least want to sit down 37:27 and to behave. 37:28 And so no one likes to talk about that now days, 37:30 but the Bible speaks about it, because you just, 37:32 it was talking about in Proverbs 22. 37:35 Talks about train up a child, but then in verse 15 37:39 the same chapter it says, this about children. 37:42 "Foolishness is bound up where?" 37:45 In the heart of a child 37:46 but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him." 37:50 And I said, well, how far does that go. 37:53 You know, the road across I looked at up, 37:54 you know what really said in there 37:56 in the written language. 37:57 It said stick, it talked about a branch, 38:00 for correcting a staff. 38:03 I'm thinking man some of those. And I thought right there. 38:06 Oh, I can remember 38:07 especially, make it I had a smart mouth. 38:10 I was always quick with the tongue 38:12 and never should be. 38:13 But I remember mom said, you know I did something 38:15 I knew was wrong, going to get it spanking or whipping. 38:18 The power of her was always go out 38:20 and cut me a limb, son. 38:21 Oh, boy when I cut the limb, you know, and I'd rather hurry 38:25 and get it over with before dad got home is always worse 38:27 because, I party act out during that I'd be getting another 38:30 when he got there anyway. 38:31 But she said, "You go out there," 38:33 she said, you know, you knew the right from wrong, 38:34 you shouldn't have done this 38:36 and you knew what was going to happen?" 38:37 I said, "Yeah I did." She said "Go cut me a switch." 38:40 And then she said, "And don't bring me back 38:41 that little thing is gonna break, before I get done." 38:44 This way people talk back to you, you still with me? 38:47 You don't talk about-- 38:48 And am I little smart, see, I needed extra help. 38:51 Some children do. Okay. 38:54 You know, you want to beat this old boy. 38:56 I'll bring you back something, you can beat me good with. 38:58 I went out there and I took a handsaw 39:00 and I cut about an inch 39:01 and have two inch around six foot long tree. 39:06 So it was like a ball bat about six feet long. 39:10 I knew what I was doing, 39:12 I'm gonna teach her lesson with this thing. 39:14 But I thought you know, what she's gonna teach me one, 39:16 but I'm ready for it. 39:17 Let her, let her have at it. That's my attitude bad. 39:20 I took it to her, I handed it to. 39:22 Because that's switch won't' gonna change me, 39:24 there might be something else in my life. 39:26 To change, I handed this great big old pole, 39:29 I said, "Have at it." 39:30 Well, if hadn't me I really had it you know. 39:32 Yeah. 39:34 And you know what. She broke my heart. 39:38 It won't gonna be as they say, the beaten the ball batting. 39:42 Yeah. 39:44 But she said, "Kenny, I simply wanted--" 39:47 She said, "I simply wanted to correct you, not kill you." 39:52 I thought what wisdom that even got through my poor-- 39:55 Yeah. 39:56 I'm mostly almost like a devilish mind, 39:58 let's just call it like it is either Christ mind 40:00 or the enemy was controlling it. 40:02 I challenged her. 40:05 And I knew that more likely she would take that challenge 40:08 and beat me with a stick 40:09 till I don't know what was gonna happen, 40:10 I thought, you know, it's gonna be worth it, 40:12 I'm gonna teach her lesson and went along with that 40:14 and she broke my heart. 40:15 I never felt that way again. 40:17 She said, "Go out and cut a switch." 40:18 I made it work was switch was a good one, 40:20 they can work on it but not any more 40:21 because, she said, "Basically she love me. 40:24 I want to correct you, not kill you, son." 40:25 See that shepherd staff was not for correction, 40:27 that was for guidance. 40:29 He guided, he didn't beat the sheep with that, 40:32 that was what. 40:33 If they and you had the crook 40:34 in case they got into little crevice 40:36 or something to get him out 40:37 or you tapped them on like to guide them, 40:38 one for correction other things for correction. 40:40 But you didn't correct with that rod. 40:42 I went got it, I went and got one of those. 40:44 And that's what you know, Bible says, train up a child. 40:46 And it includes exhortation-- 40:48 Thank you. 40:49 Correction, now we have time out, 40:51 okay you're going to close a timeout. 40:55 You know, and we were in somebody's house one day, 40:57 and we heard this child say something about an adult. 41:00 And Irma said, that came from an adult. 41:02 Just parroting what the person 41:05 that, that, it wasn't a child just thought she said, 41:07 "That came from the parents." 41:08 You know kind of thing. 41:10 So they're going to pick it up good or bad. 41:12 You might as well give them good 41:13 'cause they're gonna pick up something. 41:14 And whatever you give them, 41:16 so you might as well given them the word. 41:17 And it's not a guarantee 41:18 you know, the Bible says, train up a child. 41:20 It doesn't mean they'll never stray. 41:21 As long as that training is there 41:23 and it will not be long. 41:25 And it got something to come back to 41:27 because they've got the training, 41:29 they got the training. 41:30 We just need to pray that they come back to it. 41:33 The reason for all of this, I want to share. 41:36 Actually both of these quotes 41:38 that I love to share during this talk. 41:41 One is from Review and Herald 41:42 and this is March 30th from 1886, 41:45 the reason we need to teach our children 41:47 while they are so young, 41:49 and why they need this correction 41:50 is because in the purified earth, 41:52 now I'm quoting, "Will be no place for the rebellious, 41:58 disobedient the unthankful, ungrateful son or daughter." 42:03 And yet today, yet today, almost-- 42:08 You know, if you take an observation 42:10 by profession I was a teacher. 42:13 I am a teacher. 42:14 And I think children have changed. 42:17 Yes. Oh, yes. 42:18 They have changed. The home has changed. 42:20 The home has changed. 42:22 And what's gonna happen and we were always taught, 42:25 let them work it out themselves, 42:27 and that doesn't fit with scripture. 42:29 No. 42:30 How many adults can work out a problem 42:32 without having guidelines? 42:34 We need moral absolutes that only God's word gives us. 42:37 Amen. 42:39 And so we need to give those moral absolutes to our children 42:42 because heaven will not be their home. 42:45 It's either heaven or hell. We have a choice. 42:49 And are you raising those babies for heaven? 42:51 Or are they going to be stubble for hell. 42:54 Now, that's tough 42:55 and going back to that rod of correction, 42:58 this is Review and Herald, February 8th 1912, 43:02 It says, "It is sometimes essential..." 43:05 Well in our home, it was essential a lot of times, 43:08 "To correct children. 43:10 When this is necessary--" 43:12 Now, this is a tough one parents. 43:15 "Do it in love." 43:17 That's right. That's key. That is key. 43:19 "Do it in love." I want to jump down here. 43:22 "Parents and children need the softening 43:25 subduing influence of the Holy Spirit of God 43:28 and if you can't do it in love right then separate yourself. 43:32 We often, often we do more provoke than to win. 43:37 Let your methods be a character that will create love. 43:41 Love begets love." That's right. 43:44 Good. 43:45 What do you want your child to grow up to be? 43:48 "Do not scold." 43:50 Now this is, it start stepping on toes 43:52 because we've messed up. 43:55 "Do not scold," but that's the good news, 43:57 we can redeem the time. 43:58 We can't go back, we can't change the past. 44:01 You can redeem the present, the time now. 44:04 "This will work counter to the results 44:07 which God desires to see accomplished 44:09 that is if you score. 44:11 An exhibition of passion on your part 44:14 will never cure your child's evil temper." 44:19 And in the kingdom there will be no more evil temper. 44:23 This is it. No more sin. This is it. 44:27 We've got one chance. 44:29 And that's why this, this message of a happy home 44:32 and raising our children is so vital in today's world. 44:37 And when you grow up, you're pleasing yourself really. 44:39 It's not-- 44:41 There's nothing redemptive 44:43 about just getting in their child's face 44:45 and aggravate their poor child. 44:46 You know Bible says provoke onto your children-- 44:47 That's right. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. 44:49 And you can make worship. 44:51 You know, if you just throw something together 44:53 and don't plan for Friday night worship with their kids. 44:55 They're gonna be bored and they will sit there, 44:57 because you make them sit there. 44:59 But they're sitting there against their will 45:01 and it's not a joy. 45:02 And they're not looking forward for a Sabbath to come. 45:04 I envy all of you because I have no Sabbath memories. 45:07 I joined the church at ten on my own, 45:09 my parents were not Adventists. 45:11 And they didn't, they didn't stop me. 45:13 But they didn't do anything to particularly encourage, 45:16 you know, you want to go to church, well fine. 45:19 They're not doing that. 45:20 So on Friday's I had to come and walk past three TV's 45:23 and go in my room. 45:25 You know, on Sabbath in a fall, 45:27 passed three TV's everybody's watching football. 45:29 You know, and I'm in my room kind of thing 45:31 and I envy people who had Sabbath dinner, 45:34 have worship together because every now again, 45:36 I've got to go to somebody's house. 45:37 And I would just, and the kids are like. 45:39 "We don't like it." 45:40 But I was like, "Man, I wish I had that in my life." 45:42 I'm fighting baseball, and football, and hockey, 45:44 and everything else, you know. 45:45 And it's a wonderful thing 45:47 to be able to draw out a family together 45:48 and praise God and set the tone 45:50 for the incoming of the Sabbath. 45:52 And I just, I don't, I don't have that. 45:54 But I envy those who did. 45:56 But you're not alone, you sitting around the table. 45:58 I didn't grow up in a home that kept Sabbath. 46:00 My father never ever was converted. 46:03 And we lived in a very abusive situation growing up. 46:07 And so, I didn't have that either 46:09 and then when I did have to leave my home 46:12 to live with my grandparents for various reasons. 46:16 Even though they were Christians, 46:17 we really never sat and had a family worship. 46:20 I like you, I remember going to visit a home in Carbondale 46:25 with this family. 46:26 And the atmosphere was so different 46:29 and they had worship and I said the same thing. 46:33 Someday, I want a home like that. 46:35 Yeah. I want a home like that. 46:38 Amen. 46:39 Think about the influence that you both have now. 46:45 You know, you have a home like that. 46:47 Think about Pastor C.A and Irma in your hope. 46:50 And even if we can reach out to other people. 46:54 You know, Greg and I don't have kids 46:56 but we can reach out to other young people. 46:58 You know God calls each one of us 47:00 to reach out to someone 47:01 maybe who doesn't have that in the home, 47:03 who wishes for that. 47:05 And who, then we can reach out. 47:07 I wanted to just touch on the quote you read on love, 47:10 on the disciplining with love 47:12 and not, not with that harshness. 47:17 Yes. 47:19 I remember one time, 47:20 I am, I was going through a rebellious period in my life. 47:25 Oh, mercy. And I got a lot of spankings. 47:29 And they didn't work. No. 47:31 And I remember just being resistant angry, 47:36 talking back. 47:38 And I remember one time my mom she said, 47:41 "Jill, let's come in the bedroom." 47:43 And I thought here it comes. Oh, boy. 47:44 I'm getting it again. 47:46 I mean, I just know it's coming. 47:48 Oh, yeah, it's normal. 47:49 And she said, "I want to kneel down first." 47:51 Come on now. Amen. 47:53 And we knelt down. And she prayed. 47:56 She said, "God I have no identity with Jill. 48:00 I'm not getting her heart. 48:02 She's not walking in obedience, I don't know what to do." 48:05 Yeah. 48:06 She was just out there and I began to cry. 48:08 Well, absolutely, it break your heart. 48:10 And that worked more to soften that rebellion 48:15 and for me to say, "Okay, God, 48:17 I do want to choose even follow you than anything else. 48:20 Because I saw that Christianity works." 48:25 It was discipline but with love. 48:27 It was, it was different, wasn't it? 48:29 It's like getting in the club with your momma 48:31 and then mama broke my heart. 48:33 Same thing. What she is saying to you. 48:34 And one time my dad said this to me. 48:37 Broke my heart again, but it changed me 48:38 because I don't, I don't-- 48:41 You really couldn't beat me hard enough 48:43 to make me do something. 48:44 Beat the devil out of the child. 48:46 Say, I had the devil in, because you couldn't, 48:47 I might say because you couldn't threaten me, 48:50 you couldn't, I didn't care what you did. 48:52 You said, "I hit you with a ball bat," 48:53 I give you the ball bat and say go ahead. 48:55 That's, that's not normal, that's not right, 48:57 so I understand the enemy you know. 49:00 But I remember one time 49:01 and I'll just paraphrase my dad. 49:02 We were going somewhere, and he said something, 49:04 I said something. 49:05 We never allowed to recess. 49:07 Quickly I'd say something, he'd say, say son don't, 49:09 don't do it I was in the back seat of the car 49:11 would go and he said, "Son don't, 49:12 don't say another word." 49:15 And I had to say all right. He said you didn't hear me. 49:18 I don't want to hear all right, I don't want to hear okay. 49:20 Don't open your mouth again and I said okay. 49:26 And he said, I'm gonna tell you one more time, 49:28 do not make a grunt, don't make a sound, 49:31 don't do anything. 49:32 And I say well, if that's what you want. 49:34 I knew I was going to get to the back of the hand. 49:36 But instead that he grabbed the steering wheel, 49:38 and we're going to and both hands. 49:41 Trying to get-- 49:44 he looked over my mom and he said, 49:47 "He's the dandiest kid I've ever seen." 49:54 Now think about it. 49:56 That, that's not what I wanted to hear from him. 49:59 I was in that sense I'm not mean but I was sassy. 50:04 I take that challenge. 50:05 But when he said that 50:07 because he's thinking of all the children 50:09 everybody of all the children he had met. 50:12 He said, "He's the dandiest kid that I've ever seen." 50:16 That-- 50:18 Broke your heart. Yeah. 50:19 Yeah. 50:20 I sat back in the seat I had no more to say, 50:23 it broke my heart again. 50:25 It was a kindness. 50:26 You're talking about here with the love. 50:28 I'm thankful for the other two 50:29 because I got my attention from time to time. 50:31 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 50:33 And I was one that something really need it. 50:35 Some you can talk. 50:37 I wasn't that kind but I thank God, 50:38 he's merciful I thank God for godly parents 50:41 who stayed with the program for me. 50:44 One thing I do want to tell John to you, 50:47 we're actually starting to run out of time. 50:50 Basic crying, carrying on. 50:53 But one thing I do want to touch on 50:55 when we were talking about scolding. 50:57 You know, it's so easy, because we are what we feed on. 51:02 When we at most homes, have this box in their home 51:05 and I'm thankful that you have it on 3ABN 51:09 that often and it's on other channels 51:11 and so we're programmed, 51:12 we're programmed that this violent, 51:14 this rough character, this tough, 51:16 this rebellious spirit is good. 51:19 And so often that's what comes into our homes 51:23 between husband and wife, between mother and children, 51:27 father and children. 51:28 And what begins to happen when we feel that rage come up. 51:33 His father could have given into that rage 51:36 right there at that steering wheel. 51:38 When you feel the rage come up and you act on it, 51:45 you've just opened the door for the evil angels to come in. 51:49 Yeah, of course. You have opened the door. 51:52 Many people will say, "Well, I didn't mean to do it," 51:55 but I was so angry and they hear voices 51:58 and they go and they murder, they do horrible things 52:02 because they allowed that rage to come in. 52:04 But what does that do even to that, 52:06 you're hitting on it to the children? 52:08 Yeah. They get the same spirit. 52:10 They think their response should be just like that-- 52:13 The child has been beaten all his life, 52:14 how does he solve his problem? 52:16 He's gonna beat somebody else. Sure. 52:18 You find this pastor but they usually they're worse. 52:21 Like you say, however you might be 52:23 if you don't raise your children admonition 52:24 that they're going to be worse, they're going to do more things 52:26 and get worse down the line so, you know-- 52:28 We have decisions to make, we had changes to make. 52:31 Oh, somebody pray for him. Because that's exactly right. 52:34 Down the line, it will become worse and worse and worse. 52:37 You know, you've often told me as we were rearing children 52:40 that our weaknesses will be magnified in our children. 52:44 So what we are weak on, 52:45 they will magnify that weakness and then you know. 52:49 When you want to go back and correct it, 52:51 by then that you can't bend them. 52:53 Yeah, there is some inspired counsel 52:54 that says that same thing why there're some parents 52:56 and the children just go like this all the time. 52:58 Because of the same, the same personality. 53:00 Yes. 'Cause of the same personality. 53:02 That's why and I want to just get this in, 53:03 Irma had the same experience. Come on. 53:05 Growing up in a non-Christian home, 53:07 I was so blessed when I baptized my parents. 53:10 Glory. Praise the Lord. 53:12 And you tease, I say, you do your show off, 53:13 because I baptize my dad one month before he died. 53:17 She, her father came to the Lord one week 53:19 before I thought you'll show off one week before. 53:22 And she was there, she was right there. 53:24 That kind of thing, and so it's a wonderful thing 53:27 that you can see them, 53:28 so I have the assurance they'll both be in the kingdom. 53:30 I didn't get the, the Sabbath dinners, 53:33 and all that kind of thing 53:34 but we will take care of that in heaven. 53:36 With that we want to gather around that big table right, 53:38 Jesus will be serving you. 53:40 Oh, how wonderful. Day that will be. 53:41 But, you know as I listen to I all of our experiences, 53:46 that not always were wonderful, you know, sometimes we're tough 53:51 I think of how, how merciful. 53:55 Come on now. 53:57 And how graceful is God to us, you know, 54:00 because look at where we are 54:03 and in spite of all those things that happened. 54:07 A father non-Christian, a mother a Christian, 54:09 their argument into that. 54:11 You know, my parents never argue in front of us. 54:16 And that has been a big blessing to us. 54:19 Because it was not until I was 15 years old 54:24 that I realized that my-- 54:26 I knew that my parents fought 54:28 and had a big differences between them. 54:32 Because, my mother 54:33 but, but that was because of my mother, she promised 54:38 that she was not going to be arguing in front of us. 54:42 So we thought that our upbringing 54:44 was just the most beautiful. 54:47 It was somewhat that same way in our home 54:49 because, they just, my dad wants to, 54:52 you know mom would say so he just didn't want to 54:54 and she found out she didn't want to 54:56 because the impression that would make on us 54:58 and he would say something like, 55:00 "We'll talk about this later." 55:02 Yeah, that's good. 55:03 "Not with in front of the kids, we'll talk about this later." 55:05 I thought how interesting that is. 55:07 And even when it was time to give a spanking 55:09 because, we acted up on Sabbath, my dad would say, 55:12 "I'll see you after sundown." 55:15 Yeah, be careful with that, hold hands with it, hold... 55:18 I know exactly. 55:20 I don't want to get out of shape. 55:23 You know, my father will go and drink on Friday nights 55:27 and then he'll come home, and he will be sleeping. 55:30 He never got angry or mean or anything. 55:34 He will just sleep. 55:35 And my mother tells us, 55:36 she says, "He's tired, he's sleeping," always she say, 55:40 "Respect your dad, don't be noisy. 55:43 And there would be no noise and just let him to rest." 55:48 And it was until I was 15, 55:49 I realize that my father was resting 55:51 because he was drinking. 55:53 But that he and she would go that far. 55:57 And we have swiftly, swiftly come to the close. 56:00 It's come by fast. I want to give a resolve. 56:03 Because these are a lot of wonderful principles 56:05 that have been brought up 56:07 that we need to apply in our homes. 56:09 But a resolve that is found in Adventist home page, 56:11 about page 180 I believe. 56:13 Because many times 56:15 we look at one another and we want to say. 56:16 She made me do, he made do it, that and that. 56:19 We need to look at our self, at home I. 56:23 "I must guard my spirit, my actions, my words. 56:26 I must give time to personal culture 56:30 to training, and educating myself in right principles, 56:35 I must be an example to others. 56:38 I must meditate upon the word of God day and night 56:42 and bring it in to my practical life." 56:45 Brothers and sisters at home, 56:47 I pray that this has been a meaningful, 56:50 a spiritual awakening to say, you know, there's still hope. 56:55 There is still hope. We can do these changes. 56:58 We can make these changes in our home. 57:00 If the home is not happy, it can't be. 57:02 Christ has to be the center of that. 57:05 It can change. 57:06 Some people saying, it can't change, 57:09 it's been going on for too long. 57:10 No, Jesus can make a difference in your life. 57:12 He can change your home, He can change you, 57:14 He can change the wife, He change the children. 57:16 You can have a happy home. 57:18 So we're praying as we're, 57:20 you know, getting the issues out here 57:21 on the table and talking about them. 57:22 We pray that people have been drinking them in. 57:24 They'll continue to study, and we're glad 57:26 that they tune in for worship together. 57:28 We had a good time being in your home, 57:29 I hope you had a good time being with us, 57:31 and we love you, and we'll see you next time. |
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