I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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I want to spend my life
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Removing pain
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Lord, let my words
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Heal a heart that hurts
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I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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Hello and welcome
to 3ABN Today. My name
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is CA Murray. Allow
me, once again, to thank
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you for sharing
just a little of your, I
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suspect, busy day
with us-to thank you, as
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always, for your
love, your prayers, and your
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support of Three
Angels' Broadcasting
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Network. As for the
last- oh, 3+ decades
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together, we have
lifted up the name
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of Jesus and done
our best with your help
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and assistance to
take the gospel of the good
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news of Jesus
Christ around the world. A
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smile on my face
this day because of my
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guests and because
of the subject matter.
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These are two neat
people that you may
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have not quite met
in this capacity before,
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but ere this program
shall have ended, you
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will love them as
much as we do at 3ABN.
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They are Melody
Caviness and Rendall Caviness.
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Not Randall, Rendall. R e
n d a l l. Praise the Lord.
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And Melody. Praise
the Lord. Good-looking
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couple! Let's get
a two-shot on them.
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This is a
good-looking couple. Wonderful
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people, smile on
their face, love of God in
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their hearts, and we
like them a lot here.
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Melody is the
founder and director of Your
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Healthy Helper.
Your Healthy Helper. In
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existence for
how many years? - Oh,
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probably about 7. a
little over 7 years.
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And, Rendall is the
social director- and a
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musician of
some note as you will
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see a little bit
later on in the program,
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'cause we're going to
play some of his music.
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They're a good
couple together. They work
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together, they associate
together; and the reason
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they do so is
because the Lord put them
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together. We'll
talk about that in just
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a little bit. Give
me the punchline first.
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We are pleased
to have them both as
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our chefs for our camp meetings.
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Now that we've
sort of locked down on
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Melody-and the
world is beginning to know
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that she makes a
killer lasagna-she
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will probably be our
crew for camp meeting
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until she can't
cook anymore! But she
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does a fine job.
Brings the Spirit of God with
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her; always a
smile on her face, hard
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worker. I happen
to know she comes in
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weeks before camp
meeting and does her
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preparation. And now,
she's got a good-looking
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guy by her side to
assist her in lifting
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stuff. They are a
perfect couple. So
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guys, first of all, good
to have you here. - Thanks
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for inviting us. -
We are going to go to
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your music in just a
little bit, but I want
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to do a couple of
things and get a little history
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from you. Did you
grow up in an Adventist
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home? - You know,
probably from about
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the age of 10. My
parents were baptized in the
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Adventist church, so that's
whenever I was introduced to
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Adventism. - Grew
up where? What state?
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- I was born and raised
in Los Angeles, California.
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- Get outta here! -
Yeah, I'm a valley girl!
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[laughter] But you
know, I've been all over
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the United States,
so...Texas; I got a
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little bit of that
southern and then Ohio, so I
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sound like I'm from
Canada. You know, "O."
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[CA laughs] - I
thought kind of Midwest. I
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don't even know
when we first met. You're
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one of those kind
of persons you figure
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you've always just
known kind of thing,
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so I assumed- I
would not have thought
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LA. Bless your
heart. Rendall, where you
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from? - Well, my
dad was a pastor and I
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was born in Iowa. He
pastored Iowa, Missouri,
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Alabama,
Mississippi, so I ended up being
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southern at about 8
years of age. So the
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accent- - The last imprint
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on you was
southern. - Yeah, exactly.
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- How long have
you been in Texas?
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- Been in Texas- I
moved there to Keene,
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Texas to go to the
university Southwestern
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Adventist
University, now, in '67, and
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stayed there for 4
years and just never
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left the Texas area
after that. - Uh-huh.
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Uh-huh. So you can
hear it. Just a little kind
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of a drawly thing
going on. It's a nice drawl.
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It's not a bad drawl
at all. Adventist home?
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- Yes. My dad's
an Adventist pastor.
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- Adventist pastor.
Okay, very, very good.
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How many brothers
and sisters? - Have one
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younger sister
in Edmond, Oklahoma.
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Works for the
state there. She does
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conflict
resolution. - Ahh, okay. Melody,
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brothers and sisters?
- I do. I had 3 brothers
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and one sister.
Both of my twin brothers
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are deceased, but
there was a family
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of five. My
father, for years, when he
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joined the church, was
a colporteur literature
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evangelist;
raised five kids, put us
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through school
doing that kind of work.
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He was a chef
and owned restaurants
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throughout, but when
he became an Adventist,
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he just fell in
love with the Lord and
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really wanted to
serve Him in that ministry.
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- Praise the Lord.
Let me ask you both,
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and take your
time with this, because
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it's one thing to
grow up in an Adventist
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home as you well
know. It's another thing to
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accept and know
Christ for yourself.
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You can go up
with the trappings of
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Adventism, the accoutrements
of Adventism, but that
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does not guarantee,
by any stretch, that
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YOU will know the
Lord. When did that
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happen for you,
Melody? - You know, honestly,
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I remember when
I was in academy at
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Bass Memorial Academy. I
had a situation one night
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where I just felt
like I needed Jesus in my
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life. So, here I
am at 16 years old and
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I just fell in
love with the Lord, but
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it soon left. It
was just, I feel like, a
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phase, almost, and
I was back and forth.
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I really feel like,
growing up in the Ad-
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we had good
Adventist home; don't get me
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wrong, but I don't
remember ever being
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taught the love of
Jesus, so I was Adventist by
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name long into
my adulthood. I came
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back to the Lord
when I knew there was
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just something
missing in my life, and that's
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what it was. It
was the Lord and my
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relationship, so
I had to build the
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relationship
between Jesus and myself in
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order to be that
kind of person I felt
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like God wanted
me to be. So, it was
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later in my life,
really. - Yeah. There
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was a time in Adventism,
and I suspect we're in
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the same a- - Generation.
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- Yeah, ZIP
code-wise- or, rather, same ZIP
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code AGE-wise
when we taught dos and
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don'ts, and
Adventism has degenerated-and
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I use that term
into dos and don'ts-so
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kids never had a
real opportunity to learn
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the love of Christ,
or a love FOR Christ,
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because we were being force-fed
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a dos-and-don'ts kind
of relationship, which
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was a substitute for a
genuine relationship for Christ.
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Those who taught
that, I think, taught it
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with sincerity- -
They did. - But it
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was wrong. - It
was, because Sabbath was
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never a blessing to
be growing up as a child,
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because I knew,
"Well, can't ride my bike.
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Can't get in the
water. Can't-" and I don't
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remember ever
thinking, "I don't want to. This
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is my day to be
with the Lord." It was
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always, "Well, I
can't do anything
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until after the
sun has come down on
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Saturday," and so
we would wait. I'd
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be like, "Okay, how many...
When is it till sundown?"
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You know, always
looking at your watch or asking
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mom what time it
is, and to get through
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the Sabbath. Now,
I'm ashamed to admit
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that as an adult,
but that is truth.
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Just in our Bible
study the other day
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when we were doing
our worship, my biggest
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regret in my life
is not having that
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relationship with
the Lord and using the
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talents He gave
us. There were so many
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years I wasted.
So, that's a regret.
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- Yeah. Rendall,
same question now. Your
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perspective may
be a little different
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because you're in a
pastor's home, but there
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is this set of expectations that
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kind of drop on
pastors' kids. Walk me through
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that as far as your
growing up is concerned.
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- I fulfilled
that expectation to be
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a good little
Adventist preacher's son. All
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the way through
life, though, I was not
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close with the
Lord. I lived up to
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expectations. I put
on a face. Later on,
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I got into the music
business, and I REALLY
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got into the music
business. I didn't live
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the lifestyle,
but I was always the
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designated
driver. [CA laughs] So,
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I never gave up on
the Lord, but I was
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one of those that
the Lord wanted to
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spit out of His
mouth. I was on the fence,
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back and forth,
balancing- trying to balance
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both worlds at the
same time, hoping that
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nobody saw me play on
Friday nights someplace.
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So, it's been- when
I retired from the work
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that I did, I
thought, "This is going to be
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great," 'cause this
is late in life. This is
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when I'm 65. I'm 72
now. I thought, "This
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is going to be great,
'cause I can play till
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1 or 2 in the
morning, sleep till the same
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time the next
day, and go do it again
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for the differing
bands that I played with.
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The Lord had other
plans. When I retired, the
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bands either
disbanded- the several that
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I played with-or
quit calling me to go out,
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and I'm saying,
"What's going on with this?"
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Then I met some Christian
singers- Wide Nations?,
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for one (who's on
the charts). Heather van
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Dieren is
another one that's on the
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charts right
now. I started backing
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them up, and just
kind of got closer
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with the Lord.
Then, I thought- oh, I
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didn't think. I
prayed, "I need a help,
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mate." It's been
about 8 years since
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my divorce. We
both started praying
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at the same time,
almost simultaneously.
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So, I really got close
to the Lord during that
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time, came back to
the church, started my
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tithe that I had not
been paying, and just
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really got close to
the Lord during that time.
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- Praise the
Lord. Doing that little
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hiatus in some time
to find the Lord again.
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- Yeah. I've made bad
choices in girlfriends
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that didn't work
out. I'm just like Melody.
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I said, "Okay,
Lord. I'm not doing this
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well at all. I just
want you to fix this."
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So, that's when
we started. - Mmkay.
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Now, let me hit the
pause button for you
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and come back to
Melody. When did the cooking
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bug thing hit
you? - As a young girl.
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My dad was a chef. He was a chef
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in the Navy for
the officers, so I grew
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up in a culinary
home. My mother was quite
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a good cook. She
wasn't a chef. My dad owned
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restaurants, so
in and out, up until
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my father passed
away- he had a heart attack
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at the age of 56, so
I lost him early. But
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my dad taught me
everything and I loved
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it. There was just
something about it,
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so he kind of
tricked me. When I was about
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6, he said, "Now,
if you want to be a
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good chef," he
said, "every chef has to
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start by doing the
dishes." So for about
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3 years, I washed my
dad's dishes up on the
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stool, and you know-
I would wash the dishes.
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I watched him cook.
I watched- my dad had
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a very sensitive
palette. He knew exactly what
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foods meld together
and he could put things
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together that I had
never even thought of,
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and he taught me
that. At the age of about
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10 or 11, I was
actually the spaghetti cooker
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in the house. My mom
would always say, "You
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cook spaghetti
better than your dad." So,
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I remember, at
that age, cooking meals
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for the family. I
had an amazing love for
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food. Not even so
much in the capacity
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as eating it-I loved
to prepare it. It was
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my way of being
artistic, was through
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the food. So, I
started at a very
00:12:36.58\00:12:37.95
young age. - The
desire to go from
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not just good-tasting
food, but to healthy
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food-but
nutritious food. Did that come
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at that time or
some time later as you
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started? - That
came in my 50s when I was
00:12:48.60\00:12:50.47
diagnosed with
Hashimoto disease, which is an
00:12:50.53\00:12:53.87
immune thyroid disease,
and also celiac disease.
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At that time, I was
probably around 285,
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290 in weight. -
Wow. - And I was taking
00:13:02.31\00:13:06.25
Corgard, which is a
beta-blocker-a heart
00:13:06.31\00:13:08.95
medication. I had
taken it for 22 years.
00:13:09.02\00:13:11.62
I had hypertension,
high cholesterol, so
00:13:11.72\00:13:16.16
everything you
can imagine somebody
00:13:16.22\00:13:18.16
having because of their
poor diet, and of course,
00:13:18.26\00:13:21.50
most chefs-
butter, cheese, everything.
00:13:21.53\00:13:25.50
We wanted the flavor
to be there. That was
00:13:25.60\00:13:28.04
what was important
so when you took that
00:13:28.10\00:13:29.94
first bite, you
were like, "Oh, this is
00:13:29.97\00:13:31.74
just wonderful!
So, I had to back up
00:13:31.81\00:13:35.31
and went to a
cooking seminar at a church
00:13:36.34\00:13:40.35
to help somebody else because of
00:13:40.42\00:13:42.32
their lifestyle, and
that's when God said,
00:13:42.38\00:13:44.15
"I need you to do
this work for Me."
00:13:44.25\00:13:47.29
I thought, "I'm too
fat and sick to help
00:13:47.36\00:13:49.92
anybody. How can
I help them?" But He
00:13:50.03\00:13:52.36
opened up my eyes
to what I needed to
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do, as far as nutrition,
and change my recipes.
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That's when the
transformation started
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taking place at
that time. - Praise the
00:14:00.90\00:14:02.54
Lord. Praise the
Lord. Meanwhile, Rendall
00:14:02.57\00:14:06.24
has admitted that
he wasn't the best
00:14:06.31\00:14:08.14
selector of
girlfriends. How's your life
00:14:10.35\00:14:17.22
working out in that ? I'm just
00:14:17.29\00:14:19.29
asking that away
unless you kind of take that
00:14:19.35\00:14:21.62
where you want
to. - Nah, it wasn't
00:14:21.66\00:14:24.16
working out for
me, either. I mean, in
00:14:24.23\00:14:26.09
the day we live in,
everything is internet,
00:14:26.29\00:14:28.16
you go out on
these websites- er, I
00:14:29.03\00:14:31.60
call it 'church
hopping.' You go from one
00:14:31.70\00:14:33.57
church to the next
and I felt like, "Lord,
00:14:33.67\00:14:36.20
I am really not
good at this." I'm
00:14:36.27\00:14:38.51
not a good chooser
of the men in my life.
00:14:38.54\00:14:41.34
Evidently, I'm
looking on the exterior.
00:14:41.41\00:14:44.01
A pastor at the South
Bend church, he was my
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pastor at the time-
needed help during my
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off-season,
'cause during November,
00:14:49.75\00:14:52.39
December, seminars
at churches, they're
00:14:52.45\00:14:54.66
too busy setting
their schedules for the
00:14:54.72\00:14:56.32
year. He said,
"I really need some
00:14:56.39\00:14:58.79
help. Would you
commit to helping me in the
00:14:58.86\00:15:00.96
office doing the
bulletins and all?"
00:15:01.03\00:15:03.63
I said, "Why
not." - Yeah- let me tap
00:15:03.70\00:15:06.20
the pause
button, because you WERE
00:15:06.27\00:15:07.60
married for a
time. - 40 years. - For
00:15:07.64\00:15:09.80
40 years. And you have two-
00:15:09.87\00:15:11.71
- Children. Two
sons. - Okay. So you were
00:15:11.84\00:15:14.94
married, but it wasn't
the best of relationships.
00:15:15.01\00:15:17.61
- No. - Okay. So
we're out of that,
00:15:17.65\00:15:20.18
you're kind of just
by yourself. Are you
00:15:20.25\00:15:22.28
actively looking
for somebody? - I had
00:15:22.35\00:15:25.49
met a few guys...
Not anything you'd bring
00:15:25.59\00:15:29.12
home or anybody.
[CA laughs] Again, I
00:15:29.16\00:15:32.19
mean, I'm one of
these people- I want
00:15:32.26\00:15:34.53
to fix you. That's
my personality. Get
00:15:34.56\00:15:38.60
the ones who are
bad; fix them. - There
00:15:38.67\00:15:40.94
are a lot of
people- there are men who do
00:15:41.00\00:15:42.34
that and there
are women who do that.
00:15:42.37\00:15:43.71
You'll find out that
you don't have the ability
00:15:43.74\00:15:45.24
to fix because in
trying to fix somebody
00:15:45.31\00:15:46.78
else, you get
broken down. - You get
00:15:46.88\00:15:48.31
broken down. - Precisely.
- And I didn't realize
00:15:48.38\00:15:49.84
how broke I was,
honestly. I knew I had problems
00:15:49.94\00:15:54.28
and I was
praying that I had become
00:15:54.35\00:15:57.62
to where I could
not get enough of God.
00:15:57.65\00:16:01.42
I was reading my
Bible, I was praying;
00:16:01.52\00:16:04.29
I just wanted more
of Him 'cause I thought,
00:16:04.36\00:16:07.20
"You know, Lord,
You're going to be
00:16:07.30\00:16:08.63
my Husband for a
while." So, I didn't
00:16:08.70\00:16:11.77
want the internet
thing. I got to the place
00:16:11.87\00:16:14.40
where I didn't even
want to date anybody
00:16:14.50\00:16:16.34
because I said,
"Lord, when You bring my
00:16:16.44\00:16:18.44
husband to me
when that time happens,
00:16:18.47\00:16:20.11
I'm not going to
date." - So you had embraced
00:16:20.18\00:16:22.18
this. You were
okay with this now. The
00:16:22.24\00:16:23.71
Lord has taken a
new place, you're losing
00:16:23.78\00:16:25.61
weight, you're
developing your ministry,
00:16:25.71\00:16:27.55
you're going through
a lot of stuff, so you
00:16:27.62\00:16:28.95
were okay just
following the Lord as He led.
00:16:28.98\00:16:31.09
- I was lonely
in the capacity that
00:16:31.19\00:16:33.66
I felt like at least
somebody on the other
00:16:33.76\00:16:36.06
end, a best friend,
somebody- like a man
00:16:36.12\00:16:39.83
friend that could
say, "Hey, where are you?
00:16:39.89\00:16:42.10
Are you safe?"
Kind of looking after me
00:16:42.16\00:16:43.93
like a daddy. -
Because you're on the road;
00:16:44.00\00:16:45.67
you're traveling,
you're doing your thing,
00:16:45.73\00:16:47.07
you're doing it
for the Lord. - Months;
00:16:47.10\00:16:48.44
sometimes a
month or two at a time
00:16:48.47\00:16:49.80
before I'd even
come back to where I left
00:16:49.84\00:16:51.47
off. Absolutely. -
So, it'd be nice to
00:16:51.54\00:16:54.21
have somebody call
and say, "Hey, honey, are
00:16:54.28\00:16:55.91
you okay?" - Yes.
- So we're in South
00:16:55.94\00:16:58.28
Bend? - South Bend,
Indiana. - Bless your
00:16:58.38\00:17:00.22
heart; in the wintertime?
Been here, done that.
00:17:00.28\00:17:02.88
- Yeah. That's
when you mall walk.
00:17:02.98\00:17:04.85
You can get to the
mall. - Yeah, indeed.
00:17:06.19\00:17:08.32
- Yeah, I was there,
and I was working with
00:17:09.32\00:17:11.29
Elder Thordeston He asked me; he
00:17:11.39\00:17:14.80
said, "Melody,
why don't you have a
00:17:14.86\00:17:16.50
mate? Why aren't
you with somebody?"
00:17:16.56\00:17:18.23
And I said, "I don't
do very well." I said,
00:17:18.30\00:17:20.17
"I don't choose well,
so for some reason," I
00:17:20.24\00:17:23.54
said, "I just
feel like it's- I would
00:17:23.64\00:17:26.34
love to have that
partner in my life,
00:17:26.41\00:17:28.64
but? I've just kind of given up
00:17:28.71\00:17:31.45
on that area." He
said, "You know," and he
00:17:31.55\00:17:33.75
started telling
me all these stories.
00:17:33.82\00:17:35.15
He said, "You know,
you need to take everything
00:17:35.18\00:17:38.59
to the Lord about
what you want then
00:17:38.65\00:17:41.56
ask God to give
you peace." I've never
00:17:41.62\00:17:43.89
asked God to give
me peace. He said, "And
00:17:43.96\00:17:46.23
wait on God's
time." I said, "Okay. Would
00:17:46.29\00:17:49.86
it hurt if I ask Him
to hurry?" [laughter]
00:17:49.93\00:17:52.33
Not that I was in a
hurry, but it's like,
00:17:52.43\00:17:54.04
I just felt like I
needed that person,
00:17:54.10\00:17:56.34
even if it was
just to talk to them.
00:17:56.40\00:17:58.21
Desperately wanting
that companion, that
00:17:58.31\00:18:01.98
male companion, to
talk to- to ignite a
00:18:02.08\00:18:04.98
friendship and
maybe more. - I want to
00:18:05.05\00:18:08.72
just get this
stated. You had committed
00:18:08.78\00:18:10.12
to the Lord to wait
on Him. In your heart,
00:18:10.15\00:18:13.25
of course you want
it to be as soon as
00:18:13.32\00:18:14.66
possible, but you
had said to the Lord,
00:18:14.69\00:18:16.02
"I'm willing to
serve You and I will wait
00:18:16.09\00:18:17.76
till You bring the
right person," which is a
00:18:17.86\00:18:19.93
good place to be.
- Exactly. It was.
00:18:20.03\00:18:21.83
But, you know, I
went home that night
00:18:21.90\00:18:24.40
and I could not
quit thinking about what
00:18:24.47\00:18:26.20
the pastor said, so
I got a pillow, 'cause
00:18:26.30\00:18:29.54
the floor was a
hardwood floor and I thought,
00:18:29.67\00:18:32.24
"We're going to be
down here a while."
00:18:32.31\00:18:33.94
I've got some
requests, you know? So I got
00:18:35.18\00:18:38.28
that pillow, got
down there, and I prayed.
00:18:38.38\00:18:40.25
I just poured my
heart out and I said, "Lord,
00:18:40.32\00:18:42.02
this is what I
like. This is what I want
00:18:42.08\00:18:44.92
in a man." First
and foremost, for me,
00:18:44.99\00:18:46.72
was I wanted him
to have a relationship
00:18:46.82\00:18:48.62
with the Lord,
because I had been through a
00:18:48.72\00:18:51.79
relationship of being
mistreated. I thought,
00:18:51.86\00:18:54.16
"If he has this
relationship with You,
00:18:54.26\00:18:55.86
and he loves You,
Lord, he's going to treat
00:18:55.96\00:18:58.30
me like You want
me to be treated." So
00:18:58.37\00:19:00.54
that was my
first and foremost. So,
00:19:00.64\00:19:02.94
my dislikes, my
likes, I just threw it all
00:19:03.00\00:19:05.77
out there. I don't
know how long I was down
00:19:05.84\00:19:07.41
on that floor,
but I prayed and I
00:19:07.48\00:19:09.74
said, "Lord, I
would like for him to be
00:19:09.84\00:19:12.15
from Texas, if
that's possible, and I would
00:19:12.21\00:19:14.72
love for You to hurry,
if that's possible, but
00:19:14.82\00:19:17.59
in Your time." -
Okay. He can take that.
00:19:17.65\00:19:20.72
- I said, "Lord,
give me peace while You
00:19:20.82\00:19:23.83
are working on
this." And you know, CA, I
00:19:23.89\00:19:26.33
got up a different
person, because every
00:19:26.39\00:19:28.50
day after that,
instead of praying
00:19:28.56\00:19:30.87
for my husband, to
find him, I thanked
00:19:30.93\00:19:33.80
the Lord for working
on it and I prayed for
00:19:33.87\00:19:36.24
Rendall, not
knowing who he was, if he
00:19:36.30\00:19:38.67
had children, what
his health was like,
00:19:38.74\00:19:40.61
his finances, his
spirituality. I prayed
00:19:40.68\00:19:45.51
for everything, 'cause
I just said, "Lord, I'm
00:19:45.58\00:19:47.68
praying for my
husband today." I didn't know
00:19:47.75\00:19:49.98
who he was, but God
did. - God did. What
00:19:50.05\00:19:52.42
I like- and
listening to you, Melody,-
00:19:52.49\00:19:54.32
is two things. You
got your priorities
00:19:54.39\00:19:55.79
straight. 1) I want
him to love the Lord.
00:19:55.86\00:19:57.96
I want him to have a functioning
00:19:58.03\00:19:59.36
relationship with
God. - First and foremost.
00:19:59.39\00:20:01.13
- 2) I'm willing
to wait on You. So,
00:20:01.16\00:20:05.83
once you kind of
get those two things
00:20:05.93\00:20:08.74
established,
everything else is gravy. The
00:20:08.80\00:20:11.67
Lord, He had no
problem fulfilling
00:20:11.74\00:20:14.58
that list,
obviously, because he's here.
00:20:14.64\00:20:16.81
Praise the Lord.
But you put the most
00:20:16.88\00:20:19.25
important- the
first thing was first.
00:20:19.31\00:20:20.68
"Has to have a
relationship with You,"
00:20:20.75\00:20:22.68
and "I'm willing
to wait until You get
00:20:22.75\00:20:24.69
that person set
for me." Meanwhile, in
00:20:24.79\00:20:28.82
Texas, you're
coming back to the Lord
00:20:28.92\00:20:33.56
after being in a
whole lot of stuff. What's
00:20:33.63\00:20:36.93
going on in your
life as far as your
00:20:37.03\00:20:38.60
relationship with
the Lord and how you're
00:20:38.80\00:20:40.40
looking at life,
now, at this point in
00:20:40.47\00:20:42.44
your life? - Well,
at that point, I went
00:20:42.50\00:20:44.61
to my knees as
well, just like Melody did
00:20:44.67\00:20:46.88
and told him the
same thing. "Lord, I made
00:20:46.94\00:20:50.05
bad choices. The
people I've dated- it's wrong.
00:20:50.11\00:20:54.15
I know it's
wrong in my heart. They
00:20:54.22\00:20:56.79
may be good people;
they don't believe like
00:20:56.85\00:20:58.39
I do. They're
not Sabbath keepers,
00:20:58.45\00:21:01.29
they don't have the
same feelings to the
00:21:01.36\00:21:05.39
Lord like I do." I
said, "You're going to have
00:21:05.46\00:21:08.93
to lead me with
this." I said exactly the
00:21:08.96\00:21:12.17
same thing. "I'm
making bad choices. I'm going
00:21:12.27\00:21:14.97
to leave it in
Your hands. I'm going to
00:21:15.04\00:21:16.37
quit trying so hard.
I'm just going to leave
00:21:16.44\00:21:19.07
it alone and pray
about it, and that's where
00:21:19.14\00:21:21.44
I was. - Had you been
married before, Rendall?
00:21:21.51\00:21:22.98
- Yes. I was married
14 years prior to this,
00:21:23.01\00:21:26.25
and it had been
about 8 years since that
00:21:26.31\00:21:28.48
divorce. - Okay.
Okay. So, now you're
00:21:28.55\00:21:30.99
coming back to the
Lord, feeling stronger in
00:21:31.12\00:21:32.55
the Lord, you're
willing to wait on the Lord,
00:21:32.62\00:21:34.99
also. - Yes. Right.
Praise the Lord. So,
00:21:35.06\00:21:37.99
we kind of got you
at the same point in
00:21:38.09\00:21:39.63
your Christian
walk. Before we actually
00:21:39.73\00:21:41.93
get you married, I
think we need to hear
00:21:42.00\00:21:43.63
some music from
you, man, because you,
00:21:43.70\00:21:45.53
earlier today, came
in and- I've not heard
00:21:45.63\00:21:50.24
you yet, but the
boys say you're pretty
00:21:50.31\00:21:52.47
good, man. We
praise the Lord for
00:21:52.57\00:21:53.91
that. -... [laughter] And we
00:21:53.94\00:21:57.95
didn't pay him
anything. They say that from
00:21:58.01\00:21:59.35
their hearts. "Lord, I
Want to Be a Christian."
00:21:59.38\00:22:01.85
Talk to me about, on
this CD, which I really
00:22:03.02\00:22:05.29
like, "Jesus
Will," Rendall Caviness.
00:22:05.45\00:22:09.09
There is this
bandolier going across your
00:22:09.16\00:22:11.99
chest on the
back cover. What am I
00:22:12.09\00:22:15.90
looking at? I hope
those are not bullets.
00:22:16.00\00:22:18.47
Are those...harmonicas?
- Yes. Harmonicas.
00:22:18.57\00:22:21.40
There's 12 varying
degrees. I did a lot
00:22:21.47\00:22:24.44
of backup with other
artists and when they
00:22:24.51\00:22:26.57
have to change
keys, I have to be ready.
00:22:26.64\00:22:28.41
That's really
the purpose for that.
00:22:28.51\00:22:30.85
In fact, one of the songs that I
00:22:30.91\00:22:33.05
play, it's going to
00:22:33.11\00:22:34.48
be on the
program. There are two key
00:22:34.58\00:22:37.02
changes, so that's
the purpose of that
00:22:37.09\00:22:39.75
belt. - So you
just whip out another-
00:22:39.82\00:22:41.16
- Right. - Ahh. Praise the Lord.
00:22:41.19\00:22:43.79
And you were, I
guess we can call you a
00:22:43.89\00:22:46.76
professional
musician because you played
00:22:46.83\00:22:48.40
with some of the
groups. For how many years?
00:22:48.46\00:22:50.07
- I'll let you be the
judge of that when you
00:22:50.17\00:22:51.50
hear it.
[laughter] - Well, you were a
00:22:51.53\00:22:53.60
wanted musician.
You worked with a number
00:22:53.74\00:22:56.30
of groups-
Christian and non-Christian.
00:22:56.40\00:22:58.27
- Correct. - So
there must be a basic skill
00:22:58.34\00:23:00.88
level that attends
that, so you're good
00:23:00.98\00:23:03.91
at what you do.
Praise the Lord. - Thank you.
00:23:03.98\00:23:05.51
- All right.
Let's hear it right now.
00:23:05.58\00:23:07.05
This is Rendall
Caviness, and the
00:23:07.12\00:23:09.88
song is- what are
we listening to? "Lord,
00:23:09.98\00:23:12.19
I Want to Be a Christian."
00:23:12.29\00:23:13.76
And amen! Rendall,
well done! - Thank you.
00:26:10.10\00:26:12.53
- I saw you had a
couple spares behind
00:26:12.63\00:26:14.44
you there on the piano,
for which we praise the Lord!
00:26:14.50\00:26:17.87
But well done. How
long have you been playing?
00:26:17.94\00:26:20.01
- 40+ years. -
All right; good little
00:26:20.08\00:26:22.24
while. - Right. - Did
you take that harmonica
00:26:22.31\00:26:25.75
up by default or just
something lying around,
00:26:25.85\00:26:28.15
or did you seek
that instrument out?
00:26:28.22\00:26:29.88
- When I started,
they said it would
00:26:29.98\00:26:32.49
help put babies
to sleep, so when my
00:26:32.59\00:26:34.66
first child was born, I started,
00:26:34.72\00:26:37.63
but it took too
long. They were grown
00:26:37.73\00:26:40.80
before I perfected
the ability to play
00:26:40.86\00:26:43.50
relatively well. -
If you hadn't gotten
00:26:43.57\00:26:47.34
good, you still
would've put 'em to sleep, so
00:26:47.40\00:26:49.27
praise the Lord.
[laughter] - Yeah.
00:26:49.34\00:26:51.67
- Praise the Lord
that you did a good
00:26:51.71\00:26:53.68
job. Well done.
Very well done. And
00:26:53.81\00:26:56.01
I'm anxious to hear
the second song before
00:26:56.04\00:26:58.01
we're done. When
we left, we're both
00:26:58.08\00:27:01.02
praying for the
Lord to send the right
00:27:01.08\00:27:03.62
person (which is a
good prayer to pray)
00:27:03.72\00:27:06.22
BEFORE you get
married. You're praying, you're
00:27:06.29\00:27:10.13
praying, your
relationship with the Lord is
00:27:10.19\00:27:11.96
strengthening because
you are by yourself and
00:27:11.99\00:27:14.90
you are giving
time with the Lord. You
00:27:15.00\00:27:18.20
had a pretty
specified list. - I did. - Yeah.
00:27:18.27\00:27:21.94
Walk me through
the first time you met
00:27:22.04\00:27:25.21
him, how that happened,
and then we're going to
00:27:25.27\00:27:28.61
find out how the
light came on. What
00:27:28.71\00:27:31.98
was the first time?
- I didn't realize that
00:27:32.05\00:27:35.12
he had noticed me
like a year or two before
00:27:35.18\00:27:37.35
on Facebook. I
don't even know how we
00:27:37.42\00:27:39.09
became Facebook
friends except that I knew his
00:27:39.15\00:27:42.09
in-laws. I had
known their family years
00:27:42.16\00:27:45.43
before that. I
knew who he was because
00:27:45.49\00:27:49.23
his children were
also in Pathfinders when
00:27:49.30\00:27:51.40
I was helping in
leadership in Pathfinders,
00:27:51.47\00:27:53.97
'cause we'd lived
in Texas. However, if
00:27:54.04\00:27:57.04
I had met
Rendall, I don't know it. I
00:27:57.11\00:27:59.97
remember his
ex-wife, I remembered the
00:28:00.08\00:28:02.48
family, so I knew
who he was as a person.
00:28:02.51\00:28:05.21
That's probably when I
accepted his friendship.
00:28:05.28\00:28:07.08
Two weeks to the date
after I prayed that prayer,
00:28:07.15\00:28:13.46
he sent me a note
and said, "I've noticed
00:28:13.56\00:28:16.99
you on Facebook, and
I've seen," something like
00:28:17.06\00:28:20.43
some program I had
done in the Fort Worth
00:28:20.53\00:28:22.16
area that was
televised or something.
00:28:22.23\00:28:25.07
I don't know if
it was through Good
00:28:25.17\00:28:27.10
News TV; I don't
remember. He said,
00:28:27.30\00:28:29.64
"I'm trying to
regain my health back after
00:28:29.74\00:28:32.81
years of neglecting
it, and I don't know
00:28:32.87\00:28:37.15
if there's anything
you could do to help
00:28:37.25\00:28:38.58
me, but I would
appreciate it." Very
00:28:38.61\00:28:40.62
nice little note
he said there as a
00:28:40.65\00:28:42.48
private message. -
Okay, pause button.
00:28:42.55\00:28:44.25
Did you remember
all of this connection
00:28:44.35\00:28:46.86
from- - No. I do not
00:28:46.92\00:28:49.19
remember her at
all. We even attended the
00:28:49.26\00:28:51.16
same wedding in-
well, it was a nice, large
00:28:51.26\00:28:54.56
house, but I don't
remember seeing her-
00:28:54.66\00:28:56.50
at the wedding,
either. - So this was not
00:28:56.56\00:28:58.13
an adavistic come-on;
you were really trying
00:28:58.20\00:29:01.47
to meet her to take
care of your health.
00:29:01.57\00:29:03.74
- Yes. Had it been, it would
have been a pretty good come-on,
00:29:03.84\00:29:05.97
by the way. But
you were not. You don't
00:29:06.04\00:29:07.91
remember all of
these past connections.
00:29:08.01\00:29:09.54
You were actually
trying to get- okay. Okay.
00:29:09.64\00:29:12.51
And you accepted it
as such. - I did, and
00:29:12.58\00:29:14.98
I start- I could
tell he was typing from
00:29:15.08\00:29:17.65
his phone, because
it was taking forever.
00:29:17.75\00:29:20.02
[CA laughs] I'm
thinking, "Oh, we're
00:29:20.09\00:29:21.76
going to be here all
night long," you know?
00:29:21.86\00:29:23.76
He's just pecking
away. So I said, "You know,
00:29:23.86\00:29:27.13
I don't-." First, I
said, "I give my phone
00:29:27.20\00:29:30.20
number out to a
lot of people, because
00:29:30.27\00:29:33.13
helping out-" I did.
I said, "If you would
00:29:33.23\00:29:36.97
like to talk to me,
then you can call me.
00:29:37.04\00:29:40.34
Here's my phone number."
And, of course, I didn't
00:29:40.44\00:29:42.54
know what was going
on at the other end.
00:29:42.61\00:29:44.01
He's like, "YES!"
at the other end and he
00:29:44.11\00:29:47.15
sent back a message
that said, "I'm doing
00:29:47.25\00:29:49.78
my laundry; I will
call you in 15 minutes."
00:29:49.88\00:29:53.02
I'm thinkin', "Hey,
this guy does laundry!"
00:29:53.12\00:29:55.79
[CA laughs] "Hey,
this is a good thing!"
00:29:55.89\00:29:58.16
You know, I still had
not thought of anything
00:29:58.23\00:30:00.30
as a relationship. -
And you had not either,
00:30:00.36\00:30:03.53
Rendall? - Not
really. - So the yes was that
00:30:03.60\00:30:06.13
you're going to
get some help for your
00:30:06.20\00:30:07.60
health. You're
not thinking anything
00:30:07.77\00:30:10.34
beyond that. - Oh,
that's a little later;
00:30:10.44\00:30:12.41
yes. - But at this
point, everything is
00:30:12.51\00:30:15.01
still pure. I use that
term. Everything is kosher;
00:30:15.08\00:30:18.38
everything is fine.
Okay. So, you get the phone
00:30:18.45\00:30:20.98
number- well
done. [laughter] And you
00:30:21.05\00:30:23.85
get the phone number
early. So, you're really
00:30:23.92\00:30:25.69
just thinking,
"This is someone I can
00:30:25.79\00:30:27.12
assist." Did
you know at the time
00:30:27.16\00:30:29.32
of initial
contact- had you connected
00:30:29.39\00:30:31.29
the dots? Is this someone about
00:30:31.39\00:30:32.76
whose family
you're already with? - I
00:30:32.83\00:30:34.43
already knew that,
so I was comfortable
00:30:34.50\00:30:35.93
with him as a
person because I knew the
00:30:36.00\00:30:38.33
family, I knew his
children, so I didn't
00:30:38.43\00:30:41.77
have any fear.
But 15 minutes later,
00:30:41.84\00:30:45.77
my phone rings and
it's a Texas number
00:30:45.87\00:30:48.11
and it's him.
I'll never forget when
00:30:48.21\00:30:51.25
he said, "Hello,"
there was something
00:30:51.31\00:30:52.65
about his voice
that I thought, "I love
00:30:52.71\00:30:55.52
this voice." That
kind of hit me right then
00:30:55.62\00:31:00.09
and it kind of- you
know. So, we had- was
00:31:00.16\00:31:03.96
it a 3 or
3-and-a-half hour phone call the
00:31:04.03\00:31:06.26
first time? -
And you're still in-
00:31:06.33\00:31:09.23
- I'm in Indiana;
he's in Texas. We're
00:31:09.30\00:31:13.64
conversing, we're
talking about health.
00:31:13.77\00:31:15.80
I told him, "You
know, no matter where
00:31:15.90\00:31:19.67
you are, God can
help you. With the
00:31:19.77\00:31:23.24
nutrition, you
just gotta know what
00:31:23.31\00:31:24.71
to do," so he was
telling me what he'd
00:31:24.78\00:31:26.48
been doing and
I'm saying, "You might
00:31:26.55\00:31:28.68
want to change this
or that." We talked.
00:31:28.75\00:31:30.69
It was late, and he
said, "I'm so sorry.
00:31:30.75\00:31:33.02
I never meant to
keep you that long." And I
00:31:33.15\00:31:34.82
said, "No, that's
okay." If I didn't
00:31:34.86\00:31:36.83
want to talk, I
would've said, "Hey,
00:31:36.89\00:31:38.73
I have to go."
So, the next day- we
00:31:38.83\00:31:41.96
hung up. The next
day, he sends me a
00:31:42.03\00:31:44.10
message on my
phone- a text-and said,
00:31:44.17\00:31:46.74
"Would it be okay
if I called you again?"
00:31:46.77\00:31:52.91
Well, then again,
I thought, "He's a
00:31:52.97\00:31:55.58
southern boy and
he has- he's askin' me
00:31:55.68\00:31:59.21
first!? This is
kind of nice," you know?
00:31:59.31\00:32:01.75
I said, "Well, sure."
So he called me again,
00:32:01.82\00:32:03.95
and it was another
3- hour conversation,
00:32:04.05\00:32:06.45
so I think the
next day when he called,
00:32:06.52\00:32:10.46
he said, "I
promise you it won't be
00:32:10.49\00:32:12.79
another marathon
phone call." And I said,
00:32:12.86\00:32:15.00
"You know, Rendall,
at this point, we KNOW
00:32:15.06\00:32:17.07
it's going to be
another marathon phone
00:32:17.13\00:32:18.77
call." I said,
"That's okay." - Now, at this
00:32:18.83\00:32:21.74
point, after two
days, 6+ hours, is it
00:32:21.80\00:32:24.61
still clinical for
you or is anything sort
00:32:24.67\00:32:27.08
of germinating in
your mind? - Actually,
00:32:27.14\00:32:29.21
after that first phone call, it
00:32:29.28\00:32:31.31
started germinating
in my mind, "Is this
00:32:31.35\00:32:33.31
the one, Lord?"
Everything that we
00:32:33.42\00:32:35.75
talked about, I could
tell I liked. And I think
00:32:35.78\00:32:38.65
it was either the
third or the fourth phone
00:32:38.75\00:32:41.02
call, he texted me
very early in the morning
00:32:41.09\00:32:44.06
and said, "Would you
like to have worship?"
00:32:44.13\00:32:45.99
- Ooh. You get
points for that. - Yeah.
00:32:46.06\00:32:49.06
- Praise the Lord.
- Yeah, he got really
00:32:49.16\00:32:50.77
good points for
that one. [laughter]
00:32:50.83\00:32:52.93
- Rendall, for you-
now wait. You had seen
00:32:53.00\00:32:56.30
her. You knew what
she looks like. - Just
00:32:56.40\00:32:58.34
on Facebook. - Had
you any idea of who
00:32:58.41\00:33:01.88
you were talking
to visually? - Just
00:33:01.98\00:33:03.68
on Facebook. -
Just Facebook. Okay,
00:33:03.75\00:33:05.51
so you kind of
knew what each other
00:33:05.58\00:33:08.42
looked like. So
now we're in Day 4 and
00:33:08.48\00:33:10.72
we're having worship
together. - Actually,
00:33:10.79\00:33:13.15
we're having worship
AND we're having it at
00:33:13.25\00:33:16.26
night. In the
morning, when we got up,
00:33:16.36\00:33:19.83
we had worship, and
then at night, before
00:33:19.93\00:33:22.20
we went to bed, we
had worship. - Now,
00:33:22.26\00:33:23.73
this became a fairly
regular pattern fairly
00:33:23.77\00:33:25.97
quickly. - Every
day, yes. - Other
00:33:26.07\00:33:28.30
than she were on
the road, traveling.
00:33:28.40\00:33:30.51
Then we still
did, because you'd be
00:33:30.61\00:33:33.11
driving and I
could have- I could read
00:33:33.21\00:33:34.94
and pray. - So, within the first
00:33:35.04\00:33:37.68
several phone calls,
the seeds of something
00:33:37.78\00:33:41.62
are being
planted. Yes or no? - Yes,
00:33:41.68\00:33:44.62
sir. - Yes. And where
I lived in Indiana was
00:33:44.69\00:33:48.76
with Brenda. you
know, her husband passed.
00:33:48.82\00:33:52.06
You know Miss Brenda.
I call her Miss Brenda,
00:33:52.13\00:33:54.03
but Chef Mark
Anthony's wife now. - Yeah.
00:33:54.10\00:33:56.36
- So I lived with
her for a long time
00:33:56.43\00:33:58.57
through my divorce
and with her, as well.
00:33:58.63\00:34:01.04
So, I have a room
in their house. Now,
00:34:01.10\00:34:04.04
I have my own room
there because I stayed
00:34:04.11\00:34:06.37
there for a long
time. I told her and Mark
00:34:06.47\00:34:10.11
both about a week
into our conversation
00:34:10.15\00:34:12.15
that I was
talking to a gentleman
00:34:12.21\00:34:14.02
from Texas and I
told them what he did,
00:34:14.12\00:34:16.08
and Mark says,
"Oh, Mr. Harmonica Man!"
00:34:16.15\00:34:18.39
So that's what they
call him! Mr. Harmonica
00:34:18.52\00:34:20.56
Man! So, I said,
"He wants to meet
00:34:20.62\00:34:23.59
me. I don't know
how I feel about that."
00:34:23.66\00:34:26.46
Well, Mark was
leaving to go out on seminars.
00:34:26.56\00:34:30.20
We had different
schedules. We would meet and
00:34:30.27\00:34:32.63
we would do our
filming, and he would leave;
00:34:32.73\00:34:37.71
go one direction,
I'd go in another;
00:34:37.77\00:34:39.34
poor Brenda was home alone a lot
00:34:39.41\00:34:40.81
of times unless
I was there. Mark
00:34:40.88\00:34:43.21
said, "Well, if
you really want to meet
00:34:43.28\00:34:45.51
this guy, why
don't you have him come
00:34:45.61\00:34:47.55
here before I leave,
'cause I'm going to be
00:34:47.65\00:34:50.29
leaving on Wednesday.
He can just stay here."
00:34:50.39\00:34:51.99
Because I told
Mark and Brenda both,
00:34:52.09\00:34:54.12
"I'm not going to
marry anybody that
00:34:54.16\00:34:57.36
God doesn't want
me to be with, and
00:34:57.43\00:34:58.89
I want you guys,"
because I knew they
00:34:58.96\00:35:00.93
were both praying
people. Brenda has a
00:35:01.00\00:35:02.96
prayer room in her
home where she meets
00:35:03.06\00:35:05.03
the Lord twice a
day, so I knew that I
00:35:05.10\00:35:08.57
could trust them
that God would help
00:35:08.64\00:35:10.54
them in that
choice, too. So I thought,
00:35:10.61\00:35:12.77
"This is great.
Somebody else can meet him
00:35:12.87\00:35:14.71
and give me their
feeling about it."
00:35:14.78\00:35:17.45
So that's when I
told him, I said, "If-"
00:35:17.48\00:35:21.35
and I had so many
fleeces. I kept throwing
00:35:21.45\00:35:24.49
something out at the
Lord. I wasn't trusting,
00:35:24.55\00:35:27.52
really, 'cause I
was still so afraid. So
00:35:27.56\00:35:30.36
what I did was I
said, "Okay. This
00:35:30.43\00:35:32.96
is what's going to
happen. If you want
00:35:33.03\00:35:34.83
to meet me, you
have to fly up here," but
00:35:34.86\00:35:37.73
it was on the
weekend at South Bend when
00:35:37.77\00:35:39.70
Notre Dame was playing New Years
00:35:39.77\00:35:42.67
weekend. He had
to get there. - Well,
00:35:42.74\00:35:45.77
he's lucky he can
get a flight. - Yeah.
00:35:45.87\00:35:47.84
And he has to go
stand by- his older
00:35:47.91\00:35:49.54
son's a pilot, so he
flies standby. I said,
00:35:49.61\00:35:53.18
"This is when you
have to come." So,
00:35:53.28\00:35:55.32
I'm going to let him
tell you what happened
00:35:55.38\00:35:57.62
when he went to
the airport the morning
00:35:57.69\00:35:59.99
he's come to meet
me. - Yeah, 'cause she's
00:36:00.09\00:36:02.46
giving you rules
and regulations. - These
00:36:02.52\00:36:04.39
are my fleeces.
I prayed about it.
00:36:04.49\00:36:06.23
- She should've been a
district attorney. Does
00:36:06.29\00:36:08.30
very well in
that area. - Uh-huh.
00:36:08.36\00:36:10.13
But obviously,
you had bit down just
00:36:10.17\00:36:12.23
enough so that you
were getting on that
00:36:12.30\00:36:14.77
plane. - Yes. -
If at all possible.
00:36:14.84\00:36:16.34
Okay, walk us
through that. - 3 o'clock in
00:36:16.40\00:36:17.97
the morning- I
had packed the night
00:36:18.04\00:36:19.37
before, excited;
this is anticipation. My
00:36:19.41\00:36:24.18
youngest son
takes me to the airport.
00:36:24.28\00:36:26.28
I get there 4 o'clock,
4:15. The plane leaves-
00:36:26.38\00:36:29.88
I think the first
one is 7. So I've got
00:36:29.95\00:36:33.46
all my baggage
checked; everything's good.
00:36:33.56\00:36:36.22
I go up to the
standby to go standby and
00:36:36.32\00:36:39.93
say, "How's this
flight look?" "Looks really
00:36:40.00\00:36:42.20
full." Missed it.
7 o'clock; missed it.
00:36:42.26\00:36:45.67
"When's the next
flight?" "Oh, 8 something."
00:36:45.77\00:36:48.90
So, I go up to
the counter prior to
00:36:49.00\00:36:52.17
8 o'clock and
say, "How's this flight
00:36:52.24\00:36:53.74
look?" "Looks
really full." Gone. Missed
00:36:53.81\00:36:57.11
it. 9 o'clock, another flight.
00:36:57.18\00:36:59.48
Missed it. I think
it was 10 o'clock, next
00:36:59.58\00:37:04.55
flight, no-go. - Oh
my goodness. - I call
00:37:04.65\00:37:07.22
Melody- - I was going to ask.
00:37:07.29\00:37:08.62
Are you giving her updates on-
00:37:08.66\00:37:09.99
- Yes! And this is
like, at 2 o'clock.
00:37:10.03\00:37:11.99
He calls me and
says, "I don't know what to
00:37:12.09\00:37:14.76
do. I don't think
I'm going to get on this
00:37:14.83\00:37:16.16
plane." - So
you've been in the airport
00:37:16.20\00:37:17.53
since 4 o'clock in
the morning. - Exactly.
00:37:17.57\00:37:18.93
- We're now 2
o'clock in the afternoon.
00:37:19.03\00:37:20.37
- Yeah. It's 2
o'clock in the afternoon, and
00:37:20.40\00:37:21.90
I knew if he
didn't come, he would be
00:37:22.00\00:37:25.14
a good friend
but that was it. That
00:37:25.21\00:37:26.68
was my fleece. He
had to get there. He
00:37:26.78\00:37:29.04
had to get to at
least Chicago was
00:37:29.14\00:37:30.48
what I said.
"Lord, if he can get to
00:37:30.51\00:37:32.45
Chicago, I can pick
him up, but he's got to
00:37:32.51\00:37:34.42
get there." So, I
said, "Rendall, where
00:37:34.48\00:37:36.99
you actually
at, have you gone to
00:37:37.05\00:37:38.42
another gate?" He
said, "No, this is
00:37:38.49\00:37:39.99
the only gate
going to Chicago." Well,
00:37:40.02\00:37:41.39
I was a travel agent
for 10 years. I said,
00:37:41.46\00:37:43.59
"No; their hub is
Dallas for American
00:37:43.66\00:37:46.80
and Chicago." I
said, "Go to another gate.
00:37:46.86\00:37:51.10
Try that." He
went to the next gate
00:37:51.13\00:37:53.97
and he asked the
woman, he said, "I know this
00:37:54.04\00:37:56.34
isn't your
problem, but I'm trying to
00:37:56.44\00:37:57.87
get out of here."
She said, "It looks
00:37:57.94\00:37:59.77
really full," and
he has to tell you what
00:37:59.81\00:38:02.91
he did, because...
- What she did, she
00:38:02.94\00:38:06.48
said, "Go out and
look at the marquee of
00:38:06.55\00:38:08.52
flights. See if
there's another gate with
00:38:08.62\00:38:10.29
another plane going
to Chicago." I looked
00:38:10.35\00:38:13.66
at the marquee and
there was one leaving
00:38:13.76\00:38:15.22
at 3:10. I look
at my watch and it's
00:38:15.29\00:38:18.16
3:06, 3:07. - Oh,
my soul. - I gotta run
00:38:18.23\00:38:20.80
down 3 or 4 gates,
huffin' and puffin'
00:38:20.86\00:38:22.76
to get there- a
little lady there
00:38:22.86\00:38:25.03
at the ticket
counter and I came up the
00:38:25.10\00:38:26.80
counter and said,
"Listen. I've been here
00:38:26.84\00:38:29.24
since about 4 or 5
this morning." I said,
00:38:29.30\00:38:34.68
"I'm trying to fly
standby." She says,
00:38:34.74\00:38:36.81
"Yeah, I have your
information." And I
00:38:36.88\00:38:38.91
said, "This isn't
your problem. I know
00:38:39.01\00:38:42.32
it's not your
problem, but I'd really like
00:38:42.38\00:38:43.72
to get on that
plane. How's it look?"
00:38:43.75\00:38:45.99
She said, "It really
looks full." So, probably
00:38:46.12\00:38:49.92
from where I'm
sitting to where you are plus
00:38:50.03\00:38:54.63
just a little bit
was the first section
00:38:54.73\00:38:56.70
of chairs. I sat
down in the chair and I
00:38:56.80\00:38:59.70
just went- I
said, "Lord, I'd really
00:38:59.77\00:39:03.47
like to be on this
plane. And if you'd
00:39:03.54\00:39:06.07
help me with-"
"Rendall Caviness."
00:39:06.14\00:39:07.94
Just at the
minute I said that, they
00:39:08.04\00:39:11.11
called me up to
get up on the plane
00:39:11.21\00:39:12.55
after everybody had
gotten on the plane.
00:39:12.58\00:39:14.38
- Did you know that
you're getting on that
00:39:14.48\00:39:17.42
plane was kind of
a do-or-die as far as
00:39:17.52\00:39:19.12
Melody was
concerned? - I wasn't sure, but
00:39:19.22\00:39:22.29
I felt like it was
a serious time to go.
00:39:22.39\00:39:24.63
I thought- I had
those inclinations that,
00:39:24.73\00:39:26.70
"Maybe this isn't
supposed to be," and
00:39:26.76\00:39:29.50
I prayed that to
the Lord. When I made
00:39:29.56\00:39:31.50
the prayer, I
said, "Lord, let Your
00:39:31.57\00:39:33.40
will be done. If You
want me on the plane,
00:39:33.50\00:39:35.94
if You want this to happen," and
00:39:36.00\00:39:38.21
that's when they
called my name. - Now, a
00:39:38.31\00:39:40.08
fleece is a
fleece. Were you prepared,
00:39:40.18\00:39:42.04
really, to cut
and leave, had he not
00:39:42.14\00:39:45.51
gotten on that
plane? - I hope so. I was
00:39:45.61\00:39:49.28
scared enough, I
think I would have, really.
00:39:49.35\00:39:51.25
I was terrified.
As excited as I was,
00:39:51.35\00:39:55.32
because I felt
like there was so much
00:39:55.42\00:39:57.79
about him I
already liked, I could not
00:39:57.83\00:40:00.73
imagine not
talking to him again. So,
00:40:00.76\00:40:03.50
I was really hoping
he got on that plane,
00:40:03.57\00:40:06.13
but I also said,
"Lord, it's up to you." And
00:40:06.23\00:40:10.27
then I had
another worry because I
00:40:10.37\00:40:11.71
thought, "What if
he gets here and I
00:40:11.77\00:40:13.11
DON'T like him?
What if there's something
00:40:13.17\00:40:14.51
about him he
doesn't want me- or what
00:40:14.54\00:40:16.44
if he doesn't like
ME?" You know? We've never
00:40:16.51\00:40:18.61
really met in
person, so I also prayed
00:40:18.68\00:40:20.92
that, "Lord, do
not let him like me in
00:40:21.02\00:40:24.92
the way to be a
husband," 'cause I had already
00:40:25.02\00:40:27.12
told him; I said,
"I have no interest
00:40:27.19\00:40:28.52
in dating. None."
I said, "If you're
00:40:28.56\00:40:31.99
the right person,
you're the right person.
00:40:32.06\00:40:34.13
If you're not, then that's-
00:40:34.23\00:40:35.56
- So you're not going to do this
00:40:35.60\00:40:36.93
protracted 2 or
3-year kind of thing, "Hey,
00:40:36.97\00:40:38.30
how you doin'?
Here's a Christmas present,"
00:40:38.33\00:40:39.67
kind of stuff. -
Not 73 and 60 somethin'.
00:40:39.70\00:40:41.27
Hello! - We're old
folk. We don't have
00:40:41.34\00:40:43.67
that kind of time.
- We don't have time
00:40:43.74\00:40:45.17
to waste. We're
dragging caskets!
00:40:45.24\00:40:47.51
[laughter] No! And
I'm thinking, I just
00:40:47.61\00:40:52.88
felt like that he was
going to tell me that,
00:40:52.95\00:40:54.78
and I prayed,
"Don't let him fall in love
00:40:54.82\00:40:56.42
with me. I don't
want to hurt this
00:40:56.45\00:40:58.62
man. And please
don't let me fall
00:40:58.69\00:41:01.06
in him. I don't want to be hurt,
00:41:01.12\00:41:02.62
either." I
thought, "Neither one of us
00:41:02.66\00:41:04.69
need this, Lord.
This is not what we're
00:41:04.79\00:41:06.43
wanting." - So, you
were getting indications
00:41:06.49\00:41:08.33
that he was invested.
- I could tell. I thought
00:41:08.40\00:41:11.10
he liked me a whole
lot more than I liked
00:41:11.17\00:41:12.77
him, because honestly,
I was guarding my heart.
00:41:12.87\00:41:17.67
I was literally
guarding my heart. So,
00:41:17.77\00:41:20.14
he got in. It was a
wonderful time. I still
00:41:20.21\00:41:23.35
had, really, no
feeling. I really liked him.
00:41:23.45\00:41:26.21
Mark and Brenda
fell in love with him and
00:41:26.31\00:41:28.52
Mark's like, "You
know, you could search a
00:41:28.58\00:41:30.35
world over and
probably find another guy as
00:41:30.39\00:41:32.39
good as him, but
it's going to take a
00:41:32.45\00:41:33.79
long time.
That's a good man." And
00:41:33.82\00:41:36.19
Brenda's like, "I
just love Mr. Harmonica
00:41:36.26\00:41:37.93
Man!" You know?
So they- that was
00:41:38.06\00:41:40.83
fulfilled, and
here I still am, and he
00:41:40.90\00:41:43.77
left, went back home, and the
00:41:43.87\00:41:46.27
next day, I asked him;
I said, "How do you feel?"
00:41:46.33\00:41:48.77
He told me that
very next day; he said,
00:41:48.87\00:41:50.77
"I'm in love with
you." - Ooh. Harmonica man.
00:41:50.87\00:41:55.48
[CA laughs] - I said,
"Are you sure, Rendall?"
00:41:55.58\00:41:59.71
And he said, "Yes."
I said, "Are you sure?"
00:41:59.81\00:42:01.78
I must've asked
him that 3 times and I
00:42:01.88\00:42:04.45
went up into my
room that afternoon and I
00:42:04.52\00:42:06.29
said, "Lord, if
there's someone or somebody
00:42:06.35\00:42:08.12
in my heart-something
that's causing me to
00:42:08.19\00:42:11.26
not have these
feelings that you should have
00:42:11.33\00:42:13.13
for a husband-." I
said, "Would you please
00:42:13.19\00:42:15.10
release me from
that?" - So the wall is still
00:42:15.16\00:42:17.63
up. You know how he
feels, you know he's
00:42:17.70\00:42:19.87
invested, but for
you, it just ain't
00:42:19.93\00:42:21.44
there yet. - It's
not there yet, and I got
00:42:21.50\00:42:23.51
through praying
that prayer. When I stood
00:42:23.54\00:42:26.17
up and sat down on
my chair, it was almost
00:42:26.24\00:42:29.01
like my heart
just melted for this
00:42:29.08\00:42:31.95
man! Like I could not
imagine another minute
00:42:32.01\00:42:35.52
of my life
without him. That quick!
00:42:35.58\00:42:38.19
It took me saying,
"Lord, break down this
00:42:38.25\00:42:40.82
wall. Break down
this hardness that I have
00:42:40.89\00:42:42.82
now." I flew out
to his house about 10
00:42:42.89\00:42:47.23
days later, met his
family, and from the
00:42:47.33\00:42:51.37
day he called me,
CA, we were married
00:42:51.43\00:42:54.10
two months
later. - Wow. - Now, I
00:42:54.17\00:42:56.14
don't- - We don't recommend
00:42:56.20\00:42:57.67
that for
everyone. - But this was a
00:42:57.74\00:43:00.44
relationship that
God had chosen and
00:43:00.51\00:43:03.75
far-exceeded my
prayer, and that's
00:43:03.85\00:43:06.18
why we have to be
so careful when we
00:43:06.21\00:43:07.55
pray, that we're not
praying enough. We're
00:43:07.58\00:43:10.39
not asking boldly-
you know, I think it
00:43:10.45\00:43:12.49
was Molly who said,
"If you're going to be
00:43:12.59\00:43:14.06
a bear, be a
grizzly." Well, let's be a
00:43:14.12\00:43:16.56
grizzly! I should've
said, "Lord, I want to
00:43:16.62\00:43:19.29
a help mate to be
with me in ministry."
00:43:19.36\00:43:21.66
From that- right
after we married,
00:43:22.93\00:43:25.23
I had obligations
in Florida that were
00:43:25.33\00:43:27.37
without him, and
when my lanta found out
00:43:27.44\00:43:30.91
that I was
married- just a newly-wed-
00:43:30.97\00:43:32.74
they're like, "You
need to get him here!"
00:43:32.81\00:43:34.28
He flew in that
next morning and we've
00:43:34.34\00:43:36.68
never been apart
in ministry, and it
00:43:36.75\00:43:40.02
is such a blessing
to have a ministry where
00:43:40.05\00:43:43.39
both people, their
goals are the same.
00:43:43.42\00:43:45.79
- Praise the
Lord. Praise the Lord.
00:43:45.85\00:43:47.19
I am so happy to hear that.
00:43:47.22\00:43:48.56
Now, my time is getting
away from me. I want you to run
00:43:48.59\00:43:50.13
me through the story
of the truck, because
00:43:50.23\00:43:53.70
it has to do with
commission. There's
00:43:53.80\00:43:56.00
a bunch of things
sort of tied in there,
00:43:56.06\00:43:57.97
sort of tie a little bow
on that for us, if you will.
00:43:58.03\00:44:00.24
- Well, I'm a-
people don't know me. I'm
00:44:00.30\00:44:02.50
a very
strong-willed person. I'd been
00:44:02.57\00:44:05.54
single for a
little over 5 years, so
00:44:05.64\00:44:07.84
all the decisions
were up to me to make.
00:44:07.91\00:44:10.25
A lot, even in my
relationship prior,
00:44:10.31\00:44:13.62
where I had to
make decisions based
00:44:13.68\00:44:16.99
financially, a
lot, on myself. So, we
00:44:17.09\00:44:22.52
had purchased a
new SUV. It was not
00:44:22.56\00:44:24.69
brand new, but
we purchased a new
00:44:24.76\00:44:26.26
one because
mine had over 300,000
00:44:26.33\00:44:28.30
miles on it at
that time. God had been
00:44:28.36\00:44:31.00
instrumental in
keeping that alive. Then, we
00:44:31.07\00:44:34.14
went and bought
another Toyota like my old
00:44:34.24\00:44:36.37
one. About a year,
year and a half in it,
00:44:36.44\00:44:39.11
Rendall's like,
"I don't like this
00:44:39.21\00:44:41.14
vehicle. It's
hard to load. Gettin'
00:44:41.21\00:44:43.65
everything out,
it's uncomfortable. I
00:44:43.75\00:44:46.51
think we need a
truck." Well, the first thing
00:44:46.61\00:44:48.25
that comes to my
mind is, "Ope, I married
00:44:48.32\00:44:49.98
a Texan. Everybody
in Texas thinks they
00:44:50.05\00:44:51.95
have to have a
pickup truck." And I'm like,
00:44:52.02\00:44:54.06
"Lord-" no. I
said, "Rendall, we're
00:44:54.09\00:44:56.59
not getting a pickup
truck." I'm just thinking,
00:44:56.66\00:44:58.46
"We're not getting
a truck; no way. End
00:44:58.53\00:45:00.43
of story-we're not
getting it." I laid in
00:45:00.50\00:45:03.16
bed, about a
night or two after that.
00:45:03.23\00:45:05.83
It's like the Lord
woke me up and said, "I
00:45:05.90\00:45:07.97
thought you prayed
for a priest? at the
00:45:08.07\00:45:09.90
home." - All
right. - I'm like, "Well,
00:45:10.01\00:45:12.77
Lord, I did."
It's like, "Well, that
00:45:12.84\00:45:14.71
wouldn't be you."
[CA laughs] "If your
00:45:14.78\00:45:19.51
husband is the
praying man that you asked
00:45:19.58\00:45:21.85
and he's following
God, then who are YOU to
00:45:21.95\00:45:25.75
make a decision
based on what vehicle you
00:45:25.85\00:45:27.66
need?" Well, I
tell you what. Sleeping
00:45:27.72\00:45:32.56
wasn't real good
that night, and we were
00:45:32.63\00:45:34.23
on our way to Pennsylvania for a
00:45:34.30\00:45:36.46
seminar. I
remember looking over at him
00:45:36.53\00:45:39.50
and I said,
"Rendall, if you really think
00:45:39.53\00:45:41.57
a truck is what
we need and we need
00:45:41.64\00:45:44.27
to invest in a
different type of vehicle, I'm
00:45:44.34\00:45:46.91
going to leave that
up to you if you promise
00:45:46.98\00:45:48.88
to pray about it." I
said, "That's between
00:45:48.94\00:45:51.48
you and the Lord, and
I need to submit to that
00:45:51.55\00:45:53.55
for whatever it
is that God's placed
00:45:53.62\00:45:55.68
upon your heart." -
Yeah. Because he had
00:45:55.72\00:45:57.59
fallen into your ministry. He's
00:45:57.65\00:46:00.12
working with you
now and you're working
00:46:00.16\00:46:01.49
together. - He is;
full-time. - It has
00:46:01.52\00:46:02.86
become a joint
ministry. So, he's making a
00:46:02.89\00:46:05.19
decision as to what
he sees, and of course
00:46:05.26\00:46:08.90
you do your work, too,
but the loader, unloader,
00:46:08.96\00:46:10.83
packer, unpacker- he's
the guy. - He's the guy.
00:46:10.90\00:46:13.44
- And so he sees
something. Walk us
00:46:13.50\00:46:15.87
through the next-
'cause this is kind of
00:46:15.94\00:46:17.34
a cute story. I
really like this. - Well,
00:46:17.44\00:46:19.21
he, through friends
of ours-like, family
00:46:19.27\00:46:22.08
friends-he has a
friend of his, Ernie, who's
00:46:22.14\00:46:25.68
like a brother (whose
son worked for Nissan).
00:46:25.78\00:46:27.85
So he calls him and
he's like, "Hey, you
00:46:27.92\00:46:30.29
have anything?" and
we're talking, and of course,
00:46:30.35\00:46:33.25
he gets off the
phone talking to him, and
00:46:33.36\00:46:35.02
I'm like, "We're not
going over this amount."
00:46:35.09\00:46:36.83
My will is still
there. He's like, "Okay,
00:46:36.93\00:46:39.73
honey," 'cause
he's never harsh. Ever.
00:46:39.79\00:46:41.96
He calls back and
he's like, "Okay. I have
00:46:43.47\00:46:46.63
something here I
think is perfect for you."
00:46:46.70\00:46:48.70
Then I think I said
to you, "This has to
00:46:48.74\00:46:51.47
be the payments.
It can't be over this
00:46:51.54\00:46:53.41
amount." You
know? Because I have a
00:46:53.44\00:46:55.84
mindset to make
sure that there's enough
00:46:55.91\00:46:57.55
money in your
ministry- especially our kind of
00:46:57.58\00:47:00.25
ministry. We're a
faith-based ministry.
00:47:00.32\00:47:02.58
- And you travel
the road a lot. - A lot.
00:47:02.65\00:47:05.35
- And so at that
point, I left it to him. I
00:47:05.39\00:47:08.66
backed out of it;
it was up to Rendall.
00:47:08.79\00:47:10.86
Now, we're in Ohio
at this time, and the
00:47:10.93\00:47:14.23
person he's talking
to is back in Texas.
00:47:14.30\00:47:16.60
In order for the
deal to be done, we have
00:47:16.63\00:47:20.24
to drive our SUV
back there and it
00:47:20.30\00:47:22.47
cannot be over the
mileage that it needs
00:47:22.54\00:47:24.71
to be in order
to make the deal. So
00:47:24.77\00:47:26.78
now it falls in
his lap because when
00:47:26.84\00:47:28.51
he left the house
that morning, we drove
00:47:28.58\00:47:29.98
back. One day-
drove all the way back
00:47:30.11\00:47:32.55
to Texas. I
thought, "If we don't get
00:47:32.61\00:47:34.82
a new vehicle,
at least I'm home at
00:47:34.88\00:47:36.22
my own washer
and dryer to get some
00:47:36.25\00:47:37.59
laundry done."
So off he takes to
00:47:37.62\00:47:40.62
the dealership the
next morning. - And?
00:47:40.69\00:47:43.02
Meanwhile, at the
dealership? - Well,
00:47:43.09\00:47:45.23
we go to the
dealership, I keep making phone
00:47:45.29\00:47:46.83
calls to Mel and I
say, "Hey, it just keeps
00:47:46.86\00:47:49.23
getting better." We
were supposed to come
00:47:49.30\00:47:51.10
in with some funds in
the way of a down payment
00:47:51.13\00:47:53.60
that negated that.
They said, "No, you
00:47:53.64\00:47:56.20
don't need to
pay anything down."
00:47:56.24\00:47:57.57
They said, "You're
not going to get the 3
00:47:57.61\00:48:00.08
or 4% interest."
I said, "Why not?"
00:48:00.14\00:48:02.14
"'Cause you're going
to get 0.99." So I said,
00:48:02.24\00:48:05.31
"That's better."
- Praise the Lord.
00:48:05.41\00:48:06.85
- He's calling me each
time. - And I keep making
00:48:06.95\00:48:08.28
these phone calls,
and she says, "Well, why
00:48:08.35\00:48:09.72
don't they just
give it to us?" [laughs]
00:48:09.78\00:48:11.69
- Well, then,
they come in and they
00:48:11.72\00:48:13.05
said, "We're going to
give you 100,000 miles
00:48:13.09\00:48:15.26
no maintenance.
We're going to warrant
00:48:15.29\00:48:17.86
the car up to
100,000 miles." Then they-
00:48:17.93\00:48:20.53
he calls me again
and says, "Guess what?
00:48:20.60\00:48:22.53
They're going to
do all of our oil
00:48:22.63\00:48:23.97
changes free for a whole year!"
00:48:24.00\00:48:26.07
I said, "Are you
serious, Rendall?"
00:48:26.13\00:48:28.14
And he said, "Yeah!"
Then he calls me back
00:48:28.17\00:48:30.37
a little bit later,
and I'm thinking, "I
00:48:30.41\00:48:32.34
wish he'd just
get through with this
00:48:32.41\00:48:33.74
deal!" He keeps
calling me on the phone and
00:48:33.78\00:48:35.11
I'm getting stuff
ready. He said, "Oh, by the
00:48:35.18\00:48:37.58
way, we don't
have to make a payment
00:48:37.65\00:48:38.98
for 3 months!"
And that's when I told
00:48:39.01\00:48:41.78
him; I said,
"Baby, they might as well
00:48:41.85\00:48:43.35
just give it to us!"
And I'll never forget
00:48:43.45\00:48:46.39
him pulling in
the driveway in this
00:48:46.45\00:48:48.32
beautiful black
truck. You've seen it.
00:48:48.36\00:48:51.13
- It's a
good-looking truck. - And I'm
00:48:51.19\00:48:53.29
thinking, Lord, we
don't deserve this. This
00:48:53.36\00:48:56.06
is far better than
we deserve. I walked
00:48:56.13\00:48:58.13
outside and I looked
at it. We went around
00:48:58.17\00:49:00.34
the front of that
car, and we dedicated
00:49:00.37\00:49:02.60
that vehicle to the
Lord." - Praise the Lord.
00:49:02.70\00:49:05.61
- Mileage. 21
miles to the gallon at
00:49:05.67\00:49:10.38
highway speed. It's
pretty amazing. - Yeah.
00:49:10.45\00:49:13.35
I remember you, during
spring camp meeting, were
00:49:13.42\00:49:16.62
staying in the
apartment next to us, and I
00:49:16.69\00:49:18.62
pulled up one day
and I said, "Irma,
00:49:18.65\00:49:20.16
look at that truck!
Whose truck is that!?"
00:49:20.22\00:49:24.43
- Yeah; and this
is another thing! God
00:49:24.49\00:49:26.09
used my children who
have extra funds, and
00:49:26.19\00:49:28.96
we were there. We
brought it back. My
00:49:29.06\00:49:30.80
son loved it. He
made an appointment for
00:49:30.87\00:49:32.87
the people in Mt. Vernon
to have a whole bed liner
00:49:32.93\00:49:36.07
sprayed in there
for us, free of charge!
00:49:36.10\00:49:38.61
- Amen. - No charge
to us. $300 or $500.
00:49:38.71\00:49:42.04
Then, he said, "We
need a tonneau cover,"
00:49:42.14\00:49:45.31
found one; they
installed it FREE of charge.
00:49:45.38\00:49:48.68
- To whether
proof, because you're
00:49:48.78\00:49:50.75
carrying food
equipment. - You know, it's
00:49:50.82\00:49:53.05
funny. I don't know
if we're going to have
00:49:53.15\00:49:54.52
time. I'm going
to do something right
00:49:54.59\00:49:55.92
now. Let's go to
your second song, and
00:49:55.99\00:49:57.73
then whatever time
we have left, because
00:49:57.79\00:49:59.13
if you're a truck
person or a ministry
00:49:59.23\00:50:01.46
person, these
little hugs from God are
00:50:01.56\00:50:04.83
crucially important
to the success of your
00:50:04.87\00:50:06.87
ministry. To knock
down percentage rate,
00:50:06.94\00:50:08.60
to get this done
for free. You need
00:50:08.67\00:50:10.44
a bed liner so
you're not beating your
00:50:10.51\00:50:11.84
truck up. You're
taking stuff in and out.
00:50:11.87\00:50:13.21
All of this,
blessings from the Lord. Having
00:50:13.27\00:50:15.38
said that, let's
go to your second
00:50:15.44\00:50:16.78
song, then we'll
kind of use that time
00:50:16.81\00:50:18.15
we have left to
sort of wrap a little
00:50:18.18\00:50:19.68
bow on it. The next
song you're going to
00:50:19.71\00:50:21.92
be doing is "Where the
Spirit Is," and I think
00:50:21.98\00:50:24.55
you'll enjoy this.
00:50:24.62\00:50:25.95