I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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I want to spend my life
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Removing pain
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Lord, let my words
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Heal a heart that hurts
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I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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Hello, friends, and welcome to
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another Friday evening
Sabbath evening Family Worship.
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I am with my lovely wife Angie.
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Good to have you, hon.
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Good to be here.
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It's gonna be a
good one, isn't it?
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And now don't
adjust your television.
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This, if I give this
program another title,
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it will be "Colors."
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And as they've broaden our show,
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we have a wonderful
colorful panel here today.
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My wife has on red, I
had on racy blue earlier
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which was
driving the cameras nuts.
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And so I settled
for fluorescent green.
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So if your camera,
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if you have to put on sunglasses
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to watch this program,
then go get them right now
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because I am not going anywhere.
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So good to have
you here to join us.
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And let me introduce
you to our panel today.
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We are gonna be talking
about the topic entitled
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"How to deal with anger,
bitterness, and resentment?"
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Now families will have
probably stronger connections
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but we know that
on, in this world,
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some of the greatest challenges
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we have are often in our family.
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And Jesus even said,
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"A man's foes will be
those of his own household."
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So in order to
enjoy the Family Worship,
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I think it's important sometimes
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to deal with issues
that divide the family.
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And so we're gonna
try our best tonight
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to tackle the topic of anger.
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Some people are angry with God.
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Some people are
angry with family members.
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Some people are angry
with how life is dealing them
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what they might refer to
as an unfair opportunity.
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We will try by God's word
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and by our discussion
to deal with the topic.
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But before we do anything,
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we're gonna have
a word of prayer.
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Then we are going
to introduce our panel.
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We're gonna sing some songs,
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and then we're
gonna dive into our topic.
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And, Honey, would you like
to begin with prayer for me?
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I sure would.
Let's bow our heads.
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Our kind Father in heaven,
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we praise You and we honor You,
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we glorify You.
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Please bless
this Sabbath evening.
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We thank You for the opportunity
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where we can gather
together as families,
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throughout the world.
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And the family
right here in the studio.
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And we thank You
and praise You for that.
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We pray Father
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that Your Holy Spirit
will come, lead, guide, speak
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through us and use us God,
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'cause there's
many people out there
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that are hurt and
going through a lot of pain.
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We pray that this program
will be a blessing to them.
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And truly, we will say, yes,
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the Lord can deliver anyone.
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And we thank You
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in the worthy and
precious name of Jesus.
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Amen. Amen.
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Wonderful prayer.
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But then I know
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you have a wonderful
connection with the Lord.
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Let's meet our panel tonight.
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And I want to start.
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To my right,
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wherever you may be
sitting in your home,
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it might be the
opposite way to your left,
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but let start with
our, tell our audience.
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Now when they take a broad shot,
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you might think,
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"Is this a Latino
or an English program?"
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Well, they said,
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"It's a Latino program
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that they invited me
to speak English on."
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Yeah.
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I say it's an English program
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that I have invited
them to speak English on.
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But anyhow, good
to have you here.
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Daniel, tell us who you are
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and what do you do at 3ABN?
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Well, I am glad
to be here, Pastor.
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Thanks for inviting me.
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My name is
Daniel, I am from Texas.
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And I work in the programming
department for 3ABN Latino,
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and it's a pleasure to be here.
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I'm learning a lot.
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Daniel Ortiz? Ortiz, yeah.
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A special last name,
your parent might say,
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"Daniel, what?"
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Daniel Ortiz.
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Good to have you
here, Daniel. Thank you.
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And next to you,
tell us your name.
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What do you do here at 3ABN?
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My name is Daniela Estrada.
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And I'm from Mexico.
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And I came here as a volunteer,
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and I have been
in their call center.
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Yes, I'm glad to be here.
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Okay, Daniela?
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Daniela. So Daniel and Daniela.
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Yes.
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And often at church
whenever we're at church
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and I have this next
gentlemen next to me I say,
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"He is my bodyguard."
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And so let's go to my
far left and introduce,
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introduce yourself.
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My name is Luis Capote.
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I have been here
for about a year.
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And I am so grateful to be here,
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to be able to work in
the editing department
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for the Latino programming.
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And it's been a fantastic time,
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and it's so wonderful
that it's finally Sabbath again
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that we can, you know,
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rejoice and be glad in His name.
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Yes, and thank you
for joining us, Luis,
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and to your
right is a lovely lady
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that I would like
her to introduce herself.
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My name is Xenia Capote.
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And I work in the
accounting department.
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Yes.
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And I'm glad to be here also.
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I am pretty new to 3ABN.
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And but I am glad to be here
and be a part of this panel.
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Yes. Yes.
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And so as we begin
our program tonight,
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we are gonna talk
about some wonderful things.
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But there is another guest
that you are about to meet.
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You know, we always have music,
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at least that's our
tradition here at 3ABN.
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And we're excited tonight
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that the person who is
gonna be accompanying us
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is not only a
good friend of 3ABN
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but a part of our 3ABN family
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and what's the
word I could use here...
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It seems like he was
born not in a hospital,
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but in a music theater.
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And his name is Tim Parton.
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Good to have you here, Tim.
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And he is gonna
be playing our hymns
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that we're gonna
be singing tonight.
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And we're gonna
start with one that really,
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I think helps us
deal with the issues
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that we are
confronting in our own lives.
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And this is one called
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"Tis so sweet
to trust in Jesus."
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Let's sing that
song, you get to feel him.
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Song number 524.
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524 if you have your hymnals.
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'Tis so sweet to trust in Jesus
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Just to take Him at His Word
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Just to rest upon His promise
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Just to know,
"This sayeth the Lord"
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Jesus, Jesus, how I trust Him
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How I've proved
Him o'er and o'er
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Jesus, Jesus, precious Jesus!
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O for grace to trust Him more!
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Last stanza.
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I'm so glad I
learned to trust Thee
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Precious Jesus, Savior, Friend
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And I know that
Thour art with me
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Wilt be with me till the end
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Jesus, Jesus, how I trust Him
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How I've proved
Him o'er and o'er.
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Jesus, Jesus, precious Jesus!
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O for grace to trust Him more!
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You know what, I
said panel earlier.
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We're not a panel, we're family.
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Amen. Right.
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Amen.
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And when we have those
theological discussions,
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we are panels but
this is our 3ABN family
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inviting your
family to join our family,
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so that we could have
family worship together.
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What's the next song
we're gonna sing entitled?
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"Trust and obey."
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"Trust and obey."
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I like that
accent "Trust and obey".
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That's Spanish.
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But it's 590 in your hymnals
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if you'd like to
join us to sing that song
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"When we walk with the Lord."
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We're gonna sing the first
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and the fourth
verse of this song.
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When we walk with the
Lord in the light of His Word
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What a glory He
sheds on our way!
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While we do His good will
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He abides with us still
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And with all who
will trust and obey
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Trust and obey, for
there's no other way
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To be happy in Jesus,
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But to trust and obey
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But we never can prove...
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But we never can prove
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The delights of His love
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Until all on the altar we lay
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For the favor He shows
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And the joy He bestows
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Are for them who
will trust and obey
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Trust and obey, for
there's no other way
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To be happy in Jesus
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But to trust and obey
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Now we're
talking about trusting,
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trust and obey.
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But then who all we're trusting,
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and who all we're obeying.
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This next song
talks about the very one,
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more about Jesus.
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We'd believe that the
more we know about Jesus,
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the more we can find
solutions to the issues
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that confront
our spiritual walk.
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And if you don't know Jesus,
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and you're watching
the program tonight,
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we'd like to encourage you that
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He is the answer
whatever the question.
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The more we hear about Jesus,
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the more we find
the possibilities
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to overcome and rejoice.
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Let's sing that
song "More about Jesus,"
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the first and third stanza.
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Page 245 in your hymnals, 245.
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More about Jesus would I know
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More of His grace to others show
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More of His saving fullness see
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More of His love who died for me
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Give me more, more about Jesus
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More, more about Jesus
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More of His saving fullness see
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More of His love who died for me
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More about Jesus in His Word.
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More about Jesus in His Word
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Holding communion with my Lord
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Hearing His voice in every line
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Making each faithful saying mine
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Give me more, more about Jesus
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More, more about Jesus
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More of His saving fullness see
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More of His love
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Who died for me
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Can we say amen?
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Amen.
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Thank you so much, Tim,
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for that wonderful music.
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And as we dive into this topic,
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once again how to deal with
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anger,
bitterness, and resentment.
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After pastoring, Honey,
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for so many years,
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this has been
something in every congregation,
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you know, we talk about
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the similarities we
have in our doctrines.
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But the differences
we have in our emotions.
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And any given day of the week,
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someone's
emotions can be set off.
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They can either let
those emotions die that day,
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or they can carry them
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for days, for weeks, for months,
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and unfortunately
sometimes for years.
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And as Luis said before
we had begun the program,
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sometimes people
are angry with...
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With God.
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And they come to church
and they are angry with God.
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They sing His
songs, they read His book.
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They work for Him, and
they are angry with God.
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So what we want to do tonight,
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Honey, I want to have
you read our first scripture.
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We have a main scripture
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that we're gonna
talk about first.
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We are gonna read together.
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It is in Proverbs 4:23.
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If you have your Bibles,
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we're gonna read from
the New King James Version.
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Whatever
translation you have, it's fine
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but this scripture
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that we're gonna begin
with is a main scripture
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because every emotion we
express is found somewhere.
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And this Bible verse
tells us where those emotions,
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where the joy,
happiness, sadness,
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anger, bitterness, resentment,
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they're all found in
this particular place.
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Honey, lead us
before God's word.
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"Keep your hearts
with all diligence,
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for out of it
spring the issues of life."
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Wow. So what does that say?
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Where are our issues found?
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Oh, in our heart.
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And you know,
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when the Bible
uses the word "Heart,"
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what is it
actually speaking about?
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Mind.
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Our mind? And what else?
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Our character.
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Our character, okay.
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Emotions.
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Say that one. Our emotions.
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Our emotions,
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because you know,
when we get angry,
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sometimes people
take anger to heart.
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Yeah.
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It's like you could
see it on their faces,
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or you can see it in
their body language sometimes.
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As a pastor,
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sometimes I see
people sit in church
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and it could be
a husband and wife
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and they sit like this.
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Yeah, you do, I see that.
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Or sometimes they take pictures
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and they lean like this.
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Lean like here.
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You know, and I'm now thinking,
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"Wow, they need counseling."
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And but then sometimes
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let's talk about this
briefly before we dive in.
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Talk about some of the ways
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that you have seen
anger exhibited before.
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I mean it may even
be in your own life,
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in your own heart.
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Whoever like to begin.
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By not talking to someone.
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Okay, by not talking to someone.
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What else? Willing to hurt.
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You try to hurt that
person, other person.
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I think that's one of the worse
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because you tried
to hurt that person
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even physically
or with your words,
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'cause you're so
angry with that person.
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And in that time,
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you're not letting
gut act through you.
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So if it's not gut, I
think it's something else.
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That's a good one.
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Ortiz is saying
hurting people hurt people.
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I think that's what
you're talking about.
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What are--
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By using offensive words.
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A lot of the times, you know,
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you're going to
relay what you're feeling
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and then you're
going to try to--
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You kind of want
to see other people
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going through the same
struggles as you're doing.
00:16:06.66\00:16:08.60
So you try to use
words that are going to
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generate that
anger on someone else.
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And that's what
you feel sometimes
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is gonna give you that peace
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that you're looking for.
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It's amazing you mentioned that
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sometimes people are
happy that you're angry.
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And they are angry.
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But if they make you
angry, they are happy.
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It's crazy how that works.
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Makes them feel better. Huh?
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Makes them feel
better. Makes them feel better.
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Now you know how I feel.
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Now you know what
I'm going through.
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Yeah. Daniela?
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Actually I found a definition
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that says "Anger
is a strong feeling.
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So sometimes we
cannot even control."
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Wow. So true.
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That's a very good.
It's a strong feeling.
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Sometimes it becomes the
controlling factor in us.
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It takes over, your countenance,
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it just takes over you.
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And it's actually,
it could make you sick.
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Your pressure rises,
you know, all of that.
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It can, it can make you
sick if you continue that anger.
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Well, if you look at
the great controversy
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that we're going, any
of us was going through,
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it's the same thing.
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The enemy is angry.
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They enemy is upset.
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So what has he done?
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He has actually gone
and has joined the church,
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and have actually
have looked at ways
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to deceive the church for what?
00:17:19.77\00:17:21.54
For his own amusement for
to, for him to be able to find.
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Okay, you guys, God angered me.
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Christ angered me at the cross.
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Now I am gonna take, you know,
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I'm gonna take it
on with his pride,
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with the church,
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to be able to show them
that I am still in control.
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Even though they
might be deceived
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that they are
following him with the--
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He has used that to be
able to get individuals
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to follow the God that
they love in a wrong way.
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You know once, one
of the first things
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that a person needs to
do in order to get help...
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They have to admit.
That he has a problem.
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Say it again.
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Admit it. Yeah.
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Admit it.
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Is it hard to
admit that you're angry?
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Oh, yeah, totally.
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I am not angry.
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'Cause we're proud.
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As human beings,
we're really proud.
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I have actually seen
people angry with a smile.
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"I'm really I'm not angry.
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You think I'm
angry, I'm not angry.
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So what you
would like me to do."
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And they said this,
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they're covering
it up and you think,
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"You're really angry."
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And but let's look at this text.
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One of the first
things I think we could go to
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is be honest with
yourself and with God.
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Be honest about your anger.
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In order to say, you
know, when we got to the doctor,
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if we go to the
doctor and he say,
00:18:36.31\00:18:37.65
"Why you're here?"
00:18:37.68\00:18:39.01
"Just want to visit you,
just want to see how you doing,
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just want to give
you some of my money."
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Now, what's the problem?
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And until we agree
that we have a problem.
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At a dentist, we
usually have a what?
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Toothache. Toothache.
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And we go to other
doctors for various reasons.
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But let's look at this text.
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And anyone of you,
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Hebrews 4:13 is
one of the first ones
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we would like to
look at together.
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Hebrews 4:13.
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The reason why it's
important to admit you're angry
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is because... Does God know?
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Oh, yeah.
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I have heard people say
00:19:10.88\00:19:12.28
and sometimes
people have arguments,
00:19:12.31\00:19:14.45
and after the argument is done,
00:19:14.48\00:19:17.19
they go home and they have
an argument with themselves.
00:19:17.22\00:19:19.19
I should have said.
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And what I, if I was
thinking about what I have said,
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and then they're
preparing for the next argument.
00:19:24.86\00:19:27.33
And sometimes people
00:19:27.36\00:19:29.66
that we have angered
or had a dispute with,
00:19:29.70\00:19:32.87
they have moved on.
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And we're still
living in our steam.
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Well, my mother used to
say when a man angers you,
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he conquers you.
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Wow.
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And it's true
'cause he does conquer you.
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So it's important
to-- And that's true.
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Somebody controls you by the way
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they're able to offset you,
00:19:48.52\00:19:50.05
another phrase we often use is
00:19:50.09\00:19:52.62
"He pressed my buttons."
00:19:52.65\00:19:54.06
I heard a
psychologist say to me,
00:19:54.09\00:19:55.42
"No, they are your buttons."
00:19:55.46\00:19:57.46
That's right. You let them.
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Huh? You let them.
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Right. You let them.
00:20:00.23\00:20:01.56
Only you can press
your buttons, you know.
00:20:01.60\00:20:03.93
We can't control how you--
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That's self controlled.
00:20:05.33\00:20:06.67
Say it again. Self controlled.
00:20:06.70\00:20:08.47
Only you can--
00:20:08.50\00:20:09.84
So let's read
this text and find out
00:20:09.87\00:20:11.21
why it's important to
be honest about our anger.
00:20:11.24\00:20:12.87
To be honest not
only with ourselves,
00:20:12.91\00:20:14.48
but be honest with God.
00:20:14.51\00:20:16.18
Who would like
to read that for us?
00:20:16.21\00:20:17.55
"And there is no
creature hidden from his sight,
00:20:17.58\00:20:20.65
but all things are naked
and open to the eyes of Him
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to whom we must give account."
00:20:24.15\00:20:26.39
Okay, so, do we have
to tell God we're angry?
00:20:26.42\00:20:30.69
No.
00:20:30.73\00:20:32.06
So why is it important to admit?
00:20:32.09\00:20:35.06
So He can help us.
00:20:35.10\00:20:36.43
Right. Okay.
00:20:36.46\00:20:37.93
So He can help.
00:20:37.97\00:20:39.30
Like an alcohol,
you have to admit
00:20:39.33\00:20:40.67
you're an alcohol
to get help, right?
00:20:40.70\00:20:43.14
Got to admit that
you're, got to admit--
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And the other
thing it also brings you,
00:20:45.24\00:20:47.38
it allows you to confront.
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What about your feeling?
00:20:49.14\00:20:50.58
If you admit it,
00:20:50.61\00:20:51.95
what does it do
to your feelings?
00:20:51.98\00:20:54.82
Think about that for a moment.
00:20:54.85\00:20:56.45
If you admit it,
00:20:56.48\00:20:57.82
what does that
do to your feelings?
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You change your feelings.
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Right.
00:21:00.66\00:21:01.99
Say it again. You change.
00:21:02.02\00:21:03.69
You start
saying, "Okay, you know,
00:21:03.73\00:21:05.06
I need to admit, or I am angry,
00:21:05.09\00:21:07.26
I feel it, I'm
owning my feelings."
00:21:07.30\00:21:10.23
Actually you started
thinking what you've done
00:21:10.27\00:21:12.83
'cause when you're angry,
00:21:12.87\00:21:14.20
a lot of times, you don't think.
00:21:14.24\00:21:16.07
You stop
thinking and you just act.
00:21:16.10\00:21:17.44
Yeah.
00:21:17.47\00:21:18.81
When you take rest and
accept that you were wrong,
00:21:18.84\00:21:22.74
you start thinking
"Oh, I did something wrong.
00:21:22.78\00:21:25.51
And it actually was my
fault whatever you did."
00:21:25.55\00:21:29.18
So that's good
because you start thinking
00:21:29.22\00:21:31.39
and you realize that
you did something wrong.
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Right.
00:21:34.09\00:21:35.42
And so...
00:21:35.46\00:21:36.83
the fact that the matter
is based on this scripture,
00:21:36.86\00:21:38.89
he knows our hearts. Amen.
00:21:38.93\00:21:40.93
There is
nothing hidden from God.
00:21:40.96\00:21:42.70
He knows where we are.
00:21:42.73\00:21:44.77
And so if we would
admit where we are,
00:21:44.80\00:21:47.24
then we would say
"It's kind of like saying,
00:21:47.27\00:21:49.34
"God, I am right
here. Could you help me?
00:21:49.37\00:21:51.27
He knows our desire.
00:21:51.31\00:21:52.64
I was waiting, I was knocking.
00:21:52.67\00:21:54.64
Glad you opened the door.
00:21:54.68\00:21:56.18
But being angry is
not nothing wrong, I mean,
00:21:56.21\00:21:59.58
we have to express our
feelings and our Emotions,
00:21:59.61\00:22:03.32
so being angry
is not a bad thing.
00:22:03.35\00:22:06.02
Okay.
00:22:06.05\00:22:07.39
But the Bible does say that
00:22:07.42\00:22:08.76
we shouldn't sin when we anger.
00:22:08.79\00:22:10.66
We shouldn't let it control us.
00:22:10.69\00:22:12.56
Okay. Let's go to that text.
00:22:12.59\00:22:14.43
Let's look at that.
00:22:14.46\00:22:15.90
I think it's Ephesians 4.
00:22:15.93\00:22:18.00
Look at that verse 26 and 27.
00:22:18.03\00:22:20.74
We have that one.
00:22:20.77\00:22:22.10
Xenia may be--
00:22:22.14\00:22:23.47
Did you read the last one?
00:22:23.51\00:22:24.84
Yes. Okay.
00:22:24.87\00:22:26.21
Someone else read
Ephesians 4: 26 and 27.
00:22:26.24\00:22:27.58
Okay.
00:22:27.61\00:22:28.94
I can read it.
00:22:28.98\00:22:30.31
Okay, sure.
00:22:30.35\00:22:31.68
Okay it says, "Be
angry and do not sin.
00:22:31.71\00:22:35.28
Do not let the sun
get down on your wrath,
00:22:35.32\00:22:37.92
nor give place to the devil."
00:22:37.95\00:22:40.82
Be angry and what?
00:22:40.86\00:22:42.36
Sin not. Sin not.
00:22:42.39\00:22:44.69
And do not let the
sun go down on your wrath
00:22:44.73\00:22:48.93
nor give place to the devil.
00:22:48.96\00:22:50.43
Oh, well, how could
you be angry and not sin?
00:22:50.47\00:22:52.63
Let's talk about that.
00:22:52.67\00:22:54.00
I was talking about
while you were gone to Angie
00:22:54.04\00:22:56.34
and we were talking
about being angry at God
00:22:56.37\00:22:58.64
and actually half
flat out in anger,
00:22:58.67\00:23:01.31
you know, yelling at him.
00:23:01.34\00:23:02.94
And I remember
00:23:02.98\00:23:04.31
a couple of
occasions about that.
00:23:04.35\00:23:06.01
Both of the times happened
00:23:06.05\00:23:07.38
when I was colporteuring
interestingly enough.
00:23:07.42\00:23:10.02
The first time
when I really was,
00:23:10.05\00:23:12.45
I was going door
to door and it's just,
00:23:12.49\00:23:15.19
nobody was answering
the door and all of a sudden
00:23:15.22\00:23:17.13
this lady just
slammed the door on me.
00:23:17.16\00:23:20.36
And it really got me
started, and I started
00:23:20.40\00:23:22.66
yelling and saying,
you know, why is it?
00:23:22.70\00:23:24.43
I'm trying to work,
00:23:24.47\00:23:25.80
I did meet my
angels in the morning.
00:23:25.83\00:23:27.60
Why is that my day is
going so horribly today?
00:23:27.64\00:23:30.61
And they say, you know what,
00:23:30.64\00:23:31.97
I don't think it was fair
what you did to Adam and Eve.
00:23:32.01\00:23:34.68
At least we know
what our sins was
00:23:34.71\00:23:37.25
but they didn't know
what they were going into.
00:23:37.28\00:23:39.71
So a moment, not
even a second later,
00:23:39.75\00:23:41.62
he comes with and then
says, what's your excuse?
00:23:41.65\00:23:44.42
You've got 6,000
years worth of sin,
00:23:44.45\00:23:47.09
you know what sin is like.
00:23:47.12\00:23:48.59
Why is it that
00:23:48.62\00:23:49.96
you are not giving
your heart totally to me
00:23:49.99\00:23:52.96
and a lot of the times,
when you're angry at God,
00:23:52.99\00:23:55.33
God will come right back at
you and put you in your place
00:23:55.36\00:23:58.10
but lot of times he
gives you a silent treatment.
00:23:58.13\00:24:01.04
And I'm going to tell you,
00:24:01.07\00:24:02.40
I've read when God gave
Israel a silent treatment
00:24:02.44\00:24:05.57
and I know how that feels like.
00:24:05.61\00:24:07.31
I know when it's time when God--
00:24:07.34\00:24:09.81
you're praying
00:24:09.84\00:24:12.78
and you're
imploring to him please,
00:24:12.81\00:24:15.18
you don't feel His
presence, you know He is there
00:24:15.22\00:24:17.79
but it's you that have
something in your heart
00:24:17.82\00:24:20.22
that's not
allowing Him to do so.
00:24:20.26\00:24:22.09
But a lot of the times,
00:24:22.12\00:24:23.46
being angry at God
could be therapeutical,
00:24:23.49\00:24:26.59
because He will come
back and will let you know
00:24:26.63\00:24:29.96
where your anger truly is
00:24:30.00\00:24:33.44
and sometimes
you may not know it.
00:24:33.47\00:24:35.70
Because
sometimes we say to people,
00:24:35.74\00:24:37.11
I'm angry, help me,
00:24:37.14\00:24:39.21
and they'll say,
00:24:39.24\00:24:40.58
there's a text in
Ecclesiastes, it says,
00:24:40.61\00:24:43.14
"Faithful are the
wounds of a friend;
00:24:43.18\00:24:45.85
but the kisses of an
enemy are deceitful."
00:24:45.88\00:24:48.45
And then we might say,
"Ah, you don't have a problem,
00:24:48.48\00:24:50.39
I'm not getting
angry all the time.
00:24:50.42\00:24:51.75
But a friend might
say, "You know, Louis, man
00:24:51.79\00:24:56.09
you've got to deal
with your anger man,
00:24:56.12\00:24:57.46
you're like, you're
blowing up at everybody at work.
00:24:57.49\00:24:59.69
At church people are
afraid to say hi to you,
00:24:59.73\00:25:01.76
you sit down on the chair like,
00:25:01.80\00:25:03.50
when you sit
down, you're like...
00:25:03.53\00:25:05.53
your facial expression.
00:25:05.57\00:25:06.90
I mean it becomes
00:25:06.94\00:25:08.27
a whole atmosphere, doesn't it?
00:25:08.30\00:25:09.64
Well, you can talk about that
00:25:09.67\00:25:11.47
because this happened to someone
00:25:11.51\00:25:12.97
in one of our
churches, one of our elders.
00:25:13.01\00:25:15.51
He was yelling at all
the women in the church.
00:25:15.54\00:25:19.58
Wasn't he? Oh man, we had a--
00:25:19.61\00:25:21.18
He was angry at all
the women in the church.
00:25:21.22\00:25:23.55
He'd snap at
them, he was an elder.
00:25:23.59\00:25:27.66
I want to disqualify this,
00:25:27.69\00:25:29.02
not this church that we're at.
00:25:29.06\00:25:30.39
No, many years ago.
00:25:30.43\00:25:31.76
This was a number
of churches before.
00:25:31.79\00:25:35.66
And the issue was, the
issue, whatever the issue was,
00:25:35.70\00:25:39.60
it didn't warrant him to
be snapping at everybody.
00:25:39.63\00:25:43.10
What do you want?
What's your problem?
00:25:43.14\00:25:44.57
No, later, forget it.
00:25:44.61\00:25:46.98
And it got to the
point where it became chronic
00:25:47.01\00:25:48.98
and we had to take him
out of leadership for a year.
00:25:49.01\00:25:51.71
And it brought us to
tears but to this day,
00:25:51.75\00:25:55.08
we are very, very good friends.
00:25:55.12\00:25:56.45
And you put him back in office.
00:25:56.48\00:25:57.82
And we put him back in office
00:25:57.85\00:25:59.19
after working
with him for a year
00:25:59.22\00:26:00.56
and this man was old
enough to be my father
00:26:00.59\00:26:02.99
and he said, "How
could you do this to me?
00:26:03.02\00:26:05.09
Who's going to do this
and who's going to do that?
00:26:05.13\00:26:06.46
And I said,
brother, we can teach,
00:26:06.49\00:26:08.63
train someone to do that,
00:26:08.66\00:26:10.40
but your spirit is
going to destroy this church.
00:26:10.43\00:26:13.94
People don't even
want to approach you
00:26:13.97\00:26:15.30
and you are an example,
00:26:15.34\00:26:16.67
you are in one of
the highest offices.
00:26:16.71\00:26:18.37
You cannot represent
Christ in that anger.
00:26:18.41\00:26:20.61
And so, yeah, it
does, it really--
00:26:20.64\00:26:23.71
To being angry
should not push you.
00:26:23.75\00:26:25.91
But now there's
a part of this text
00:26:25.95\00:26:27.28
that I want to
just look at again.
00:26:27.32\00:26:28.72
When it says do not let
the sun go down on your wrath,
00:26:28.75\00:26:31.25
what do you think that means?
00:26:31.29\00:26:33.05
Before you go to bed? Yes.
00:26:33.09\00:26:34.72
Before you need
to make things right,
00:26:34.76\00:26:37.13
because it's okay, you
know, you could be angry
00:26:37.16\00:26:39.59
at whatever really
bad thing happened to you,
00:26:39.63\00:26:41.96
I mean, that's
what emotions are for
00:26:42.00\00:26:44.57
but you need to let it go,
otherwise it'll control you.
00:26:44.60\00:26:47.37
Yeah. And so you--
00:26:47.40\00:26:49.27
If you offended somebody
when you were upset or angry,
00:26:49.30\00:26:54.01
you need to be
able to make it right.
00:26:54.04\00:26:56.71
That's right.
00:26:56.75\00:26:58.08
And the other thing is,
most of the times we think are,
00:26:58.11\00:27:00.48
we are strong
enough to deal with
00:27:00.52\00:27:02.72
these situations by ourselves
00:27:02.75\00:27:04.92
and don't let
the Lord work in us.
00:27:04.95\00:27:07.19
So if we let the
Lord work through us,
00:27:07.22\00:27:10.09
and He take over the situations,
00:27:10.13\00:27:11.79
He takes
control of the situation
00:27:11.83\00:27:13.63
that's going to
change completely.
00:27:13.66\00:27:15.03
He's going to
make a solution for us
00:27:15.06\00:27:18.67
because we need to know that
00:27:18.70\00:27:20.84
we are not strong
enough that we need help.
00:27:20.87\00:27:23.57
I'm sorry.
00:27:23.61\00:27:24.94
That the key is to
let the God do for us
00:27:24.97\00:27:28.48
what we cannot do for ourselves.
00:27:28.51\00:27:31.08
Yes.
00:27:31.11\00:27:32.45
So sometimes we need to
be humble and just to listen.
00:27:32.48\00:27:35.48
And sometimes or
00:27:35.52\00:27:37.22
maybe just don't say any word.
00:27:37.25\00:27:40.56
But we need to communicate
it and acknowledge it
00:27:40.59\00:27:42.89
and that's one of the things
that you were talking about.
00:27:42.92\00:27:44.96
A lot of times what
it's trying to tell you is
00:27:44.99\00:27:48.06
you need to
acknowledge what you're doing.
00:27:48.10\00:27:50.73
You need to
acknowledge where you are at,
00:27:50.77\00:27:52.90
you know, because
if we go to sleep,
00:27:52.93\00:27:55.24
then that's just going to
hover and hover and continue
00:27:55.27\00:27:58.54
and it's going to get to
the point where, you know,
00:27:58.57\00:28:00.38
you were
talking about the elder.
00:28:00.41\00:28:01.74
They have no idea that
00:28:01.78\00:28:03.91
they were causing
an issue in the church
00:28:03.95\00:28:07.72
because that was a
normal way of acting for them.
00:28:07.75\00:28:13.32
Unless you understand
it and you correct it,
00:28:13.36\00:28:17.13
you're going to continue
00:28:17.16\00:28:18.49
and that will become
a natural habit for you.
00:28:18.53\00:28:20.96
Not only that,
00:28:21.00\00:28:22.33
it's something that
a lot of individuals
00:28:22.36\00:28:23.73
like you mentioned later.
00:28:23.77\00:28:25.33
You might be angry at somebody.
00:28:25.37\00:28:26.97
You guys had your thing,
00:28:27.00\00:28:28.94
therefore God
knows all about it.
00:28:28.97\00:28:30.31
They were already resting,
00:28:30.34\00:28:31.67
they were
already having their time
00:28:31.71\00:28:33.04
and here you are,
00:28:33.07\00:28:34.41
you're not going to be
able to sleep properly,
00:28:34.44\00:28:35.78
you're not going to be able Why?
00:28:35.81\00:28:37.15
Only because you
are not strong enough
00:28:37.18\00:28:40.18
to be able to pick
up a phone and then say,
00:28:40.22\00:28:42.08
"You know what
brother, you know what sister,
00:28:42.12\00:28:44.32
I truly did not
behave properly."
00:28:44.35\00:28:46.92
You know, and why is
it so difficult for us
00:28:46.96\00:28:49.76
a lot of the
times to say I'm sorry.
00:28:49.79\00:28:52.16
You know, it's one of the most--
00:28:52.19\00:28:53.56
And lot of the times even
if we are the ones that were,
00:28:53.60\00:28:57.83
you know, that somebody
needs to apologize to us,
00:28:57.87\00:28:59.97
a lot of times if you started,
00:29:00.00\00:29:01.57
if you really understand this,
00:29:01.60\00:29:03.77
it's not just talking
about you as yourself,
00:29:03.81\00:29:06.14
it's as
individuals, as a family.
00:29:06.17\00:29:08.54
Don't let anybody go angry.
00:29:08.58\00:29:10.58
Go and find out,
00:29:10.61\00:29:12.55
don't let a friend go
to bed, you know, angry.
00:29:12.58\00:29:15.92
Call him and say you know what,
00:29:15.95\00:29:17.45
I know that I got
hurt with what you said
00:29:17.49\00:29:20.42
but that was my, you know...
00:29:20.46\00:29:22.72
Response to it.
00:29:22.76\00:29:24.09
Right, my response to it
and I want to let you know
00:29:24.13\00:29:26.49
that I want to
continue your friendship.
00:29:26.53\00:29:28.60
A lot of the times individuals
are like, wait, wait a minute,
00:29:28.63\00:29:31.13
I didn't even know
I hurt your feelings.
00:29:31.17\00:29:33.37
Oh, that's a very
good point because see,
00:29:33.40\00:29:35.14
sometimes people are angry
00:29:35.17\00:29:36.84
and other people
don't even know it.
00:29:36.87\00:29:39.07
How many have you
heard this situation before.
00:29:39.11\00:29:42.01
Someone's in
church, they see you
00:29:42.04\00:29:44.08
but you don't see
them and you walk past them
00:29:44.11\00:29:46.92
and on Tuesday they say,
"Are you okay?" I'm fine.
00:29:46.95\00:29:52.02
Why you're so and so angry?
00:29:52.05\00:29:53.76
Oh, you know, I heard that
00:29:53.79\00:29:55.12
you walked right
past them in church.
00:29:55.16\00:29:57.39
I didn't even see them.
00:29:57.43\00:29:59.29
And they say, "How
could you not have seen them?
00:29:59.33\00:30:01.46
"I was right in front of you."
00:30:01.50\00:30:02.83
"I was right in front of you."
00:30:02.86\00:30:04.20
And they're
trying to legitimize...
00:30:04.23\00:30:05.57
Their anger. Their anger.
00:30:05.60\00:30:06.94
When you say,
"Sister, believe me.
00:30:06.97\00:30:09.30
I would, I didn't even see you."
00:30:09.34\00:30:11.64
Instead of them saying, "Okay,
my brother, I forgive you."
00:30:11.67\00:30:14.44
They say, "You are
lying. You did see me.
00:30:14.48\00:30:17.15
How could you miss
me? I had on purple."
00:30:17.18\00:30:21.38
"You know, well, I had
on white, yellow dress.
00:30:21.42\00:30:22.82
How could you miss me?"
00:30:22.85\00:30:24.19
Because sometimes our minds are
locked and we don't see them.
00:30:24.22\00:30:27.19
So we try to
give them a way out.
00:30:27.22\00:30:28.96
There are some people,
00:30:28.99\00:30:30.33
and you know, I think you asked
the question I want to answer.
00:30:30.36\00:30:32.39
I got to put my
counselor side down sometimes
00:30:32.43\00:30:34.60
'cause I could talk a lot.
00:30:34.63\00:30:36.87
One of the reasons why
it's hard sometimes for us
00:30:36.90\00:30:39.00
to admit we're angry
because is it's about pride.
00:30:39.03\00:30:41.84
We don't want to
admit we are wrong.
00:30:41.87\00:30:43.87
Yeah.
00:30:43.91\00:30:45.27
So that can lead to that
00:30:45.31\00:30:47.21
but you made a point a
moment ago that we should...
00:30:47.24\00:30:49.31
I think the next scripture,
look at this one in Genesis,
00:30:49.34\00:30:52.31
because a lot of
times people are angry
00:30:52.35\00:30:54.55
but they don't even know why.
00:30:54.58\00:30:55.92
Why am I and after a while,
00:30:55.95\00:30:57.32
you know, if you don't
like a stain on a carpet,
00:30:57.35\00:30:59.45
if you don't soak it
up when it first happens,
00:30:59.49\00:31:02.49
it sits there, it sits
there, it sits there for years
00:31:02.52\00:31:04.79
and you say, "I remember
that in 1911, I mean 2011, 19.
00:31:04.83\00:31:10.27
Five years..."
00:31:10.30\00:31:14.14
And you remember
when it's spilled
00:31:14.17\00:31:15.50
but you say, why
didn't you say, I was busy.
00:31:15.54\00:31:17.97
Now it won't come out.
00:31:18.01\00:31:19.41
And that's how
anger sometimes is.
00:31:19.44\00:31:21.68
It sits there and seeds itself
00:31:21.71\00:31:24.25
if you don't take
care of it right away.
00:31:24.28\00:31:25.71
Who'd like to
read that Genesis 4:6?
00:31:25.75\00:31:27.58
Look at that one.
00:31:27.62\00:31:28.95
"So the Lord said onto
Cain, 'Why are you angry,
00:31:28.98\00:31:32.05
and why have your
countenance fallen?"
00:31:32.09\00:31:35.82
Your countenance. Mm-hmm.
00:31:35.86\00:31:37.39
Why you look that way?
00:31:37.43\00:31:40.53
What's the angry look people?
00:31:40.56\00:31:42.40
How could you tell
when people are angry?
00:31:42.43\00:31:43.77
And the Bible is just saying...
00:31:43.80\00:31:45.13
Countenance.
00:31:45.17\00:31:46.50
It's the countenance has fallen.
00:31:46.53\00:31:47.87
Okay, everybody.
00:31:47.90\00:31:49.24
I want to see everybody
get angry really instantly.
00:31:49.27\00:31:52.74
It's hard to get angry
when you're front of the camera.
00:31:52.77\00:31:54.34
Yeah, it is. It actually is.
00:31:54.38\00:31:55.88
But when you do get... Huh?
00:31:55.91\00:31:57.61
And when you ask for it,
00:31:57.65\00:31:58.98
and sometimes I've
seen some old people
00:31:59.01\00:32:01.38
and there are some
old people that you see,
00:32:01.42\00:32:03.08
"Oh, that's a sweet little,
you know, grandpa or grandma."
00:32:03.12\00:32:06.55
But you see some other
people and oh, they scare you
00:32:06.59\00:32:10.09
'cause they have, you know,
00:32:10.13\00:32:11.76
their face is like all the time.
00:32:11.79\00:32:14.10
And you can see,
okay, maybe that person
00:32:14.13\00:32:16.67
has some problems controlling
himself or his anger.
00:32:16.70\00:32:20.54
That's true.
00:32:20.57\00:32:22.40
And the other thing is,
when the Lord looked at Cain,
00:32:22.44\00:32:26.31
because
obviously Cain killed Abel.
00:32:26.34\00:32:28.48
Abel.
00:32:28.51\00:32:29.84
The Lord knew what he had done.
00:32:29.88\00:32:35.95
And his anger is what led him.
00:32:35.98\00:32:38.55
So look at the journey of anger.
00:32:38.59\00:32:41.49
I think would put a...
00:32:41.52\00:32:43.63
if when the anger begins,
00:32:43.66\00:32:45.56
it's not dealt with
look what it can lead to.
00:32:45.59\00:32:47.46
Right.
00:32:47.50\00:32:49.13
It's really dangerous
00:32:49.16\00:32:50.53
'cause first,
it's in your thoughts.
00:32:50.57\00:32:53.67
Your thoughts becomes acts.
00:32:53.70\00:32:56.20
Your acts
becomes your daily life.
00:32:56.24\00:32:59.24
So it's really dangerous.
00:32:59.27\00:33:00.61
If you do not control
yourself with your acts,
00:33:00.64\00:33:02.74
with your thoughts,
00:33:02.78\00:33:04.41
you can become
really, really dangerous
00:33:04.45\00:33:06.68
and powerful for evil, so...
00:33:06.72\00:33:09.78
And that's why sometimes
00:33:09.82\00:33:11.15
God actually talks
to you in your prayer.
00:33:11.19\00:33:13.89
A lot of times when you're,
00:33:13.92\00:33:15.36
you know, sitting
there in your night prayer,
00:33:15.39\00:33:16.83
God puts a name in your heart
00:33:16.86\00:33:18.49
or reminds you of something
that happened during the day
00:33:18.53\00:33:21.86
and it's very
important to be able to,
00:33:21.90\00:33:25.13
you know, even
get up if it's late,
00:33:25.17\00:33:26.50
call that individual because
that God is leading you to say,
00:33:26.53\00:33:30.37
there's something
happening in their life
00:33:30.41\00:33:32.37
that they need to know
that you would forgive them
00:33:32.41\00:33:35.54
or that everything is okay.
00:33:35.58\00:33:37.31
And they are like...
00:33:37.35\00:33:38.68
Because all that's
needed to do was communication.
00:33:38.71\00:33:41.52
All Cain needed to do is
talk to God or talk to Abel
00:33:41.55\00:33:46.22
and everything
would have been resolved
00:33:46.25\00:33:47.99
and it didn't have to escalate
to the word death came to.
00:33:48.02\00:33:51.89
And it's the same in our lives.
00:33:51.93\00:33:53.33
A lot of the
times, if we verbalize,
00:33:53.36\00:33:55.86
'cause we each
take things differently.
00:33:55.90\00:33:58.23
We each take a look differently.
00:33:58.27\00:34:00.20
We each take, you
know, a word differently.
00:34:00.24\00:34:03.57
And it doesn't
mean that I'm trying to,
00:34:03.61\00:34:07.38
you know, anger you on purpose,
00:34:07.41\00:34:09.34
it's just that, that
maybe my way of doing it.
00:34:09.38\00:34:12.31
You know, and a lot of people,
if they take it the wrong way,
00:34:12.35\00:34:14.85
but we need to keep that
in mind to that God will come
00:34:14.88\00:34:18.22
and tell us, "Hey,
why are you so sad?
00:34:18.25\00:34:20.09
Why are you so...
00:34:20.12\00:34:21.46
You know, what's
going on with you?
00:34:21.49\00:34:22.82
Come talk to me."
00:34:22.86\00:34:24.19
Yes. Yes.
00:34:24.23\00:34:25.56
You have a quote, hon.
00:34:25.59\00:34:26.93
I have a fabulous quote.
00:34:26.96\00:34:28.30
This is from, what's
the page. Adventist Home.
00:34:28.33\00:34:30.97
Adventist Home, page 69
called courtesy and kindness.
00:34:31.00\00:34:35.14
It says, "Those who profess
to be followers of Christ
00:34:35.17\00:34:38.87
and are at the same time rough,
unkind, uncourteous in words
00:34:38.91\00:34:46.72
and deportment have
not learned of Jesus."
00:34:46.75\00:34:50.65
Thing is that, with
anger, you need to able to,
00:34:50.69\00:34:56.86
like any other emotion,
00:34:56.89\00:34:58.79
you know, you
need to express it.
00:34:58.83\00:35:01.06
But you need to control it.
00:35:01.10\00:35:03.87
Because that's
what happened to Cain.
00:35:03.90\00:35:06.13
You know, he had
the right to be upset.
00:35:06.17\00:35:08.20
Okay, how come he
and I didn't, you know?
00:35:08.24\00:35:12.37
But he didn't have to kill him.
00:35:12.41\00:35:13.98
No.
00:35:14.01\00:35:15.34
You know, they
could have discussed that.
00:35:15.38\00:35:16.98
They could have fought, they
could have done whatever else.
00:35:17.01\00:35:19.05
But he didn't have to kill him.
00:35:19.08\00:35:20.42
No, he didn't.
00:35:20.45\00:35:21.78
He let the anger
control him and created a sin,
00:35:21.82\00:35:25.82
and that's why the Bible says,
"Don't let it lead to sin."
00:35:25.85\00:35:29.79
Because it doesn't have
to be that you kill somebody
00:35:29.82\00:35:32.23
but it could be something
else that will lead you to sin.
00:35:32.26\00:35:35.66
And also, you have to let
it, you have to talk it out.
00:35:35.70\00:35:38.93
You have to get it
out like any feeling.
00:35:38.97\00:35:41.50
You have to talk about it
to get rid of it and thus...
00:35:41.54\00:35:45.07
And he also knew...
00:35:45.11\00:35:46.44
He got angry because
he also knew he was wrong.
00:35:46.47\00:35:49.84
He disobeyed a
direct order from God.
00:35:49.88\00:35:52.61
So that made him...
00:35:52.65\00:35:55.08
I guess that made
him a little bit angry
00:35:55.12\00:35:57.09
'cause that happened to me when
my mom told me to do something
00:35:57.12\00:36:00.52
and I disobey and
something wrong happen to me,
00:36:00.56\00:36:03.89
I get angry 'cause
I know I did it wrong
00:36:03.93\00:36:06.43
because I disobey
00:36:06.46\00:36:08.10
and that's why it
makes me feel angry, so...
00:36:08.13\00:36:11.33
I think that's why
Cain was angry too.
00:36:11.37\00:36:14.50
He knew he did something wrong.
00:36:14.54\00:36:16.54
He disobeyed an order.
00:36:16.57\00:36:18.11
That makes him... Yeah.
00:36:18.14\00:36:20.08
Many people, you
know, they get upset
00:36:20.11\00:36:22.58
and they rush it over house
00:36:22.61\00:36:23.95
and get in the
car and drive away.
00:36:23.98\00:36:25.55
But they are so angry,
00:36:25.58\00:36:27.18
they could kill
somebody on the road.
00:36:27.22\00:36:29.12
They can run over somebody.
00:36:29.15\00:36:30.95
They could do a lot
of things, you know,
00:36:30.99\00:36:32.65
because you know,
that's the first thing
00:36:32.69\00:36:34.62
they do they rush out or they...
00:36:34.66\00:36:37.06
Or they throw something or,
you know, so many reactions.
00:36:37.09\00:36:41.80
So many reactions to the anger
00:36:41.83\00:36:44.67
that could lead
you to harm somebody
00:36:44.70\00:36:46.84
and I think Cain was
not really upset at evil,
00:36:46.87\00:36:50.51
I think he was upset at God,
00:36:50.54\00:36:52.71
because He didn't
accept his, his...
00:36:52.74\00:36:56.34
His emotion. His offering.
00:36:56.38\00:36:59.28
That's right, his offering.
00:36:59.31\00:37:00.65
So when he didn't feel accepted
by God, he took it off on him.
00:37:00.68\00:37:05.25
And sometimes we
do the same thing.
00:37:05.29\00:37:07.22
We might be upset
about what happened at work
00:37:07.26\00:37:09.69
and we take it
off on our family.
00:37:09.72\00:37:11.83
Or honey, for instance,
you are angry for many years.
00:37:11.86\00:37:16.70
You didn't know your
mother or your father.
00:37:16.73\00:37:18.93
When I was a young man, yeah.
00:37:18.97\00:37:20.30
We met at 16 and I
was an angry young man.
00:37:20.34\00:37:23.30
Very angry.
00:37:23.34\00:37:24.67
It wouldn't be any big
deal for me to throw things
00:37:24.71\00:37:26.88
and punch my hand through a door
00:37:26.91\00:37:28.34
and you know, break
things and slam the door
00:37:28.38\00:37:31.75
because it was an anger of,
00:37:31.78\00:37:33.48
you know, why would
my parents do this to me,
00:37:33.52\00:37:35.42
why they abandoned me.
00:37:35.45\00:37:36.89
Yeah, and that was an issue.
00:37:36.92\00:37:38.55
And it was, but it
was seeded somewhere.
00:37:38.59\00:37:41.02
Bring that thought
00:37:41.06\00:37:42.39
and then I'm gonna go
to another scripture here.
00:37:42.42\00:37:43.76
Pastor, there is a point that
you talked there, Miss Angie,
00:37:43.79\00:37:46.63
about that when you
are angry all the time,
00:37:46.66\00:37:49.33
you don't represent God
or you are not like God.
00:37:49.36\00:37:52.33
And I think that's something
00:37:52.37\00:37:53.70
that's so
difficult for us Christians,
00:37:53.74\00:37:56.04
for us Adventist, is that a lot
of times we are so compressed.
00:37:56.07\00:37:59.87
We are taught
that we need to be nice
00:37:59.91\00:38:02.68
or you never talk back to God.
00:38:02.71\00:38:04.38
You never do all these things.
00:38:04.41\00:38:05.78
So we suppress a lot of
our anger, a lot of our issues
00:38:05.81\00:38:09.05
because we don't have
that avenue to be able to come
00:38:09.08\00:38:11.35
and to just let it out.
00:38:11.39\00:38:13.36
A lot of the times,
that's what God is asking us.
00:38:13.39\00:38:15.86
"Son, come to me."
00:38:15.89\00:38:17.23
He has no problem with
you coming and having to,
00:38:17.26\00:38:20.30
you know,
yelling match with Him.
00:38:20.33\00:38:22.10
Yes, you need to
come to God in reverence.
00:38:22.13\00:38:24.40
I understand that
but there is times
00:38:24.43\00:38:25.87
in which God knows that you
need to let out of some of the,
00:38:25.90\00:38:31.21
some of the feeling that
the enemy puts in your heart
00:38:31.24\00:38:37.01
and it's very essential
that individuals understand that
00:38:37.05\00:38:39.41
that God will always
accept you no matter what.
00:38:39.45\00:38:42.88
And if it's time that
you need to let him go.
00:38:42.92\00:38:45.15
I remember one
time I was really upset.
00:38:45.19\00:38:47.49
I remember now.
00:38:47.52\00:38:48.86
And you know, I
got up in the morning
00:38:48.89\00:38:51.03
and I must have done something
wrong with my fish tank,
00:38:51.06\00:38:53.63
I must have not
cleaned the chlorine properly.
00:38:53.66\00:38:56.20
And all of my fish died.
00:38:56.23\00:38:57.90
And I was so upset.
00:38:57.93\00:38:59.43
I'm, you know, I love my fish.
00:38:59.47\00:39:01.74
I was so upset and I said, "Oh,
you are angry at me at what?
00:39:01.77\00:39:04.84
You're gonna take
my grandmother next."
00:39:04.87\00:39:06.57
You know, I was
me talking to God
00:39:06.61\00:39:09.34
and in anger really, I was what?
00:39:09.38\00:39:11.91
17. I was just a kid, you know.
00:39:11.95\00:39:14.68
But at that time, I had
to come back and cool down
00:39:14.72\00:39:17.72
and He says,
"Okay, you know what?
00:39:17.75\00:39:19.22
It's something
that you did wrong,
00:39:19.25\00:39:20.76
it's something
that you, you know.
00:39:20.79\00:39:22.62
Don't come blaming Me.
00:39:22.66\00:39:24.39
I know I'm not going to..."
00:39:24.43\00:39:26.33
Because the enemy loves to
put those thoughts in your mind
00:39:26.36\00:39:30.07
that God is going to punish
you with something greater
00:39:30.10\00:39:33.10
for something that you did
00:39:33.13\00:39:34.47
and that's not
the God that we serve.
00:39:34.50\00:39:36.24
Let's look at...
Did you find a point.
00:39:36.27\00:39:38.47
Oh, no. Not yet.
00:39:38.51\00:39:40.38
Let's look at Proverbs 16:32.
00:39:40.41\00:39:44.01
We talked about
emotions controlling us.
00:39:44.05\00:39:46.18
Who would like to
read that one for us?
00:39:46.21\00:39:47.55
Proverbs 16:32? Okay.
00:39:47.58\00:39:49.68
It says, "He
who is slow to anger
00:39:49.72\00:39:52.22
is better than the mighty;
00:39:52.25\00:39:54.49
and he who rules his spirit
than he who takes a city."
00:39:54.52\00:39:58.93
Wow. That's good.
00:39:58.96\00:40:00.93
He who is slow to anger
is better than the mighty.
00:40:00.96\00:40:05.10
And if you rule your spirit,
00:40:05.13\00:40:07.14
you are better than the
one who can capture a city.
00:40:07.17\00:40:09.30
Wow.
00:40:09.34\00:40:10.67
It's funny because a lot of
people look at me like you do,
00:40:10.71\00:40:13.24
I'm the bodyguard,
I'm this big old 6'3",
00:40:13.27\00:40:16.28
300 pound monster.
00:40:16.31\00:40:18.41
And they try...
00:40:18.45\00:40:19.78
You are not that way by the way.
00:40:19.81\00:40:21.15
They tried... No,
they tried the hardest.
00:40:21.18\00:40:22.58
They tried to get me
upset and I just, I just don't.
00:40:22.62\00:40:26.32
You know, I remember
when I was in the academy,
00:40:26.35\00:40:28.52
two or three kids picked me up
00:40:28.56\00:40:30.46
from my room around
three in the morning
00:40:30.49\00:40:32.69
and they were, you
know, they tied me down
00:40:32.73\00:40:35.13
and they were
going to take about to me
00:40:35.16\00:40:37.30
and I was just okay, whatever.
00:40:37.33\00:40:39.87
"Come on, get
angry, get yelling.
00:40:39.90\00:40:42.00
We can't hit
somebody like that!"
00:40:42.04\00:40:43.74
And I said, "Well, no,
00:40:43.77\00:40:45.11
if that's what you
have to do, go ahead.
00:40:45.14\00:40:46.47
He says, "Oh, go back to bed.
00:40:46.51\00:40:47.84
We're not... It's
not even fun anymore."
00:40:47.88\00:40:49.74
You know, and that's what
00:40:49.78\00:40:51.11
the individuals
enjoy doing that to you.
00:40:51.15\00:40:54.65
And sometimes it's difficult
for them to understand why,
00:40:54.68\00:40:58.02
especially when
they are not Christian.
00:40:58.05\00:40:59.39
It's hard to understand
00:40:59.42\00:41:00.76
why do you always
a smile in your face.
00:41:00.79\00:41:02.96
You just had
somebody that did this to you
00:41:02.99\00:41:04.93
and yet you are still smiling.
00:41:04.96\00:41:06.49
And that gives you a
chance to build it, I serve God.
00:41:06.53\00:41:09.30
Whatever happens is His.
00:41:09.33\00:41:11.27
And you are a gentle giant.
00:41:11.30\00:41:15.00
So of course, you
are watching the program,
00:41:15.04\00:41:16.37
Luis can be your bodyguard
00:41:16.40\00:41:17.74
but nobody will
be afraid of him.
00:41:17.77\00:41:20.48
He's going to smile to him.
00:41:20.51\00:41:23.08
Yes, sister Xenia,
so you had a point?
00:41:23.11\00:41:25.91
Yes. Okay, go ahead.
00:41:25.95\00:41:27.72
It's gone. Think about it again.
00:41:27.75\00:41:32.09
But let's look at another one
00:41:32.12\00:41:33.46
because these
scriptures are really important.
00:41:33.49\00:41:34.82
We are talking about not letting
00:41:34.86\00:41:36.19
your emotions control you.
00:41:36.22\00:41:38.43
Ecclesiastes 7:9.
00:41:38.46\00:41:42.16
You want to read
that one for us, hon.
00:41:42.20\00:41:43.53
Ecclesiastes 7:9.
00:41:43.57\00:41:45.20
"Do not hasten in
your spirit to be angry,
00:41:45.23\00:41:49.74
for anger rests in
the bosom of fools."
00:41:49.77\00:41:53.98
Wow. Oh, that's heavy.
00:41:54.01\00:41:59.81
No explanation necessary.
00:41:59.85\00:42:02.52
Really, it says,
oh, it's like a furnace.
00:42:02.55\00:42:06.05
That and here's
why it's important,
00:42:06.09\00:42:09.52
one of the
reasons why it's important
00:42:09.56\00:42:10.96
to not allow your
emotions to control you
00:42:10.99\00:42:13.83
because let's talk
about innocent victims, right?
00:42:13.86\00:42:18.23
Innocent victims.
00:42:18.27\00:42:19.60
Somebody can
walk past your office
00:42:19.63\00:42:21.67
and you could ask
him a basic question.
00:42:21.70\00:42:23.87
And all of a sudden, we all
notice that throughout the...
00:42:23.91\00:42:26.31
You know, there are so
many people that are upset
00:42:26.34\00:42:28.18
and they say, "Are
you okay, Daniela?"
00:42:28.21\00:42:31.61
No, I just asked so
and so basic question.
00:42:31.65\00:42:33.98
They threw the papers at me.
00:42:34.02\00:42:37.05
Well, Xenia, why you are upset?
00:42:37.09\00:42:39.19
And then all of a
sudden we discover,
00:42:39.22\00:42:40.79
we are mentioning
the same person's name
00:42:40.82\00:42:42.52
over and over and over again.
00:42:42.56\00:42:43.89
We're saying, did
they even know that?
00:42:43.93\00:42:45.73
I don't even think they
know, they were just oblivious.
00:42:45.76\00:42:47.23
They just threw the papers at me
00:42:47.26\00:42:48.60
when I asked them question.
00:42:48.63\00:42:50.47
They don't control their spirit.
00:42:50.50\00:42:53.60
That's why it
says, "He who rules,
00:42:53.64\00:42:58.04
he who is slow to anger,
00:42:58.07\00:42:59.71
he who rules his spirit
00:42:59.74\00:43:01.08
is better than
one who takes a city.
00:43:01.11\00:43:02.81
And so, when this
feeling starts to come up,
00:43:02.84\00:43:06.78
one of the things we have
to do, what do you think...
00:43:06.82\00:43:09.12
Let me put the question to you.
00:43:09.15\00:43:10.49
What do you think is the
best thing to do when you sense
00:43:10.52\00:43:14.52
that the frustration
is now turning to anger?
00:43:14.56\00:43:19.13
Pray.
00:43:19.16\00:43:20.50
Pray, always pray. Always.
00:43:20.53\00:43:22.93
Pray, always pray. Take a walk.
00:43:22.96\00:43:24.43
They're all counting to 10.
00:43:24.47\00:43:26.63
Isn't that what
they always tell you.
00:43:26.67\00:43:28.14
Take a walk. Count to 10.
00:43:28.17\00:43:30.34
In anger management
they say, one, two, three...
00:43:30.37\00:43:34.91
They will count to 10.
00:43:34.94\00:43:36.28
How you know
about anger management.
00:43:36.31\00:43:37.71
I deal with counseling.
00:43:37.75\00:43:39.08
I know.
00:43:39.11\00:43:40.45
How to deal with
conflict resolution.
00:43:40.48\00:43:42.82
But a lot of
times we become angry.
00:43:42.85\00:43:47.16
Let's say
somebody's talking to you
00:43:47.19\00:43:48.72
and they might say a word
00:43:48.76\00:43:51.29
and that just
triggers this anger in you.
00:43:51.33\00:43:54.20
You don't hear
anything after that.
00:43:54.23\00:43:56.10
Things are blur.
00:43:56.13\00:43:57.47
You don't hear
anything afterward.
00:43:57.50\00:43:59.60
And you think they
said this bad thing to you
00:43:59.63\00:44:02.57
because they used that
one word of that phrase
00:44:02.60\00:44:04.57
or whatever it was.
00:44:04.61\00:44:06.01
A trigger.
00:44:06.04\00:44:07.38
Yeah, it was a trigger.
00:44:07.41\00:44:08.74
And the person
is oblivious to it.
00:44:08.78\00:44:11.25
They didn't mean anything by it.
00:44:11.28\00:44:13.62
But because you thought
that, you let that control you.
00:44:13.65\00:44:17.52
And that's where
you have to be careful.
00:44:17.55\00:44:19.32
You know, it's like, okay,
00:44:19.35\00:44:21.09
well, so you get
the whole message,
00:44:21.12\00:44:24.19
you get the whole gist
of what they are saying
00:44:24.23\00:44:27.63
because it could be dangerous.
00:44:27.66\00:44:29.86
Well, let's look at it.
00:44:29.90\00:44:31.23
Anger turns to bitterness,
bitterness turns to resentment.
00:44:31.27\00:44:37.07
Let's look at
some of the remedies.
00:44:37.11\00:44:39.04
Let's go to the fourth
part in Ephesians 4:32,
00:44:39.07\00:44:43.41
Daniela, if you could read
that for us, Ephesians 4:32.
00:44:43.45\00:44:46.61
Okay, Ephesians 4:32.
00:44:46.65\00:44:49.42
Read from right here. Okay.
00:44:49.45\00:44:50.85
Yeah, right there.
00:44:50.89\00:44:52.22
And it says, "And be
kind to one another..."
00:44:52.25\00:44:55.82
It says, "Tenderhearted,
forgiving one another,
00:44:55.86\00:44:59.39
even as God in
Christ forgave you."
00:44:59.43\00:45:02.80
How many times have we
prayed for forgiveness?
00:45:02.83\00:45:04.70
Oh, many.
00:45:04.73\00:45:07.04
Can we admit daily? No.
00:45:07.07\00:45:09.17
Weekly? Yeah.
00:45:09.20\00:45:11.07
Hourly sometimes.
00:45:11.11\00:45:13.21
Sometimes we have to.
00:45:13.24\00:45:14.58
Sometimes, you know,
there's days that the enemies
00:45:14.61\00:45:17.78
get you from the
beginning to the end.
00:45:17.81\00:45:19.45
I remember pattern of
anger through the anger
00:45:19.48\00:45:25.55
or
disappointment or the solution
00:45:25.59\00:45:27.92
that would happen to
me on a weekly basis.
00:45:27.96\00:45:30.96
And I wonder. I
mean, Father, why?
00:45:30.99\00:45:33.13
I mean, to the
point where I had to...
00:45:33.16\00:45:35.26
I remember I
was going to my car.
00:45:35.30\00:45:36.80
I'd have to just
tune Christian music
00:45:36.83\00:45:38.80
to the loudest and just
saying people must have thought
00:45:38.83\00:45:41.30
I was crazy 'cause I was singing
00:45:41.34\00:45:42.74
to the loudest of my voice.
00:45:42.77\00:45:44.47
You know, Hosanna Hosanna,
glory be the God, you know.
00:45:44.51\00:45:48.64
And then I noticed that it
was a pattern that every time
00:45:48.68\00:45:51.51
I had to preach,
that whole week the enemy
00:45:51.55\00:45:54.62
was tugging at me,
and that whole week
00:45:54.65\00:45:56.35
he was trying to get me to lose
my control, to be able to...
00:45:56.38\00:46:00.62
And from that moment on, I said,
00:46:00.66\00:46:02.62
"Okay, I got you.
Now I understand."
00:46:02.66\00:46:05.09
You know, 'cause that's what...
00:46:05.13\00:46:06.46
And a lot of times
you don't understand
00:46:06.49\00:46:07.86
what are the triggers that
are happening in your lives
00:46:07.90\00:46:10.37
and you continue with patterns.
00:46:10.40\00:46:12.40
There's always a pattern.
00:46:12.43\00:46:13.77
Learn the patterns and then,
00:46:13.80\00:46:15.30
then you'll be
able to give a solution,
00:46:15.34\00:46:17.57
but until you know that pattern,
00:46:17.61\00:46:19.57
what solution are
you going to throw at it?
00:46:19.61\00:46:21.44
A lot of times what
happens with spouses,
00:46:21.48\00:46:23.65
you get to the point
where you get a spouse upset.
00:46:23.68\00:46:27.22
Spouses? We get
upset with our spouses?
00:46:27.25\00:46:30.39
Oh, no.
00:46:30.42\00:46:31.99
You know, you think
the natural reactions
00:46:32.02\00:46:34.02
especially if you are a man
00:46:34.06\00:46:35.39
or you want to go
and give them a hug,
00:46:35.42\00:46:36.76
they tell you, "Leave me alone."
00:46:36.79\00:46:38.39
You know, "Just walk
away. I've got this."
00:46:38.43\00:46:42.66
You know, and a lot of
times, we don't want to do that.
00:46:42.70\00:46:44.53
A lot of times, we want to be...
00:46:44.57\00:46:45.90
And what do we do?
We're force the issue.
00:46:45.93\00:46:47.64
Make it worse. We make it worse.
00:46:47.67\00:46:49.60
We make it worse
instead of just sitting back.
00:46:49.64\00:46:52.54
And it's the
same thing which is,
00:46:52.57\00:46:53.91
instead of getting to our knees,
00:46:53.94\00:46:55.68
I'm praying to God, the
one that can take care of us,
00:46:55.71\00:46:58.78
we want to be that instigator,
continue to follow through
00:46:58.81\00:47:02.12
because we feel
we have the answer.
00:47:02.15\00:47:04.22
And God's answer is
no, "Son, you don't.
00:47:04.25\00:47:06.69
Come to me and I'll
give you the answer."
00:47:06.72\00:47:08.49
So we say, "Forgive me
already. I said I'm sorry.
00:47:08.52\00:47:12.09
What do you want me to do?"
00:47:12.13\00:47:13.76
Really, I mean,
you made a point there.
00:47:13.80\00:47:15.13
Sometimes you have to give space
00:47:15.16\00:47:17.47
because, have you
ever had that experience
00:47:17.50\00:47:21.30
where you said to
somebody, "Just give me time"?
00:47:21.34\00:47:25.04
Yeah.
00:47:25.07\00:47:26.41
Can you remember
any of those instances?
00:47:26.44\00:47:28.24
When I was in the
college few years ago,
00:47:28.28\00:47:31.38
we used to be four of us
in one room for five years.
00:47:31.41\00:47:35.18
And we get to know each
other really, really good.
00:47:35.22\00:47:39.15
But sometimes we will
fight really, really, you know.
00:47:39.19\00:47:43.32
We had these problems,
really strong problems.
00:47:43.36\00:47:46.13
And sometimes it was hard
because you will tell them,
00:47:46.16\00:47:49.46
"Give me my space."
00:47:49.50\00:47:50.83
But you are living with them.
They're just two feet away.
00:47:50.87\00:47:53.77
Yeah. So, yeah.
00:47:53.80\00:47:55.14
So it was kind of hard
00:47:55.17\00:47:56.57
but the best thing
we find to do was pray.
00:47:56.60\00:48:00.88
So we would go together
00:48:00.91\00:48:02.24
and let's get on
our knees and pray.
00:48:02.28\00:48:04.78
And pray the Lord to help us
00:48:04.81\00:48:06.82
and to forget this problem
or find a solution together.
00:48:06.85\00:48:10.05
So as friends, that was
the best solution for us
00:48:10.09\00:48:14.72
and you get to know
those people really good
00:48:14.76\00:48:17.49
'cause you spend most
of your time with them.
00:48:17.53\00:48:20.03
Good.
00:48:20.06\00:48:21.60
I believe that if you
let God know how do you feel,
00:48:21.63\00:48:25.63
God will help you
to avoid or to think
00:48:25.67\00:48:28.80
before you say a word
or to think before act,
00:48:28.84\00:48:31.91
so that will help
you to, to stay calm
00:48:31.94\00:48:35.21
and you won't regret so
much also what you may say.
00:48:35.24\00:48:40.18
Think before you
speak. Think before you speak.
00:48:40.22\00:48:42.18
It's so important.
00:48:42.22\00:48:43.55
Honey, have we ever
had to forgive each other?
00:48:43.59\00:48:44.92
Of course.
00:48:44.95\00:48:47.32
We've been married
about for almost 33 years.
00:48:47.36\00:48:49.96
Wow. Yeah.
00:48:49.99\00:48:51.46
What does forgiving do?
00:48:51.49\00:48:53.19
Now, I share this
story sometimes in a sermon
00:48:53.23\00:48:55.90
but you know, I
remember one incident.
00:48:55.93\00:48:58.57
This only happened, I
think I can't remember happening
00:48:58.60\00:49:00.87
more than once
but there was one time
00:49:00.90\00:49:02.90
when we both were
angry at the same time
00:49:02.94\00:49:06.04
and we just refused to give in.
00:49:06.07\00:49:10.58
Give in, both of us.
00:49:10.61\00:49:11.98
It's like, "I always
give in but not this time."
00:49:12.01\00:49:16.45
And that was the time
00:49:16.48\00:49:17.82
when we were going to bed angry.
00:49:17.85\00:49:19.19
Yes. Remember the Bible says...
00:49:19.22\00:49:20.66
"Don't let the sun
go down on your..."
00:49:20.69\00:49:22.02
Don't go down on your
wrath. In other words don't...
00:49:22.06\00:49:23.39
It was down on our
wrath. It was dark.
00:49:23.43\00:49:26.33
And you sleep at
the edge of the bed.
00:49:26.36\00:49:29.40
This edge, and
you are on that edge.
00:49:29.43\00:49:31.93
And it was the Lord about,
00:49:31.97\00:49:34.47
about 2 or 3
o'clock in the morning,
00:49:34.50\00:49:35.84
the Lord said, "John."
00:49:35.87\00:49:39.07
He did it,
knocked on my forehead.
00:49:39.11\00:49:40.44
"John." And I..."
00:49:40.48\00:49:43.78
Come on now. You are a pastor.
00:49:43.81\00:49:49.12
You are the
priest of this house.
00:49:49.15\00:49:52.89
Do something."
00:49:52.92\00:49:54.29
And I said,
"Angie, are you awake?"
00:49:54.32\00:49:57.46
What did you say? Yes.
00:49:57.49\00:49:59.86
Did I say yes or did I
say no? No, you said yes.
00:49:59.89\00:50:02.10
I did. Okay, I
remember. I said, "I'm sorry."
00:50:02.13\00:50:05.20
What did you say? I'm sorry too.
00:50:05.23\00:50:09.20
You know and...
00:50:09.24\00:50:10.57
And we roll back
together close to each other.
00:50:10.61\00:50:13.24
Because I don't know
if you are married or not,
00:50:13.27\00:50:14.61
but when you are upset
and you don't fix that,
00:50:14.64\00:50:16.71
the bed seems, you know,
00:50:16.75\00:50:18.81
you want to find the very edges.
00:50:18.85\00:50:21.48
Bed could seem
like you are miles away
00:50:21.52\00:50:24.45
from each other but this...
00:50:24.49\00:50:25.82
I want to cover a
couple of other things
00:50:25.85\00:50:27.86
because we talked
about forgiving one another,
00:50:27.89\00:50:29.62
being kind and
tenderhearted to one another.
00:50:29.66\00:50:32.59
But also,
sometimes you could prevent
00:50:32.63\00:50:38.43
a person from getting angry
00:50:38.47\00:50:40.07
by just the way you answer them.
00:50:40.10\00:50:42.30
Proverbs 15:1.
00:50:42.34\00:50:44.57
Just by the way you answer them.
00:50:44.61\00:50:45.94
Who would like
to read that for us?
00:50:45.97\00:50:47.31
"A soft answer turns away wrath,
00:50:47.34\00:50:50.08
but a harsh
word stirs up anger."
00:50:50.11\00:50:53.01
Wow.
00:50:53.05\00:50:54.42
I could share
something. Go ahead, honey.
00:50:54.45\00:50:56.42
With you, I used
to work at a company.
00:50:56.45\00:50:59.25
This is not
about me but with me.
00:50:59.29\00:51:01.39
Yeah, I said with you.
00:51:01.42\00:51:02.76
About somebody I used to work
with years ago in California
00:51:02.79\00:51:06.36
and this lady, she
did not like me at all.
00:51:06.39\00:51:10.77
So anyway, the
supervisor came into the office.
00:51:10.80\00:51:15.04
And it was a single office.
00:51:15.07\00:51:16.40
You remember, I worked by myself
00:51:16.44\00:51:17.77
very much in that office.
00:51:17.81\00:51:19.14
And the sales rep
came in there and she...
00:51:19.17\00:51:21.44
and the supervisor came in
from Sacramento and she says,
00:51:21.48\00:51:25.48
and the sales rep that
did not like me, she blew up.
00:51:25.51\00:51:30.59
"Angela, this and
Angela." I'm like, she's lying.
00:51:30.62\00:51:33.69
I didn't say anything.
00:51:33.72\00:51:35.46
And she just went off on me
and telling the supervisor like
00:51:35.49\00:51:40.70
she's just, this
lady is lying on me.
00:51:40.73\00:51:43.97
And I didn't say anything.
00:51:44.00\00:51:46.03
And after the lady,
the sales rep, she left,
00:51:46.07\00:51:52.27
after she calmed down
a little bit, she left.
00:51:52.31\00:51:55.08
And the supervisor says to me,
00:51:55.11\00:51:57.81
"Angela, I'm so
glad you didn't blow up.
00:51:57.85\00:52:01.58
I'm so glad you
didn't answer her back."
00:52:01.62\00:52:05.02
And would you
believe I got a raise?
00:52:05.05\00:52:08.59
I got a raise from
that. One way to get raise.
00:52:08.62\00:52:10.33
No, really. I got a raise.
00:52:10.36\00:52:11.73
She said she loved the
way I controlled myself.
00:52:11.76\00:52:14.36
And glory goes to God.
00:52:14.40\00:52:15.93
That wasn't me, it
really wasn't, that was God.
00:52:15.96\00:52:18.47
And so I just
thank the Lord that truly
00:52:18.50\00:52:20.97
when man angers
you, he conquers you.
00:52:21.00\00:52:23.54
And I could have got
angry with that woman
00:52:23.57\00:52:26.01
and blew up right back at her.
00:52:26.04\00:52:28.44
But I said no.
00:52:28.48\00:52:29.81
And my mom is that way,
she is a very calm person,
00:52:29.84\00:52:32.75
always been a calm person.
00:52:32.78\00:52:34.42
And so I have inherited
and cultivated tendencies,
00:52:34.45\00:52:38.45
that one I believe
I got from my mother,
00:52:38.49\00:52:40.82
'cause she's always
been a peaceful person.
00:52:40.86\00:52:43.06
And that fits
right into the scripture.
00:52:43.09\00:52:44.53
Look at the point it
says, Psalm 37:7 and 8, it says,
00:52:44.56\00:52:49.66
"Rest in the Lord and
wait patiently for Him.
00:52:49.70\00:52:52.63
Do not fret because of
him who prospers in his way,
00:52:52.67\00:52:56.27
because the man who brings
00:52:56.30\00:52:57.67
wicked schemes to
pass sees from anger..."
00:52:57.71\00:53:01.44
What else? Foresake wrath...
00:53:01.48\00:53:03.21
And what else?
00:53:03.24\00:53:04.58
"Do not fret. It
only causes harm."
00:53:04.61\00:53:08.22
Wow. Wow.
00:53:08.25\00:53:09.58
So that, if we don't let
anger turn to bitterness,
00:53:09.62\00:53:13.15
then it doesn't
turn to resentment.
00:53:13.19\00:53:14.99
And, and it's unfortunate
but there are some people
00:53:15.02\00:53:17.16
that they would be
angry with somebody.
00:53:17.19\00:53:20.10
I know of a young lady.
00:53:20.13\00:53:21.46
Matter of fact, this happened,
instance that young lady,
00:53:21.50\00:53:24.43
the 18-year-old that died.
00:53:24.47\00:53:25.80
She had a friend
00:53:25.83\00:53:27.17
who she had asked her
friend for forgiveness.
00:53:27.20\00:53:29.67
And the friend
just chose not to.
00:53:29.70\00:53:32.57
"I don't know, I'm
not going to forgive you."
00:53:32.61\00:53:34.41
And the next day this young lady
00:53:34.44\00:53:35.78
who had asked for forgiveness
lost her life in car accident.
00:53:35.81\00:53:39.88
Now, that young friend
lives a life of resentment.
00:53:39.91\00:53:44.62
"How could I have allowed myself
00:53:44.65\00:53:46.62
to not forgive my friend?
00:53:46.65\00:53:49.02
How could I allow
her record to close
00:53:49.06\00:53:51.86
on such a very difficult thing?"
00:53:51.89\00:53:54.03
And there are some people
that are watching the program,
00:53:54.06\00:53:56.13
I think what we need to do,
00:53:56.16\00:53:57.50
we have about 3
minutes and 36 seconds left.
00:53:57.53\00:53:59.50
I think what we need
to do is, we need to pray.
00:53:59.53\00:54:02.27
We need to pray
because there are those...
00:54:02.30\00:54:05.61
Luis, read the very
last scripture for us.
00:54:05.64\00:54:08.24
Proverbs 17:22.
00:54:08.28\00:54:09.94
We are going to
pray in this direction.
00:54:09.98\00:54:11.91
The very last
scripture, Proverbs 17:22.
00:54:11.95\00:54:14.95
"A merry heart
does good like medicine,
00:54:14.98\00:54:18.72
but a broken
spirit dries the bones."
00:54:18.75\00:54:21.32
Wow.
00:54:21.36\00:54:22.69
So if we could nurture,
00:54:22.72\00:54:24.06
if we can
cultivate a merry heart.
00:54:24.09\00:54:26.66
If we could say, "Lord,
give me the right spirit."
00:54:26.70\00:54:29.26
Because you know, in
churches, in families,
00:54:29.30\00:54:31.50
in places of employment,
00:54:31.53\00:54:33.60
there could be a
misunderstanding,
00:54:33.64\00:54:35.00
that becomes an anger,
that becomes a resentment,
00:54:35.04\00:54:38.81
that becomes bitterness.
00:54:38.84\00:54:40.64
And you wonder why has it,
00:54:40.68\00:54:42.34
I've been not
able to communicate
00:54:42.38\00:54:43.98
with my family
members or friends for years.
00:54:44.01\00:54:47.05
And you hear, they
are still angry with you.
00:54:47.08\00:54:49.38
And by now, you've
forgotten over what?
00:54:49.42\00:54:51.82
So what I'd like us to do
is, we want to pray for you
00:54:51.85\00:54:55.79
and we all are
going to pray together
00:54:55.82\00:54:57.76
and ask the Lord to
give wisdom and direction.
00:54:57.79\00:55:01.13
Your family, you may
be watching the program
00:55:01.16\00:55:03.30
and right now, this topic
may have found you in a place
00:55:03.33\00:55:05.57
where you might
be angry or you know
00:55:05.60\00:55:07.47
of a family
member that is angry.
00:55:07.50\00:55:09.97
What you might want to
do is take his or her name
00:55:10.01\00:55:12.41
or their names in the
case that is more than one,
00:55:12.44\00:55:15.24
and bring them before the Lord.
00:55:15.28\00:55:17.15
And the one thing you want to do
00:55:17.18\00:55:18.51
before you ask the
Lord to change them,
00:55:18.55\00:55:20.85
it's most important
for the Lord to change who?
00:55:20.88\00:55:22.82
To change us.
00:55:22.85\00:55:25.12
Because, because
love begets love,
00:55:25.15\00:55:28.59
kindness begets kindness.
00:55:28.62\00:55:30.06
So we want to pray. We
have about two minutes.
00:55:30.09\00:55:32.36
We want to pray and
particularly tonight,
00:55:32.39\00:55:34.36
we want to pray about the heart
that can be changed from anger,
00:55:34.40\00:55:39.37
free from bitterness
and rescued from resentment.
00:55:39.40\00:55:43.10
Let just bow our heads together.
00:55:43.14\00:55:46.31
Our loving Father in Heaven,
00:55:46.34\00:55:48.18
Lord, we've talked
about and discussed
00:55:48.21\00:55:50.45
in our family circle
what may be affecting
00:55:50.48\00:55:52.55
family circles around the world.
00:55:52.58\00:55:54.92
It could be in churches,
where the worship service
00:55:54.95\00:55:57.95
is interrupted because
people don't communicate.
00:55:57.99\00:56:00.52
They allow their
natural spirit to overcome
00:56:00.56\00:56:03.36
their spiritual calling.
00:56:03.39\00:56:05.33
It could be between
pastor and leadership.
00:56:05.36\00:56:08.36
It could be between
leadership and other leaders
00:56:08.40\00:56:11.17
or could be between
mothers and children or siblings
00:56:11.20\00:56:14.47
that are just at each other's
throat for whatever reason.
00:56:14.50\00:56:17.64
But Lord, you said
that You can deliver us
00:56:17.67\00:56:20.24
if we just simply ask you to
deliver us from our emotions.
00:56:20.28\00:56:24.58
You didn't say not to get angry
00:56:24.61\00:56:25.95
but You said, "Don't
allow it to turn to sin."
00:56:25.98\00:56:28.52
And so Lord, this
evening as we, as we invite
00:56:28.55\00:56:31.35
the Sabbath hours to
come in, help them to come in,
00:56:31.39\00:56:34.96
in an atmosphere of peace
and unity and family strength.
00:56:34.99\00:56:40.90
And so, Lord, forgive
us if we have caused it.
00:56:40.93\00:56:43.30
Forgive us if we
have held on to it.
00:56:43.33\00:56:45.23
But bring to us,
we pray right now,
00:56:45.27\00:56:47.07
this deliverance, in Jesus' name
00:56:47.10\00:56:49.57
and for His sake, amen.
00:56:49.60\00:56:53.04
Well, quickly.
Wow. 39 seconds, honey.
00:56:53.07\00:56:57.01
Where has our
time gone? It's gone.
00:56:57.05\00:56:59.25
When it's good,
that's what happens.
00:56:59.28\00:57:01.15
Time flies, right? Wow.
00:57:01.18\00:57:02.85
It's a good
worship. Praise the Lord.
00:57:02.88\00:57:04.85
Take the time and study
this topic in more detail.
00:57:04.89\00:57:07.49
Open your Bibles, look
it up in your concordance.
00:57:07.52\00:57:09.96
Thank you Luis and Xenia.
Thank you Daniel and Daniela.
00:57:09.99\00:57:13.83
And this was in
English, Latino program.
00:57:13.86\00:57:16.46
Hopefully, you
heard both the languages.
00:57:16.50\00:57:18.43
Hopefully.
00:57:18.47\00:57:19.80
But most
importantly, we want you to hear
00:57:19.83\00:57:21.20
in the language of love.
00:57:21.24\00:57:22.97
The Lord did not
say don't get angry
00:57:23.00\00:57:25.24
but he said, "Don't
allow it to turn to sin."
00:57:25.27\00:57:27.11
If that's
something you struggle with,
00:57:27.14\00:57:28.91
deliver that emotion to Christ
00:57:28.94\00:57:30.45
and He will bring to
you joy and deliverance.
00:57:30.48\00:57:33.42
God bless you
until we see you again.
00:57:33.45\00:57:35.15