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Shawn Brummund: Hello
friends, and welcome to another
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edition of the
"Sabbath School Study Hour."
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I am confident that your hour
that you're gonna spend with us
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will be one that
will enrich your lives,
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will enrich your faith.
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And also as we look at a very
practical, but also spiritual
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topic on the topic of family,
I also trust that this will
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enrich your
marriage, if you're married,
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as well as your
family and your family life.
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And, so thank
you for joining us.
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We are looking at a
very important topic today
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in our Sabbath School
steadily--Sabbath School study.
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And we're going to be
looking at lesson number 10,
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which is entitled
"Little Times of Trouble,"
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"Little Times of Trouble."
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And we look forward to
studying that here together.
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But before we look at our
study, we always like to spend
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some time offering you
a very special free offer.
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And the free offer
that we have for you today
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to continue in your study and
growth in your faith is entitled
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"From Stress to Joy."
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Now, that's
another very practical,
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but spiritual subject as well.
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"From Stress to Joy."
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And so, you just simply have
to dial the number that you see
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on your screen,
which is number...
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That's... and ask
for offer number 705.
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Please ask for
number, offer number 705.
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Now, if you have a cell phone,
and you'd like to have a digital
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copy of that particular
free offer, we also have
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that available
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And so, you simply
need to text the code SH031,
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and you want to text
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So again, you
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You can see it on
your screens once again
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and that is to number 40544.
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So, please take
advantage of that.
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We'd love to have--send
that out to you and allow you
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to continue to
study and to grow.
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Father in heaven, we
want to thank you so much
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for this opportunity to
be able to come together.
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We thank you so much for this
opportunity to be able to study
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your Word, and to be able
to understand how we can have
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better marriages, how can we
have better family life, Lord,
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as we look at this practical
subject on the struggle
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of conflicts that some
takes--sometimes takes place.
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We want to pray, God in
heaven, that you will help us
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to better
understand that as well.
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Father in heaven, we
want to thank you so much for
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our choir that's here
today, want to pray that you
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will help us to praise
you and that you will speak to
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our heart, even as
they sing for us here today.
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In Jesus's name we
pray these things, amen.
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We're gonna have a special music
by our choir and then I'll have
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the privilege of introducing
our speaker here today.
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¤ 'Tis so sweet
to trust in Jesus, ¤
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¤ Just to take
Him at His Word, ¤
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¤ Just to rest
upon His promise, ¤
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¤ Just to know,
Thus saith the Lord! ¤
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¤ Jesus, ¤
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¤ how I trust Him! ¤
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¤ How I've proved
Him o'er and o'er. ¤
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¤ Jesus, ¤
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¤ precious Jesus! ¤
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¤ Oh, for grace
to trust Him more! ¤
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¤ Yes, 'tis sweet
to trust in Jesus, ¤
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¤ Just from sin
and self to cease ¤
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¤ Just from
Jesus simply taking ¤
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¤ Life and rest,
and joy and peace. ¤
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¤ Jesus, ¤
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¤ how I trust Him! ¤
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¤ How I've proved
Him o'er and o'er ¤
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¤ Jesus, ¤
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¤ precious Jesus! ¤
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¤ Oh, for grace
to trust Him more! ¤
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¤ I'm so glad I
learned to trust Him, ¤
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¤ Precious
Jesus, Savior, Friend. ¤
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¤ And I know
that He is with me, ¤
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¤ Will be with me to the end. ¤
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¤ Jesus, ¤
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¤ how I trust Him! ¤
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¤ How I've proved
Him o'er and o'er ¤
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¤ Jesus, ¤
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¤ precious Jesus! ¤
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¤ Oh, for grace to
trust Him even more! ¤
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¤ Trust him more. ¤¤
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Shawn: It is my privilege here
today to be able to introduce
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a speaker that many of
you, if you've been watching the
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"Sabbath School Study
Hour" acquainted with.
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His name is David
DeRose, and David DeRose,
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we thank you for
teaching us here today.
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We look forward
to it. God bless you.
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David DeRose: Well, it is
good to be with each one of you.
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We're continuing our journey on
family seasons, family seasons.
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We are on lesson ten
and that is dealing with, as
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the lesson calls it,
"Little Times of Trouble."
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I don't know if you've ever had
this question run through your
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mind, but it's run through mine
and the question goes like this,
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is it possible that a
single question could lie
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at the roots of many
of our society's problems?
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Ever thought about it that way?
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The question is simply this, is
it a right or is it a privilege?
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You ever thought about this?
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Is it a right or
is it a privilege?
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Now, some of you
are looking perplexed.
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You say, "What is
this guy talking about?"
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Well, I've gotta
back up a little bit.
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Many of you realize I've
been a physician for some
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three decades and as a
physician, we've had this
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debate running
throughout our country.
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And I know some of our listeners
from throughout the world
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might think this is an
interesting debate, but the
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debate is when it
comes to quality healthcare,
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is it a right or
is it a privilege?
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And now, we could ask this
question about a dozen topics.
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And in fact, as we
look at the family today,
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I have to ask the question,
is being part of family,
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is it a right or
is it a privilege?
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Is it a right or
is it a privilege?
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Now again, may sound
like a strange question,
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but we'll probe that as
we look at today's lesson.
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But as we begin, let's look at
the background that the lesson
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paints for us and
that background speaks
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about challenges that
come into the home life.
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And it speaks about
two types of challenges.
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I'm looking at the first
paragraph of the introduction.
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It's listed as Sabbath
Afternoon Study for lesson ten.
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And it says,
"Even the best of homes
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will face times of struggle."
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And then it goes on and speaks
about two categories of things.
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One thing are so-called
simple things, and then
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it mentions other issues
that might disrupt family life.
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Now, if we think about this,
a lot of us would say, "Well,
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a lot of the challenges we have
in life are relatively simple."
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But as a physician and as a
pastor over the years, I found
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a lot of times it's those simple
things that wear on us the most.
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Over the years, I've
heard of debates in homes about
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how to put the toilet
paper roll on, you know,
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does it roll from the
top or from the bottom?
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Or how about the toothpaste,
how are you supposed to squeeze
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the toothpaste from the bottom
or do you just squeeze it?
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You say, "Oh, come on.
These are silly things."
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How you handle the
electric services in your home,
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you know, the light switches.
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So, some of these things, it
may seem very small in the grand
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scheme of things and the lesson
is painting these as relatively
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insignificant, sometimes
lay at the root of some of
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the biggest challenges we face.
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I remember some years
ago, a couple telling me they
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had gotten to the
verge of divorce, and God
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graciously brought
them back from the brink.
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And as they looked back at
the kind of things that were
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separating them, they
said it was just ridiculous.
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These things, you know,
from the perspective of time,
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they said this didn't
make much difference at all.
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But if you look at this first
paragraph, these other issues
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that are mentioned that threaten
to disrupt family life, these
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are some things that may
sound like really big things.
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A mother-in-law who's
abuse and manipulation threatens
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to destroy a woman's marriage
and her health, a father with
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mental illness who abuses his
children, son who abandons his
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religious upbringing, a daughter
who becomes a substance abuser.
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You get the picture.
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So, some of these things we
label as bigger than others,
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but what I love about
the lesson is it points us to
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some foundational principles.
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As we begin, the
first two Scriptures
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actually that are cited,
I want you to turn there.
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The first one is
in John 13, verse 34.
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So, turn with me
to John's gospel.
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And as we kind of refresh
our memories about how that
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gospel plays out, we're in the
closing scenes of Jesus's life
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by the time we get to John 13.
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It is at the Last
Supper, and we read these words
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that are familiar words,
but I think they are really
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truly foundational for all
that we're speaking about today.
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John 13:34 reads, "A new
commandment I give to you,"
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this is Jesus
speaking, of course.
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And he says, "That commandment
is that you love one another
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as I have loved you, that
you also love one another.
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By this all will know
that you are My disciples,
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if you have love
for one another."
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You say, "Well, we've
all heard that before."
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And you've, no doubt, heard
sermons trying to probe why
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this was discovered lived
by Jesus as a new commandment.
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And if we were to
have you weigh in,
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we might get some
different feedback.
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Why was it a new commandment?
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Haven't we been told to
love from the beginning?
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Isn't the foundation,
even as Jesus summarized
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the Ten Commandments,
founded on love to God
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and love to our neighbor, right?
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So, what is so new about it?
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You know, one of the things that
often helps the Bible come alive
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is looking at the context
in which things are spoken.
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So, just refresh your
minds for a moment at John 13.
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Look at the context of John 13.
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John 13 tells the story of Jesus
washing the disciples' feet.
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Whose job was it to wash feet?
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That's right, it
was the servants' job.
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And so, here
Jesus is stepping down.
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He's taking the position as a
servant, and who is he serving?
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As you read through John
13, Jesus is not surprised
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by what is going to happen.
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Look at verses 18
and onward, for example.
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Jesus says, "I'm not speaking
of all of you, I know whom
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I've chosen, but that the
Scripture may be fulfilled,
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he who eats bread with me has
lifted up his heel against me."
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And then he goes on and
speaks about being betrayed.
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I mean, Jesus's conscious of
all that's gonna happen to him,
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he's stooping down,
he's serving other people,
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and he knows how some, at
least one, of those disciples
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will treat him, and he
knows how the others are
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basically all
going to run from him.
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A new commandment?
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I mean, go back to the
Sermon on the Mount, right?
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The Pharisees said, you know,
you'll love the people that love
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you, but to love your enemies,
to love those who mistreat you?
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We're getting this
picture of Jesus's love as
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the foundation for dealing
with discord in the family.
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We're now gonna have a Scripture
read for us and that is the
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second Scripture that's actually
mentioned in your lesson.
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Some of you are saying, "What
happened to that memory verse?"
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I know a lot of you
look forward to hearing that.
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You'll hear it before too long.
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But we're gonna go to
Romans chapter 12, and verse 10.
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And again, as we listen to
this verse, it's a familiar
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verse but again, we're
gonna try to pick up the context
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to try to really appreciate
the role that this has in
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our families and in
dealing with conflict.
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So Romans 12, verse 10.
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female: "Be kindly affectionate
to one another in brotherly
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love, in honor giving
preference to one another."
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David: Wow, "In honor giving
preference to one another."
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I'm turning to Romans 12, if you
haven't already turned there.
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And Romans 12 is set
in an interesting context.
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Paul was a Jew, and Paul had
a huge burden for his people and
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he'd been talking about that in
the previous chapters, chapters
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9 through 11, how he was
burdened for his own people.
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And he goes on to speak
really about the privilege,
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the privilege of
being part of God's family.
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He speaks in Romans 11.
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If you're there with me, let's
just pick a few verses up here.
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He's speaking about
how the unfaithful members
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of the promised
people in the Old Testament.
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In that dispensation, God called
a people to represent him,
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a literal, physical, geologic
bloodline of people, the Hebrew
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nation, the Jewish people, and
they had largely rejected Jesus.
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And he speaks about
this in verses 17 and onward.
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He says, "If some of the
branches were broken off," he's
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speaking about how he is
the parent stock, if you will.
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And some of those
chosen branches were broken off
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because of their unfaithfulness.
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And now he's speaking about
the Gentiles being grafted in.
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And as he's writing about that
in verse 19, he says, "You will
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say then, 'Branches were broken
off that I might be grafted in.'
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Well said.
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Because of unbelief
they were broken off,
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and you stand by faith.
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Do not be haughty, but fear.
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For if God did not
spare the natural branches,
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He may not spare you either.
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Therefore consider the
goodness and severity of God:
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on those who fell, severity;
but toward you, goodness,
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if you continue
in His goodness."
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So, you say, "Well,
what's the picture here?"
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The picture is a picture
of privilege and those who
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thought they were so privileged
and didn't have to continue
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to receive God's ongoing
blessings become cut off.
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They're cut off from
that trusting relationship,
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if you will, with
their loving heavenly Father.
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And so, as we come back to
look at Romans 12, verse 10
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that was just read to
us, "Be kindly affectionate
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to one another with," what?
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"Brotherly love in honor giving
preference to one another."
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You say, "I'm here
not because of choice.
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My parents didn't ask
me whether I should be
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brought into the
world or not," right?
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Isn't that how it works?
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We just end up here, and
we end up as part of a family.
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And in our culture in
America, we focus a lot on what?
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On our rights.
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You know, children have rights,
and we have rights as citizens,
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and we have
rights as human beings.
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I'm not saying this
emphasis is misplaced, but
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I'm saying if our focus
is solely on our rights,
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look at verse 10
again of Romans 12.
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Is the focus here on rights
or is the focus on privilege?
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Are you following?
Look at the context.
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Is the focus on rights,
or is the focus on privilege?
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We have this privilege,
as Paul generally begins each
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of his letters, many of
his letters start out with,
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"You are
privileged, you're blessed.
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Christ has died for you,
you're his chosen children."
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And then he goes
on and he speaks about
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how we then are to live.
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And we're gonna get into
this as we continue this lesson.
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You say, "Dr.
DeRose, I already think
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it's a privilege to be married."
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Some of you know, my daughter
is going to be married tomorrow,
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and I'm very glad
for a number of reasons.
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You know, thinking
about that upcoming marriage,
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we're very glad for the
two people the Lord has united,
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Thomas Clark and
my daughter, Angela.
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And one of the things
that I appreciate about their
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relationship is it seems at
this point, they're both looking
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at it as a privilege to
be married to the other one.
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You following along?
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Some of you are looking
just absolutely befuddled.
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But really, isn't that how
we go into marriage, most of us?
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You know, we--in
fact, think about it.
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If you always think that
you're getting the better deal,
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wouldn't that be a
good thing in a marriage?
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And I see some of
you nodding your heads.
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Okay, so we need some medical
science here to help us out.
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You know, there--today,
the definition of family
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has been blurred in our society.
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And for some of you wanting
to read between the lines,
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we'll leave it as I
said it, it's been blurred.
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That doesn't
mean it's good or bad.
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Some people think it's good,
other people think it's bad.
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I know you might want me
to take a stronger stand,
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but that's not the
topic of today's lesson, okay?
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But I will tell you that
traditional families have
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been well studied for decades,
okay, traditional families,
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a man and a woman.
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And let me just
tell you how it works.
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In my experience, most
men seem like they feel
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they did their wife a
favor when they married her.
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Okay, I'm just telling
you, it's just an experience.
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Some of say, "Dr. DeRose,
you hang out with too many men."
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But let me tell you
what the research shows.
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The research shows
that if you want to look at
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health benefits from marriage,
there is one gender that
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seems too far and above
benefit from this relationship.
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Would any of you
like to hazard a guess
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as to which gender it is?
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That's right, it's the men.
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So really, you ladies, don't
elbow your husband too hard
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if he's sitting next to
you, but the data suggests that
00:19:54.22\00:19:57.36
we're getting the
better deal in marriage.
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But my whole point, it's
not medical research data.
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It's basically
this idea of the gospel,
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that we are blessed in Christ.
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So, we come into
family relationship, what is
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the real foundational family
relationship in the Bible?
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Yeah, turn here to
Matthew 19 with me, Matthew 19.
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It's one of those
passages in the Scripture where
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if you're just reading through
the Bible for the first time,
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you would be shocked.
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I mean, I say you would be
shocked, I would be shocked
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because I cannot imagine Jesus
giving this response to Peter.
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So I'm, let's see a
good place to pick it up.
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Matthew 19, it's always hard.
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You're always jumping
in the middle of something.
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But Matthew 19, verse 27,
so Peter makes one of these
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bold statements that
he's known for making.
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He says, "Jesus, we've have left
everything and followed You.
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Therefore what
are we gonna get?'"
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I'm paraphrasing a little
bit, but I would have expected
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Jesus to say, "Peter, how
long have you been with me?
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Have you not figured out what
the Christian life is all about?
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It's not about
what you're gonna get."
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I mean, that's what I
would expect Jesus to say,
00:21:15.44\00:21:17.34
but he didn't say that.
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Let's read what he said.
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Verse 28, "So Jesus said
to them," all the disciples,
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"Assuredly I say to you," and
all of us by extension, "that in
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the regeneration, when the Son
of Man sits on the throne of His
00:21:30.09\00:21:33.49
glory, you who have followed Me
will also sit on twelve thrones,
00:21:33.52\00:21:38.76
judging the
twelve tribes of Israel.
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And everyone who has left houses
or brothers or sisters or father
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or mother or wife or children
or lands, for My name's sake,
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shall receive a hundredfold,
and inherit eternal life.
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But many who are first will
be last, and the last first."
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And you say, well,
that's an interesting verse
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about family life because
we're speaking here about
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some people who've done, what?
00:22:01.65\00:22:03.65
They've actually left family.
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And you say, "So,
how does this come about?
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How can you leave family and
end up with a larger family?"
00:22:08.12\00:22:11.43
What is the figure
given here? You catch it?
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What's the magnitude of
increase you experience?
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It's a hundredfold.
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So, how do we get a
hundredfold larger family
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if we leave some family here?
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I mean, I think the most
straightforward interpretation
00:22:26.84\00:22:29.88
is Jesus speaking
about the church, okay?
00:22:29.91\00:22:32.75
So, this pivotal
family relationship, yes, in
00:22:32.78\00:22:36.08
the beginning, it's man
and wife, it's Adam and Eve.
00:22:36.12\00:22:39.09
But by extension, the
foundational family unit, in
00:22:39.12\00:22:42.66
a sense, is the church,
because some of us don't enter
00:22:42.69\00:22:46.26
into marital
relationships, and we are still
00:22:46.29\00:22:48.80
part of God's
family in the church.
00:22:48.83\00:22:52.70
So, with that background,
as we look at these different
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Scriptures, we're really
talking about things that
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relate, of course, to the
nuclear family, to what happens
00:22:57.67\00:23:00.38
in the home, but
we're talking about things
00:23:00.41\00:23:02.31
that happened in
the church as well.
00:23:02.34\00:23:03.71
And I know we've
made that connection as
00:23:03.75\00:23:05.41
we've been going
through the quarterly.
00:23:05.45\00:23:07.58
But we're going to hear now from
Proverbs 19 in just a moment.
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Someone's gonna be
reading that for us.
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We're into Sunday's lesson.
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And before we go there, there's
two verses that are mentioned
00:23:14.79\00:23:17.39
for Sunday about,
again, important principles
00:23:17.43\00:23:20.16
to help us with conflict.
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The first one is in Matthew 7,
so I invite you to turn there.
00:23:21.83\00:23:24.87
So, that is back in
the Sermon on the Mount.
00:23:24.90\00:23:27.10
We've been reading a
lot from Matthew, seems
00:23:27.14\00:23:29.54
like Matthew has a lot to
say about things that relate
00:23:29.57\00:23:32.84
to family life
from the words of Jesus.
00:23:32.87\00:23:36.58
So, Matthew 7, you can
pick it up with me in verse 1.
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Jesus is
speaking about the danger
00:23:40.52\00:23:43.02
of judging and condemning.
00:23:43.05\00:23:45.19
"Judge not, that
you not be judged.
00:23:45.22\00:23:47.86
For with what judgment you
judge, you will be judged; and
00:23:47.89\00:23:51.13
with what measure you use,
it will be measured back to you.
00:23:51.16\00:23:54.60
And why do you look at the
speck in your brother's eye,
00:23:54.63\00:23:57.10
but do not consider the
plank that's in your own eye?
00:23:57.13\00:23:59.67
Or how can you say to your
brother, 'Let me remove the
00:23:59.70\00:24:02.20
speck from your eye'; and look,
a plank is in your own eye?
00:24:02.24\00:24:06.54
Hypocrite!
00:24:06.57\00:24:08.11
First remove the plank from your
own eye, and then you will see
00:24:08.14\00:24:10.08
clearly to remove the
speck from your brother's eye."
00:24:10.11\00:24:14.38
Now, you say, "Well, why is the
lesson speaking about this as
00:24:14.42\00:24:17.12
being a important principle
in dealing with conflict?
00:24:17.15\00:24:20.86
What do you see
growing out of that passage?"
00:24:20.89\00:24:25.63
Well, I mean, one thing that
jumps out at you, of course,
00:24:25.66\00:24:28.93
is this idea that often
our problems are bigger than
00:24:28.96\00:24:33.07
the problems we
see in other people.
00:24:33.10\00:24:35.67
How is that the case?
Have you ever noticed this?
00:24:35.70\00:24:38.61
We tend to
excuse our own faults,
00:24:38.64\00:24:41.41
but blame other
people for theirs?
00:24:41.44\00:24:43.95
Have you noticed it?
00:24:43.98\00:24:45.55
Have you ever caught yourself
criticizing something for
00:24:45.58\00:24:47.98
someone, maybe even in your
own mind, and then realize that,
00:24:48.02\00:24:51.52
"Boy, that's the same
thing that I tend to do"?
00:24:51.55\00:24:54.66
Well, that's what's
being pointed out here.
00:24:54.69\00:24:56.16
Let's look at this other
principle now as we hear from
00:24:56.19\00:24:57.93
Proverbs 19, verse 11.
00:24:57.96\00:25:00.60
male: "The discretion of a
man makes him slow to anger,
00:25:00.63\00:25:03.70
and his glory is to
overlook a transgression."
00:25:03.73\00:25:06.20
David: His glory is to
overlook a transgression.
00:25:06.94\00:25:11.51
Boy, I mean, we're
getting into some interesting
00:25:11.54\00:25:13.91
ground here, aren't way?
00:25:13.94\00:25:16.18
I think of this story, and
maybe you've heard this story,
00:25:16.21\00:25:19.28
maybe my mind is thinking
too much about newlyweds,
00:25:19.31\00:25:21.92
I don't know why.
00:25:21.95\00:25:23.25
I guess I probably do
know why but anyway, this story
00:25:23.28\00:25:25.59
is told of a couple that
had been married a few years.
00:25:25.62\00:25:29.49
And they're
invited out for breakfast.
00:25:29.52\00:25:33.23
I know, that's not
typical in our society,
00:25:33.26\00:25:35.46
but as they are served
breakfast, the husband is given
00:25:35.50\00:25:38.57
a piece of toast by the
hostess, and he's just raving
00:25:38.60\00:25:41.60
about how wonderful
this piece of toast is.
00:25:41.64\00:25:46.04
Now his wife, to her
credit, holds her tongue
00:25:46.07\00:25:48.11
until they're alone together.
00:25:48.14\00:25:49.91
And when
they're alone, she says,
00:25:49.94\00:25:53.52
"Why were you
raving about that toast?
00:25:53.55\00:25:55.58
I mean, it wasn't even black?"
00:25:55.62\00:25:58.59
And he says, "Well, I
mean, it was just toasted
00:25:58.62\00:26:02.49
so nicely," he said.
00:26:02.52\00:26:04.83
She said, "But you
always told me you,
00:26:04.86\00:26:06.76
you like your toast burned."
00:26:06.80\00:26:10.53
And then he realized that
several years before, early
00:26:10.57\00:26:14.57
in their marriage, his wife had
burned the toast and when she
00:26:14.60\00:26:19.04
apologized to him, he
said, "No, don't apologize,"
00:26:19.07\00:26:23.75
he said, "this is
the way I like my toast."
00:26:23.78\00:26:27.88
Now, no doubt that is
just a fabricated story,
00:26:27.92\00:26:31.25
but there's an
interesting point.
00:26:31.29\00:26:32.79
There's a difference between
overlooking something and just,
00:26:32.82\00:26:35.86
you know, tolerating it, and
actually forgiving something,
00:26:35.89\00:26:40.56
and overlooking it
in that way and actually
00:26:40.60\00:26:42.06
addressing the underlying issue.
00:26:42.10\00:26:44.07
Have you ever
thought about this?
00:26:44.10\00:26:46.30
Let's probe this a little
bit because it is relevant to
00:26:46.33\00:26:49.04
what we have that
comes up in this lesson.
00:26:49.07\00:26:53.54
Let's look at another
Scripture that's mentioned.
00:26:53.58\00:26:56.08
It's Romans chapter 14.
So, Romans 14, verse 19.
00:26:56.11\00:27:02.48
So from Matthew, we
go back to Paul, and
00:27:02.52\00:27:05.55
his letter to
the church in Rome.
00:27:05.59\00:27:07.29
Romans chapter
14, and we're gonna
00:27:07.32\00:27:11.06
look here at another principle.
00:27:11.09\00:27:12.76
So, we're filtering all
this through both the eyes of
00:27:12.79\00:27:15.60
the church and through
the eyes of the family.
00:27:15.63\00:27:18.90
So, Romans 14, verse 19.
00:27:18.93\00:27:23.24
Paul writes to us there
and he says, "Let us therefore
00:27:23.27\00:27:27.11
pursue the things which
make for peace and the things
00:27:27.14\00:27:31.08
by which one may edify another."
00:27:31.11\00:27:35.58
And again, it's interesting,
if you look at the context here,
00:27:35.62\00:27:39.02
Paul has been speaking in Romans
14 about things that may seem
00:27:39.05\00:27:43.63
like relatively little things
in the grand scheme of things.
00:27:43.66\00:27:47.13
He's been speaking about
the kind of foods that we eat
00:27:47.13\00:27:49.90
in our individual
worship practices.
00:27:49.93\00:27:53.37
He's not setting aside the
importance of healthy eating.
00:27:53.40\00:27:56.57
He's not setting aside
the importance of things
00:27:56.60\00:27:59.91
that God has asked us
to do, as far as worship.
00:27:59.94\00:28:02.88
But he's making a principal
here, and let's go back
00:28:02.91\00:28:06.58
a little bit further
to Romans 14, verse 14.
00:28:06.61\00:28:10.12
He says, "I know and am
convinced by the Lord Jesus
00:28:10.15\00:28:13.42
that there is nothing
unclean of itself; but to him
00:28:13.46\00:28:17.06
who considers anything to be
unclean, to him it is unclean."
00:28:17.09\00:28:19.83
Now, some of you are
saying, "Boy, I'm glad that
00:28:19.86\00:28:21.80
as a physician, you're
wading into this passage."
00:28:21.83\00:28:27.44
You know, there's a distinction
in the Bible between the
00:28:27.47\00:28:30.67
way things are intrinsically
and the way God has infused
00:28:30.71\00:28:34.84
them in history with
ceremonial significance, okay?
00:28:34.88\00:28:39.01
And to try to make
this discussion very simple,
00:28:39.05\00:28:42.08
from the beginning, there's
been a distinction between
00:28:42.12\00:28:45.05
foods and animals that were
clean and that were unclean.
00:28:45.09\00:28:48.02
Going all the way back to the
flood, you see this, remember?
00:28:48.06\00:28:50.83
If you read the actual
account in Genesis, and
00:28:50.86\00:28:53.36
don't just read the
storybook account, the animals
00:28:53.40\00:28:56.50
did not just go in
two of each species.
00:28:56.53\00:29:00.07
Many of you realize,
two animals of what kind?
00:29:00.10\00:29:04.37
Of the unclean, but
seven of the clean animals.
00:29:04.41\00:29:07.24
So, long before
there ever was a Jew,
00:29:07.28\00:29:09.61
there was some intrinsic
distinction in the animals.
00:29:09.64\00:29:14.22
What we know is that ultimately
when God permitted humans to
00:29:14.25\00:29:18.12
eat animals after the flood,
those animals that were unclean
00:29:18.15\00:29:22.59
were intrinsically unhealthful
to eat, and it is to this day.
00:29:22.62\00:29:26.80
So, whether you want to look
at the leading cause of epilepsy
00:29:26.83\00:29:29.76
in the world--by the
way, do you know what it is?
00:29:29.80\00:29:31.40
The leading cause of
epilepsy in the world?
00:29:31.43\00:29:34.64
That's right, it's something
called neurocysticercosis.
00:29:34.67\00:29:38.01
Some of you actually
said that, others of you
00:29:38.04\00:29:40.24
were struggling to get it out.
00:29:40.28\00:29:42.44
Neurocysticercosis,
it's from pork.
00:29:42.48\00:29:44.65
It's a parasite
transmitted by pork, okay?
00:29:44.68\00:29:47.65
Leading cause of
epilepsy in the world, seizures.
00:29:47.68\00:29:50.99
Trichinosis, you
can go down the list.
00:29:51.02\00:29:53.52
So God, certain
things intrinsically unclean.
00:29:53.56\00:29:55.92
But now, now we're
talking in the New Testament,
00:29:55.96\00:29:58.86
these things are
still on healthy to eat.
00:29:58.89\00:30:01.23
But there is no ceremonial
defilement from touching the pig
00:30:01.26\00:30:05.30
that there was in the ceremonial
system, do you understand?
00:30:05.33\00:30:09.14
So, I can walk out of
the church door and some kids
00:30:09.17\00:30:12.17
can be throwing a
pigskin and throw it to me.
00:30:12.21\00:30:14.91
If I touch it, I can
still shake your hand afterward.
00:30:14.94\00:30:18.71
I'm not ceremonially
defile. Are you following along?
00:30:18.75\00:30:22.58
It's a big topic and
just a few soundbites.
00:30:22.62\00:30:24.99
I know I might leave you more
disappointed than encouraged
00:30:25.02\00:30:29.89
that we've even touched on
that, but we're just trying
00:30:29.92\00:30:31.63
to pick up the context here.
00:30:31.66\00:30:33.06
So, let's go back to
verse 15 now of Romans 14.
00:30:33.09\00:30:35.70
It says, "Yet if your brother
is grieved because of your food,
00:30:35.73\00:30:39.37
you are no
longer walking in love.
00:30:39.40\00:30:42.24
Don't destroy with your food
the one for whom Christ died.
00:30:42.27\00:30:45.81
Therefore do not let your
good be spoken of as evil;
00:30:45.84\00:30:50.01
for the kingdom of God is
not eating and drinking, but
00:30:50.05\00:30:52.38
righteousness and peace
and joy in the Holy Spirit.
00:30:52.41\00:30:55.55
For he who serves Christ
in these things is acceptable
00:30:55.58\00:30:58.25
to God and approved by men."
00:30:58.29\00:30:59.92
And then we have this verse,
"Let us pursue the things which
00:30:59.95\00:31:02.42
make for peace and the things
by which one may edify another."
00:31:02.46\00:31:07.30
And to me, it's
rolling back some things.
00:31:07.30\00:31:10.50
You say, "Well, Dr. DeRose,
you know, you're speaking
00:31:10.53\00:31:12.73
about, you know, real
important topics here,
00:31:12.77\00:31:15.04
and we're just
glossing over them.
00:31:15.07\00:31:16.77
And that's why we have problems
in our church, and that's why
00:31:16.81\00:31:18.67
we have problems in my home
because there's important things
00:31:18.71\00:31:21.61
that my spouse doesn't
realize that I understand,
00:31:21.64\00:31:24.81
or that my
parents don't realize.
00:31:24.85\00:31:26.75
They don't they don't
live, they don't understand
00:31:26.78\00:31:28.45
the current generation."
00:31:28.48\00:31:30.72
Parents might be
saying the same thing about
00:31:30.75\00:31:32.32
their children or
their grandchildren.
00:31:32.35\00:31:34.66
Here's the point, what
is Paul pointing us to?
00:31:34.69\00:31:39.83
He's pointing us to this
vision of the privilege we
00:31:39.86\00:31:42.86
have of family relationship.
00:31:42.90\00:31:44.73
That's the context when he
writes to the church of Rome.
00:31:44.77\00:31:46.74
We are blessed.
00:31:46.77\00:31:48.37
We're blessed in
Christ, and our privilege is
00:31:48.40\00:31:51.07
to share that
blessing with one another.
00:31:51.11\00:31:53.74
Don't try to divide your
family over things that you
00:31:53.78\00:31:57.41
understand that maybe
they don't understand yet.
00:31:57.45\00:32:00.85
Is there room for
that even in the family?
00:32:00.88\00:32:02.85
Now, I don't know
how it is for you,
00:32:02.88\00:32:04.82
but Sonya and I are approaching
our 30th anniversary.
00:32:04.85\00:32:09.66
So, we've been
married for a while.
00:32:09.69\00:32:11.86
And there's still
things we can do that can,
00:32:11.89\00:32:14.00
you know, kind of
bother the other one.
00:32:14.03\00:32:17.37
And most of the time, we
can still smile about it.
00:32:17.40\00:32:19.93
But the point is sometimes, in
that close family relationship,
00:32:19.97\00:32:26.81
we're not as careful
about what we say as when
00:32:26.84\00:32:29.81
we're in the public arena.
00:32:29.84\00:32:31.61
Is this just an
issue that I've noticed?
00:32:31.65\00:32:34.12
I mean, think about it.
00:32:34.15\00:32:36.08
If you really become one
flesh with someone, are you more
00:32:36.12\00:32:38.65
ruthless in talking to yourself
or in talking with other people?
00:32:38.69\00:32:42.59
I mean, hopefully
your strongest criticism
00:32:42.62\00:32:44.53
is reserved for yourself.
00:32:44.56\00:32:46.43
But if your partner is an
extension of yourself, do you
00:32:46.46\00:32:48.73
sometimes--some of you
are looking very bewildered.
00:32:48.76\00:32:51.33
Let me explain something to you.
00:32:51.37\00:32:53.27
This, I recognized this
early in our relationship.
00:32:53.30\00:32:56.50
Sonya had this terrible
habit when I first met her.
00:32:56.54\00:32:59.51
We'd go out together, and
I'd walk away from the car
00:32:59.54\00:33:03.08
and she'd say, "David,
do you have your keys?"
00:33:03.11\00:33:05.95
And I'm thinking, Well, what
kind of woman--what kind of man
00:33:05.98\00:33:08.52
does she think I am that
I'm gonna forget my keys?
00:33:08.55\00:33:11.42
And this really bothered me
for a while, until I realized
00:33:11.45\00:33:14.92
that internally, every
time I walk away from the car,
00:33:14.96\00:33:17.59
I ask myself, do I have my keys?
00:33:17.63\00:33:20.66
And the reason I ask
myself that question is probably
00:33:20.70\00:33:23.37
like many of you in
those old tech cars, you know,
00:33:23.40\00:33:25.73
you could lock
yourself out of your car and
00:33:25.77\00:33:28.34
it had happened
to me more than once.
00:33:28.37\00:33:30.41
So, every time I'm
walking away from the car
00:33:30.44\00:33:32.34
I'm checking, do I have my keys?
00:33:32.37\00:33:34.08
You know, if you've
got, you know, the clicker,
00:33:34.11\00:33:35.51
you don't have
to worry about it.
00:33:35.54\00:33:37.25
If you, you know, got a higher
tech--but in the old days,
00:33:37.28\00:33:41.22
do I have my keys?
00:33:41.25\00:33:42.82
So, when I realized that, I
was just an extension of Sonya.
00:33:42.85\00:33:46.62
So, when she's
walking away from her car,
00:33:46.65\00:33:48.49
normally she's doing what?
00:33:48.52\00:33:50.56
Just like me, you know,
she's checking for keys.
00:33:50.59\00:33:52.69
But I'm the one
driving, so what does she ask?
00:33:52.73\00:33:54.86
"David, do you have your keys?"
00:33:54.93\00:33:57.57
You see, so if we kind of cut
through this and realize that
00:33:57.60\00:34:01.57
sometimes maybe we need to be a
little bit more cautious in what
00:34:01.60\00:34:05.21
we express, and I'm sure
Sonya will remind me about this.
00:34:05.24\00:34:08.38
She's very gracious.
00:34:08.41\00:34:10.41
And but we do, we have to
remind ourselves that sometimes
00:34:10.45\00:34:14.65
we understand these
principles intellectually, as
00:34:14.68\00:34:18.49
we read through them in
the Bible, how we should
00:34:18.52\00:34:20.29
be encouraging and
building one another up.
00:34:20.32\00:34:23.12
And sometimes we allow
our own human nature to creep
00:34:23.16\00:34:27.76
in too much into the
family relationships.
00:34:27.83\00:34:30.60
Well, we need to hasten on.
00:34:30.63\00:34:32.40
Monday is speaking specifically
about marriage, and it's
00:34:32.43\00:34:35.07
pointing us now to some of these
crucial principles that really
00:34:35.10\00:34:38.37
bring us back to
that relationship.
00:34:38.41\00:34:40.91
You'll see the
principles are very similar.
00:34:40.94\00:34:43.48
We're gonna be looking at
Colossians in just a moment.
00:34:43.51\00:34:46.85
So, we're looking a lot at some
of the things that Paul wrote,
00:34:46.88\00:34:49.92
okay, some of these principles
are extremely powerful
00:34:49.95\00:34:52.49
when it comes to families.
00:34:52.52\00:34:54.92
And first though, we're gonna
go to Ephesians 1, verse 7.
00:34:54.96\00:34:58.49
So, Ephesians 1, verse 7.
00:34:58.53\00:35:02.66
And what we'll get a sense
of here is a point that I made
00:35:02.70\00:35:06.20
earlier, and this is how
Paul often begins his letters.
00:35:06.23\00:35:09.80
So, Ephesians chapter 1.
00:35:09.84\00:35:16.18
Just catch this
and we'll get a little
00:35:16.21\00:35:18.31
the context here, verse 7.
00:35:18.35\00:35:20.85
In verse 3 he says, "Blessed
be the God and Father of our
00:35:20.88\00:35:23.65
Lord Jesus Christ, who has
blessed us with every spiritual
00:35:23.69\00:35:27.09
blessing in the
heavenly places in Christ."
00:35:27.12\00:35:30.03
And he goes on and he gets down
to verse 7 and he says, "In him,
00:35:30.06\00:35:33.96
we have redemption through his
blood, the forgiveness of sins,
00:35:34.00\00:35:37.37
according to the
riches of his grace."
00:35:37.40\00:35:40.37
What is the language here?
00:35:40.40\00:35:42.34
Is this the
language of right, or
00:35:42.37\00:35:44.91
is it the language of privilege?
00:35:44.94\00:35:47.64
It's a language
of privilege, right?
00:35:47.68\00:35:49.04
You're blessed. It's a gift.
00:35:49.08\00:35:51.41
This is privilege.
00:35:51.45\00:35:52.95
This is what
it's speaking about.
00:35:52.98\00:35:54.72
And so, that's the
context as Ephesians begins.
00:35:54.75\00:35:57.12
It's the context
as Colossians begins.
00:35:57.15\00:36:00.36
It's the context
as Galatians begins.
00:36:00.39\00:36:03.53
Paul is--
00:36:03.56\00:36:04.89
The context of
Romans, he's speaking about
00:36:04.93\00:36:06.36
how blessed we are.
00:36:06.39\00:36:08.26
And so, now with that
background, let's head over to
00:36:08.30\00:36:11.40
Colossians 3, someone's
gonna read from the heart
00:36:11.43\00:36:13.87
of Colossians 3 in just
a minute, but I want you
00:36:13.90\00:36:15.80
to pick up the
introduction to Colossians 3.
00:36:15.84\00:36:19.97
Speaking about all these
blessings, it's speaking about
00:36:20.01\00:36:22.34
being risen to
new life in Jesus.
00:36:22.38\00:36:25.38
So, look with me at Colossians
3, beginning with verse 1.
00:36:25.41\00:36:29.12
It says, "If you then
were raised with Christ,
00:36:29.15\00:36:33.59
seek those things which
are above where Christ is,
00:36:33.62\00:36:38.26
sitting at the
right hand of God.
00:36:38.29\00:36:40.70
Set your mind on things
above, not things on the earth,
00:36:40.73\00:36:45.93
for you died, and your life
is hidden with Christ in God."
00:36:45.97\00:36:49.87
And then verse 5, "Put to
death," and there's a list
00:36:49.90\00:36:53.04
of things that you're
supposed to put to death.
00:36:53.07\00:36:55.44
And then as you continue on
through Colossians 3, you're
00:36:55.48\00:36:58.58
gonna hear about some things
you're to revive, things that
00:36:58.61\00:37:01.35
you're to put on, and at the
heart of that is Colossians 3:13
00:37:01.38\00:37:05.59
that we're gonna hear right now.
00:37:05.62\00:37:07.96
male: Colossians 3:13, "Bearing
with one another, and forgiving
00:37:07.99\00:37:11.76
one another, if anyone has
a complaint against another;
00:37:11.79\00:37:15.10
even as Christ forgave
you, so you also must do."
00:37:15.13\00:37:19.17
David: It's amazing to me
that most of the Christian world
00:37:19.20\00:37:23.64
seems stuck in the beginning
chapters of Paul's letters
00:37:23.67\00:37:29.61
because there's almost
this aversion to speaking
00:37:29.64\00:37:33.78
about moral imperatives today.
00:37:33.82\00:37:35.82
Have you noticed this?
00:37:35.85\00:37:37.82
But you don't
have to go very far.
00:37:37.85\00:37:40.12
Here we are halfway through the
Book of Colossians, Colossians 1
00:37:40.16\00:37:42.52
and 2, speaking about privilege
and blessing, especially.
00:37:42.56\00:37:45.86
But then Paul starts giving
these moral imperatives and
00:37:45.89\00:37:49.66
basically these are calls for
us to be more like Jesus, right?
00:37:49.70\00:37:54.17
You pick it up
there in verse 13.
00:37:54.20\00:37:56.67
What are we supposed to do?
00:37:56.71\00:37:59.67
Forgive others as
Christ forgave us.
00:37:59.71\00:38:03.48
Isn't this really the
grounds for forgiveness?
00:38:03.51\00:38:06.68
Now, it's interesting, we
go back in our minds to maybe
00:38:06.72\00:38:09.28
formative things
in our experience.
00:38:09.32\00:38:10.82
I think, as a young
Christian, I had a roommate,
00:38:10.85\00:38:15.76
and this guy wanted to
borrow my laundry detergent.
00:38:15.79\00:38:20.40
Safe, simple thing, right?
00:38:20.43\00:38:21.93
So, I lend him my
laundry detergent.
00:38:21.96\00:38:24.40
And later in
that day, I'm looking
00:38:24.43\00:38:26.03
for my laundry detergent.
00:38:26.07\00:38:27.54
What do you
think happened to it?
00:38:27.57\00:38:29.94
He left it in the laundromat.
00:38:29.97\00:38:32.47
I mean, how could he do
that with my laundry detergent?
00:38:32.51\00:38:34.74
How many of you
think I was wronged?
00:38:34.78\00:38:38.91
I was wronged, whether you
think it's a small thing or not.
00:38:38.95\00:38:42.28
And that upset me that my
roommate would take my laundry
00:38:42.32\00:38:46.05
detergent and leave it in the
laundromat and it's gone now.
00:38:46.09\00:38:49.69
I have no laundry detergent.
00:38:49.72\00:38:51.63
Do you realize
how important this is?
00:38:51.66\00:38:57.30
But then the Lord brought to
my mind, the sacrifice of Jesus.
00:38:57.33\00:39:03.67
And I mean, how
important does the laundry
00:39:03.71\00:39:06.37
detergent seem in that context?
00:39:06.41\00:39:09.48
It's like nothing, right?
00:39:09.51\00:39:11.08
I mean, Jesus died for
me and he--and I can't--and
00:39:11.11\00:39:17.85
I'm upset with someone.
00:39:17.89\00:39:19.65
I mean, how--when you
put it in that perspective,
00:39:19.69\00:39:21.52
how difficult is forgiveness?
00:39:21.56\00:39:23.32
You say, "Well,
that's a little thing.'
00:39:23.36\00:39:25.43
But there's really big
things that happen in life
00:39:25.46\00:39:28.10
that God asks us
to forgive, right?
00:39:28.13\00:39:30.30
They're a little bit
of more--well, that's
00:39:30.33\00:39:32.87
putting it mildly, right, of
a little bit more consequence
00:39:32.90\00:39:35.44
than laundry detergent.
00:39:35.47\00:39:37.94
Let's look at this
because the lesson picks it up
00:39:37.97\00:39:41.01
in more detail in
Thursday's lesson.
00:39:41.04\00:39:44.21
It's speaking about
forgiveness and peace,
00:39:44.25\00:39:47.95
forgiveness and peace.
00:39:47.98\00:39:49.95
And we're gonna look at
this in a little bit of detail
00:39:49.98\00:39:53.56
because there's a lot being
said today in the Christian
00:39:53.59\00:39:57.73
world about forgiveness, but
let's couch it in Colossians 3,
00:39:57.76\00:40:03.26
since some of
you are still there.
00:40:03.30\00:40:05.47
If you look at
Colossians 3, some years ago,
00:40:05.50\00:40:07.90
let me give you some context.
00:40:07.94\00:40:09.24
Some years ago,
many of you know the name
00:40:09.27\00:40:10.97
of Charles
Stanley, popular preacher.
00:40:11.01\00:40:14.88
Dr. Stanley was speaking
about this topic of forgiveness,
00:40:14.91\00:40:18.11
actually wrote a
book on the topic.
00:40:18.15\00:40:20.58
And as he was speaking about
the problem with unforgiveness,
00:40:20.62\00:40:25.52
he really pointed to these
moral imperative sections of
00:40:25.55\00:40:30.16
Paul's writings like we
have here in Colossians.
00:40:30.19\00:40:34.83
Look at this Colossians
8, excuse me, Colossians 3,
00:40:34.83\00:40:39.07
verse 8, Colossians 3, verse 8.
00:40:39.10\00:40:41.34
Look at some of the
things that in Christ,
00:40:41.37\00:40:43.74
we're called to put aside.
00:40:43.77\00:40:46.61
Colossians 3, verse 8,
"But now you yourselves are to
00:40:46.64\00:40:49.64
put off these, anger,
wrath, malice, blasphemy,
00:40:49.68\00:40:58.25
filthy language
out of your mouth--"
00:40:58.29\00:41:00.26
Now, as you're reading through
that list, how many of those
00:41:00.29\00:41:03.99
things surface when you're
holding on to unforgiveness?
00:41:04.03\00:41:09.50
You ever thought about this?
00:41:09.53\00:41:11.87
I mean, you could look in
Galatians 5 at the list of the
00:41:11.90\00:41:15.24
fruits of the Spirit, fruit
of the Spirit, and the things
00:41:15.27\00:41:19.37
that go along with the flesh.
00:41:19.41\00:41:21.18
Maybe we should do that.
00:41:21.21\00:41:22.51
Go to Galatians with
me and you'll see there
00:41:22.54\00:41:26.92
some similar
things that are mentioned.
00:41:26.95\00:41:28.52
You'll see where this is
going as far as forgiveness
00:41:28.55\00:41:30.65
and why this is so important.
00:41:30.69\00:41:32.45
Galatians chapter 5 is
speaking about the works of
00:41:32.49\00:41:36.73
the flesh in
verse 19 of Galatians 5.
00:41:36.76\00:41:40.96
So, here's a list of some of the
works of the flesh, adultery,
00:41:41.00\00:41:45.30
fornication, uncleanness,
lewdness, idolatry, sorcery,
00:41:45.33\00:41:50.17
hatred, contentions,
jealousies, outbursts of wrath.
00:41:50.21\00:41:57.91
What I want as we're
reading through this list, think
00:41:57.95\00:41:59.81
about it in the context of
unforgiveness because these
00:41:59.85\00:42:03.12
were the dots that Dr.
Stanley connected in my mind,
00:42:03.15\00:42:08.46
selfish ambitions, dissensions,
heresy, envy, murders,
00:42:08.49\00:42:13.70
drunkenness,
revelries, and the like.
00:42:13.73\00:42:15.86
And what is he saying?
00:42:15.90\00:42:17.43
He's saying, these are things
that you used to be like before
00:42:17.47\00:42:21.27
you put on Christ, before you
accepted Jesus as your Savior.
00:42:21.30\00:42:25.01
And now he says in verse 22,
here's the fruit of the Spirit,
00:42:25.04\00:42:28.08
love, joy, peace,
you know the list,
00:42:28.11\00:42:30.58
right, longsuffering,
kindness, goodness,
00:42:30.61\00:42:32.55
faithfulness,
gentleness, self-control.
00:42:32.58\00:42:34.78
Think about it now.
00:42:34.82\00:42:36.69
If you are unforgiving,
what typical arena do you
00:42:36.72\00:42:43.02
put yourself into, at least
as you deal with the person
00:42:43.06\00:42:45.73
you haven't forgiven?
00:42:45.76\00:42:48.03
You ever thought about this?
00:42:48.06\00:42:49.80
We tend to put on the
things of the flesh to punish
00:42:49.83\00:42:54.00
the other person,
to get back at them.
00:42:54.04\00:42:57.21
You say, "Oh, come on.
00:42:57.24\00:42:58.67
Listen, I'm a Christian, I
just ignore the other person."
00:42:58.71\00:43:02.24
Well, I mean, what if it's
your, you know, person living in
00:43:02.28\00:43:06.21
the home with you, what if
someone in the church with you?
00:43:06.25\00:43:09.32
Is there still hatred
there, even though there
00:43:09.35\00:43:12.22
may not be the
outright, verbal dissensions?
00:43:12.25\00:43:17.49
Are you following along?
00:43:17.53\00:43:18.99
So, here's the deal,
when I don't forgive someone,
00:43:19.03\00:43:21.93
I'm choosing to walk in
the flesh in that relationship.
00:43:21.96\00:43:27.64
And we were not
made to be able to just
00:43:27.67\00:43:29.54
jump from the
flesh to the Spirit.
00:43:29.57\00:43:31.87
You're following along with me?
00:43:31.91\00:43:33.21
So, when I start to
cultivate that, what happens?
00:43:33.24\00:43:37.05
That same spirit can
creep into other relationships.
00:43:37.08\00:43:41.08
And many times, if you
look at the root of some problem
00:43:41.12\00:43:44.89
in the home, it
may not even have begun
00:43:44.92\00:43:48.36
in that home
that you established.
00:43:48.39\00:43:50.96
It may go back to the parent
that you haven't forgiven, or
00:43:50.99\00:43:54.73
to the uncle that did something
terrible that you have not
00:43:54.73\00:43:59.90
forgiven, and that spills over
into your other relationships.
00:43:59.93\00:44:03.87
So, it's so important,
this topic of forgiveness.
00:44:03.91\00:44:07.54
And as the lesson brings
out, there are challenges
00:44:07.58\00:44:13.15
with forgiveness, right?
00:44:13.18\00:44:15.72
As we're thinking about
that, we want to tie this back
00:44:15.75\00:44:18.82
in with Ephesians chapter 4.
00:44:18.85\00:44:22.22
We have someone who'll be
reading that in a moment because
00:44:22.26\00:44:25.16
Ephesians 4 just putting
together these same principles,
00:44:25.19\00:44:29.70
Ephesians 4 actually in verses
26 and 27, also connects us
00:44:29.73\00:44:36.44
with something that
relates to this whole aspect
00:44:36.47\00:44:38.81
of forgiveness and wrongdoing.
00:44:38.84\00:44:45.01
So, who has that
Scripture for us, Ephesians 4,
00:44:45.05\00:44:48.08
verses 26 and 27?
00:44:48.12\00:44:53.62
male: "Be angry, and do not sin:
00:44:58.23\00:45:00.50
do not let the sun
go down on your wrath."
00:45:00.53\00:45:04.57
David: "Be angry and do not sin.
00:45:04.60\00:45:07.37
Let not the sun go
down on your wrath."
00:45:07.40\00:45:15.54
Jesus walks into the
temple, you know the story,
00:45:18.08\00:45:24.12
and his heart is distressed.
00:45:24.15\00:45:27.32
In Isaiah 56, it was prophesied
that his house was to be
00:45:27.36\00:45:30.93
a house of
prayer for all nations.
00:45:30.96\00:45:33.90
And, you know, he quotes that
Scripture, "What has it become?"
00:45:33.93\00:45:38.70
As he put it, a
den of thieves, right?
00:45:38.73\00:45:40.74
It has become a
courtyard, a marketplace.
00:45:40.77\00:45:44.37
And we see this
manifestation of divine anger.
00:45:44.41\00:45:47.11
It's interesting to me that
God's anger in this phrase of
00:45:47.14\00:45:51.15
anger or jealousy, it's often
directed at situations that are
00:45:51.18\00:45:58.05
obscuring God's
character from being revealed.
00:45:58.09\00:46:02.06
So, it's not that God is
hating the moneychangers.
00:46:02.09\00:46:06.53
He hates what's being
done to mar this picture of the
00:46:06.56\00:46:12.03
character of God that was
to be painted in the sanctuary.
00:46:12.07\00:46:15.07
Are you're following along?
00:46:15.10\00:46:17.27
And we often make this
distinction of God hating
00:46:17.31\00:46:19.71
the sin but loving the sinner.
00:46:19.74\00:46:21.84
And I think in many respects,
it's an appropriate distinction
00:46:21.88\00:46:25.55
because God here is acting with
love as he cleanses the temple.
00:46:25.58\00:46:30.22
So, what is this deal about
being angry and sin that let not
00:46:30.25\00:46:34.62
the sun go down on your wrath?
00:46:34.66\00:46:36.36
How about as it enters
into your own home life,
00:46:36.39\00:46:39.36
what do you think about that?
00:46:39.39\00:46:41.76
Can you be angry at some of the
people that are closest to you?
00:46:41.80\00:46:46.03
When's the best time to address
those undesirable feelings?
00:46:46.07\00:46:52.77
You say, "Well, I'm gonna
deal with it as soon as the
00:46:52.81\00:46:55.01
other person apologizes
because it was their fault."
00:46:55.04\00:46:58.08
You know, that's
actually brought up
00:46:58.11\00:47:00.35
in Thursday's lesson as well.
00:47:00.38\00:47:01.92
Whose obligation is
it to make reconciliation
00:47:01.95\00:47:06.25
when there is discord?
00:47:06.29\00:47:08.29
Whose responsibility is it?
00:47:08.32\00:47:11.33
Does someone have
Matthew 5:23 and 24 for us?
00:47:11.36\00:47:14.60
Let's read what
Matthew--what Jesus says there
00:47:14.63\00:47:18.80
in Matthew 5:23 and 24.
00:47:18.83\00:47:21.87
male: Therefore, if you bring
your gift to the altar and there
00:47:21.90\00:47:25.04
remember that your brother
has something against you,
00:47:25.07\00:47:28.41
leave your gift there before
the altar and go your way.
00:47:28.44\00:47:31.61
First, be
reconciled to your brother, and
00:47:31.65\00:47:34.18
then come and offer your gift."
00:47:34.22\00:47:37.99
David: Okay, so in
Matthew 5, who is the person
00:47:38.02\00:47:40.89
who's supposed to
seek reconciliation?
00:47:40.92\00:47:46.86
The one who did the wrong,
right, isn't that Matthew 5?
00:47:46.90\00:47:50.07
If you realize your
brother has something ought you.
00:47:50.10\00:47:53.64
Now, if we were to take
the time to go to Matthew 18,
00:47:53.67\00:47:57.04
passage that you will
know, it speaks about someone
00:47:57.07\00:48:00.34
who's offended you
and you going to them.
00:48:00.38\00:48:03.18
Now, you're the
one being offended.
00:48:03.21\00:48:05.18
You're the one being wronged.
00:48:05.21\00:48:07.05
So biblically, who is
the person who's supposed
00:48:07.08\00:48:09.22
to seek reconciliation?
00:48:09.25\00:48:13.29
Yes, the person who realizes
that reconciliation's needed,
00:48:13.32\00:48:16.79
as whether you're the one
that perpetrated the wrong
00:48:16.83\00:48:19.46
or whether you're the one
that experienced the wrongdoing.
00:48:19.49\00:48:22.63
Are you following
along? So, that's the picture.
00:48:22.66\00:48:25.60
So, whether it's in
the relationships in
00:48:25.63\00:48:27.94
the church--okay, I
gotta tell you this story.
00:48:27.97\00:48:31.77
I got--I was
disappointed by this.
00:48:31.81\00:48:35.14
This has gone way back, okay?
00:48:35.18\00:48:37.15
I'm in--and I know
I'm glad I wore some
00:48:37.18\00:48:39.65
decent-looking shoes today.
00:48:39.68\00:48:41.95
And the reason I'm saying
this is because when I was
00:48:41.98\00:48:44.12
a medical student, I
got an evaluation from
00:48:44.15\00:48:47.39
one of my attending, you
know, one of the head doctors,
00:48:47.42\00:48:50.73
and they wrote on there,
"Dresses, unprofessionally,
00:48:50.76\00:48:53.60
wears tennis
shoes to work," okay?
00:48:53.63\00:48:57.13
Now, what disturbed me
is this person had never
00:48:57.17\00:48:59.57
said anything to me for the
whole month about my attire.
00:48:59.60\00:49:03.10
But when it came
to evaluating me,
00:49:03.14\00:49:05.37
they said that I
dressed unprofessionally.
00:49:05.41\00:49:07.58
You say, "Well, Dr.
DeRose, I'm glad they did
00:49:07.61\00:49:09.38
'cause your shoes
look better today."
00:49:09.41\00:49:12.28
Well, here's my point.
00:49:12.31\00:49:15.38
There was obviously something
that was bothering that doctor,
00:49:15.42\00:49:18.39
bothering them enough to
write that on my evaluation,
00:49:18.42\00:49:21.99
but they never told me.
00:49:22.02\00:49:24.56
And I tell you that simple story
because many of the times we
00:49:24.59\00:49:28.70
have problems in relationships
because something's been
00:49:28.73\00:49:31.37
bothering us and we
never said anything.
00:49:31.40\00:49:34.87
I know it's
difficult to confront people,
00:49:34.90\00:49:37.17
but do what Jesus did, right?
00:49:37.21\00:49:39.31
Jesus forgave
decisionally first.
00:49:39.34\00:49:43.24
He made the decision to
forgive on the cross, right?
00:49:43.28\00:49:45.45
He said, "Father," what?
00:49:45.48\00:49:47.28
"Forgive them.
00:49:47.32\00:49:48.95
They don't know
what they're doing."
00:49:48.98\00:49:51.65
Every sin really, we
don't know what we're doing.
00:49:51.69\00:49:54.46
We're hurting ourselves more
than we're hurting the victim.
00:49:54.49\00:49:59.53
You may not be at that point
yet, but I'm convinced of it.
00:49:59.56\00:50:02.30
So, here's the thing,
choose to forgive other people,
00:50:02.33\00:50:05.73
then make
attempts to be reunited.
00:50:05.77\00:50:10.44
In the home, it's
critical, in the church it is.
00:50:10.47\00:50:14.08
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00:53:15.22\00:53:17.69
you hear a lot of people
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island of Fiji and we're getting
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ready to look at
some wonders in the deep.
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The Bible says God made the
heaven, the earth, and the sea.
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And there are things
under the sea that are beautiful
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that many
people have never seen.
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Some folks might just skim
along, snorkel on the surface.
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Doug: Because people
don't have gills like fish,
00:57:07.12\00:57:09.82
we have to do something
extraordinary to be able
00:57:09.86\00:57:11.59
to breathe below the surface.
00:57:11.63\00:57:14.00
And because you have
to breathe all the time,
00:57:14.03\00:57:16.03
we need this special equipment.
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In the same way, the
Bible says a Christian
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needs to pray without ceasing.
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We need to always be breathing
the atmosphere of heaven
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if we're gonna live a Christian
life in this world below.
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Doug: Wow, what
a wonderful world.
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