I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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I want to spend my life
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Removing pain
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Lord, let my words
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Heal a heart that hurts
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I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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I want to spend my life
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Mending broken people
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Hello and welcome to 3ABN today.
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My name is C.A Murray
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and thank you for sharing just
a little of your day with us
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and we've got a really
exciting program today.
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You're gonna meet
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and really fall in love
with two wonderful people,
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because I have
already in just meeting them
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just a little while
ago, we had a chance to talk.
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And you're gonna
learn some stuff today
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and be sensitized
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into some things that
are going on around us.
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And how challenges can
be overcome through love,
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through good parenting,
through the love of Christ
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and ability that
Christ gives us to meet
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and exceed those challenges
which may stand in our way
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but are really
just steps to success.
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So we're gonna talk about all
of those kinds of things today.
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My guests are, let's
see Deia Davis-Williams.
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Yes.
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And her daughter
our, my new best friend,
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there's a lovely
little girl Dalia.
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Do I get that right, Dalia?
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Yes. I bet I said okay.
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Yeah, she's got a pretty smile
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but this little girl
has gone through a lot
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and she is meeting
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and exceeding all
of those challenges
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with the help of her
great mom and great dad
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and the love of Jesus Christ.
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So that's what we're
gonna talk about today
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and hopefully
you'll be impressed
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and inspired as we unpackaged
their collective stories.
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Now, I need to talk
with mom for just a minute
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before we get into our music
because you're an Oakwood grad.
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You went to my alma mater.
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I think I went there
several years before you.
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Okay.
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But you're Oakwood
grad, and your husband?
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Yes.
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Graduate from
Oakwood College also.
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He is a physician
I'm told. Yes, he is.
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And he's working
in the prison system,
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is it in California?
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Yes.
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You met him in college no doubt.
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Yes, definitely.
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Where are you from originally?
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I'm originally
Sumter, South Carolina
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but I was raised in
Huntsville, Alabama.
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And Birmingham
and then Tennessee
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and then we ended
up in Mississippi.
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What is your dad do?
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Well, he's former vice
president of Oakwood University
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actually, but he
has had a research
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on mud drugs in Mississippi
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and my mother is
a nursing professor.
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And she just became a
naturopathic nurse practitioner
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recently.
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Praise the Lord,
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so that they're doing
some great things for the Lord.
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Um, definitely.
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Give me a little flavor
of growing up in your home,
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obviously Adventist home?
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Do you have
brothers and sisters?
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I have a younger sister.
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She's a biochemist
and we grew up that
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you know, God's first
education was very important
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and we just had
a very loving home.
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I don't ever remember
growing or my parents fussy
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in front of us
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so that's just something
I took into my marriage,
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that you don't argue
in front of your children,
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you work your disagreement
out behind closed doors.
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Just a better
way of doing things.
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Yeah, and they
don't need to have
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that pressure anyway, you know.
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No.
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Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah. Definitely not.
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For you growing up
in an Adventist home
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is one thing but
then there's a time
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when you have to
make your own personal
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relationship with Jesus Christ.
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When did that happened for you?
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In college, definitely.
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And shortly
before I had met Nathan
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I'd gone through
a terrible tragedy
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and I just felt that God
just really spoke in my life
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at that time period.
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And I decided I wanted to,
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I'd love him for
the rest of my life.
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All right.
Praise God. Praise God.
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Now I got to ask you this
question 'cause if I don't
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they'll get on us.
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Nathan is your husband?
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Yes. Yeah.
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In whose eye did
the glean first appear?
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Yours or his? It was mine.
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That's good to know that
sometimes the ladies lead out.
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Yeah, you saw something there.
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Most definitely.
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Did you know he was
going to go into medicine?
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I didn't initially--
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No, he took
sometimes before he told me.
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Now as far as
your course of study,
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what did you graduate with?
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I did interdisciplinary's
physical education in English,
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ended out with the
masses in criminal justice
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at the end of my
PhD program as well.
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And I just
recently took some time off
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to take care of Del'lia.
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Full time but
when it's all done,
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I said I'll have my doctorate.
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Okay, pretty sure.
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What does one do with a
degree in criminal justice?
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You can do several things.
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You can work for the
IRS, you can work for FBI.
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Oh, yes, yes.
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You could do profiling
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and that's what I
was specializing it.
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Now what is profiling?
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Talk to us a
little bit about that--
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that seems very interesting.
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You study human behavior
and from different aspects
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and you learn to deal
with someone on another level
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without them noticing.
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The details are very
background check on individuals.
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I had a medical friend of mine
who got into some legal trouble
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and they couldn't find his boss
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and I was able to
track the boss down
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who was under a fictitious name
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and turn off
information over to the FBI
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and clear the person's name.
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Were you working for the FBI
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or just kind of
ventured at times?
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I wasn't working
for them. I see. I see.
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That sounds
very, very fascinating.
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How many years did you do that?
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Five.
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Five years and then
we're gonna talk about
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because you have to
undergo a little change
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in your vocation
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just to accommodate
something things that
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Delia was going through.
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Most definitely.
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We want to unpack their story
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because it also
resulted in a ministry
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which we're gonna talk about.
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Which is very, very exciting.
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And we want to
talk about all of that
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but before we do so
our special music for today
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is coming from
our own Jill Morikone
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who us gonna be
playing Gentle Shepherd.
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Jill Morikone, well
done, Gentle Shepherd.
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My guests are
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Deia Davis-Williams and
the lovely Del'lia Williams.
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When we left we
had just left Oakwood.
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You had met who was
gonna be the love of your life.
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How does one get
from Huntsville, Alabama
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to Belmont, California?
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My husband went to
medical school in Loma Linda
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and graduated and he
basically said he wasn't moving.
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So this southern bell had
to relocate to California.
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To California. Yes.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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Now Del'lia is not your
first and, or your only.
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No, I have three.
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You have three?
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Yes.
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Now there was a reason
why you ended up in Belmont,
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isn't that so?
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Yes, my son got
very sick as an infant,
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ended up intensive care
for a little bit of time.
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And the doctor recommended
that we leave Rancho Cucamonga,
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so we relocated to Belmont
because of their air climate.
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So air quality really was a--
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what's the difference
between, I know Rancho Cucamonga
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is northwest heading towards
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where our old Adventist
media center used to be.
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Dry and kind of--
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I don't even know
how to describe it
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but evidently air
is not so good there.
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No, it's not but
in Belmont it's dry,
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it's going towards the desert.
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So you have fall winter, spring,
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it gets very hot in summer,
so you better have the good AC.
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But it gets very
cold in the winter,
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we get snow every year.
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You get snow. Yes.
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Won't you say now where is--
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I didn't say stuck now.
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You got it down and up. Yeah.
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So your, that's your baby boy?
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Yes.
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Has some health challenges.
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He did, he's normal.
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Oh, praise the Lord. Now
what about you got three.
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I have three.
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Del'lia is my middle one,
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I have older
one Nadia, she's 12.
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And how's Nadia
doing health wise?
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Oh, she's doing very
good. Praise the Lord.
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So you moved to Belmont,
everything is going along well
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and then in her
is it sixth year?
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Yeah, her first
grade. First grade.
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Yeah.
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You begin to know some stuff.
Walk us through that time?
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She was-- I'm not doing
to get her spelling test
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orally she was fine and
for three weeks in a row
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you know, she
kept bringing home Fs
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and I'm like this
doesn't sound like my child.
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And I just made appointment
with eye doctor and a tutor,
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so we went to a
tutor on Thursday,
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eye doctor on Friday.
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And the eye
doctor dilated her eyes
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and she was like, you
know, come back in hour.
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And I just had a
feeling something wasn't right.
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So I actually
called my husband at work,
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which is quite a ways away,
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I said you need
to come right now.
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And I said I have a gut
feeling something is not right.
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And he arrived
eventually and the doctor said
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she has found something.
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And we needed to
get over to Loma Linda
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as soon as possible.
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Was your doctor
an Adventist doctor?
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No, she wasn't Adventist,
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the doctor we got eventually was
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and we were just like what and--
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her eyes were
dilated, it wouldn't clear up.
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So for like seven days,
she's had a hard time seeing
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and I talk to a physician
at church, a pediatrician
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and you know, she
explained it wasn't normal
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and my life forever changed.
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Yes. Yes. So did Del'lia's.
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So you got her into Loma Linda.
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I did. And what'd you find?
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We found out she developed
myelinated fibers in her eyes
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and they're cluster to
make it look like it was a mess,
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almost like a tumor
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and because it was
undiagnosed for so long,
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it shut up that side
of her brain in her eye.
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We started in
many patching process
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of 12 to 16 hours a day
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that eye was patched
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and she was forced to
use that eye didn't work.
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I see.
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And then
eventually that led to surgery
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at St. Louis
Children's Hospital.
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We had a lens transplant doctor.
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So you brought her all
the way back here to St.-
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Brought her all
the way back here.
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Now that-- I guess
it's a good hospital.
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We've had some young people
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from our church
in that hospital.
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It's a excellent hospital.
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Since then unfortunately
the surgery didn't work
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and we just made the best of it.
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Now is this tumor in the
brain or in the eye itself?
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It's in the eye. It
covers the optical nerve.
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Oh, okay.
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Yes, it's not
operable we've been told
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it's a medical anomalies
at first to ever occur.
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Wow.
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Okay, you get
this kick in a stomach.
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Oh, yes.
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You know, which is
all you can describe it.
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Your life is
going along pretty good
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and now you get this
really tough diagnosis.
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How do you and
your husband handle it?
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We fall to our knees.
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We fall to our knees all
I could do is cry to God.
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Because I didn't
have answer for it
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and God is perfect
in His timing right.
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When I got the diagnosis
my favorite aunt Betty Perham,
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was a pastor's wife called
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and that kept me from losing it.
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Betty Perham husband of--
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Roy Perham,
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she called so that
kept me from losing it
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in the doctor's
office and I stepped out
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explaining what was going on.
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And it gave me a calmness
and a peace that I needed
00:15:04.25\00:15:07.58
and I had a
classmate from college,
00:15:07.61\00:15:09.55
her name is Marva Green
who flew out to California
00:15:09.58\00:15:12.92
to be by my side for a
week pregnant with my guy son.
00:15:12.95\00:15:16.47
And it just gave
me the calmness--
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That I needed and my
husband to get through
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I had a sister
Deniada who lived in town.
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We were able to go to the church
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and kind of get away from our
home church for little while,
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they did a anointing on her
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and then we came
back to Mark Rubido,
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they found and now they
did anointing on Del'lia
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and after that we
stayed home a lot.
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It was just really hard
for her to be out in public,
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comes in with lot of pain.
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Yeah, so there was some pain.
00:15:39.99\00:15:41.60
Yes, there was some
pains associate with her.
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You know, it was very difficult
00:15:44.62\00:15:45.74
for all of us to
see her like that.
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Now, just to the
punch line on this because
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she has something
that cannot be cured.
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No.
00:15:54.58\00:15:55.61
Yeah, can it be
successfully treated?
00:15:55.64\00:15:57.81
No.
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It can't be good,
it can't be treated.
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No, so she's something--
she's just got to live with it.
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Yes.
00:16:01.86\00:16:02.89
Yeah, once you and your husband
'cause your husband a doctor.
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Yes.
00:16:04.61\00:16:06.81
Who sort of took
it a little rougher?
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I did. Yeah.
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He was very calm about it.
It was oh, driving me crazy.
00:16:11.30\00:16:17.32
But I understand
that we needed a calm one
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and it was definitely him.
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Yeah, yeah,
00:16:21.31\00:16:22.54
I always tell my wife
when thing get little crazy,
00:16:22.57\00:16:24.59
somebody's got to stay
on shore and hold the rope
00:16:24.62\00:16:26.53
you know, we
both can't dive off.
00:16:26.56\00:16:27.79
Somebody's got to hold the rope.
00:16:27.82\00:16:28.85
He did.
Definitely, he held the rope.
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Yes. Praise the Lord.
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Yet with all of that you realize
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you still got to be a
strong for your daughter.
00:16:33.49\00:16:35.15
What was the
long term prognosis?
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We got the
diagnosis, what was it about?
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Will she be able to function,
what were they telling you?
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The long time
diagnosis we she was going to be
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totally blind in the left eye
after the surgery didn't work.
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And we could
look at other things
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and she
transferred to UC Irvine,
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she goes to the
government eye institute.
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They've done a battery of tests
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and as of last week the
doctor still doesn't know
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as to what really cause
the myelinated fibers to come.
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And now we've been told that
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she is legally blind
in her right eye now.
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Myelinated fiber?
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Yes and myopia and some
other names I can't pronounce.
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Yeah, yeah, and they
don't know where this started,
00:17:11.54\00:17:13.51
how it came just--
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No clue.
00:17:14.60\00:17:15.63
Yeah, wow, wow.
She was at the time--
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Very athletic.
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Yes, yes, talk to me about that.
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What was she doing?
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Basketball, soccer, tennis.
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go-karting, skateboarding,
you name it she did it.
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Golfing. Just a
physical young girl.
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Oh, yes.
00:17:34.61\00:17:35.65
And doing good in
school. Yes, very well.
00:17:35.68\00:17:38.68
So now stuff had
to change little bit.
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A little bit you mean a lot.
00:17:41.57\00:17:44.61
Talk to us about
some of the changes
00:17:44.64\00:17:45.85
that in the wake of the
surgery which is unsuccessful.
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How do you
navigate those waters now?
00:17:50.59\00:17:53.04
Well, we continue patching
for like another year and half.
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We changed her diet my
mom suggested we went vegan
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for almost two
years in our home.
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And we did a naturalistic
herb that we tried for her.
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She's still on that today.
00:18:04.93\00:18:06.50
And we started
tracking her bedtime
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as a result losing her
sight, she has sleep apnea.
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And it keeps the whole house up.
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So we were working you
know, on it to help her out
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but she has to
be in bed by eight.
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When she doesn't get her rest,
she will fall asleep at class
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because condition makes
her very tired, very quickly.
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We got large
print for the school
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and when that didn't happened
00:18:32.98\00:18:34.01
the entire school
has become computerized.
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So now she could
see all of her books
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and she got a CCTV machine
she uses everyday at school.
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What was that machine?
00:18:43.02\00:18:44.05
It's a closed
caption television.
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So she has one at her
desk and we have one at home.
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So she can do her homework.
Yeah, 'cause that's important.
00:18:49.32\00:18:52.36
So really her--
00:18:52.39\00:18:54.95
her challenge her
disability call it or you will--
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Yeah.
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Kind of help the whole school
00:18:58.07\00:18:59.10
because in trying to
facilitate her needs,
00:18:59.13\00:19:00.97
the whole school got benefited.
00:19:01.00\00:19:02.28
Oh, yes, they're very happy.
00:19:02.31\00:19:05.29
Was that a tough
thing for you to do
00:19:05.32\00:19:06.58
to try to get
that in that school--
00:19:06.61\00:19:08.28
It was. Kind of roll in.
00:19:08.31\00:19:09.62
No, it was very challenging
and we had to change schools.
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We have to get advocate
00:19:12.33\00:19:13.55
and eventually I had to
get a disability attorney
00:19:13.58\00:19:16.12
to get
everything taken care off.
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Are you doing good
in school now, Del'lia?
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Yes.
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You like school and you still
do some sports too don't you?
00:19:22.04\00:19:25.02
Yes. Yeah, praise the Lord.
00:19:25.05\00:19:28.13
Not gonna let
that stop you, amen.
00:19:28.16\00:19:31.16
So she's in school.
She's still doing good.
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What about the sports
were they impacted a lot?
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Yes, the doctor at Loma Linda
took all of her sports away.
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So you went for my
child and you know,
00:19:40.25\00:19:41.85
who's outside all the time
in the front yard, backyard--
00:19:41.88\00:19:45.23
And she was stuck inside
and she lost her twinkle.
00:19:45.26\00:19:49.61
Yeah.
00:19:49.64\00:19:50.68
And I didn't
know what else to do
00:19:50.71\00:19:52.47
because she would
just sit on side and cry.
00:19:52.50\00:19:54.62
Yeah. And I
just started praying.
00:19:54.65\00:19:56.43
I asked for God's guidance
and when we went to UC Irvine,
00:19:56.46\00:19:59.51
they were like
she's got to something.
00:19:59.54\00:20:00.89
She's athletic look at
these muscles in her arm.
00:20:00.92\00:20:04.05
I looked those
arms before I said
00:20:04.08\00:20:05.89
that girl's got some muscles.
00:20:05.92\00:20:08.29
She's swinging a club or a bat--
00:20:08.32\00:20:10.34
And she's done
little some development
00:20:10.37\00:20:12.20
but what was the mindset
in pulling her out of sports?
00:20:12.23\00:20:16.46
I don't know. I don't know.
00:20:16.49\00:20:18.74
This is what the doctor felt.
00:20:18.77\00:20:20.40
Her new physician was
like no let her play sports
00:20:20.43\00:20:23.19
just give some
protective glasses.
00:20:23.22\00:20:24.74
Yeah, yeah. And
that's exactly what we did.
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Sitting in house
is helping anything.
00:20:26.30\00:20:27.49
Oh, it wasn't.
00:20:27.52\00:20:29.49
Yeah, what's
your favorite sport?
00:20:29.52\00:20:31.21
What do you like to do the best?
00:20:31.24\00:20:32.28
I'd play golf and basketball.
00:20:32.31\00:20:35.32
Golf and basketball
and a little birdie told me
00:20:35.35\00:20:37.57
you're pretty good at golf.
00:20:37.60\00:20:42.62
Actually it's your mom
00:20:42.65\00:20:45.24
but so the doctor
put her back on sports?
00:20:45.27\00:20:48.53
Did it help her
mental state as far as--
00:20:48.56\00:20:50.42
I think it really has--
00:20:50.45\00:20:51.49
yeah, have my daughter back now.
00:20:51.52\00:20:54.23
Yeah.
00:20:54.26\00:20:55.50
The question that I
guess begs to be asked
00:20:55.53\00:20:57.64
because having
this she generates
00:20:57.67\00:21:00.83
a lot of care and a lot of time.
00:21:00.86\00:21:03.43
You got two other children.
00:21:03.46\00:21:05.31
How did you're spending
the require time on the other?
00:21:05.34\00:21:09.85
How did it affect
them? I'm not really sure.
00:21:09.88\00:21:13.45
I learned to do
mommy dates with them
00:21:13.48\00:21:16.62
in that way each
child would get equal time
00:21:16.65\00:21:18.76
with ma 'cause
Del'lia gets a whole lot more
00:21:18.79\00:21:21.47
than her siblings do.
00:21:21.50\00:21:23.03
And we had to get a baby sitter
to come in and help a lot.
00:21:23.06\00:21:26.82
And my husband you know,
00:21:26.85\00:21:28.44
would help us much as he
could but he works a lot so--
00:21:28.47\00:21:30.98
Yeah. He couldn't do too much.
00:21:31.01\00:21:32.80
And we just rotate,
have a schedule with them
00:21:32.83\00:21:34.87
where it's mommy time every week
00:21:34.90\00:21:36.67
that way they
didn't fell left out.
00:21:36.70\00:21:38.85
Yeah, yeah, so each child gets
designated time for them solo.
00:21:38.88\00:21:45.55
What are some of
the kinds of things
00:21:45.58\00:21:46.67
you do during those time?
00:21:46.70\00:21:47.73
My oldest daughter is
on the Piranhas Swim Team
00:21:47.76\00:21:50.51
first black female.
00:21:50.54\00:21:52.09
And I would go to her practice,
00:21:52.12\00:21:54.02
we just stood by herself
00:21:54.05\00:21:55.56
and you know, cheer her on.
00:21:55.59\00:21:56.84
Recently my son
joined last month
00:21:56.87\00:21:58.96
and you know, I
was cheering them on.
00:21:58.99\00:22:00.96
And he was like you
need to get in the pool.
00:22:00.99\00:22:02.39
I was like oh, no
that's not going to happen
00:22:02.42\00:22:04.78
but I did and I
joined the parent's
00:22:04.81\00:22:08.11
master class last week.
00:22:08.14\00:22:09.19
All right.
00:22:09.22\00:22:10.27
And it's held at Drayson
00:22:10.30\00:22:11.57
which is at
Loma Linda University
00:22:11.60\00:22:13.46
and so I'm in
the pool with my kids
00:22:13.49\00:22:15.25
from Sunday to Thursday.
00:22:15.28\00:22:17.11
So it's a good
bonding time with them.
00:22:17.14\00:22:18.84
And I go to then meet with them
00:22:18.87\00:22:20.08
so I look forward to
the physical benefits.
00:22:20.11\00:22:22.39
And not bad
exercise either, right?
00:22:22.42\00:22:23.80
Yes, not bad.
00:22:23.83\00:22:25.71
Now we got to talk
about this because your,
00:22:25.74\00:22:28.78
the job that you described to me
00:22:28.81\00:22:30.28
that you were doing
fairly demanding job.
00:22:30.31\00:22:32.22
Yes.
00:22:32.25\00:22:33.37
Lot of mental work lot off,
00:22:33.40\00:22:35.16
you had to make some--
00:22:35.19\00:22:36.64
Adjustments. Yeah.
00:22:36.67\00:22:37.97
Yes, I needed a new career
00:22:38.00\00:22:40.05
that would allow me
to be home with my kids.
00:22:40.08\00:22:42.63
And so I became
entertainment publicist.
00:22:42.66\00:22:45.87
So an
entertainment publicist. Yes.
00:22:45.90\00:22:48.16
Okay, walk us through that?
00:22:48.19\00:22:50.31
My oldest daughter decided
to write a book for my mother
00:22:50.34\00:22:52.87
and they were having some
issues with the publisher.
00:22:52.90\00:22:55.26
And I talked to
my brother-in-law
00:22:55.29\00:22:56.58
who as an attorney
before he became a pastor.
00:22:56.61\00:22:58.97
And he was like you
need to be in publicist,
00:22:59.00\00:23:00.24
you are in the wrong field.
00:23:00.27\00:23:01.30
And I was yeah, yeah, yeah
but he showed up at my house
00:23:01.33\00:23:04.24
with a book about
that thick materials
00:23:04.27\00:23:06.34
he had put together.
00:23:06.37\00:23:07.41
Thank you, Gary
Anderson by the way,
00:23:07.44\00:23:09.79
Pastor Anderson and
after I read the material
00:23:09.82\00:23:12.23
I said you know, I
like to talk check.
00:23:12.33\00:23:15.45
I'm a Christian.
Check. I'm fashionable. Check.
00:23:15.48\00:23:19.54
I like to travel.
Check. Check. Check.
00:23:19.57\00:23:21.96
And so I talked
to another friend
00:23:21.99\00:23:24.26
who is in the industry,
00:23:24.29\00:23:25.73
who was also a publicist
and they were Christians.
00:23:25.76\00:23:27.97
I've asked was
it a good fit for me
00:23:28.00\00:23:29.58
and she said, yeah,
00:23:29.61\00:23:30.65
so I have two
mentors in the field
00:23:30.68\00:23:32.88
and I started getting
clients and we went from there.
00:23:32.91\00:23:36.07
It allows me to
still be home during a week
00:23:36.10\00:23:39.19
and only travel on the weekends.
00:23:39.22\00:23:40.76
I see. I see. Yeah.
00:23:40.79\00:23:42.56
So it allows you
to put in the time
00:23:42.59\00:23:44.23
to sort of take care of things--
00:23:44.26\00:23:45.30
So my children don't
suffer, they have their mommy.
00:23:45.33\00:23:47.35
Yeah, now that is a field
00:23:47.38\00:23:48.79
that I don't suspect
is loaded with Christians.
00:23:48.82\00:23:51.94
Oh, definitely not.
00:23:51.97\00:23:55.37
Are you able to sort of
take your Jesus with you,
00:23:55.40\00:23:57.29
you know as your function.
00:23:57.32\00:23:58.40
I am. Yeah.
00:23:58.43\00:23:59.47
When I have a
clause in my contract says
00:23:59.50\00:24:01.72
no drinking and smoking.
00:24:01.75\00:24:03.43
And when they're around me
00:24:03.46\00:24:04.65
and don't be like
oh, Miss Deia in room,
00:24:04.68\00:24:06.43
hide your
liquor, hide your liquor.
00:24:06.46\00:24:07.97
But I'm okay with
that though because I think
00:24:08.00\00:24:11.00
you can't think well as a artist
00:24:11.03\00:24:12.73
when you are liberated.
00:24:12.76\00:24:14.17
And so they're like
well, why don't you--
00:24:14.20\00:24:15.60
you know, why don't you
drink? Why don't you smoke?
00:24:15.63\00:24:17.47
And I let them know hey,
I'm Seventh-day Adventist
00:24:17.50\00:24:19.80
this is what we believe in,
00:24:19.83\00:24:20.95
it's just not
good for your body.
00:24:20.98\00:24:22.90
And I says you'll
do better in your craft
00:24:22.93\00:24:24.91
if you're not
doing all these things.
00:24:24.94\00:24:26.75
And I have seen the
significant difference
00:24:26.78\00:24:28.49
that says I've come into
their lives as a publicist.
00:24:28.52\00:24:30.71
I've got in better roles
00:24:30.74\00:24:32.75
because we're not
drinking and smoking.
00:24:32.78\00:24:34.90
And they're trying to find,
and they are trying to do that
00:24:34.93\00:24:38.43
something of health laws
00:24:38.46\00:24:39.79
that's what I've
been incorporating
00:24:39.82\00:24:41.31
into my business.
00:24:41.34\00:24:42.89
So you kind of take
the name of Jesus with you.
00:24:42.92\00:24:44.84
Everywhere I go.
00:24:44.87\00:24:47.43
Now I'm told that
Del'lia and her brother
00:24:47.46\00:24:51.62
are very, very close.
00:24:51.65\00:24:53.58
And it came about the
time of the diagnosis,
00:24:53.61\00:24:56.01
tell us about that?
00:24:56.04\00:24:57.38
Well, one day we
heard Del'lia crying
00:24:57.41\00:24:59.50
and I rushed into the room
about 2 o'clock in the morning
00:24:59.53\00:25:02.07
her brother was there.
00:25:02.10\00:25:03.13
And he's like you
don't have to worry,
00:25:03.16\00:25:04.19
I got this. Now,
he's the younger brother.
00:25:04.22\00:25:06.73
But he took on role
as the bigger brother
00:25:06.76\00:25:08.72
and so for the first two years
00:25:08.75\00:25:10.36
he's slept at
the front of her bed.
00:25:10.39\00:25:12.25
And oh, I just used the crack
00:25:12.28\00:25:13.92
it's just such a
beautiful thing to see.
00:25:13.95\00:25:16.10
Now they are inseparable
they have their own bedrooms.
00:25:16.13\00:25:19.30
And they still sleep together,
they just rotate rooms now.
00:25:19.33\00:25:22.33
I guess she's out to clean
your room Del'lia for the week.
00:25:22.36\00:25:25.47
But they're inseparable
and I love the closest
00:25:25.50\00:25:28.79
they're you're part that
the two have as a result.
00:25:28.82\00:25:31.52
Or for diagnosis
and you know he told me
00:25:31.55\00:25:33.47
they're never gonna get married.
00:25:33.50\00:25:34.94
They're just gonna live together
00:25:34.97\00:25:36.23
for the rest of their lives.
00:25:36.26\00:25:37.29
Okay, and how old is he?
She's nine and Mike is eight.
00:25:37.32\00:25:40.54
Okay, give him some time.
00:25:40.57\00:25:42.75
I know. So you
love your brother a lot.
00:25:42.78\00:25:46.70
Does he help you a lot in stuff?
00:25:46.73\00:25:49.03
He's fun to be with?
Yeah. Very protective.
00:25:49.06\00:25:52.69
Yeah, yeah, how
did you determine
00:25:52.72\00:25:54.60
where you're gonna sleep?
00:25:54.63\00:25:55.66
'Cause you sleep
kind of together right?
00:25:55.69\00:25:58.01
Yeah, how do you
make that decision?
00:25:58.04\00:26:01.19
Which room is the cleanest?
00:26:01.22\00:26:04.82
Okay, that's very pragmatic
00:26:04.85\00:26:06.81
which room is the
clean is that's where we go.
00:26:06.84\00:26:08.57
It's usually
his. Very, very good.
00:26:08.60\00:26:11.79
Does he do good
in school too? Yes.
00:26:11.82\00:26:15.32
So he takes care of
you and helps you in stuff.
00:26:15.35\00:26:17.51
But it doesn't seem
like you need a lot of help
00:26:17.54\00:26:19.55
because you seem
very independent, right?
00:26:19.58\00:26:21.84
And you like to do stuff.
00:26:21.87\00:26:23.57
Now I'm told that
your favorite game is golf.
00:26:23.60\00:26:28.90
Are you very good at it? Yes.
00:26:28.93\00:26:31.91
In all humility I'm.
That's quite all right.
00:26:31.94\00:26:36.36
You like to play it huh? Hmm.
00:26:36.39\00:26:38.16
When do you get
a chance to play?
00:26:38.19\00:26:39.48
Mostly when my mom
takes me too a golf club
00:26:41.74\00:26:45.09
and sometimes, when
I finish all my work,
00:26:45.12\00:26:48.78
I get to play in my back yard.
00:26:48.81\00:26:50.29
Oh, you
practice and your putting
00:26:50.32\00:26:52.06
and stuff, no doubt.
00:26:52.09\00:26:53.12
Oh, praise the Lord.
00:26:53.15\00:26:54.43
Now this got kicked off
by something that you did
00:26:54.46\00:26:58.40
which I've never heard
of before a golf party.
00:26:58.43\00:27:01.05
Walk us through that experience?
00:27:01.08\00:27:02.50
Last summer we'd
had a challenging summer
00:27:02.53\00:27:04.47
her grandfather Dr.
Winder Williams passed away.
00:27:04.50\00:27:07.16
And Del'lia was
having enough time with it
00:27:07.19\00:27:10.22
and she was like I
know when we feel better
00:27:10.25\00:27:11.73
let's go play some golf.
00:27:11.76\00:27:13.82
And I was like well,
you know talk about that
00:27:13.85\00:27:16.39
so I went to the golf course,
00:27:16.42\00:27:18.26
explained to them my
daughter is visually impaired
00:27:18.29\00:27:20.45
and could they handle that?
00:27:20.48\00:27:21.67
And they're like
we've never done that before
00:27:21.70\00:27:23.29
but let's try.
00:27:23.32\00:27:24.44
And half the kids
were visually impaired
00:27:24.47\00:27:26.63
who came to the
party with their parents
00:27:26.66\00:27:28.76
and other half weren't
00:27:28.79\00:27:30.23
and it was 8
o'clock in the morning
00:27:30.26\00:27:31.90
because they had a golf
tournament that morning.
00:27:31.93\00:27:34.12
But we got there on time
00:27:34.15\00:27:35.38
and we had two
instructors to come out,
00:27:35.41\00:27:37.57
it was the first time for
many parents playing golf.
00:27:37.60\00:27:40.49
And it was such
an exciting thing
00:27:40.52\00:27:42.66
to see and the kids
just had great time.
00:27:42.69\00:27:46.25
It got little hot you know,
00:27:46.28\00:27:47.91
by 9:30 it was
like almost 100 degrees
00:27:47.94\00:27:50.89
So we only last
about an hour and half
00:27:50.92\00:27:53.58
outside and then we
came in for a very nice meal,
00:27:53.61\00:27:57.12
people got to
chose what they wanted
00:27:57.15\00:27:58.58
and I surprised
Del'lia with golf kick
00:27:58.61\00:28:01.86
with that she could
actually keep the little cart
00:28:01.89\00:28:04.05
that moved
around and everything.
00:28:04.08\00:28:05.74
And everyone at the golf
course is cheering her on
00:28:05.77\00:28:09.79
and they say well,
we're gonna have to do this
00:28:09.82\00:28:11.18
more often because
they had never done it
00:28:11.21\00:28:13.24
for a job before
and each kid left
00:28:13.27\00:28:14.96
with a kid version of a golf set
00:28:14.99\00:28:18.09
and their own balls.
00:28:18.12\00:28:19.26
Wow. Yeah.
00:28:19.29\00:28:20.36
Wow, that's impressive.
00:28:20.39\00:28:22.27
Now that wasn't the first time
00:28:22.30\00:28:23.53
for you playing
golf though right?
00:28:23.56\00:28:24.60
You've played it before. Yes.
00:28:24.63\00:28:26.18
Yeah, yeah, that's a
nice idea. Thank you.
00:28:26.21\00:28:29.59
Yeah, yeah, now
something happened
00:28:29.62\00:28:31.70
out of that-- out of that
time that's kind of ongoing.
00:28:31.73\00:28:34.37
Yeah, she got
some free golf lessons.
00:28:34.40\00:28:36.09
Yay.
00:28:36.12\00:28:39.95
And I think you told me that
00:28:39.98\00:28:41.62
the instructor was
kind of impressed to do it
00:28:41.65\00:28:44.14
for a number of reasons
00:28:44.17\00:28:45.24
one because she
showed some promise.
00:28:45.27\00:28:47.11
Yes. Yeah.
00:28:47.14\00:28:48.24
He thinks she can
have career in a PGA.
00:28:48.27\00:28:51.06
Get out of here. Yeah.
00:28:51.09\00:28:52.69
Wow.
00:28:52.72\00:28:54.22
And also I think that was--
00:28:57.02\00:28:58.12
as you mentioned
that's the first time
00:28:58.15\00:28:59.48
do they ever had ever
seen something quite like that.
00:28:59.51\00:29:02.24
He didn't want
to take the money.
00:29:02.27\00:29:03.92
He was like oh, no,
no, don't worry about it.
00:29:03.95\00:29:06.20
I like that. Yeah.
00:29:06.23\00:29:07.89
Praise the Lord.
00:29:07.92\00:29:08.95
How many people we're talking
about that came to the party.
00:29:08.98\00:29:11.12
40. Oh, it's a good size.
00:29:11.15\00:29:12.78
Yeah, real good size
00:29:12.81\00:29:14.19
and that was
just half the people.
00:29:14.22\00:29:17.15
So your lessons are ongoing?
00:29:17.18\00:29:18.91
She's having
lessons even as we speak.
00:29:18.94\00:29:20.88
How often does he take around?
00:29:20.91\00:29:22.54
We usually get it
once every two weeks.
00:29:22.57\00:29:24.31
We would like to be more
00:29:24.34\00:29:25.37
but you know the
prices are little steep.
00:29:25.40\00:29:27.60
Yeah, yeah.
00:29:27.63\00:29:31.14
So we can't afford
00:29:31.17\00:29:32.74
to do lesson two
three times a week.
00:29:32.77\00:29:34.71
That would be my goal
in a near future for her.
00:29:34.74\00:29:37.81
So he does believe that
she has that she shows promise.
00:29:37.84\00:29:39.88
Yes, definitely.
00:29:39.91\00:29:40.95
Oh, that's what I say, I
saw the little development here
00:29:40.98\00:29:43.34
that make little
muscle for me, Del'lia.
00:29:43.37\00:29:45.34
Look at that.
00:29:45.37\00:29:46.40
Yeah, flaunt that
muscle, you know what.
00:29:46.43\00:29:47.90
She's been to
something because yeah,
00:29:47.93\00:29:49.61
she's got development there.
00:29:49.64\00:29:50.71
Oh, yeah. Yeah.
00:29:50.74\00:29:52.18
And she practices in
the yard. Oh, everyday.
00:29:52.21\00:29:55.53
I've never seen a child
00:29:55.56\00:29:56.61
doing homework
so fast in my life.
00:29:56.64\00:29:58.67
I'm done and done,
can I go play golf?
00:29:58.70\00:30:00.85
I'm like yeah,
Del'lia, go ahead.
00:30:00.88\00:30:03.55
And the gardener is always
fussing about the golf ball.
00:30:03.58\00:30:05.89
Del'lia, pick him up.
00:30:05.92\00:30:09.57
She's like well you
see them then why pick.
00:30:09.60\00:30:11.92
Now you do you
said, you do golf,
00:30:11.95\00:30:13.46
you do basketball what else?
00:30:13.49\00:30:15.35
That's it I think. Yeah.
00:30:18.35\00:30:19.96
Yeah, that's enough. Yeah.
00:30:19.99\00:30:21.53
You know.
00:30:21.56\00:30:22.63
Momma don't wanted to get hurt.
00:30:22.66\00:30:23.73
Yeah, right, that's enough.
00:30:23.76\00:30:26.62
Maybe she can take
care of you in your old day,
00:30:26.65\00:30:27.91
you know, if she
gets good enough.
00:30:27.94\00:30:30.62
Well, praise the Lord for that.
00:30:30.65\00:30:31.73
Praise God.
00:30:31.76\00:30:32.79
So the upside is that here
00:30:32.82\00:30:36.61
the diagnosis hasn't
really slowed her down a lot.
00:30:36.64\00:30:39.74
I mean it's changed some things.
00:30:39.77\00:30:40.80
Yeah.
00:30:40.83\00:30:41.86
But it seems like
00:30:41.89\00:30:42.92
you're weathering
the storm pretty good.
00:30:42.95\00:30:44.23
Because of God.
00:30:44.26\00:30:45.33
Yeah.
00:30:45.36\00:30:46.49
All because of God
we're in His hands.
00:30:46.52\00:30:49.54
We didn't think we
could get through this.
00:30:49.57\00:30:51.94
We just didn't,
00:30:51.97\00:30:53.04
I couldn't see
pass the diagnosis.
00:30:53.07\00:30:55.38
Yeah.
00:30:55.41\00:30:56.45
But now I just see a
bright future for my daughter
00:30:56.48\00:30:58.47
and all of my kids because of it
00:30:58.50\00:31:01.37
then it's made us
closer as a family too.
00:31:01.40\00:31:03.09
I'm sure.
00:31:03.12\00:31:04.15
Tell me little about
what the ongoing treatment
00:31:04.18\00:31:06.11
because okay,
she's is doing golf.
00:31:06.14\00:31:08.64
She's doing sports.
She's doing well in school.
00:31:08.67\00:31:11.82
Obviously the treatment
regimen is pulling time away.
00:31:11.85\00:31:14.01
Talk to me about that?
00:31:14.04\00:31:15.11
Oh, she misses
quite a few days at school
00:31:15.14\00:31:17.00
because our doctors
are hour and half away.
00:31:17.03\00:31:18.89
Oh, okay.
00:31:18.92\00:31:19.95
And so what we have
to do is schedule it out
00:31:19.98\00:31:22.76
our e mother teacher,
usually a week in advance,
00:31:22.79\00:31:25.59
I give for the
days for the month
00:31:25.62\00:31:26.86
that she's gonna be gone.
00:31:26.89\00:31:27.94
So you already, you know,
you can kind of pre planned.
00:31:27.97\00:31:29.52
Yeah, I'm very organized
and the teacher sends the work
00:31:29.55\00:31:33.13
and we just get it done.
00:31:33.16\00:31:34.29
And when we come back
to school she turns it in.
00:31:34.32\00:31:38.60
So that, you like that?
00:31:38.63\00:31:40.82
Oh, yeah, she
doesn't complain it all.
00:31:40.85\00:31:42.78
Sure.
00:31:42.81\00:31:43.99
Spend it sometime.
00:31:44.02\00:31:45.47
Now your husband
you told me is the,
00:31:45.50\00:31:46.65
is the--
00:31:46.68\00:31:47.75
a doctor in the
prison system in California.
00:31:47.78\00:31:50.38
Yes, he is.
00:31:50.41\00:31:51.46
So his schedule
is pretty nailed out.
00:31:51.49\00:31:54.06
Oh, yeah.
00:31:54.09\00:31:55.12
Yeah, yeah, is he
assigned to one facility
00:31:55.15\00:31:57.38
or just he moves around?
00:31:57.41\00:31:58.48
He's assigned to one facility.
00:31:58.51\00:31:59.68
He used to work at two
when they were stressed out
00:31:59.71\00:32:01.98
because he's bilingual
speaks Spanish very well.
00:32:02.01\00:32:05.41
But it takes him
away from home a lot.
00:32:05.44\00:32:08.34
Yeah, yeah,
00:32:08.37\00:32:09.66
so mommy is
carrying the ball this time.
00:32:09.69\00:32:11.54
Yeah, I am, I mean
that's the challenging part.
00:32:11.57\00:32:15.69
How do you juggle the 'cause
from what you've just given me,
00:32:15.72\00:32:21.18
you've got three children,
00:32:21.21\00:32:22.56
each one get some specific
time designated for that child.
00:32:22.59\00:32:26.37
Then Del'lia
takes a little more,
00:32:26.40\00:32:29.42
I mean there's more
stuff has to be done.
00:32:29.45\00:32:31.56
Then you've got to
do the publicist thing
00:32:31.59\00:32:33.66
and then you got to do
the whole general mommy deal.
00:32:33.69\00:32:35.40
Yeah.
00:32:35.43\00:32:36.46
Cooking, cleaning,
house doesn't clean itself.
00:32:36.49\00:32:38.32
It sure doesn't-- obvious.
00:32:38.35\00:32:39.72
And the meals
don't cook by themselves,
00:32:39.75\00:32:41.31
so we got to cook 'em.
00:32:41.34\00:32:42.38
So how do you--
walk me through how you--
00:32:42.41\00:32:44.47
I became very organized.
00:32:44.50\00:32:46.19
I didn't wasn't like
that as a child sorry mom,
00:32:46.22\00:32:48.72
but I became one
when I got married
00:32:48.75\00:32:51.60
and I have a calendar.
00:32:51.63\00:32:53.43
And I cook for week at a time.
00:32:53.46\00:32:55.55
Okay.
00:32:55.58\00:32:56.61
So on Sundays after pathfinders,
00:32:56.64\00:32:58.37
I cook for the whole week.
00:32:58.40\00:32:59.73
I put out a calendar
sticking on the fridge
00:32:59.76\00:33:01.31
so they know
what they're getting
00:33:01.34\00:33:02.41
for breakfast, lunch and dinner.
00:33:02.44\00:33:03.47
Get out of here.
00:33:03.50\00:33:04.53
'Cause my son's always
asking what's for breakfast?
00:33:04.56\00:33:06.36
And then he eat
breakfast, what's for lunch?
00:33:06.39\00:33:08.21
And I'm like
Michael what's for dinner?
00:33:08.24\00:33:09.98
What's for
breakfast the next day?
00:33:10.01\00:33:11.63
And I'm like your
looking at the calendar?
00:33:11.66\00:33:12.83
Well, now what's for
lunch? So it's ongoing process,
00:33:12.86\00:33:16.55
so after I did
that I decided to use
00:33:16.58\00:33:19.57
the calendar for the schedule.
00:33:19.60\00:33:21.59
So I know exactly when they had
00:33:21.62\00:33:22.88
to be picked up from the bus.
00:33:22.91\00:33:24.31
What time the oldest
has to be at Loma Linda,
00:33:24.34\00:33:26.67
I've calculated the
traffic time, the weather.
00:33:26.70\00:33:31.20
So all the clothes are ironed
00:33:31.23\00:33:32.85
and folded and put up
for the week on Sundays.
00:33:32.88\00:33:36.15
Wow.
00:33:36.18\00:33:37.24
And then somehow
when they're in school
00:33:37.27\00:33:39.16
that when I work.
00:33:39.19\00:33:40.29
Okay.
00:33:40.32\00:33:41.35
So Sunday is kind of a
chop, chop day at your house.
00:33:41.38\00:33:43.21
Oh, most definitely.
00:33:43.24\00:33:45.81
But that's-- that's I mean,
00:33:45.84\00:33:47.05
necessity as a mother
then you had to do this.
00:33:47.08\00:33:48.59
Yeah, I didn't have a choice.
00:33:48.62\00:33:49.65
You had to bring
some kind of structure
00:33:49.68\00:33:51.17
into this whole deal.
00:33:51.20\00:33:52.23
Yeah, does the
oldest one help you at all?
00:33:52.26\00:33:54.53
She does well,
actually all three have chores.
00:33:54.56\00:33:56.28
Oh, good.
00:33:56.31\00:33:57.35
I didn't say
they always do them.
00:33:57.38\00:33:58.47
Yeah, but--
00:33:58.50\00:34:00.29
It's a challenge. Yeah. Yeah.
00:34:00.32\00:34:01.46
But they all have chores.
00:34:01.49\00:34:03.00
Yeah, they all have chores.
00:34:03.03\00:34:04.07
Excellent.
Excellent. Praise the Lord.
00:34:04.10\00:34:05.87
Del'lia doesn't
have his many but--
00:34:05.90\00:34:07.31
Del'lia, what do you do
00:34:07.34\00:34:08.41
around the house to help out?
00:34:08.44\00:34:11.98
All three of us I do
my brother's bathroom.
00:34:12.01\00:34:16.90
I do my room and we help
my momma with the clothes
00:34:16.93\00:34:24.49
and we put out clothes
up and vacuum that's all.
00:34:24.52\00:34:29.79
And vacuum that's a lot.
00:34:29.82\00:34:32.50
That's a lot.
00:34:32.53\00:34:33.58
That's well done,
what is your brother do?
00:34:33.61\00:34:38.65
I see your mother laughing.
00:34:38.68\00:34:41.66
You got to take in your time to.
00:34:41.69\00:34:44.72
I'm getting a
little feeling here.
00:34:44.75\00:34:46.06
He's supposed to help vacuum?
00:34:46.09\00:34:47.96
And do the
bathroom with Del'lia.
00:34:47.99\00:34:50.45
And the trash.
00:34:50.48\00:34:52.41
That doesn't
always happen in his room.
00:34:52.44\00:34:55.52
So I'm usually
in his room a lot.
00:34:55.55\00:34:58.28
He likes to take his clothes
00:34:58.31\00:34:59.52
and throw them up under his bin.
00:34:59.55\00:35:01.71
But he doesn't have
something that covers it,
00:35:01.74\00:35:03.24
so I see them when I walk in.
00:35:03.27\00:35:04.59
Yeah, yeah,
00:35:04.62\00:35:05.71
So he spends a lot of
time with his clothes.
00:35:05.74\00:35:07.49
Yeah, my neat clothes.
00:35:07.52\00:35:08.55
Now are they in
three different schools
00:35:08.58\00:35:09.61
or all in same?
00:35:09.64\00:35:10.69
No, they are in
two different schools.
00:35:10.72\00:35:11.75
My oldest is at
Loma Linda Academy
00:35:11.78\00:35:13.29
she's is in the sixth grade
00:35:13.32\00:35:14.35
and my younger two
are in public school
00:35:14.38\00:35:15.89
at Hermann Hills,
00:35:15.92\00:35:17.17
it's a five minute
drive from my house.
00:35:17.20\00:35:19.50
A Loma Linda little further.
00:35:19.53\00:35:20.80
Yeah, it's about 20 minutes.
00:35:20.83\00:35:22.16
Okay, okay.
00:35:22.19\00:35:23.25
So do they get picked up
00:35:23.28\00:35:24.33
or you take them to
school every morning.
00:35:24.36\00:35:25.97
Del'lia and Michael
get picked up from the bus
00:35:26.00\00:35:27.86
and my oldest I have to
take her school everyday.
00:35:27.89\00:35:30.05
Pick her up.
00:35:30.08\00:35:31.57
So everybody is
doing good in school?
00:35:31.60\00:35:33.06
Yeah, they are now.
00:35:33.09\00:35:36.54
It sounds like story.
00:35:36.57\00:35:39.51
They are just kids. Yeah.
00:35:39.54\00:35:41.06
They have their ups
and their downs so--
00:35:41.09\00:35:42.68
But they are doing well now.
00:35:43.02\00:35:44.46
Do you-- it's I
know you're youngest
00:35:44.49\00:35:47.64
and Del'lia get along well.
00:35:47.67\00:35:49.11
Does resurging
get along pretty good?
00:35:49.14\00:35:50.36
Yeah, they do, Nadia
we call her the mommy.
00:35:50.39\00:35:53.13
Yeah, very motherly, a
little bossy sometimes so--
00:35:53.16\00:35:56.68
We're working on that.
00:35:56.71\00:35:57.74
Yeah.
00:35:57.77\00:35:59.06
That's the progress
keep pray church pray.
00:35:59.09\00:36:02.90
Well, praise the Lord.
00:36:02.93\00:36:04.19
You weathered a lot of things
00:36:04.22\00:36:09.26
and I'm impressed that
you changed your career
00:36:09.29\00:36:12.40
but you also picked up a whole--
00:36:12.43\00:36:15.34
how do I say different
set of skills maybe not skills
00:36:15.37\00:36:19.28
but you adjusted your
life to accommodate that--
00:36:19.31\00:36:24.63
let me ask you one of those
00:36:24.66\00:36:25.72
kind of philosophical
ontological questions
00:36:25.75\00:36:27.56
we throw it every now and again.
00:36:27.59\00:36:30.02
How much do you think if
you're talking to a parent?
00:36:30.05\00:36:34.63
A parent should change their
life to accommodate a child.
00:36:34.66\00:36:38.81
Isn't something that
parents are called to do?
00:36:38.84\00:36:41.07
Is it worth doing.
00:36:41.10\00:36:43.13
You've made significant
changes, career changes.
00:36:43.16\00:36:46.83
How you approach life changes,
00:36:46.86\00:36:48.20
how you deal with
the other children.
00:36:48.23\00:36:49.87
Is that too much?
00:36:49.90\00:36:51.17
Is that too much
to ask to skew so much
00:36:51.20\00:36:53.79
to accommodate one child?
00:36:53.82\00:36:55.62
It's a lot to ask but
God gave us our children.
00:36:55.65\00:36:58.80
Yes.
00:36:58.83\00:36:59.89
And we're just here
to be the care takers,
00:36:59.92\00:37:01.46
they're his kids first.
00:37:01.49\00:37:02.85
And it says so in a Bible
00:37:02.88\00:37:04.14
you're supposed
to take care of them.
00:37:04.17\00:37:05.99
And so that
means if I have to cook
00:37:06.02\00:37:07.53
and clean and change
my career, I'll do it.
00:37:07.56\00:37:09.39
Yeah.
00:37:09.42\00:37:10.48
Because this is his baby,
00:37:10.51\00:37:12.33
I'm just to facilitate
00:37:12.36\00:37:13.93
until he comes
and take us all home.
00:37:13.96\00:37:15.35
Praise the Lord.
00:37:15.38\00:37:16.43
Now obviously you have
the support of your husband,
00:37:16.46\00:37:18.52
he-- who cannot
be there all the time
00:37:18.55\00:37:20.18
because the nature of his work.
00:37:20.21\00:37:22.02
But obviously you're
in this thing together.
00:37:22.05\00:37:23.22
Most definitely.
00:37:23.25\00:37:24.29
Yeah. And we
praise the Lord for it.
00:37:24.32\00:37:26.86
Amen.
00:37:26.89\00:37:27.93
Yeah, so you don't get
to see daddy quite as much?
00:37:27.96\00:37:31.88
Yeah.
00:37:31.91\00:37:33.73
Not so much
00:37:33.76\00:37:34.79
but obviously it's a loving,
a loving, a loving family.
00:37:34.82\00:37:37.60
Is he-- does he get to
come home every night or is he?
00:37:37.63\00:37:40.76
If he's not on call.
00:37:40.79\00:37:41.87
Oh.
00:37:41.90\00:37:42.95
You know, he's on
call quite a bit, yeah.
00:37:42.98\00:37:45.63
The fact that he's
doing, he's a prison doctor,
00:37:45.66\00:37:48.06
does that worry you at all?
00:37:48.09\00:37:49.12
No, not at all
00:37:49.15\00:37:50.38
because I had the
criminal justice background
00:37:50.41\00:37:51.99
I'm always asking.
00:37:52.02\00:37:53.20
Hey, what happen at work today?
00:37:53.23\00:37:54.66
Is there anything exciting?
00:37:54.69\00:37:56.23
And when it doesn't
happen I'm like darn me.
00:37:56.26\00:38:02.61
We've all been to the
prison, I've clearance for it.
00:38:02.64\00:38:05.50
It's a very nice facility.
00:38:05.53\00:38:07.17
I felt very safe for him.
00:38:07.20\00:38:08.88
He has guards
right then and there.
00:38:08.91\00:38:10.76
He's working on patients
00:38:10.79\00:38:11.86
so he say he's never
felt afraid for his life
00:38:11.89\00:38:14.48
he says God's has
always been there for him.
00:38:14.51\00:38:16.05
Praise the
Lord. Praise the Lord.
00:38:16.08\00:38:17.82
Does he work solo in a facility
00:38:20.07\00:38:22.25
or there're group
of doctors working?
00:38:22.28\00:38:23.82
Group of doctors.
00:38:23.85\00:38:24.91
Okay, so he's not by himself.
00:38:24.94\00:38:26.35
No. Praise the Lord.
00:38:26.38\00:38:27.89
Amen for that.
00:38:27.92\00:38:31.56
He's not the only one.
00:38:31.59\00:38:35.58
Walk me through if you will.
00:38:35.61\00:38:39.02
Well, let me put it this way,
00:38:39.05\00:38:40.58
for those parents
00:38:40.61\00:38:42.59
who get the kind of tough
diagnosis that you've got.
00:38:42.62\00:38:46.93
Because you had
once that is fine now
00:38:46.96\00:38:48.97
but he had some challenges.
00:38:49.00\00:38:51.23
A little bit about
the strength that comes
00:38:53.29\00:38:55.41
from trusting in the Lord
00:38:55.44\00:38:57.08
and how the Lord
can hold you through.
00:38:57.11\00:38:59.64
I mean, the doctor says,
the doctors are telling you.
00:38:59.67\00:39:02.38
No, no play, no
anything, sitting in the house
00:39:02.41\00:39:05.81
and kind of just vegetate.
00:39:05.84\00:39:08.16
We can't treat
it, we can't cure it.
00:39:08.19\00:39:12.58
You know how do
you find Jesus it
00:39:12.61\00:39:15.68
at that point in your journey?
00:39:15.71\00:39:17.57
It could be very challenging.
00:39:17.60\00:39:19.30
I'm not gonna lie and say that
00:39:19.33\00:39:20.59
it was very easy
for us it wasn't.
00:39:20.62\00:39:23.52
It was a
struggle but we had both
00:39:23.55\00:39:25.37
two sets of praying parents.
00:39:25.40\00:39:28.51
And some of the
older ladies in the church
00:39:28.54\00:39:30.41
and if it wasn't for this trip
00:39:30.44\00:39:32.69
it wouldn't have
gotten us through.
00:39:32.72\00:39:35.97
So you had people that were
00:39:36.00\00:39:37.06
I mean, kind of just
in the trench with you.
00:39:37.09\00:39:39.37
Oh, yes. Yeah.
00:39:39.40\00:39:40.80
Oh, yes.
00:39:40.83\00:39:43.60
Halt now-- your
parents are where?
00:39:43.63\00:39:46.46
Mississippi. Okay.
00:39:46.49\00:39:47.70
Yeah, they're in
Terry, Mississippi.
00:39:47.73\00:39:49.91
And his parents?
00:39:49.94\00:39:51.44
Well, we just have his mom now
00:39:51.47\00:39:53.22
and they are in the
Bay area within California.
00:39:53.25\00:39:55.25
Okay, so they're not close.
00:39:55.28\00:39:56.96
No, they're six hours away.
00:39:56.99\00:39:58.29
Yeah, but we
still got telephones
00:39:58.32\00:39:59.94
and we still got--
00:39:59.97\00:40:01.48
Face time, we still got ways
to Skype and everything else.
00:40:01.51\00:40:04.00
Yes and he has
brother, he has siblings.
00:40:04.03\00:40:06.10
Brother-in-law, he's
a physician in Bermuda
00:40:06.13\00:40:08.78
and another brother-in-law
who is in California,
00:40:08.81\00:40:10.74
he is a physician also.
00:40:10.77\00:40:12.05
Okay, this is kind of family,
and his dad was a physician.
00:40:12.08\00:40:14.69
Dentist. Dentist.
00:40:14.72\00:40:15.76
Okay, a dentist okay, so
every body is in medicine.
00:40:15.79\00:40:17.93
Yeah, praise the
Lord. Yeah, that's good.
00:40:17.96\00:40:20.27
That is so good.
00:40:20.30\00:40:21.89
So you must
feel very, very loved
00:40:21.92\00:40:24.24
by your parents?
00:40:24.27\00:40:25.70
Yes. Yeah, she's such a cutie.
00:40:25.73\00:40:29.85
I want to talk to you about--
00:40:29.88\00:40:31.86
do you play
basketball at your school?
00:40:31.89\00:40:35.49
No. No?
00:40:35.52\00:40:36.58
Just around the house,
just outside and stuff.
00:40:36.61\00:40:39.75
Yeah, but golf is the one
kind of your favorite, right?
00:40:39.78\00:40:42.75
Yeah, yeah, you mentioned
you said something at passing,
00:40:42.78\00:40:46.16
are all these in pathfinders?
00:40:46.19\00:40:49.26
Yes, they're all in pathfinders.
00:40:49.29\00:40:50.46
All in pathfinders, my
soul that's another OP in a pot.
00:40:50.49\00:40:54.24
You like pathfinders? Yeah.
00:40:54.27\00:40:56.16
Did they have a golf
honor in pathfinders?
00:40:56.19\00:40:58.92
If they do we didn't
know anything about it.
00:40:58.95\00:41:01.07
Yeah, I was just wondering--
00:41:01.10\00:41:02.13
I'm gonna have to research that.
00:41:02.16\00:41:05.44
You need to check that out
00:41:05.47\00:41:08.57
and see you are
in the fourth grade?
00:41:08.60\00:41:11.69
Fourth grade, fourth grade.
00:41:11.72\00:41:13.38
Now walk me through
00:41:13.41\00:41:15.16
because you mentioned that
00:41:15.19\00:41:17.87
in trying to facilitate
her needs the school got
00:41:17.90\00:41:22.67
additional equipment.
00:41:22.70\00:41:24.20
So she has a
computer at her desk?
00:41:24.23\00:41:25.95
Yes, got a close
caption televisions
00:41:25.98\00:41:28.20
and she also has
00:41:28.23\00:41:29.57
very large Google
chrome book as well.
00:41:29.60\00:41:32.20
And between the two of them
00:41:32.23\00:41:33.32
it makes a very
large print for her.
00:41:33.35\00:41:35.08
Okay, for all of her work.
00:41:35.11\00:41:36.14
So that's for--
that's for just studying
00:41:36.17\00:41:38.61
that she had all of
her books on that computer?
00:41:38.64\00:41:40.79
Yes, she does. Okay, okay.
00:41:40.82\00:41:43.03
Now that's
loaded on by the school,
00:41:43.06\00:41:44.78
is done by the school?
00:41:44.81\00:41:46.88
Yeah, it's done by the school.
00:41:46.91\00:41:48.32
Oh, I see. I see.
00:41:48.35\00:41:50.48
So then to do that
00:41:50.51\00:41:51.63
then everybody's got
internet at the school.
00:41:51.66\00:41:53.68
Yes, they do.
Okay, praise the Lord.
00:41:53.71\00:41:55.42
Thank to mommy. Yes.
00:41:55.45\00:41:58.28
And a little-- a
little persuasion.
00:41:58.31\00:42:00.70
You like school obviously. Yes.
00:42:00.73\00:42:02.47
Does the
computer help you a lot?
00:42:02.50\00:42:05.16
So you're able to do
and you have one at home.
00:42:05.19\00:42:07.41
Yes, I do. Do you
like your homework?
00:42:07.44\00:42:10.34
Yeah.
00:42:10.37\00:42:11.47
Yeah, I want to
go back to you Deia
00:42:11.50\00:42:14.14
because your
daughter's situation kind of --
00:42:14.17\00:42:18.77
kind of parallels
mind, went to public school
00:42:18.80\00:42:22.58
for the first grade
00:42:22.61\00:42:23.96
and then my sight
just deteriorated.
00:42:23.99\00:42:26.72
Repeated first
grade in blind school,
00:42:26.75\00:42:29.53
brail the whole deal
and then at sixth grade
00:42:29.56\00:42:32.55
my sight improved to
go back to public school.
00:42:32.58\00:42:35.43
But was always legally blind,
00:42:35.46\00:42:37.51
really have very
little sight in my right eye
00:42:37.54\00:42:40.55
and kind of
function with my left eye.
00:42:40.58\00:42:41.97
So I know that your brain can--
00:42:42.00\00:42:43.56
your brain will do
what needs to be done
00:42:43.59\00:42:45.41
to get the job done.
00:42:45.44\00:42:46.47
Yeah, most definitely.
00:42:46.50\00:42:47.53
Yeah, it'll compensate
and you'll be surprised
00:42:47.56\00:42:49.68
with what you
can do with one eye.
00:42:49.71\00:42:51.97
She has some vision in
her left eye or no vision?
00:42:52.00\00:42:56.30
No vision at
all. No vision at all.
00:42:56.33\00:42:58.59
No. Okay.
00:42:58.62\00:42:59.99
And they don't know
what's going to happen
00:43:00.02\00:43:01.69
long term with the other eye.
00:43:01.72\00:43:03.42
No, they don't.
00:43:03.45\00:43:04.48
And there's no way
to kind of determine.
00:43:04.51\00:43:06.67
No. Wow, wow.
00:43:06.70\00:43:08.44
Man doesn't have an
answer but God does.
00:43:08.47\00:43:10.04
Yeah, yeah, praise the Lord.
00:43:10.07\00:43:12.32
Yeah, that's
something to keep in prayer,
00:43:12.35\00:43:13.55
but you can get a lot done.
00:43:13.58\00:43:15.21
Obviously you get a lot done,
00:43:15.24\00:43:18.90
I'm impressed that
she's so good with golf
00:43:18.93\00:43:21.10
because of the need
for depth of field to--
00:43:21.13\00:43:24.04
you know, you are judging
00:43:24.07\00:43:25.11
how far something is in breaking
00:43:25.14\00:43:26.83
when you're putting
and doing little things
00:43:26.86\00:43:28.68
you got to really kind
of-- but obviously she is--
00:43:28.71\00:43:31.00
her brain has
made those calculations
00:43:31.03\00:43:33.39
and does that well.
00:43:33.42\00:43:35.64
You know, yeah, and
you like golf too, right.
00:43:35.67\00:43:37.84
Yes. Because you are good at it.
00:43:37.87\00:43:41.68
Yeah, that's correct.
00:43:41.71\00:43:43.12
She's does not want to say
but I think she's pretty good.
00:43:43.15\00:43:47.26
I guess the
instructor is telling her that
00:43:47.29\00:43:48.50
she's pretty good.
00:43:48.53\00:43:49.88
Yeah, they are.
00:43:49.91\00:43:51.00
And we praise the Lord.
00:43:51.03\00:43:52.52
What about now?
00:43:52.55\00:43:53.63
You saying that she's
not always able to get out
00:43:53.66\00:43:55.82
to churches much as you like
00:43:55.85\00:43:56.95
because sometimes
it's a little burned out
00:43:56.98\00:43:58.98
and weekends are little tired.
00:43:59.01\00:44:00.04
Yeah, she sleeps a lot
00:44:00.07\00:44:02.84
more than you would
say a traditional child
00:44:02.87\00:44:04.50
and so on Sabbath,
00:44:04.53\00:44:05.78
what we have to
do is -- a lot of TV.
00:44:05.81\00:44:08.21
And so we can watch it
00:44:08.24\00:44:10.46
you know when
she finally gets up.
00:44:10.49\00:44:12.43
And we started
visiting university church
00:44:12.46\00:44:14.95
because it get out a lot earlier
00:44:14.98\00:44:16.17
than Mt. Rubidoux.
00:44:16.20\00:44:17.40
And so we could be home
by 1 o'clock in afternoon
00:44:17.43\00:44:19.72
and she can even get a nap in.
00:44:19.75\00:44:21.07
Who's the
pastor at Mt. Rubidoux.
00:44:21.10\00:44:22.38
Michael Kelly.
00:44:22.41\00:44:23.44
Okay, yeah, I know the
name and know that church.
00:44:23.47\00:44:26.37
So she's got to have x
numbers of hours of sleep
00:44:26.40\00:44:29.00
or there's some ramifications?
00:44:29.03\00:44:30.31
Oh, most definitely. Yeah, yeah.
00:44:30.34\00:44:31.68
Yeah, she won't function well
00:44:31.71\00:44:33.32
if she doesn't get
at least 10-12 hours.
00:44:33.35\00:44:35.23
Ah-ah. So she
goes to bed very early.
00:44:35.26\00:44:39.41
She's in kind
of with the chicken
00:44:39.44\00:44:40.92
well not the chicken I guess--
00:44:40.95\00:44:42.83
I don't know who goes
early but she's got to get 10.
00:44:42.86\00:44:45.23
Yeah, she's in between
bed between seven and eight
00:44:45.26\00:44:47.91
and she's up by 6.
00:44:47.94\00:44:49.13
Okay, now if that
require number of hours
00:44:49.16\00:44:52.21
is not gotten what's the--
00:44:52.24\00:44:54.35
you know, what happens?
00:44:54.38\00:44:55.45
She gets headaches really bad
00:44:55.48\00:44:56.87
and she has a hard
time seeing in the right eye
00:44:56.90\00:44:59.13
a little bit of dizziness
00:44:59.16\00:45:00.24
and she will
fall asleep in class.
00:45:00.27\00:45:01.81
Oh, boy. Yeah.
00:45:01.84\00:45:03.46
So as you can tell
kind of tell right away.
00:45:03.49\00:45:05.88
Yeah, now that's
the consequence of the--
00:45:05.91\00:45:09.55
Lack of vision.
Lack of... Uh-huh.
00:45:09.58\00:45:12.16
Yeah, she didn't
have these visions before.
00:45:12.19\00:45:15.25
Does the room has
to be totally black
00:45:15.28\00:45:16.76
or she have any light in there.
00:45:16.79\00:45:18.05
Are there any
consequences for that?
00:45:18.08\00:45:20.03
No, not that we seem,
00:45:20.06\00:45:21.42
she does have
some light sensitivity,
00:45:21.45\00:45:22.97
so I'm very mindful of that.
00:45:23.00\00:45:25.07
I usually keep
very large glasses
00:45:25.10\00:45:27.36
for her to wear in a summer
00:45:27.39\00:45:28.89
'cause it makes a
little bit difficult for her.
00:45:28.92\00:45:31.29
And as long as she has
00:45:31.32\00:45:33.07
the protective
gear on, she's okay.
00:45:33.10\00:45:35.28
She'll let me know hey,
mom, this is too bright.
00:45:35.31\00:45:37.79
I needed to get my glasses on,
00:45:37.82\00:45:39.18
you know, I have a
really bad migraine.
00:45:39.21\00:45:40.78
She's become very
vocal over the years.
00:45:40.81\00:45:42.99
Yeah, I got to stand and for so.
00:45:43.02\00:45:44.86
Now having receive
so much of information
00:45:44.89\00:45:47.47
by the computer screen
00:45:47.50\00:45:48.66
is there any worry
that looking at a--
00:45:48.69\00:45:51.41
basically a
television screen so much
00:45:51.44\00:45:53.12
is gonna do any
kind of damage or--
00:45:53.15\00:45:54.97
They haven't told
of us about any worry
00:45:55.00\00:45:56.76
but what I do is.
00:45:56.79\00:45:58.18
We don't watch
television at home,
00:45:58.21\00:45:59.54
she doesn't or her siblings.
00:45:59.57\00:46:01.83
So that's the only time that
she's on a screen is at school.
00:46:01.86\00:46:04.34
Is at school.
00:46:04.37\00:46:05.89
I guess homework
too if she has too.
00:46:05.92\00:46:07.42
Yes. Yeah, now that.
00:46:07.45\00:46:08.99
How that working out? No TV?
00:46:09.02\00:46:10.81
Well, in my way
I think it's fine.
00:46:10.84\00:46:15.47
It was the way I was raised.
00:46:17.09\00:46:18.70
So I didn't want my
kids to be TV watchers.
00:46:18.73\00:46:22.32
So that's just how it is.
00:46:22.35\00:46:23.78
They could do
videos on Friday night.
00:46:23.81\00:46:25.54
We go to the Christian
book store and buy videos
00:46:25.57\00:46:28.23
on Friday night to
bring in the Sabbath.
00:46:28.26\00:46:30.05
And maybe
something -- but that's it.
00:46:30.08\00:46:33.15
So this is very,
a very controlled--
00:46:33.18\00:46:34.94
Environment, yes.
Yeah, environment I suppose.
00:46:34.97\00:46:36.73
Well, you know most
of the stuff out there,
00:46:36.76\00:46:38.23
you're not
missing anything anyway?
00:46:38.26\00:46:39.42
I don't think so.
00:46:39.45\00:46:41.98
And that's a family decision,
everybody is cool with that.
00:46:42.01\00:46:44.11
Yes.
00:46:44.14\00:46:45.43
Praise the
Lord. Praise the Lord.
00:46:45.46\00:46:47.04
So you don't miss TV?
00:46:47.07\00:46:49.00
Not really not over
all golf to be played,
00:46:49.03\00:46:51.82
you know,
there's balls to be hit
00:46:51.85\00:46:52.88
all that kind of stuff.
00:46:52.91\00:46:53.94
Oh, yeah, that's true
00:46:53.97\00:46:55.21
and I let them play
as much as they like.
00:46:55.24\00:46:57.42
I haven't been
getting outside and--
00:46:57.45\00:46:59.35
Oh, we live in a cul-de-sac
and you know they play a lot.
00:46:59.38\00:47:03.44
Praise the
Lord. Praise the Lord.
00:47:03.47\00:47:06.43
Very quickly, Exquistemarketing.
00:47:06.46\00:47:10.20
That's the-- is
that the ministry
00:47:10.23\00:47:12.60
or is that your job now?
00:47:12.63\00:47:13.91
That's my
ministry and it's my job.
00:47:13.94\00:47:15.35
Okay, walk me
through that real fast?
00:47:15.38\00:47:17.29
Well, I just felt that
because I'm the child of the God
00:47:17.32\00:47:19.77
of God I'm exquisite already.
00:47:19.80\00:47:21.55
So I came up with that title
00:47:21.58\00:47:23.47
and then I spot as
exquisite differently.
00:47:23.50\00:47:25.44
Yeah. So it's
only one eye, not two.
00:47:25.47\00:47:27.73
Yes, yes.
00:47:27.76\00:47:28.79
Because I'm giving him
all the glory and praise.
00:47:28.82\00:47:31.36
When I'm working and
I added the marketing
00:47:31.39\00:47:33.83
because we do a lot of marketing
00:47:33.86\00:47:35.07
for our clients as well.
00:47:35.10\00:47:37.29
Do you advocate for young
people with challenges also?
00:47:37.32\00:47:40.89
If I needed to
of course, I would.
00:47:40.92\00:47:42.34
Yeah. Yeah, most definitely.
00:47:42.37\00:47:43.97
Yeah, yeah, praise the Lord.
00:47:44.00\00:47:45.57
I just-- I have to because I--
00:47:45.60\00:47:47.40
when I saw this exquiste.
00:47:47.43\00:47:51.88
I automatically chassis
00:47:51.91\00:47:53.10
somebody spelt this thing wrong.
00:47:53.13\00:47:55.21
So I went and I changed
it and then when I thought
00:47:55.24\00:47:57.48
I had to go
back and take it out.
00:47:57.51\00:47:59.15
Well, that is
the correct spelling.
00:47:59.18\00:48:00.21
That is the correct spelling.
00:48:00.24\00:48:01.27
Exquistemarketing,
00:48:01.30\00:48:02.33
so this is your
job and your ministry.
00:48:02.36\00:48:04.95
And obviously
you've been Christ into--
00:48:04.98\00:48:06.98
into your.
00:48:07.01\00:48:08.05
And before we
became very mainstream
00:48:08.08\00:48:10.11
and we have
clients from all over.
00:48:10.14\00:48:11.60
We did small things.
00:48:11.63\00:48:12.78
I've been cooking
for moms in the community
00:48:12.81\00:48:15.12
Christian or not for 15 years.
00:48:15.15\00:48:17.80
So anyone who had a new baby,
00:48:17.83\00:48:19.38
if I got a referral,
00:48:19.41\00:48:20.79
I will bring a
small token amount
00:48:20.82\00:48:22.04
for the gift for
the baby and a meal.
00:48:22.07\00:48:24.57
And it gave me the opportunity
00:48:24.60\00:48:25.90
to you know, hold a
baby and mom taking it
00:48:25.93\00:48:29.63
a much needed shower.
00:48:29.66\00:48:31.04
I've got to give your flowers
00:48:31.07\00:48:32.36
because your day,
your life is very full
00:48:32.39\00:48:35.71
and though you have a
child with challenges,
00:48:35.74\00:48:37.38
you haven't centered
your life around her.
00:48:37.41\00:48:39.61
There's still
enough left in your heart
00:48:39.64\00:48:41.58
to share with other people.
00:48:41.61\00:48:42.87
And I give you kudos for that
00:48:42.90\00:48:44.03
because I think that's how
we put legs on our religion.
00:48:44.06\00:48:47.14
That's how we show how Christ
00:48:47.17\00:48:48.94
is in your heart
and in our lives.
00:48:48.97\00:48:50.42
Now we want to go
to our address role.
00:48:50.46\00:48:55.47
You may want to
make contact with Deia.
00:48:55.50\00:48:58.20
First of all, she can
give you encouragement
00:48:58.23\00:49:00.07
if you have a child
that is have some challenges.
00:49:00.10\00:49:03.19
And two she can
perhaps helps you
00:49:03.22\00:49:05.90
to interface with your community
00:49:05.93\00:49:07.77
in new and creative ways
because I see that in her
00:49:07.80\00:49:11.27
and you just need
someone to hold your hand
00:49:11.30\00:49:13.03
and walk you
thorough some tough stuff
00:49:13.06\00:49:14.35
and I think she can do that.
00:49:14.38\00:49:15.98
If you like to make
contact with Exquistemarketing.
00:49:16.01\00:49:19.88
That's how you
can do precisely that.
00:49:19.91\00:49:21.96
If you'd like to know
more about this ministry,
00:49:24.30\00:49:26.54
then you can write
to Exquistemarketing
00:49:26.57\00:49:29.16
1440 Beaumont Ave.
A2-214 Beaumont, CA 92223.
00:49:29.19\00:49:36.86
That's Exquistemarketing
1440 Beaumont Ave.
00:49:36.89\00:49:41.45
A2-214 Beaumont, CA 92223.
00:49:41.48\00:49:47.79
You can call 951-567-9387.
00:49:47.82\00:49:52.01
That's 951-567-9387
or visit them online
00:49:52.04\00:49:57.54
at exquistemarketing.com
00:49:57.57\00:49:59.73
that's E-X-Q-U-I-S-T-E-
M-A-R-K-E-T-I-N-G.C-O-M
00:49:59.76\00:50:07.08
And so that is the information
00:50:13.65\00:50:15.39
and maybe you can have Del'lia
give you some golf lessons
00:50:15.42\00:50:19.82
when you make contact with them.
00:50:19.85\00:50:22.39
Jill Morikone returns
and she's gonna be playing,
00:50:22.42\00:50:25.03
Great is Thy Faithfulness.
00:50:25.06\00:50:27.35