I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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I want to spend my life
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Removing pain
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Lord, let my words
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Heal a heart that hurts
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I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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Hello, and welcome
again to 3ABN Today.
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We're so glad
that you're joining us,
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and just want
to take this moment
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to thank you so much
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for your love, and your prayers,
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and your
financial support of 3ABN.
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I'm Shelley Quinn, and
today is not an interview,
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even though I'm sitting
in a host's seat, I'm not...
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I'm kind of a traffic
director, if you will.
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What we will be
discussing is a Bible topic,
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and the topic is,
Muzzle Your Mouth.
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And so we want you to stay tuned
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because I don't
think we're always aware
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of how much we
sin with our tongue.
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Let me start with this scripture
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found in Psalm 39,
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you'll see where
I got this topic.
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Psalm 39:1, and David says,
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"I will guard my ways,
lest I sin with my tongue.
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I will restrain my
mouth with a muzzle."
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So we need to learn
how to bridle our tongue.
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Let me introduce our
special guests to you.
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They're all
members of our 3ABN family,
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the staff here at 3ABN.
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First we have my
very precious friend
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Mollie Steenson,
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who is the general
manager and vice president.
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Mollie, what part
of muzzle your mouth
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are you going to be discussing?
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Well, I'm going to be discussing
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gossip and backbiting,
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but I wanted to paraphrase
your scripture that you used,
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this is Mollie's paraphrase,
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"Take advantage
of every opportunity
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to keep your mouth shut."
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That's my paraphrase.
That's a good paraphrase.
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But I will be talking
about gossiping and backbite.
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Okay.
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And the next we have
with us, my precious husband,
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and, JD, what will
you be discussing today?
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I'm gonna be talking
about unwholesome speech
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or unhealthy speech.
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Okay, that sounds good. Yes.
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And I'll be
anxious to hear that.
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And then we have
with us John Dinzey
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who is the general
manager of our 3ABN Latino.
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Johnny, what is your segment?
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Well, for some reason,
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I have to talk
about deceitfulness,
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exaggeration, and, you know,
it's interesting that people
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can even use
flattery to manipulate people.
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So we'll try to work
a little bit about that.
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Amen.
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And then my part, I
took what was leftover,
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is on grumbling,
and I'll tell you what,
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I think that the Lord
made sure that I got this part.
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So we want you to stay tuned
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because this is gonna be
a fascinating Bible study.
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First though, we know
how much you love music,
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and we do as well,
and our musical guest,
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our favorites of mine,
especially Sandra Entermann,
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my dear sister, she's
going to be with Kristie Sipec,
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and Aleta King,
and they will sing,
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"He will carry you".
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There is no problem so big
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God cannot solve it
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There is no mountain so tall
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He cannot move it
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There is no storm so dark
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God cannot calm it
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There is no sorrow so deep
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He cannot soothe it
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If He carried the
weight of the world
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Upon His shoulders
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I know, my brother
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That He will carry you
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If He carried the
weight of the world
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Upon His shoulders
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I know, my sister,
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That He will carry you
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There is no problem so big
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God cannot solve it
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There is no mountain so tall
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He cannot move it
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There is no storm so dark
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God cannot calm it
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There is no sorrow so deep
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He cannot soothe it
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If He carried the
weight of the world
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Upon His shoulders
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I know, my brother
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That He will carry you
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If He carried the
weight of the world
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Upon His shoulders
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I know, my sister
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That He will carry you
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He said come unto me
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All who are weary
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And I will give you rest
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There is no problem so big
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God cannot solve it
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There is no mountain so tall
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He cannot move it
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There is no storm so dark
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God cannot calm it
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There is no sorrow so deep
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He cannot soothe it
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If He carried the
weight of the world
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Upon His shoulders
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I know, my brother
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That He will carry you
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If He carried the
weight of the world
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Upon His shoulders
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I know, my sister
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That He will carry you
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I know, my brother
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That He will carry you
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I know, my sister
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That He will
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Carry you
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We're very
thankful to our sisters
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from down under,
that was Sandra, Kristie,
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and Aleta for
that beautiful song.
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If you are joining us
just a little late, we will,
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on this program,
discuss the Bible topic
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of Muzzling Your Mouth.
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And once again, with us
is Mollie Steenson, JD Quinn,
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and John Dinzey,
and I'm so thankful
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each one of you are
here to contribute to this
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because I think it's going to be
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very eye-opening for all of us.
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Let's begin, I want to
lay just a little ground work,
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so turn to Matthew 12,
and we'll start with verse 36.
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This is
something that Jesus said.
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Sometimes it is
taken out of context,
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it can be misunderstood,
but it's so important.
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In Matthew 12:36,
Jesus says, "I say to you,
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that for every
idle word men may speak,
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they will give account of
it in the Day of Judgment."
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An idle word is a word
that does not minister grace
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or instruction to someone.
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And idle is a word
that instead of edifying
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and building up, it tears down.
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And I really was fascinated,
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I found the
corresponding Hebrew word,
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and the corresponding
Hebrew word can mean
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an idle word is
vain, it is empty,
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it is something that
can be wicked or injurious.
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So idle words
are not just idling,
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they're tearing down.
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And this is
something that I thought about,
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when a policeman
arrests a perpetrator,
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what does he say to him.
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Your words,
anything that you say, what?
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Might be used against
you. May be used against you.
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And Jesus is giving us a
similar warning right here
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that our words will rise up
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and be used
against us in the judgment.
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So what we need to do
is confess our idle words,
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and ask God to grant us
forgiveness and repentance.
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But then He goes on
in verse 37, and He says,
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"For by your words,
you will be justified
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or declared
innocent, and by your words,
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condemned, declared guilty."
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Now what does He
mean by your words,
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what we say is
the outward evidence
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of the attitudes of our heart.
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And if we are
really belonging to Christ,
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if we belong to the Lord,
we'll have a new heart in us.
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So our thoughts
are expressed in words,
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and our words reveal
the nature of our heart.
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You know, Jesus
said, "Out of the mouth..."
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What did he say? How did he say?
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What comes out of the
mouth flows from the heart,
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and this is what defiles
a man or makes him unclean.
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My favorite scripture,
when it comes to thinking about
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the power of our words,
is Proverbs 18:21 that says,
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"There is power of life
and death in the tongue,
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and those who love
it will eat its fruits."
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So our words are very powerful
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they have the potential
to build up or to tear down.
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We can either
advance the Kingdom of God,
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or we can attack
the Kingdom of God.
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Harsh words wound
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whereas critical
words can destroy.
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So it is very,
very important that...
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I think of it this
way, careless words are like
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a loaded gun that
is used recklessly.
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And, boy, once
you've cocked that
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and opened your mouth,
and shot off that bullet,
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that careless
word that goes out,
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it cannot be brought back,
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it's out there to do its damage.
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And you can be held accountable
for the damage that's done
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by the weapon of your mouth.
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So this is something
we will discuss today.
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Johnny, I think
that your segment
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is on deceitfulness,
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and why don't you share
what the Lord has given you?
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Okay, well, you know,
what you're saying is so true.
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And we, as human beings,
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have to be
constantly under guard
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because the devil
tries to take advantage
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over our minds just wandering.
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It's amazing how fast
the mind works, you know,
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you can be talking to
somebody, they can say,
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"Wow, are you ugly?"
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And right away, you
have come with something
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to counter that person,
to cut that person down.
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I remember, when I was
going through high school,
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I went to public
school, and for some reason,
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it seem to be like
an art to find some way
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to bring the other person down.
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Have a comeback?
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Some comeback.
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And so when we
look at the Bible,
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and you see James 1:19 says,
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"Let every man be slow to
speak, swift to hear," why?
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Because your mind can
work so fast that sometimes
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like you said a
bridle or guard over my mouth
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that we have to be
always under the control
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of the Holy Spirit
that we may speak words
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that will edify, like
you said, and not tear down.
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And so one of the
hardest things to do
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is when
somebody is attacking us,
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how do you maintain
that Christian attitude?
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Somebody is tearing you
down, especially when you have
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not done anything
against the person.
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And Satan works so hard
to try to create divisions,
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he will create situations,
and people can actually think
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you have done something wrong
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or said something
wrong when you haven't.
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Yes.
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So by God's grace,
we should be watchful,
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and careful, and ask
the Lord for discernment
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when the devil is
trying to lead us astray.
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I can tell you that I
have been in situations
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where we're in
a group of people,
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and all of a
sudden, I say to myself,
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"How did we get into
this horrible conversation?"
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People are arguing
back and forth, and I say,
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"Lord, how did this happen?
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Help me to
figure out what to say
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to bring this
conversation to something good."
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And I start thinking about
it, and it's like the Lord said,
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"It's because you said this."
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And so that's why when
you say we have to set a guard
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over our mouth, set something
like a muzzle over our mouth
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to be slow to speak.
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But we have to
understand in James 3:6,
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I'm gonna read verse 7
through 8, 6, 7, and 8,
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and it says, "And the tongue
is a fire, a world of iniquity.
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So the tongue is
set among our members,
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spotting all the
body and then inflaming
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the course of nature,
and being inflamed by Hell.
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For every kind of animals,
and all birds, and of reptiles,
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and of sea-animals, is tamed,
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and it has been
tamed by mankind.
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But no one can tame the
tongue, it is an unruly evil,
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full of deadly poison."
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And so right
now, we see right away
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that we are at a
disadvantage because our tongue
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and our minds are
so quick to think,
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and so quick to speak.
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And so on top of that,
we think of Jeremiah 17:9,
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that says, "The
heart is deceitful
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above all things
and desperately wicked.
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Who can know it?"
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And for these reasons,
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we need to be
surrendered to the Lord.
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And before we step out
of the door of our house,
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before we step
out of the bed even,
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pray to the Lord,
place ourselves in His hands,
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and let Him take our
will, let Him take our tongue
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that we may speak as James says,
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"Words seasoned with grace."
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Actually it's in
Colossians I think,
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"Words seasoned with grace."
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Otherwise we are
going to use deceit,
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we are going to lie,
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we are going to use
flattery to even cause somebody
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to do something for
us where we should appeal
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instead to their kindness
because there are people,
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I remember one time, we
were taking some classes
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because we were
about to going door to door
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to ask people to consider
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purchasing some Christian books.
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And one of the
videos that somebody shared,
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or something
somebody said, it says
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when you go to somebody's house,
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find something to
praise them about.
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And so you're
asking what do you mean?
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And so somebody said,
"Well, it has to be honest
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and sincere praise."
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So if you're going
to praise somebody,
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be sincere about it.
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And say, "You know,
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I really
appreciate this about you.
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It encourages me
that you are always saying
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please and thank you."
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Instead of using
deceit to manipulate people
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because people do that.
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They try to
manipulate with words and deceit
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to try to gain
something for themselves.
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And the Bible warns
against that kind of flattery.
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And the Bible
warns against that.
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So flattery is
a dangerous thing.
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And so I even remember
Sister Ellen G White saying,
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after you preach a
sermon and somebody tells you,
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"What a wonderful job you did!"
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That you say, "Well, thank you,
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but the devil
already told me that."
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And so this is...
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Praise is something
difficult to handle sometimes.
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So we have to be
surrendered to the Lord
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and ask the Lord to help us.
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You know, one of
the commandments says,
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"You should not
bear false witness
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against your neighbor."
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So we're talking
about lying and deceit,
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and how dangerous it is.
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You've mentioned exaggeration
at the very beginning.
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Exaggeration, yes.
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It is telling a
half truth, a lie,
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or if you're exaggerating
the results or something,
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is that a lie?
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Yes, I believe it is.
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Amen. I believe it is.
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Anything you do
with malicious intent
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to get praise for yourself,
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to get something
out of the person
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using deceit of any kind
is not according to the way
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the Lord works because
the Lord speaks the truth,
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speaks the truth out of love,
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and we are to exhort
one another in love as well.
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And so love, it should be
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the motivating
factor in our conversations
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and in our
dealings with other people
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because we are told to
love our neighbor as ourself.
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So I ask myself,
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"Would you want
to be manipulated
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by deceit and
these type of things?"
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"Oh, no, I
wouldn't want to do that."
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You know,
that's why we can think
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of some people
call it the golden rule,
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"Do unto others as you will
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like for others to do unto you."
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So I don't wanna be lied
to, manipulated, with deceit,
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or any type of exaggerations
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to make me think something else.
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And, you know, sometimes,
people exaggerate things
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because the reality is not...
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They want to
impress people. Yes.
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And so that's why
exaggeration comes,
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but the Bible says,
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"Let your yes be
yes, and your no be no.
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Whatsoever is
more than these cometh
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from the evil one."
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So when we
think of these things,
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we really have to be careful,
especially when we try to
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like you said a half
truth because the mind works,
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what can I say...
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"If I say this then
they're not gonna think
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well of me or I'm not
gonna get what I desire."
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So a half truth can be a
deadly weapon, if I can say,
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an exaggeration, it
can be a deadly weapon
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that we use cooperating
with the devil in his desires
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to cause division
and to cause problems.
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And so I have seen
it throughout my life,
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and I'm sure that I've
done it one time or another,
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exaggeration or
leaving some truth out,
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not telling the whole story.
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And by God's grace, we should...
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Our pattern, our
example is Jesus Christ.
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And I want to mention the
words of, I think it's in Peter,
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if I have it here in my notes,
concerning Jesus Peter said
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in 1 Peter
2:21-23, "For even hereunto
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were you called because
Christ also suffered for us,
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leaving us an example,
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that you should
follow his steps,
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'Who did no sin,
neither was guile
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found in his
mouth,'" that's deceit.
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"Who, when he was
reviled, reviled not again,
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when he suffered,
he threatened not,
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but committed himself to
him that judgeth righteously."
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So Jesus gave us an
example that we should not have
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deceit in our
mouth or in our tongues
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considering that
the heart is deceitful
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and desperately wicked,
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we need to surrender
our heart to the Lord
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that He may give
us a purified heart.
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You know, this
is a perfect segue
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into Mollie's
because you're talking about
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deceit and passing
rumors on that or half truth.
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But then even sometimes, Mollie,
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we may know the
truth about somebody,
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and be guilty of
gossip or backbiting,
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but what does the
Bible have to say about that?
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Well, gossip, I've got
the scriptures on gossip.
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But first I
thought I would define
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what gossip and backbiting are.
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Yes.
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Gossip is casual or
unconstrained conversation
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or reports about other people.
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And it doesn't matter
whether It's the truth or not.
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Right.
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It's reports about other people
typically involving details
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that are not
confirmed as being true.
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Unconfirmed idle talk about
the private affairs of others.
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And people so want
to know the details
00:24:17.55\00:24:22.12
of other people's lives.
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The salacious details, we just
almost feed on it, don't we?
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Yeah.
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And so in Proverbs
20:19, the Scripture says,
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"He who goes about as a
slanderer reveals secrets,
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therefore do not
associate with a gossip."
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Calls it out, don't
associate with a gossip.
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Now let me just
take a little pause here.
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Have you ever
been in a situation
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where all of a sudden
the conversation turned,
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and you realized this is gossip,
00:24:57.29\00:24:59.93
and I don't want to
have any part of it?
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Well, what I want you to do
in a few minutes is give you
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weapons of warfare to keep you
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from allowing the gossiper
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to use your ear
as a garbage dump.
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But let's go on now.
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Let's look at backbiting
because backbiting and gossip
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aren't
identically the same thing.
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Backbiting is
malicious talk about someone
00:25:24.79\00:25:29.06
who's not present, it's rumors,
secrets, or lies, comments,
00:25:29.09\00:25:35.56
and whispers behind your back.
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A backbiter bites your back,
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talks about you
behind your back.
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And in Galatians 5, I'm gonna
look at verses 14 through 16.
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Okay.
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The Scripture says,
"For all the law is fulfilled
00:25:53.11\00:25:55.78
in one word, even in this,
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"You shall love your
neighbor as yourself.
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But if you bite,"
there's that word, bite,
00:26:01.66\00:26:05.03
backbiting, "If you
bite and devour one another,
00:26:05.06\00:26:10.27
beware lest you be
consumed by one another.
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I say then, walk in the
Spirit and you will not fulfill
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the lust of the flesh."
00:26:19.24\00:26:20.58
So what is backbiting,
gossiping, and devouring?
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It's lust of the flesh,
it's an act of the flesh.
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Our spirit indeed is
willing, we've got weak flesh,
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and some of us like
to listen to gossip.
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We've got to be rid,
allow the Lord to rid us
00:26:36.79\00:26:41.30
of this sinful tendencies.
00:26:41.33\00:26:44.10
Proverbs 4:23 says, and
this is the way to rid us
00:26:44.13\00:26:50.81
of these tendencies,
00:26:50.84\00:26:52.21
"Keeping guard your
heart with all vigilance,
00:26:52.24\00:26:55.11
and above all that you guard,
00:26:55.14\00:26:57.18
for out of it flow
the springs of life."
00:26:57.21\00:26:59.91
Keeping guard what?
00:26:59.95\00:27:01.52
Your heart with all
vigilance and above all that
00:27:01.55\00:27:04.75
you guard for out of it
flow the issues of life.
00:27:04.79\00:27:08.39
So how did you guard your heart?
00:27:08.42\00:27:10.46
See, things can only
enter into your heart
00:27:10.49\00:27:13.06
one of two ways,
that's what you hear,
00:27:13.09\00:27:16.10
and what you see.
00:27:16.13\00:27:17.53
So how do you keep
things from entering your heart
00:27:17.57\00:27:20.70
through your ear?
00:27:20.74\00:27:22.07
Sometimes you
have to tell people,
00:27:22.10\00:27:23.54
"Oh, I don't want to hear that."
00:27:23.57\00:27:25.67
By what you see, you
have to turn the TV channel
00:27:25.71\00:27:29.74
from what you're
watching over to 3ABN.
00:27:29.78\00:27:32.55
That's a good way.
00:27:32.58\00:27:34.45
But it's guarding your heart.
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See, it takes two to
gossip. Now think about that.
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You can say, "Oh,
sister..." So and so.
00:27:40.29\00:27:42.49
She said you gossip, "You would
not believe what she told me."
00:27:42.52\00:27:45.96
Well, honey, it
took two to gossip,
00:27:45.99\00:27:48.06
one to do the speaking,
00:27:48.10\00:27:50.67
but it takes
one to listen to it,
00:27:50.70\00:27:56.07
and those words go into ears.
00:27:56.10\00:27:57.81
And do you know once
you've heard something,
00:27:57.84\00:27:59.74
you have to deal with it
whether it's true or not,
00:27:59.77\00:28:02.44
you have to deal with everything
00:28:02.48\00:28:04.01
that goes into your ears.
00:28:04.05\00:28:05.88
And remember the Scripture says
00:28:05.91\00:28:07.85
to guard your
heart with all vigilance.
00:28:07.88\00:28:10.29
And so let's say,
you are prayed up,
00:28:10.32\00:28:13.42
you are confessed up,
you are standing before God,
00:28:13.46\00:28:17.03
you've got clean hands
and a pure heart before you,
00:28:17.06\00:28:20.40
before the Lord,
and then someone comes
00:28:20.43\00:28:22.90
and starts telling you
the most malicious gossip
00:28:22.93\00:28:26.74
about someone.
00:28:26.77\00:28:28.10
And it's going into your ear,
00:28:28.14\00:28:29.74
and you know where
it's going to wind up?
00:28:29.77\00:28:31.57
Right in your heart.
00:28:31.61\00:28:32.94
And so you have clean
hands and a pure heart,
00:28:32.97\00:28:35.34
and now you don't.
00:28:35.38\00:28:36.71
What you have just
done is allowed someone
00:28:36.75\00:28:40.18
to use your ear as garbage dumps
00:28:40.22\00:28:43.72
to put their garbage in.
00:28:43.75\00:28:45.25
And so I wanted to just give you
00:28:45.29\00:28:48.46
a couple of ways to stop that.
00:28:48.49\00:28:51.16
The number one way is
when someone is gossiping,
00:28:51.19\00:28:55.90
they're telling you something
that you don't want to hear,
00:28:55.93\00:28:58.47
you ask them,
00:28:58.50\00:28:59.83
"Where did you
get your information?"
00:28:59.87\00:29:01.94
And they probably won't tell you
00:29:01.97\00:29:04.37
or the next way to surely
stop before they tell them,
00:29:04.41\00:29:08.54
"Well, may I quote you on this?"
00:29:08.58\00:29:10.45
And they're going to
tell you, "No, I just..."
00:29:10.48\00:29:13.72
See, a gossip
doesn't want to be found out.
00:29:13.75\00:29:16.85
First and foremost,
ask them where they got
00:29:16.89\00:29:18.85
their information, and
then can you quote them,
00:29:18.89\00:29:21.52
and if the answer is
no, you just tell them,
00:29:21.56\00:29:23.63
"I don't want to hear
it," because then you're having
00:29:23.66\00:29:26.16
to deal with a heart
that has been contaminated.
00:29:26.19\00:29:30.37
Gossip is a nasty disease,
00:29:30.40\00:29:32.97
it's a poison that
kills relationships.
00:29:33.00\00:29:36.20
And that's Proverbs 16:28,
"A perverse man sows strife,
00:29:36.24\00:29:42.94
and a whisperer
separates the best of friends."
00:29:42.98\00:29:46.95
Poison, that's
what whisperer will do,
00:29:46.98\00:29:50.69
it will kill a friendship.
00:29:50.72\00:29:52.19
Proverbs 17:9, "He who covers
a transgression seeks love,
00:29:52.22\00:29:58.66
but he who repeats
a matter separates,"
00:29:58.69\00:30:01.86
what, "close friends."
00:30:01.90\00:30:04.30
And I wanted to
just speak a minute
00:30:04.33\00:30:06.17
and I'll hurry on this.
00:30:06.20\00:30:09.34
It says that...
00:30:09.37\00:30:10.71
Go ahead. Don't hurry.
00:30:10.74\00:30:12.07
Okay, it says, "He who covers
a transgression seeks love."
00:30:12.11\00:30:17.98
He who does what?
Covers a transgression.
00:30:18.01\00:30:22.45
The Scripture tells us that,
"A talebearer reveals secrets,
00:30:22.48\00:30:27.92
but he who is of
a faithful spirit,"
00:30:27.96\00:30:30.56
this is Proverbs
11:13, "conceals a matter."
00:30:30.59\00:30:34.56
Proverbs 10:19,
"Hatred stirs up strife,
00:30:34.60\00:30:38.23
but love covers all sin."
00:30:38.27\00:30:40.70
I believe it's
the King James Version
00:30:40.74\00:30:42.90
says that, "Love
covers a multitude of sin."
00:30:42.94\00:30:46.27
So we've got one
here that says, covers,
00:30:46.31\00:30:49.24
conceals a matter, and then...
00:30:49.28\00:30:53.78
Let me ask you this.
00:30:53.82\00:30:55.92
Love covers a
multitude of sins, who is love?
00:30:55.95\00:30:58.99
Jesus. God is love.
00:30:59.02\00:31:00.46
The scripture
tells us that 1 John 4:8,
00:31:00.49\00:31:04.23
"He who does not
love does not know God,
00:31:04.26\00:31:06.53
for God is love."
00:31:06.56\00:31:07.90
Doesn't say God is
loving, that is an adjective.
00:31:07.93\00:31:11.70
It says God is
love, that's a noun.
00:31:11.73\00:31:15.20
God is pure love
that's what He is.
00:31:15.24\00:31:17.94
And this Scripture says
love covers a multitude of sin.
00:31:17.97\00:31:21.21
Well, let me hurry with this.
00:31:21.24\00:31:22.91
"Hatred stirs up strife."
00:31:22.94\00:31:24.91
The scripture says that,
this is Revelation 12:10,
00:31:24.95\00:31:30.72
"Then I heard a loud
voice saying in heaven,
00:31:30.75\00:31:32.95
'Now salvation, and strengthen,
and the Kingdom of our God,
00:31:32.99\00:31:36.19
and the power of
His Christ has come,
00:31:36.22\00:31:38.89
and the accuser of the brethren,
00:31:38.93\00:31:41.86
who accused them
before our God day and night
00:31:41.90\00:31:45.17
has been cast down."
00:31:45.20\00:31:46.87
What is the
accuser of the brethren do?
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He accuses. What does God do?
00:31:49.57\00:31:52.24
God loves us, God covers us.
00:31:52.27\00:31:55.68
It doesn't mean that we
deny that someone has an area
00:31:55.71\00:32:00.85
in their life that needs
help, that needs correction,
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but it means that
we don't reveal it.
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We don't... It's the
accuser of the brethren
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that reveals the
secrets about others.
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So you have an opportunity
when you're in a position
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to identify the person
that is talking to you.
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Are they exhibiting
the attributes of God,
00:32:21.04\00:32:24.91
are they covering,
or are they exhibiting
00:32:24.94\00:32:28.84
the attributes of the
accuser of the brethren,
00:32:28.88\00:32:31.41
are they
revealing, are they exposing?
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God covers, the enemy exposes.
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I wanted to say just
these last two things
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or three things.
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Do not repeat anything you
will not sign your name to.
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I'm going to say it again. Amen.
00:32:46.49\00:32:47.83
Don't repeat anything
you won't sign your name
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to always remember, if
they will gossip to you,
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they will gossip about you.
00:32:54.27\00:32:56.30
And, Johnny, concerning
what you had to say earlier
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about flattery, gossip is saying
00:32:59.47\00:33:02.74
behind their back
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what you wouldn't
say to their face.
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Gossip behind their back
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what you wouldn't
say to their face.
00:33:08.38\00:33:09.95
But this is
flattery saying to their face
00:33:09.98\00:33:13.15
what you wouldn't
say behind their back.
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Remember, we want God
to keep us with clean hands
00:33:15.32\00:33:18.39
and a pure heart.
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To do that, we guard our
heart, we don't allow our ears
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to hear, our eyes
to see those things
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which are displeasing to God.
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So the next time you're
tempted to gossip or to talk
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about somebody behind
their back, backbiting,
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then just remember that you need
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to muzzle your mouth
because you're sinning
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with your tongue is
what the Bible is saying.
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Absolutely right.
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And, JD, I think that
you have unwholesome speech.
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Man, I tell you, my mind is
00:33:47.96\00:33:49.36
just going all over
the place right now.
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Me too. Help me, Jesus.
00:33:51.19\00:33:54.33
First of all I want to...
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Let me tell some
words out to you,
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what is unwholesome mean.
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And then I'm gonna go
into my first experience,
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I guess, dealing with a...
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I got my hand slapped.
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Wholesome,
unwholesome is being unhealthy,
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that's the simple word
for me is being unhealthy.
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It can also mean
corrupt, decayed, evil.
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Remember, we're
talking about speech,
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so we're talking
about corrupted speech,
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decayed speech, evil
speech, harmful speech, immoral,
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impure,
offensive, unclean, toxic,
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and probably
about a hundred more.
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That's the kind
of unwholesome speech
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that we're talking about.
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I remember when I was
probably five or six years old,
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Momma kept telling us no...
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I grew in a very
puritanical home, and boy,
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we played by the rules, if
we didn't play by the rules,
00:34:55.59\00:34:58.03
we got a little hand
slapped and everything.
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And all of a
sudden, out of nowhere,
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we're started talking
about the soap and mouth.
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If you're old
enough, you know, that boy...
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I think that every young kid,
I'm going to wash your mouth
00:35:10.11\00:35:12.37
out with soap, if
you do not do A, B, C
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or if you say this or say that.
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Well, I guess, as most kids,
00:35:18.25\00:35:19.68
you're pushing the
envelope constantly.
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So I guess I pushed
the envelope too far.
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But my mother was
a very fair person.
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She was going to wash
my mouth out with soap,
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and then she forgot about it.
00:35:29.86\00:35:31.19
I'm going to wash
your mouth out with soap,
00:35:31.23\00:35:32.56
she forgot about it.
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So then I kind of thought,
00:35:34.46\00:35:35.80
well, she's just
all bark and no bite.
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Oh, boy, did I make a mistake.
00:35:37.70\00:35:41.74
The day she came
she says, went by Jimmy,
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"Jimmy, choose your soap."
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"What?"
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And she had about
00:35:50.28\00:35:51.61
five different
brands of soap there.
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And she says, "Today
is the day of reckoning."
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And I could see it in her eyes.
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And I chose ivory
soap 'cause I thought
00:36:00.56\00:36:05.19
that was probably the most
mild and it floated on water.
00:36:05.23\00:36:08.80
So anyway, I thought
she was still just...
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Not going to...
00:36:13.00\00:36:14.37
She was just talking,
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but then the
toothbrush came out,
00:36:15.94\00:36:18.67
soap that thing up, and I mean,
I get a soaping, did I get...
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My mouth has never
been cleaner than it was
00:36:23.81\00:36:26.88
that particular day.
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But I learned a valuable lesson.
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Number one, don't
push momma too far.
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Number two is soap
does not taste good.
00:36:34.99\00:36:38.59
And number three,
these are consequences
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to saying things that
you don't want to say.
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I liked it when
we started off this,
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"But I say to you
that for every idle word
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men may speak, they
must give an account of it
00:36:50.74\00:36:52.97
on the Day of Judgment."
00:36:53.01\00:36:54.34
Well, the truth is how
many people really stop
00:36:54.38\00:36:56.58
and think about what that says
because we're so reactionary.
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"Don't push me,
I don't push you."
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And that's the reason,
that probably bottom line is
00:37:02.88\00:37:06.62
every day that you wake up,
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"Lord, empty me of me
and fill me with You,"
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because, man,
it's tough out there.
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And the scriptures
that were given to me
00:37:15.26\00:37:17.53
dealing with this,
and then we'll go back
00:37:17.57\00:37:19.70
of how we start every day.
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Let's go with Ephesians 4.
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And I mean, we
can go to Ephesians 4
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and start with verse
25 and we'll go down.
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Each of you, that's everybody,
00:37:31.11\00:37:34.88
"Each of you
must put off falsehood
00:37:34.92\00:37:38.05
or lying and speak
truthfully to His neighbor."
00:37:38.09\00:37:40.19
His neighbor is...
00:37:40.22\00:37:41.56
that's our brotherhood,
that's who we're dealing with.
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It's not necessarily
your next door neighbor,
00:37:44.03\00:37:46.29
it could be your wife,
it could be your brother,
00:37:46.33\00:37:48.26
your friend, it
could be your enemy.
00:37:48.30\00:37:52.83
"Speaking
truthfully to his neighbor,
00:37:52.87\00:37:54.74
for we all are one
members of one body, one body.
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In your anger do not sin."
00:37:59.77\00:38:02.31
Oh, Johnny, that's a
tough one right there
00:38:02.34\00:38:04.61
because, you know, we
just get pushed and pushed,
00:38:04.65\00:38:07.88
but as I started
researching this,
00:38:07.92\00:38:10.22
this is not necessarily talking
00:38:10.25\00:38:11.75
about putting
the boxing gloves on,
00:38:11.79\00:38:13.56
this is talking about
righteous and ignition.
00:38:13.59\00:38:15.42
This is talking
about resentment.
00:38:15.46\00:38:17.79
Mollie may say something to
me that may hurt my feelings,
00:38:17.83\00:38:21.20
but that's no need to
put the boxing gloves on.
00:38:21.23\00:38:23.40
That just means,
00:38:23.43\00:38:24.77
"Hey, I need to
work on my attitude
00:38:24.80\00:38:27.27
or we need to talk to
see what this issue is,"
00:38:27.30\00:38:31.27
because I don't want something
00:38:31.31\00:38:33.41
between Mollie and me, I mean...
00:38:33.44\00:38:36.28
So this is being Christ-like.
00:38:36.31\00:38:39.81
"Lord, be with me
today as I start my day out,
00:38:39.85\00:38:43.12
fill me with You, get
this all niceness out."
00:38:43.15\00:38:47.72
And then, "Do not
let the sun go down
00:38:47.76\00:38:50.66
while you are still angry
00:38:50.69\00:38:52.03
and do not give
the devil a foothold."
00:38:52.06\00:38:53.80
I guess that
we've all heard that,
00:38:53.83\00:38:55.86
especially if you are married.
00:38:55.90\00:38:57.47
If you are having an
argument or something like that,
00:38:57.50\00:38:59.53
don't let the sun go down
until you up righted that.
00:38:59.57\00:39:03.61
And that's really quite simple
or it can be very difficult.
00:39:03.64\00:39:08.34
Who are you serving this day?
00:39:08.38\00:39:10.61
Are you serving
Jesus? It'll be easy.
00:39:10.65\00:39:12.98
"Shelley, I'm so
sorry, I didn't mean that,
00:39:13.01\00:39:15.05
I mean, I guess I
reacted over something,
00:39:15.08\00:39:18.05
you know, I got
stopped today by the police
00:39:18.09\00:39:21.02
and I just
haven't got past that."
00:39:21.06\00:39:22.69
Whatever it may be
or you can just work
00:39:22.72\00:39:26.80
right into what the devil.
00:39:26.83\00:39:28.50
"Shelley, I'm not
gonna forget this."
00:39:28.53\00:39:30.63
You know, shame, shame, shame.
00:39:30.67\00:39:32.73
"Lord, please help me
today as I start this day
00:39:32.77\00:39:35.50
'cause you're
gonna have to empower me,
00:39:35.54\00:39:37.41
I can't do this by myself."
00:39:37.44\00:39:39.64
And then we're gonna
down here to Ephesians 4:29,
00:39:39.67\00:39:45.05
"Let no corrupt word
proceed out of your mouth,
00:39:45.08\00:39:47.05
but what is good for
necessary edification."
00:39:47.08\00:39:50.35
Now that's what
we were talking about
00:39:50.39\00:39:51.72
that edification is
building someone up.
00:39:51.75\00:39:54.62
That's what we want to do
'cause that's reciprocation.
00:39:54.66\00:39:57.33
We don't want to
be a stumbling block.
00:39:57.36\00:39:59.69
We want to be there
to assist other people
00:39:59.73\00:40:02.06
in building them
up that it may convey,
00:40:02.10\00:40:07.00
impart grace to the hearers.
00:40:07.04\00:40:09.04
Thank you that
we have that option
00:40:09.07\00:40:10.64
because remember
we've got to give an account
00:40:10.67\00:40:14.08
on the Day of Judgment.
00:40:14.11\00:40:16.24
So what's coming out
of our mouth, counts.
00:40:16.28\00:40:18.81
That's a biggie, I never
really had thought about that.
00:40:18.85\00:40:22.92
I know there is the
book of remembrance.
00:40:22.95\00:40:25.15
I mean, all this
is being written.
00:40:25.19\00:40:27.19
Wow, this thing is getting heavy
00:40:27.22\00:40:29.66
all of a sudden.
00:40:29.69\00:40:31.03
It's not just the
matter of pushing the envelope.
00:40:31.06\00:40:34.53
Ephesians 5:4,
00:40:34.56\00:40:36.43
"Let there be no
filthiness," in other words,
00:40:36.46\00:40:39.37
"Let's don't bring
shame into this situation,
00:40:39.40\00:40:42.74
let's don't have any
indecency or obscenity,
00:40:42.77\00:40:45.67
let's don't be
foolish, let's don't be sinful."
00:40:45.71\00:40:48.31
Boy, sinful, that's
a tough one right there
00:40:48.34\00:40:50.35
because you can feel though
00:40:50.38\00:40:51.71
all kind of
innuendos out there today,
00:40:51.75\00:40:54.18
just those little bitty
birds that go under the saddle.
00:40:54.22\00:40:58.42
And, boy, by the time
that you've ridden that horse
00:40:58.45\00:41:00.76
all day long,
those little birds,
00:41:00.79\00:41:03.02
they've been birding
into that horses back,
00:41:03.06\00:41:05.19
and I'll guarantee
that horse like my mother,
00:41:05.23\00:41:10.30
that envelope's
been pushed far enough
00:41:10.33\00:41:12.83
and that horse is
going to buck you off.
00:41:12.87\00:41:14.54
So watch those little innuendos,
00:41:14.57\00:41:16.27
those little ways of
trying to get back at somebody.
00:41:16.30\00:41:18.87
And sometimes we can
just kind of have an agenda
00:41:18.91\00:41:22.34
and try to be
silly about something.
00:41:22.38\00:41:24.98
And it also tells
us in 2 Timothy 2:16,
00:41:25.01\00:41:28.52
we have gone
from Ephesians 4 now,
00:41:28.55\00:41:30.25
I say 25, 30.
00:41:30.29\00:41:31.62
Before you leave Ephesians
5, when you were talking
00:41:31.65\00:41:34.86
about the, "Don't
let there be filthiness,
00:41:34.89\00:41:38.96
foolishness nor coarse
jesting, which are not fitting."
00:41:38.99\00:41:43.80
And I think of
unwholesome speech
00:41:43.83\00:41:46.84
that coarse
jesting is important.
00:41:46.87\00:41:49.00
You bet. You bet.
00:41:49.04\00:41:51.87
Yeah, now that we are not
sitting here talking about
00:41:51.91\00:41:54.84
just having a
good time, you know,
00:41:54.88\00:41:56.85
laughing about
something that's wholesome.
00:41:56.88\00:42:00.15
No, of course...
00:42:00.18\00:42:01.75
Yeah, we're sitting here,
sitting around the water cooler
00:42:01.78\00:42:05.22
and having a one-upsman
and things get out of hand
00:42:05.25\00:42:08.42
so quick because
either of our inadequacy
00:42:08.46\00:42:11.69
because I want to be accepted.
00:42:11.73\00:42:15.23
Boy, I just keep
going back to this,
00:42:15.26\00:42:16.93
of course, I'm
an old mature horse
00:42:16.97\00:42:18.60
so I look through
different set of eyes.
00:42:18.63\00:42:20.57
I keep going,
boy, this is fantastic.
00:42:20.60\00:42:22.47
Every idle word, you're going
to have to get account of that.
00:42:22.50\00:42:26.71
Boy, that will
stop in your tracks.
00:42:26.74\00:42:29.51
So, Lord, let
me muzzle my mouth.
00:42:29.54\00:42:34.22
Amen. Muzzle my mouth.
00:42:34.25\00:42:35.78
Amen.
00:42:35.82\00:42:37.15
And then it goes on and
says, one more, Shelley.
00:42:37.19\00:42:39.55
And we're talking about
the grumblers, the murmurers,
00:42:39.59\00:42:42.02
the complainers.
00:42:42.06\00:42:43.39
Oh, my goodness, oh my,
boy, they're everywhere.
00:42:43.43\00:42:46.33
Walking accord to
their own selfish lust,
00:42:46.36\00:42:49.46
that they mouth
great swelling words,
00:42:49.50\00:42:53.60
those little
bitty tiny words and...
00:42:53.64\00:42:57.04
Jack can tell the
story a little bit brighter
00:42:57.07\00:42:59.87
I had a few more
verbs and adjectives
00:42:59.91\00:43:03.45
and everything
until finally we have
00:43:03.48\00:43:05.01
an inflated story here
that didn't even happen.
00:43:05.05\00:43:07.85
Amen.
00:43:07.88\00:43:09.22
And then, of
course, we have talked about
00:43:09.25\00:43:11.99
this enough about
the flattering to people
00:43:12.02\00:43:14.66
to gain advantage.
00:43:14.69\00:43:16.02
Amen. So anyway...
00:43:16.06\00:43:18.33
So unwholesome
speech you've set it up
00:43:18.36\00:43:21.00
perfectly though,
00:43:21.03\00:43:22.36
just kind of segues
into the last scripture
00:43:22.40\00:43:25.50
you read was on the grumbling,
and murmuring, and complaining
00:43:25.53\00:43:28.80
which is the
little segment I have.
00:43:28.84\00:43:31.01
And let me just...
00:43:31.04\00:43:32.74
We're gonna start
with 1 Corinthians 10:10.
00:43:32.77\00:43:35.01
I've just got
about four scriptures
00:43:35.04\00:43:36.61
that I would like
to share with you.
00:43:36.64\00:43:38.25
We're talking about
ways we sin with our mouth,
00:43:38.28\00:43:41.38
we've looked at lying,
and deceitfulness, gossip,
00:43:41.42\00:43:44.29
and backbiting,
unwholesome speech,
00:43:44.32\00:43:47.56
coarse speech, but,
boy, this is one as I said
00:43:47.59\00:43:50.59
I think the Lord let
me get this on purpose
00:43:50.63\00:43:54.03
'cause if any of
this hasn't gotten you,
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I bet this one does.
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In 1 Corinthians
10:10, Paul writes and says,
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"Do not grumble."
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That's murmuring or
muttering under your breath
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in a complaining attitude.
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He says, "Do not
grumble as some of them did
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and were killed by
the destroying angel."
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And I don't know
exactly which scripture
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he was referring to
here, probably Numbers 24,
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when they were grumbling,
and murmuring, and complaining.
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Numbers 21.
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When they were
grumbling, and murmuring,
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and complaining
against Moses and Aaron.
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And what God do He sent
fiery serpents to kill them
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and then they had to
set up the bronze serpent
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which represented Jesus Christ.
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So that they looked to Him
to that and be saved and...
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But when we think about it,
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what is at the
root of murmuring?
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It's unbelief.
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When you're murmuring, and
grumbling, and complaining,
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it's unbelief, it's a
denial of the goodness
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in the mercy of God.
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And we know that
if it's unbelief,
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that's without faith and
Paul said in Romans 14:23,
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"Whatever is not a
faith is," what, "sin."
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So here the
reason God judged them
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and destroyed the people is that
00:45:24.19\00:45:26.55
they were being
totally faithless,
00:45:26.59\00:45:28.96
they were murmuring, and
grumbling, and complaining
00:45:28.99\00:45:31.36
against Moses and Aaron.
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And it was their faithlessness.
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So when he says do not
grumble, that's a call for us
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to keep a
faith-filled positive attitude
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in our heart.
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And, you know, the
Israelites were so good
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at grumbling and complaining.
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I know that on another occasion.
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They just totally
forgot about God's blessings
00:45:53.31\00:45:56.02
that He was delivering them,
00:45:56.05\00:45:57.39
He was setting
them up as a nation,
00:45:57.42\00:45:58.89
He was gonna give
them a land of inheritance.
00:45:58.92\00:46:02.22
So what He did
on another occasion,
00:46:02.26\00:46:04.16
what they did,
00:46:04.19\00:46:05.53
they were grumbling, and
murmuring, and complaining
00:46:05.56\00:46:07.93
because they missed
the wonderful Egyptian food
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that they left behind.
00:46:12.60\00:46:13.94
And listen to what
Moses said in Exodus 16:8-9,
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Moses says,
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"This shall be seen
when the Lord gives you meat
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to eat in the evening,
00:46:24.31\00:46:25.65
and the morning
bread to the full.
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For the Lord
hears your complaints
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which you make against Him."
00:46:30.52\00:46:32.65
When we are
murmuring and complaining,
00:46:32.69\00:46:35.42
we're murmuring and
complaining against God.
00:46:35.46\00:46:38.09
He says, "'What are we?
00:46:38.13\00:46:40.60
Your complaints
are not against us,
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but against the Lord."
00:46:43.16\00:46:45.30
Then Moses spoke to Aaron,
say to all the congregation
00:46:45.33\00:46:48.10
of the children of Israel,
come near before the Lord,
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for He has heard
your complaints."'
00:46:52.07\00:46:55.38
Wow, so when we're
murmuring and complaining
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about our
circumstances that God allowed
00:46:58.21\00:47:01.68
to be orchestrated in our life,
00:47:01.72\00:47:03.28
we're murmuring and
complaining against God.
00:47:03.32\00:47:06.35
You know, people
murmur and complain
00:47:06.39\00:47:08.82
about their pastors sometimes.
00:47:08.86\00:47:12.13
God put that pastor in place,
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you're murmuring and
complaining against God.
00:47:14.20\00:47:17.07
So let's look at
Numbers 14 because I really...
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I remember the first time
that this scripture hit me
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straight between the
eyes and this was about
00:47:26.31\00:47:30.38
15, 20 years ago.
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In Numbers 14:3, the
Israelites are murmuring,
00:47:33.58\00:47:40.66
and complaining, and they said,
00:47:40.69\00:47:43.02
"Why has Lord brought us
out here to fall by the sword,
00:47:43.06\00:47:48.53
that our wives and our
children should become victims?
00:47:48.56\00:47:53.17
Would it not be better
for us to return to Egypt?"
00:47:53.20\00:47:57.41
So here God has delivered them
from bondage, He saved them.
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And now they're saying,
00:48:01.38\00:48:02.71
"Oh, He's brought us
out here today to die."
00:48:02.74\00:48:06.18
And in Numbers 14:27,
here's what God says to them,
00:48:06.21\00:48:13.02
"How long shall I bear
with this evil congregation
00:48:13.05\00:48:17.06
who complains against Me?
00:48:17.09\00:48:18.76
I have heard the complaints
00:48:18.79\00:48:20.13
which the children of
Israel make against me.
00:48:20.16\00:48:22.76
Say to them, as I
live, says the Lord,
00:48:22.80\00:48:27.10
just as you have
spoken in my hearing,
00:48:27.14\00:48:29.90
so I will do to you."
00:48:29.94\00:48:31.51
So they are saying,
00:48:31.54\00:48:32.87
oh, they are
being totally faithless,
00:48:32.91\00:48:34.58
God didn't bring us
out here to deliver us,
00:48:34.61\00:48:37.25
He brought us out in
the wilderness to die.
00:48:37.28\00:48:40.05
And God says, "Okay,
if that's what you think,
00:48:40.08\00:48:43.05
that's what I'll allow."
00:48:43.08\00:48:44.42
Here they are standing
00:48:44.45\00:48:45.79
at the edge of
the Promised Land,
00:48:45.82\00:48:47.16
God commands them to turn around
00:48:47.19\00:48:49.09
and they get to go back
and wander around the mountain
00:48:49.12\00:48:51.93
one more time for 40 years,
00:48:51.96\00:48:53.83
one more time,
and one more time.
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So in Hebrews, it says
that they were shut out
00:48:55.93\00:49:00.24
of the Promised
Land by unbelief.
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And in Philippians 2.
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Is this getting to you?
00:49:07.74\00:49:09.21
Do you realize when we
kind of grumble, and murmur,
00:49:09.24\00:49:11.51
and complaining,
we are guilty of it.
00:49:11.55\00:49:13.58
Philippians 2,
I'm going to read this
00:49:13.62\00:49:15.25
from the
Amplified in verses 14-16.
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It says, Paul
says, "Do all things
00:49:20.09\00:49:23.79
without
grumbling and faultfinding
00:49:23.83\00:49:26.16
and complaining against God,
00:49:26.19\00:49:29.00
and questioning and
doubting among yourselves
00:49:29.03\00:49:31.97
that you may show yourself
to be blameless and guileless,
00:49:32.00\00:49:34.77
innocent and
uncontaminated, children of God
00:49:34.80\00:49:38.11
without blemish, faultless,
where you cannot be rebuked."
00:49:38.14\00:49:43.65
He says, "In the
midst of a crooked
00:49:43.68\00:49:45.58
and wicked generation,
00:49:45.61\00:49:47.38
among whom you are
seen as bright lights
00:49:47.42\00:49:51.42
as you hold out to the world
and offer it the word of life."
00:49:51.45\00:49:56.06
So Paul is
saying, don't grumble,
00:49:56.09\00:50:00.20
you're murmuring
against God, but here's...
00:50:00.23\00:50:03.77
Our time's all
gone, I can't believe it.
00:50:03.80\00:50:06.37
Here is the bottom line
to what we are talking about
00:50:06.40\00:50:09.24
and you all can jump in here.
00:50:09.27\00:50:11.31
When the promise
of the New Covenant
00:50:11.34\00:50:13.81
is God will give us a new heart.
00:50:13.84\00:50:15.34
Amen.
00:50:15.38\00:50:16.71
See, cleaning
up our speech alone
00:50:16.75\00:50:20.08
won't solve the heart problem.
00:50:20.12\00:50:22.12
We've got to have
Jesus living in our heart
00:50:22.15\00:50:25.69
by the power of the Holy Spirit,
00:50:25.72\00:50:27.09
we've got to have
this spirit of God in us.
00:50:27.12\00:50:29.42
So muzzling your
mouth and just cleaning up
00:50:29.46\00:50:31.39
your speech isn't enough,
00:50:31.43\00:50:33.73
you've got to have
the Holy Spirit within you
00:50:33.76\00:50:36.90
and bring every,
only by him can you
00:50:36.93\00:50:38.93
bring every thought captive
to the obedience of Christ.
00:50:38.97\00:50:43.71
So yes, we've got
to muzzle our mouth,
00:50:43.74\00:50:47.18
put that bridle on our mouth.
00:50:47.21\00:50:49.64
And either speak in
faith or lock it up,
00:50:49.68\00:50:54.55
and don't speak at all.
00:50:54.58\00:50:56.62
In Psalm 141:3, David prays,
00:50:56.65\00:51:02.72
"Set a guard, O Lord,
00:51:02.76\00:51:05.19
over my mouth, keep watch
over the door of my lips."
00:51:05.23\00:51:10.20
And that's what
we've got to pray,
00:51:10.23\00:51:11.57
isn't it, Mollie?
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Yes, and the
scripture plainly says
00:51:12.97\00:51:14.80
out of the abidance of
the heart, the mouth speaks.
00:51:14.84\00:51:18.81
And it's about those very
words that we are justified,
00:51:18.84\00:51:22.54
made righteous or
condemned, and that is where
00:51:22.58\00:51:26.61
that pronouncement
is placed over them.
00:51:26.65\00:51:28.75
So it is about the
words that are in our heart
00:51:28.78\00:51:33.52
and that's where we pray...
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Shows the
attitude of your heart.
00:51:34.92\00:51:36.26
Yeah.
00:51:36.29\00:51:37.63
Ask God, "Search me,
O God, know my heart,
00:51:37.66\00:51:38.99
try me and know my thoughts."
00:51:39.03\00:51:40.36
Amen.
00:51:40.40\00:51:41.73
"See if there any evil way in me
00:51:41.76\00:51:43.10
and lead me in
the path everlasting."
00:51:43.13\00:51:44.47
I just want to
thank you each of you
00:51:44.50\00:51:45.83
for your
contribution to this Bible topic
00:51:45.87\00:51:48.20
and it just seemed to flyby.
00:51:48.24\00:51:51.84
Did you have a comment?
00:51:51.87\00:51:53.21
Well, I know we've got
a news break coming up.
00:51:53.24\00:51:55.11
Oh, yes, we do
have a news break.
00:51:55.14\00:51:57.28
Thank you. But
this has just flown by.
00:51:57.31\00:51:59.81
We're going to come
back in just a moment,
00:51:59.85\00:52:01.82
and we'll have a final word,
00:52:01.85\00:52:03.75
but stay tuned
for that final word.
00:52:03.79\00:52:06.96