I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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I want to spend my life
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Removing pain
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Lord, let my words
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Heal a heart that hurts
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I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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Hello, and welcome to
another 3ABN Today program.
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My name is Jill Morikone.
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And with me is,
Dr. Yvonne Lewis.
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It's a privilege to
have you here, Yvonne.
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Oh, it's a privilege to be here.
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Thank you, thank
you for inviting me.
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I'm excited about
the program today.
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We're talking
about a woman here,
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we'll introduce our
guests in just a moment.
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We're here on the today
set, we're talking as woman
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but this is a
program for anyone.
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We're talking about
ambassadors of comfort.
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God calls each
one of us to reach out
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and to minister to someone else
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with the comfort
God has given us.
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We are to extend that
comfort to someone else.
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We all know someone,
Yvonne, that that has struggles.
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Someone who has gone through,
you could say suffering,
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trials, we
could say we all have.
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We all have. Absolutely.
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And we need to know
how to minister to them
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and we need to
be able to look at
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how we were
ministered to as well.
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Absolutely, it's very important
because you think about,
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there's right ways and
wrong ways to minister.
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That's right.
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And even if the
intention is right,
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there's ways
that we can minister
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and it might
actually do some harm.
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Absolutely.
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So we're going to look
at some biblical principles.
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We'll look at
how Jesus ministered.
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We'll look at how we
can minister physically,
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emotionally and
spiritually to those people
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who are in difficulty,
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to those people
who are struggling.
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And we want to introduce
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our special guests at this time.
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We have Daria Hibbler,
you are programming assistant,
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and, Daria, we
love you here at 3ABN.
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We do. She is precious.
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Oh, I love you, guys, too.
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Now tell us just
a little bit about,
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I know you're working
here at 3ABN right now,
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but you also just
came back from mission work
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and you're a student, so tell us
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just a little
bit about yourself?
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So I'm 21 years old.
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And I just got
back from Colombia.
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I was a
missionary for a year there.
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But now will be
returning back to Southern
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as a junior in Tennessee.
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So I'm excited to
go back to school.
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What are you taking?
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I'm taking
international business.
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Oh. I know, that's impressive.
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Where there were lot of
people that needed comfort
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in Columbia when you were there?
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Oh, yes.
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And you know, I
needed some comfort too
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to be honest so.
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It's a good point.
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Sometimes we think
about comfort as we need to be
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extending it to someone else.
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But we sometimes are in
need of comfort ourselves.
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We are. Yeah.
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That's very true.
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And sitting next to
Daria is our vice president
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and general
manager, Mollie Steenson.
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And, Mollie, it's
just a privilege and joy
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to have you here.
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Always a joy to
be with you, ladies.
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We love Mollie too. We do.
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We can go, talk about comfort,
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let's talk about
Mollie Sue for a minute.
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So you know, sometimes
the work here is very intense,
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and sometimes you just need
to just get that little soft,
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sweet voice that
Mollie Sue has with insight.
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So it's not just her
being soft and sweet.
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She has insight and she does,
she'll say something to you.
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If she has to correct you,
she does that very sweetly,
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but she does it nonetheless.
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And so, I just feel like
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the Lord has
blessed us here at 3ABN.
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There's some
very godly women here.
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Absolutely.
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And I'm very thankful and
you, my dear, are one as well.
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Yeah, I was just thinking.
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Well, my little Daria, you know,
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it's just a blessing to be here.
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We do tend to comfort each other
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when we're going through things,
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and so it's a blessing.
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And that's another thing, Jill,
the importance of friendship.
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Yes.
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You know, when you're
going through something
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just having someone
who is a true friend
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is an important factor.
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It is, absolutely.
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Everybody's got to have somebody
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that they can talk to,
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they can tell their secrets too.
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And I had, I'll
just tell you who it was,
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Shelley called
me not too long ago.
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Shelly's having some
health issues right now.
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And she is one of the
strongest ladies I know.
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And you never
hear her complaining
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and she just needed
somebody to just air it out with
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and so she called me,
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all she want me
to do was listen,
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she didn't want me to
give her pearls of wisdom,
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she just wanted somebody
to, you know, just to hear,
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hear what she was feeling
and what she was going through.
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And so that's my
precious friend Shelley.
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She's getting better
and I praise God for that.
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Amen. Praise the Lord, yeah.
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You know, one of the
things that I think about
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when I hear about
people like Shelley
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with different
health challenges.
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It's so weird because as soon
as we really focused on that,
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go evangelistic
team and all that stuff,
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go evangelism team,
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I think all
Hades has broken out.
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That's a good way to break.
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I mean, there are just
different people have been hit
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with all these
different challenges,
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health challenges,
relationship challenges,
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whatever, whatever I mean,
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and it's just like
we're on the frontlines
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and a major thing with
comfort is praying for us here.
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Absolutely.
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We really need your prayers here
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because I just see that
so many of us are dealing
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with health issues
that we never had before.
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Absolutely.
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And the enemy is just really
trying to come up against us
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because he knows
his time is short.
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And if you're
going through something
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which most likely you are
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because when you
are on the battlefield
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for the Lord, you know,
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all who live godly
will suffer persecution,
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you're gonna, you're
gonna go through something.
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And when you are just
know that you have a family
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and us too that
we're all in this together
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and that you know,
we can pray for you
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and you can pray for us, so...
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Isn't that a
beautiful thing? It is.
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It's been a part
of the family or God.
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And I know we talk to
you when you call us at 3ABN,
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or when you send in letters
or those e-mails and just say,
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"Hey, I'm struggling,
I'm having a hard time,"
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and we take those seriously.
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Yes.
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Here at 3ABN, we
gather around sometimes
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a special urgent need
comes in and we will stop
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and we will pray
special gather people together.
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So there is power in prayer.
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There's power when
we pray for each other.
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Before we go to our music
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and then jump
really into our topic.
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There's a special scripture
and I had my Bible open to it.
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I was just
reading it this morning
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and then my Sister
Yvonne had it open too.
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So why don't you read us
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that scripture in 2
Corinthians, Yvonne?
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Sure. I love this
scripture. Me too.
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2 Corinthians 1:3 and 4,
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"Blessed be the God
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and Father of our
Lord Jesus Christ,
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the Father of mercies
and God of all comfort,
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who comforts us in
all our tribulation,
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that we may be
able to comfort those
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who are in any trouble,
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with the comfort
with which we ourselves
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are comforted by God."
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Amen.
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That's in the New
King James Version.
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And look how many times
the word comfort is used
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in those two verses.
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Yeah. Absolutely.
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You know what I found
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when I was
reading it this morning.
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I love to look at,
I look at Bible hub
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which is the little,
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It's an app you
can get on your phone
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and it shows you the Greek
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and you can look at
the origins of the words.
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And when I
looked to this word up,
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it's the first time
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and I've read the
scripture many times
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but it's the first
time I actually found this.
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That word for
comfort is paraklesis.
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Now if that
word sounds familiar,
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it's, because it comes
from the word parakletos
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which we have heard
before and talked about before
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in John 14-15,
remember Jesus said,
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"It is expedient that I go away
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because if I don't go away
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then I cannot
send the comforter."
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Or some versions of
the Bible said helper,
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but that word is parakletos
and in the Roman world,
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a parakletos was
someone who was called to come
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alongside of someone else.
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Oh, nice.
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Now they used it in a
legal sense say Daria,
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I was, I don't know,
I got a speeding ticket
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which I have gotten
the speeding ticket before.
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So say I got a speeding ticket
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and you have to
appear before the judge.
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Now in the Roman world,
the parakletos would come.
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And he or she would come beside
and would offer physical help,
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if I needed
food, if I needed water
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during the case
of these proceedings,
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if you were cold and
needed blankets or help.
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They offered
emotional help if I was scared,
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if I was worried,
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they would offer emotional help,
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and they offered legal help.
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They would
actually come alongside you
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and be your defense.
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That's the Holy Spirit,
the work of the Holy Spirit
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to be our aid, our comforter,
our helper, our parakletos.
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But here this word for comfort,
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paraklesis comes
from that parakletos.
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Blessed be the God
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and Father of our
Lord Jesus Christ,
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the Father of mercies
and God of all comfort."
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He is the God who is
called to come alongside us
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and be our aid.
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And that means we
are, we've received this
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whether to send
it to someone else
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which means I'm
called to go alongside Daria,
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or Mollie, or
Yvonne, or someone else,
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I'm called to go alongside
them and offer aid, offer help.
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Oh. Isn't that beautiful?
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It's beautiful.
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Look at God.
Yeah, that's praise God.
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It's beautiful,
amen. That's beautiful.
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Let's go to our song. Okay.
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And then we'll
jump into our topic.
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We have with us
Annette Campbell.
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And she'll be
singing a beautiful song,
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"Were it not for Grace".
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Love it.
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Time measured out my days
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Life carried me along
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In my soul I
yearned to follow God
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But knew I'd never be so strong
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I looked hard at this world
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To learn how
heaven could be gained
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Just to end where I began
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Where human
effort is all in vain
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Were it not for grace
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I can tell you where I'd be
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Wandering down some
pointless road to nowhere
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With my salvation up to me
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And I know how that would go
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The battles I would face
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Forever running
but losing the race
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Were it not for grace
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So here is all my praise
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Expressed with all my heart
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Offered to the
Friend who took my place
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And ran a course I
could not even start
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And when He saw in full
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Just how much
His love would cost
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He still ran the final mile
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Between me and heaven
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So I would not be lost
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Were it not for grace
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I can tell you where I'd be
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Wandering down some
pointless road to nowhere
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With my salvation up to me
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And I know how that would go
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The battles I would face
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Forever running
but losing the race
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Were it not for grace
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Forever running
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But losing the race
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Were it not for grace
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Amen. Thank you
so much, Annette.
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Don't you love
that song, Yvonne?
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Oh, I do.
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You know, I've
heard it for years
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and every time you hear
it, you get a blessing from it.
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It's just, when it's
done correctly of course.
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Amen. Amen.
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It is such a blessing,
the words are so beautiful.
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Yeah.
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What would we do if we
didn't have the grace of God?
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Amen. Amen.
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And what would we
do if we didn't have
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the comfort of God?
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Exactly.
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We're talking today about
being ambassadors of comfort.
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Sharing the comfort
that God has given to us
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with each other.
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And we have today,
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Mollie Steenson
and Daria Hibbler,
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and we're so thankful
both of you ladies are here.
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And let's just jump
right into our topic.
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As we launch into this,
we want to talk about ways
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that we should extend
comfort and then ways that maybe
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we shouldn't be
extending comfort.
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We can talk about how to
extend comfort physically
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and emotionally and spiritually.
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But first of all, let's just
talk about maybe experiences,
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our time and our lives
where we needed comfort.
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And someone was the
hands and feet of Jesus
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and extended that
comfort to us, Mollie?
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Well, back in 2013, Hal and I
were in an automobile accident
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and we had to be
flown to St. Louis,
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and Hal had to
stay longer than me
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and so my son
Jeremy, my sister's son
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and my son
Jeremy brought me home
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and then they left,
and so Jeremy was there
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and I heard this
knocking on the door.
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And here comes my
friend Dee Hildebrand.
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And she met that
she was going to see me.
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She said, "I've got to see you,
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I had to make
sure you were okay."
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Just hearing you were
okay wasn't good enough.
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I had to see with my own eyes,
where she sat there with me,
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not for a real long
time but long enough for her
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to feel secure that
I was going to be okay.
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But just her presence
then was so important to me
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and so encouraging to me
and it brought such comfort
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that she loved me and I
think cared enough to come
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and just be there
with me during that time
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when I had just
because the pain level
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was still really high
and I just having her there
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was such a comfort to me.
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Now do you think, you
ladies think that means
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any time say you
have a car accident
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or you're in trouble that,
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this is license
anybody just, okay,
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I'm going to jump over and see
Yvonne and Daria or whatever,
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so do you think
there's any parameters
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that we should set with this?
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Well, you need to
know whether or not
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you would be
welcome in that situation.
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I know I've been
in the hospital before
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when I had surgery and I
didn't want anybody to come.
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I didn't feel good
and I looked worse.
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Maybe that's the
heartache, I don't know,
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but it was way till I
get home and get settled in
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before you come to see me.
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So you just need
to know, you know,
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find out what the
person's preferences
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would be my thoughts on that.
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What about you,
Daria, what do you think?
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Well, I know last year
when I was a missionary,
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I was missing my family a lot.
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And I had a
really good friend there
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that I had met at the
beginning when I first arrived.
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His name was Jose.
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And one day he had text
me and asked me if I would,
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how I was adjusting to you know,
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a third world country
and I was like you know,
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I'm missing my
family a little bit.
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And he said, "Okay,
well, meet me in front of this,
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one of the
buildings at the university."
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And so we went down
there, he took me the ice cream.
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If you guys know me, I
love ice cream so much,
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so that like made
my entire week there.
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So that was like a
moment of comforting for me.
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So I really appreciated that.
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So what he did was, he
responded to your need,
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you really needed
company and you needed someone
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to kind of take you
out from that environment
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and put you in an environment
with comfort food, and so...
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Yeah, exactly.
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And so you, he actually
met your need at the time.
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Exactly, I'd say as well
so I appreciate over that.
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And for you it was
ice cream, you know,
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for someone else
maybe something different
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and that's the
neat thing to know,
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so that tells you
then to extend comfort,
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we have to know people.
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Yes.
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You know, you have
to know what they like,
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what they don't like,
what would minister to them.
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In your case Dee knew instantly,
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Mollie is going to be
comforted by my presence.
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Or your friend said,
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"Daria is going
to feel much better
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if she could go out
and have some ice cream."
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So that's great,
yeah. What about you?
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And I think you
know, I think, Jill,
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that's the key
knowing the person it's not,
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it's kind of like
the love language idea,
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it's not necessarily
what would comfort you
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but you have to
find out what they need.
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And the best way
to do that is to ask.
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And not to get
offended if they say,
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"Well, you know what,
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I'm really not up
for company today."
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Then you just pray
for them, you know,
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but it's not a
personal thing, it's not like,
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oh, I just want don't
want you to come over.
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I just might not want to
talk to anyone at that point.
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So I think you have to,
you have to know the person
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and have that whatever level
of relationship that you have
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with them, if it's a
very deep relationship,
00:20:49.38\00:20:51.75
then you can do what Dee
did, come over and hang out
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with Mollie and just be there.
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Or you can if, you
know, in Daria's case,
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meet me at this place
and let's just, you know,
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come out from that environment,
00:21:04.39\00:21:06.26
let's go over here
and do something fun.
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So but you have to kind
of know the person and ask,
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just ask how you
can be of assistance.
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Yeah, would it be
convenient for me to come over
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and say how do
you feel about that?
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Right.
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Let them make
their own decisions.
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Right. I like that.
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I remember when...
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For me one of the worst
years of my life was 2009,
00:21:25.68\00:21:31.09
when my sister died,
and I remember a friend
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actually to just coming
over and just being there,
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I didn't have any make up on.
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I was looking like,
I don't know what...
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Beautiful. Oh, you're so sweet.
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I didn't feel like... She was.
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Like dressing up or anything
I just wanted to just sit there
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and they came
at different times,
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different people.
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And they just sat
with me and it just,
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it was comforting because I knew
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that they cared
enough to take time out
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to come and sit with me.
00:22:06.49\00:22:08.39
And even though I
wasn't great company,
00:22:08.42\00:22:10.63
they weren't
there to be entertained,
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they were there to comfort me.
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And that's another thing
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when you go to
see someone you know,
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whether it's in the hospital,
I think that's something,
00:22:19.77\00:22:22.94
Mollie, you might
want to talk about too is
00:22:22.97\00:22:25.44
when you're in the
hospital, you know,
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what do you need from people?
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Yeah.
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But, you know, if
you're in the hospital
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or if you're at
home or whatever,
00:22:33.62\00:22:36.05
be sensitive to the person,
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you don't have to
stay like indefinitely.
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You know, just go
in and comfort them,
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minister to them, talk
to them, and let them talk.
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You know, for me it
was just being there.
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That's beautiful.
00:22:50.93\00:22:52.40
Speaking of hospital
visits, Greg always says
00:22:52.43\00:22:54.84
that his dad was the
master of the five minute visit.
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Now his dad is a pastor
and so as kids, you know,
00:22:57.91\00:23:01.24
they go in and he was a nurse
and then a pastor but he said,
00:23:01.28\00:23:03.98
"They always go visit people,
00:23:04.01\00:23:05.81
they always did
the five minute visit."
00:23:05.85\00:23:07.32
You know, they just walked in,
00:23:07.35\00:23:08.88
"Hey, we just came to
encourage you in the Lord,
00:23:08.92\00:23:10.65
here's a scripture, let's pray,
can we do anything, walk out."
00:23:10.69\00:23:13.92
And he always
said, "You should leave
00:23:13.96\00:23:15.36
while the people
are still saying,
00:23:15.39\00:23:17.29
I wish they would
have stayed longer."
00:23:17.33\00:23:19.16
It's way better
than the people say,
00:23:19.19\00:23:21.73
I wish they had left earlier.
00:23:21.76\00:23:26.17
Why they stay so long? Exactly.
00:23:26.20\00:23:28.90
Well, I think you guys did that
when Jason was in the hospital,
00:23:28.94\00:23:32.71
you and Greg came to
visit and it was so sweet,
00:23:32.74\00:23:36.48
and it was so short,
it was like you came in,
00:23:36.51\00:23:39.28
you prayed with
them, you showed him
00:23:39.31\00:23:40.65
you loved them and you left.
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But it was good
because you know,
00:23:42.52\00:23:45.09
he had a number of visitors...
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Absolutely.
00:23:46.49\00:23:47.82
And you can
wear the patients out
00:23:47.86\00:23:49.19
if you stay too long.
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People get tired. Oh, yeah.
00:23:50.59\00:23:51.93
Absolutely. They get tired.
00:23:51.96\00:23:53.29
I think my experience I
can think of when different,
00:23:53.33\00:23:56.33
many different times I can think
00:23:56.36\00:23:57.70
of when I felt comforted,
00:23:57.73\00:23:59.07
but one time in particular
that I can think of was,
00:23:59.10\00:24:01.57
this was years ago.
00:24:01.60\00:24:03.44
And Greg and I have been open
about our struggle years ago
00:24:03.47\00:24:06.04
with infertility.
00:24:06.07\00:24:07.51
And I'd say this was
maybe 13 years ago or so,
00:24:07.54\00:24:10.65
12, 13 years and I remember
it was the first Mother's Day
00:24:10.68\00:24:16.05
after we had gotten the
diagnosis from the doctor.
00:24:16.08\00:24:19.45
And so all the Mother's
Days before we were like,
00:24:19.49\00:24:22.32
oh, I'm excited and some
day I'll have kids and whatever,
00:24:22.36\00:24:26.59
but this was the
first Mother's Day
00:24:26.63\00:24:28.00
we'd found out in April,
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we got the news from the doctor
00:24:29.40\00:24:31.43
after we'd gone
to the specialist,
00:24:31.47\00:24:33.27
and then Mother's Day of course
00:24:33.30\00:24:34.64
rolls around
shortly after April.
00:24:34.67\00:24:36.64
And I remember I was
playing the piano for church,
00:24:36.67\00:24:39.64
and in our church they always
have to give out the carnations
00:24:39.67\00:24:43.28
or this year I
think it was roses,
00:24:43.31\00:24:45.78
and so they were giving
out the long stemmed roses,
00:24:45.81\00:24:48.25
you know, to the ladies.
00:24:48.28\00:24:49.62
So they had the
women at the microphone
00:24:49.65\00:24:51.85
and I remember they said,
00:24:51.89\00:24:53.22
"Who's been the
mother the longest?"
00:24:53.25\00:24:54.62
And so someone stood,
who's been the mother the,
00:24:54.66\00:24:57.93
whatever the newest
mother, someone stood.
00:24:57.96\00:25:00.53
And then they said, okay,
00:25:00.56\00:25:02.26
we want all the
mothers to stand.
00:25:02.30\00:25:04.83
Now some churches in our
church currently does any woman
00:25:04.87\00:25:08.84
because all women are
mothers in some fashion,
00:25:08.87\00:25:11.27
whether it's a spiritual
mentor or a mother in Israel,
00:25:11.31\00:25:14.58
whether you help other people.
00:25:14.61\00:25:15.94
But in this particular
Sabbath we didn't do that.
00:25:15.98\00:25:18.51
And so they said, "We
want all the mothers to stand."
00:25:18.55\00:25:20.58
And I remember playing
the piano and I kind of
00:25:20.62\00:25:22.22
shook my hair over my
face like this so, you know,
00:25:22.25\00:25:24.52
you couldn't see my
face and I was just crying.
00:25:24.55\00:25:27.52
And just playing the
piano and just tears,
00:25:27.56\00:25:29.92
but I didn't want
people to see because you know,
00:25:29.96\00:25:32.93
many times when
we go through pain,
00:25:32.96\00:25:34.70
you're private
about it, and it's like,
00:25:34.73\00:25:36.90
we don't even open up
our hearts to other people
00:25:36.93\00:25:40.17
because like you're
afraid or something.
00:25:40.20\00:25:42.64
So I just shook my hair
over my face and I'm crying
00:25:42.67\00:25:46.78
playing the piano and
there's a woman coming up
00:25:46.81\00:25:49.78
from all over the
church picking up a rose.
00:25:49.81\00:25:52.61
And I thought, "God,
I'm never going to get one.
00:25:52.65\00:25:55.88
I'll go Mother's Day
after Mother's Day for years
00:25:55.92\00:25:58.65
and I never have one.
00:25:58.69\00:26:00.29
And then all of a
sudden, I heard a little voice
00:26:00.32\00:26:04.33
and a girl she was probably
eight or nine years old.
00:26:04.36\00:26:08.00
She's a lot older now.
00:26:08.03\00:26:10.33
She laid a rose on the piano.
00:26:10.37\00:26:12.33
And she said, "My mom
said to give you this."
00:26:12.37\00:26:16.10
And it was my friend.
00:26:16.14\00:26:17.91
And I knew at that
moment God was saying,
00:26:17.94\00:26:20.74
"Jill, I have
given you the best gifts.
00:26:20.78\00:26:23.78
I've given you a
friend who loves you
00:26:23.81\00:26:26.82
and knows this day is painful,
00:26:26.85\00:26:28.68
and this is a way
she can encourage you
00:26:28.72\00:26:31.12
during this time."
00:26:31.15\00:26:32.62
And so for me in that experience
00:26:32.65\00:26:34.62
it was just a way
that someone reached out.
00:26:34.66\00:26:37.29
I knew this is something
hard Jilly for you right now
00:26:37.33\00:26:40.90
and I want to do what
I can to make it better.
00:26:40.93\00:26:43.23
It made all the
difference, it was beautiful.
00:26:43.26\00:26:45.33
Amen.
00:26:45.37\00:26:47.30
You look like,
Mollie, you are...
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Well, I was just thinking about
the example that Jesus gave us.
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Good.
00:26:55.81\00:26:57.15
Because He was in the situation
00:26:57.18\00:26:59.68
where He had
three very dear friends,
00:26:59.71\00:27:02.58
Mary and Martha and
their brother Lazarus.
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And what happened to
Lazarus? Do you know he died?
00:27:06.52\00:27:10.43
And what were his
sisters, what were his...
00:27:10.46\00:27:12.43
What were their take on it
was if Jesus had been here,
00:27:12.46\00:27:16.53
he wouldn't have died.
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And so they were
grieving and they were hurting.
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And we look at what did
Jesus do to bring comfort
00:27:21.54\00:27:26.24
and ultimately of course
the resurrection of Lazarus.
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But first and
foremost Jesus was personal,
00:27:29.38\00:27:32.95
He wasn't superficial,
He didn't send an angel.
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Could Jesus have sent
an angel to Mary and Martha
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to comfort them?
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But He didn't.
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Jesus went personally.
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And as He was
standing at the tomb,
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what is the shortest
scripture in the Bible?
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Jesus wept.
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He not only was
there personally with them,
00:27:53.07\00:27:56.81
but He
identified with their pain,
00:27:56.84\00:27:59.07
He had compassion,
00:27:59.11\00:28:00.68
He was moved with
compassion, Jesus wept.
00:28:00.71\00:28:05.38
He felt deeply the
hurt of His friends.
00:28:05.41\00:28:08.25
And after that He
was there personally,
00:28:08.28\00:28:12.55
He was grieving with them.
00:28:12.59\00:28:14.92
He then it says that,
He looked up to heaven
00:28:14.96\00:28:18.66
and He did something, He prayed.
00:28:18.69\00:28:21.63
So He was personal.
00:28:21.66\00:28:23.00
He was there physically for them
00:28:23.03\00:28:24.50
as we've been talking
about, then He prayed.
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Now, we know what
happened when He prayed.
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What did He say
to that, to Lazareth,
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"Lazareth, come forth."
00:28:33.17\00:28:35.64
But then He was
practical, He told them,
00:28:35.68\00:28:40.28
"Roll the stone away,"
and then to unwrap Lazarus
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because Lazarus come
stumbling out of that grave.
00:28:44.45\00:28:47.42
He needed help so
the practical thing was,
00:28:47.46\00:28:51.49
be practical, be
there personally,
00:28:51.53\00:28:53.73
pray for the people
and then be practical.
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And I love this scripture,
00:28:56.83\00:28:58.40
it's my personal,
prayerful, practical.
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Well, I had to
throw this one in,
00:29:02.14\00:29:03.77
we need to be positive.
00:29:03.81\00:29:05.47
Oh, that's good.
00:29:05.51\00:29:06.84
When you're comforting
someone, don't say anything
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that would be
negative, always be positive.
00:29:10.11\00:29:13.48
And if you're
going to use God's word,
00:29:13.52\00:29:15.18
you're going to be positive.
00:29:15.22\00:29:16.89
Don't tell them that, you know,
00:29:16.92\00:29:18.62
God needed another
angel in His choir.
00:29:18.65\00:29:20.99
Don't say something like
that, what you need to say is...
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That's not even
biblical. Exactly.
00:29:24.29\00:29:26.26
Exactly. But you hear it.
00:29:26.29\00:29:27.70
Right. Oh, yes.
00:29:27.73\00:29:29.06
And people say it.
00:29:29.10\00:29:30.43
Proverbs 25:11 says, "A
word fitly spoken is like
00:29:30.47\00:29:35.70
apples of gold in
pictures, setting of silver."
00:29:35.74\00:29:40.68
A timely word is
beautiful and it's valuable.
00:29:40.71\00:29:44.15
So always be positive, don't be,
00:29:44.18\00:29:46.68
don't be negative, don't...
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And I've got a few things of
what we just don't need to say.
00:29:49.95\00:29:54.29
Oh, that's good. Good, good.
00:29:54.32\00:29:55.66
Not to say.
00:29:55.69\00:29:57.06
God is teaching
you something in this,
00:29:57.09\00:29:59.29
don't say that.
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Absolutely.
00:30:00.70\00:30:02.03
You may have lost a child
00:30:02.06\00:30:03.70
but at least you
still have others.
00:30:03.73\00:30:05.90
If a parent has lost a
child they can have 20 others
00:30:05.93\00:30:09.57
but they are grieving because...
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That's right.
00:30:11.54\00:30:12.87
Or you're still young,
you can have more children,
00:30:12.91\00:30:15.18
that does not bring
comfort, that brings pain.
00:30:15.21\00:30:18.91
Or if you've lost your husband,
00:30:18.95\00:30:22.28
if someone's lost their husband,
00:30:22.32\00:30:23.89
don't say to them,
oh, you can remarry.
00:30:23.92\00:30:26.79
No, that's not gonna bring...
00:30:26.82\00:30:28.39
And things to say, do
you want me to give you
00:30:28.42\00:30:29.89
some of the things you can say.
00:30:29.92\00:30:31.26
Yes. Yes.
00:30:31.29\00:30:33.29
I'm so sorry for your
loss, can I pray for you.
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I love you.
00:30:37.67\00:30:39.17
We are praying for
you and I'm believing God
00:30:39.20\00:30:43.00
that He is going
to heal your hurt.
00:30:43.04\00:30:45.24
And words like
that bring comfort
00:30:45.27\00:30:47.84
and they'll bring
peace and they'll help lift
00:30:47.88\00:30:51.41
that head up
that's hanging down.
00:30:51.45\00:30:53.62
So those are some of the
things that that we can do,
00:30:53.65\00:30:56.52
using Jesus as our example.
00:30:56.55\00:30:58.95
Yes, that's good. Amen.
00:30:58.99\00:31:00.32
I wanted to go a little bit
off of something Mollie said,
00:31:00.36\00:31:02.72
she said, "We will
be praying for you."
00:31:02.76\00:31:05.36
I wanted to say that,
00:31:05.39\00:31:06.83
don't say things you don't mean.
00:31:06.86\00:31:08.20
Absolutely.
00:31:08.23\00:31:09.56
So if you're going to
say, I'll be praying for you
00:31:09.60\00:31:10.93
so you need to pray for them.
00:31:10.97\00:31:13.07
I think a lot of people say,
"Oh, if you need anything..."
00:31:13.10\00:31:16.74
So if you say you,
if you need anything
00:31:16.77\00:31:18.91
you should be
prepared to give anything.
00:31:18.94\00:31:21.11
I mean, that could be
answering a phone call
00:31:21.14\00:31:23.91
or texting someone back
00:31:23.95\00:31:26.51
or a last minute
meal somewhere to stay,
00:31:26.55\00:31:28.65
it could be anything,
so feel like we need to be
00:31:28.68\00:31:30.69
prepared to give anything
if we're going to say that.
00:31:30.72\00:31:33.49
Absolutely. Oh, that's good.
00:31:33.52\00:31:34.86
That is...
00:31:34.89\00:31:36.22
That's good, Daria,
because a lot of times
00:31:36.26\00:31:37.83
we'll say, we'll pray
for you and then you don't.
00:31:37.86\00:31:40.30
One of the things
that I learned is that
00:31:40.33\00:31:42.93
if someone needs
prayer, pray right then.
00:31:42.96\00:31:45.67
Amen.
00:31:45.70\00:31:47.04
Don't just say,
I'll pray for you,
00:31:47.07\00:31:48.40
you know, let's pray now.
00:31:48.44\00:31:49.77
Amen.
00:31:49.80\00:31:51.14
And then in that way
you have fulfilled you know,
00:31:51.17\00:31:53.81
what you said,
you were going to do,
00:31:53.84\00:31:55.38
I'm going to pray for you,
now, let's just pray right now,
00:31:55.41\00:31:58.11
in that way because
I tend to forget things
00:31:58.15\00:32:01.32
if I don't write them down.
00:32:01.35\00:32:02.98
And you don't want it,
it turns out it's a lie
00:32:03.02\00:32:05.92
if you say you're going to do it
00:32:05.95\00:32:07.29
and you don't do it.
00:32:07.32\00:32:08.66
So why not do it on the spot.
00:32:08.69\00:32:10.03
You know the scripture that says
00:32:10.06\00:32:11.39
that we will be
judged by every idle word
00:32:11.43\00:32:13.36
that proceeds out of our mouth.
00:32:13.40\00:32:14.96
What does the word
idle mean? Not worthy.
00:32:15.00\00:32:17.73
It doesn't mean just for words,
00:32:17.77\00:32:19.10
sometimes it's a
nonproductive word
00:32:19.13\00:32:22.30
that's what it is.
00:32:22.34\00:32:23.67
Sometimes we tend to think that
00:32:23.71\00:32:25.61
if you're joking
cutting up that though
00:32:25.64\00:32:28.11
you're going to
be judged for that.
00:32:28.14\00:32:29.48
No, God loves levity.
00:32:29.51\00:32:31.48
He loves for us to do
with good, good, pure, clean.
00:32:31.51\00:32:36.28
You know, levity
does our hearts good.
00:32:36.32\00:32:38.65
Now that every idle word,
00:32:38.69\00:32:41.26
an idle word is a
nonproductive word,
00:32:41.29\00:32:44.46
a nonproductive word is
just what you were saying,
00:32:44.49\00:32:47.13
I'll pray for
you then you don't,
00:32:47.16\00:32:48.53
that's an idle word.
00:32:48.56\00:32:49.90
It's a lie as well but
you don't put the force
00:32:49.93\00:32:53.13
of your personality behind it,
00:32:53.17\00:32:54.80
it becomes a nonproductive word.
00:32:54.84\00:32:57.54
So don't say those
things that you don't mean
00:32:57.57\00:33:00.54
because those are the things
that you're going to be judged
00:33:00.58\00:33:03.65
for those things
that you say you'll do
00:33:03.68\00:33:05.78
and then you don't do it.
00:33:05.81\00:33:07.15
And that's so important,
I can think in my own life,
00:33:07.18\00:33:09.48
I have been guilty of that.
00:33:09.52\00:33:10.92
I have been guilty of saying,
00:33:10.95\00:33:12.29
oh, I'll pray for
you and then you forget.
00:33:12.32\00:33:14.39
It's not
intentional but you can forget,
00:33:14.42\00:33:16.96
so I love what you
said, Yvonne, stop right then,
00:33:16.99\00:33:19.89
pray right then.
00:33:19.93\00:33:21.26
Oh, you're going
through something,
00:33:21.30\00:33:22.63
let's pray about it right
now, or if I'm texting someone
00:33:22.66\00:33:26.00
and saying, I'm praying
for you, you know what I do,
00:33:26.03\00:33:28.84
before I hit send, I
bow my head right then.
00:33:28.87\00:33:30.81
Yes.
00:33:30.84\00:33:32.17
And I say a prayer for
the person because that way
00:33:32.21\00:33:34.18
when you hit send, you
know, then that you have
00:33:34.21\00:33:37.41
done the prayer
and don't forget.
00:33:37.45\00:33:38.78
That's right. That's so good.
00:33:38.81\00:33:40.58
So you've talked about, Mollie,
00:33:40.62\00:33:41.95
back to what you
had mentioned before,
00:33:41.98\00:33:43.39
you mentioned four
things I wrote down personal,
00:33:43.42\00:33:46.15
prayerful,
practical and positive.
00:33:46.19\00:33:48.96
Let's talk about some more
practical things that we can do
00:33:48.99\00:33:52.86
to offer comfort
because we can talk theology,
00:33:52.89\00:33:56.93
we can talk, okay,
it's good to do this,
00:33:56.97\00:33:59.13
but what would be
practically some things
00:33:59.17\00:34:01.10
that we can do to reach
out and offer comfort, Daria?
00:34:01.14\00:34:03.67
Well, one day my
mom was going through,
00:34:03.71\00:34:05.97
I was away at college
00:34:06.01\00:34:07.34
and she was going
through a hard time,
00:34:07.38\00:34:09.21
so I sent her a box of sunshine.
00:34:09.24\00:34:11.41
I don't know if you
guys have ever heard
00:34:11.45\00:34:12.78
of a box of sunshine
but I basically bought
00:34:12.81\00:34:14.95
a bunch of yellow
things like yellow gum,
00:34:14.98\00:34:17.69
yellow lip chapstick, yellow,
00:34:17.72\00:34:19.99
like flowers and I
put them all in a box
00:34:20.02\00:34:22.26
and I sent them to her
and so when she opened it,
00:34:22.29\00:34:24.83
I mean, and it was the Sabbath
00:34:24.86\00:34:26.19
when she received
it on her doorstep.
00:34:26.23\00:34:27.56
So she opened it and it was like
00:34:27.60\00:34:29.13
this beautiful
box of yellow things
00:34:29.16\00:34:31.20
and so she was,
that was another way
00:34:31.23\00:34:33.37
of comforting while I was away.
00:34:33.40\00:34:35.57
So I think that was
a more practical thing
00:34:35.60\00:34:37.87
that you could do.
00:34:37.91\00:34:39.24
That's beautiful. Isn't it?
00:34:39.27\00:34:40.68
And how thoughtful. Amen.
00:34:40.71\00:34:42.48
Maybe I'll tell you I'm
having a hard day sometime,
00:34:42.51\00:34:44.41
I might get a box of
yellow you know, that's great.
00:34:44.45\00:34:47.38
I love that.
00:34:47.42\00:34:48.75
At my church in
Dallas where I used to,
00:34:48.78\00:34:50.62
when I lived in Dallas I
was on the grief committee
00:34:50.65\00:34:54.82
'cause I've had a lot of losses.
00:34:54.86\00:34:57.09
And so we used to
send out comfort kits.
00:34:57.13\00:35:01.53
And in it there
would be a CD with music
00:35:01.56\00:35:08.30
that would comfort.
00:35:08.34\00:35:09.87
So there were all
kinds of, you know,
00:35:09.90\00:35:11.64
different gospel artists
who were singing about the Lord
00:35:11.67\00:35:16.24
and comfort and stuff like that.
00:35:16.28\00:35:18.21
And it was really nice
because you could take someone
00:35:18.25\00:35:21.85
a comfort kit and
they would, you know,
00:35:21.88\00:35:24.49
be happy with and literature
of course about grieving
00:35:24.52\00:35:28.59
and what to do.
00:35:28.62\00:35:29.96
And I remember, I
personally had suffered a loss
00:35:29.99\00:35:34.50
and I went to my then pastor
00:35:34.53\00:35:38.00
who was Mike Tucker
whom I love, hi, Pastor Mike.
00:35:38.03\00:35:41.20
And he told me that
when you lose somebody,
00:35:41.24\00:35:47.04
there are four or
five things you have to do.
00:35:47.08\00:35:49.38
You have to pray about
it, you should write about it,
00:35:49.41\00:35:52.65
just to kind of get it out,
talk about it, cry about it.
00:35:52.68\00:35:57.99
So don't try to hold it in
00:35:58.02\00:36:00.32
but these are some of the things
00:36:00.36\00:36:02.09
that you should do which is,
00:36:02.12\00:36:03.49
I think I kind of
got off of the topic.
00:36:03.53\00:36:05.36
This is important,
this is great, absolutely.
00:36:05.39\00:36:07.80
Many people grief. Oh, yes.
00:36:07.83\00:36:09.53
We all have losses of some sort.
00:36:09.56\00:36:11.30
And we need to
know how to handle it
00:36:11.33\00:36:13.97
so that we work through it.
00:36:14.00\00:36:16.64
One of the things not to say is,
00:36:16.67\00:36:19.87
you're not over that yet.
00:36:19.91\00:36:21.41
Yes.
00:36:21.44\00:36:22.78
You should be over that by now.
00:36:22.81\00:36:24.15
I mean, can you
imagine saying that to someone
00:36:24.18\00:36:25.88
who has lost a mother, a
father, a spouse, a child,
00:36:25.91\00:36:31.35
whatever, you
can't, if you say them,
00:36:31.39\00:36:35.36
are you still, are you still,
you should be past that now.
00:36:35.39\00:36:39.33
Some people are
really insensitive.
00:36:39.36\00:36:41.86
And so one of the
things that, you know,
00:36:41.90\00:36:44.83
that we have to do is
to see where the person is,
00:36:44.87\00:36:49.20
if you are the one
who's in grief right now
00:36:49.24\00:36:53.11
and you cannot get
past it, you just cannot,
00:36:53.14\00:36:56.68
you've been in grief.
00:36:56.71\00:36:58.05
And it's debilitating,
it's incapacitating,
00:36:58.08\00:37:01.65
it's interfering with
your regular functioning,
00:37:01.68\00:37:04.35
then you might need to
seek professional help.
00:37:04.39\00:37:06.09
Absolutely.
00:37:06.12\00:37:07.46
And there's
nothing wrong with that,
00:37:07.49\00:37:08.82
there's nothing
unbiblical about that.
00:37:08.86\00:37:10.96
You might need, it
might be a chemical imbalance,
00:37:10.99\00:37:13.96
you know, it could be anything.
00:37:14.00\00:37:15.50
So it would be good to get
some tools to work through.
00:37:15.53\00:37:19.63
We can go, get
tools through the word,
00:37:19.67\00:37:22.40
but the Lord also
uses professionals to help,
00:37:22.44\00:37:25.67
and if you are
stuck in this dark place,
00:37:25.71\00:37:30.15
and it is incapacitating,
it's not just regular grief,
00:37:30.18\00:37:34.08
it's incapacitating,
00:37:34.12\00:37:35.45
then you could
seek professional help.
00:37:35.48\00:37:37.49
And not to be ashamed of
that. And not to be ashamed.
00:37:37.52\00:37:39.52
I think as Christians
sometimes we think, well,
00:37:39.55\00:37:42.29
as long as we
have the Word of God,
00:37:42.32\00:37:43.93
and the Word of God is powerful,
00:37:43.96\00:37:45.46
and the Word of God
is life transforming.
00:37:45.49\00:37:47.26
Right.
00:37:47.30\00:37:48.63
And I have seen the Word of God
00:37:48.66\00:37:50.00
bring people out of dark places.
00:37:50.03\00:37:51.37
Yes.
00:37:51.40\00:37:52.73
However having said
that, sometimes we judge people
00:37:52.77\00:37:55.20
and say, "Oh, you
shouldn't, you should be able
00:37:55.24\00:37:57.84
to get everything you need
00:37:57.87\00:37:59.21
from the Word of God in prayer."
00:37:59.24\00:38:00.64
Now that is true,
we do get what we need
00:38:00.68\00:38:03.01
but sometimes we
need to go outside.
00:38:03.04\00:38:05.95
We need to get
that professional help
00:38:05.98\00:38:07.78
and not to
judge people for that.
00:38:07.82\00:38:09.88
That's right.
00:38:09.92\00:38:11.25
You had
mentioned we can be harsh
00:38:11.29\00:38:12.75
or critical with
people, or we can,
00:38:12.79\00:38:16.79
I forget the word you used
but we can, things not to say.
00:38:16.83\00:38:20.30
Yeah.
00:38:20.33\00:38:21.66
You know, sometimes we say
those things or we can say,
00:38:21.70\00:38:23.60
"Oh, Daria,
aren't you over that, or,
00:38:23.63\00:38:25.43
oh, don't you think you could."
00:38:25.47\00:38:27.67
And we say those things, I
remember sometimes I think,
00:38:27.70\00:38:30.91
and I want you ladies to jump in
00:38:30.94\00:38:32.27
and see what you think on this.
00:38:32.31\00:38:33.64
Sometimes I think we
actually blame the person
00:38:33.68\00:38:36.34
who is suffering.
00:38:36.38\00:38:38.11
We actually...
00:38:38.15\00:38:39.95
It goes back to that
principle, you know, John 9,
00:38:39.98\00:38:43.15
the man born blind.
00:38:43.18\00:38:44.82
And the disciples said,
00:38:44.85\00:38:46.19
"Who sinned, was
this man or his parents?"
00:38:46.22\00:38:47.99
So we can actually say,
"If you had enough faith,
00:38:48.02\00:38:51.13
God would heal you."
00:38:51.16\00:38:52.49
Oh.
00:38:52.53\00:38:53.86
You know, or it's your fault,
or you must have done something
00:38:53.90\00:38:57.60
to bring this on you.
00:38:57.63\00:38:59.73
What do you ladies think?
00:38:59.77\00:39:02.07
Well, and also, we...
00:39:02.10\00:39:04.47
Again that
judging, if you see someone
00:39:04.51\00:39:07.01
that's a strong Christian,
00:39:07.04\00:39:08.44
but they can't
seem to get past it.
00:39:08.48\00:39:10.08
We want to do that,
00:39:10.11\00:39:11.58
that same thing to
point a finger at them.
00:39:11.61\00:39:13.72
If you had enough
faith, you would be past this.
00:39:13.75\00:39:17.12
The grieving process
is a very normal process.
00:39:17.15\00:39:20.16
You have to go
through the grieving process,
00:39:20.19\00:39:22.59
it concerns me
when I see someone
00:39:22.62\00:39:25.09
that has lost a loved
one if they are acting like
00:39:25.13\00:39:27.73
everything's okay,
00:39:27.76\00:39:29.10
that grief is gonna come
out somewhere in some way,
00:39:29.13\00:39:32.73
they may be
misdirecting their pain
00:39:32.77\00:39:35.97
but that grief is going,
00:39:36.00\00:39:37.84
and so it's better to go through
00:39:37.87\00:39:39.37
the grieving process.
00:39:39.41\00:39:40.74
And for us to help
people to go through
00:39:40.78\00:39:43.11
the grieving
process to go see them,
00:39:43.14\00:39:45.48
we've already talked about
that to listen to them again.
00:39:45.51\00:39:48.38
Yes.
00:39:48.42\00:39:49.75
People don't want
your words of wisdom
00:39:49.78\00:39:52.55
as much as they
want your soft shoulder
00:39:52.59\00:39:55.12
and ear that they can talk
that you'll just listen to them
00:39:55.16\00:39:59.83
and not be judgmental,
just let them sometimes,
00:39:59.86\00:40:04.27
see if you all know
what I mean by this is,
00:40:04.30\00:40:05.97
you need to blow off steam.
00:40:06.00\00:40:08.04
You need to just get
in that, just get it,
00:40:08.07\00:40:10.57
lay it out to somebody
that's not going to judge you
00:40:10.61\00:40:13.44
if what you're saying
isn't theologically sound
00:40:13.48\00:40:16.31
or even scripturally
correct at the moment.
00:40:16.34\00:40:18.75
You just need to let
your frustrations out
00:40:18.78\00:40:22.18
and you're going to
come back in alignment
00:40:22.22\00:40:24.02
with the Word of God is,
00:40:24.05\00:40:25.45
you know, you're,
you're not off-base.
00:40:25.49\00:40:28.12
And we just need to
love people, a good old hug.
00:40:28.16\00:40:32.43
Oh, a hug goes a
long way, doesn't it?
00:40:32.46\00:40:35.80
Your presence is more
important than your wisdom.
00:40:35.83\00:40:40.47
That's good. All that wisdom.
00:40:40.50\00:40:43.27
We can just have,
00:40:43.30\00:40:44.84
I'll call them
our pearls of wisdom,
00:40:44.87\00:40:47.08
we always that's
when we've got the answer.
00:40:47.11\00:40:50.35
We're not listening
to what they're saying,
00:40:50.38\00:40:52.41
we're thinking about
what we're going to say next
00:40:52.45\00:40:54.68
because we've got all
this wisdom we can share.
00:40:54.72\00:40:57.59
Now really what they needed
was just for you to listen
00:40:57.62\00:41:01.42
and be there for them.
00:41:01.46\00:41:02.79
Yes.
00:41:02.82\00:41:04.16
Now I was going to
say, I think some people's
00:41:04.19\00:41:06.46
grieving
processes are different,
00:41:06.49\00:41:08.30
people are different.
00:41:08.33\00:41:09.66
So I mean, take you two
weeks to get over something
00:41:09.70\00:41:12.27
but someone else may be a year.
00:41:12.30\00:41:13.97
So I think we have
to know the situation.
00:41:14.00\00:41:16.14
Another thing I was going
to say is making people laugh
00:41:16.17\00:41:18.61
talking about
normal life sometimes,
00:41:18.64\00:41:21.04
I'm not always talking about
00:41:21.08\00:41:23.24
like how you're
down in the dumps.
00:41:23.28\00:41:25.28
I mean of course we
need to know the situation
00:41:25.31\00:41:27.62
and how, how they
are within their process,
00:41:27.65\00:41:31.45
but I feel like talking
about happy things sometimes
00:41:31.49\00:41:35.02
is a little bit better.
00:41:35.06\00:41:36.83
I like that.
00:41:36.86\00:41:38.19
Kind of taking their
minds off of the situation,
00:41:38.23\00:41:40.66
and again like you're saying,
you have to know the person
00:41:40.70\00:41:44.00
because some people
want to talk about it
00:41:44.03\00:41:46.23
and others don't.
00:41:46.27\00:41:47.60
Some people are like,
00:41:47.64\00:41:48.97
can we talk
about something else.
00:41:49.00\00:41:50.34
Yeah.
00:41:50.37\00:41:51.71
But then others
really need to get it out.
00:41:51.74\00:41:54.51
So you have to know the person
00:41:54.54\00:41:57.05
and kind of know
what they need to do.
00:41:57.08\00:41:59.41
You know, we were
looking at practical things
00:41:59.45\00:42:02.42
that can help
someone in the time
00:42:02.45\00:42:05.02
that they're grieving.
00:42:05.05\00:42:06.39
And I've got a
scripture that I want to share
00:42:06.42\00:42:09.39
from the Book of Job.
00:42:09.42\00:42:10.76
Good. Yes.
00:42:10.79\00:42:12.13
And so some of the things
that we can do practical things
00:42:12.16\00:42:16.53
is food...
00:42:16.56\00:42:18.97
Yes.
00:42:19.00\00:42:20.34
Finances and chores, food.
00:42:20.37\00:42:23.97
And you know,
when people pass away,
00:42:24.01\00:42:27.28
we particularly we
Southerners I think they do it
00:42:27.31\00:42:29.44
everywhere in the world,
00:42:29.48\00:42:30.81
but in the south if
somebody passes away,
00:42:30.85\00:42:34.05
you're going to have enough food
00:42:34.08\00:42:35.42
on your dining
room table by that night
00:42:35.45\00:42:37.82
to last you for six months.
00:42:37.85\00:42:39.49
That might be an exaggeration
but the heart's intent
00:42:39.52\00:42:43.63
is there to help
people and finances you know,
00:42:43.66\00:42:47.83
their finances are always needed
00:42:47.86\00:42:50.17
and then chores and
that might be something
00:42:50.20\00:42:52.83
we wouldn't think about doing
is helping out with chores.
00:42:52.87\00:42:56.64
But let me read this
to you in the Book of Job
00:42:56.67\00:42:59.34
it's Job 42:11.
00:42:59.37\00:43:01.41
Let me just turn
there, you said Job 42?
00:43:01.44\00:43:03.18
Job 42:11.
00:43:03.21\00:43:07.45
Are you there?
00:43:07.48\00:43:08.82
Almost. Okay.
00:43:08.85\00:43:10.99
It says, "Then
came there unto him,
00:43:11.02\00:43:13.86
and this is under
Job all his brethren,
00:43:13.89\00:43:17.29
and his sisters, and
all they that had been
00:43:17.33\00:43:20.70
of his acquaintance before,
00:43:20.73\00:43:22.96
and did eat bread
with him in his house,
00:43:23.00\00:43:26.63
and they bemoaned him..."
00:43:26.67\00:43:28.27
Do you know that
means, they mourned with him.
00:43:28.30\00:43:31.04
Yes.
00:43:31.07\00:43:32.41
"They bemoaned him
and comforted him over
00:43:32.44\00:43:35.74
all the evil that the
Lord had brought upon him,
00:43:35.78\00:43:39.18
every man, now listen to this,
00:43:39.21\00:43:41.22
every man also gave
him a piece of money,
00:43:41.25\00:43:45.19
and every one an
earring of gold."
00:43:45.22\00:43:47.79
That meant, they ministered
to his financial need.
00:43:47.82\00:43:51.59
They were grieving with him
and they were eating with him.
00:43:51.63\00:43:56.26
So here is practical instruction
00:43:56.30\00:43:59.07
on what we can do,
00:43:59.10\00:44:00.44
and do we have any other example
00:44:00.47\00:44:03.67
in the Word of God that
is as drastic of someone
00:44:03.71\00:44:08.24
that needed comforting
as our dear brother Job.
00:44:08.28\00:44:12.05
We learn a lot
from Job, do we not?
00:44:12.08\00:44:14.72
And so some of the things
that we see here as an example
00:44:14.75\00:44:18.79
are things that would be
good for our next door neighbor
00:44:18.82\00:44:21.22
or our brother down the street.
00:44:21.26\00:44:23.79
That's good.
That's so important.
00:44:23.83\00:44:25.49
And I love what you
said about bringing the food.
00:44:25.53\00:44:27.83
Mollie is the best
casserole maker ever.
00:44:27.86\00:44:30.63
We have great
food here at 3ABN...
00:44:30.67\00:44:32.23
Mollie is such a great
cook. She is a great cook.
00:44:32.27\00:44:35.30
But not only if
someone passes away I mean,
00:44:35.34\00:44:38.44
people come out of surgery
and they're not able to care
00:44:38.47\00:44:41.04
for their needs.
00:44:41.08\00:44:42.41
Or other, other times
sometimes they will have
00:44:42.44\00:44:44.95
a health challenge
or something going on
00:44:44.98\00:44:46.82
and they're not able to.
00:44:46.85\00:44:48.18
So food is an important
thing not just ice cream,
00:44:48.22\00:44:51.09
ice cream is
important because it pulls us
00:44:51.12\00:44:52.92
like out of that situation.
00:44:52.95\00:44:54.32
But we need, those
are practical things,
00:44:54.36\00:44:56.59
food or chores or health.
00:44:56.62\00:44:58.33
You know, I wanted
to say this about food
00:44:58.36\00:45:00.66
because we need to be sensitive
00:45:00.70\00:45:02.56
to the diet
that people can have.
00:45:02.60\00:45:05.07
And I know now, Irma
Murray is helping with a friend
00:45:05.10\00:45:11.31
who has recently had an accident
00:45:11.34\00:45:14.44
and the lady is
a vegan vegetarian.
00:45:14.48\00:45:18.91
So Irma is very sensitive
about what she prepares for her
00:45:18.95\00:45:22.75
that I can remember
when a lady in our church
00:45:22.78\00:45:27.26
had a baby.
00:45:27.29\00:45:28.62
And she had other children
00:45:28.66\00:45:30.59
and so we were
taking day by day,
00:45:30.63\00:45:33.16
we would take dinner to
them every evening and she said,
00:45:33.19\00:45:36.40
"You would be
surprised at the people,
00:45:36.43\00:45:37.97
now she had little children
and they would bring chili,
00:45:38.00\00:45:41.47
chili is what she was
telling me about any way,
00:45:41.50\00:45:44.47
that would have the
hardest seasoning in it
00:45:44.51\00:45:47.18
she said, "Mom, my
babies couldn't eat that."
00:45:47.21\00:45:50.05
It was us, so just
be sensitive to the need
00:45:50.08\00:45:54.38
that you're providing.
00:45:54.42\00:45:55.75
That's good, that's good.
00:45:55.78\00:45:57.12
You know, another thing
that I just thought about
00:45:57.15\00:45:59.55
praise the Lord
00:45:59.59\00:46:00.92
is when
someone's in the hospital
00:46:00.96\00:46:03.56
like let's say
Hal is in the hospital
00:46:03.59\00:46:07.50
and you're there
sitting with him.
00:46:07.53\00:46:10.23
A friend can call you and say,
00:46:10.27\00:46:12.83
"Can I bring you
something to eat,"
00:46:12.87\00:46:14.37
'cause you don't want to leave.
00:46:14.40\00:46:15.74
Yes.
00:46:15.77\00:46:17.11
And go somewhere and
leave your loved one.
00:46:17.14\00:46:20.28
So you end up
sitting there for a long time
00:46:20.31\00:46:23.55
and you can't eat
but if someone just calls
00:46:23.58\00:46:26.35
and says, "What
can I bring you?"
00:46:26.38\00:46:28.75
And they just come
and bring you something.
00:46:28.78\00:46:30.12
That's completing
the practical need.
00:46:30.15\00:46:31.49
Practical need. It is.
00:46:31.52\00:46:32.85
And food.
00:46:32.89\00:46:34.29
What's better than
that? What's better than that?
00:46:34.32\00:46:36.83
But, you know
what, I think that is,
00:46:36.86\00:46:38.19
that's having a
heart that notices
00:46:38.23\00:46:40.70
the needs of other people.
00:46:40.73\00:46:42.50
You know, and that
that's a beautiful thing,
00:46:42.53\00:46:44.53
sometimes we get into ourselves
at least I know I can, you're,
00:46:44.57\00:46:47.90
you're thinking
about oh, I got to do this
00:46:47.94\00:46:49.50
and you're focused on
this, but then God calls us
00:46:49.54\00:46:51.97
to look outside of ourselves
00:46:52.01\00:46:53.38
and to see the
needs of other people.
00:46:53.41\00:46:56.28
And not just say, "Oh, I
think so and so struggling,
00:46:56.31\00:46:58.71
maybe I should send
him a card but ask God,
00:46:58.75\00:47:01.38
what would He have me do,
maybe they need food more,
00:47:01.42\00:47:04.42
maybe they need physical help,
maybe they need financial help,
00:47:04.45\00:47:07.79
maybe it's something different.
00:47:07.82\00:47:09.16
So we just have a
few moments left here
00:47:09.19\00:47:11.39
at the end of the program.
00:47:11.43\00:47:12.76
I was hoping maybe we
could go around the circle
00:47:12.79\00:47:15.03
and each share maybe a scripture
00:47:15.06\00:47:17.10
that has ministered to us,
00:47:17.13\00:47:19.90
something that has brought
you comfort in a time of need
00:47:19.93\00:47:23.27
when you were struggling,
or could be a scripture
00:47:23.30\00:47:25.17
that someone
else shared with you.
00:47:25.21\00:47:26.61
It doesn't have to
be one you experienced.
00:47:26.64\00:47:28.78
Go ahead, Mollie.
00:47:28.81\00:47:30.15
Okay, it's "Come unto me,
00:47:30.18\00:47:32.35
all ye that labor
and are heavy laden,
00:47:32.38\00:47:35.28
and I will give you rest.
00:47:35.32\00:47:36.85
Take My yoke upon
you, and learn of Me,
00:47:36.89\00:47:39.62
for I am meek
and lowly in heart."
00:47:39.65\00:47:42.66
So that is Jesus, He
tells me to come unto Him
00:47:42.69\00:47:46.70
and that's active.
00:47:46.73\00:47:51.03
I have to do that.
00:47:51.07\00:47:53.07
It takes effort on my
part to come and tell Him.
00:47:53.10\00:47:57.34
And if I'm laboring
and are heavy laden,
00:47:57.37\00:48:00.58
I know that if I
come unto my Lord
00:48:00.61\00:48:02.48
and Savior Jesus Christ,
00:48:02.51\00:48:03.85
He gives me this promise
right here in the scriptures,
00:48:03.88\00:48:06.61
that when I come unto Him,
00:48:06.65\00:48:08.05
when I lay my
burdens at His feet,
00:48:08.08\00:48:10.55
then He's going
to lighten my load,
00:48:10.59\00:48:12.79
and He's going to
fill me with His presence
00:48:12.82\00:48:14.86
and He's going
to be there for me.
00:48:14.89\00:48:16.99
So I have always
taken great comfort I think.
00:48:17.03\00:48:19.23
Amen.
00:48:19.26\00:48:20.60
Matthew 11:28, I
love that scripture,
00:48:20.63\00:48:22.50
that's beautiful.
00:48:22.53\00:48:23.87
Me too. You have?
00:48:23.90\00:48:25.23
I do, this is
Isaiah 43:1-3. Amen.
00:48:25.27\00:48:30.57
I just love this. Me too.
00:48:30.61\00:48:32.87
"Fear not, for I
have redeemed you,
00:48:32.91\00:48:34.94
I have called you
by name, you are mine.
00:48:34.98\00:48:37.81
When you pass
through the waters,
00:48:37.85\00:48:39.31
I will be with you,
00:48:39.35\00:48:40.68
and through the rivers,
they shall not over flow you.
00:48:40.72\00:48:43.82
When you walk through the
fire, you shall not be burned,
00:48:43.85\00:48:47.29
neither shall
the flames scorch."
00:48:47.32\00:48:50.06
We hear, but in the King
James it's kindled upon you.
00:48:50.09\00:48:52.83
Yeah.
00:48:52.86\00:48:54.20
"For I am the Lord your
God, the Holy One of Israel,
00:48:54.23\00:48:57.13
your Savior."
00:48:57.17\00:48:58.50
So the Lord says,
"You're gonna through things,
00:48:58.53\00:49:01.57
but when you do, don't be afraid
00:49:01.60\00:49:03.20
because I have got you.
00:49:03.24\00:49:05.04
And not only I have got
you, I've called you by name,
00:49:05.07\00:49:08.64
I know, who you are, I
know, what you're dealing with,
00:49:08.68\00:49:12.48
and you are Mine."
00:49:12.51\00:49:13.85
Amen.
00:49:13.88\00:49:15.22
I mean, that's
such a love thing.
00:49:15.25\00:49:18.29
Amen. It's so romantic.
00:49:18.32\00:49:20.26
You know, to me
it's so romantic.
00:49:20.29\00:49:22.12
I've called you by
name, I know who you are,
00:49:22.16\00:49:25.86
you are Mine.
00:49:25.89\00:49:27.63
Amen.
00:49:27.66\00:49:29.00
And I'm not going
to let even though
00:49:29.03\00:49:30.67
you're going to go
through these things,
00:49:30.70\00:49:32.33
they are not
going to overtake you
00:49:32.37\00:49:34.34
because I, I am your God.
00:49:34.37\00:49:37.94
Come on. I'm ready
to thank you Jesus.
00:49:37.97\00:49:40.04
I know and thank you, Lord,
00:49:40.08\00:49:41.68
I just feel like this, He is so,
00:49:41.71\00:49:44.25
He's such an amazing
God and He loves us so much.
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So anyway I've
taken up too much time.
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No, it's wonderful.
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I just got happy here,
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I'm getting ready
to jump up and shout.
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My verse is Psalms 94:19. Nice.
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"In the multitude of
my anxieties within me,
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Your comfort delights my soul."
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I feel like the Lord
is our biggest comforter.
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I mean, He knows us the most,
He knows what we go through,
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and He Himself
has struggled too.
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So I feel like if anyone
can comfort us, it's Him.
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Oh, yes.
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Amen, because He has experienced
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everything tempted in
all points like as we are.
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So He knows how to help us.
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He knows how to encourage
us as we go through trials
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because He has experienced.
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I have so many, I
don't even know how to pick
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but I'm in Isaiah so
I went back a chapter,
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this is Isaiah 41:10.
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Oh, yes.
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We're going to start
with the end of verse 9.
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"He said to you,
you are my servant.
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I have chosen you and
have not cast you away."
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Then verse 10.
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"Fear not for I
am with you." Yeah.
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"Be not dismayed
for I am your God,
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I will strengthen you.
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I will help you.
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Yes, I will uphold you
with My righteous right hand."
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And I don't know what trial
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you are going through right now.
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You might be saying, I'm
walking through the valley
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of the shadow of death.
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It might be trial
with your children
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who have walked away from Jesus
and your heart hurts for them
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because you want
them to come back to Him.
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It might be a
marriage that's falling apart
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or the death of a loved one,
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it could be a health
challenge or a financial
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or I don't know whatever
it is the Lord Jesus sees you.
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He knows you, He loves
you with an everlasting love
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and He says, I want
to bring you comfort.
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You don't have to be afraid.
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You don't have to
be afraid no matter
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what you're walking
through, Jesus is by your side.
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And He will be with you
and extend His comfort to you,
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that then in turn as
after we pass through that,
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we can extend that
comfort to someone else.
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I want to say, Miss
Mollie, would you have a prayer
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before we go to our news break?
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Maybe if there's
someone struggling out there,
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who needs a word of
encouragement from Jesus?
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Would you have a
word of prayer for them?
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Holy Father, we come
before You in the name of Jesus,
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praising You and
thanking You Holy God,
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that You are our comfort.
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You Lord are the one
that stands by our side,
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picks us up and
moves us forward.
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So, Father, I bring
before Your throne of grace.
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Every one that is listening
and every one that is viewing,
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every one, Father,
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that is having a
moment of discouragements,
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they're walking
through a difficult time
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and ask Father
that You would undertake
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on their behalf that
You would touch us all,
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Father God.
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Touch us and lift us up
and draw us closer unto you.
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Father, I just
speak to the North, East,
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South and West, and ask Father,
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that by the
power of Your Spirit,
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You would bring
all that are listening,
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that are
hearing Your voice today
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into a deeper and
closer walk with you,
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I pray this in
the name of Jesus.
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Amen. Amen.
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Amen. It's beautiful.
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Hard to believe, we're
almost down to our news break.
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I know, I know.
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You know, it's amazing how
when you start talking about
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how good God is
and how to comfort,
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and how He wants us
to comfort and all that,
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the time just flies.
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Absolutely.
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This time has flown
by, it's a blessing.
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It has.
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And we hope and
pray that you have gained
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encouragement
from the scripture,
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from the Word of God,
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from what God
wants to do in your life.
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And I want to encourage you
to, you can always contact 3ABN,
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you can call our
pastoral department,
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we have men and
women waiting to pray with
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and for you and for your needs.
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Right now we're going
to go to our news break.
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This is what's going
on this week here at 3ABN,
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and then we'll be
back with closing thoughts.
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