Justina, what are you doing?
00:00:01.36\00:00:03.33
I'm working on a science project
00:00:03.37\00:00:04.87
that's due tomorrow.
00:00:04.90\00:00:06.23
Tomorrow?
00:00:06.27\00:00:07.64
You're always
doing your homework late.
00:00:07.67\00:00:10.54
Jared, why don't you
ever have any homework?
00:00:10.57\00:00:13.24
I've done my homework at school.
00:00:13.27\00:00:14.91
Wait... I mean,
we didn't have any.
00:00:14.94\00:00:17.48
No, I know you would say that.
00:00:17.51\00:00:19.48
That's why I got a
call from your teacher
00:00:19.51\00:00:21.55
telling me about your
five missing assignments.
00:00:21.58\00:00:23.92
Oh, yeah. I forgot about those.
00:00:23.95\00:00:25.95
I did all the rest of them.
00:00:25.99\00:00:27.59
We don't have
homework every day,
00:00:27.62\00:00:29.16
that's why I
keep forgetting, dad.
00:00:29.19\00:00:30.53
Yeah.
00:00:30.56\00:00:31.89
Now, who do you think you
are, Mae Jemison or somebody?
00:00:31.93\00:00:34.03
You're not any good at anything,
00:00:34.06\00:00:35.40
so I know you can't
possibly be good at science.
00:00:35.43\00:00:37.80
And, Jared, you're
always talking about
00:00:37.83\00:00:39.63
you don't have any homework.
00:00:39.67\00:00:41.00
You're just like
your dad and brother.
00:00:41.04\00:00:42.37
He always, I would say,
he didn't have any homework,
00:00:42.40\00:00:44.31
and he flunked out.
00:00:44.34\00:00:46.47
I am getting an A in science,
00:00:46.51\00:00:48.08
and I could be
the next Mae Jemison.
00:00:48.11\00:00:50.61
And I keep telling you
stop working on your homework
00:00:50.65\00:00:53.58
all late and everything.
00:00:53.62\00:00:55.32
You're gonna end up just
like your mother's sister,
00:00:55.35\00:00:58.09
late on everything,
and then when things
00:00:58.12\00:01:00.12
don't work out
for her, she gets mad.
00:01:00.16\00:01:03.02
I don't know
why you're laughing.
00:01:03.06\00:01:04.99
You don't even do your homework,
00:01:05.03\00:01:06.70
so you can't get no late work.
00:01:06.73\00:01:08.80
See, she's mad
now. Exactly, dad.
00:01:08.83\00:01:11.80
Girl, I know this
possibly can't be any good now
00:01:11.83\00:01:13.97
what you're
working on, it's so late.
00:01:14.00\00:01:16.10
Well, I don't know
what you're talking about.
00:01:16.14\00:01:17.97
She gave it to us on
Monday, and it's only Tuesday,
00:01:18.01\00:01:20.54
and it's due Wednesday,
so I'll get it finished.
00:01:20.58\00:01:23.48
Excuse us. Excuse us.
00:01:23.51\00:01:24.88
There's no reason to
start your homework late,
00:01:24.91\00:01:27.88
and you want to be a scientist.
00:01:27.92\00:01:29.55
I don't know how you
can. You a scientist?
00:01:29.58\00:01:31.65
I don't think so.
Yeah, I don' think so.
00:01:31.69\00:01:34.32
Justina.
00:01:34.36\00:01:35.69
Thank you so
much for allowing us
00:02:14.26\00:02:15.80
to put the camera in your home
00:02:15.83\00:02:17.23
so that we could
capture what's going on.
00:02:17.27\00:02:19.60
You see that
foolishness in that house?
00:02:19.63\00:02:21.47
I did. I did.
Just a bunch of mess.
00:02:21.50\00:02:23.57
But before we go to that,
tell me what's going on now.
00:02:23.61\00:02:28.01
Pretty much the same thing.
00:02:28.04\00:02:29.74
I mean, you know what,
the children are so lazy.
00:02:29.78\00:02:31.85
And then, our daughter,
00:02:31.88\00:02:33.21
she talks about she
wants to be a scientist.
00:02:33.25\00:02:35.12
And she doesn't even
00:02:35.15\00:02:36.48
get her work in on
time half the time,
00:02:36.52\00:02:38.25
or she just starts so late.
00:02:38.29\00:02:39.62
I mean, okay, she does
get it in on time sometimes.
00:02:39.65\00:02:42.56
But she starts
working on it late,
00:02:42.59\00:02:43.93
our son doesn't
even bring home homework,
00:02:43.96\00:02:45.79
so I don't know what's
going on with him at school.
00:02:45.83\00:02:47.66
Yeah. He doesn't
bring home homework?
00:02:47.70\00:02:49.66
No. No. No!
00:02:49.70\00:02:51.03
He always has
an excuse about it.
00:02:51.07\00:02:53.80
I see.
00:02:53.84\00:02:55.17
Perhaps, you guys weren't
00:02:55.20\00:02:56.54
really interacting
with him in the video.
00:02:56.57\00:03:00.14
Yeah, 'cause it bothers me
00:03:00.18\00:03:02.18
when I hear excuses from people,
00:03:02.21\00:03:04.85
especially from him, he
knows what I am asking for,
00:03:04.88\00:03:07.75
he knows what I need from him,
00:03:07.78\00:03:09.28
he knows what he's
supposed to be doing in school,
00:03:09.32\00:03:11.52
but he always has
a quick little answer
00:03:11.55\00:03:13.52
just to push me off, and
that really gets me angry.
00:03:13.56\00:03:16.93
So I just rather
not even talk to him.
00:03:16.96\00:03:19.43
So when you get angry,
what happens after that?
00:03:19.46\00:03:21.80
Sometimes I will
say the wrong things,
00:03:21.83\00:03:25.07
and sometimes I just tell
them to get out of my face.
00:03:25.10\00:03:26.63
You do that a lot.
00:03:26.67\00:03:28.00
Okay. So most often, you really
don't deal with it too much?
00:03:28.04\00:03:31.14
No. Okay. Okay.
00:03:31.17\00:03:33.64
Can you see in the video
00:03:33.68\00:03:35.44
anything that you may have done
00:03:35.48\00:03:37.58
that can
contribute to the problem?
00:03:37.61\00:03:40.22
Telling them to do the
homework and being on time?
00:03:40.25\00:03:42.25
Yeah, that's what
they need to be doing.
00:03:42.28\00:03:43.99
I agree. Get your
homework done on time.
00:03:44.02\00:03:46.29
I agree with that.
00:03:46.32\00:03:48.79
You know, we were
kind of making fun of her
00:03:48.82\00:03:51.36
for being a scientist...
00:03:51.39\00:03:52.73
Wanting to be a scientist. Yeah.
00:03:52.76\00:03:54.10
I mean...
00:03:54.13\00:03:55.46
At this rate, she's not
going to be a scientist.
00:03:55.50\00:03:57.07
How do you know
what she's going to be?
00:03:57.10\00:03:59.07
So what do you
think she is going to be?
00:03:59.10\00:04:02.04
She's going to be poor. Yep.
00:04:02.07\00:04:04.11
She's going to
be unmarried. Yep.
00:04:04.14\00:04:05.71
'Cause who's
gonna put up with that?
00:04:05.74\00:04:07.08
No. Nope. She'd be
right in our house.
00:04:07.11\00:04:08.64
Okay.
00:04:08.68\00:04:10.01
No, she's never
going to be in our house.
00:04:10.05\00:04:11.38
She might be at your house,
00:04:11.41\00:04:12.75
but she's not
gonna be at our house.
00:04:12.78\00:04:14.88
She doesn't do
anything for herself.
00:04:14.92\00:04:18.02
I don't see how she is going
to be able to go to school,
00:04:18.05\00:04:21.19
go to college, and
learn on of her own,
00:04:21.22\00:04:23.06
and be self-motivated,
and get her own place.
00:04:23.09\00:04:25.73
She's going to be stuck
00:04:25.76\00:04:27.10
right there in
the house with us.
00:04:27.13\00:04:28.46
No, with you.
00:04:28.50\00:04:29.83
So what kind of
grades is she making?
00:04:29.86\00:04:33.00
Horrible.
00:04:33.03\00:04:34.50
No, actually, she
does pretty good at school.
00:04:34.54\00:04:37.57
Some of them are okay,
but there are some other ones.
00:04:37.61\00:04:40.41
She can improve on
some of those other grades.
00:04:40.44\00:04:42.34
Okay.
00:04:42.38\00:04:43.71
Give me a clear understanding
on what her grades are like?
00:04:43.75\00:04:45.98
Well, like she's
talking about being a scientist
00:04:46.01\00:04:48.38
and some of those grades,
00:04:48.42\00:04:49.75
some of the
homework that she does,
00:04:49.78\00:04:51.79
she's just not motivated
to get it done quickly.
00:04:51.82\00:04:55.02
She's always
doing something else.
00:04:55.06\00:04:57.09
And so, when I asked her
about it, like in the video.
00:04:57.13\00:04:59.26
But she's pulling a B
plus though in science,
00:04:59.29\00:05:01.03
now I do have to say that.
00:05:01.06\00:05:02.40
Just like I
asked her in the video,
00:05:02.43\00:05:03.77
she just wants to put it off.
00:05:03.80\00:05:05.33
She thinks that, "You know what,
00:05:05.37\00:05:07.67
it was given to me on Monday,
and it's due on Wednesday,
00:05:07.70\00:05:10.71
and I can get it done
Tuesday night or whatever."
00:05:10.74\00:05:12.91
Why wait to the
last minute? Okay. Okay.
00:05:12.94\00:05:15.64
But what grades is she getting?
00:05:15.68\00:05:18.78
Is she getting like
straight F's, straight D's?
00:05:18.81\00:05:21.58
No, she's not getting any
F's. No, it's not that bad.
00:05:21.62\00:05:23.75
Okay, D's? How about D's? No.
00:05:23.79\00:05:26.32
She's mostly
pulling B's, B plus.
00:05:26.35\00:05:30.89
She got one C. Okay.
00:05:30.93\00:05:33.46
Any A's? No.
00:05:33.50\00:05:36.40
Okay, so she's a B plus
student right about now,
00:05:36.43\00:05:39.00
you would say that?
00:05:39.03\00:05:40.37
Yeah. On average, I guess. Okay.
00:05:40.40\00:05:42.07
Oh, okay. Okay.
00:05:42.10\00:05:43.44
Well, I didn't know
that B plus wasn't good.
00:05:43.47\00:05:46.07
Well, she could do a lot better.
00:05:46.11\00:05:47.44
I just don't like
excuses. Oh, okay. Okay.
00:05:47.48\00:05:49.38
Well, you know what,
he is a perfectionist,
00:05:49.41\00:05:50.75
so, you know...
00:05:50.78\00:05:52.11
Yeah. Okay.
00:05:52.15\00:05:53.48
He wants her to get
A plus, A plus plus.
00:05:53.52\00:05:54.85
There's nothing wrong wanting
my children to do better.
00:05:54.88\00:05:57.95
Is there
something wrong with that?
00:05:57.99\00:05:59.59
Nothing at all is wrong
with you wanting your children
00:05:59.62\00:06:02.59
to do better.
00:06:02.62\00:06:03.96
And the question
is, how do you get that?
00:06:03.99\00:06:06.66
That's right.
That's the big question.
00:06:06.70\00:06:08.86
But I am interested in
00:06:08.90\00:06:12.83
what your
prediction for her life.
00:06:12.87\00:06:16.30
You think, she is
going to be at home with you
00:06:16.34\00:06:18.91
and doing what?
00:06:18.94\00:06:20.98
I don't know. I just...
00:06:21.01\00:06:22.98
There are things that I
would like to see her do,
00:06:23.01\00:06:26.41
and every suggestion I
give, she just blows it off.
00:06:26.45\00:06:30.12
And I think that
really ticks me off,
00:06:30.15\00:06:31.59
I think that's
really where I am.
00:06:31.62\00:06:34.32
You know, to me, a
scientist, these days,
00:06:34.36\00:06:36.49
and especially when
she gets to be the age
00:06:36.52\00:06:38.69
that she would be a scientist,
00:06:38.73\00:06:40.13
you kind of have to
be really self-motivated
00:06:40.16\00:06:42.50
and just kind of out
there on the cutting edge
00:06:42.53\00:06:44.20
because science is
moving forward so fast.
00:06:44.23\00:06:46.17
So how old is she? She's 12.
00:06:46.20\00:06:48.47
Oh, okay. Okay.
00:06:48.50\00:06:50.87
So I want you
ask you, so she is...
00:06:50.91\00:06:53.27
You think she's
not self-motivated?
00:06:53.31\00:06:55.38
I am going back to that picture,
00:06:55.41\00:06:56.88
that you guys had a
very specific picture of her
00:06:56.91\00:07:00.22
that she was going to be at home
00:07:00.25\00:07:01.68
for the rest of her life,
00:07:01.72\00:07:03.22
she wasn't going to get married,
00:07:03.25\00:07:05.15
have you guys said
any of that to her too?
00:07:05.19\00:07:07.96
Oh, yeah.
00:07:07.99\00:07:09.59
I guess probably
slipped out a couple of times.
00:07:09.62\00:07:11.49
Okay. So you said... Yeah.
00:07:11.53\00:07:12.86
I did tell her
nobody's going to marry her.
00:07:12.89\00:07:14.70
Okay. You told her that?
00:07:14.73\00:07:16.56
Okay. All right.
00:07:16.60\00:07:18.60
Have you ever
heard of a life script?
00:07:18.63\00:07:22.14
No. A life what?
00:07:22.17\00:07:23.54
Script. Okay. No.
00:07:23.57\00:07:25.37
So this is based on...
00:07:25.41\00:07:29.31
It's a biblical principle. Okay.
00:07:29.34\00:07:31.38
And the Bible says and
God spoke, and it was so.
00:07:31.41\00:07:35.52
And the Bible says,
00:07:35.55\00:07:37.25
"The tongue can cut
00:07:37.29\00:07:42.76
as well as it can heal," right?
00:07:42.79\00:07:45.56
So what we're doing
is creating in her mind
00:07:45.59\00:07:49.40
what her life is
going to be like.
00:07:49.43\00:07:51.73
Think about that.
00:07:51.77\00:07:53.10
You're creating in your mind
00:07:53.13\00:07:54.80
what your life is
going to be like too
00:07:54.84\00:07:57.64
without even realizing it.
00:07:57.67\00:07:59.14
So you are saying to her,
00:07:59.17\00:08:00.51
"You are never
going to get married,
00:08:00.54\00:08:02.08
basically
nobody's gonna want you."
00:08:02.11\00:08:04.41
And you are saying
to her that she is lazy,
00:08:04.45\00:08:05.81
"You're gonna
always live in my house,"
00:08:05.85\00:08:07.35
and then you were saying though,
00:08:07.38\00:08:08.72
"No, not my
house, in your house,"
00:08:08.75\00:08:10.09
which means you're not
going to even be there.
00:08:10.12\00:08:14.09
Do you get what you are saying?
00:08:14.12\00:08:16.06
Did you realize
what you were saying?
00:08:16.09\00:08:17.76
Yeah. Yeah. I
realize what she was saying.
00:08:17.79\00:08:20.23
I'm not sure whose
house she is talking about.
00:08:20.26\00:08:22.70
I'm talking about my
house, you got another house,
00:08:22.73\00:08:25.07
where did you get
your other house from?
00:08:25.10\00:08:26.43
No, I'm saying if you think
she's going to be still at home
00:08:26.47\00:08:29.50
when she is 25 years old,
00:08:29.54\00:08:31.01
then you must be in a house
that you're going to be in.
00:08:31.04\00:08:32.67
I don't see her
making that move.
00:08:32.71\00:08:34.78
Okay. Right.
00:08:34.81\00:08:36.64
Because you can't see it,
00:08:36.68\00:08:39.65
you know what, she can't either.
00:08:39.68\00:08:43.49
You're giving her a
visual, a picture of her future.
00:08:43.52\00:08:48.02
Every time you say,
00:08:48.06\00:08:49.46
"You're not going
to be a science...
00:08:49.49\00:08:51.99
A scientist." I'm sorry.
00:08:52.03\00:08:53.36
Every time you say to her,
00:08:53.40\00:08:54.73
"You're not going to get married
00:08:54.76\00:08:56.10
or no one is going
to want to marry you."
00:08:56.13\00:08:58.50
Or, you know, "You won't
be able to live in my house."
00:08:58.53\00:09:01.67
What are you
really saying to her?
00:09:01.70\00:09:03.71
And how...
00:09:03.74\00:09:05.07
That she needs to
grow up and get a job?
00:09:05.11\00:09:06.84
Well, yeah. She's
only 12 first of all.
00:09:06.88\00:09:11.28
Let that soak in.
00:09:11.31\00:09:13.92
And we're talking
about another 12 to 15 years
00:09:13.95\00:09:17.19
if we're talking
about 25 or some, right?
00:09:17.22\00:09:21.52
Okay. Okay. So...
00:09:21.56\00:09:23.12
He's talking about 25. Okay.
00:09:23.16\00:09:25.46
What are you talking about? 18.
00:09:25.49\00:09:27.60
Okay.
00:09:27.63\00:09:28.96
So really at 18, she is
going to be self-supporting,
00:09:29.00\00:09:31.63
completely self-supporting?
00:09:31.67\00:09:33.44
Well, I was like completely
self-supporting at that point.
00:09:33.47\00:09:36.17
But, I mean, she needs
to be in school somewhere.
00:09:36.20\00:09:38.37
Imagine this,
imagine, picture this,
00:09:38.41\00:09:43.04
you have a boulder to
push, it's all uphill.
00:09:43.08\00:09:48.75
A boulder, we're
not talking about
00:09:48.78\00:09:50.42
a little brick that you
can carry but a boulder.
00:09:50.45\00:09:55.86
But, in front of that,
00:09:55.89\00:09:57.23
the people who are supposed
to be helping you with that,
00:09:57.26\00:09:59.86
they sit on top of the boulder.
00:09:59.89\00:10:02.90
And tell you,
"Don't let us fall off
00:10:02.93\00:10:04.70
and skin our knees
00:10:04.73\00:10:06.07
while you're
rolling this up the hill."
00:10:06.10\00:10:08.90
I can almost imagine
00:10:08.94\00:10:10.27
that stress and
pressure she is on...
00:10:10.31\00:10:11.87
She is trying to say,
"I want to be a scientist."
00:10:11.91\00:10:15.28
She's screaming that.
00:10:15.31\00:10:16.68
And you're saying to
her, "You're not going to be."
00:10:16.71\00:10:19.51
Okay. And almost...
00:10:23.79\00:10:26.62
You were telling me
that she is not going to be.
00:10:26.65\00:10:29.62
And I'm just, you
know, I don't even know,
00:10:29.66\00:10:31.09
I haven't met her.
00:10:31.13\00:10:33.06
Gotcha.
00:10:33.09\00:10:34.43
Are you
understanding what I'm saying?
00:10:34.46\00:10:36.36
Yeah, when you put it like that.
00:10:36.40\00:10:38.07
You can give a life
script for good or for evil.
00:10:38.10\00:10:42.67
You have to watch what you say.
00:10:42.70\00:10:44.04
If you say, she is
just like your aunty
00:10:44.07\00:10:47.08
who puts things
off, blah, blah, blah,
00:10:47.11\00:10:49.14
that's a clear visual for her.
00:10:49.18\00:10:51.61
Clear visual, and some of us...
00:10:51.65\00:10:52.98
You know, my
grandmother used to say,
00:10:53.01\00:10:54.35
"Don't put words
in the air that...",
00:10:54.38\00:10:55.72
'cause, you know, you kind of,
00:10:55.75\00:10:57.89
"It makes it a
prediction almost."
00:10:57.92\00:11:00.52
Well, in this case,
you have to realize,
00:11:00.56\00:11:02.86
there's two parts of your brain,
00:11:02.89\00:11:04.36
you have the
conscious and subconscious.
00:11:04.39\00:11:06.39
And the subconscious
is always listening,
00:11:06.43\00:11:09.40
and it will act
upon what is hearing.
00:11:09.43\00:11:12.47
You say it enough, she
will begin to believe it.
00:11:12.50\00:11:15.94
"Oh, I'm not
going to be a scientist.
00:11:15.97\00:11:17.87
I'm not going to be
anything. Why am I trying?
00:11:17.91\00:11:20.68
You know, I'm worthless."
00:11:20.71\00:11:22.04
Because essentially,
00:11:22.08\00:11:23.61
that's what she
is hearing everyday.
00:11:23.65\00:11:28.18
And why is she hearing that?
00:11:28.22\00:11:30.19
Because, like all 12-year-olds,
00:11:30.22\00:11:32.05
she puts things
off to the last minute.
00:11:32.09\00:11:35.39
Most 12 year olds do
it and most adults do it.
00:11:35.42\00:11:37.86
Yeah, and I'm trying
to get her not to do that.
00:11:37.89\00:11:40.66
Okay, so then we have to
find a better way, all right?
00:11:40.70\00:11:44.00
Okay.
00:11:44.03\00:11:45.37
So, first of all,
let's look at what goes...
00:11:45.40\00:11:47.57
And, you know, it's interesting,
00:11:47.60\00:11:49.27
it really struck
me that this young man
00:11:49.30\00:11:51.27
who is doing worse than she
is was sitting in the background
00:11:51.31\00:11:55.51
and nothing was
being addressed about him.
00:11:55.54\00:11:58.58
Well, he wasn't saying
he wanted to be anything
00:11:58.61\00:12:00.32
or do anything though.
00:12:00.35\00:12:01.68
I really don't
think he wants to do any.
00:12:01.72\00:12:03.05
Isn't that interesting?
00:12:03.08\00:12:05.62
Because she
verbalized a desire to do well,
00:12:05.65\00:12:10.43
she gets a whole lot
of negative feedback.
00:12:10.46\00:12:17.17
He has learned,
don't say anything,
00:12:17.20\00:12:19.47
don't want anything,
00:12:19.50\00:12:21.64
and then you're not held
accountable for anything.
00:12:21.67\00:12:23.67
Well, I just...
00:12:26.71\00:12:28.38
I don't know, I want him
just out of my face sometimes.
00:12:28.41\00:12:32.01
It irritates me with the things
that come out of his mouth,
00:12:32.05\00:12:34.48
and so he just removes himself.
00:12:34.52\00:12:36.18
But remember,
we're Christian parents,
00:12:36.22\00:12:38.59
you are Christian parents,
you have a greater goal.
00:12:38.62\00:12:42.02
It's not just
this earthly world.
00:12:42.06\00:12:44.79
We're looking at eternal life.
00:12:44.83\00:12:46.70
So we can't just
discord him because,
00:12:46.73\00:12:49.06
"Well, he is displeasing us
and the things of this world.
00:12:49.10\00:12:53.23
We have to work with him
00:12:53.27\00:12:55.14
so that he can
be ready for Jesus."
00:12:55.17\00:12:58.17
A higher calling.
00:12:58.21\00:13:00.11
If he is given
up on life already,
00:13:00.14\00:13:01.74
and he is how old?
00:13:01.78\00:13:03.55
He's 15.
00:13:03.58\00:13:05.51
Already, he has
learned not to want anything,
00:13:05.55\00:13:07.55
not to share with
anybody any hopes and desires,
00:13:07.58\00:13:11.19
what's going to happen?
00:13:11.22\00:13:12.55
You're thinking about
her living in your house,
00:13:12.59\00:13:14.62
she may become just determined
00:13:14.66\00:13:17.13
to get out even if she
has to live on the streets,
00:13:17.16\00:13:19.69
but him, he may not
care one way or another.
00:13:19.73\00:13:24.43
So we have to find a way,
00:13:24.47\00:13:26.03
a better way to motivate
and to give a better life
00:13:26.07\00:13:30.11
script to both of the kids.
00:13:30.14\00:13:31.74
Okay. All right.
00:13:31.77\00:13:33.17
So what's the goal?
What do we want to do?
00:13:33.21\00:13:36.51
Well, first of
all, he needs to learn
00:13:36.54\00:13:38.08
how old his son is
'cause his son is not 15.
00:13:38.11\00:13:40.52
Is he? No, he is not.
00:13:40.55\00:13:42.72
Okay, thank goodness.
00:13:42.75\00:13:44.09
How old is he? He is 12.
00:13:44.12\00:13:46.05
I'm sorry, no. He is 11.
00:13:46.09\00:13:48.69
Oh, okay.
00:13:48.72\00:13:50.06
So he is actually
younger than she is?
00:13:50.09\00:13:51.43
You know what?
Yes, he's younger.
00:13:51.46\00:13:52.79
Yeah, whatever, whatever. Okay.
00:13:52.83\00:13:54.16
You were rushing him hard
00:13:54.20\00:13:55.56
trying to tear
him out of the house.
00:13:55.60\00:13:56.93
He needs to get out of my house.
00:13:56.97\00:13:58.30
Okay, but, you
know, that's a good thing
00:13:58.33\00:13:59.67
because 11 is more
time for us to work with,
00:13:59.70\00:14:02.17
and that's really,
really good and stuff.
00:14:02.20\00:14:04.57
And it's simple, God
uses the simple things
00:14:04.61\00:14:07.24
to confound the minds of men.
00:14:07.28\00:14:08.68
He's not going to
make it difficult for you,
00:14:08.71\00:14:10.41
and God is
working with you, okay?
00:14:10.45\00:14:12.58
All right, so
what are your goals?
00:14:12.61\00:14:14.72
Give me a goal?
00:14:14.75\00:14:17.02
I want these
children to understand
00:14:17.05\00:14:18.79
how important it is,
00:14:18.82\00:14:20.16
we put them in
school and the things
00:14:20.19\00:14:21.66
that we try to
motivate them to do,
00:14:21.69\00:14:23.86
I really want them to understand
00:14:23.89\00:14:25.86
how important life is,
00:14:25.89\00:14:27.23
and it's hard out
there to get a job.
00:14:27.26\00:14:29.43
You just can't,
just fall off the sky.
00:14:29.46\00:14:32.07
So we're trying to show
them and get them in a position
00:14:32.10\00:14:35.30
to be able to
get that good career.
00:14:35.34\00:14:37.71
I'm not taking care
of them all of my life.
00:14:37.74\00:14:39.37
So you want to
put them in a position
00:14:39.41\00:14:41.48
to get a good career?
00:14:41.51\00:14:42.84
Yes. Yes. Okay.
00:14:42.88\00:14:44.21
And take care of themselves.
00:14:44.25\00:14:45.61
And take care of
themselves when they're adults?
00:14:45.65\00:14:47.68
Yes. Okay.
00:14:47.72\00:14:49.08
And one more goal.
Let's get one more goal.
00:14:49.12\00:14:52.92
You got something?
00:14:52.95\00:14:56.56
I want them to be able to
go to one of our academies,
00:14:56.59\00:15:03.37
you know, and do well there
00:15:03.40\00:15:05.43
because they have to
be prepared for the...
00:15:05.47\00:15:06.80
You know how much money that is?
00:15:06.84\00:15:08.17
And if they're going to do,
00:15:08.20\00:15:09.54
I need them to
really, really work hard.
00:15:09.57\00:15:12.21
I don't mind paying for
her but she better work hard.
00:15:12.24\00:15:13.68
I want them to go to
one of our academies.
00:15:13.71\00:15:15.41
And I want them to
graduate from there
00:15:15.44\00:15:16.78
'cause you make
lifelong friends there,
00:15:16.81\00:15:18.85
you know what I'm saying?
00:15:18.88\00:15:20.75
I mean, It's just a
whole different world.
00:15:20.78\00:15:22.78
Okay.
00:15:22.82\00:15:24.25
Also there may be some
spiritual development there.
00:15:24.29\00:15:27.16
So we can look at them
and say they're completely
00:15:27.19\00:15:29.92
where they need to
be when they leave home,
00:15:29.96\00:15:31.59
but they may get there.
00:15:31.63\00:15:32.96
We don't know what experiences
00:15:32.99\00:15:34.33
they need to get to
where they need to go, okay?
00:15:34.36\00:15:36.77
And I also remember,
these are your goals,
00:15:36.80\00:15:38.93
we really need to tap
into what their goals are,
00:15:38.97\00:15:41.30
what would they like
for their futures, okay?
00:15:41.34\00:15:44.37
All right, so the first thing
00:15:44.41\00:15:46.11
we want to do is
teach our children
00:15:46.14\00:15:47.84
to get them to
where you want them to be.
00:15:47.88\00:15:51.81
We all need to
be on the same page,
00:15:51.85\00:15:53.18
they need to want to do.
00:15:53.21\00:15:55.08
She's already saying,
"I want to be a scientist."
00:15:55.12\00:15:56.85
You're halfway there with her,
00:15:56.89\00:15:58.35
all you have to
do is work with her
00:15:58.39\00:16:01.12
on becoming a scientist.
00:16:01.16\00:16:02.69
What kind of
things can you do with her
00:16:02.72\00:16:04.19
to help her become a scientist?
00:16:04.23\00:16:07.33
Her science fair
project, she asked.
00:16:07.36\00:16:09.06
Okay.
00:16:09.10\00:16:10.43
You can help her with her
science fair project, okay?
00:16:10.47\00:16:11.80
Yeah, we can do
that. We can do that.
00:16:11.83\00:16:13.20
You know, and then sometimes,
how about the science center,
00:16:13.23\00:16:15.54
it's wonderful.
00:16:15.57\00:16:16.91
Oh, it is. It's free too.
00:16:16.94\00:16:18.97
Yes, it is. Okay.
00:16:19.01\00:16:20.34
So the science center
is another thing, okay.
00:16:20.38\00:16:23.45
And then, you know, you
can use on your Sabbath days,
00:16:23.48\00:16:26.18
why not take a nature
walk and that's science too.
00:16:26.21\00:16:31.45
Okay.
00:16:31.49\00:16:32.82
You know, so
that's a scientific thing
00:16:32.85\00:16:34.92
for you to deal as well.
00:16:34.96\00:16:36.52
Okay.
00:16:36.56\00:16:37.93
So that's her,
she's halfway there.
00:16:37.96\00:16:39.79
She already has a
goal, all you have to do
00:16:39.83\00:16:42.93
is get behind the boulder
00:16:42.96\00:16:45.00
and help her push
up the hill, okay?
00:16:45.03\00:16:47.87
We're out of time today,
00:16:47.90\00:16:49.84
and I'm sorry we have
to end this so quickly,
00:16:49.87\00:16:52.07
but in our next session,
00:16:52.11\00:16:54.51
we hope to try
some of these strategies
00:16:54.54\00:16:57.18
on both of them, please.
00:16:57.21\00:16:58.85
And we really
need to work with him
00:16:58.88\00:17:00.42
because he has to
have goals as well.
00:17:00.45\00:17:03.89
I agree. Okay.
00:17:03.92\00:17:05.25
And we're going to
talk in our next session
00:17:05.29\00:17:06.65
about how to actually
give a life script, all right?
00:17:06.69\00:17:09.59
All right. Okay.
00:17:09.62\00:17:10.96
Thank you for coming here today.
00:17:10.99\00:17:12.33
All right.
00:17:12.36\00:17:15.46
Wow! You guys seem a
lot more content right now.
00:17:15.50\00:17:18.90
And you seem
happier. We really are.
00:17:18.93\00:17:20.87
We are. Okay,
so what's going on?
00:17:20.90\00:17:22.37
What has changed?
00:17:22.40\00:17:25.24
Less yelling, more calm
environment in the house.
00:17:25.27\00:17:28.38
Okay.
00:17:28.41\00:17:29.74
Less negativity,
you know, overall.
00:17:29.78\00:17:32.35
All right.
00:17:32.38\00:17:33.72
And these are
changes that you made?
00:17:33.75\00:17:35.08
Yes.
00:17:35.12\00:17:36.45
Okay, we have a new
start with the kids, huh?
00:17:36.48\00:17:39.15
Oh, okay, well,
thanks for allowing us
00:17:39.19\00:17:40.92
to put the camera in your home,
00:17:40.96\00:17:42.29
let's take a look at the
video that we have for you.
00:17:42.32\00:17:45.29
Let's see what's going on.
00:17:45.33\00:17:48.06
Justina, what you're doing?
00:17:48.10\00:17:49.86
I am working on
a science project
00:17:49.90\00:17:51.53
that's due tomorrow.
00:17:51.57\00:17:52.90
Oh, wow!
00:17:52.93\00:17:54.27
That's sounds great,
00:17:54.30\00:17:55.64
especially since you
want to be a scientist.
00:17:55.67\00:17:57.74
Yes, honey, you're
really good at science.
00:17:57.77\00:17:59.64
You're pulling an A in
that class, aren't you?
00:17:59.67\00:18:01.84
Yes, but actually,
I'm getting an A plus
00:18:01.88\00:18:05.18
and Jaden's only getting an A.
00:18:05.21\00:18:08.18
My little
scientist, elementary school,
00:18:08.22\00:18:11.29
then high school,
then onto college,
00:18:11.32\00:18:14.36
grad school, and
then the lab, right?
00:18:14.39\00:18:16.36
Yes, dad, I can hardly wait.
00:18:16.39\00:18:18.69
Wow! Jared, what are you doing?
00:18:18.73\00:18:21.73
Nothing, just chilling.
00:18:21.76\00:18:23.57
So why aren't you
doing your homework?
00:18:23.60\00:18:26.10
We don't have
any homework today,
00:18:26.13\00:18:27.47
so I can just chill.
00:18:27.50\00:18:28.87
Yes, we know, you've been
just chilling 'cause, you know,
00:18:28.90\00:18:31.14
I've got a call from your
teacher today, and she said,
00:18:31.17\00:18:33.31
you're missing five assignments.
00:18:33.34\00:18:35.71
I forgot and
left those at school.
00:18:35.74\00:18:37.25
Yeah, I know.
00:18:37.28\00:18:38.61
That's why we
got the phone call.
00:18:38.65\00:18:40.12
So I went by the school
to pick them up, so no TV,
00:18:40.15\00:18:43.85
no games, no computer,
00:18:43.89\00:18:46.29
until that
homework's done, okay?
00:18:46.32\00:18:48.09
But dad, I forgot for real.
00:18:48.12\00:18:50.46
Yes, we know
you forgot for real.
00:18:50.49\00:18:52.96
So in the future
when you do that again,
00:18:52.99\00:18:54.93
and you don't bring your
homework home from school,
00:18:54.96\00:18:57.17
I'm gonna have some homework
00:18:57.20\00:18:58.53
right here at home for you to do
00:18:58.57\00:18:59.93
every single day after
school, you understand me?
00:18:59.97\00:19:04.51
Honey, I thought we could
00:19:04.54\00:19:05.87
all go to the
science center this weekend.
00:19:05.91\00:19:07.58
They have a lot of
nice hands on projects
00:19:07.61\00:19:09.84
for the family to do.
00:19:09.88\00:19:11.31
Really? Oh, man.
That sounds great!
00:19:11.35\00:19:13.55
They also have
some new exhibits too.
00:19:13.58\00:19:15.25
But, Jared honey,
00:19:15.28\00:19:16.62
you will not to be
going if you don't get those
00:19:16.65\00:19:18.42
homework assignments
completed and turned in.
00:19:18.45\00:19:21.69
Yes, ma'am.
00:19:21.72\00:19:23.06
You guys have done a great job!
00:19:23.09\00:19:26.73
Wow! Right. It
takes a lot of work.
00:19:26.76\00:19:28.86
Did you see the
difference between
00:19:28.90\00:19:30.40
the first clip and this one?
00:19:30.43\00:19:32.83
I did. Yes.
00:19:32.87\00:19:34.20
Wow! Oh, my goodness.
00:19:34.24\00:19:35.87
And you even dealt
with the real problem,
00:19:35.90\00:19:39.37
you addressed he's
not doing homework.
00:19:39.41\00:19:41.94
Right, and I was glad
00:19:41.98\00:19:43.95
'cause it really
angered me before,
00:19:43.98\00:19:45.98
but I calmed down and
just gave him some rules.
00:19:46.01\00:19:51.25
If you don't do this,
this is what will happen.
00:19:51.29\00:19:53.69
He needs to see
the consequences.
00:19:53.72\00:19:55.19
I guess without me
yelling at him too.
00:19:55.22\00:19:57.09
Right. That is so nice.
00:19:57.13\00:19:59.23
And you know what,
those consequences fit.
00:19:59.26\00:20:02.06
I love that you
stopped by the school
00:20:02.10\00:20:03.97
and picked up those
homework assignments.
00:20:04.00\00:20:06.20
He had no clue you were
picking up homework assignments.
00:20:06.23\00:20:08.34
Right, he thought he
could get away with it
00:20:08.37\00:20:10.04
and just keep continuing to say,
00:20:10.07\00:20:12.47
"I don't have
it or I forgot it,"
00:20:12.51\00:20:14.81
those excuses again.
00:20:14.84\00:20:16.31
Well, I took another
step ahead of that and said,
00:20:16.34\00:20:19.55
"No, I'll get
those assignments."
00:20:19.58\00:20:20.95
Nice, nice.
00:20:20.98\00:20:22.32
And I love it, mom, you said
00:20:22.35\00:20:23.69
he will have
homework every night
00:20:23.72\00:20:26.15
because you will
have some for him.
00:20:26.19\00:20:27.86
Yes. Yes.
00:20:27.89\00:20:29.22
Very nice.
00:20:29.26\00:20:30.59
Yes, and I even started
asking his teachers to email me
00:20:30.63\00:20:33.63
when he has homework
assignments, so we'll know.
00:20:33.66\00:20:36.10
And we'll go
pick them up. Right.
00:20:36.13\00:20:38.57
That is very nice.
00:20:38.60\00:20:40.04
So, but we're going to
have to get to the root of that,
00:20:40.07\00:20:42.50
but for right now,
that was really good,
00:20:42.54\00:20:45.14
very creative on your part.
00:20:45.17\00:20:46.98
And I'd have to say God did.
00:20:47.01\00:20:49.51
Don't you think the Spirit
of God there, picture that?
00:20:49.54\00:20:51.21
Absolutely. I think so.
00:20:51.25\00:20:52.58
So you can see when we
allow self to move out the way
00:20:52.61\00:20:56.12
on the anger,
frustration, aggravation,
00:20:56.15\00:20:58.15
then the Holy Spirit can step in
00:20:58.19\00:20:59.55
and do more for us, right?
00:20:59.59\00:21:00.92
Exactly, right. That is so nice.
00:21:00.96\00:21:03.02
So what
strategies did you like best?
00:21:03.06\00:21:06.06
I saw one that I really liked,
00:21:06.09\00:21:07.60
but which one did you like best?
00:21:07.63\00:21:09.16
One thing that I thought
about was explaining to them,
00:21:09.20\00:21:12.37
"If you do this, then
these things will happen."
00:21:12.40\00:21:16.67
So if you start
explaining positive things
00:21:16.71\00:21:19.81
to get this work done,
00:21:19.84\00:21:21.18
if you get that done,
then you can enjoy some things.
00:21:21.21\00:21:23.85
You know, he could go
to the science fair with us
00:21:23.88\00:21:26.72
or to the science,
00:21:26.75\00:21:28.08
you know, with us if
he got these things done.
00:21:28.12\00:21:29.92
Instead of just saying
a lot of negative things
00:21:29.95\00:21:32.62
and this is why
you're not going to be or...
00:21:32.65\00:21:34.72
Right. And not going to go.
00:21:34.76\00:21:36.42
Give him a reason or an
avenue, a path to success.
00:21:36.46\00:21:40.83
Right. Right. Right.
00:21:40.86\00:21:42.56
And I like the fact
when you brought up,
00:21:42.60\00:21:44.43
do some things that are
in her field of interest,
00:21:44.47\00:21:47.04
like go to the
science centers, you know.
00:21:47.07\00:21:49.40
And so that turned out
to be a great family outing,
00:21:49.44\00:21:53.04
you know, the kids
really enjoyed it, you know.
00:21:53.07\00:21:55.84
And they had a science
film showing in the Omnimax,
00:21:55.88\00:22:01.45
so we got to take
them to that also.
00:22:01.48\00:22:03.92
Right. Yes, that
is so nice, you know.
00:22:03.95\00:22:06.65
And, you know, my
favorite strategy was,
00:22:06.69\00:22:09.59
of course, discipline,
one that you guys did.
00:22:09.62\00:22:11.86
But it was also
that you said to her,
00:22:11.89\00:22:14.53
"You're gonna go
to elementary school,
00:22:14.56\00:22:16.46
and then high
school, and then college."
00:22:16.50\00:22:19.30
I mean, in other
words, you're not saying,
00:22:19.33\00:22:21.67
"You don't have a choice,
you have to do these things."
00:22:21.70\00:22:24.17
But her
subconscious is picking up,
00:22:24.21\00:22:26.44
"Oh, this is how life is done.
00:22:26.47\00:22:29.01
Then college, then
grad school, then the lab."
00:22:29.04\00:22:31.31
And she was so excited
because you believed in her.
00:22:31.35\00:22:34.28
Right. You
believed in her vision.
00:22:34.32\00:22:36.25
You're speaking
her vision to her.
00:22:36.28\00:22:38.32
And guess what, she is
grabbing hold to it too,
00:22:38.35\00:22:40.79
so she is going to do just fine.
00:22:40.82\00:22:43.26
So we will have to find a
life script for him as well.
00:22:43.29\00:22:46.16
Yes, we will.
00:22:46.19\00:22:47.53
You know, I think that he
is getting a peach of that,
00:22:47.56\00:22:49.66
he is not going to be able
to skip out on the homework,
00:22:49.70\00:22:52.07
so that's really,
really good. Right.
00:22:52.10\00:22:54.17
So what changes do
you see in yourselves?
00:22:54.20\00:22:59.44
Well, just dealing with them,
00:22:59.47\00:23:01.38
I have to learn how
to speak their language.
00:23:01.41\00:23:05.55
The yelling, and the screaming,
00:23:05.58\00:23:07.08
and pointing out the
faults is not helping them.
00:23:07.12\00:23:10.49
It irritates me,
I get stressed out.
00:23:10.52\00:23:13.25
My evening...
00:23:13.29\00:23:14.62
I was planning on
having a calm evening,
00:23:14.66\00:23:16.93
but it didn't
turned out that way,
00:23:16.96\00:23:18.63
but it was because of me.
00:23:18.66\00:23:20.06
So if I come in and I
started talking to them
00:23:20.10\00:23:23.13
in nice even
tones and not yelling
00:23:23.16\00:23:26.33
and talking about successes
00:23:26.37\00:23:28.70
and helping them
to be more successful.
00:23:28.74\00:23:30.97
That will have the
whole environment in the house
00:23:31.01\00:23:33.81
much more calm.
00:23:33.84\00:23:35.18
Wow!
00:23:35.21\00:23:36.54
And I also noticed that
00:23:36.58\00:23:37.91
speaking the
language of success,
00:23:37.95\00:23:39.28
it helps me at work, you know?
00:23:39.31\00:23:40.78
Oh, really?
00:23:40.82\00:23:42.48
It helps me when I
say, you know, when...
00:23:42.52\00:23:44.55
And I think
about the Bible phrase,
00:23:44.59\00:23:46.25
"I could do all things through
Christ which strengthens me."
00:23:46.29\00:23:48.82
Exactly.
00:23:48.86\00:23:50.19
So, you know, I want to
put that into my children also.
00:23:50.23\00:23:53.76
You can be
anything, you can do anything
00:23:53.80\00:23:56.26
that you chose to do
with God's help, you know.
00:23:56.30\00:23:58.70
I like that. Yes.
That is very nice.
00:23:58.73\00:24:01.34
I like the speaking successful
language, I love that.
00:24:01.37\00:24:05.07
You know, again, I
cannot reiterate it enough.
00:24:05.11\00:24:08.74
Do it and do it often,
00:24:08.78\00:24:10.28
reiterate to your
daughter and your son,
00:24:10.31\00:24:12.81
this is a process of life.
00:24:12.85\00:24:14.38
You're gonna go
to elementary school,
00:24:14.42\00:24:17.62
and then you're
gonna go to middle school,
00:24:17.65\00:24:18.99
and then you're
gonna go to high school.
00:24:19.02\00:24:20.36
I used to add in, "You'll
probably be the valedictorian,"
00:24:20.39\00:24:23.22
and then I
turned it into college,
00:24:23.26\00:24:24.96
"It's going to be so fun.
00:24:24.99\00:24:26.53
You'll probably be
involved in so many things,
00:24:26.56\00:24:29.13
and you're just going to
really enjoy that time as well.
00:24:29.16\00:24:31.73
And then, you're
gonna go to grad school,
00:24:31.77\00:24:34.04
and it's just so fascinating
there and on to the lab."
00:24:34.07\00:24:38.01
So when you do it to,
00:24:38.04\00:24:39.67
add a little bit in
of joy and happiness,
00:24:39.71\00:24:42.44
so that when
they go do this stuff,
00:24:42.48\00:24:45.78
they will actually enjoy it.
00:24:45.81\00:24:47.15
You know what, I
did with tests too.
00:24:47.18\00:24:49.35
Let's talk about tests taking
00:24:49.38\00:24:50.72
because a lot of people
have test taking anxiety.
00:24:50.75\00:24:53.12
We may as well knock that
out before it gets started.
00:24:53.15\00:24:55.49
So with my...
00:24:55.52\00:24:57.49
If you go to the science center,
00:24:57.53\00:24:59.59
make it very, very easy.
00:24:59.63\00:25:01.13
You're looking at something,
then you say to your daughter,
00:25:01.16\00:25:03.57
"I'm going to give you
a test right now, okay?
00:25:03.60\00:25:06.00
What color is the dinosaur?
00:25:06.03\00:25:08.70
Green. You made a A, 100%."
00:25:08.74\00:25:10.64
You know, it's just a joke,
00:25:10.67\00:25:12.14
but the more you
put her in the situation
00:25:12.17\00:25:13.98
where you're saying,
"Okay, we're having a test."
00:25:14.01\00:25:16.44
You know, simple
things, easy things
00:25:16.48\00:25:19.01
so that she begins to
be aware of what a test is.
00:25:19.05\00:25:23.69
And not allow
all that anxiety...
00:25:23.72\00:25:25.42
The problem with testing
is that people only do it
00:25:25.45\00:25:27.49
every now and then,
00:25:27.52\00:25:28.86
and then it
becomes this big thing,
00:25:28.89\00:25:30.23
this big problem.
00:25:30.26\00:25:31.59
So even when my
daughter was in college,
00:25:31.63\00:25:32.99
I would say to her,
"Oh, it's show time.
00:25:33.03\00:25:35.93
She said, "I just have a test,
00:25:35.96\00:25:37.30
you know, in
chemistry tomorrow."
00:25:37.33\00:25:38.67
It's show time girl,
this is what we're living for.
00:25:38.70\00:25:41.97
Why are we in college?
00:25:42.00\00:25:43.34
We're gonna show off.
00:25:43.37\00:25:44.71
It's just such a positive way
00:25:44.74\00:25:46.41
to present to
them testing, okay.
00:25:46.44\00:25:47.78
I like that. Yeah,
so let's just try to...
00:25:47.81\00:25:50.98
Not just teach them
to, you know, do well,
00:25:51.01\00:25:54.52
let's teach them to thrive.
00:25:54.55\00:25:56.35
You know, and they
can hear it in our voices,
00:25:56.38\00:25:58.85
in our body language and
stuff, well, they are gonna...
00:25:58.89\00:26:01.82
I don't even think
they'll fail tests.
00:26:01.86\00:26:04.86
Studying in for a test
will not become a chore.
00:26:04.89\00:26:07.46
It'll just be all begin to pair.
00:26:07.50\00:26:08.83
I need to try probably
00:26:08.86\00:26:10.20
some of those
things with my son too.
00:26:10.23\00:26:12.57
Definitely. Definitely.
00:26:12.60\00:26:15.07
You know, and we
really have to get started
00:26:15.10\00:26:16.91
with what does he want
to be, you know, and stuff.
00:26:16.94\00:26:20.04
So he's not going to
be as easy as she was
00:26:20.08\00:26:22.28
'cause he has learned,
00:26:22.31\00:26:23.65
"Don't put yourself out there."
00:26:23.68\00:26:25.01
She hadn't learned
that for some reason,
00:26:25.05\00:26:26.61
but he's learnt that...
00:26:26.65\00:26:27.98
Well, she came first.
00:26:28.02\00:26:29.42
But he's watched
how we behaved with her.
00:26:29.45\00:26:32.12
Right. Yes.
00:26:32.15\00:26:33.49
And when I saw
him the last time,
00:26:33.52\00:26:34.86
he was in the shadows.
00:26:34.89\00:26:36.22
It was so great that you
all pulled him out of shadows
00:26:36.26\00:26:38.63
and up in front in center stage,
00:26:38.66\00:26:40.93
so he can get used
to being in the center.
00:26:40.96\00:26:43.00
And if you don't
like being in the centre,
00:26:43.03\00:26:44.93
and it's a problem,
00:26:44.97\00:26:46.30
then you'll learn how to do
the things that you need to do.
00:26:46.33\00:26:49.90
You know, so that everything
00:26:49.94\00:26:51.27
will go smoothly
in your life itself.
00:26:51.31\00:26:53.74
And I know some other thing,
00:26:53.78\00:26:55.11
this is really,
really important,
00:26:55.14\00:26:57.15
no comparing.
00:26:57.18\00:26:58.51
You did not compare
your daughter to anybody.
00:26:58.55\00:27:01.65
Now she does
compare herself to Jaden,
00:27:01.68\00:27:03.99
but we'll take care
of it as time goes on.
00:27:04.02\00:27:06.02
Okay. Okay.
00:27:06.05\00:27:07.39
All right, you guys have done
an absolutely wonderful job.
00:27:07.42\00:27:10.16
And I'm just so happy for you.
00:27:10.19\00:27:12.09
And I know that
the Lord did this.
00:27:12.13\00:27:14.20
This is all of God's work.
00:27:14.23\00:27:15.83
So I always like to
give God glory and praises
00:27:15.86\00:27:19.50
especially when some
healing has occurred,
00:27:19.53\00:27:21.24
so can we bow our heads briefly?
00:27:21.27\00:27:22.60
Sure. Sure.
00:27:22.64\00:27:25.21
Most honorable Father,
00:27:25.24\00:27:26.57
we're just so
grateful for all Your goodness
00:27:26.61\00:27:28.54
and for the healing
that You continue to give
00:27:28.58\00:27:31.65
these families, Lord.
00:27:31.68\00:27:33.05
And dear, Lord, we ask that
You will continue to let them
00:27:33.08\00:27:35.48
use all of the skills
that You're showing them.
00:27:35.52\00:27:38.32
In Jesus' name we pray.
00:27:38.35\00:27:39.85
Amen. Amen.
00:27:39.89\00:27:41.22
Amen. You guys have
a great weekend, okay.
00:27:41.26\00:27:43.56
Thank you. Thank you. You too.
00:27:43.59\00:27:47.40
It's easy for
parents, even Christian parents
00:27:47.43\00:27:50.60
to write a negative life
script for their children,
00:27:50.63\00:27:53.47
saying negative
things to children is easy
00:27:53.50\00:27:56.04
because they don't
have the power to refute
00:27:56.07\00:27:58.07
what you say to live.
00:27:58.11\00:27:59.87
Remember, what you say
will be in their minds forever.
00:27:59.91\00:28:03.58
They only know about themselves
00:28:03.61\00:28:05.05
what you tell
them about themselves,
00:28:05.08\00:28:06.98
so fill their
minds and their hearts
00:28:07.02\00:28:09.05
with good words about them,
00:28:09.08\00:28:10.62
remind them of
God's love for them,
00:28:10.65\00:28:12.92
pray with them
inspiring prayers,
00:28:12.95\00:28:15.36
and always, always
remember that God loves them
00:28:15.39\00:28:19.06
so much just like He loves you.
00:28:19.09\00:28:21.16