The following program discusses sensitive issues. 00:00:01.36\00:00:03.33 Parents are cautioned that some material 00:00:03.37\00:00:05.13 may be too candid for younger children. 00:00:05.17\00:00:07.37 Hello and welcome to Pure Choices. 00:00:39.43\00:00:41.04 I'm your host Pastor Joshua Nelson 00:00:41.07\00:00:43.17 and we have an exciting episode 00:00:43.20\00:00:45.04 for you today. 00:00:45.07\00:00:46.41 We are talking about Victory, "Victory is mine". 00:00:46.44\00:00:48.94 We're talking about how to gain victory 00:00:48.98\00:00:51.61 over the sexual addictions, 00:00:51.65\00:00:53.08 over anything you've been going to 00:00:53.11\00:00:54.45 when it comes to fornication or anything. 00:00:54.48\00:00:56.62 How to gain victory? 00:00:56.65\00:00:58.22 And this is an exciting one we wanna talk about today. 00:00:58.25\00:01:00.86 Before we get into this exiting topic, 00:01:00.89\00:01:02.62 let's just bow our heads for our prayer. 00:01:02.66\00:01:05.83 Dear heavenly Father, 00:01:05.86\00:01:07.20 we just ask and we ask you to bless us as we discuss. 00:01:07.23\00:01:10.40 We just thank you, God, for victory that we can have 00:01:10.43\00:01:12.47 and find in Jesus. 00:01:12.50\00:01:14.04 We thank you, Father. And in your name we pray. 00:01:14.07\00:01:15.97 Amen. All right. Amen. 00:01:16.00\00:01:17.67 Well, before we get into let's introduce our panel. 00:01:17.71\00:01:21.24 To my left I have Kimberly Pearson 00:01:21.28\00:01:22.94 who is the associate chaplain at Oakwood University 00:01:22.98\00:01:25.31 in Huntsville, Alabama. 00:01:25.35\00:01:26.68 Good to have her with us. 00:01:26.72\00:01:28.08 And we also have James Brandon who is also a chaplain, 00:01:28.12\00:01:30.55 chaplain of University there in Tampa, Florida, 00:01:30.59\00:01:33.32 so good to have him with us, also Dajanae Maxwell 00:01:33.36\00:01:36.69 who is an Oakwood University theology student, 00:01:36.73\00:01:39.43 happy to have her here. 00:01:39.46\00:01:40.80 And next to her is another Oakwood theology student, 00:01:40.83\00:01:44.00 Kyle Scarlett so happy that he is here with us today. 00:01:44.03\00:01:47.04 We have a great panel. 00:01:47.07\00:01:48.40 And this is the topic this is it, 00:01:48.44\00:01:51.21 talking about victory. 00:01:51.24\00:01:52.74 And lot of people who have been watching these programs 00:01:52.77\00:01:56.54 and have been wanting to make pure choices in their lives, 00:01:56.58\00:02:00.02 may still be saying "Well, it's hard, it is tough, 00:02:00.05\00:02:03.75 I've been trying but I just can't seem to get pass, 00:02:03.79\00:02:06.62 I just can't seem to stop". 00:02:06.65\00:02:08.02 You know, and, of course, we're not sitting here saying 00:02:08.06\00:02:09.39 that we have the authority 00:02:09.42\00:02:10.76 and we've attained some high level 00:02:10.79\00:02:12.13 we, of course, are still being sanctified, 00:02:12.16\00:02:14.06 still going to the process that every single day is a fight 00:02:14.10\00:02:16.73 to make pure choices. 00:02:16.77\00:02:18.10 But what kind of things can we say to people 00:02:18.13\00:02:20.14 who are trying to get victory? 00:02:20.17\00:02:21.57 We're gonna talk about that. 00:02:21.60\00:02:22.94 But the first question I wanna ask is about 00:02:22.97\00:02:24.91 our identity in Christ. 00:02:24.94\00:02:26.91 And so, the question then is, 00:02:26.94\00:02:28.51 why do many young people and in people in general, 00:02:28.54\00:02:32.35 why is it that we do not know who we are? 00:02:32.38\00:02:34.88 Let's start with that. 00:02:34.92\00:02:36.58 I think that we don't know who we are 00:02:36.62\00:02:39.42 because we allow whatever anyone says 00:02:39.45\00:02:44.03 that we are to become what we are. 00:02:44.06\00:02:47.33 We embrace people pushing different identities 00:02:47.36\00:02:50.90 upon ourselves. 00:02:50.93\00:02:52.27 Okay. 00:02:52.30\00:02:53.64 And we buy into them, you know, you have media saying that 00:02:53.67\00:02:56.07 "You are this. 00:02:56.10\00:02:57.44 You're a certain demographic 00:02:57.47\00:02:58.81 so this is how you should be." 00:02:58.84\00:03:00.94 You have, you know, parents or people around you saying, 00:03:00.98\00:03:04.31 okay, you know, for example that, you know, 00:03:04.35\00:03:07.52 when you picked up a basket ball when you're little, 00:03:07.55\00:03:09.02 "You're gonna be a basket ball player". 00:03:09.05\00:03:10.39 You know what I'm saying? 00:03:10.42\00:03:11.75 Or a different things and it's kind of like 00:03:11.79\00:03:13.25 that's in your mind and you kind of play 00:03:13.29\00:03:14.92 that thing out, kind of, subconsciously. 00:03:14.96\00:03:17.49 So I think a lot of the times that we kind of get away from 00:03:17.53\00:03:21.13 who we really are in Christ is 00:03:21.16\00:03:22.50 because we buy into the other things 00:03:22.53\00:03:25.03 that society around us tells us who we are. 00:03:25.07\00:03:28.77 I definitely agree with that. 00:03:28.80\00:03:30.14 I know one of my Oakwood sister Serena Golden 00:03:30.17\00:03:33.24 just preached a sermon this past weekend 00:03:33.27\00:03:35.21 and she brought out the point of the women 00:03:35.24\00:03:39.68 caught in adultery is identified 00:03:39.71\00:03:42.52 as the women caught in her vice. 00:03:42.55\00:03:46.22 And so many times we take one the identity 00:03:46.25\00:03:50.66 of what our vices are instead of the identity 00:03:50.69\00:03:54.53 that Christ gave her. 00:03:54.56\00:03:56.26 Because at the end of that thing 00:03:56.30\00:03:57.83 Christ called her to Himself and said "Sin no more, 00:03:57.87\00:04:02.04 so your vice no longer has the victory over you". 00:04:02.07\00:04:05.01 So it's that, it's that accepting the wrong 00:04:05.04\00:04:08.88 instead of accepting the victory 00:04:08.91\00:04:10.55 that Christ has given us. 00:04:10.58\00:04:11.91 That's so, that's so powerful, what you both said. 00:04:11.95\00:04:13.65 Because in reality you have to find 00:04:13.68\00:04:16.62 who you are in Jesus, you know. 00:04:16.65\00:04:18.09 Yeah. 00:04:18.12\00:04:19.45 I was gonna say that, you know, I think part of these 00:04:19.49\00:04:21.32 and we struggle with identity is 00:04:21.36\00:04:22.69 because our filters are broken. 00:04:22.72\00:04:24.29 You know, you know, if you go into a house, 00:04:24.33\00:04:26.80 most houses or most homes have air filters. 00:04:26.83\00:04:29.86 So that things toxins, things of that atmosphere 00:04:29.90\00:04:33.07 don't just come in through your vent, 00:04:33.10\00:04:35.24 and intake of your house, and pollute your home. 00:04:35.27\00:04:38.34 And so we have to, our filters in society are broken 00:04:38.37\00:04:42.98 so anything that comes at us there is nothing blocking 00:04:43.01\00:04:46.31 and there is nothing shifting through those images 00:04:46.35\00:04:49.45 those subconscious, you know, 00:04:49.48\00:04:52.59 types that say you should be like this, if you are, 00:04:52.62\00:04:56.12 you know, light skin and long hair, 00:04:56.16\00:04:57.93 you're beautiful, if you're dark skin 00:04:57.96\00:04:59.39 and short hair you're not. 00:04:59.43\00:05:00.80 If you come from this family, you're good. 00:05:00.83\00:05:02.56 If you go to this school, you're not. 00:05:02.60\00:05:04.00 And so we take on all those filters. 00:05:04.03\00:05:06.23 So I think a part of that we do struggle with that daily, 00:05:06.27\00:05:08.77 is because we don't have the right filters 00:05:08.80\00:05:11.21 and so we need to filter our identity through Jesus. 00:05:11.24\00:05:14.74 We've to find it in Jesus 00:05:14.78\00:05:16.11 and then allow Jesus to be that one 00:05:16.14\00:05:18.38 that's take the images and says, yes, yes, that's you, 00:05:18.41\00:05:22.42 or, no, no, that's not you, you're my daughter, 00:05:22.45\00:05:24.72 or you're my son. 00:05:24.75\00:05:27.62 So again, so let's to make that clear then, 00:05:27.66\00:05:29.36 what is or who it is Jesus say that we are, 00:05:29.39\00:05:31.46 you know, we're in Him? 00:05:31.49\00:05:33.83 We all, He says, we're His children, first off. 00:05:33.86\00:05:37.73 That we are redeemed and He draws Him, 00:05:37.77\00:05:43.37 draws us onto Himself, you know, 00:05:43.41\00:05:45.17 and He takes us as His own and we are not the sins 00:05:45.21\00:05:49.48 that we commit because He has died for our sins. 00:05:49.51\00:05:53.28 And so a lot of times what ends up happening is 00:05:53.31\00:05:56.42 that a lot of people don't know that Jesus died for their sins 00:05:56.45\00:05:59.72 and that they're not the sins that they commit, 00:05:59.75\00:06:01.96 and so they identify, like she said, 00:06:01.99\00:06:03.86 with those sins instead of knowing 00:06:03.89\00:06:06.19 that God has called them to be something different. 00:06:06.23\00:06:09.06 So I think that's where the identity thing 00:06:09.10\00:06:12.47 kind of gets confused. 00:06:12.50\00:06:13.84 Yeah. 00:06:13.87\00:06:15.20 You know what I love what you said about identity? 00:06:15.24\00:06:17.54 Because it's so true and we can learn from Jesus' example 00:06:17.57\00:06:21.31 of how God gave Him His identity 00:06:21.34\00:06:23.65 before Jesus ever went into ministry. 00:06:23.68\00:06:26.18 God told him who He was, He said, 00:06:26.21\00:06:28.18 this is my son and whom I'm well pleased. 00:06:28.22\00:06:30.75 So as He began his ministry, even though, you know, 00:06:30.79\00:06:33.62 He was attacked by, you know, His community, His home town, 00:06:33.66\00:06:38.89 you know, people in the church, people around Him 00:06:38.93\00:06:42.30 and then even His own disciples and friends, 00:06:42.33\00:06:44.57 He still know who He was. 00:06:44.60\00:06:46.67 And so the blessing is that God's tells us who we are. 00:06:46.70\00:06:50.31 I needed you in your mothers womb, 00:06:50.34\00:06:52.37 I created you from then, so you're my child, 00:06:52.41\00:06:54.81 you're my son, you're my daughter, 00:06:54.84\00:06:56.98 and so there is beauty in being able to identify 00:06:57.01\00:06:59.98 that in that way. 00:07:00.02\00:07:01.35 And then if you've messed up, if, you know, 00:07:01.38\00:07:04.09 you haven't always identify 00:07:04.12\00:07:05.92 what the identity Christ gives you, 00:07:05.95\00:07:07.89 the Bible says in Isaiah 53, 00:07:07.92\00:07:09.72 that He was bruised for our iniquity, that He was, 00:07:09.76\00:07:13.46 you know, crucified for our transgression 00:07:13.50\00:07:15.86 so then He takes on our negative identity, 00:07:15.90\00:07:19.23 nails that to the cross, 00:07:19.27\00:07:20.60 and give us a new identity in Him. 00:07:20.64\00:07:23.20 Yeah. 00:07:23.24\00:07:24.57 I think what's so cool about knowing your identity 00:07:24.61\00:07:26.78 in Christ is you don't have to prove that to anybody. 00:07:26.81\00:07:32.61 You know who you are, you know, Jesus Christ was tempted in 00:07:32.65\00:07:35.38 and Satan tried to tell him, you know, you can do this, 00:07:35.42\00:07:38.09 you can do this, and he was like, 00:07:38.12\00:07:39.45 "No, no, no, wait. 00:07:39.49\00:07:40.82 I don't have to do that because I know who I am". 00:07:40.86\00:07:42.79 So He's really free and He's liberating. 00:07:42.82\00:07:45.59 You know, people think when you are a Christian, 00:07:45.63\00:07:47.00 you know, it's so constrained and, you know, 00:07:47.03\00:07:49.16 you can't this or that. 00:07:49.20\00:07:50.53 No, no, you're free, you're liberating, 00:07:50.57\00:07:52.30 you can do whatever you wanna do. 00:07:52.33\00:07:54.07 But you choose not, you know, because you know who you are 00:07:54.10\00:07:57.47 and you know what makes your creator happy 00:07:57.51\00:07:59.91 and what make you happy subsequently. 00:07:59.94\00:08:01.28 Right. Right. 00:08:01.31\00:08:02.64 Now I do wanna go back to what it really looks like 00:08:02.68\00:08:04.01 to be in Christ. 00:08:04.05\00:08:05.38 And before that I do wanna also just wanna the question 00:08:05.41\00:08:07.35 about purpose, though. 00:08:07.38\00:08:08.72 What does, having, what is, you know, 00:08:08.75\00:08:12.39 having your identity be in Christ, 00:08:12.42\00:08:13.79 what kind of purpose that gives you now to your life? 00:08:13.82\00:08:16.09 I wanna ask Scarlett. Talk about that. 00:08:16.12\00:08:18.93 Once you realize and, I guess I'll put it this way. 00:08:18.96\00:08:21.76 Jesus like she said, got His identity for God, 00:08:21.80\00:08:24.97 and He had a sense of confidence in His identity, 00:08:25.00\00:08:30.37 not a worldly confidence that we have but a God confidence. 00:08:30.41\00:08:35.71 He knew what His mission was, what He came to do, 00:08:35.74\00:08:37.88 what He was set out to do, and so the... 00:08:37.91\00:08:40.95 What would normally, not that He was a human 00:08:40.98\00:08:43.28 because He was human but not, 00:08:43.32\00:08:45.12 but what would normally trip up someone else, 00:08:45.15\00:08:49.56 He knew His identity in God, in His father 00:08:49.59\00:08:52.16 and so He didn't have to go out and prove anything. 00:08:52.19\00:08:54.16 Okay. 00:08:54.20\00:08:55.53 He already knew what it was that He needed to do. 00:08:55.56\00:08:57.83 And so I think that word, the sense of purpose, 00:08:57.87\00:09:01.17 like she said, comes from God giving you that identity 00:09:01.20\00:09:04.47 and from that identity you understand 00:09:04.51\00:09:05.87 what your mission is, what's your purpose is, 00:09:05.91\00:09:07.24 and you set out to do that. 00:09:07.28\00:09:08.61 Amen. 00:09:08.64\00:09:09.98 And adding on purpose just, you know, 00:09:10.01\00:09:11.48 as creatures from God who created us, 00:09:11.51\00:09:13.88 we are His children our purpose is to worship Him. 00:09:13.92\00:09:15.62 You know, our purpose is here to glorify His name, you know, 00:09:15.65\00:09:18.62 and that begins to, again, 00:09:18.65\00:09:19.99 reshape the reason you do everything, 00:09:20.02\00:09:22.12 and that shapes your choices and your decisions, 00:09:22.16\00:09:25.06 and everything kind of comes out of that, 00:09:25.09\00:09:26.59 and even gives you, then God can kind of hone in 00:09:26.63\00:09:28.36 and then give you directed purpose for your specific life 00:09:28.40\00:09:30.83 and what you have to do for Him. 00:09:30.87\00:09:32.20 Exactly. 00:09:32.23\00:09:33.57 In that and once again, Christ, our ultimate example, 00:09:33.60\00:09:36.60 did that when He was speaking, when Pilate was speaking to Him 00:09:36.64\00:09:40.88 and challenging Him to show who He is and to speak on 00:09:40.91\00:09:45.31 who He was. 00:09:45.35\00:09:46.68 There was no need for Him to prove anything to anybody. 00:09:46.72\00:09:50.19 Christ said that He did not, 00:09:50.22\00:09:51.75 His life is not being taken from Him but He lay it down. 00:09:51.79\00:09:54.89 And so when Pilate was like, "If you don't, 00:09:54.92\00:09:58.19 if you don't speak to me 00:09:58.23\00:09:59.93 I have the power to crucify you". 00:09:59.96\00:10:02.06 And then Christ speaks and says, "You have no power, 00:10:02.10\00:10:05.70 unless my Father has given it to you." 00:10:05.73\00:10:07.90 So once again He is identifying that my God, 00:10:07.94\00:10:11.04 that my Father has a purpose for my life and the things 00:10:11.07\00:10:14.01 that I'm going through, no matter how painful, 00:10:14.04\00:10:16.11 no matter how hard, no matter how difficult, 00:10:16.14\00:10:18.31 physical bruises, spiritual bruises, 00:10:18.35\00:10:21.52 mental bruises, 00:10:21.55\00:10:23.49 I may have to go through those things 00:10:23.52\00:10:25.55 and it's not God that's put in the affliction on me 00:10:25.59\00:10:28.62 but Christ has a purpose do it all, 00:10:28.66\00:10:30.89 even Desire of Ages 00:10:30.93\00:10:32.26 the first chapter speaks about it. 00:10:32.29\00:10:33.90 And it first quotes that chapter Isaiah 53 00:10:33.93\00:10:38.83 and then it goes into say that, okay, so men failed 00:10:38.87\00:10:43.51 and we were first created by God 00:10:43.54\00:10:45.31 so we're His creatures, right, we're His creation. 00:10:45.34\00:10:47.84 But because of the fault, 00:10:47.88\00:10:49.21 Christ knew that was going to happen 00:10:49.24\00:10:51.35 and so since Christ came down as man 00:10:51.38\00:10:55.25 and became one with humanity, 00:10:55.28\00:10:57.05 we are now more joined together with God, 00:10:57.09\00:11:00.16 then we would have been, 00:11:00.19\00:11:01.52 if we were to just being His creations. 00:11:01.56\00:11:02.89 So I am now a Royal Priesthood, 00:11:02.92\00:11:05.59 I'm now an heir of the throne in heaven, 00:11:05.63\00:11:08.56 I am in Christ and Christ is sitting 00:11:08.60\00:11:11.43 at the right hand of God, that's my position. 00:11:11.47\00:11:13.84 Amen, and in that, also before you said that because, 00:11:13.87\00:11:16.50 you know, just God, Jesus knowing who He was, 00:11:16.54\00:11:19.74 who He is, then they refer Pilate, 00:11:19.77\00:11:21.74 knowing His purpose now. 00:11:21.78\00:11:23.38 Now He is able to have self-denial. 00:11:23.41\00:11:25.61 You know, He isn't able to deny self 00:11:25.65\00:11:26.98 because He knows that, 00:11:27.02\00:11:28.35 He knows what the end result is going to be, 00:11:28.38\00:11:30.09 and that's how it kind of ties back into our lives when we, 00:11:30.12\00:11:33.22 you know, face various temptations 00:11:33.25\00:11:35.02 or wanting to make a choice that we may feel like, 00:11:35.06\00:11:38.06 if I make this pure choice, 00:11:38.09\00:11:39.46 I'm gonna let or forgo something else that I wanna do. 00:11:39.49\00:11:42.00 Oh, look if you know who you are, 00:11:42.03\00:11:43.43 if you know you're identity, if you know where you're going, 00:11:43.47\00:11:45.30 then it's okay to do that 00:11:45.33\00:11:46.67 because you know that's your head is in Christ, 00:11:46.70\00:11:48.47 you know you have something better, 00:11:48.50\00:11:49.84 something greater that He has repaired 00:11:49.87\00:11:51.31 and then stored for you. 00:11:51.34\00:11:52.67 And so now you can live a confident, restored, 00:11:52.71\00:11:54.58 and victorious life because you have now a purpose, 00:11:54.61\00:11:57.81 you know where you're going, you know, 00:11:57.85\00:11:59.81 you don't have to be sidetracked by the thing 00:11:59.85\00:12:03.52 that our Christ is using to trip us up. 00:12:03.55\00:12:05.15 You know I like what you said. 00:12:05.19\00:12:06.76 But, you know, sometimes even if you don't know 00:12:06.79\00:12:09.06 where you're going, you know who is leading 00:12:09.09\00:12:11.83 or directing the trip. 00:12:11.86\00:12:13.19 Yes. 00:12:13.23\00:12:14.56 And so, you know, I look at my life, and I'm, 00:12:14.60\00:12:16.20 you know, associate chaplain at Oakwood University. 00:12:16.23\00:12:19.47 You know, I didn't get a degree in theology from Oakwood. 00:12:19.50\00:12:22.57 I started out as a teacher, 00:12:22.60\00:12:24.11 teaching first and second graders, 00:12:24.14\00:12:25.77 and now I'm able to minister to my college, 00:12:25.81\00:12:29.24 to these college students and minister in a way 00:12:29.28\00:12:32.11 that I never would have imagined. 00:12:32.15\00:12:33.58 But when I was a teenager, when I was, you know, 00:12:33.62\00:12:36.55 going through things and, you know, 00:12:36.58\00:12:38.42 and wrestling with making pure choices, 00:12:38.45\00:12:41.06 I never imagined that God would take me to a place 00:12:41.09\00:12:43.32 where He would be able to use the testimony 00:12:43.36\00:12:45.79 from those choices to be able to, to be able to empower 00:12:45.83\00:12:49.23 and help other young people. 00:12:49.26\00:12:50.87 And the hurt that I experienced, 00:12:50.90\00:12:52.87 the pain that I may have experienced, 00:12:52.90\00:12:55.00 those trials and tribulations all prepared me 00:12:55.04\00:12:57.94 for where I am now 00:12:57.97\00:12:59.31 and wherever else God is gonna take me. 00:12:59.34\00:13:01.64 And that is what makes things beautiful. 00:13:01.68\00:13:04.01 And the Bible says, "All things work together 00:13:04.05\00:13:05.81 for the good of them that love the Lord." 00:13:05.85\00:13:07.38 It's not just all good things it's everything, 00:13:07.42\00:13:10.62 everything you've been through, 00:13:10.65\00:13:11.99 no matter what you've been through, 00:13:12.02\00:13:13.46 even if you've been sexually impure, 00:13:13.49\00:13:15.82 even if you may have been a victim of rape, 00:13:15.86\00:13:18.19 even if you may have been 00:13:18.23\00:13:20.20 the perpetrator of some of these things. 00:13:20.23\00:13:23.63 There is a newness, a restoration in God 00:13:23.67\00:13:26.84 that will take to an expected end 00:13:26.87\00:13:29.14 which is beautiful in God's, you know, hands. 00:13:29.17\00:13:31.84 Amen, amen, 00:13:31.87\00:13:33.21 that's just awesome, so beautiful. 00:13:33.24\00:13:35.01 So someone is watching and they wanna know 00:13:35.04\00:13:38.65 what does it look like, though, you know. 00:13:38.68\00:13:40.38 I mean, how have we, you know, experiences 00:13:40.42\00:13:44.85 and what is it look like to really have a life 00:13:44.89\00:13:46.89 that has a victorious life that is hid in Christ. 00:13:46.92\00:13:50.33 What should they expect? 00:13:50.36\00:13:52.19 I mean expect hardship. 00:13:52.23\00:13:55.23 Expect wrestling with the flesh. 00:13:55.26\00:14:00.14 Expect temptation 00:14:00.17\00:14:02.64 because now you have openly chosen Christ. 00:14:02.67\00:14:07.18 So now the devil wasn't happy. He's not pleased. 00:14:07.21\00:14:10.21 So he's gonna come at you harder even before 00:14:10.25\00:14:13.58 because before when you were in your stuff, 00:14:13.62\00:14:16.45 you know, you would do it and Satan had you. 00:14:16.48\00:14:19.79 But now you are like you're identifying 00:14:19.82\00:14:22.39 that as something 00:14:22.42\00:14:23.76 that I no longer wanna take part of, 00:14:23.79\00:14:25.43 something that I no longer wanna participate in, 00:14:25.46\00:14:27.93 but I wanna live for Christ. 00:14:27.96\00:14:29.46 So when you're in the mist of temptation, 00:14:29.50\00:14:34.07 when there is people around you, 00:14:34.10\00:14:35.90 if there is just something is simple 00:14:35.94\00:14:37.37 as someone get know your nose, and you use to cuss them out, 00:14:37.41\00:14:39.84 or you use the fight or whatever it is, 00:14:39.87\00:14:42.18 you have to in your mind identify who you are. 00:14:42.21\00:14:46.21 When the queen or the prince 00:14:46.25\00:14:48.28 or the princess of country gets upset, 00:14:48.32\00:14:52.65 they can't just cuss somebody out. 00:14:52.69\00:14:54.46 You know, they can't just, you know, 00:14:54.49\00:14:56.42 just react but they may still respond. 00:14:56.46\00:15:00.06 You still have the right to respond if necessary. 00:15:00.10\00:15:03.93 But now the way that 00:15:03.97\00:15:05.30 I respond is a little bit more collected in together, 00:15:05.33\00:15:08.37 and may be you can't talk to me like that, 00:15:08.40\00:15:11.14 that's not all right because you know who you are, 00:15:11.17\00:15:13.61 or don't touch me like that, keep your hands over there, 00:15:13.64\00:15:17.58 over, you know, my sister, when something happened, 00:15:17.61\00:15:21.98 okay, I'm gonna take a breather 00:15:22.02\00:15:24.22 and then I'm gonna come back to you, 00:15:24.25\00:15:25.59 and we're gonna sit down and talk about this thing. 00:15:25.62\00:15:27.32 Because I know who I am now, 00:15:27.36\00:15:29.96 I don't have to prove it to you, 00:15:29.99\00:15:31.86 but now it's gonna be displayed by how I talk to you 00:15:31.89\00:15:35.66 and I interact with you. 00:15:35.70\00:15:37.13 I think that... 00:15:37.17\00:15:38.50 Yes, that is the aspect of it, the struggle the wrestling. 00:15:38.53\00:15:42.67 But on the flipside, it's beautiful like 00:15:42.70\00:15:45.41 it's so liberating to be hidden in Christ. 00:15:45.44\00:15:47.61 Yeah. Very true. 00:15:47.64\00:15:49.58 I mean and so many times, you know, people from the, 00:15:49.61\00:15:53.62 you say the word or people 00:15:53.65\00:15:54.98 who may not be living a Christian agenda, 00:15:55.02\00:15:57.79 you know, they say, you know what do you do, you know, 00:15:57.82\00:15:59.69 you must beautiful, you know, 00:15:59.72\00:16:01.06 sitting around reading the Bible a day, 00:16:01.09\00:16:02.42 like that's not true. 00:16:02.46\00:16:03.79 The think about it is, 00:16:03.83\00:16:05.16 they think that we're like slaves, 00:16:05.19\00:16:08.63 you know, that we're like put in a box like in a cage 00:16:08.66\00:16:12.40 like we're just, you know, 00:16:12.43\00:16:13.84 and yeah, and we have to do that in order to behold your 00:16:13.87\00:16:17.24 or taketh to heaven. 00:16:17.27\00:16:18.77 But I think about it is, you really have to look 00:16:18.81\00:16:21.84 and see what are the characteristics of a slave. 00:16:21.88\00:16:24.48 You know what I'm saying? 00:16:24.51\00:16:25.85 Like we're free so they're saying, 00:16:25.88\00:16:28.02 okay, you know, let's do this, you know, let's go to the club 00:16:28.05\00:16:30.62 or, you know, let's go over, you know, 00:16:30.65\00:16:32.29 let's go over this girl's house or whatever 00:16:32.32\00:16:33.86 and it's like before when you're not hidden in Christ 00:16:33.89\00:16:36.76 you're kind of like, okay, let's do that, 00:16:36.79\00:16:38.13 you're kind of imposture to do that. 00:16:38.16\00:16:39.49 Yeah, to go along. 00:16:39.53\00:16:40.86 But now it's kind of like you're free to not do it. 00:16:40.90\00:16:43.60 I don't have to do that. You know what I'm saying? 00:16:43.63\00:16:44.97 There's so many people to actually slave 00:16:45.00\00:16:47.04 that's Satan's plan, you know, 00:16:47.07\00:16:49.64 to keep us in slavery and to trying... 00:16:49.67\00:16:55.21 To trip us up? 00:16:55.24\00:16:56.58 Yeah, and try and make us believe that we are free. 00:16:56.61\00:16:59.51 Yeah. Yeah. 00:16:59.55\00:17:00.88 And then God is like, "No, no you're free in me" 00:17:00.92\00:17:02.62 so, I mean it's cool, like, it's fun. 00:17:02.65\00:17:07.62 You know? 00:17:07.66\00:17:08.99 Yeah, it also mean your relationships are better, 00:17:09.02\00:17:10.73 you know, across the... 00:17:10.76\00:17:12.09 I mean the life is all about relationships so, you know, 00:17:12.13\00:17:14.73 you feel more free, you have a better connection with God, 00:17:14.76\00:17:17.93 your relationships are better 00:17:17.97\00:17:19.30 they're more meaningful, you now think. 00:17:19.33\00:17:20.70 Not superficial. 00:17:20.74\00:17:22.07 Yeah, not superficial, you know, 00:17:22.10\00:17:23.91 that's such a beautiful thing, you know, to have that. 00:17:23.94\00:17:25.67 And then when you try to go and get married at one night, 00:17:25.71\00:17:27.98 you have freedom to do that, 00:17:28.01\00:17:29.41 you have freedom to really enjoy 00:17:29.44\00:17:30.81 that person get to know them without any distractions 00:17:30.85\00:17:32.65 and what not. 00:17:32.68\00:17:34.02 You know it's beautiful, beautiful. 00:17:34.05\00:17:35.52 'Cause even the purpose of going to a club 00:17:35.55\00:17:37.35 is to socialize, right? 00:17:37.39\00:17:39.39 You to get to know people and all of that but that's not, 00:17:39.42\00:17:42.72 I don't need to do that, 00:17:42.76\00:17:44.29 I don't need to put myself in the bad environment 00:17:44.33\00:17:47.30 in order to socialize, in order to speak with people, 00:17:47.33\00:17:49.76 in order to meet and greet people. 00:17:49.80\00:17:51.43 So now there is different events that, 00:17:51.47\00:17:53.54 you know, at Oakwood camp that you can go 00:17:53.57\00:17:56.54 and you can socialize with people on and off campus. 00:17:56.57\00:17:59.71 And little things like this, you know, it's more chill, 00:17:59.74\00:18:01.88 people would be laying down on the floor or on the couch, 00:18:01.91\00:18:04.31 but we'll just be talking. 00:18:04.35\00:18:05.75 Just talking about the different things 00:18:05.78\00:18:07.12 we're going through, laughing about the things 00:18:07.15\00:18:09.55 that Christ has pulled us through that 00:18:09.58\00:18:11.32 we didn't really expect to happen, like, 00:18:11.35\00:18:13.59 and there is joy, and the bonds, 00:18:13.62\00:18:16.73 the bonds are so much stronger, 00:18:16.76\00:18:19.43 through having these just kick bag conversations, 00:18:19.46\00:18:22.43 meeting people in save environments to 00:18:22.46\00:18:25.00 where I have my sister sitting next to me 00:18:25.03\00:18:27.17 or my big brother, you know, sitting across from me 00:18:27.20\00:18:30.51 and there is no going into the back room. 00:18:30.54\00:18:32.51 "Uh-uh, where you going? Come back." 00:18:32.54\00:18:34.08 And so there is, it's still fun, 00:18:34.11\00:18:36.71 but it's not I can now have fun in a safe place. 00:18:36.75\00:18:40.68 Yeah, and there is some we need to also talk about, 00:18:40.72\00:18:42.75 you know, I don't know if we have time really now 00:18:42.78\00:18:44.15 to talk about some what are some environments 00:18:44.19\00:18:46.29 that we can do these type of things 00:18:46.32\00:18:48.66 and, you know, like what are some things 00:18:48.69\00:18:50.93 that only churches can do 00:18:50.96\00:18:52.29 to kind of create these environments. 00:18:52.33\00:18:53.66 Because you're at Oakwood and Oakwood is, you know, 00:18:53.70\00:18:55.46 lot of people, lot of resources, 00:18:55.50\00:18:56.83 but someone else who may not be in a situation like that, 00:18:56.87\00:18:59.67 maybe kind of tough, you know, for them to find things to do. 00:18:59.70\00:19:01.90 So what are some things so that we could do, you know, 00:19:01.94\00:19:03.97 that are positive to keep our minds pure? 00:19:04.01\00:19:07.94 Well, I was gonna say that to, you know, 00:19:07.98\00:19:12.11 go off of what she was saying, kind of tie this together, 00:19:12.15\00:19:15.18 is that Jesus lived a exciting life. 00:19:15.22\00:19:18.45 If you think about it, He healed the sick, 00:19:18.49\00:19:20.92 He met thousands and thousands of people 00:19:20.96\00:19:22.66 and then fed them, you know, out of one, 00:19:22.69\00:19:25.33 you know, meal that was meant for person 00:19:25.36\00:19:27.30 and it's liberating. 00:19:27.33\00:19:29.80 So I wanna say that people should understand 00:19:29.83\00:19:32.93 that ministry isn't a strictning limitated... 00:19:32.97\00:19:38.21 limited better word, thing, it's open, it's free, 00:19:38.24\00:19:43.85 it's something where you just you get to travel sometimes 00:19:43.88\00:19:48.78 or you get to meet new people through it, 00:19:48.82\00:19:51.22 you get to understand other people's experiences, 00:19:51.25\00:19:53.46 and it leaves things open, you know, you just not, 00:19:53.49\00:19:58.06 it's not a closed thing. 00:19:58.09\00:20:00.36 So just reading, not a lot of people read the Bible, 00:20:00.40\00:20:04.87 but if you practically, you know, 00:20:04.90\00:20:08.50 look at Jesus' whole life, and what His mission was, 00:20:08.54\00:20:12.27 you see that everything that happened, 00:20:12.31\00:20:14.84 happened for a reason and let up to his purpose, 00:20:14.88\00:20:17.68 and not only that but it wasn't boring. 00:20:17.71\00:20:20.25 You know, He had friends He had His disciples 00:20:20.28\00:20:22.12 who were His friends for three years. 00:20:22.15\00:20:23.49 Right. 00:20:23.52\00:20:24.85 And He experienced so many different things 00:20:24.89\00:20:27.72 and along the way, people noticed 00:20:27.76\00:20:32.19 there was a difference about Him, right. 00:20:32.23\00:20:35.10 And at one point were He was like, you know, 00:20:35.13\00:20:38.63 "Peter, John, you guys get the boat just in case 00:20:38.67\00:20:41.04 we need to hop on and, you know, get off" 00:20:41.07\00:20:43.04 'cause people were following him everywhere, 00:20:43.07\00:20:44.44 you know, to the mountains tops, 00:20:44.47\00:20:46.37 down to the lower to low river or whatever 00:20:46.41\00:20:48.88 and they were going all over the place 00:20:48.91\00:20:50.25 so, I think it's just letting people know 00:20:50.28\00:20:55.08 that ministry itself is a fun thing to do. 00:20:55.12\00:20:58.69 Yeah, there was never a dull moment with Jesus, right? 00:20:58.72\00:21:00.52 Oh, yeah. 00:21:00.56\00:21:01.89 You really get all sorts of adventures 00:21:01.92\00:21:03.26 and stuff going on to Him. 00:21:03.29\00:21:04.63 He's just the demoniac, I'll think about running 00:21:04.66\00:21:05.99 towards them and stuff, 00:21:06.03\00:21:07.36 and just all different things He went to, 00:21:07.40\00:21:08.73 He went to social gatherings, you know, 00:21:08.76\00:21:10.10 He had fun, so, yeah, yeah. 00:21:10.13\00:21:11.47 And I wanna say practically, I mean, one, that's my job, 00:21:11.50\00:21:15.64 that's part of my job description 00:21:15.67\00:21:17.04 at Oakwood as chaplain, 00:21:17.07\00:21:18.41 is to plan practical things for my students to do 00:21:18.44\00:21:22.58 that can be enjoyable and so we're social creatures 00:21:22.61\00:21:26.35 so we can have social gatherings 00:21:26.38\00:21:27.98 and save spaces. 00:21:28.02\00:21:29.35 You know, you can do things, you know, 00:21:29.38\00:21:30.92 Wednesday night prayer meeting and make it a rap session. 00:21:30.95\00:21:33.72 You know, getting involved service 00:21:33.76\00:21:35.79 is such a key component of getting involved 00:21:35.82\00:21:39.09 in gaining victory. 00:21:39.13\00:21:41.36 Seeing other people, being able to interact 00:21:41.40\00:21:43.50 with other people, 00:21:43.53\00:21:44.87 being able to serve somebody else in a situation 00:21:44.90\00:21:47.80 and seeing God work transformationally 00:21:47.84\00:21:51.21 through those different situations 00:21:51.24\00:21:52.57 so join a youth group, go on a mission trip, 00:21:52.61\00:21:55.48 you know, get involved with people 00:21:55.51\00:21:57.08 who share your gifts and talent. 00:21:57.11\00:21:58.85 If you sign and somebody else signs, 00:21:58.88\00:22:00.98 form a sign language group. 00:22:01.02\00:22:02.38 If you like, you know, children get involved 00:22:02.42\00:22:04.69 with vacation Bible school. 00:22:04.72\00:22:06.22 Find ways to get involved in safe communities. 00:22:06.25\00:22:08.79 And if your church doesn't have a save community, 00:22:08.82\00:22:11.53 you create a save community, 00:22:11.56\00:22:13.23 you say "Hey, why don't we get some food together 00:22:13.26\00:22:15.46 and a bunch of us just stay after church, 00:22:15.50\00:22:17.40 may be we can watch Pure Choices, 00:22:17.43\00:22:19.43 we have a dialogue after wards about what we, you know, 00:22:19.47\00:22:22.34 what we see, our how we're feeling" 00:22:22.37\00:22:24.07 so, really God is a God of creativity in vision. 00:22:24.11\00:22:27.58 And God can give you visions 00:22:27.61\00:22:29.14 and God can put you in situations 00:22:29.18\00:22:30.85 so that you can gain victory through social settings 00:22:30.88\00:22:33.75 and adventure with Jesus and through service. 00:22:33.78\00:22:36.22 Yeah. Yeah. 00:22:36.25\00:22:37.59 I agree and there is also with Oakwood 00:22:37.62\00:22:39.35 and the different programs that are there. 00:22:39.39\00:22:42.16 You know, there is a poetry group, 00:22:42.19\00:22:44.43 there is an art group, 00:22:44.46\00:22:46.16 they're gonna start a preaching group, 00:22:46.19\00:22:49.46 there is a whole bunch of different things 00:22:49.50\00:22:51.13 that you can do 00:22:51.17\00:22:52.50 and it doesn't just have to happen 00:22:52.53\00:22:53.87 on Oakwood's campus network get to know people like 00:22:53.90\00:22:56.67 you said, that have the same interest 00:22:56.71\00:22:58.67 and it's not limited to the things that we discuss. 00:22:58.71\00:23:01.44 What is your talent, what do you love to do 00:23:01.48\00:23:03.58 and how can you use that for the Lord, 00:23:03.61\00:23:04.95 find other people that wanna do that too. 00:23:04.98\00:23:06.31 Yeah. 00:23:06.35\00:23:07.68 Yeah, I mean you got to do whatever you got to do. 00:23:07.72\00:23:09.58 And I'm just gonna speak to the viewers. 00:23:09.62\00:23:10.95 You have to do whatever you can do 00:23:10.99\00:23:12.32 to get on this path with Jesus 00:23:12.35\00:23:13.79 because this is the best decision you have to make. 00:23:13.82\00:23:16.59 Whatever you gotta, you know, like she said, 00:23:16.62\00:23:18.39 find things to do, you know, start groups or whatever, 00:23:18.43\00:23:22.50 you've got to do something right now 00:23:22.53\00:23:23.97 because this is life and death. 00:23:24.00\00:23:25.33 You know? 00:23:25.37\00:23:26.70 And so I wanna now have the panel and to discuss 00:23:26.74\00:23:28.60 and talk about, to the viewers, talk about, how do you start, 00:23:28.64\00:23:33.04 how do you begin, how do you get on that right path 00:23:33.07\00:23:35.24 to get the victory because someone may be saying, 00:23:35.28\00:23:37.71 'I just don't know what to start'? 00:23:37.75\00:23:39.71 Yeah. I'll touch on that. 00:23:39.75\00:23:42.42 Okay, go with your point before. 00:23:42.45\00:23:43.89 Yeah, yeah. Before? Yeah, that's fine. 00:23:43.92\00:23:46.02 Oh, yeah, well, I was gonna say to the point 00:23:46.05\00:23:48.89 before that every time I heard of Christ, 00:23:48.92\00:23:51.59 and how Christ exciting, how He grew, 00:23:51.63\00:23:53.53 and He grew on four points, it says at Luke 2:52 00:23:53.56\00:23:56.56 He grew in wisdom, stature, in favor with the God and man. 00:23:56.60\00:23:59.67 Amen. 00:23:59.70\00:24:01.04 So you have the intellectual growth, 00:24:01.07\00:24:03.14 you know, that you can cultivate with the group. 00:24:03.17\00:24:06.44 You can talk about things and read different things, 00:24:06.47\00:24:08.51 you have the physical. 00:24:08.54\00:24:11.18 You know, you got asking get fit together. 00:24:11.21\00:24:12.81 Hey, let's go play a game of basket ball, you know, 00:24:12.85\00:24:15.32 midnight basket ball 00:24:15.35\00:24:16.69 or even like watch a game of basket ball, 00:24:16.72\00:24:18.25 you know, I guess that's not specifically that physical 00:24:18.29\00:24:20.72 but I guess I'll go towards the social peace at the end. 00:24:20.76\00:24:23.66 So socially, you know, hang out, you know, 00:24:23.69\00:24:25.43 have a game night, just chill out, laugh. 00:24:25.46\00:24:28.30 I mean that's that laughing is just being together 00:24:28.33\00:24:31.43 with good people, good conversation, 00:24:31.47\00:24:33.50 good food, I mean. 00:24:33.54\00:24:35.24 Laughter is a good medicine. 00:24:35.27\00:24:36.60 It's good medicine, medicine for the soul, right? 00:24:36.64\00:24:39.34 And then the spiritual component. 00:24:39.37\00:24:41.08 You know, get together and grow spiritually, 00:24:41.11\00:24:42.88 and have that connection. 00:24:42.91\00:24:44.98 So I think you can grow in all those four ways 00:24:45.01\00:24:47.85 and be a complete man or women. 00:24:47.88\00:24:49.78 Okay. 00:24:49.82\00:24:51.15 To your second question, victory, man, 00:24:51.19\00:24:53.25 victory is amazing and God has promised us victory 00:24:53.29\00:24:57.33 and He sees outline how we can have victory over sin. 00:24:57.36\00:25:01.50 And I think it starts really with believing who we are. 00:25:01.53\00:25:05.50 We are righteous by faith and nothing else, 00:25:05.53\00:25:08.34 and nothing else, 00:25:08.37\00:25:09.70 we are righteous faith and faith alone. 00:25:09.74\00:25:11.47 So we don't have to worry about where we stand with the Christ 00:25:11.51\00:25:13.88 because our identity is found in Him. 00:25:13.91\00:25:15.91 So our identity is we are made righteous. 00:25:15.94\00:25:18.25 And a thing about that is, when temptation comes, 00:25:18.28\00:25:22.62 'cause that will come, you know, 00:25:22.65\00:25:23.99 how can we have victory over that thing? 00:25:24.02\00:25:25.49 Well, how I understood that victory is 00:25:25.52\00:25:27.39 whenever that temptation comes to you, 00:25:27.42\00:25:28.76 first of all, it's not a sin to have temptation 00:25:28.79\00:25:31.63 to come to you, 00:25:31.66\00:25:32.99 but endorsing in that sin will lead to you sinning 00:25:33.03\00:25:36.83 or endorsing that temptations, 00:25:36.87\00:25:38.20 excuse me, will lead to you sinning. 00:25:38.23\00:25:39.57 So when that thing comes, you say a less, you know, 00:25:39.60\00:25:41.74 you see a girl or some comes to you. 00:25:41.77\00:25:44.21 Now you have an option, but as we spoke earlier 00:25:44.24\00:25:48.08 we're free so we don't have to indulge. 00:25:48.11\00:25:50.51 So we say, "God, thank you for dying on the cross, 00:25:50.55\00:25:53.01 thank you for making me free from lust" in your mind, 00:25:53.05\00:25:55.18 and then you say, "God, give me your pure spirit, 00:25:55.22\00:25:58.75 let me change my lustful spirit for your purity, 00:25:58.79\00:26:02.66 and then receive and to say thank you, God, 00:26:02.69\00:26:04.03 for giving me that thing" and just keep moving. 00:26:04.06\00:26:07.03 And overtime when you start understand, 00:26:07.06\00:26:09.36 like, man I'm not, I'm not in chains anymore, 00:26:09.40\00:26:11.63 I don't have to do that. 00:26:11.67\00:26:13.00 Wow! You know what I'm saying? 00:26:13.03\00:26:14.37 I don't have to do that, I'm free, I'm raised by faith, 00:26:14.40\00:26:17.07 then overtime you'll get that victory 00:26:17.11\00:26:19.54 and that thing is so liberating. 00:26:19.57\00:26:20.91 When you finally have victory over sin, 00:26:20.94\00:26:22.81 you realize why you're a Christian. 00:26:22.84\00:26:24.95 Because so many people who do not have victory over sin 00:26:24.98\00:26:27.72 and they go over the same thing over, and over, and over again 00:26:27.75\00:26:30.39 anything some how, 00:26:30.42\00:26:31.75 some way I'm just gonna be in this and I guess, you know, 00:26:31.79\00:26:34.52 because I'm a Christian I'm gonna be saved or whatever. 00:26:34.56\00:26:36.83 No, no, no God has given us tools 00:26:36.86\00:26:38.73 so that we can have victory 00:26:38.76\00:26:40.56 and He wants us to have victory, 00:26:40.60\00:26:41.93 He wants us to indulge in that freedom that He gives us. 00:26:41.96\00:26:43.80 Wow, that's serious. I love that I love that. 00:26:43.83\00:26:46.53 Kimberly, real quick talk to us 00:26:46.57\00:26:47.90 through those that were been abused 00:26:47.94\00:26:49.27 and those who are trying to start. 00:26:49.30\00:26:50.64 Well, I just wanna talk directly to our viewers, 00:26:50.67\00:26:54.64 and I wanna talk directly 00:26:54.68\00:26:56.01 anybody who has been a victim of abuse, 00:26:56.04\00:26:59.25 rape, molestation, incest 00:26:59.28\00:27:02.15 or any other type of sexual issue. 00:27:02.18\00:27:06.76 I want to let you know that, you can have victory in Jesus 00:27:06.79\00:27:10.76 that no matter what has been done to you 00:27:10.79\00:27:14.23 or no matter what you have done 00:27:14.26\00:27:16.77 that God can give you a new heart of clean spirit, 00:27:16.80\00:27:20.34 and God restores not just halfway but totally. 00:27:20.37\00:27:24.27 So if that is you, please reach out to someone 00:27:24.31\00:27:27.21 who can assist you, a counselor, a friend, 00:27:27.24\00:27:29.38 a parent, a Church member, seek help 00:27:29.41\00:27:32.45 and then go to God with everything letting Him know 00:27:32.48\00:27:35.88 what you've been through and knowing that God 00:27:35.92\00:27:38.22 can clean you up and make you right again. 00:27:38.25\00:27:40.42 Amen, that's how we end it. 00:27:40.46\00:27:42.92 Romans 8: 37 in all of these things 00:27:42.96\00:27:44.79 we're more than conquerors. 00:27:44.83\00:27:46.63 Amen. Yes. 00:27:46.66\00:27:48.00 Amen, through Jesus Christ and so we can have victory, 00:27:48.03\00:27:50.57 start on that path, see what God is gonna do in your life 00:27:50.60\00:27:53.40 because you have victory in Christ. 00:27:53.44\00:27:55.07 Make pure choices. God bless. 00:27:55.10\00:27:57.11