Participants: Pr. Doug Batchelor
Series Code: MIQ
Program Code: MIQ000008
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00:05 >> IN 1974, FEBRUARY, 19-YEAR-OLD PATRICIA HEARST WAS 00:09 KIDNAPPED FROM HER APARTMENT IN BERKELEY, CALIFORNIA. 00:13 SHE WAS ABDUCTED BY AN URBAN GUERILLA GROUP CALLED 00:16 THE SYMBIONESE LIBERATION ARMY, OR SLA. 00:19 AFTER HOLDING HER FOR 2 MONTHS, SHE WAS ABLE TO PERSUADE HER 00:23 FATHER TO GIVE $6 MILLION IN RANSOM. 00:27 BUT CAN YOU IMAGINE HER FATHER'S HEARTACHE WHEN, 00:29 AFTER THAT RANSOM WAS PAID, SHE DECIDED TO STAY WITH 00:32 HER CAPTORS INSTEAD? 00:34 MATTER OF FACT, SHE EVEN HELPED THEM WITH A BANK ROBBERY. 00:38 EVIDENTLY, DURING THE TIME OF HER CAPTIVITY, THEY HAD 00:40 PERSUADED HER HER FAMILY DIDN'T REALLY LOVE HER AND SHE WAS 00:43 BETTER OFF WITH THEM. 00:45 AND SHE WANTED SO MUCH TO BELONG THAT SHE BELIEVED IT. 00:49 YOU KNOW, IT MAKES YOU WONDER WHAT OUR HEAVENLY FATHER MUST 00:52 THINK OF US WHEN HE SENT HIS SON AND PAID A RANSOM FOR ALL 00:56 OF US TO BE SAVED AND WE PREFER TO STAY IN CAPTIVITY. 01:00 THE DEVIL IS ATTACKING EVERY EARTHLY RELATIONSHIP. 01:04 AND SO IT BRINGS THE QUESTION, CAN WE GET ALONG? 01:08 WE'RE GONNA TALK ABOUT THAT IN THIS EPISODE OF "MIQ." 01:15 >> HOW CAN I KNOW THAT GOD IS LISTENING? 01:17 >> DID I COME FROM APES OR PREHISTORIC SLUDGE? 01:20 >> CAN THE BIBLE BE TRUSTED? 01:22 >> WHAT SHOULD I DO WITH MY LIFE? 01:24 >> COLLEGE? 01:25 CARS? 01:26 A JOB? 01:27 >> CAN I EVER BE PERFECT? 01:29 >> CAN I MAKE A DIFFERENCE? 01:30 >> DO MY PARENTS NEED ME? 01:32 [VOICES OVERLAPPING] 01:40 >> "MIQ," YOUR QUESTIONS, GOD'S ANSWERS. 01:45 >> DURING THIS EPISODE, WE WILL BE TAKING A LOOK AT THE 01:47 IMPORTANT QUESTIONS OF FAMILY, FRIENDS, AND ROMANCE. 01:51 JOIN US NOW FOR "MIQ." 01:54 >> HELLO, FRIENDS. 01:55 WELCOME BACK TO "MIQ," AMAZING FACTS FOR TEENS. 01:59 I'D ALSO LIKE TO WELCOME THOSE WHO ARE WATCHING ON TELEVISION 02:02 AND ONLINE, ACROSS THE COUNTRY, AROUND THE WORLD, WELCOME. 02:06 THANK YOU FOR JOINING US AGAIN AND IT'S NOT TOO LATE 02:08 FOR YOU TO SEND IN YOUR BIBLE QUESTIONS. 02:11 GO TO MIQTEENS.COM. 02:14 THAT WEB SITE IS MIQTEENS.COM AND YOU CAN POST YOUR QUESTION 02:18 ONLINE. 02:19 YOU CAN ALSO SEND A TEXT MESSAGE WITH YOUR BIBLE QUESTION 02:23 AND THE NUMBER IS 760-523-2287. 02:29 NOW, DURING THIS SERIES, WE'VE BEEN TALKING ABOUT 02:31 LIFE'S BIG QUESTIONS. 02:33 IS THERE A GOD? 02:34 WHERE DID I COME FROM? 02:35 CAN I TRUST THE BIBLE? 02:37 AND WE HOPE THAT AFTER THIS SERIES IS OVER, YOU WILL 02:39 CONTINUE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD, KEEP SEARCHING 02:43 FOR A DEEPER UNDERSTANDING AND KNOWLEDGE OF HIS WILL 02:46 FOR YOUR LIFE. 02:48 I'D LIKE TO INVITE OUR SONGS LEADERS TO PLEASE COME FORWARD 02:51 AT THIS TIME. 02:52 THANK YOU, KELLY, FOR PLAYING. 02:53 AND IMMEDIATELY FOLLOWING OUR THEME SONG, WE'RE GONNA HAVE 02:56 ZACH DO OUR OPENING PRAYER. 02:58 PLEASE STAND AS WE SING. 03:01 [MUSIC] 03:07 ♪ WHEN I GAZE UP ♪ ♪ AT THE COUNTLESS STARS ♪ 03:12 ♪ WE'RE ON AN ENDLESS SEA ♪ ♪ MY MIND MAY SWIM ♪ 03:17 ♪ WITH QUESTIONS ♪ ♪ BEWILDERING TO ME ♪ 03:23 ♪ BUT THEN I READ THE BIBLE ♪ ♪ AND SEEK YOUR FACE ♪ 03:29 ♪ IN PRAYER ♪ ♪ I'M SATISFIED REMEMBERING ♪ 03:36 ♪ YOUR LOVING GRACE ♪ ♪ AND CARE ♪ 03:40 ♪ WHATEVER QUESTIONS ♪ ♪ I MAY HAVE ♪ 03:44 ♪ WHETHER GREAT OR SMALL ♪ ♪ I KNOW JESUS DIED ♪ 03:50 ♪ TO SAVE ME ♪ ♪ AND THAT HE FORGAVE ME ♪ 03:56 ♪ JESUS IS THE ANSWER ♪ ♪ TO IT ALL ♪ 04:04 ♪ JESUS IS THE ANSWER ♪ ♪ TO IT ALL ♪ 04:12 ♪ I HAVE SO MANY QUESTIONS ♪ ♪ I WONDER IN MY HEART ♪ 04:20 ♪ HOW SOMETHING COMES ♪ ♪ FROM NOTHING ♪ 04:24 ♪ WHEN DID FOREVER START? ♪ ♪ WHY CAN'T I SEE ♪ 04:30 ♪ YOUR GLORY? ♪ ♪ WHERE IS ♪ 04:33 ♪ THE PROMISED LAND? ♪ ♪ I'LL TRUST THAT YOU ♪ 04:38 ♪ WILL LEAD ME THERE ♪ ♪ IF I CAN TAKE YOUR HAND ♪ 04:44 ♪ WHATEVER QUESTIONS ♪ ♪ I MAY HAVE ♪ 04:48 ♪ WHETHER GREAT OR SMALL ♪ ♪ I KNOW JESUS DIED ♪ 04:54 ♪ TO SAVE ME ♪ ♪ AND THAT HE FORGAVE ME ♪ 05:00 ♪ JESUS IS THE ANSWER ♪ ♪ TO IT ALL ♪ 05:08 ♪ JESUS IS THE ANSWER ♪ ♪ TO IT ALL ♪♪ 05:17 >> HEAVENLY FATHER, WE THANK YOU FOR THIS 05:19 CHANCE TO COME SPEND TIME WITH YOU, TO COME TO 05:22 THESE MEETINGS, GOD. 05:23 LORD, WE ASK THAT YOU PLEASE BE WITH PASTOR DOUG 05:25 AS HE SPEAKS TO US. 05:26 MAY IT BE YOUR WORDS AND NOT HIS. 05:28 AND PLEASE TOUCH ALL OF US HEARING THESE SERMONS HERE 05:30 OR ACROSS THE WORLD, LORD. 05:32 MAY YOU CHANGE US FROM THE INSIDE OUT, IN YOUR NAME, 05:35 AMEN. 05:40 >> AMEN. 05:42 THANK YOU SO MUCH. 05:43 THANK YOU, KELLY, OUR SINGERS, ZACHARY FOR PRAYER. 05:46 WELCOME, EVERYBODY, TO THIS PRESENTATION OF "MIQ," 05:49 AND THAT STANDS FOR MOST IMPORTANT QUESTIONS. 05:53 WE'VE BEEN WORKING FOR A YEAR NOW TO TRY TO COALESCE 05:55 IN THIS PROGRAM THESE LESSON PRESENTATIONS ALONG WITH YOUR 05:59 QUESTIONS THAT WILL DEAL WITH THE MOST IMPORTANT ISSUES 06:03 IN BEING A CHRISTIAN. 06:05 AND WE'RE LEARNING AS WE GO, BUT I THINK WE'RE 06:09 MAKING PROGRESS. 06:10 >> WE ARE, PASTOR DOUG. 06:11 WELL, LET'S GET TO OUR QUESTIONS FOR TODAY. 06:17 >> MY NAME IS NOLO AND MY QUESTION IS HOW DO YOU KNOW 06:19 YOU KNOW YOURSELF WELL ENOUGH TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP? 06:27 >> THANK YOU. 06:28 I COULDN'T HELP BUT NOTICE THAT NOLO WANTS TO KNOW 06:30 HOW DO YOU KNOW. 06:33 HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU'RE READY TO BE--SORRY ABOUT THAT. 06:37 HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU'RE READY TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP? 06:41 WELL, WHEN YOUR CAR INSURANCE GOES DOWN, USUALLY AGE 25, 06:49 PROBABLY OLD ENOUGH TO START THINKING ABOUT IT. 06:52 NO, I'M--IT'S SOMETHING THAT YOU DON'T WANT TO RUSH INTO. 06:54 YOU KNOW WHAT I'VE OFTEN SEEN HAPPEN? 06:56 IS THERE'S SO MANY OPPORTUNITIES TO STUDY, 07:00 TO BE EDUCATED, TO TRAVEL, TO DO MISSION WORK. 07:04 AND IT'S ESPECIALLY PROFOUND IN THE BEGINNING OF YOUR LIFE, 07:08 DURING THOSE TEENAGE YEARS AND EARLY TWENTIES. 07:11 YOU CAN DO SO MUCH THAT ONCE YOU DO GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP, 07:16 OFTEN MARRIAGE, CHILDREN FOLLOW AND YOU DON'T HAVE THAT SAME 07:22 KIND OF FREEDOM. 07:23 AND SO DON'T RUSH IT. 07:25 THERE'S OFTEN A FEAR, "WELL, BUT IF SOMEONE COMES ALONG, 07:28 I'VE GOT TO GRAB THEM NOW BECAUSE I NEVER KNOW. 07:30 MIGHT BE THE ONLY ONE THAT'LL EVER BE INTERESTED IN ME." 07:33 DON'T BELIEVE IT. 07:34 YOU'LL GET SMARTER, YOU'LL GET BETTER, 07:36 YOU'LL BE MORE ATTRACTIVE. 07:37 AND SO TAKE YOUR TIME IS THE MAIN THING THAT 07:39 I WOULD ENCOURAGE. 07:41 >> THANK YOU, PASTOR DOUG. 07:42 WE HAVE ANOTHER VIDEO QUESTION. 07:47 >> HI, MY NAME'S THEODORE, AND I KNOW IT SAYS IN THE BIBLE TO 07:50 RESPECT AND HONOR YOUR PARENTS, BUT WHAT IF THEY'RE ABUSIVE 07:53 VERBALLY OR PHYSICALLY IN SOME MANNER? 08:01 >> WELL, THAT, OF COURSE, MAKES THINGS VERY DIFFICULT. 08:04 AND I THINK WE ALL KNOW THAT THERE'S SITUATIONS WHERE 08:07 A PARENT OR A STEP-PARENT-- IT COULD BE PHYSICAL ABUSE. 08:10 IT COULD BE SEXUAL ABUSE. 08:12 AND IF YOU'RE EXPERIENCING THAT, THEN YOU NEED TO TALK 08:15 TO SOMEBODY. 08:16 IT'D BE GREAT IF THERE WAS ANOTHER FAMILY MEMBER THAT YOU 08:19 COULD OPEN UP TO AND SEE IF YOU COULD GET SOME HELP, BUT YOU 08:22 KNOW, THE COMMAND TO HONOR YOUR PARENTS DOES NOT MEAN THAT 08:27 YOU NEED TO BREAK COMMANDMENTS OF GOD. 08:30 AS FAR AS POSSIBLE, YOU NEED TO BE RESPECTFUL. 08:33 NOW MY DAD HAD A DRINKING PROBLEM AND HE WOULD BE 08:35 VERBALLY ABUSIVE. 08:37 BUT YOU KNOW, I WAS NEVER DISRESPECTFUL TO HIM EVEN 08:40 THOUGH THERE WERE SOME ANGER OVER THOSE THINGS 08:43 THAT WERE HAPPENING. 08:44 AND SO YOU NEED TO HAVE WISDOM TO BALANCE OUT THOSE FEELINGS 08:46 THAT YOU MIGHT HAVE TO KNOW WHERE TO GET HELP AND STILL 08:49 RESPECT YOUR PARENTS. 08:50 THERE MAY BE TIMES WHEN YOU DON'T LISTEN TO A PARENT 08:54 BECAUSE THEY'RE ASKING YOU TO BREAK A COMMANDMENT OF GOD. 08:57 AND GOD, YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER, COMES FIRST. 09:00 >> ALL RIGHT, I THINK WE'RE READY FOR OUR NEXT QUESTION. 09:09 >> WE HAVE A QUESTION THAT'S COMING FROM THE WEB SITE AND IT 09:12 IS, HOW DO I KNOW WHEN I'M READY TO GIVE MY LIFE TO JESUS 09:15 AND GET BAPTIZED? 09:18 >> VERY GOOD QUESTION. 09:20 I THINK EVERYONE HERE KNOWS THAT JESUS SAID WHEN WE FOLLOW 09:24 HIM, THAT PART OF THAT COMMITMENT--BAPTISM IS LIKE 09:27 MAKING THE DECISION. 09:28 IT'S THE CEREMONY BY WHICH WE COMMIT OURSELVES TO CHRIST. 09:32 LAST WORDS OF JESUS WERE, "GO YE, THEREFORE. 09:34 TEACH ALL NATIONS, BAPTIZING THEM." 09:37 OBVIOUSLY, THE LAST WORDS OF JESUS SHOULD BE A FIRST 09:39 PRIORITY FOR CHRISTIANS. 09:42 THEY SAID TO PETER, "WHAT DO WE DO TO BE SAVED?" 09:43 HE SAID, "REPENT AND BE BAPTIZED." 09:47 AND EVEN IN JOHN 3, JESUS SAID TO NICODEMUS, "UNLESS 09:50 YOU'RE BORN OF THE WATER AND THE SPIRIT, YOU CANNOT ENTER 09:52 THE KINGDOM OF GOD." 09:54 SO IF YOU HAVE MADE A DECISION TO BE A CHRISTIAN AND YOU'RE 09:56 OLD ENOUGH TO UNDERSTAND THE BASIC COMPONENTS OF THE GOSPEL, 10:01 AND I THINK EVERY--ALL THE TEENS WHO ARE WATCHING 10:03 CERTAINLY ARE OLD ENOUGH. 10:06 BIBLE TELLS US TO REPENT, TO BELIEVE, TO BE TAUGHT THE 10:10 FUNDAMENTALS OF THE CHRISTIAN COMMITMENT, AND THEN YOU MAKE 10:12 THAT COMMITMENT. 10:14 AND IT'S DONE PUBLICLY, JUST LIKE A MARRIAGE, 10:16 'CAUSE YOU DON'T WANT TO BE ASHAMED OF JESUS. 10:18 AND MAYBE WE'LL HAVE MORE INFORMATION ON THAT 10:20 IN ANOTHER PRESENTATION, BUT VERY IMPORTANT. 10:23 I HOPE SOME OF YOU ARE PRAYING ABOUT BAPTISM AND SURRENDERING 10:26 YOUR LIVES TO THE LORD. 10:28 >> ALL RIGHT, WE HAVE ANOTHER VIDEO QUESTION AT THIS TIME. 10:34 >> HI, MY NAME IS MALACHI, AND I WOULD JUST LIKE TO KNOW, 10:37 IN THE END TIMES, JESUS SAID HE'S GOING TO PROTECT US. 10:41 BUT THEN AGAIN, HE DOES SAY WE ARE GOING TO BE PERSECUTED, 10:44 SO IS HE TALKING TO CHRISTIANS AS A WHOLE OR IS HE TALKING 10:47 TO--TALKING ABOUT INDIVIDUAL PEOPLE? 10:50 I'D JUST LIKE TO KNOW THAT. 10:51 THANK YOU. 10:56 >> WELL, REALLY, THAT IS A VERY GOOD QUESTION. 10:58 THERE ARE OBVIOUSLY PROMISES IN THE BIBLE OF GOD'S PROTECTION, 11:02 ESPECIALLY DURING THE TIME OF THE PLAGUES. 11:05 HE PROTECTED THE WHOLE CHILDREN OF ISRAEL. 11:07 ALL THE PLAGUES WERE FALLING ON THE EGYPTIANS, AND YET 11:09 HE SHIELDED THEM. 11:11 HE PROTECTED AND PROVIDED FOR THEM ALL THROUGH 11:13 THE WILDERNESS. 11:14 THE VERY FACT THAT WE'RE ALL ALIVE IS EVIDENCE 11:17 OF GOD'S PROTECTION. 11:18 WHAT IS THE PENALTY FOR SIN? 11:20 WAGES FOR SIN ARE DEATH. 11:23 WE'RE ALIVE, WHY? 11:25 JESUS HAS INTERVENED. 11:27 EVEN THOSE WHO DON'T BELIEVE IN JESUS ARE ALIVE 11:29 BECAUSE OF HIS PROTECTION. 11:31 BUT CHRIST SAYS WHEN WE MAKE DECISION TO FOLLOW HIM, 11:34 YOU KNOW, THERE'S TRIBULATION IN LIFE. 11:36 YOU MAY BE PERSECUTED. 11:37 WE KNOW THAT SOME HAVE LOST THEIR LIFE FOR THE FAITH, 11:40 BUT SO MANY TIMES GOD HAS MIRACULOUSLY INTERVENED 11:43 TO PROTECT THEM. 11:45 NOW IN THE LAST DAYS, WHEN THE SEVEN LAST PLAGUES FALL DURING 11:48 THAT TIME OF TROUBLE, HE WILL PROTECT HIS PEOPLE THEN JUST 11:51 LIKE HE DID THE CHILDREN OF ISRAEL WHEN THOSE SEVEN 11:54 PLAGUES--OR TEN PLAGUES FELL ON EGYPT. 11:57 SO GOD DOES STILL PROVIDE AND PROTECT ON A DAILY BASIS, 12:03 BUT SOMETIMES WE'RE PERSECUTED. 12:04 SO IT'S A GOOD QUESTION. 12:05 THERE'S A BALANCE THERE. 12:07 >> ALL RIGHT, I THINK WE HAVE TIME FOR ONE MORE QUESTION. 12:15 >> THIS QUESTION IS FROM COMPTON, CALIFORNIA. 12:17 I'M IN A RELATIONSHIP, BUT I'M NOT SURE HOW TO END IT 12:20 WITHOUT HURTING FEELINGS. 12:23 >> WELL, THE VERY FACT YOU'RE THINKING THAT YOU NEED TO END 12:26 IT, MAKE UP YOUR MIND TO DO IT. 12:29 YOU MAY NOT BE ABLE TO DO IT WITHOUT HURTING FEELINGS. 12:32 WHEN PEOPLE GET INVOLVED IN RELATIONSHIPS, THEN, YOU KNOW, 12:36 SOMETIMES THERE'S TORN ROOTS. 12:38 AND YOU JUST NEED TO ACCEPT THAT. 12:40 I TELL YOU, IT'S A LOT BETTER TO EXPERIENCE SOME HURT 12:44 FEELINGS EARLY IN THE STAGES OF A RELATIONSHIP THAT YOU KNOW 12:47 ISN'T RIGHT THAN, YOU KNOW, WAIT AFTER YEARS AND MARRIAGE 12:51 AND THEN GO THROUGH THE TREMENDOUS--THE VIOLENT TEARING 12:56 OF A RELATIONSHIP IN A DIVORCE. 12:58 SO IF THE HOLY SPIRIT'S SPEAKING TO YOU AND YOU KNOW 13:01 IT'S NOT RIGHT, JUST PRAY FOR COURAGE TO BITE THE BULLET. 13:03 SOMETIMES IN THE BIBLE, BECAUSE GOD LOVES US, 13:05 HE TELLS US THE TOUGH TRUTH, BUT IT'S THE TRUTH. 13:08 AND IF IT'S NOT WORKING, IT'S NOT RIGHT, THEN YOU NEED TO BE 13:11 HONEST WITH THAT PERSON AND TELL 'EM THAT. 13:14 >> ALL RIGHT, WELL, THANK YOU, PASTOR DOUG. 13:15 LET'S SEE, I THINK WE HAVE ONE MORE QUESTION THAT WE CAN 13:18 GET IN AND WE'LL TAKE A LOOK AT THAT. 13:25 >> THIS IS ONE FROM THE MIQTEEN WEB SITE. 13:27 IT'S WHEN IS THE IDEAL AGE TO GET MARRIED AND THE APPROPRIATE 13:30 AGE TO DATE? 13:33 >> YOU KNOW, THE BEST AGE TO GET MARRIED IS RIGHT AROUND 13:36 RETIREMENT 'CAUSE THEN YOU GOT A LOT OF TIME 13:40 TO SPEND TOGETHER. 13:43 WHEN YOU'RE--THEY SAY YOUR BRAIN ISN'T FULLY DEVELOPED 13:45 UNTIL YOU'RE 25, WHICH IS INCIDENTALLY WHEN YOUR INSURANCE 13:49 RATES START GOING DOWN. 13:51 SO YOU START DATING AT 24. 13:55 I'M TEASING YOU RIGHT NOW BECAUSE WE'RE GONNA DEAL WITH 13:57 THAT IN OUR LESSON TONIGHT. 13:58 STAY WITH US. 13:59 WE'RE TALKING ABOUT DATING AND SOME TIPS ON WHAT THE BIBLE 14:02 SAYS ABOUT THAT IN OUR PRESENTATION TONIGHT. 14:04 >> ALL RIGHT. 14:05 THANK YOU, PASTOR DOUG. 14:06 JUST A REMINDED TO THOSE OF YOU WHO ARE WATCHING. 14:08 YOU CAN GET MORE INFORMATION AT THE MIQ TEENS ANSWER BOOK. 14:11 GO TO THE MIQTEENS.COM WEB SITE. 14:14 YOU CAN ORDER YOUR VERY OWN. 14:15 IT'S FILLED WITH FASCINATING FACTS AND GREAT INFORMATION. 14:18 AND MOST OF ALL, PASTOR DOUG, IT'S ANSWERS THAT MAKE SENSE. 14:21 MIQTEENS.COM. 14:24 THERE IT IS. 14:25 PASTOR DOUG'S GOT THE BOOK. 14:27 ALL RIGHT, THANK YOU. 14:28 >> THANK YOU, PASTOR ROSS. 14:30 I'M GONNA FOLLOW YOU HERE FOR A SECOND. 14:32 YOU KNOW, JUST WHEN WE WERE READY TO COME OUT, HOW MANY OF 14:34 YOU REMEMBER OPENING NIGHT WE DID AN EXPERIMENT? 14:36 WE JUST SAW THAT THING STILL BACK THERE. 14:40 REMEMBER WE WERE TRYING TO SEE IF YOU CAN MAKE LIFE BY PUTTING 14:42 THE DIFFERENT INGREDIENTS, REMEMBER? 14:44 HOW MANY REMEMBER THAT? 14:45 WE--IT'S BEEN SITTING BACK THERE THE WHOLE TIME. 14:47 SO I THOUGHT I'D CHECK. 14:50 OH! 14:54 HELLO. 14:57 NO, NOTHING HAPPENED. 14:58 BOY, THAT'S RIPE, THOUGH. 14:59 IT SMELLS PRETTY BAD. 15:02 WE'LL CHECK IT AGAIN IN A COUPLE MONTHS. 15:07 GOOD TO SEE EVERYBODY HERE. 15:09 AND TONIGHT WE'RE GONNA BE TALKING ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS. 15:12 WE'VE BEEN TALKING ABOUT JUST CERTAIN CORE THINGS, WHAT YOU 15:15 THINK, CARING FOR YOUR BODY, AND A VERY IMPORTANT PART 15:18 OF LIFE IS HOW DO WE GET ALONG WITH EACH OTHER, 15:21 OUR RELATIONSHIPS. 15:23 FAMILY, FRIENDS, DATING, AND SOME OF THOSE ISSUES. 15:30 YOU KNOW, MAN WAS CREATED IN THE BEGINNING 15:32 AS A SOCIAL CREATURE. 15:34 THE FIRST THING THAT GOD SAID THAT WAS NOT GOOD IN THE BIBLE, 15:38 HE SAID IT IS NOT GOOD THAT MAN BE ALONE. 15:41 AND THAT MEANS MAN AND WOMAN, MANKIND. 15:43 HE'S CREATED US FOR RELATIONSHIPS. 15:45 WE'RE CREATED TO BE PART OF A FAMILY. 15:48 YOU KNOW, THEY SAY ONE OF THE GREATEST FEARS THAT TEENAGERS 15:52 HAVE WHEN THEY DO SURVEYS IS NOT--OF BEING ALONE. 15:57 AND ONE OF THE GREATEST DESIRES OF TEENAGERS IS TO BELONG. 16:01 YOU KNOW ONE OF THE REASONS GANGS ARE EPIDEMIC IS BECAUSE, 16:06 AS CRAZY AS IT IS, AS MUCH VIOLENCE AND FEAR AS THERE 16:10 IS IN THE GANG, THE DESIRE TO BELONG TO SOMETHING AND BE 16:14 PART OF SOMETHING SEEMS TO OVERPOWER THAT. 16:17 AND SO WE'RE GONNA TALK ABOUT SOME OF THOSE RELATIONSHIPS 16:20 AND I WANT TO GET RIGHT INTO OUR STUDY 'CAUSE WE'VE GOT 16:22 A LOT OF QUESTIONS. 16:24 QUESTION NUMBER ONE, HOW AM I RELATED TO GOD? 16:32 THAT'S THE MOST IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIP OF ALL. 16:35 AND THE ANSWER COMES TO US FROM 1 JOHN 3:1. 16:38 HE SAYS, "BEHOLD WHAT MANNER OF LOVE THE FATHER HAS BESTOWED 16:43 ON US." 16:45 CAN'T EVEN DESCRIBE IT. 16:46 HE JUST SAYS, "LOOK AT IT." 16:48 "THAT WE SHOULD BE CALLED SONS OF GOD!" 16:51 AND OF COURSE, THAT MEANS SONS AND DAUGHTERS OF GOD. 16:54 THAT WE WOULD BE ADOPTED BY GOD. 16:57 YOU KNOW, WHEN JESUS BECAME A HUMAN, HE DID SOMETHING WITH 17:01 HUMANITY THAT HE HAD NOT DONE WITH ANY OTHER CREATURE 17:04 IN THE UNIVERSE. 17:06 HE JOINED HIMSELF TO US IN A VERY PERMANENT WAY 17:08 BY BECOMING A PERSON. 17:10 WHEN CHRIST ROSE FROM THE DEAD, WAS HE STILL A HUMAN? 17:13 DID HE STILL HAVE A HUMAN BODY? 17:15 AND SO HOW LONG IS THAT GOING TO BE FOR? 17:19 FOR ETERNITY. 17:20 HE'S AT ONE WITH US. 17:22 WE'VE BEEN ADOPTED INTO THE FAMILY OF GOD. 17:26 IT'S LIKE A SPIRITUAL ADOPTION. 17:28 HE DOESN'T TREAT US LIKE STEPCHILDREN. 17:32 I HEARD ONE TIME THESE TWO BROTHERS WERE ENROLLING FIRST 17:36 DAY OF SCHOOL AND THEY GAVE THE TEACHERS THEIR BIRTHDATES, 17:41 AND THEIR BIRTHDATES WERE 1 MONTH APART. 17:44 AND THE TEACHER SAYS, "YOU'RE THE SAME AGE AND YOUR BIRTHDAYS 17:47 ARE 1 MONTH APART, SO YOU'RE OBVIOUSLY NOT TWINS. 17:50 HOW DOES THAT WORK OUT?" 17:52 AND THEY SMILED AND LOOKED AT THE TEACHER AND THEY LOOKED AT 17:54 EACH OTHER AND THEY SAID, "ONE OF US IS ADOPTED." 17:58 AND SHE SAID, "WELL, WHICH ONE?" 18:00 SHE JUST CAUGHT HERSELF. 18:01 SHE WAS JUST WONDERING. 18:02 AND THEY SAID, "WE DON'T KNOW AND DAD SAID 18:05 HE CAN'T REMEMBER." 18:07 AND THAT'S SORT OF HOW IT IS WITH OUR HEAVENLY FATHER. 18:11 HE JUST COMPLETELY ADOPTS US AS IF WE ARE HIS OWN. 18:14 HE LOVES US WITH THE LOVE THAT HE HAS FOR HIS OWN SON 18:18 BECAUSE JESUS GIVES US HIS OWN CHARACTER AND RIGHTEOUSNESS. 18:22 AND SO NO ONE'S GONNA LOVE YOU MORE THAN THAT. 18:24 YOU BECOME PART OF THE FAMILY OF GOD. 18:27 ALL RIGHT, WE'RE GONNA GET INTO QUESTION NUMBER TWO, THEN. 18:33 WHAT DOES GOD THINK OF ME? 18:36 NOW YOU THINK, "OH, HE KNOWS WHO I REALLY AM, SO HE MUST 18:39 NOT THINK VERY HIGHLY OF ME." 18:41 WHEN WE ACCEPT CHRIST BECAUSE HE GIVES US CREDIT FOR HIS OWN 18:44 CHARACTER, HE THEN LOOKS AT YOU THAT WAY. 18:47 AND HE REALLY CAN. 18:49 JEREMIAH 29:11, "FOR I KNOW THE THOUGHTS THAT I THINK TOWARDS 18:54 YOU, SAYS THE LORD." 18:55 NOW LISTEN, THIS IS THE LORD TALKING TO YOU. 18:58 THIS IS GOOD NEWS. 18:59 GOD SAYS, "I KNOW WHAT I THINK OF YOU." 19:03 NOW YOU MIGHT BE WONDERING, "I WONDER WHAT MY FRIENDS THINK 19:05 OF ME. 19:06 I WONDER WHAT MY TEACHERS THINK OF ME." 19:08 WHAT'S THE MOST PERSON-- IMPORTANT PERSON IN THE 19:11 UNIVERSE TO BE CONCERNED ABOUT? 19:14 WHAT DOES GOD THINK OF ME? 19:16 YOU KNOW, JESUS TRIED TO HAMMER THIS INTO--I'M NOT DONE WITH 19:19 THE VERSE, BUT I JUST WANT YOU TO THINK ABOUT WHAT I'M 19:21 ABOUT TO SAY. 19:22 JESUS TRIED TO HAMMER THIS INTO HIS GENERATION WHEN HE 19:25 STARTED PREACHING. 19:26 HE TALKED TO ALL THE HYPOCRITES AND HE SAID, "YOU DO EVERYTHING 19:29 BECAUSE YOU WANT PEOPLE TO LOOK AT YOU. 19:31 YOU PRAY SO PEOPLE WILL LOOK AT YOU. 19:33 YOU FAST SO PEOPLE WILL LOOK AT YOU. 19:35 YOU GIVE SO PEOPLE WILL LOOK AT YOU. 19:37 ALL YOU CARE ABOUT IS THE PRAISE OF MEN." 19:39 AND HE SAID, "AND YOU DON'T THINK ABOUT WHAT GOD THINKS 19:41 OF YOU." 19:42 WHO SHOULD WE LIVE FOR, THE PRAISE AND ATTENTION OF PEOPLE, 19:46 OUR FRIENDS, OR GOD, THE ONE WHO GIVES US LIFE AND CAN GIVE 19:50 US ETERNAL LIFE? 19:51 SO WHAT DOES GOD THINK OF YOU? 19:54 HE SAID, "I KNOW THE THOUGHTS I THINK TOWARDS YOU, 19:56 SAYS THE LORD." 19:57 NOW YOU INSERT YOUR NAME HERE, WHATEVER YOUR NAME IS. 20:00 "THOUGHTS OF PEACE AND NOT OF EVIL, TO GIVE YOU A FUTURE 20:05 AND A HOPE." 20:06 GOD IS NOT YOUR ENEMY. 20:09 GOD IS IN YOUR FAVOR. 20:10 YOU SEE, THE DEVIL HAS VOTED AGAINST YOU, GOD HAS VOTED 20:14 FOR YOU, AND NOW YOU HAVE THE TIE-BREAKING VOTE. 20:18 IF YOU BELIEVE IN GOD AND YOU BELIEVE THAT HE LOVES YOU AND 20:20 YOU CAN TRUST YOUR LIFE TO HIM, YOU GOT A FUTURE AND YOU'VE 20:23 GOT A HOPE. 20:25 THAT'S GOOD NEWS, ISN'T IT? 20:26 IT IS TO ME. 20:28 SO WE CAN HAVE THIS RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD. 20:30 THEY'RE TELLING ME THAT WE GOTá A TEXT QUESTION THAT'S READY. 20:38 >> I FEEL SPIRITUALLY DRY IN MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD, 20:42 WHAT SHOULD I DO? 20:45 GOOD QUESTION. 20:46 FIRST OF ALL, IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP, BECAUSE WE'RE 20:49 HUMANS AND OUR EMOTIONS CHANGE AND WE GET TIRED AND 20:53 CIRCUMSTANCES CHANGE, YOU'RE GONNA HAVE WAVES AND EBBS 20:56 AND FLOWS. 20:57 IT DOESN'T MEAN GOD STOPS LOVING YOU. 20:59 HE'S CONSISTENT, BUT WE GO UP AND DOWN. 21:01 MARRIAGES SOMETIMES HAVE THEIR EBBS AND FLOWS. 21:05 RELATIONSHIPS HAVE THAT. 21:06 NOT EVERYBODY'S ALWAYS FEELING BUBBLY AND AT THEIR BEST. 21:11 BUT IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD, THERE'S THINGS YOU 21:13 CAN DO TO IMPROVE HOW STRONG YOU FEEL AND THAT SPIRIT-- 21:20 SPIRITUAL CONNECTION. 21:22 VERY IMPORTANT THREE THINGS. 21:23 I TOLD YOU THIS--THESE ARE THE SECRET WEAPONS. 21:27 PRAY, TALK TO GOD ALL THE TIME. 21:30 ANYTHING YOU CAN DO TO REMEMBER, PRACTICAL THINGS, 21:32 THAT'S OKAY. 21:34 I HEARD ABOUT A GIRL THAT USED TO THROW HER SHOES UNDER 21:36 HER BED EVERY NIGHT BEFORE SHE WENT TO SLEEP. 21:39 SHE'D THROW 'EM WAY UNDER THERE AND SOMEONE SAID, 21:41 "WHY DO YOU DO THAT? 21:42 DO YOU THINK SOMEONE'S GONNA STEAL YOUR SHOES?" 21:44 SHE SAYS, "NO, I GOT TO GET ON MY KNEES TO GET THEM OUT. 21:46 THAT MAKES ME THINK TO PRAY." 21:48 AND SO, WHATEVER YOU GOT TO DO, REMEMBER TO TALK TO GOD. 21:51 MAKE APPOINTMENTS WITH HIM. 21:52 SCHEDULE HIM IN YOUR ALARM ON YOUR COMPUTER SO IT SAYS, 21:57 "BOOP, TIME TO PRAY." 21:59 READ THE BIBLE. 22:02 MAKE UP YOUR MIND TO GET IN A BIBLE READING PROGRAM 22:04 WHERE YOU DO IT EVERY DAY. 22:06 I GOT IT ON MY COMPUTER. 22:07 EVERY DAY I READ MY BIBLE. 22:08 I'M AT A DIFFERENT PLACE ALL THE TIME AND IT NURTURES 22:11 MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD. 22:12 THERE'S SO MUCH MEDIA BOMBARDING YOUNG PEOPLE THESE 22:16 DAYS THAT YOU NEED TO COMPENSATE FOR THAT 22:19 BY FEEDING ON THE TRUTH. 22:21 AND THEN SHARE YOUR FAITH. 22:23 LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE. 22:25 AS YOU TELL SOMEONE ELSE ABOUT JESUS, IT CHANGES YOU. 22:29 AND SO THOSE ARE THREE THINGS YOU CAN REALLY DO TO REVIVE 22:32 YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD IF IT'S GETTING A LITTLE DRY. 22:35 ALL RIGHT, WE'RE GONNA MOVE ON TO QUESTION NUMBER THREE. 22:40 WHY DOES THE BIBLE SAY THAT I NEED TO HONOR MY PARENTS? 22:47 NOW YOU NOTICE THAT IDEA ABOUT HONORING YOUR PARENTS, IT'S NOT 22:50 ONE OF THE TEN SUGGESTIONS OR THE TEN RECOMMENDATIONS. 22:55 IT'S CALLED A COMMANDMENT AND IT'S RIGHT IN THERE WITH 22:58 DO NOT MURDER, DO NOT STEAL, HONOR YOUR MOM AND YOUR DAD. 23:03 NOW THAT MUST HAVE BEEN A PRIORITY TO GOD. 23:06 YOU SEE, THE SUCCESS OF A CULTURE IS BUILT ON THOSE 23:10 WITH KNOWLEDGE AND EXPERIENCE TRANSFERRING THAT TO THOSE 23:14 WHO ARE LEARNING THAT DON'T HAVE THAT YET. 23:17 AND YOUR PARENTS HAVE LIVED LONGER. 23:20 I USED TO THINK MY DAD DIDN'T KNOW ANYTHING. 23:23 I USED TO THINK MY MOM DIDN'T KNOW ANYTHING. 23:25 AND BECAUSE I LEARNED A FEW THINGS THEY DIDN'T KNOW, I 23:28 THOUGHT I KNEW MORE THAN THEM. 23:30 BUT THE GENERAL WISDOM OF LIFE FOR NEGOTIATING THE BIG ISSUES 23:34 OF LIFE, YOUR PARENTS HAVE OFTEN BEEN DOWN THAT ROAD AND 23:38 SOMETIMES, EVEN THOUGH THEY DO THINGS THAT MAY IRK YOU, 23:41 HONOR GOD BY HONORING THEM. 23:43 NOW YOU KNOW WHAT THE PROMISE IS? 23:45 HONOR YOUR MOTHER AND FATHER, THAT YOUR DAYS MAY BE LONG 23:50 ON THE LAND. 23:52 AND BRIEF DEFINITION OF THAT, YOU WANT TO STAY ALIVE? 23:57 HE SAYS IT'LL PRESERVE YOUR LIFE. 24:00 IT'S INTERESTING. 24:02 THE COUNTRIES OF THE WORLD THAT HAVE THE LONGEST LIFESPAN, 24:04 IN ASIA, ALSO HAVE THE GREATEST REGARD FOR THEIR SENIORS. 24:10 SO I JUST THINK THAT'S SOMETHING TO CONSIDER. 24:12 HONOR YOUR MOM AND DAD. 24:13 I NEVER DID READ THE VERSE THAT GOES WITH THAT. 24:15 EPHESIANS 6:1-3, "CHILDREN, OBEY YOUR PARENTS IN THE LORD." 24:22 NOW SOMEONE ASKED A QUESTION, "WELL, WHAT IF, YOU KNOW, 24:25 YOUR--WHAT IF YOUR PARENTS ARE DOING SOMETHING WRONG?" 24:28 HE SAYS, "OBEY THEM IN THE LORD." 24:31 I USED TO GO TO THE MOVIES WITH MY MOM. 24:34 SHE WAS A FILM CRITIC. 24:35 AND EVEN AFTER I GOT PAST THE AGE OF 10 OR WHATEVER 24:39 IT WAS FOR THE CHILD TICKET, 'CAUSE I WAS SHORT, SHE SAID, 24:42 "DOUG, JUST LIE." 24:44 IT WAS MY MOM TELLING ME TO LIE. 24:46 WELL, AT THAT POINT IN MY LIFE, I DIDN'T REALLY CARE. 24:49 BUT THEN AFTER I BECAME A CHRISTIAN, MOM ASKED ME 24:51 TO FUDGE ON THE TRUTH, I SAID, "MOM, I CAN'T DO THAT. 24:54 I'M A CHRISTIAN NOW. 24:55 I LOVE YOU, I RESPECT YOU, I WANT TO HONOR YOU, 24:59 BUT I GOTTA HONOR GOD FIRST." 25:01 AND SO THAT'S WHAT IT MEANS. 25:02 HONOR YOUR PARENTS IN THE LORD, FOR THIS IS RIGHT. 25:06 'HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER,' WHICH IS THE FIRST COMMANDMENT 25:09 WITH A PROMISE, 'THAT IT MIGHT BE WELL WITH YOU AND THAT YOU 25:13 MIGHT LIVE LONG UPON THE EARTH.'" 25:15 EVEN AT TIMES IT'S JUST DRIVING YOU CRAZY. 25:18 YOUR MOM AND DAD, YOU MIGHT BE THINKING, DRIVING YOU CRAZY. 25:20 AND KEEP IN MIND WE GOT FIVE KIDS AND SIX GRANDKIDS, SO I 25:24 KNOW A LITTLE BIT HOW IT GOES. 25:26 TWO OF OUR BOYS AT HOME RIGHT NOW, TEENAGERS. 25:29 HI STEVEN, KAREN. 25:31 KAREN'S MY WIFE. 25:32 SHE'S NOT ONE OF THE CHILDREN. 25:33 AND NATHAN. 25:34 HOPEFULLY THEY'RE WATCHING OR I JUST WAVED TO ALL THESE PEOPLE. 25:39 BUT, YOU KNOW, IN FAMILIES SOMETIMES WE CAN IRRITATE 25:41 EACH OTHER. 25:43 DAD'S NOT ALWAYS A SAINT. 25:45 KIDS CAN THINK DAD'S NOT BEING FAIR OR WHATEVER. 25:49 BUT WHEN YOU HONOR THEM, YOU PLEASE GOD AND THAT'S 25:52 THE ONE ULTIMATELY THAT WE NEED TO ANSWER TO. 25:55 NUMBER FOUR, WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO HONOR YOUR PARENTS? 26:03 WELL, IT MEANS LOVING THEM. 26:05 BY THE WAY, YOU CAN CHOOSE TO LOVE THEM. 26:07 YOU MAY NOT ALWAYS FEEL LOVING. 26:09 I REMEMBER ONE TIME MY MOTHER GOT SO IRRITATED WITH ME, 26:12 SHE TOOK ME BY THE THROAT. 26:15 AND YOU'D UNDERSTAND BETTER IF YOU KNEW ME AT THAT AGE. 26:18 I ACTUALLY DON'T BLAME HER FOR THAT. 26:21 SHE TOOK ME BY THE THROAT AND I'LL NEVER FORGET SHE SAID, 26:26 "I LOVE YOU!" 26:28 SHE WASN'T VERY STRONG, SO I WASN'T WORRIED ABOUT HER 26:30 CHOKING ME TO DEATH. 26:31 I WAS ABOUT 13. 26:32 SHE SAID, "I LOVE YOU, BUT I DON'T LIKE YOU VERY MUCH." 26:37 AND I'VE HEARD KIDS SAY BEFORE, "I HATE YOU," TO THEIR PARENTS 26:43 OR THEIR--I FEEL SO BAD. 26:45 ONE TIME, MY BROTHER AND I GOT INTO A FIGHT THAT WAS SO BAD. 26:48 MOM WAS GONE, WE WERE HOME ALONE. 26:51 I THINK IT WAS OVER A COMB. 26:53 LOOK AT ME NOW. 26:54 I WAS FIGHTING OVER A COMB. 26:59 AND I SAID, "I WISH YOU WERE DEAD." 27:03 NOW MY BROTHER IS GONE. 27:04 HE'S BEEN GONE FOR YEARS. 27:05 AND YOU KNOW, I'VE ALWAYS RUED THE DAY THAT I SAID THAT 27:07 TO HIM. 27:08 SOMETIMES IN A FIT OF ANGER, EVEN IN FAMILIES WHERE YOU LOVE 27:11 EACH OTHER, YOU SAY REALLY DUMB THINGS THAT YOU MAY NOT MEAN. 27:17 CHOOSE TO TRUST AND HONOR YOUR PARENTS, BE RESPECTFUL IN THE 27:20 WORDS THAT YOU SPEAK TO THEM, AND LOVE THEM. 27:24 I HEARD ABOUT A MAN THAT-- A GENERAL CONQUERED THIS CITY 27:29 AND THEY WERE GONNA BURN THE CITY THE NEXT DAY. 27:31 AND HE TOLD TWO BROTHERS THAT HAD SHOWN SOME FAVOR TO THE 27:35 CONQUERING GENERAL, HE SAYS, "BECAUSE YOU GUYS HAVE BEEN 27:38 REASONABLE," SAYS, "I'M GONNA LET YOU GO INTO THE CITY 27:41 AND I'M GONNA LET YOU CARRY OUT ALL OF THE VALUABLES THAT 27:43 YOU CAN CARRY IN YOUR ARMS." 27:46 SO THEY RAN INTO THE CITY AND THEY CAME OUT PRETTY SOON. 27:48 ONE WAS CARRYING THE MOTHER AND THE OTHER BROTHER WAS CARRYING 27:51 THE FATHER. 27:53 AND WHAT WOULD YOU CARRY OUT? 27:56 YOU KNOW, A LOT OF PEOPLE SAY, "IF YOUR HOUSE IS ON FIRE, 27:59 WHAT WOULD YOU GRAB?" 28:00 A LOT OF PEOPLE SAY, "WELL, I NEED THE PICTURES OF THE KIDS." 28:02 BUT THEY NEVER SAY THE KIDS. 28:05 OH YEAH, BUT AS LONG AS I GOT THE PICTURES. 28:10 SO, YOU KNOW, WE NEED TO TRUST OUR PARENTS AND THERE'S 28:16 A BALANCE. 28:17 YOU KNOW WHAT A PARENT'S JOB IS TO SOME EXTENT? 28:20 AND EVERY PARENT STRUGGLES WITH HOW TO DO IT. 28:23 WE'RE PREPARING YOU FOR INDEPENDENCE. 28:27 FROM THE TIME YOU'RE BORN, YOU ARE 100% DEPENDENT. 28:32 MATTER OF FACT, SOMEONE ONCE DESCRIBED A BABY AS 28:35 AN APPARATUS WITH A LOUD NOISE AT ONE END AND NO RESPONSIBILITY 28:40 AT THE OTHER END. 28:42 AND FROM THAT POINT WHEN YOU ENTER THE WORLD AND YOUR 28:45 PARENTS ARE DOING EVERYTHING FOR YOU, THEY ARE TEACHING 28:47 YOU--AND YOU'RE ALSO VERY SELFISH CREATURES 28:49 WHEN YOU'RE BORN. 28:50 YOU REALIZE THAT? 28:51 YOU DON'T CARE IF IT'S THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT AND 28:53 YOU'RE CRYING AND MOM IS TIRED. 28:55 YOU DON'T CARE. 28:56 YOU JUST--YOU SAY, "I GOT A PLUMBING PROBLEM. 28:58 I WANT SOME FOOD." 28:59 AND YOU DON'T REALLY THINK ABOUT HOW OTHER PEOPLE 29:02 MIGHT FEEL. 29:02 THAT MUST BE TAUGHT. 29:04 IF YOU'RE NEVER TAUGHT TO THINK ABOUT HOW OTHER PEOPLE 29:06 ARE FEELING AND PUTTING OTHER PEOPLE AHEAD, 29:08 YOU'RE VERY SELF-CENTERED. 29:10 YOU BECOME VERY SELFISH. 29:11 YOU NEED TO LEARN TO SHARE, TO LOVE, TO CARE ABOUT OTHERS, 29:14 'CAUSE IT DOESN'T COME NATURAL FOR BABIES. 29:16 THAT'S WHY--YOU EVER HEARD SOMEONE SAY, "OH, 29:18 YOU'RE BEING A BABY." 29:19 WHAT DO THEY MEAN BY THAT? 29:20 JUST THINKING ABOUT YOURSELF. 29:23 AND SO PARENTS' JOB IS TO RAISE YOU OUT OF THAT AND TO PREPARE 29:28 YOU FOR MORE AND MORE INDEPENDENCE, WHERE ULTIMATELY 29:33 YOU FLY OFF ON YOUR OWN. 29:35 AND HOPEFULLY YOU RETURN TO THE NEST EVERY NOW AND THEN. 29:37 YOU'VE GOT A RELATIONSHIP. 29:38 YOU KNOW, PRESIDENT HERBERT BUSH, 29:43 SOMEONE ASKED HIM, "WHAT WAS YOUR GREATEST 29:46 ACCOMPLISHMENT IN LIFE?" 29:47 NOW HE HAD A LOT TO TALK ABOUT. 29:49 YOU KNOW, WORLD WAR II VETERAN, SURVIVED BEING SHOT DOWN. 29:52 PRESIDENT, CIA DIRECTOR, A LOT OF THINGS. 29:55 YOU KNOW WHAT HE SAID HIS GREATEST ACCOMPLISHMENT WAS? 29:57 HE SAID, "MY KIDS STILL COME HOME." 30:00 SO YOU WANT TO MAINTAIN A RELATIONSHIP WITH 30:03 YOUR PARENTS. 30:04 AND I KNOW AT TIMES IT CAN BE TOUGH AND THERE ARE SPELLS 30:06 WHERE YOU FEEL LIKE, "BOY, THEY HAVE JUST--THEY'VE BEEN 30:09 SUFFOCATING ME WITH CONTROL AND RULES AND FINALLY I'M OFF 30:11 TO COLLEGE AND WHOOPEE!" 30:12 AND YOU FORGET TO CALL FOR A MONTH. 30:16 HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER. 30:17 STAY IN TOUCH WITH THEM. 30:18 AND YOU KNOW, WITH EAGLES, EAGLES AREN'T LIKE SOME BIRDS, 30:23 WHERE AS SOON AS THEY JUMP OUT OF THE NEST, THEY CAN FLY. 30:26 OR LIKE A BUTTERFLY. 30:27 FIRST TIME, SUCCESSFUL FLIGHT. 30:31 EAGLES NEED TO LEARN TO FLY AND THOSE FLEDGLING EAGLES, 30:36 WHEN THEY'RE TEENAGERS IS REALLY WHAT THEY ARE, IF THEY GET OUT 30:41 OF THE NEST TOO SOON, THEY'LL DROP TO THE GROUND 30:43 AND THEY CAN'T CLIMB BACK UP LIKE AN OWL. 30:45 AN OWL CAN CLIMB BACK UP THE TREE WITH ITS TALONS. 30:47 AN EAGLE CAN'T. 30:49 FIFTEEN PERCENT OF ALL ADOLESCENT EAGLES DO NOT 30:54 SURVIVE LEARNING TO FLY BECAUSE THEY MAYBE TRY TOO SOON BEFORE 30:59 ALL THE FEATHERS ARE GROWN. 31:00 SO THEIR TIMING IS VERY IMPORTANT, AND THAT'S WHY YOU 31:04 WANT TO TRUST YOUR PARENTS. 31:05 AND I ADMIT IT. 31:06 I'M SOMETIMES THAT WAY. 31:07 PARENTS MIGHT BE TOO PROTECTIVE TOO LONG. 31:09 SOMETIMES ONE PARENT IS A LITTLE MORE PERMISSIVE AND 31:12 THE OTHER ONE IS A LITTLE MORE LENIENT AND YOU ALWAYS WANT 31:15 TO GO TO THE PERMISSIVE ONE. 31:16 THEN YOU GO BACK TO THE OTHER AND SAY, "YEAH, BUT DAD SAYS 31:18 IT'S OKAY." 31:19 YOU EVER DO THAT BEFORE? 31:21 UH-HUH, WORKING MOM AND DAD AGAINST EACH OTHER. 31:24 THAT'S TOUGH. 31:25 I DID IT TOO. 31:26 I KNOW, IT'S STANDARD OPERATING PROCEDURE FOR KIDS. 31:31 SO WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO HONOR YOUR PARENTS? 31:33 YOU GOT TO LOVE 'EM. 31:34 IT SAYS HERE IN THE VERSE, PROVERBS 23:22, "LISTEN TO YOUR 31:40 FATHER WHO BEGAT YOU, AND DO NOT DESPISE YOUR MOTHER 31:44 WHEN SHE IS OLD." 31:46 YOU WANT TO RESPECT 'EM, YOU WANT TO HONOR THEM, 31:49 AND REMEMBER THEM. 31:50 AND ALSO CARE FOR 'EM EVEN WHEN THEY'RE OLD. 31:53 QUESTION NUMBER FIVE, HOW CAN I RESIST PEER PRESSURE? 32:02 NOW I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU, BUT IF I'M TO BE PERFECTLY HONEST, 32:07 I LIKE TO BE LIKED AS OPPOSED TO LIKING TO BE LOATHED. 32:12 WOULD YOU RATHER BE LIKED OR LOATHED? 32:14 MOST OF US I THINK WANT TO BE LIKED. 32:17 WE--YOU KNOW, YOU DON'T WANT TO JUST LIVE FOR WHAT EVERYBODY 32:19 THINKS OF YOU. 32:20 AND WE WANT TO FIT IN. 32:21 WE WANT TO BELONG. 32:23 YOU KNOW, THIS IS ESPECIALLY KEEN FOR ME BECAUSE SOME OF YOU 32:26 HAVE GONE TO A NEW SCHOOL BEFORE AND YOU DON'T KNOW 32:29 ANYBODY AND EVERYBODY ELSE HAVE GOT RELATIONSHIPS AND YOU FEEL 32:32 LIKE YOU'RE ON THE OUTSIDE. 32:33 I DON'T KNOW IF ANY OF YOU HAVE EVER BEEN THROUGH THAT BEFORE. 32:35 I WENT TO 14 DIFFERENT SCHOOLS AND HALF A DOZEN DIFFERENT 32:39 SUMMER CAMPS, WHERE I WAS DROPPED INTO THESE STRANGE 32:42 ENVIRONMENTS. 32:43 I DIDN'T KNOW ANYBODY. 32:44 AND I--SOMETIMES I REALLY PUSHED THE ENVELOPE TRYING 32:49 TO GET SOMEONE TO BE MY FRIEND OR BE LIKED. 32:52 AND I KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE. 32:54 BUT YOU KNOW WHAT THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS? 32:57 YOU MAKE UP YOUR MIND, "LORD, I HAVE GIVEN MY LIFE TO YOU. 33:00 I AM HERE FIRST AND FOREMOST TO REPRESENT YOU. 33:03 I AM GONNA BE THE PERSON YOU WANT ME TO BE. 33:06 I WILL BE NICE TO PEOPLE AND I WILL HOPE ALONG THE WAY 33:09 I CAN MAKE SOME FRIENDS." 33:11 NOW THERE'S SOME SCRIPTURES THAT GIVE US SOME GUIDELINES 33:14 ON HOW DO YOU RESIST PEER PRESSURE. 33:17 PROVERBS 12:26, "THE RIGHTEOUS SHOULD CHOOSE HIS FRIENDS 33:23 CAREFULLY, FOR THE WAY OF THE WICKED LEADS THEM ASTRAY." 33:27 PICK YOUR FRIENDS CAREFULLY. 33:29 SOMEONE SAID ONE TIME--WELL, MY DAD USED TO ALWAYS QUOTE THIS. 33:32 IF YOU SLEEP WITH DOGS, YOU'RE GONNA GET FLEAS. 33:36 AND SO YOU WANT TO PICK YOUR FRIENDS CAREFULLY. 33:39 EXODUS 23:2, VERY SIMPLE, "YOU SHALL NOT FOLLOW A CROWD 33:45 TO DO EVIL." 33:46 IF EVERYBODY'S DOING THE WRONG THING--YOU KNOW, THE REASON 33:50 THAT DANIEL IS A HERO IN THE BIBLE AND ELIJAH ARE HEROES 33:54 IN THE BIBLE AND JOSEPH, THEY DIDN'T DO WHAT EVERYONE 33:57 ELSE WAS GONNA DO. 33:58 THEY DECIDED FIRST, "I'M GONNA FIND OUT WHAT GOD WANTS 34:01 AND I'M GONNA PUT GOD FIRST." 34:03 IN THE END, LOT OF PEOPLE LOVED AND RESPECTED THEM, 34:06 BUT THERE WAS A TIME WHEN THEY WERE OUTSIDERS. 34:08 AND SO DON'T BE AFRAID OF THAT. 34:11 YOU KNOW, I'LL TELL YOU A LITTLE TRICK. 34:14 IF YOU GO BUY A CAR--NOW, WHEN I BOUGHT MY FIRST CAR 34:18 BY MYSELF, I WISH I KNEW THEN WHAT I KNOW NOW. 34:21 I WAS YOUNG, I'D GOTTEN A LOAN APPROVED BY THE BANK. 34:24 I MARCHED IN THERE, I PAID THE STICKER PRICE. 34:27 I PROBABLY PAID 10% OR 15% MORE THAN I SHOULD HAVE PAID 34:30 BECAUSE I JUST DIDN'T KNOW. 34:31 YOU KNOW WHAT THEY DID? 34:32 AFTER THEY SAW I WAS INTERESTED AND I HAD A BANK APPROVED LOAN, 34:35 THE SALESMAN BROUGHT ME INTO HIS LITTLE OFFICE AND HE 34:37 BROUGHT IN TWO OTHER GUYS. 34:38 AND THEY ALL BEIN' REAL FRIENDLY AND NICE TO ME, SAYING 34:41 WHAT A GREAT CAR IT WAS. 34:42 AND THE PEER PRESSURE OF TWO OR THREE PEOPLE GANGING UP ON ME, 34:45 THEY SAID, "OH MAN, THIS IS SUCH A GREAT DEAL. 34:47 YOU GOT TO BUY THIS." 34:48 "OH, OKAY." 34:49 AND I BOUGHT THE CAR. 34:50 I KIND OF GOT PRESSURED INTO IT. 34:51 THEY--THIS IS A TACTIC THEY USE BECAUSE WE ARE INFLUENCED 34:53 BY WHAT A GROUP THINKS. 34:56 THEY'VE DONE A LOT OF EXPERIMENTS ABOUT THIS AND 35:01 THEY'RE TAKEN ONE PERSON IN A GROUP IN A SCIENTIFIC STUDY, 35:04 THEY'VE DROPPED HIM INTO A CLASSROOM WHERE EVERYBODY 35:06 IN THE CLASS WILL SAY SOMETHING THAT IS CRAZY, MORALLY WRONG, 35:11 AND THEY'LL ALL SAY, "YEAH, THAT'S REALLY THE RIGHT THING." 35:13 AND THEY FIND, LITTLE BY LITTLE, MOST YOUNG PEOPLE 35:16 WILL ACQUIESCE. 35:17 THEY'LL GO ALONG AND SAY, "YEAH, THAT'S WHAT I 35:19 THINK TOO." 35:20 THEY ALLOW THE CROWD TO MANIPULATE THEM WHEN 35:23 THEY'VE PUT IN THESE TESTS. 35:24 YOU GOT TO THINK FOR YOURSELF WHAT RIGHT AND WRONG IS 35:26 ACCORDING TO THE SCRIPTURES. 35:29 ALL RIGHT, QUESTION NUMBER SIX, WHAT ARE SOME PROVEN BIBLE 35:34 PRINCIPLES THAT WILL HELP YOU TO PICK GOOD FRIENDS? 35:40 ALL RIGHT, WE'RE GONNA GO THROUGH THIS. 35:42 BY THE WAY, JUST A FEW QUOTES ON FRIENDS. 35:46 A FRIEND IS A PERSON WITH WHOM I MIGHT THINK OUT LOUD. 35:50 ISN'T THAT NICE? 35:51 ISN'T THAT TRUE? 35:52 A FRIEND IS SOMEONE WHO COMES IN WHEN THE WHOLE WORLD 35:54 GOES OUT. 35:56 DO YOU HAVE SOME FRIENDS? 35:57 EVERYBODY NEEDS A FEW REAL FRIENDS. 35:59 A FRIEND IS ONE WHO KNOWS ALL ABOUT ME AND THEY 36:02 LIKE ME ANYWAY. 36:04 THAT'S A GOOD ANSWER. 36:06 ALL RIGHT, A. 36:07 I'M GONNA GIVE YOU A LITTLE LIST OF LETTERS ON HOW DO YOU 36:09 PICK A FRIEND. 36:11 DO NOT BE FRIENDS WITH A HOTHEAD. 36:14 SCRIPTURE? 36:16 "MAKE NO FRIENDS," AND THIS IS PROVERBS 22:24-25. 36:20 "MAKE NO FRIENDS WITH AN ANGRY MAN, AND WITH A FURIOUS MAN DO 36:25 NOT GO, LEST YOU LEARN HIS WAYS AND HE SETS A SNARE 36:29 FOR YOUR SOUL." 36:31 PEOPLE WHO HAVE GOT BAD TEMPERS OFTEN COMMIT CRIMES OR THEY DO 36:34 OUTRAGEOUS THINGS. 36:35 AND IF YOU'RE STANDING TOO CLOSE BY WHEN THEY START 36:38 TO BOIL OVER, YOU MAY GET BURNED ALSO. 36:40 AND YOU START LEARNING THEIR WAYS. 36:42 SO YOU WANT TO AVOID PEOPLE THAT HAVE--DON'T KNOW HOW 36:45 TO CONTROL THEMSELVES, Aá BAD TEMPERS. 36:47 BY THE WAY, DEMON POSSESSION. 36:50 YOU EVER HEARD A PERSON SAY, "I LOST MY TEMPER"? 36:53 WELL, YOU LOST IT. 36:54 WHO DO YOU THINK FOUND IT? 36:55 I BELIEVE WHEN YOU LOSE CONTROL, SOMEONE ELSE GETS CONTROL. 36:59 AND WHEN YOU LOSE YOUR TEMPER, AT LEAST TEMPORARILY 37:02 YOU ARE DEMON POSSESSED. 37:04 I STAND BY THAT. 37:06 I HAVE SEEN A LOT OF PEOPLE, WHEN THEY LOSE THEIR COOL 37:08 AND THEY SAY, "I BLEW IT. 37:09 I LOST MY TEMPER," AND IT'S JUST LIKE THEY'RE BERSERK. 37:13 IT'S LIKE THEY'RE DEMON POSSESSED. 37:15 PEOPLE THAT HAVE--BY THE WAY, ONE MORE STATEMENT. 37:17 IT SAYS THE MORE SHALLOW THE POT, THE QUICKER IT BOILS. 37:23 PEOPLE WHO LOSE THEIR TEMPERS TOO QUICKLY, USUALLY 37:26 A LITTLE SHALLOW. 37:27 YOU GOT SOME DEPTH, YOU DON'T BOIL OVER SO FAST. 37:30 ISN'T THAT RIGHT? 37:31 SO THAT'S ONE TIP. 37:32 FIND FRIENDS THAT AREN'T GONNA BOIL OVER LIKE THAT. 37:35 B, AVOID SHOWOFFS, PEOPLE WHO ALWAYS WANT TO BE THE CENTER 37:42 OF ATTENTION AND HAVE EVERYBODY NOTICE THEM. 37:44 HERE'S A SCRIPTURE FOR THAT. 37:46 PROVERBS 16:19, "BETTER TO BE OF A HUMBLE SPIRIT WITH 37:52 THE LOWLY, THAN TO DIVIDE THE SPOIL WITH THE PROUD." 37:56 YOU KNOW, THE GREATEST, MOST POWERFUL PEOPLE IN THE BIBLE, 37:59 SOMEONE LIKE KING DAVID, I MEAN, HE WASN'T AFRAID 38:02 TO GO AGAINST GIANTS. 38:03 IT TAKES COURAGE TO BE HUMBLE. 38:05 AND YET HE WAS A HUMBLE MAN IN SO MANY WAYS. 38:09 AND SO THAT'S A GOOD PRINCIPLE TO FOLLOW. 38:12 BRAGGERS. 38:13 YOU KNOW WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS? 38:13 "A HAUGHTY SPIRIT GOES BEFORE A FALL." 38:17 I'VE GOT A SCAR UNDER MY LEFT EYE. 38:20 YOU CAN'T SEE IT NOW 'CAUSE IT'S COVERED BY WRINKLES. 38:23 I WILL SHOW YOU I GOT SCAR ON MY LEFT HAND. 38:25 CUT MYSELF RIGHT DOWN TO THE BONE WHEN I LIVED UP TO 38:28 THE CAVE. 38:29 SHOWING OFF. 38:30 I WAS GOING TO SPEAR A FISH IN FRONT OF SOME HIKERS UP THERE. 38:32 SHOWIN' OFF, CARVING A STICK, CUT MYSELF DOWN TO THE BONE. 38:36 IT'S STILL NUMB TODAY. 38:37 I JUST STITCH IT UP MYSELF. 38:39 SHOWIN' OFF, DOIN' FLIPS ON A BIKE. 38:41 GIRLS WERE WATCHING. 38:42 THAT'S WHAT DID IT TO ME. 38:44 I WAS TRYIN' TO DO A FLIP OFF A RAMP ON MY BIKE, 38:47 BIKE LANDED ON MY FACE. 38:48 IT CUT ME UNDER THE EYE. 38:49 HAD TO WEAR A PATCH FOR A WHILE AND THIS IS NOW MY BAD EYE. 38:52 CUT MY LEFT FOOT. 38:54 SOME PEOPLE WERE THERE. 38:55 I WAS GONNA DIVE OFF THE ROCKS INTO THE POOL OF MY CAVE AND 38:58 I'D BEEN LIVING AT THE CAVE FOR A YEAR. 39:00 SOMEONE HAD PUT A GLASS GERBER BABY FOOD JAR IN THE CREEK. 39:04 I'D WALKED ACROSS IT SO MANY TIMES. 39:06 I DIDN'T SEE IT. 39:07 I STEPPED ON THE GLASS, CUT MY FOOT OPEN. 39:10 SHOWIN' OFF, SHOWIN' OFF, SHOWIN' OFF. 39:14 HAD TO STITCH THAT UP MYSELF, TOO, 'CAUSE I WAS UP 39:17 IN THE MOUNTAINS. 39:19 IT WAS NUMB. 39:20 I DIDN'T FEEL IT. 39:22 HAUGHTY SPIRIT GOES BEFORE A FALL. 39:24 YOU GOT SOMEONE ALWAYS SHOWIN' OFF, YOU BETTER KEEP YOUR 39:26 DISTANCE BECAUSE THEY'RE GONNA FALL AND THEY MIGHT HIT YOU 39:27 ON THEIR WAY DOWN. 39:28 SO DON'T PICK FRIENDS--TRY AND ENCOURAGE YOUR FRIENDS WITH, 39:31 YOU KNOW, CHRISTIAN PRINCIPLES. 39:32 BUT FOR YOUR OWN DEVELOPMENT IN LIFE, SOME GOOD PATTERNS 39:35 TO FOLLOW. 39:37 SHUN BULLIES. 39:40 BULLIES ARE NOT ALL BOYS. 39:43 GIRLS CAN BE BULLIES TOO. 39:45 IS THAT RIGHT? 39:46 AND BULLIES AREN'T ALL WITH FISTS. 39:48 SOME PEOPLE BULLY ON THE INTERNET. 39:50 THEY BULLY WITH GOSSIP. 39:52 AND THERE'S A LOT OF WAYS. 39:53 AND SO PEOPLE WHO LIKE TO FIND PLEASURE IN MAKING FUN 39:55 OF OTHERS, THOSE ARE ONES YOU WANT TO AVOID. 39:59 SCRIPTURE FOR THAT, DEUTERONOMY 27:18. 40:03 "CURSED IS THE ONE WHO MAKES THE BLIND WANDER OFF THE ROAD." 40:09 THERE'S A CURSE ON PEOPLE WHO ARE TAKING ADVANTAGE 40:11 OF THE WEAK. 40:12 YOU DON'T WANT TO BE AROUND THEM. 40:14 AVOID, ANSWER C-- NO, D, AVOID USERS. 40:23 PEOPLE WHO ARE USING DRUGS IN ANY FORM. 40:25 YOU THINK ABOUT IT, WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO GIVE SOMEONE 40:28 A DRUG THAT'S ADDICTIVE? 40:30 WHAT WOULD MAKE YOU EVER DO THAT? 40:33 MAYBE IT'S BECAUSE MISERY LOVES COMPANY AND YOU WANT TO TAKE 40:36 OTHER PEOPLE DOWN WITH YOU. 40:38 AND SO ANYONE WHO'S GONNA BE USING, THEY'RE OFTEN TRYING TO 40:41 GET OTHERS TO USE WITH THEM SO IT'LL MITIGATE THEIR GUILT. 40:45 AND, YOU KNOW, I'M SPEAKING TO MYSELF BECAUSE I USED TO USE 40:49 AND I WOULD GIVE IT TO OTHER PEOPLE. 40:51 SAY, "OH YES, SMOKING'S COOL. 40:52 YEAH, I REALLY ENJOY IT. 40:53 I'M NOT ADDICTED. 40:54 I CAN QUIT ANYTIME. 40:55 YOU WANT ONE?" 40:57 AND I HAD SOME FRIENDS, I TOOK 'EM OUT DRINKING. 40:59 I WAS ABLE TO QUIT, PRAISE THE LORD, AND THEY NEVER WERE. 41:02 AND LAST TIME I SAW 'EM, 20 YEARS LATER, 41:04 THEY WERE ALCOHOLICS. 41:05 SO YOU COULD INFLUENCE SOMEONE'S LIFE FOREVER 41:09 BY ENCOURAGING THEM TO USE. 41:11 AND DON'T USE YOURSELF. 41:13 SO STAY AWAY FROM PEOPLE USING DRUGS OR DEALING WITH DRUGS. 41:16 HABAKKUK 2:15, "WOE TO HIM THAT GIVES HIS NEIGHBOR DRINK." 41:20 AND THERE, OF COURSE, THAT GUY'S SMOKIN' SOMETHING 41:22 THAT LOOKS SUSPICIOUS. 41:23 AND ANSWER E, CHOOSE SMART FRIENDS. 41:27 FIND OUT PEOPLE WHO ARE WISE AND THAT WISDOM ISN'T ALWAYS 41:30 JUST BECAUSE, YOU KNOW, YOU GOT A LOT OF BRAINY KNOWLEDGE. 41:33 WISDOM'S ALSO GOOD JUDGMENT. 41:35 PICK WISE FRIENDS. 41:36 AND HERE'S THE SCRIPTURE FOR THAT. 41:39 PROVERBS 13:20, "HE WHO WALKS WITH WISE MEN WILL BE WISE, 41:44 BUT THE COMPANION OF FOOLS WILL BE DESTROYED." 41:48 AND SO, YOU KNOW, YOU CAN LEARN SOME OF THOSE THINGS. 41:50 HANG AROUND WITH WISE PEOPLE. 41:52 NOW THIS IS THE PART YOU MIGHT BE INTERESTED IN. 41:57 HOW CAN I BE SMART IN MY DATING RELATIONSHIPS? 42:02 WELL, ONCE YOU GET TO BE 30 YEARS OLD AND YOU'RE OLD 42:05 ENOUGH TO DATE--JUST KIDDING. 42:09 YOU KNOW WHAT I AM SAYING? 42:11 OUR CULTURE IS SO BOMBARDED WITH SEX, IT'S JUST LIKE 42:18 SHAKING HANDS, THAT THEY'RE MAKIN' KIDS THAT ARE 11, 42:22 12 YEARS OLD START TALKING ABOUT DATING. 42:24 AND YOU'RE THINKING--AS SOON AS THEY START TO ENTER PUBERTY, 42:29 OH, MUST BE TIME TO START DATING. 42:32 AND THAT'S REALLY CRAZY. 42:34 THAT'S LIKE A PERSON WANTING TO DRIVE A FERRARI OFF THE LOT 42:37 BEFORE THEY PUT THE PAINT ON IT. 42:40 YOU'RE GROWING. 42:41 THAT'S JUST A PHASE OF GROWTH. 42:43 DON'T RUSH YOUR LIFE. 42:47 WELL, I'LL GET INTO THAT IN JUST A LITTLE MORE. 42:50 HOW DO YOU--HOW ARE YOU SMART IN THIS AREA? 42:53 PROVERBS 4:23, "KEEP YOUR HEART WITH ALL DILIGENCE, 42:59 FOR OUT OF IT ARE THE ISSUES OR THE SPRINGS OF LIFE." 43:03 GUARD YOUR HEART. 43:05 IT'S REALLY EASY TO START GETTING WRAPPED UP IN 43:07 A RELATIONSHIP AND HAVE YOUR HEART ALL GET BOUND UP 43:09 IN SOMEBODY. 43:10 AND THEN, AGAIN, PSALM 37:7, "REST IN THE LORD, AND WAIT 43:17 PATIENTLY FOR HIM." 43:22 BE PATIENT. 43:24 YOU KNOW, BY THE TIME I WAS 23 YEARS OLD, I HAD 3 KIDS. 43:29 AND SO LISTEN, PLEASE, TO YOUR ELDER HERE. 43:34 I WISH I COULD GO BACK. 43:37 I LOVE MY KIDS, BUT I DIDN'T KNOW HARDLY ANYTHING. 43:40 ALL OF A SUDDEN, I HAD THE RESPONSIBILITY OF RAISING 43:42 THREE KIDS AND, YOU KNOW, I COULD BARELY TIE MY SHOES. 43:47 THAT'S 'CAUSE I WAS BAREFOOT. 43:49 AND SO, YOU KNOW, YOU'RE-- I THINK BACK NOW AND I THOUGHT, 43:53 "BOY, I THOUGHT I KNEW SO MUCH." 43:55 AND NOW I LOOK BACK AND THINK, "AH, I STILL--I WAS JUST A KID. 43:57 I WAS JUST A KID." 43:59 AND I WAS THINKING ABOUT MARRIAGE. 44:01 I WAS THINKING ABOUT FAMILY AND ALL THESE THINGS 44:02 AND DIDN'T EVEN HAVE A JOB. 44:05 SO TAKE YOUR TIME IS ONE THING. 44:07 BUT I'VE GOT SOME OTHER TIPS. 44:09 MATTER OF FACT, THEY'RE TELLING ME WE GOT A TEXT AND THEN I'LL 44:11 GIVE YOU SOME TIPS ON DATING. 44:12 LET'S--HOPEFULLY THIS TEXT QUESTION'S GONNA BE RELATIVE 44:16 TO OUR SUBJECT HERE. 44:19 GRAND PRAIRIE, TEXAS, I KNOW WHERE THAT IS. 44:21 IS IT OKAY TO LIE TO SAVE SOMEBODY'S LIFE? 44:28 WHAT DO YOU THINK? 44:29 I'M JUST GONNA PUT THAT TO THE AUDIENCE. 44:30 I KNOW WHAT I THINK, BUT I'M CURIOUS WHAT YOU THINK. 44:32 YOU'RE GONNA SAVE SOMEONE'S LIFE. 44:34 IS IT OKAY TO LIE? 44:37 ALL RIGHT, NOW LET ME TELL YOU A STORY. 44:41 ONE OF THE COMMANDMENTS SAYS YOU'RE NOT TO BOW DOWN 44:43 AND WORSHIP GRAVEN IMAGES. 44:46 KING MAKES A LAW THAT SAYS EVERYBODY'S TO BOW DOWN 44:48 AND WORSHIP AN IMAGE OR THEY'RE GONNA DIE. 44:51 DANIEL AND HIS THREE FRIENDS SAID, "WE'RE GONNA STAND UP." 44:55 DID THEY DO THE RIGHT THING? 44:58 ISN'T THAT A LITTLE EXTREME, TO STAND UP JUST OVER A LITTLE 45:02 COMMANDMENT LIKE--I MEAN, YOU KNOW, TO SAVE YOUR LIFE. 45:05 JUST WHEN THE KING PLAYS THE MUSIC AND EVERYBODY BOWS DOWN, 45:08 FIX YOUR SANDALS AND SAY, "I'M NOT WORSHIPING THE IMAGE. 45:11 I JUST--MY SANDALS ARE LOOSE HERE. 45:12 I'M JUST GONNA GET DOWN." 45:13 AND JUST LOOK LIKE EVERYBODY ELSE. 45:16 IF IT'S A COMMAND OF GOD, HOW SERIOUS IS THAT? 45:20 OH, I COULD GO ON A WHOLE LAWNCHAIR. 45:22 I THINK THAT YOU MAKE UP YOUR MIND, "I AM GOING TO OBEY GOD'S 45:26 COMMANDMENTS NO MATTER WHAT." 45:28 BECAUSE YOU OPEN THE DOOR TO SAY A LITTLE BIT OF LYING IS 45:30 OKAY AND YOU'RE GONNA FIND THAT DOOR GETS WIDER AND WIDER. 45:33 AND SAY, "OH, IT'S JUST A WHITE LIE AND OH, I DIDN'T WANT 45:35 TO HURT THEIR FEELINGS." 45:36 AND PRETTY SOON YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT TRUTH IS ANYMORE. 45:39 IF IT'S A COMMANDMENT OF GOD AND IF JESUS IS THE TRUTH AND 45:42 THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE, MAKE UP YOUR MIND THAT YOU'RE 45:45 GONNA TELL THE TRUTH. 45:48 NOW I KNOW YOU'RE PROBABLY THINKING I'M CRAZY, BUT THAT'S 45:52 WHY I'M UP HERE TEACHING RIGHT NOW. 45:55 I'M GONNA TEACH YOU THE BIBLE. 45:57 AND IT IS--YOU KNOW WHAT? 45:58 IT IS RADICAL TO BE A BIBLE CHRISTIAN. 46:03 IT TAKES COURAGE TO FOLLOW THE LORD. 46:06 AND I DON'T EXPECT EVERYBODY TO SAY, "YOU KNOW, I WANT TO BE 46:08 A BIBLE CHRISTIAN." 46:10 BUT--OH, ENOUGH ABOUT THAT. 46:14 GET BACK TO DATING. 46:15 AN EASY SUBJECT, RIGHT? 46:17 YOU KNOW, WHAT ARE SOME TIPS FOR YOUR DATING RELATIONSHIPS? 46:23 MRS. BATCHELOR'S BEEN READING A BOOK ON TEENS AND DATING AND 46:28 'CAUSE WE STILL, LIKE I SAID, HAVE TWO TEENS AT HOME 46:30 RIGHT NOW. 46:31 AND SHE FOUND A GREAT BOOK CALLED "HOOKED." 46:34 AND THE SUBTITLE IS "HOW CASUAL SEX 46:36 IS AFFECTING OUR CHILDREN." 46:39 AND THIS IS BASED ON SCIENTIFIC STUDY FROM A COUPLE OF DOCTORS 46:45 THAT HAVE--TWO OR THREE DOCTORS THAT WROTE THIS BOOK TOGETHER 46:47 ON WHAT'S HAPPENING WITH CHEMICALS IN THE BRAIN WHEN YOU 46:50 GET INVOLVED EMOTIONALLY OR PHYSICALLY WITH ANOTHER PERSON. 46:54 AND THEY INCLUDED IN THEIR BOOK SOME TIPS AND I PROBABLY, 46:57 WITH THEIR PERMISSION, OUGHT TO POST THESE ONLINE. 47:01 AND BY THE WAY, THESE ARE PRACTICAL SUGGESTIONS TO OFFER 47:03 YOUNG PEOPLE TO HELP THEM AVOID SEXUAL ENTANGLEMENTS. 47:08 ONE, IF YOU'VE MADE UP YOUR MIND YOU WANT TO BE A BIBLE 47:10 CHRISTIAN AND MAINTAIN PURITY UNTIL YOU'RE MARRIED, ACCORDING 47:15 TO THE BIBLE, ACCORDING TO THE COMMANDMENTS OF GOD, 47:19 FIND GOOD FRIENDS WITH THE SAME COMMITMENT ABOUT SEX. 47:23 HAVE FRIENDS THAT ARE WITH YOU ON THAT SO YOU'RE NOT ALWAYS 47:27 SWIMMING UP CREEK. 47:29 TALK ABOUT YOUR FEARS AND TEMPTATIONS. 47:31 LEAN ON EACH OTHER FOR STRENGTH. 47:33 TWO, WRITE DOWN YOUR COMMITMENT. 47:36 WRITE IT DOWN. 47:37 SAY, "I'VE MADE A COMMITMENT TO ABSTAIN FROM SEXUAL ACTIVITY 47:40 UNTIL I GET MARRIED." 47:41 AS RADICAL AS THAT MIGHT SEEM IN OUR SEX SATURATED CULTURE 47:46 RIGHT NOW, IT'S STILL THE TRUTH. 47:49 MARRIAGE AND INTIMACY LIKE THAT IS MADE FOR 47:52 THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP. 47:55 THREE, PRACTICE ASSERTIVENESS. 47:59 TAKE TIME TO TALK ABOUT YOUR RIGHTS AND HOW YOU EXPECT TO 48:02 BE TREATED. 48:03 IF YOU ARE IN SOME DATING RELATIONSHIP, ESTABLISH 48:05 SOME GUIDELINES RIGHT AT THE BEGINNING. 48:07 DON'T WAIT UNTIL YOU'RE PARKED IN THE DARK ON LOVER'S LEAP ALL 48:10 BY YOURSELF TO SAY, "LET'S TALK ABOUT BOUNDARIES NOW." 48:14 BECAUSE AT TIMES LIKE THAT, BOY, YOU'VE KIND OF LET 48:17 THE HORSE OUT OF THE BARN. 48:19 YOU WANT TO ESTABLISH THOSE THINGS. 48:21 ESPECIALLY IF YOU'RE GONNA HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE 48:23 THAT IS THAT INTIMATE, YOU OUGHT TO BE ABLE TO SAY, 48:25 "LET ME TELL YOU WHERE I AM ON THE SUBJECT OF DATING 48:27 AND HERE ARE THE BOUNDARIES. 48:29 DON'T TOUCH ANYTHING BELOW MY EYEBROWS." 48:32 RIGHT? 48:34 [LAUGHING] 48:38 >> NUMBER FOUR, MAKE SURE YOUR VALUES ARE KNOWN TO ANYONE YOU 48:43 DATE OR GROW CLOSE TO. 48:44 DON'T HIDE HOW YOU FEEL. 48:46 WE'RE IN A WORLD WHERE EVERYONE STARTS TO TEASE. 48:49 I WENT TO A MILITARY SCHOOL AND HERE I WAS, 11 YEARS OLD, AND 48:52 ALL THE BOYS ARE GOING AROUND, BRAGGING, SAYING, 48:55 "OH, THIS GUY'S A VIRGIN. 48:56 HE'S A VIRGIN. 48:56 ARE YOU A VIRGIN? 48:57 I'M NOT." 48:58 AND IT'S LIKE THEY'RE PUTTING ON EVERYBODY--THESE LITTLE KIDS 49:00 ARE UNDER THIS TREMENDOUS PRESSURE TO SOMEHOW ACHIEVE 49:04 SEX, LIKE I SAID, LIKE SOME KIND OF ANIMAL THAT CAN 49:06 MARK IT OFF ON THE SCOREBOARD. 49:09 JUST KIDS. 49:10 THIS PRESSURE THAT THE DEVIL IS PUTTING ON THIS CULTURE THAT 49:13 YOU, YOU KNOW, THERE'S SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU IF YOU 49:16 WANT TO BE PURE. 49:17 WHO DO YOU WANT TO IMPRESS? 49:20 A WORLD THAT'S SICK WITH SIN OR GOD? 49:23 ARE YOU GONNA GO WITH YOUR FEELINGS OR YOUR FAITH? 49:26 AND SO DON'T HIDE HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT IT. 49:30 FIVE, DON'T GET INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T SHARE 49:32 YOUR VALUES. 49:34 RIGHT OUT OF THE GATE, YOU WANT TO KNOW, "HEY, LOOK, THEY'RE IN 49:36 A DIFFERENT PLACE AND THIS IS NOT GONNA END WELL IF I START 49:40 GETTING EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED TO THIS PERSON BECAUSE 49:43 THEY DON'T SHARE MY VALUES." 49:45 AND YOU KNOW WHAT A COMMON MISTAKE IS? 49:47 YOUNG PEOPLE GET INVOLVED IN DATING AND IT'S OFTEN TRUE 49:51 WITH A GIRL, THE GUY'S VERY AGGRESSIVE AND, YOU KNOW, 49:56 HE SAYS, "OH YEAH, BUT WE'LL GET MARRIED SOMEDAY, SO LET'S START 49:58 BEING INTIMATE NOW. 50:01 I REALLY LOVE YOU." 50:02 AND EVERYBODY WANTS TO BE LOVED. 50:04 "AND I WANT TO SHOW YOU HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU." 50:06 AND THEY GOT ALL THESE ARGUMENTS AND THEY'RE VERY 50:08 CLEVER AND CREATIVE. 50:09 GIRLS, DON'T TRUST 'EM. 50:09 THEY'RE ALL ANIMALS. 50:11 [LAUGHING] 50:16 >> YOU WANT TO MAINTAIN PURITY. 50:19 THE IDEA THAT, "WELL, BUT I'M GONNA GET CLOSE TO HIM 50:22 AND I'LL CHANGE HIS VIEWS," FAMOUS LAST WORDS. 50:28 "YEAH, WELL, I KNOW HOW HE FEELS NOW OR HOW SHE FEELS NOW, 50:31 BUT AS WE GET CLOSE, I WILL TEACH THEM HOW I FEEL AND 50:33 THEY'LL FEEL THAT WAY TOO." 50:36 DON'T EVEN GO THERE BECAUSE SOMETIMES WHEN YOU DO THAT KIND 50:39 OF EVANGELISM, YOU END UP BEING THE ONE THAT'S CONVERTED. 50:43 BECAUSE THEY'VE GOT NATURE ON THEIR SIDE. 50:47 YOU'RE ALREADY FIGHTING THE DESIRES IN THE BODY 50:50 THAT ARE THERE AND SO--OKAY, MOVING RIGHT ALONG. 50:55 SIX, PLAN YOUR DATES TO AVOID DIFFICULT SITUATIONS. 51:01 LIKE I SAID, YOU KNOW, DO THINGS WITH A GROUP. 51:03 IT'S WHEN YOU GET OFF BY YOURSELF, NOT ENOUGH LIGHT, 51:10 GETS LATE, YOU'RE TIRED, YOUR MIND IS CLOUDY, AND INSTEAD OF 51:18 YOUR CEREBRAL PART OF THE MIND GOVERNING YOUR ACTIVITIES, 51:20 ALL OF A SUDDEN IT'S THE ANIMAL NATURE TAKES OVER. 51:25 AND SO DON'T GET YOURSELF IN THOSE SITUATIONS WHERE 51:28 YOU'RE GONNA HAVE PROBLEMS. 51:29 AVOID ALCOHOL AND DRUGS. 51:30 WE'VE ALREADY TALKED ABOUT THAT. 51:32 YOUR RESISTANCE TO TEMPTATION IS LOWERED WHEN YOU'VE BEEN 51:34 INEBRIATED BY SOME KIND OF SUBSTANCE LIKE THAT. 51:38 INTRODUCE YOUR DATE TO YOUR PARENTS. 51:43 OH, LISTEN TO THAT GROAN SWEEP OVER THE CROWD. 51:47 WHAT WILL THEY THINK? 51:48 TRUST 'EM. 51:50 SOME COUNTRIES OF THE WORLD, YOU DON'T EVEN GET TO DATE 51:52 UNLESS THEY APPROVE IT. 51:54 TELL YOU WHAT, LET'S GO BACK TO PARENTS ARRANGING THE WEDDINGS. 51:58 I MEAN, THE MARRIAGES. 52:02 NUMBER EIGHT--YOU KNOW, I'VE BEEN TO INDIA AND SOME 52:04 COUNTRIES WHERE THEY DO THAT AND IT'S AMAZING. 52:06 DO YOU KNOW THEIR DIVORCE RATE IS A FRACTION OF WHAT OURS IS? 52:10 INTERESTING. 52:12 NUMBER NINE, THIS IS THE LAST ONE ON THE LIST. 52:14 LIMIT THE AMOUNT OF PHYSICAL CONTACT. 52:18 NOTHING BELOW THE EYEBROWS OR ABOVE THE ELBOWS. 52:22 SO IT KEEPS YOU OUT OF TROUBLE. 52:24 IF YOU WANT, IF WE HAVE PERMISSION--I THINK WE--IF WE 52:26 GIVE THE CREDIT, WE CAN PROBABLY POST THIS LIST ONLINE. 52:29 BUT WE GOT TO MOVE ALONG WITH OUR QUESTIONS HERE. 52:31 TALKING ABOUT DATING RELATIONSHIPS, I THINK ON 52:35 NUMBER EIGHT, DOES THE BIBLE HAVE ANY PRACTICAL 52:40 DATING TIPS FOR ME? 52:44 YES. 52:45 IT SAYS IN 1 CORINTHIANS 13, TALKING ABOUT LOVE, "LOVE 52:50 SUFFERS LONG AND IS KIND; LOVE DOES NOT ENVY; 52:55 LOVE DOES NOT PARADE ITSELF." 52:56 BY THE WAY, LIFE SUFFERS LONG. 52:58 PATIENT, THAT'S WHAT THAT MEANS. 53:00 BE PATIENT. 53:01 DON'T RUSH THINGS. 53:02 THAT'S WHERE A LOT OF PEOPLE GET IN TROUBLE. 53:05 DOES NOT BEHAVE RUDELY. 53:08 NOW WE'RE ALMOST OUT OF TIME AND I WANT TO GET TO NUMBER 53:10 NINE HERE, SO I'M GONNA JUMP OVER THERE RIGHT AWAY. 53:15 HOW DO I RESPOND WHEN SOMEONE HURTS ME? 53:19 SHOW OF HANDS, HAVE YOU BEEN HURT? 53:24 ANYONE EVER DONE ANYTHING TO HURT YOU? 53:27 HAVE YOU EVER FELT BETRAYED BEFORE? 53:29 YOU TOLD SOMEBODY SOMETHING, YOU TRUSTED THEM, AND THEY 53:32 BETRAYED YOUR TRUST? 53:34 OR YOU THOUGHT THEY WERE A FRIEND AND THEN THEY WERE 53:35 TALKING ABOUT YOU AND THEY PUT YOU DOWN OR SAID SOMETHING 53:39 UNKIND ABOUT YOU. 53:42 YOU KNOW, ONE OF THE PRINCIPLE THINGS YOU WANT TO DO AS A 53:44 CHRISTIAN IS LEARN TO FORGIVE. 53:48 YOU KNOW, IT'S PERFECTLY NORMAL FOR FRIENDS TO BE NICE 53:51 TO THEIR FRIENDS. 53:53 WHAT MAKES IT UNIQUE IS WHEN FRIENDS FORGIVE THEIR ENEMIES, 54:00 WHEN SOMEONE HASN'T BEEN KIND TO YOU AND YOU'RE STILL NICE 54:03 TO THEM ANYWAY. 54:04 AND I KNOW THAT'S HARD. 54:07 FIRST OF ALL, YOU MAKE FRIENDS WITH JESUS. 54:10 HE IS YOUR BEST FRIEND. 54:11 AND KEEP IN MIND-- YOU MIGHT SAY, "HOW CAN I 54:14 EVER FORGIVE THEM?" 54:15 THERE'S A PROMISE IN THE BIBLE. 54:17 IT SAYS, "LOVE YOUR ENEMIES," MATTHEW 5:44, 45, "BLESS THOSE 54:22 WHO CURSE YOU, DO GOOD TO THOSE WHO HATE YOU, PRAY FOR THOSE 54:26 WHO DESPITEFULLY USE YOU AND PERSECUTE YOU, THAT YOU MIGHT 54:30 BE THE CHILDREN, THE SONS OF YOUR FATHER WHO IS IN HEAVEN." 54:34 HOW CAN I FORGIVE? 54:36 IN THE LORD'S PRAYER, JESUS ADDED ONE COMMENT 54:40 ON THE LORD'S PRAYER. 54:42 SAID, "FORGIVE US OUR DEBTS AS WE FORGIVE THOSE, OUR DEBTORS, 54:46 OR FORGIVE US OUR TRESPASSES AS WE FORGIVE THOSE WHO 54:49 TRESPASS AGAINST US." 54:51 WE CAN'T DO THAT WITHOUT GOD'S HELP. 54:53 JESUS SAID, "IF YOU DO NOT FORGIVE EVERY MAN HIS 54:55 TRESPASSES, NEITHER WILL YOUR FATHER IN HEAVEN FORGIVE YOU." 54:59 BY THE WAY, WHEN YOU DON'T FORGIVE OTHERS WHO HAVE 55:01 HURT YOU, WHO ARE YOU REALLY HURTING? 55:03 YOU'RE JUST HURTING YOURSELF. 55:04 LET IT GO. 55:06 DON'T LOOK BACK; LOOK FORWARD. 55:08 AND YOU KNOW WHAT? 55:09 YOU'LL FIND PEACE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD. 55:14 YOU KNOW, SOMETIMES AN OBSTACLE BETWEEN US AND GOD IS 55:16 UNFORGIVENESS. 55:18 HE IS WILLING TO FORGIVE YOU SO MUCH. 55:21 YOU LOOK AT THE CROSS, JESUS WAS BETRAYED. 55:23 HE KNOWS HOW IT FEELS, AND HE FORGAVE. 55:27 AND IF GOD CAN FORGIVE LIKE THAT, HE CAN GIVE US THE POWER 55:29 AND THE GRACE TO FORGIVE OTHERS. 55:31 DO YOU BELIEVE THAT? 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