In the beginning,
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the earth was
without form and void.
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Then God said,
"Let there be light."
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And there was light.
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And God divided the
light from the darkness.
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So the evening and the
morning were the first day.
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So the evening and the
morning were the second day.
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Then God said, "Let the
waters under the heavens
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be gathered
together into one place
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and let the dry land appear.
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Let the earth bring
forth grass and herb
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and the fruit tree that yields
fruit according to its kind."
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So the evening and the
morning were the third day.
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Then God made two great lights.
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He made the stars also.
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So the evening and the
morning were the fourth day.
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Then God said,
"Let the waters abound
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with an abundance
of living creatures.
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And let birds
fly above the earth
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across the face of the
firmament of the heavens."
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So the evening and the
morning were the fifth day.
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Then God said,
"Let the earth bring
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forth living
creatures according to its kind,
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cattle and creeping
things and beast of the earth."
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Then God said, "Let us make
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man in our image
according to our likeness."
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So the evening and the
morning were the sixth day.
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And on the seventh
day, God ended His work
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which He had done and
He rested the seventh day
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from all His work
which He had done.
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Then God blessed the seventh day
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and sanctified it, because in it
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He had rested from all His work
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which God had created and made.
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And indeed it was very good.
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As we continue with
our study of the sixth day.
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God still was not
finished with His creation.
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And let us just pause
for an added word of prayer.
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Holy Father, we
ask that you'll bless
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the opening of Your word
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and the planning
of it in our hearts.
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And that you will add
your own divine energy to it,
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that we can have a
heart understanding
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of this most important subject.
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In Jesus holy
name we pray, amen.
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In Genesis the first
chapter and in verse 26 and 27,
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we read these
words, "And then God said,
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'Let Us make man in Our image,
according to Our likeness,
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and let them have dominion
over the fish of the sea,
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and over the birds of
the air, and over the cattle,
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and over all the earth
and everything creeping
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and that creeps on the earth."
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And verse 27, "And so God
created man in His own image,
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the image of God He created him,
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male and female
He created them."
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And then verse 28,
"And then God blessed them,
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and said, be
fruitful and multiply,
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fill the earth and subdue it."
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And so God commanded them.
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He formed them of
the dust of the ground
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made in His Own image
actually His own likeness.
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And so when God
created man in His own image,
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He created them with a spirit.
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He created man with a mind
and He created man with a body.
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And He created them
in His own likeness.
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Now we noticed God
also said in Genesis 2:18,
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He said, "It is not good
that man should be alone,
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I will make him a
helper comparable to him."
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And so we noticed
in this creation story,
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some people get confused
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because they read
the second chapter
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and they think it's
all kind of logical.
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It's not kind of logical.
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The Hebrew mind in the way,
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he wrote it down it gives
a bird's eye picture first
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and then it goes back
and it adds a details later.
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And God is adding the details
here in this second chapter.
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After He made these animals
and He brought them to Adam.
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And Adam looked at them
there was none like him,
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but he noticed
they all had a make.
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He didn't have one.
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And so what did
God created next?
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In Genesis 2:21,
we want to notice,
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"What did God do differently?
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This was
different than anything else
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that God had made in all
the creation story this far."
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Genesis 2,
beginning with verse 21,
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"And the Lord God caused a
deep sleep to fall on Adam,
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and he slept, and He
took one of his ribs,
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and closed up the
flesh in its place.
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And then the rib
which the Lord God had taken
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from man He made into woman,
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and He brought her to the man."
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And Adam said, 'This
is now bone of my bones
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and flesh of my flesh,
she shall be called Woman,
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because she was
taken out of Man.
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Therefore a man shall
leave his father and mother
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shall be joined to his wife,
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and they shall
become one flesh.'
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And they were both
naked, the man and his wife,
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and they were not ashamed."
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I'm gonna explain
that last verse tonight.
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So don't miss tonight.
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We're gonna talk
about that in more detail.
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And so notice that
here God took a creature
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that He had already created
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and He'd already
breathe the breath of life into.
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And now from that person,
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He takes a rib out of his side
closes it up and from that rib,
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He now forms
another creation, woman.
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And it was the final
act in God's creation.
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She was part of him.
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And the Bible simply
states for that reason,
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a man shall leave
his father and mother,
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shall cleave to his wife,
and they should become one.
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And we notice, He took the
rib and He made it into woman.
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And Adam said, "She
is bone of my bones.
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Therefore man shall
leave his father and mother
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and be joined to his wife
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and they shall
become one flesh."
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Let's take a careful look
at what God is doing here.
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Notice this scripture says,
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"In His image He
created a male and female."
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I want you to notice that God
did not create Adam and Steve.
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And He did not
create Eve and Genevieve.
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Let's get a real
straight that Creator
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created male and
female, He created them.
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And God blessed them.
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And he said, "Be
fruitful and multiply."
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It was God's
intension that this crowning act
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of His creation of man
and woman in His own image,
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they would be
co-creators with Him.
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We have to understand
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that life is not
something that man creates.
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Although we are doing
some pretty incredible things
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in laboratories in
genetic modifications,
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please notice carefully,
they're still using life.
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When Darwin wrote his book
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"The Origin of
Species" in his book
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in one of his closing chapters,
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He said, "God
breathe life into one cell."
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That's what it says.
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And Darwin
never explains origin.
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He starts with life,
because he thought well,
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life just a simple thing.
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Well, as we've already noted
this morning, it's not simple.
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In fact every cell is
more complex in New York City.
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It is so complex and there
are 75 to 100 trillion of those
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that makes up the human body
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and that is one
of the demonstrations
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that Darwin did not understand.
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And he does not treat
the subject of origins.
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In his book per say he
talks about life evolving
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after life is already there.
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Somebody has jokingly said
that the engineers got to go
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and they said, "God, we
don't think it's such a big deal
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that You made man and
woman we can do that."
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And God said,
"Alright, well, go ahead."
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And so the
scientists got together
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and they start
scraping the dirt together.
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And God said, "Now,
make your own dirt."
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You see man in His great wisdom,
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he thinks he's doing
such great awesome things,
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but they're
working with God's dirt.
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You know, they
didn't make this dirt.
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And they are
utilizing what he had.
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And so God said, "Fill
the earth and subdue it."
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I remember it was
spring morning at the campus
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of Southern
University, and I was there.
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And I was dating this girl,
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and I was sure she
was going to be my wife.
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She did not end up
being my wife personally.
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God had another plan.
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But she asked me the
question, Terry, what is love?
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And I said, well
it's a--well it's...
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You know I was a theology
student in my third year and,
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you know, you should
know a lot of these questions.
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And my girlfriend asked me
this question, what is love?
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And I said, well
it's a--well it's a...
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And I couldn't define it.
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And so I thought well, I go
to the weekly prayer speaker.
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They were having
weekly prayer at that time.
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And I gonna asked him,
so I asked him the question.
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I said, Sir, what is
love? And he said, Hmm.
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He said, that's a
very good question.
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Well, I knew that
and so we talked a while.
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We went around the
mulberry bush about three times.
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I went outside and I did know
anymore than when I went in.
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And I thought wow, what is love?
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And I began to search
the answer to that question.
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I'm gonna give you the answer
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that I've found that
made a need in my life.
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It's found in a very old book.
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I found it in the Musty Archives
of the Seminary Building.
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It was the book by the title
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"The Christian Doctrine of
Sanctification" by F.B. Marsh.
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And he was
describing the relationship
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that Adam had with
Eve and God before sin.
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And it goes like this,
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"The constant flow
of benevolent affection
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is the most delightful
of all human sensations.
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And when fixed upon an
object truly worthy of it
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and this flowing is not impeded
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or held back by any
conflicting emotions
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or counteracting influence,
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it is itself a source
of happiness inexhaustible.
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Love desires the good or honor
of its object, not its own."
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that's an incredible definition.
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What he's saying is simply this.
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In order to have love,
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you must have a beloved
an object outside itself.
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And when love is focused
on that object not itself
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and that object
is truly worthy of it
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and this flowing is not impeded
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or held back
they in a conflicting
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or counteracting influence.
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This is itself a source
of happiness inexhaustible,
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because love is always concerned
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about its object not itself.
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My wife and I had an argument
going on at our marriage
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for the last 44
years and it's simply this.
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Who loves who the most?
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Did you ever try
to out love, love?
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You know, it's a
fun thing to try to do
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that because the more you
give, the more it comes back.
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I say, well, I love my
wife and I might give her $10.
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So I give her $10. And
then she fix my favorite meal.
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And this just
goes on and on and on.
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You just can't out give love.
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And then she takes the $10
and go and buys me a shirt.
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Well that was before inflation.
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And so the more you
give then it comes back.
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And the more you give and
it's just absolutely unending.
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God created man in His own
image, in His own likeness.
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And He created them
for a relationship of love
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and God intended that you
and I have an infinite capacity
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to receive love
and to give love.
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That was the way He made man
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in His own image,
in His own likeness.
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That was God's idea.
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And that was what His
plan was for the human race.
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There're four proofs that
we were created in God's image
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and they all have to do
with the marriage relationship.
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Let's walk our
way through those.
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And so you answer these
questions in your own mind.
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I've asked these
questions, they're four of them.
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I've asked them of
all kinds of audiences.
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Number one, would
you be willing to enter
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into a lifetime
relationship with a member
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of the opposite sex if
it was on the condition
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that they could
have other lovers?
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No, don't think
so. Okay, question two.
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Would you be willing to
enter to the relationship
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with a member
of the opposite sex
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it was on the condition that
they can have a red corvette
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and spend 80 percent
of their time waxing it,
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polishing it, and driving it,
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but you wouldn't be allowed to?
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Would you like to be
married to that kind of person?
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Number three, would
you be willing to enter
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into a relationship with
a member of the opposite sex
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if he was on the condition
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that the
relationship is only at night?
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They do not want
anyone to ever know
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that they have any
connection with you.
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Would you be willing?
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And then number four,
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would you be willing to
enter into a relationship
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with a member of the opposite
sex it was on a condition
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that they never have to
keep a time-frame commitment
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and it would be
perfectly all right?
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Do you agree, we're gonna meet
for lunch at noon on Wednesday,
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you've to show up
and it's perfectly okay
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and there's no question asked?
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Would you be willing to
change that relationship?
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And they say, no, those
are limbering questions.
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Well, notice very
carefully those four questions,
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because they're the
first four of our relationship
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with God in the
Ten Commandments.
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Have no other Gods before me.
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Don't make any graven images.
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Don't take My name in vain.
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And give Me the day
that I said was Mine.
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Listen to me carefully.
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God is not willing to
enter into a relationship
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that you and I are
not willing to enter into.
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And to me, that's one
of the strongest proofs
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that we were created in
His image after His likeness,
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because we are not willing
set up for our relationship
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that He is not willing to
set up for. Is that clear now?
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Our God wants to write that law
to dear people in your heart.
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And the first part of our
love as you got to receive it,
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because you can't
give if you don't have.
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And the first act of that
love is to receive God's love
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and then you have a
love with which to impart.
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Now we notice He created
man with a spiritual nature,
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a mental nature,
and a physical body.
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Created in His
image after His likeness.
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After 6,000 years of sin,
the spiritual power is blunted,
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the image and likeness is almost
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gone as it was from Adam.
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And God is love
and at the cross,
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He demonstrated unselfish love
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that He was willing
to die for the creature.
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And if you receive that love,
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then you get
back the kind of love
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that is the only kind
of love that will make
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the marriage
relationship work the way
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that creator created it.
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We notice in the
human relationship side,
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I'd like to snowflake.
Love is not unlimited.
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It has six boundaries of love.
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That's respect,
life, procreate life,
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ownership,
truth, and contentment."
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And it works like
this. Love has six sides,
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six boundaries, six
limits, and the kind of love
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that God created will
stay within those six sides
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and those six sides are fragile.
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Each one is kept in place by
the neighbor next door to you
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and as long as they
have a self denying love
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that will stay within
the limits of those six sides
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you find they live next door to.
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Even trying to live with.
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But lawlessness and
sin respects no boundary.
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And it will go pass
that boundary and will invade
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other people's space
whether they like it or not.
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Now we notice nature, gives
a lot of attention to buds,
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and flowers, and plants.
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I wanna talk
about the role of women.
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Satan hates
women, because you see
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in Genesis 3:15, he said,
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"I will put enmity
between thy seed and Her seed,
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you will bruise his head
and he will bruise your heel."
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In that
setting, Satan recognized
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as he studied the prophecy
00:19:01.22\00:19:02.70
that one day there
would come a Redeemer
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who would set the world free.
00:19:05.42\00:19:07.56
So he waged war on men.
00:19:07.57\00:19:10.19
But, there was a moment
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that the seed of the woman,
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the child of Mary, Emanuel
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came into this world.
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And I had one
scientist tell me one time,
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he thought that God created Eve
00:19:29.61\00:19:31.37
with one egg without a nucleus.
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It could never be fertilized.
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That was passed on from
generation to generation
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and finally
when it came to Mary,
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God created a
nucleus and that one egg,
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23 chromosomes from father.
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And God's word says,
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"He will be
called the Son of God."
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Emanuel was
capable through woman
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and through no other way.
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I'm sorry guys, no
matter how hard you try
00:19:59.82\00:20:02.27
and no matter how good you are,
00:20:02.28\00:20:03.77
there's just one
thing you cannot do,
00:20:03.78\00:20:05.46
you cannot create a
baby. It can't be done.
00:20:05.47\00:20:10.46
Only a woman, the crowning
act of God's creation is capable
00:20:10.47\00:20:18.18
of performing that
service for the human race.
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And I'd like to just suggest
00:20:23.32\00:20:24.98
you ladies in this dying planet,
00:20:24.99\00:20:27.74
Satan has done
everything in his power
00:20:27.75\00:20:30.30
to degrade the
role of womanhood.
00:20:30.31\00:20:34.48
And drag it down be
anything in this world
00:20:34.49\00:20:36.62
but don't be a
mother, be anything but that.
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And I'd like to suggest
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Satan knows that
the mother is the one,
00:20:42.02\00:20:47.29
is the architect of
that next generation.
00:20:47.30\00:20:50.40
And if she's not
doing her job, who will?
00:20:50.41\00:20:54.39
And Satan has come up
00:20:54.40\00:20:55.50
with a lot of alternative
plans and none of them work.
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There's only one person
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who can really take
that child of her womb,
00:21:01.69\00:21:04.18
and nurtured and cultivated it,
00:21:04.19\00:21:06.50
that same that got their love.
00:21:06.51\00:21:09.49
But let's just
notice the role of woman.
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"The distinctive duties
of women are more sacred
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and more holy,
than those of men.
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The king on his throne
00:21:20.79\00:21:21.93
has no higher work
than has the mother."
00:21:21.94\00:21:26.27
The who? The king on his throne
00:21:26.28\00:21:27.95
has no higher
work than has a mother.
00:21:27.96\00:21:31.87
"An angel could not
ask for a higher mission,
00:21:31.88\00:21:34.36
than for doing the work that
she is doing service for God.
00:21:34.37\00:21:40.25
No other work can
equal hers in importance.
00:21:40.26\00:21:46.80
It is hers,
with the help of God,
00:21:46.81\00:21:49.66
to develop in the human
soul the likeness of the divine.
00:21:49.67\00:21:56.46
Next to God, the
mother's power for good
00:21:56.47\00:22:00.42
is the
strongest known on earth."
00:22:00.43\00:22:05.80
Is that clear to
all? And you know,
00:22:05.81\00:22:10.09
I don't think
people really believe
00:22:10.10\00:22:11.58
that it's the one
occupation in this world
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for which there's the least
systematic education given.
00:22:15.98\00:22:22.03
And it's almost like
if you had a good mother
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where you learn from your mother
00:22:24.03\00:22:25.40
and you became a mother.
00:22:25.41\00:22:26.50
But if you had a bad
mother, an irresponsible mother,
00:22:26.51\00:22:32.18
where you gonna learn this?
00:22:32.19\00:22:33.85
You know, how're you
gonna fulfill this role,
00:22:33.86\00:22:37.24
this divine role where
00:22:37.25\00:22:40.90
we co-create with
God that next generation.
00:22:40.91\00:22:46.48
That's not the only role.
00:22:46.49\00:22:48.87
What about our Father in Heaven?
00:22:48.88\00:22:52.63
In 1960, 90 percent
of the Black children
00:22:52.64\00:22:55.43
grew up without a dad.
00:22:55.44\00:22:56.69
Are you aware of that?
00:22:56.70\00:22:58.31
No dad, where
have all the men gone?
00:22:58.32\00:23:00.99
I wanna speak to
the men for a minute.
00:23:01.00\00:23:02.55
Today only 20 or 30 percent
00:23:02.56\00:23:04.75
live in a home
with their father.
00:23:04.76\00:23:05.95
Are you aware of that?
Where have the men gone?
00:23:05.96\00:23:09.42
There are 1,484 references
00:23:09.43\00:23:11.68
to "Father" or
"Fathers" in the word of God.
00:23:11.69\00:23:13.81
Thirty four times it
talks about the "Fatherless"
00:23:13.82\00:23:17.11
and God says I'll be a
father to the fatherless.
00:23:17.12\00:23:20.49
When we pray about your
father which is in heaven.
00:23:20.50\00:23:24.40
Do you have a father in heaven?
00:23:24.41\00:23:28.16
And Jesus spoke
about His Father.
00:23:28.17\00:23:30.66
They have the title of "Father"
00:23:30.67\00:23:32.90
gentlemen is an
incredible title.
00:23:32.91\00:23:37.57
And it carries with it
infinite responsibility.
00:23:37.58\00:23:40.45
Well, you know, when
we relate to each other
00:23:40.46\00:23:43.31
fathers and mothers in our homes
00:23:43.32\00:23:45.51
that complete message
how important are words.
00:23:45.52\00:23:49.44
If you notice
this chart right here,
00:23:49.45\00:23:50.98
only 7 percent of the messages
ever communicated with words.
00:23:50.99\00:23:55.98
The tone of the voice 38 percent
00:23:55.99\00:23:59.22
of the
communication is with the voice.
00:23:59.23\00:24:03.27
Mary, Mary, Mary.
00:24:03.28\00:24:07.27
Yeah, we can
say so much by what?
00:24:07.28\00:24:10.32
The tone of your
voice. It says so much.
00:24:10.33\00:24:14.27
And then there is the
nonverbal communication.
00:24:14.28\00:24:17.61
You know, and so forth
00:24:17.62\00:24:21.59
and I'd like to
suggest to you people
00:24:21.60\00:24:22.98
when we are sharing
love, we want to get across
00:24:22.99\00:24:26.33
the whole message and
it functions in the home.
00:24:26.34\00:24:30.68
The role of father on earth.
00:24:30.69\00:24:33.88
There's the Fifth
Commandment blessing.
00:24:33.89\00:24:36.79
There's holy sexuality.
00:24:36.80\00:24:39.01
The role of father and mother
and God, it produces children.
00:24:39.02\00:24:44.96
Now as I said holy sexuality.
00:24:44.97\00:24:46.72
Some people didn't
know they were such a thing.
00:24:46.73\00:24:49.03
Yeah, God created it.
00:24:49.04\00:24:50.38
It was not an
afterthought. It was God's idea.
00:24:50.39\00:24:54.58
And He created men and
women to be uniquely different,
00:24:54.59\00:24:59.21
not alike, on purpose not
an afterthought, not a mistake
00:24:59.22\00:25:04.80
but specifically created
for that particular role.
00:25:04.81\00:25:08.86
And fathers, if you read
Ephesians 5:25 very carefully,
00:25:08.87\00:25:14.33
I find nowhere in the
Bible where the Bible says,
00:25:14.34\00:25:16.94
"Wives that they
love their husband."
00:25:16.95\00:25:18.64
Did you know
that? It's not there.
00:25:18.65\00:25:21.33
But there is a commandment
for men to love their wives.
00:25:21.34\00:25:26.39
But here's the point, gentlemen,
00:25:26.40\00:25:27.93
if you love your wife
and she receives that love,
00:25:27.94\00:25:30.95
guess what she can give back?
00:25:30.96\00:25:32.96
The same kind of
love that you gave her.
00:25:32.97\00:25:35.56
And if you are not giving it
00:25:35.57\00:25:37.33
and she is not
getting it, guess what?
00:25:37.34\00:25:41.29
The flow isn't going to happen
the way God created it to be.
00:25:41.30\00:25:46.56
There're seven
basic needs of a woman.
00:25:46.57\00:25:49.47
And gentlemen, now
one of those seven,
00:25:49.48\00:25:53.84
a man would think of.
00:25:53.85\00:25:56.84
And I have a handout on that.
00:25:56.85\00:25:58.85
And if you're
watching this on DVD,
00:25:58.86\00:26:00.58
if you'll contact me,
I'll send you a copy of it.
00:26:00.59\00:26:03.29
But gentleman, those needs
00:26:03.30\00:26:05.75
are so basic
that when they were--
00:26:05.76\00:26:07.99
the secretaries were taping
this up and it was developed
00:26:08.00\00:26:11.41
because they
interviewed 4,000 women
00:26:11.42\00:26:13.53
and only when they all agreed
00:26:13.54\00:26:15.39
that it was a real
need that they commit.
00:26:15.40\00:26:17.96
And the secretaries were taping,
00:26:17.97\00:26:19.10
and they said,
"Wow, who got this up?
00:26:19.11\00:26:21.56
Oh, really knew
a lot about woman."
00:26:21.57\00:26:24.29
The major point of
Malachi 4, 5, and 6
00:26:24.30\00:26:26.82
is God wants to turn the hearts
of the fathers to the children
00:26:26.83\00:26:30.08
and the children
to their fathers.
00:26:30.09\00:26:31.79
Notice very carefully
the text does not say,
00:26:31.80\00:26:34.35
He wants to turn the hearts
00:26:34.36\00:26:35.61
of the fathers and
mothers to the children.
00:26:35.62\00:26:38.35
Now why you think
He left out mothers?
00:26:38.36\00:26:41.28
Any mother in here can
tell me the answer to that?
00:26:41.29\00:26:43.75
Listen, when you carry
that child for nine months.
00:26:43.76\00:26:46.85
There is a bond and
there is a connection
00:26:46.86\00:26:49.19
between that mother and
that child that gentleman
00:26:49.20\00:26:52.02
you'll never know, and
you'll never understand.
00:26:52.03\00:26:57.11
But only when she is
loving and caring for,
00:26:57.12\00:27:00.20
can she fulfill that
role? And so the role of father,
00:27:00.21\00:27:07.09
the family used to
take the fathers name.
00:27:07.10\00:27:09.10
That's changing quite
00:27:09.11\00:27:11.51
dramatically in
this world today.
00:27:11.52\00:27:14.42
He used to be the
head of that household.
00:27:14.43\00:27:16.57
And in the Bible
and all the genealogies,
00:27:16.58\00:27:18.83
it traces it through the father
00:27:18.84\00:27:21.24
and he used to be the law-maker.
00:27:21.25\00:27:24.17
And you're right
to do that gentleman
00:27:24.18\00:27:25.83
is because you know
the needs of everybody
00:27:25.84\00:27:28.10
under that jurisdiction
and he used to be the priest
00:27:28.11\00:27:32.72
of that
household, not the pastor.
00:27:32.73\00:27:35.48
He used to be the
spiritual leader for that home.
00:27:35.49\00:27:38.84
And so let's take
a look at Authority.
00:27:38.85\00:27:41.61
"Is one who gives
protection and direction
00:27:41.62\00:27:44.01
to those whom God
has called him to serve
00:27:44.02\00:27:46.33
within the limits
of his responsibility.
00:27:46.34\00:27:50.50
All legitimate authority is
derived from God's authority
00:27:50.51\00:27:53.57
and to oppose that authority
is ultimately to oppose God."
00:27:53.58\00:27:58.98
So keep that in
mind. God created authority
00:27:58.99\00:28:05.05
and He is
authority and He created us
00:28:05.06\00:28:07.51
in His own image
and His own likeness.
00:28:07.52\00:28:10.24
And only right to
authority is that you know
00:28:10.25\00:28:12.57
how to meet the needs of
those under that authority.
00:28:12.58\00:28:15.34
And every authority
is only a bigger servant
00:28:15.35\00:28:17.78
unless we first
learn to be a servant,
00:28:17.79\00:28:19.87
there is no way you can possibly
00:28:19.88\00:28:21.74
be in legitimate authority.
00:28:21.75\00:28:24.37
Well, you know, when a
couple comes to get married.
00:28:24.38\00:28:28.59
By the law of genetics,
you'll influence 680 people
00:28:28.60\00:28:34.74
if each one had four children
00:28:34.75\00:28:38.23
and those four children had
four children and so forth 680.
00:28:38.24\00:28:43.89
And so this business
of marriage, someone says,
00:28:43.90\00:28:45.88
well, it's
nobody's business but mine.
00:28:45.89\00:28:47.89
Think again, no it's
everybody's business,
00:28:47.90\00:28:50.82
because you will
affect by the law of genetics
00:28:50.83\00:28:54.37
way more than just each other.
00:28:54.38\00:28:57.21
Look into my
great-grandmother at 103,
00:28:57.22\00:29:02.16
that's five generations
passing through there.
00:29:02.17\00:29:05.32
Does each generation
affects the next generation?
00:29:05.33\00:29:09.36
Yes, they do, by the law
of genetics most profound way.
00:29:09.37\00:29:14.49
Well, you know, young
people, they wanna Fly United.
00:29:14.50\00:29:20.98
And let's just
suppose we go to the airport,
00:29:20.99\00:29:24.71
and we gonna fly united,
00:29:24.72\00:29:25.87
we just can't
wait to fly united.
00:29:25.88\00:29:27.38
We're gonna fly united,
00:29:27.39\00:29:28.46
we go to the counter
there to pick up our ticket
00:29:28.47\00:29:31.60
and then we see the
sign on the air and it says,
00:29:31.61\00:29:35.19
only one out of
every one hundred flights
00:29:35.20\00:29:38.12
ever reaches its destination.
00:29:38.13\00:29:41.91
Would you be
interested in flight?
00:29:41.92\00:29:44.42
But you still don't
know how we're gonna fly,
00:29:44.43\00:29:45.91
you know, we're
gonna fly united.
00:29:45.92\00:29:46.91
So we go to, we're
just right about in
00:29:46.92\00:29:48.62
and we know there is
another sign it says,
00:29:48.63\00:29:50.56
half of all our planes crashed.
00:29:50.57\00:29:53.82
Would you still wanna fly?
00:29:53.83\00:29:55.73
Hear me carefully you
that's your chances statically
00:29:55.74\00:30:02.16
of flying united
for a lifetime together.
00:30:02.17\00:30:08.74
That's the
chances statistically.
00:30:08.75\00:30:12.22
God had a plan
and Satan dynamited
00:30:12.23\00:30:14.31
that plan in everyway he
could. He's still dynamiting.
00:30:14.32\00:30:19.10
And let's just
take a look at the way
00:30:19.11\00:30:24.86
marriages are
arranged in today's world.
00:30:24.87\00:30:28.15
The modern marriage arrangement
00:30:28.16\00:30:30.91
breaks every rule of God's law.
00:30:30.92\00:30:34.82
First of all I
wanna marry who I please
00:30:34.83\00:30:37.14
and God is never consulted,
He's second to the lover.
00:30:37.15\00:30:42.23
That spouse become so
important I can't pray,
00:30:42.24\00:30:44.79
all I can do is see your face.
00:30:44.80\00:30:46.52
You know, it's just
the most dominating thing
00:30:46.53\00:30:48.99
and we worship them.
We take their name in vain
00:30:49.00\00:30:52.71
what God has joined together.
00:30:52.72\00:30:54.00
Let no man put asunder,
00:30:54.01\00:30:55.29
we take the name
and we forget it.
00:30:55.30\00:30:58.20
And they cannot enter His rest
00:30:58.21\00:31:00.15
because they are all
wrapped up in him or her,
00:31:00.16\00:31:02.19
that's all they can think about.
00:31:02.20\00:31:05.18
And then when we think
about it on a human level,
00:31:05.19\00:31:07.79
young people fall
in their marriages
00:31:07.80\00:31:09.93
and they choose their
spouse whom they wanna marry
00:31:09.94\00:31:12.56
and they come in all
starry night one night
00:31:12.57\00:31:14.83
and they announce to
father and mother saying,
00:31:14.84\00:31:16.34
we're getting married,
you wanna pay for the wedding.
00:31:16.35\00:31:19.71
But the parents
were never consulted.
00:31:19.72\00:31:22.25
The killing, the murder,
00:31:22.26\00:31:23.25
the suicide all
over jilted lovers.
00:31:23.26\00:31:26.03
The adultery, the fornication,
00:31:26.04\00:31:28.01
sex with no commitment is
the theme of every pop song,
00:31:28.02\00:31:31.99
is the theme of
nearly every movie.
00:31:32.00\00:31:33.95
Satan is dynamiting what God
put the stealing of affection.
00:31:33.96\00:31:38.34
They're lying and
they're playing with hearts.
00:31:38.35\00:31:40.37
They're coveting of
a neighbor's girlfriend
00:31:40.38\00:31:42.73
or wife, and it goes on and on.
00:31:42.74\00:31:46.43
It's not the way it's
happening in our world today.
00:31:46.44\00:31:48.63
And to the youth in my audience
00:31:48.64\00:31:49.88
I would say to you, if
you're gonna have a home
00:31:49.89\00:31:52.12
like God created it to be,
00:31:52.13\00:31:54.04
then you're gonna
have to do something
00:31:54.05\00:31:55.73
dramatically different
in the society around you.
00:31:55.74\00:32:02.78
Just notice the leap
in the U.S. divorce rate.
00:32:02.79\00:32:06.42
In 1900, it was
around 15 percent
00:32:06.43\00:32:09.27
and then we notice as the years
went by it gradually increased.
00:32:09.28\00:32:15.20
Between 1970 and
1975 it took a big jump.
00:32:15.21\00:32:20.05
And now, you know, statistically
00:32:20.06\00:32:22.63
if you plan to see
there is a length of time
00:32:22.64\00:32:27.41
when there is a gap
between you sow the seed
00:32:27.42\00:32:31.32
and you reap the harvest.
00:32:31.33\00:32:33.83
And so my question to you
00:32:33.84\00:32:35.56
is what happened 20
years earlier in 1970
00:32:35.57\00:32:42.79
that could have produced
that dramatic jump in divorce?
00:32:42.80\00:32:47.55
What happened 20 years earlier?
00:32:47.56\00:32:50.50
That's a
generation 20 years earlier.
00:32:50.51\00:32:52.50
What happened to make that
huge jump in the divorce rates
00:32:52.51\00:32:56.82
if we were to
statistically just sit and think
00:32:56.83\00:32:59.50
for a moment, what happened?
00:32:59.51\00:33:02.82
All right, rock
'n' roll came in.
00:33:02.83\00:33:04.91
That was a new
kind of music it came in
00:33:04.92\00:33:07.40
and it was exploiting its
name itself was an immoral name
00:33:07.41\00:33:12.88
and it came in to the scene,
00:33:12.89\00:33:16.16
but there're
something else that happened.
00:33:16.17\00:33:19.31
T.V, yes and I remember
00:33:19.32\00:33:23.56
and I'm now right
old I don't think,
00:33:23.57\00:33:25.97
but I remember the
first T.V. show very clearly.
00:33:25.98\00:33:28.36
I remember how far my grandpa
00:33:28.37\00:33:30.40
had to drive to go
to where we watched it.
00:33:30.41\00:33:33.04
I remember everything
we watched that night.
00:33:33.05\00:33:35.87
And it has made a profound
affect on the marriage role.
00:33:35.88\00:33:42.32
Devastating result, two things,
00:33:42.33\00:33:43.95
music and the TV and the movies,
00:33:43.96\00:33:47.66
they have all
added their contribution.
00:33:47.67\00:33:52.69
Love, it's not the
way God created to be.
00:33:52.70\00:33:56.96
There's something to
be exploited and misused.
00:33:56.97\00:34:00.13
I want you to notice how
the relationships are forming
00:34:00.14\00:34:04.85
in our world today
in the society level.
00:34:04.86\00:34:08.14
And so here we have a
normal boy meets a normal girl.
00:34:08.15\00:34:12.25
And they are not born again.
00:34:12.26\00:34:16.26
And their physical bodies you
notice is as strong as dynamic.
00:34:16.27\00:34:21.33
And when they meet what's
the first part that meets?
00:34:21.34\00:34:25.00
They meet on a physical level.
00:34:25.01\00:34:27.52
They're kissing and
hugging and the physical aspects
00:34:27.53\00:34:31.58
are all a major part
of that relationship,
00:34:31.59\00:34:34.84
but you'll notice in
the center part mind wise
00:34:34.85\00:34:38.48
and spirit wise
there's no connection.
00:34:38.49\00:34:40.33
I don't know whether
they serve the same God.
00:34:40.34\00:34:42.68
They don't know whether
they like onions or not.
00:34:42.69\00:34:45.20
They don't
know-- well, you know,
00:34:45.21\00:34:46.64
there's so much they don't know,
00:34:46.65\00:34:48.27
all they know is the meeting
on the physical level first.
00:34:48.28\00:34:52.79
And they think wow,
this is so fantastic
00:34:52.80\00:34:55.19
there is just a piece of cake.
00:34:55.20\00:34:56.79
But all the rest
is totally unknown.
00:34:56.80\00:34:59.46
But notice the spiritual round.
00:34:59.47\00:35:01.82
Born again guy
meets a born again girl.
00:35:01.83\00:35:06.32
And they begin to
form a relationship.
00:35:06.33\00:35:08.77
Now where do they meet first?
00:35:08.78\00:35:11.11
First they meet on
the spiritual level.
00:35:11.12\00:35:14.88
If you're looking for a
spiritual spouse to people
00:35:14.89\00:35:17.38
you won't find them in a bar.
00:35:17.39\00:35:19.77
You'll find them in a church.
00:35:19.78\00:35:21.95
You will find
them in a synagogue.
00:35:21.96\00:35:23.40
You'll find them in a mosque.
00:35:23.41\00:35:24.40
You'll find them in some place
00:35:24.41\00:35:26.59
where God is
adored and worshiped.
00:35:26.60\00:35:29.48
And so that's
where you go looking.
00:35:29.49\00:35:31.18
They meet on the spiritual
round first and then they meet
00:35:31.19\00:35:34.77
on the mental
round of relationships.
00:35:34.78\00:35:38.65
They become best friends.
00:35:38.66\00:35:41.28
And notice they still haven't
met on the physical over yet.
00:35:41.29\00:35:45.21
And as that
relationship deepens and builds,
00:35:45.22\00:35:48.70
they will come on a wedding day,
00:35:48.71\00:35:51.45
then they become
unitedly one. That's God's idea.
00:35:51.46\00:35:56.53
Developing a
friendship. As my brother said,
00:35:56.54\00:35:59.97
while his marriage is
just being best friends.
00:35:59.98\00:36:04.50
And you know what is?
It's being best friend.
00:36:04.51\00:36:07.95
But you know what if
you're not best friends,
00:36:07.96\00:36:10.15
it's not best friends
and the way you become
00:36:10.16\00:36:12.66
best friend as you build a
relationship of friendship.
00:36:12.67\00:36:16.02
Be alert to the people
around you, have a cheerful,
00:36:16.03\00:36:18.54
friendly countenance and smile.
00:36:18.55\00:36:19.97
Learn and remember the
name. Greet them by name.
00:36:19.98\00:36:22.65
Ask them appropriate
questions. Be a good listener.
00:36:22.66\00:36:26.33
And remind yourself
of the initial interest
00:36:26.34\00:36:29.21
that God has for that person.
00:36:29.22\00:36:31.26
And then as you
have a casual friendship,
00:36:31.27\00:36:34.41
discover their strong points.
00:36:34.42\00:36:36.39
Learn about
their hopes and desire
00:36:36.40\00:36:38.08
they have for their life.
00:36:38.09\00:36:39.20
Develop and ask
appropriate specific questions.
00:36:39.21\00:36:41.98
Show an interest and concern
00:36:41.99\00:36:44.25
if they share a
problem with you.
00:36:44.26\00:36:46.41
Be honest about yourself
00:36:46.42\00:36:48.02
and acknowledge
your faults to them
00:36:48.03\00:36:50.29
when appropriate
and reflect interest.
00:36:50.30\00:36:53.31
Talk about God to them.
00:36:53.32\00:36:55.81
And then you have
the close friendship.
00:36:55.82\00:36:58.29
See potential in their life.
00:36:58.30\00:37:00.48
Discover and
discuss specific goals.
00:37:00.49\00:37:03.05
Assume personal responsibility
for their development.
00:37:03.06\00:37:07.52
Discern
conflicts that would hinder
00:37:07.53\00:37:09.64
the development of these goals.
00:37:09.65\00:37:11.74
Be creative in
designing projects
00:37:11.75\00:37:13.57
that would help
reach those goals.
00:37:13.58\00:37:15.73
Learn how to build
interest for these projects.
00:37:15.74\00:37:18.91
And be alert to scripture which
will encourage and guide them.
00:37:18.92\00:37:22.92
And then intimate friendships.
00:37:22.93\00:37:25.96
And we don't have too
many intimate friends.
00:37:25.97\00:37:29.23
Learn to give
comfort in time of trial.
00:37:29.24\00:37:33.21
Assume personal responsibility
for their reputation.
00:37:33.22\00:37:37.37
Be sensitive to
traits and attitudes
00:37:37.38\00:37:39.34
which need improvement
both in yourself and them.
00:37:39.35\00:37:42.02
Learn to discover basic causes
of character deficiencies.
00:37:42.03\00:37:45.66
Build interest for correction
of these deficiencies.
00:37:45.67\00:37:49.05
Be able to talk
about your faults.
00:37:49.06\00:37:52.39
And share scriptures for
key solutions to those fault,
00:37:52.40\00:37:56.18
and a
commitment to faithfulness,
00:37:56.19\00:37:58.39
loyalty, and availability.
00:37:58.40\00:38:02.61
Qualities to
look for. Make a list.
00:38:02.62\00:38:05.53
You know, I made a
list. I was in high school
00:38:05.54\00:38:08.14
and a weekly
prayer speaker said,
00:38:08.15\00:38:10.46
"Be inquest for the best
and settle for nothing less."
00:38:10.47\00:38:13.44
And that's my appeal
00:38:13.45\00:38:14.80
to the young
people here this morning.
00:38:14.81\00:38:16.89
God has a plan for you.
00:38:16.90\00:38:19.02
He has a spouse in mind for you
00:38:19.03\00:38:20.70
and it's not just anybody.
00:38:20.71\00:38:22.03
So make a list,
do they love the Lord
00:38:25.39\00:38:28.28
and are they His disciple.
00:38:28.29\00:38:29.91
Listen if they
don't love the Lord,
00:38:29.92\00:38:31.84
they will not have
a self-denying love
00:38:31.85\00:38:34.13
that you will be worthy of.
00:38:34.14\00:38:36.42
Step two, are they cheerful?
00:38:36.43\00:38:40.61
Beware of the person who says,
00:38:40.62\00:38:41.96
"Oh, I can't live
without and you're the only one
00:38:41.97\00:38:44.82
who can make me in
happy in all world."
00:38:44.83\00:38:46.40
Listen, a wedding vow never
made a non-happy person happy.
00:38:46.41\00:38:52.39
Get it real straight if they're
not already happy without you,
00:38:52.40\00:38:55.86
you're not gonna
make them that happy.
00:38:55.87\00:38:57.93
They got to have that
happiness already there
00:38:57.94\00:39:01.29
and then that adds to
your happiness but there is--
00:39:01.30\00:39:04.39
if they're miserable
00:39:04.40\00:39:05.47
and just can't commit
that they are unhappy.
00:39:05.48\00:39:07.53
Girls, I don't
care how attractive,
00:39:07.54\00:39:09.14
your marrying him
is gonna change him
00:39:09.15\00:39:12.39
to become cheerful and happy,
00:39:12.40\00:39:14.36
if he's not first already happy.
00:39:14.37\00:39:16.65
Are they
thankful? Are they grateful?
00:39:16.66\00:39:19.05
Are they discontented
and grumpy and growly?
00:39:19.06\00:39:22.54
Marriage doesn't
change that attitude.
00:39:22.55\00:39:26.25
Are they thankful for
their father and mother?
00:39:26.26\00:39:28.96
Are they a creative hard worker?
00:39:28.97\00:39:32.03
You know, two people
can live cheaper than one.
00:39:32.04\00:39:36.50
That's not true. They
cannot live cheaper than one
00:39:36.51\00:39:41.23
and now they don't
stay one for very long.
00:39:41.24\00:39:44.97
And that leads us
to the next point.
00:39:44.98\00:39:47.16
Do they love children? Do
they like to be around children?
00:39:47.17\00:39:53.22
Marriage is all about children.
00:39:53.23\00:39:55.65
Marriage is all about passing
00:39:55.66\00:39:56.80
onto that next
generation of life
00:39:56.81\00:39:59.52
that was passed onto you.
00:39:59.53\00:40:00.92
And if they don't love children,
00:40:00.93\00:40:02.21
how're we gonna
make a good spouse?
00:40:02.22\00:40:04.24
Discerning God's
choice for a life partner,
00:40:04.25\00:40:08.65
Only date and marry
a growing Christian.
00:40:08.66\00:40:10.54
I don't find
anything in the Bible
00:40:10.55\00:40:11.81
that talks about
missionary dating.
00:40:11.82\00:40:13.88
In fact, God specifically said,
00:40:13.89\00:40:15.47
"Do not marry the unbelievers."
00:40:15.48\00:40:19.16
And that was a great prohibition
00:40:19.17\00:40:21.30
that Israel failed
to keep much to herself.
00:40:21.31\00:40:25.94
Relate dating and marriage
to God's purpose in my life.
00:40:25.95\00:40:29.41
You know if God's calling
you to be a concert pianist,
00:40:29.42\00:40:33.07
but then would you
really want to marry a rancher
00:40:33.08\00:40:35.03
in the middle
of Texas somewhere.
00:40:35.04\00:40:36.84
You got to think about purposes,
00:40:36.85\00:40:38.72
do they go
together? Are they compatible?
00:40:38.73\00:40:42.75
"Do not defraud the one I date."
00:40:42.76\00:40:45.59
Don't build a
fire you can't fulfill.
00:40:45.60\00:40:48.33
"Both of us must be
in harmony at home."
00:40:48.34\00:40:52.12
If our parents don't
approve with that relationship,
00:40:52.13\00:40:55.40
it probably won't be a safe one
00:40:55.41\00:40:57.50
and wait for God's
timing and marriage.
00:40:57.51\00:41:00.17
"And I will yield my
right to date and marry to God."
00:41:00.18\00:41:04.29
And a result will
be, "God will bring
00:41:04.30\00:41:06.71
that person into my
life at the right time."
00:41:06.72\00:41:11.45
Is God concerned
about who we marry,
00:41:11.46\00:41:14.84
and this is idea.
He established it.
00:41:14.85\00:41:18.37
His holy law is
all about relationships
00:41:18.38\00:41:22.68
from beginning to end and
He wants to create that law
00:41:22.69\00:41:25.55
in our heart of hearts
through His seed catalog
00:41:25.56\00:41:30.00
that our homes can be all
that God created them to be.
00:41:30.01\00:41:36.64
Nature put so much
attention to the buds
00:41:36.65\00:41:40.59
that grow on
that next generation.
00:41:40.60\00:41:44.09
And God will
have us do the same.
00:41:44.10\00:41:48.35
I can't close this discussion
without just saying one thing,
00:41:48.36\00:41:53.10
what about damaged
or broken relationships?
00:41:53.11\00:41:57.46
Jesus talked about
that in Matthew 19:3,
00:41:57.47\00:42:02.79
as He talked about
it, He made it real clear
00:42:02.80\00:42:06.95
to the religious
leaders of His day
00:42:06.96\00:42:08.79
when they asked
Him that question
00:42:08.80\00:42:12.88
and Jesus said in
verse 4, "Have you not read
00:42:12.89\00:42:17.47
that He who made them
in the beginning made them
00:42:17.48\00:42:19.57
male and female for this reason
00:42:19.58\00:42:21.18
they shall leave
their father and mother,
00:42:21.19\00:42:22.59
be joined to his wife,
and they shall be one flesh.
00:42:22.60\00:42:25.04
So they are no
longer two but one flesh.
00:42:25.05\00:42:27.15
Therefore what God
has joined together
00:42:27.16\00:42:29.01
let not man separate."
00:42:29.02\00:42:30.39
Because they asked Him
a question about divorce.
00:42:30.40\00:42:32.75
Is it lawful for a
man to get divorce?
00:42:32.76\00:42:36.47
And notice when those 23
chromosomes join together,
00:42:36.48\00:42:40.41
they become one in such a way
00:42:40.42\00:42:42.52
that no divorce court
can ever separate it, ever.
00:42:42.53\00:42:46.96
That's a oneness that
only God could create.
00:42:46.97\00:42:51.84
But He hates
divorce. And they said,
00:42:51.85\00:42:53.98
"Why did Moses command
00:42:53.99\00:42:55.47
to give her a certificate
of divorce and put her away?"
00:42:55.48\00:42:58.32
Notice His answer, "Moses,
00:42:58.33\00:43:00.39
because of the
hardness of your hearts,
00:43:00.40\00:43:02.15
permitted you to
divorce your wives,
00:43:02.16\00:43:05.49
but from the
beginning it was not so."
00:43:05.50\00:43:09.71
That was not God's plan.
00:43:09.72\00:43:11.98
And so then He says,
"Whoever divorces his wife,
00:43:11.99\00:43:14.28
except for sexual
immorality, marries another,
00:43:14.29\00:43:16.89
commits adultery,
and whoever marries her
00:43:16.90\00:43:19.03
who is divorced
commits adultery.
00:43:19.04\00:43:21.03
And His disciples said, wow,
00:43:21.04\00:43:22.20
that's why it is to
better not to marry."
00:43:22.21\00:43:25.87
Jesus made it real clear.
00:43:25.88\00:43:28.90
He hates
divorce, but it happens.
00:43:28.91\00:43:33.24
And with the sound of my voice
00:43:33.25\00:43:34.74
and those who are watching
this on T.V, flee to the cross
00:43:34.75\00:43:38.92
and find the love that
can forgive its enemies.
00:43:38.93\00:43:43.13
Rejected love
is no pain like it.
00:43:43.14\00:43:47.00
Jesus knows all about it.
00:43:47.01\00:43:49.83
But He was
rejected and was all alone.
00:43:49.84\00:43:54.01
And in First John 1:9, He
wants to give that love back.
00:43:54.02\00:43:57.74
He wants us to have it.
00:43:57.75\00:43:59.99
And focus on the family
that's its phone number.
00:44:00.00\00:44:04.36
If you're in a
pain of a divorce,
00:44:04.37\00:44:06.95
they have a lot of help for
you and its available to you.
00:44:06.96\00:44:11.27
And I would
encourage you to find a godly
00:44:11.28\00:44:14.62
counselor to help you to work
through the pain and suffering.
00:44:14.63\00:44:18.49
God is in the
restoration business.
00:44:18.50\00:44:21.16
And He wants to restore back
00:44:21.17\00:44:23.27
all the years of
the locus of Eden.
00:44:23.28\00:44:27.13
His prayer is "That they
may be one even is real one."
00:44:27.14\00:44:31.73
And I wanna draw a conclusion
to this message today.
00:44:31.74\00:44:38.14
Its God's
planet they may be one.
00:44:38.15\00:44:40.45
His name was Emmanuel.
00:44:40.46\00:44:42.66
He came to unite the human race.
00:44:42.67\00:44:45.01
His word is truth. And
His glory was the cross
00:44:45.02\00:44:49.12
because at the
cross you see a love
00:44:49.13\00:44:51.71
that couldn't stop loving.
It just never quit loving.
00:44:51.72\00:44:56.58
And He wants to restore that
love back into the human heart
00:44:56.59\00:45:01.75
so that God and man and woman
00:45:01.76\00:45:07.71
can enter into that
original relationship
00:45:07.72\00:45:10.70
when He created man in His
own image, in His own likeness.
00:45:10.71\00:45:15.70
But that could be the
relationship and at the cross,
00:45:15.71\00:45:22.57
that love was discovered
to be infinite, unlimited.
00:45:22.58\00:45:28.68
And when we open our
hearts to that love in,
00:45:28.69\00:45:32.02
then we have that
love to share with the one
00:45:32.03\00:45:36.11
that God might
bring into our life.
00:45:36.12\00:45:38.91
I want to draw a
conclusion to this message.
00:45:38.92\00:45:41.74
Jesus, when He gave His
famous sermon on the Mount,
00:45:52.14\00:45:59.48
drew a conclusion to that
sermon in the seventh chapter.
00:45:59.49\00:46:04.18
It was His last
story to summarize
00:46:04.19\00:46:08.66
the sermon on the Mount.
00:46:08.67\00:46:11.98
And He said there were two men
00:46:11.99\00:46:14.28
who build a house,
00:46:19.25\00:46:22.58
and to the young
people here today,
00:46:22.59\00:46:25.86
you're seeking to build a home.
00:46:30.51\00:46:34.36
What kind of home will it be?
00:46:38.34\00:46:42.31
And how will you build it?
00:46:42.32\00:46:45.68
The world has many plans.
00:46:45.69\00:46:50.29
And even house building.
00:46:50.30\00:46:51.99
The question is,
are you gonna build it
00:46:55.29\00:46:59.41
like the Creator had in mind
00:46:59.42\00:47:00.84
or are you gonna try to follow
00:47:04.33\00:47:05.60
the dying decayed
society around us?
00:47:05.61\00:47:09.13
People walking and they
sparks with their candle.
00:47:09.14\00:47:11.60
And Jesus said, "The wise man
00:47:14.96\00:47:16.58
build his house on
a rock, a foundation."
00:47:16.59\00:47:20.11
And so as we build on that...
00:47:24.30\00:47:26.89
rock. I build a house in
Montana on a mountain top.
00:47:34.59\00:47:40.92
I'm here to tell you
00:47:40.93\00:47:41.98
when you build a
house on a mountain top,
00:47:41.99\00:47:44.96
that's different
than building it in town.
00:47:44.97\00:47:49.01
It's a lot more
difficult. And...
00:47:49.02\00:47:52.41
as you build on a mountain top,
00:47:57.28\00:48:01.39
it's more work...
00:48:10.09\00:48:12.25
to take the
building materials up there.
00:48:12.26\00:48:14.97
The children know
about this story of Jesus.
00:48:19.12\00:48:23.54
I decided that I
wanted to build my house
00:48:26.91\00:48:31.89
on the solid
promises of God's word.
00:48:31.90\00:48:36.74
There's another choice, by
the way, up on the mountains
00:48:43.98\00:48:47.17
where I build in Montana,
00:48:47.18\00:48:48.96
the trees look like
that most of the time.
00:48:52.52\00:48:58.74
It was in the Snow
Belt and the snow would...
00:48:58.75\00:49:01.65
come...
00:49:04.91\00:49:05.91
and it lasted and it
lasted and it lasted.
00:49:15.03\00:49:18.20
But when I built that house,
00:49:18.42\00:49:21.23
our first house
there in Montana,
00:49:21.24\00:49:26.55
we never saw the ground again
two weeks after it was built.
00:49:26.56\00:49:29.62
It was just to show I
had no insulation nothing,
00:49:29.63\00:49:33.33
no windows, just
partly kind of windows,
00:49:33.34\00:49:35.83
we never saw the
snow again for the next--
00:49:35.84\00:49:37.90
I mean we never the ground
again for next four months.
00:49:37.91\00:49:40.68
That was an
interesting experience.
00:49:40.69\00:49:42.47
Well, there was another
man, Jesus described him
00:49:42.48\00:49:46.69
and Jesus said that every home
00:49:46.70\00:49:48.17
is gonna have to
have three tests,
00:49:48.18\00:49:52.49
the test of
rain, the test of wind,
00:49:52.50\00:49:56.15
and the test of flood.
00:49:56.16\00:49:58.04
And the married
people within this auditorium
00:49:58.05\00:49:59.71
always know that your marriage
00:49:59.72\00:50:01.58
will pass all those three tests.
00:50:01.59\00:50:04.81
But the foolish man, he
build his house differently.
00:50:04.82\00:50:10.49
I ask you the question,
00:50:10.50\00:50:14.43
what made the difference
00:50:14.44\00:50:16.21
between the wise
man and the foolish?
00:50:16.22\00:50:19.57
And you'll say, wow, the
wise man, he built it on a rock
00:50:19.58\00:50:23.74
and the foolish man
built it on the sand.
00:50:23.75\00:50:26.41
No solid
foundation. I'll tell why?
00:50:26.42\00:50:31.26
What made the difference?
00:50:31.27\00:50:32.39
We often miss the
point of the story.
00:50:32.40\00:50:37.37
Jesus put it this way.
00:50:37.38\00:50:40.77
All those who hear my words
00:50:40.78\00:50:45.36
and do them are
like the wise man
00:50:45.37\00:50:49.77
who built his house upon a rock.
00:50:49.78\00:50:53.75
For those who hear my
words and don't do them,
00:50:53.76\00:50:59.29
they are like the foolish man
00:50:59.30\00:51:01.21
who built his house on the sand.
00:51:01.22\00:51:04.59
And so my
question to you is this,
00:51:04.60\00:51:09.01
young people,
00:51:09.02\00:51:11.86
are you gonna build
your home on the solid,
00:51:11.87\00:51:17.75
unchanging,
00:51:17.76\00:51:20.07
eternal...
00:51:20.08\00:51:23.19
principles of the
word of the living God,
00:51:23.20\00:51:28.33
or are you gonna
build your home on hormones
00:51:28.34\00:51:33.89
and feelings like the
dying decayed society around us?
00:51:33.90\00:51:40.10
Or if you would take this book
00:51:40.11\00:51:42.90
and make it the pattern
00:51:42.91\00:51:45.59
upon which you're going
to build your relationships
00:51:48.67\00:51:53.19
and harmony with
this holy law of love.
00:51:53.20\00:51:56.29
And as we see this picture
of the way it really ends
00:52:02.52\00:52:05.53
you will be building
your life on the solid,
00:52:09.24\00:52:13.62
unchanging principles
of the life of Emanuel.
00:52:13.63\00:52:20.78
And that unselfish love
will make your home stand
00:52:20.79\00:52:26.82
when the winds
blow, the winds of strife,
00:52:26.83\00:52:30.06
when the rains of tears come,
00:52:30.07\00:52:32.27
when the flood of
difficulty challenges
00:52:32.28\00:52:35.06
the foundation
upon which you built it,
00:52:35.07\00:52:37.59
then your home will stand.
00:52:40.70\00:52:44.00
And I wanna
challenge the youth here today.
00:52:44.01\00:52:47.23
How you're gonna built?
00:52:47.24\00:52:51.15
I decided I was
gonna build my home
00:52:51.16\00:52:55.57
on the principles of this book.
00:52:55.58\00:52:58.52
I had a friend who
had a girl in every port,
00:52:58.53\00:53:01.57
he bragged about it.
00:53:01.58\00:53:04.06
As you practice, you'll perform.
00:53:04.07\00:53:09.53
When he got married
00:53:09.54\00:53:12.33
he never could keep his
kisses at home he never had.
00:53:12.34\00:53:14.99
And he went
through three divorces
00:53:18.07\00:53:19.64
the last time I counted
00:53:19.65\00:53:23.29
because he built his home
00:53:23.30\00:53:25.11
on the shifting plan
of feelings and hormones.
00:53:25.12\00:53:30.54
But I decided that I
would build my home differently.
00:53:30.55\00:53:35.12
I believe that
kisses were sacred and holy
00:53:35.13\00:53:37.44
and belonged only
on just one person.
00:53:37.45\00:53:41.38
That was the person that I
was gonna love for a lifetime.
00:53:41.39\00:53:46.53
The first girl I kissed,
I thought would be my wife.
00:53:46.54\00:53:49.96
The second girl I
kissed is my wife.
00:53:49.97\00:53:53.06
We've had 44 years of
fantastic hugging and kissing.
00:53:53.07\00:53:56.45
I wouldn't trade places
as my buddy for anything.
00:53:56.46\00:53:59.54
Will you build your
home on a solid, unchanging,
00:54:02.65\00:54:08.04
immovable, unchangeable
word of the living God
00:54:08.05\00:54:13.33
and allow Him to put
those principles in your heart
00:54:13.34\00:54:19.23
and love those best
who love Christ most.
00:54:19.24\00:54:26.41
Could we pray?
00:54:26.42\00:54:28.51
Eternal Father, we
thank You for the privilege
00:54:28.52\00:54:31.78
of being co-creators and having
a relationship called love.
00:54:31.79\00:54:38.71
And there's
this dying world Lord
00:54:38.72\00:54:40.06
you want our homes to be
like a light in a dark place,
00:54:40.07\00:54:46.66
demonstrating a
guppy, a guppy love
00:54:46.67\00:54:52.31
such a prayer today.
00:54:52.32\00:54:54.72
I like to raise your
hand and say by God's grace
00:54:54.73\00:54:57.19
young people
particularly even others
00:54:57.20\00:55:00.20
build your home on the
promises of God's word.
00:55:00.21\00:55:04.71
If that's your prayer, you just
wanna raise your hand and say,
00:55:04.72\00:55:06.31
yes and if you're marrying
you want to recommit to that,
00:55:06.32\00:55:09.24
God will help thou.
00:55:09.25\00:55:12.30
Thank you, Father,
00:55:12.31\00:55:14.49
for making that
possible in this dying world
00:55:14.50\00:55:19.14
because we ask you in
Jesus holy name, amen.
00:55:19.15\00:55:24.23
Worship Him
00:55:43.73\00:55:46.42
Worship Him, worship Him
00:55:51.63\00:55:56.88
Worship Him that made heaven
00:55:56.89\00:56:00.53
The heaven, the earth, the
sea, and the fountains of waters
00:56:00.54\00:56:10.84
Worship him that made
00:56:10.85\00:56:17.20
Worship him, worship him
00:56:17.21\00:56:27.00
Fear God Fear God
and give glory to him
00:56:31.52\00:56:38.17
Worship him that made
00:56:38.18\00:56:43.25
Fear God Fear God and give glory
00:56:43.26\00:56:48.03
Give glory to him Glory to him
00:56:48.04\00:56:55.96
The birds
declare the glory of God
00:56:55.97\00:57:01.63
And the firmament
showeth his handiwork
00:57:01.64\00:57:08.06
The earth is a void
and a formless thereof
00:57:08.07\00:57:14.04
The earth is formed
of land and regions fall
00:57:14.05\00:57:20.63
Worship Him
00:57:30.52\00:57:34.27
Worship Him, worship Him
00:57:39.55\00:57:45.03
Worship Him that made heaven
00:57:45.04\00:57:48.59
The heaven, the earth, the
sea, and the fountains of waters
00:57:48.60\00:57:58.76
Worship him that made
00:57:58.77\00:58:05.22
Worship Him, Worship Him
00:58:05.23\00:58:15.46
Worship Him
00:58:21.39\00:58:27.25