The Bible tells us, "In
the beginning was the Word,
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and the Word was with
God, and the Word was God."
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It says to,
"Receive with meekness
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the implanted Word,
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which is able to save your souls
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and to be diligent
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to present
yourself approved to God,
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rightly dividing
the Word of truth."
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Join us now for the
3ABN Sabbath School Panel.
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Our study today
is Family Seasons.
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Hello, I'm Shelly
Quinn, and we welcome you
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to our 3ABN
Sabbath School Panel.
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I'm going to do
something I've never done
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and I don't think
we've ever done this
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on the Sabbath School Panel.
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Our study this week is
on the Song of Solomon,
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the royal love song.
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This is a look at the
beauty and the bliss of marriage
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and actually it's
the pure, devoted,
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romantic love of
a husband and wife
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on the day of their wedding
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and the night of
their marital bliss.
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I want to encourage parents.
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If you think that your
children are too young,
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too immature to
understand the Bible verses
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or to even hear the Bible verses
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that we will read
in a Song of Solomon,
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then I'd encourage you
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to send them out
of the room right now.
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However, if you
think your child,
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if there is a child
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who is maybe
approaching the teen years
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or in the teen years,
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and you think
that you need a way
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to open up a discussion,
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this is a beautiful lesson
that will open that discussion.
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And I just have to say this.
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The secular world has
stolen the narrative on sex.
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That's right.
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And they make it
something that they degrade it
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to a kind of like
an animal passion,
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but in some cultures,
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and some times in the
church we find people who think
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that sex isn't
something to be talked about.
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If we look at the Bible,
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either one of
these extremes `is wrong
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because God created
us a sexual human beings
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and He created marriage
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with the arena
of that expression,
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and the romantic relationship
between a committed couple
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is a beautiful
picture what we will see today
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of emotional intimacy
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and these
fulfillment of sensuality.
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So having said that,
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we're going to give you a moment
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to send your
children out if you think so
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because this is to me,
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this is like
revisiting the innocence
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of Adam and Eve in the garden.
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When you read
this Song of Solomon,
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there is just the beauty
of this delightful innocence
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and their love
making is precious.
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So what we're going
to do first is tell you
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that if you need a copy of this,
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you can go to
your Adventist Church,
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and get a copy of our quarterly
and study along with this
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or you can download
it from the internet
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by going to ABSG.Adventist.org.
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Ryan, I think that even
before I read the memory text,
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I think we need some
special prayer for this.
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Oh, absolutely.
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Yes, let's pray.
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Dear Father in heaven,
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topic such as this
need a special leader,
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and, Lord, we
certainly need Your leadership,
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we need Your guidance right now.
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We don't want our own thoughts,
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our own ideas, our
own opinions, Lord,
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we simply just want Your truth,
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Your word, your
guidance, your mind to be ours.
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Hide us behind Jesus.
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May every person
who hears to study
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including ourselves, Lord,
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may we been drawn
closer to the savior,
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and may we be drawn
closer to each other
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because we're
talking about family, Lord,
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and You created the family,
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it is Your word who established.
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And, Lord, we thank You so much
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for all that You
have done for us,
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and for who You are,
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we ask a special blessing
upon this lesson right now,
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in Jesus' precious
name we pray, amen.
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Amen. Thank you, Ryan.
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Let me go ahead and
introduce the rest of our panel.
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Next to me is my dear
friend Pastor Kenny Shelton.
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We're so glad to have you here,
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my own pastor,
Pastor John Lomacang,
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my dear friend and
sister, Jill Morikone,
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and then our
wonderful pastor, Ryan Day.
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We're so glad to
have each one of you here.
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Let's look at our memory text,
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and this is Song of Solomon 8:6,
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"Set me as a
seal upon your heart,
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as a seal upon your arm,
for love is as strong as death,
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jealousy as cruel as the grave,
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its flames are flames of
fire, a most vehement flame."
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Now, marriage, we have looked at
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as a grand change in life,
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and marriage brings challenges
and it brings blessings.
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And conjugal love
between a husband and his wife
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is one of the
wonderful blessings
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that God has given to us
and let me just say this.
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This is not a taboo topic,
this is not a topic of shame
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because this is a wonderful gift
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that God has given us.
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Now yes,
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outside of the
marriage of a husband and wife
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to misuse the gift
of sexuality is sin,
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but the Song of Solomon
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unfolds this mystery
of intimacy and sensuality
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in a beautiful way.
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Often this book is
treated as an allegory,
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which means it's
a story or a point
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with a hidden meaning
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and certainly the
hidden meaning in this
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would be the
reflection of God's perfect love
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for Israel, did it not?
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This song portrays
marriage as a perfect love
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that is patterned
after the divine love of God.
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So let's look at
the indivisible life
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in lesson number
six, Sunday's lesson.
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Some religions teach dualism.
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And basically what dualism says
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is, "Hey, the
body is the problem,
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you know, a problem
to the spiritual life,
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and they're
separated and let's don't talk
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about the body is
bad, the spirit is good.
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What we believe is, in
scripture, the human body,
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the person and its
sexual characteristics
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is integral to the whole being.
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Life is body and spirit, right?
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Genesis 2:7,
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"The Lord God formed man
of the dust of the ground,
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He breathed into his
nostrils the breath of life,
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and man became a living being."
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Man's more than a material being
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because God
breathed the breath of life,
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that's the Neshamah into Adam.
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And so body plus
Neshamah, the breath
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equals a living being.
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In the Hebrew, that's Nephesh.
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So this is used to
describe other living beings,
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animals are also
described this way,
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but we are special
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because we were
created in God's image.
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So what we see,
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if you want to see
the whole of the life
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as being spirit, and flesh,
and body is all wrapped up.
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Look at how the
Psalmist worship God
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with his whole
being in Psalm 63:1,
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he says, "O,
God, you are my God,
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early will I seek you,
my soul thirsts for you,
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my flesh longs for you,
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in a dry and weary land
where there is no water."
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But what we want to remember
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is that Paul tells
us in 1 Corinthian 6:19,
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"Our body is,"
what? The temple of God.
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"The temple of the Holy Spirit."
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And let's look at what 1
Thessalonians 5:23 has to say
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because Paul tells us
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we were bought with a price,
the precious blood of Jesus.
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So when we
consider our sexuality,
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this is something that needs,
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this gift needs to be
sanctified to the Lord.
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1 Thessalonians 5:23, says,
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"May the God of peace himself
sanctify you completely."
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Who's doing this
work of sanctification?
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God. God is.
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God.
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Thesis, "May your
whole spirit, soul, and body,
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that's the person,
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be preserved blameless
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at the coming of our
Lord and Savior Jesus Christ."
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So the total person
including our sexuality,
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that characteristic
should be sanctified to God.
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Amen.
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But the Bible shows us
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that a very positive
view on the human body.
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Let's look at the
Song of Songs 1:2.
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This is about King
Saul and the Shulamite woman
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that he's
getting ready to marry.
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King Solomon? Solomon.
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What did I say?
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Yes, King Solomon
and the Shulamite woman,
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and she says in 1:2,
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"Let him kiss me with
the kisses of his mouth,
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for her love is
better than wine."
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And then...
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That reminds me of that we say,
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"God's love is
better than wine."
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Right?
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Song of Songs 1:13, says,
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"A bundle of myrrh
is my beloved to me
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that lies on all
night between my breasts."
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And then 2:6, "His
left hand is under my head,
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and his right hand embraces me."
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So we see that
throughout this sacred text,
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the human body is elevated,
if you will, it's admired.
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Now, I'm not going to
have time to read this
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'cause I want to
make my comments,
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but I encourage you to
read Song of Song 5:10-16.
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This is the bride,
the Shulamite woman,
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she's talking about her
beloved being white and ruddy,
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chief among ten thousand.
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She describes his
head, his locks, his eyes,
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his cheeks, his hands,
his legs, and his mouth,
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and then in 7:1-9,
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He, then King Solomon is
talking about his beloved,
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and he starts
off, this is so cute.
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"How beautiful are
your feet in your sandals."
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I mean, and he talks
about the curves of her thighs,
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her naval, her
breasts, her eyes, her head.
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He talks about "the fragrance
of your breath is like apples,
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and the roof of your
mouth like the best wine."
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So throughout this sacred
text, the human body is admired.
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And I want to read something
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I thought was a great
comment from our quarterly.
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It says, "The physical
aspects of married love
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are not an embarrassment,
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a full range of
emotion is openly presented.
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Powerful sexual taboos
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typically exist
in many cultures,
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and married couples
does often find it difficult
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to communicate in healthy ways
regarding their intimate life.
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Similarly,
children are often deprived
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of the opportunity
to learn about sexuality
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in the setting of
a Christian home."
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Oh, don't deprive
your child of that
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because if you don't
teach them, the world will.
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"So they are deprived
through of the opportunity
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to learn about sexuality
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in the setting
of a Christian home
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where godly
values can be integrated
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with correct information."
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The Bible's
openness with sexuality,
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calls his people
to a greater level
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of comfort with this topic,
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so that this
vital aspect of life
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is treated with a
respect and dignity
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do so great a
gift from the Creator.
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One thing I have to say,
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one really
wonderful thing my mother did
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is she always encouraged me,
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she didn't talked
to me prematurely.
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But I can remember
even from a small child,
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she said,
"Whatever you hear at school,
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if you hear anything
about sex or about your body,
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Honey, come tell me
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because kids get
it wrong sometimes
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and I'll give you
the correct information."
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And you know what?
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My mother never made me
feel ashamed of any question.
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She satisfied my curiosity,
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and I can remember
even through high school,
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you know, I'd be shocked to hear
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that someone
was sexually active.
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Sometimes kids
are sexually active
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out of curiosity,
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sometimes just because
they haven't been taught.
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So let's recapture the narrative
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and teach our children.
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Amen. All right. Wonderful job.
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I have Monday's
and the title of it,
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"The loves of the love song."
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And, you know, that
might be little complex.
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Some people might
say, oh, my, this is...
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But really, the
lesson is very good.
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It's something that we
need to really look at here.
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And I'm thinking
about here Solomon,
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it seems though that
he wrote about his love.
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The things that he experienced,
he wrote about these things
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and I think as we
look in 1 Kings 11:1,
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it says, "He had many
loves." And so when you look at,
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was it 1 Kings 11
and verse about 3,
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it says, he had...
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Was it 700
wives, 300 concubines,
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and so on, and so I'll be...
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Here I'm just
going to ask the question
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that which one of his
loves was he writing about here?
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Well, it's a request,
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which one was
he writing of here?
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And I think it
becomes pretty clearer,
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we talked about the
Shulamite woman here.
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We call the country girl.
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So there was
something very special,
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he was very active in
lot of different areas there,
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but there was one I think
that really captivated him.
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Like, maybe each one of you
became your wife or whatever.
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And so I thought
that was interesting,
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but his autobiography
when you really look at,
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it's kind of moral fallen,
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and pretty sad
is the end result.
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A man that God gave
so much wisdom, you know,
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the history is he...
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All he was doing it seems
was searching for happiness,
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and lot of you may be
searching for happiness today.
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And sometime we
look in the wrong places.
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Make sure you
look in the right place
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you're looking for, make
sure you're looking at somebody
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that you can love and
hold on to for your life.
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Now he always engaged.
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He was a man that could engage
in any kind of a conversation.
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He's so intellectual, no
matter what the subject was,
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he could engage in it,
and he loved to engage in it
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because I think
sometime was showing his wisdom,
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like some people may like to do.
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He gratified his
love, he did it for pleasure
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and then also we
found that he had a...
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His carnal heart
wanted his own way
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and what he
wanted when he wanted it.
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And, you know, I think about is,
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even his experience, I mean...
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If you really think
about the experiences
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that this man had,
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you know, and the
opportunities and privileges,
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he had to be what
God wanted him to do.
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And all the
things he experiences,
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we've talked about before,
he finally just summed it all,
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he said, it's all what?
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Vanity. It's all vanity.
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So our lesson
brings out many aspects
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and certainly
this panel has done
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in previous
lesson, aspects of love.
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Things that we can do to
make our relationships better,
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things that we need to be
doing that we're not doing,
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things that we don't say
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that we should be
saying more often than we do,
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and life is certainly be
a lot easier for all of us
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if we said the
things that need to be said.
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That's true.
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And so love is...
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We look in, and I've
just kind of few things
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that go over here.
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Some of these you may relate to,
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others you may not relate to.
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Some things you've experienced,
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maybe you really
haven't experienced.
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And the verse that
you read, Sister Shelley,
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was interesting,
I jotted down too.
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Song of Solomon 1:2, it says,
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"Let him kiss me with
the kisses of his mouth,
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for thy love is
better than wine."
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This is a Shulamite
woman that was talking about
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that you made very clear here.
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And, you know,
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the Jews
considered the Song of Solomon
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the most
excellent in all the Bible.
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So it's something that maybe
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we need to look
at very closely here.
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Yes.
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You know, Solomon had written...
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I thought this is interesting
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and some of you are song writers
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and you write songs,
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you do all kind
of things like that.
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He had written 1 Kings
4:32, over one thousand,
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one thousand songs,
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think about, they composed them.
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That's quite a
few songs in this,
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so he had it in his
heart, it was in his soul,
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and he want to bring it
out, and things that he did,
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he want to pen it down,
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and even put into
poetry and so on and so forth.
00:17:58.51\00:18:01.01
The word for
love is mentioned here
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in the plural,
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which indicates at least to me
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there are many
things that we can do.
00:18:06.38\00:18:08.65
I mentioned it a while ago
to show, you know, tensions,
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things that we can do
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to manifest our
love toward our mate,
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and our fellowman,
and so on and so forth
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to show ways of loving,
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and sometime,
again, we forget that.
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I kind of did
that the other day.
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Let me tell them of myself
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just a little bit
here if you don't mind.
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And the rest, if
you don't want to hear,
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just close your ears,
and it'd be all right.
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Because sometimes, you know,
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you want to do the
right thing, right?
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I need to do the right
thing, sometime we forget.
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Well, I gave my wife a
dozen roses, I stopped.
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First time I went to
buy and I see them for sale,
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I thought I'm
really too busy to do this,
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and then I got my attention,
00:18:48.59\00:18:49.92
I should never
be too busy for her.
00:18:49.96\00:18:51.63
So I stopped and I
bought a dozen roses,
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I'll tell more
about that in a minute.
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But, you know, I thought,
00:18:56.20\00:18:57.53
"Well, I'll just take
them where she's at work,
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so I took the roses in,
she wasn't in her office.
00:18:59.87\00:19:02.80
So I thought, "Well, I
just get a little water,
00:19:02.84\00:19:04.17
and put them on the
desk, and move right on."
00:19:04.21\00:19:05.67
You know, pretty
soon, that wasn't very long.
00:19:05.71\00:19:08.48
I left there and my phone rang.
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And she was on the other end,
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Chris on the
other end, she said,
00:19:12.35\00:19:15.08
"Is there something
you need to tell me?"
00:19:15.12\00:19:18.99
You don't do this often enough.
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Well, I'm telling myself
just little bit, here she says,
00:19:20.49\00:19:23.46
"Is there something
that you want to tell me?"
00:19:23.49\00:19:25.83
And I'm going,
"Well, what do you mean?"
00:19:25.86\00:19:29.13
And all of sudden I
start racking my brain.
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Have I
forgotten to say something
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or do something
I should have done,
00:19:32.77\00:19:34.30
what if I done,
what somebody said,
00:19:34.34\00:19:36.71
well, I'm gonna
have to do something.
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No, I racked my brain, I said,
"No, I hadn't forgot anything."
00:19:38.11\00:19:42.01
I said, "Honey,
I don't think so."
00:19:42.04\00:19:43.81
She said, "Are you sure?"
00:19:43.85\00:19:45.88
Right then I thought, "Man,
I must be guilty of something,
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you know, all I have
done is bring some flowers,
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and, you know, show love.
00:19:49.48\00:19:51.42
Sometimes just say, it's easy
00:19:51.45\00:19:52.79
to say, Honey, I
love you, and go on,
00:19:52.82\00:19:54.16
but sometime do
something special.
00:19:54.19\00:19:55.52
And she said, "Are you sure?"
00:19:55.56\00:19:56.99
And I said, "Well, like what?
00:19:57.03\00:19:58.99
Tell me what it is?"
00:19:59.03\00:20:00.36
She said, "Well,
I'll just tell you this,
00:20:00.40\00:20:02.00
I just found
some beautiful flowers
00:20:02.03\00:20:03.40
on my desk,
00:20:03.43\00:20:04.77
and I loved them, and
I'm just kidding you."
00:20:04.80\00:20:09.24
Well, I felt relieved,
man did I feel relieved.
00:20:09.27\00:20:11.27
I'm just kidding,
nothing I had to do,
00:20:11.31\00:20:12.81
nothing I had done wrong
00:20:12.84\00:20:14.41
and so I thought,
"Well, okay, well that's good."
00:20:14.44\00:20:16.91
So I thought, "Okay, okay,
Honey, thanks, that's good,
00:20:16.95\00:20:18.88
I'm glad you called and
everything is all right."
00:20:18.91\00:20:20.55
But the thing is, it got deeper.
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I don't know if any
of you ever got deeper
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because when I
stopped and buy dozen one,
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I bought two.
00:20:26.25\00:20:27.72
I didn't just buy
one, I bought two.
00:20:27.76\00:20:30.39
So I already dug a
little bit of the hole,
00:20:30.43\00:20:31.76
I thought, well,
what am I going to do?
00:20:31.79\00:20:33.23
So one of them I
leave at the office
00:20:33.26\00:20:34.60
and the other I take home.
00:20:34.63\00:20:37.07
And so anyway, I went
home, she was already there,
00:20:37.10\00:20:40.10
but again she's in other
room so I hurried right quick
00:20:40.14\00:20:43.17
and put some watered in the vas,
00:20:43.20\00:20:46.07
and I put the flowers in there,
00:20:46.11\00:20:49.48
and put them on
the kitchen table,
00:20:49.51\00:20:50.85
and then I ran out to my study
and I thought let's go in here.
00:20:50.88\00:20:53.05
Pretty soon I hear
the voice, "Well, well."
00:20:53.08\00:20:56.65
Oh no, what have I done?
00:20:56.69\00:20:58.42
I've tried to do something
that, you know, in the case,
00:20:58.45\00:21:00.79
you know, the love and
you want to do something good.
00:21:00.82\00:21:02.56
She said, "Kenny, I'm sure now
00:21:02.59\00:21:05.89
there's something
you want to tell me."
00:21:05.93\00:21:08.16
I said, "No, there's
nothing I want to tell you."
00:21:08.20\00:21:10.57
She was trying to
get something out of me
00:21:10.60\00:21:11.93
I didn't have enough
sense to let it come out.
00:21:11.97\00:21:14.24
I thought, "Man, I
just," you know, she played me.
00:21:14.27\00:21:18.27
You know, she
pulled my leg again
00:21:18.31\00:21:20.11
and I said, "Honey, I
really don't know of anything
00:21:20.14\00:21:22.11
I really need to tell you."
00:21:22.14\00:21:24.18
And sometime I think as men,
00:21:24.21\00:21:25.85
we think that if we
buy something for them
00:21:25.88\00:21:28.18
or give them something,
00:21:28.22\00:21:30.12
it takes the place of
saying, "Honey, I love you."
00:21:30.15\00:21:34.19
And really I think all
long she wanted me to say,
00:21:34.22\00:21:36.62
"Is there
something you want to say,
00:21:36.66\00:21:37.99
is there
something you need to say?"
00:21:38.03\00:21:39.36
And I'm going, "What
is it? What have I done?
00:21:39.39\00:21:40.96
Rather than "Well, there is,
Honey, along with the flowers,
00:21:41.00\00:21:43.26
I want to tell you,
I love you very much."
00:21:43.30\00:21:44.73
That's good.
00:21:44.77\00:21:46.10
So sometimes we
men forget to do that
00:21:46.13\00:21:47.64
and I'm going to
encourage men today,
00:21:47.67\00:21:49.70
please do that.
00:21:49.74\00:21:51.97
I think probably nothing better
00:21:52.01\00:21:53.34
than the wife
probably wants to hear
00:21:53.38\00:21:56.11
melodious song to the heart.
00:21:56.14\00:21:58.91
So Solomon was writing
about these things, you know,
00:21:58.95\00:22:01.68
music for the ears.
00:22:01.72\00:22:03.45
It's music to my ears
00:22:03.49\00:22:04.82
when someone says,
"Oh Kenny, I love you."
00:22:04.85\00:22:06.55
That's music.
00:22:06.59\00:22:07.92
It really does
something to the heart,
00:22:07.96\00:22:10.03
and so we need to say
more often than we do,
00:22:10.06\00:22:12.53
"Honey, I really love you."
00:22:12.56\00:22:14.66
So this love, this
lesson really brings out to be
00:22:14.70\00:22:17.03
about happy is the
man, happy is the woman,
00:22:17.07\00:22:20.40
who your mate is
yours, been brought out
00:22:20.44\00:22:22.60
is your very best friend.
00:22:22.64\00:22:24.27
Yes.
00:22:24.31\00:22:25.64
And in the confines of a husband
00:22:25.67\00:22:27.31
in relationship with a wife,
00:22:27.34\00:22:29.28
right here it was talking
about a companion, a partner.
00:22:29.31\00:22:33.75
I like to think of
marriage as, it's a partnership,
00:22:33.78\00:22:37.32
something that
we're in together with
00:22:37.35\00:22:39.55
and we need that.
00:22:39.59\00:22:40.99
And, you know, in
this kind of relationship,
00:22:41.02\00:22:44.23
we need to spend time,
it's been brought out here
00:22:44.26\00:22:46.46
that we need to just
sit down and just talk.
00:22:46.49\00:22:48.33
That's right.
00:22:48.36\00:22:49.70
It's time that we
need to take apart
00:22:49.73\00:22:51.07
from everything else and
just two of you sit down.
00:22:51.10\00:22:54.17
Share the things of
the day's activities,
00:22:54.20\00:22:56.00
share the things of
maybe you have, you know,
00:22:56.04\00:22:57.97
may the Lord's impressing you
to do as you work in ministry
00:22:58.01\00:23:00.38
and so on and so forth,
so you can pray about it.
00:23:00.41\00:23:04.55
The Adventist Home, page
99, just says this, it says,
00:23:04.58\00:23:07.88
you know, "Love is the...
00:23:07.92\00:23:09.65
You talking about
it's the answer in the home
00:23:09.68\00:23:11.35
because love does this,
when husband and wife together,
00:23:11.39\00:23:13.69
it refines, and purifies,
and elevates any nobles.
00:23:13.72\00:23:17.99
I need everyone of it.
00:23:18.03\00:23:19.36
I need to be
refined more than I am.
00:23:19.39\00:23:21.06
I need to be
purified more than I am.
00:23:21.10\00:23:22.73
That can only be by
the blood of the lamb,
00:23:22.76\00:23:24.63
and it elevates
us, it nobles us.
00:23:24.67\00:23:27.67
True love is not natural,
00:23:27.70\00:23:29.57
it's not a natural thing,
you know, in the human being.
00:23:29.60\00:23:32.47
It's a gift
from the Holy Spirit,
00:23:32.51\00:23:33.84
Roman 5:5 tells us that.
00:23:33.88\00:23:35.94
So, you know, love binds
a husband and wife together.
00:23:35.98\00:23:38.35
We need to make
sure we show that
00:23:38.38\00:23:40.78
in every way
that we possibly can.
00:23:40.82\00:23:42.72
And I'll close
with this right here,
00:23:42.75\00:23:44.09
it talks about
in your life union,
00:23:44.12\00:23:46.89
your affections
are to be tributary
00:23:46.92\00:23:49.39
to each other's happiness.
00:23:49.42\00:23:51.26
Though it says,
00:23:51.29\00:23:53.43
this is the will
of God concerning you.
00:23:53.46\00:23:55.86
So each one of
us are to minister
00:23:55.90\00:23:57.97
to our husband or to our wife.
00:23:58.00\00:24:00.34
We're tributary,
we're little revered,
00:24:00.37\00:24:01.74
we're little streamed
00:24:01.77\00:24:03.17
to make sure that
their life is happy,
00:24:03.20\00:24:04.81
and I can guarantee you,
you make the wife happy, right?
00:24:04.84\00:24:07.88
Everybody's happy.
00:24:07.91\00:24:09.84
This is what God
would have us do.
00:24:09.88\00:24:11.21
This is a will of
God concerning you,
00:24:11.25\00:24:13.38
it's to love and to
make the other one happier.
00:24:13.42\00:24:15.62
That's right. Amen.
00:24:15.65\00:24:17.09
The loves of the
love song we need to learn
00:24:17.12\00:24:19.69
how to express our
love and appreciation,
00:24:19.72\00:24:21.86
give a good complement
to our husband or wife.
00:24:21.89\00:24:25.89
Now, please stay with
us, we'll be right back.
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Now, we're going
to continue our study
00:25:07.80\00:25:10.87
on this beautiful gift of
sexuality that God gave us
00:25:10.91\00:25:15.34
to be expressed
within the marriage.
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John?
00:25:17.78\00:25:19.11
Mine is Tuesday,
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it is entitled,
"A loving knowledge."
00:25:20.65\00:25:23.99
And I'm glad that you
lay disclaimer that you did
00:25:24.02\00:25:27.19
and, Pastor
Kenny, thank you so much.
00:25:27.22\00:25:29.02
And we have
really in our own hearts
00:25:29.06\00:25:31.03
pray to ask the Lord to
give us guidance and wisdom
00:25:31.06\00:25:33.73
because we want
to be scriptural,
00:25:33.76\00:25:35.43
but we also want
to be expressive,
00:25:35.46\00:25:37.67
and not allow our expression
00:25:37.70\00:25:39.63
to override the
beauty and the solemnity
00:25:39.67\00:25:42.80
of what God has written.
00:25:42.84\00:25:44.31
And we are peeking
into what God established
00:25:44.34\00:25:49.01
to be beautifully expressed
between a husband and a wife,
00:25:49.04\00:25:52.35
and I say that
00:25:52.38\00:25:53.72
because we live in a world today
00:25:53.75\00:25:55.22
where the expression of love
00:25:55.25\00:25:57.22
has taken on so many dimensions
that is kind of been...
00:25:57.25\00:26:01.19
Let me just rephrase this,
00:26:01.22\00:26:02.56
not kind of been,
it's been distorted.
00:26:02.59\00:26:04.06
Yes.
00:26:04.09\00:26:05.43
And the word love, we
could say I love that car,
00:26:05.46\00:26:06.83
I love that
house, I love that job,
00:26:06.86\00:26:08.43
I love that
woman, I love that man,
00:26:08.46\00:26:10.43
and it's the word love
00:26:10.47\00:26:11.87
is so shallow in
the English language
00:26:11.90\00:26:14.10
that it fails to capture
the beauty of the word love
00:26:14.14\00:26:17.01
when it comes to the
biblical language in Hebrew,
00:26:17.04\00:26:20.38
in Greek, in Aramaic,
00:26:20.41\00:26:21.74
it's so beautiful
when it comes to that
00:26:21.78\00:26:23.14
because there are
certain expressions of love,
00:26:23.18\00:26:25.35
for example, agape, godly love.
00:26:25.38\00:26:27.72
You have eros,
which is a sensual love,
00:26:27.75\00:26:30.22
but the eros that
the Bible talks about
00:26:30.25\00:26:32.12
a sensual love is
not the kind of love
00:26:32.15\00:26:36.09
that's expressed
between a husband and wife
00:26:36.12\00:26:37.69
because it's more of a carnal
00:26:37.73\00:26:39.89
rather than,
there's a phileo love.
00:26:39.93\00:26:41.66
And so the Bible
incorporates love
00:26:41.70\00:26:44.33
to give it the rubber
stamp of God's approval
00:26:44.37\00:26:49.07
and that's where we're
laying the foundation for today.
00:26:49.10\00:26:52.27
Sensuality, love
00:26:52.31\00:26:53.64
within the confines of marriage.
00:26:53.68\00:26:55.44
Go with me to the
Book of the Song of Solomon
00:26:55.48\00:26:58.71
and the question
that it leads into,
00:26:58.75\00:27:02.42
in the lesson on
Tuesday, May 7 is,
00:27:02.45\00:27:06.15
how does the Song of Solomon
00:27:06.19\00:27:09.42
present a
commitment to mutuality
00:27:09.46\00:27:12.13
in the intimate life
of the married couple?
00:27:12.16\00:27:15.36
What you're going to
see after I read this,
00:27:15.40\00:27:16.73
you're going to
see some comparisons,
00:27:16.77\00:27:18.53
and the Bible uses
the intimate language
00:27:18.57\00:27:21.07
to describe more
than just a relationship
00:27:21.10\00:27:23.30
between husband and wife,
00:27:23.34\00:27:24.81
but it also uses
an intimate language
00:27:24.84\00:27:27.14
to describe the relationship
between God and the Christian.
00:27:27.18\00:27:30.51
That's right.
00:27:30.55\00:27:31.88
Because it says
that prior to sin,
00:27:31.91\00:27:35.42
Adam and Eve were naked
but they were not ashamed.
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Amen.
00:27:38.25\00:27:39.59
After sin, Adam
and Eve were naked
00:27:39.62\00:27:41.86
and they were ashamed.
00:27:41.89\00:27:43.76
Oh, yeah.
00:27:43.79\00:27:45.13
They were naked,
they hid themselves.
00:27:45.16\00:27:46.49
So one of the things
that we have to, you know,
00:27:46.53\00:27:48.76
I said this once I
was preaching a sermon,
00:27:48.80\00:27:50.23
I said, at least
in Adam and Eve's day,
00:27:50.27\00:27:52.17
they were naked
and they knew it.
00:27:52.20\00:27:54.47
Today, the
world glorifies nudity
00:27:54.50\00:27:58.57
or the world
glorifies a sensuality
00:27:58.61\00:28:02.31
that is not rubber
stamped by God's approval.
00:28:02.34\00:28:04.51
Right.
00:28:04.55\00:28:05.88
And it's leading men
and women unfortunately
00:28:05.91\00:28:08.22
to glorify something
that God does not approve of.
00:28:08.25\00:28:10.99
Amen.
00:28:11.02\00:28:12.35
You'll also see
after I read this,
00:28:12.39\00:28:13.72
that there's a
connection to the word "know"
00:28:13.76\00:28:15.66
the word when Adam knew
Eve and when the Lord knows us.
00:28:15.69\00:28:20.70
You're going to
see some similarities
00:28:20.73\00:28:22.43
that are amazing
00:28:22.46\00:28:23.97
as it describes the love
that God has for His church,
00:28:24.00\00:28:27.04
the bride,
00:28:27.07\00:28:28.40
and the love that the husband
should have for his wife,
00:28:28.44\00:28:30.34
and the wife should
have for her husband.
00:28:30.37\00:28:32.34
Notice I didn't say
the spouse for spouse
00:28:32.37\00:28:33.91
because today the word spouse
00:28:33.94\00:28:35.28
has even been
polluted quite a bit.
00:28:35.31\00:28:37.58
Verse 4 of Song of Solomon,
4:7, beginning with verse 7,
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and we're going to read
all the way down to 5:1.
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And now this is
the beautiful language,
00:28:47.72\00:28:49.79
this poetic language.
00:28:49.82\00:28:52.23
Let me just say something here.
00:28:52.26\00:28:54.13
Solomon, I'm going
to be very candid here.
00:28:54.16\00:28:56.46
Solomon was blessed
not only with wisdom
00:28:56.50\00:28:59.20
but man, his dialect
00:28:59.23\00:29:02.34
would make any woman
fall in love with him.
00:29:02.37\00:29:04.74
Could it be that he spoke
00:29:04.77\00:29:06.74
with such
profound words of charm
00:29:06.78\00:29:09.38
that he had a thousand woman,
they just fell when he spoke
00:29:09.41\00:29:13.45
because the man had
00:29:13.48\00:29:14.88
this metaphorical
picturesque language
00:29:14.92\00:29:18.65
that when you read it,
00:29:18.69\00:29:21.26
I know that God has
given him the wisdom,
00:29:21.29\00:29:22.92
but man, his words are so poetic
00:29:22.96\00:29:25.56
that any woman...
00:29:25.59\00:29:26.93
If I read this to my wife today,
00:29:26.96\00:29:28.90
she'll say, "Honey, man,
that came from your heart."
00:29:28.93\00:29:33.07
And Solomon has
given us men of today
00:29:33.10\00:29:35.97
some words that
we can gather from,
00:29:36.00\00:29:37.34
to rekindle and
strengthen our love.
00:29:37.37\00:29:39.47
Listen to this.
00:29:39.51\00:29:40.84
He says, verse 7,
00:29:40.88\00:29:42.64
"You are all fair, my love,
and there is no spot in you."
00:29:42.68\00:29:49.12
Can you imagine,
man saying to his wife,
00:29:49.15\00:29:50.89
"Honey, there is no
blemish on you at all."
00:29:50.92\00:29:53.49
A woman will feel
special. Oh, yeah.
00:29:53.52\00:29:55.42
Feels with, man, my
husband really admires me.
00:29:55.46\00:29:58.59
"Come with me from
Lebanon, my spouse,
00:29:58.63\00:30:00.86
with me from Lebanon,
00:30:00.90\00:30:02.23
look from the top of
Amana, from the top of Senir,
00:30:02.26\00:30:06.74
and Hermon from the lions' den,
00:30:06.77\00:30:10.61
from the
mountains of the leopards."
00:30:10.64\00:30:12.51
Poetic language
which she goes on later,
00:30:12.54\00:30:15.21
"You have ravished my
heart, my sister, my spouse,
00:30:15.24\00:30:19.91
you have ravished my heart
with one look of your eyes,
00:30:19.95\00:30:25.12
with one link of your necklace."
00:30:25.15\00:30:27.96
And we were... And my
wife and I were in Dubai,
00:30:27.99\00:30:30.79
where still today woman cover
primarily up almost everything,
00:30:30.83\00:30:35.50
but they put such
an accent on the way
00:30:35.53\00:30:38.07
that they painted their eyes,
00:30:38.10\00:30:40.20
the eye had become
such a focal point,
00:30:40.24\00:30:41.90
so you see nothing,
00:30:41.94\00:30:43.27
some of them, all you
saw was just the eyes,
00:30:43.30\00:30:45.87
but they've designed
them, painted it in such a way
00:30:45.91\00:30:48.48
that when you look
at their eyes like, boy,
00:30:48.51\00:30:51.21
this grabs your attention.
00:30:51.25\00:30:53.08
And I could imagine Solomon
in that context, he is saying,
00:30:53.11\00:30:55.72
"Your eyes are speaking to me,
00:30:55.75\00:30:58.22
and is speaking from
the content of your soul."
00:30:58.25\00:31:00.66
He goes on to say in verse 10,
00:31:00.69\00:31:03.49
"How fair is your
love, my sister, my spouse!
00:31:03.53\00:31:06.23
How much better
than wine is your love,
00:31:06.26\00:31:08.60
and the scent of your
perfumes than all spices!
00:31:08.63\00:31:12.57
Your lips, O my
spouse, drip as the honeycomb,
00:31:12.60\00:31:16.17
honey and milk
are under your tongue,
00:31:16.20\00:31:18.44
and the
fragrance of your garments
00:31:18.47\00:31:19.91
is like the
fragrance of Lebanon.
00:31:19.94\00:31:22.14
A garden enclosed is
my sister, my spouse,
00:31:22.18\00:31:26.08
a spring shut up,
a fountain sealed.
00:31:26.11\00:31:30.32
Your plants are an
orchard of pomegranates
00:31:30.35\00:31:33.12
with pleasant fruits,
fragrant henna with spikenard."
00:31:33.15\00:31:36.52
I mean, he's rapping.
Can we say that, Ryan?
00:31:36.56\00:31:40.40
He's saying, "Honey,
00:31:40.43\00:31:41.80
we are about to
consummate our marriage.
00:31:41.83\00:31:44.10
And I'm letting you know,
00:31:44.13\00:31:45.47
this is a special moment for me,
00:31:45.50\00:31:46.97
this is a moment I
have been waiting for,
00:31:47.00\00:31:48.50
and I want you to know
00:31:48.54\00:31:49.87
that I'm treasuring you
like every beautiful thing
00:31:49.90\00:31:52.57
that God has
placed in His creation.
00:31:52.61\00:31:54.54
That's right.
00:31:54.58\00:31:55.91
He's describing her with
all the beautiful incense,
00:31:55.94\00:31:58.38
all the beautiful elements
of God's wonderful nature.
00:31:58.41\00:32:01.75
He goes on in verse 14,
00:32:01.78\00:32:03.59
"Spikenard and
saffron, calamus and cinnamon,
00:32:03.62\00:32:06.45
with all trees of
frankincense, myrrh and aloes,
00:32:06.49\00:32:10.03
with all the chief
spices, a fountain of gardens,
00:32:10.06\00:32:12.96
a well of living waters,
and streams from Lebanon.
00:32:12.99\00:32:16.30
Awake, O north
wind, and come, O south!
00:32:16.33\00:32:19.10
Blow upon my garden
that its spices may flow out.
00:32:19.13\00:32:22.40
Let my beloved
come to his garden
00:32:22.44\00:32:24.57
and eat its pleasant fruit.
00:32:24.61\00:32:26.21
I have come to my
garden, my sister, my spouse,
00:32:26.24\00:32:28.34
I have gathered my
myrrh with my spice,
00:32:28.38\00:32:31.48
I have eaten my
honeycomb with my honey,
00:32:31.51\00:32:34.15
I have drunk my
wine with my milk.
00:32:34.18\00:32:36.48
Eat, O friend!
00:32:36.52\00:32:37.85
Drink, yes, drink
deeply, O beloved ones!"
00:32:37.89\00:32:40.46
This is a night
00:32:40.49\00:32:41.82
that when she
wakes up in the morning,
00:32:41.86\00:32:43.43
she has no doubt
that her husband's love
00:32:43.46\00:32:47.13
and hers together
has been meshed in a way
00:32:47.16\00:32:49.73
that is so
beautifully, divinely presented.
00:32:49.76\00:32:52.80
I saw something recently
00:32:52.83\00:32:54.17
that I had not
seen in a long time
00:32:54.20\00:32:55.97
which this verse illustrated.
00:32:56.00\00:32:58.14
In a marriage ceremony,
00:32:58.17\00:33:00.48
the bride had white sand,
00:33:00.51\00:33:03.95
the husband had purple sand.
00:33:03.98\00:33:05.31
Yes.
00:33:05.35\00:33:06.68
And they poured
it in the same vase,
00:33:06.72\00:33:09.85
and the pastor said,
00:33:09.88\00:33:13.46
"It is impossible to separate
the two from this day on."
00:33:13.49\00:33:15.62
That's right.
00:33:15.66\00:33:16.99
And that's what this
picture is all about.
00:33:17.03\00:33:18.36
He pours his love into his wife,
00:33:18.39\00:33:19.79
she pours the love into him
00:33:19.83\00:33:21.30
in such a way
that passion, that joy,
00:33:21.33\00:33:23.73
that love is
impossible to separate
00:33:23.77\00:33:26.53
but it doesn't... And
what I want you to see,
00:33:26.57\00:33:28.24
it doesn't begin
in the bed chambers,
00:33:28.27\00:33:30.47
it begins in the heart,
00:33:30.51\00:33:32.31
it begins in mutual
admiration of each other.
00:33:32.34\00:33:34.74
And what people
need to remember today
00:33:34.78\00:33:36.78
is admiration is not something
00:33:36.81\00:33:38.21
that starts and
ends in the bedroom,
00:33:38.25\00:33:40.18
but it starts in deep
appreciation of each other.
00:33:40.22\00:33:42.82
A wife we hug during the day,
00:33:42.85\00:33:44.79
we send each
other beautiful text,
00:33:44.82\00:33:46.76
we smile at each
other, we wink at each other,
00:33:46.79\00:33:48.56
she knows I'm looking at
her, she's looking at me.
00:33:48.59\00:33:50.49
Sometime she says,
00:33:50.53\00:33:51.86
"When you had on
that suit today?"
00:33:51.89\00:33:54.46
I said, "Honey, you are dressed,
00:33:54.50\00:33:56.53
should we go out or
should we stay home?"
00:33:56.56\00:33:58.73
But that's the mutual
love, and that is something
00:33:58.77\00:34:01.17
that God approves of the
beauty of the relationship.
00:34:01.20\00:34:04.51
That's why when the
Bible says in Genesis 4:1,
00:34:04.54\00:34:06.74
"Now Adam knew Eve his wife,
00:34:06.78\00:34:08.54
and she conceived and bore Cain,
00:34:08.58\00:34:09.94
and said, 'I have
acquired a man from the Lord.'
00:34:09.98\00:34:12.35
" That word "knew" is
now illustrated by Jesus
00:34:12.38\00:34:16.69
in 1 John 3:9, that
intimate connection.
00:34:16.72\00:34:19.12
So when somebody
says, "I know the Lord."
00:34:19.15\00:34:21.66
There cannot be an
intellectual accent,
00:34:21.69\00:34:23.09
it has to be an
intimate connection
00:34:23.12\00:34:24.53
so that you
know the Lord so much
00:34:24.56\00:34:26.36
that He says, "If you
love me, keep My commandments."
00:34:26.39\00:34:28.60
That's a different
love than intellectual
00:34:28.63\00:34:30.60
or the love that I approve of,
00:34:30.63\00:34:32.40
but a love
that's really intimate
00:34:32.43\00:34:34.14
has no qualms about
keeping the commandments of God.
00:34:34.17\00:34:36.71
Amen.
00:34:36.74\00:34:38.07
So much love today is distorted,
00:34:38.11\00:34:39.44
that's why Christian
said, "I love the Lord,
00:34:39.47\00:34:40.81
but the test is,
00:34:40.84\00:34:42.18
'Do you love Him enough
to keep His commandments?'
00:34:42.21\00:34:43.55
" Amen.
00:34:43.58\00:34:44.91
That's why
eternal life is a love
00:34:44.95\00:34:46.28
that is based on
knowing Him, and listen to this.
00:34:46.31\00:34:47.65
When that love is born,
00:34:47.68\00:34:49.02
here is how the
Bible expresses it.
00:34:49.05\00:34:50.85
1 John 3:9,
"Whoever has been born of God
00:34:50.89\00:34:53.89
does not sin, for
his seed remains in him,
00:34:53.92\00:34:57.49
and he cannot sin,
00:34:57.53\00:34:58.86
because he has
been born of God."
00:34:58.89\00:35:01.06
The intimacy of that
love that knows its master,
00:35:01.10\00:35:05.33
keeps itself
because the seed of God
00:35:05.37\00:35:07.57
is in that individual,
00:35:07.60\00:35:09.67
and they cannot
sin they cannot break
00:35:09.70\00:35:11.44
that covenant
given to both of them.
00:35:11.47\00:35:12.81
Amen. How
beautiful the language.
00:35:12.84\00:35:14.98
Amen. Jill?
00:35:15.01\00:35:16.34
Amen.
00:35:16.38\00:35:17.71
Thank you so much,
Pastor John, beautifully done.
00:35:17.75\00:35:19.41
What a beautiful picture.
00:35:19.45\00:35:21.32
Marriage is an
incredible gift from God.
00:35:21.35\00:35:24.52
We know and that
expression of sexuality
00:35:24.55\00:35:26.92
within the marriage
relationship is such a gift.
00:35:26.96\00:35:29.72
As each member of the
panel, I think has mentioned.
00:35:29.76\00:35:32.06
We have been in
prayer about this topic
00:35:32.09\00:35:35.20
because it is a sensitive topic,
00:35:35.23\00:35:36.97
but it's a beautiful topic.
00:35:37.00\00:35:38.57
When you think about
the Book of Song of Solomon,
00:35:38.60\00:35:42.10
it's talking about
God's ideal for human love
00:35:42.14\00:35:45.41
and, of course,
we have reference,
00:35:45.44\00:35:46.78
the allegory with
Christ and the church.
00:35:46.81\00:35:48.88
But His ideal for human love
00:35:48.91\00:35:50.68
that sexuality is created
by God that it is not dirty,
00:35:50.71\00:35:55.98
worldly or sinful in
the context of marriage.
00:35:56.02\00:36:01.49
That in the Book
of Song of Solomon
00:36:01.52\00:36:03.32
talks about how
sexuality is heterosexual,
00:36:03.36\00:36:06.43
and it is monogamous.
00:36:06.46\00:36:07.80
That's right.
00:36:07.83\00:36:09.16
A husband and wife,
00:36:09.20\00:36:10.70
and talks about
the full equality
00:36:10.73\00:36:13.34
of both husband and wife.
00:36:13.37\00:36:14.70
You don't see the
dominance of one over the other,
00:36:14.74\00:36:16.97
but you see that
mutual admiration
00:36:17.01\00:36:19.44
and sharing together.
00:36:19.47\00:36:21.61
There is a holistic sexuality,
not just the physical act,
00:36:21.64\00:36:25.48
but it's the entire person,
00:36:25.51\00:36:27.08
the body, the mind,
the soul, the emotions,
00:36:27.12\00:36:30.59
everything is involved in that.
00:36:30.62\00:36:32.72
It is exclusive, it's permanent,
00:36:32.75\00:36:34.72
and God intended it to be shared
00:36:34.76\00:36:36.86
with your spouse,
with your husband or wife
00:36:36.89\00:36:40.00
for the rest of your life.
00:36:40.03\00:36:42.26
It's a beautiful,
joyful gift from God.
00:36:42.30\00:36:44.60
So I have Wednesday's lesson,
00:36:44.63\00:36:46.23
which is "Love
at the right time,"
00:36:46.27\00:36:50.01
reserving this beautiful
expression of human sexuality
00:36:50.04\00:36:54.48
for the marriage relationship
00:36:54.51\00:36:57.25
when and where the God ordain
00:36:57.28\00:36:59.78
for human
sexuality to be expressed
00:36:59.81\00:37:02.12
that's within the
context of marriage.
00:37:02.15\00:37:05.35
You referenced pastor, a
couple of these scriptures.
00:37:05.39\00:37:07.86
Song of Solomon 4:12
00:37:07.89\00:37:11.43
tells us clearly that
the Shulamite was a virgin
00:37:11.46\00:37:14.76
when she got married.
00:37:14.80\00:37:17.00
It says, "A garden enclosed"
00:37:17.03\00:37:18.53
in Hebrew it means to
bar, to bolt, to lock.
00:37:18.57\00:37:21.40
"A garden enclosed
00:37:21.44\00:37:23.20
is my sister, my
spouse, my bride,
00:37:23.24\00:37:25.74
a spring shut up,
a fountain sealed."
00:37:25.77\00:37:27.98
So he's acknowledging
that she's entering
00:37:28.01\00:37:30.31
the marriage
relationship as a virgin,
00:37:30.35\00:37:32.95
he's acknowledging that.
00:37:32.98\00:37:34.52
And then she invites him.
00:37:34.55\00:37:36.22
You see that coming in verse 16.
00:37:36.25\00:37:37.92
She invites him into her garden
00:37:37.95\00:37:39.99
and the marriage is consummated.
00:37:40.02\00:37:41.89
We get to 5:1.
00:37:41.92\00:37:45.89
Many commentators say
00:37:45.93\00:37:47.26
this is God actually
speaking His approval
00:37:47.30\00:37:49.96
over what takes place.
00:37:50.00\00:37:51.50
"Eat, O friends!
00:37:51.53\00:37:53.23
Drink, yes, drink
deeply, O beloved ones!"
00:37:53.27\00:37:57.71
God created human sexuality.
00:37:57.74\00:38:00.18
There's another
verse that tells us
00:38:00.21\00:38:01.94
that the Shulamite
saved herself for marriage.
00:38:01.98\00:38:05.35
That's in Song of Solomon
Chapter 8, if you turn over.
00:38:05.38\00:38:08.18
Song of Solomon 8:8-10.
00:38:08.22\00:38:12.52
Now this is the Shulamite's
brothers speaking here.
00:38:12.55\00:38:16.19
They say, "We
have a little sister
00:38:16.22\00:38:18.06
and she has no breasts."
00:38:18.09\00:38:19.56
Meaning she's young still.
00:38:19.59\00:38:21.20
"What shall we do for our sister
00:38:21.23\00:38:22.70
in the day when
she is spoken for?
00:38:22.73\00:38:24.43
If she is a wall,
00:38:24.47\00:38:25.80
we will build upon her
a battlement of silver,
00:38:25.83\00:38:28.44
and if she is a door,
00:38:28.47\00:38:29.80
we will enclose her
with boards of cedar."
00:38:29.84\00:38:33.04
And then the Shulamite speaks.
00:38:33.07\00:38:34.44
She says, "I am a wall."
00:38:34.48\00:38:36.98
So there's two
different words used here.
00:38:37.01\00:38:38.51
One is a wall, one is a door.
00:38:38.55\00:38:42.15
It symbolizes the two paths
00:38:42.18\00:38:43.82
that she could have
chosen to walk as a young woman.
00:38:43.85\00:38:47.39
The wall being
pure and inaccessible,
00:38:47.42\00:38:51.59
that would be the
path of saving yourself
00:38:51.63\00:38:54.63
for the chastity, that's right,
the man that God has for you.
00:38:54.66\00:38:59.00
The other is the door
00:38:59.03\00:39:00.37
that means
promiscuous and available.
00:39:00.40\00:39:03.34
She chose the path of purity.
00:39:03.37\00:39:05.14
It says, "I am a wall."
00:39:05.17\00:39:07.31
She also encouraged other women,
00:39:07.34\00:39:09.91
other daughters to
choose the path of purity.
00:39:09.94\00:39:12.71
We see that in
Song of Solomon 2:7,
00:39:12.75\00:39:15.22
in Song of Solomon 3:5, and 8:4.
00:39:15.25\00:39:17.59
It's really the same thing
repeated three different times.
00:39:17.62\00:39:20.42
She's writing or speaking
to the daughters of Jerusalem.
00:39:20.46\00:39:23.79
And in Song of Solomon 2:7,
00:39:23.83\00:39:25.33
she says, "I charge you,
O daughters of Jerusalem,
00:39:25.36\00:39:28.26
by the gazelles or by
the does of the field,
00:39:28.30\00:39:30.73
do not stir up nor
awaken love, until it pleases."
00:39:30.77\00:39:35.60
Now, in the Hebrew,
the word for stir up
00:39:35.64\00:39:39.11
and the word for
awaken is the same word.
00:39:39.14\00:39:41.44
And it means to
arouse or to excite.
00:39:41.48\00:39:44.65
So she's
challenging other young women
00:39:44.68\00:39:49.32
to not engage in activities
00:39:49.35\00:39:54.32
that would lead to fornication
00:39:54.36\00:39:57.19
that would lead to
premarital sexual relationships
00:39:57.23\00:40:01.03
until the right time.
00:40:01.06\00:40:03.50
And that right time we
know from the Word of God
00:40:03.53\00:40:06.00
is when you say I
do, when you are married.
00:40:06.03\00:40:09.20
The Bible is clear
00:40:09.24\00:40:10.57
in condemning
sexual relationships
00:40:10.61\00:40:12.34
outside of marriage.
00:40:12.37\00:40:13.84
Galatians 5:19-20.
00:40:13.88\00:40:15.61
This is before the list
of the fruit of the Spirit.
00:40:15.64\00:40:17.95
We have the list of
the works of the flesh,
00:40:17.98\00:40:19.61
and there's quite a few there.
00:40:19.65\00:40:21.02
But it says the works
of the flesh are evident,
00:40:21.05\00:40:22.78
which are adultery, fornication,
00:40:22.82\00:40:25.05
uncleanness,
lewdness, and the list goes on
00:40:25.09\00:40:27.39
but the beginning of
that all deals with sexual sin
00:40:27.42\00:40:30.83
outside of marriage.
00:40:30.86\00:40:32.86
1 Thessalonians 4:3-4.
00:40:32.89\00:40:35.06
"This is the will of
God, your sanctification:
00:40:35.10\00:40:38.47
that you should
abstain from sexual immorality,
00:40:38.50\00:40:41.80
that each of you should know
how to possess his own vessel
00:40:41.84\00:40:45.31
in sanctification and honor,
00:40:45.34\00:40:47.24
not in passion of lust,
00:40:47.28\00:40:49.21
like the Gentiles
who do not know God."
00:40:49.24\00:40:52.41
One more verse for
this, 1 Corinthians 6:18,
00:40:52.45\00:40:55.18
Paul says, "Flee
sexual immorality.
00:40:55.22\00:40:58.52
Every sin that a man
does is outside the body,
00:40:58.55\00:41:01.32
but he who commits
sexual immorality sins
00:41:01.36\00:41:03.76
against his own body."
00:41:03.79\00:41:06.49
Now you might be
listening in today and saying,
00:41:06.53\00:41:09.00
I've engaged in
sex outside of marriage
00:41:09.03\00:41:13.44
for many years, or
with many different people.
00:41:13.47\00:41:17.34
No matter where you have been,
no matter what you have done,
00:41:17.37\00:41:22.01
today we can make a choice,
00:41:22.04\00:41:24.35
today God can
enable us to be pure again.
00:41:24.38\00:41:28.48
And I love that.
00:41:28.52\00:41:29.95
There's a term used a lot,
00:41:29.98\00:41:31.32
that's called spiritual virgins.
00:41:31.35\00:41:33.42
I'm not sure I
even like that term,
00:41:33.46\00:41:35.02
because it seems a
little confusing to me.
00:41:35.06\00:41:38.79
God can make us
all virgins again,
00:41:38.83\00:41:40.83
whether we are
initially from the beginning
00:41:40.86\00:41:42.80
and we never stepped
outside the bonds of marriage,
00:41:42.83\00:41:46.37
or whether we stepped many times
00:41:46.40\00:41:48.60
in other relationships,
00:41:48.64\00:41:49.97
physical
relationships with other people.
00:41:50.01\00:41:51.94
But God can give us a pure mind.
00:41:51.97\00:41:54.21
He can restore our hearts.
00:41:54.24\00:41:55.94
He can restore us emotionally,
physically, spiritually
00:41:55.98\00:41:58.88
and make us new.
00:41:58.91\00:42:01.08
So I have four encouragements
for you in closing.
00:42:01.12\00:42:05.09
Number one is the Lord
Jesus will accept any of us
00:42:05.12\00:42:09.22
at any time.
00:42:09.26\00:42:10.86
One of my favorite
scriptures is John 6:37.
00:42:10.89\00:42:14.13
He says, "Whoever comes to
me, I will never cast aside."
00:42:14.16\00:42:20.10
Sometimes I think in
society or in the church,
00:42:20.14\00:42:23.41
we might say the
sin of sexual immorality
00:42:23.44\00:42:26.24
might be worse than me
hanging on to some pride,
00:42:26.27\00:42:29.78
or me hanging on
to some bitterness
00:42:29.81\00:42:31.55
against the brother or sister,
00:42:31.58\00:42:32.98
but in the sight of God,
00:42:33.01\00:42:35.42
all of that is sin.
00:42:35.45\00:42:36.79
All of that is
equal in the sight of God.
00:42:36.82\00:42:39.15
So there's no sense of worth,
00:42:39.19\00:42:40.96
this is a
greater shame than this.
00:42:40.99\00:42:44.16
I'm a sinner in need of
grace, just like everyone else
00:42:44.19\00:42:48.50
and the Lord Jesus
accepts us at any time.
00:42:48.53\00:42:50.77
Number two, He
can forgive anything.
00:42:50.80\00:42:52.83
1 John 1:9, Mollie
always quotes this scripture.
00:42:52.87\00:42:55.80
"If we confess our sins,
00:42:55.84\00:42:58.57
He is faithful
and just to forgive us
00:42:58.61\00:43:00.68
and to cleanse us
from all unrighteousness."
00:43:00.71\00:43:05.15
Number three, He can
and will make us pure again.
00:43:05.18\00:43:10.19
Psalm 103:12,
00:43:10.22\00:43:11.55
"As far as the
east is from the west,
00:43:11.59\00:43:14.09
So far has He removed
our transgressions from us."
00:43:14.12\00:43:20.33
And I love Isaiah 1:18,
00:43:20.36\00:43:22.43
"Come now, and let
us reason together,"
00:43:22.46\00:43:24.20
says the Lord, "though
your sins be a scarlet,"
00:43:24.23\00:43:26.23
and you might feel
shame, you might feel dirty,
00:43:26.27\00:43:30.67
you might feel worthless,
though your sins are scarlet,
00:43:30.71\00:43:34.58
"they will be white as snow.
00:43:34.61\00:43:37.35
Though they're red like crimson,
00:43:37.38\00:43:38.71
they shall be as wool."
00:43:38.75\00:43:41.82
This is one of my
favorite scriptures.
00:43:41.85\00:43:43.75
1 Corinthians 6:11.
00:43:43.79\00:43:46.35
Before that there's
a whole list of sins
00:43:46.39\00:43:48.86
fornicators, adulterers,
00:43:48.89\00:43:53.90
homosexuals, sodomites,
00:43:53.93\00:43:55.90
thieves, covetous, drunkards,
revelers, extortioners,
00:43:55.93\00:43:59.17
quite a few in that list
00:43:59.20\00:44:00.54
is actually
dealing with sexual sin.
00:44:00.57\00:44:02.70
Verse 11, Paul says,
00:44:02.74\00:44:04.57
"And such...
00:44:04.61\00:44:05.94
such were some of you,
00:44:09.04\00:44:12.18
such was Jehovah's
00:44:12.21\00:44:13.68
but you were
washed, you were sanctified,
00:44:13.72\00:44:18.15
you were justified in
the name of the Lord Jesus
00:44:18.19\00:44:21.86
and by the Spirit of our God."
00:44:21.89\00:44:24.13
God says, I can sanctify,
00:44:24.16\00:44:26.63
I can wash you,
I can cleanse you.
00:44:26.66\00:44:28.96
And finally, number four,
00:44:29.00\00:44:30.40
he will transform all of us
into something entirely new.
00:44:30.43\00:44:35.27
2 Corinthians 5:17,
00:44:35.30\00:44:37.77
"If anyone's in Christ,
he or she is a new creation."
00:44:37.81\00:44:42.78
Now the word in
Greek for new kainos,
00:44:42.81\00:44:45.68
means new in quality, meaning,
00:44:45.71\00:44:47.78
something you really
have never seen before,
00:44:47.82\00:44:50.09
brand new, or a new creation.
00:44:50.12\00:44:52.59
Old things have passed away,
00:44:52.62\00:44:55.22
behold all
things have become new.
00:44:55.26\00:44:58.89
You and I can be pure, spotless
white by the blood of Jesus,
00:44:58.93\00:45:03.93
and in the sight of
other people as well.
00:45:03.97\00:45:06.13
Good news. Praise the Lord.
00:45:06.17\00:45:07.54
Amen!
00:45:07.57\00:45:08.90
Wow, this is as
much insight to a subject
00:45:08.94\00:45:12.27
that sometimes we avoid.
00:45:12.31\00:45:13.88
We avoid this subject
00:45:13.91\00:45:15.24
because it is a
sensitive topic to some,
00:45:15.28\00:45:17.91
but we don't have
to avoid the truth,
00:45:17.95\00:45:19.55
the plain truth from God's Word.
00:45:19.58\00:45:20.95
And you guys set
it up so beautifully
00:45:20.98\00:45:24.19
in portraying, communicating
what the Bible has to teach
00:45:24.22\00:45:28.16
on human sexuality
00:45:28.19\00:45:29.52
and how God created
that to be a beautiful gift.
00:45:29.56\00:45:32.29
You know, I want
to quote the scripture
00:45:32.33\00:45:33.66
because the
Bible says that Jesus,
00:45:33.70\00:45:39.27
He could sympathize with us
00:45:39.30\00:45:40.64
because He's been
tempted in every single way
00:45:40.67\00:45:43.44
that we have.
00:45:43.47\00:45:44.81
Yes.
00:45:44.84\00:45:46.17
No matter what the
situation is in life,
00:45:46.21\00:45:47.54
no matter what
particular trial difficulty
00:45:47.58\00:45:51.11
that you may be going
through, may be experiencing.
00:45:51.15\00:45:55.02
There is nothing that
Christ has not endured,
00:45:55.05\00:45:57.49
there's nothing that
Christ has not experienced.
00:45:57.52\00:46:00.56
When I think of
Christ being tempted,
00:46:00.59\00:46:02.16
I think of His response
to temptation, His response.
00:46:02.19\00:46:06.03
And that's Matthew 4:4,
00:46:06.06\00:46:09.76
"It is written," Jesus said,
00:46:09.80\00:46:12.20
"man shall not
live by bread alone,
00:46:12.23\00:46:14.27
but by every word that
proceeds from the mouth of God."
00:46:14.30\00:46:19.41
And I just want to
emphasize that right now,
00:46:19.44\00:46:21.51
because what I'm
about to dive into
00:46:21.54\00:46:25.11
is a very sensitive topic.
00:46:25.15\00:46:26.98
Because all that
we have discussed
00:46:27.02\00:46:28.68
is kind of
culminating to this point,
00:46:28.72\00:46:30.29
and that is that the
Creator has given us a gift,
00:46:30.32\00:46:34.46
and we are to
safeguard the Creator's gift.
00:46:34.49\00:46:37.73
In fact, that's exactly
00:46:37.76\00:46:39.09
what Thursday's
lesson is entitled
00:46:39.13\00:46:40.50
"Safeguarding
the Creator's gift,"
00:46:40.53\00:46:42.30
but how do we do that?
00:46:42.33\00:46:43.67
How can we make sure
00:46:43.70\00:46:45.03
that we are
allowing that beautiful gift
00:46:45.07\00:46:46.94
that God has bestowed upon us
00:46:46.97\00:46:48.97
that we are
keeping it in the place
00:46:49.00\00:46:51.71
and within the parameters
that God intended it to be?
00:46:51.74\00:46:55.54
I think first and
foremost we need to establish
00:46:55.58\00:46:57.51
that we cannot follow our heart.
00:46:57.55\00:47:00.15
The Bible says that
"The human heart is deceitful
00:47:00.18\00:47:01.82
above all things
who can trust it."
00:47:01.85\00:47:03.25
At the end of the
day, the one thing
00:47:03.28\00:47:04.65
that I can count
on is the Word of God.
00:47:04.69\00:47:07.49
And so I'm just gonna let
the Word of God speak today
00:47:07.52\00:47:09.76
because I can
give you my opinions,
00:47:09.79\00:47:11.33
I can give you my,
00:47:11.36\00:47:12.86
you know, a personal ideologies
and things that I've studied,
00:47:12.89\00:47:15.66
and things that I've
read and encountered.
00:47:15.70\00:47:17.07
But at the end of the day,
00:47:17.10\00:47:18.43
the Word of God surpasses
everyone's understanding.
00:47:18.47\00:47:23.07
It's final on
every single point.
00:47:23.10\00:47:25.11
And so I would just want
to start in Genesis 1:27-28,
00:47:25.14\00:47:29.14
just to establish
this beautiful gift
00:47:29.18\00:47:32.35
that God has given us in
relation to man and woman
00:47:32.38\00:47:37.59
and human beings in general,
00:47:37.62\00:47:39.35
and this creative gift
that God has bestowed upon us.
00:47:39.39\00:47:41.86
It says, "So God
created man in His own image,
00:47:41.89\00:47:47.40
in the image of
God He created him,"
00:47:47.43\00:47:49.93
notice this,
"male and female and..."
00:47:49.96\00:47:54.44
He created. No.
00:47:54.47\00:47:55.80
No, "Male and
female He created them."
00:47:55.84\00:47:58.44
And I'm not meaning
that with any disrespect.
00:47:58.47\00:48:00.38
It's just the plain
truth of God's Word.
00:48:00.41\00:48:01.94
He created...
00:48:01.98\00:48:03.31
When He created in the beginning
00:48:03.35\00:48:04.68
human beings it
was male and female,
00:48:04.71\00:48:07.25
then God blessed them.
00:48:07.28\00:48:08.72
And God said to them,
be fruitful and multiply,
00:48:08.75\00:48:12.29
fill the earth and subdue it,
00:48:12.32\00:48:13.89
have dominion over
the fish of the sea,
00:48:13.92\00:48:15.59
over the birds of the air,
and over every living thing
00:48:15.62\00:48:18.03
that moves upon the earth.
00:48:18.06\00:48:19.39
So God set His
perfect intended plan
00:48:19.43\00:48:22.66
in order at creation.
00:48:22.70\00:48:24.30
Now, of course, you guys
have set it up beautifully.
00:48:24.33\00:48:26.70
You've established a
very clear biblical foundation
00:48:26.74\00:48:29.20
on what this gift is.
00:48:29.24\00:48:30.74
But, you know,
the devil comes along
00:48:30.77\00:48:32.97
and he takes that beautiful gift
00:48:33.01\00:48:34.41
that God meant to be good,
00:48:34.44\00:48:35.78
that God meant to
bring happiness and joy
00:48:35.81\00:48:38.61
and just comfort among us,
00:48:38.65\00:48:39.98
but the devil is
going to pervert it.
00:48:40.02\00:48:41.82
The devil is
gonna take that gift
00:48:41.85\00:48:43.18
and he's gonna pervert
it, he's going to skew it,
00:48:43.22\00:48:44.75
he's going to distort it
00:48:44.79\00:48:46.12
in every which way
that he possibly can.
00:48:46.15\00:48:48.32
And so the only
way that I really know
00:48:48.36\00:48:50.19
the best way to
approach this particular topic
00:48:50.23\00:48:52.43
is to allow God Himself tell us
00:48:52.46\00:48:56.06
His attitude towards
the perversion of this gift
00:48:56.10\00:49:00.70
And I'm gonna let the
Bible just speak for itself.
00:49:00.74\00:49:02.54
It's very plain.
00:49:02.57\00:49:03.91
It's not gonna be much personal
interpretation of this at all
00:49:03.94\00:49:06.34
but there shouldn't be
because God is very clear.
00:49:06.37\00:49:08.54
I'm gonna start
in Leviticus 20:7-21.
00:49:08.58\00:49:12.95
Now, obviously, I'm
not gonna be able to read
00:49:12.98\00:49:14.32
all these verses, but
I just want to highlight
00:49:14.35\00:49:16.18
just a few things
from these verses.
00:49:16.22\00:49:17.65
Again, that's Leviticus 20:7-21.
00:49:17.69\00:49:22.36
Notice how right
in the opening portion
00:49:22.39\00:49:24.36
you say, Ryan,
how can I make sure
00:49:24.39\00:49:25.96
that I'm
safeguarding this beautiful gift
00:49:25.99\00:49:28.96
that the Creator
has bestowed upon me?
00:49:29.00\00:49:31.63
Verse 7, I think
really answers that clearly,
00:49:31.67\00:49:34.20
"Consecrate
yourselves therefore,
00:49:34.24\00:49:37.84
and be holy, for I
am the Lord your God
00:49:37.87\00:49:41.08
and you shall keep My
statutes, and perform them,
00:49:41.11\00:49:44.85
I am the Lord
who sanctifies you."
00:49:44.88\00:49:47.35
Consecrate yourself,
00:49:47.38\00:49:48.82
bring yourself in
harmony with the will of God.
00:49:48.85\00:49:51.25
Surrender yourself to
the Lord in every aspect,
00:49:51.29\00:49:53.86
that's the only hope we have
00:49:53.89\00:49:55.49
because Ryan can't
tell Ryan, how to live.
00:49:55.52\00:49:58.03
Ryan can't tell Ryan
how things are to be.
00:49:58.06\00:50:00.53
At the end of the
day, I'm fully dependent
00:50:00.56\00:50:02.26
upon God's guidance to lead me
00:50:02.30\00:50:04.10
and to help me bring my thought
into submission with His.
00:50:04.13\00:50:08.30
It's just for everyone.
00:50:08.34\00:50:09.67
This is verse 9, "For everyone
00:50:09.70\00:50:11.04
who curses his
father or his mother
00:50:11.07\00:50:12.41
shall surely be put to death."
00:50:12.44\00:50:13.78
And notice now the
language of this passage
00:50:13.81\00:50:16.34
kind of starts to turn
a little negative here,
00:50:16.38\00:50:18.91
but it's the Lord opening up.
00:50:18.95\00:50:20.52
I believe in love and showing us
00:50:20.55\00:50:22.68
His heart on this issue.
00:50:22.72\00:50:24.45
Verse 10, notice,
00:50:24.49\00:50:25.82
"The man who commits
adultery with another man's wife
00:50:25.85\00:50:28.96
is he who commits adultery
with his neighbor's wife."
00:50:28.99\00:50:31.26
So he's committing adultery.
00:50:31.29\00:50:32.73
It goes down to verse 11.
00:50:32.76\00:50:34.10
Notice, "The man who
lies with his father's wife,"
00:50:34.13\00:50:36.80
he starts giving examples.
00:50:36.83\00:50:39.13
Now verse 12, "If a man
lies with his daughter-in-law,
00:50:39.17\00:50:41.90
both of them shall
be surely put to death"
00:50:41.94\00:50:44.27
This was something
that the Lord said,
00:50:44.31\00:50:45.64
you know, this sin,
as we know Romans 6:23,
00:50:45.67\00:50:48.88
"The wages of sin is death"
00:50:48.91\00:50:50.95
Okay, so these type of actions,
00:50:50.98\00:50:52.51
these type of
perpetual continual choices
00:50:52.55\00:50:55.35
bring nothing but death.
00:50:55.38\00:50:57.09
And it's sorrowful,
God is not happy again.
00:50:57.12\00:50:59.82
He says, what is it Ezekiel,
00:50:59.85\00:51:01.32
I believe it is,
chapter 33 verse 11,
00:51:01.36\00:51:04.56
I believe it is where He
says, "I do not take pleasure
00:51:04.59\00:51:07.10
in the
destruction of the wicked,
00:51:07.13\00:51:08.46
but that man turn
from his evil ways and live
00:51:08.50\00:51:11.10
for why should you
die, turn you turn you."
00:51:11.13\00:51:13.27
You can just imagine
00:51:13.30\00:51:15.07
the pleading heart of the Father
00:51:15.10\00:51:16.67
saying, please, I
don't want you to die.
00:51:16.71\00:51:19.04
Turn from your evil ways.
00:51:19.07\00:51:20.41
He gives these examples
of them right here, verse 13.
00:51:20.44\00:51:23.68
"If a man lies with a
male," that's a man with a man,
00:51:23.71\00:51:27.42
"as he lies with a woman,
00:51:27.45\00:51:28.85
both of them have
committed an abomination."
00:51:28.88\00:51:31.29
That type of
lifestyle, that type of choice
00:51:31.32\00:51:33.69
is an abomination to God.
00:51:33.72\00:51:35.76
And my heart breaks
because in no other time,
00:51:35.79\00:51:38.33
perhaps in history
that we're seeing this
00:51:38.36\00:51:40.36
on such displayed
in our world today.
00:51:40.40\00:51:42.76
People confused,
00:51:42.80\00:51:44.13
people their minds and
their thoughts distorted
00:51:44.17\00:51:46.20
and confused on
gender, on sexuality
00:51:46.23\00:51:50.04
and things that is plaguing
this world and our country.
00:51:50.07\00:51:53.91
There's a list, an
array of lists there.
00:51:53.94\00:51:55.71
If a man mates with an animal
00:51:55.74\00:51:57.81
can't even imagine such a thing,
00:51:57.85\00:51:59.18
but God addresses it,
00:51:59.21\00:52:00.55
because the devil
has distorted this gift.
00:52:00.58\00:52:03.02
He's perverted this gift.
00:52:03.05\00:52:04.82
And so who shall
stand and fill the gap
00:52:04.85\00:52:07.42
and allow God's
Word and God's truth
00:52:07.46\00:52:09.89
to be broadcasted
00:52:09.92\00:52:11.43
that they may
turn their evil hearts,
00:52:11.46\00:52:13.50
these hardened hearts
to soft hearts of flesh,
00:52:13.53\00:52:16.23
that they may
have the Lord's truth
00:52:16.26\00:52:17.93
that may transform them.
00:52:17.97\00:52:19.90
Notice Romans 1:24-27,
00:52:19.93\00:52:23.71
I'm gonna go through
these rather quickly.
00:52:23.74\00:52:25.07
But I want you to
notice this, it says,
00:52:25.11\00:52:26.44
"Therefore God also
gave them up to uncleanness,
00:52:26.47\00:52:30.78
in the lusts of their hearts,
00:52:30.81\00:52:32.38
to dishonor their
bodies among themselves,
00:52:32.41\00:52:35.48
who exchanged the
truth of God for the lie,
00:52:35.52\00:52:38.52
and worshiped and
served the creature
00:52:38.55\00:52:40.49
rather than the Creator,
who is blessed forever."
00:52:40.52\00:52:43.22
Amen.
00:52:43.26\00:52:44.59
And in verse 26, it
says, "For this reason
00:52:44.63\00:52:46.29
God gave them up
to vile passions.
00:52:46.33\00:52:49.03
For, notice even thee
women exchanged the natural use
00:52:49.06\00:52:52.80
for what is against nature.
00:52:52.83\00:52:54.17
Likewise also the men,
00:52:54.20\00:52:55.60
leaving the
natural use of the woman,
00:52:55.64\00:52:58.07
burned in their
lust for one another,
00:52:58.11\00:53:00.01
men with men."
00:53:00.04\00:53:01.38
This is negative language.
00:53:01.41\00:53:02.81
God is not
saying, oh, it's okay.
00:53:02.84\00:53:04.35
It's okay, I understand,
00:53:04.38\00:53:05.71
He's saying no, this
is not what I created.
00:53:05.75\00:53:07.65
This is not the
way I wanted it to be.
00:53:07.68\00:53:10.05
God forbids and
detest any sexual lifestyle
00:53:10.09\00:53:14.26
that is not in harmony
with His intended plan.
00:53:14.29\00:53:17.26
You know, I think of this,
00:53:17.29\00:53:18.63
you know, this whole,
00:53:18.66\00:53:20.00
you know, LGBT,
00:53:20.03\00:53:21.56
we were talking
about it earlier,
00:53:21.60\00:53:23.13
it started out as just a
kind of an LGBT type thing,
00:53:23.16\00:53:26.77
but now it's
grown into this LGBTIQAP
00:53:26.80\00:53:32.17
I mean, it's just A,
B, C, D and nothing in it
00:53:32.21\00:53:34.34
in any disrespect but
it's just, it's so sad.
00:53:34.38\00:53:38.08
I mean, we're talking
about lesbian lifestyle,
00:53:38.11\00:53:40.65
gay lifestyle,
bisexual, transgender,
00:53:40.68\00:53:43.55
this whole transgender movement.
00:53:43.59\00:53:45.09
People that are
just desperately,
00:53:45.12\00:53:47.42
you know, it just almost
seems like they're crying out.
00:53:47.46\00:53:49.62
You know, for
help in that lifestyle,
00:53:49.66\00:53:51.73
in that choice
00:53:51.76\00:53:53.09
confused about
who their Creator is
00:53:53.13\00:53:55.46
and how He created them to be.
00:53:55.50\00:53:57.27
My heart breaks, my heart yearns
00:53:57.30\00:53:59.00
for those type of people.
00:53:59.03\00:54:00.57
You know, and then there's
just downright rebellion.
00:54:00.60\00:54:04.17
You know, the
Bible says right here
00:54:04.21\00:54:05.61
in 2 Thessalonians 2:10-12,
00:54:05.64\00:54:08.38
"And with all
unrighteous deception
00:54:08.41\00:54:10.05
among those who perish,
00:54:10.08\00:54:11.41
because they did not
receive the love of the truth."
00:54:11.45\00:54:14.32
That's the foundation.
00:54:14.35\00:54:15.68
The truth brings love
00:54:15.72\00:54:17.09
that we should have
a love for the truth
00:54:17.12\00:54:18.45
that they might be saved.
00:54:18.49\00:54:19.82
Notice verse 11,
and for this reason,
00:54:19.85\00:54:21.49
God says, "I will
send them a strong delusion
00:54:21.52\00:54:23.76
that they should believe a lie."
00:54:23.79\00:54:25.13
And I have friends, I
have acquaintances people
00:54:25.16\00:54:29.13
that I love dearly
that support this lifestyle,
00:54:29.16\00:54:32.63
and it almost as if
they've just been programmed,
00:54:32.67\00:54:34.64
they're just ultimately decided
on the fact that it's okay
00:54:34.67\00:54:38.14
they can be a
Christian, they can serve God,
00:54:38.17\00:54:40.81
while still living
in that counterfeit
00:54:40.84\00:54:42.91
backward lifestyle.
00:54:42.94\00:54:44.28
And you know what?
00:54:44.31\00:54:45.65
I want to with
love and with compassion
00:54:45.68\00:54:47.95
as much as I can muster up,
00:54:47.98\00:54:49.38
but I want to be bold in saying
00:54:49.42\00:54:51.09
that lifestyle
is not of the Lord.
00:54:51.12\00:54:53.32
It is not biblical.
00:54:53.36\00:54:55.12
And we need to
exercise righteous judgment,
00:54:55.16\00:54:57.73
godly judgment against
such exercises as this.
00:54:57.76\00:55:01.16
And I just want to say this,
00:55:01.20\00:55:02.53
I know I have just a few seconds
00:55:02.56\00:55:03.90
but you're a child of God.
00:55:03.93\00:55:05.87
Every person is a child of
God, no matter what the sin,
00:55:05.90\00:55:08.24
no matter what the choice,
00:55:08.27\00:55:09.60
God loves you with all
His heart, mind and soul.
00:55:09.64\00:55:12.47
And you know, I just want
to leave everyone with this.
00:55:12.51\00:55:15.08
You know, if we confess our sins
00:55:15.11\00:55:16.78
and that
lifestyle, those choices
00:55:16.81\00:55:18.95
counterfeit from that
which God created, it is a sin.
00:55:18.98\00:55:22.75
"If we confess
those sins he is faithful"
00:55:22.78\00:55:27.02
1 John 1:9 "to
forgive us our sins
00:55:27.06\00:55:29.86
and cleanse us from
all unrighteousness."
00:55:29.89\00:55:32.23
We do not need
to wait for victory.
00:55:32.26\00:55:34.23
We can have victory
today in Jesus Christ.
00:55:34.26\00:55:37.13
Amen. Amen! Thank you, Ryan.
00:55:37.17\00:55:38.73
I am just so proud of
each and every one of you.
00:55:38.77\00:55:41.37
I've learn from you
00:55:41.40\00:55:42.74
and I believe it's
been a beautiful lesson.
00:55:42.77\00:55:44.77
We just have to
remember the royal love song.
00:55:44.81\00:55:48.88
The Song of Solomon,
00:55:48.91\00:55:51.48
Song of Songs is
a beautiful picture
00:55:51.51\00:55:55.08
of marital bliss, conjugal love.
00:55:55.12\00:55:58.25
And we do not have to
be ashamed of the topic,
00:55:58.29\00:56:03.63
if we are reading
00:56:03.66\00:56:05.73
from and expressing
God's opinion on it.
00:56:05.76\00:56:08.96
Let me give you
each a few seconds.
00:56:09.00\00:56:11.30
We're close, surely
running out of time.
00:56:11.33\00:56:13.87
Solomon's marriage to
the Shulamite lady in there,
00:56:13.90\00:56:16.60
you know, it talks about here,
00:56:16.64\00:56:17.97
they confirm number one
that they belong to each other.
00:56:18.01\00:56:20.68
They affirmed that there's...
00:56:20.71\00:56:22.71
She affirms she was
in submission to him.
00:56:22.74\00:56:24.85
And then he affirmed,
00:56:24.88\00:56:26.28
he expressed his desire for her.
00:56:26.31\00:56:28.88
I think if we do
that, it makes the marriage
00:56:28.92\00:56:30.32
stick together as a seed.
00:56:30.35\00:56:32.19
I think not only
to appreciate the wife
00:56:32.22\00:56:33.86
that God has given to us,
00:56:33.89\00:56:35.22
but to help her
become everything
00:56:35.26\00:56:36.59
that God envisions here to be
00:56:36.62\00:56:38.39
by loving her the way
the Lord loves His church.
00:56:38.43\00:56:42.06
Amen.
00:56:42.10\00:56:43.47
God calls us to walk in purity.
00:56:43.50\00:56:45.47
Sometimes it's
not an easy choice.
00:56:45.50\00:56:48.24
Ryan, what a
beautiful job with that,
00:56:48.27\00:56:50.44
no matter whether it's
outside the bonds of marriage
00:56:50.47\00:56:52.61
or in some sort of perversion,
00:56:52.64\00:56:54.31
but no matter where we are,
00:56:54.34\00:56:55.94
God calls us to come
back and return to himself.
00:56:55.98\00:56:59.05
Amen.
00:56:59.08\00:57:00.42
And just in closing Romans
8:1, this whole conversation,
00:57:00.45\00:57:04.49
"There is therefore
no condemnation in those
00:57:04.52\00:57:08.16
who are in Christ Jesus,
00:57:08.19\00:57:11.13
who do not walk
according to the flesh,
00:57:11.16\00:57:12.89
but according to the Spirit."
00:57:12.93\00:57:14.96
Just submit to Jesus and live.
00:57:15.00\00:57:16.77
Amen.
00:57:16.80\00:57:18.13
And you know
something, God is our Creator.
00:57:18.17\00:57:20.57
He's the one who created
us with these characteristics.
00:57:20.60\00:57:26.11
He knows how best
they should be fulfilled.
00:57:26.14\00:57:29.11
We thank you for
joining us today.
00:57:29.14\00:57:31.28
We hope you have
enjoyed this study of the Word.
00:57:31.31\00:57:34.52
And if you have
children, talk to them
00:57:34.55\00:57:38.15
about godly
principles for sexuality.
00:57:38.19\00:57:41.46
Bye.
00:57:41.49\00:57:42.82