I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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I want to spend my life
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Removing pain
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Lord, let my words
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Heal a heart that hurts
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I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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Hello, I'm Shelley Quinn
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and we welcome you
once again to 3ABN Today,
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we're so glad
that you've tuned in.
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And I do want to say upfront,
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today we will be
introducing a new program
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and we will be
talking about purity,
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sexual purity, if you will.
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One thing that we
know is that God's standard
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is celibacy before marriage
and monogamy after marriage.
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If you feel your child
may be a little too young
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for this discussion
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then, we believe
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it's going to be
tame and biblical,
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but if you do not want your
younger children to hear this,
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you may want to take
them out of the room.
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Today, I have to go
ahead before I do anything else
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and introduce our guests.
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And our guests are,
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we have Jennifer Jill Schwirzer,
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excuse me.
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Jen, you are an author.
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I think God has
given you an amazing gift,
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in the way, in which
you express yourself.
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Thank you.
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You are beautiful
soul and a strong Christian
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and I love, every time
you post or write anything,
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I love to read
what you've written.
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God's given you great insight.
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But you're also a
musician, you have some CDs out.
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But you are a licensed
professional counselor.
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And I think most
people are, one of our,
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the favorite programs on 3ABN
is a Multitude of Counselors
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which you have been
hosting for couple of seasons.
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We just want to thank you
for all you do for the Lord.
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Praise God.
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It's great to be here
and I enjoy my time at 3ABN.
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So I'm glad to be here.
Yeah. Thank you so much...
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for everything you do.
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Then we also have
with us, Jason Bradley,
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and he is Dare to Dream's
assistant to the president.
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Is that correct? To
the general manager.
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To the general manager.
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Well, okay, we'll make her pres.
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But... It sounds good.
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Tell us who the
general manager is.
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That is a woman
that I have known
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for roughly 32 years now.
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Coming up on 32 years, my mom.
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And Dr. Yvonne
Lewis-Shelton, I believe,
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it is so amazing to see
how God took a little seed
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and when, boy,
when your mom arrived,
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that thing, the
trajectory of Dare to Dream
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has been incredible.
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If you haven't watched it,
you want to see Dare to Dream.
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I want to read a
scripture to you,
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then we're going to go to a song
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because once, I
don't want to get started
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and then break this up.
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But let me read to
you, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20.
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Paul is writing to
the Corinthian church,
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where there was quiet a bit,
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it was a very
problematic church,
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they were coming out
of a pagan background
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where they had
temple prostitution,
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there were some bad
things going on in Corinth.
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So he is writing to this church,
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and here's what his
advice is in his instructions.
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In 1 Corinthians 6:18-20.
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"Flee sexual immorality.
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Every sin that a man
does is outside the body,
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but he who
commits sexual immorality
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sins against his own body.
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Or do you not know
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that your body is the
temple of the Holy Spirit
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who is in you,
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whom you have from God,
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and you are not your own?
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For you were bought at a price.
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Therefore
glorify God in your body
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and in your
spirit, which are God's."
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If you are not a
Christian and you're tuning in,
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the price that we
were purchased with
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is the precious life
blood of Jesus Christ,
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the son of God.
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And that gives you great value.
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You're worth nothing less
than the price that He paid.
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So we want you to
stay tuned to hear
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about this exciting new program.
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It's gonna be
groundbreaking really.
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But stay tuned to
hear about Intimate Clarity
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and we will also be talking
about God's ideal standard
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and it is to give us
the greatest pleasure.
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It is what God designed for us.
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But first, we've
got our own president
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and founder of 3ABN
who will be singing for us,
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this is Danny Shelton
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and this is the
song that he wrote,
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and it's called "All my praise".
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All my praise
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I give you all my praise
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That's all I have
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To offer you
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I now build a sanctuary
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Deep within my heart
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And all my praise
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I offer up to you
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I love you Lord
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O, how I love you Lord
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I bear my heart
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And soul to you
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I am an empty broken vessel
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Filled with hurt and pain inside
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Still I offer up
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All my praise to you
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Fill me, Lord
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O, please fill me Lord
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With your Holy Spirit
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Fill me now
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Before I long for your anointing
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That I may work for you
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Fill me Lord
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Touch me Lord just now
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All my praise
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I give you all my praise
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That's all I have
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To offer you
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I now build a sanctuary
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So deep within my heart
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All my praise
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I offer up to you
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All and all my praise
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I offer up to you
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Oh, thank you, Danny.
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I love to hear Danny sing
because he's a music minister.
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He always
ministers to me in a song.
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Well, if you
are just joining us,
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our special guests today
are Jennifer Jill Schwirzer
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and Jason Bradley
and we're very excited.
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These two are
co-host for a new program
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that will be launching in July,
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and that program is
called Intimate Clarity.
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Now, let me say
this, Intimate Clarity
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as I mentioned earlier,
is a ground breaking series.
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We will be
touching on some topics,
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we really not, Bible topics,
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but we'll be touching on topics
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that we have
not discussed before
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and let me tell you why.
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If we don't understand
the biblical perspective,
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if we don't teach our children
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the biblical
perspective on sexuality,
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the world will.
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In fact, they have
stolen the narrative because
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there has been many generations
that had been long silent
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and children are
growing up, they're curious,
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they're confused about sex,
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but what happens
is in the vacuum,
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the world comes in
with its deviant behavior.
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I want to share a story with you
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and I wanted to
share this directly
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with the people at home
because this is something
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that really
made an impact on me.
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When we were in
Houston, we were at a church,
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this was before I
became an Adventist
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and it was a
nondenominational church,
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and I went to
the pastor and said,
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"We really need to
do a program to teach
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the benefits of virginity.
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Why does God even
ask us to remain chaste,
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and teach this to our youth?"
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He said, "Go for it."
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So we began this
program and I'll never forget,
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as I am instructing
and I got to Malachi 2:15,
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that I was
talking, which says that
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one of the reasons God
made us, one man or one,
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the male and female as one,
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is because He
wanted godly offspring.
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And as I was explaining that,
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there was a
little 12 year old girl,
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who just broke down sobbing
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and she started
toward the back of the room,
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then she began running
and I ran out after her.
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And I was talking with her,
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her parents
were regular members,
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strong Christian
family, sweet little child.
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And you know what?
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As I began to calm
her down and talk to her,
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what she said to me,
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"I didn't know,
I didn't know it,
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I've already
become sexually active
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and I didn't know that I
was supposed to be a virgin."
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Wow! And you are saying,
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child of God.
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Is that not powerful?
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And so I prayed
with her, I explained,
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God, we can confess this,
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He will cleanse
you of all unrighteous,
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He can make you a
spiritual virgin once again.
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But once you
had that experience,
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there is a certain...
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I mean, you can't go
back physically, can you?
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So let's just explain
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a little about Intimate Clarity.
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Now this is a program,
we have a tagline for it.
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Intimate Clarity will
be a program that we say,
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it's a tough topic,
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but it's a
conversation we need to have.
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Absolutely!
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And it is not age appropriate
for younger children,
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so we do have a
disclaimer on this program,
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but it is
something that even I know
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that I learned some things
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as we've been going
through this from you.
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Me too. Me too.
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So tell us first, let's
just kind of set up the program,
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what the format is
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and let's talk about
the content, just a little.
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Can I start with the thought
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that follows the
thought that you just...
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Oh, absolutely.
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So I just want to say that
there is kind of two extremes,
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one extreme is too much
information for kids too young.
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And I think a lot of
conservative Christians
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are coming from that place.
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They see how the world
just over exposes kids.
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I, as a counselor,
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if I hear that a
parent is letting a child view
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R rated content, I
will call that parent out
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and say, "You know,
that's a form of abuse
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to put that in
front of your child."
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So too much
information is an issue,
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but there is another extreme
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and that's not
enough information
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and we're because
for mostly ministering
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to a conservative
Christian audience,
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we affirm that the
too much information
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approach is a problem,
but we also want to say,
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not enough information
is a problem as well.
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And we want to equip parents
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to be able to
instruct their children.
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So I just want
to make that point.
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Absolutely. And
let's talk about...
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I want to show you
a picture of the set
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because we're really
excited about this new set.
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It is bright and it's
airy and we did this on purpose
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because with a lot of light
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because God created us
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in such a way
that He created us,
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He is the author of
marriage and He created us with,
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we'll talk about brain chemistry
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in just a moment.
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But He created us to enjoy
a intimate physical bonding,
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a sexual intimacy in
the context of marriage.
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Of a relationship,
bonded, lasting relationship.
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Of this bonded relationship
that would bring us much joy.
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As a matter of fact, you
know, that the word Eden,
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Garden of Eden actually
in the Hebrew means pleasure,
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the garden of pleasure.
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Wow! No, I didn't
know that. Yeah, yeah.
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That's pretty
radical right there.
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It is when you think about it.
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And He created
marriage there. Yeah.
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But so we don't
want to you know,
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sometimes I was talking
with a lot of younger people
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and I say, younger
in 25 to 35 year range,
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and I was shocked
when they were up,
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when I ask,
"How did your parents
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discuss this with you?"
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They never told me anything.
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And a lot of people said,
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they've learned
everything that they knew
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from the world's deviant
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twisted distorted picture of it.
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Some came away with the idea...
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Tragic, yeah. It's a dirty act.
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And that's tragic as well.
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You know, I solve that problem
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in a really
straight forward way.
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I learned sex
education in the wrong way.
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Well, not totally the wrong way,
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but through public school
and I remember sitting there,
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listening and getting
overwhelmed with the content
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'cause it wasn't
put in any kind of
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moral or spiritual context.
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I remember they
started talking about abortion
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and I got so overwhelmed
and viscerally I got sick,
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basically I was 16 years old,
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I ended up with my
head on my mom's lap.
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So I went through that and
then as a Christian parent now,
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Bible believing,
a follower of Jesus,
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thought about raising
my own kids and I thought,
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well, I don't know
quite how to do this,
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but I am just gonna
read them the Bible stories
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or tell them
every single Bible story
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all the way through the Bible.
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So I started with Genesis
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and went
straight through the Bible
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and just kind of
read the stories myself
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and then
paraphrase them for my kids.
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But isn't the Bible
a Victorian, doctor?
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No, the Bible is
not Victorian at all.
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It gives you
stories in the Bible.
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But the difference
between those things
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put in the context of
the biblical narrative
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and what we see in the world
is that the world glorifies sin.
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It says, look at
this wonderful thing
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and there is no consequences,
it basically lies to children
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and to adults about
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whether these things
have consequences or not.
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And in the biblical narrative,
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you see the
consequences right there.
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Amen.
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And you see the sadness
and the tragedy that accompany
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going outside of God's plan.
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So I would just read
the stories to my kids,
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tell the stories to my kids
and they would ask me questions
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like, "Mom, what's a harlot?"
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And I give them an
age appropriate answer,
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not too much information,
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but enough to
where they understood
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essentially what that
was, that's how I taught them
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about sexuality in the
context of biblical narrative.
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You know what, as a
person without kids,
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I don't have kids,
but and I'm not married,
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but, you know,
when I do get married
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and if God does
bless me with children,
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I am gonna have
that talk with them
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because as a parent, you know,
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you have that responsibility.
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You know, the Bible
says, "Train up a child
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the way he should
go, and when he grows old
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he won't depart from it."
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Train up a child...
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That includes
teaching them about sex
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and sexual immortality
and God's plan for sex
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within the confines of marriage
between a man and a woman.
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And so that, you
have that responsibility
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placed on you to
educate your child
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and with the world being
as vocal as the world is,
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you know, they're
distorting the image,
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perverting the image
of sex and glorifying,
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like you said,
sexual immortality.
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And also, you know,
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on this
different television shows
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and stuff like that,
they're giving false,
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if you were like building,
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predicating your
marriage on false pretenses.
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Yes. That's right.
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And what I mean by
that is straight physical
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or sexual in nature,
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when there has to
be more to a marriage
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for it to be
sustainable, you know.
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You guys need to be
looking towards Christ,
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growing towards Christ,
it's like a triangle, you know,
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you both grow closer to
Christ and then you end up
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closer together
as a result of it.
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You know, the
message the world put across,
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it's very most tame
is follow your heart
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as regards
romantic relationships.
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It gets worst than that,
but that's, it's most tame.
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And really, the biblical message
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is follow God's heart.
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Amen.
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Because we
follow our own hearts,
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they're gonna lead us astray
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'cause the heart is
deceitful above all things,
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desperately
wicked, who can know it.
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But if you
follow the heart of God,
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He will meet our emotional needs
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and that's the thing
is that biblical approach
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to morality is often
been conveyed as restrictive
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and narrow and God
is really a pleasure,
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you know, against
pleasure in some strange way.
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Really what God wants us is,
add His right hand or pleasures
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for ever more.
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In other words,
lasting pleasure,
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God wants you not
to have less pleasure,
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but more pleasure.
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So often,
Christians are at fault
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for presenting
sexuality in such a way
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that it's so restrictive,
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rather than opening up
the beauty of God's plan.
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You know, and I want to get
into the brain chemistry here,
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but I have to say because
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I so appreciate the way in which
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my mother reared me similar to
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what yours was or
what your approach was.
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But, what she
told me from the time
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as a little-bitty girl was,
if you hear anything in school,
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if the kids are talking
about sex, which they do...
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That's right. Even
in Christian schools.
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Oh, yeah. That's right.
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Don't think that they
don't. They talk to me about it.
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That she would
say, "Honey, kids,
00:20:17.78\00:20:20.38
a lot of times get things wrong,
00:20:20.42\00:20:22.02
so you come and ask me,
and mama will explain it to you
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and tell you what's right."
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She never made me
feel bad about any question
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that I asked her.
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That's great.
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You know, it's
interesting because sometimes
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I'll ask her a
question which you would think
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would lead to the
next one, she would,
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and she told me later,
she said, "Your Dad says,
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not be prepared for
ups what's following."
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But it was like, "Oh, okay."
00:20:43.41\00:20:45.21
She satisfied my curiosity,
now I understand what,
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you know, these
kids had it wrong.
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Kids are naturally
curious and confused.
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I have never really understood
why parents feel so awkward
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when their kids
ask those questions.
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It sounds like your
mom was just like ready
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for whatever came,
that's kind of how I was.
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This is not something to
be ashamed of, it's not dirty,
00:21:03.93\00:21:07.00
it's not unmentionable
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or the Bible
wouldn't mention it.
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As much as it does. Exactly.
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So I just figured
God doesn't want me
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to be embarrassed or
ashamed of this thing
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and He doesn't want me to
be afraid to talk to those
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that need my guidance
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and influence
about it, my children.
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Okay, so let's just
jump to this one point first.
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I want to establish
this as the beginning.
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When God created
man, male and female,
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He created them and He saw
that it was good, very good.
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He instituted marriage
in the Garden of pleasure,
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the Garden of Eden.
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Amen. He instituted marriage.
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And he obviously
created in such a way
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that there would be
some great bonding enjoyment.
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That's right.
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Explain to us how God
created our brain chemistry,
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why would He say be celibate
before marriage and monogamous
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after marriage and you'll
find the greatest pleasure.
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I mean, I could
share a few things,
00:22:04.65\00:22:06.55
but let me just share one.
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As I've studied neuroscience,
I've just seen God's plan jump
00:22:07.96\00:22:10.53
out at me again
and again and again,
00:22:10.56\00:22:12.66
not just in the
positive but in the negative,
00:22:12.69\00:22:14.56
when things go wrong,
00:22:14.60\00:22:15.96
when you go
outside of God's plan,
00:22:16.00\00:22:17.40
that's really a
testimony of His plan.
00:22:17.43\00:22:20.10
And so I've seen
it over and over again
00:22:20.14\00:22:21.80
as I've studied what happens
00:22:21.84\00:22:23.20
neurologically
in sexual intimacy.
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This is really your,
you know, primary place that
00:22:27.64\00:22:30.65
that all takes
place, it's in the brain.
00:22:30.68\00:22:32.58
So there's a neurotransmitter
called dopamine,
00:22:32.61\00:22:37.39
if you know that heroin
is an opiate drug, right?
00:22:37.42\00:22:41.76
So we talk
about heroin addiction
00:22:41.79\00:22:43.29
and there's like a
pandemic heroin addiction
00:22:43.32\00:22:45.39
going on in our
country right now,
00:22:45.43\00:22:46.76
it's a terrible thing.
00:22:46.80\00:22:48.13
So these are highly
addictive substances,
00:22:48.16\00:22:50.87
but the reality
is that your brain
00:22:50.90\00:22:53.03
makes those
substances and it's possible
00:22:53.07\00:22:56.34
to become addicted to
naturally occurring opiates,
00:22:56.37\00:23:00.84
II dopamine, notice the
opa in both of those things.
00:23:00.88\00:23:04.95
So you have an
inner heroin basically.
00:23:04.98\00:23:07.55
And that inner heroin comes out
00:23:07.58\00:23:10.29
in a sexual encounter.
00:23:10.32\00:23:12.62
And I want to be
careful how I word this,
00:23:12.65\00:23:14.62
but there's another
chemical that the body produces
00:23:14.66\00:23:18.09
called oxytocin, and
oxytocin is a bonding hormone
00:23:18.13\00:23:23.06
and there are also
large amounts of that,
00:23:23.10\00:23:25.57
that come, you know,
00:23:25.60\00:23:26.94
into the body in
a sexual encounter.
00:23:26.97\00:23:29.70
But there's going to
be more of that oxytocin
00:23:29.74\00:23:32.57
in an actual
committed bonded relationship
00:23:32.61\00:23:36.85
than there is going to
be in a casual encounter
00:23:36.88\00:23:41.05
with a virtual stranger,
such as we see in the world.
00:23:41.08\00:23:43.72
So you're going to have
that pleasure neurotransmitter
00:23:43.75\00:23:46.69
in your brain
because sex is pleasurable
00:23:46.72\00:23:48.82
that's why it's so addictive,
that's why we talk about it
00:23:48.86\00:23:51.99
and obsess over
like we do in the world
00:23:52.03\00:23:54.10
but also you're going to
have in a bonded relationship
00:23:54.13\00:23:57.53
high levels of oxytocin.
00:23:57.57\00:23:59.43
Well, guess what happens,
you experience that pleasure
00:23:59.47\00:24:02.70
in a bonded
relationship but because
00:24:02.74\00:24:04.44
you have the oxytocin present,
00:24:04.47\00:24:06.34
you experience the pleasure
for longer periods of time
00:24:06.37\00:24:09.18
and this is scientific data.
00:24:09.21\00:24:11.08
You get more
out of that dopamine
00:24:11.11\00:24:13.62
when you have oxytocin present.
00:24:13.65\00:24:15.98
And then doesn't something
happen that kind of imprints,
00:24:16.02\00:24:18.95
I mean, I've always
said that anytime you have
00:24:18.99\00:24:22.39
that kind of
encounter with any person,
00:24:22.42\00:24:24.56
even in a casual
way, it's almost like
00:24:24.59\00:24:26.93
there's becomes a soul bond,
00:24:26.96\00:24:28.96
there's an imprint
that you need to even
00:24:29.00\00:24:31.27
if you've been promiscuous,
you need to pray about that
00:24:31.30\00:24:35.00
even before you marry.
00:24:35.04\00:24:36.60
But what happens
between a husband and a wife?
00:24:36.64\00:24:40.41
Well, ideally in God's plan,
00:24:40.44\00:24:42.11
that first
sexual encounter happens
00:24:42.14\00:24:44.18
within marriage to the
person you are committed to
00:24:44.21\00:24:47.52
and because of
that flood of oxytocin
00:24:47.55\00:24:49.68
and other brain chemicals,
00:24:49.72\00:24:51.05
there's this imprinting process.
00:24:51.09\00:24:53.25
Our first sexual encounter
is very powerful to form at us
00:24:53.29\00:24:58.49
and create in us appetites
00:24:58.53\00:25:00.56
or attractions
to certain things.
00:25:00.60\00:25:02.36
So that works against us
00:25:02.40\00:25:03.93
if our first
encounter is something immoral.
00:25:03.97\00:25:07.70
You know, we will have
an inclination toward that
00:25:07.74\00:25:10.37
even in the future
and it's a temptation
00:25:10.41\00:25:12.47
will have to overcome as
we try to straighten that out
00:25:12.51\00:25:15.11
and follow Jesus.
00:25:15.14\00:25:16.48
But according to God's plan,
00:25:16.51\00:25:18.21
the formatting experience
happens with your first
00:25:18.25\00:25:22.12
sexual
encounter within marriage,
00:25:22.15\00:25:24.45
and one of the
beautiful byproducts of that
00:25:24.49\00:25:26.25
is the husband,
00:25:26.29\00:25:29.82
the attractiveness
of the wife is increased
00:25:29.86\00:25:32.56
because of the
high levels of oxytocin.
00:25:32.59\00:25:35.23
And effectively what
happens is she imprints on him
00:25:35.26\00:25:38.03
and she becomes
his standard of beauty.
00:25:38.07\00:25:40.50
And he sees all beauty,
you know, face it, you know,
00:25:40.54\00:25:43.51
not every woman is as
beautiful as every other woman.
00:25:43.54\00:25:46.21
There are some women that
fit that ideal of beauty better
00:25:46.24\00:25:48.81
in the technical sense,
but in the subjective sense
00:25:48.84\00:25:52.18
that man will see his
wife, if he follows God's plan,
00:25:52.21\00:25:55.58
will often see his wife as
the most beautiful creature
00:25:55.62\00:25:58.69
in all the world.
00:25:58.72\00:26:00.06
That's precious.
And that's awesome.
00:26:00.09\00:26:01.69
You mentioned
the word temptation
00:26:01.72\00:26:04.09
and I just
thought about how good God
00:26:04.13\00:26:06.16
is if you look at
1 Corinthians 10:13,
00:26:06.19\00:26:12.27
it says, "No temptation
has overtaken you except
00:26:12.30\00:26:15.17
such as is common to
men but God is faithful,
00:26:15.20\00:26:18.94
who will not
allow you to be tempted
00:26:18.97\00:26:20.74
beyond what you are
able, but with the temptation
00:26:20.78\00:26:24.08
will also make
the way of escape,
00:26:24.11\00:26:26.48
that you may be
able to bear it."
00:26:26.51\00:26:28.78
God will always provide a
way of escape in the event
00:26:28.82\00:26:32.15
that you are tempted,
that you face temptation,
00:26:32.19\00:26:35.39
there is a way of escape.
00:26:35.42\00:26:37.23
In other words,
God's plan is attainable.
00:26:37.26\00:26:40.53
It's not that He's put
something in front of us,
00:26:40.56\00:26:43.73
that is so difficult
that only the toughest
00:26:43.77\00:26:46.70
in the strongest
of us can possibly,
00:26:46.74\00:26:49.00
you know, grit our
teeth and achieve it.
00:26:49.04\00:26:51.01
He said to Saul
before he became Paul,
00:26:51.04\00:26:53.98
it's hard for you,
this is hard for you,
00:26:54.01\00:26:56.81
as you know Saul
pursued his rebellious course,
00:26:56.85\00:26:58.88
this is hard for you.
00:26:58.91\00:27:00.28
The world's way is hard,
00:27:00.32\00:27:01.65
there are warnings not to go on,
00:27:01.68\00:27:03.52
there are consequences
that make life painful.
00:27:03.55\00:27:05.19
Talk about some of
those dire consequences.
00:27:05.22\00:27:08.09
Okay, I'll give
you another example
00:27:08.12\00:27:09.46
and this ties in
with what we're saying
00:27:09.49\00:27:10.89
about brain chemistry.
00:27:10.93\00:27:13.29
What they've done
is they've measured
00:27:13.33\00:27:14.80
the amount of
something called prolactin
00:27:14.83\00:27:17.90
in the brains of individuals
who have one of two kinds
00:27:17.93\00:27:21.30
of sexual experiences,
00:27:21.34\00:27:22.67
one is bonded sexual experience,
00:27:22.70\00:27:25.14
and the other is
what they call self sex.
00:27:25.17\00:27:28.08
I'm not going to
use the proper term
00:27:28.11\00:27:29.44
for that given our,
potentially our audience,
00:27:29.48\00:27:31.78
but let's say solo
sex, sex that happens alone.
00:27:31.81\00:27:35.82
Okay. Okay.
00:27:35.85\00:27:37.19
Obviously it's God's plan
that sex is designed to bond
00:27:37.22\00:27:41.06
two people together in
lifelong love and commitment,
00:27:41.09\00:27:44.16
that's what it's for,
it's not designed by God
00:27:44.19\00:27:47.20
to happen on a solo level.
00:27:47.23\00:27:48.73
We end up bonding
with ourselves in a way
00:27:48.76\00:27:50.37
that is unhealthy,
00:27:50.40\00:27:51.87
so a lot of
shame involved in that,
00:27:51.90\00:27:53.84
and that is not God's plan.
00:27:53.87\00:27:55.20
So they've measured
the prolactin levels.
00:27:55.24\00:27:57.24
So what's prolactin?
00:27:57.27\00:27:58.61
Prolactin is that hormone
in your brain that gives you
00:27:58.64\00:28:01.31
that sense of satisfaction,
nursing, sexual encounter
00:28:01.34\00:28:07.28
that sense of satisfaction,
I don't need anything else
00:28:07.32\00:28:10.05
in the whole world,
I'm so satisfied right now
00:28:10.09\00:28:12.45
here with the one that I love,
00:28:12.49\00:28:13.82
that's what God
designed that for.
00:28:13.86\00:28:15.96
They've
measured the levels of it
00:28:15.99\00:28:17.69
within a bonded relationship
and they've compared
00:28:17.73\00:28:20.83
that with the
levels in solo sex,
00:28:20.86\00:28:24.07
and it's 400% higher
in the bond relationships.
00:28:24.10\00:28:28.00
So the point is,
that when it happens
00:28:28.04\00:28:30.14
outside of God's plan,
00:28:30.17\00:28:31.67
there's not as much satisfaction
00:28:31.71\00:28:33.84
and, you know,
what does that mean,
00:28:33.88\00:28:35.54
you end up craving more
00:28:35.58\00:28:37.48
and try to get that satisfaction
00:28:37.51\00:28:39.28
from more of the
same and you end up
00:28:39.31\00:28:40.92
on a path to addiction.
00:28:40.95\00:28:42.58
Not to mention,
STD's that can take...
00:28:42.62\00:28:46.19
that you can get
pregnancy out of wedlock,
00:28:46.22\00:28:52.46
you know, all those things.
00:28:52.49\00:28:55.20
I forget what the
statistics are but, you know,
00:28:55.23\00:28:57.40
if somebody in high school
or something gets pregnant
00:28:57.43\00:29:00.90
out of wedlock, chances
are they're going to be,
00:29:00.94\00:29:04.94
like in poverty because
they're not going to be able
00:29:04.97\00:29:08.84
to sustain
themselves and the baby
00:29:08.88\00:29:12.11
and go off to college
00:29:12.15\00:29:14.02
and do what they
need to do to make it.
00:29:14.05\00:29:16.25
But isn't there
like an emotional...
00:29:16.28\00:29:17.95
I was going to
say the same thing.
00:29:17.99\00:29:19.32
It's like there we,
you know, we talk about
00:29:19.35\00:29:21.26
the financial consequences,
the physical consequences,
00:29:21.29\00:29:24.03
sexually transmitted
diseases and so forth,
00:29:24.06\00:29:26.09
but there are
emotional and psychological.
00:29:26.13\00:29:29.26
There was one study that
showed that even a crush,
00:29:29.30\00:29:32.80
I don't want to do many one here
00:29:32.83\00:29:34.57
because we've all had crushes,
00:29:34.60\00:29:35.97
but even a high school crush
00:29:36.00\00:29:38.41
can lead to a
longstanding depression.
00:29:38.44\00:29:41.51
So think about how
high school relationships,
00:29:41.54\00:29:44.31
sexual relationships
could set a person up
00:29:44.35\00:29:46.92
for a long standing, you know,
any of us are cautionary tales.
00:29:46.95\00:29:49.92
And then even when
you get married, I mean,
00:29:49.95\00:29:51.95
let's say that, J, let's
say that you married a woman,
00:29:51.99\00:29:56.09
who you knew had been around
the block a number of times.
00:29:56.12\00:30:02.33
Yes.
00:30:02.36\00:30:03.77
Would you ever
feel in your mind,
00:30:03.80\00:30:06.80
whether it is the
husband or the wife that
00:30:06.84\00:30:09.60
maybe you're being
compared to something else
00:30:09.64\00:30:12.97
that are you as satisfactory
a partner as others.
00:30:13.01\00:30:18.98
And there's all of
these things that creates
00:30:19.01\00:30:21.85
jealousy, suspicion, I mean,
00:30:21.88\00:30:23.99
there are long
lasting emotional impacts...
00:30:24.02\00:30:28.26
That's right. From
those kind of acts.
00:30:28.29\00:30:32.16
We have to kind
of strike a balance
00:30:32.19\00:30:33.86
because we want to put,
we've run up against this
00:30:33.90\00:30:36.06
over and over in our program.
00:30:36.10\00:30:37.77
So we wanna put the
ideal where it belongs.
00:30:37.80\00:30:40.27
You know, God
designed us a certain way
00:30:40.30\00:30:43.20
and He created
certain specifications
00:30:43.24\00:30:45.94
for how sexuality plays
out in human experience.
00:30:45.97\00:30:49.48
When we go outside
of those boundaries,
00:30:49.51\00:30:51.81
we reap the consequences
and it's very unfortunate.
00:30:51.85\00:30:55.18
We believe in the
God is the Creator,
00:30:55.22\00:30:57.72
we also believe
He's the Redeemer.
00:30:57.75\00:30:59.19
Amen.
00:30:59.22\00:31:00.56
And we have biblical
examples of individuals
00:31:00.59\00:31:02.69
who are way
outside of God's boundaries
00:31:02.72\00:31:05.43
that recovered from it.
00:31:05.46\00:31:07.23
And I wrestle with
this with young people,
00:31:07.26\00:31:09.03
sometimes I have couples,
00:31:09.06\00:31:10.60
one is a little more experienced
00:31:10.63\00:31:12.10
and has made more
mistakes than the other,
00:31:12.13\00:31:14.27
and I try to
introduce them, I try to gauge
00:31:14.30\00:31:17.17
the level of
repentance and how clean
00:31:17.21\00:31:19.81
or break that
individual has made
00:31:19.84\00:31:22.28
with their old
life, so to speak.
00:31:22.31\00:31:24.55
And, you know, the Bible
says repentance is a gift,
00:31:24.58\00:31:26.45
so we can generate
it within ourselves.
00:31:26.48\00:31:27.95
But I ask myself,
"Have they received
00:31:27.98\00:31:30.15
that gift of repentance?"
00:31:30.19\00:31:31.52
And repentance, you
know, John the Baptist said,
00:31:31.55\00:31:33.72
"Lay the axe to
the root of the tree,"
00:31:33.76\00:31:35.39
he was the one calling
the people to repentance
00:31:35.42\00:31:37.26
in preparation for them.
00:31:37.29\00:31:38.63
So repentance has the
effect of cutting the tithes,
00:31:38.66\00:31:42.00
cutting our
tithes with the world
00:31:42.03\00:31:43.90
and we develop a
negative association with sin,
00:31:43.93\00:31:46.84
that's a miracle of God.
00:31:46.87\00:31:48.20
Amen.
00:31:48.24\00:31:49.57
So when that's
severing takes place,
00:31:49.60\00:31:50.94
I try to gauge that,
00:31:50.97\00:31:52.31
and if that is taken
place in that person,
00:31:52.34\00:31:53.81
I encourage the one that
has a better track record
00:31:53.84\00:31:57.51
so to speak, you know what,
00:31:57.55\00:31:59.48
we believe in
radical grace here.
00:31:59.51\00:32:01.15
Amen.
00:32:01.18\00:32:02.52
This person has
made a clean break
00:32:02.55\00:32:03.89
and they potentially because now
00:32:03.92\00:32:05.85
they're partaking
of the grace of God,
00:32:05.89\00:32:07.72
they've cut the
tithes with the old world,
00:32:07.76\00:32:09.19
they could become a
more faithful partner
00:32:09.22\00:32:11.39
through the Holy Spirit
and through the grace of God
00:32:11.43\00:32:13.63
then even someone who wasn't
as experienced as they were.
00:32:13.66\00:32:16.26
You know, it's just
like we began talking about
00:32:16.30\00:32:18.07
this from 12 year old
girl, whose parents had no idea
00:32:18.10\00:32:21.20
and they not trained her up.
00:32:21.24\00:32:22.94
It's, 1 John 1:9
"If we confess our sins,
00:32:22.97\00:32:26.27
He is faithful and just give
us our sins," not only that,
00:32:26.31\00:32:30.01
"to cleanse us of
all unrighteousness."
00:32:30.05\00:32:32.58
So please, I'm not setting
myself up as a saint here
00:32:32.61\00:32:36.69
and I don't think any of us are,
00:32:36.72\00:32:38.12
we all make mistakes
and we don't mean to do this
00:32:38.15\00:32:43.43
in any condemnatory fashion
00:32:43.46\00:32:46.09
because God is
the great redeemer.
00:32:46.13\00:32:48.40
Well, let's talk a little
bit more about Intimate Clarity.
00:32:48.43\00:32:52.13
You did not use
the word for self sex,
00:32:52.17\00:32:57.21
but on Intimate Clarity we do.
00:32:57.24\00:32:58.57
We do.
00:32:58.61\00:32:59.94
We use some medical terms,
00:32:59.97\00:33:02.14
we're talking
about some tough topics.
00:33:02.18\00:33:04.78
We are.
00:33:04.81\00:33:06.15
And you can't really address
the tough topics adequately
00:33:06.18\00:33:09.85
if you don't use some
medical terminology as you say,
00:33:09.88\00:33:13.52
so we really had
to walk a fine line.
00:33:13.56\00:33:15.42
It was
challenging, I'll be honest,
00:33:15.46\00:33:16.99
it was challenging
for me 'cause, you know,
00:33:17.03\00:33:18.63
I'm a social
scientist and I read studies
00:33:18.66\00:33:21.06
and I just choose
the medical terminology,
00:33:21.10\00:33:23.20
this is this, this
is this, this is this,
00:33:23.23\00:33:25.33
just is, you know.
00:33:25.37\00:33:26.80
But I realize that
there's a viewing audience
00:33:26.84\00:33:29.50
and they have
certain parameters and needs,
00:33:29.54\00:33:32.27
and so I'm trying
to be sensitive to that
00:33:32.31\00:33:34.58
because it's so
important that we communicate
00:33:34.61\00:33:36.91
the essence of what
we're trying to say.
00:33:36.95\00:33:39.48
So I'm trying to
package in a way that they...
00:33:39.51\00:33:40.88
So we did it in such a
way that it would be current
00:33:40.92\00:33:45.02
so that people would understand
what we're talking about,
00:33:45.05\00:33:48.02
instead of saying
self sex or self-abuse,
00:33:48.06\00:33:51.16
we use the medical term.
00:33:51.19\00:33:52.69
But tell us about...
00:33:52.73\00:33:55.50
J, let me just touch on you,
00:33:55.53\00:33:58.07
tell us about some of the topics
00:33:58.10\00:34:00.24
in were you
comfortable or uncomfortable
00:34:00.27\00:34:03.37
as you were discussing these?
00:34:03.41\00:34:05.61
I was comfortable
to be honest I mean...
00:34:05.64\00:34:07.98
You weren't always
comfortable most of the time.
00:34:08.01\00:34:09.88
I was comfortable
with it, I mean...
00:34:09.91\00:34:11.25
But there was a couple things.
00:34:11.28\00:34:12.61
There was a time
when I left the church
00:34:12.65\00:34:14.82
from age 14 to about 28,
so there was like 14 years
00:34:14.85\00:34:19.82
where I was
outside of the church,
00:34:19.85\00:34:21.19
and with the way that
the topics were discussed,
00:34:21.22\00:34:24.43
the way it was done in
a very tasteful manner,
00:34:24.46\00:34:27.30
it was a done in
a very educational
00:34:27.33\00:34:29.36
and informative way.
00:34:29.40\00:34:31.83
Now some of the statistics,
00:34:31.87\00:34:34.80
now, that's when I was shocked
by with some of the statistics.
00:34:34.84\00:34:36.20
It wasn't the way I
said it, it was what I said.
00:34:36.24\00:34:38.77
Not the material
necessarily that was covered,
00:34:38.81\00:34:41.38
but some of the statistics
00:34:41.41\00:34:42.74
that you shared
were I mean, amazing.
00:34:42.78\00:34:44.61
Okay. Shocking.
00:34:44.65\00:34:45.98
Let me ask you something,
if you were out 14 to 28,
00:34:46.01\00:34:49.05
obviously a lot
of your sex education
00:34:49.08\00:34:51.45
came from the world.
00:34:51.49\00:34:53.15
Yes.
00:34:53.19\00:34:54.52
God has done, you know,
once again we're talking
00:34:54.56\00:34:56.93
about trajectories here.
00:34:56.96\00:34:58.89
We watch this young man
00:34:58.93\00:35:00.26
who just came
here on fire for God
00:35:00.30\00:35:03.06
but fair to say, you
were still a babe in Christ.
00:35:03.10\00:35:06.77
And we've just
watched you just...
00:35:06.80\00:35:09.60
Because you study in
the Word of God constantly,
00:35:09.64\00:35:13.51
you are, I believe God's
00:35:13.54\00:35:15.88
got an
anointing on you to preach
00:35:15.91\00:35:17.88
because sometimes
when God touches him,
00:35:17.91\00:35:20.65
what comes out of
his mouth is incredible.
00:35:20.68\00:35:23.75
But how, as God
has reprogrammed you
00:35:23.79\00:35:28.36
'cause I know right now,
00:35:28.39\00:35:29.72
you're dating
with hopes of marriage
00:35:29.76\00:35:33.13
and you were very specific
00:35:33.16\00:35:35.13
in wanting God's
ideal plan in your life,
00:35:35.16\00:35:38.63
talk to us about that?
00:35:38.67\00:35:40.14
Well, you know, it
comes from experience too,
00:35:40.17\00:35:43.41
you know, I realized
that what God has for us
00:35:43.44\00:35:47.51
is way better than anything
00:35:47.54\00:35:48.98
that we could
have for ourselves.
00:35:49.01\00:35:51.21
And so, I've seen how things go,
00:35:51.25\00:35:54.32
when I take
matters into my own hands
00:35:54.35\00:35:56.82
and I do my own
thing, it's a failure.
00:35:56.85\00:36:00.56
Heartache and disappointment.
00:36:00.59\00:36:01.92
Heartache, disappointment
leads to problems,
00:36:01.96\00:36:04.19
and trials, and tribulations,
and all that stuff,
00:36:04.23\00:36:06.76
but God's plan is, it's perfect.
00:36:06.80\00:36:10.87
And so I truly want
His will for my life.
00:36:10.90\00:36:14.94
And what I found is that,
00:36:14.97\00:36:16.74
God wants to give you
the victory over things
00:36:16.77\00:36:19.21
that you're struggling with,
00:36:19.24\00:36:20.58
anything that you're struggling
with you can take it to God,
00:36:20.61\00:36:22.98
you can pray
and say, "God, look,
00:36:23.01\00:36:25.31
you know, I don't
even want to change,
00:36:25.35\00:36:27.65
I need You to input
that desire into my heart
00:36:27.68\00:36:31.79
to make me want
to change and help.
00:36:31.82\00:36:36.93
Please relieve
me of this bondage
00:36:36.96\00:36:39.49
of this captivity."
00:36:39.53\00:36:40.86
Whatever it may be, it
could be substance abuse,
00:36:40.90\00:36:42.86
it could be sexual immorality,
00:36:42.90\00:36:44.27
it could be a number
of things, whatever it is,
00:36:44.30\00:36:47.87
God will help you get over that.
00:36:47.90\00:36:50.67
And I've seen Him
work in my own life
00:36:50.71\00:36:53.54
over these 14
years coming back to Him,
00:36:53.58\00:36:56.28
you know, being
raised in the church,
00:36:56.31\00:36:57.71
my mom raised me in the church
00:36:57.75\00:36:59.75
and so I knew
what I was missing,
00:36:59.78\00:37:03.22
I had a sense of emptiness
00:37:03.25\00:37:05.59
and I knew that the only one
00:37:05.62\00:37:07.36
that could fill
that void was Jesus.
00:37:07.39\00:37:09.42
And so coming back to
Him and it wasn't like,
00:37:09.46\00:37:13.43
I didn't feel like
giving stuff up was a burden,
00:37:13.46\00:37:18.03
you know, it was
about my love for Christ
00:37:18.07\00:37:21.20
and when you love somebody,
00:37:21.24\00:37:25.07
you don't want
to hurt that person.
00:37:25.11\00:37:26.44
His commands are not grievous.
00:37:26.47\00:37:27.81
No, no.
00:37:27.84\00:37:29.94
And, you know, what
you just said earlier
00:37:29.98\00:37:31.75
'cause some people will say,
00:37:31.78\00:37:33.11
"What do you mean,
repentance is a gift."
00:37:33.15\00:37:34.98
What you're
saying, I tell people,
00:37:35.02\00:37:36.35
you know, Jesus said
00:37:36.38\00:37:37.72
"Blessed are if you hunger
and thirst for righteousness."
00:37:37.75\00:37:40.42
We don't always hunger
and thirst for righteousness,
00:37:40.46\00:37:42.59
but you did it right.
00:37:42.62\00:37:43.96
You go to Him and say,
"Lord, cause me to hunger
00:37:43.99\00:37:46.70
and thirst for righteousness."
00:37:46.73\00:37:48.23
And suddenly, He makes you
00:37:48.26\00:37:50.17
start hating the
things you once loved,
00:37:50.20\00:37:52.83
and loving the
things you once hated,
00:37:52.87\00:37:54.74
and He puts that hunger
and thirst in righteousness.
00:37:54.77\00:37:57.27
And I always...
00:37:57.31\00:37:58.77
Please, listen to me,
00:37:58.81\00:38:00.14
confession is the
clearinghouse of the conscience.
00:38:00.18\00:38:02.81
So when we go before the
Lord and confess our sins,
00:38:02.84\00:38:06.35
also pray, Acts
5:32, I believe it is,
00:38:06.38\00:38:09.82
says that, He is the
one who gives us repentance.
00:38:09.85\00:38:15.82
So pray and say,
"Lord, give me repentance,"
00:38:15.86\00:38:19.29
and that just means,
turn me around, Father,
00:38:19.33\00:38:22.16
it's more than just
confessing our sins,
00:38:22.20\00:38:24.17
turn me away from
this to you," and God will.
00:38:24.20\00:38:29.70
Yeah. It's amazing.
00:38:29.74\00:38:31.07
That's
beautiful. That's beautiful.
00:38:31.11\00:38:32.44
So what are
some of the topics...
00:38:32.47\00:38:35.21
Go ahead. I don't...
00:38:35.24\00:38:36.88
Twenty-six
programs and we're gonna,
00:38:36.91\00:38:40.38
we're addressing
everything across the spectrum,
00:38:40.42\00:38:43.69
we're not only talking
about purity before marriage,
00:38:43.72\00:38:47.62
married love,
we're talking about,
00:38:47.66\00:38:50.06
we're taking on
homosexuality, transgenderism,
00:38:50.09\00:38:52.66
we're taking on
pornography, everything.
00:38:52.69\00:38:56.10
Sexual abuse. Yup.
00:38:56.13\00:38:57.73
Abuse, how to
recover from abuse,
00:38:57.77\00:38:59.77
we're talking of, you know...
00:38:59.80\00:39:01.14
Adultery, how to
recover from adultery.
00:39:01.17\00:39:02.60
Yeah, we've got one on that.
00:39:02.64\00:39:03.97
We got just about everything
I could possibly think of.
00:39:04.01\00:39:06.24
And I know what'll happen
is we'll do all 26 of these,
00:39:06.27\00:39:09.94
they'll get out
there and then people be,
00:39:09.98\00:39:11.31
"What about this?"
00:39:11.35\00:39:12.68
and we'll probably have
to come back and do more,
00:39:12.71\00:39:14.05
but I tried to hit everything.
00:39:14.08\00:39:15.45
And, you know what,
it's done in love to...
00:39:15.48\00:39:18.39
Amen. It's done in love.
00:39:18.42\00:39:19.92
It's not, yeah,
00:39:19.95\00:39:21.29
we're not condemning
anybody or anything like that.
00:39:21.32\00:39:22.72
Hitting people over the head
00:39:22.76\00:39:24.09
because they've
already been hit over the head
00:39:24.13\00:39:25.79
by the consequences,
00:39:25.83\00:39:27.46
and they've already
been hit over the head
00:39:27.50\00:39:28.83
by their own conscience,
00:39:28.86\00:39:30.20
and sometimes by church
members that are well meaning
00:39:30.23\00:39:32.63
but don't deliver it in love
00:39:32.67\00:39:34.24
and so we're
trying to put everything
00:39:34.27\00:39:35.60
in a very grace centered way,
00:39:35.64\00:39:37.64
including some of
these politicized issues,
00:39:37.67\00:39:39.97
which are very
difficult to address,
00:39:40.01\00:39:42.18
but we lose something
00:39:42.21\00:39:43.71
when we become
overly political about them
00:39:43.75\00:39:45.88
because there are
actual people involved
00:39:45.91\00:39:48.18
in these things
00:39:48.22\00:39:49.55
that people that Jesus died for.
00:39:49.58\00:39:51.55
And that we, as
followers of Jesus
00:39:51.59\00:39:53.49
are called to minister to,
00:39:53.52\00:39:54.86
so we try to bring that out
00:39:54.89\00:39:56.22
with each one of these programs.
00:39:56.26\00:39:57.59
You know, something
that's important for me
00:39:57.63\00:39:58.96
to explain to
our audience is this,
00:39:58.99\00:40:01.30
I remember when we
first started airing
00:40:01.33\00:40:02.86
Cheri Peters program,
00:40:02.90\00:40:04.23
"Celebrating Life to Recovery,"
00:40:04.27\00:40:06.00
had a precious little
lady called me from California,
00:40:06.03\00:40:08.97
and she said,
"Honey, why would you
00:40:09.00\00:40:11.97
put this kind of stuff on 3ABN?"
00:40:12.01\00:40:16.34
And I told her, "We're not just
preaching to the choir here,
00:40:16.38\00:40:19.21
we're trying to reach
those who are wounded,
00:40:19.25\00:40:23.32
the brokenhearted
people of the world,
00:40:23.35\00:40:25.35
the people who
are trapped in this."
00:40:25.39\00:40:27.26
And then she made
the cutest comment to me,
00:40:27.29\00:40:29.19
she said, "Well, honey,
00:40:29.22\00:40:31.26
couldn't you do
it instead of Cheri,
00:40:31.29\00:40:34.23
'cause she was having trouble
00:40:34.26\00:40:35.73
with some of
Cheri's terminology.
00:40:35.76\00:40:37.10
She is, yeah.
00:40:37.13\00:40:38.47
And, you know what I said,
00:40:38.50\00:40:39.83
I said, "You know
what, I could do it.
00:40:39.87\00:40:41.97
Yes indeed I could."
00:40:42.00\00:40:43.94
And I said, "You and
your little prayer group,"
00:40:43.97\00:40:46.11
'cause she was calling on
behalf of her prayer group
00:40:46.14\00:40:48.14
and they were all in
their late 70s, early 80s,
00:40:48.18\00:40:51.11
and I said, "Y'all
might like it better."
00:40:51.15\00:40:53.18
But guess what?
00:40:53.21\00:40:54.55
Nobody we're trying
to reach would it touch,
00:40:54.58\00:40:58.89
some of the street
language that Cheri uses
00:40:58.92\00:41:03.46
is what attracts
people to watch it,
00:41:03.49\00:41:05.93
they identify with that.
00:41:05.96\00:41:07.90
So let me say
this before you call me
00:41:07.93\00:41:09.83
because people are, I know that.
00:41:09.86\00:41:12.43
I know I'm going to
get some phone calls.
00:41:12.47\00:41:14.40
People will say,
"Why as program developer,
00:41:14.44\00:41:17.47
why as the producer,
00:41:17.51\00:41:19.14
why would you put
such things on the air?
00:41:19.17\00:41:22.64
As I said, number one,
00:41:22.68\00:41:24.25
this is not an age
appropriate for young children,
00:41:24.28\00:41:28.48
we'll let you watch
decide what age, but...
00:41:28.52\00:41:32.25
And also some of the
programs are a little more...
00:41:32.29\00:41:35.29
Mild. Than others.
00:41:35.32\00:41:36.76
Yes. So.
00:41:36.79\00:41:38.33
And they will be
available on YouTube
00:41:38.36\00:41:40.96
and we're trying
to reach some people.
00:41:41.00\00:41:43.00
But here's what I'm
saying, even within the church,
00:41:43.03\00:41:46.97
why do the church
members need to see this?
00:41:47.00\00:41:49.24
Because as I said,
we've been long silent
00:41:49.27\00:41:51.44
we're letting the
world educate our children,
00:41:51.47\00:41:55.44
but the other is that
we sometimes argue a point,
00:41:55.48\00:42:00.05
let's say about homosexuality,
from a couple of few scriptures
00:42:00.08\00:42:04.19
and we don't have the
science that backs it up.
00:42:04.22\00:42:08.09
In our own
Adventists Universities,
00:42:08.12\00:42:12.03
acceptance of gay lifestyle,
00:42:12.06\00:42:14.30
gay marriage has
gone in the last 60 years
00:42:14.33\00:42:19.10
from something in
the high 20s, low 30%
00:42:19.13\00:42:23.71
to getting up there to where
majority of people think...
00:42:23.74\00:42:27.58
Student body.
00:42:27.61\00:42:29.08
Of student body, think it
is an acceptable lifestyle.
00:42:29.11\00:42:33.05
See, what we need to do
00:42:33.08\00:42:36.55
is show what even the world
00:42:36.58\00:42:39.05
knows about the pain of
this lifestyle, the damage of.
00:42:39.09\00:42:42.52
I'll tell you something,
it's challenging to do that
00:42:42.56\00:42:45.43
because there's a
lot of controversy
00:42:45.46\00:42:48.63
even in the scientific realm.
00:42:48.66\00:42:50.60
Someone will produce a study
00:42:50.63\00:42:52.03
for instance on same sex parents
00:42:52.07\00:42:54.84
and the children
of same sex parents
00:42:54.87\00:42:56.54
that says,
everything is hunky dory,
00:42:56.57\00:42:57.94
everything's fine.
00:42:57.97\00:42:59.31
Another study will come out
00:42:59.34\00:43:00.68
and say, no
there's problems here.
00:43:00.71\00:43:02.04
Overall, you know,
same sex parenting,
00:43:02.08\00:43:03.65
there are
problems in the children,
00:43:03.68\00:43:05.01
so and I'm not saying,
00:43:05.05\00:43:06.38
you know, which
one I agree with,
00:43:06.41\00:43:07.75
I'm just saying
that there's a war
00:43:07.78\00:43:09.32
even in the scientific realm.
00:43:09.35\00:43:11.22
It's difficult to
find research that reveals,
00:43:11.25\00:43:14.59
you know, biblical facts.
00:43:14.62\00:43:16.52
And so, you know,
00:43:16.56\00:43:17.89
then it coincides
with the scripture,
00:43:17.93\00:43:19.96
that's mostly funded by
the Catholic Church by the way,
00:43:20.00\00:43:22.76
and also on
bringing young university,
00:43:22.80\00:43:25.40
the Mormon
University in out west.
00:43:25.43\00:43:27.77
So it's difficult
to find that research,
00:43:27.80\00:43:31.04
it exists, it's there,
00:43:31.07\00:43:33.21
but what will happen
is, as soon as it comes out,
00:43:33.24\00:43:35.48
it's tagged by the
media as right wing
00:43:35.51\00:43:40.22
and extreme and, you
know, fake news kind of stuff.
00:43:40.25\00:43:44.59
And so it can be really
challenging in that world
00:43:44.62\00:43:47.59
to even substantiate things,
00:43:47.62\00:43:49.26
but the data is there,
and it's very interesting,
00:43:49.29\00:43:51.16
I don't know how
much time I have to talk.
00:43:51.19\00:43:52.86
Okay, so for instance,
00:43:52.89\00:43:55.86
gay population really
wants to appear to be fine
00:43:55.90\00:44:00.14
because they
want to sell the idea
00:44:00.17\00:44:02.47
of same sex
marriage to the public.
00:44:02.50\00:44:06.88
So they have an
incentive not to reveal
00:44:06.91\00:44:08.94
what's really going on,
but then what happens is,
00:44:08.98\00:44:12.35
they can't get the
insurance coverage,
00:44:12.38\00:44:15.12
they can't get
the social programs,
00:44:15.15\00:44:17.29
they don't get the help
that heterosexual people give,
00:44:17.32\00:44:20.39
and I'll give you an
example, as same sex couple,
00:44:20.42\00:44:23.86
there's a lot of violence,
00:44:23.89\00:44:25.23
particularly in
male same sex couples,
00:44:25.26\00:44:26.59
a lot of domestic violence
00:44:26.63\00:44:27.96
because you got two men
in the same relationship
00:44:28.00\00:44:29.96
and 95% of domestic violence
in a heterosexual relationship
00:44:30.00\00:44:33.34
is perpetrated by the male,
00:44:33.37\00:44:34.70
so just men have
more testosterone,
00:44:34.74\00:44:36.17
they tend to be more
physically aggressive.
00:44:36.20\00:44:38.27
So you have a lot of that
issue in same sex male couples,
00:44:38.31\00:44:42.18
and those people need
help, I'm not saying they don't.
00:44:42.21\00:44:44.45
But what happens is
they try to go to a shelter,
00:44:44.48\00:44:46.75
and shelters don't allow men.
00:44:46.78\00:44:48.75
So now they're having to
have a whole separate shelter
00:44:48.78\00:44:51.12
for gay individuals
that are being perpetrated
00:44:51.15\00:44:53.82
on domestic violence.
00:44:53.86\00:44:55.66
So in order to get that,
00:44:55.69\00:44:57.36
they have to reveal what's
going on in their community
00:44:57.39\00:45:00.00
and they're
starting to come out now
00:45:00.03\00:45:01.36
because there's an environment
of acceptance in our society,
00:45:01.40\00:45:04.17
they're starting to admit
00:45:04.20\00:45:05.53
what's really going
on behind the scenes
00:45:05.57\00:45:08.10
and some of the
strongest evidence
00:45:08.14\00:45:10.41
is coming from
the community itself.
00:45:10.44\00:45:12.74
And, you know, there was a time
00:45:12.77\00:45:14.51
when the American
Psychological Association,
00:45:14.54\00:45:17.95
this was or not
maybe it's not the MBA,
00:45:17.98\00:45:20.85
but in the medical books,
00:45:20.88\00:45:22.88
it was
considered a disorder or...
00:45:22.92\00:45:25.35
1973, it was
00:45:25.39\00:45:26.72
in the American Psychiatric
Association's diagnostic manual
00:45:26.76\00:45:30.06
until 1973, it was taken out.
00:45:30.09\00:45:32.79
And then gender, it was
called Gender Identity Disorder
00:45:32.83\00:45:37.83
was just revised and
I think it was 2013...
00:45:37.87\00:45:40.10
That would be transgender.
00:45:40.14\00:45:41.60
Well, what we call transgender,
someone who is a man,
00:45:41.64\00:45:43.81
and thinks he's a
woman or as a woman
00:45:43.84\00:45:45.17
and thinks she's a man,
00:45:45.21\00:45:46.54
it was called
Gender Identity Disorder.
00:45:46.57\00:45:48.28
And they believe
they revised in 2013,
00:45:48.31\00:45:51.45
it might even 2015, anyway
they came out with the DSM 5,
00:45:51.48\00:45:55.45
and the DSM 5 had
changed it to Gender Dysphoria
00:45:55.48\00:45:59.45
or Gender Dysphoric disorder.
00:45:59.49\00:46:02.12
Okay, what they
were trying to do
00:46:02.16\00:46:03.63
was keep it in
the diagnostic manual
00:46:03.66\00:46:05.66
'cause without a diagnosis,
00:46:05.69\00:46:07.03
you can't get the
hormone treatment,
00:46:07.06\00:46:08.40
you can't get insurance coverage
00:46:08.43\00:46:09.76
for the hormone treatments
00:46:09.80\00:46:11.13
and potentially for surgery
if that's what you want to do.
00:46:11.17\00:46:14.00
So in order to
keep it in the manual,
00:46:14.04\00:46:15.97
they had to reframe it
00:46:16.00\00:46:18.21
and so they call
it Gender Dysphoria,
00:46:18.24\00:46:20.94
meaning that the thing
that's pathological about it
00:46:20.98\00:46:23.91
is the dysphoria you feel.
00:46:23.95\00:46:26.61
You should feel okay
00:46:26.65\00:46:28.15
about being a man and
wanting to be a woman,
00:46:28.18\00:46:29.98
that should be, that's healthy.
00:46:30.02\00:46:31.62
I see what you're saying.
00:46:31.65\00:46:32.99
But it's unhealthy to feel
you're disturbed, it distracts.
00:46:33.02\00:46:34.99
That's what they're
saying, we're not saying.
00:46:35.02\00:46:36.66
No, we're not saying,
I'm trying to put across.
00:46:36.69\00:46:39.36
Right. Exactly.
00:46:39.39\00:46:41.06
And I just, I want
to put this out here,
00:46:41.10\00:46:42.90
just because it hit me.
00:46:42.93\00:46:44.63
I was...
00:46:44.67\00:46:46.00
I like to read medical journals,
00:46:46.03\00:46:48.24
I don't always hang on
to everything that I read,
00:46:48.27\00:46:50.51
but I do recall
about a year ago,
00:46:50.54\00:46:54.48
I read an article that was being
00:46:54.51\00:46:56.24
put forth by the
American Psychiatric Association
00:46:56.28\00:47:00.12
saying that there are many
00:47:00.15\00:47:01.48
who are beginning to
think that pedophilia is normal,
00:47:01.52\00:47:05.89
you know, the young
and the old together.
00:47:05.92\00:47:08.66
Also, that more recently
six to eight months ago,
00:47:08.69\00:47:13.56
I read something that
was in attempt to say,
00:47:13.60\00:47:18.93
maybe incestral
relations were normal.
00:47:18.97\00:47:21.57
Do we see what's coming?
00:47:21.60\00:47:22.97
What's coming? Well,
in 2007... It's scary.
00:47:23.00\00:47:26.51
It's been done
in Europe for years,
00:47:26.54\00:47:27.94
but in 2007 when a child
identified as the opposite sex,
00:47:27.98\00:47:32.51
we started to allow them,
the Boston Children's hospitals
00:47:32.55\00:47:35.48
began to give them
puberty suppressing hormones,
00:47:35.52\00:47:37.95
so they would
have a window of time
00:47:37.99\00:47:39.32
where they could decide
which sex they wanted to be,
00:47:39.35\00:47:41.46
that started 2007.
00:47:41.49\00:47:43.46
So I don't see how,
00:47:43.49\00:47:44.83
we've always said, no, we can't,
00:47:44.86\00:47:46.59
you know, the
man-boy love, that's wrong,
00:47:46.63\00:47:48.76
we know that's wrong
because that child isn't of age,
00:47:48.80\00:47:50.57
they can't make a responsible
decision being that young.
00:47:50.60\00:47:53.17
But you're letting
children now decide
00:47:53.20\00:47:55.97
which sex they're gonna be,
00:47:56.00\00:47:57.37
I don't know why
it wouldn't follow
00:47:57.41\00:47:58.87
that you would
let children decide
00:47:58.91\00:48:00.44
which sex partner
they want to have, see.
00:48:00.48\00:48:02.48
Yeah, it's scary. It is scary.
00:48:02.51\00:48:04.18
Scary and we're not again,
00:48:04.21\00:48:05.88
we're not
promulgating this idea.
00:48:05.91\00:48:07.42
Not at all, we're
concerned about it,
00:48:07.45\00:48:09.48
and that's why
I'm expressing it.
00:48:09.52\00:48:10.85
I feel that sometimes
people in a Christian community
00:48:10.89\00:48:13.29
don't really realize
what's going on out there
00:48:13.32\00:48:15.69
and we're dealing
with a major moral crisis
00:48:15.72\00:48:18.89
in our society today
00:48:18.93\00:48:20.66
and it's become
a political crisis,
00:48:20.70\00:48:22.70
we're so fractioned,
00:48:22.73\00:48:24.07
and we're so
polemic and polarized,
00:48:24.10\00:48:27.10
but we need to
approach this thing in love.
00:48:27.14\00:48:29.60
And I think
approaching it in love is key
00:48:29.64\00:48:31.41
because if we approach it in
an equally politicized fashion,
00:48:31.44\00:48:34.11
we're just going to drive
the opposition further away.
00:48:34.14\00:48:36.04
And you can't, you
know, I always tell somebody,
00:48:36.08\00:48:38.35
you cannot beat somebody
over the head with a violin
00:48:38.38\00:48:41.68
to convince them how
beautiful the music is.
00:48:41.72\00:48:44.09
So you can't just take the Bible
00:48:44.12\00:48:46.29
or our quotes out
of Ellen White writings
00:48:46.32\00:48:49.49
and beat people over the head
00:48:49.52\00:48:51.03
to convince
them, it's beautiful.
00:48:51.06\00:48:52.43
It's got to be in
the love of the Lord.
00:48:52.46\00:48:54.76
I will say one quick thing
00:48:54.80\00:48:56.13
because I know
you've been to Israel.
00:48:56.16\00:48:58.43
No, I haven't.
Yeah. Oh, you haven't.
00:48:58.47\00:49:00.20
That's the trip
you've got to make.
00:49:00.24\00:49:01.57
Oh, take me,
Shelley. Oh, let's go.
00:49:01.60\00:49:03.67
We've been there five times
00:49:03.71\00:49:05.04
and one thing that
really astonished me
00:49:05.07\00:49:09.94
is they celebrate chastity,
00:49:09.98\00:49:15.28
they celebrate virginity,
00:49:15.32\00:49:17.92
this is a culture
that holds the virgin up,
00:49:17.95\00:49:23.89
holds the virtuous woman
up in an incredible manner.
00:49:23.93\00:49:27.73
We used to do
that, look how far,
00:49:27.76\00:49:30.50
we have gone off the
edge of a slippery slope.
00:49:30.53\00:49:34.97
Part of the reason though
as we had a double standard,
00:49:35.00\00:49:37.01
the men wasn't so
important, you know,
00:49:37.04\00:49:39.04
and so then there were
these men and they were,
00:49:39.07\00:49:40.84
you know, seeking women
00:49:40.88\00:49:42.21
and eventually the women
caved in, so it's really...
00:49:42.24\00:49:44.85
I mean, we want to
make, that's a great point.
00:49:44.88\00:49:46.72
We want to fix that.
00:49:46.75\00:49:48.08
Because we believe
that it is important,
00:49:48.12\00:49:49.45
equally
important for a young man
00:49:49.48\00:49:51.65
to be a virgin as well.
00:49:51.69\00:49:53.39
All right, we are...
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I just want to
share one more time,
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I don't think I ever
finished describing it,
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but this is the
Intimate Clarity set
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and there were reasons
behind designing it this way.
00:50:02.30\00:50:06.80
We wanted it to be
bright and airy to say,
00:50:06.84\00:50:09.27
this is not a
topic that's to boot,
00:50:09.30\00:50:11.91
it is a
conversation we need to have.
00:50:11.94\00:50:13.81
We need to have! Absolutely.
00:50:13.84\00:50:16.04
And also one thing that
we thought was important
00:50:16.08\00:50:22.02
was that we have a
middle aged married woman
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with a young single man
00:50:25.32\00:50:27.59
to show you that it is something
00:50:27.62\00:50:32.09
that this is a conversation
00:50:32.13\00:50:33.90
that shouldn't
be considered dirty,
00:50:33.93\00:50:37.73
it shouldn't be considered evil.
00:50:37.77\00:50:39.83
Everybody, no
matter what demographic
00:50:39.87\00:50:41.77
needs to have this conversation.
00:50:41.80\00:50:43.51
That's a
universal need. Absolutely.
00:50:43.54\00:50:45.44
But there will be a strong
disclaimer on this program
00:50:45.47\00:50:48.91
saying that
parents are cautioned,
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you will not want
your younger children
00:50:51.35\00:50:52.71
to watch it.
00:50:52.75\00:50:54.08
And, oh, I know what I wanted
to tell you, we're pairing it.
00:50:54.12\00:50:57.59
It's a 15 minute program.
00:50:57.62\00:50:59.42
Unless, you're sitting
there with the younger children
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and you're explaining things,
00:51:01.56\00:51:02.89
so it's like, it
may be appropriate
00:51:02.92\00:51:04.26
depending on the
child, depending on the age.
00:51:04.29\00:51:05.99
And you probably
want to watch it first
00:51:06.03\00:51:08.03
to make sure, you know.
00:51:08.06\00:51:09.43
You can find it on YouTube.
00:51:09.46\00:51:10.97
Yeah, but what
we're going to do,
00:51:11.00\00:51:13.10
this is exciting
00:51:13.13\00:51:14.47
is we are pairing
this in a half hour slot.
00:51:14.50\00:51:17.91
It's a 15 minute program
00:51:17.94\00:51:19.77
and we've got another new
program coming up for youth,
00:51:19.81\00:51:23.21
I would say probably 15 to
25 is the main target group
00:51:23.24\00:51:28.58
and this is going to be called
Raw Questions Relevant Answers.
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So I'm not going
to go into the detail,
00:51:33.42\00:51:35.82
perhaps that you
are doing a new program.
00:51:35.86\00:51:37.19
Oh, sounds like they are.
00:51:37.23\00:51:39.29
I don't think they will. Okay.
00:51:39.33\00:51:40.70
They said, "We'll toss
the tough ones to Jennifer."
00:51:40.73\00:51:43.33
Oh, thanks, guys.
I appreciate that.
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But anyway what we want to do
00:51:44.73\00:51:46.74
is we're going to
come back in just a moment,
00:51:46.77\00:51:48.47
have a closing thought,
00:51:48.50\00:51:49.84
but we've got a news break
00:51:49.87\00:51:51.21
that we wanted to share with you
00:51:51.24\00:51:52.74
and we will be right back.
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