This is 3ABN Now
with John Malkiewycz.
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Hello, and welcome to 3ABN Now.
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Those who were watching on Wosu
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and this is the first time,
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I'm sure you're
going to enjoy this program
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and anyone else that's watching,
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in fact, on the internet devices
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that are available.
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This is a special
program and it's dealing
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with parenting
with the internet.
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We live in an age
that's changing very quickly.
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And I was thinking back
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how over the last
30 years of my life,
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we come from the fax machine,
then we got the internet.
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And now we have devices
that we can hold in our hand
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and have access to everything
anywhere in the world.
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So today's program,
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we're very happy to have
Dr. Eddie Ramirez with us.
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And he'll be talking on
parenting with the internet.
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That's correct.
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Dr. Eddie is a research doctor
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for the Weimar
Institute and the Nedley Clinic.
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Now the Nedley Clinic has to do
with depression, is that right?
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One that runs the
depression program,
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the residential
and the community
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version of it, yes, right.
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And I'm wondering,
having all the internet devices,
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if he's having more patients,
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that's something
we can talk about.
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That's right.
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But before we get going,
Dr. Eddie has chosen a text
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from the Book of Kings.
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It's actually the Chapter 22
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and that's the last
three verses 51 to 53.
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And I'd like to
read them to you.
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I want you to listen carefully.
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The Bible says,
"Ahaziah the son of Ahab
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began to reign over Israel
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in Samaria the seventeenth year
of Jehoshaphat king of Judah,
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and reigned two
years over Israel,
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and he did evil in
the sight of the Lord,
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and walked in the
way of his father,
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and in the way of his mother,
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and in the way of
Jeroboam the son of Nebat,
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who made Israel to sin:
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For he served
Baal, and worshipped him,
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and provoked to anger
the Lord God of Israel,
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according to all
that his father had done."
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Now, that's an
interesting text, Eddie,
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because we're talking about
parenting with the internet.
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But you know, parents here
had an influence upon someone.
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Just tell us a little bit about
these verses that I've read?
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Yes, it says there that
the way that the mother behave
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and the way that
the father behave
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had an influence on that child.
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So we need to be the example
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that we want our children to be.
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And that's why
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the big
responsibility of being a parent
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as the children do what we do,
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not sometimes do what we say
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because sometimes
there is a discordance
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there between those two things.
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I believe that because
parents want their kids
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to do things that are
right, and I'm sure most parents
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who are watching
want their children,
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but we have to show by example.
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That's correct, and that's why
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the personal
responsibility of being a parent
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starts before
you become a parent,
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before you get married,
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that's the
training that we're having.
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We are building our character
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and our character is
going to have that influence
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over our children.
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You know, Eddie, I'm a
little bit older than you
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and I've got older children.
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And I always
look back and I think,
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I realize now what I did wrong.
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But we never told
that when we were young,
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but today, you
have an opportunity
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to learn something
if you're a new parent,
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or you have
children that are middle age,
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young children, you
know, 10 years of age,
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the internet is influencing them
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in what they're doing today.
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Thirty years ago,
it wasn't like that.
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It's hard to imagine that
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we've come so
far in our technology
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that we now have
to look seriously
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and I know as a
medical professional,
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you want to know
and particularly,
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Eddie, I wants you
to know what effect
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it has upon your
children and parenting?
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And I have some
experience from this,
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even though I'm
a medical doctor,
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my undergraduate
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before I studied
medicine was computer science.
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And I studied that
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computer
science back in the 90s.
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And back then
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we didn't have the internet
that everybody's talking about.
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In fact, I was one of those
first users of the internet.
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I would tell my friends,
hey, they emailed this and that,
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they're like, what
are you talking about
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you know, don't
know what is that,
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and before it became popular.
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So I have been observing that
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for a long time
how it has changed,
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and it has changed
us as a result of that.
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And that's the crucial
when we want to talk about it,
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how it's
changing and affecting us
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and our children.
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That's right.
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So in order to
understand this effect
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that it's having over us
and the people around us,
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we need to understand a
little bit the target group.
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And you know, sociologists
have divided society
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into different stages.
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We have what is
called the Generation X.
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And the
Generation X are those people
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that were born back in 1965.
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Sociologists puts
the limit around 1977.
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Those are the two
limits of that Generation X.
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So if you are born
then, which is my case,
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okay, I'm also Generation Xer.
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And these people
felt a little bit
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that the
attention was not on them.
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Rather that they felt that
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the attention was falling
too much on the Baby Boomers.
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And this were
kind of in between,
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it would be like
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the middle child
syndrome type of thing.
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Some of these are
technological savvy,
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some of them are not dependent.
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Many times the
type of profession
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you end up
choosing and so forth.
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And then the new generation
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came in what is
called the Generation Y,
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and this one sociologist
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classify
somebody as Generation Y,
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if they were born between 1977
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and 1995.
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Now, these ones
are the children,
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usually of the Baby
Boomers after a World War II.
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And these ones are
more technologically savvy
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as compared to the
previous generation.
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These were born with
internet in their home.
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There was usually
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some of the first
computers in the market.
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They were
probably at their home,
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the first cell
phones and you probably
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experienced that
with the cell phones.
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Those monster
machines back then,
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and then the next generation is
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what is called the Millennial,
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and that one has to do with that
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adult person
that got his adulthood
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at the, when he was
around the year 2000.
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And these
Millennials are very tech savvy.
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It looks like they
have it in their genes.
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They have never used a
certain computer program,
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they can sit down
and start using it.
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Yeah, I find that fascinating.
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The brain has been programmed
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in such a way that
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they are able to
interact very well
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with computers and so forth.
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And these people are
the ones that really,
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pretty much all of them,
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especially in the Western world,
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grew up with
internet in their home.
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For them life without
internet has never been
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It's hard to imagine.
You're talking 20 years.
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I think 20 years.
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Yes, you and I grew up in
when there was no internet,
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you know, you had
to consult the map,
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you had to make the
phone call and so forth.
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Now today, you go
online and do all these things.
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And then you
have the Generation Z,
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or also called the Boomlets,
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that's another term
that they use for them.
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That's a new one for me. Yes.
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And that one is classified
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anybody that was
born after 1995 and above,
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that would be considered
one of this Generation Z.
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And this is a population
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that especially
in the Western world,
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has a lot of diversity.
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Many children of the immigrants
and so forth compose this.
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And in fact, they tend to be
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a very tolerant type of society
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because they grew up
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with a lot of
diversity in front of them.
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And we know that these people,
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they are their previous ones
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born were born
with the internet,
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these ones were
born with the cell phone
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in their hand.
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And these ones,
statistics say that
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40% of Generation Z
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are addicted to devices.
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That's what they themselves say.
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They have grown
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so much to
depend on these devices,
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that studies show that
when you remove those devices,
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there is
actually anxiety in them.
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Yeah, they go
through withdrawals.
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They have to go
literally to withdrawals,
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compared to 30% of Millennials,
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they're the ones that
say that they're addicted,
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so the ratio is much
bigger with this Generation Z.
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And this is what we do.
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See in our depression program
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when you come to our
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10-day
Depression Recovery program
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in California and Weimar.
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We have to take
every single cell phone
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of our guests that
come there as patients.
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And some of them
think that is the worst...
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Experience they can have.
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Experience they have ever
had in their life, you know,
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how they dare to
take away my cell phone.
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Oh, but I have to do
business and I have to call this
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and that and we tell them,
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it's okay,
you're going to be fine.
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Okay? You're going to be fine.
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In fact, it's
part of the therapy.
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See, we want them to really
rewire inside of their head,
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start creating
different patterns
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and so forth.
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In fact, we know
that Generation Z
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would rather do
Instagram than Facebook,
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which tells us
the social connections
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and these type of things.
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Instagram is more
of the showing off.
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I've been here, I've been
there and so forth for them,
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and that's more the focus
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than relationships and so forth.
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And that's what happens.
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As many of them grow
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with many social networks
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from the internet and so forth,
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such as Facebook,
their social skills,
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many of them lack
those social skills.
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Yeah, I was going to say that,
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Eddie, because
there's this thing
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called a virtual world.
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And the internet
creates a virtual world.
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The actual ability
to live and communicate
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the social aspect is left aside.
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So it makes a
different world to live in.
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And parents need to know that
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and we need to be very careful
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of what we allow
our children to learn.
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We have come to the place
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in which we have
a social reunion.
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We have five, six people around,
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and they are texting each other,
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instead of using the
good old skills of talking
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and interacting, and so forth.
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You know, Eddie, it
reminds me of my son.
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He's older. He's older too.
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But it's interesting
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when I want to
communicate with someone
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and I'm sure if I'm
talking to someone out there,
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I like to pick up the phone
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and actually
communicate with them.
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But I'm amazed
that they won't do that,
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they have to send a message
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and wait for the
message and I'm thinking,
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I don't know if this is
the way we need to communicate.
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To me talking
gets it done instant.
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It even takes a
little bit of time
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to get a response
on a text message.
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But talking is instant.
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And I think that's the wonder
of the ability to communicate
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with language.
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My brother, he
joined us recently up there
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in Northern California.
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And he was telling me
in his first day of job,
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he was surprised that
the person next to him
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was sending him
emails, instead of, you know,
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just knock in the door and said,
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"Excuse me, you know,
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I want to talk to
you about this or that."
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They would rather do the
email than interact as socially.
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So that's why this
is challenge number one.
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We need to understand that
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we're dealing with people
that think different than us.
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See, you and I
would rather spend
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some good time you
know with flesh and blood,
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and having a chat and so forth.
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And these people,
their thinking patterns,
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the things that they
like, it's different.
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So that's why we need
to take this into account
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if we want to be
good influence to them,
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we have to
understand a little bit
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of their thinking and so forth.
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And one of the
things that this generations
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are going to be
using quite a bit
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is the famous cell phone.
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And I'm sure many of us
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in our audience
have seen the evolution
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of this device, you know.
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In the old days, it
was just a cell phone
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which used to be a dinosaur,
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used to be a
monster type of thing,
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and then started
to become smaller
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and smaller and
smaller, and then the screen
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start to become bigger.
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And then...
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Now, in fact,
they're carrying this thing
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around like a
computer near them.
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And then the ability
to process information
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is much more than
the first computer
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that you have at home.
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It is much more than
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when they send the
first man to the moon,
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those computers
that NASA put in there,
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they are no competition against
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what you have in your pocket
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the power of
processing that they have there.
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Well, I can remember, Dr. Eddie,
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when I began
work in 1972 training
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in engineering drafting,
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the premises was
eight or nine storeys high
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and one half of the building
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on one floor was
totally with an IBM company.
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This was the lightest,
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and they had to run
special air conditioning,
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they had to, and all it
did was virtually nothing
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compared to what
my phone can do today.
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That's right.
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And I mean, I
grew up in that time
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when we used to use
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these cards they
used to make holes.
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That's the way that you used
to store information in them.
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And as storage and power
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became more
advanced and so forth,
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that's what we have
is actually quite amazing
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what we have in our own pockets,
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but see, here's
comes the problem.
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Because now we
have everything there,
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we have the map,
and we have the library,
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we have the telephone,
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and we have our
friends and the cameras,
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everything in one place.
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And see, the way that
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we are wired in
our brain is that
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we have a natural curiosity,
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and also, attentiveness
towards things that are new,
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and that are novel and so forth.
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And that's what we find
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in some of these
things on our cell phone.
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When you go for example
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to that
application such as Facebook,
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here you have endless
stories, interesting stories,
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fascinating stories
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and so forth that
just captivate you.
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And because we are
wired to find that novelty,
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we get addicted
to this, you know,
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it's just our desire in
our brains to have this.
00:17:15.36\00:17:20.67
And this device providing
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endless type of food
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for that type,
man, it is just a bomb.
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You know what I think,
Eddie, just imagine now,
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this is what the parents,
00:17:33.95\00:17:35.28
the mom and dad have
to keep to compete with,
00:17:35.32\00:17:38.19
to hold their
attention of their children
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if they're trying to
tell them something serious.
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I know where
the child's mind is,
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it wants to get back
00:17:44.36\00:17:45.69
to what it was doing
on their little iPhone.
00:17:45.73\00:17:48.50
And, but seriously,
it has a dramatic effect
00:17:48.53\00:17:51.73
on parents able to
teach their children.
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And there are these
people in these offices.
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They're actually not
that far from where I am.
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I am about two hours from
the famous Silicon Valley.
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You're driving there, you
see all these big companies
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that you see
everywhere in the world.
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That's exactly
where they were built
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and their headquarters.
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And here, these companies,
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they pay somebody
to create content,
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to create apps, to draw you,
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to captivate you.
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There are people
engineering these things.
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And here is, you know,
endless supply of this things.
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Man, that's why
such an addictive thing.
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We had a guest recently
in our depression program.
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This kid was a really
bright kid in his high school,
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you guys call it
here high school also.
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Yes, yeah.
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He did
fantastically well to the point
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that he got a full scholarship
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to the choice of
university that he wanted.
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So he chose one of those
00:19:04.27\00:19:06.07
Ivy League top in the world
00:19:06.11\00:19:09.08
type of
university to go and study.
00:19:09.11\00:19:12.28
He was doing very good,
00:19:12.31\00:19:13.68
advancing in his
subjects and so forth.
00:19:13.72\00:19:16.15
But suddenly, the
parents start observing
00:19:16.18\00:19:21.39
that the scores of his
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all the time bright kid
00:19:26.83\00:19:29.53
now started to tank down,
00:19:29.56\00:19:32.63
and they realized that
00:19:32.67\00:19:34.40
something was
wrong with their kid.
00:19:34.44\00:19:37.67
This is not the kid
that they knew having
00:19:37.71\00:19:40.48
all the time top
scores and so forth.
00:19:40.51\00:19:43.48
So very worried about him,
00:19:43.51\00:19:45.88
they brought him to
our depression program.
00:19:45.91\00:19:49.65
We get all the time
people just like him.
00:19:49.68\00:19:53.09
And as we start
analyzing the case,
00:19:53.12\00:19:56.52
and trying to understand
some possible etiologies
00:19:56.56\00:19:59.89
of where the
problem could come from,
00:19:59.93\00:20:03.00
that's exactly what we identify.
00:20:03.03\00:20:06.23
This kid had an
addiction to the internet.
00:20:06.27\00:20:11.74
And see, it becomes an addiction
00:20:11.77\00:20:14.94
when the only thing that
you are thinking is that.
00:20:14.98\00:20:20.58
Because you have no
knowledge of the time
00:20:20.62\00:20:23.18
that is transpiring,
you even forget to eat food.
00:20:23.22\00:20:26.45
I know 'cause I've
seen it. It just takes over.
00:20:26.49\00:20:29.82
And it captivates
your whole attention.
00:20:29.86\00:20:32.69
So that's super
stimulus on the brain
00:20:32.73\00:20:37.27
was drawing him to
the point that yes,
00:20:37.30\00:20:40.97
his life was unbalanced.
00:20:41.00\00:20:42.87
His homework was not being done.
00:20:42.90\00:20:44.91
His studies were not
being completed and so forth.
00:20:44.94\00:20:49.01
And secondary to that,
00:20:49.04\00:20:50.61
his grades were
just going down there.
00:20:50.65\00:20:54.28
So he comes, of
course, it was a shock.
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We know we have to
take away his cell phone.
00:20:56.18\00:20:57.82
That's the number one step
00:20:57.85\00:20:59.19
as I mentioned to you,
this is not negotiable.
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Every single patient
of us has to do that.
00:21:01.99\00:21:05.09
He went through some withdrawal,
00:21:05.13\00:21:07.33
you know, he would really
feel anxious and so forth.
00:21:07.36\00:21:11.97
But here comes the good
news. It didn't last forever.
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And once he overcome
00:21:15.74\00:21:19.61
that valley that
usually our guests go to,
00:21:19.64\00:21:22.88
now his brain power
started to become much better,
00:21:22.91\00:21:27.05
his ability to focus,
00:21:27.08\00:21:29.52
his ability to use
his time more wisely.
00:21:29.55\00:21:33.96
And when we had to come
to the end of the program,
00:21:33.99\00:21:39.89
usually what we do,
00:21:39.93\00:21:42.03
we have a good
talk with our patients,
00:21:42.06\00:21:46.37
so we can
encourage them and tell them,
00:21:46.40\00:21:48.44
"Look, this is going to
be the plan from now on.
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This is going to be the
plan." And what was the plan?
00:21:50.57\00:21:53.88
We're sorry, no more internet.
00:21:53.91\00:21:56.54
Now some people
say, "Well, but doctor,
00:21:56.58\00:21:58.05
you know I miss my
work and so forth."
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Yes, when
you're doing your work,
00:22:00.35\00:22:02.98
go ahead and use it.
00:22:03.02\00:22:05.32
But you need to substitute
that for other things.
00:22:05.35\00:22:10.73
You know, get
yourself into playing tennis
00:22:10.76\00:22:14.90
or golf or whatever
it may be your desire,
00:22:14.93\00:22:19.43
try to find other activities
00:22:19.47\00:22:23.57
that can replace this.
00:22:23.61\00:22:27.31
So when they come, the
device has control of them,
00:22:27.34\00:22:30.38
when they leave,
00:22:30.41\00:22:31.78
hopefully they have
control of the device.
00:22:31.81\00:22:33.88
That's exactly
the goal that we have.
00:22:33.92\00:22:36.85
So it's a
training program, you know,
00:22:36.89\00:22:39.69
it's only 10
days, but in 10 days,
00:22:39.72\00:22:42.69
we're going to
train you for success.
00:22:42.72\00:22:45.36
You're going to know
00:22:45.39\00:22:47.10
how to take
those better choices,
00:22:47.13\00:22:49.53
how to start
decreasing medication
00:22:49.56\00:22:51.73
and all these things
00:22:51.77\00:22:53.10
that need to
happen in order for you
00:22:53.13\00:22:55.00
to continue functioning 100%.
00:22:55.04\00:22:58.37
You know, Eddie, I have a
son who manages a goldmine site.
00:22:58.41\00:23:02.58
It's very interesting.
00:23:02.61\00:23:03.95
He was telling me that
00:23:03.98\00:23:06.01
the Millennials
are the new workers
00:23:06.05\00:23:09.02
or the first wave
of the Millennials
00:23:09.05\00:23:10.89
coming to work on
a construction site
00:23:10.92\00:23:14.62
or a mine site
where they physically now
00:23:14.66\00:23:17.26
have to work.
00:23:17.29\00:23:19.29
And it's interesting,
00:23:19.33\00:23:20.66
their ability to make
decisions when things go wrong.
00:23:20.70\00:23:24.00
You see what
happens on the internet,
00:23:24.03\00:23:25.97
when something goes wrong,
00:23:26.00\00:23:27.34
you can find a solution
by clicking somewhere else.
00:23:27.37\00:23:30.44
But out there in the real world,
00:23:30.47\00:23:31.94
in real life, they
do not know what to do.
00:23:31.97\00:23:35.44
So he said, he has
to go to many courses,
00:23:35.48\00:23:38.38
to learn how to teach
these young Millennials about
00:23:38.41\00:23:42.72
how to adjust their
minds to deal with crisis
00:23:42.75\00:23:46.72
and accident or
anything like that,
00:23:46.76\00:23:48.66
because they do not
know how to deal with it.
00:23:48.69\00:23:50.53
So the impact is real.
00:23:50.56\00:23:53.09
It's very real,
and it's very serious
00:23:53.13\00:23:55.10
because they can be a
danger not only to themselves,
00:23:55.13\00:23:57.80
but to other workers.
00:23:57.83\00:23:59.17
So this new wave of Millennials
00:23:59.20\00:24:01.10
is a challenge to
all these industries
00:24:01.14\00:24:03.07
that are out there
taking on these young people.
00:24:03.10\00:24:05.47
It's very true.
00:24:05.51\00:24:06.88
And you know that's
something special about
00:24:06.91\00:24:08.91
Weimar High School
00:24:08.94\00:24:10.28
that we have in Weimar
runs on our very special model.
00:24:10.31\00:24:15.08
It's not your
usual high school model.
00:24:15.12\00:24:17.85
Our kids in our high school
at Weimar, half of the day,
00:24:17.89\00:24:23.73
they spend it in school,
00:24:23.76\00:24:25.93
but half of their days
they use in their hands.
00:24:25.96\00:24:30.10
What a novel concept, isn't it?
00:24:30.13\00:24:32.27
Well, you know, the
reality is the home,
00:24:32.30\00:24:34.54
parents should have been
00:24:34.57\00:24:35.90
teaching those their
children how to work.
00:24:35.94\00:24:38.37
And that's the problem.
Parents are not teaching.
00:24:38.41\00:24:40.38
They're saying, "It's
not our responsibility,
00:24:40.41\00:24:42.64
you will have to train them."
00:24:42.68\00:24:44.01
It's interesting too.
00:24:44.05\00:24:45.38
Many of these
companies now make the workers
00:24:45.41\00:24:48.25
leave their cell
phones and their devices
00:24:48.28\00:24:51.92
before they go
out on to the site.
00:24:51.95\00:24:53.46
That's right.
00:24:53.49\00:24:54.82
And see, there is
a special training
00:24:54.86\00:25:00.16
that takes place when
you are using your hands.
00:25:00.20\00:25:03.50
We teach them
how to change the oil
00:25:03.53\00:25:06.13
and how to change the tire.
00:25:06.17\00:25:07.50
Even the girls
learn these things,
00:25:07.54\00:25:08.87
you know is
useful even for them.
00:25:08.90\00:25:10.74
They help with the garden.
00:25:10.77\00:25:12.74
They're using
actively their hands.
00:25:12.77\00:25:15.21
And there was a
very important report
00:25:15.24\00:25:17.21
that was done
recently in the UK.
00:25:17.25\00:25:21.28
One of those expert
groups was analyzing
00:25:21.32\00:25:24.19
how can they
improve mental capacity
00:25:24.22\00:25:28.89
of young people?
00:25:28.92\00:25:30.86
And you know, what was
their conclusion basically?
00:25:30.89\00:25:33.29
People need to use their hands
00:25:33.33\00:25:37.27
in a three-dimensional fashion.
00:25:37.30\00:25:39.43
Okay.
00:25:39.47\00:25:40.80
And by using your hands in
a three-dimensional fashion,
00:25:40.84\00:25:45.27
you stimulate your frontal lobe.
00:25:45.31\00:25:48.28
See, there's something special
00:25:48.31\00:25:49.71
that happened to
your attention span
00:25:49.74\00:25:53.21
when you are using
your hands in real life.
00:25:53.25\00:25:56.58
For example, at
home, in my home,
00:25:56.62\00:25:59.39
I don't even know
have a wood heater.
00:25:59.42\00:26:02.42
Yet, one of my favorite
things to do is to chop wood.
00:26:02.46\00:26:06.90
I just chop it just for fun.
00:26:06.93\00:26:08.50
In fact, I'm going
to get a little bit sore
00:26:08.53\00:26:09.86
because having
chopped up in your face,
00:26:09.90\00:26:12.27
you have some wood,
invite me to cut it,
00:26:12.30\00:26:13.70
I'll be happy
to go and help you.
00:26:13.74\00:26:15.80
But anyhow, as you
are doing that, see,
00:26:15.84\00:26:21.44
you cannot be
distracted mind empty
00:26:21.48\00:26:25.05
and cutting wood.
00:26:25.08\00:26:26.41
You're going to injure yourself.
00:26:26.45\00:26:27.78
That's right.
00:26:27.82\00:26:29.15
So when you're doing
this type of activities,
00:26:29.18\00:26:32.15
your frontal
lobe is very engaged,
00:26:32.19\00:26:35.52
your attention is very carefully
00:26:35.56\00:26:38.33
put in there because if not,
00:26:38.36\00:26:40.73
you can hurt
yourself very badly.
00:26:40.76\00:26:43.67
So when we use things
in three dimensional ways,
00:26:43.70\00:26:49.20
changing the oil,
changing the tire,
00:26:49.24\00:26:51.67
working on the
garden and so forth,
00:26:51.71\00:26:54.54
we're actually getting a benefit
00:26:54.58\00:26:57.01
and our mental potential
00:26:57.05\00:26:59.45
is actually
increasing secondary to that.
00:26:59.48\00:27:03.75
And that's why it's
part of the education.
00:27:03.79\00:27:06.45
It's not like oh, well,
00:27:06.49\00:27:07.82
you have a needs
of paying your bill,
00:27:07.86\00:27:09.32
you need to work.
00:27:09.36\00:27:10.69
No, this is every
single student in our campus
00:27:10.73\00:27:15.16
gets the blessing of work.
00:27:15.20\00:27:18.00
Everybody wins.
00:27:18.03\00:27:19.37
The student learns
to use their hands,
00:27:19.40\00:27:23.10
the institution gets a blessing,
00:27:23.14\00:27:25.21
you know, of some of the
work that the student is doing.
00:27:25.24\00:27:30.15
And the student
00:27:30.18\00:27:32.15
is planting those
seeds for success later on.
00:27:32.18\00:27:36.58
It's interesting.
00:27:36.62\00:27:37.95
Most of our students
00:27:37.99\00:27:40.72
that choose to pursue
a professional career,
00:27:40.76\00:27:44.26
such as doctor, dentistry,
engineering and so forth,
00:27:44.29\00:27:49.66
we almost have
100% rate of acceptance.
00:27:49.70\00:27:53.84
They love our kids, you know,
00:27:53.87\00:27:56.37
because of that
integrative approach that
00:27:56.40\00:27:59.91
we put to education,
which is actually not our idea.
00:27:59.94\00:28:03.04
This actually comes
from the inspired writings
00:28:03.08\00:28:07.92
how that counsel to have
00:28:07.95\00:28:10.32
our schools
attached to places where kids
00:28:10.35\00:28:14.02
could use their hands.
00:28:14.06\00:28:16.19
Otherwise, we end up
00:28:16.22\00:28:18.06
having children with
high IQs but low EQs.
00:28:18.09\00:28:22.96
And don't have the ability
00:28:23.00\00:28:24.43
to think through
and work things out.
00:28:24.47\00:28:26.84
And it's an
unbalanced type of thing.
00:28:26.87\00:28:29.50
And see, we know,
00:28:29.54\00:28:31.34
there's very
interesting studies.
00:28:31.37\00:28:33.27
If you have your cell
phone at arm's length,
00:28:33.31\00:28:38.61
you'll see my
Twitter there in a minute.
00:28:38.65\00:28:41.28
You can find the
study there on my Twitter.
00:28:41.32\00:28:43.39
If you have your cell
phone at arm's length,
00:28:43.42\00:28:47.92
your intelligence decreases.
00:28:47.96\00:28:50.83
Now that's an interesting thing.
00:28:50.86\00:28:52.93
Because you know that
00:28:52.96\00:28:55.93
that cell phone
can solve the problem.
00:28:55.96\00:29:00.44
Therefore you
don't need to think...
00:29:00.47\00:29:03.04
You don't have to work it out.
00:29:03.07\00:29:04.41
Need to do the
effort, that's correct.
00:29:04.44\00:29:06.37
And the intellect
weakens as a result of that.
00:29:06.41\00:29:10.25
Fascinating. It is fascinating.
00:29:10.28\00:29:12.51
I got a case to
put before my kids.
00:29:12.55\00:29:14.38
Yes.
00:29:14.42\00:29:16.45
So that's why one thing
00:29:16.48\00:29:20.09
I'm going to the
practical side of things,
00:29:20.12\00:29:21.99
what to do, you know,
00:29:22.02\00:29:23.36
about my kids, one
thing that you should do,
00:29:23.39\00:29:26.23
you need to remove
all those constant alerts
00:29:26.26\00:29:32.20
that you're getting.
00:29:32.23\00:29:33.90
Those things are
not good for you.
00:29:33.94\00:29:37.91
Having your
attention been constantly
00:29:37.94\00:29:43.88
go to your cell phone
00:29:43.91\00:29:45.31
every time this thing vibrates
00:29:45.35\00:29:47.68
or makes a beep, that
affects your intellect.
00:29:47.72\00:29:53.59
That's why it's
best shut him down.
00:29:53.62\00:29:57.39
And then if you want to
check okay once in an hour,
00:29:57.43\00:30:00.46
once in three
hours, whatever you decide.
00:30:00.50\00:30:01.93
So you've got control of it.
It hasn't got control of you.
00:30:01.96\00:30:03.93
Exactly.
00:30:03.97\00:30:05.30
You have the control
when you are checking, okay?
00:30:05.33\00:30:11.07
In that way, our brains
are not like the computers.
00:30:11.11\00:30:15.74
See, I'm a
computer scientist also,
00:30:15.78\00:30:18.05
I understand
microchips and so forth.
00:30:18.08\00:30:20.95
And microchips have the capacity
00:30:20.98\00:30:23.85
of doing something
that is called multitasking.
00:30:23.89\00:30:27.76
You can be sending
many computer processes
00:30:27.79\00:30:30.09
at the same time,
00:30:30.13\00:30:31.76
the microchip is
able to divide that
00:30:31.79\00:30:35.23
into different cores
00:30:35.26\00:30:36.60
and take care of
that at the same time.
00:30:36.63\00:30:39.53
Our brains do not have
00:30:39.57\00:30:42.37
that capacity as your microchip
in your cell phone has.
00:30:42.40\00:30:46.91
When you are
multitasking your brain,
00:30:46.94\00:30:52.05
instead of doing
things more efficiently,
00:30:52.08\00:30:55.12
you're actually
committing more errors,
00:30:55.15\00:30:58.32
it's taking you
longer and so forth.
00:30:58.35\00:31:01.02
The way that God
made our brain is for us
00:31:01.06\00:31:04.49
to tackle one thing at a time.
00:31:04.53\00:31:07.86
Exactly.
00:31:07.90\00:31:09.23
So by trying to think
00:31:09.26\00:31:10.60
I'm going to be
reading the message
00:31:10.63\00:31:12.10
and finishing this
and doing that, forget it.
00:31:12.13\00:31:15.00
Your productivity
actually goes down.
00:31:15.04\00:31:18.17
One of the most
rich man's in America,
00:31:18.21\00:31:21.68
Warren Buffett,
00:31:21.71\00:31:23.28
tremendous
investor and so forth.
00:31:23.31\00:31:27.52
You can go online
and find this article.
00:31:27.55\00:31:31.69
How he refuses to
have a smart phone.
00:31:31.72\00:31:37.19
Even though he could afford
00:31:37.23\00:31:39.39
the latest of the
versions of the cell phone,
00:31:39.43\00:31:43.53
he carries with
him a flip phone.
00:31:43.57\00:31:46.10
Okay. So you talk.
00:31:46.13\00:31:48.57
So he would rather, you know,
00:31:48.60\00:31:51.27
use his mental
capacity for that.
00:31:51.31\00:31:53.88
I'm not saying to do that. Okay.
00:31:53.91\00:31:55.34
It's up to you, you know,
00:31:55.38\00:31:56.78
but I'm just
giving you that example
00:31:56.81\00:31:58.81
how he understands
that by multitasking,
00:31:58.85\00:32:03.79
his attention so forth,
00:32:03.82\00:32:05.69
he can impair
some of the decisions,
00:32:05.72\00:32:08.42
important investment decisions
00:32:08.46\00:32:10.09
that he needs to
take all the time.
00:32:10.13\00:32:12.29
You know, it's
interesting, because my son's,
00:32:12.33\00:32:16.40
he's older, but I
also observed this.
00:32:16.43\00:32:18.97
The moment there is
an alert on his phone,
00:32:19.00\00:32:22.64
he must attend
to it immediately.
00:32:22.67\00:32:25.27
That's right.
But it's interesting.
00:32:25.31\00:32:27.11
If my phone makes an
alert, and I don't attend to it,
00:32:27.14\00:32:31.28
they come to tell
me and I'm saying,
00:32:31.31\00:32:33.92
"Well, no, I don't need
to address it right now."
00:32:33.95\00:32:37.05
That's right.
00:32:37.09\00:32:38.42
And so, I can leave it
00:32:38.45\00:32:39.79
and wait to a time
when it's convenient.
00:32:39.82\00:32:42.12
And if it rings
and I don't answer,
00:32:42.16\00:32:43.96
I said they will ring back.
00:32:43.99\00:32:45.69
If it's important,
they will ring back.
00:32:45.73\00:32:47.60
Yeah, we need to differentiate
00:32:47.63\00:32:49.26
between something
urgent and something important.
00:32:49.30\00:32:53.44
Yes, you know,
maybe something important,
00:32:53.47\00:32:55.40
that something is
waiting, but they can wait.
00:32:55.44\00:32:58.91
See, like this
morning, I just briefly check
00:32:58.94\00:33:04.71
what's going on, you know,
00:33:04.75\00:33:06.08
I have things in
office and research and things
00:33:06.11\00:33:08.25
that I need to take care of.
00:33:08.28\00:33:10.29
And there's some messages
00:33:10.32\00:33:12.75
there that I
know I have to answer,
00:33:12.79\00:33:15.59
but I don't have to
do it at that moment.
00:33:15.62\00:33:18.43
It wasn't the
time to do my exercise,
00:33:18.46\00:33:20.50
it was the time to
prepare myself and so forth.
00:33:20.53\00:33:24.20
I know that later on,
00:33:24.23\00:33:26.50
I can go ahead
and take care of it,
00:33:26.53\00:33:30.84
the world is not
going to end, you know,
00:33:30.87\00:33:32.44
if I don't take care
of that at that moment.
00:33:32.47\00:33:35.61
So prioritize, you
know, do that distinction,
00:33:35.64\00:33:40.58
things that are
urgent from things
00:33:40.62\00:33:42.75
that are important.
00:33:42.78\00:33:45.05
You know, I think
it's very important
00:33:45.09\00:33:47.29
that we get now onto.
00:33:47.32\00:33:48.66
There are many parents out there
00:33:48.69\00:33:50.69
who are starting a young family.
00:33:50.73\00:33:52.79
When should the parents
00:33:52.83\00:33:54.96
direct their
children in relation
00:33:55.00\00:33:56.90
because now everyone
00:33:56.93\00:33:58.27
that's born from
now on has that device,
00:33:58.30\00:34:00.94
right from the age of
12 months old or younger,
00:34:00.97\00:34:03.71
some of them I've
seen have a device.
00:34:03.74\00:34:06.07
What do you see from
a medical point of view
00:34:06.11\00:34:09.24
that is crucial
for these young parents
00:34:09.28\00:34:11.51
to know about what this
effect has upon their child?
00:34:11.55\00:34:15.38
That's right.
00:34:15.42\00:34:16.75
There was a
published paper that was,
00:34:16.79\00:34:19.29
that came out recently
in the scientific literature
00:34:19.32\00:34:23.02
in which they had their children
00:34:23.06\00:34:28.90
do their homework
00:34:28.93\00:34:31.17
with their cell phone with them,
00:34:31.20\00:34:34.30
and do their homework
00:34:34.34\00:34:36.71
with the cell
phone in another room.
00:34:36.74\00:34:40.01
Guess what happened?
00:34:40.04\00:34:41.38
The ones that didn't have
that constant interruption,
00:34:41.41\00:34:47.08
homework was done faster,
00:34:47.12\00:34:50.19
and homework was
done more thoroughly.
00:34:50.22\00:34:53.56
So something especially
for the small children,
00:34:53.59\00:34:58.29
as I get this
very often, you know,
00:34:58.33\00:35:01.43
parents come and
ask this question,
00:35:01.46\00:35:04.20
but you know, how can
I control and so forth?
00:35:04.23\00:35:06.94
I tell them,
what you need to do.
00:35:06.97\00:35:09.40
I've seen some
parents also do this.
00:35:09.44\00:35:11.87
Some parents actually make
00:35:11.91\00:35:14.44
a written agreement
with their children.
00:35:14.48\00:35:18.45
Okay, because they say, look,
I'm the one that's paying this.
00:35:18.48\00:35:22.12
Okay?
00:35:22.15\00:35:23.49
So I should be,
I should have a say
00:35:23.52\00:35:27.39
how we're going
to be using this.
00:35:27.42\00:35:29.32
But you can even find
some of these contracts.
00:35:29.36\00:35:31.66
You know, if you look for
them, you can find them there,
00:35:31.69\00:35:34.26
in which you
clearly spell out there,
00:35:34.30\00:35:37.53
you know, this
is not going to be
00:35:37.57\00:35:38.93
used for pornography.
00:35:38.97\00:35:40.54
There's going to be
times for usage of this.
00:35:40.57\00:35:43.17
This is a huge problem.
00:35:43.20\00:35:46.88
When you're using those devices,
00:35:46.91\00:35:49.38
specifically after sunset,
00:35:49.41\00:35:52.25
the blue light of
those devices are actually
00:35:52.28\00:35:56.08
stimulating your brain,
telling them that it's the day
00:35:56.12\00:36:00.89
and you're actually
00:36:00.92\00:36:03.12
decreasing the
amount of melatonin
00:36:03.16\00:36:05.69
which is the hormone
00:36:05.73\00:36:07.06
that is going to
repair your body at night
00:36:07.10\00:36:09.16
that is anti-cancerous,
00:36:09.20\00:36:11.03
that is going to help you
maintain a young appearance
00:36:11.07\00:36:14.90
and so forth.
00:36:14.94\00:36:16.67
So they need to know
that there are limits.
00:36:16.71\00:36:21.61
Some parents also I've seen,
00:36:21.64\00:36:24.15
they, the kid needs to give
00:36:24.18\00:36:28.18
the cell phone to their
parent before they go to bed.
00:36:28.22\00:36:32.55
And in the
morning, when they wake up
00:36:32.59\00:36:35.49
after the bed is
made and so forth.
00:36:35.52\00:36:37.93
Okay, you may
check and so forth,
00:36:37.96\00:36:42.10
to start to have
some sort of structure,
00:36:42.13\00:36:47.00
some sort of direction,
00:36:47.04\00:36:51.27
because you need to understand
00:36:51.31\00:36:54.78
that the tremendous potential
00:36:54.81\00:36:57.91
and addictive ability
00:36:57.95\00:37:00.18
of these devices
are going to draw them
00:37:00.22\00:37:03.35
and cause problems.
00:37:03.39\00:37:05.02
Another issue I
see very commonly,
00:37:05.05\00:37:07.86
many parents seeing that
00:37:07.89\00:37:11.03
their child has
attention deficit issues.
00:37:11.06\00:37:17.03
Recently we do an
annual meeting in Weimar,
00:37:17.07\00:37:21.40
is called the EQ summit.
00:37:21.44\00:37:24.71
By the way, it's going
to be very good this year.
00:37:24.74\00:37:26.91
If you're interested, you know,
go to the website of EQ summit.
00:37:26.94\00:37:30.28
And in that EQ
summit, we had recently
00:37:30.31\00:37:34.85
one of the pioneers of
attention deficit disorder
00:37:34.88\00:37:40.09
in the whole world,
00:37:40.12\00:37:41.69
scholar from Harvard University.
00:37:41.72\00:37:43.39
Okay.
00:37:43.43\00:37:44.76
And then he was
telling us how his hypothesis
00:37:44.79\00:37:48.96
basically can be boiled down
00:37:49.00\00:37:51.90
to the fact that
what those brains need
00:37:51.93\00:37:56.94
is intense physical exercise
00:37:56.97\00:38:01.58
and he share a
very interesting story
00:38:01.61\00:38:03.08
that I didn't know.
00:38:03.11\00:38:04.71
His said that Michael Phelps,
00:38:04.75\00:38:07.75
you know this
tremendous Olympic swimmer,
00:38:07.78\00:38:11.42
he broke the
record of so many medals,
00:38:11.45\00:38:13.76
Olympic medals.
00:38:13.79\00:38:15.19
He was diagnosed
00:38:15.22\00:38:16.83
with attention deficit disorder.
00:38:16.86\00:38:19.36
And he was counseled that
00:38:19.39\00:38:21.56
he needed to do
intense physical exercise.
00:38:21.60\00:38:26.60
He happened to choose
swimming, he enjoyed swimming,
00:38:26.63\00:38:30.11
and he started
liking it so much.
00:38:30.14\00:38:32.37
Look at where he
end up today, you know,
00:38:32.41\00:38:34.88
tremendous
Olympian and so forth.
00:38:34.91\00:38:38.81
So those children
00:38:38.85\00:38:40.82
that have
specially attention problems,
00:38:40.85\00:38:46.59
those children, number one,
they need a lot of exercise.
00:38:46.62\00:38:50.69
Number two, they
need a structure program.
00:38:50.73\00:38:54.90
They don't do good adapting
to changes in the program.
00:38:54.93\00:38:59.73
So you need to have a
very nicely structured
00:38:59.77\00:39:01.67
program throughout the day.
00:39:01.70\00:39:03.47
And number three,
00:39:03.51\00:39:05.17
those children don't
do good with devices.
00:39:05.21\00:39:09.28
They already are impaired
00:39:09.31\00:39:11.48
in their ability to
maintain attention span.
00:39:11.51\00:39:15.45
And by giving that competition
00:39:15.48\00:39:18.35
that is
actually causing problems
00:39:18.39\00:39:21.82
secondary to
competing attention.
00:39:21.86\00:39:24.49
They already have
problems with that.
00:39:24.53\00:39:26.29
I spend a whole winter
in a specialized program
00:39:26.33\00:39:31.80
that used to run in Tennessee.
00:39:31.83\00:39:33.67
Unfortunately, the
person running it retired,
00:39:33.70\00:39:36.10
no longer runs.
00:39:36.14\00:39:37.61
But that program,
most of those participants
00:39:37.64\00:39:41.28
were focusing on kids
00:39:41.31\00:39:43.04
with attention deficit disorder.
00:39:43.08\00:39:45.48
And I had the privilege
of working with one of them.
00:39:45.51\00:39:49.98
And he came
tremendously impaired,
00:39:50.02\00:39:54.02
he had gone into drugs,
00:39:54.06\00:39:55.82
he had become a street
child, he left his home
00:39:55.86\00:39:59.19
and he was just
roaming in the streets.
00:39:59.23\00:40:01.76
Then they brought
him to that program.
00:40:01.80\00:40:04.47
He experienced a
conversion experience there.
00:40:04.50\00:40:08.07
And later on he came to
Weimar as a college student.
00:40:08.10\00:40:13.81
And I had the privilege of...
00:40:13.84\00:40:15.34
I teach the research class
00:40:15.38\00:40:18.88
there for the
pre-medical students
00:40:18.91\00:40:21.02
and I had the
privilege of teaching him.
00:40:21.05\00:40:25.32
And I had the
privilege of taking him
00:40:25.35\00:40:28.42
to Harvard University,
00:40:28.46\00:40:31.63
to present some of the research
00:40:31.66\00:40:34.36
that we have done,
it was accepted there
00:40:34.40\00:40:36.80
and they wanted to
hear more about it.
00:40:36.83\00:40:40.10
Here is from
being in the streets
00:40:40.14\00:40:44.34
to win in one of
the top institutions
00:40:44.37\00:40:47.41
in the world.
00:40:47.44\00:40:48.78
This is what God can
do when we come to Him.
00:40:48.81\00:40:53.35
And number five,
00:40:53.38\00:40:55.25
we have to have
spirituality at home.
00:40:55.28\00:41:00.02
This is not the
job of the pastor.
00:41:00.06\00:41:02.46
Yes, the pastor
is going to preach us
00:41:02.49\00:41:04.06
and so forth, that's good.
00:41:04.09\00:41:05.86
But at home, that's
when we are going to be
00:41:05.89\00:41:10.87
encouraging our
kids to seek the Lord.
00:41:10.90\00:41:15.37
And the thing is
that the children
00:41:15.40\00:41:19.41
have a fake detector,
00:41:19.44\00:41:22.84
you know, when they
see something in the screen
00:41:22.88\00:41:24.38
that is fake, oh, they say, oh,
00:41:24.41\00:41:25.75
that's fake, you
know, that's not a real.
00:41:25.78\00:41:27.95
Photoshop. That's
Photoshop and so forth.
00:41:27.98\00:41:30.42
They something
here that detects fake,
00:41:30.45\00:41:33.15
and that, they also they take
the fakeness in our parenting.
00:41:33.19\00:41:39.09
If we are saying something,
and we're not doing it,
00:41:39.13\00:41:43.16
oh, you know, you
should pay your tithe
00:41:43.20\00:41:44.87
and he sees that
00:41:44.90\00:41:46.23
you're not paying
your tithe, you know.
00:41:46.27\00:41:48.57
Or you should
have a life of prayer
00:41:48.60\00:41:50.34
and when do
they see you praying,
00:41:50.37\00:41:52.87
you know, you
have your devotions.
00:41:52.91\00:41:55.21
Did they see that
you every morning,
00:41:55.24\00:41:57.75
wake up and read your devotions?
00:41:57.78\00:42:00.92
Do we have a
family altar at a home?
00:42:00.95\00:42:05.05
Spend time with God.
00:42:05.09\00:42:06.42
We spend time with God
and put ourselves as a family
00:42:06.45\00:42:10.86
in at the feet of Jesus,
00:42:10.89\00:42:13.90
because I can tell you, man,
00:42:13.93\00:42:15.96
the demons are
busy trying to caught
00:42:16.00\00:42:19.73
the attention not only of them,
00:42:19.77\00:42:21.70
but of us also, you know.
00:42:21.74\00:42:23.57
The temptations are
growing exponentially,
00:42:23.61\00:42:27.64
and we don't
live in an easy world.
00:42:27.68\00:42:31.15
You know, Eddie, when I
think of the temptations
00:42:31.18\00:42:33.78
that are available, when
you mentioned pornography,
00:42:33.82\00:42:37.59
you know, unless the
parent of the children
00:42:37.62\00:42:41.52
take control of what
they see that is available.
00:42:41.56\00:42:45.79
And it doesn't, you
don't have to look for it,
00:42:45.83\00:42:47.43
it'll pop up.
00:42:47.46\00:42:48.96
And so, you know,
00:42:49.00\00:42:50.47
I just wanted to
say to the parents
00:42:50.50\00:42:52.63
that it's crucial as
Dr. Eddie is saying that
00:42:52.67\00:42:54.97
you take
control of these devices
00:42:55.00\00:42:57.14
at an earliest age
possible Because if you,
00:42:57.17\00:43:01.11
if we don't do that
we're allowing our children
00:43:01.14\00:43:03.35
to be really
like adults to decide
00:43:03.38\00:43:05.65
what is good and what is not.
00:43:05.68\00:43:07.38
They have access to it.
00:43:07.42\00:43:09.22
And therefore, it
really is debilitating
00:43:09.25\00:43:12.19
in the child's
growth and development.
00:43:12.22\00:43:14.56
So parents need to go
back to the biblical role
00:43:14.59\00:43:17.56
that we've been told that
00:43:17.59\00:43:19.46
you are to be
teachers and you are guardians
00:43:19.49\00:43:21.63
of their
spirituality, their whole being,
00:43:21.66\00:43:24.50
their holistic being
even in what they eat and do.
00:43:24.53\00:43:27.64
So, you know,
that affects everything
00:43:27.67\00:43:29.70
in the frontal
lobe in particular.
00:43:29.74\00:43:31.51
So, you know, I
would like for you
00:43:31.54\00:43:33.78
to tell parents, you know,
00:43:33.81\00:43:35.58
who are watching,
who have got children
00:43:35.61\00:43:37.31
two, three, four, five and six,
00:43:37.35\00:43:39.78
what would you recommend
00:43:39.81\00:43:41.92
for them in
relation to all these,
00:43:41.95\00:43:44.49
particularly this
internet, in the internet age
00:43:44.52\00:43:46.69
where the devices are available,
00:43:46.72\00:43:48.06
what would you
say to them, Eddie?
00:43:48.09\00:43:49.49
You know, the America,
00:43:49.52\00:43:51.89
the American
Academy of Pediatricians.
00:43:51.93\00:43:54.80
This is a secular institution.
00:43:54.83\00:43:58.47
It's not even, you
know, spiritual or anything.
00:43:58.50\00:44:01.77
They recommend that
00:44:01.80\00:44:04.21
young children
under the age of five
00:44:04.24\00:44:08.78
don't spend time with devices.
00:44:08.81\00:44:12.91
Those children shouldn't
be playing with the tablet
00:44:12.95\00:44:16.89
or the cell phone and so forth.
00:44:16.92\00:44:19.05
I mean, is that
perfect classifier, you know.
00:44:19.09\00:44:22.36
It is and also...
00:44:22.39\00:44:24.99
It also does a good
job of mind, isn't it?
00:44:25.03\00:44:28.56
Yet it has a negative effect
00:44:28.60\00:44:33.47
in the development of the brain.
00:44:33.50\00:44:36.07
You can actually
go to the TED Talks,
00:44:36.10\00:44:38.97
you know, this also, you know,
00:44:39.01\00:44:41.74
experts around the world
give this lectures and so forth.
00:44:41.78\00:44:45.35
Go there and look for television
00:44:45.38\00:44:49.22
and an electronic
devices on children.
00:44:49.25\00:44:54.32
Here they are the top experts
in the world telling you,
00:44:54.36\00:44:59.76
children don't
have anything to do
00:44:59.79\00:45:03.03
with these things, you know.
00:45:03.06\00:45:04.40
That's something
you want to take note
00:45:04.43\00:45:05.77
of because
that's very important.
00:45:05.80\00:45:07.14
They need to be
spending time running around,
00:45:07.17\00:45:12.27
exploring nature
and things around them,
00:45:12.31\00:45:16.54
using things with their hands
00:45:16.58\00:45:20.48
instead of
focusing on those things.
00:45:20.52\00:45:22.98
There's an epidemic
right now in Journal Nature,
00:45:23.02\00:45:26.12
one of the top
journals in the world,
00:45:26.15\00:45:27.79
was describing
this epidemic in Asia,
00:45:27.82\00:45:32.63
in which many children there,
00:45:32.66\00:45:35.40
their eyes have been
affected secondary to this.
00:45:35.43\00:45:39.03
As they have been
focusing their eyes constantly
00:45:39.07\00:45:44.67
on those devices, the
shape of their eye changes
00:45:44.71\00:45:50.11
and you actually
harm the eye long term.
00:45:50.15\00:45:53.21
Is that right?
00:45:53.25\00:45:54.58
I used to tell my children
that they watching this thing,
00:45:54.62\00:45:57.59
their brain is going
to go rectangular shape.
00:45:57.62\00:46:00.69
Not only that,
some current research
00:46:00.72\00:46:04.73
you can also find
they're on my Twitter,
00:46:04.76\00:46:07.13
very fascinating
research coming up
00:46:07.16\00:46:09.56
saying how our constant exposure
00:46:09.60\00:46:12.77
to that blue light from
cell phones and computers
00:46:12.80\00:46:17.57
are going to give us
00:46:17.61\00:46:18.94
a lot of blind
people in the near future.
00:46:18.97\00:46:22.28
That's interesting.
00:46:22.31\00:46:23.65
See your eyes, God
didn't design them for you
00:46:23.68\00:46:28.12
to focus in just in
one point the whole day.
00:46:28.15\00:46:32.45
You're supposed
to be looking around
00:46:32.49\00:46:34.06
and you know,
00:46:34.09\00:46:35.42
changing the focal and so forth.
00:46:35.46\00:46:37.89
But when you have it
set in one particular focus,
00:46:37.93\00:46:42.83
plus that blue light
that's why another good counsel
00:46:42.86\00:46:47.17
install a blue light
filter in your device,
00:46:47.20\00:46:51.41
specially that needs
to be active after sunset,
00:46:51.44\00:46:55.71
but also during the day.
00:46:55.74\00:46:58.45
Block just a little
bit of that blue light
00:46:58.48\00:47:01.05
so that is not harming your eye,
00:47:01.08\00:47:02.95
especially if you have a
job you know in which requires
00:47:02.98\00:47:05.32
you to be working
in front of a computer.
00:47:05.35\00:47:08.42
You can Google
apps like F-Locks.
00:47:08.46\00:47:11.89
Okay.
00:47:11.93\00:47:13.26
That will bring
you about those apps
00:47:13.29\00:47:14.63
are free most of them
00:47:14.66\00:47:16.00
and you can install
them and block those,
00:47:16.03\00:47:17.83
those blue lights.
00:47:17.87\00:47:19.97
Another thing,
00:47:20.00\00:47:21.34
we need to be
real in our parenting.
00:47:21.37\00:47:24.74
And you know, we are imperfect,
00:47:24.77\00:47:27.91
we are sinners, we
have mistakes that we make.
00:47:27.94\00:47:32.11
And we need to understand that
00:47:32.15\00:47:36.12
we also need that
00:47:36.15\00:47:38.39
constant
refreshing from the Lord.
00:47:38.42\00:47:41.96
And those
mistakes we are committing
00:47:41.99\00:47:44.89
and that are
impairing our character
00:47:44.93\00:47:50.30
and our influence,
00:47:50.33\00:47:51.93
we have to recognize
00:47:51.97\00:47:53.70
and there are some
times in which we need to come
00:47:53.74\00:47:57.11
before the family
and confess, you know.
00:47:57.14\00:48:01.04
The kids are
observing these things.
00:48:01.08\00:48:04.05
And as I told you,
00:48:04.08\00:48:05.41
your kid is going
to do what they see,
00:48:05.45\00:48:08.78
not what they
are hearing from you.
00:48:08.82\00:48:14.59
You know, I think of
the fact that, you know,
00:48:14.62\00:48:16.62
you spending time
with your children,
00:48:16.66\00:48:18.96
it's very easy in
this society which we live.
00:48:18.99\00:48:21.30
Mom and dad are busy
00:48:21.33\00:48:22.66
to leave their
children with these devices.
00:48:22.70\00:48:24.70
But how crucial is it
for parents to spend time
00:48:24.73\00:48:26.97
with their
children to counteract
00:48:27.00\00:48:28.50
the influence of the device?
00:48:28.54\00:48:29.87
And that's exactly the
point I was going to make.
00:48:29.90\00:48:32.67
We need to spend time
00:48:32.71\00:48:35.54
with our children
playing with them.
00:48:35.58\00:48:38.11
That is exactly
00:48:38.15\00:48:41.22
when we are going to
have an influence over them.
00:48:41.25\00:48:46.12
See, if you don't have an
influence on your children,
00:48:46.15\00:48:49.86
somebody else will have it.
00:48:49.89\00:48:53.16
And while that
big responsibility
00:48:53.19\00:48:56.30
that we have,
00:48:56.33\00:48:58.17
we need to gain
their confidence,
00:48:58.20\00:49:01.70
we need to be
their best friends.
00:49:01.74\00:49:04.81
And we have to
spend time with them,
00:49:04.84\00:49:07.74
you know, we have
to plan activities.
00:49:07.78\00:49:10.25
We have to plan
a social night once
00:49:10.28\00:49:14.92
or many times in
a week and so forth.
00:49:14.95\00:49:17.49
It's important to both parents,
it's not just a one parent,
00:49:17.52\00:49:20.76
it's important that
both parents spend time
00:49:20.79\00:49:23.19
with their
children, play with them.
00:49:23.22\00:49:24.69
That's right.
00:49:24.73\00:49:26.06
Because that's when you
know, we have fun together.
00:49:26.09\00:49:29.86
That's when the
bonds get created.
00:49:29.90\00:49:33.27
That's when we start
really touching their heart
00:49:33.30\00:49:36.91
when they see that we
care and we are nice to them.
00:49:36.94\00:49:39.24
That's the word,
00:49:39.27\00:49:40.71
that children see that as caring
00:49:40.74\00:49:42.34
and someone loving them.
00:49:42.38\00:49:44.25
It's what the saying says,
00:49:44.28\00:49:46.35
people don't
care how much you know
00:49:46.38\00:49:50.42
until they know
how much you care.
00:49:50.45\00:49:52.39
That's right.
00:49:52.42\00:49:53.82
Now I just have
another question, Dr. Eddie,
00:49:53.86\00:49:55.99
and that is the
children now at a very young age
00:49:56.02\00:50:00.13
are exposed to
games and I relate to this
00:50:00.16\00:50:02.13
because I was in a waiting room.
00:50:02.16\00:50:04.43
And a mother came
in with three children.
00:50:04.47\00:50:06.27
I doubt if the
oldest was five maybe.
00:50:06.30\00:50:09.00
Then there was another one,
00:50:09.04\00:50:10.37
there was one who
was battling to walk.
00:50:10.41\00:50:12.17
Now the young one was observing
00:50:12.21\00:50:14.18
the other two children
00:50:14.21\00:50:15.84
with these
devices, playing games.
00:50:15.88\00:50:19.35
How, what
affects the playing games
00:50:19.38\00:50:21.78
have on children?
00:50:21.82\00:50:23.49
Yes, the playing of the games.
00:50:23.52\00:50:25.89
Number one, there's a little bit
00:50:25.92\00:50:27.26
of addictive effect there.
00:50:27.29\00:50:29.59
But also, they start getting
00:50:29.62\00:50:32.23
into this virtual reality world
00:50:32.26\00:50:36.73
and that playing of the game,
00:50:36.77\00:50:39.57
some of them are
actually violent games.
00:50:39.60\00:50:42.94
That's the reason why
today some of those games
00:50:42.97\00:50:46.14
are even
classified like the movies.
00:50:46.17\00:50:49.18
And I'm surprised that
many parents don't know this,
00:50:49.21\00:50:51.61
you know, get yourself
aware of this information
00:50:51.65\00:50:56.75
how some of these games
00:50:56.79\00:51:01.32
are actually for adults,
00:51:01.36\00:51:03.63
not because of sexual content,
00:51:03.66\00:51:05.43
some of them
because of sexual content,
00:51:05.46\00:51:07.06
but some of them
because of violence.
00:51:07.10\00:51:09.43
Here they are
killing literal people
00:51:09.46\00:51:13.37
in front of them.
00:51:13.40\00:51:15.50
Their conscience gets seared.
00:51:15.54\00:51:17.91
Their ability to differentiate
00:51:17.94\00:51:21.04
between good and
bad is being impaired.
00:51:21.08\00:51:25.15
Lots of them have witchcraft
involved in them and so forth.
00:51:25.18\00:51:30.39
So no wonder why
they're not interested
00:51:30.42\00:51:32.85
in reading the Bible
and so forth, you know.
00:51:32.89\00:51:35.26
And I think back
00:51:35.29\00:51:36.62
to when the
games first came out.
00:51:36.66\00:51:38.06
When I was younger,
00:51:38.09\00:51:40.00
they were always
in a cartoon form.
00:51:40.03\00:51:42.53
But now the
reality is so like the real
00:51:42.56\00:51:46.94
if I can put it that way.
00:51:46.97\00:51:48.67
So human beings
now appear very much
00:51:48.70\00:51:51.14
like human beings.
00:51:51.17\00:51:52.61
And so the
reality of these games
00:51:52.64\00:51:54.48
is that you're
actually shooting...
00:51:54.51\00:51:56.54
Somebody, yeah, yeah, yeah,
00:51:56.58\00:51:57.91
in your brain that's
what is happening, you know.
00:51:57.95\00:52:01.68
That's exactly
what is happening.
00:52:01.72\00:52:04.79
So, yes, be very
careful with those games.
00:52:04.82\00:52:08.66
Again, you know,
you are the parent,
00:52:08.69\00:52:11.23
you are the one that
puts the rule at home.
00:52:11.26\00:52:14.86
I get this all
the time, you know,
00:52:14.90\00:52:17.03
the parents come and say,
00:52:17.07\00:52:18.77
"Doctor, but my
child doesn't like the food
00:52:18.80\00:52:21.54
that I want to change."
00:52:21.57\00:52:22.90
You don't want
to change my diet,
00:52:22.94\00:52:24.27
I didn't like it.
00:52:24.31\00:52:25.64
And I asked him, who
pays for your food at home?
00:52:25.67\00:52:29.18
Does your child pay for the food
00:52:29.21\00:52:31.35
or do you pay for
the food, you know?
00:52:31.38\00:52:33.55
So... It's very interesting.
00:52:33.58\00:52:35.42
But we're going to
take a break for a moment.
00:52:35.45\00:52:37.49
You know, Dr.
Eddie is talking about
00:52:37.52\00:52:38.85
a subject that I
believe is very important.
00:52:38.89\00:52:41.32
And we're going to put
up his contact details.
00:52:41.36\00:52:44.66
And I know he
speaks all around the world
00:52:44.69\00:52:47.23
with his medical research.
00:52:47.26\00:52:49.96
And this is a subject
that is becoming very prominent
00:52:50.00\00:52:52.57
because it's
affecting our young people.
00:52:52.60\00:52:54.50
If you have an interest
for him to come and talk to you
00:52:54.54\00:52:56.77
in this area and
another area also,
00:52:56.81\00:52:59.07
you'll be able to
contact him at this address.
00:52:59.11\00:53:01.81
If you would like to
contact Dr. Eddie Ramirez,
00:53:05.88\00:53:08.32
you may write to him,
c/o Weimar Institute 20601,
00:53:08.35\00:53:12.75
West Paoli Lane, Weimar,
00:53:12.79\00:53:14.82
California 95736, USA.
00:53:14.86\00:53:19.03
That's c/o
Weimar Institute 20601,
00:53:19.06\00:53:23.06
West Paoli Lane, Weimar,
00:53:23.10\00:53:25.23
California 95736, USA.
00:53:25.27\00:53:30.87
You may email him
at eramirez@weimar.edu.
00:53:30.91\00:53:35.68
That's the letter
00:53:35.71\00:53:37.05
Eramirez@weimar.edu.
00:53:37.08\00:53:42.32
Visit his YouTube channel
by going to dreddieramirez.com.
00:53:42.35\00:53:46.69
That's dreddieramirez.com.
00:53:46.72\00:53:52.59
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00:53:52.63\00:53:57.73
Contact him today.
00:53:57.77\00:53:59.10
He'd love to hear from you.
00:53:59.13\00:54:01.60
I hope you've got
all those details.
00:54:01.64\00:54:03.20
I've enjoyed
listening to Dr. Eddie
00:54:03.24\00:54:05.14
talking about this subject.
00:54:05.17\00:54:06.88
Because I'm
looking back in hindsight
00:54:06.91\00:54:08.81
now as I'm getting older,
00:54:08.84\00:54:10.18
the effects these
things that had on my children.
00:54:10.21\00:54:12.55
And you know, when we
look back in hindsight,
00:54:12.58\00:54:14.95
we kind of think well,
we should have done this,
00:54:14.98\00:54:16.85
but there's an
opportunity to share
00:54:16.89\00:54:18.59
what we have learned with you
00:54:18.62\00:54:20.22
and Dr. Eddie is
doing that today.
00:54:20.26\00:54:22.96
But he's got some more to say
00:54:22.99\00:54:24.33
in the short
time we have got left.
00:54:24.36\00:54:26.66
So there's a very good quotation
00:54:26.70\00:54:29.20
in the book, Adventist Home.
00:54:29.23\00:54:31.20
This is a book that
every parent needs to read.
00:54:31.23\00:54:36.60
And the
quotation goes like this.
00:54:36.64\00:54:39.94
"Administer the rules of
the home in wisdom and love,
00:54:39.97\00:54:44.51
not with a rod of iron.
00:54:44.55\00:54:47.45
Children will respond
00:54:47.48\00:54:49.52
with willing
obedience to the rule of love.
00:54:49.55\00:54:53.39
Commend your
children whenever you can,
00:54:53.42\00:54:56.19
make their lives
as happy as possible.
00:54:56.22\00:54:59.56
Keep the soil of
their heart mellow
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by the manifestation
of love and affection,
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thus preparing it
for the seeds of truth.
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Remember that the
Lord gives the earth
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not only clouds and rain,
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but the
beautiful, smiling sunshine,
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causing these seeds to germinate
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and to bloom
and bloom to appear.
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Remember that children need
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not only reproof and correction,
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but
encouragement and commendation.
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The pleasant
sunshine of kind words."
00:55:32.83\00:55:37.63
So you mentioned two
things, love and affection.
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They can only be experienced
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by a child
through personal contact.
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That can't be
done any other way.
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The devices don't do that.
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We have, all of
us have limited time.
00:55:49.08\00:55:53.55
And by you spending
time with your children,
00:55:53.58\00:55:59.25
you're literally giving
part of your life to them
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because we have limited
lives in this planet earth.
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So make sure your
priorities are in line.
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And you know we
have tremendous examples,
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such as David Livingstone.
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If you read the
history of David Livingstone,
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his parents used to
spend time reading the Word,
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reading the stories
of the missionaries.
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That's the way the inspiration
in his heart came about.
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He went and
dedicated his life in Africa,
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as you very well known.
00:56:38.26\00:56:40.00
And his wife died,
00:56:40.03\00:56:41.56
he could have
come back to England,
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he's preferred to stay there.
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And then, when they went
to look for him, Mr. Stanley,
00:56:45.70\00:56:51.21
the famous story of
him, he came and told him,
00:56:51.24\00:56:54.51
"Look, I came to see you
00:56:54.54\00:56:56.44
to run an
article in the newspaper,
00:56:56.48\00:56:58.38
I'm the biggest
atheist on planet earth,
00:56:58.41\00:57:00.82
I don't want you to
convince me of anything else.
00:57:00.85\00:57:03.69
And a few months later,
00:57:03.72\00:57:06.49
the biggest
atheist on planet earth
00:57:06.52\00:57:08.22
gave his life to the Lord
as a result of the influence
00:57:08.26\00:57:11.83
of David Livingstone
00:57:11.86\00:57:13.33
who died in
Africa serving others.
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That's the kind of
life that we should have.
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And you know, David
Livingstone died praying.
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He was praying, and
he died on his knees.
00:57:23.64\00:57:27.64
What a beautiful
way of passing out.
00:57:27.68\00:57:30.58
In service to others
is the greatest ability
00:57:30.61\00:57:33.65
or gift we have to enjoy life.
00:57:33.68\00:57:36.38
You know, Eddie,
Dr. Eddie, thank you
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for coming on the program.
00:57:38.15\00:57:39.72
And we look
forward to having you again
00:57:39.75\00:57:41.26
on the program.
00:57:41.29\00:57:42.62
But until next time,
may God richly bless you.
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