Hey, you guys won't believe it.
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They're having a free
concert over at the park.
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You want to go over to the
park and watch the free concert?
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Shh, be quiet.
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I just made
level five on my game.
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Yes, can you please be quiet.
I just made another friend.
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Now I have 500.
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Look, I just want to know
if you want to go to the park,
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watch the free concert,
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and we can even go
out for dinner afterward.
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How about that?
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Is anybody interested? Mom, mom.
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Mother, mommy.
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Mom! Mom!
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Oh yeah, I just made
it to another bonus round.
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Yeah, yeah, I guess we can go.
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Just let me finish
like in this camp video.
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Oh, no, wait, Sharon
asked me to check out
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something online for her.
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Maybe you can go with Lauren
and bring me something back.
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Wait, do you
mean the park outside?
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Of course.
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There are way too
many bugs outside.
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Mom, please don't make me go.
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I'm competing with Jamie to see
who can reach level 10 first.
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All we ever do is
stay in this house.
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We never do anything together.
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Really, I asked you
to friend me online,
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that way we can
hook up any time.
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Then that'll make 501 friends.
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Besides, we just watched
a game with you last night.
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You guys were already on
your social media when I asked.
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And then you came in,
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you just watched
me watch the game.
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Oh, wait a minute.
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Oh, I forgot Joe's
coming over to hook up
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my surround
sound in the man cave.
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Then we're going to
watch the game together.
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So I'll see you guys later.
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Bye. Bye.
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Thanks for letting us
record you in your home
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to seeing what's
really going on there.
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You guys seem
very anxious and upset.
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What's going on?
Yeah, we're upset.
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You won't believe what happened.
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We got a real
problem at home. Yes, we do.
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All this mess with
this Internet, and Lauren,
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she was on the
internet and got in touch
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with some crazy adult person.
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What? Yeah, it was ridiculous.
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So what was she doing?
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She was on the
internet, and we were at home
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when she was doing
it, just sneaking around.
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And some crazy adult
got in touch with her
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and been contacting her.
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Really been
contacting on a regular basis?
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Yes. Okay, that's weird.
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And we only found out
because a friend of hers,
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she actually told
her friend's mother.
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And her mother, she
came back and told us.
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Wow, that was really a blessing
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that she came and told you guys.
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So, and on the video we
saw Lauren was very involved,
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and she was saying
she was playing a game.
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Do you think she may have
been talking to a person then?
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I don't know.
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We just found out, you
know, from the friend's mom.
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And then we called
the police, of course,
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hoping for that
they would help us.
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You won't believe this.
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One of the police
tried to actually blame us
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for not being there,
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saying that we
left her unattended,
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and that we should know better.
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The other policemen
were great and very helpful,
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but this one guy,
it was ridiculous.
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I'm just still
upset because she told
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somebody other than me.
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I would just want her to
trust me, and she didn't.
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So I'm happy
that someone was told,
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but it could've been me.
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It could have been.
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And I understand that
feeling angry and frustrated
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'cause you feel little
guilt at all about it too.
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Of course.
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You know, being
in the same house
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and not knowing
what our kids are doing,
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that just makes no sense.
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And I just felt like, you
know, she was sneaking around
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and just didn't
want to share with us.
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We thought...
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So it's one thing to
be at school and doing it,
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but to be at home and
talking to this person,
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and we don't even
know, that's a problem.
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I'm just so upset.
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We've thought this five minutes
that we were spending with her
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every day was enough.
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But you know
what, it's never enough.
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We can't figure out how
we're going to spend enough time
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to keep this from
ever happening again.
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Well, we looked at the video.
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Did you see any behaviors
that you were doing that
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may have contributed?
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I'm not saying
it's your fault at all
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because the
adult in this situation
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is clearly wrong.
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But I'm just wondering
maybe there was something
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that made her a little
bit more likely to seek out
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some type of
attention from other people.
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Well, I think we
give her enough attention,
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we are going to do more,
but sometimes I think my wife,
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she's just on
the phone constantly
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and wouldn't pay any attention.
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Well, let me clarify
this, let me clarify this.
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I want each person
to look at themselves,
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and see, so the pronoun is I.
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What did I, is there anything
I could have done differently
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because otherwise,
we'll just get into blaming,
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that goes nowhere.
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So is there anything
either of you saw in the video
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that maybe you could
have done differently
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that may have helped.
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Now it doesn't
mean it would have
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because, you know, a perpetrator
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is going to find a way.
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But is there any way
that you could have changed?
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Any behaviors that
you could have changed?
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Well, I was in my man cave
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a lot hanging
out with my buddies.
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And I admit that.
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It's brand new though,
you can understand that.
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We had to come in
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and have some fun at some point.
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So how long have
you hit the man cave?
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We just built it
couple weeks ago.
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Okay, okay.
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Yeah, and I guess for me,
I'm always on the internet.
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And I just assume
because she was sitting there
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with me on her
phone that it was okay.
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Okay. Yeah.
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So you've been caught up
with the internet yourself...
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And he... You've
been in your man cave.
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Any other things that
you saw in the video that...
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One of the things
that I didn't like
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that I saw in the video
was Lauren was sitting there
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playing with her
little cell phone games.
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Well, we took care of
that because we cell phone,
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telephone, internet, computer,
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anything that would have a plug.
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I even unplugged her lamp
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just in case there
was a camera in there.
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Well, wait a minute,
before we go that far,
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I really want us
to key in on the video
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because I saw
some telling things.
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I saw that Dad was
asking you repeatedly,
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"Let's go to the
park. Let's go do something.
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Let's, you know,
enjoy ourselves."
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Is there...
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Did you guys
ever do any of that?
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No. We didn't.
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Not really. We wanted to.
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There's just not
enough time in the day.
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I mean, you know, just trying
to keep up with everything
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we have going on, yes,
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I do have several
friends on Facebook, on Twitter,
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and I have to keep up with them.
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And I just assume
that, you know, again,
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she's sitting there with
me, I'm doing what I'm doing,
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she's fine, she's
safe, we're at home.
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So I guess 501 friends you have.
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Yeah, correct.
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I mean, 500, if
you join her, it's one.
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Well, I'm busy
hanging out with my buddies.
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We go down to the man
cave, we might watch sports,
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but sometimes we get into
discussions about the Bible
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and have Bible studies.
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So it's not like that's wrong.
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Okay, let me ask
you guys a question.
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I want you to
kind of look that way.
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Turn your head that way.
I want you to look that way.
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Would you say
this is the direction
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your family was going, maybe?
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Away from each other,
you mean? Pretty much.
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That's a good way to
see I was going to say,
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but that's a very
good way to look at that
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that maybe you're going
in so many different ways
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that you're not actually
touching each other's lives.
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I guess you're right about that.
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We need to pay more attention
to each other than we did.
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So now I know this is a
shock and it's very scary
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and very frightening, and again,
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it's not at all your fault.
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That's not at all
what we're talking about.
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We're looking at
from here moving forward
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that this doesn't happen again.
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So we have to make
sure that whatever behaviors
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that may be going
on within the family
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that could contribute to this
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that we want to
change those behaviors.
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So what did you do
once you found out about
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the grown person
talking to your child?
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What did you do? Well,
I got mad, first of all.
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You know, after police
ever tell me who he was...
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Oh, man, but
that's all I could do.
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I was so upset, I felt hurt.
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I really felt a
little big guilty, you know.
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I didn't plan for it to
happen, but I see that now
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if I'm not paying attention,
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anything can happen
with all this technology.
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We'd have to be more careful.
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Okay, so you guys
contacted the police.
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Did you do anything else?
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Well, for one, she's
not allowed to go anywhere
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unless I go with
her and or unless,
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he's allowed to go with her.
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So she's just grounded, I guess.
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Well, I wouldn't
call that a grounding.
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I would consider
it to be another step,
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safety step
because we don't know
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how much she has as
close to this grown person,
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and we certainly
don't want her to say
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she's going to the store
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and this person is
going to meet her there.
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So we're not going to
look at it as grounding
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but just to make
sure that she is safe.
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And that's really
critical right now,
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more than teaching her
lessons, more than making sure
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that she does
what we tell her to do,
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it's very important
that she is kept safe.
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She's just a 10-year-old,
she's just a little girl.
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Safety is the
most important thing.
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And again, I just feel sad about
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how bad this could
have really turned out.
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It was a real
blessing that we caught it
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before anything extra happened.
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These people out
here are just crazy.
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You have to watch
your children now.
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You can't just assume
because they're in a room
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where she was in her
room, we were at home,
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you just can't
assume that's safe anymore.
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So we're going to
have to do a little better,
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be more diligent
about keeping up on
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what's exactly going on.
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Okay, yes, I think so.
But how do you do that?
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I mean, she was
sitting next to me.
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She's in the home, and
yet she still gets exposed
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to so much stuff. Right.
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And I think that's
the beauty of the internet
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and that's the danger
of the internet this way.
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What kind of changes
would you like to see
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in your family as a
result of this incident?
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Before when you were
coming in, we were talking about
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creating pleasant
memories anyway, right?
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So what kind of
changes would you like to see?
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What do you think?
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Well, for one, I think
I need to be more aware
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of who she is around.
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And that's not
just with the internet
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but that's also
people who enter our home.
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Being mindful of who's
there, their background,
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if they have kids, a
little bit about them too
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because again, we never know.
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We never know who we're
bringing into our homes.
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So you would like to know
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who she's the interacting
with on the internet,
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you'd like to know
who her friends are,
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and who her...
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The families of
her friends, right?
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Yeah. Okay.
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And we're not talking
about internet friends,
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we're just talking about
school friends, church friends,
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all kinds of friends, right?
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Okay.
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I really would like
to see friends in person.
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If she has different friends,
they come over to the house,
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we get to know who they are,
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get to know who
their parents are.
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It doesn't have to be
always on the computer
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or texting all the time.
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Kids, now they're
sitting right next
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to each other
texting one another.
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Yeah.
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There needs to be more social
interaction person-to-person,
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that's what I
want to see happen.
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Oh, okay.
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So let's talk about how we
can make that happen then, okay?
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So let's look
at some strategies.
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The first thing is we're going
to address safety issues first.
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And you're doing that already,
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so you're one
step ahead of the game.
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You've taken her computer
from her or her cell phone.
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And you are making sure
that she travels with you
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and she's not going places
alone by herself for right now.
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And you're also looking at
getting to know her friends.
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So I think you're
already ahead of the game
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and you should be
pretty proud of yourself
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for taking those steps already.
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So now we're going to
monitor all the electronics.
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So we're going to make sure that
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when she's on the computer,
it's where we all can see it
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and that we come by and
make sure that we look at
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what she has on the computer.
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We may even sit
down and train her about
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what she can't go on,
she can, and of course,
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they have those
children monitoring things
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on the computer.
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So you can find out about that.
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You can have specific time
set aside to use a computer.
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And then her cell
phone can be set up
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where it's just the
calls can only come to you
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or to emergency phone numbers.
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Oh, I like that. So
you can make sure that...
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Now she's not going to like
it, but it is important that
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you take safety
is very important.
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We're not even talking about
consequences or punishments
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because this is so important,
and she has to get the message
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that this is a
very important thing.
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Okay, and then let's go
back to our primary goal.
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Let's create
some pleasant memories
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so that she will be
attracted within the family.
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Now listen, you look
this way, like this way,
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and you look that way
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and that the family
are looking at each other
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and that we find
in each other the joy
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that we're looking for, okay?
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And so that may extend to...
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Our extended family members.
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We can have family
fun night with them
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or with her little friends,
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but we want to start creating
those positive memories,
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and that will make it a
little bit more difficult
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for Lauren to reach
outside of the family
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for the socialization
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that she decides only she wants.
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Can we lock her up in our room?
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How's that for
safety? You know what?
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We all want to lock
our children in bedrooms
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from time to time.
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But I think that
will get you in trouble.
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So maybe we won't.
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As long as you have
a key to open the door,
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what's the problem?
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Okay because I don't think
that's a good idea to do that.
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So locking her in her
room is not a good choice,
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but showing her
how to use the internet
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is a very good choice,
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showing her and
limiting her cell phone use,
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that's a really good choice.
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Also, just spending time by
giving her some type of time,
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not just where we're
just sitting next to her,
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but where we're
actually, maybe doing things,
00:14:03.74\00:14:06.64
putting a tent up or
going fishing together
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or spa day or whatever,
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but something that's
going to create a happy memory.
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So, you know what that implies
is Lauren has to like it.
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So it can't be
something I want to do,
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but she doesn't want to do.
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You know, so from
judging from the video,
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she does not want to
be outside with bugs.
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No, she doesn't.
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So we probably outside stuff
may not be the number one thing
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that we go to
for right away, okay?
00:14:31.10\00:14:33.07
Well, that
sounds like great ideas.
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I think we can try
those. Yeah, I think we can.
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And then the next day
I'm going to suggest this
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please, please, please
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don't be too hard on yourselves.
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I mean, people out
there are just looking,
00:14:43.78\00:14:46.88
trying to find a
way into children,
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and vulnerable,
even vulnerable adults
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if they can.
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So you cannot just
beat yourselves up,
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and don't think you're going
to be have to spend 24 hours,
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7 days a week,
every minute with her.
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That's not going
to happen either.
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We have to
fortify her, build her up,
00:15:02.23\00:15:04.80
give her a sense of belonging
so that she may not desire
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to go outside of the
home to find the attention
00:15:09.60\00:15:11.94
and the love that
she's looking for, okay?
00:15:11.97\00:15:14.08
This sounds like a
real opportunity for prayer,
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I'd tell you that much.
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It really is an
opportunity for prayer.
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And prayer
together by yourselves,
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and then you two
with Lauren as well.
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Keep the prayer going and stuff.
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And so do you have
any more questions?
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No, not at this time.
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Okay, then so then
we're going to look to see
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each other next week,
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and I'm very
sorry this has happened.
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I know it's very
scary and very frightening.
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But you guys are going to
work together and pray together,
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and the Lord is
going to fix all of this.
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And just do your strategies,
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and let's see what
happens next week, okay?
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Okay, thank you so
much. All right, thanks.
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You're welcome.
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Hi, so how's
everything going at home,
00:15:54.48\00:15:56.69
especially since the
internet incident with Lauren,
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how's she doing?
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Well, I will say that
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she is talking to
us a little bit more.
00:16:02.22\00:16:03.56
Initially, it wasn't that way.
00:16:03.59\00:16:04.93
You know, she
wouldn't talk to us,
00:16:04.96\00:16:06.29
she was still upset with
us because we took her phone,
00:16:06.33\00:16:09.63
but she's doing
a lot better now.
00:16:09.66\00:16:12.33
Yeah, she was
really mad at first.
00:16:12.37\00:16:14.04
She was made at her
friends for telling,
00:16:14.07\00:16:16.20
she was mad at us
for taking her phone,
00:16:16.24\00:16:18.64
and she was mad at the police
when we called the police.
00:16:18.67\00:16:21.71
But we had to let her
know safety comes first
00:16:21.74\00:16:24.75
and that we didn't care
that she was upset about things
00:16:24.78\00:16:27.02
that we're
concerned to make sure
00:16:27.05\00:16:28.68
that she is safe at home.
00:16:28.72\00:16:30.12
Yeah, yeah, that
is very important.
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Well, let's take
a look at the video.
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As always, we really appreciate
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you letting us
come into your home
00:16:36.19\00:16:37.53
so that we can use it
for our therapy sessions.
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So let's take a
look at the video.
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I can't wait to go on our
family vacation this year.
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Last year in the
mountains was really nice.
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I remember when dad was
driving down that mountain,
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it was really scary.
00:16:50.17\00:16:52.01
Oh, baby girl, I had
it all under control.
00:16:52.04\00:16:55.14
Yeah, right.
00:16:55.18\00:16:56.51
But I did enjoy
this trip though.
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The part I like
most was shopping
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and buying
matching family T-shirts.
00:16:59.85\00:17:01.62
Well, I enjoyed
the fishing the best.
00:17:01.65\00:17:03.85
And remember the fish
got stuck in Lauren's hair?
00:17:03.89\00:17:06.49
She was jumping
around screaming,
00:17:06.52\00:17:08.02
that was so hilarious.
00:17:08.06\00:17:09.62
It was. You even
got it on video, Mom.
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I did.
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Really funny, Dad,
00:17:12.39\00:17:13.73
but I think that this
year at the beach would be fun
00:17:13.76\00:17:16.06
because we get to go
swimming, scuba diving,
00:17:16.10\00:17:18.53
and finding sea shells.
00:17:18.57\00:17:20.54
I planned for us to
have a sunset dinner.
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I think it would be
nice if we took time
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and had a beach side dinner
at a very expensive restaurant.
00:17:24.54\00:17:27.78
Well, I'll tell you
what, I'm just going to relax
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on the beach and
not worry about work.
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This is going to be
the best vacation ever.
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Yeah. Yes.
00:17:35.52\00:17:38.89
Well, that's
quite an improvement.
00:17:38.92\00:17:42.32
So Lauren certainly looks like
00:17:42.36\00:17:44.33
she's talking to you
in that video right there.
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Yeah, she has.
00:17:46.66\00:17:48.00
She's gotten
much better, you know,
00:17:48.03\00:17:49.36
we've been working with her
and talking to her some more,
00:17:49.40\00:17:51.50
so yeah, she's coming
out of her little situation.
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Okay, I just want
to hit this internet
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just a little bit more.
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Now looking back on it
and looking at this video,
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do you feel that there is...
00:18:02.18\00:18:04.75
How do you feel
about the incident now?
00:18:04.78\00:18:06.45
Well, I think back
then we did allow her
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to spend a
little bit too much time
00:18:08.58\00:18:10.02
at a friend's home.
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And now we're just
inviting them to our home
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if they want to
spend time together.
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Okay.
00:18:14.59\00:18:15.92
Also we weren't
spending enough time with her,
00:18:15.96\00:18:18.23
so we've changed,
and now we're spending
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more time personally with her
00:18:20.63\00:18:22.60
instead of just
sending her to her room
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to play on the computer.
00:18:24.40\00:18:25.97
Okay, so we're
going to talk about that.
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Which safety
strategies have worked best
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for you guys so for?
00:18:30.14\00:18:31.47
Well, the one I like best
is taking the phone from her.
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I'm also trying to
talk to her about safety
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and about using the
internet responsibly.
00:18:37.35\00:18:39.95
And another thing
is just being able
00:18:39.98\00:18:41.38
to monitor her
friends on Facebook
00:18:41.42\00:18:43.89
and all these
other social medias,
00:18:43.92\00:18:45.29
you know, allowing her to
have access to some things
00:18:45.32\00:18:48.49
but it has to be
guided through us.
00:18:48.52\00:18:50.16
So you guys are still monitoring
00:18:50.19\00:18:52.36
her pretty closely with it.
00:18:52.39\00:18:54.33
I like what you said something
about having her friends
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over a little bit more.
00:18:56.73\00:18:58.07
Can you tell me
something about that?
00:18:58.10\00:18:59.60
Well, one of the
things we're trying to do
00:18:59.63\00:19:00.97
is just invite her friends
over as well as their family.
00:19:01.00\00:19:04.97
So we've gotten a
chance to spend time
00:19:05.01\00:19:07.14
with the moms and
dads of her friends.
00:19:07.18\00:19:09.88
So by forming
those relationships,
00:19:09.91\00:19:11.35
it just helps a little bit more
to get to know the kids better
00:19:11.38\00:19:14.28
and seeing what
we're exposing her to.
00:19:14.32\00:19:15.92
Now the parent whom daughter
talked to about Lauren...
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Correct. Do you know her name?
00:19:20.59\00:19:22.49
I do, yes. Okay.
00:19:22.52\00:19:23.86
And we have a
great relationship.
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Oh, that's very, very good.
00:19:25.26\00:19:26.90
Also what I do too
that add more togetherness
00:19:26.93\00:19:30.67
between the whole family,
I take Lauren out with me,
00:19:30.70\00:19:33.64
we go to the
park, we go to the zoo,
00:19:33.67\00:19:35.60
all three of us go
out together more often.
00:19:35.64\00:19:38.37
That way, we
know who she's around,
00:19:38.41\00:19:41.18
and that again adds
to the safety factor
00:19:41.21\00:19:43.21
instead of just
telling her to go play,
00:19:43.24\00:19:45.65
you know, we go out with
her, and like my wife said,
00:19:45.68\00:19:49.58
we know who her friends
are more than we used to.
00:19:49.62\00:19:52.75
What else are you guys doing?
00:19:52.79\00:19:54.42
I know you have the
safety things in place,
00:19:54.46\00:19:57.06
which is really good.
00:19:57.09\00:19:59.03
Are there any other
things that you're doing
00:19:59.06\00:20:00.83
to help Lauren kind of
feel a little bit more happy?
00:20:00.86\00:20:04.87
We have family nights.
00:20:04.90\00:20:07.00
We're able to talk
more about things, me,
00:20:07.04\00:20:08.90
personally, I spend a
little more time with her,
00:20:08.94\00:20:11.41
we do our little pedicures
and we talk about school
00:20:11.44\00:20:14.84
and I talk about work.
00:20:14.88\00:20:16.81
We talk about
even her aspirations
00:20:16.85\00:20:18.65
and what she's
planning on doing in the future.
00:20:18.68\00:20:20.22
So I think it has
drawn us a little bit closer,
00:20:20.25\00:20:21.98
spending this
quality time together.
00:20:22.02\00:20:23.59
Okay.
00:20:23.62\00:20:24.95
And like I said, I
focus more on safety.
00:20:24.99\00:20:27.36
So I have a little
safety talks with her
00:20:27.39\00:20:29.32
and let her know
about stranger danger
00:20:29.36\00:20:31.76
and calling 911,
00:20:31.79\00:20:33.60
or if she feels threatened
to go to a police station
00:20:33.63\00:20:36.46
or the fire department,
where they have safe places.
00:20:36.50\00:20:38.97
I don't tell her too much
00:20:39.00\00:20:40.34
because she's
still just a young girl,
00:20:40.37\00:20:43.04
but I try and
keep that on her mind
00:20:43.07\00:20:45.07
to just be careful out there.
00:20:45.11\00:20:46.51
Okay.
00:20:46.54\00:20:47.88
And another thing
is personal space.
00:20:47.91\00:20:49.24
We've talked about that a lot.
00:20:49.28\00:20:50.88
As far as her comfort
level, understanding that,
00:20:50.91\00:20:53.72
you know, people should
only be so close to you,
00:20:53.75\00:20:56.72
you know, physically,
and just like making sure
00:20:56.75\00:20:59.55
she understands
what that looks like.
00:20:59.59\00:21:01.29
How are you addressing this
from a spiritual perspective?
00:21:01.32\00:21:03.76
Are you doing
anything spiritually with this?
00:21:03.79\00:21:07.16
Oh, definitely. So
we pray every morning.
00:21:07.20\00:21:09.56
We have our devotion.
00:21:09.60\00:21:11.03
We are taking more time
during the Sabbath hours
00:21:11.07\00:21:13.77
to have Bible studies
00:21:13.80\00:21:15.14
and addressed a
lot of the issues
00:21:15.17\00:21:16.50
that she's faced with
00:21:16.54\00:21:17.87
because those same
stories are in the Bible,
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we can apply them to our lives.
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Okay.
00:21:20.64\00:21:21.98
And also, we enrolled her
00:21:22.01\00:21:23.35
in the
Pathfinders group at church.
00:21:23.38\00:21:24.95
So now she has
friends from church
00:21:24.98\00:21:26.78
that she hangs out with,
00:21:26.82\00:21:28.35
and we know that the Pathfinders
00:21:28.38\00:21:30.32
are teaching her about nature,
00:21:30.35\00:21:31.72
teaching her about productivity,
00:21:31.75\00:21:34.16
about being a real
benefit to the world
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that she lives in as opposed
to just getting on the computer
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and just, what do you
call, surfing the net,
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instead of that
she's actually learning
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how to grow plants in
gardens, take care of animals,
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and that has really
made a big difference
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in her whole attitude.
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It's great.
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You're monitoring her use
of the internet and technology?
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And then you're
monitoring her friends more,
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and you're
becoming more connected
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with her friends as well, huh?
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Right. Oh, okay.
00:22:01.25\00:22:02.58
It seems like you guys
are putting a lot of effort,
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a lot of good
effort into helping Lauren.
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Let's talk about
creating those memories now.
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That's what we
were intentionally...
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It's kind of like
we're back on track
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to where we were at first.
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And sometimes it takes a
crisis to get us back on track.
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So let's talk
about what we're doing
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or what you're
doing on a regular basis
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to create good family memories?
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Well, like my
wife said, we go out
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to different places
together, we go out to dinner,
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we always take our video camera
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to the Pathfinder events
so we can feel her marching
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and holding the flag
and those type of things.
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And of course, the
church has plenty of functions
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with the
Adventist youth department,
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the family life department,
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there's always
something going on.
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Okay, so you guys are taking in
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more of those
activities as well, right?
00:22:51.23\00:22:53.13
And we also do our
nature walks as well.
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We go, after
Sabbath, we go on nature walk,
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and we talk
about God's creation.
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She was a little antsy about
00:23:00.41\00:23:02.24
getting out there with the bugs,
00:23:02.28\00:23:03.61
but she came around,
00:23:03.65\00:23:04.98
and, you know,
we're working it out.
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Sometimes we
even go to the museum
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or even to the zoo.
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You know, one of the
nicest things too is that we do,
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like my wife said,
we watch TV together.
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So we always tune
into Dare to Dream network
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and also 3ABN
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because they have
terrific programs for kids.
00:23:20.00\00:23:22.73
Oh, that's pretty
cool. That is really good.
00:23:22.76\00:23:25.67
You know, I want to ask
you how are you two doing now,
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I mean emotionally,
you were really upset,
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angry, and frustrated...
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Exhausted. Oh,
yeah, we were furious.
00:23:32.81\00:23:34.61
Feeling guilty. More
and more sleepless nights.
00:23:34.64\00:23:37.35
How are you now?
00:23:37.38\00:23:38.78
Well, I feel relaxed,
more alert, I'll tell you that.
00:23:38.81\00:23:42.18
I'm more alert to
what danger there are
00:23:42.22\00:23:44.79
and becoming more
alert to what's out there
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has helped me to learn
about things a little more,
00:23:47.39\00:23:49.69
so I've been doing
some reading up on safety
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on the internet, etcetera.
00:23:52.33\00:23:54.16
And then another
thing that we do,
00:23:54.20\00:23:55.66
as a family
together, we like to sit down
00:23:55.70\00:23:58.10
and watch Dare to Dream
network or 3ABN broadcasting
00:23:58.13\00:24:01.37
because they have some
terrific family programming.
00:24:01.40\00:24:03.74
Yes. Okay, that
sounds really good.
00:24:03.77\00:24:06.47
So you guys are
really covering the basics.
00:24:06.51\00:24:09.04
What I really like to
know is how are you two doing?
00:24:09.08\00:24:11.61
The last time you guys
were very, very upset about
00:24:11.65\00:24:14.78
what had
happened, and rightfully so,
00:24:14.82\00:24:16.92
so you were very
angry, you were frustrated,
00:24:16.95\00:24:19.89
how are you doing today?
00:24:19.92\00:24:21.29
Well, I was really
furious about the whole thing,
00:24:21.32\00:24:24.03
but I've calmed down, you know,
I've been praying about it,
00:24:24.06\00:24:27.56
and done some more
research on internet safety,
00:24:27.60\00:24:30.37
so that's really been helping me
00:24:30.40\00:24:32.13
to just realize what happened
00:24:32.17\00:24:34.54
and then do what
I can to prevent it
00:24:34.57\00:24:36.57
from happening in the future.
00:24:36.60\00:24:37.97
Yeah.
00:24:38.01\00:24:39.34
And for me, I
just felt so guilty,
00:24:39.37\00:24:40.98
you know, not being able
00:24:41.01\00:24:42.34
to be there for
her to protect her,
00:24:42.38\00:24:44.28
but then also just feeling
00:24:44.31\00:24:45.65
as if she didn't
want to come to me.
00:24:45.68\00:24:47.88
But, you know,
through prayer, definitely,
00:24:47.92\00:24:49.98
the Lord has just
shown me that outside
00:24:50.02\00:24:51.65
of what I can do for my child,
00:24:51.69\00:24:53.02
He is the
ultimate supplier, right?
00:24:53.05\00:24:54.92
And so He even
protects us when parents can't.
00:24:54.96\00:24:57.89
So I've learnt to just rest
in that and trust Him for that.
00:24:57.93\00:25:00.90
That's really
great, that is great.
00:25:00.93\00:25:03.10
So I want to give you
just a few more strategies.
00:25:03.13\00:25:05.73
Okay? Okay.
00:25:05.77\00:25:07.10
Which some you may already have.
00:25:07.14\00:25:08.90
I want you to continue
to be intentional about
00:25:08.94\00:25:11.24
building a relationship.
00:25:11.27\00:25:12.97
Whether you realize it
or not, when you spend time
00:25:13.01\00:25:16.31
with your child
like going fishing
00:25:16.34\00:25:18.81
and going to Pathfinders
00:25:18.85\00:25:20.72
and staying
there to cheer her on,
00:25:20.75\00:25:22.08
that's building a
relationship with her.
00:25:22.12\00:25:24.05
And that is really the
best and most safest thing
00:25:24.09\00:25:27.02
we can do for our
children to have a relationship.
00:25:27.06\00:25:29.19
Like you said, she
likes to talk to you now,
00:25:29.22\00:25:31.16
and that's very important,
and you're having fun with her,
00:25:31.19\00:25:33.83
so that's very important.
00:25:33.86\00:25:35.20
And I want you to pay attention
00:25:35.23\00:25:36.56
to the new people
coming into her lives.
00:25:36.60\00:25:38.33
When she says a new
name, then you listen.
00:25:38.37\00:25:42.10
Pay close attention.
00:25:42.14\00:25:43.74
You can ask
questions, but be careful.
00:25:43.77\00:25:46.07
Don't send...
00:25:46.11\00:25:47.44
Ask questions in such a way
that it may make her shut down
00:25:47.48\00:25:50.18
like "Who is that?"
00:25:50.21\00:25:51.55
We may not want to do that.
"How did you meet that person?
00:25:51.58\00:25:54.48
Oh, is this the
person at your class?"
00:25:54.52\00:25:57.09
Open into questions
so that she can expound
00:25:57.12\00:25:59.75
on who this person is.
00:25:59.79\00:26:01.49
If you feel
something that's not good,
00:26:01.52\00:26:03.86
you don't have to
call her in right then.
00:26:03.89\00:26:05.96
You can wait and kind of listen
00:26:05.99\00:26:07.83
more and more
for the information.
00:26:07.86\00:26:09.60
Do a little bit of
background check for yourselves.
00:26:09.63\00:26:12.10
And then you can
stay close to her.
00:26:12.13\00:26:14.60
And some people think
that as the child gets older,
00:26:14.64\00:26:17.44
like teenagers,
then we let them go.
00:26:17.47\00:26:20.21
That's when you
really need to hold on to.
00:26:20.24\00:26:23.68
You know, lot of
people can't wait
00:26:23.71\00:26:25.11
to give the children
their little driver's licenses
00:26:25.15\00:26:28.85
so they can be free.
00:26:28.88\00:26:30.52
Oh, not so good
that all teenagers
00:26:30.55\00:26:32.52
need all of their
freedom at one time,
00:26:32.55\00:26:33.92
but you definitely want
to stay close emotionally,
00:26:33.96\00:26:37.23
and I hear you guys saying
that you're doing praying,
00:26:37.26\00:26:40.40
make sure that you help Lauren
00:26:40.43\00:26:42.13
to establish her
relationship with God.
00:26:42.16\00:26:43.93
So let the Spirit of God
just kind of speak to her too.
00:26:43.97\00:26:46.87
Do you have any
questions or any anything
00:26:46.90\00:26:49.70
that you'd like to add?
00:26:49.74\00:26:52.61
I don't have any
questions, do you?
00:26:52.64\00:26:54.38
No, not at this time.
00:26:54.41\00:26:55.74
Well, it's
really great to see that
00:26:55.78\00:26:57.25
you guys are
feeling a lot better.
00:26:57.28\00:26:59.58
I can only imagine how
scary that was for you.
00:26:59.61\00:27:02.52
And I do want to commend
you for talking to the police,
00:27:02.55\00:27:05.69
calling them because some...
00:27:05.72\00:27:07.52
Often people just
minimize this, I mean,
00:27:07.56\00:27:10.06
this could have
been a major problem,
00:27:10.09\00:27:11.79
but I think you did a great job
00:27:11.83\00:27:13.53
at stopping it at
the very beginning,
00:27:13.56\00:27:15.66
and that goes a long way.
00:27:15.70\00:27:18.00
So we're probably going
to have a closing session
00:27:18.03\00:27:20.80
in a couple of weeks.
00:27:20.84\00:27:22.64
I'll get back with
you on the exact date.
00:27:22.67\00:27:24.77
Thank you for coming in.
00:27:24.81\00:27:26.14
And I really
appreciate you guys.
00:27:26.17\00:27:27.71
Parents, it's
easy to get distracted.
00:27:30.55\00:27:33.11
There are so many
things clamoring for your time.
00:27:33.15\00:27:36.25
Children are very vulnerable.
They need your protection.
00:27:36.28\00:27:40.52
Any good thing can be used
for evil in the wrong hands.
00:27:40.56\00:27:44.59
An Inspired
writer, Ellen White wrote,
00:27:44.63\00:27:46.70
"Press together, press together,
00:27:46.73\00:27:48.46
press together."
00:27:48.50\00:27:49.90
She was talking
about believers in Christ.
00:27:49.93\00:27:52.47
How much more shall we
do that for our children?
00:27:52.50\00:27:54.97
They need a loving,
guiding hand to keep them safe.
00:27:55.00\00:27:58.07
Everyone who meets your
child is not a safe person.
00:27:58.11\00:28:01.24
So we want to make sure
that you spend as much time
00:28:01.28\00:28:04.88
with your children
as you possibly can,
00:28:04.91\00:28:07.32
and make sure
that you are creating
00:28:07.35\00:28:08.85
good, happy memories.
00:28:08.88\00:28:10.52
You have to discipline,
don't let discipline be
00:28:10.55\00:28:12.89
the only thing you
do with your children.
00:28:12.92\00:28:15.32
There'll be a time in the day
00:28:15.36\00:28:17.06
when they will
have their own children,
00:28:17.09\00:28:18.43
and they'll
remember all the good times
00:28:18.46\00:28:20.96
that you have shared with them.
00:28:21.00\00:28:22.76
Make this a great day.
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