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Hi friends and welcome to
another edition of NEWSTART Now.
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I'm your host Ron Gianonni.
In our studio we have Dennis
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McGowan from Olympia, Washington
I'd like you to take a look at
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when Dennis first arrived. Well
two weeks ago I was scheduled to
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have open heart surgery,
quintuple bypass. Two weeks
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prior to that I had been
diagnosed with severe heart
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disease, cardiovascular
disease and actually Weimar was
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suggested, the NEWSTART program
was suggested to me by both of
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those heart surgeons and I
researched it and decided that
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even if I was to have bypass
surgery I would still have to
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have a radical lifestyle change
and so we prayed about it and
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talked to a lot of people about
it and decided we were going to
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give God the chance first
to create that lifestyle change
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within us and have my
condition be reversed.
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So here we are at NEWSTART. The
results I'm praying for are to
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indeed experience a certain
amount of reversal while being
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here because that will give me
all the data I need that I can
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continue on with this lifestyle
and indeed reverse it back to
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a healthy state. We just
had twin grandchildren born on
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October 15th. They're a
motivation for me to get well.
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So it's out of my control. It's
in God's hands and all I can do
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is follow the plan he's set out.
I'm anxious to go home and prove
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of my doctor friends wrong too.
They said that they'd never ever
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in medical school or anywhere
else heard that cardiovascular
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disease was reversible. So
I want to be a living proof,
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living testimony to them as well
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Welcome back friends. And in our
studio, Dennis. Good to see you
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sir. Thank you,
it's good to be here.
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You know I was saying to you
before we started shooting, you
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look different. I
look different and I feel
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different and I've had several
comments this past week about
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how much I look different.
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How are you feeling
internally? That's the question.
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I feel great. You know if
you remember from my original
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interview I was asymptomatic so
it wasn't like I was in a lot of
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pain or having a lot or
struggles or anything but
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I've spent 18 days of doing a
lot of walking, breathing a lot
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of walking, breathing a lot of
fresh air and you know I can't
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explain it but I feel different.
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Your wife's telling me
you're walking five miles a day.
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Minimum of five,
as much as eight.
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Isn't that amazing. Now when you
got here day one could you walk
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okay? I could walk
and I thought I was
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in fairly good shape for my
condition. But as you know the
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hills around here, when I'd
get to the top of the hill I was
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breathing pretty hard and I
think for me personally one of
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the greatest indicators of my
coming into more better shape is
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that I can now go up those
hills and not experience the
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heavy breathing that I was. And
my pulse rate is lower than it
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was a couple of weeks ago.
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What is your resting pulse?
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I'm about 67. Wow, that's
impressive. And the doctor did
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not want me to go over 110 on
any of my hikes and so I had to
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do some checks and on one
particular hike we took with a
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group, it was about 5-1/2 miles,
one of the nurses was along and
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took my pulse and I was
at 80. So I said praise God.
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Wow! Wow! 80! That's amazing.
Mine gets up, I usually run
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about 125 to get my heart
pumping but I still climb these
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hills and I still get huffing
and puffing. But you're not even
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doing that. I'm
not. It's just amazing.
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So what's the prognosis?
Where do you go from here?
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Well, again, we entered
this program looking at it as a
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three-year plan and we're
staying true to that course.
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You know I've had enough
indicators that things are
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already reversing and changing.
My EKG, my second one, compared
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to my first one showed a
significant difference. My
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cholesterol numbers have come
down. I've lost inches. So it's
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more than I could
have ever expected.
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What are your cholesterol
numbers? Do you remember?
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Well I came in at 199 and
they've gone down 35 points to
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165, 164, right in that area.
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Your LDL, do you
know where that is?
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I think it was 110 if I remember
correctly, somewhere around
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there. My HDLs were like
30. So they were out of sorts.
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Yeah, a little bit. How
about the triglycerides?
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That one I'm not remembering.
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Probably because it
doesn't matter at this point.
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You know, that's it. I'm kind of
not looking to the past and I'm
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just looking to the future.
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Yeah. Where you taking
medication when you got here?
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Um, I was and I haven't been
weaned off all of them. I have a
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hiatal hernia so I'm taking
medication to keep the acid down
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and then my cholesterol, I
was on a really low dose of the
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statin for cholesterol and
because I have that heredity,
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that family history, my body
makes a lot of cholesterol and
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even though I've been off any
animal products at all for about
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three months, that cholesterol
is still fighting me so they're
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leaving me on that as well.
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Okay and are any of the
medications that you were taking
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that you're no longer taking?
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Um, no I'm just on lower doses.
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Lower doses. Okay that's good.
So your physician when you get
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back home, does he
know what you're doing now?
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Actually no, because again I was
slated for open heart surgery
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about five weeks ago now. I
actually received a call while I
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was down here from my
cardiologist back home saying
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hey we're just checking in on
you wanting to know how you are.
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So we're going to have those
discussions when we get back but
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at least now I have some
documentation that proves what
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I'm doing is not foolhardy. That
I'm following the original plan.
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That's wise, that's wise.
Well who's your doctor here, Dr.
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Ing? Dr. Ing. And is he
pleased with your results.
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He is pleased and he has been
very encouraging. I can't say
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enough about the staff here on
how much they encourage and just
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kind of keep us going and keep
us motivated. Yeah, he's been a
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real God send. These
doctors here are so much
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different than the doctors
outside in the real world. I've
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never had a doctor spend more
that five or 10 minutes with me.
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So when I came here
they'd spend an hour.
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Right. And Dr. Ing has given
me all of his personal contact
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information. I guarantee
you none of my doctors at home
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would do that. No. I can call
him at home. He's invited me to
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call him at home.
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That's right. And if he doesn't
answer the phone he'll call you
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back because I've done that
and he's called me as late as 10
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o'clock at night. What's going
on? How are you feeling? And
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spend time with you. That's
right. By the way while we're
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one the subject, you know that I
will do some follow-up when you
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leave here. Yes. And we can chat
as well. Now are you satisfied
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with the results thus far?
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I am actually more than
satisfied. You know as I said
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I came down here with the idea
that I wanted to see just some
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small glimmers of improvement
and reversal and I would say
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that actually the results are
more than I'd even hoped for.
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And you brought
your wife with you.
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I did. And she's
been my greatest support.
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And how's she
doing on the program?
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Very well. She's kind of the
one who's more the gifted one in
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cooking and everything, so
having her there in the cooking
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classes and the nutrition
classes has been an extreme
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inspiration and help because now
we have a plan and we're going
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home with a plan.
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And how would you go home and
explain to your wife had she not
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come what you learned in
18 days. Virtually impossible.
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Virtually impossible.
Yeah I could barely remember
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what I learned in 18 days let
alone share it. Well I'm happy
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to hear of your results and
I know you're going to continue
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to do well just by your
attitude. You've got that good
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attitude. The fight is going on.
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The fight is on. Yeah,
so remember when you get
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if there's any animal product
laying around you remember what
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I did. I do. I threw it all out.
You know I thought about giving
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it to neighbors and family. But
I couldn't. I couldn't do that
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knowing what I know now or what
I learned while at the program.
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Dennis, thank you so much.
We really appreciate you taking
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your time and we'll be talking.
I'll look forward to it.
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Friends thank you too, but don't
go away we'll be back after this
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Welcome back friends. In
our studio Dr. Clarence Ing.
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It's a pleasure. How are you
doctor? Great. Every day is a
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great day. You know
I get real excited to
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talk about guests when they're
excited and Dennis is very
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excited. He was so thrilled
that the program went beyond his
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expectations. He went from that
look of despair to one of hope
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Tell us from a physician's point
of view how did he do during the
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program. Well he
did very well. He was
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walking, he's walking very
well. One of the challenges with
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individuals like Dennis as far
as management goes is since he
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doesn't get chest pain, which
is fine, we're happy about that,
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then when we do the treadmill
test, he watched the treadmill
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and see where it indicates his
heart may not be getting enough
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blood, what his heart rate is
and when you find out what that
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is then you don't want him to
get up to that heart rate when
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he exercises. So we took a look
at his tests and after looking
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at that we decided if he
exercised as long as he kept his
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heart rate 110 or less he should
be okay. Because when he gets
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up to 120, 125, he has
the changes that show that his
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heart's not getting enough blood
even though he doesn't feel any
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pain or any symptoms. Now the
other thing we'll probably find
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in time is that if he continues
with this, like in 12 months
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from now we will probably find
that he can get up to 120, 125.
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There won't be any indications
that his heart's not getting
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enough blood. What we'll find
then is that the cholesterol and
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the plaque which is there
now, a good part of that will be
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reabsorbed, circulation
will improve and so we've
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dramatically lowered his risk
for having a heart attack or a
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stroke, which is, of course,
what we want to do for him and
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what he wants.
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Now how would a viewer who isn't
hooked up to a machine, how
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would they know if their heart
rate is too high or if they're
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pushing it? Are there symptoms?
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Well yes in the usual patient.
If your heart doesn't have
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enough blood because the
arteries are narrow or they
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contain cholesterol which
is restricting the blood flow
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through them, then we find that
classically they get what is
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termed angina. Angina is
the pain that is in the left
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shoulder, goes down the left
arm and they have pressure on
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the left chest. You may even
have pain in the throat, in the
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neck or back. But it comes with
exertion or stress or worry and
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when the person slows down or
if they're exercising they stop
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it will go away. When they get
that it's important that they
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know that and then when they
stop they want to see how fast
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the pain goes away and is able
to continue with a program like
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this what we usually find out
is that the pain becomes less
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frequent and as time goes on
they don't get the pain anymore.
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Even at the same heart rate or
maybe before they got the pain.
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Usually when we're trying to
set exercise guidelines for the
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patient we want to give them a
guideline where their heart rate
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is slower or is lower than
at the place where we find their
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heart's not getting enough blood
because we definitely don't want
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to have the risk of
them having a heart attack.
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Absolutely. Now Dennis, he's
walking like five miles per day
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When he got here he couldn't
walk very well and now he's up
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to five miles a day. Would he do
better if he walked six or seven
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miles a day? Well, technically
he might be a little bit better
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but you know if you're getting
three or four miles a day that's
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wonderful. Also we discussed
with him that it might be better
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for him to lose a little weight.
So he should be able to lose
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weight quite easily.
In guidelines for weight
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management what we have found
is patients it's a lot easier
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for them to lose weight if they
don't take in any food after
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three o'clock in the afternoon.
Two meals a day, walk at least
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three miles six times a week.
Three time six is 18 so every
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time you walk a mile that's 100
calories so if you walk three
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miles a day, 300 calories times
six is 1,800 calories times four
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weeks is 7,200 calories.
That's easily enough to lose two
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pounds a month right there.
Two pounds every four weeks.
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But if you combine that with not
eating after three o'clock. Most
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people with can with a low fat,
low sugar diet, plant-based diet
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they can easily lose four
and five pounds a month without
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much difficulty.
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So will you continue after
Dennis leaves here or any other
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guest but Dennis in particular,
will you continue monitoring him
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Certainly. I've given him my
home telephone number, my e-mail
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I said please send me a report
every month. Next time you get
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your cholesterol checked, let
me know what it is, let me know
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how your weight goes down.
We discussed and selected a
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weight which we considered to be
a good healthy weight for him.
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He mentioned that he's going to
stick to this program a hundred
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percent for two years. In two
years, what happens after two
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years? Well I
hope he continues to
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stick to the program. If he's
wise, he'll continue with the
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program. I thought
it might have been a
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two years that you picked or
it's something he's committed to
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It's up to him. If he likes
being better it would be my
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suggestion that after two years
he continue to follow those
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principles and he
will continue to improve.
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Now he also told us he
lost about eight pounds.
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That's very good. That's true.
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For a guy his weight that's
pretty good isn't it. We see
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guys that like me, I was really
heavy. I lost 22 pounds. With
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him he lost eight. Now where
do we need to go? How do we know
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when to stop losing? Or do
our bodies automatically tell us
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when it's time? Well
maybe not automatically
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tell you. There are different
ways they can do it. They
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calculate out something called
the body mass index which I
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don't use very much. The number
is 25. So if you're less than 25
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when you calculate it out
you know they say you're okay. I
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think it's a little bit generous
because people, if they're at 25
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they can have some extra layers
of adipose which they might be
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healthier without. So, in
Asia the body mass index that's
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considered healthy is
lower, it's 23. So the American
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standard is a
little bit liberal.
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Well I thought it was awful
strange that at 195 pounds I was
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overweight, but at 194 I was
normal according to BMI index.
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Any advice for the viewers, Doc?
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Well my advice is learn what the
rules of health are and follow
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them and put them into practice
in your own life. And as long as
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you continue to follow the rules
you should do very well. It's
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when you stray from the rules.
If you want to have good health,
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follow the rules.
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Amen. Doctor I want to thank you
for joining us. It's a pleasure
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having you here and
always good to chat with you.
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Thank you very much Ron.
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And thank you friends, but don't
go away we'll be back after this
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The next deadly psychological
sin is emotionalism or what we
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call living by our feelings. I
do cognitive behavioral therapy
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and on my list of distorted
thoughts there's one entry
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called emotional reasoning and
emotional reasoning goes like
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this: If I feel this way it must
be so. So if I feel guilty I
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must be guilty. If I feel like
that person doesn't like me then
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they must not like
me. Emotional reasoning is
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kind of over-interpreting
our intuitions and assuming that
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they never misfire or give us
false information. Intuition is
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a wonderful gift but it's
fallible so it's not safe to
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live by our emotions or to draw
conclusions based on emotion
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alone. At the same time we need
to value our emotions. As I see
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it they're like two-year-olds.
We love our two-year-olds. We
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listen to our two-year-olds, we
pay attention to our two-year-
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olds. But we don't let them
drive the car. They're in the
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back in a safety seat and the
same with emotions. Listen to
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your emotions, value your
emotions, but don't let them
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drive the car. You'll end up
in a ditch. The replacement for
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emotionalism is living by
principle. Remember that motion
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leads to emotion. So often as we
live by principle our emotions
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will end up aligning with those
principles. In other words,
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we'll end up getting an
emotional reward for living
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by principle. Let me give you
an example. The story goes like
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this. Newspaper columnist and
minister, George Crane, tells of
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a wife who came into his
office full of hatred toward her
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husband. I don't only want
to get rid of him. I want to get
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even. Before I divorce him I
want to hurt him as much as he's
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hurt me. Dr. Crane suggested an
ingenious plan. He said go home
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and act if you really love your
husband. Tell him how much he
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means to you. Praise him for
every decent trait. Go out of
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your way to be as kind,
considerate and generous as
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possible. Spare no effort to
please him, to enjoy him. Make
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him believe you love him. After
you've convinced him of your
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undying love and that you cannot
live without him, then drop the
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bomb. Tell him that you're
getting a divorce. That will
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really hurt him. With revenge
in her eyes she smiled and
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exclaimed beautiful, beautiful.
He'll be so surprised and then
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she followed through with her
plan with enthusiasm. When she
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didn't return Crane called
her. He said are you ready to go
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through with the divorce?
Divorce, she said, never. I
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discovered I really do love him.
Acting on principle leads us to
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believe what we're acting. I
don't like the expression fake
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it till you make it because
I don't want to be phony but I
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love the expression faith
it till you make it. Act on
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principle by faith and
eventually your feelings will
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align with your actions.
There's another way to combat
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emotionalism and that's what
we in psychology call cognitive
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behavioral therapy. We have
noticed that life events lead to
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negative emotions in many people
but there's something that
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mediates between life events and
circumstances and those emotions
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and that is what we call
cognitive processing. It's the
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way we think about those events.
The good thing is that while we
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can't usually directly change
our emotions. I don't know if
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you've ever tried that but it's
kind of like trying to keep a
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wave on the sand. You can't
really change your emotions but
00:23:53.86\00:23:57.20
you can change your thoughts
and often when you change your
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thoughts your emotions will
follow those thoughts. So what
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we do in cognitive behavioral
therapy is we introduce people
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to various forms of distorted
thinking and we teach them how
00:24:08.74\00:24:12.61
to make themselves accountable
for how they're thinking about
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the events in their lives.
Let me give you some examples of
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these distorted thoughts.
Catastrophizing - Making things
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much worse than they are.
Mind reading - Thinking you know
00:24:23.46\00:24:27.13
what's in a person's mind
when really you don't know. I
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remember preaching once at a
church and someone looking at me
00:24:30.80\00:24:33.77
like this and feeling really
intimidated by that and just
00:24:33.80\00:24:36.67
assuming that he was criticizing
my sermon. Afterward he came up
00:24:36.71\00:24:40.14
and said praise the Lord
for that sermon sister. It was
00:24:40.18\00:24:43.11
funny. It was a real lesson
in the fact that I can't read
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people's minds. Another
misbelief or another way of
00:24:46.11\00:24:48.98
distorted thinking is negative
filtering - Focusing only on the
00:24:49.02\00:24:54.12
negative. How about over-
generalizing. We see someone
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and perhaps he's done something
foolish and we say he's an idiot
00:24:56.19\00:24:59.63
instead of saying the
truth which is that he can be
00:24:59.66\00:25:02.70
thoughtless at times and
he's made mistakes but he has
00:25:02.73\00:25:06.20
redeeming qualities as
well. What about dichotomous
00:25:06.23\00:25:09.60
thinking - black and white
thinking. Either we have fun on
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this campout or we don't. What
about shoulds? Sometimes people
00:25:13.21\00:25:16.68
view the world continually
through should glasses. I just
00:25:16.71\00:25:20.38
look at the people in my life
in terms of what they should be
00:25:20.42\00:25:24.02
instead of accepting them as
they are. It really backfires
00:25:24.05\00:25:27.19
because the more you should
people the less influence you
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have over them typically. What
about personalizing? That's a
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form of distorted thinking
where I take responsibility for
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what someone else has done. Or
what about blaming when I put on
00:25:37.53\00:25:41.37
them the blame that belongs
to me? Another distorted thought
00:25:41.40\00:25:45.11
unfair comparisons - Comparing
myself with other people in such
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a way that I make myself feel
either too good about myself or
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bad. Those are just some
examples of distorted styles of
00:25:52.78\00:25:56.45
thinking. What we do in
cognitive behavioral therapy is
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we help people replace those
distorted styles of thinking
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with healthy, balanced thinking.
And basically learn how to tell
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themselves the truth. Once
they're thinking more clearly
00:26:07.60\00:26:11.13
then their emotions start
to match their thought life and
00:26:11.17\00:26:15.54
they start to feel better.
So living by principle involves
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acting on principle and thinking
correctly on principle and what
00:26:19.87\00:26:25.28
we find ultimately is that
the emotions will follow those
00:26:25.31\00:26:28.85
correct actions and thoughts
and you'll end up feeling what
00:26:28.88\00:26:32.39
you're living and
what you're thinking.
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