Welcome again, my friends, to Secrets to Wellness. 00:00:21.72\00:00:26.09 And when you put these secrets into practice, 00:00:26.12\00:00:29.56 you can live longer, healthier and happier. 00:00:29.59\00:00:32.53 So I hope that you've been incorporating them 00:00:32.56\00:00:34.93 into your lifestyle and at least getting eight, 00:00:34.96\00:00:39.03 eight ounce glasses of water a day, 00:00:39.07\00:00:41.84 and then walking 30 minutes for five times a week, 00:00:41.87\00:00:46.21 and you will truly feel better, and live longer, 00:00:46.24\00:00:50.91 and be happier. 00:00:50.95\00:00:52.28 And so, we've discussed 00:00:52.31\00:00:53.95 our secrets of water and exercise, 00:00:53.98\00:00:58.05 and now we're going to our third one which is love. 00:00:58.09\00:01:02.66 And loving relationships 00:01:02.69\00:01:04.33 are part of a healthy lifestyle, 00:01:04.36\00:01:07.86 and so we need to incorporate love 00:01:07.93\00:01:10.63 in order to really be healthy 00:01:10.67\00:01:13.44 and have the physical, the mental, 00:01:13.50\00:01:15.44 and the spiritual all combined. 00:01:15.47\00:01:17.97 So first question is, what is love? 00:01:18.01\00:01:21.38 Well, the dictionary puts it this way, 00:01:21.41\00:01:24.55 "Love is a profoundly tender, 00:01:24.58\00:01:27.28 passionate affection for another person, 00:01:27.32\00:01:30.29 a feeling of warm personal attachment 00:01:30.35\00:01:32.85 or deep affection, 00:01:32.89\00:01:34.42 as for a parent, a child, or a friend." 00:01:34.46\00:01:37.79 So it's a lot of a tender love toward another person. 00:01:37.83\00:01:42.86 It could also be put this way 00:01:42.90\00:01:45.07 that love is a commitment to always unselfishly seek 00:01:45.10\00:01:50.27 the very best for others. 00:01:50.34\00:01:52.77 And that's what love does, 00:01:52.81\00:01:54.24 that's what unconditional love does, 00:01:54.28\00:01:56.68 it seeks the very best for someone else. 00:01:56.71\00:02:00.45 And so it's a choice, it's a choice, my friends, 00:02:00.52\00:02:04.09 to treat them with kindness, 00:02:04.12\00:02:06.52 respect and graciousness 00:02:06.55\00:02:08.36 in spite of their attitudes toward us. 00:02:08.39\00:02:11.23 So when others don't treat us very well, 00:02:11.26\00:02:13.83 we can still take the high road and treat them with tender, 00:02:13.90\00:02:17.90 compassionate, unconditional love, 00:02:17.93\00:02:21.00 because love is a continual choice 00:02:21.04\00:02:23.97 to treat others in the way 00:02:24.01\00:02:25.87 that we would like to be treated. 00:02:25.91\00:02:28.04 In fact, we are told, "Do unto others 00:02:28.08\00:02:30.65 as you would have others do unto you." 00:02:30.71\00:02:33.38 So we want to always make that continual choice 00:02:33.42\00:02:37.35 to treat others like we would like to be treated. 00:02:37.39\00:02:40.76 And love considers the needs of others before our own needs, 00:02:40.82\00:02:45.39 and that often happens in the life of a mother. 00:02:45.43\00:02:48.80 Now, I'm a mother of three children 00:02:48.83\00:02:50.60 and five grandchildren, 00:02:50.63\00:02:52.10 and I know that you have to put their needs 00:02:52.13\00:02:55.54 before your own needs. 00:02:55.57\00:02:57.34 And so we can actually think about what are their needs, 00:02:57.37\00:03:01.64 their need for not only care and love, 00:03:01.68\00:03:04.31 but we have to feed them, we have to bathe them, 00:03:04.35\00:03:07.68 we have to do all these things 00:03:07.72\00:03:09.82 that help them to grow and flourish. 00:03:09.85\00:03:15.32 And although positive feelings 00:03:15.36\00:03:17.16 certainly are one aspect of love, 00:03:17.23\00:03:19.46 true love is not dependent on our feelings. 00:03:19.49\00:03:22.93 It's not whether we're feeling good one day, 00:03:22.96\00:03:25.30 my friends, or feeling good another day, 00:03:25.33\00:03:28.04 and then we're up and down. 00:03:28.07\00:03:30.01 Our feelings... 00:03:30.07\00:03:32.04 We're not to go by our feelings in the way 00:03:32.07\00:03:35.14 that we treat other people. 00:03:35.18\00:03:37.78 Dean Ornish, 00:03:37.81\00:03:39.15 medical doctor, founder, and president 00:03:39.18\00:03:41.38 of the Preventive Medicine Institute 00:03:41.42\00:03:43.89 in Sausalito, California, stated it this way, 00:03:43.95\00:03:48.19 "Love and intimacy are at a root 00:03:48.22\00:03:51.06 of what makes us sick and what makes us well, 00:03:51.09\00:03:54.56 what causes sadness and what brings happiness, 00:03:54.60\00:03:57.90 what makes us suffer and what leads to healing. 00:03:57.93\00:04:01.37 If a new drug had the same impact virtually 00:04:01.40\00:04:04.71 every doctor in the country 00:04:04.74\00:04:06.91 would be recommending it for their patients." 00:04:06.98\00:04:10.85 And so what Dr. Ornish is saying 00:04:10.88\00:04:14.32 is that love and intimacy 00:04:14.35\00:04:16.89 are so connected to our health, 00:04:16.92\00:04:19.82 whether we're sad or whether we're happy 00:04:19.85\00:04:22.69 that if there were a drug, if there was a medication 00:04:22.72\00:04:26.80 or a pill that we could give someone, 00:04:26.83\00:04:29.20 we would actually have everybody recommending it. 00:04:29.23\00:04:33.30 And then he goes on to say, 00:04:33.34\00:04:35.20 "It would be malpractice not to prescribe it, 00:04:35.24\00:04:38.57 yet, with very few exceptions, we doctors with few exceptions, 00:04:38.61\00:04:43.55 we doctors do not learn much 00:04:43.61\00:04:45.45 about the healing power of love, intimacy, 00:04:45.48\00:04:48.32 and transformation in our medical training." 00:04:48.35\00:04:51.79 And so Dr. Ornish says, 00:04:51.82\00:04:53.62 "It would actually be malpractice 00:04:53.66\00:04:55.42 if we didn't prescribed this, 00:04:55.46\00:04:57.73 if we knew there was a medication 00:04:57.76\00:04:59.79 for love and intimacy, that's how important it is, 00:04:59.83\00:05:03.97 and how much it is connected to our health. 00:05:04.00\00:05:07.44 You see, love has unusual healing power. 00:05:07.47\00:05:11.94 And studies, new documented scientific studies are proving 00:05:11.97\00:05:16.75 the fact that love heals. 00:05:16.78\00:05:19.78 ABC News, May 21, 2015 reported 00:05:19.81\00:05:24.09 that medical research indicates 00:05:24.12\00:05:26.52 that loving relationships help to reduce blood pressure 00:05:26.55\00:05:30.96 and the risk of coronary heart disease. 00:05:30.99\00:05:33.80 Amazing, my friends, 00:05:33.83\00:05:35.40 the very chronic diseases that we've been talking about 00:05:35.43\00:05:39.43 that are so plaguing our world today, 00:05:39.47\00:05:42.04 actually research shows that loving relationships can 00:05:42.07\00:05:46.27 actually reduce those diseases. 00:05:46.31\00:05:49.84 I want to have that love in my heart, don't you? 00:05:49.88\00:05:53.78 The healing properties of love transform physical 00:05:53.82\00:05:58.79 as well as emotional health. 00:05:58.82\00:06:03.29 And so, these are healing properties of love, 00:06:03.32\00:06:07.83 my friends. 00:06:07.86\00:06:09.16 Seventy five years 00:06:09.20\00:06:10.57 in the making Harvard University 00:06:10.60\00:06:13.13 just released its epic study on what men need 00:06:13.17\00:06:17.11 to live a happy life. 00:06:17.14\00:06:19.31 In 1938, this study started in 1938, 00:06:19.34\00:06:23.75 Harvard University began 00:06:23.78\00:06:25.98 a Grant Study of adult development 00:06:26.01\00:06:28.28 with 268 men charted over 75 years 00:06:28.32\00:06:33.19 starting with undergraduate days 00:06:33.22\00:06:35.22 and following them into their 90's. 00:06:35.26\00:06:38.66 So they started this study while they were in college 00:06:38.69\00:06:42.36 and followed them all the way through their 90's 00:06:42.40\00:06:45.30 when it took 75 years. 00:06:45.33\00:06:48.70 And in Triumphs of Experience, George Valiant, 00:06:48.74\00:06:51.91 the studies' director, 00:06:51.94\00:06:53.84 raises a number of factors more often than others, 00:06:53.88\00:06:57.11 but the one he refers to the most is this, 00:06:57.15\00:07:01.28 the powerful correlation between 00:07:01.32\00:07:04.22 the warmth of your relationships 00:07:04.25\00:07:06.32 and your health and happiness in later years. 00:07:06.35\00:07:10.26 So your health and happiness 00:07:10.29\00:07:12.19 in later years is directly connected 00:07:12.23\00:07:15.23 to the warmth of your relationships. 00:07:15.26\00:07:17.27 In other words, when you have good relationships 00:07:17.30\00:07:20.54 with your children 00:07:20.57\00:07:21.90 or your grandchildren when they're young, 00:07:21.94\00:07:24.31 and then when you get older, 00:07:24.34\00:07:26.41 this is directly related to how you have health 00:07:26.44\00:07:30.68 in your latter days. 00:07:30.75\00:07:32.11 And so, the number one, 00:07:32.15\00:07:34.52 most important finding from the Grant Study is this: 00:07:34.55\00:07:37.85 The 75 years and $20 million expended 00:07:37.89\00:07:41.96 on the Grant Study points 00:07:41.99\00:07:43.83 to a straightforward five-word conclusion. 00:07:43.86\00:07:47.83 So it took, my friends, 00:07:47.86\00:07:49.80 75 years and $20 million to do 00:07:49.83\00:07:54.10 this study to find out five simple words. 00:07:54.14\00:07:58.61 I want to know what those are, don't you? 00:07:58.64\00:08:00.91 Five simple words and it's this, 00:08:00.94\00:08:03.38 "Happiness is love." 00:08:03.41\00:08:06.85 End of story. 00:08:06.88\00:08:08.35 Happiness is love and love is happiness. 00:08:08.38\00:08:12.89 In other words, that's the end of the story. 00:08:12.92\00:08:15.69 We are happy when we love 00:08:15.72\00:08:18.46 and love brings happiness. 00:08:18.49\00:08:22.33 And so love nurtured 00:08:22.36\00:08:24.07 in the context of positive relationships 00:08:24.10\00:08:27.64 makes a difference in our physical, 00:08:27.67\00:08:30.11 in our mental, our emotional, 00:08:30.14\00:08:32.21 and our spiritual health. 00:08:32.24\00:08:36.08 So let's look at some health principles, 00:08:36.11\00:08:38.38 some simple health principles. 00:08:38.41\00:08:40.85 One is, if you want to be healthy, 00:08:40.92\00:08:43.49 invest in developing healthy relationships. 00:08:43.52\00:08:47.16 Healthy relationships actually help 00:08:47.19\00:08:50.53 our physical health, 00:08:50.56\00:08:52.33 and then relationships developed 00:08:52.36\00:08:54.36 in the context of a loving church environment 00:08:54.36\00:08:57.33 reduce the risk of mortality 00:08:57.37\00:08:59.83 and actually increase life's happiness. 00:08:59.87\00:09:03.04 And so, those people that go to church, 00:09:03.07\00:09:06.24 those people that have a loving church environment 00:09:06.27\00:09:11.65 actually have been known 00:09:11.68\00:09:13.31 to have greater health than those 00:09:13.35\00:09:15.88 who do not attend church. 00:09:15.92\00:09:18.02 So let's take a look at that. 00:09:18.05\00:09:19.75 A ten-year study by the Center for Aging Studies 00:09:19.79\00:09:23.46 at Flinders University 00:09:23.49\00:09:25.29 in Australia revealed that those 00:09:25.33\00:09:29.16 who have a "network of friends" 00:09:29.20\00:09:31.23 live 22% longer than those 00:09:31.27\00:09:35.50 who had few friends. 00:09:35.54\00:09:37.44 So that's why it's so important, my friends, 00:09:37.51\00:09:40.38 for you to have some very good friends, 00:09:40.41\00:09:42.61 because those relationships 00:09:42.64\00:09:45.01 actually make a difference in our physical health. 00:09:45.05\00:09:48.62 And so we want to develop those friendships, 00:09:48.65\00:09:50.89 so we can actually live 22% longer 00:09:50.92\00:09:54.59 if we have a network of friends. 00:09:54.62\00:09:56.49 So good friends, my friends, are good for your health. 00:09:56.52\00:10:01.36 The fewer your friends, 00:10:01.40\00:10:03.16 the more you internalize your problems, 00:10:03.20\00:10:05.27 and the more your health will suffer. 00:10:05.30\00:10:07.60 So there are times 00:10:07.64\00:10:08.97 when you need to confide in your friends, 00:10:09.00\00:10:12.01 and your best friend, maybe your spouse, 00:10:12.04\00:10:14.28 your best friend, maybe your children, 00:10:14.31\00:10:16.41 or your parents, or brother, or sister, 00:10:16.44\00:10:19.58 or someone else in the family, 00:10:19.61\00:10:21.55 or it may be someone that's your neighbor, 00:10:21.58\00:10:25.15 or a church member, but develop those friendships 00:10:25.19\00:10:28.32 because they are crucial for good health. 00:10:28.36\00:10:32.06 In fact, Jesus says in John 15:12, 00:10:32.09\00:10:37.00 "This is My commandment that you love one another 00:10:37.03\00:10:40.67 as I have loved you." 00:10:40.70\00:10:43.00 Jesus says, "I love you so much. 00:10:43.04\00:10:46.04 I died for you. I love you, I care for you. 00:10:46.07\00:10:49.54 And I want you to love others as I have loved you." 00:10:49.58\00:10:54.75 So let's look at some tips for building those love, 00:10:54.78\00:10:58.15 loving relationships. 00:10:58.19\00:10:59.75 We need to build those relationships, correct? 00:10:59.79\00:11:02.52 So let's take a look at them. 00:11:02.56\00:11:04.89 Well, the first one is to make time 00:11:04.93\00:11:08.06 for relationships. 00:11:08.10\00:11:10.03 We need to take time to build relationships 00:11:10.07\00:11:13.54 and relationships do take time, my friends. 00:11:13.60\00:11:16.87 I think of an experience that I had 00:11:16.91\00:11:18.77 when my son was only in the fifth grade, 00:11:18.81\00:11:22.18 and I was actually working on a seminar on priorities. 00:11:22.21\00:11:26.55 And my son was going on a camping trip, 00:11:26.58\00:11:31.29 and I thought, well, I'll get a lot done, 00:11:31.32\00:11:33.82 he's going to have a wonderful time, 00:11:33.86\00:11:35.69 he loves the outdoors, he loves nature, 00:11:35.72\00:11:38.26 he's going with his friends, 00:11:38.29\00:11:39.86 he's going to have a great time. 00:11:39.89\00:11:41.83 And he'll be tired 00:11:41.86\00:11:43.20 when he gets back so I can probably, 00:11:43.23\00:11:45.13 if I don't finish work on it again. 00:11:45.17\00:11:47.67 And so, the time passed 00:11:47.70\00:11:49.50 and soon my son was back at home, 00:11:49.54\00:11:53.41 and when he got home, 00:11:53.44\00:11:54.78 he started telling me about his wonderful trip 00:11:54.81\00:11:57.38 and then he said, mom, I would like you to go with me 00:11:57.41\00:12:01.05 around the lake with my dog. 00:12:01.08\00:12:03.82 Now, it takes about an hour to go around that lake. 00:12:03.89\00:12:07.06 We go up through the apple orchard 00:12:07.09\00:12:09.22 and around the lake and he said, 00:12:09.26\00:12:11.89 "Let's bring a ball and we can skip, and run, 00:12:11.93\00:12:14.56 and play, and throw the ball to the dog." 00:12:14.60\00:12:18.17 And I said, "Mark, are you sure, 00:12:18.20\00:12:19.67 aren't you tired?" 00:12:19.70\00:12:21.24 You've just come back from this trip. 00:12:21.27\00:12:23.57 He said, "No, Mom, I really want to go." 00:12:23.61\00:12:26.51 And so I said, "Okay," 00:12:26.54\00:12:27.88 because I knew 00:12:27.91\00:12:29.24 that this was another time to build 00:12:29.28\00:12:31.75 that solid relationship. 00:12:31.78\00:12:33.15 So I said, "Okay, let's get ready and go," 00:12:33.18\00:12:35.75 and so we did, and we got the dog, 00:12:35.78\00:12:38.09 and we started out, 00:12:38.12\00:12:39.45 and we were playing and running and throwing the ball, 00:12:39.49\00:12:42.29 and having a wonderful time. 00:12:42.32\00:12:43.83 And it took about an hour, and soon we got home. 00:12:43.89\00:12:46.96 And I thought, 00:12:47.00\00:12:48.30 "Well, he's surely going to be tired now 00:12:48.33\00:12:49.86 and I haven't finished my seminar" 00:12:49.90\00:12:52.23 although I loved the experience with him 00:12:52.27\00:12:55.10 and it was a wonderful time to build relationships. 00:12:55.14\00:12:57.97 When we got home, he said, "Mom, that was great, 00:12:58.01\00:13:03.21 but my friends are going swimming, 00:13:03.24\00:13:05.08 can you bring me to the pool?" 00:13:05.11\00:13:07.22 And he is... 00:13:07.25\00:13:08.58 And I said, "Mark, are you sure 00:13:08.62\00:13:10.39 that you want to go to the swimming pool. 00:13:10.42\00:13:12.02 Aren't you tired?" 00:13:12.05\00:13:13.56 "No, Mom, please bring me to the pool, 00:13:13.59\00:13:16.42 take me to the pool." 00:13:16.46\00:13:17.79 And so, I said, "Okay," 00:13:17.83\00:13:20.30 and we got in the car and, my friends, 00:13:20.33\00:13:23.26 he said something very significant 00:13:23.33\00:13:25.73 and it made me realize 00:13:25.77\00:13:27.10 how important these relationships really are. 00:13:27.14\00:13:30.27 We got in the car, 00:13:30.31\00:13:31.67 he was silent at first and then he said, 00:13:31.71\00:13:35.38 "Mom, you're a great mom." 00:13:35.41\00:13:38.81 And I thought, "What did he just say." 00:13:38.85\00:13:41.88 And I said, "Well, Mark, what do you mean? 00:13:41.92\00:13:44.29 What's a great mom?" 00:13:44.32\00:13:45.79 And he said something very significant 00:13:45.82\00:13:48.82 for a fifth grader, he said, 00:13:48.86\00:13:50.59 "A great mom is one who will take time 00:13:50.63\00:13:53.19 to build a relationship with his son. 00:13:53.23\00:13:55.76 And thank you so much 00:13:55.80\00:13:57.20 for taking me and my dog around there 00:13:57.23\00:13:59.53 and now you are going to take me to the pool. 00:13:59.57\00:14:02.30 Thank you so much." 00:14:02.34\00:14:03.71 And I thought after, 00:14:03.74\00:14:05.94 that seminar on priorities didn't matter to me anymore, 00:14:05.97\00:14:10.35 what mattered most 00:14:10.38\00:14:11.71 was that I had build a relationship, 00:14:11.75\00:14:13.52 and I can tell you to this day 00:14:13.55\00:14:16.79 we have a wonderful relationship 00:14:16.82\00:14:19.52 with our children, with our grandchildren. 00:14:19.55\00:14:21.79 They're adults now, 00:14:21.82\00:14:23.32 but we started building those relationships, 00:14:23.36\00:14:25.93 taking time for those relationships. 00:14:25.96\00:14:28.73 So, my friends, out there, those of you that are watching, 00:14:28.76\00:14:32.47 take time to build relationships 00:14:32.50\00:14:34.67 with your family, with your children, 00:14:34.70\00:14:37.07 with your spouse, with even your friends, 00:14:37.11\00:14:40.54 even church members and others, take that time and most of all, 00:14:40.58\00:14:44.81 take that time 00:14:44.85\00:14:46.25 to build relationships with Jesus. 00:14:46.28\00:14:49.02 That's the most important relationship 00:14:49.05\00:14:51.25 that we can have. 00:14:51.29\00:14:52.62 So make time for relationships 00:14:52.65\00:14:55.06 and then cultivate open communication. 00:14:55.09\00:14:57.93 We have open communication in our home with my husband, 00:14:57.96\00:15:02.80 with our children, and so now is the time to communicate 00:15:02.83\00:15:07.04 if you're not feeling well or if something bothers you, 00:15:07.07\00:15:10.31 then communicate it, don't keep it inside 00:15:10.34\00:15:13.01 because that's not good for your health, 00:15:13.04\00:15:15.31 but open up and communicate with one another, 00:15:15.34\00:15:19.05 cultivate that open communication, 00:15:19.08\00:15:21.42 very important. 00:15:21.45\00:15:22.78 And then focus on others, 00:15:22.82\00:15:24.65 not so much focusing on yourself 00:15:24.69\00:15:27.06 and your needs and my needs but on others. 00:15:27.09\00:15:30.63 And there are so many things 00:15:30.66\00:15:31.99 that we can do to make others happy. 00:15:32.03\00:15:34.93 I know that often times at the holidays, 00:15:34.93\00:15:37.67 we will bring just a simple loaf of bread 00:15:37.70\00:15:40.64 to some of our church members or some of our friends, 00:15:40.70\00:15:43.87 so just think of something little 00:15:43.91\00:15:46.21 that you can do for someone else 00:15:46.24\00:15:48.08 that will focus on the needs of others. 00:15:48.11\00:15:50.91 It may be just to go and mow someone's lawn 00:15:50.95\00:15:53.78 or to help someone else, 00:15:53.82\00:15:55.92 but focus on others and then speak kindly. 00:15:55.95\00:15:59.92 You know, especially as people get older, 00:15:59.95\00:16:02.72 they want just a smile sometimes, 00:16:02.76\00:16:05.99 just a kind word just, 00:16:06.03\00:16:08.73 you know, just something that will cheer them up 00:16:08.76\00:16:11.40 and so speak kindly to others 00:16:11.43\00:16:15.14 and then think before acting. 00:16:15.17\00:16:18.11 You know, oftentimes we say things 00:16:18.14\00:16:20.58 that we wish we hadn't said 00:16:20.61\00:16:22.91 and because we were maybe tired, 00:16:22.94\00:16:24.81 we haven't gotten enough sleep the night before, 00:16:24.85\00:16:28.82 and we don't really think before we speak, 00:16:28.85\00:16:31.92 and then when we get up the next day, 00:16:31.95\00:16:34.19 we say, well, I should have waited 00:16:34.26\00:16:36.83 and not spoken so quickly. 00:16:36.86\00:16:38.66 So we need to think before we act. 00:16:38.69\00:16:41.80 Researchers, my friends, 00:16:41.83\00:16:43.53 at Ohio State and Carnegie-Melon University 00:16:43.57\00:16:47.60 have shown that people 00:16:47.64\00:16:48.97 who report having strong relationships 00:16:49.00\00:16:51.87 have more robust immune systems 00:16:51.91\00:16:54.14 and are less likely to succumb to infectious diseases. 00:16:54.18\00:16:58.61 Just having those simple relationships 00:16:58.65\00:17:02.55 is going to build your immune system, 00:17:02.58\00:17:04.85 and we need a strong immune system 00:17:04.89\00:17:07.19 if we're going to live longer, healthier and happier. 00:17:07.22\00:17:11.39 And John Donne put it well 00:17:11.43\00:17:13.19 in his famous poem when he said, 00:17:13.23\00:17:15.56 "No man is an island, no man stands alone." 00:17:15.60\00:17:20.07 We all need support at times 00:17:20.14\00:17:22.40 and we all need support from someone else 00:17:22.44\00:17:26.57 and we need at times someone to carry us. 00:17:26.61\00:17:31.05 And so, I'd like to tell you about Boys' Town. 00:17:31.08\00:17:34.35 Boys' Town is a home 00:17:34.38\00:17:36.52 for homeless boys in Omaha, Nebraska. 00:17:36.55\00:17:40.76 And it's a haven of refuge revealing God's love 00:17:40.79\00:17:45.06 to these boys, love for one another. 00:17:45.09\00:17:48.86 And there's a statue outside the Boys' Town 00:17:48.90\00:17:52.90 and it says this, 00:17:52.93\00:17:54.67 "He ain't heavy, he's my brother." 00:17:54.70\00:17:57.81 And this has become the slogan for Boys' Town. 00:17:57.84\00:18:01.18 And you know what? 00:18:01.21\00:18:02.54 You can say the same thing, my friends, he ain't heavy, 00:18:02.58\00:18:06.31 he's my brother. 00:18:06.35\00:18:07.68 It's not difficult for me to do a kind deed for someone else 00:18:07.72\00:18:11.65 because you have these loving relationships. 00:18:11.69\00:18:15.12 Loving relationships will help, 00:18:15.16\00:18:18.03 will go so far and the founder believed at Boys' Town 00:18:18.06\00:18:22.70 that there are no bad boys, 00:18:22.73\00:18:25.27 there are just bad environments and social conditions 00:18:25.30\00:18:29.27 and you know, children have very soft 00:18:29.30\00:18:32.31 and tender hearts. 00:18:32.34\00:18:33.78 I know, I taught grades five through eight early in my life, 00:18:33.81\00:18:39.71 and I know that these children are very tender 00:18:39.75\00:18:44.79 and they have just hearts that long for that love. 00:18:44.82\00:18:50.16 And so there are no bad boys, 00:18:50.23\00:18:52.09 just bad environments and social conditions, 00:18:52.13\00:18:54.63 so we can change that for sure, 00:18:54.66\00:18:58.13 and the founder also believed 00:18:58.17\00:19:01.50 that love can change any life, 00:19:01.54\00:19:04.54 so you can change someone's life 00:19:04.57\00:19:06.57 even by a loving relationship or a smile. 00:19:06.61\00:19:11.81 In Psychology Today, 00:19:11.85\00:19:13.75 May 22, 2013, Cynthia Thaik said this, 00:19:13.78\00:19:18.72 "When individuals sense that they are loved, cared for, 00:19:18.75\00:19:22.52 needed and wanted, 00:19:22.56\00:19:23.99 the power of love releases positive chemical endorphins 00:19:24.06\00:19:28.33 in the brain which brings healing 00:19:28.36\00:19:30.47 to the mind and to the body." 00:19:30.50\00:19:33.34 So when people sense that they are loved, 00:19:33.37\00:19:36.34 this actually increases the endorphins 00:19:36.37\00:19:39.71 so that they actually have in the brain 00:19:39.74\00:19:43.45 healing of both mind and body. 00:19:43.48\00:19:46.92 And Pastor Arthur Ward said this, 00:19:46.95\00:19:49.55 "Flatter me, and I may not believe you. 00:19:49.58\00:19:52.32 Criticize me, and I may not like you. 00:19:52.35\00:19:55.09 Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. 00:19:55.12\00:19:57.76 Encourage me, and I will not forget you, 00:19:57.79\00:20:01.46 but love me 00:20:01.50\00:20:02.83 and I may be forced to love you. 00:20:02.86\00:20:05.40 Love generates love, my friends. 00:20:05.43\00:20:07.84 And so as we love someone else, they will love us back. 00:20:07.87\00:20:12.14 So in order to have friends, 00:20:12.17\00:20:14.08 we must prove ourselves friendly. 00:20:14.14\00:20:17.65 And Bernie Siegel said this, 00:20:17.68\00:20:20.12 "Unconditional love is the most powerful stimulant 00:20:20.18\00:20:24.62 of the immune system. 00:20:24.65\00:20:26.19 The truth is, my friends, is that love heals. 00:20:26.22\00:20:29.79 So love is part of those eight secrets 00:20:29.82\00:20:34.13 that we're talking about, so important. 00:20:34.20\00:20:37.23 Unconditional love even flows from the heart of God. 00:20:37.30\00:20:42.17 Health is directly related to understanding God's love 00:20:42.20\00:20:46.27 and revealing that love to others. 00:20:46.31\00:20:49.68 So God has unconditional love for you, my friends. 00:20:49.71\00:20:53.21 He loves you unconditionally and our health improves 00:20:53.25\00:20:56.75 when we trust in God's conditional love. 00:20:56.82\00:21:00.49 So if you're experiencing even bad health 00:21:00.56\00:21:03.86 because of thinking 00:21:03.93\00:21:05.29 that nobody loves you, just remember, 00:21:05.33\00:21:08.03 that God has unconditional love for you. 00:21:08.06\00:21:11.70 In fact, 1 John 4:8 says this, "God is love." 00:21:11.73\00:21:16.87 God is a loving God. 00:21:16.91\00:21:18.97 He created this earth for us with all its beauty 00:21:19.01\00:21:23.91 because He loves us so much and God Himself is love. 00:21:23.95\00:21:28.12 1 John 3:1 says, "Behold, what manner of love 00:21:28.15\00:21:32.69 the Father has bestowed on us, 00:21:32.72\00:21:34.99 that we should be called children of God." 00:21:35.02\00:21:38.33 We are children of God, my friends. 00:21:38.36\00:21:41.80 We're not just nobody, we are somebody, 00:21:41.83\00:21:45.73 we are the children of the Heavenly Father 00:21:45.77\00:21:49.30 and of the Creator of the universe. 00:21:49.34\00:21:52.24 And love is a gift from God 00:21:52.27\00:21:54.61 that has wonderful healing power. 00:21:54.64\00:21:58.81 God's love is supplied unconditionally, 00:21:58.85\00:22:02.12 but I must take it in, 00:22:02.15\00:22:03.89 I must feed on it to be nourished by it. 00:22:03.92\00:22:06.76 You know what? 00:22:06.79\00:22:08.12 God's love is free, 00:22:08.16\00:22:09.56 we don't have to buy it, my friends. 00:22:09.59\00:22:11.83 We don't have to purchase it. We don't have to beg for it. 00:22:11.86\00:22:15.56 We have it unconditionally because God loves you. 00:22:15.60\00:22:19.83 And I want you to know, 00:22:19.87\00:22:21.57 if you're out there watching this program today 00:22:21.60\00:22:24.51 that God loves you. 00:22:24.54\00:22:26.21 If you're feeling like nobody loves you, just remember, 00:22:26.24\00:22:29.88 God loves you unconditionally. 00:22:29.91\00:22:33.15 And loving God 00:22:33.18\00:22:34.52 and the people around us is life giving. 00:22:34.55\00:22:36.99 One of the most familiar Bible passages says this, 00:22:37.05\00:22:40.62 John 3:16, and if you're out there 00:22:40.66\00:22:43.89 watching this program, why don't you say it with me, 00:22:43.93\00:22:47.40 "For God so loved the world, 00:22:47.46\00:22:49.66 that He gave His only begotten Son, 00:22:49.70\00:22:52.50 that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, 00:22:52.53\00:22:57.07 but have everlasting life." 00:22:57.14\00:22:59.07 God wants to live with you throughout all eternity, 00:22:59.11\00:23:03.48 my friends, He loves you unconditionally. 00:23:03.55\00:23:06.65 And you know, we can follow these health principles 00:23:06.72\00:23:09.08 that we're talking about here on 3ABN, 00:23:09.12\00:23:12.29 and we can live longer, and healthier, and happier, 00:23:12.32\00:23:15.79 but God wants us to live throughout all eternity, 00:23:15.82\00:23:19.33 and so He says, my friends, I died for you, 00:23:19.36\00:23:22.40 I love you unconditionally. 00:23:22.43\00:23:24.77 And so remember, that God truly does love you. 00:23:24.80\00:23:29.74 Des Cummings in his book says this, 00:23:29.77\00:23:33.64 "God's love is the key that unlocks human potential. 00:23:33.68\00:23:38.31 His love transforms our lives. 00:23:38.35\00:23:40.98 It empowers us to rise above our challenges 00:23:41.02\00:23:44.25 and this loves helps to heal our wounds." 00:23:44.29\00:23:47.76 God's love, my friends, unlocks human potential. 00:23:47.79\00:23:52.66 When you know that you're being loved, 00:23:52.69\00:23:54.56 you can reach the highest sky, 00:23:54.60\00:23:56.90 you can reach to your highest level 00:23:56.93\00:23:58.97 when you know 00:23:59.00\00:24:00.44 that you are loved unconditionally. 00:24:00.47\00:24:02.27 And loving God and trusting God are closely related. 00:24:02.30\00:24:06.98 And health is improved when we trust, 00:24:07.01\00:24:09.54 trust in God's unconditional love. 00:24:09.58\00:24:13.62 He's interested in our wellbeing, 00:24:13.65\00:24:15.55 my friends, and He longs for us to experience life 00:24:15.58\00:24:18.92 in all His wonderful abundance. 00:24:18.95\00:24:21.92 So God wants you to experience life 00:24:21.96\00:24:24.46 to the fullest. 00:24:24.49\00:24:25.83 And trust, Isaiah 26:3 says, 00:24:25.86\00:24:29.10 "Trust in the Lord forever, for in Jehovah, 00:24:29.13\00:24:32.47 the Lord is everlasting strength." 00:24:32.50\00:24:35.64 So God wants us to trust Him. 00:24:35.67\00:24:38.64 Loving and trusting God leads us 00:24:38.67\00:24:41.04 from fear to faith, 00:24:41.08\00:24:42.98 so we go from fear and we have faith 00:24:43.01\00:24:46.38 that God does truly love us. 00:24:46.41\00:24:48.55 The more we love God, 00:24:48.58\00:24:50.25 the more we will learn to trust Him 00:24:50.29\00:24:52.35 and this trust, my friends, is called faith. 00:24:52.39\00:24:56.39 Faith is the assurance 00:24:56.42\00:24:57.83 that ultimately God will fulfill 00:24:57.86\00:24:59.96 all our dreams. 00:25:00.06\00:25:01.43 He will give you, my friends, the desires of your heart. 00:25:01.46\00:25:05.27 He wants to give you the desires of your heart, 00:25:05.30\00:25:07.87 but He will do what is best for you. 00:25:07.90\00:25:11.34 In the book Education, it says this, 00:25:11.37\00:25:14.51 "Faith is trusting God, believing that He loves us 00:25:14.54\00:25:18.08 and knows what is best for our good." 00:25:18.11\00:25:21.25 So faith is trusting God for: strength in our weakness, 00:25:21.28\00:25:25.35 for wisdom in our ignorance, for courage in our fear, 00:25:25.39\00:25:29.49 for peace in our anxiety, for hope in our depression, 00:25:29.52\00:25:34.00 for guidance in our doubt, and joy in our sorrow. 00:25:34.10\00:25:38.33 So, my friends, faith is trusting God 00:25:38.37\00:25:41.54 even if we feel weak 00:25:41.57\00:25:43.67 and even if we feel like we don't have the wisdom 00:25:43.71\00:25:46.88 that we want, God will strengthen us, 00:25:46.94\00:25:49.48 He will be with us, 00:25:49.51\00:25:51.05 so have that faith and trust God 00:25:51.08\00:25:54.42 because He's always there. 00:25:54.45\00:25:56.79 Faith is a relationship with God as a friend well known 00:25:56.85\00:26:00.59 which leads us to do whatever He asks and accept 00:26:00.62\00:26:03.86 whatever He allows with the absolute assurance 00:26:03.89\00:26:07.13 that He only wants what's best for our lives. 00:26:07.13\00:26:10.00 God wants what's best for us and well known universities, 00:26:10.07\00:26:13.74 national public health research institutions, 00:26:13.77\00:26:16.74 and privately funded health organizations 00:26:16.81\00:26:19.54 are all coming to the similar conclusions. 00:26:19.57\00:26:22.44 A strong belief can be a foundation 00:26:22.48\00:26:25.08 for improved health. 00:26:25.11\00:26:26.92 In fact, research shows 00:26:26.95\00:26:29.12 that on 1, 931 older adults 00:26:29.15\00:26:33.36 indicated that those 00:26:33.39\00:26:34.72 who attend religious services regularly 00:26:34.76\00:26:37.43 have a lower mortality rate, so find some church. 00:26:37.46\00:26:41.96 And research on 1,700 adults found 00:26:42.00\00:26:45.93 that those who attend religious services 00:26:45.97\00:26:48.10 were likely to have elevated levels 00:26:48.14\00:26:50.37 of interleukin-6, 00:26:50.41\00:26:52.04 an immune substance prevalent 00:26:52.07\00:26:54.24 in people with chronic diseases. 00:26:54.28\00:26:56.08 So just going to church, my friends, can help you. 00:26:56.11\00:26:59.58 "Courage, faith, hope, sympathy, love, 00:26:59.61\00:27:03.92 promote health and prolonging life." 00:27:03.95\00:27:07.69 My friends, I want you to know 00:27:07.72\00:27:09.96 that Jesus loves you unconditionally. 00:27:09.99\00:27:13.43 He loves you with an everlasting love, 00:27:13.46\00:27:16.56 and when you accept the fact that we can have courage, 00:27:16.60\00:27:20.97 faith, hope, sympathy, love that will promote your health 00:27:21.00\00:27:25.94 and you will truly have a longer life, 00:27:25.97\00:27:28.31 so God bless you 00:27:28.34\00:27:29.68 as you accept God's way of life. 00:27:29.71\00:27:32.85