Welcome to Thinking about Home.
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I'm Kathy Matthews
and we are thinking about
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our heavenly home and in
preparation for our heavenly
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home we've been talking
about submission, surrender,
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women in surrender,
and we have Paula Woodruff
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with us again. And I
wanna thank you Paula
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for being here
again. Very welcome.
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We want to cover the
most complete submission
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in Christ don't we and
we want to talk about your
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story or not your story
today, but that you have had
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a story and surrender
and that this surrender
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has been largely
learned through surrendering
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to your husband. And
then the reason for this
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surrender, so why is it
that we need to surrender?
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When we are not surrendered
we are full of ourselves
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and when we are full
ourselves then we are not
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full of Christ. And the
only way that a sinner can truly
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come to know and
understand God is to be filled
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with Christ. And so
this whole process that God
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has designed allows us to
learn to die to ourselves,
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to submit ourselves to
those in authority over us.
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And at the same time,
we learn how to submit
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ourselves to God. To
Christ. Ultimately yes.
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And in the church,
our family in surrender,
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ourselves in surrender,
our spouses in ourselves
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in surrender, our family
in surrender and surrender
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to the Church and
Christ. Yes. It carries over.
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The women finding her
role of surrender in the home
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is so important because
it doesn't just stop there.
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Just like when you
throw a stone into a lake
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and you see how it
ripples. The way a women relates
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to her family and to her
husband carries over into
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the way she relates
to her duties and roles
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in the Church. That's true.
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And in the community and
so if a women is prideful
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and filled with herself
and full of the controlling
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spirit, which I have
been, I struggled with that,
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then I am hindered in my
work and sharing the Gospel.
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Also in heaven, we have a
society that we are looking
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forward to in which
everyone will serve each other.
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Right, right. I'm
glad you brought that up?
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So, I once heard a story
of someone who saw some people
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and these people were
very miserable and they
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were sitting
around a stewpot. Right.
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And they were all very,
very hungry and they wanted
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to eat and he wondered
why they were so hungry
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when there was this
stewpot seeing in the middle
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of their group; full of
wonderful food and the smell
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was just coming out of this
cauldron and smelled so good.
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And he realized that
everyone had spoons that were
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the length of their
arms and they were frustrated
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and they were very
thin and unhappy and then he
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was shown a different
group and this group was smiling
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and happy and singing
praises and they were so happy
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and their stewpot was
quickly becoming empty.
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Can you
realize... How was it done?
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You realize the difference
was the people who were
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so miserable were
trying to feed themselves with
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these long spoons and as
a result they were starving,
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but the others have
learned that in giving
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we receive and so they
were feeding each other
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with the spoons and
it has to be that kind
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of a situation both in
the home and in the church.
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Alright. When we
are feeding each other.
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When my husband loves
me as God has called him
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to love me, which Jeremy
has been very quick to learn
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these lessons and
apply them in the home and it
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has been a great blessing to me.
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Now, that he has learned
to love me as Christ loves
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the Church, it frees me
up to serve him as Christ
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served the Church and
so in order for her husband
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or wife to live out
the roles that God would
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have them live we have to
turn to Christ and we see it
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through our scripture
that while Christ was here on
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earth, he lived out both the
submissive role of the husband
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and the
submissive role of the wife.
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I think that's interesting,
you should bring that up.
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Now, it was a problem
for the Scribes and Pharisees
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and religious leaders of
that day because these were men,
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who were very full of self
and they had a difficult time
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even recognizing
their savior. Right.
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Because they were so
selfish and self serving.
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And we see that in
Matthew 11:29 Christ says
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that Come to me, all you
who labor and are heavy laden,
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and I will give you
rest. Take my yoke upon you,
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and learn from me, for I
am gentle and lovely in heart,
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and you will find
rest for your souls.
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For my yoke is easy
and my burden is light.
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And this is something
that the Scribes and Pharisees
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could not accept about
Christ they were looking
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for a savior who
would come and pop.
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Would be a ruler. Yes and
with glory. At that point.
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Someone, yes who would
be a conqueror for them and,
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and indulge them in
their selfish pursuits. Right.
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And when Christ came
being the humble and submissive,
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so that he was
starting to recognize.
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He was guiding to
them. I think. Yes.
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And it frustrated them.
And they felt threatened
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because here was a Christ,
here was a Christ that was
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challenging them lay down
your life and take up mine.
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It was not what
they were accustomed to.
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No, they did not want to
do that and they were also
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so tired to the works of
their own hands that they
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couldn't see the Christ
could free them from this.
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Their yokes were
heavy and their burdens
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were heavy because they
could not come to accept
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this in humility. And so
it is our prayer as Christians
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that can all humble ourselves
in the side of the Lord
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and then be able to
understand greater truth because
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we are not filled with
the pursuits of this world.
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Did you have a quote
from Adventist Home there
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that you wanted to share
on forbearance. Yes, I did.
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The forbearance that
we give to each other
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as husband and wife in
the home has to be the same
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forbearance that we
use when we are at Church
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in the Church setting. There
must be a forbearance between
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the deacons and
deaconesses and the pastor
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and the congregation.
Which is really again
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an attitude of submission is it?
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Yes it is. And
considering one above another.
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Yes. And see the
beauty of this system that God
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has established is when
you are serving me and you
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are caring for my needs, I
then freed to serve others.
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I don't have to worry
about taking care of myself
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anymore and so in preparing
for the kingdom of heaven,
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we are trying to bring
ourselves into the submissive
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world, so that we can
experience heaven now. And
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be fit to live with
angels. Yes. Yes to do this.
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On page 118 of
the Adventist Home,
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if you have it you're
welcome to follow along talking
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about Mutual Forbearance,
it says we must have
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the spirit of God that
we can never have harmony
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in the home and this could
carry over into the Church.
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The wife if she has the
spirit of Christ will be careful
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of her words. Oh, I'm so
guilty not sticking to that.
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She will control her
spirit, she would be submissive
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and yet will not feel
that she is a bond slave,
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but a companion to her husband.
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And here again I
think they were establishing
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that the man and the
woman were created equal,
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but different, we both
specialize in different areas
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and we lose
something as women when we make
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our focus in life being better
then men like being males.
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Right. You know I
remember something that I read
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recently that its women
who always trying to take the
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roles of the man, but
do you ever you rarely,
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you rarely see the man
ever want to take a role
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of a women. It's
always the women for the man.
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That is interesting.
And I think that's well
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it says to me that God has
his plan all around the world
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and it's not something
that he really wanted to happen.
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And I think too, it
speaks too. I think deep inside
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everyone we know in a
sense what we are to be. But
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yet societies tells us
that we ought to be something
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else and this I think is
important in the way we dress
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because it's important
for a young lady to embrace
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womanhood to say I am
proud to be a woman. That's
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right. So, I as a
mother have been challenged
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to present motherhood
and womanhood as a joyful
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experience not as a
burden. Not as something that
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I resent, this is something
that I love and I do I guess
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I could say that I do
believe in women's liberation,
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but not in the sense
that it's understood today.
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Right. But, in
accepting God's original design
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for what I was to be
that is liberating. Yes.
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That is true freedom
for me. And I think if there
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are women out there today
who are struggling in their
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marriage and things just
do not feel right there seems
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like something is missing
and you know there should
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be more to your
marriage then what it is.
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I challenge you to study
this for yourself and see if
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maybe some of the cause
for your distress is that you
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have not learned to
live the role that God
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has designed. And hopefully
that would be in homes,
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where a husband will
seek out the same studying.
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Yes. And but he doesn't
have to be just in a home
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where there is a husband
this can be a single women...
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Yes. Who needs to
understand this as well.
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Yes. It could be a young
person, who is maybe watching
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the program and it
might inspire them to pick up
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the Bible and start
reading and learning.
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What is my place and I'm
not saying putting you in your
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place as if you are
lower than, but where should I,
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where will I grow best. Yes.
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How does God want me
to be? That is a question
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that I think many people
have not realized they need
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to ask yet. So many
times we get comfortable
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with where we are at and
if we would just take time
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in solitude in prayer to
really analyze where we are
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in our life. Perhaps the
Lord has more that he would
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like to show us. I think so.
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And I think you know
for me this has been the key
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to a knocking a whole
treasure chest of joy.
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And I think that in presenting
going back to presenting
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a positive role for children,
I, I do my very best to live
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out womanhood in front
of my daughters part of that
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includes being feminine.
Wearing a dress and doing
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my hair and trying to learn
some of the feminine graces
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that we have lost side
off. I grew up being a tomboy,
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I was very good at sports
and I can still climb a tree
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and ride a horse
with the best of him.
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Right and still you would.
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And yes. So, I am not
saying that becoming a woman
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means you can no longer
enjoy things that men do.
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That's so pleasant like that.
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Yes, and I certainly
don't wanna say that,
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that for a women to wear
pants that would be a sin
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or anything like that. I think
that they are extremes that
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we can go to with this
and we certainly don't wanna
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health balance
in all these things.
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It says, we cannot cherish
home affection with too much
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care for the home, if the
Spirit of Lord dwells there,
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is a type of heaven.
And in any of these sayings
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we can substitute the
word home for the word Church.
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Our Church is to be a
type of heaven. If one airs,
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the other will
exercise Christ like forbearance
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and not draw coldly
away. Neither the husband nor
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the wife should attempt
to exercise over the other
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in arbitrary control. Do
not try to compel each other
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to yield to your wishes.
This carries over into our
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Church family, in that some
of us are convicted differently
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than others and we certainly
seeing different levels
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of growth. Right. In different
people and so we cannot
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try to force
someone's conscious on an issue.
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For example if I am
convicted on something and you
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are not, it is not
my place to pressure
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you and try and compel
you to yield your conscious
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to me, no. This is the
work of the Holly Spirit.
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Yes. While we share
what would be the best thing
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like right now. Yes.
We are sharing what it is
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for a woman to seek
out her role as Christ
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would have her to be
and that way you're doing
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what you're fulfilling that
growth process in the Church,
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where we can work together.
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Yes. But if the husband is
to compel the wife's conscious
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then she is doing it for
her husband and not onto God.
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And so in the Church
setting convictions needed
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to be lift out for God
not for because of your peer
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pressure from other people.
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We're desired to do,
have the virtuous thing. Yes.
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You cannot do this
compel each other and retain
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each other's love. Be
kind, patient, forbearing,
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consider it, and
courteous. By the grace of God
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you can succeed in
making each other happy,
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as in your marriage
vow you promised to do.
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And speaking of marriage vows.
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They are
different today aren't they.
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Yes. They are they've changed
a lot and when my husband
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and I were married, I
was just adamant that I was
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not going to promise to
obey, there is a word in there
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when the women gives
her vows to her husband
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where I would love,
honor and obey and I said
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no way. Really, Yes. For me
it just held a terrible meaning,
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obey? And I could
just Especially you?
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Yes especially me, being
involved with the feminism.
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I would say, I was
thinking though if though on the
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woman side to say to
obey you, when he might
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not have all those
things in gear. Yes.
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To show us or where
we would won't obey him,
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this is what I mean is
more in the woman side,
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wondering about how
she have to obey him. Yes
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And starting our
marriage, you know, there were,
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there were many
weaknesses in my husband
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that I saw and I
thought, you know.
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Why should I submit to
him, look at all the things
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that he does not
have together. Right.
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And what he didn't realize
was that in being critical
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and not taking my
place as the women.
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Was making it worse.
I was telling him down.
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Right. And making
him a lot worse because
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lot of his problem stem
from not having any confidence
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and so confidence is
not developed through heavy
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criticism, which is
what I was putting him under.
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Right and this
Mutual Forbearance helps.
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Yes. It does. It
has helped immensely.
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By the grace of God
you can succeed in making
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each other happy and that
is a promise I believe that
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and if there is a joy in
knowing that you are helping
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someone else feel
happy. There are so many things
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in this world that we can
feel miserable over and so
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that's quite a gift that
you can give to each other.
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Right. In the married life,
men and women sometimes act
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like undisciplined, perverse
children same happens in
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our Church
family. Isn't that so?
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The husband wants his way
and the wife wants her way,
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and neither are willing
to yield. Such a condition
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of things can bring only
the greatest unhappiness.
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Both husband and wife should
be willing to yield his or her
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way or opinion. There, no
we didn't say yield conviction.
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Right. And I think we need
to make a distinction there.
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Right. I'm glad
you made that point.
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Because there are
women who become believers
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and their husbands
are nonbelievers and then
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there arises the question
why because he does not believe,
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but he is the man and
the head of our household.
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Should I surrender my
convictions and that goes back
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to what we mentioned
in an earlier program, no,
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your convictions and your
individuality belong to God
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and God alone. Okay, but
through your loving submission
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to your husband in areas
that are not areas of conviction
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you may bring your
husband into your belief.
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You may woo him. By
your chaste behavior.
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Yes. Love people can
resist anger, you know,
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if someone comes to you
and approaches you with anger
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there is an
immediate wall put up.
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But is difficult to
resist. Yes. That kind of love.
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Love, a love that
brings service and submission
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is so hard to resist and
that's why Christ used that
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approach. Right.
With his character? Yes.
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And it's so
beautiful. I tear up over it.
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Both husband and wife
should be willing to yield
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his or her way of opinion.
There is no possibility of
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happiness while they both
persist doing as they please.
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Unless men and women
have learned of Christ,
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His meekness and lowliness,
they will reveal impulsive,
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unreasonable spirit so
often revealed by children.
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And what is Paul say
about being children,
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when I was a child, I speak
as a child, I act as a child.
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But after that. Yes. I
put away childish things.
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Put away childish things,
yes. The strong, undisciplined
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will seek to rule such
ones need to study the words
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of Paul concerning the
child. And I think that Christ
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came to be our
example in everything and just
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a few examples of how he
lived out both the male role
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of submission and the
female role of submission.
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I have here and I
would like to share.
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Though he was
subject to the same laws,
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both of nature and of the
10 commandments just as we are,
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he perfectly
demonstrated and represented the
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character of God. And marriage
union also represents God.
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The Christ lived out
how both husband and wife
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are to submit. Husbands are
to love their wives as Christ
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love the Church and
gave himself for it.
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The husband is head of
the women as Christ is head
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of the Church and
there are no words means then
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I don't think there is any
room left there for confusion.
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It just says plainly,
the man is the head of women
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as Christ is the
head of the Church.
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And what is the Church
the people. The people?
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The people are the Church,
while on earth Christ led,
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fed, healed,
protected, taught, pray for and
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nurtured people. And
there are certainly areas,
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where men and women are
alike. Women have a gift
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for nurturing it seems
to come natural to them,
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but men also can
be nurturers. Yes.
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And Christ revealed that.
Women cry and we are notorious
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for our tears, right, but
men can cry too and we see
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in Psalms, God
weep. Yes. God weeps,
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Jesus wept in Psalms,
David speaks of crying.
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The tender side. Yes.
So, certainly there are areas
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where both of
us can excel. Okay.
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This is how husbands are
called to behave toward their
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wives they are to
lead, feed, teach and nurture
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their wives. And it's called
the responsibility in one that
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we find many men
running away from because
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it is scary and these
women need to buildup their
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confidence by letting
them know linking your life
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to that of Christ is
going to make you something
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that you never
thought you could be. Right.
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And It will make
things that seem hard easy.
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I have this that I could
read out of child guidance,
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its model homes to
make a model Church and
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every family is a
Church over which the parents
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preside. The first
consideration of the parents
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should be to work for the
salvation of their children.
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You know it takes
submission to do that. Yes.
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And when the father and the
mother as priest and teacher
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the family take their position
fully on the side of Christ,
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which is submission.
Yes. A good influence will be
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exerted in the home and
this sanctified influence,
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submissive influence
will be felt in the Church
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and will be recognized
by every believer because
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of the great lack of
priority and sanctification
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in the home the work of
God is greatly hindered,
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no man can bring into
the church and influence
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that he does not
exert in his home life
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and in his
vicious relations. Amen.
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You know we need to realize
that the home is so important
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for this area. This
should starch should be trained
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to the children and
modeled by the mother
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and the father.
Yes. And you know,
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I think if we are unwilling
to stay in our marriage
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vow obey, if we do not
trust the man that we are
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marrying enough to be
able to say I will obey him
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then how later in
like can we expect our
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children to obey their father.
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Their father, yes I
think that's a wonderful point,
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because the children
pick that up. Yes a lot.
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Yes, they do. And we
had a daughter born to us
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in our second year of
marriage and she picked
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up right away that
momma did not trust and
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obey daddy. Right.
And we saw her starting
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to model my behavior toward him.
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Did she ever
tell Daddy what to do?
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Oh yes. Just tell him off.
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Yes, she spoke back to
him just like she saw her
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momma speaking back to
him and that was a wakeup
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call for me, when I
saw her standing up to him
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and exerting her will
over him. I thought where did
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she get that from
and the Lord had to show
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me Paula she is
modeling you. Oh! What a heart
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breaking experience, but
I'm glad that he revealed
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it to me. Now we
have three children and we
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are trying very, very
hard to model the roles
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that we were given,
so that they can see
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that it's okay to obey their
father because in the minds
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of children their
father represents God. Right.
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And not only the father,
but the mother is standing
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instead of God, as
parents we are standing instead
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of God, yes, until certainly
until the time that they
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can directly choose
Christ they understand
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what they need to choose
and choosing their salvation.
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Do you have something
more now as we wrap up
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our program to share with us.
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Sure I would like to
close with first a quote from
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another quote,
Remembrance Home in then with a
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scripture text. The
home in which the members
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are polite,
courteous Christians exerts a
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far-reaching influence for
good. Other families will mark
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the results attained by
such a home and will follow
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the example set, in their
turn guarding the home against
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Satanic influences. The
angels of God will often visit
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the home in which the
will of God bears sway.
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And Gods will can only
bear sway in our home as
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our wills are submitted
to His. Submitted to him.
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First Peter Chapter 4
Verses 7 through 11 has a nice
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statement in it. And it
is not only applicable to our
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home life, but to
the life of our church.
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But the end of all
things is at hand; therefore be
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serious and
watchful in your prayers.
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And above all things have
fervent love for one another,
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for "love will cover
a multitude of sins."
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Be hospitable to one
another without grumbling.
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As each one has
received a gift, administer
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it to one another, as
good stewards of the manifold
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grace of God. If anyone
speaks, let him speak as the
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oracles of God; if anyone
ministers let him do it as
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with the ability
which God supplies,
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but that in all
things God may be glorified
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through Jesus Christ,
to whom belongs the glory
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and dominion
forever and ever. Amen.
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Amen, Amen! Well
that's a good place to end,
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Amen. And we've
covered a lot and it might not
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be a very pleasant subject
to a lot of people that would
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be listening and
surrender and submission
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it's the work that has to
be done in the heart, isn't it.
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Yes it is. And to be
able to teach our children
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this is a privilege to
work to develop their character
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it's a heavy subject. Yes it is.
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And to offer up our children
to the Lord to give them
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back to him they are
his heritage and we need
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to realize, who
they belong to. Yes.
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Don't you think?
Oh! Definitely. You
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know Paula for our viewers
we ought to have a prayer.
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I would like that. And
what do you think? Yes.
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And I wanna ask you to
have that prayer. Okay.
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And maybe they will bow
their heads with us and ask
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that the Holy Spirit
come into their hearts,
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so that they might
surrender in the fullest.
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Especially mothers
and fathers or young women
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and young man who
are going to get married
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and they have this
need of learning surrender
00:26:52.60\00:26:56.71
in their lives. To surrender
much more than ever before,
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so could we do that
Paula? Yes. Everyone.
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Father in heaven we
just ask that you will come
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into our hearts as
women and as Church members,
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help us to learn
your lessons of humility,
00:27:10.77\00:27:12.73
so that we can reach
out and be more giving
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and loving to others. Yes.
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We thank you so much
for the example of Jesus
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that you sent for us to
follow and we ask that you will
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help us to follow him in
all things each and everyday,
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surrendering that will to
your so that you will maybe
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done. Please come
into our families,
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help us as mothers to
model our joys womanhood
00:27:36.16\00:27:39.64
for our daughters and
help us to model obedience,
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we ask all of these things
in the loving name of Jesus
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Christ Amen. Amen.
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And I want to thank
you for being with us.
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I want to thank
you for being wiht us.
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next time we are
going to have more on women
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and surrender, join us
again on Thinking About Home.
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