We're talking about recovery.
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Isn't that what the
Christian walk is all about?
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It's all about
recovery and renewal and revival
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and refreshment in God.
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And probably one of the
nearest stories of recovery
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in the Bible is
the story of Peter.
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Remember when Peter--
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what fabulous feat did Peter do
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that nobody else had done.
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He walked on water, didn't he?
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He walked on water.
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Wouldn't you
love to walk on water?
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What a miracle?
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Well, if you remember the story,
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it's in Matthew Chapter 14.
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They went on the
boat, Jesus sent them away
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and they went off by
themselves on this boat
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and what happened to the winds?
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They became
contrary the Bible says
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and all they were in so trouble
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and they needed Jesus.
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And Jesus came to them.
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But did he come in the
way that they expected? No.
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When they saw Jesus
walking on the water,
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what did they say?
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It's a ghost! It's a ghost!
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And you know it makes
me think of us sometimes,
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it makes me think of myself,
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sometimes we'll
ask the Lord for help.
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We'll say, Lord, I'm in trouble.
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My brain is dull and weary,
I feel depressed everyday,
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I don't have energy,
please help me, Lord.
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And the Lord comes.
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He sends somebody to you.
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That says you know
brother, you know sister,
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lifestyle has a
lot to do with the way
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you're feeling right now.
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It's a ghost! Get out of here!
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I'm asking for Jesus, not you.
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Jesus comes to us in ways that
we don't expect, doesn't he?
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We have to be
listening to his voice
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in every quarter
and in every season
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to see what He
has to say for us.
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Sometimes He uses
people, circumstances,
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the word of
God, the Holy Spirit,
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lots of different ways.
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The worst way that
I--I dislike learning.
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The worst way to learn
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is to be pulled
through a keyhole
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and the Lord will
do this if He has to.
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Because He loves us
and He wants to bless us.
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But the interesting
thing about the story,
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I've meditated on it
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because my husband
does a wonderful sermon
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on this story and
he shared some points
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that I'm gonna share with you
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this morning as we get started.
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Peter finally
recognized that it was Jesus,
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and what did he say?
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Ask me to come
to you, if it's you.
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And so what did Peter do?
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He jumped out of
that boat on to the water
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and he saw the Lord
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and he started
walking toward Him, didn't he?
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And then he saw that
the waves were contrary
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and the billows were high
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and he took his eyes off
Jesus, and what happened?
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He started to--
He started to sink.
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And what did he cry out?
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Lord, save me! Lord, save me!
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And what did Jesus do?
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Swallow a few more
gobs of salt water,
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Peter, then I'll get you.
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Don't we do that
with each other sometimes?
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That serves him right.
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Peter starts to sink.
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And what did
Jesus do right away?
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He reaches down
and He pulls him up,
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He pulls him up.
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Now this is the
amazing thing about the story.
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The rescue is more dramatic
than the initial miracle
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because now Jesus
is holding Himself up
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and Peter on that water.
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And He says the most
unusual thing to Peter,
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what does He say?
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He says, "O
thou of little faith,
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why did you doubt?
Why did you doubt?"
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That's an amazing statement
when you think about it.
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Where were the
other 11 disciples?
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They were in the boat rowing.
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Peter was out walking on water.
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What a really
unusual kind of thing to say
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to someone that had just
manifested so much faith.
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And here's what I
think the reason is.
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Jesus says, "I am
the Alpha and the Omega,
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I am the beginning and the end,
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I am the author and the
finisher of your faith."
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Sometimes it's
not just the starting
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that's important,
it's the finishing.
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Isn't that the
most important thing?
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Oh, we have a lot
of people starting.
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We have a lot of
people starting diets.
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Fifty four percent of Americans
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at any given
minute are on their diets,
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starting it is nothing.
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But finishing and
staying the course
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that's what the Lord wants,
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that's what the
Lord was telling.
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Peter, He says hold fast.
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It says in Revelation, hold fast
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to that which you have
lest any man take your crown.
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He that endures to
the end shall be saved.
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And the Bible says
if you start to plow,
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any man that sets
his hand to the plow
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and turns back, My soul
will have no pleasure in him.
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The lesson for you
and the lesson for me
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is that no matter what it takes,
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no matter how many
times we fall on our face,
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no matter how many
times the Lord has to show us
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that we're more
shallow and are loyalty to him
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than we thought we were
no matter what it takes,
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Lord get me to the cross.
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Get me to the cross.
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Make me faithful. Sanctify me.
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Make me a terror to evil,
not to people, but to evil.
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I wanna be in your camp,
Lord, and whatever it takes,
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help me to
continue to recover myself
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until the mistakes get fewer
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and less and less and less
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and I'll learn how to
walk this walk with you.
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Isn't that the
most important thing?
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Never give up. Never give up.
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That to me is the message
of Peter's miraculous recovery.
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Today we're
talking about recovery
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from that addicted brain
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and the healing of
traumatic memories,
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healing the broken brain.
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What are the keys to
life and to recovery?
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These are the ones that
I'm gonna go over with you
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that I just feel are
important in my own life.
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I haven't done
major scientific studies
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or Bible exegesis on this,
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but these are the practical
steps that I have found.
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If we take them seriously
and lodge them in our hearts,
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it will not only
remap your brain everyday,
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but it will also
put you on the road
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to success in your
Christian life. Amen.
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And you'll see the
power of God that we get it.
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Well, the first
key to recovery is
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give control to God.
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That's the most important thing.
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You know, we may be
studying our Bibles everyday,
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but if we're not willing
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to give control
of our lives to God,
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it's fruitless, it's fruitless.
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We've got to--the
acronym that I uses, act.
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Number one, your
attitude is everything.
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Do I have a
surrendered attitude?
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Do you have a
surrendered attitude?
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In every area of your life,
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that's really all that matters.
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Someone started to argue with me
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about music
styles not too long ago
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and I just didn't
feel like going round
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and round and round,
and I looked at that person
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and I said, do you have a
passion for the will of God?
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Is it your highest
passion in life to have His will
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in your life in this
area and in every area?
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And that person stopped
and said, who can be saved.
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The Bible says, if the
righteous scarcely be saved,
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what is the end gonna be of them
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that obey not the gospel?
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Friends, our
attitude is everything.
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He knows if we're surrendered
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and He's in the
business of showing you
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whether you're
surrendered or not.
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We've got to
give control to God.
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We've got to
give Him our attitude
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and then see is for change.
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You've got to be
willing to change,
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wherever He wants you to change.
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The other day I was
feeling kind of down,
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I couldn't figure out why.
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I've decided to
talk to the Lord.
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You know, sometimes
we talk to our friends
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and we talk to
this or that person,
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but they won't always give you--
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they can't reach your
heart, you know what I'm saying.
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There're some things
we need to take to God
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and it really
startled me when the Lord said,
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you're holding a
grudge. I get so insult.
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Ah! No! Not me! Never! Yeah.
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I said Lord Jesus,
help me to understand today
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how merciful you are to me,
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so that I could-- and
give me an opportunity
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to show mercy to
that person and He did.
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It was so
wonderful and it was gone
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and guess what? I cheered up.
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We got to give control to God.
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We've got to be
willing to change.
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And it maybe
painful in the moment,
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but He says you
have fullness and joy
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and the other
thing the T for act
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is you got to
spend time with Him.
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It takes more than quality time
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to have a walk
with God. It takes what?
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Any latchkey kids
here? It takes quantity.
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You've got to
spend time with God.
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Prayer, Bible
study, serious stuff.
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I went backwards.
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The Bible says to
submit ourselves to God.
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In Isaiah it says,
I've seen his ways.
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This is the
promise when you do it.
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He says I see you in my book,
I see this man was born here,
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I see-- A man came
up to me yesterday,
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he said by the time
I was five years old,
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I was in 20 different
homes as a foster child.
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Do you think the Lord
sees that man's brokenness?
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Do you think he knows
what path to lead that him on,
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to put the nurturing people
in his life that he needs,
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and also to put
the irritating ones
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in his life to toughen him up?
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The Bible says, I
have seen his ways,
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I will heal him, I
will lead him also,
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and restore, what? Comforts.
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The Bible said,
"blessed are they that mourned,
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for they'll be
comforted, there's a save,
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there's a balm in
Gilead when we're sinned,
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when we're wrong.
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And sometimes we sin
because we've been toxin
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because others have injured us.
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But friends, it's still sin.
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People that have
been abused as children,
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what do they grow
up and do? They abuse.
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It's traumatic, it's terrible,
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it's tragic,
it's sin, it's unfair,
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but they're doing it too.
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And God can heal it all.
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He says, I came to show
mercy to a thousand generations.
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He came to break the
cycle of sin in your family
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and he wants to start with you.
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I like what Dick O'Ffill
says, we get onto our knees,
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O' Lord, change my husband,
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change my
husband, and fix my car.
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But Lord-- what we've to say is,
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Lord, change me. Change me.
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This is from
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the Journal of the
American Geriatric Society.
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It's amazing how
these secular journals
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are validating the word of God.
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It says we
conclude that faith in God,
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prayer, and religious attitudes.
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What's a religious attitude?
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Somebody tell me?
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Well, they have
measured it, friends.
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And they have defined it for us.
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They say personal devotion.
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Devotional attitude
is the religious attitude
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in the article, are
strongly associated with what?
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Life satisfaction,
that's because we're so selfish
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and we've got to let the Lord
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break up selfishness
in our hearts and lives.
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Second key, pray for hatred,
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this is a
winner, this is a winner.
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One lady had an
addiction, a food addiction
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and it was so serious
and she just loved it.
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Even though she
knew it was terrible
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and against God's will.
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And she knew it was bad for her
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and she knew it was keeping her
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from being able to
minister to her family
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in an unselfish way.
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And so she said, Lord,
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I am so stuck on this thing
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that I just don't
even know what to do.
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So I'm asking you to take it,
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'cause I can't
even give it to you.
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Just take it! Please!
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He took it, He took it.
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Many times I have
asked the Lord for a hatred,
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for the things that
I know displease Him.
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We're told in Spirit of Prophecy
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don't even wait for conviction
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if you see the light, follow it.
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That's an amazing thing.
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We'll act by principle, not
by feeling an impulse. Amen.
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The Bible says,
that when we come to Him
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our conscience are
seared with a hot iron.
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We don't-- we can't--
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our consciences are
not fully trustworthy.
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They have to be filtered
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through the word of God. Right?
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Not that I don't
listen to my conscience,
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but when I have a
conviction or a feeling
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I take it to the word of
God to see if it's valid,
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to see if it's valid.
We can pray for hatred.
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The first promise
is I will put enmity.
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He promised I will do it.
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You know, I hated being bulimic.
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I asked the Lord to
put hatred in my heart,
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for He did, it was instant.
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I didn't hate
spending my paycheck
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the way I wanted
to, I didn't hate that.
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I like spending my
paycheck the way I wanted to.
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He says I will cleanse
you from all our filthiness
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and from all your
idols I will cleanse you.
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What a promise, what a promise.
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This is from drug,
alcohol dependency.
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It's a medical journal.
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Personal
religiosity is positively
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correlated with, what?
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Rejection of substance
use even after controlling
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for individual
differences in personality.
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So this religion
thing works, it works.
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We've got to purge the temple.
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You know, every smoker
knows when you quit smoking,
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what do you have to do?
Get rid of the cigarettes.
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Do you think I
kept the Hoggin Dawgs
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in my
refrigerator when I gave up
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my ice cream
addiction? It had to go.
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There were things
that just had to go.
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We have to
cleanse our sanctuary.
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Our home should be
representative of heaven.
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Shouldn't it be?
It's a sanctuary.
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It's a safe place from evil.
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Isn't that what
the home should be?
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Isn't that our goal
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to have our homes to be a pure
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where angels
can rest their feet?
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Imagine the poor
angels on Sabbath,
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they're guarding everybody,
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they have to
listen to rock music,
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they have to listen to rap,
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they have to go
the baseball games,
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they have to go
all over the place.
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Shouldn't they be able to
enjoy your home on Sabbath
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and on every
other day of the week?
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The Bible says don't bring
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an abomination into your house.
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Is what I bring into
my home acceptable to God?
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I've heard parents
say, well, it's his room.
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You know, it's Johnny's room,
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so he just has to do
his evil stuff in there.
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Oh, does he pay
the mortgage payment?
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Is he the breadwinner?
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Is that the way a
Christian home should operate?
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The Bible says,
that in the last days,
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women will be their oppressors
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and children
will rule over them.
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That is not God's will.
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The Lord said of
Abraham, I know him
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that he'll command
his household after him.
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Now does that
mean with an iron fist,
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absolutely not, but
are their regulations
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and rules and hey, I'm sorry
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this is just the way it is.
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Children respect you when
you live out your convictions.
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They respect you
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even if they're
irritated for the moment.
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And it says let's do
become a curse thing like it,
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we become like that
which we take into ourselves
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and into our home.
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We are commanded to detest it.
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It says of Jesus and Hebrew's,
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"thou has loved righteousness
and hated iniquity."
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It is time to start
hating some things, friends.
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Not people but they are--
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we need to hate the
things that God hates.
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Neutrality is not
safe. This is a war.
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For it is a cursed thing.
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Now number four, we
need to get support.
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Don't be in island.
Don't stay by yourself.
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Find somebody
that will understand,
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that you can pray
with and share with,
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that can call
you to accountability
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with this thing then
you have struggled with.
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The Bible says that God
sets the solitary in families.
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Let me ask you this.
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Have you created an atmosphere
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around yourself in your church
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so that anyone feels
like they can come to you
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with a problem and that
they will get sound counsel,
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but warm support
and love and friendship?
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And that means more
than just walking around
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with a smile on your face.
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It means
inquiring after the will,
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welfare of fellow believers.
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It means when you see something
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that is out of
harmony with God's will
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that you go home and you pray
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for that brother or
sister or that family
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and you pray for God
to set up a circumstance
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so that you can minister truth.
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Is that hatred or is that love?
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We've got to wait for
God's timing, don't we?
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Prayer is so powerful.
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It says He brings out those
which are bound with chains.
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Healthy social ties are
linked with longer life,
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improved mental health,
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less sickness,
and less depression.
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You know, we did
some health meetings
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at a church when Sabbath,
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we had a revival
meeting for the church
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and the lady that invited
us to come, organized it,
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when it came time for
potluck we were standing in line
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and she walked by us
and she said good luck,
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gotten anything to
eat here, I'm going home.
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And she left us there and
Dane and I looked to one another
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and said some
missionary, some missionary.
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There was another
church in California
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we've heard to and
it was really funny
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because the group that
was most health conscious
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was complaining to us
that their food wasn't--
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they weren't accepted--
they weren't accepted.
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Well, they were taking all
their food into another room
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so that it wouldn't
mix with anybody else's
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so that they
wouldn't make a mistake
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and get something
that might have cottage
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cheese in it or something.
You know, what I'm saying?
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So this, this is
not a family atmosphere.
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If we want to be missionaries
we have to be willing
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to mingle with
people, blend with people,
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bring lots of
wonderful things to share. Amen.
00:20:16.43\00:20:22.26
And we want to
create a family environment
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and one that is
not so full of strive,
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and division, and criticism,
00:20:27.57\00:20:28.88
and judging people over
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whether they eat one
thing or not eat another thing.
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I know some
pretty mean vegetarians
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and I know some
mean meat eaters too.
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I mean, we're all pretty mean
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without the Lord in our lives.
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So we need to let the
Lord change our attitude
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and when our attitude is right,
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He'll help us make the changes
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that we're supposed to
make on His timetable. Amen.
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They're more optimistic.
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People with strong family ties
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and with social
ties are more optimistic
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and God wants us to
have a spirit of optimism.
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The Bible says of
Jesus, He would not fail
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or be discouraged until
we said judgment in the land.
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And this is when
we're gonna read together.
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No more kitty parties.
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Now everybody didn't read that,
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because there's
lot of people in here.
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Let's do it again,
no more kitty parties,
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you know why?
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Because nobody will attend,
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you'll be there all by yourself.
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Those kitty parties mess up,
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Oh, they mess up
your brain chemistry
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something, something bad.
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People that tend to ruminate,
00:21:33.59\00:21:35.58
it is the studies
that have come out
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show that women tend
to ruminate more than men
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and when there's an only son
00:21:41.10\00:21:43.58
or first born son in the
home he tends to be a ruminator,
00:21:43.59\00:21:46.85
they tend to mull
over with problems
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over and over and over and over
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and then they'll
call their friends
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and talk about it
with their friends,
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did you hear the
tone of voice that she had
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when she said this to me
00:21:55.07\00:21:56.06
and I just really
don't understand it
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and I just, you know, and then--
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maybe I could have
said something different
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and then you
know, we go on and on
00:22:01.48\00:22:03.37
and think and
re-live it, re-live it,
00:22:03.38\00:22:05.04
re-live it, it's ruminating.
00:22:05.05\00:22:07.07
And then we start to feel bad
00:22:07.08\00:22:08.82
and then we start
to feel sorry for us.
00:22:08.83\00:22:10.15
Well, if they just
only appreciated me,
00:22:10.16\00:22:11.83
they just really
don't appreciate my--
00:22:11.84\00:22:14.21
my heart was in the
right place when I said--
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and then we go on and
on and on and on and on.
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We don't let it go and
what happens in the brain,
00:22:18.92\00:22:22.91
the right frontal
cortex gets way overactive,
00:22:22.92\00:22:26.37
the left frontal
which is more responsible
00:22:26.38\00:22:31.25
for feelings of well
being, easy going, cheerful,
00:22:31.26\00:22:34.96
it starts to travel
down and the anxious
00:22:34.97\00:22:37.46
and the ruminating
with negative self talk
00:22:37.47\00:22:40.39
starts to go up
and up and up and up
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and brain
chemistry starts to act
00:22:42.28\00:22:44.45
on nerves synapses in the brain
00:22:44.46\00:22:46.81
and then what starts to happen?
00:22:46.82\00:22:48.83
You start to make synapses
that keep you exactly there
00:22:48.84\00:22:54.27
and you form a habit.
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Have you ever been
around somebody that
00:22:58.44\00:23:00.05
they can't open their mouth
without talking about somebody
00:23:00.06\00:23:04.03
or some negative thing?
00:23:04.04\00:23:05.99
Have you ever been
around somebody like that?
00:23:06.00\00:23:09.47
Does that mean that
we're never gonna feel sad?
00:23:09.48\00:23:11.73
Does that mean
we're never gonna have
00:23:11.74\00:23:13.00
any sorrow in our heart?
00:23:13.01\00:23:15.09
We have been sold a bill of good
00:23:15.10\00:23:16.58
by the
advertising agencies thinking
00:23:16.59\00:23:18.21
that we should
never ever feel bad
00:23:18.22\00:23:21.00
that the solution to any
kind of pain is a product
00:23:21.01\00:23:24.45
and you've got to have it now.
00:23:24.46\00:23:26.30
But we need downtime
and God gives us downtime
00:23:26.31\00:23:28.74
and things happen in
our lives that are sad
00:23:28.75\00:23:30.62
and we do have things
that we need to deal with.
00:23:30.63\00:23:32.46
Some of us
everyday we have challenges.
00:23:32.47\00:23:35.66
Sadness takes us offline,
00:23:35.67\00:23:37.62
so we can
regroup and reevaluate.
00:23:37.63\00:23:40.84
It may even cause enough pain
00:23:40.85\00:23:43.65
so that we're
motivated to change.
00:23:43.66\00:23:48.21
What does the Bible
say, I thought on my ways
00:23:48.22\00:23:51.66
and turn my feet
unto thy testimonies.
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The thing that this
society has robbed from us
00:23:54.22\00:23:56.58
more than anything
else is downtime to fake,
00:23:56.59\00:24:01.50
to examine our lives.
00:24:01.51\00:24:03.70
The Bible says,
ponder the path of thy feet
00:24:03.71\00:24:08.48
and let all thy ways be
established on the rock Jesus.
00:24:08.49\00:24:14.02
The biggest mistake
we can make right now
00:24:14.03\00:24:16.01
is to assume that what
we are doing is correct.
00:24:16.02\00:24:21.15
When we are at
days walk from the Lord,
00:24:21.16\00:24:24.39
it says I thought on my ways
00:24:24.40\00:24:26.08
and turned my feet
unto thy testimonies.
00:24:26.09\00:24:30.14
But the literature
says prolong sadness
00:24:30.15\00:24:34.02
can cause sustain
overactivity in the medulla
00:24:34.03\00:24:37.03
that is a fear center.
00:24:37.04\00:24:38.38
That's where you--
the immediate primal fear
00:24:38.39\00:24:41.34
response takesplace.
00:24:41.35\00:24:42.66
By the way that is very strongly
00:24:42.67\00:24:44.52
stimulated with
television and frontal lobe.
00:24:44.53\00:24:47.79
Remember we just
talked about that
00:24:47.80\00:24:49.04
right frontal lobe
causing neuronal, what?
00:24:49.05\00:24:52.19
Burnout in those areas either
by depleting their stores,
00:24:52.20\00:24:56.93
remember we talked about
00:24:56.94\00:24:58.12
when you've over-flooding
of certain neuron hormones,
00:24:58.13\00:25:01.45
it causes free radical
damage to the very cells
00:25:01.46\00:25:04.35
that produce those hormones
and it destroys the receptors.
00:25:04.36\00:25:07.85
So now you get hooked on this--
00:25:07.86\00:25:10.21
you can get
hooked on negative things
00:25:10.22\00:25:13.53
either by depleting their
stores of neurotransmitters
00:25:13.54\00:25:16.28
or crippling the
ability of the chemicals
00:25:16.29\00:25:18.82
to transmit messages
and you wind up depressed.
00:25:18.83\00:25:25.62
The Bible says,
we're to contemplate
00:25:25.63\00:25:27.10
that which is
true, honest, just,
00:25:27.11\00:25:30.87
pure, pleasant, positive,
virtuous, and praiseworthy.
00:25:30.88\00:25:35.24
And by the way, if
you read through the Bible
00:25:35.25\00:25:38.92
especially through the Psalms
00:25:38.93\00:25:40.27
that have some Prophecy in them,
00:25:40.28\00:25:41.98
you'll see that one
of the end time things
00:25:41.99\00:25:43.88
that God's
agonizing saints are doing
00:25:43.89\00:25:45.96
is crying out for judgment.
00:25:45.97\00:25:48.06
Crying out for the
judgment of God in this world
00:25:48.07\00:25:50.71
and for Him to
correct all this evil
00:25:50.72\00:25:53.63
and for us to pull
out our hearts to Him
00:25:53.64\00:25:55.45
about the things
that were frustrating,
00:25:55.46\00:25:57.09
that is a positive thing.
00:25:57.10\00:26:00.30
This is from the
journal, Personality
00:26:00.31\00:26:01.82
and Social
Psychology, gratitude, optimism.
00:26:01.83\00:26:07.06
I mean, is this a
choice? Is it a choice?
00:26:07.07\00:26:11.93
The way things are
going in this world
00:26:11.94\00:26:13.69
if you're gonna
be cheerful, nice,
00:26:13.70\00:26:15.10
happy, optimistic and grateful,
00:26:15.11\00:26:16.88
it is a choice,
it is not a feeling.
00:26:16.89\00:26:18.93
It is a decision.
00:26:18.94\00:26:20.42
It's a completely
different part of the brain
00:26:20.43\00:26:23.73
than the lower centers,
00:26:23.74\00:26:24.93
the emotional
centers of the brain.
00:26:24.94\00:26:26.46
It is a cognitive decision.
00:26:26.47\00:26:28.72
And in this area of the brain
00:26:28.73\00:26:30.43
where it's
called executive control
00:26:30.44\00:26:32.31
where we make
those kinds of decisions,
00:26:32.32\00:26:34.35
they are dopamine receptors
00:26:34.36\00:26:36.35
and it feels good
to act from principle
00:26:36.36\00:26:38.82
and to use self control
00:26:38.83\00:26:40.42
and God strengthens
those areas of the brain
00:26:40.43\00:26:42.86
as we act on them.
00:26:42.87\00:26:45.89
Gratitude, optimism, diligence,
00:26:45.90\00:26:48.21
perseverance under stress,
00:26:48.22\00:26:51.83
you know, children
need to learn perseverance
00:26:51.84\00:26:53.68
under stress don't they?
00:26:53.69\00:26:54.84
I can't think of a
better way to teach perseverance
00:26:54.85\00:26:57.15
under stress
than teaching a child
00:26:57.16\00:26:58.56
how to clean a
bathroom properly.
00:26:58.57\00:27:01.28
How do you get
them to understand that
00:27:01.29\00:27:03.39
this is a rewarding experience?
00:27:03.40\00:27:05.80
It's good if you have
two or three bathrooms
00:27:05.81\00:27:07.61
because sometimes the experiment
00:27:07.62\00:27:08.92
has to be repeated
several times until they get it.
00:27:08.93\00:27:12.40
But it's linked to better
mental and physical health.
00:27:12.41\00:27:14.87
Childhood is the time to
teach them to delay impulse
00:27:14.88\00:27:19.41
and to help them to
control those impulses
00:27:19.42\00:27:21.59
in a graduated and careful way.
00:27:21.60\00:27:25.29
This is the one we
talked about yesterday,
00:27:25.30\00:27:26.88
voluntary smiling
actually changes brain activity,
00:27:26.89\00:27:29.88
regional brain activity.
00:27:29.89\00:27:31.06
It stops the
production of cortisol,
00:27:31.07\00:27:33.38
which does some very
serious damage in high levels
00:27:33.39\00:27:36.69
in the
hippocampal area of the brain
00:27:36.70\00:27:38.22
and that's your
memory retrieval system.
00:27:38.23\00:27:40.73
We want to avoid depressing
places and activities.
00:27:44.23\00:27:48.74
It is so easy to
gravitate to old haunts
00:27:48.75\00:27:52.75
and old nurture things.
00:27:52.76\00:27:54.38
And you know, friends,
when we tried to get comfort
00:27:54.39\00:27:56.93
when food or gambling
or sex or porn or internet
00:27:56.94\00:28:01.88
or card playing
or whatever it is,
00:28:01.89\00:28:05.72
becomes a substitute
for experiencing life
00:28:05.73\00:28:11.57
and for dealing with life,
it can result in an addiction.
00:28:11.58\00:28:16.52
Whenever we use
those things to avoid pain,
00:28:16.53\00:28:21.82
we are not getting
comfort Christ ways
00:28:21.83\00:28:24.58
and we're in great danger
of developing an addiction.
00:28:24.59\00:28:28.13
Eve sought a comfort
00:28:28.14\00:28:31.20
and a blessing outside of Christ
00:28:31.21\00:28:33.34
appointed way, didn't she?
00:28:33.35\00:28:35.13
And it ended in disaster
00:28:35.14\00:28:37.99
and when I seek
to comfort myself
00:28:38.00\00:28:39.93
outside of
Christ way, I suffered,
00:28:39.94\00:28:43.73
I suffered and it
ends only in more, what?
00:28:43.74\00:28:48.62
More need, more longing.
00:28:48.63\00:28:51.08
We eat because we feel insecure,
00:28:51.09\00:28:53.20
we need to feel loved,
00:28:53.21\00:28:55.70
we have a longing in our hearts,
00:28:55.71\00:28:57.16
we're lonely then we gain weight
00:28:57.17\00:29:00.41
and we're more lonely
and isolated than ever.
00:29:00.42\00:29:02.82
The devil is so mean.
00:29:02.83\00:29:04.09
Don't let him do
that to you anymore.
00:29:04.10\00:29:06.33
Get your comfort in Christ.
00:29:06.34\00:29:08.50
Avoid television
and reading materials
00:29:12.36\00:29:14.48
that are depressing, traumatic,
00:29:14.49\00:29:18.15
violent, immoral, or pointless.
00:29:18.16\00:29:21.55
If the brain,
00:29:24.24\00:29:25.89
this is Dr. Ratey,
our neuropsychiatrist
00:29:25.90\00:29:28.55
who wrote a users
guide to the brain.
00:29:28.56\00:29:31.27
If the brain is
busy trying to filte
00:29:31.28\00:29:33.50
uncomfortable and
frustrating noise,
00:29:33.51\00:29:36.77
worries or other concerns
00:29:36.78\00:29:38.77
there is less brain
stuff available for what?
00:29:38.78\00:29:41.85
Perceiving,
evaluating, and prognosticating.
00:29:41.86\00:29:49.52
We want to engage in activities
00:29:49.53\00:29:51.20
that are
refreshing, relaxing, helpful,
00:29:51.21\00:29:55.67
moral, and mentally stimulating.
00:29:55.68\00:30:00.16
Is there anything on that
list that you're opposed to?
00:30:00.17\00:30:04.34
And yet we think we
are gonna suffer so much
00:30:04.35\00:30:06.91
if we let God tell us what
to do when we're feeling bad.
00:30:06.92\00:30:09.93
We think we know
how to fix this thing.
00:30:09.94\00:30:12.60
And God want to
direct our physical path,
00:30:15.61\00:30:19.80
so that we can
experience regeneration
00:30:19.81\00:30:23.26
not just on the spiritual level,
00:30:23.27\00:30:25.41
but on the
physiologic, immunologic,
00:30:25.42\00:30:27.56
neurologic, and genetic level.
00:30:27.57\00:30:30.48
Change a course so that
the promise can be fulfilled
00:30:30.49\00:30:34.68
that is outlined
for us in desire of ages
00:30:34.69\00:30:37.14
that his thoughts
actually become our impulses.
00:30:37.15\00:30:40.03
Impulses are neurological,
is that good news today?
00:30:40.04\00:30:44.23
What are those
three Hebrew boys say
00:30:46.90\00:30:48.72
when king Nebuchadnezzar
said, look, you know
00:30:48.73\00:30:51.07
you need to worship me
or you'll be in the furnace.
00:30:51.08\00:30:54.91
They said we're not careful
to answer you in this matter.
00:30:54.92\00:30:58.09
If it be so our God whom
we service able to delivers,
00:30:58.10\00:31:01.04
but if not be it
known unto thee O king
00:31:01.05\00:31:03.45
that we will not bow
down and worship the idol
00:31:03.46\00:31:05.49
which thou has setup.
00:31:05.50\00:31:08.90
Neurologically, they
had a readiness pathway,
00:31:08.91\00:31:12.07
they were ready.
Why were they ready?
00:31:12.08\00:31:13.95
Because they
served Him everyday,
00:31:13.96\00:31:16.17
because they
chose His way everyday,
00:31:16.18\00:31:18.43
and they didn't even
have to think about it.
00:31:18.44\00:31:20.04
They were on automatic pilot
00:31:20.05\00:31:21.68
because when you're under stress
00:31:21.69\00:31:23.34
the only thing that's gonna
kick in is automatic pilot.
00:31:23.35\00:31:26.18
Believe me, you
won't have time to think.
00:31:26.19\00:31:28.69
We need to accept and
cultivate forgiveness,
00:31:32.37\00:31:35.55
not only forgiveness
to those who have hurt us,
00:31:35.56\00:31:39.53
but to those-- to ourselves,
00:31:39.54\00:31:41.89
for ourselves we
need to understand
00:31:41.90\00:31:43.63
and receive the
great forgiveness of God
00:31:43.64\00:31:46.81
and sometimes that's
a hardest thing to do.
00:31:46.82\00:31:49.50
We kick ourselves around
the block a million times.
00:31:49.51\00:31:56.10
And we're told in
Spirit of Prophecy
00:31:56.11\00:31:57.43
that God can do
nothing with a discouraged man.
00:31:57.44\00:32:01.34
The enemy loves that
when we're discouraged,
00:32:01.35\00:32:03.45
when we have a hard
time picking ourselves up,
00:32:03.46\00:32:05.34
when we've made a
mistake, we failed.
00:32:05.35\00:32:08.14
Say, thank you
Lord for showing me
00:32:08.15\00:32:10.10
what I really am.
00:32:10.11\00:32:11.11
Should it surprise me? No.
00:32:11.12\00:32:14.11
Why doesn't it surprise me
00:32:14.12\00:32:15.11
'cause I've an
inflated view myself.
00:32:15.12\00:32:16.97
Now you show me what I am
and now let's get started.
00:32:16.98\00:32:19.37
Let's go to work.
00:32:19.38\00:32:21.02
That's the
attitude we have to take.
00:32:21.03\00:32:24.03
And the way that I've learned
00:32:24.04\00:32:25.41
that I can forgive
others, especially others from
00:32:25.42\00:32:28.59
the past who've
done major damage,
00:32:28.60\00:32:30.41
you know, like
little kids and stuff.
00:32:30.42\00:32:34.11
When we understand
that those who are used
00:32:34.12\00:32:37.07
by the enemy are let
captive by Satan at His will,
00:32:37.08\00:32:42.00
they don't have
the power of choice
00:32:42.01\00:32:44.98
and I told one
lady on the phone,
00:32:44.99\00:32:46.21
I said man, you've
seen the devil face to face,
00:32:46.22\00:32:48.72
sit's time to
let God have His way.
00:32:48.73\00:32:52.68
It's time to let God
pay that situation back.
00:32:52.69\00:32:55.48
Let Him use you to
pay that situation back
00:32:55.49\00:32:58.49
that you had no control over.
00:32:58.50\00:33:00.67
And this woman's
life is a glory to God.
00:33:00.68\00:33:02.92
I do not know
another human being.
00:33:02.93\00:33:05.22
It's a friend of mine,
00:33:05.23\00:33:07.15
I do not know a human being
00:33:07.16\00:33:08.77
who has been
through a worse childhood
00:33:08.78\00:33:10.48
than that
child-- than that woman
00:33:10.49\00:33:11.71
and she is a God fearing saint,
00:33:11.72\00:33:14.09
she is
scatterbrain, she collect stuff,
00:33:14.10\00:33:18.39
she is so funny, she
loves the Lord so much.
00:33:18.40\00:33:21.95
You know, these
are vestiges of her,
00:33:21.96\00:33:23.48
whatever, from
when she was little,
00:33:23.49\00:33:25.58
but she is so amazing to me.
00:33:25.59\00:33:28.52
Her love for God, she is
raising her children for God
00:33:28.53\00:33:31.80
and she is an
amazing, amazing woman.
00:33:31.81\00:33:35.09
That's why we can't judge people
00:33:35.10\00:33:36.40
by what we see
because we don't know
00:33:36.41\00:33:38.35
where they've been. Amen.
00:33:38.36\00:33:41.92
So we've got to accept
and cultivate forgiveness
00:33:41.93\00:33:44.14
and when I'm
upset with somebody,
00:33:44.15\00:33:46.69
you know, it's really a
funny kind of Adventist thing,
00:33:46.70\00:33:49.32
we're never upset,
we're just concerned.
00:33:49.33\00:33:52.90
We're frustrated
and we don't understand.
00:33:55.76\00:33:58.90
But we're told
we're to go to God
00:33:58.91\00:34:01.24
and tell Him exactly
the way we see things.
00:34:01.25\00:34:04.29
He knows how we really feel.
00:34:04.30\00:34:07.95
And so we've got to stop
with all these euphemisms.
00:34:07.96\00:34:09.85
When we talk to the Lord,
00:34:09.86\00:34:10.85
say Lord, this person is
just burns me up right now
00:34:10.86\00:34:14.74
and I don't want to see them.
00:34:14.75\00:34:17.02
They have double
crossed me, done X,Y,Z.
00:34:17.03\00:34:19.43
And now, Lord, I'm coming to you
00:34:19.44\00:34:22.59
not feeling
very right about this
00:34:22.60\00:34:23.91
and I know that's wrong.
00:34:23.92\00:34:25.51
That's not a correct
response for a Christian
00:34:25.52\00:34:28.94
and so Lord before
I ever open my mouth
00:34:28.95\00:34:31.08
or go out into the
public, let's talk about this.
00:34:31.09\00:34:33.79
And what I do, if
I'm upset with someone,
00:34:33.80\00:34:35.94
if you're upset with
someone, isn't that usually
00:34:35.95\00:34:37.63
because they've done you wrong?
00:34:37.64\00:34:39.57
I mean most of the times.
00:34:39.58\00:34:40.57
Some people
they're just angry people,
00:34:40.58\00:34:42.00
they're always picking fights
00:34:42.01\00:34:43.08
and they need to
come to the cross
00:34:43.09\00:34:45.45
and let Jesus slay
that spirit of anger.
00:34:45.46\00:34:47.95
But some people--you know,
if somebody is done you nasty,
00:34:47.96\00:34:53.07
what do you do?
00:34:53.08\00:34:54.11
I'll tell you what I
do, it's very simple.
00:34:54.12\00:34:56.72
I like to-- I
like to distill things
00:34:56.73\00:35:02.24
down to the
simplest factor for myself.
00:35:02.25\00:35:04.54
I ask the Lord to
turn my anger into pity.
00:35:04.55\00:35:09.95
Now that works for me, it works.
00:35:09.96\00:35:12.83
Because then He
helps me to understand
00:35:12.84\00:35:15.73
and feel really sorry
because what He'll do,
00:35:15.74\00:35:18.25
is he'll pull
them through a keyhole,
00:35:18.26\00:35:20.60
to help them to
see what they're doing
00:35:20.61\00:35:23.08
and then when you begin
to really read the Bible
00:35:23.09\00:35:25.17
and really understand
how if they don't repent
00:35:25.18\00:35:27.91
and change of
this type of pattern,
00:35:27.92\00:35:30.02
then it's gonna
be dreadful, why?
00:35:30.03\00:35:33.32
Then we can be compassionated
and also watch ourselves.
00:35:33.33\00:35:35.85
The Bible says,
restore such a one
00:35:35.86\00:35:38.39
in meekness
considering yourself,
00:35:38.40\00:35:41.13
lest thou also be
what? Tempted and taken.
00:35:41.14\00:35:46.39
So you've got to cultivate this.
00:35:46.40\00:35:47.81
These aren't
things that just okay,
00:35:47.82\00:35:49.35
the Lord sticks in
your hearts and it's there.
00:35:49.36\00:35:51.78
No, we've got to
battle for these traits.
00:35:51.79\00:35:54.89
Do you
understand what I'm saying?
00:35:54.90\00:35:56.60
You've got to
take these situations
00:35:56.61\00:35:58.61
to the altar of God and
talk to the Lord about it.
00:35:58.62\00:36:01.41
A pastor told me once he
said salvation is simple,
00:36:01.42\00:36:03.78
it's arguing with
God until he wins.
00:36:03.79\00:36:06.18
The Bible says let the
wicked forsake his way,
00:36:10.46\00:36:12.58
that's why the Bible says
00:36:12.59\00:36:13.58
cleanse your hands, ye sinners.
00:36:13.59\00:36:15.73
It says workout
your own salvation
00:36:15.74\00:36:17.23
with fear and trembling.
00:36:17.24\00:36:18.23
Oh, no now you're
getting into works.
00:36:18.24\00:36:20.04
Yes I am getting into
this because the Bible says,
00:36:20.05\00:36:23.38
it is God that
works to do and to will
00:36:23.39\00:36:26.39
and to do of his
good pleasure in you,
00:36:26.40\00:36:28.08
but friends if there's
no-- it's a strive to enter in.
00:36:28.09\00:36:31.91
I'm in a battle, how about you?
00:36:31.92\00:36:33.82
And we're half asleep,
00:36:33.83\00:36:34.98
we expect God to do everything.
00:36:34.99\00:36:36.24
Friends, on the
Day of Atonement,
00:36:36.25\00:36:37.83
we all have something to do.
00:36:37.84\00:36:40.46
There were some
very special duties
00:36:40.47\00:36:42.95
of the congregation
on the Day of Atonement.
00:36:42.96\00:36:45.80
It was a fast day on
the Day of Atonement,
00:36:45.81\00:36:48.18
359 days of the year,
everything was statistical,
00:36:48.19\00:36:51.25
on the Day of
Atonement it was different,
00:36:51.26\00:36:53.17
it was a fast day.
00:36:53.18\00:36:54.27
Appetite had to
be under the control
00:36:54.28\00:36:55.90
of the Holy Spirit.
There was no work that day.
00:36:55.91\00:36:59.69
On the Day of Atonement,
00:36:59.70\00:37:01.00
our work is second to
our relationship with God.
00:37:01.01\00:37:05.04
If you're working too hard
00:37:05.05\00:37:06.19
and you can't
spent time with God,
00:37:06.20\00:37:07.45
get a new job. Amen.
00:37:07.46\00:37:09.95
It was a holy convocation
00:37:09.96\00:37:11.42
where they'll
command into worship
00:37:11.43\00:37:12.94
and go to church in fellowship.
00:37:12.95\00:37:14.54
And the Bible says forsake not
the assembling of yourselves.
00:37:14.55\00:37:19.25
Especially as you
see that day drawing,
00:37:19.26\00:37:21.46
I hear these people say,
00:37:21.47\00:37:22.72
I don't like what's
going on in my church,
00:37:22.73\00:37:24.33
I am going home.
Oh, that's great.
00:37:24.34\00:37:29.77
What did Mark Luther say?
00:37:29.78\00:37:30.95
He said, you're no soldier
00:37:30.96\00:37:32.62
if you're not
where the battle is.
00:37:32.63\00:37:33.84
Friends, there is
a battle to fight.
00:37:33.85\00:37:36.48
It says many-- it says strive
00:37:36.49\00:37:38.97
to enter in that straight gate,
00:37:38.98\00:37:41.24
many will seek to enter
in, but they will not be able.
00:37:41.25\00:37:46.49
It says let the unrighteous man
00:37:46.50\00:37:48.89
forsake his thoughts
and return unto the Lord.
00:37:48.90\00:37:51.20
The Bible says, cast
off the works of darkness,
00:37:51.21\00:37:54.40
cease to do
evil, learn to do well,
00:37:54.41\00:37:56.31
lots of positive commands
00:37:56.32\00:37:57.79
and lots of
positive power to do it.
00:37:57.80\00:38:00.85
You know, the
worst state to be in
00:38:00.86\00:38:03.13
is the state
described at the end of time
00:38:03.14\00:38:05.03
of God's people, it
says their philosophy
00:38:05.04\00:38:07.19
is the Lord will not do
good and He will not do evil.
00:38:07.20\00:38:10.56
They don't
believe in his promises
00:38:10.57\00:38:12.15
and they don't
take His threatenings
00:38:12.16\00:38:13.24
very seriously
either, they're none.
00:38:13.25\00:38:16.13
I want to believe both. Amen.
00:38:19.28\00:38:23.58
It says He'll have mercy on us.
00:38:23.59\00:38:25.73
And He will abundantly pardon
and we need abundant pardon.
00:38:25.74\00:38:29.34
Everyone of us does.
00:38:29.35\00:38:31.50
Those who forgive
had better mental health,
00:38:31.51\00:38:33.34
stronger immune systems,
less depression and anger,
00:38:33.35\00:38:37.20
less fear and the ability
to let go of past slides.
00:38:37.21\00:38:42.13
That's from the
Natural Institute
00:38:42.14\00:38:43.70
for Health Care
Research, a secular journal.
00:38:43.71\00:38:48.03
The Bible says if you
forgive you'll be forgiven.
00:38:48.04\00:38:50.56
We need to confess our
wrongs and make them right.
00:38:50.57\00:38:52.88
I was taught this by a
pastor and I thank God for it
00:38:52.89\00:38:55.11
and he said the
minute you understand
00:38:55.12\00:38:57.62
from the Spirit of God
00:38:57.63\00:38:58.69
that you have
wronged a brother or sister
00:38:58.70\00:39:00.47
you find that
person make it right.
00:39:00.48\00:39:02.38
Number one, best option,
in person most of the time.
00:39:02.39\00:39:06.88
Number two, best
option, telephone.
00:39:06.89\00:39:09.03
Number three, letter, but
beat a path, make it right.
00:39:09.04\00:39:14.35
Don't wait for
them to do something.
00:39:14.36\00:39:16.46
You call I was
rude, there was no excuse,
00:39:16.47\00:39:19.05
I was irritated with
you, I was impatient,
00:39:19.06\00:39:21.56
I put my project first I
shouldn't have done that,
00:39:21.57\00:39:23.56
you're busy, I'm sorry.
00:39:23.57\00:39:25.25
Oh, it's so
cleansing. It feels good.
00:39:25.26\00:39:27.49
We need to do it. We
need to cultivate it.
00:39:27.50\00:39:29.55
You won't make
enemies doing that.
00:39:29.56\00:39:34.15
Confess your
faults one to another
00:39:34.16\00:39:35.66
and pray for one
another then you may be healed.
00:39:35.67\00:39:39.76
Change your associations.
00:39:39.77\00:39:45.07
The Bible says, be not deceived,
00:39:45.08\00:39:46.64
bad company corrupts, what?
00:39:46.65\00:39:50.47
Good character.
00:39:50.48\00:39:52.13
When I worked with addicts
that are getting out of jail,
00:39:52.14\00:39:55.16
that's the hardest
thing for them to do
00:39:55.17\00:39:56.66
is stay away from
the old associations.
00:39:56.67\00:39:59.40
The Bible says if you walk
with wise man, you'll be wise.
00:39:59.41\00:40:03.23
But a companion of
fools will be destroyed.
00:40:03.24\00:40:06.92
The Bible says, David
said I'm a companion of them
00:40:06.93\00:40:09.37
that fear thee and of
them that keep thy precepts.
00:40:09.38\00:40:15.19
Some of those annoying people
00:40:15.20\00:40:16.46
that seem a little
too spiritual to you,
00:40:16.47\00:40:19.51
they maybe just the
very friend you need.
00:40:19.52\00:40:23.45
There have been
people--you know,
00:40:23.46\00:40:24.62
we're so hard on
people that advocate reform
00:40:24.63\00:40:28.40
or they're so
fanatic, they're so extreme.
00:40:28.41\00:40:30.43
Oh, yes that exists,
of course that exists.
00:40:30.44\00:40:34.95
But sometimes we
think of somebody
00:40:34.96\00:40:36.96
as being extreme just
because they're doing something
00:40:36.97\00:40:38.75
better than we are.
00:40:38.76\00:40:40.94
We've got to
examine our own hearts
00:40:40.95\00:40:42.53
and even if
someone is off the wall,
00:40:42.54\00:40:45.67
if they say
something that's correct
00:40:45.68\00:40:47.73
should I not do it
just because of them,
00:40:47.74\00:40:52.22
whom I hurting, we
need to be open to light
00:40:52.23\00:40:55.49
wherever it comes from. Amen.
00:40:55.50\00:40:58.67
Interacting and I love this.
00:41:02.37\00:41:04.80
Interacting with
other intelligent,
00:41:04.81\00:41:07.61
I love the
implication of that, don't you?
00:41:07.62\00:41:10.55
Means that--
we're intelligent too.
00:41:10.56\00:41:13.50
Interacting with
other intelligent
00:41:13.51\00:41:15.53
and interesting people
is one of the best ways
00:41:15.54\00:41:18.14
to keep expanding your networks.
00:41:18.15\00:41:20.99
What kind of networks?
00:41:21.00\00:41:23.21
You brain networks and
your social networks too.
00:41:23.22\00:41:25.85
In the brain and in society,
00:41:25.86\00:41:28.53
now we need to adopt
healthy eating habits.
00:41:28.54\00:41:31.99
The brain is profoundly
affected by what you eat,
00:41:32.00\00:41:37.10
your mood, your
memory, learning and behavior.
00:41:37.11\00:41:40.58
And I want to tell you that
00:41:40.59\00:41:41.59
not only do we have
another simple solutions book
00:41:41.60\00:41:44.36
on sale that links
diet with depression,
00:41:44.37\00:41:46.94
stress, and immune function
00:41:46.95\00:41:48.34
just last night came in our
new book, "Foods for Thought."
00:41:48.35\00:41:52.68
Nutrition is linked with mood,
memory, learning and behavior
00:41:52.69\00:41:57.91
and there is a physician.
00:41:57.92\00:41:59.58
Her name is Dr.
Janice Keller Phelps,
00:41:59.59\00:42:02.37
she wrote a book
called, "The Hidden Addiction."
00:42:02.38\00:42:05.55
And she said that food addiction
00:42:05.56\00:42:07.09
especially sugar addiction
is the underlying addiction
00:42:07.10\00:42:11.96
beneath all other addictions.
00:42:11.97\00:42:14.45
She runs a drug
detox center in Seattle.
00:42:14.46\00:42:17.32
She's seen more
than 20,000 addicts.
00:42:17.33\00:42:20.30
And so it is imperative that
if we suffer from addictions
00:42:20.31\00:42:23.03
and compulsions that we start
00:42:23.04\00:42:25.09
to adopt a healing
diet, a healing diet.
00:42:25.10\00:42:28.00
Am I saying
that sugar is sinful?
00:42:28.01\00:42:31.55
We should never have sugar.
00:42:31.56\00:42:32.62
No, I'm not saying that at all.
00:42:32.63\00:42:35.73
But some substances
tend to be very addicting
00:42:35.74\00:42:38.13
in large amount. Say Amen.
00:42:38.14\00:42:39.35
Can you all agree with me?
00:42:39.36\00:42:40.52
We're on the same page together.
00:42:40.53\00:42:43.39
This is Elizabeth Summers.
00:42:43.40\00:42:45.59
She is a nutrition researcher
00:42:45.60\00:42:49.64
who wrote a book
called, "Food and Mood."
00:42:49.65\00:42:53.62
Repeated poor food choices
can set what kind of patterns.
00:42:53.63\00:42:57.64
Fundamental patterns
00:42:57.65\00:42:59.01
in the production
of brain chemicals
00:42:59.02\00:43:01.34
that regulate appetite and mood,
00:43:01.35\00:43:04.06
so that you
become a what? A victim.
00:43:04.07\00:43:06.99
There's anybody
here wanna be victim?
00:43:07.00\00:43:09.43
Do you wanna be a
victim of mood swings,
00:43:09.44\00:43:11.52
cravings, poor sleep habits,
00:43:11.53\00:43:13.85
and other
emotional problems, why?
00:43:13.86\00:43:16.64
Because of your husband. No.
00:43:16.65\00:43:18.43
Because of poor eating habits.
00:43:18.44\00:43:20.36
Sometimes we feel so nasty,
00:43:20.37\00:43:21.77
we'll try and pick the
fight just to justify it.
00:43:21.78\00:43:24.07
We want to feed
that broken brain,
00:43:27.81\00:43:29.28
plenty of vegetables,
fresh fruits and whole grains,
00:43:29.29\00:43:31.73
beans and legumes,
nuts, seeds, olive oil,
00:43:31.74\00:43:34.28
wonderful for the brain.
00:43:34.29\00:43:35.94
Plenty of water between meals.
00:43:35.95\00:43:38.25
We want to exercise
our mind and our body.
00:43:38.26\00:43:40.69
I walk, you'll see me
walking. Why am I walking?
00:43:40.70\00:43:43.59
Because I know that what it's
doing for executive function,
00:43:43.60\00:43:45.92
it lowers
nor-epinephrine levels.
00:43:45.93\00:43:47.40
I mean, I'm
thinking all this stuff,
00:43:47.41\00:43:48.78
how great it is
doing and it works.
00:43:48.79\00:43:51.70
It works even if you don't know
00:43:51.71\00:43:52.90
the names of all the stuff.
00:43:52.91\00:43:54.32
It works, it lowers anxiety,
increases executive control,
00:43:54.33\00:43:58.28
improves judgment,
00:43:58.29\00:44:00.08
and you know it gets
the body in shape too.
00:44:00.09\00:44:02.72
I'm less
interested in the body part,
00:44:02.73\00:44:04.25
is this part right here.
00:44:04.26\00:44:05.58
This is from
journal of Personality
00:44:07.82\00:44:09.23
and Social Psychology,
00:44:09.24\00:44:10.23
exercise appears to be
00:44:10.24\00:44:11.77
the most effective
mood regulating behavior.
00:44:11.78\00:44:17.01
Physical
activity initiates, what?
00:44:17.02\00:44:20.50
What's the word?
00:44:20.51\00:44:22.09
Modifications, modifications
in molecular mechanisms.
00:44:22.10\00:44:27.06
What's the molecular mechanism?
00:44:27.07\00:44:29.53
It's your genes,
enhancing the what?
00:44:29.54\00:44:34.64
Plasticity of the brain.
00:44:34.65\00:44:37.08
That means the
brains ability to perceive
00:44:37.09\00:44:39.76
and respond to
stimulate in an appropriate way
00:44:39.77\00:44:43.63
and to re-route
faulty connections.
00:44:43.64\00:44:47.72
I like that, rest
your mind and your body.
00:44:47.73\00:44:51.58
The Bible says come
apart, rest a while,
00:44:51.59\00:44:54.56
we feel so guilty
about just sitting
00:44:54.57\00:44:56.32
and doing
nothing for five minutes.
00:44:56.33\00:44:59.19
A nurse gave me
that prescription once
00:44:59.20\00:45:00.94
I was so stressed when
I first came to work here.
00:45:00.95\00:45:02.81
You know, the
day you get your job
00:45:02.82\00:45:04.31
you're behind the
schedule by about six months.
00:45:04.32\00:45:09.30
And I mean I
just caught into this
00:45:09.31\00:45:10.69
and I just went onto
this whirlwind of activity,
00:45:10.70\00:45:12.92
I could never
catch up, I was stressed,
00:45:12.93\00:45:14.62
I started to loose sleep,
I couldn't keep weight on.
00:45:14.63\00:45:17.95
And this nurse I talked to,
00:45:17.96\00:45:20.27
she said I'm
giving you a prescription.
00:45:20.28\00:45:22.41
I want you to sit
for five minutes everyday
00:45:22.42\00:45:24.22
and do absolutely nothing.
00:45:24.23\00:45:26.81
Do you know, I had
to set the microwave?
00:45:26.82\00:45:29.46
I had to set the microwave
00:45:29.47\00:45:30.58
to be able to sit
still for five minutes.
00:45:30.59\00:45:33.46
Now I can sit for
up to 20, up to 20.
00:45:33.47\00:45:36.38
A wide range of clinical
00:45:40.15\00:45:41.88
and observational data
support a general picture
00:45:41.89\00:45:44.59
that inadequate sleep
results and tiredness,
00:45:44.60\00:45:49.54
difficulties with
focused attention,
00:45:49.55\00:45:51.75
low threshold to
express negative effect
00:45:51.76\00:45:55.29
that means that
you're gonna act bad,
00:45:55.30\00:45:59.19
that's what it means.
00:45:59.20\00:46:00.35
You're gonna be
irritable and easily frustrated
00:46:00.36\00:46:03.54
and difficulty
modulating impulses and emotion.
00:46:03.55\00:46:08.19
Okay, you're
gonna have cravings.
00:46:08.20\00:46:10.52
Your thoughts, you're not
gonna be able to keep them
00:46:10.53\00:46:12.48
where they suppose to be.
00:46:12.49\00:46:14.41
You're gonna have trouble
prognosticating and evaluating.
00:46:14.42\00:46:18.03
You're gonna have
trouble with focused attention.
00:46:18.04\00:46:20.05
I tell you sleep
is the religious duty.
00:46:20.06\00:46:22.76
Bedtime is a religious duty.
00:46:22.77\00:46:26.86
We need to get on a schedule.
00:46:26.87\00:46:28.12
The benefits,
lower stress levels,
00:46:28.13\00:46:31.05
fewer cravings,
better blood sugar control,
00:46:31.06\00:46:34.34
better sleep, improve
digestion and longer life.
00:46:34.35\00:46:38.32
If that's what you want.
00:46:38.33\00:46:39.60
You know, some people don't.
00:46:39.61\00:46:41.93
But we want to
have a quality of life
00:46:41.94\00:46:43.35
so that we're actually
happy to be alive everyday.
00:46:43.36\00:46:46.61
We want to develop a
strong study and prayer life.
00:46:46.62\00:46:49.94
This is from the American
General of Critical Care,
00:46:49.95\00:46:51.92
spiritual wellbeing is the
center of a healthy lifestyle.
00:46:51.93\00:46:56.22
Friends, this is
not about health,
00:46:56.23\00:46:58.52
it's not even
about brain health,
00:46:58.53\00:47:00.24
it's about God.
00:47:00.25\00:47:02.23
It's about a
relationship with God.
00:47:02.24\00:47:03.88
It's about his dominion.
00:47:03.89\00:47:04.94
It's about recovery
from the enemies land. Amen.
00:47:04.95\00:47:09.01
It's not about
all those diseases.
00:47:09.02\00:47:12.85
That's a side benefit.
00:47:12.86\00:47:15.49
But that's not what we do it.
00:47:15.50\00:47:17.30
That's like
trusting in uncertain riches.
00:47:17.31\00:47:19.71
Bad things can happen when
you do all the right things
00:47:19.72\00:47:22.07
and it does and I've seen it.
00:47:22.08\00:47:25.06
That's not why we do this.
00:47:25.07\00:47:26.68
We do it because He's
God and we are His children
00:47:26.69\00:47:30.93
and we do what He
says and He blesses.
00:47:30.94\00:47:36.16
Religious commitment
may play a beneficial role
00:47:36.17\00:47:38.95
in preventing mental
and physical illness.
00:47:38.96\00:47:42.68
Improving how
people cope with mental
00:47:42.72\00:47:44.62
and physical illness
00:47:44.63\00:47:45.76
and facilitating
recovery from those illnesses.
00:47:45.77\00:47:48.69
The Bible says, "wherewithal
00:47:48.70\00:47:50.09
shall a young
man cleanse his way?
00:47:50.10\00:47:51.91
By taking heed,"
according to his word.
00:47:51.92\00:47:54.71
Prayer, this is the
journal of the holistic nursing,
00:47:54.72\00:47:57.65
prayer is an integral component
00:47:57.66\00:47:59.68
of the
spiritual life of mankind.
00:47:59.69\00:48:01.78
Now some of-- I've
had to ask the Lord
00:48:01.79\00:48:04.30
to teach me how to pray.
00:48:04.31\00:48:06.28
Because
sometimes, when I would go
00:48:06.29\00:48:07.66
and pray about a problem,
00:48:07.67\00:48:09.57
by the time I got through
telling God all about it.
00:48:09.58\00:48:13.08
I felt worse than when I started
00:48:13.09\00:48:14.71
because now I was
remembering everything.
00:48:14.72\00:48:17.49
You ever done that?
00:48:17.50\00:48:18.98
It's a terrible way to pray.
00:48:18.99\00:48:21.27
In Chalmers book,
Healing The Broken Brain,
00:48:21.28\00:48:23.92
he talks about effectual prayer
00:48:23.93\00:48:25.90
and it really blessed me.
00:48:25.91\00:48:27.08
It changed my prayer life.
00:48:27.09\00:48:28.90
Instead of
rehearsing agonize and trouble,
00:48:28.91\00:48:31.00
sometimes they're too painful,
00:48:31.01\00:48:32.15
you know, you just-- I
just put them in little box,
00:48:32.16\00:48:34.00
put them in a ribbon in my mind
00:48:34.01\00:48:35.52
and just give it to God.
00:48:35.53\00:48:36.57
And I say, please
take this truth from me,
00:48:36.58\00:48:37.99
because I don't want
to discuss it right now,
00:48:38.00\00:48:39.61
it's just too much.
00:48:39.62\00:48:41.80
But then, what's
the effectual prayer.
00:48:41.81\00:48:44.23
Let's say, I know, I've
to go to some kind of meeting
00:48:44.24\00:48:46.35
and feelings are gonna run high.
00:48:46.36\00:48:48.16
And how I'm gonna keep
from flipping over the table
00:48:48.17\00:48:50.43
or something and walking out
00:48:50.44\00:48:51.66
and whatever it is that
I'm gonna be tempted to do.
00:48:51.67\00:48:54.53
I start praying
an effectual prayer,
00:48:54.54\00:48:56.83
imagination is not
bad, it's an imagination
00:48:56.84\00:48:59.42
that's in the enemy's
land that is not good.
00:48:59.43\00:49:01.84
We're to go in imagination
to Calvary with Jesus, Amen.
00:49:01.85\00:49:05.42
What do we imagine?
00:49:05.43\00:49:07.12
The good things in the Bible
00:49:07.13\00:49:08.23
that we're told to meditate on
00:49:08.24\00:49:10.08
and the lives of God's people.
00:49:10.09\00:49:12.09
So I will
imagine as I'm praying.
00:49:12.10\00:49:16.23
I will remember Bible characters
00:49:16.24\00:49:18.04
who got that very same victory
00:49:18.05\00:49:19.48
and I will imagine myself
00:49:19.49\00:49:21.33
going into that
situation in that board room
00:49:21.34\00:49:23.67
or wherever it is and
handling it the way Jesus would.
00:49:23.68\00:49:27.00
And you know, what's
happening in my brain,
00:49:27.01\00:49:28.49
as I pray that way.
00:49:28.50\00:49:30.19
It's preparing a
readiness pathway,
00:49:30.20\00:49:32.89
so that when I
actually go into the situation,
00:49:32.90\00:49:35.45
neurologically
I'm ready to do it
00:49:35.46\00:49:37.66
and it becomes
easy. It becomes easy.
00:49:37.67\00:49:41.79
Because I've prepared it.
00:49:41.80\00:49:43.11
I've prepared a place in
my brain for that to happen.
00:49:43.12\00:49:46.41
I mean, you go into a meeting,
00:49:46.42\00:49:48.17
we're just steaming and stewing
00:49:48.18\00:49:50.36
and rehearsing all the trouble
00:49:50.37\00:49:51.43
and how evil these
people are and how unfair
00:49:51.44\00:49:53.52
the situation is
and then we breathe up,
00:49:53.53\00:49:55.55
the prayer before we going,
00:49:55.56\00:49:56.57
Lord help me to do
the right thing. Oh, sure.
00:49:56.58\00:50:00.01
What have you just
been rehearsing for an hour?
00:50:00.02\00:50:01.75
How you're just gonna
spill all over everybody.
00:50:01.76\00:50:05.45
No, rehearse how you're gonna
control yourself and be kind.
00:50:05.46\00:50:08.33
That's the thing to rehearse,
00:50:08.34\00:50:09.33
that changes the brain,
that's effectual prayer.
00:50:09.34\00:50:12.67
The Bible says,
this poor man cried
00:50:12.68\00:50:14.55
and the Lord
heard him and saved him
00:50:14.56\00:50:16.47
out of all his troubles.
00:50:16.48\00:50:18.04
Ratey says this,
we are not prisoners
00:50:18.05\00:50:20.47
of our genes or our environment,
00:50:20.48\00:50:22.52
poverty, alienation, drugs,
00:50:22.53\00:50:24.95
hormonal
imbalances and depression
00:50:24.96\00:50:26.61
do not dictate failure.
00:50:26.62\00:50:28.67
Wealth, acceptance,
vegetables, and exercise
00:50:28.68\00:50:31.84
do not guarantee success.
00:50:31.85\00:50:33.79
Our own free will may
be the strongest force
00:50:33.80\00:50:36.60
directing the
development of our brains
00:50:36.61\00:50:38.84
and therefore our lives.
00:50:38.85\00:50:41.38
The Bibles says, I
will walk at liberty
00:50:41.39\00:50:44.69
because I seek your way.
00:50:44.70\00:50:48.45
I want to close with
an object lesson today.
00:50:48.46\00:50:54.27
I love to go to this Smithsonian
00:50:54.28\00:50:55.68
and this is gonna be
healing our memories.
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I love to go to
this Smithsonian.
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One of my favorite places
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in the Smithsonian
is the gem collection.
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How many of you've
been to the Smithsonian
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and seen the gem
collection, there?
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Nobody. Well, if you ever
get a chance to go to Washington
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and go to this
Smithsonian institute,
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go to the museum
of natural history
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and don't miss the gems.
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I was gone one weekend
for a scientific seminar
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and I had a period
of time that was free.
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And so I went
over to the Smithsonian
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and went into my favorite spot
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because my airplane loving
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husband and son
were not with me.
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I could spend as much time as
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I wanted looking at
these rocks and gems.
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I missed them, but I was glad
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to have all the time I wanted.
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And so I began to
look at the beautiful
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array of rocks and
crystals and polished gems,
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whole display cases.
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And there was one
case in particular
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that caught my attention
and it was the Beryl stone.
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There was a huge window,
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displaying every
hue of the rainbow
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of the Beryl stone that
you can possibly imagine.
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The Emerald is a Beryl stone.
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Some of these stones
were pure, clear see through.
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They look like diamonds.
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Others were pale pink,
amber, blue, purple, grey,
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every imaginable, conceivable
color you could imagine.
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And the thing that I
noticed about these stones
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is that they have a
little tag underneath
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showing what the
molecular formula--
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what the chemical formula
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for these stones
is and Beryl stone
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is actually
beryllium aluminum silicate
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and it is a quite,
quite a long formula.
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The thing that perplexes me
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about these stones
is that even though
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everyone was so
dramatically different in color
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and hue and
transparency versus opaqueness,
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that they were
all the identical,
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same structure, the same formula
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for every one of these stones.
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And I was standing there,
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wondering how can this be?
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How can this look so different?
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This vast array of rocks
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and yet they're all
the same molecular formula
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and finally I
found a little card
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on the corner
that explained, why?
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These stones have
very slight rearrangements
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of electrons
due to imperfections
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in the mother rock
that they came from.
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These stones come
from different rocks
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and they were imperfections
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in the arrangement of
the electrons in these rocks
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and because of that
rearrangement of the electrons
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it makes the light hit
these rocks differently,
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it makes them grow differently,
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and therefore
they're dramatically
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different in the
way that they look.
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Now, what is the lesson for us?
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The imperfections that we come
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to God's church with are many.
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They are many.
Just like these rocks.
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There are very few Beryl stones
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that are pure
crystal with no color,
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most of them have color.
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We cannot escape the fact
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that the scars
of sin are with us.
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We know things that
we wish we didn't know.
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We've done things
that we wish we hadn't.
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We've had experiences
that have changed us.
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It's moved our spiritual
and physical electrons around.
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How can this
knowledge of sin be turned
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into glory and
victory and beauty
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and I'm gonna explain how.
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Memory is very plastic.
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Now what is plastic mean?
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It means malleable,
it means changeable.
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Now your memories are dependent
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on what you're
thinking and feeling right now.
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In other words, if
you're in a totally bad mood
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and I mention grandmother.
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You don't have a
grandmother spot in your brain,
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your hippocampus goes
to all the different parts
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of your brain that remember
all the different aspects
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associated with grandmother
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and pulls it
together for an impression
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or association
about grandmother.
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If you're in a bad mood,
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you're gonna think of the time
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that she made you sit
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in the hardwood
chair and it levered.
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If you're in a good mood,
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you're gonna be thinking about
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how you used to sit
on her lap, read stories,
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and breathe her lilac
perfume and eat her cookies.
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When we have traumatic memories?
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Really painful
things that we have to--
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that have changed us
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and moved our electrons around.
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The Bible says, all things
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work together for good, right?
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No, that's not
right. That is not right.
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No, there's a
big qualifier there.
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It says all things
work together for good
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to those that love God
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and are the called
according to his purpose.
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How can one think?
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You know, I
hated when people say,
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well God meant
that for your good.
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You know, here some
little kid that's been molested
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or will God let
that happen to you
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for your good. It's awful.
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You know, he didn't mean,
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he doesn't mean for
those things to happen--
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he can make it
work for your good.
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But those things, he doesn't
ordain that, that happen,
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that would be cruelty.
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He says, you come to me
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and you air that memory
out in the light of my verge.
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And you talk to me
about what happened
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in the light of my word
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and I'll help you to
understand the sin problem
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and I will help
you to understand how,
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when parents go astray
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and when they don't
watch their children,
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and when these things
happen that Satan comes in
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and I will show you my power,
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to work in spite of this evil
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that is in this world and
that has afflicted and hurt you
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then we are allowing
God to remake our memories.
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Now that memory has value.
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Because it can work for good.
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You know, the best people
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to work with
alcoholics are ex-alcoholics.
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The best people to
work with eating disorder
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people are
ex-eating disorder people.
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There is nothing
worse than a technician work
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with somebody with an
eating disorder or skinny guy,
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you know just sit
down and be quiet.
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You do not understand
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or maybe there
are some out there.
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I don't want to exaggerate,
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but what I'm saying is,
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is that God can take any
experience that we've had
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no matter how horrible
it is and put a hue on it
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and a perceptive
and a depth and a wisdom
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and give you a ministry.
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And now you will
be a terror to evil.
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You'll have something very
special that no one else has.
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So instead of being a
shame and degraded and feeling
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like you're less of a person
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and less favored
and less blessed.
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No, he has turned
that curse into a blessing.
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And that's what
we need to let him do
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with traumatic memories.
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There are those
of you here today,
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Debra, if you would slip up.
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There are those
of you here today
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who have had traumatic memories.
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And those memories
have not been healed.
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We cannot dig a
hole and bury them,
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they don't go away.
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But God can
heal, he can recover.
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