Welcome to Thinking About Home. I am 00:00:31.45\00:00:33.18 Kathy Matthews and I am glad you're back 00:00:33.21\00:00:34.71 with us again, today. Today we are going to 00:00:34.74\00:00:37.04 discussing redemptive church discipline. 00:00:37.07\00:00:39.66 Now, that might not sound like it's 00:00:39.69\00:00:41.84 something that you're really going to be able 00:00:41.87\00:00:43.47 to use in your home but you can, because in the 00:00:43.50\00:00:46.08 the Bible there are so many biblical 00:00:46.11\00:00:47.54 principles in this area that you are going to 00:00:47.57\00:00:49.96 be able to glean and use in your home life and 00:00:49.99\00:00:53.58 I believe that you will be very happy to be 00:00:53.61\00:00:55.95 able to hear what we are going to present 00:00:55.98\00:00:58.33 today. And, our guest will be discussing 00:00:58.36\00:01:00.87 these principles with you and he is the president 00:01:00.90\00:01:03.84 of the Michigan Conference of 00:01:03.87\00:01:05.65 Seventh-day Adventist and it's Jay Gallimore. 00:01:05.68\00:01:07.70 Welcome Jay. Well, thank you Kathy, 00:01:07.73\00:01:09.51 it's nice to be here. I'm thankful that 00:01:09.54\00:01:11.83 you're here and I know that you do seminars in 00:01:11.86\00:01:15.22 this area and we are going to try to back 00:01:18.06\00:01:19.03 and forth with the principles of church 00:01:19.04\00:01:20.19 discipline and how also that these can be used 00:01:20.22\00:01:23.15 in our home, is that right? 00:01:23.18\00:01:24.23 That's right, I'm going to let you focus on the 00:01:24.26\00:01:26.48 home, I'm going to focus on the church part. 00:01:26.51\00:01:28.25 Well, you're gonna have to help me, I hope. 00:01:28.28\00:01:29.48 Sure. And, I just want to started with since we 00:01:29.51\00:01:34.26 are gonna look at prevention and 00:01:34.29\00:01:36.43 prevention is so important in the home, 00:01:36.46\00:01:38.97 what do you think. Well, let's discuss 00:01:39.00\00:01:44.42 that point first. Well, I think as my 00:01:44.45\00:01:47.34 mother taught me when I was a kid you know, 00:01:47.37\00:01:48.81 an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of 00:01:48.84\00:01:50.50 cure and I saw something kind of cute this morning 00:01:50.53\00:01:53.01 before we ate. Yes. It was a little 00:01:53.04\00:01:55.42 sign there that said you know, you wish 00:01:55.45\00:01:58.01 that you had, had an ounce of keeping your 00:01:58.04\00:02:00.20 mouth shut rather than having a pound of 00:02:00.23\00:02:02.44 trying to fix it after you said it. 00:02:02.47\00:02:04.15 Yes. Or regretting. Oh! My, yes. 00:02:04.18\00:02:05.83 So, that's true in redemptive discipline, 00:02:05.86\00:02:06.83 in church discipline, a lot of times people 00:02:08.54\00:02:11.38 focus on the cure, but they don't see 00:02:11.41\00:02:14.49 the whole scope of Matthew 18. Ummmm! 00:02:14.52\00:02:16.42 Jesus actually spends more time on the 00:02:16.45\00:02:19.18 prevention parts. So, the first thing we 00:02:19.21\00:02:21.20 want to talk about is, how do we prevent 00:02:21.23\00:02:23.34 people from getting in trouble. Yes. 00:02:23.37\00:02:25.56 Sheep will stray, they will stray. 00:02:25.59\00:02:27.59 Yes, yes. And so the question 00:02:27.62\00:02:28.66 is how can we keep them from straying 00:02:28.69\00:02:30.23 and to do apart on that. Uh huh. 00:02:30.26\00:02:32.87 So, the picture that Jesus gives us there 00:02:32.90\00:02:36.34 in Matthew chapter 18, that's where most of 00:02:36.37\00:02:37.87 focus is going to be is of the famous parable 00:02:37.90\00:02:42.02 that most people know of the one lost sheep. 00:02:42.05\00:02:44.07 Right. And, that's the thing going out finding 00:02:44.10\00:02:46.93 that sheep, bringing it back into the safe 00:02:46.96\00:02:48.71 environments of the, of the pen or the church 00:02:48.74\00:02:52.02 or whatever it is. Well, how much time 00:02:52.05\00:02:54.89 does a family spend on endeavoring to prevent 00:02:54.92\00:02:57.34 poor behavior. Well, I think that's a 00:02:57.37\00:02:59.90 real question for families, you know 00:02:59.93\00:03:01.36 a lot of times even parents I think, think 00:03:01.39\00:03:04.66 about well, what can I do to fix it, but we need 00:03:04.69\00:03:06.31 to think a lot more about what do we do to 00:03:06.34\00:03:08.75 prevent our children from getting into difficulty. 00:03:08.78\00:03:10.78 Right, you know, I was thinking about this is 00:03:10.81\00:03:12.43 and it's not just behavior. More, how to instill the 00:03:12.46\00:03:17.80 desire for virtuous living or virtuous 00:03:17.83\00:03:18.81 thinking, it's not just outward behavior that 00:03:18.84\00:03:21.94 we as, is in either in the church or in our 00:03:21.97\00:03:25.32 homes, want to prevent. You know, we don't 00:03:25.35\00:03:27.43 want to just prevent bad behavior. 00:03:27.46\00:03:29.04 We want to instill good thinking. 00:03:29.07\00:03:31.43 That's right. Well, the best, the best 00:03:31.46\00:03:34.40 prevention for bad behavior is just good 00:03:34.43\00:03:36.88 behavior just like you said and the joy of 00:03:36.91\00:03:39.23 having a good happy, happy life. 00:03:39.26\00:03:41.93 And, Jesus starts out bringing a little child 00:03:41.96\00:03:44.58 into this, doesn't he? Yes, he does, it's 00:03:44.61\00:03:46.80 fascinating the way he does that and let's 00:03:46.83\00:03:49.12 just turn to scripture right now. Okay. 00:03:49.15\00:03:50.72 And, just look here in in Matthew chapter 18, 00:03:50.75\00:03:52.71 and we're going to look at verses 3-5. 00:03:52.74\00:03:56.15 It says here, "Truly I say to you, unless 00:03:56.18\00:04:00.41 you're converted and become like children you 00:04:00.44\00:04:02.68 shall not enter the kingdom of heaven. 00:04:02.71\00:04:04.07 Whoever then humbles himself as this child, 00:04:04.10\00:04:06.69 he is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. 00:04:06.72\00:04:09.27 And whoever receives such one, a child in my name 00:04:09.30\00:04:12.49 receives me," Matthew 18:3-5, that's the New 00:04:12.52\00:04:16.58 American Standard Version. The child here 00:04:18.79\00:04:19.76 of course represents the members of the church, 00:04:19.77\00:04:20.74 it's a symbol of the members. Right. 00:04:20.75\00:04:22.71 So, we rightly use that concept, our Heavenly 00:04:22.74\00:04:26.27 Father, we're all brothers and sisters in 00:04:27.88\00:04:28.85 Christ, but Jesus knew that the simple 00:04:28.86\00:04:31.75 creatures that we are. Yes. That rivalry 00:04:31.78\00:04:34.02 and trouble and difficulty and the church 00:04:36.05\00:04:37.02 would become non-functional, which 00:04:37.03\00:04:38.47 is kind of one of the challenges we have in 00:04:38.50\00:04:39.79 home today. Unless there is 00:04:39.82\00:04:41.57 structure in the church, unless there is 00:04:41.60\00:04:43.94 discipline in the church, then the church will 00:04:43.97\00:04:46.53 seize to function and accomplish it's mission. 00:04:46.56\00:04:48.38 And, you have more sibling rivalry. 00:04:48.41\00:04:50.34 And more sibling will end. In the home or 00:04:50.37\00:04:53.16 in the church. That's right. Right. 00:04:53.19\00:04:54.73 That's often the truth. If it's not functioning 00:04:54.76\00:04:56.12 that way. So, how do we, how do we handle 00:04:56.15\00:04:59.03 this prevention thing? What can the church 00:04:59.06\00:05:00.83 do to really begin to prevent the children, 00:05:00.86\00:05:06.33 brothers and sisters from going astray and 00:05:06.36\00:05:09.20 how do we accept new people coming into the 00:05:09.23\00:05:11.37 church too. You have a dynamic thing 00:05:11.40\00:05:13.41 going on, you have the members who are already 00:05:13.44\00:05:14.79 in the church. Right. And you have new 00:05:14.82\00:05:15.87 people coming in. You know, human beings 00:05:15.90\00:05:18.97 sometimes do like, like horses, there is a 00:05:19.00\00:05:22.97 order that they establish. Did you say 00:05:23.00\00:05:25.48 like what? Horses. That's like hinds. 00:05:25.51\00:05:27.83 Well, I suppose, but horses do it too. 00:05:27.86\00:05:30.59 Okay. My daughter has a horse so.Yes. 00:05:30.62\00:05:33.75 She gets in with a herd of horses. Okay. 00:05:33.78\00:05:35.13 I don't have a herd. She had just one horse, 00:05:35.16\00:05:36.59 but. Okay. The interesting thing is 00:05:36.62\00:05:38.90 that they establish a kind of, where they 00:05:38.93\00:05:41.77 one another up you know. Right, right. And we 00:05:41.80\00:05:43.58 tend to do that with each other, instead of simply 00:05:43.61\00:05:47.04 accepting each other, first of all as a child 00:05:47.07\00:05:50.30 of God and that's where it, what it means to be 00:05:50.33\00:05:53.07 converted. And, you are not talking about 00:05:53.10\00:05:54.86 accepting sin, but accepting the sinner. 00:05:54.89\00:05:58.10 That's right, when a person comes into the 00:05:58.13\00:06:01.03 church that new person is a new baby in Christ. 00:06:01.06\00:06:05.44 Right. And, I accept that new baby as my 00:06:05.47\00:06:08.36 brother and my sister. As we do in the home, 00:06:08.39\00:06:11.46 knowing that they are going to have 00:06:11.49\00:06:12.76 difficulties growing. That's right, and that 00:06:12.79\00:06:15.57 is one of the most important things to 00:06:15.60\00:06:18.25 help prevent fallout, is because the person 00:06:18.28\00:06:22.05 needs to feel accepted within the church family. 00:06:22.08\00:06:25.60 And, I suppose in the home, the most important 00:06:25.63\00:06:29.74 thing a child wants to know is. That they are 00:06:29.77\00:06:32.41 accepted. That's right, and loved. Right, and 00:06:32.44\00:06:35.44 they and it transfers, if they are not even, 00:06:35.47\00:06:37.88 if you don't say so That's true, that's true. 00:06:37.91\00:06:39.48 So we have got to do an outstanding job teaching 00:06:39.51\00:06:44.63 members to love one another. When we love 00:06:44.66\00:06:48.26 our children and children love one another doesn't 00:06:48.29\00:06:51.41 mean that they accept them in their evil 00:06:51.44\00:06:55.80 behavior. Yes. But it means that 00:06:55.83\00:06:57.65 they're accept them in order to try to help 00:06:57.68\00:06:59.58 them. Right. Because we're all poor. 00:06:59.61\00:07:00.95 Right. Sinners stumbling along together. Right. 00:07:00.98\00:07:03.22 As we are needing the grace of God. 00:07:03.25\00:07:04.35 And, how we approach them would make all 00:07:04.38\00:07:06.96 the difference. So, if we're going to 00:07:06.99\00:07:08.75 prevent people from going astray, then love has got 00:07:08.78\00:07:12.26 to be at the center of that, now true converted 00:07:12.29\00:07:15.38 person, if we going to have people of doing a 00:07:15.41\00:07:19.18 good job of loving one another, they really got 00:07:19.21\00:07:21.16 to be converted, changed. Have a heart conversion. 00:07:21.19\00:07:24.18 That's right. Yes. And, we love the 00:07:24.21\00:07:25.65 Lord Jesus, follow the follow the Lord Jesus 00:07:25.68\00:07:27.45 I am going to love, you know I used to tell 00:07:27.48\00:07:29.82 people I would say, do you know why my 00:07:29.85\00:07:33.24 wife's mother loves me so much. No. 00:07:33.27\00:07:36.99 We lost her a few, about a year ago and 00:07:37.02\00:07:41.06 I, we all loved her, but the reason she loved me 00:07:41.09\00:07:44.03 is because Linda loved me. I can think of 00:07:44.06\00:07:51.06 another example of those kinds of things. 00:07:51.09\00:07:52.44 Yeah, and the same thing, as we love our heavenly 00:07:52.47\00:07:55.37 we love the savior. Yes. Then we love each other 00:07:55.40\00:07:58.39 because we know, they love you. I mean, I Know 00:07:58.42\00:08:01.03 you very well. Right. But you're new a member 00:08:01.06\00:08:03.16 of the church and I know that Jesus loves you. 00:08:03.19\00:08:04.77 Right. Therefore you're my brother in Christ. 00:08:04.80\00:08:06.10 Right, right. So, we have to develop 00:08:06.13\00:08:07.41 family within the church and that's why I am 00:08:07.44\00:08:09.00 saying when we develop a family atmosphere within 00:08:09.03\00:08:12.03 the church is much more difficult with people to 00:08:12.06\00:08:14.99 stray when they get in trouble. Right, right. 00:08:15.02\00:08:17.03 And, they want to be held accountable, and 00:08:17.06\00:08:19.54 they don't mind to be held accountable. 00:08:19.57\00:08:20.96 That's right. By that, by you. And, we have 00:08:20.99\00:08:26.22 something about stumbling blocks. Well, this is a 00:08:26.25\00:08:30.61 very interesting place that Jesus goes now. 00:08:30.64\00:08:34.63 Yes. In fact some of the strongest language that 00:08:34.66\00:08:36.61 Jesus ever uses is right here in Matthew 18, 00:08:36.64\00:08:40.49 we ought to go to that now, here in Matthew 00:08:40.52\00:08:42.44 chapter 18 and we want to look at, starting with 00:08:42.47\00:08:45.98 verse six here, it says "but whoever causes one 00:08:46.01\00:08:51.37 of these little ones who believe in me to stumble, 00:08:51.40\00:08:54.28 it is better for him that a heavy millstone be hung 00:08:54.31\00:08:57.98 about his neck, and that he be drowned in the 00:08:58.01\00:09:00.73 depths of the sea. And, woe to the world because 00:09:00.76\00:09:03.64 of its stumbling blocks! For it is inevitable that 00:09:03.67\00:09:06.55 stumbling blocks come; but woe to that man 00:09:06.58\00:09:09.49 through whom the stumbling block comes! 00:09:09.52\00:09:12.15 If your hand or your foot causes you to 00:09:12.18\00:09:14.59 stumble, cut it off, throw it from you, 00:09:14.62\00:09:16.55 it is better for you to enter life crippled or 00:09:16.58\00:09:18.90 lame, than having two hands or two feet and 00:09:18.93\00:09:22.46 be cast into the eternal fire." That's strong. 00:09:22.49\00:09:25.95 That's strong. I think Jesus is saying 00:09:25.98\00:09:28.35 here to us, you have to understand how much my 00:09:28.38\00:09:31.35 heavenly Father loves his children. And, 00:09:31.38\00:09:34.62 I think what he is saying is this that don't 00:09:34.65\00:09:37.43 be a stumbling block, but we need to come 00:09:37.46\00:09:38.74 back Kathy and talk about what it means to 00:09:38.77\00:09:40.47 be a stumbling block, because I think that 00:09:40.50\00:09:41.80 has some parallels in the home as well. 00:09:41.83\00:09:43.45 Okay, alright, alright. But he says don't be 00:09:43.48\00:09:46.14 a stumbling block because, if you become 00:09:46.17\00:09:47.78 stumbling block and one of your brothers or 00:09:47.81\00:09:50.45 sisters in the church falls and loses his 00:09:50.48\00:09:53.31 eternal life because of what you did. 00:09:53.34\00:09:56.51 You did. You are going to have to meet my 00:09:56.54\00:09:59.57 father in the day of Judgment. Alright. 00:09:59.60\00:10:04.01 And then father is going to be as a judge and 00:10:04.04\00:10:07.39 he will not be very happy, that's what it's 00:10:07.42\00:10:10.02 saying and that's a very strong line, 00:10:10.05\00:10:12.06 it's kind of those scary things in sins, but 00:10:12.09\00:10:14.14 aren't we as family, don't we guard carefully 00:10:14.17\00:10:18.24 our children, don't we love them and what 00:10:18.27\00:10:22.75 would make you more angry quicker than 00:10:22.78\00:10:25.18 anything. Well, I can, I can think of some things 00:10:25.21\00:10:28.66 that we have gone through in a family and 00:10:28.69\00:10:30.51 as we have difficulties with one because it 00:10:30.54\00:10:33.96 might influence the other to do wrong, that 00:10:33.99\00:10:35.88 bothers me a great deal. Sure. And, 00:10:35.91\00:10:38.67 I'm certain it does the heavenly father as well. 00:10:38.70\00:10:41.26 Yes. If we do that sort of thing to the 00:10:41.29\00:10:42.89 church member. That's right. 00:10:42.92\00:10:44.05 But as I think of a home life, one of the 00:10:44.08\00:10:47.00 things that disturbs me the most is if one of the 00:10:47.03\00:10:49.94 youth, or one of the younger ones is doing 00:10:49.97\00:10:52.37 something that's going to influence the other one 00:10:52.40\00:10:54.32 and possibly the younger one. We have. 00:10:54.35\00:10:57.39 Usually the younger one. Yes, yes, or other kids 00:10:57.42\00:11:00.94 or sometimes even adults can become terrible 00:11:00.97\00:11:03.14 stumbling blocks. We have terrible things 00:11:03.17\00:11:05.29 that happen sometimes in families or from 00:11:05.32\00:11:07.16 people outside the families. Right. 00:11:07.19\00:11:08.81 That destroy the spiritual life or the 00:11:08.84\00:11:10.86 development of children in our society, I think 00:11:10.89\00:11:14.69 rightly so, and we as as parents. Yes. 00:11:14.72\00:11:17.03 Deeply concerned about that kind of thing, and 00:11:17.06\00:11:18.92 it brings out a very severe response. 00:11:18.95\00:11:20.58 Well, and I was just thinking though in not 00:11:20.61\00:11:22.38 just siblings being one to another, but a father 00:11:22.41\00:11:24.98 or mother being a stumbling block to the 00:11:25.01\00:11:26.88 children, there are those that we met in Russia, 00:11:26.91\00:11:28.95 who, the children would be in church the parents 00:11:28.98\00:11:31.75 would not and it was difficult for the child 00:11:31.78\00:11:35.47 to follow. And, so, and so in homes here in 00:11:35.50\00:11:38.97 the States or the western worlds. Right. But, 00:11:39.00\00:11:42.65 how do we, how do we not be a stumbling block, 00:11:42.68\00:11:46.62 now that's the key question, none of us 00:11:46.65\00:11:47.84 want to be a stumbling block, but the question 00:11:47.87\00:11:49.23 is this, how do we define when we are a stumbling 00:11:49.26\00:11:52.56 block obviously none of us are perfect, 00:11:52.59\00:11:54.27 obviously all of us are frail and we make 00:11:54.30\00:11:58.57 mistakes and we do things that influence 00:11:58.60\00:12:00.94 people wrongly at times where we wish we didn't. 00:12:00.97\00:12:02.98 And many times not even knowing it. So, Jay, 00:12:03.01\00:12:05.91 how do you define a stumbling block. 00:12:05.94\00:12:07.70 Well, I think that's really the crucial issue 00:12:07.73\00:12:09.88 and I think it was just got to go to the 00:12:09.91\00:12:11.43 scripture to do that, but before we go to 00:12:11.46\00:12:13.03 the scripture let me give a little background 00:12:13.06\00:12:14.66 here. In the early church they had a 00:12:14.69\00:12:17.89 lifestyle issue, believe it or not. Yes. 00:12:17.92\00:12:20.93 And, it was called eating food offered 00:12:20.96\00:12:23.13 to idols. Now you know, we can go 00:12:23.16\00:12:25.11 down to the local grocery store and you buy 00:12:25.14\00:12:27.49 anything you want, you don't worry about 00:12:27.52\00:12:28.91 whether it's been offered to an idol, but in those 00:12:28.94\00:12:30.34 days the supermarkets practically had 00:12:30.37\00:12:32.20 everything particularly flesh food offered to 00:12:32.23\00:12:34.34 idols, so you have, you have a brother 00:12:34.37\00:12:37.49 and sister Jew. Jewish Christians. 00:12:37.52\00:12:39.71 Right. Raised that way are what raised 00:12:39.74\00:12:43.46 in their culture and then then you have a gentile 00:12:43.49\00:12:45.57 Christians coming into the church. Now, 00:12:45.60\00:12:48.51 fascinatingly enough those, dear gentile 00:12:48.54\00:12:51.79 Christians have been bowing down to idols 00:12:51.82\00:12:53.73 and every time they're eating food offered to 00:12:53.76\00:12:55.73 an idol was a act of worship. Right. 00:12:55.76\00:12:57.70 To brother and sister, gentile, Jew it just 00:12:57.73\00:13:00.98 didn't make many difference you know, 00:13:01.01\00:13:02.55 why, why worry about it because I mean 00:13:02.58\00:13:06.03 idols were nothing, I mean if you were 00:13:06.06\00:13:07.80 to give, if you gave an idol to Apostle 00:13:07.83\00:13:10.35 Paul, he'd melt the gold down and make 00:13:10.38\00:13:12.32 him some money. Right, right. 00:13:12.35\00:13:14.34 Okay that make a place to warm his hands 00:13:14.37\00:13:15.34 over or what have you, but the question was, 00:13:15.35\00:13:18.33 but how shall we handle this tension within the 00:13:18.36\00:13:20.69 church because, hey, this is no small thing. 00:13:20.72\00:13:22.91 Right. I mean this is dealing with your 00:13:22.94\00:13:24.79 everyday life, when you go down to the 00:13:24.82\00:13:26.18 supermarket, how do we do it. So they decided to 00:13:26.21\00:13:28.01 get delegates to go to Jerusalem and there 00:13:28.04\00:13:31.36 they would make a decision together very 00:13:31.39\00:13:33.99 much like we do in our own church family 00:13:34.02\00:13:36.00 today. So, when they went there after they 00:13:36.03\00:13:39.68 got through talking about all of this, 00:13:39.71\00:13:42.19 then we have the apostles giving the results of 00:13:42.22\00:13:46.38 that and we are gonna turn to the scripture 00:13:46.41\00:13:48.50 and pick that up, "that you abstain from 00:13:48.53\00:13:53.17 things sacrificed to idols and from blood 00:13:53.20\00:13:55.80 and from things strangled and from fornication, 00:13:55.83\00:13:58.70 if you keep yourselves free from such things, 00:13:58.73\00:14:02.21 you will do well. Farewell." Now, we 00:14:02.24\00:14:05.96 are going to watch how this, this decision 00:14:05.99\00:14:09.67 that was made by the collective church, how 00:14:09.70\00:14:12.23 the word stumbling block is attached to 00:14:12.26\00:14:14.47 that. Right. So, here is the Christian 00:14:14.50\00:14:16.63 community, the early Christian community 00:14:16.66\00:14:17.63 and they have to come together, they made a 00:14:17.64\00:14:19.54 decision on this issue and now we are gonna 00:14:19.57\00:14:22.50 watch what Paul says, and what John says 00:14:22.53\00:14:25.26 in the Book of Revelation, so we want 00:14:25.29\00:14:27.02 to go now to First Corinthians chapter 8 00:14:27.05\00:14:29.25 and we are gonna look at verses 1, 4, 9-12. 00:14:29.28\00:14:33.64 Now, here is what Paul says. Now concerning 00:14:33.67\00:14:35.66 things sacrificed to idols, we know that 00:14:35.69\00:14:38.92 we all have knowledge. Knowledge makes 00:14:38.95\00:14:41.16 arrogant, but love edifies. Therefore 00:14:43.84\00:14:44.81 concerning the eating of things sacrificed to 00:14:44.82\00:14:46.48 idols, we know that there is no such things 00:14:46.51\00:14:48.64 as an idol in the world, and that there is no 00:14:48.67\00:14:51.25 God but one. But food will not 00:14:51.28\00:14:53.86 commend us to God. We are neither the 00:14:53.89\00:14:57.06 worse, if we do not eat, nor the better if we 00:14:57.09\00:14:58.22 do eat, nor the better if we do eat. 00:14:58.25\00:15:01.73 But take care lest this liberty of yours 00:15:02.42\00:15:04.86 somehow become a, here it is, stumbling 00:15:04.89\00:15:07.30 block to the weak. Sounds like 00:15:07.33\00:15:10.91 a nursery, see. Yes. 00:15:10.94\00:15:12.73 For if, then the scripture goes on, 00:15:12.76\00:15:14.53 for if someone sees you, 00:15:14.56\00:15:15.70 who have knowledge, dining in an 00:15:15.73\00:15:17.79 idol's temple, will not his conscience, 00:15:17.82\00:15:20.24 if he is weak, be strengthened 00:15:20.27\00:15:21.66 to eat things sacrificed to idols. 00:15:21.69\00:15:23.53 For through your knowledge 00:15:23.56\00:15:27.79 he who is weak is ruined, 00:15:27.82\00:15:30.21 the brother for whose sake Christ died. 00:15:30.24\00:15:33.09 And, thus, by sinning against 00:15:33.12\00:15:34.34 the brethren and wounding their conscience 00:15:34.37\00:15:37.18 when it is weak, you sin against Christ. 00:15:37.21\00:15:40.79 Now, I wanna stop here before I go into the rest 00:15:40.82\00:15:44.07 of the text we can look out. 00:15:44.10\00:15:45.73 This is a very fascinating text, 00:15:45.76\00:15:47.85 the principle, again Paul nails 00:15:47.88\00:15:50.22 down is simply this, that we have 00:15:50.25\00:15:53.17 a responsibility to one another to look 00:15:53.20\00:15:56.78 after each others. Yes. 00:15:56.81\00:15:58.50 Spiritual welfare. Oh! 00:15:58.53\00:15:59.78 He is talking about being preventive, 00:15:59.81\00:16:01.52 do preventive discipline if you please. 00:16:01.55\00:16:03.65 Yes, yes. And, so my behavior 00:16:03.68\00:16:05.81 has a well influence on the rest of the family 00:16:05.84\00:16:08.85 and if I am openly, unconsciously 00:16:08.88\00:16:12.29 violating something that the body 00:16:12.32\00:16:14.03 had agreed on. Yes. 00:16:15.27\00:16:16.24 Even though I may say to myself. 00:16:16.25\00:16:17.22 Right. Like some of those 00:16:17.23\00:16:18.20 early Christians must have said. 00:16:18.21\00:16:19.18 Yes. They must have said, 00:16:19.19\00:16:20.44 what difference does it make, 00:16:20.47\00:16:21.64 it doesn't impact my Christian walk with Jesus, 00:16:21.67\00:16:24.09 if I eat a little food offered to idols. 00:16:24.12\00:16:26.07 Right. Paul says, 00:16:26.10\00:16:27.07 you missed the point. Yes. 00:16:27.08\00:16:28.05 The point is that your brother, 00:16:28.06\00:16:30.52 who is weak or new in the faith 00:16:30.55\00:16:33.02 may not be able to understand. 00:16:33.05\00:16:36.32 Yes, don't do it for their sake. 00:16:36.35\00:16:38.04 That's right. And, so therefore. 00:16:38.07\00:16:41.04 That's where real love comes in. 00:16:41.07\00:16:42.20 Aah! You know, 00:16:42.23\00:16:43.72 selfless love has to be there in the heart, 00:16:43.75\00:16:46.05 if you are going to be able to make 00:16:46.08\00:16:47.15 the decision to do that for someone else's sake, 00:16:47.18\00:16:48.92 when you see nothing wrong with it. 00:16:48.95\00:16:50.92 Certainly. See this is really 00:16:50.95\00:16:52.46 teaching our congregations 00:16:52.49\00:16:53.46 how to really love like Jesus loves. 00:16:53.47\00:16:56.14 Give up self. I like the NIV, 00:16:56.17\00:16:57.54 I think the NIV says, knowledge puffs up 00:16:57.57\00:17:02.19 that was I have the knowledge, 00:17:02.22\00:17:03.65 this ain't going to hurt me. 00:17:03.68\00:17:04.97 Right, right. Knowledge puffs up, 00:17:05.00\00:17:07.16 but love builds up. Yes, yes, satisfies. 00:17:07.19\00:17:11.94 And, that's the great principle. 00:17:11.97\00:17:13.39 Yes. Now, Paul really 00:17:13.42\00:17:14.39 parallels Jesus, because he ends 00:17:14.42\00:17:17.03 this by saying, if you just go on 00:17:17.06\00:17:18.67 blatantly doing this disregarding. 00:17:18.70\00:17:20.82 Right. The community of faith, 00:17:20.85\00:17:22.46 behaving in a way the community of faith 00:17:22.49\00:17:24.67 says we are not to behave. 00:17:24.70\00:17:26.49 Right. Then he says 00:17:26.52\00:17:28.39 very strongly, you sinned 00:17:28.42\00:17:31.03 against Christ, now that's strong. 00:17:31.06\00:17:34.35 Yes. This is strong. 00:17:34.38\00:17:35.70 We need to, we need to recognize, 00:17:35.73\00:17:37.74 what we are really doing, how serious it is, 00:17:37.77\00:17:39.91 both in the church and in the family, 00:17:39.94\00:17:41.82 if we are sinning against Christ 00:17:41.85\00:17:43.49 when we do this. That's right. 00:17:43.52\00:17:44.66 That needs to have meaning to us. 00:17:44.69\00:17:46.74 That's right. Well, you know, 00:17:46.77\00:17:48.74 is anything more precious than our families, 00:17:48.77\00:17:52.29 our husbands and wives to one another, 00:17:52.32\00:17:55.94 children in the family. What is more 00:17:55.97\00:17:58.98 precious than that, I mean you and I 00:17:59.01\00:18:01.45 would give everything we have in the world 00:18:01.48\00:18:03.10 to save our children, our husband, our wife. 00:18:03.13\00:18:06.89 God loves his church that way. 00:18:06.92\00:18:11.70 Yes. And, we just cannot 00:18:11.73\00:18:13.18 live as you have said it so nicely with this 00:18:13.21\00:18:17.24 independent attitude. Yes. Because 00:18:17.27\00:18:19.73 we were talking a moment ago. 00:18:19.76\00:18:20.73 Now just to go in a little explanation 00:18:20.74\00:18:22.51 about that, we were talking about 00:18:22.54\00:18:23.69 we don't need to become so independent and even 00:18:23.72\00:18:27.14 in the family or the church, 00:18:27.17\00:18:28.31 we need to be interdependent. 00:18:28.34\00:18:30.05 And, that way we have accountability, 00:18:30.08\00:18:33.75 we have a recognized love toward one another 00:18:33.78\00:18:37.80 in a relationship. That's right. 00:18:37.83\00:18:39.17 Let's go back to the text, 00:18:39.20\00:18:41.52 the scripture here and just watch this 00:18:41.55\00:18:42.95 theme as it, as it unfolds 00:18:42.98\00:18:45.37 and we are going to the Book of Revelation 00:18:45.40\00:18:47.21 here with, with John 00:18:47.24\00:18:49.15 and this is what he has to say, 00:18:49.18\00:18:51.40 actually this is Jesus speaking, 00:18:51.43\00:18:52.82 this is a red letter in most editions 00:18:52.85\00:18:54.96 and here is what has to say. 00:18:54.99\00:18:56.44 "But I have a few things against you, 00:18:56.47\00:18:59.25 because you have some there, 00:18:59.28\00:19:01.09 who hold to the teaching of Balaam, 00:19:01.12\00:19:02.91 who kept teaching Balak to put a stumbling block 00:19:02.94\00:19:07.25 before the sons of Israel, 00:19:07.28\00:19:08.63 to eat things sacrificed to idols, 00:19:08.66\00:19:11.10 there it is again see, and to commit acts 00:19:11.13\00:19:14.03 of immorality. But I have this 00:19:14.06\00:19:16.01 against you, that you tolerate 00:19:16.04\00:19:18.10 the women, Jezebel, who calls herself 00:19:18.13\00:19:20.24 a prophetess, and she leads my 00:19:20.27\00:19:21.95 bond-servants astray, that's like the 00:19:21.98\00:19:24.04 sheep going astray, you see. 00:19:24.07\00:19:25.59 So, they commit acts of immortality and eat 00:19:25.62\00:19:29.51 things offered to idols. So, this, this thing 00:19:29.54\00:19:32.92 even Jesus himself, now many years after 00:19:32.95\00:19:35.08 Paul was dead and John is the last living apostle, 00:19:35.11\00:19:38.20 he ties this thing to a stumbling block. 00:19:38.23\00:19:41.29 Why? Because the church has agreed on it, 00:19:41.32\00:19:42.98 to influence the Holy Spirit. 00:19:43.01\00:19:44.48 I think the scripture is very clear here 00:19:44.51\00:19:47.72 that when the family has things 00:19:47.75\00:19:51.22 they know they have agreed on 00:19:51.25\00:19:52.95 that they shouldn't do, the church 00:19:52.98\00:19:54.33 has things they know, they've agreed on, 00:19:54.36\00:19:55.85 under the inspiration of Holy Spirit 00:19:55.88\00:19:57.47 they shouldn't do. Right. 00:19:57.50\00:19:58.55 Then to openly violate that 00:19:58.58\00:20:00.24 or arrogantly violate that tears down, 00:20:00.27\00:20:02.91 it doesn't build up and we could be come 00:20:02.94\00:20:04.42 a stumbling block, so it comes back 00:20:04.45\00:20:05.86 to being submissive and interdependent 00:20:05.89\00:20:08.25 upon one another. Right, right, 00:20:08.28\00:20:10.11 you like that don't you? I do, I like it a lot 00:20:10.14\00:20:12.28 as a matter of fact. Okay. 00:20:12.31\00:20:14.29 Well, I guess we ought to ask a question, 00:20:14.32\00:20:18.79 what happens in a home Kathy, 00:20:18.82\00:20:20.49 when parents, when parents 00:20:20.52\00:20:24.11 do not uphold lifestyle issues that are voted 00:20:24.14\00:20:27.81 by the larger church family. 00:20:27.84\00:20:29.16 Right. Where can we go with that, 00:20:29.19\00:20:31.37 what can we do with it. Yeah. 00:20:31.40\00:20:33.10 You have some practical steps, 00:20:33.13\00:20:36.31 don't you? Yes, and I, and I will 00:20:36.34\00:20:39.04 come to that in just a moment, 00:20:39.07\00:20:40.04 but I wanna come back to this, 00:20:40.05\00:20:41.36 this thing about the home again perhaps 00:20:41.39\00:20:44.09 when the best things you know, 00:20:44.12\00:20:45.41 good religion is not merely taught it's caught. 00:20:45.44\00:20:47.74 Yes, yes. And, and we need 00:20:47.77\00:20:50.56 to be able to live the right life 00:20:50.59\00:20:52.48 in front of our kids. If we are telling our kids 00:20:52.51\00:20:55.09 they need to go to church, but we don't go 00:20:55.12\00:20:56.82 ourselves for instance. That's right. 00:20:56.85\00:20:58.60 Or we are telling kids they are not to watch 00:20:58.63\00:21:00.26 certain stuff on television 00:21:00.29\00:21:01.41 and we are there watching it ourselves. 00:21:01.44\00:21:03.51 Yes. Or we're looking at 00:21:03.54\00:21:04.51 movies and we know our kids ought not, 00:21:04.52\00:21:06.39 and we are saying we're adults we can 00:21:06.42\00:21:07.87 handle those things. Right, or listening 00:21:07.90\00:21:09.75 to music that's inappropriate. 00:21:09.78\00:21:11.44 Or listening to music. But rather your children 00:21:11.47\00:21:12.74 not develop for. Well said. 00:21:12.77\00:21:15.43 Then we stand a chance of becoming 00:21:15.46\00:21:18.67 a stumbling block for our own children. 00:21:18.70\00:21:20.08 Yes. Because we are unwilling 00:21:20.11\00:21:21.24 to discipline ourselves. In fact Paul 00:21:21.27\00:21:24.34 would say even if, even if I don't think 00:21:24.37\00:21:27.46 it's a harm to me as an adult 00:21:27.49\00:21:30.40 maybe it's okay to me, 00:21:30.43\00:21:31.78 I have think even about my children. 00:21:31.81\00:21:33.10 Right. In the home. 00:21:33.13\00:21:34.17 Right. And, that's true in the 00:21:34.20\00:21:35.59 church family as well, it's being unselfish 00:21:35.62\00:21:37.98 is to discipline myself when I really 00:21:38.01\00:21:40.41 don't have to, because I love somebody. 00:21:40.44\00:21:43.36 And so many times we hang on to that, 00:21:43.39\00:21:45.41 well if it's, if it's alright I can 00:21:45.44\00:21:46.92 go ahead and do it. Yeah. 00:21:46.95\00:21:48.35 But we don't really care about that other person. 00:21:48.38\00:21:52.34 Right. And I suppose 00:21:52.37\00:21:55.01 our selfish nature plays such a part in that. 00:21:55.04\00:21:57.58 Yes. Because it could 00:21:57.61\00:21:59.16 be acceptable to me. Right. 00:21:59.19\00:22:00.80 Even to Paul. Right. 00:22:00.83\00:22:03.46 I ought to have the right to go ahead and do it. 00:22:03.49\00:22:06.02 That's right. And, we, like you said, 00:22:06.05\00:22:08.80 you missed the point, you are responsible 00:22:08.83\00:22:11.52 to someone else. That's right. 00:22:11.55\00:22:12.80 Well, lets go back to some practical steps 00:22:12.83\00:22:15.06 now that a church family should be taking 00:22:15.09\00:22:17.21 in order to produce a good nursery. 00:22:17.24\00:22:19.61 Okay. To prevent people 00:22:19.64\00:22:21.39 from going astray. Alright. 00:22:21.42\00:22:22.58 So to speak, first of all 00:22:22.61\00:22:24.82 there should be good biblical 00:22:24.85\00:22:26.33 preaching on Christ, our righteousness, 00:22:26.36\00:22:30.27 on lifestyle and sanctification, 00:22:30.30\00:22:32.22 as well as justification. You mean 00:22:32.25\00:22:34.15 we should hear this. We need to be hearing 00:22:34.18\00:22:36.60 that from the pulpit, in other words. 00:22:36.63\00:22:38.60 By the way there is a very fascinating 00:22:38.63\00:22:40.28 illustration that in certain areas, 00:22:40.31\00:22:42.38 in certain inter city areas. 00:22:42.41\00:22:45.57 Yes. Actually drugs 00:22:45.60\00:22:46.68 are going down because Africa 00:22:46.71\00:22:49.48 and American preachers have taken 00:22:49.51\00:22:51.05 to their pulpits on a rally against drugs 00:22:51.08\00:22:54.20 and they're actually having a tremendous, 00:22:54.23\00:22:55.62 young people do listen to preachers 00:22:55.65\00:22:57.51 and so do adults. Even though we sometimes 00:22:57.54\00:23:00.14 laugh and smile where they don't, 00:23:00.17\00:23:01.40 but they do and actually drug use went down 00:23:01.43\00:23:03.62 when these wonderful ministers 00:23:03.65\00:23:06.06 took their pulpits. Right. 00:23:06.09\00:23:07.40 So, I also believe that loves needs 00:23:07.43\00:23:09.13 a delivery truck, which means that 00:23:09.16\00:23:10.64 you can't just believe this will kind of happen, 00:23:10.67\00:23:13.07 you have to organize and the spiritual leaders 00:23:13.10\00:23:15.14 of the church are the elders. Yes. 00:23:15.17\00:23:17.29 And, they must be organized. 00:23:17.32\00:23:18.54 Now, what we would do is that we would 00:23:18.57\00:23:21.06 give every elder ten families 00:23:21.09\00:23:23.84 in our church and we would say. 00:23:23.87\00:23:25.08 Right. You are, you're their 00:23:25.11\00:23:26.45 spiritual leader, you watch 00:23:26.48\00:23:28.03 over them and. Would you have 00:23:28.06\00:23:30.25 as many elders then if you did this, 00:23:30.28\00:23:31.90 it might not decline eldership, 00:23:31.93\00:23:34.29 may be if they don't want ten families 00:23:34.32\00:23:35.91 to take care of? Well, it says that 00:23:35.94\00:23:38.06 being an elder is much more being on the platform 00:23:38.09\00:23:40.95 of Sabbath morning. Yes, yes. 00:23:40.98\00:23:42.42 So to speak. We would meet 00:23:42.45\00:23:44.51 in our elders meeting, our elders meetings 00:23:44.54\00:23:45.96 are not build of leaky roof and all that, 00:23:45.99\00:23:47.65 are the financial matters of the church. Yes. 00:23:47.68\00:23:49.14 What our elders did, was they spent that 00:23:49.17\00:23:51.07 time in prayer and they spend that time 00:23:51.10\00:23:53.64 going over their church family, 00:23:53.67\00:23:54.89 saying is you know, how, how members are doing 00:23:54.92\00:23:57.61 spiritually and we would held each 00:23:57.64\00:23:59.22 other accountable, how are we 00:23:59.25\00:24:00.26 doing spiritually. And if they saw 00:24:00.29\00:24:02.86 someone begin to astray they would put together 00:24:02.89\00:24:05.58 a plan of rescue. Yes. And, I never will forget, 00:24:05.61\00:24:09.97 I had a group of elders, we had a real 00:24:10.00\00:24:11.57 tragic situation where a young person 00:24:11.60\00:24:14.20 fell in perversion. Yes. And, how do you 00:24:14.23\00:24:17.75 respond to that, how do you help 00:24:17.78\00:24:20.35 pull that person out of that. Right. 00:24:20.38\00:24:22.52 Those elders, they got down their knees, 00:24:22.55\00:24:24.28 but after they got off of their knees 00:24:24.31\00:24:25.83 they went to work and I watched those elder 00:24:25.86\00:24:27.91 raise a sizable sum of money among 00:24:27.94\00:24:30.17 themselves to send this individual 00:24:30.20\00:24:32.24 to a place to get special help. Wow! 00:24:32.27\00:24:34.52 They put him on probation for a year and worked 00:24:34.55\00:24:37.43 with him etc. and each one would pray 00:24:37.46\00:24:39.64 with this individual until this individual 00:24:39.67\00:24:41.26 was restore back to the church family. 00:24:41.29\00:24:43.44 Right. So, they developed 00:24:43.47\00:24:44.98 plans of rescue. That's the way 00:24:45.01\00:24:47.73 a father should do it in the home, 00:24:47.76\00:24:49.50 developing, purposely developing plans 00:24:49.53\00:24:52.95 of rescue for the child. 00:24:52.98\00:24:54.23 That's right. And there is 00:24:54.26\00:24:55.23 family members, thinking it. 00:24:55.24\00:24:56.61 That's right, he's gotta be 00:24:56.64\00:24:58.02 a spiritual leader in the home. Yes. 00:24:58.05\00:24:59.54 The elders have got be spiritual leaders. 00:24:59.57\00:25:01.03 Another thing that elders had to do is we must, 00:25:01.06\00:25:04.28 we must on Sabbath morning, 00:25:04.31\00:25:06.37 let me, let me go back to that organization there, 00:25:06.40\00:25:08.41 no Pastor can get around to everybody 00:25:08.44\00:25:10.29 and people need, people need three things 00:25:10.32\00:25:13.46 in order to feel loved, people, people don't, 00:25:13.49\00:25:17.54 people sometimes know they are loved, 00:25:17.57\00:25:19.70 but they need to feel love and our kids are same way 00:25:19.73\00:25:22.63 by the way. Absolutely. And, the three things 00:25:22.66\00:25:24.74 they need and no one minister can give it 00:25:24.77\00:25:27.84 to all the church members. Right. 00:25:27.87\00:25:29.42 On Sabbath morning. So, those three things 00:25:29.45\00:25:32.47 are first of all they need eye contact. 00:25:32.50\00:25:36.89 They do. Oh! Yes, I love that. 00:25:36.92\00:25:39.22 Eye contact tells me that I'm cared about. 00:25:39.25\00:25:43.17 So you know, on Sabbath morning 00:25:43.20\00:25:45.59 the elders should be right there 00:25:45.62\00:25:46.78 on the foyer greeting the members of the church 00:25:46.81\00:25:48.73 and he should be making going around 00:25:48.76\00:25:50.34 to the young people, to the members 00:25:50.37\00:25:51.67 of his group at least making sure they get 00:25:51.70\00:25:53.74 some eye contact. Right. I think they need 00:25:53.77\00:25:55.79 appropriate touch, underline the 00:25:55.82\00:25:57.07 word appropriate. I understand that. 00:25:57.10\00:25:58.44 And, a good hand shake, a warm hand shake, 00:25:58.47\00:26:01.54 a pat, in certain circumstances an arm 00:26:01.57\00:26:04.63 around somebody perhaps or whatever 00:26:04.66\00:26:06.58 fits the culture of that particular church family. 00:26:06.61\00:26:09.46 No doubt for too many warm fuzzies. 00:26:09.49\00:26:11.69 Yeah, it needs to be appropriate 00:26:11.72\00:26:13.14 and I'll say that again. Yes. 00:26:13.17\00:26:14.14 A appropriate, appropriate contact, 00:26:14.15\00:26:17.67 physical contact. Right. And, the third one 00:26:17.70\00:26:20.56 is the hardest one and that's really 00:26:20.59\00:26:22.25 why you need the elders, because they need 00:26:22.28\00:26:24.57 to be able to give focused attention 00:26:24.60\00:26:26.80 to each individual, you cannot do 00:26:26.83\00:26:28.62 that as a Pastor running around, 00:26:28.65\00:26:30.53 focused attention says to greet you on 00:26:30.56\00:26:32.81 Sabbath morning and it says to you Kathy, 00:26:32.84\00:26:37.12 it's so good to see you, I remember last week 00:26:37.15\00:26:39.93 your mother was ill and I have been praying 00:26:39.96\00:26:42.49 for her this week. Oh! Yes. 00:26:42.52\00:26:44.39 How is she doing? You see what I am saying. 00:26:44.42\00:26:45.94 Oh! It makes a difference. 00:26:45.97\00:26:46.94 Rather than coming up to you and say Kathy, 00:26:46.97\00:26:48.80 it's so nice to see today, 00:26:48.83\00:26:49.80 I hope everything is going great 00:26:49.81\00:26:50.91 and then on your way. That's right. 00:26:50.94\00:26:52.49 Focused attention means that you got to put time, 00:26:52.52\00:26:54.67 invest time in that, that individual 00:26:54.70\00:26:56.87 and young people in particularly need that. 00:26:56.90\00:27:01.06 And, I can see that there is a, there is a, 00:27:01.09\00:27:04.39 it's really a real seriousness in the home, 00:27:04.42\00:27:06.68 a real seriousness in the church, 00:27:06.71\00:27:08.71 a joy of being a member, either of the house 00:27:08.74\00:27:11.32 of faith or in the home. A true love 00:27:11.35\00:27:14.46 for the family, as well as in the church 00:27:14.49\00:27:16.64 and a strong desire not to shame the family 00:27:16.67\00:27:20.09 or their church or to disgrace them. 00:27:20.12\00:27:22.72 That's right. That's nicely said. 00:27:22.75\00:27:25.60 So just to cap off here to prevent the 00:27:25.63\00:27:30.24 members need to be converted 00:27:30.27\00:27:31.57 and love the Lord with all their heart 00:27:31.60\00:27:33.25 and to love each other. They got to be careful 00:27:33.28\00:27:36.06 not to be stumbling blocks, 00:27:36.09\00:27:37.06 to live up to what they profess to believe 00:27:37.07\00:27:39.03 and then the elders need to be organized 00:27:39.06\00:27:42.19 to bless them, so that's kind 00:27:42.22\00:27:44.25 of the cap Kathy. Thank you very much 00:27:44.28\00:27:46.12 and I want to thank you for joining us 00:27:46.15\00:27:48.53 and I am sure that you will be blessed 00:27:48.56\00:27:49.84 by what you heard today, I have been. 00:27:49.87\00:27:52.20 And I appreciate that you've joined us, 00:27:52.23\00:27:55.61 join us again on Thinking About Home. 00:27:55.64\00:27:57.77