This is the air I breathe
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This is the air I breathe
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Your holy presence
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It's living in me
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This is my daily bread
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This is my daily bread
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Your very word
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Spoken to me
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And I
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I'm desperate for you
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And I
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I'm lost without you
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This is the air I breathe
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This is the air I breathe
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Your holy presence
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Living in me
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This is my daily bread
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This is my daily bread
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Your very word
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Spoken to me
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And I
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I'm desperate for you
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And I
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I'm lost without you
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And I
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I'm desperate for you
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And I
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I'm lost without you
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I'm lost without you
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We fall down
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We lay our crowns
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At the feet of Jesus
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The greatness of
His mercy and love
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At the feet of Jesus
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And we cry
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Holy, holy, holy
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And we cry
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Holy, holy, holy
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And we cry
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Holy, holy, holy
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Is the Lamb
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We fall down
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We lay our crowns
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At the feet of Jesus
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The greatness of
His mercy and love
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At the feet of Jesus
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And we cry
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Holy, holy, holy
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And we cry
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Holy, holy, holy
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And we cry
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Holy, holy, holy
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Is the Lamb
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And we cry
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Holy, holy, holy
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Is the Lamb
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Here I am
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Down on my knees again
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Surrendering all
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Surrendering all
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And find me here
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Lord as You draw me near
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I'm desperate for You
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I'm desperate for You
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I surrender
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Drench my soul
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As mercy and grace unfold
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I hunger and thirst
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I hunger and thirst
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With arms stretched wide
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I know You hear my cry
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Speak to me now
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Speak to me now
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I surrender
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I surrender
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I want to know You more
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I want to know You more
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I surrender
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I surrender
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I want to know You more
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I want to know You more
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Like a rushing wind
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Jesus breathe within
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Lord have Your way
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Lord have Your way in me
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Like a mighty storm
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Stir within my soul
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Lord have Your way
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Lord have Your way in me
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Like a rushing wind
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Jesus breathe within
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Lord have Your way
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Lord have Your way in me
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Like a mighty storm
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Stir within my soul
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Lord have Your way
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Lord have Your way in me
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I surrender
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I surrender
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I want to know You more
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I want to know You more
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I surrender
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I surrender
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I want to know You more
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I want to know You more
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I surrender all
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I surrender all
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All to Thee
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My blessed Savior
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I surrender all
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October 22nd, 1844,
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anticipating the return
of Jesus Christ to the earth,
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the Baptist
preacher William Miller
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had studied
Scripture and concluded
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that Christ would return
on that date to this world.
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Local church historian,
Dr. Brian Strayer says,
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"When midnight passed
on that frigid Tuesday,
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October 22nd, 1844,
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and Christ had not come
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thousands of
William Miller's followers
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like Hiram Edson wept and wept
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until the day dawn.
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Hundreds more felt diluted.
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They gave up their
faith in the Second Advent
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or forsook
Christianity altogether.
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Scores embraced
celibacy by joining the shakers,
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dozens of others set
new dates for Christ return.
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But while Miller acknowledged
his error regarding the date,
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his 35 years of intense
Bible study had brought him
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to the point where in his words
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I found in Jesus a friend,
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and although twice
disappointed, he said,
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I am not yet cast
down or discouraged.
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And my hope in
the coming of Christ
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is as strong as ever.
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I have fixed my eyes,
my mind upon another time.
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And here, I mean to stand
until God gives me more light.
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And that is today, today, today,
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until He comes.
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I have fixed my mind
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On another time
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On another
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Time
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And here I mean
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To stand until
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God gives me
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More light
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And that is
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Today, today
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Today until
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He comes
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I have fixed my mind
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On another time
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On another time
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I have set my course
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On the narrow way
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On the narrow way
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For I know the time
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Is close at hand
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For which I watch and pray
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And that is
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Today, today
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Today until
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He comes
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I have set my course
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On the narrow way
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On the narrow way
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Even so Lord come quickly
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This is my fervent prayer
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For I've caught
a glimpse of glory
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And I'm longing to be there
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When shall the Son of Man appear
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The trumpet sound its blast
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And Christ descend
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in glorious fire
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With all the saints amassed
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We'll rise with those
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Who sleep no more
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To meet Him in the air
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When shall
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The Son of Man appear
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The Son of Man
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Appear
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The Son of Man appear
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This he's my favorite friend
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For I've caught
a glimpse of glory
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And I'm longing to be there
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I have fixed my mind
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On another
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Time
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On another
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Time
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Let's pray.
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Oh, God, what's that prayer
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that ends all of Holy Scripture
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even so come Lord Jesus, please.
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But don't come if
the people we love,
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if our own hearts aren't ready.
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You're giving us that time.
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And all we have is today.
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And today and
today at the moments
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we wrap up
worship with right now,
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equip us and prepare
us for our Lord Jesus.
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In His name, we pray.
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Amen.
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Once upon a time,
there was a group of men.
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I don't wanna
call them smarty pants
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because that doesn't
sound very respectful.
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But you know, the kind of people
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I'm talking
about, the know-it-alls,
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they're called Pharisees.
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One day, they
accosted the young teacher,
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preacher, Jesus of Nazareth.
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They said, we have
a question for you.
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It was a trap.
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It was about marriage,
marriage, Martin Luther,
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the great Protestant reformer
00:20:05.87\00:20:08.20
reminds me of
something he wrote once
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when he was contemplating
preaching on marriage.
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And I'll put his
words on the screen here.
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How I dread preaching
on the estate of marriage.
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Give me any other
subject, not this one please.
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The lax authority
of both the spiritual
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and temporal swords,
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that would be the
church and the state.
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So these two
authorities, church and state.
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The lax authority has given rise
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to so many dreadful abuses
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and false situations
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that I would much prefer
neither to look into the matter
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nor to hear of it.
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But timidity is no
help in an emergency.
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So I must proceed.
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I must try to instruct
poor bewildered consciences
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and take up the matter boldly.
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Well, it's a
whole lot easier today
00:20:52.88\00:20:54.22
to preach about marriage.
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You know why?
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Because this book
begins with a marriage
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and this book
ends with a marriage.
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You have the marriage of
Adam and Eve in the beginning,
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and you have the
marriage of the lamb at the end.
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So it's not so hard
because everything in between
00:21:05.06\00:21:06.86
the two marriages
is all about marriage.
00:21:06.90\00:21:11.03
So it's not so tough.
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They did a survey of
the American public in 2018,
00:21:13.07\00:21:15.60
it was called the
American political
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and social behavior survey.
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Listen to this, two out of
three Americans, all right.
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Two-thirds of Americans
who responded disagreed
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with the opinion that marriage
is an outdated institution.
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That's pretty good.
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Two-thirds of
Americans are saying,
00:21:32.39\00:21:33.72
no, no, this is still viable.
00:21:33.76\00:21:35.09
Marriage is still viable.
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I'm not abandoning it.
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So the Pharisees,
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these wise guys
Pharisees can walk in up.
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And by the way,
they're out to kill Jesus.
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And in a few weeks from
when they raise this question,
00:21:45.87\00:21:48.20
they'll have
accomplished their agenda.
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He'll be dead.
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They ask Him about marriage.
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Well, it really
wasn't about marriage.
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They asked him about divorce,
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but Jesus takes their question
00:21:57.78\00:21:59.48
on divorce, flips it around.
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He says, "Let me
tell you about marriage."
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And two-thirds of Americans
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ought to be pretty
happy with His response.
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Open your Bible if you
brought it with you today,
00:22:09.76\00:22:11.29
or you got it on your
device to Matthew Chapter 19.
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So the first gospel
of the New Testament,
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Matthew Chapter 19.
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Take a look.
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Take a look for
yourself, Matthew Chapter 19.
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And we're gonna
drop down and begin
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right up near the
top of the chapter.
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We're gonna begin in verse 3.
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Now I've got it in the NIV here,
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but I'm gonna put the message.
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You ever read the message.
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Boy, sometimes you
wanna fresh reading,
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just pull it out.
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And so let's, let's read
this and keep your Bible open,
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but we'll read
it in the message.
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"One day the
Pharisees were badgering Jesus:
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'Is it legal for a man
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to divorce his
wife for any reason?"
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Pause button. Do you know what?
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That is a terribly male
chauvinistic kind of question.
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There's not a
word about the woman.
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Hey, come on.
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Can we man divorce our
wives for any reason at all?
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And the NIV adds, NIV adds.
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When they translate this,
00:23:06.78\00:23:09.02
they say, for
any and every reason,
00:23:09.05\00:23:14.39
chauvinist, but Jesus
catches them by surprise.
00:23:14.42\00:23:18.36
They wanna know about divorce.
00:23:18.39\00:23:20.16
He says, "Let me
tell you about marriage."
00:23:20.20\00:23:22.70
So He goes on
"Jesus, answering them said,
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'Haven't you read in your Bible
00:23:25.10\00:23:27.10
that the Creator originally made
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man and woman
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for each other,
male and female?'"
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Yeah. I read that in the Bible.
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Jesus just simply dials up
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the beginning book
of the Old Testament,
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it was the only
Bible He had back then.
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And there it is, Genesis 1:27,
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"Male and female
created He them."
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So Jesus grabs that line.
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He says, "Wait a
minute, wait a minute.
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Marriage is not about the man.
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Marriage is not about the woman.
00:23:58.60\00:24:00.24
Marriage is about
both the man and the woman.
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Marriage is all
about the couple."
00:24:02.47\00:24:04.37
Frederick Dale Bruner in his...
00:24:07.84\00:24:10.38
For me, terribly
inspiring commentary
00:24:10.41\00:24:14.82
writes this in response to that.
00:24:14.85\00:24:17.15
"If God had supremely
intended solitary life,
00:24:17.19\00:24:21.16
God would have
created humans one by one."
00:24:21.19\00:24:25.06
Well, that makes sense to me.
00:24:25.09\00:24:26.43
If God had
intended polygamous life,
00:24:26.46\00:24:28.56
God would have created
one man and several women.
00:24:28.60\00:24:32.43
If God had
intended homosexual life,
00:24:32.47\00:24:34.64
God would have made
them two men or two women.
00:24:34.67\00:24:37.61
Keep reading.
00:24:37.64\00:24:38.97
"But that God intended
monogamous heterosexual life
00:24:39.01\00:24:42.24
is shown by God's creation
of one man and one woman.
00:24:42.28\00:24:46.72
Then by immediately commanding
the two of them to reproduce."
00:24:46.75\00:24:50.99
'Cause He says
right after Genesis 1,
00:24:51.02\00:24:53.82
"Be fruitful and multiply."
00:24:53.86\00:24:55.39
"God showed that He
honored their sexual union
00:24:55.42\00:24:59.39
and that this union is
good and it is His will."
00:24:59.43\00:25:05.23
But Jesus isn't through yet.
00:25:05.27\00:25:06.97
Pick it up again.
00:25:07.00\00:25:08.34
Verse 4, "And He answered,
'Haven't you read in your Bible
00:25:08.37\00:25:10.67
that the Creator
originally made man and woman
00:25:10.71\00:25:12.61
for each other, male and female?
00:25:12.64\00:25:14.51
And because of
this, a man leaves
00:25:14.54\00:25:16.34
his father and mother,
00:25:16.38\00:25:17.78
and is firmly bonded to
his wife becoming one flesh,
00:25:17.81\00:25:22.32
no longer two bodies but one.
00:25:22.35\00:25:25.22
Because God created this
organic union of the two sexes,
00:25:25.25\00:25:28.52
no one should desecrate
00:25:28.56\00:25:30.09
His art by cutting them apart."
00:25:30.13\00:25:35.16
Now everybody knows
the story about God,
00:25:35.20\00:25:37.10
the Creator, putting
Adam to sleep, right?
00:25:37.13\00:25:39.30
A little bit of anesthesia there
00:25:39.33\00:25:40.67
and he's sound asleep.
00:25:40.70\00:25:42.04
And then what does He do?
00:25:42.07\00:25:43.41
He doesn't go to his foot.
He doesn't go to his crown.
00:25:43.44\00:25:44.77
He takes it
right out of the side.
00:25:44.81\00:25:46.14
He removes that rib
and out of that rib,
00:25:46.17\00:25:49.08
the beautiful form of
Adam's life companion.
00:25:49.11\00:25:52.21
Now Jacques Doukhan
reminds us of that story
00:25:55.62\00:25:59.79
and then writes this.
00:25:59.82\00:26:01.86
This is good, Jacques Doukhan
00:26:01.89\00:26:03.46
in his groundbreaking
commentary on Genesis.
00:26:03.49\00:26:07.56
"The divine removal of man's rib
00:26:07.60\00:26:09.43
and creation of the woman
00:26:09.46\00:26:10.80
grounds the special
and unique connection
00:26:10.83\00:26:13.74
between man and woman,
00:26:13.77\00:26:15.90
a bond so powerful and exclusive
00:26:15.94\00:26:19.27
that it will not tolerate,
00:26:19.31\00:26:21.38
that it will
tolerate no other connection,
00:26:21.41\00:26:24.45
not even that with parents."
00:26:24.48\00:26:27.35
Now, look, I've been while...
00:26:27.38\00:26:28.72
I've been around for a while
00:26:28.75\00:26:30.09
and I've known
parents, my own parents.
00:26:30.12\00:26:31.45
I know myself as a parent,
00:26:31.49\00:26:32.82
but I'm concerned
when I see a parent.
00:26:32.85\00:26:34.19
No, I'm serious.
00:26:34.22\00:26:35.56
When I see a parent,
it could be a father,
00:26:35.59\00:26:36.93
it could be a mother
00:26:36.96\00:26:38.29
hovering over a young
adult or even an adult child
00:26:38.33\00:26:41.03
who is married still
attempting to exert authority
00:26:41.06\00:26:45.57
over that grownup child,
00:26:45.60\00:26:46.94
or to constantly
intervene in the circumstances
00:26:46.97\00:26:49.24
and details of
that child's life.
00:26:49.27\00:26:50.91
Mom and dad, time out, back off.
00:26:50.94\00:26:53.94
The man leaves
his father and mother.
00:26:56.98\00:26:58.58
How does Doukhan put it?
00:26:58.61\00:27:00.02
This bond is so
powerful and exclusive
00:27:00.05\00:27:02.65
that it will
tolerate no other connection,
00:27:02.68\00:27:05.92
not even that with parents.
00:27:05.95\00:27:09.96
Huh.
00:27:09.99\00:27:11.33
Bruner goes on.
00:27:14.66\00:27:16.00
The joining...
00:27:16.03\00:27:17.37
And I like this.
00:27:17.40\00:27:18.73
"The joining of a man
and a woman is so profound
00:27:18.77\00:27:22.54
that the joining creates a
third reality in the world:
00:27:22.57\00:27:26.74
one flesh marriage."
00:27:26.78\00:27:29.48
So God, in the
beginning, God created man,
00:27:29.51\00:27:31.51
in the
beginning, God created woman
00:27:31.55\00:27:32.91
and He created a third.
00:27:32.95\00:27:34.98
In the beginning,
God created man and woman
00:27:35.02\00:27:37.02
as a one flesh, they are ice.
00:27:37.05\00:27:39.22
They are separate,
a separate creation.
00:27:39.25\00:27:43.93
My, oh, my.
00:27:43.96\00:27:45.69
And that's why, by the way,
00:27:45.73\00:27:47.06
you'll have the
Apostle Paul arguing,
00:27:47.10\00:27:49.80
why you should not
have sex with a prostitute.
00:27:49.83\00:27:54.07
Why you should not
have sex with a wife
00:27:54.10\00:27:56.07
who is not your wife.
00:27:56.10\00:27:58.31
Why you should not
have sex with the husband
00:27:58.34\00:28:00.44
who is not your husband.
00:28:00.48\00:28:03.01
Paul's making the
point right here, put it on.
00:28:03.04\00:28:06.38
I love it in the message.
00:28:06.41\00:28:07.78
Again, here's 1
Corinthians 6:16,
00:28:07.82\00:28:10.35
"There's more to sex
than mere skin on skin.
00:28:10.39\00:28:15.36
Sex is as much spiritual mystery
00:28:15.39\00:28:17.86
as physical fact.
00:28:17.89\00:28:19.49
As written in Scripture,
'The two become one.'"
00:28:19.53\00:28:22.60
The very line that Jesus
accesses with the Pharisees,
00:28:22.63\00:28:25.53
Paul says, guess what?
00:28:25.57\00:28:26.94
I go to that same line
too, the two become one.
00:28:26.97\00:28:31.01
A one flesh
marriage is a new creation,
00:28:31.04\00:28:34.34
never existed before.
00:28:34.38\00:28:37.51
My.
00:28:37.55\00:28:38.88
"The Apostle Paul argues
against sexual promiscuity
00:28:41.88\00:28:44.65
from this
creation rooted truth."
00:28:44.69\00:28:47.22
This is something,
"Physical union brings
00:28:47.26\00:28:49.32
metaphysical communion,
00:28:49.36\00:28:53.73
sexual intercourse delivers
a spiritual interconnection
00:28:53.76\00:28:57.73
so deep that it
should be entered
00:28:57.77\00:29:00.40
only where there are," what?
00:29:00.44\00:29:02.50
What?
00:29:02.54\00:29:03.87
"Strong undergirding
foundations of spiritual faith
00:29:03.91\00:29:07.28
and biblical marriage."
00:29:07.31\00:29:09.11
Take a look at
those two ingredients.
00:29:09.14\00:29:10.65
You wanna have
sex with somebody.
00:29:10.68\00:29:12.01
You gotta have those two.
00:29:12.05\00:29:13.38
You want it to be a happy sex?
00:29:13.42\00:29:14.75
You want it to
be a fulfilling sex.
00:29:14.78\00:29:16.12
Of course, you do.
00:29:16.15\00:29:17.49
It has to... You
have to have those two.
00:29:17.52\00:29:19.02
You got to have a
foundation of spiritual faith
00:29:19.05\00:29:21.62
and a foundation of
a biblical marriage.
00:29:21.66\00:29:24.13
Then sex works.
00:29:24.16\00:29:26.53
If you don't have
those two, I'm gonna tell you
00:29:26.56\00:29:28.00
if you're just
hooking up, I'm telling you,
00:29:28.03\00:29:32.00
you are playing with dynamite
00:29:32.03\00:29:33.64
where the fuse
is already lighted.
00:29:33.67\00:29:37.17
And when that thing goes off,
00:29:37.21\00:29:38.54
it blows
everybody to smithereens.
00:29:38.57\00:29:40.38
Nobody gets out of that
sexual relationship unscathed.
00:29:40.41\00:29:45.91
It's a big
deal, a very big deal.
00:29:45.95\00:29:49.95
Wow.
00:29:52.95\00:29:54.29
Outside of
those two foundations,
00:29:54.32\00:29:56.76
spiritual faith,
and biblical marriage,
00:29:56.79\00:30:01.26
don't do it.
00:30:01.30\00:30:02.63
Don't let him
sweet talk you girl.
00:30:02.66\00:30:04.20
Don't believe
him. He's not right.
00:30:04.23\00:30:07.17
He's lying to
you. He's using you.
00:30:07.20\00:30:10.27
That's all he's doing.
00:30:10.31\00:30:11.64
Yeah, Dwight, but Dwight,
what about same sex marriage?
00:30:14.98\00:30:18.18
Ooh, there's a subject.
00:30:18.21\00:30:20.62
Same sex
marriage. Glad you asked.
00:30:20.65\00:30:22.68
Two weeks from today
right now, two weeks from now,
00:30:22.72\00:30:26.62
title of the little
homily will be the Pope
00:30:26.65\00:30:29.39
and same sex marriage.
00:30:29.42\00:30:31.53
We're not gonna duck it
out if this is a series,
00:30:31.56\00:30:33.50
little short
five-part series on marriage.
00:30:33.53\00:30:36.36
We're not gonna duck that.
00:30:36.40\00:30:38.30
We'll come do it
two weeks from today,
00:30:38.33\00:30:39.67
you'll be right here.
00:30:39.70\00:30:41.04
We'll talk about it
together, you and me.
00:30:41.07\00:30:42.54
And oh, by the way,
don't miss one week from today,
00:30:42.57\00:30:45.07
Pastor Rodney has
already mentioned this.
00:30:45.11\00:30:47.34
My new friends,
David and Beverly Sedlacek.
00:30:47.38\00:30:50.15
They are family life
00:30:50.18\00:30:51.51
and marriage
specialist therapists.
00:30:51.55\00:30:54.25
And they're gonna be
in the pulpit together
00:30:54.28\00:30:56.79
and we're gonna
hear it like it is.
00:30:56.82\00:30:59.12
Next week, don't be
anywhere right here,
00:30:59.15\00:31:01.52
you're gonna get blessed.
00:31:01.56\00:31:02.96
All right.
00:31:02.99\00:31:05.19
It's very interesting by the way
00:31:05.23\00:31:06.70
that when Jesus
speaks to these Pharisees
00:31:06.73\00:31:08.76
here in Matthew, 19:6,
00:31:08.80\00:31:10.20
Matthew uses a
most unusual word.
00:31:10.23\00:31:13.94
So this is from the NIV now.
00:31:13.97\00:31:15.50
"So they, the man and
woman, are no longer two,
00:31:15.54\00:31:18.87
but one flesh."
00:31:18.91\00:31:20.31
Now watch this.
00:31:20.34\00:31:21.68
"Therefore, what
God has joined together,
00:31:21.71\00:31:26.21
let no one separate."
00:31:26.25\00:31:29.55
What God has joined together.
00:31:29.58\00:31:31.35
Here's how it
really should read.
00:31:31.39\00:31:35.82
You remember a few
days before this incident
00:31:35.86\00:31:40.00
with the Pharisees,
00:31:40.03\00:31:41.56
Jesus speaks
this most beautiful.
00:31:41.60\00:31:44.03
You can do it out loud with
me this most beautiful promise.
00:31:44.07\00:31:46.30
In Matthew chapter
11:28, "Come unto me,
00:31:46.33\00:31:48.90
come to me all you
who labor and are" what?
00:31:48.94\00:31:51.84
"Heavy burdened and
I will give you rest."
00:31:51.87\00:31:54.11
Now I want you to
notice the next line.
00:31:54.14\00:31:55.74
So this is that five
star promise of Jesus.
00:31:55.78\00:31:58.85
The next line in
verse 29, "Take My yoke,"
00:31:58.88\00:32:01.65
see that word yoke,
00:32:01.68\00:32:03.02
"Take my yoke upon
you and learn from Me
00:32:03.05\00:32:05.22
for My yoke is easy
and My burden is light.
00:32:05.25\00:32:10.23
The same word here for a yoke
00:32:10.26\00:32:13.13
and it's a noun is used
as a verb in Matthew 19:6.
00:32:13.16\00:32:17.80
So we could actually
read Matthew 19:6 this way,
00:32:17.83\00:32:20.10
"Therefore what
God has yoked together,
00:32:20.14\00:32:23.94
let no one separate."
00:32:23.97\00:32:25.51
Do you know why oxen have yolks?
00:32:25.54\00:32:29.74
Because it's too much
to pull for just one guy.
00:32:29.78\00:32:33.85
When you put a yoke on an oxen,
it's good news for the oxen
00:32:33.88\00:32:37.05
because somebody is
going to come up real close
00:32:37.09\00:32:39.42
bumping shoulders,
00:32:39.45\00:32:40.79
and we're gonna
do this together.
00:32:40.82\00:32:43.59
So that when Jesus
says, when Jesus says
00:32:43.63\00:32:46.13
what God has yoked together,
00:32:46.16\00:32:48.63
He's describing
that glorious benefit,
00:32:48.66\00:32:51.60
a very special
somebody shoulder to shoulder,
00:32:51.63\00:32:54.60
a heart to heart, life to
life for the rest of your life.
00:32:54.64\00:32:58.11
You're gonna be bumping
into each other the whole way.
00:32:58.14\00:33:00.58
Why? Because
you're yoked together.
00:33:00.61\00:33:04.21
That's the deal about marriage.
00:33:04.25\00:33:06.01
God yokes you together.
00:33:06.05\00:33:08.02
You don't have to wander
through life and hook up here
00:33:08.05\00:33:10.49
and date there and never know.
00:33:10.52\00:33:13.05
You can get yoked up.
00:33:13.09\00:33:16.02
Therefore, what
God has yoked together,
00:33:16.06\00:33:17.96
let no one separate.
00:33:17.99\00:33:21.43
Wow.
00:33:21.46\00:33:22.80
Jesus says, "Take
My yoke upon you."
00:33:22.83\00:33:26.67
Wait a minute, if Jesus says,
00:33:26.70\00:33:28.04
take My yoke
upon you and God says,
00:33:28.07\00:33:29.74
I'm gonna yoke you two together.
00:33:29.77\00:33:31.27
If you two together are
yoked and you're yoked to Jesus,
00:33:31.31\00:33:34.28
you had the best of
every world on this planet
00:33:34.31\00:33:38.31
because you have
what, what Bruner.
00:33:38.35\00:33:39.75
And I'm so grateful. I
have never seen this before.
00:33:39.78\00:33:41.98
Never, never, never till Bruner.
00:33:42.02\00:33:44.15
Show this to me.
00:33:44.19\00:33:45.52
I'm so grateful
that he revealed this
00:33:45.55\00:33:47.92
when there is a threefold yoke,
00:33:47.96\00:33:50.73
you and her, you
and him and Jesus.
00:33:50.76\00:33:54.10
When there is a threefold yoke,
00:33:54.13\00:33:56.40
that is, when there is a
discipled to Jesus couple,
00:33:56.43\00:34:00.60
they both are yoked, or
this is really the best,
00:34:00.64\00:34:03.44
when they are
both yoked to Jesus,
00:34:03.47\00:34:05.37
the prospects are
downright exciting.
00:34:05.41\00:34:09.94
Man, it doesn't get
any better than that.
00:34:09.98\00:34:13.08
That's why people are serious
about, hey, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo.
00:34:13.11\00:34:15.45
Make sure that
00:34:15.48\00:34:16.82
whoever you're
marrying is yoked to Jesus.
00:34:16.85\00:34:19.79
That's a good deal.
00:34:19.82\00:34:21.46
Why? Because then
you got the threefold.
00:34:21.49\00:34:23.83
You got everything
pulling for you now.
00:34:23.86\00:34:26.03
Don't get yoked up.
No, no, no, no. Hold On.
00:34:26.06\00:34:27.76
Wait, wait,
wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:34:27.80\00:34:30.37
Share the same yoke with Jesus.
00:34:30.40\00:34:34.20
But the problem is, I
don't mind telling you,
00:34:34.24\00:34:36.24
Christian marriage
is in trouble today.
00:34:36.27\00:34:38.04
And by the way,
00:34:38.07\00:34:39.41
it's not just
Christian marriage.
00:34:39.44\00:34:40.78
Marriages are in trouble today.
00:34:40.81\00:34:42.14
According to the
sociologist, Mark Regnerus.
00:34:42.18\00:34:46.11
And we met him last
week in his new book,
00:34:46.15\00:34:47.75
The Future of
Christian Marriage.
00:34:47.78\00:34:49.12
And I wanna say it
again for a reason,
00:34:49.15\00:34:50.75
the book is published,
the sociologist's book
00:34:50.79\00:34:53.92
and teaches at a
university of Texas, Austin.
00:34:53.96\00:34:56.62
The book is published by
the Oxford University Press.
00:34:56.66\00:34:59.19
And I make the point
00:34:59.23\00:35:00.56
because some
people tend to this.
00:35:00.60\00:35:01.93
Oh, is it Christian research?
00:35:01.96\00:35:03.87
Nothing, nothing to it.
00:35:03.90\00:35:05.57
We have a whole campus
full of Christian researchers.
00:35:05.60\00:35:07.70
And guess what?
00:35:07.74\00:35:09.07
Researchers, there is something
00:35:09.10\00:35:10.44
very significant to what you do.
00:35:10.47\00:35:12.24
Oxford
University Press comes along
00:35:12.27\00:35:13.61
and says, are you kidding?
00:35:13.64\00:35:14.98
That is great research.
00:35:15.01\00:35:16.34
And we will put our
name on the research.
00:35:16.38\00:35:19.81
So don't go bad mouthing,...
00:35:19.85\00:35:22.05
well, it's just a
Christian researcher
00:35:22.08\00:35:25.55
Regnerus, this will be
00:35:25.59\00:35:30.23
This will startle
you these numbers.
00:35:30.26\00:35:31.89
Look at this, "As
recently as 1970, okay,
00:35:31.93\00:35:35.36
80% of Americans
between the ages of 25
00:35:35.40\00:35:38.30
and 34 were married.
00:35:38.33\00:35:39.73
So the young people,
00:35:39.77\00:35:41.10
the young adults
who are here right now
00:35:41.14\00:35:42.50
are generally in
that range, around 25.
00:35:42.54\00:35:44.37
We'll go down to 18 in college,
throw the teens in as well.
00:35:44.41\00:35:47.61
But this is just talking about
this age bracket, 25 to 34,
00:35:47.64\00:35:51.35
80% of them back
in 1970 were married.
00:35:51.38\00:35:54.12
Now watch this.
00:35:54.15\00:35:55.58
But by 2015, that 80%
00:35:55.62\00:35:58.75
had shrunk to only 40%
00:35:58.79\00:36:01.82
with no sign of
recovery or even leveling off.
00:36:01.86\00:36:04.76
Never married
young Americans now
00:36:04.79\00:36:07.36
notably outnumber
their married counterparts.
00:36:07.40\00:36:12.10
So don't feel bad
if you're not married.
00:36:12.13\00:36:14.17
You outnumber those in your age,
00:36:14.20\00:36:17.01
demographic
slice who are married.
00:36:17.04\00:36:19.37
That's not bad or
evil, but what's going on.
00:36:19.41\00:36:23.75
What's going on is
marriage postponement...
00:36:23.78\00:36:26.41
Now I need you to
really follow this,
00:36:26.45\00:36:27.98
marriage postpone...
00:36:28.02\00:36:29.42
What are you talking
about marriage postponing?
00:36:29.45\00:36:31.02
Well, that means
the mean age in marriage
00:36:31.05\00:36:34.99
is rising in nearly
all these 15 countries.
00:36:35.02\00:36:37.33
He studied 15 countries.
00:36:37.36\00:36:38.69
Now mean age means
00:36:38.73\00:36:40.10
half of the
marriages began at this age,
00:36:40.13\00:36:42.86
above that age
and half are below it.
00:36:42.90\00:36:45.40
So the mean age
in marriage is rising
00:36:45.43\00:36:47.60
in nearly all
of these countries.
00:36:47.64\00:36:49.54
By 2014, 2016 women
in numerous countries
00:36:49.57\00:36:53.27
displayed a mean age
00:36:53.31\00:36:54.94
at first marriage of over 30.
00:36:54.98\00:36:58.28
It's going up.
00:36:58.31\00:36:59.68
Now by the way, and
these are his words.
00:36:59.71\00:37:01.72
"Thirty is the age at
which women's fertility
00:37:01.75\00:37:03.89
tends to begin a slow decline
00:37:03.92\00:37:05.92
and is generally
a popular benchmark
00:37:05.95\00:37:07.86
in the minds of many women."
00:37:07.89\00:37:09.22
I need to get
married right around 30.
00:37:09.26\00:37:10.89
I mean, you know,
please, he goes on.
00:37:10.93\00:37:13.53
"In most countries in the table,
00:37:13.56\00:37:15.23
those 15, the average
age at marriage climbed
00:37:15.26\00:37:18.57
at least three or four
years in just two decades,"
00:37:18.60\00:37:21.94
up, up, up, up.
00:37:21.97\00:37:25.17
Well, so here's
what the story is.
00:37:25.21\00:37:28.14
"What did I learn?
00:37:28.18\00:37:29.51
In short, marital delay matters.
00:37:29.54\00:37:32.88
Postponement drags
down marriage rates
00:37:32.91\00:37:35.82
in all regions of the world."
00:37:35.85\00:37:39.15
They're less and less
people getting married.
00:37:39.19\00:37:41.32
That's his point.
00:37:41.36\00:37:43.56
Again, we ask the question,
well, what's going on here.
00:37:43.59\00:37:46.49
There's a fascinating conclusion
00:37:46.53\00:37:47.90
that some of these
sociologists have made
00:37:47.93\00:37:49.80
and Regnarus agrees with them.
00:37:49.83\00:37:52.23
And that is we have moved
as a culture for a marriage
00:37:52.27\00:37:55.70
as a foundation for life
00:37:55.74\00:37:57.77
to marriage as a
capstone to life.
00:37:57.81\00:38:00.58
Now you say, Dwight,
what you're talking about.
00:38:00.61\00:38:02.01
Well, here's what
he's talking about.
00:38:02.04\00:38:03.78
When you build a building,
you got to have a foundation.
00:38:03.81\00:38:05.81
Everybody knows
that, you got to have
00:38:05.85\00:38:07.18
a good strong foundation.
00:38:07.22\00:38:08.55
Then you can build
on that foundation.
00:38:08.58\00:38:10.19
That's the way it used to be.
00:38:10.22\00:38:12.02
But sometimes
you want a capstone.
00:38:12.05\00:38:15.09
What's a capstone?
00:38:15.12\00:38:16.46
That's what goes on the top.
00:38:16.49\00:38:17.83
So when they built this
church, the steeple went last.
00:38:17.86\00:38:19.43
That would be the capstone.
00:38:19.46\00:38:21.40
It could be a gab...
00:38:21.43\00:38:22.76
A beautiful gabled
window right at the top,
00:38:22.80\00:38:24.20
near the top of your roof.
00:38:24.23\00:38:25.57
And you put that in last,
whoa, it's a cherry on top.
00:38:25.60\00:38:29.50
And what the
sociologists are saying
00:38:29.54\00:38:31.34
is we're moving from
marriage as a foundation,
00:38:31.37\00:38:33.31
hey girl, you and me,
we're gonna do this together.
00:38:33.34\00:38:35.54
I don't have much,
you don't have much,
00:38:35.58\00:38:37.25
but the two of us would love
and a little bit of initiative,
00:38:37.28\00:38:39.38
we can do it.
00:38:39.41\00:38:40.75
We can conquer
the world together.
00:38:40.78\00:38:42.12
We can, let's go.
00:38:42.15\00:38:45.25
Marriage begun
that way and marriage,
00:38:45.29\00:38:47.46
hey, I'm not ready for
getting married yet, man,
00:38:47.49\00:38:49.12
I got to get a PhD. And
then I got to work for one.
00:38:49.16\00:38:51.63
I got to invest
in the stock market.
00:38:51.66\00:38:53.86
I got to have a
little nest day ready to go,
00:38:53.90\00:38:56.80
and then I'll be ready...
00:38:56.83\00:38:58.57
That's what's happened to...
00:38:58.60\00:38:59.93
That's what's
happening to marriages.
00:38:59.97\00:39:01.30
Everybody's
waiting for the capstone
00:39:01.34\00:39:03.84
and you put it on top.
00:39:03.87\00:39:06.14
What's that mean?
00:39:06.17\00:39:07.51
Keep reading, "Most no
longer think of marriage
00:39:07.54\00:39:09.18
as a formative institution,
00:39:09.21\00:39:11.08
but rather as the
institution they enter
00:39:11.11\00:39:12.88
once they think
they are fully formed."
00:39:12.91\00:39:14.95
And last, I'm ready. Hallelujah.
00:39:14.98\00:39:16.75
I think I'll get married.
00:39:16.79\00:39:18.12
Increasing numbers of Christians
00:39:18.15\00:39:19.49
think the same way.
00:39:19.52\00:39:20.86
Yep.
00:39:20.89\00:39:22.22
When marriage was considered
00:39:22.26\00:39:23.59
foundational to
the adult life course,
00:39:23.63\00:39:25.73
what happened?
00:39:25.76\00:39:27.10
More people
entered into matrimony
00:39:27.13\00:39:28.96
and did so earlier
than they do today.
00:39:29.00\00:39:30.70
Typically, by
several years, keep reading.
00:39:30.73\00:39:33.34
"There was an
emphasis on building something,
00:39:33.37\00:39:35.40
a family, a household,
00:39:35.44\00:39:36.77
perhaps a career
financial success.
00:39:36.81\00:39:38.44
Foundational marriages were
commonly characterized by love,
00:39:38.47\00:39:42.14
but were
intended to be practical,
00:39:42.18\00:39:43.78
two people
taking shelter together
00:39:43.81\00:39:46.11
and celebrating
what achievements
00:39:46.15\00:39:47.92
they can muster as a team,
00:39:47.95\00:39:50.22
even if their
roles were distinctive
00:39:50.25\00:39:52.29
and they often were."
00:39:52.32\00:39:53.66
One more line.
00:39:53.69\00:39:55.02
"The shift has
gone largely unnoticed
00:39:55.06\00:39:57.43
over the past half century."
00:39:57.46\00:40:00.70
What's everybody
talking about here?
00:40:00.73\00:40:03.40
Well, you have
parents now advising children.
00:40:03.43\00:40:04.97
Hey, honey, honey,
do slow down, slow down.
00:40:05.00\00:40:07.17
You don't wanna..
00:40:07.20\00:40:08.54
You don't want to
just marry that boy,
00:40:08.57\00:40:11.14
you gotta, you
gotta finish school first.
00:40:11.17\00:40:13.07
And when you're finished school,
00:40:13.11\00:40:14.81
then you get a good job.
00:40:14.84\00:40:16.34
Listen, you don't
just take the first one
00:40:16.38\00:40:17.71
that comes along either.
00:40:17.75\00:40:19.08
Look around for a while.
00:40:19.11\00:40:20.45
Now parents are well-meaning
00:40:20.48\00:40:21.82
when they give
this kind of counsel.
00:40:21.85\00:40:23.18
But guess what
goes into the brain
00:40:23.22\00:40:24.55
of the young, young adult?
00:40:24.59\00:40:25.92
Well, I mean, this
is high risk stuff.
00:40:25.95\00:40:27.96
Oh, you're right. I
better not go in it.
00:40:27.99\00:40:30.59
And they become
paralyzed by this idea
00:40:30.63\00:40:32.86
of taking too bigger risk.
00:40:32.89\00:40:35.50
"As a result many Christian
young adults sense that
00:40:35.53\00:40:37.37
putting oneself in the
trust of another person,
00:40:37.40\00:40:39.67
whoa, it's foolish, it's risky.
00:40:39.70\00:40:41.70
Many choose to
wait out the risk,
00:40:41.74\00:40:43.37
sometimes for years to
see how our relationship
00:40:43.41\00:40:47.31
will fair before committing."
00:40:47.34\00:40:50.35
Wow, is this a big deal?
00:40:50.38\00:40:54.28
Man, here comes
the megaphone now.
00:40:54.32\00:40:56.12
This is a big deal.
Here comes the megaphone.
00:40:56.15\00:40:57.89
"I cannot
overemphasize how monumental,
00:40:57.92\00:41:01.16
how consequential, and
how subtle this shift is.
00:41:01.19\00:41:04.33
Marriage is morphing away
00:41:04.36\00:41:06.03
from being a
populist institution
00:41:06.06\00:41:08.30
in which most of
the world's adults
00:41:08.33\00:41:09.76
participated to becoming an
elite voluntary consumption,
00:41:09.80\00:41:14.20
oriented, and
oft-temporary arrangement."
00:41:14.24\00:41:17.97
And then this
stunning conclusion,
00:41:21.41\00:41:23.21
this is what blew
me out of the water.
00:41:23.24\00:41:25.51
"The more that
marriage is repackaged
00:41:25.55\00:41:27.82
and sold in the
West as a capstone
00:41:27.85\00:41:31.25
rather than a foundation,
the higher up the social ladder
00:41:31.29\00:41:34.86
marriage keeps climbing."
00:41:34.89\00:41:36.22
Keep reading.
00:41:36.26\00:41:37.59
Today, these,
the italics are mine.
00:41:37.63\00:41:39.46
"Today marriage
increasingly appears
00:41:39.49\00:41:42.36
as an upper middle-class symbol.
00:41:42.40\00:41:47.50
Marriage need no
longer be a foundation.
00:41:47.54\00:41:50.34
In fact,
marriage isn't necessary,
00:41:50.37\00:41:52.07
but it is still desired."
00:41:52.11\00:41:53.78
What's going on in here?
I'll tell you what's going on.
00:41:53.81\00:41:56.54
Have you heard of
these destination weddings?
00:41:56.58\00:41:58.01
Come on you girls have, I know.
00:41:58.05\00:41:59.41
Destination weddings, man,
00:41:59.45\00:42:00.98
you hope you never get
invited to one of those
00:42:01.02\00:42:02.48
because they
don't pay for your way.
00:42:02.52\00:42:05.75
Trust me if,
unless you're a preacher.
00:42:05.79\00:42:08.36
If...
00:42:08.39\00:42:09.72
And that's just a little hint,
00:42:09.76\00:42:11.23
but if you're
getting married in Tahiti,
00:42:11.26\00:42:13.70
man, you gotta buy the ticket.
00:42:13.73\00:42:15.06
You gotta get
your own hotel room.
00:42:15.10\00:42:17.07
Why don't we just do this
at the house or in the church?
00:42:17.10\00:42:20.64
But anyway, they have
these destination weddings,
00:42:20.67\00:42:22.34
but here's what's happened.
00:42:22.37\00:42:23.71
Our culture has
turned destination weddings
00:42:23.74\00:42:26.01
into destination marriages.
00:42:26.04\00:42:29.48
And it only comes
when you're all ready
00:42:29.51\00:42:32.35
and you have everything in place
00:42:32.38\00:42:34.45
and you have that portfolio
00:42:34.48\00:42:36.22
and you have that good
job and you had two cars.
00:42:36.25\00:42:39.39
And then capstone mistake.
00:42:39.42\00:42:43.89
I'm gonna show you something.
00:42:43.93\00:42:45.26
We got a lot of
social justice people here.
00:42:45.29\00:42:47.43
What's that mean?
00:42:47.46\00:42:48.80
People that are conscious about,
00:42:48.83\00:42:50.17
conscientious about
is this social justice.
00:42:50.20\00:42:52.57
Should I be speaking up?
00:42:52.60\00:42:53.94
I'm gonna give you a reason
to start speaking up right now.
00:42:53.97\00:42:56.00
Listen to this.
00:42:56.04\00:42:57.94
Our market-driven
capitalistic focus
00:42:57.97\00:43:01.08
on life has rendered
marriage in his glittering,
00:43:01.11\00:43:05.05
online depictions
00:43:05.08\00:43:06.41
as beyond the
reach of entire swaths
00:43:06.45\00:43:09.65
of social racial
and economic groups.
00:43:09.68\00:43:14.46
We've turned it into
this destination marriage,
00:43:14.49\00:43:17.26
and you have to
have everything in place
00:43:17.29\00:43:19.36
and then you can get married
00:43:19.39\00:43:21.30
and there are people
looking at each other.
00:43:21.33\00:43:22.76
And they're saying, I
know, that's what they say.
00:43:22.80\00:43:25.20
That's what they
say on the screen.
00:43:25.23\00:43:27.40
But no, I can't afford this.
00:43:27.44\00:43:29.64
And you know, what's happening?
00:43:29.67\00:43:31.01
People are
cohabiting, cohabitation.
00:43:31.04\00:43:33.78
They're living together.
00:43:33.81\00:43:35.14
Wow. I can't afford it.
00:43:35.18\00:43:36.51
Honey, I can't, we can't
have that kind of a wedding.
00:43:36.54\00:43:39.08
We're not even
talking wedding now.
00:43:39.11\00:43:41.22
Marriage is just too expensive.
00:43:41.25\00:43:44.39
This is a socioeconomic
racial social justice issue.
00:43:44.42\00:43:48.62
Sure, it is.
00:43:48.66\00:43:50.63
We've out-priced marriage
00:43:50.66\00:43:54.46
to average Americans.
00:43:54.50\00:43:57.67
And that is a big deal.
00:43:57.70\00:43:59.27
Why, who gave us
right to do that?
00:43:59.30\00:44:01.07
Who gave us the
right when God created
00:44:01.10\00:44:03.00
it as a foundation for
human life and success and love?
00:44:03.04\00:44:07.18
And we've turned
into it as a capstone,
00:44:07.21\00:44:09.04
maybe by the time you're 40,
you'll be ready, maybe by 45.
00:44:09.08\00:44:13.38
Who gave us the
right to do that?
00:44:13.42\00:44:15.62
And so the numbers
are dropping Post-moment
00:44:15.65\00:44:19.89
the ages are
getting higher and higher.
00:44:19.92\00:44:22.52
Wait. Wow.
00:44:22.56\00:44:25.89
In the words of
Christopher Lasch,
00:44:25.93\00:44:29.03
his book Haven in
a Heartless World,
00:44:29.06\00:44:31.57
"The sanctity of
the home is a sham
00:44:31.60\00:44:34.34
in a world dominated
by giant corporations."
00:44:34.37\00:44:37.91
Welcome to America today.
00:44:37.94\00:44:39.91
I don't care what your
economic ideology happens to be.
00:44:39.94\00:44:43.38
This is a world now
dominated by giant corporations.
00:44:43.41\00:44:47.12
If you shop at Amazon,
00:44:47.15\00:44:48.48
you shop at a giant,
giant, giant corporation.
00:44:48.52\00:44:52.69
If you stop by Walmart
on the way home, trust me,
00:44:52.72\00:44:55.39
we're in a world now.
00:44:55.42\00:44:56.93
And it has created,
00:44:56.96\00:44:58.53
the sanctity to
the home is a shame.
00:44:58.56\00:45:01.86
What's going on here?
00:45:01.90\00:45:03.37
What's going on?
00:45:03.40\00:45:04.90
I submit, let me go
back as I skipped one.
00:45:04.93\00:45:09.24
"There is something
corrosive to marriage and family
00:45:09.27\00:45:11.67
in the current economic age.
00:45:11.71\00:45:13.98
I submit that
it is the intrusion
00:45:14.01\00:45:15.74
of market
mentality into our homes,
00:45:15.78\00:45:18.95
our marriages,
and even our bedrooms.
00:45:18.98\00:45:21.42
The West has allowed
economic considerations
00:45:21.45\00:45:23.89
to co-op, colonize
00:45:23.92\00:45:25.25
and direct our most
intimate relationships,
00:45:25.29\00:45:27.42
husband and wife
and parent to child.
00:45:27.46\00:45:29.69
How so? Here are a few
ways I see it happening
00:45:29.72\00:45:33.16
in the United States right now."
00:45:33.19\00:45:35.46
And see if you don't agree,
00:45:35.50\00:45:36.83
here they come
from the sociologist.
00:45:36.87\00:45:38.97
Number one, the notion, oh,
I thought this was something.
00:45:39.00\00:45:41.50
"The notion of a Sabbath
day of rest is a distant memory.
00:45:41.54\00:45:45.51
It cuts into corporate profits."
00:45:45.54\00:45:47.21
And I'm sorry, we
can't give you that time.
00:45:47.24\00:45:50.15
It's happening
all over this country.
00:45:50.18\00:45:52.85
You're working a blue-collar job
00:45:52.88\00:45:56.55
in McDonald's,
you're gonna get this.
00:45:56.58\00:45:59.29
You're not gonna get it
especially little break.
00:45:59.32\00:46:02.46
It'd be wealthy
enough to be able to dictate
00:46:02.49\00:46:04.46
your own terms,
is what's happening.
00:46:04.49\00:46:07.86
There's another one.
00:46:07.90\00:46:09.23
"We have fewer children so we...
00:46:09.26\00:46:11.53
We tell ourselves, "So
we can invest more in them.
00:46:11.57\00:46:15.50
And by the way,
00:46:15.54\00:46:16.87
having fewer
children in the context
00:46:16.91\00:46:18.24
of small
families, children naturally
00:46:18.27\00:46:19.67
learn to be served
rather than to serve.
00:46:19.71\00:46:21.78
That's what's
happening. You got two kids.
00:46:21.81\00:46:24.28
There's nobody else
competing for attention now.
00:46:24.31\00:46:29.08
The child says, no,
I'm not gonna go get that.
00:46:29.12\00:46:31.35
Bring it to me.
Garceau come over here.
00:46:31.39\00:46:34.39
I need some
help, waiter, come on,
00:46:34.42\00:46:36.96
while, of all the girl kid.
00:46:36.99\00:46:38.59
Where'd you get that?
00:46:38.63\00:46:40.66
Your kid, you don't
have many to meet yet.
00:46:40.70\00:46:43.40
Gotta take care of me.
00:46:43.43\00:46:45.43
Yeah, the
implications are enormous.
00:46:45.47\00:46:49.04
Keep reading.
00:46:49.07\00:46:50.41
"We work too many hours,
00:46:50.44\00:46:51.77
convinced we're
doing it for our families."
00:46:51.81\00:46:53.27
You know, I'm
doing it for the kids
00:46:53.31\00:46:54.64
and we're
putting money away now.
00:46:54.68\00:46:56.34
Good night, when
does this rat race stop?
00:46:56.38\00:46:58.61
It doesn't.
00:46:58.65\00:46:59.98
"We are strategic
about providing opportunities
00:47:00.02\00:47:02.28
for our children to
get ahead of others."
00:47:02.32\00:47:03.65
We're gonna get better.
00:47:03.69\00:47:05.02
We're gonna get
into a better school.
00:47:05.05\00:47:06.39
We're gonna get our kids there
and this whole getting into
00:47:06.42\00:47:08.12
Ivy League schools business.
00:47:08.16\00:47:09.49
What was that?
00:47:09.52\00:47:10.86
Parents
competing with each other
00:47:10.89\00:47:12.23
to get their kids
00:47:12.26\00:47:13.60
where they thought
they deserved to be.
00:47:13.63\00:47:15.03
We've done it to ourselves.
00:47:15.06\00:47:16.40
"We become suckers for
ad driven social media,
00:47:16.43\00:47:18.90
which fosters dissatisfaction."
00:47:18.93\00:47:21.07
I'm not happy
with the way I look.
00:47:21.10\00:47:23.04
I'm not happy
with the way I shop.
00:47:23.07\00:47:24.54
I'm not happy
with the way I dress.
00:47:24.57\00:47:25.91
I'm not happy with anything.
00:47:25.94\00:47:27.28
Why? Because I saw
that and I've been told.
00:47:27.31\00:47:31.01
Oh, man, Here's a good one.
00:47:31.05\00:47:34.65
"With few friends, we
have to pay lots of money
00:47:34.68\00:47:37.35
in order to be listened to."
00:47:37.39\00:47:40.96
Take a while to get that.
00:47:40.99\00:47:43.36
They're called
psychologists and psychiatrists.
00:47:43.39\00:47:46.90
Nobody listens to you
now, everybody's too busy.
00:47:46.93\00:47:49.96
So you paid a man, paid a woman.
00:47:50.00\00:47:52.23
So she'd just
sit there and listen
00:47:52.27\00:47:54.14
what you've been
longing for all along.
00:47:54.17\00:47:56.60
One more.
00:47:56.64\00:47:57.97
"We've created a
lucrative industry
00:47:58.01\00:48:00.31
by outsourcing the
care of our own parents."
00:48:00.34\00:48:05.45
It's happened,
hasn't it? He concludes.
00:48:05.48\00:48:07.98
"These are not
shocking observations.
00:48:08.02\00:48:10.39
I'm guilty of most of them,"
00:48:10.42\00:48:12.95
He writes.
00:48:12.99\00:48:14.46
Most of us are also guilty.
00:48:14.49\00:48:19.59
Aren't we? Oh, we are.
00:48:19.63\00:48:24.33
So what did Jesus
say about marriage?
00:48:24.37\00:48:28.00
"Haven't you read,' He
replied that at the beginning,
00:48:28.04\00:48:30.71
the Creator made
them male and female.
00:48:30.74\00:48:33.91
And He said, 'For this reason,
00:48:33.94\00:48:35.48
a man will leave
his father and mother
00:48:35.51\00:48:37.05
and be united to
his wife, and wow,
00:48:37.08\00:48:39.68
the two of them
will become one flesh.'"
00:48:39.71\00:48:41.58
Really?
00:48:41.62\00:48:42.95
So they are no longer
two, they're one flesh.
00:48:42.98\00:48:45.65
Therefore, what God
has joined together,
00:48:45.69\00:48:49.36
let no one separate.
00:48:49.39\00:48:51.59
Let no corporate agenda,
let no rat race for more money.
00:48:51.63\00:48:56.83
Let nothing, let no human being,
00:48:56.87\00:48:59.70
let nothing come
between you and her
00:48:59.73\00:49:05.34
that nothing separates you.
00:49:05.37\00:49:09.51
I want to end with a story.
00:49:09.54\00:49:11.55
It's told by the
business executive
00:49:11.58\00:49:13.95
and leadership guru, Fred Smith.
00:49:13.98\00:49:15.82
And I'm reading here.
00:49:15.85\00:49:17.39
One of my treasured
memories, he writes,
00:49:17.42\00:49:21.49
comes from a donut shop in
00:49:21.52\00:49:23.02
Grand Saline, Texas.
00:49:23.06\00:49:27.93
There was a young farm couple
00:49:27.96\00:49:29.30
sitting at the
table next to mine.
00:49:29.33\00:49:30.67
He was wearing overall.
00:49:30.70\00:49:32.03
She was dressed
in a gingham outfit
00:49:32.07\00:49:36.14
and after
finishing their donuts,
00:49:36.17\00:49:37.67
he got up to pay the bill.
00:49:37.71\00:49:39.17
But I noticed she
did not follow him out.
00:49:39.21\00:49:42.38
And then he came back to
her after he had paid the bill
00:49:45.61\00:49:48.18
and he stood
right in front of her
00:49:48.22\00:49:50.49
and she put her
arms around his neck
00:49:50.52\00:49:55.49
and he stooped
down and lifted her up.
00:49:55.52\00:49:59.19
And when he lifted her up,
00:49:59.23\00:50:01.90
she was wearing
a full body brace.
00:50:01.93\00:50:05.73
He backed out the
front door, carrying her,
00:50:09.10\00:50:13.41
heading toward his pickup truck.
00:50:13.44\00:50:16.58
And everybody in that donut shop
00:50:16.61\00:50:20.25
was silent and watching.
00:50:20.28\00:50:24.35
As he opened the door
00:50:24.39\00:50:26.05
and gently placed her inside,
00:50:26.09\00:50:30.93
nobody said a word
00:50:30.96\00:50:34.20
until a waitress
remarked almost reverently.
00:50:34.23\00:50:38.20
He took his vows seriously.
00:50:38.23\00:50:44.44
Hmm, that's what Jesus point is.
00:50:44.47\00:50:50.05
Jesus takes your vows seriously.
00:50:50.08\00:50:55.88
Marriage is gift
to the human race.
00:50:55.92\00:50:59.55
What God has yoked together,
00:51:03.73\00:51:07.36
let no one, no
one, no one take apart.
00:51:07.40\00:51:13.27
It's time we all said amen
to that kind of a marriage.
00:51:13.30\00:51:17.01
What do you say?
00:51:17.04\00:51:18.84
Amen. Amen.
00:51:18.87\00:51:20.31
Amen, whether
you're young or aged, amen.
00:51:20.34\00:51:23.68
Good for you, Jesus,
for standing up for us.
00:51:23.71\00:51:28.45
Amen.
00:51:28.48\00:51:31.49
Let's go to your
connect card real quick here.
00:51:31.52\00:51:33.15
And then I wanna pray with you.
00:51:33.19\00:51:35.32
My next step today.
00:51:35.36\00:51:37.89
Put it on the screen for you.
00:51:37.93\00:51:40.83
With two out of three Americans,
00:51:40.86\00:51:44.80
I agree
00:51:44.83\00:51:46.80
that marriage is not
an outdated institution,
00:51:46.84\00:51:48.77
and I will do all in my power
00:51:48.80\00:51:50.17
to preserve the
marriages of others
00:51:50.21\00:51:52.17
and or my own marriage.
00:51:52.21\00:51:53.88
Boy, count me in
check, check, check.
00:51:53.91\00:51:58.61
Please pray for
me in my marriage.
00:51:58.65\00:52:00.68
I want to tell you something.
00:52:00.72\00:52:02.05
If you put a check mark there
00:52:02.08\00:52:03.42
and you can put an email address
00:52:03.45\00:52:04.79
on the other side
or right above it,
00:52:04.82\00:52:07.32
put an email address there.
00:52:07.36\00:52:09.32
We will pray for
you by name, by name.
00:52:09.36\00:52:12.53
We don't need any details.
We'll pray for you by name.
00:52:12.56\00:52:16.10
Box number three,
00:52:16.13\00:52:17.47
I would like to
get married someday.
00:52:17.50\00:52:19.13
Please pray, my marriage
will be a threefold yoke
00:52:19.17\00:52:22.14
with my partner and with Jesus.
00:52:22.17\00:52:24.41
Put a check mark there,
we'll pray for you in advance.
00:52:24.44\00:52:26.94
Why not?
00:52:26.98\00:52:28.31
You'll be ready
when the day comes,
00:52:28.34\00:52:30.31
I promise.
00:52:30.35\00:52:32.55
Yeah.
00:52:32.58\00:52:34.05
Why not His gift to us?
00:52:34.08\00:52:37.42
I wanna pray with you right now.
00:52:37.45\00:52:38.85
Oh, God, what You
have yoked together,
00:52:38.89\00:52:44.46
let no one take it apart.
00:52:44.49\00:52:49.76
Teach us to value
marriage as Jesus did.
00:52:49.80\00:52:53.97
And please be
with that young man,
00:52:54.00\00:52:55.34
be with that young woman
00:52:55.37\00:52:57.24
contemplating marriage,
put Your arms around them
00:52:57.27\00:53:02.28
and please be with that
not so young man in that,
00:53:02.31\00:53:04.61
not so young woman
contemplating giving up
00:53:04.65\00:53:10.59
on their marriage,
put Your arms around them.
00:53:10.62\00:53:13.99
Oh Jesus, if
anyone can save marriage,
00:53:14.02\00:53:17.46
it's gotta be You.
00:53:17.49\00:53:19.66
So would You please wrap
Your nail scarred arms around
00:53:19.69\00:53:22.06
all of us right now
00:53:22.10\00:53:24.93
and hold us tight
00:53:24.97\00:53:28.94
as we journey on with You,
00:53:28.97\00:53:31.21
we pray in Your name.
00:53:31.24\00:53:34.11
Amen.
00:53:34.14\00:53:35.48
Amen.
00:53:35.51\00:53:37.01
There is beauty all around
00:53:58.47\00:54:03.51
When there's love at home
00:54:03.54\00:54:08.14
There is joy in every sound
00:54:08.18\00:54:13.01
When there's love at home
00:54:13.05\00:54:17.95
Peace and plenty here abide
00:54:17.99\00:54:22.92
Smiling fair on every side
00:54:22.96\00:54:27.96
Time doth softly, sweetly glide
00:54:28.00\00:54:32.87
When there's love at home
00:54:32.90\00:54:38.17
Love at home
00:54:38.21\00:54:42.74
Love at home
00:54:42.78\00:54:48.48
Time doth softly, sweetly glide
00:54:48.52\00:54:53.46
When there's love at home
00:54:53.49\00:55:00.33
Kindly heaven smiles above
00:55:00.36\00:55:05.20
When there's love at home
00:55:05.23\00:55:09.77
All the earth
is filled with love
00:55:09.80\00:55:14.74
When there's love at home
00:55:14.78\00:55:19.51
Sweeter sings the brooklet by
00:55:19.55\00:55:24.75
Brighter beams the azure sky
00:55:24.79\00:55:29.66
O, there's One
who smiles on high
00:55:29.69\00:55:34.66
When there's love at home
00:55:34.70\00:55:39.97
Love at home
00:55:40.00\00:55:44.97
Love at home
00:55:45.01\00:55:50.38
Time doth softly, sweetly glide
00:55:50.41\00:55:55.28
When there's love at home
00:55:55.32\00:56:01.46
Jesus, make me wholly Thine
00:56:01.49\00:56:06.66
Then there's love at home
00:56:06.70\00:56:11.23
May Thy sacrifice be mine
00:56:11.27\00:56:16.24
Then there's love at home
00:56:16.27\00:56:21.28
Safely from all harm I'll rest
00:56:21.31\00:56:26.28
With no sinful care distressed
00:56:26.31\00:56:31.25
Thro' Thy tender mercy blessed
00:56:31.29\00:56:36.32
When there's love at home
00:56:36.36\00:56:41.56
Love at home
00:56:41.60\00:56:46.40
Love at home
00:56:46.43\00:56:52.44
Time doth softly, sweetly glide
00:56:52.47\00:56:57.71
When there's love at home
00:56:57.75\00:57:03.99
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