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Hi, welcome to the Pure Choices.
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I'll be your host
for today's program.
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My name is Myesha Lawson.
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Let me introduce my
wonderful panel today,
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my husband, Timothy Lawson,
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Brittany
Morales, Jacques LaGuerre,
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and Xavier Morales.
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Today's title is The
World's Oldest Profession.
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But before we begin let us pray.
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Dear Lord, I ask
that you be with us
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as we do this program, Lord,
and for the viewer out there,
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I ask that you open
there mind and hearts
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to receive a blessing, Lord.
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In Jesus' name, amen.
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Amen. Amen.
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Today, we're gonna be
talking about prostitution.
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It's a very,
very touching subject,
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I lived with it for many years.
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So, let us
begin, but before that,
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I would like to give you
the definition of prostitution.
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"The practise or occupation
of engaging in sexual activity
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with someone for payment.
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The unworthy or
corrupt use of one's talents
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for the sake of
personal or financial gain."
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Now, that stuck out
to me when I read it
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because I experienced
both types of prostitution.
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So the first question is,
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when and where
prostitution first begin?
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Well,
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we don't have a thorough
knowledge on the subject.
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I can remember
reading from the Bible
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where it first begin
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when God was counselling
the children of Israel,
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not to engage in this practise.
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And I think
there's a verse that says,
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"That you shall
now worship the Lord,
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your God like the
nation of the other land,
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don't make your kid
out for the price of a dog,
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or the higher of a whore."
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Something to that effect
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and those words in the
Bible means temple prostitute.
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And if you go back and see
some of the earliest records,
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Babylon being one of the
first earliest civilisations,
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when they have
prostitution they had it,
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in the form of worship.
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Worship for there other Gods,
especially the fertility Gods,
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they would have
temple prostitute
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that you can pay fee for
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and engage in a sexual activity
dedicated toward there Gods.
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To pay back on what Tim says,
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in ancient Babylon, you
have the Goddess Ishtar.
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And every Babylonian women
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would have to
serve in the temple.
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And as part of
her basic initiation
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she would have to
sit down in the temple,
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and in any man that came
by and threw a coin her lap,
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she would then have to
go and have sex with him.
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And this was worship to
there false Babylonian God.
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That's really good,
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because when I've done, like
the past I have done research,
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they were saying that,
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oh, it was popular in
the 18th century, right?
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And I'm like, I would
think it started before then,
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but okay, so.
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But I'm thank you
for that information
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that it started
in the Bible days.
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So why is
prostitution so popular?
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It's easy money, you know.
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It meets both pleasure,
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in both aspects in the
physical and in the monitory,
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you know.
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People usually now, especially
nowadays they want money
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and they want more
sex, so they combined both.
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And in lot of times,
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you know, they may feel like
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they're the person
paying for it may not feel like,
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may feel like its good
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because they don't
have an emotional attachment
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to anybody.
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Yeah.
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You know, the Bible says,
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"The love of money, you
know, is the root of all evil."
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So for
financial, or wealthy gain
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men and women will
do almost anything,
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including not
only sell their bodies
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but, you know, sell
another person's body.
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And so living in the
culture and society that we do,
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there's a high value
placed on getting well
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but not on morals, as it was.
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As long as you have
money to take care of yourself,
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you're fine, no
matter how you get it.
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And like Xavier was saying,
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to feed the carnal
nature for men or women
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who just want sex
without the attachment,
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it's seems like a
good arrangement for them.
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And it's easy
instead of, if I want to,
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yes, I wasn't married
and I wanted to have sex,
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I would have to work on
building that relationship
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with the person, work
on getting on that guy
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to want get on
his knee, and purpose.
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Then go to the process of
whole engagement, wedding.
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It's a long process
versus for prostitution,
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I don't have worry
if the person loves me,
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likes me.
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All I have to do is
give them few dollars,
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depending on the
type of prostitution,
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prostitute, just
give me a few dollars,
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I get what I need, move on.
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Right.
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Okay, so now,
today, society is like so,
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it's so easy nowadays to
just resort to this profession.
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I mean, even men, nowadays
guys want to become pimps,
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it's like very
popular, you know,
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or women wants to prostitute.
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And you know, do you feel
that it comes from the media,
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you know, the things
that they are watching?
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And I want talk about, you know,
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where the guys
getting this influence,
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like, to become
pimps, and you know,
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women are becoming prostitutes,
because of the media.
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Well, you know,
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when you look at just
the mainstream media now
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it's telling men
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that, they all need to
have some sort of harem.
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You know, we all
need to be King Solomon,
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before his conversion,
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you know, with 700
wives, and 300 concubines.
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And we see that
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in a digital
form of pornography.
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You know, just have your harem,
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have all this different women
and have control over them.
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Because when you
have a women on a screen,
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in essence you are
pimp, you can press Pause,
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you press Play, you can rewind,
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you can do everything like that.
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And so, even for
men that won't go
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and basically, have a
whole lot of women on a corner
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and controlling them,
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they all becoming
pimps in their own homes.
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Also, its kind a glamorized
sometime in the media,
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you see, in different
songs, in different genre,
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you see heavy emphasis on guys
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who's a, who is
a pimp or p-i-m-p
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or he has a lot of women,
and he has a lot of money.
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And so you know,
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they glamorize it like
a something cool to be,
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something fascinating to
be, its something fun to be.
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And also movies glamorize it.
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They, they show different movies
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that kind a down
play the ugly side of it.
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So that you don't
see the ugly side,
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but the dam play
like a good side of it,
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or even if the
movies shows is bad,
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what the movie
tries to tell you is,
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you can do this for little
bit, you know, and be safe,
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and then maybe
you'll come up out of it.
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But, that's not the case
for lot of people who are in it.
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That's right, that is right.
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They, on media
they do down play it,
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you know, there
is a ugly a side.
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I mean these, you
know, the pimps out there,
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they are abusing of or
forcing these young girls
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to prostitute themselves,
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or prostitute for
them to make money.
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They'll, sexually assault
them, they'll will beat them.
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They call it they call
it a "gorilla pimp," okay,
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that's the
terminology that they use
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in today's society.
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And it just totally wrong,
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you know there girls out there
that are trap, it's a trap.
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Girls out there
have a no way out,
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no, they're not even
in a safe environment.
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I mean, think about it,
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your women going to a
man you don't even know.
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You don't know
what he can do to you
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or what he's capable of.
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You know, what
mental state he's in,
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and your going,
and your thinking that,
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oh, I'm just gonna go
make this little money.
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And you might not be
able to walk out alive.
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So let's talk about
the different levels
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to this profession.
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So we know that,
there are different levels,
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there is lower levels,
there is "high levels."
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To me, it's all the
same. So what do you think?
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Yeah.
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The different levels,
especially the higher levels,
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what they call a
high end prostitution
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or even legal prostitution
or high end brothels.
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When they do, I have
seen documentaries on them
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where you talk to the people
that are from that lifestyle
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is really glamorize
because you're dealing
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with a very rich man
that fly women to places,
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and beaches, in
large cars, and jewelry,
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and gifts, and
things of that nature
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so it's almost look like.
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As matter of fact, I'm
was watching a documentary,
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you know, with my wife,
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and it showed a
women who is married,
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and had a kid, and
had a middle class job,
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but she stop that as a fantasy
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and did high end
prostitution because she said,
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she can make
more money doing this
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and to fulfill her fantasy.
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And so, there are you know,
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high end levels, lower
end levels, and escorting
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and different
names that they do have.
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And this is
actually a little story,
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I have about that.
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There is a women who
was invited on to a yacht,
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you know, those are
very high-end party.
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And a man
approach right at the bar
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and brought her a
drink, and they begin to talk,
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and he let's her know
I'm the owner of this yacht.
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Now this girl was, she
was from humble beginnings,
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and so when this man,
he was speaking in her ear,
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he offered her $10,000
for one night of illicit sex,
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and she was all excited,
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why, I've never got an
offered that much money before.
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And so as they go
back to the master suite,
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as they close the door,
he says, well, how about $10?
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And she gets all
upset, and she says,
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"What type of girl
do you think I am?"
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And he says, "I already
know what type of girl you're.
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Now I'm just trying
to determine your price."
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You know, so no
matter what the price is,
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it's still prostitution
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and it's still not
pleasing the eyes of God.
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Right.
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Now let me go ahead.
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Remember that I
read the, you know,
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the second part of the
meaning of prostitution.
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"And one's talents
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for the sake of
personal or financial gain."
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Well, instead of
always having to "have sex,"
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there is another
form of prostitution.
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As for me, I was
a sugar baby once.
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Not all the time, I had,
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you know,
intercourse with a guy.
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But just because I'm there
and I'm being his arm candy,
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I'm showing him
attention, affection,
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something that maybe his
wife is not even given him.
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I'm listening to his problems,
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I'm acting as if I
really like this man,
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I'm attracted to this man,
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and he means a lot to
me, I really care for him.
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But really I'm just
being a con artiest, you know.
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So I just really
wanted to let that be know
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that there are different levels.
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But regardless,
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you're putting in
a price on yourself.
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So, do you think
prostitution is legal?
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Not according in a God's law.
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Might be, you know,
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according to man
in different states
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it might be okay
to engage in that act,
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but the Bible say,
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"That your body is the
temple of the Holy Ghost,
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and that you've
bought with the price
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so glorify God in your body
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and in your
spirit, which are God's."
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And so it's very
illegal in God's eyes.
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Amen.
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And when Paul was
writing to church at Corinth,
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he says, "No, ye not that,
he who is joined to a harlot
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becomes body with her?"
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And he speak about it
in a very negative light,
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and so if it is,
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if the Bible
speak clearly against it
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in the book of 1 Corinthians
then it must be a sin.
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And he talks about that too,
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you know, in
reference to the Church.
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Right.
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You know, and
it's interesting that,
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we manage to make sin legal,
sort of speak, some you know,
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the man's law makes it legal
for you to go buy a prostitute.
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But then God's law, you know,
even in the Book of Revolution
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talks about the
you know, the harlot,
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you know prostitute is
completely against God's law.
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Not just because of a law sakes,
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but because of your body,
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the damage that
you're doing to your body.
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And even
emotionally and spiritually,
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God cares about is it
hurting you emotionally.
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God cares about is it
hurting you spiritually,
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is it hurting you mentally?
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And sometimes in
our illegal system
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the main concern is,
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okay, is it, are
you gonna be okay, okay.
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That's why, they may not,
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they are completely
against maybe street walkers
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because, they're on the street,
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anything can
happen, they can get hurt.
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But if you're in
like a safe business,
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of course, people
come and have sex with you
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and give you money,
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because of what
they assume is safe,
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but it isn't safe.
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None of it is. None
of it is safe, trust me.
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You, the same things that
can happen out in the street,
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can also happen indoors.
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I mean, you may be
going to someone's hotel room,
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I mean, he can still rob you,
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he can still be
overly aggressive.
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You know, he may not take you,
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pull you back to alley
and beat you up and rob you,
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but he can do those things.
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You know, he can even tie you up
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and throw you up in the
bathroom or torture you.
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He can do all those things.
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So you're never safe
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even if you're
indoors or out on the street.
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Now, I want to go
into the part of addition.
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Is it addictive?
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And I want talk about,
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you know, my part
far as been a prostitute
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and the customer.
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Go ahead.
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Well, I can speak from
the customer point of view.
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After I join the military,
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I kind of got sucked in
to that life of soliciting
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or buying prostitutes.
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And I never thought
I get there in my life,
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but sin, it's a downward spiral.
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That's for sure.
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You know, you start
of with just pornography
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and you start off,
kissie-kissie, touchy-touchy,
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and before you know it
you're going in that corner
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where you know all
the prostitute hangout.
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And it became an
addictive behavior
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because there is no,
there is no, there is no risk
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really that you
perceive that you're taking.
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All you have to
do is have the money
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and you know you're gonna
get that sexual gratification.
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Even going out to bars and
club became kind off boring
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because now I still had
to try to talk to a girl,
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asides of buying her drink,
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I still had to
say the right things.
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With the prostitute, if I just
had the right amount of money.
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And so, it became
very, very, addictive
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because of that nature.
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As long as I have
the amount of money,
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it was more a transaction;
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it was like
going to a restaurant
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and buying food, you know,
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it wasn't interacting
with another human being.
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And what had taught me
that behavior was the media,
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was pornography,
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because, I would never been
giving a woman money for sex
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if I didn't think that
that behavior was normal,
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if I didn't think
that a woman was an object
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that should be bought,
I would never been there.
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But because of all my exposure
to pornography and to the media
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and just my own
rejection of Christ,
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and His message, and His church,
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I found my self there.
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Right.
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I want to touch on,
the prostitution view.
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Okay, and how addicted it was.
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Well, as for me,
this is very personal.
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It started off with the
money, of course, you know.
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I was in a situation
where I needed money.
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So I went to prostitution,
I didn't like it at all,
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but I only did it for the money.
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Then it
progressed, it progressed
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while I'm starting to get
wined and dined, you know.
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I'm getting all this attention,
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people are telling me
that I'm very beautiful
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and, oh, you're just
awesome, you're amazing,
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and I'm getting all you know,
all these "good things," okay.
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And being told all these
wonderful things about myself,
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that, you know, basically,
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I probably didn't know
anything about myself, you know.
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And when you first
start you're gonna think like,
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oh, my goodness,
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I can't believe, I'm
doing this, you know.
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At times I felt
dirty, I would take a shower
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and literally scrub myself, and
you would see marks on my neck
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from scrubbing
because I felt so dirty.
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And then
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all that comes to my
self-esteem, you know.
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So I want to really talk about
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what are the
effects in the industry
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for men and women,
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and I want to
talk about the affects
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for that people are buying,
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you know that men
and women are buying
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or spending their
money on prostitution.
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Well, I would say you know,
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you two can
probably chime in on this.
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I would say, it effects
both of people self-worth.
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You know, a person,
you gave a testimony
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where you didn't
feel that talking a woman.
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There might be some
guys who try to talk to women
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and maybe can't get
them or something like that.
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So they might feel
they're not good enough,
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but they can just pay for it.
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And so they might, you
know, feel in their self
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that they can't connect
with women on that level
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and so they don't feel
like they're worth that much.
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And then a women who
is getting paid for it
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can start to identify
her worth by this price,
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you know, mentally,
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you know, and emotionally
I might not be worth much,
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but physically, I
can get this price.
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And so I'm somebody,
I'm something, you know.
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Well, for me as a consumer,
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it started to affect
just my sexual desires.
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You know, things of a
healthy consensual nature
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stopped really
having the natural effect
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and my taste began
to become more violent
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and more sadistic, if you will.
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And it was because
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I was so far away from
God's perfect plan for sex.
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I had resorted to prostitution,
to soliciting prostitutes,
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which we talk about
earlier is a form of worship.
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And so, in this act
of worship to false God
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I was becoming
more and more debased,
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becoming more
and more animalistic.
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And I didn't even notice
it until after my conversation
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and the Holy Spirit
was bringing me to myself
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like the prodigal
son in the pig pan
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when he actually
realized where he was.
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And when I looked at my life
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and I saw the
things I had engaged
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and the things that
I had thinking about,
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fantasizing about, I
said, oh my goodness,
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I can't believe I got here.
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But it was a slow
gradual decline into sin.
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Go ahead.
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I think too, I mean,
00:21:06.53\00:21:07.86
my standpoint
was from a customer
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but actually somebody
arresting a prostitute,
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you know, back
in my former days.
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It's sad. Yes.
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You look at
their driver's license
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and you see how they were
and then you look at them now
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and you see how strong
out on drugs they were.
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And it's almost heart breaking
because you look, like I said,
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look at this, a
young lady, you know.
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In her 20s, you look
at her driver's license
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and you're arresting
her for prostitution,
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for soliciting, and
you look at the picture,
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you look at her,
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and that she just looks
so deteriorated and old.
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It's like this stuff,
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and it's only in
a matter of years
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that damages this
individual for life.
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And probably to
go little further,
00:21:50.51\00:21:53.27
but going back to the addiction.
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One form of you know
sex decision is anonymous.
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And like Tim was saying earlier,
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the guy might be
going to this young lady
00:22:01.52\00:22:05.29
because no one else wants him.
00:22:05.32\00:22:08.06
So when he feeling stressed,
00:22:08.09\00:22:09.86
no one else is listening to him,
00:22:09.89\00:22:11.23
I'm gonna go to a prostitute.
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Feeling depressed because
he didn't get that promotion,
00:22:13.06\00:22:15.46
I'm gonna go to a prostitute.
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So every single time something
is happening in his life,
00:22:17.30\00:22:20.30
he can't find any
support from people
00:22:20.34\00:22:22.50
who he really
needs that support from,
00:22:22.54\00:22:24.74
he's going to a prostitute
over and over and over again.
00:22:24.77\00:22:27.81
And it effects,
that's affecting his wallet,
00:22:27.84\00:22:31.28
because; and it's
affecting his body
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'cause you don't
know what's your getting.
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Condoms only work so
much, they only go so far.
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Affecting relationships
00:22:40.49\00:22:41.82
because you start
blowing off people,
00:22:41.86\00:22:43.19
'cause you're not helping me
00:22:43.22\00:22:44.56
the way I think you
should be helping me,
00:22:44.59\00:22:45.93
so I'm gonna go to someone
who doesn't really care me
00:22:45.96\00:22:48.13
but they help me in a way
I think works for right now.
00:22:48.16\00:22:52.37
And it's also again,
when you finally find someone,
00:22:52.40\00:22:54.97
I'm gonna marry you.
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You try to, you try to
connect but you can't connect
00:22:57.41\00:23:03.65
because your mind
is somewhere else.
00:23:03.68\00:23:06.92
And when they wake up
like, where is my spouse,
00:23:06.95\00:23:09.42
why they are not beside me,
they're out going somewhere.
00:23:09.45\00:23:11.89
You feel cheated
on, you feel disrespect,
00:23:11.92\00:23:13.32
you feel so many
different things,
00:23:13.36\00:23:14.89
this doesn't only affect
the person who is a prostitute
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or even the one who is
soliciting the prostitute,
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it affects their
family and their friends.
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Right, you're so
right about that.
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Now as for me, how
would it affect me.
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It brought down my
self-worth, you know.
00:23:29.47\00:23:33.88
It made me do extra
things for the outer appearance,
00:23:33.91\00:23:38.21
because how I
felt in the inside.
00:23:38.25\00:23:40.82
You know, instead of
embracing my natural beauty,
00:23:40.85\00:23:44.59
I became plastic, you know.
00:23:44.62\00:23:46.82
I'm looking at
all these shows on TV
00:23:46.86\00:23:50.73
and videos and so forth,
00:23:50.76\00:23:54.26
and I'm doing my
make up as just they did,
00:23:54.30\00:23:56.93
or I'm wearing
provocative clothes
00:23:56.97\00:23:58.73
because I felt
ugly inside, you know.
00:23:58.77\00:24:03.00
It was, it became
addictive, because of the money
00:24:03.04\00:24:07.21
and I was able to buy
anything I want, you know.
00:24:07.24\00:24:10.81
I could blow money
00:24:10.85\00:24:12.81
and then make it back
up that night, you know.
00:24:12.85\00:24:15.98
So, and then on top of that,
00:24:16.02\00:24:18.42
I start, I began to
embrace the way I looked
00:24:18.45\00:24:21.29
in the outer appearance
00:24:21.32\00:24:22.66
and forgot about
what it's doing to me
00:24:22.69\00:24:24.03
in the inside.
00:24:24.06\00:24:25.53
You know, I'm gonna
go spend $300 on my weave
00:24:25.56\00:24:28.96
because it's
gonna make me look good,
00:24:29.00\00:24:30.33
it's gonna make me
feel good, you know.
00:24:30.37\00:24:33.34
And I'm gonna buy these shoes
because it makes me feel good.
00:24:33.37\00:24:36.57
Why not do something for myself?
00:24:36.60\00:24:37.94
I work hard, you know,
00:24:37.97\00:24:40.94
and being able to
just do whatever I want.
00:24:40.98\00:24:45.11
That became
addictive to me, okay.
00:24:45.15\00:24:49.28
And so, I want talk about
sex trafficking, you know.
00:24:49.32\00:24:53.42
It's doesn't
only happen in America
00:24:53.46\00:24:55.39
but I believe
happen all over the world.
00:24:55.42\00:24:58.16
So what are your
thoughts on sex trafficking?
00:24:58.19\00:25:00.43
Actually, it's interesting
because during like events,
00:25:00.46\00:25:04.27
big sporting
events such as super bowl
00:25:04.30\00:25:06.30
or other big sporting events,
00:25:06.33\00:25:08.10
it uses a mast or bridge to
be able to get big money buyers
00:25:08.14\00:25:12.77
to exchange or purchase girls
00:25:12.81\00:25:16.01
that are under
drugs, that are kidnapped
00:25:16.04\00:25:18.25
from other
places and drugged up,
00:25:18.28\00:25:20.45
and be able to exchange them
for a price and sell them off.
00:25:20.48\00:25:23.52
So like, your love
ones or anything like that,
00:25:23.55\00:25:25.19
they could be
potentially victims
00:25:25.22\00:25:27.02
or being sold off to him
00:25:27.06\00:25:28.39
and trafficking to very popular,
00:25:28.42\00:25:30.16
extremely popular underground
prostitution industry.
00:25:30.19\00:25:34.53
And myself, I
actually read an article
00:25:34.56\00:25:36.56
dealing with one of
these big sporting events
00:25:36.60\00:25:39.80
where a women was
invited to a party
00:25:39.83\00:25:42.57
for one of these
big sporting events.
00:25:42.60\00:25:44.84
And when she got there,
00:25:44.87\00:25:47.14
there was no one
there but one guy
00:25:47.18\00:25:49.64
and he began to
kind of like talk to her,
00:25:49.68\00:25:52.51
and eventually he
forced her into prostitution.
00:25:52.55\00:25:56.35
And this was in
America, you know,
00:25:56.38\00:25:58.45
and she tells her story
how she was into a prostitution
00:25:58.49\00:26:00.92
and how it affected her,
00:26:00.96\00:26:02.99
and by God's grace she
was brought out of that.
00:26:03.02\00:26:06.56
But she wrote that,
even now that she's married,
00:26:06.59\00:26:09.00
it still has a little
effect on her relationship
00:26:09.03\00:26:11.37
with her husband.
00:26:11.40\00:26:12.73
And so, this trafficking
is going on in a America.
00:26:12.77\00:26:16.57
And there was a trafficker
that they actually caught
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and they give me a
little plea bargain to say,
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if you'll give me
of the higher people
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we'll give you a break.
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And they were asking him,
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"So how do you
take women in America
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and turn them into prostitutes?"
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And he said, "He goes
up to woman in the mall,
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and he says,
'You have nice eyes.'
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And if the woman
says, 'No, I don't,'
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or she looks down
like low self-esteem,"
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that's the
women he would target.
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And so these things
are happening in America,
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in our own malls,
because the devil knows
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that he could use
people who have low self-esteem
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and traffic them sexually.
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Yes.
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Also it's basically
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like form of modern
day slavery, you know.
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It's the worst
thing that could happen,
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you know between
humans to the human race.
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One human using another human
for their own personal gain,
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for money, and looking at
another person like an object
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like they not human.
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Like this is
just like another car,
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this is gonna help me,
this is gonna make me money,
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and this is gonna
be good for me, and so.
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And it's not just
only older people,
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the ages getting
younger and younger
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where they want to traffic boys
and girls, and exploit them,
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and expose them
to this lifestyle.
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Well, this topic
today is very, very serious.
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I once lived this lifestyle
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and I've struggled to
get out of this lifestyle.
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I had so many strongholds,
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it tore me into pieces,
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and I felt that
there was no hope.
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But there is hope.
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Jesus loves you.
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So remember to
make pure choices.
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