Participants: John & Angie Lomacang (Host), Luis & Xenia Capote, Daniel Ortiz, Daniels Estrada
Series Code: TDYFW
Program Code: TDYFW016011A
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00:01 I want to spend my life
00:07 Mending broken people 00:12 I want to spend my life 00:18 Removing pain 00:23 Lord, let my words 00:29 Heal a heart that hurts 00:34 I want to spend my life 00:40 Mending broken people 00:45 I want to spend my life 00:51 Mending broken people 01:07 Hello, friends, and welcome to 01:08 another Friday evening Sabbath evening Family Worship. 01:11 I am with my lovely wife Angie. 01:13 Good to have you, hon. 01:14 Good to be here. 01:16 It's gonna be a good one, isn't it? 01:17 And now don't adjust your television. 01:18 This, if I give this program another title, 01:21 it will be "Colors." 01:22 And as they've broaden our show, 01:24 we have a wonderful colorful panel here today. 01:27 My wife has on red, I had on racy blue earlier 01:30 which was driving the cameras nuts. 01:32 And so I settled for fluorescent green. 01:35 So if your camera, 01:37 if you have to put on sunglasses 01:38 to watch this program, then go get them right now 01:40 because I am not going anywhere. 01:42 So good to have you here to join us. 01:44 And let me introduce you to our panel today. 01:46 We are gonna be talking about the topic entitled 01:49 "How to deal with anger, bitterness, and resentment?" 01:54 Now families will have probably stronger connections 01:58 but we know that on, in this world, 02:01 some of the greatest challenges 02:02 we have are often in our family. 02:05 And Jesus even said, 02:06 "A man's foes will be those of his own household." 02:09 So in order to enjoy the Family Worship, 02:11 I think it's important sometimes 02:12 to deal with issues that divide the family. 02:15 And so we're gonna try our best tonight 02:17 to tackle the topic of anger. 02:19 Some people are angry with God. 02:21 Some people are angry with family members. 02:23 Some people are angry with how life is dealing them 02:26 what they might refer to as an unfair opportunity. 02:29 We will try by God's word 02:30 and by our discussion to deal with the topic. 02:33 But before we do anything, 02:35 we're gonna have a word of prayer. 02:36 Then we are going to introduce our panel. 02:38 We're gonna sing some songs, 02:39 and then we're gonna dive into our topic. 02:41 And, Honey, would you like to begin with prayer for me? 02:43 I sure would. Let's bow our heads. 02:45 Our kind Father in heaven, 02:47 we praise You and we honor You, 02:49 we glorify You. 02:51 Please bless this Sabbath evening. 02:53 We thank You for the opportunity 02:55 where we can gather together as families, 02:58 throughout the world. 03:00 And the family right here in the studio. 03:02 And we thank You and praise You for that. 03:04 We pray Father 03:06 that Your Holy Spirit will come, lead, guide, speak 03:09 through us and use us God, 03:11 'cause there's many people out there 03:13 that are hurt and going through a lot of pain. 03:16 We pray that this program will be a blessing to them. 03:19 And truly, we will say, yes, 03:22 the Lord can deliver anyone. 03:25 And we thank You 03:26 in the worthy and precious name of Jesus. 03:30 Amen. Amen. 03:32 Wonderful prayer. 03:33 But then I know 03:34 you have a wonderful connection with the Lord. 03:36 Let's meet our panel tonight. 03:38 And I want to start. 03:40 To my right, 03:41 wherever you may be sitting in your home, 03:42 it might be the opposite way to your left, 03:45 but let start with our, tell our audience. 03:48 Now when they take a broad shot, 03:50 you might think, 03:51 "Is this a Latino or an English program?" 03:53 Well, they said, 03:54 "It's a Latino program 03:56 that they invited me to speak English on." 03:57 Yeah. 03:58 I say it's an English program 04:00 that I have invited them to speak English on. 04:01 But anyhow, good to have you here. 04:02 Daniel, tell us who you are 04:04 and what do you do at 3ABN? 04:05 Well, I am glad to be here, Pastor. 04:07 Thanks for inviting me. 04:08 My name is Daniel, I am from Texas. 04:10 And I work in the programming department for 3ABN Latino, 04:14 and it's a pleasure to be here. 04:16 I'm learning a lot. 04:17 Daniel Ortiz? Ortiz, yeah. 04:18 A special last name, your parent might say, 04:20 "Daniel, what?" 04:21 Daniel Ortiz. 04:23 Good to have you here, Daniel. Thank you. 04:24 And next to you, tell us your name. 04:26 What do you do here at 3ABN? 04:27 My name is Daniela Estrada. 04:28 And I'm from Mexico. 04:30 And I came here as a volunteer, 04:32 and I have been in their call center. 04:35 Yes, I'm glad to be here. 04:37 Okay, Daniela? 04:38 Daniela. So Daniel and Daniela. 04:39 Yes. 04:41 And often at church whenever we're at church 04:43 and I have this next gentlemen next to me I say, 04:47 "He is my bodyguard." 04:48 And so let's go to my far left and introduce, 04:51 introduce yourself. 04:53 My name is Luis Capote. 04:54 I have been here for about a year. 04:56 And I am so grateful to be here, 04:58 to be able to work in the editing department 05:02 for the Latino programming. 05:05 And it's been a fantastic time, 05:07 and it's so wonderful that it's finally Sabbath again 05:10 that we can, you know, 05:11 rejoice and be glad in His name. 05:14 Yes, and thank you for joining us, Luis, 05:15 and to your right is a lovely lady 05:17 that I would like her to introduce herself. 05:20 My name is Xenia Capote. 05:21 And I work in the accounting department. 05:24 Yes. 05:25 And I'm glad to be here also. 05:27 I am pretty new to 3ABN. 05:30 And but I am glad to be here and be a part of this panel. 05:33 Yes. Yes. 05:34 And so as we begin our program tonight, 05:37 we are gonna talk about some wonderful things. 05:39 But there is another guest that you are about to meet. 05:43 You know, we always have music, 05:45 at least that's our tradition here at 3ABN. 05:46 And we're excited tonight 05:48 that the person who is gonna be accompanying us 05:50 is not only a good friend of 3ABN 05:52 but a part of our 3ABN family 05:54 and what's the word I could use here... 05:59 It seems like he was born not in a hospital, 06:01 but in a music theater. 06:03 And his name is Tim Parton. 06:04 Good to have you here, Tim. 06:06 And he is gonna be playing our hymns 06:08 that we're gonna be singing tonight. 06:09 And we're gonna start with one that really, 06:11 I think helps us deal with the issues 06:13 that we are confronting in our own lives. 06:15 And this is one called 06:17 "Tis so sweet to trust in Jesus." 06:19 Let's sing that song, you get to feel him. 06:22 Song number 524. 06:24 524 if you have your hymnals. 06:26 'Tis so sweet to trust in Jesus 06:31 Just to take Him at His Word 06:37 Just to rest upon His promise 06:42 Just to know, "This sayeth the Lord" 06:47 Jesus, Jesus, how I trust Him 06:52 How I've proved Him o'er and o'er 06:58 Jesus, Jesus, precious Jesus! 07:03 O for grace to trust Him more! 07:08 Last stanza. 07:10 I'm so glad I learned to trust Thee 07:16 Precious Jesus, Savior, Friend 07:21 And I know that Thour art with me 07:26 Wilt be with me till the end 07:31 Jesus, Jesus, how I trust Him 07:37 How I've proved Him o'er and o'er. 07:42 Jesus, Jesus, precious Jesus! 07:48 O for grace to trust Him more! 07:55 You know what, I said panel earlier. 07:58 We're not a panel, we're family. 07:59 Amen. Right. 08:00 Amen. 08:02 And when we have those theological discussions, 08:04 we are panels but this is our 3ABN family 08:07 inviting your family to join our family, 08:10 so that we could have family worship together. 08:14 What's the next song we're gonna sing entitled? 08:17 "Trust and obey." 08:18 "Trust and obey." 08:20 I like that accent "Trust and obey". 08:22 That's Spanish. 08:23 But it's 590 in your hymnals 08:25 if you'd like to join us to sing that song 08:27 "When we walk with the Lord." 08:28 We're gonna sing the first 08:30 and the fourth verse of this song. 08:39 When we walk with the Lord in the light of His Word 08:47 What a glory He sheds on our way! 08:54 While we do His good will 08:58 He abides with us still 09:02 And with all who will trust and obey 09:09 Trust and obey, for there's no other way 09:16 To be happy in Jesus, 09:21 But to trust and obey 09:25 But we never can prove... 09:27 But we never can prove 09:31 The delights of His love 09:35 Until all on the altar we lay 09:43 For the favor He shows 09:47 And the joy He bestows 09:51 Are for them who will trust and obey 09:57 Trust and obey, for there's no other way 10:05 To be happy in Jesus 10:10 But to trust and obey 10:17 Now we're talking about trusting, 10:19 trust and obey. 10:20 But then who all we're trusting, 10:21 and who all we're obeying. 10:23 This next song talks about the very one, 10:25 more about Jesus. 10:26 We'd believe that the more we know about Jesus, 10:29 the more we can find solutions to the issues 10:32 that confront our spiritual walk. 10:34 And if you don't know Jesus, 10:35 and you're watching the program tonight, 10:37 we'd like to encourage you that 10:39 He is the answer whatever the question. 10:41 The more we hear about Jesus, 10:42 the more we find the possibilities 10:44 to overcome and rejoice. 10:46 Let's sing that song "More about Jesus," 10:48 the first and third stanza. 10:50 Page 245 in your hymnals, 245. 10:58 More about Jesus would I know 11:04 More of His grace to others show 11:10 More of His saving fullness see 11:15 More of His love who died for me 11:21 Give me more, more about Jesus 11:28 More, more about Jesus 11:34 More of His saving fullness see 11:40 More of His love who died for me 11:45 More about Jesus in His Word. 11:48 More about Jesus in His Word 11:53 Holding communion with my Lord 12:00 Hearing His voice in every line 12:06 Making each faithful saying mine 12:12 Give me more, more about Jesus 12:19 More, more about Jesus 12:25 More of His saving fullness see 12:31 More of His love 12:34 Who died for me 12:39 Can we say amen? 12:41 Amen. 12:42 Thank you so much, Tim, 12:43 for that wonderful music. 12:45 And as we dive into this topic, 12:47 once again how to deal with 12:49 anger, bitterness, and resentment. 12:54 After pastoring, Honey, 12:56 for so many years, 12:58 this has been something in every congregation, 12:59 you know, we talk about 13:01 the similarities we have in our doctrines. 13:03 But the differences we have in our emotions. 13:06 And any given day of the week, 13:08 someone's emotions can be set off. 13:10 They can either let those emotions die that day, 13:13 or they can carry them 13:14 for days, for weeks, for months, 13:19 and unfortunately sometimes for years. 13:22 And as Luis said before we had begun the program, 13:26 sometimes people are angry with... 13:27 With God. 13:29 And they come to church and they are angry with God. 13:32 They sing His songs, they read His book. 13:35 They work for Him, and they are angry with God. 13:38 So what we want to do tonight, 13:40 Honey, I want to have you read our first scripture. 13:41 We have a main scripture 13:43 that we're gonna talk about first. 13:44 We are gonna read together. 13:46 It is in Proverbs 4:23. 13:48 If you have your Bibles, 13:49 we're gonna read from the New King James Version. 13:51 Whatever translation you have, it's fine 13:54 but this scripture 13:56 that we're gonna begin with is a main scripture 13:59 because every emotion we express is found somewhere. 14:04 And this Bible verse tells us where those emotions, 14:07 where the joy, happiness, sadness, 14:10 anger, bitterness, resentment, 14:11 they're all found in this particular place. 14:13 Honey, lead us before God's word. 14:15 "Keep your hearts with all diligence, 14:18 for out of it spring the issues of life." 14:22 Wow. So what does that say? 14:24 Where are our issues found? 14:26 Oh, in our heart. 14:28 And you know, 14:30 when the Bible uses the word "Heart," 14:31 what is it actually speaking about? 14:32 Mind. 14:34 Our mind? And what else? 14:37 Our character. 14:39 Our character, okay. 14:40 Emotions. 14:41 Say that one. Our emotions. 14:43 Our emotions, 14:44 because you know, when we get angry, 14:46 sometimes people take anger to heart. 14:47 Yeah. 14:49 It's like you could see it on their faces, 14:52 or you can see it in their body language sometimes. 14:54 As a pastor, 14:55 sometimes I see people sit in church 14:57 and it could be a husband and wife 14:58 and they sit like this. 15:02 Yeah, you do, I see that. 15:03 Or sometimes they take pictures 15:05 and they lean like this. 15:06 Lean like here. 15:07 You know, and I'm now thinking, 15:09 "Wow, they need counseling." 15:10 And but then sometimes 15:12 let's talk about this briefly before we dive in. 15:15 Talk about some of the ways 15:16 that you have seen anger exhibited before. 15:18 I mean it may even be in your own life, 15:20 in your own heart. 15:21 Whoever like to begin. 15:23 By not talking to someone. 15:25 Okay, by not talking to someone. 15:26 What else? Willing to hurt. 15:28 You try to hurt that person, other person. 15:32 I think that's one of the worse 15:34 because you tried to hurt that person 15:36 even physically or with your words, 15:39 'cause you're so angry with that person. 15:41 And in that time, 15:42 you're not letting gut act through you. 15:45 So if it's not gut, I think it's something else. 15:49 That's a good one. 15:50 Ortiz is saying hurting people hurt people. 15:53 I think that's what you're talking about. 15:54 What are-- 15:56 By using offensive words. 15:57 A lot of the times, you know, 15:58 you're going to relay what you're feeling 16:02 and then you're going to try to-- 16:04 You kind of want to see other people 16:06 going through the same struggles as you're doing. 16:08 So you try to use words that are going to 16:11 generate that anger on someone else. 16:14 And that's what you feel sometimes 16:17 is gonna give you that peace 16:18 that you're looking for. 16:20 It's amazing you mentioned that 16:21 sometimes people are happy that you're angry. 16:24 And they are angry. 16:25 But if they make you angry, they are happy. 16:27 It's crazy how that works. 16:28 Makes them feel better. Huh? 16:29 Makes them feel better. Makes them feel better. 16:31 Now you know how I feel. 16:33 Now you know what I'm going through. 16:34 Yeah. Daniela? 16:36 Actually I found a definition 16:38 that says "Anger is a strong feeling. 16:41 So sometimes we cannot even control." 16:44 Wow. So true. 16:45 That's a very good. It's a strong feeling. 16:46 Sometimes it becomes the controlling factor in us. 16:49 It takes over, your countenance, 16:54 it just takes over you. 16:56 And it's actually, it could make you sick. 16:59 Your pressure rises, you know, all of that. 17:02 It can, it can make you sick if you continue that anger. 17:06 Well, if you look at the great controversy 17:08 that we're going, any of us was going through, 17:10 it's the same thing. 17:11 The enemy is angry. 17:12 They enemy is upset. 17:14 So what has he done? 17:15 He has actually gone and has joined the church, 17:18 and have actually have looked at ways 17:19 to deceive the church for what? 17:21 For his own amusement for to, for him to be able to find. 17:24 Okay, you guys, God angered me. 17:27 Christ angered me at the cross. 17:29 Now I am gonna take, you know, 17:30 I'm gonna take it on with his pride, 17:33 with the church, 17:34 to be able to show them that I am still in control. 17:37 Even though they might be deceived 17:39 that they are following him with the-- 17:42 He has used that to be able to get individuals 17:47 to follow the God that they love in a wrong way. 17:52 You know once, one of the first things 17:54 that a person needs to do in order to get help... 17:57 They have to admit. That he has a problem. 17:58 Say it again. 18:00 Admit it. Yeah. 18:01 Admit it. 18:03 Is it hard to admit that you're angry? 18:04 Oh, yeah, totally. 18:05 I am not angry. 18:07 'Cause we're proud. 18:08 As human beings, we're really proud. 18:10 I have actually seen people angry with a smile. 18:13 "I'm really I'm not angry. 18:15 You think I'm angry, I'm not angry. 18:17 So what you would like me to do." 18:18 And they said this, 18:20 they're covering it up and you think, 18:22 "You're really angry." 18:23 And but let's look at this text. 18:26 One of the first things I think we could go to 18:27 is be honest with yourself and with God. 18:31 Be honest about your anger. 18:33 In order to say, you know, when we got to the doctor, 18:36 if we go to the doctor and he say, 18:37 "Why you're here?" 18:39 "Just want to visit you, just want to see how you doing, 18:41 just want to give you some of my money." 18:43 Now, what's the problem? 18:44 And until we agree that we have a problem. 18:46 At a dentist, we usually have a what? 18:48 Toothache. Toothache. 18:50 And we go to other doctors for various reasons. 18:52 But let's look at this text. 18:54 And anyone of you, 18:55 Hebrews 4:13 is one of the first ones 18:58 we would like to look at together. 19:00 Hebrews 4:13. 19:03 The reason why it's important to admit you're angry 19:05 is because... Does God know? 19:08 Oh, yeah. 19:10 I have heard people say 19:12 and sometimes people have arguments, 19:14 and after the argument is done, 19:17 they go home and they have an argument with themselves. 19:19 I should have said. 19:20 And what I, if I was thinking about what I have said, 19:24 and then they're preparing for the next argument. 19:27 And sometimes people 19:29 that we have angered or had a dispute with, 19:32 they have moved on. 19:34 And we're still living in our steam. 19:35 Well, my mother used to say when a man angers you, 19:39 he conquers you. 19:40 Wow. 19:41 And it's true 'cause he does conquer you. 19:44 So it's important to-- And that's true. 19:45 Somebody controls you by the way 19:48 they're able to offset you, 19:50 another phrase we often use is 19:52 "He pressed my buttons." 19:54 I heard a psychologist say to me, 19:55 "No, they are your buttons." 19:57 That's right. You let them. 19:58 Huh? You let them. 20:00 Right. You let them. 20:01 Only you can press your buttons, you know. 20:03 We can't control how you-- 20:05 That's self controlled. 20:06 Say it again. Self controlled. 20:08 Only you can-- 20:09 So let's read this text and find out 20:11 why it's important to be honest about our anger. 20:12 To be honest not only with ourselves, 20:14 but be honest with God. 20:16 Who would like to read that for us? 20:17 "And there is no creature hidden from his sight, 20:20 but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him 20:24 to whom we must give account." 20:26 Okay, so, do we have to tell God we're angry? 20:30 No. 20:32 So why is it important to admit? 20:35 So He can help us. 20:36 Right. Okay. 20:37 So He can help. 20:39 Like an alcohol, you have to admit 20:40 you're an alcohol to get help, right? 20:43 Got to admit that you're, got to admit-- 20:45 And the other thing it also brings you, 20:47 it allows you to confront. 20:49 What about your feeling? 20:50 If you admit it, 20:51 what does it do to your feelings? 20:54 Think about that for a moment. 20:56 If you admit it, 20:57 what does that do to your feelings? 20:59 You change your feelings. 21:00 Right. 21:02 Say it again. You change. 21:03 You start saying, "Okay, you know, 21:05 I need to admit, or I am angry, 21:07 I feel it, I'm owning my feelings." 21:10 Actually you started thinking what you've done 21:12 'cause when you're angry, 21:14 a lot of times, you don't think. 21:16 You stop thinking and you just act. 21:17 Yeah. 21:18 When you take rest and accept that you were wrong, 21:22 you start thinking "Oh, I did something wrong. 21:25 And it actually was my fault whatever you did." 21:29 So that's good because you start thinking 21:31 and you realize that you did something wrong. 21:34 Right. 21:35 And so... 21:36 the fact that the matter is based on this scripture, 21:38 he knows our hearts. Amen. 21:40 There is nothing hidden from God. 21:42 He knows where we are. 21:44 And so if we would admit where we are, 21:47 then we would say "It's kind of like saying, 21:49 "God, I am right here. Could you help me? 21:51 He knows our desire. 21:52 I was waiting, I was knocking. 21:54 Glad you opened the door. 21:56 But being angry is not nothing wrong, I mean, 21:59 we have to express our feelings and our Emotions, 22:03 so being angry is not a bad thing. 22:06 Okay. 22:07 But the Bible does say that 22:08 we shouldn't sin when we anger. 22:10 We shouldn't let it control us. 22:12 Okay. Let's go to that text. 22:14 Let's look at that. 22:15 I think it's Ephesians 4. 22:18 Look at that verse 26 and 27. 22:20 We have that one. 22:22 Xenia may be-- 22:23 Did you read the last one? 22:24 Yes. Okay. 22:26 Someone else read Ephesians 4: 26 and 27. 22:27 Okay. 22:28 I can read it. 22:30 Okay, sure. 22:31 Okay it says, "Be angry and do not sin. 22:35 Do not let the sun get down on your wrath, 22:37 nor give place to the devil." 22:40 Be angry and what? 22:42 Sin not. Sin not. 22:44 And do not let the sun go down on your wrath 22:48 nor give place to the devil. 22:50 Oh, well, how could you be angry and not sin? 22:52 Let's talk about that. 22:54 I was talking about while you were gone to Angie 22:56 and we were talking about being angry at God 22:58 and actually half flat out in anger, 23:01 you know, yelling at him. 23:02 And I remember 23:04 a couple of occasions about that. 23:06 Both of the times happened 23:07 when I was colporteuring interestingly enough. 23:10 The first time when I really was, 23:12 I was going door to door and it's just, 23:15 nobody was answering the door and all of a sudden 23:17 this lady just slammed the door on me. 23:20 And it really got me started, and I started 23:22 yelling and saying, you know, why is it? 23:24 I'm trying to work, 23:25 I did meet my angels in the morning. 23:27 Why is that my day is going so horribly today? 23:30 And they say, you know what, 23:32 I don't think it was fair what you did to Adam and Eve. 23:34 At least we know what our sins was 23:37 but they didn't know what they were going into. 23:39 So a moment, not even a second later, 23:41 he comes with and then says, what's your excuse? 23:44 You've got 6,000 years worth of sin, 23:47 you know what sin is like. 23:48 Why is it that 23:49 you are not giving your heart totally to me 23:52 and a lot of the times, when you're angry at God, 23:55 God will come right back at you and put you in your place 23:58 but lot of times he gives you a silent treatment. 24:01 And I'm going to tell you, 24:02 I've read when God gave Israel a silent treatment 24:05 and I know how that feels like. 24:07 I know when it's time when God-- 24:09 you're praying 24:12 and you're imploring to him please, 24:15 you don't feel His presence, you know He is there 24:17 but it's you that have something in your heart 24:20 that's not allowing Him to do so. 24:22 But a lot of the times, 24:23 being angry at God could be therapeutical, 24:26 because He will come back and will let you know 24:30 where your anger truly is 24:33 and sometimes you may not know it. 24:35 Because sometimes we say to people, 24:37 I'm angry, help me, 24:39 and they'll say, 24:40 there's a text in Ecclesiastes, it says, 24:43 "Faithful are the wounds of a friend; 24:45 but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful." 24:48 And then we might say, "Ah, you don't have a problem, 24:50 I'm not getting angry all the time. 24:51 But a friend might say, "You know, Louis, man 24:56 you've got to deal with your anger man, 24:57 you're like, you're blowing up at everybody at work. 24:59 At church people are afraid to say hi to you, 25:01 you sit down on the chair like, 25:03 when you sit down, you're like... 25:05 your facial expression. 25:06 I mean it becomes 25:08 a whole atmosphere, doesn't it? 25:09 Well, you can talk about that 25:11 because this happened to someone 25:13 in one of our churches, one of our elders. 25:15 He was yelling at all the women in the church. 25:19 Wasn't he? Oh man, we had a-- 25:21 He was angry at all the women in the church. 25:23 He'd snap at them, he was an elder. 25:27 I want to disqualify this, 25:29 not this church that we're at. 25:30 No, many years ago. 25:31 This was a number of churches before. 25:35 And the issue was, the issue, whatever the issue was, 25:39 it didn't warrant him to be snapping at everybody. 25:43 What do you want? What's your problem? 25:44 No, later, forget it. 25:47 And it got to the point where it became chronic 25:49 and we had to take him out of leadership for a year. 25:51 And it brought us to tears but to this day, 25:55 we are very, very good friends. 25:56 And you put him back in office. 25:57 And we put him back in office 25:59 after working with him for a year 26:00 and this man was old enough to be my father 26:03 and he said, "How could you do this to me? 26:05 Who's going to do this and who's going to do that? 26:06 And I said, brother, we can teach, 26:08 train someone to do that, 26:10 but your spirit is going to destroy this church. 26:13 People don't even want to approach you 26:15 and you are an example, 26:16 you are in one of the highest offices. 26:18 You cannot represent Christ in that anger. 26:20 And so, yeah, it does, it really-- 26:23 To being angry should not push you. 26:25 But now there's a part of this text 26:27 that I want to just look at again. 26:28 When it says do not let the sun go down on your wrath, 26:31 what do you think that means? 26:33 Before you go to bed? Yes. 26:34 Before you need to make things right, 26:37 because it's okay, you know, you could be angry 26:39 at whatever really bad thing happened to you, 26:42 I mean, that's what emotions are for 26:44 but you need to let it go, otherwise it'll control you. 26:47 Yeah. And so you-- 26:49 If you offended somebody when you were upset or angry, 26:54 you need to be able to make it right. 26:56 That's right. 26:58 And the other thing is, most of the times we think are, 27:00 we are strong enough to deal with 27:02 these situations by ourselves 27:04 and don't let the Lord work in us. 27:07 So if we let the Lord work through us, 27:10 and He take over the situations, 27:11 He takes control of the situation 27:13 that's going to change completely. 27:15 He's going to make a solution for us 27:18 because we need to know that 27:20 we are not strong enough that we need help. 27:23 I'm sorry. 27:24 That the key is to let the God do for us 27:28 what we cannot do for ourselves. 27:31 Yes. 27:32 So sometimes we need to be humble and just to listen. 27:35 And sometimes or 27:37 maybe just don't say any word. 27:40 But we need to communicate it and acknowledge it 27:42 and that's one of the things that you were talking about. 27:44 A lot of times what it's trying to tell you is 27:48 you need to acknowledge what you're doing. 27:50 You need to acknowledge where you are at, 27:52 you know, because if we go to sleep, 27:55 then that's just going to hover and hover and continue 27:58 and it's going to get to the point where, you know, 28:00 you were talking about the elder. 28:01 They have no idea that 28:03 they were causing an issue in the church 28:07 because that was a normal way of acting for them. 28:13 Unless you understand it and you correct it, 28:17 you're going to continue 28:18 and that will become a natural habit for you. 28:21 Not only that, 28:22 it's something that a lot of individuals 28:23 like you mentioned later. 28:25 You might be angry at somebody. 28:27 You guys had your thing, 28:28 therefore God knows all about it. 28:30 They were already resting, 28:31 they were already having their time 28:33 and here you are, 28:34 you're not going to be able to sleep properly, 28:35 you're not going to be able Why? 28:37 Only because you are not strong enough 28:40 to be able to pick up a phone and then say, 28:42 "You know what brother, you know what sister, 28:44 I truly did not behave properly." 28:46 You know, and why is it so difficult for us 28:49 a lot of the times to say I'm sorry. 28:52 You know, it's one of the most-- 28:53 And lot of the times even if we are the ones that were, 28:57 you know, that somebody needs to apologize to us, 29:00 a lot of times if you started, 29:01 if you really understand this, 29:03 it's not just talking about you as yourself, 29:06 it's as individuals, as a family. 29:08 Don't let anybody go angry. 29:10 Go and find out, 29:12 don't let a friend go to bed, you know, angry. 29:15 Call him and say you know what, 29:17 I know that I got hurt with what you said 29:20 but that was my, you know... 29:22 Response to it. 29:24 Right, my response to it and I want to let you know 29:26 that I want to continue your friendship. 29:28 A lot of the times individuals are like, wait, wait a minute, 29:31 I didn't even know I hurt your feelings. 29:33 Oh, that's a very good point because see, 29:35 sometimes people are angry 29:36 and other people don't even know it. 29:39 How many have you heard this situation before. 29:42 Someone's in church, they see you 29:44 but you don't see them and you walk past them 29:46 and on Tuesday they say, "Are you okay?" I'm fine. 29:52 Why you're so and so angry? 29:53 Oh, you know, I heard that 29:55 you walked right past them in church. 29:57 I didn't even see them. 29:59 And they say, "How could you not have seen them? 30:01 "I was right in front of you." 30:02 "I was right in front of you." 30:04 And they're trying to legitimize... 30:05 Their anger. Their anger. 30:06 When you say, "Sister, believe me. 30:09 I would, I didn't even see you." 30:11 Instead of them saying, "Okay, my brother, I forgive you." 30:14 They say, "You are lying. You did see me. 30:17 How could you miss me? I had on purple." 30:21 "You know, well, I had on white, yellow dress. 30:22 How could you miss me?" 30:24 Because sometimes our minds are locked and we don't see them. 30:27 So we try to give them a way out. 30:28 There are some people, 30:30 and you know, I think you asked the question I want to answer. 30:32 I got to put my counselor side down sometimes 30:34 'cause I could talk a lot. 30:36 One of the reasons why it's hard sometimes for us 30:39 to admit we're angry because is it's about pride. 30:41 We don't want to admit we are wrong. 30:43 Yeah. 30:45 So that can lead to that 30:47 but you made a point a moment ago that we should... 30:49 I think the next scripture, look at this one in Genesis, 30:52 because a lot of times people are angry 30:54 but they don't even know why. 30:55 Why am I and after a while, 30:57 you know, if you don't like a stain on a carpet, 30:59 if you don't soak it up when it first happens, 31:02 it sits there, it sits there, it sits there for years 31:04 and you say, "I remember that in 1911, I mean 2011, 19. 31:10 Five years..." 31:14 And you remember when it's spilled 31:15 but you say, why didn't you say, I was busy. 31:18 Now it won't come out. 31:19 And that's how anger sometimes is. 31:21 It sits there and seeds itself 31:24 if you don't take care of it right away. 31:25 Who'd like to read that Genesis 4:6? 31:27 Look at that one. 31:28 "So the Lord said onto Cain, 'Why are you angry, 31:32 and why have your countenance fallen?" 31:35 Your countenance. Mm-hmm. 31:37 Why you look that way? 31:40 What's the angry look people? 31:42 How could you tell when people are angry? 31:43 And the Bible is just saying... 31:45 Countenance. 31:46 It's the countenance has fallen. 31:47 Okay, everybody. 31:49 I want to see everybody get angry really instantly. 31:52 It's hard to get angry when you're front of the camera. 31:54 Yeah, it is. It actually is. 31:55 But when you do get... Huh? 31:57 And when you ask for it, 31:59 and sometimes I've seen some old people 32:01 and there are some old people that you see, 32:03 "Oh, that's a sweet little, you know, grandpa or grandma." 32:06 But you see some other people and oh, they scare you 32:10 'cause they have, you know, 32:11 their face is like all the time. 32:14 And you can see, okay, maybe that person 32:16 has some problems controlling himself or his anger. 32:20 That's true. 32:22 And the other thing is, when the Lord looked at Cain, 32:26 because obviously Cain killed Abel. 32:28 Abel. 32:29 The Lord knew what he had done. 32:35 And his anger is what led him. 32:38 So look at the journey of anger. 32:41 I think would put a... 32:43 if when the anger begins, 32:45 it's not dealt with look what it can lead to. 32:47 Right. 32:49 It's really dangerous 32:50 'cause first, it's in your thoughts. 32:53 Your thoughts becomes acts. 32:56 Your acts becomes your daily life. 32:59 So it's really dangerous. 33:00 If you do not control yourself with your acts, 33:02 with your thoughts, 33:04 you can become really, really dangerous 33:06 and powerful for evil, so... 33:09 And that's why sometimes 33:11 God actually talks to you in your prayer. 33:13 A lot of times when you're, 33:15 you know, sitting there in your night prayer, 33:16 God puts a name in your heart 33:18 or reminds you of something that happened during the day 33:21 and it's very important to be able to, 33:25 you know, even get up if it's late, 33:26 call that individual because that God is leading you to say, 33:30 there's something happening in their life 33:32 that they need to know that you would forgive them 33:35 or that everything is okay. 33:37 And they are like... 33:38 Because all that's needed to do was communication. 33:41 All Cain needed to do is talk to God or talk to Abel 33:46 and everything would have been resolved 33:48 and it didn't have to escalate to the word death came to. 33:51 And it's the same in our lives. 33:53 A lot of the times, if we verbalize, 33:55 'cause we each take things differently. 33:58 We each take a look differently. 34:00 We each take, you know, a word differently. 34:03 And it doesn't mean that I'm trying to, 34:07 you know, anger you on purpose, 34:09 it's just that, that maybe my way of doing it. 34:12 You know, and a lot of people, if they take it the wrong way, 34:14 but we need to keep that in mind to that God will come 34:18 and tell us, "Hey, why are you so sad? 34:20 Why are you so... 34:21 You know, what's going on with you? 34:22 Come talk to me." 34:24 Yes. Yes. 34:25 You have a quote, hon. 34:26 I have a fabulous quote. 34:28 This is from, what's the page. Adventist Home. 34:31 Adventist Home, page 69 called courtesy and kindness. 34:35 It says, "Those who profess to be followers of Christ 34:38 and are at the same time rough, unkind, uncourteous in words 34:46 and deportment have not learned of Jesus." 34:50 Thing is that, with anger, you need to able to, 34:56 like any other emotion, 34:58 you know, you need to express it. 35:01 But you need to control it. 35:03 Because that's what happened to Cain. 35:06 You know, he had the right to be upset. 35:08 Okay, how come he and I didn't, you know? 35:12 But he didn't have to kill him. 35:14 No. 35:15 You know, they could have discussed that. 35:17 They could have fought, they could have done whatever else. 35:19 But he didn't have to kill him. 35:20 No, he didn't. 35:21 He let the anger control him and created a sin, 35:25 and that's why the Bible says, "Don't let it lead to sin." 35:29 Because it doesn't have to be that you kill somebody 35:32 but it could be something else that will lead you to sin. 35:35 And also, you have to let it, you have to talk it out. 35:38 You have to get it out like any feeling. 35:41 You have to talk about it to get rid of it and thus... 35:45 And he also knew... 35:46 He got angry because he also knew he was wrong. 35:49 He disobeyed a direct order from God. 35:52 So that made him... 35:55 I guess that made him a little bit angry 35:57 'cause that happened to me when my mom told me to do something 36:00 and I disobey and something wrong happen to me, 36:03 I get angry 'cause I know I did it wrong 36:06 because I disobey 36:08 and that's why it makes me feel angry, so... 36:11 I think that's why Cain was angry too. 36:14 He knew he did something wrong. 36:16 He disobeyed an order. 36:18 That makes him... Yeah. 36:20 Many people, you know, they get upset 36:22 and they rush it over house 36:23 and get in the car and drive away. 36:25 But they are so angry, 36:27 they could kill somebody on the road. 36:29 They can run over somebody. 36:30 They could do a lot of things, you know, 36:32 because you know, that's the first thing 36:34 they do they rush out or they... 36:37 Or they throw something or, you know, so many reactions. 36:41 So many reactions to the anger 36:44 that could lead you to harm somebody 36:46 and I think Cain was not really upset at evil, 36:50 I think he was upset at God, 36:52 because He didn't accept his, his... 36:56 His emotion. His offering. 36:59 That's right, his offering. 37:00 So when he didn't feel accepted by God, he took it off on him. 37:05 And sometimes we do the same thing. 37:07 We might be upset about what happened at work 37:09 and we take it off on our family. 37:11 Or honey, for instance, you are angry for many years. 37:16 You didn't know your mother or your father. 37:18 When I was a young man, yeah. 37:20 We met at 16 and I was an angry young man. 37:23 Very angry. 37:24 It wouldn't be any big deal for me to throw things 37:26 and punch my hand through a door 37:28 and you know, break things and slam the door 37:31 because it was an anger of, 37:33 you know, why would my parents do this to me, 37:35 why they abandoned me. 37:36 Yeah, and that was an issue. 37:38 And it was, but it was seeded somewhere. 37:41 Bring that thought 37:42 and then I'm gonna go to another scripture here. 37:43 Pastor, there is a point that you talked there, Miss Angie, 37:46 about that when you are angry all the time, 37:49 you don't represent God or you are not like God. 37:52 And I think that's something 37:53 that's so difficult for us Christians, 37:56 for us Adventist, is that a lot of times we are so compressed. 37:59 We are taught that we need to be nice 38:02 or you never talk back to God. 38:04 You never do all these things. 38:05 So we suppress a lot of our anger, a lot of our issues 38:09 because we don't have that avenue to be able to come 38:11 and to just let it out. 38:13 A lot of the times, that's what God is asking us. 38:15 "Son, come to me." 38:17 He has no problem with you coming and having to, 38:20 you know, yelling match with Him. 38:22 Yes, you need to come to God in reverence. 38:24 I understand that but there is times 38:25 in which God knows that you need to let out of some of the, 38:31 some of the feeling that the enemy puts in your heart 38:37 and it's very essential that individuals understand that 38:39 that God will always accept you no matter what. 38:42 And if it's time that you need to let him go. 38:45 I remember one time I was really upset. 38:47 I remember now. 38:48 And you know, I got up in the morning 38:51 and I must have done something wrong with my fish tank, 38:53 I must have not cleaned the chlorine properly. 38:56 And all of my fish died. 38:57 And I was so upset. 38:59 I'm, you know, I love my fish. 39:01 I was so upset and I said, "Oh, you are angry at me at what? 39:04 You're gonna take my grandmother next." 39:06 You know, I was me talking to God 39:09 and in anger really, I was what? 39:11 17. I was just a kid, you know. 39:14 But at that time, I had to come back and cool down 39:17 and He says, "Okay, you know what? 39:19 It's something that you did wrong, 39:20 it's something that you, you know. 39:22 Don't come blaming Me. 39:24 I know I'm not going to..." 39:26 Because the enemy loves to put those thoughts in your mind 39:30 that God is going to punish you with something greater 39:33 for something that you did 39:34 and that's not the God that we serve. 39:36 Let's look at... Did you find a point. 39:38 Oh, no. Not yet. 39:40 Let's look at Proverbs 16:32. 39:44 We talked about emotions controlling us. 39:46 Who would like to read that one for us? 39:47 Proverbs 16:32? Okay. 39:49 It says, "He who is slow to anger 39:52 is better than the mighty; 39:54 and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city." 39:58 Wow. That's good. 40:00 He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty. 40:05 And if you rule your spirit, 40:07 you are better than the one who can capture a city. 40:09 Wow. 40:10 It's funny because a lot of people look at me like you do, 40:13 I'm the bodyguard, I'm this big old 6'3", 40:16 300 pound monster. 40:18 And they try... 40:19 You are not that way by the way. 40:21 They tried... No, they tried the hardest. 40:22 They tried to get me upset and I just, I just don't. 40:26 You know, I remember when I was in the academy, 40:28 two or three kids picked me up 40:30 from my room around three in the morning 40:32 and they were, you know, they tied me down 40:35 and they were going to take about to me 40:37 and I was just okay, whatever. 40:39 "Come on, get angry, get yelling. 40:42 We can't hit somebody like that!" 40:43 And I said, "Well, no, 40:45 if that's what you have to do, go ahead. 40:46 He says, "Oh, go back to bed. 40:47 We're not... It's not even fun anymore." 40:49 You know, and that's what 40:51 the individuals enjoy doing that to you. 40:54 And sometimes it's difficult for them to understand why, 40:58 especially when they are not Christian. 40:59 It's hard to understand 41:00 why do you always a smile in your face. 41:02 You just had somebody that did this to you 41:04 and yet you are still smiling. 41:06 And that gives you a chance to build it, I serve God. 41:09 Whatever happens is His. 41:11 And you are a gentle giant. 41:15 So of course, you are watching the program, 41:16 Luis can be your bodyguard 41:17 but nobody will be afraid of him. 41:20 He's going to smile to him. 41:23 Yes, sister Xenia, so you had a point? 41:25 Yes. Okay, go ahead. 41:27 It's gone. Think about it again. 41:32 But let's look at another one 41:33 because these scriptures are really important. 41:34 We are talking about not letting 41:36 your emotions control you. 41:38 Ecclesiastes 7:9. 41:42 You want to read that one for us, hon. 41:43 Ecclesiastes 7:9. 41:45 "Do not hasten in your spirit to be angry, 41:49 for anger rests in the bosom of fools." 41:54 Wow. Oh, that's heavy. 41:59 No explanation necessary. 42:02 Really, it says, oh, it's like a furnace. 42:06 That and here's why it's important, 42:09 one of the reasons why it's important 42:10 to not allow your emotions to control you 42:13 because let's talk about innocent victims, right? 42:18 Innocent victims. 42:19 Somebody can walk past your office 42:21 and you could ask him a basic question. 42:23 And all of a sudden, we all notice that throughout the... 42:26 You know, there are so many people that are upset 42:28 and they say, "Are you okay, Daniela?" 42:31 No, I just asked so and so basic question. 42:34 They threw the papers at me. 42:37 Well, Xenia, why you are upset? 42:39 And then all of a sudden we discover, 42:40 we are mentioning the same person's name 42:42 over and over and over again. 42:43 We're saying, did they even know that? 42:45 I don't even think they know, they were just oblivious. 42:47 They just threw the papers at me 42:48 when I asked them question. 42:50 They don't control their spirit. 42:53 That's why it says, "He who rules, 42:58 he who is slow to anger, 42:59 he who rules his spirit 43:01 is better than one who takes a city. 43:02 And so, when this feeling starts to come up, 43:06 one of the things we have to do, what do you think... 43:09 Let me put the question to you. 43:10 What do you think is the best thing to do when you sense 43:14 that the frustration is now turning to anger? 43:19 Pray. 43:20 Pray, always pray. Always. 43:22 Pray, always pray. Take a walk. 43:24 They're all counting to 10. 43:26 Isn't that what they always tell you. 43:28 Take a walk. Count to 10. 43:30 In anger management they say, one, two, three... 43:34 They will count to 10. 43:36 How you know about anger management. 43:37 I deal with counseling. 43:39 I know. 43:40 How to deal with conflict resolution. 43:42 But a lot of times we become angry. 43:47 Let's say somebody's talking to you 43:48 and they might say a word 43:51 and that just triggers this anger in you. 43:54 You don't hear anything after that. 43:56 Things are blur. 43:57 You don't hear anything afterward. 43:59 And you think they said this bad thing to you 44:02 because they used that one word of that phrase 44:04 or whatever it was. 44:06 A trigger. 44:07 Yeah, it was a trigger. 44:08 And the person is oblivious to it. 44:11 They didn't mean anything by it. 44:13 But because you thought that, you let that control you. 44:17 And that's where you have to be careful. 44:19 You know, it's like, okay, 44:21 well, so you get the whole message, 44:24 you get the whole gist of what they are saying 44:27 because it could be dangerous. 44:29 Well, let's look at it. 44:31 Anger turns to bitterness, bitterness turns to resentment. 44:37 Let's look at some of the remedies. 44:39 Let's go to the fourth part in Ephesians 4:32, 44:43 Daniela, if you could read that for us, Ephesians 4:32. 44:46 Okay, Ephesians 4:32. 44:49 Read from right here. Okay. 44:50 Yeah, right there. 44:52 And it says, "And be kind to one another..." 44:55 It says, "Tenderhearted, forgiving one another, 44:59 even as God in Christ forgave you." 45:02 How many times have we prayed for forgiveness? 45:04 Oh, many. 45:07 Can we admit daily? No. 45:09 Weekly? Yeah. 45:11 Hourly sometimes. 45:13 Sometimes we have to. 45:14 Sometimes, you know, there's days that the enemies 45:17 get you from the beginning to the end. 45:19 I remember pattern of anger through the anger 45:25 or disappointment or the solution 45:27 that would happen to me on a weekly basis. 45:30 And I wonder. I mean, Father, why? 45:33 I mean, to the point where I had to... 45:35 I remember I was going to my car. 45:36 I'd have to just tune Christian music 45:38 to the loudest and just saying people must have thought 45:41 I was crazy 'cause I was singing 45:42 to the loudest of my voice. 45:44 You know, Hosanna Hosanna, glory be the God, you know. 45:48 And then I noticed that it was a pattern that every time 45:51 I had to preach, that whole week the enemy 45:54 was tugging at me, and that whole week 45:56 he was trying to get me to lose my control, to be able to... 46:00 And from that moment on, I said, 46:02 "Okay, I got you. Now I understand." 46:05 You know, 'cause that's what... 46:06 And a lot of times you don't understand 46:07 what are the triggers that are happening in your lives 46:10 and you continue with patterns. 46:12 There's always a pattern. 46:13 Learn the patterns and then, 46:15 then you'll be able to give a solution, 46:17 but until you know that pattern, 46:19 what solution are you going to throw at it? 46:21 A lot of times what happens with spouses, 46:23 you get to the point where you get a spouse upset. 46:27 Spouses? We get upset with our spouses? 46:30 Oh, no. 46:32 You know, you think the natural reactions 46:34 especially if you are a man 46:35 or you want to go and give them a hug, 46:36 they tell you, "Leave me alone." 46:38 You know, "Just walk away. I've got this." 46:42 You know, and a lot of times, we don't want to do that. 46:44 A lot of times, we want to be... 46:45 And what do we do? We're force the issue. 46:47 Make it worse. We make it worse. 46:49 We make it worse instead of just sitting back. 46:52 And it's the same thing which is, 46:53 instead of getting to our knees, 46:55 I'm praying to God, the one that can take care of us, 46:58 we want to be that instigator, continue to follow through 47:02 because we feel we have the answer. 47:04 And God's answer is no, "Son, you don't. 47:06 Come to me and I'll give you the answer." 47:08 So we say, "Forgive me already. I said I'm sorry. 47:12 What do you want me to do?" 47:13 Really, I mean, you made a point there. 47:15 Sometimes you have to give space 47:17 because, have you ever had that experience 47:21 where you said to somebody, "Just give me time"? 47:25 Yeah. 47:26 Can you remember any of those instances? 47:28 When I was in the college few years ago, 47:31 we used to be four of us in one room for five years. 47:35 And we get to know each other really, really good. 47:39 But sometimes we will fight really, really, you know. 47:43 We had these problems, really strong problems. 47:46 And sometimes it was hard because you will tell them, 47:49 "Give me my space." 47:50 But you are living with them. They're just two feet away. 47:53 Yeah. So, yeah. 47:55 So it was kind of hard 47:56 but the best thing we find to do was pray. 48:00 So we would go together 48:02 and let's get on our knees and pray. 48:04 And pray the Lord to help us 48:06 and to forget this problem or find a solution together. 48:10 So as friends, that was the best solution for us 48:14 and you get to know those people really good 48:17 'cause you spend most of your time with them. 48:20 Good. 48:21 I believe that if you let God know how do you feel, 48:25 God will help you to avoid or to think 48:28 before you say a word or to think before act, 48:31 so that will help you to, to stay calm 48:35 and you won't regret so much also what you may say. 48:40 Think before you speak. Think before you speak. 48:42 It's so important. 48:43 Honey, have we ever had to forgive each other? 48:44 Of course. 48:47 We've been married about for almost 33 years. 48:49 Wow. Yeah. 48:51 What does forgiving do? 48:53 Now, I share this story sometimes in a sermon 48:55 but you know, I remember one incident. 48:58 This only happened, I think I can't remember happening 49:00 more than once but there was one time 49:02 when we both were angry at the same time 49:06 and we just refused to give in. 49:10 Give in, both of us. 49:12 It's like, "I always give in but not this time." 49:16 And that was the time 49:17 when we were going to bed angry. 49:19 Yes. Remember the Bible says... 49:20 "Don't let the sun go down on your..." 49:22 Don't go down on your wrath. In other words don't... 49:23 It was down on our wrath. It was dark. 49:26 And you sleep at the edge of the bed. 49:29 This edge, and you are on that edge. 49:31 And it was the Lord about, 49:34 about 2 or 3 o'clock in the morning, 49:35 the Lord said, "John." 49:39 He did it, knocked on my forehead. 49:40 "John." And I..." 49:43 Come on now. You are a pastor. 49:49 You are the priest of this house. 49:52 Do something." 49:54 And I said, "Angie, are you awake?" 49:57 What did you say? Yes. 49:59 Did I say yes or did I say no? No, you said yes. 50:02 I did. Okay, I remember. I said, "I'm sorry." 50:05 What did you say? I'm sorry too. 50:09 You know and... 50:10 And we roll back together close to each other. 50:13 Because I don't know if you are married or not, 50:14 but when you are upset and you don't fix that, 50:16 the bed seems, you know, 50:18 you want to find the very edges. 50:21 Bed could seem like you are miles away 50:24 from each other but this... 50:25 I want to cover a couple of other things 50:27 because we talked about forgiving one another, 50:29 being kind and tenderhearted to one another. 50:32 But also, sometimes you could prevent 50:38 a person from getting angry 50:40 by just the way you answer them. 50:42 Proverbs 15:1. 50:44 Just by the way you answer them. 50:45 Who would like to read that for us? 50:47 "A soft answer turns away wrath, 50:50 but a harsh word stirs up anger." 50:53 Wow. 50:54 I could share something. Go ahead, honey. 50:56 With you, I used to work at a company. 50:59 This is not about me but with me. 51:01 Yeah, I said with you. 51:02 About somebody I used to work with years ago in California 51:06 and this lady, she did not like me at all. 51:10 So anyway, the supervisor came into the office. 51:15 And it was a single office. 51:16 You remember, I worked by myself 51:17 very much in that office. 51:19 And the sales rep came in there and she... 51:21 and the supervisor came in from Sacramento and she says, 51:25 and the sales rep that did not like me, she blew up. 51:30 "Angela, this and Angela." I'm like, she's lying. 51:33 I didn't say anything. 51:35 And she just went off on me and telling the supervisor like 51:40 she's just, this lady is lying on me. 51:44 And I didn't say anything. 51:46 And after the lady, the sales rep, she left, 51:52 after she calmed down a little bit, she left. 51:55 And the supervisor says to me, 51:57 "Angela, I'm so glad you didn't blow up. 52:01 I'm so glad you didn't answer her back." 52:05 And would you believe I got a raise? 52:08 I got a raise from that. One way to get raise. 52:10 No, really. I got a raise. 52:11 She said she loved the way I controlled myself. 52:14 And glory goes to God. 52:15 That wasn't me, it really wasn't, that was God. 52:18 And so I just thank the Lord that truly 52:21 when man angers you, he conquers you. 52:23 And I could have got angry with that woman 52:26 and blew up right back at her. 52:28 But I said no. 52:29 And my mom is that way, she is a very calm person, 52:32 always been a calm person. 52:34 And so I have inherited and cultivated tendencies, 52:38 that one I believe I got from my mother, 52:40 'cause she's always been a peaceful person. 52:43 And that fits right into the scripture. 52:44 Look at the point it says, Psalm 37:7 and 8, it says, 52:49 "Rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him. 52:52 Do not fret because of him who prospers in his way, 52:56 because the man who brings 52:57 wicked schemes to pass sees from anger..." 53:01 What else? Foresake wrath... 53:03 And what else? 53:04 "Do not fret. It only causes harm." 53:08 Wow. Wow. 53:09 So that, if we don't let anger turn to bitterness, 53:13 then it doesn't turn to resentment. 53:15 And, and it's unfortunate but there are some people 53:17 that they would be angry with somebody. 53:20 I know of a young lady. 53:21 Matter of fact, this happened, instance that young lady, 53:24 the 18-year-old that died. 53:25 She had a friend 53:27 who she had asked her friend for forgiveness. 53:29 And the friend just chose not to. 53:32 "I don't know, I'm not going to forgive you." 53:34 And the next day this young lady 53:35 who had asked for forgiveness lost her life in car accident. 53:39 Now, that young friend lives a life of resentment. 53:44 "How could I have allowed myself 53:46 to not forgive my friend? 53:49 How could I allow her record to close 53:51 on such a very difficult thing?" 53:54 And there are some people that are watching the program, 53:56 I think what we need to do, 53:57 we have about 3 minutes and 36 seconds left. 53:59 I think what we need to do is, we need to pray. 54:02 We need to pray because there are those... 54:05 Luis, read the very last scripture for us. 54:08 Proverbs 17:22. 54:09 We are going to pray in this direction. 54:11 The very last scripture, Proverbs 17:22. 54:14 "A merry heart does good like medicine, 54:18 but a broken spirit dries the bones." 54:21 Wow. 54:22 So if we could nurture, 54:24 if we can cultivate a merry heart. 54:26 If we could say, "Lord, give me the right spirit." 54:29 Because you know, in churches, in families, 54:31 in places of employment, 54:33 there could be a misunderstanding, 54:35 that becomes an anger, that becomes a resentment, 54:38 that becomes bitterness. 54:40 And you wonder why has it, 54:42 I've been not able to communicate 54:44 with my family members or friends for years. 54:47 And you hear, they are still angry with you. 54:49 And by now, you've forgotten over what? 54:51 So what I'd like us to do is, we want to pray for you 54:55 and we all are going to pray together 54:57 and ask the Lord to give wisdom and direction. 55:01 Your family, you may be watching the program 55:03 and right now, this topic may have found you in a place 55:05 where you might be angry or you know 55:07 of a family member that is angry. 55:10 What you might want to do is take his or her name 55:12 or their names in the case that is more than one, 55:15 and bring them before the Lord. 55:17 And the one thing you want to do 55:18 before you ask the Lord to change them, 55:20 it's most important for the Lord to change who? 55:22 To change us. 55:25 Because, because love begets love, 55:28 kindness begets kindness. 55:30 So we want to pray. We have about two minutes. 55:32 We want to pray and particularly tonight, 55:34 we want to pray about the heart that can be changed from anger, 55:39 free from bitterness and rescued from resentment. 55:43 Let just bow our heads together. 55:46 Our loving Father in Heaven, 55:48 Lord, we've talked about and discussed 55:50 in our family circle what may be affecting 55:52 family circles around the world. 55:54 It could be in churches, where the worship service 55:57 is interrupted because people don't communicate. 56:00 They allow their natural spirit to overcome 56:03 their spiritual calling. 56:05 It could be between pastor and leadership. 56:08 It could be between leadership and other leaders 56:11 or could be between mothers and children or siblings 56:14 that are just at each other's throat for whatever reason. 56:17 But Lord, you said that You can deliver us 56:20 if we just simply ask you to deliver us from our emotions. 56:24 You didn't say not to get angry 56:25 but You said, "Don't allow it to turn to sin." 56:28 And so Lord, this evening as we, as we invite 56:31 the Sabbath hours to come in, help them to come in, 56:34 in an atmosphere of peace and unity and family strength. 56:40 And so, Lord, forgive us if we have caused it. 56:43 Forgive us if we have held on to it. 56:45 But bring to us, we pray right now, 56:47 this deliverance, in Jesus' name 56:49 and for His sake, amen. 56:53 Well, quickly. Wow. 39 seconds, honey. 56:57 Where has our time gone? It's gone. 56:59 When it's good, that's what happens. 57:01 Time flies, right? Wow. 57:02 It's a good worship. Praise the Lord. 57:04 Take the time and study this topic in more detail. 57:07 Open your Bibles, look it up in your concordance. 57:09 Thank you Luis and Xenia. Thank you Daniel and Daniela. 57:13 And this was in English, Latino program. 57:16 Hopefully, you heard both the languages. 57:18 Hopefully. 57:19 But most importantly, we want you to hear 57:21 in the language of love. 57:23 The Lord did not say don't get angry 57:25 but he said, "Don't allow it to turn to sin." 57:27 If that's something you struggle with, 57:28 deliver that emotion to Christ 57:30 and He will bring to you joy and deliverance. 57:33 God bless you until we see you again. |
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