Participants: Dr. John Jacob (Host), Jameela & Jason, Jennifer, Kisha, Kory & Kimberly
Series Code: RDR
Program Code: RDR000009
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00:24 Hello and welcome to "Road to Romance"
00:26 I'm your host, Dr. John Jacob 00:28 Kisha, Jason, Jamela, welcome back. Thank you! 00:34 So the last time we met you, Kisha, had given us an idea 00:39 of what you wanted in a partner. Um hm 00:42 And now, Jason, I'd like to hear from you and Jamela 00:45 before we bring out your test results. 00:46 I'm sure you're excited to see what the results are. Yeah! 00:49 Okay, Jason, can we start with you? 00:51 So basically what I'm looking for is... 00:53 I'm looking for my best friend. 00:54 You know, you're going to be spending a lot of time 00:57 with this person; you want to have somebody 01:00 that you get along with; you enjoy spending time with; 01:03 you can do fun things with, as well as grow spiritually. 01:09 I want someone... we're going to be a team, you know, 01:12 I need somebody who has that mentality - the team mentality. 01:17 It's not what can she do for me or what I can do for her, 01:21 it's what can we do for each other. 01:23 If you're going to grow and build together, 01:24 you have to have that and I think today's culture 01:27 and with the music and all that stuff, 01:30 I think it's really throwing people's perception off 01:33 as far as, you know, a lot of these women want 01:36 ballers, I want a baller, I want somebody who is going to 01:39 just spend their money on me and whatever, 01:42 and they don't want to do anything 01:43 at home, they don't want to do anything. 01:45 They just want to get paid and get some, I don't need that. 01:51 Well you know, we have the opposite happening on our team 01:54 We have a lot of women complaining that guys 01:56 will take them nowhere beyond "Starbucks." 01:58 I mean, it's a Starbucks date or it's nothing. 02:02 So it goes both ways. 02:05 It does go both ways, and I'm glad that you said that 02:08 because a good guy needs to be appreciated at the same time. 02:16 There are some women that get a good guy, 02:19 and they go beyond the Starbucks... 02:22 They take them and "Martinelli's" dine them. 02:26 I won't say wine and dine, but they use that. Grape juice. 02:31 And you know, take really good care of them, 02:33 but they are not appreciative, they take it for granted, 02:36 and then they complain that they don't have a good guy. 02:40 That's a good point. 02:41 Jamela? I definitely agree with 02:44 what Jason said. 02:45 I want somebody who is a spiritual leader. 02:47 I want somebody who passionate and exciting. 02:49 I like to do a lot of different things 02:51 with somebody who is cultured, 02:52 not somebody who is kind of stuck in his box or siloed. 02:55 I want somebody who is kind of spontaneous as well, 02:59 and wants to travel and go places and do other things, 03:02 who knows how to read more than one book... 03:05 I like these kind of things and we can have conversation. 03:09 I like to talk with you, like he was saying... 03:10 If you're going to spend a lot of time with this person, 03:12 you have to be able to get along and laugh and joke. 03:15 I'm very goofy, so I want somebody with a sense of humor, 03:17 not who is serious all the time, 03:19 but who can play both ends of that, I like that. 03:21 Can I change my answer to her answer and his? Sorry. Laughter! 03:26 Right! 03:27 So, but I don't like somebody who is too physical, 03:30 who is too touchy-feely, I'm not that kind of person. 03:34 So, after a while, I'll be like, "Okay, that's enough, 03:38 those hands for two days now, let's try now no hands." 03:42 Okay after a while, it's going to be irritating. 03:44 But, you know, initially I think that's a good thing, 03:48 it's kind of a way that people show how they feel about you. 03:53 What about communication, how important is that to you? 03:55 Very important! Clearly, I talk a lot, 03:58 and so I want somebody who we can communicate 04:01 and talk back and forth because I'm not going to 04:04 read your mind, I don't have time for that. 04:05 I don't real well between the lines... 04:07 So it's either going to be you tell me or "Okay." 04:10 So I just need you to say something to me so I know! 04:14 Because I think that anything can be talked through 04:16 or anything can be talked about. 04:17 It's all about the way you talk, the tone in which you 04:20 say things... things like that. 04:21 But communication, I feel like is key in any relationship, 04:23 not just husband and wife or boyfriend and girlfriend, 04:26 but mother-daughter, parents-children, all of that. 04:30 So, it's very important to me. 04:32 So for you, no games! 04:34 No, I don't have time for that, yeah, kind of too old for that. 04:39 Laughter... You know, we happen to know 04:41 how old you are... Yes you do, right, 25. 04:45 And you're already done with the games - that's it. 04:47 Exactly! Laughter 04:48 And I'm the old man on this program. 04:50 A smidge, but it's okay. Laughter 04:54 So, Kisha, are you ready to get your results? 04:58 Yes, I guess so, bring them on out. 05:01 All right, let's take a look at the screen 05:03 and take a look at Kisha's results. 05:08 Okay, there you go... you're an XX which means 05:12 that you have high needs, well moderately high needs 05:15 for communication, oh, moderate needs for 05:19 communication and moderately high needs for intimacy. 05:22 So you are probably the opposite of Jamela in that respect, 05:26 you probably like a little more affection than she does. 05:30 Tell me a little bit about that. 05:32 Umm, I don't know... Like for the most part, 05:35 I agree with what she says, like I don't like 05:39 to, I guess, have my space invaded, 05:43 but if I'm giving the person permission to be close to me, 05:48 then I like to feel close to a person, 05:50 I like to be affectionate towards the ones that I love. 05:54 But if I don't really know you, if I'm not comfortable 05:59 around you, please don't touch me. 06:03 And you know, you guys need to keep in mind that 06:06 our culture, in terms of spiritual culture, 06:08 also plays a role whether or not we feel comfortable 06:12 with that kind of closeness because, I mean, 06:14 we're saving ourselves for marriage. Right 06:17 And a sure way to kill that little project is to get 06:22 too close where you are uncomfortable 06:23 or too used to someone being in that proximity. 06:27 So that is factoring in... 06:29 So possibly when you guys are happily married, 06:32 you'll do this again and... Possibly? 06:34 Hopefully, right? Right... Laughter 06:38 Oh, not the marriage, not the marriage. 06:40 Maybe you guys might be so happily married, 06:42 you'll want to come back to Dr. Jacob and have a test done. 06:45 You might be just thinking, "Oh, good luck, Dr. Jacob." 06:47 We gotta get to the marriage first. 06:50 Before we even say something. Yeah, there you go... 06:52 That first Starbucks thing... Exactly! 06:54 There you go. Ask a couple of questions. 06:55 So let's move on to Jason's. 06:57 Jason, let's look at your screen. 07:00 Wow, so you are moderately high in your need for communication 07:05 which explains why you're looking for a best friend. 07:08 Now I have to tell you, Jason, it might be a little tricky. 07:13 I believe it. Yes, it might be. 07:17 In 2010, they did a longitudinal study that actually 07:20 started in 2000 and they went across college campuses 07:25 across the United States and 07:27 they actually measured the empathy of young women. 07:31 So they started in 2000 and they checked to see what the 07:34 empathy was in 2000 compared to 2010 and guess what happened? 07:39 It dropped by 50% across the United States. 07:43 Women are 50% less empathetic within the last 10 years alone. 07:47 I believe it. 07:50 Empathy has a lot to do with what you are looking for. 07:53 I believe it. Because you want the kindness, 07:55 you want the sensitivity, you want the willingness 07:58 to compromise and all of that, affection, all of that 08:02 is tied in to empathy, so that's something to keep in mind. 08:04 It might make your search a little more difficult, 08:07 but, you're on "Road to Romance," anything could happen. 08:10 Or if you can make a time machine, 08:13 I could go back in time, maybe I could find her. 08:17 We'll be working on that, we'll be working on that. 08:19 What did they attribute, though, to the reason why it dropped? 08:21 This is one of the rare times that sociologists 08:24 said they did not have an explanation. 08:26 They couldn't explain it, the drop is so stark, 08:28 it is so deep - they couldn't explain what 08:31 could possibly have happened. 08:32 Now I have some ideas... 08:34 That's what happened... 08:35 What, what? She said, "men." That's what happened! 08:39 Well, it will take a little more than... 08:41 I mean either they're locked up, they're shot, they're gone, 08:44 they don't care or they're gay. 08:46 I mean, so... 08:47 And so you're thinking that that caused 08:48 the empathy to drop? YES! 08:50 What about the good brothers? 08:51 Tell me where they're at? 08:53 Right here, right here in the middle of the couch! Exactly! 08:56 There's only one of him, see what I'm saying... 08:58 There are two of us, we can't both have Jason. 09:00 Maybe we can alternate? Laughter! 09:03 Laughter... Sorry 09:06 Think about this... 09:07 Women have entered the workforce... 09:09 Yes we have because we have to. 09:11 A lot more within those 10 years than ever before. 09:14 In fact, 2009 was the first year that women were 09:18 employed in higher numbers than men. 09:20 For the first time in U.S. history, 2009. 09:23 Now we've found that when a woman enters the workforce, 09:26 her testosterone level rises. Um hm 09:29 Well whenever testosterone levels go up, 09:31 oxytocin levels go down and oxytocin 09:34 is connected to empathy. 09:36 So the more we push women into the workforce, 09:39 and, by the way, they've discovered that 09:41 the higher up they go in the rank, 09:42 all the way up to a manager and all the way up to CEO, 09:46 the higher their testosterone levels. Hmm, that make sense. 09:49 So, we may have a hormonal reason, an explanation, 09:54 for what is happening with women and, of course, 09:56 I agree things are changing; women are single parents. 09:59 That's another thing - a woman has to be both man and woman 10:03 to her child - so that's another factor. 10:05 And it also goes back to what I was saying earlier too about 10:10 media and music and all that it's changing the values. 10:15 It's reshaping people's values. Absolutely 10:18 It's making them think, "Okay I gotta act like this," 10:20 or this is what you should have, this is what you want. 10:24 You know, and it's telling them, filling their head 10:26 with all the wrong things for both men and women. 10:29 Let's take a look at Jamela's results... 10:33 You guys are all moderates, a bunch of moderates 10:37 here we have. 10:38 This is very good, lots of balance. 10:40 The same thing that I've told the others... 10:42 You have a high need for communication, 10:44 and you have, well when I say high, moderately high need, 10:48 and you have also a moderate need for intimacy. 10:51 You said you don't like guys to be too close, 10:52 but I'm sure there are other aspects of affection 10:55 that you probably enjoy if your score is going to be this high. 10:59 Okay, how is this going to influence 11:02 how you look for someone else? 11:04 Well, as a female, I choose not to look 11:07 since a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing 11:11 so I choose to just continue to be moderate, I guess, 11:16 and I think I already kind of knew what I was, 11:20 so kind of how I felt about certain things, 11:22 but I think my challenge is finding this other person, 11:25 because I don't know if you're X moderate or X moderate 11:27 or what you are, unless you take the test 11:30 then I have to wait 58 dates, then to figure this out 11:34 that you are really a YY or something, 11:38 and then it's not working so... 11:39 Let's go back to that last line, we will end on this. 11:44 I want you to take a look at this couple and tell me 11:48 whether you think that these two people are happy. 11:53 If they're not, I also want you to tell me how early 11:56 do you think they could have figured that out in the process? 12:00 So the next time we meet, be thinking about 12:04 those answers and we'll pick it up from right here. 12:11 Welcome back Jennifer, Kory, Kim. Thank you 12:15 I am certain that you are excited about finding out 12:19 your results. Absolutely. Oh yes. 12:21 So let's start with Jennifer, let's take a look at the screen. 12:24 Okay, Jennifer you're an XX, an X moderate, 12:29 and X moderately high. 12:31 Remember we're measuring two things here... 12:33 Your need for communication which is the first X and a 12:37 slightly higher need for intimacy 12:39 which is the second X. Right 12:40 This goes both ways, it means this is what you expect 12:44 from your partner and this is what you will 12:46 give to your partner. Right 12:47 Even if your partner has lower needs, 12:49 you will be inclined to give this, 12:51 and that might result in some resentment. 12:54 Okay? Let's look at the next slide... 12:59 So Kimberly, is this what you expected? 13:05 I honestly don't know what I expected. 13:07 All right, so let me explain... 13:09 We actually have seven levels of both communication and intimacy. 13:15 Moderate is right in the middle of the high end, 13:20 but borderline is just borderline, right in-between. 13:25 Borderline actually explains a lot of what we 13:28 were talking about which is, you have a bit of a lower need 13:34 for intimacy which would mean at times, you would feel the 13:38 need for some space, some solitude, 13:42 some alone time... This much is true. Laughter 13:47 Your husband confirms... and it's hard to tell when 13:52 you're going to need these things. 13:54 He's just going to have to continue to, you know, 13:56 be aware that sometimes you need it and sometimes you don't. 14:00 And the way a lot of husbands do that is to leave it 14:02 up to you to reach out for it, to ask for it, to initiate it. 14:07 Because it's impossible to tell when you're really feeling that. 14:11 So borderline is borderline, it means that on some days 14:15 you will feel like, "Okay, I need some attention." 14:18 On other days, you'll feel like, "I just need to be left alone 14:22 in my shell, not coming out, I just need some "me" time." Ok 14:27 So the trick to getting closer; however, is really to 14:31 finding out how much space you need. 14:35 It seems like a little contradiction, 14:36 but you can actually get closer to someone 14:38 by giving them more space because if you don't, 14:42 what you caused is resentment 14:45 and that is the enemy of closeness. 14:47 So, yeah, but a little bit of a contradiction, 14:51 but it's something that Kory looks like he is 14:54 quite capable of performing. 14:57 Moderate in terms of communication, 14:59 so you are a communicator, that's not borderline at all. 15:02 You like Kory to communicate with you and you want 15:06 that level of communication as well. 15:08 Remember we talked about oxytocin, 15:11 both of these produce oxytocin, but with borderline 15:15 intimacy need, means that Kory has to be careful to not 15:19 overwhelm you because what you might do that would 15:23 naturally produce oxytocin in someone else, 15:25 would have the opposite effect with Kim. 15:30 Okay, let's take a look at you, Kory, and your slide. 15:34 When I saw "borderline" still, I thought that was 15:36 interesting, something's wrong. 15:37 Okay, so you are X moderate, X moderate which is, 15:41 you know, balanced. 15:43 But here's the thing, you are a little distance 15:46 away from Kimberly in terms of affection and intimacy 15:51 which means Kim would have to make some effort at times 15:57 to produce and provide the affection that you need. 16:00 Now there was a time that we thought that this was an 16:03 optional thing - you know, "Oh my wife needs for me to 16:07 talk to her, you know, she has this need to chat" 16:10 or whatever, or my husband is always touchy-feely 16:13 and I'm not in the mood for it. 16:14 Well that was before the new science came out. 16:18 The new science is showing that this is strongly hormonal 16:22 and marriages and relationships depend on it. Mercy 16:27 If your hormones drop too low, you will begin to feel 16:32 detached as opposed to attached. 16:35 It's not something that happens overnight. Okay 16:37 But if it's left unattended for months and years, 16:42 one day someone can wake up and feel, 16:45 "What do we have in common?" 16:47 "I don't feel the attachment anymore, it's gone." 16:50 And at point, it's very difficult to get it back. Hmm 16:54 So both of you, and I'm sure that you're probably already 16:57 doing this, but you would need to always stay cognizant 17:01 of the fact that the intimacy part... 17:03 you're going to have to monitor it and that simply means 17:06 you would make an effort to give more. Yes 17:09 More than you feel to give and, Kory, you would make an 17:13 effort to be willing to accept a little less than you would like. 17:18 So that kind of causes you guys 17:20 to meet in the middle, the communication is fine. 17:22 You all are on the same page with that. 17:24 I wouldn't really worry about that, 17:25 just the intimacy piece needs to have a bit of a monitoring. 17:31 Okay, you want to say something... 17:33 I was going to say, it's actually kind of interesting 17:35 because I think we kind already knew somewhat, 17:38 but it's interesting to actually see it proven, I guess, 17:43 scientifically - kind of makes you feel like you're not crazy. 17:45 Before, at least we knew that we were kind of on the right track. 17:49 And what we were talking about earlier is... 17:52 this could have been discovered 17:56 when you guys were 2 years old. 18:01 You know, the science just came out, unfortunately, 18:03 but for the young people ahead of us, I envy them because 18:07 they can actually, on day one, 18:10 before they go on that first date, 18:12 they can find out - "Okay, you need more intimacy than I do," 18:15 And then, here's the next decision... 18:18 And the next decision is this... 18:19 Remember we were talking about closeness? 18:22 But closeness is not the same as oneness. 18:24 Closeness is where you start, 18:26 and if you're lucky, you achieve it. 18:29 Oneness is the goal that we have. 18:32 You have to get to the place where, if someone asks 18:35 you a question, she can answer. Um hm 18:38 You guys are just one. 18:40 Now, the only way to go from closeness to oneness 18:43 is by adjusting and adapting. 18:46 This is the reason why a lot of people get into marriage 18:49 and they're very disappointed and they're very discouraged 18:52 usually because the changes that they were willing to make 18:56 in the dating phase is stopped. 18:59 It's not entirely their fault. 19:02 The fact is - our bodies naturally produce a whole 19:06 flush of hormones during the dating phase that do all kinds 19:10 of little tricks to help us to fall in love, 19:12 from blinding us to the faults of the person 19:15 you are falling in love with, you don't want to eat, 19:19 you want to spend all your time. 19:20 Think about it, you're actually preoccupied with this person. 19:23 This person is your priority. 19:25 You would do anything for them and you make changes. 19:28 You do things that you would never have done. 19:30 Maybe you never bought a rose in your life, 19:32 but you're buying roses now. 19:34 Two dozen... Exactly 19:35 Exactly. Two dozen, there you go... 19:37 Two dozen. You've never been to the beach, 19:39 but you're going to the beach now. 19:40 Maybe you hate the mountains or you hate the cold, 19:42 but you're willing. Yeah 19:44 And you also make a lot of promises... 19:46 Who ever is the stronger X- type among you 19:49 will make the most promises. 19:52 For X-types, words - that's their currency. 19:55 So you make these quick promises and, again, 19:57 the hormones facilitate all of this. 20:00 Unfortunately, hormones have a reaction, 20:03 have an impact and impression on your brain cells. 20:06 It actually changes the shape of your brain. 20:08 When people date, it changes the brain, 20:11 and so now your brain has changed in such a way 20:14 so that you expect to date forever 20:16 your brain doesn't have a concept of 20:18 "now you have a ring on your finger." 20:19 All your brain knows, "I really like this, 20:23 this was great, this was fun, this was play," 20:26 and then the ring hits the finger and the kids come along, 20:29 and the play is gone and it's work! 20:32 And the brain doesn't get that. 20:35 To compound the situation, the hormones are withdrawn 20:38 because they served their purpose. 20:39 Their purpose was only to get you to this point. Yeah 20:41 And now with serotonin and all of the other hormones 20:46 retreating, your scales on your eyes are completely 20:50 removed and you see every single fault in the person that 20:54 you were overlooking - things with before. Right 20:57 So as a result, we try to tell people, "Okay this is what 21:01 you need to do - you need to know who you are 21:04 interested in who you getting with on this side of 21:07 the equation, so the test that we created, 21:09 the XY-Personality Test, it does something 21:11 very remarkable that no other test does - it actually measures 21:15 what we call "the relationship personality," 21:17 not the social personality because that's useless. 21:20 This is not what someone is going to be able to keep up 21:22 with for the rest of their lives. 21:24 What they can keep up with is relationship personality, 21:28 and we call that "the default setting." 21:31 So it's the setting that the person reverts back to 21:33 when they're comfortable, when they no longer have 21:35 to impress you when you've been married for a while, 21:38 you know each other for a while and you're not going anywhere. 21:40 You will get married to the default setting, 21:43 but you don't know it because during that dating period 21:46 you are mesmerized and blinded and this happens to everyone. 21:51 So as a result, when we test couples, 85% of all couples 21:54 are mismatched. Wow 21:57 Eighty-five percent, but you have no way of knowing. 21:59 We have teenagers that don't want to listen 22:02 to their parents' advice and that is a huge mistake, why? 22:05 The same hormones, they impact what you call your 22:09 prefrontal cortex and actually shut them down to the 22:13 point where judgment is impaired. 22:16 You cannot tell that the person that you're so 22:18 mesmerized by is the person that is 22:20 the one you can spend the rest of your life with 22:21 because the part of your brain that is responsible 22:23 for decision-making and reasoning shuts off. 22:27 So I'm guessing that we're in the 15%, I'm praying that we're 22:29 in the 15%. Laughter 22:32 I'm here thinking, "Lord, don't let me be in the 85." 22:34 No, no, no, not now. No, you guys are good. Okay 22:38 Oh you guys are in the 15%, but the 85%, 22:40 they have a wider margin. 22:41 You guys are just like one level apart from each other 22:43 which is why we're sitting here and laughing about it. Okay 22:46 Okay, yeah that's good. Yes that's why we're doing that. 22:50 Okay, so now I think you guys all did what we call 22:53 "A Reluctant Partner Test." Right. Yes. 22:55 And the reason for that is to see if you know your 22:58 partner as well as you think you do. 23:01 So let's start with Jennifer's slide. Okay 23:04 Let's look at the screen. 23:06 Anthony - so if you recall Jennifer's, 23:10 what was her profile, what was her... 23:13 personality type - do you guys remember? XX 23:15 So XX and Anthony is a YY. 23:20 There's no way to spin this. Completely opposite - yeah. 23:24 I'm one end of the pendulum to the other. Wooo 23:27 Yeah, yeah - can you put a good spin on this? Yeah 23:30 Absolutely. Here's the pendulum here. 23:33 Absolutely. Moderately high. 23:34 Could be like borderline like you. 23:37 So correct. And she's here. 23:39 I'm all the way over there. Yeah 23:41 Just in a little few minutes, could you just tell us 23:45 a little bit of what that disparity is like for you? 23:48 I think it's really interesting, I mean the love of my life, 23:53 absolutely, after 16 years, you know, 23:55 and I find it to be quite interesting indeed. 23:59 I think one of the things that came out while you 24:02 were speaking is that need for space because Y's 24:06 usually need that type of space. 24:09 And what I have noticed in our dynamics is that 24:13 being an X, here it is I'm like, "Well maybe something 24:16 is wrong with you honey? Are you okay? 24:19 You're so quiet?" 24:20 It's like, "Well everything is just fine." 24:23 And I'm like, you know, "No." 24:25 I'm beginning to diagnose now. 24:27 Nothing, no. You're not fine. 24:29 Something, so that need for space and what I have come 24:32 to recognize - it doesn't mean the person doesn't care. 24:36 But the wives really like that alone-time, that me-time. 24:41 And something you said that was really, I thought, 24:44 very important earlier on is that giving that space 24:49 actually creates that closeness and most of the times 24:52 we look at it as quite the opposite... 24:54 Well if I give that person that space, 24:56 the space is going to get wider. Right 24:58 But I think it is interesting to note that it's 25:00 quite the opposite that takes place. Yeah 25:03 The next time we meet, we will talk more about 25:07 that conundrum that you're describing. Right 25:11 And we'll take a look at your "Reluctant Partner" results. 25:21 There isn't a realization more sobering than the 25:24 realization that the one person you thought would be 25:27 your soul mate is anything but. 25:29 The sudden awareness that other things matter more to him 25:33 or her - anything, any other person. 25:37 This isn't about infidelity, but indifference. 25:39 You convince yourself that you're not the one, 25:42 just one because if you were, your partner would 25:46 be interested in oneness, the way you are, 25:48 the way you know God is. 25:50 In John 10:30, God said, "I and the Father are one." 25:55 And Genesis 1:26 says, "But God created Adam and Eve 25:58 in His own image." The image of oneness. 26:02 One takes the concept of closeness 26:04 entirely to another level. 26:06 There are achievements God has planned for a couple 26:09 that will never be realized without oneness. 26:12 This is a pretty big deal to God. 26:14 On one occasion Jesus even explained that a house 26:17 divided against itself cannot stand. 26:20 How many of us feel oneness with our partners? 26:23 How many of us can say our partners feel that way about us? 26:27 We've added a question in our test that asks 26:30 a person if they're willing to adapt to someone else 26:34 to make a relationship work. 26:35 At least 50% of test-takers said "no, they would rather not." 26:40 Some of them "Christians." 26:42 I said to one gentleman, "So you would like to be in 26:45 a relationship, but you have no desire to change?" 26:47 "Yep," he said, "that's correct, I am who I am." 26:50 To be one with someone, you can do this in several ways. 26:56 Be one in purpose - can two walk together except they agree? 27:01 You've got to be on the same page, 27:03 heading in the same direction, 27:04 wanting the same things out of life, 27:07 have the same values. 27:08 Don't choose someone with whom you have nothing in common. 27:12 Lastly, and this is for both singles and couples... 27:16 If you are already in a relationship, 27:19 make sure that the one you're with is someone who 27:22 is willing to change, willing to grow to adapt 27:25 or adjust. 27:26 Join us next time on "Road to Romance" |
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