The Bible tells us, "In
the beginning was the Word,
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and the Word was with
God, and the Word was God."
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It says to,
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"Receive with
meekness the implanted Word,
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which is able to save your souls
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and to be diligent
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to present
yourself approved to God,
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rightly dividing
the Word of truth."
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Join us now for the
3ABN Sabbath School Panel.
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Our study today
is Family Seasons.
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Hello, and
welcome to another season,
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another session, another lesson
of 3ABN Sabbath School Panel.
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It's such a blessing to
have each and every one of you
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joining us again, and
your support and viewership
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is very, very important to us.
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And we thank you for taking
the time out to study with us
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each and every week.
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We're trucking along
in this particular study.
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This week we're
lesson number nine.
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And the title of this
lesson is "Times of Loss."
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And we're gonna
do lots of studying
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on this subject today.
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But before we do,
I'd like to take the time
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just to introduce
this wonderful panel.
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Right here to my
left is a good man
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and a good Pastor,
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Pastor John Lomacang.
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Praise the Lord.
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May all the glory go
back to the Lord for the work
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He's done in my life.
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Amen. Praise the Lord.
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And, of course, a good
friend and my wonderful boss,
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General Manager of
3ABN, Miss Jill Morikone.
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Privileged to be
here and study God's Word.
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Amen. Praise the Lord.
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And again, in a humble
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and exciting
preacher for the Lord,
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Pastor Kenny Shelton,
it's good to have you.
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Lord is good.
It's good to be here.
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Amen. Praise the Lord.
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And, of course, the
lovely, Miss Shelley Quinn.
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Thank you very
much for saying that.
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Amen.
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You're a good
person, I have to say that.
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We're so thankful
again that you could join us
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and just to remind you
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of how you can get
a copy of this lesson,
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you can actually
access it online for free.
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If you go to ABSG.Adventist.org,
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just go on there
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and you can access that for free
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or just simply go to your
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local
Seventh-day Adventist Church.
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And I encourage that one
because there you can study
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this lesson again
with a small group,
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large group, just
with a group in general
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and you can study
more and learn more.
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There's never, you
can never study too much
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of the Word of God.
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That's right. That's right.
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And I praise the
Lord for the opportunity.
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Before we get started on
lesson nine, Times of Loss,
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I would like to ask
Brother Kenny Shelton
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if you would pray for us.
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Absolutely. Let's pray.
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Shall we?
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Our loving heavenly Father,
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truly a privilege
to come before Thee.
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Lord, we submit ourselves
into Thy care, Thy keeping,
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asking, pleading for
the power of Thy Holy Spirit
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to illuminate Yourself
in our hearts, in our minds,
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in every viewer, every listener.
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Lord, may we be directed
to the cross of Calvary,
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and may You be seen.
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And we're gonna
thank You in advance
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for what You're going to do.
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And we thank You,
in Jesus' name, amen.
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Amen. Amen, amen.
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I would like to get
right into our memory text
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for this particular lesson.
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It's found in Philippians 3:8,
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so if you go there
with me Philippians 3:8,
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and the Bible says, "Yet indeed,
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I also count all
things loss for the excellence
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of the knowledge of
Christ Jesus my Lord,
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for whom I have
suffered the loss of all things,
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and count them as rubbish,
that I may gain Christ."
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Paul was a
powerful man of faith.
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And probably he was
maybe second to Job,
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maybe a couple of others,
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he did experience a
lot of loss in his life,
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but I love that
he may gain Christ.
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It's such a blessing.
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This particular study is dealing
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with different aspects of
life in which we feel like
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we have lost
someone or something
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from within our family,
within our relationships.
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We're gonna talk about,
you know, loss of health.
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We're gonna talk
about loss of trust.
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In fact, I think,
Pastor Lomacang and Jill
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is gonna take on two
different topics on that
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or the same topic with
two different sessions and,
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Pastor Kenny, loss of...?
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Loss of freedom and then,
Miss Shelley, loss of...? Life.
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Loss of life.
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All of these are major
aspects of the human experience.
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And my particular
lesson, I'm gonna get right
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into Sunday's lesson,
which is loss of health.
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Just to kind of set this
up, you know, Adam and Eve
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would probably be
the best example of this
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in a sense that,
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you know, they came
from a perfect, uncorrupted,
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uninterrupted
relationship with Christ.
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But, of course, when
sin came into the picture,
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they more than
anyone saw the greatest loss
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then you and I
could ever begin to fathom
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because they
lost it all literally.
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And had, I mean, just the pain,
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and the suffering,
and the dying of the land,
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the dying of the earth,
the animals, and, of course,
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even loved ones in the
loss of people around them.
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Such a tragic thing,
but Sunday's lesson entitled
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Loss of Health,
such an important aspect
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that I think
require some reflection.
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This was written in the lesson
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and it was so good
that I had to copy it.
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And I had to put
it in here myself.
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The lesson says, "As difficult
as the loss of health is,
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how much more
painful when it strikes,
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not just ourselves, but
someone in our own family.
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That's tough.
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How many parents have especially
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as they have
dealt with an ill child
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wished it had been them,
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the parent who was
sick instead of the child?
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Unfortunately, we're
not given that choice."
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And that, you know,
actually, I can relate to this
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to a certain extent
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because at the
beginning of this year,
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my mom was in,
went into the hospital
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for a rather serious procedure.
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And she has been in
the hospital for a while,
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in fact, at this moment
she's still in the hospital.
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And, I mean, she has
been through so much,
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but I remember I was
there, when she went in
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for this procedure
and I could just see it
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on her face, I could just
see it in her body language,
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she was disturbed
because the doctors
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had told her this is
not simple life procedure,
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anything could happen.
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And the reconstructive
surgery that she had on her body
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did take a lot from her
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but she made it
through the surgery,
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but I remember when she came
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out of the surgery,
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I was watching
her lay on that bed
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and she was just
moaning and groaning in pain,
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and, I mean, I just
felt this sense of discomfort
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come over my body,
my mind was not at ease
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and I remember
thinking to myself,
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"Man, I wish that I
could take my mother's pain."
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Such a sad
situation I have to deal with
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to see someone else suffering,
you know, instead of yourself.
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You know, a lot of times
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we can suffer
but we can't handle,
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you know, others that we
love to see them suffering.
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And that's a great example,
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we find many
examples in the scripture
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that I would just like to show
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just a couple of them right now.
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Let's start in Mark 5:22-24.
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And, of course, these examples
I believe are given to us
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in scripture because
these are real life situations.
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This is not a fairy tale,
people in the biblical times
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and during the time of Christ
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dealt with this same situation,
but I assure you there is hope.
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Mark 5:22-24.
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The Bible says, "And behold,
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one of the rulers
of the synagogue came,
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Jairus by name.
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And when he saw
Him, he fell at His feet
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and begged Him
earnestly, saying,
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'My little daughter
lies at the point of death.
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Come and lay Your hands on
her, that she may be healed,
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and she will live.'
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So Jesus went with
him, and a great multitude
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followed Him and thronged Him.'"
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You can also
find in Luke 4:38-39.
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Another example, of
course, Luke 4:38-39 says,
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"Now He arose from the synagogue
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and entered Simon's house.
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But Simon's wife's mother
was sick with a high fever,
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and they made request
of Him concerning her.
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So He stood over her
and rebuked the fever,
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and it left her.
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And immediately she
arose and served Him."
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Now we don't have time
to read the rest of these,
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but you can go on
to read Mark 5:35-43.
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Another example,
Matthew 15:22-28.
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Another example, John 4:46-54.
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Yet another example.
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And it's
interesting when you read
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all of these passages
that we've mentioned here,
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there's a common denominator,
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there's a common
theme, and that is people
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coming to Jesus pleading
on behalf of another ill,
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or dying, or sick family member.
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You know, loss of health
is a major issue in this life.
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It's inevitable that
every single one of us
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will die at some time.
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And most of the time,
maybe not all the time,
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it's due to a serious
illness, disease of some sort.
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We suffer because we
live in a fallen world.
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And in core, sin
indeed brought death.
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But with that death
package came also chronic pain,
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and illness, and disease,
degradation, dissipation,
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discomfort, and decomposition.
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And so we can see the
effects that sin has brought
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into this world and
with that often comes
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a loss of health.
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In fact, you know, I've heard
many people over the time say,
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you know what?
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There's few things
that I care about my life
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and among that list
is, you know, I'm glad
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and I'm thankful
that I have my health.
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And so that is a
very, very important thing.
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And so often, many of
us, we are in such a serious,
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hurting situation that
we find ourselves crying out
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exactly what Jesus
cried out upon the cross.
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In fact, I'm gonna
reflect this from Psalms 22:1,
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through David.
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He's saying and repeating
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the words of
Jesus upon the cross,
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while Christ was suffering,
He cries out, "My God, My God,
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why have You forsaken me?
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Why are You so
far from helping Me?"
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And from the
words of my groaning,
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many of us feel like that,
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in this lifetime
experiencing pain
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and discomfort, sorrow, disease
and, of course, loss of health.
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It always seems like, Lord,
do You not hear my prayers,
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Jesus felt that same thing.
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And, of course,
God does hear us.
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You know, it makes me
think of another instance.
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Not too long ago, my
lovely wife, Stephanie,
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she, very slowly but
surely over a period of time,
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she took on a case of anxiety,
she was having panic attacks
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and anxiety.
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Now some people
wouldn't really consider that
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to be an illness
or a loss of health,
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but it really,
really indeed mental health
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is vitally important
for full body health.
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And she was experiencing this
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and I saw in many,
many times her struggle.
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And again, it was
in that situation,
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I wish that I could
just trade places with her
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because to see my
wife suffering from this,
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it was overtaking her.
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But praise the
Lord, there was an answer.
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We were able to send her
to Dr. Neil Nedley's program
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and she learned the
wonderful principles and truth
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that she needed in order
to bounce back from that.
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And it was just such a
powerful witness to see that,
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again, this particular
message is not a message
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on the principles of health
and how to practice health.
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But again, she did that
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and she was able
to come out of it.
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But some people, you
know, it's just inevitable.
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It's truthful that you
can live the healthiest life,
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many people live a very healthy,
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disciplined life, and yet,
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they still end
up with experiencing
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a loss of health
that ends up harming them,
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or hurting them, or
ultimately claiming their life.
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You know, we have some
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wonderful counsels
in scripture on this.
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James 1:2-4, I had
to add this one in here
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because it really
helps us to understand that
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when we're experiencing trials,
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and I tell you one
of the worst trials
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you could possibly
experience is the loss of health
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going through a
situation like that.
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Notice what James writes
here, he says, "My brethren,"
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and as difficult as this may be,
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"count it all joy when
we fall into various trials,
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knowing that the
testing of your faith
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produces patience."
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You know,
nothing is more stronger
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than to see someone suffering.
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But through that experience,
that person is suffering,
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say, Lord, I know
You know what's best.
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I trust in You.
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And that's hard.
That's hard to do.
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We know that, that's difficult.
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It says, "But let
patience have its perfect work,
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that you may be perfect
and complete, lacking nothing."
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Christ sympathizes with us.
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Amen.
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If there's anyone who
can say I've suffered,
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I've experienced a loss
of health, Jesus Christ.
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Right here, I love this
text found in 1 Peter 3:18.
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It says, "For Christ
also suffered once for sins,
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the just for the unjust,
that He might bring us to God,
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being put to death in the flesh
but made alive in the Spirit."
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My friends, if you are
experiencing loss of health,
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or whatever the trial may
be in your life, look to Jesus,
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the author, the
finisher of your faith
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because He has
experienced it all,
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He holds the answers.
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And, of course, I'm
just glad I can count on Him.
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Amen. Amen.
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You know, I just
want to really quickly
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in the closing
moments, you know,
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I've had an experience
my own self, you know,
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I haven't always
practice good health.
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And it's my
responsibility to do so.
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But I recently, as
I mentioned earlier,
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I recently found
myself surrendering
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that over to Jesus,
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I said, Lord, I'm
ready, no matter what the cost,
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no matter what the case,
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I'm ready to turn this
over to You once and for all.
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I attended the Black Hills
Health and Education Center
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in South Dakota.
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And I'm telling you,
it's transformed my life.
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But, you know,
with that learning
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those biblical
principles of health,
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and now experiencing
this transformation,
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as slow as it may be,
you know, I can put my faith
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in Christ knowing that
if I were to die tomorrow,
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no matter what the case, I
have Him to look forward to
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and the next thing I'm gonna see
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when I opened my eyes
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is Jesus coming in
the clouds of glory.
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We have hope that one day
He's gonna wipe away all tears,
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He's gonna take away all pain,
there will be no more pain.
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And behold, He says,
I make all things new.
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Amen. Amen.
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Thank you, Pastor Ryan.
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Wow, this lesson is
loss, loss, loss, loss,
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but we're gonna find out,
it's also gonna be about gain.
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Loss is the
beginning of a situation.
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Gain is the end of it.
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Things that begin one way
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through Christ
can end another way.
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So while we're
talking about loss,
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you ended your
statement by saying gain.
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And the passage you
talked about in Philippians,
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I count all things
loss that I may gain.
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Gain Christ.
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So lost sometimes
is how situations begin
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and mine is "Loss of Trust."
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May 27, am I correct?
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And that's lesson number nine.
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I want to share a couple
of thoughts that are a part
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of the context of the lesson.
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The writer of this
lesson did a very good job
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and the topic of
the loss of trust is one
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that we're gonna be dealing
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with from a
different perspective.
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I'll deal with it
from the relational,
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sometimes marital loss
of trust and the dysfunction
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that happens
when trust is eroded,
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but also how to
recover that trust.
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That's good.
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The writer says,
"We are all sinful."
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Well, that's right.
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Romans 3:23. That's right.
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"Dysfunctional people
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who at some time
will prove ourselves
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to be untrustworthy to
someone who trusted us.
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And who hasn't been the victim
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of someone else's
betrayal of our trust?
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And, as hard as such
a loss of trust can be,
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it's always so much worse
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when we betray, or are betrayed,
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by a family member."
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And the larger the family,
the greater the opportunity
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for somebody to and, you know,
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sometimes the
trust doesn't come early
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'cause when your
sibling sometimes,
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you know, you can roll with it.
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Children are more
likely to forgive each other
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when little things come on.
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But the higher the
stakes as life goes on,
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the castle could teeter
or totter on larger issues.
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And sadly enough
in relationships,
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it could be
anywhere from a person
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fighting over the will
when somebody has died.
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It could be adultery on
the part of a one spouse
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or the other.
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It could be the dysfunction
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of not being able to
trust another sibling
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cause I've seen
motives change in so many ways.
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Either at the loss of a parent,
motives immediately change.
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When property is
involved, motives change,
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and the people that
you thought you knew,
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you begin to see a
different side of them
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because they haven't
stuck to that foundation
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that was built earlier.
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And he goes on further to say,
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and the person who wrote this,
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I'm assuming is a gentleman,
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he says, "Sometimes it may seem
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easier to cut our losses and run
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when we decide the relationship
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isn't worth the
effort of rebuilding.
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Of course, it's not so
easy when it's a family member,
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such as a spouse.
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You could even say
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that one of the purposes
of marriage is to teach us
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the lesson of
how to rebuild trust
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when it is broken."
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So anything that's broken,
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I watched a commercial.
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I said the other day,
but it could have been
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a long time ago.
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And all of a sudden a gorilla
showed up in the commercial.
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And the guy was
trying to fix his lawnmower.
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And he gave him this tape.
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It's called
gorilla strength tape.
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And he put it on this
very vibrating lawnmower
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and held it together.
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A lot of times
we're trying to fix things
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with other things that are weak.
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That's good.
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We're using human principles
to try to fix human problems.
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But we know that for Christians,
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whatever the challenge may be,
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whatever the
loss of trust may be,
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wherever it
happens, whether in families,
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among siblings, among
people that we work with,
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among spouses, among people
that are living in your home,
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or you might say
I gave you my car,
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look at what you did to it.
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And then people
could turn around and say,
00:17:59.84\00:18:01.18
"Well, I'm not
gonna give you anything,
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you gave me the
car, it's now on you."
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I mean, seeing so
many situations happen
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where a loss of
trust has come in.
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But what I wanna do is,
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at start I'm gonna bring
out some principles here,
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four major principles.
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But I'm also going to say
whatever has been fractured,
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whatever has been broken,
wherever betrayal has come in.
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The Lord is a God who restores,
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and who also rebuild.
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Absolutely.
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And that's sometimes we
forget, and these principles
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that we're gonna be talking
about and these scriptures
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that we're gonna be
talking about and building upon
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will help us to see that
in spite of where you are
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or where you
were, there's a journey
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that can lead you
to a better place.
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Amen. Let's look
at the first one.
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1 Peter 5:6-7. 1 Peter 5:6-7.
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This is a passage that applies
to if there are two people
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I'm gonna just use a
scenario of two individuals,
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or any two individuals
that are in a situation
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where a loss of
trust has come in,
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the first thing we have to do.
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It says in 1 Peter 5:6-7.
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Do you have had
that, Jill? I do.
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Okay, read that verse 6.
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"Therefore humble yourselves
under the mighty hand of God,
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that He may
exalt you in due time,
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casting all your care upon
Him, for He cares for you."
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The first thing that
has to happen is humility.
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On both parts
because the first thing
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that happens oftentimes
when loss of trust comes in,
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is we both seek
to win our argument.
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We win our point
and both arguments
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could be very, very valid.
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One could be
saying, "This is why
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a trust has been broken."
00:19:30.80\00:19:32.13
The other one say
this is what I can't do
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because trust has been broken,
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and we want to
win on our platform,
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and the steam gets warm.
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I mean, if you've been
married as long as I have,
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you never get to 35 years before
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unless you've gone
through some of these geysers.
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And that's why I said
longevity is the best indication
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of what God can do in
any marriage relationship.
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Amen.
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First of all, be
humble before one another.
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And when your humility requires
the issue being addressed
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because with every
issue, there are emotions,
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never try to
delegitimize an emotion
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because an emotion is very real.
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Somebody might say,
well, this is how I feel.
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And the other person might
say, well, this is how I feel.
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And don't try to
delegitimize either emotion.
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But don't let
emotion be the final stage,
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emotions come like the ride,
you may be on a downward side
00:20:17.65\00:20:21.28
of the ride on a roller coaster.
00:20:21.32\00:20:23.08
I mean, that's
a serious feeling.
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And you'll have
to deal with that
00:20:24.75\00:20:26.09
after you get off the ride.
00:20:26.12\00:20:27.46
But somewhere along the way,
00:20:27.49\00:20:28.82
your equilibrium will
return and will be restored.
00:20:28.86\00:20:31.06
If your relationship is
going through that up and down,
00:20:31.09\00:20:33.29
you're gonna get the
feelings that are gonna change
00:20:33.33\00:20:35.36
in the rise and
fall of the challenge
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you're going through.
00:20:37.90\00:20:39.23
But when you get off that ride,
00:20:39.27\00:20:41.14
the equilibrium of
a good relationship
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will be established
00:20:43.47\00:20:44.81
and you'll have
a solid foundation.
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So begin with humility.
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And then also
that humility means
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you're willing to be exalted.
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You're willing to put your hand
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and you're willing
to put your situation
00:20:53.68\00:20:55.85
in the hand of the Almighty God.
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That's good.
00:20:57.85\00:20:59.19
Because when you're not humble,
00:20:59.22\00:21:00.56
you're putting
it in your own hand.
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But when you're humble,
00:21:01.96\00:21:03.79
you're being led by
the almighty hand of God.
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And then you
can cast your cares.
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And the word cares,
I'll use another word here,
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you can cast your concerns.
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Rather than shooting
concerns back and forth,
00:21:13.84\00:21:16.04
you can cast all
your cares on Him
00:21:16.07\00:21:18.47
because you know
He cares for you.
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That's right.
00:21:20.18\00:21:21.51
And then He can target
and redirect each person
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in that situation,
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to bring about a resolution
00:21:24.51\00:21:25.85
that will be for a restoration,
00:21:25.88\00:21:27.98
both individuals who
are broken at one point,
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and then the glory of
God to be reflected again
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through each person.
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Second one.
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Let's go to 1 John 4:18.
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Rebuild your love
to eradicate your fear.
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Rebuild your love
to eradicate your fear.
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1 John 4:18.
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Do you have that, Shelley? Yes.
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"There is no fear in love,
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but perfect love casts out fear,
00:21:48.94\00:21:51.87
because fear involves torment.
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But he who fears has
not been made perfect
00:21:54.88\00:21:57.91
in love."
00:21:57.95\00:21:59.45
The two most powerful forces
on earth is fear and love.
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That's right. That's good.
00:22:03.85\00:22:05.19
Because if one, it
wouldn't be in this...
00:22:05.22\00:22:06.55
It wouldn't be as a contrast.
00:22:06.59\00:22:09.02
It doesn't say death
00:22:09.06\00:22:10.39
because love is
stronger than death.
00:22:10.43\00:22:12.99
But fear and
love are contenders.
00:22:13.03\00:22:16.13
They want the same
stage, you've got to decide
00:22:16.16\00:22:19.47
which one is
gonna be on your stage.
00:22:19.50\00:22:21.90
One is gonna keep you a slave,
00:22:21.94\00:22:24.77
the other one is
gonna set you free.
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That's good.
00:22:26.17\00:22:27.51
And not just set you
free but make you free.
00:22:27.54\00:22:30.25
Because when love is involved,
that's why the Bible says
00:22:30.28\00:22:34.05
we have no fear in the judgment
00:22:34.08\00:22:35.95
because love has
been perfected among us.
00:22:35.98\00:22:37.69
Another passage,
00:22:37.72\00:22:39.05
when love takes
the place of fear,
00:22:39.09\00:22:41.62
fear loses love wins.
00:22:41.66\00:22:43.76
And because love is God,
00:22:43.79\00:22:46.80
both individuals
00:22:46.83\00:22:48.16
when my wife and
I have instituted
00:22:48.20\00:22:49.53
a particular principle,
00:22:49.56\00:22:50.93
we both win together
or we both lose together.
00:22:50.97\00:22:55.07
But don't insinuate
that at the very beginning
00:22:55.10\00:22:57.41
because sometimes you
said do you wanna win?
00:22:57.44\00:22:58.77
Do you want to lose?
00:22:58.81\00:23:00.14
Sometimes you don't even
deal with the issues, right?
00:23:00.18\00:23:02.64
That's right.
00:23:02.68\00:23:04.01
That you want to just
get to the end result.
00:23:04.05\00:23:05.91
As painful as it may
seem, let me give you a advice,
00:23:05.95\00:23:09.48
walk through the issues,
00:23:09.52\00:23:12.02
address what has happened.
00:23:12.05\00:23:13.76
That's good.
00:23:13.79\00:23:15.12
Only then can you recognize
00:23:15.16\00:23:16.96
where those
things have gone wrong
00:23:16.99\00:23:18.79
and then come to a resolution,
00:23:18.83\00:23:20.36
then the perfect
love will cast out
00:23:20.40\00:23:22.76
the obviously terrible fear.
00:23:22.80\00:23:25.30
The third one, James 5:16.
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I'll say this in
the interest of time,
00:23:27.44\00:23:29.34
"Confess and pray
to facilitate healing.
00:23:29.37\00:23:31.57
Confess your
trespasses to one another,
00:23:31.61\00:23:33.44
and pray for one another,
00:23:33.48\00:23:34.81
that you may be healed.
00:23:34.84\00:23:36.18
The effective,
00:23:36.21\00:23:37.55
fervent prayer of a
righteous man avails much."
00:23:37.58\00:23:39.21
A lot of times we
get into situations
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and we try to
approach them psychologically,
00:23:41.22\00:23:43.18
when you pray for one another,
00:23:43.22\00:23:44.95
when you confess to one another,
00:23:44.99\00:23:46.65
you work for
resolution between one another.
00:23:46.69\00:23:49.36
Don't tell other people
what you are going through
00:23:49.39\00:23:52.19
'cause they can't help.
00:23:52.23\00:23:54.00
Bring it before you and the Lord
00:23:54.03\00:23:55.83
because only as both
of you are committed,
00:23:55.86\00:23:58.30
then you can find resolution.
00:23:58.33\00:23:59.80
And finally, forgive each
other as God has forgiven you.
00:23:59.83\00:24:03.54
Matthew 6:14-15,
00:24:03.57\00:24:05.84
"For if you forgive
men their trespasses,
00:24:05.87\00:24:07.48
your heavenly Father
will also forgive you.
00:24:07.51\00:24:09.71
But if you do not
forgive men their trespasses,
00:24:09.74\00:24:11.55
neither will your Father
forgive your trespasses."
00:24:11.58\00:24:14.45
A powerful four point
and I have some more stuff
00:24:14.48\00:24:16.62
on the wrap up.
00:24:16.65\00:24:17.99
But, Jill, I'll throw it to you.
00:24:18.02\00:24:19.59
Ryan.
00:24:19.62\00:24:20.96
Actually, you're gonna
throw it back here to me.
00:24:20.99\00:24:22.32
You're right.
00:24:22.36\00:24:23.69
I'm throwing it
to you, my Brother.
00:24:23.73\00:24:25.06
I have done that so
many times. That's okay.
00:24:25.09\00:24:26.43
The Word of God is so
powerful but actually...
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We're going to
continue with our study
00:25:12.21\00:25:14.88
on Loss of Trust with Jill.
00:25:14.91\00:25:16.91
Thank you, Ryan,
what an incredible study
00:25:16.95\00:25:19.01
each one of you gave
to this with that loss.
00:25:19.05\00:25:21.35
But yet the gain
that we can have,
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I love that, Pastor
John, through Christ Jesus.
00:25:23.18\00:25:25.59
Loss of Trust continued.
00:25:25.62\00:25:27.56
We're talking on my lesson
00:25:27.59\00:25:29.39
on Tuesday's here
on "Healing from Abuse"
00:25:29.42\00:25:32.63
that takes place in the home.
00:25:32.66\00:25:34.83
The home is the
most sacred space.
00:25:34.86\00:25:36.46
Amen. Would you say that's true?
00:25:36.50\00:25:37.93
It's the place
where we're supposed
00:25:37.97\00:25:39.30
to feel the safest,
00:25:39.33\00:25:40.67
the most protected,
cherished, and loved.
00:25:40.70\00:25:44.11
But yet,
sometimes because of sin
00:25:44.14\00:25:48.41
and people making
choices against God,
00:25:48.44\00:25:50.95
the home becomes the place
00:25:50.98\00:25:52.85
where abuse and
violence is perpetuated.
00:25:52.88\00:25:57.49
Here's some
statistics on spousal abuse
00:25:57.52\00:25:59.99
or you could say they call it
00:26:00.02\00:26:02.12
this is just how Google does it,
00:26:02.16\00:26:04.23
intimate partner,
but we're not even sure
00:26:04.26\00:26:06.33
we like those words.
00:26:06.36\00:26:07.70
But this would be
someone that you live with,
00:26:07.73\00:26:09.66
whether it's a
spouse, or they're probably
00:26:09.70\00:26:12.07
also saying maybe
people that you live with that
00:26:12.10\00:26:14.20
you're not married to.
00:26:14.24\00:26:15.64
Twenty people per
minute are physically abused
00:26:15.67\00:26:19.54
in the United States.
00:26:19.57\00:26:21.11
Twenty people per minute,
that's in the family dynamics.
00:26:21.14\00:26:26.25
One in three women
and one in four men
00:26:26.28\00:26:30.12
have experienced some
form of physical violence
00:26:30.15\00:26:33.99
by an intimate
partner or by a spouse.
00:26:34.02\00:26:36.49
This is violence
such as slapping,
00:26:36.52\00:26:38.83
or shoving, or pushing.
00:26:38.86\00:26:41.33
One in four women
and one in seven men
00:26:41.36\00:26:43.73
have been victims
of more severe forms
00:26:43.77\00:26:46.17
of physical
violence such as beating,
00:26:46.20\00:26:48.04
and burning, and strangling.
00:26:48.07\00:26:50.27
I can't even imagine that.
00:26:50.31\00:26:52.84
One in five women and
one in 71 men in the US
00:26:52.87\00:26:55.91
are raped in their lifetime.
00:26:55.94\00:26:58.18
Wow. This is heavy.
00:26:58.21\00:26:59.68
Now I would imagine it
could be higher for the men,
00:26:59.71\00:27:03.32
there's probably a stigma
00:27:03.35\00:27:04.69
on both cases with
even reporting this.
00:27:04.72\00:27:07.52
Half of the victims were raped
by somebody that they knew.
00:27:07.56\00:27:11.83
And of those half,
some of it took place
00:27:11.86\00:27:14.70
within the context of family.
00:27:14.73\00:27:18.40
What about kids?
00:27:18.43\00:27:19.77
Kids grow up
witnessing domestic violence
00:27:19.80\00:27:22.97
in the home.
00:27:23.00\00:27:24.87
Living with domestic
violence alters the child's DNA.
00:27:24.91\00:27:29.01
It prematurely ages
them at least 7 to 10 years.
00:27:29.04\00:27:33.78
So if a child
witnesses domestic violence
00:27:33.82\00:27:36.38
between their mom
and dad in the home,
00:27:36.42\00:27:39.45
it ages them.
00:27:39.49\00:27:41.22
Children who grew up
with domestic violence
00:27:41.26\00:27:42.99
are six times more
likely to commit suicide,
00:27:43.02\00:27:46.29
50% more likely to
abuse drugs and alcohol,
00:27:46.33\00:27:49.83
74% more likely to
commit a violent crime
00:27:49.86\00:27:54.07
against someone else.
00:27:54.10\00:27:57.24
Violence or
assault takes many forms.
00:27:57.27\00:28:00.04
It could be
physical. It could be verbal.
00:28:00.08\00:28:01.98
It could be
emotional. It could be sexual.
00:28:02.01\00:28:04.28
It could even be
neglect of a child
00:28:04.31\00:28:07.68
that is in your home
00:28:07.72\00:28:09.05
or neglect of your spouse.
00:28:09.08\00:28:11.19
We know in the Bible,
there's examples of abuse
00:28:11.22\00:28:13.59
that take place
in the Bible as well.
00:28:13.62\00:28:15.59
All a result of sin.
00:28:15.62\00:28:17.89
So I don't know
where you are today.
00:28:17.93\00:28:21.33
Maybe you're right now
listening to this program
00:28:21.36\00:28:24.27
or watching it and
you are living in a home
00:28:24.30\00:28:27.34
where you're being abused.
00:28:27.37\00:28:28.70
Whether you're male or female,
it happens on both sides.
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I wanna give you some
keys, seven keys to remember.
00:28:32.04\00:28:37.38
One, this is a
quote from the lesson,
00:28:37.41\00:28:39.55
there is no excuse for abuse.
00:28:39.58\00:28:42.15
Abusive behavior is
the conscious choice
00:28:42.18\00:28:44.45
of a person to exercise
power and control over another.
00:28:44.49\00:28:48.66
It cannot be explained
or excused by alcoholism,
00:28:48.69\00:28:52.53
stress, the need to
fulfill sexual desires,
00:28:52.56\00:28:55.76
the need for
better control of anger,
00:28:55.80\00:28:57.83
or any behavior of the victim.
00:28:57.87\00:29:00.94
First, there's
no excuse for abuse.
00:29:00.97\00:29:03.77
Second, God hates abuse.
00:29:03.81\00:29:07.74
Let's look at Proverbs.
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Proverbs 11:5.
00:29:09.18\00:29:13.42
Proverbs 11:5, "The Lord tests,"
00:29:13.45\00:29:18.25
or in Hebrew that word
test means investigates,
00:29:18.29\00:29:21.39
"the righteous, but the wicked
00:29:21.42\00:29:24.36
and the one who loves violence,"
00:29:24.39\00:29:26.29
what does it say?
00:29:26.33\00:29:27.66
"His soul hates."
00:29:27.70\00:29:30.13
God hates abuse.
00:29:30.17\00:29:33.00
Now, God does
not hate the abuser
00:29:33.03\00:29:35.30
and I wanna be
very clear about that.
00:29:35.34\00:29:37.91
There is
redemption and there is hope
00:29:37.94\00:29:39.84
and healing for someone
who is committing abuse.
00:29:39.87\00:29:44.48
However, God hates the abuse.
00:29:44.51\00:29:47.88
He can love the abuser
while still hating the sin.
00:29:47.92\00:29:51.22
He hates the abuse.
00:29:51.25\00:29:53.49
Romans 13:10, "Love
does no harm to a neighbor."
00:29:53.52\00:29:58.49
Or we could say a
spouse or a child,
00:29:58.53\00:30:01.26
"Therefore love is the
fulfillment of the law."
00:30:01.30\00:30:04.20
The New Living Translation says,
00:30:04.23\00:30:06.03
"Love does no wrong to others,
00:30:06.07\00:30:08.50
so love fulfills the
requirements of God's law."
00:30:08.54\00:30:12.94
So God does not condone abuse.
00:30:12.97\00:30:15.78
In fact, He hates
abuse and violence.
00:30:15.81\00:30:18.91
Number three, abuse
is the result of sin.
00:30:18.95\00:30:21.68
It's the result of
the world that we live in.
00:30:21.72\00:30:24.89
That does not mean that everyone
00:30:24.92\00:30:26.25
who's a sinner is gonna go out
00:30:26.29\00:30:27.62
and commit abuse against someone
00:30:27.66\00:30:29.02
'cause there's
different factors, okay?
00:30:29.06\00:30:31.29
But at the same time,
00:30:31.33\00:30:33.06
abuse came as a
result of the enemy,
00:30:33.09\00:30:36.77
as a result of sin.
00:30:36.80\00:30:38.70
Proverbs 10:6,
00:30:38.73\00:30:41.14
"Blessings are on the
head of the righteous,
00:30:41.17\00:30:44.67
but violence covers
the mouth of the wicked."
00:30:44.71\00:30:49.04
So violence here is
connected with wickedness.
00:30:49.08\00:30:53.45
Abuse is the result of sin.
00:30:53.48\00:30:55.35
Number four, if
you're being abused,
00:30:55.38\00:30:57.85
or you were abused in the
past, it is never your fault.
00:30:57.89\00:31:03.76
Here's a quote I
wanna read to you
00:31:03.79\00:31:06.06
from Justin Holcomb's book.
00:31:06.09\00:31:08.10
I'm not, I'm saying
we agree with every facet
00:31:08.13\00:31:10.60
'cause I haven't read the book.
00:31:10.63\00:31:11.97
But this quote I like.
00:31:12.00\00:31:13.67
It says, "No
matter what kind of abuse
00:31:13.70\00:31:15.20
you have experienced,
there is nothing you can do,
00:31:15.24\00:31:18.34
nothing you can
say, nothing you think
00:31:18.37\00:31:21.64
that makes you deserving of it.
00:31:21.68\00:31:24.48
There is no
mistake you could have made
00:31:24.51\00:31:26.05
and no sin you
could have committed
00:31:26.08\00:31:28.45
to make you
deserving of violence.
00:31:28.48\00:31:31.49
You did not deserve this,
and it is never your fault.
00:31:31.52\00:31:36.16
You did not ask for this.
00:31:36.19\00:31:37.53
You should not be silenced.
00:31:37.56\00:31:39.09
You are not worthless.
00:31:39.13\00:31:40.83
You do not have to
pretend like nothing happened.
00:31:40.86\00:31:43.63
You are not damaged goods,
forgotten, or ignored by God
00:31:43.67\00:31:47.27
or getting what you deserve."
00:31:47.30\00:31:49.67
God says, He has a
plan for our lives,
00:31:49.70\00:31:51.87
a plan to prosper
us and not to harm us.
00:31:51.91\00:31:54.81
A plan to give us
a future and a hope.
00:31:54.84\00:31:58.61
Number five, God
can bring deliverance
00:31:58.65\00:32:00.98
in the midst of
an abusive situation.
00:32:01.02\00:32:04.29
2 Samuel 22:47-49.
00:32:04.32\00:32:07.92
2 Samuel
22:47-49, "The Lord lives!
00:32:07.96\00:32:12.36
Blessed be my rock!
00:32:12.39\00:32:15.66
Let God be exalted,
the Rock of my salvation!
00:32:15.70\00:32:19.83
It is God who avenges me,
00:32:19.87\00:32:21.84
and subdues the
peoples under me.
00:32:21.87\00:32:24.04
He delivers me from my enemies.
00:32:24.07\00:32:26.21
You also lift me up above
those who rise up against me."
00:32:26.24\00:32:29.81
And now listen to this.
00:32:29.84\00:32:31.18
"You have delivered
me from the violent man."
00:32:31.21\00:32:36.18
God is the one who
brings deliverance.
00:32:36.22\00:32:38.49
That's right.
00:32:38.52\00:32:39.85
Sometimes that deliverance
comes to a divine intervention,
00:32:39.89\00:32:42.39
God intervening,
00:32:42.42\00:32:43.86
I have seen that
happen in those situations
00:32:43.89\00:32:46.53
on the behalf of the
person who's been abused.
00:32:46.56\00:32:48.93
Sometimes it comes
through God helping the person
00:32:48.96\00:32:51.23
make a choice
to leave the abuser
00:32:51.27\00:32:55.00
and seek protection and safety.
00:32:55.04\00:32:57.57
Sometimes that happens
through outside intervention.
00:32:57.61\00:33:00.18
Maybe a neighbor, or a
friend, or a family member,
00:33:00.21\00:33:04.68
or someone willing to
step into that situation
00:33:04.71\00:33:08.52
and to help rescue that person.
00:33:08.55\00:33:10.95
Number six, God
longs to bring healing.
00:33:10.99\00:33:14.12
Luke Chapter 4.
00:33:14.16\00:33:15.49
This is I think one of
my favorite scriptures.
00:33:15.52\00:33:17.93
This is Jesus at
Nazareth standing up to read
00:33:17.96\00:33:21.40
and He read from the
scroll of the Prophet Isaiah.
00:33:21.43\00:33:24.47
Luke 4:18,
00:33:24.50\00:33:26.23
"The Spirit of
the Lord is upon Me,
00:33:26.27\00:33:29.44
because He has anointed Me
00:33:29.47\00:33:31.17
to preach the
gospel to the poor."
00:33:31.21\00:33:34.11
In Greek, the word for poor
00:33:34.14\00:33:36.04
is one who crouches or cowers.
00:33:36.08\00:33:40.18
One who is deeply destitute.
00:33:40.22\00:33:43.08
So we read that
and we think okay,
00:33:43.12\00:33:44.72
people who are poor
but people who are abused
00:33:44.75\00:33:47.86
crouch and cower.
00:33:47.89\00:33:50.13
True.
00:33:50.16\00:33:51.49
He has anointed me
to preach the gospel
00:33:51.53\00:33:53.53
to you to those
people who deal with that.
00:33:53.56\00:33:56.06
"He has sent Me to
heal the brokenhearted,"
00:33:56.10\00:33:59.03
the word for
broken means literally
00:33:59.07\00:34:00.64
to break by crushing.
00:34:00.67\00:34:03.20
"He has sent Me to
heal the brokenhearted,
00:34:03.24\00:34:04.91
to proclaim
liberty to the captives,
00:34:04.94\00:34:07.48
recovery of sight to the blind,
00:34:07.51\00:34:10.11
to set at liberty
those who are oppressed."
00:34:10.15\00:34:13.62
The word for liberty
means pardon and forgiveness.
00:34:13.65\00:34:16.45
He came not only
to bring healing,
00:34:16.48\00:34:18.02
but to enable us to forgive
those who have abused us.
00:34:18.05\00:34:23.83
And finally, number
seven, God can restore.
00:34:23.86\00:34:28.80
I love that
promise where it says
00:34:28.83\00:34:30.17
God redeems the years
00:34:30.20\00:34:32.33
that the locust has eaten,
00:34:32.37\00:34:33.70
but that's not the
scripture I was gonna read you.
00:34:33.74\00:34:35.30
This scripture
is Jeremiah 30:17.
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God speaking, He says, "I
will restore health to you
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and heal you of your
wounds, says the Lord,
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'because they called
you an outcast saying,
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this is Zion, no
one seeks her.' "
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So I just wanna make
a special appeal to you.
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If you're in the
midst of a relationship,
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if your home has
abused in the midst of it,
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you are not alone.
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God can bring
healing and restoration,
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it is not your fault.
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And God can bring
deliverance to you
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in the midst of that situation.
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Amen. Amen.
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Well done.
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Praise the Lord, you
know, all these losses,
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and I like to
hear the loss and gain,
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you know, loss and gain.
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And then we're talking
about "Loss of Freedom."
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That's in our
Wednesday's lesson.
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There's an awful lot
to cover on these things.
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And it's just
almost like mind-boggling
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because people
relate to these things
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because of family and
friends and people that we love.
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And we see him go through
a lot of different things,
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but maybe start
with like a question,
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you know, like it.
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Is it really possible to
enjoy your freedom of choice?
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We kind of taut that,
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we thank God for
the freedom of choice,
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but at the same time
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that we're in
some kind of a bondage
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that we don't even realize
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that we're in
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because I think it's
Romans talks about there,
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Romans 6:16 says,
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"To whom ye yield
yourselves servants to obey,
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His servants ye
are to whom ye obey."
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So it comes down pretty,
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you know, sometimes we
can be addicted to things
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that we don't even
realize that we're addicted to,
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and it results in a loss.
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Millions of
people were, you know,
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you can do some statistics
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and get on
different things and you've...
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Millions, millions of
people are struggling with loss.
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Listen, and we're talking about
the loss of the freedom's here,
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it is talking about
from their whole life,
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their family
because of addiction,
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some kind of addiction
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that's
completely tears the family,
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completely apart.
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It's interesting that
scientists can tell us
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now as they look at
the part of the brain,
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they actually said they can spot
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the part of the brain
that tells where the cravings
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actually come from and
the desires are located.
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You know, that's in itself
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is not really even the cure all.
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That's nice to
know that you can look
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and you say this
part of the brain
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says this is
cravings, this is desire,
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and so on.
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And it's gonna
take more than that.
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It's gonna take more where
everybody's been talking about,
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an outside help,
some heavenly help.
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So, you know, any kind
of an addiction affects
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not only the addict,
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but certainly
affects the family.
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Affects everybody
that you're around
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or by that's close to them.
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And, you know, the question be
what makes a person an addict?
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You know, where
does it come to the point
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to where you're
practicing something,
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doing something else
that now you are an addict,
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you know, it's
simpler here would be
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a habitual process,
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you know, the
natural use or the use
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or abuse of something.
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And so it's an abuse
somewhere along the line,
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we might be
taking something natural
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and might be helping
us we have a headache,
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we have this, we have
that and then all of a sudden
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we can't do without it anymore.
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And all of a sudden
we're hooked on this thing.
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You know, may
come to even a point
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that a person knows
that it's hurting them.
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But they've come to a
point that they cannot seem
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to gain the victory from that.
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2 Peter 2:19 tells us this,
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it says, "While they
promise them liberty,
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they themselves are
servants of corruption."
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Now that's 2 Peter 2:19,
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"For of whom a man is overcome,
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of the same he
has bought," what?
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"Into bondage." Interesting.
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So an interesting thought,
when a person is brought...
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You think about when
a person is held captive
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and that's why I
think this is we're talking
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about held captive by who?
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By the enemy. Absolutely.
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So everything that
person has everything
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that he will ever have,
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the enemy takes
control of that too.
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It's not just
the body as it were,
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not just the
mind, it's everything
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because he's taken
complete control on that.
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And, you know, example,
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you know, we're
talking about creation.
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Adam was given, what?
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Was he given dominion? He was.
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He was given dominion
over this the earth here
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by yielding to temptation.
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He was brought
under the power of Satan
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and certainly this world,
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Satan became the
Bible says the god of what?
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This world. The
god of this world.
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2 Corinthians 4:4.
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I really can't leave it at
that point, every time I say,
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well, the enemy has won,
he's taken over something,
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you got to go on
and let people know
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that there's
more to it than this,
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you know, we
can't leave it there
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because we need
to be reminded that,
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you know, the first Adam,
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the Bible talks about he failed,
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but the second
Adam did not fail.
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That's right. Yeah.
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He will not fail.
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Micah 4:8 in the prophecy says,
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the prophet says,
"O tower of the flock,"
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Micah 4:8, "the stronghold
of the daughter of Zion,
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unto thee shall it come,
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even the first dominion."
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It's going to go
back, praise God for that.
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Paul said in Ephesians 1:4,
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"He points
forward to the redemption
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of the purchased possession."
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Psalms 37:29, it says,
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"The righteous
shall inherit the land,
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and dwell there for evermore."
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I mean, the good
promises it may seem to be lost
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for a time, but
it's coming back.
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It's gonna be
given back to the saints.
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Amen.
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I looked at that,
in my mind is that sin
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and addiction are
two different things.
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They're both horrible
if you think about it.
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Sin and addiction
are not necessarily
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the same thing.
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You can commit a sin
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that you're not addicted to.
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It's true.
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You can commit a sin
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that you're not
really addicted to.
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Even many times it does,
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it turns out to be an addiction.
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Certainly would be better
to cry out before that point,
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say, oh, God help me,
right, have mercy on me
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and cry out for that
victory and certainly,
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Christ can help us.
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Galatians 5:24
brings this point up here.
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It tells us, "And
they that are Christ's
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have crucified,"
we've read this before,
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"have crucified
the flesh," notice,
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"within the afflictions or
the passions and the lust."
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So Wednesday's lesson's
bringing out here something
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very loss of freedom.
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It challenges us with
several Bible passages
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and several texts
and several questions
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that we might have.
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What are the things that
lead people to addiction?
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What are some of
the things that lead?
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Well, Luke 16:13 says,
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"No," it starts out real plain.
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"No servant can
serve," Two masters.
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"Two masters."
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"No servant can
serve two masters
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'cause you cannot
serve God and mammon."
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Now the question comes back.
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Is it possible to
serve two masters?
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It's not possible to do
it because it's not possible
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for me to say here
and look at Brother Ryan
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and look at Pastor
John at the same time.
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You have to
refocus, at least I do.
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Oh, you can see, you know,
prayerfully you can see it.
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No, I'm talking
about the focus side eye,
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you can't do that
even with your eyes.
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You can't serve two
masters here at all.
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You can't serve
the wealth and the,
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you know, the
mammon of the world
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become a slave
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to that which
captivates our time
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and our energy and our mind.
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Romans 6:16.
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And we've read it
before nevertheless it says,
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"I know you not,
that whom you yield
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yourselves servants to," what?
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Obey. Obey.
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"Obey, his servants
ye are whom ye obey,
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whether of sin unto
death or of obedience
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unto righteousness."
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I mean, to me that passage
is read over and over and over
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and it makes so much
sense when you just really look
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at know you not
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because people are in denial.
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Have you ever met someone
that has different problems
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was letting go
different problems
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causes loss in the home,
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the family separation division,
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and they'll say, I
don't have that problem.
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Yeah.
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That's not an issue with me.
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It doesn't have that
kind of a hold on me.
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And really, that it
really does have a hold on you.
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And they don't realize
that it's taken over their life
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and we're being
obedient to that thing.
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You know, one
master notice this,
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one lead you to
the heavenly realm
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and the other leads
you to the hellish realm.
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Think about it, one
lead you toward things
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that are up and one lead
you toward things that are down.
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We have to figure it out
as we read the Word of God,
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which way am I being
led day by day by day?
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Am I doing those
things that please God
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or am I doing those things
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that I wanna please myself with.
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Have I got
caught up in something
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that I'm not sure
even what it really is?
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And we've all said so many times
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anything we put before
God with really is our God
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we know that. James 1:14-15.
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This is so true,
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"Every man when
he is tempted..."
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You know it well.
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James 1:14-15,
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"Every man when
he is, what? Tempted.
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"When he is tempted,
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when he is drawn
away by his own,"
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what is it? "Desires."
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Well, the old saying
used to be a lot of time,
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remember, what was it
the devil made me do it?
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And the world, you know,
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kept saying it the
devil made me do it.
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It's kind of like
we make excuses for
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but the Bible is
very clear on it.
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We talked about the
principles of God's Word
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become very clear.
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"We're drawn
away by our own lust,
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our own desires."
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We wanted it, we
wanted to try it.
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We wanted to be
involved. We wanted it our way.
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You know, and so
when we went ahead
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and we stepped out.
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Bible says, "We're
drawn away by his own lust.
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He's enticed when
lust hath conceived."
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Lust comes into view
here. And it brings forth what?
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"Lust brings forth sin
and sin when it is," what?
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"Finished, brings forth death."
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That just standard, we
understand that standard.
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The source of all temptation,
then is man's craving
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for that which is
simply evil, interesting.
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Message to young people 67,
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closing up here in
the last few seconds.
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Said no man can be
forced to transgress.
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His own consent must be gained.
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So we can't blame the pastor,
we can't blame the elders,
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we can't blame
neighbors, and friends,
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and moms, and dads.
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We need to look
deep within our own self.
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What kind of life are we living?
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If we're not living
the right kind of life,
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there's gonna be
an awful lot of loss.
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And not only loss
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we're talking
about in this world,
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we're talking
about the loss of heaven.
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So I encourage people
today to make the right choices,
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make the right decision.
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By the grace of God,
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we can be free of this world,
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free of all of these
things that come our way.
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And certainly we
can be free indeed,
00:45:03.10\00:45:05.43
when we're free in Jesus Christ.
00:45:05.47\00:45:07.20
Paul said, I can do
anything I wanna do.
00:45:07.24\00:45:09.34
Why? Because
he's free in Christ.
00:45:09.37\00:45:11.04
Amen. Amen.
00:45:11.07\00:45:12.87
Thank you that is
"Loss of Freedom."
00:45:12.91\00:45:15.24
Romans 6:16, is one
of my favorite verses.
00:45:15.28\00:45:18.88
And I have Thursday's
lesson, "Loss of Life."
00:45:18.91\00:45:22.88
In 1 Corinthians 15:26,
00:45:22.92\00:45:25.15
the Bible says
something interesting.
00:45:25.19\00:45:26.96
It says the last
enemy that will be destroyed
00:45:26.99\00:45:31.86
is death.
00:45:31.89\00:45:34.33
Death is an enemy.
00:45:34.36\00:45:37.17
It is reality we all must
face unless Christ returns
00:45:37.20\00:45:42.54
during our life
and translates us.
00:45:42.57\00:45:47.21
But when you think about
this, you watch the news,
00:45:47.24\00:45:51.51
you hear about accidents,
senseless killings, genocides,
00:45:51.55\00:45:56.38
wars, people get upset
over the death of the pet,
00:45:56.42\00:46:00.16
the death of a
sibling, or maybe a parent,
00:46:00.19\00:46:03.49
or the death of a
child, or a spouse,
00:46:03.53\00:46:07.23
I think are two of
the most difficult.
00:46:07.26\00:46:10.17
And I want to give you
a promise 'cause sometimes
00:46:10.20\00:46:15.47
I just wanna make sure
that I'm gonna give you
00:46:15.50\00:46:17.14
two promises actually.
00:46:17.17\00:46:18.71
Psalm 116:15.
00:46:18.74\00:46:21.58
Some people are
like, "Where's God?
00:46:21.61\00:46:25.45
Why did my loved one die?"
00:46:25.48\00:46:28.88
Psalm 116:15 says,
00:46:28.92\00:46:31.72
"Precious in the
sight of the Lord
00:46:31.75\00:46:34.16
is the death of His saints."
00:46:34.19\00:46:36.66
Don't think that God
isn't there and isn't caring.
00:46:36.69\00:46:41.36
And if you've lost a
spouse, hold on to this one.
00:46:41.40\00:46:44.40
Isaiah 54:5, "For your
maker is your husband."
00:46:44.43\00:46:48.80
It mean, he's
still saying I mean,
00:46:48.84\00:46:51.14
because Christ is the
husband to the church.
00:46:51.17\00:46:54.61
This isn't just
a promise for women
00:46:54.64\00:46:56.68
when it says your
maker is your husband,
00:46:56.71\00:46:59.08
even men can say okay,
I've still got a spouse.
00:46:59.11\00:47:04.15
I am still a spouse.
00:47:04.19\00:47:06.09
"The Lord of hosts is His name,
00:47:06.12\00:47:07.46
your Redeemer is
the Holy One of Israel,
00:47:07.49\00:47:10.03
the God of the whole earth."
00:47:10.06\00:47:11.79
That's right.
00:47:11.83\00:47:13.16
Now when you think about
death, to the terminally ill,
00:47:13.19\00:47:17.30
death sometimes is
welcomed as a sweet relief.
00:47:17.33\00:47:21.44
I remember when my
aunt Lola who was so vibrant
00:47:21.47\00:47:25.81
and active
until she was like 92,
00:47:25.84\00:47:28.44
she fell, broke her pelvic bone
00:47:28.48\00:47:30.85
and no longer could be
active and she kept telling me,
00:47:30.88\00:47:33.92
honey, when I die,
she was never negative.
00:47:33.95\00:47:36.28
But she said, when I
die, don't cry for me,
00:47:36.32\00:47:37.92
I'm ready to go.
00:47:37.95\00:47:39.65
And then right at the
very end when she was 94,
00:47:39.69\00:47:43.09
it was something she wanted.
00:47:43.12\00:47:45.83
Death is the enemy though
of those who are left behind.
00:47:45.86\00:47:50.97
Death is the
enemy of the living.
00:47:51.00\00:47:53.97
You know, if you're a
Christian and you died,
00:47:54.00\00:47:56.54
you just close your eyes
and a sweet little sleep RIP,
00:47:56.57\00:48:00.48
rest in peace.
00:48:00.51\00:48:01.84
Next thing, you
know, you open your eyes
00:48:01.88\00:48:03.68
and it's the resurrection.
00:48:03.71\00:48:05.71
You hear Jesus voice.
00:48:05.75\00:48:07.82
But for those
who are left behind,
00:48:07.85\00:48:11.42
the emotional suffering
of that loss is really,
00:48:11.45\00:48:15.82
when we lose a
loved one, it's hard.
00:48:15.86\00:48:18.36
Who introduced
death? Romans 5:12 tells us.
00:48:18.39\00:48:22.56
"Therefore, just as
through the one man,"
00:48:22.60\00:48:26.00
speaking of the first Adam,
00:48:26.03\00:48:27.50
that Adam from
the Garden of Eden,
00:48:27.54\00:48:30.81
"sin entered the world
and through that one man,
00:48:30.84\00:48:34.44
death through sin,
thus death spread to all men
00:48:34.48\00:48:38.95
because all have sin."
00:48:38.98\00:48:40.32
But guess what?
00:48:40.35\00:48:41.68
The second man, the
second Adam, Jesus Christ,
00:48:41.72\00:48:45.09
he came to
destroy the sin and death.
00:48:45.12\00:48:49.76
So Hebrews 2:14
says this, "Inasmuch then
00:48:49.79\00:48:53.50
as the children have
partaken of flesh and blood,
00:48:53.53\00:48:55.96
He Himself
likewise shared in the same,
00:48:56.00\00:48:58.70
that through death
He might destroy him, "
00:48:58.73\00:49:02.24
speaking of Jesus,
"he might destroy him
00:49:02.27\00:49:05.87
who had the power of
death, that is, the devil."
00:49:05.91\00:49:09.18
Jesus has got that keys,
doesn't He to death and Hades
00:49:09.21\00:49:13.88
and release those
who through fear of death
00:49:13.92\00:49:17.65
were all their
lifetime subject to bondage.
00:49:17.69\00:49:21.96
The last great work of
Jesus Christ when He returns
00:49:21.99\00:49:27.36
is the elimination of death.
00:49:27.40\00:49:29.83
The last enemy will be killed
00:49:29.86\00:49:31.87
and at that
general resurrection,
00:49:31.90\00:49:33.77
when the believers come
forward to everlasting life,
00:49:33.80\00:49:39.27
Christ is gonna reign
over death's dominion.
00:49:39.31\00:49:43.45
That's right. So
here is when this happens.
00:49:43.48\00:49:46.41
1 Corinthians 15:52-57,
00:49:46.45\00:49:51.62
in 1 Corinthians 15:52 it says,
00:49:51.65\00:49:54.46
"In a moment, in
the twinkling of an eye,
00:49:54.49\00:49:57.06
at the last
trumpet," that's when?
00:49:57.09\00:50:00.06
When he's returning,
"For the trumpet will sound,
00:50:00.10\00:50:02.46
and the dead will be
raised incorruptible,
00:50:02.50\00:50:04.93
and we shall be changed.
00:50:04.97\00:50:07.14
For this
corruption, this mortal body,
00:50:07.17\00:50:11.14
must put on
incorruption, and this mortal, "
00:50:11.17\00:50:13.54
actually it says,
"must put on immortality."
00:50:13.58\00:50:17.98
When do we put on immortality?
At the last trumpet.
00:50:18.01\00:50:21.78
"So when this corruptible
has put on incorruption,
00:50:21.82\00:50:25.75
this mortal has
put on immortality,
00:50:25.79\00:50:28.99
then shall be brought to
pass the saying that is written:
00:50:29.02\00:50:35.76
'Death is
swallowed up in victory.'
00:50:35.80\00:50:38.87
O Death, where is your sting?
00:50:38.90\00:50:41.37
O Hades the grave,
where is your victory?"
00:50:41.40\00:50:45.04
So there is nothing
that makes the resurrection
00:50:45.07\00:50:49.64
better news than
knowing that the last enemy
00:50:49.68\00:50:53.15
that's gonna be
destroyed is death.
00:50:53.18\00:50:56.69
Death doesn't
have the final word,
00:50:56.72\00:50:58.95
Jesus Christ is
going to do that.
00:50:58.99\00:51:01.79
And then you know what he says,
00:51:01.82\00:51:04.09
after He
destroys this final enemy,
00:51:04.13\00:51:07.76
look at what
Revelation 21:4 says,
00:51:07.80\00:51:12.40
Christ returns, He
calls us to the resurrection
00:51:12.43\00:51:17.71
and then when
everything is said and done,
00:51:17.74\00:51:20.98
Revelation 21:4,
one of the promises
00:51:21.01\00:51:23.75
that we all wanna hold on
to, is "God will wipe away
00:51:23.78\00:51:26.58
every tear from their eyes,
there shall be no more death,
00:51:26.61\00:51:30.55
no more sorrow, nor crying.
00:51:30.59\00:51:32.75
There shall be no more
pain, for the former things
00:51:32.79\00:51:37.36
have passed away."
00:51:37.39\00:51:40.70
In Isaiah 57, there is something
00:51:40.73\00:51:43.57
that I wanted to read to you.
00:51:43.60\00:51:46.63
Isaiah 57 lets us know
00:51:46.67\00:51:49.00
why some people may go to sleep
00:51:49.04\00:51:51.81
in Jesus early.
00:51:51.84\00:51:54.88
It says in verse 1,
00:51:54.91\00:51:56.75
"The righteous perishes,
00:51:56.78\00:51:59.01
and no one takes it to heart,
00:51:59.05\00:52:01.65
merciful men are taken away,
00:52:01.68\00:52:04.75
no one considers
that the righteous
00:52:04.79\00:52:08.46
is taken away from evil.
00:52:08.49\00:52:12.23
He shall enter into peace
00:52:12.26\00:52:14.80
and rest in their beds,
00:52:14.83\00:52:18.37
each one walking
in his uprightness."
00:52:18.40\00:52:23.34
So God sometimes allows people,
00:52:23.37\00:52:27.51
He knows the end
from the beginning.
00:52:27.54\00:52:29.94
You know, you lose a child
00:52:29.98\00:52:32.38
and I can
imagine crying outsaying,
00:52:32.41\00:52:34.72
"Oh, why Lord, why?"
00:52:34.75\00:52:37.02
In Him knowing the
end from the beginning
00:52:37.05\00:52:40.06
in His foreknowledge,
He may have let your child
00:52:40.09\00:52:42.72
go to sleep to
avoid a horrible life.
00:52:42.76\00:52:46.86
But let's look at
grief real quickly,
00:52:46.90\00:52:51.23
because this is a
natural normal response to loss
00:52:51.27\00:52:56.24
and it's not,
the grieving process
00:52:56.27\00:52:57.97
is not the same for everyone.
00:52:58.01\00:53:00.08
I do not mean to
even indicate that
00:53:00.11\00:53:03.35
but, let's just look
at some stages of grief.
00:53:03.38\00:53:06.48
They're shocked in
denial because you know
00:53:06.51\00:53:09.18
shock is actually
emotional protection
00:53:09.22\00:53:12.59
from something
that's overwhelming.
00:53:12.62\00:53:16.66
I am going to forego the story,
I was gonna tell him that,
00:53:16.69\00:53:20.33
just to get through
this, but shock and denial
00:53:20.36\00:53:23.87
can be the
initial stage of grieving,
00:53:23.90\00:53:28.60
hence often that'll
last several months.
00:53:28.64\00:53:31.91
Then another stage of grieving
00:53:31.94\00:53:35.81
is just to be
constantly absorbed
00:53:35.84\00:53:39.25
with thoughts
of your loved ones.
00:53:39.28\00:53:40.62
You see them
everywhere, you look and I mean,
00:53:40.65\00:53:43.05
everything reminds you of them.
00:53:43.08\00:53:44.59
This is a six, six
months to a year they say.
00:53:44.62\00:53:48.22
But despairing depression
can come in such a way that
00:53:48.26\00:53:55.16
it's most painful
and protracted sign
00:53:55.20\00:54:00.27
or stage of grief.
00:54:00.30\00:54:02.67
I remember asking my
Aunt Lola who was married
00:54:02.70\00:54:06.47
for over 55 years,
00:54:06.51\00:54:08.44
when my uncle died
00:54:08.48\00:54:09.81
she came out to me
and said me about...
00:54:09.84\00:54:12.81
Oh, it was about 30
months after he died.
00:54:12.85\00:54:15.08
And I said, "How
are you doing really?"
00:54:15.12\00:54:16.69
I talked to her weekly,
00:54:16.72\00:54:18.35
but she said, "Oh, honey,
00:54:18.39\00:54:20.46
it took a year to
get my feet back under me
00:54:20.49\00:54:25.89
and another year to
walk without wobbling."
00:54:25.93\00:54:29.30
And you know, I've talked
to so many widows or widowers
00:54:29.33\00:54:33.03
who say, "That's
about what it's like."
00:54:33.07\00:54:35.37
That first year is the hardest
of any loss of a loved one.
00:54:35.40\00:54:41.58
Because you're
going through the first
00:54:41.61\00:54:43.48
of all the
holidays without them,
00:54:43.51\00:54:45.28
the first of the anniversary,
00:54:45.31\00:54:47.38
of the birthdays,
00:54:47.42\00:54:48.75
and the first time you go out
00:54:48.78\00:54:50.39
to your favorite
restaurant without them.
00:54:50.42\00:54:52.59
Whatever it is,
00:54:52.62\00:54:54.29
but I just want
to encourage you,
00:54:54.32\00:54:57.16
God is a God of all comfort
00:54:57.19\00:55:00.13
and eventually with time,
00:55:00.16\00:55:03.73
God will help draw back
00:55:03.77\00:55:07.00
that curtain of
despair and grief
00:55:07.04\00:55:12.11
to reveal happy memories,
00:55:12.14\00:55:15.41
and to quote one poet,
00:55:15.44\00:55:19.51
"It is better to
have loved and lost
00:55:19.55\00:55:22.02
than never to
have loved at all."
00:55:22.05\00:55:25.35
Praise the
Lord. Glory be to God.
00:55:25.39\00:55:27.72
Well, we are winding down,
00:55:27.76\00:55:29.82
we have just a
couple of minutes left,
00:55:29.86\00:55:31.26
but I've figured we would
just let the panel as usual,
00:55:31.29\00:55:34.16
give us some final thought.
00:55:34.20\00:55:35.90
We talked about loss of trust.
00:55:35.93\00:55:37.83
Ecclesiastes 7:8,
"The end of a thing
00:55:37.87\00:55:42.00
is better than its beginning."
00:55:42.04\00:55:44.57
You know, I take
therapy for my finger
00:55:44.61\00:55:46.68
and there's an
acronym on the wall,
00:55:46.71\00:55:48.54
H-O-P-E-S on the
wall, this is not like hope,
00:55:48.58\00:55:50.75
I'm going through pain.
00:55:50.78\00:55:52.15
It didn't mean hope, she said,
it means hold on, pain ends.
00:55:52.18\00:55:56.05
That's good.
00:55:56.08\00:55:57.42
Praise the Lord,
that's great, Pastor John.
00:55:57.45\00:55:59.25
Isaiah 57:19, God
speaking, "Peace, peace to him
00:55:59.29\00:56:03.59
who is far off and to him
who is near, says the Lord,
00:56:03.63\00:56:07.70
'And I will heal him.' "
00:56:07.73\00:56:09.53
So God wants to bring
peace into your life again
00:56:09.56\00:56:13.54
after the brokenness
and He wants to heal you.
00:56:13.57\00:56:16.64
Amen.
00:56:16.67\00:56:18.01
The Lord assures us
that the battle is not ours
00:56:18.04\00:56:20.08
but the battle
is His in 1 Samuel.
00:56:20.11\00:56:22.28
He also says in 1 Peter
1, "He promises victory."
00:56:22.31\00:56:25.78
So I wanna encourage
people just quickly today,
00:56:25.81\00:56:28.12
today is the day that you begin
your victory walk through Him,
00:56:28.15\00:56:31.39
through the blood of Jesus.
00:56:31.42\00:56:32.75
Amen.
00:56:32.79\00:56:34.12
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 says that,
"God is the God of comfort."
00:56:34.16\00:56:37.03
He comforts us and always,
00:56:37.06\00:56:39.73
so that we maketh comfort others
00:56:39.76\00:56:42.86
with the same
comfort He gives us.
00:56:42.90\00:56:44.83
I cannot comfort a
woman who has lost her child
00:56:44.87\00:56:49.54
as well as another woman
00:56:49.57\00:56:51.21
who's walked
through that experience.
00:56:51.24\00:56:53.11
Let God use you to comfort those
00:56:53.14\00:56:56.64
who are bereaved.
00:56:56.68\00:56:58.38
Absolutely.
00:56:58.41\00:56:59.75
Thank you guys so much for that.
00:56:59.78\00:57:01.52
You know, I know this
text has already been mentioned
00:57:01.55\00:57:03.52
a couple of
times in this lesson,
00:57:03.55\00:57:04.89
but it just
keeps coming back to me
00:57:04.92\00:57:06.29
and that is that
blessed hope that we have,
00:57:06.32\00:57:07.96
the wonderful promise.
00:57:07.99\00:57:09.32
Then in Revelation
22:4-5 it says that,
00:57:09.36\00:57:12.89
"When we are in
that new Jerusalem
00:57:12.93\00:57:15.43
and we're on that new
heaven and a new earth,
00:57:15.46\00:57:17.07
God will wipe away
every tear from our eyes,
00:57:17.10\00:57:19.87
there shall be no more death,
there shall be no more sorrow,
00:57:19.90\00:57:23.37
no more crying,
00:57:23.41\00:57:25.04
there shall be no more pain.
00:57:25.07\00:57:26.41
Behold, God will
make all things new."
00:57:26.44\00:57:28.61
Amen. Amen.
00:57:28.64\00:57:29.98
It is that time
and we appreciate you
00:57:30.01\00:57:31.55
so much for joining us.
00:57:31.58\00:57:32.91
Join us next week for lesson 10
for "Little Times of Trouble."
00:57:32.95\00:57:36.99
Amen. God bless.
00:57:37.02\00:57:38.35