[MUSIC]
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>> IN 1974, FEBRUARY,
19-YEAR-OLD PATRICIA HEARST WAS
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KIDNAPPED FROM HER APARTMENT
IN BERKELEY, CALIFORNIA.
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SHE WAS ABDUCTED BY AN
URBAN GUERILLA GROUP CALLED
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THE SYMBIONESE
LIBERATION ARMY, OR SLA.
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AFTER HOLDING HER FOR 2 MONTHS,
SHE WAS ABLE TO PERSUADE HER
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FATHER TO GIVE $6
MILLION IN RANSOM.
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BUT CAN YOU IMAGINE HER
FATHER'S HEARTACHE WHEN,
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AFTER THAT RANSOM WAS
PAID, SHE DECIDED TO STAY WITH
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HER CAPTORS INSTEAD?
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MATTER OF FACT, SHE EVEN
HELPED THEM WITH A BANK ROBBERY.
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EVIDENTLY, DURING THE
TIME OF HER CAPTIVITY, THEY HAD
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PERSUADED HER HER FAMILY DIDN'T
REALLY LOVE HER AND SHE WAS
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BETTER OFF WITH THEM.
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AND SHE WANTED SO MUCH TO
BELONG THAT SHE BELIEVED IT.
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YOU KNOW, IT MAKES YOU WONDER
WHAT OUR HEAVENLY FATHER MUST
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THINK OF US WHEN HE SENT HIS
SON AND PAID A RANSOM FOR ALL
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OF US TO BE SAVED AND WE
PREFER TO STAY IN CAPTIVITY.
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THE DEVIL IS ATTACKING
EVERY EARTHLY RELATIONSHIP.
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AND SO IT BRINGS THE
QUESTION, CAN WE GET ALONG?
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WE'RE GONNA TALK ABOUT
THAT IN THIS EPISODE OF "MIQ."
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>> HOW CAN I KNOW
THAT GOD IS LISTENING?
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>> DID I COME FROM
APES OR PREHISTORIC SLUDGE?
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>> CAN THE BIBLE BE TRUSTED?
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>> WHAT SHOULD
I DO WITH MY LIFE?
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>> COLLEGE?
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CARS?
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A JOB?
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>> CAN I EVER BE PERFECT?
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>> CAN I MAKE A DIFFERENCE?
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>> DO MY PARENTS NEED ME?
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[VOICES OVERLAPPING]
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>> "MIQ," YOUR
QUESTIONS, GOD'S ANSWERS.
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>> DURING THIS EPISODE, WE
WILL BE TAKING A LOOK AT THE
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IMPORTANT QUESTIONS OF
FAMILY, FRIENDS, AND ROMANCE.
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JOIN US NOW FOR "MIQ."
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>> HELLO, FRIENDS.
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WELCOME BACK TO "MIQ,"
AMAZING FACTS FOR TEENS.
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I'D ALSO LIKE TO WELCOME THOSE
WHO ARE WATCHING ON TELEVISION
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AND ONLINE, ACROSS THE COUNTRY,
AROUND THE WORLD, WELCOME.
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THANK YOU FOR JOINING US
AGAIN AND IT'S NOT TOO LATE
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FOR YOU TO SEND IN
YOUR BIBLE QUESTIONS.
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GO TO MIQTEENS.COM.
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THAT WEB SITE IS MIQTEENS.COM
AND YOU CAN POST YOUR QUESTION
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ONLINE.
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YOU CAN ALSO SEND A TEXT
MESSAGE WITH YOUR BIBLE QUESTION
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AND THE NUMBER IS 760-523-2287.
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NOW, DURING THIS
SERIES, WE'VE BEEN TALKING ABOUT
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LIFE'S BIG QUESTIONS.
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IS THERE A GOD?
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WHERE DID I COME FROM?
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CAN I TRUST THE BIBLE?
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AND WE HOPE THAT AFTER
THIS SERIES IS OVER, YOU WILL
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CONTINUE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
WITH GOD, KEEP SEARCHING
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FOR A DEEPER UNDERSTANDING
AND KNOWLEDGE OF HIS WILL
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FOR YOUR LIFE.
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I'D LIKE TO INVITE OUR SONGS
LEADERS TO PLEASE COME FORWARD
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AT THIS TIME.
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THANK YOU, KELLY, FOR PLAYING.
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AND IMMEDIATELY FOLLOWING
OUR THEME SONG, WE'RE GONNA HAVE
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ZACH DO OUR OPENING PRAYER.
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PLEASE STAND AS WE SING.
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[MUSIC]
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? WHEN I GAZE UP ? ?
AT THE COUNTLESS STARS ?
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? WE'RE ON AN ENDLESS
SEA ? ? MY MIND MAY SWIM ?
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? WITH QUESTIONS ?
? BEWILDERING TO ME ?
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? BUT THEN I READ THE
BIBLE ? ? AND SEEK YOUR FACE ?
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? IN PRAYER ? ? I'M
SATISFIED REMEMBERING ?
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? YOUR LOVING
GRACE ? ? AND CARE ?
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? WHATEVER
QUESTIONS ? ? I MAY HAVE ?
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? WHETHER GREAT OR
SMALL ? ? I KNOW JESUS DIED ?
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? TO SAVE ME ? ?
AND THAT HE FORGAVE ME ?
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? JESUS IS THE
ANSWER ? ? TO IT ALL ?
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? JESUS IS THE
ANSWER ? ? TO IT ALL ?
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? I HAVE SO MANY QUESTIONS
? ? I WONDER IN MY HEART ?
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? HOW SOMETHING
COMES ? ? FROM NOTHING ?
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? WHEN DID FOREVER
START? ? ? WHY CAN'T I SEE ?
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? YOUR GLORY? ? ? WHERE IS ?
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? THE PROMISED LAND? ?
? I'LL TRUST THAT YOU ?
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? WILL LEAD ME THERE ? ?
IF I CAN TAKE YOUR HAND ?
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? WHATEVER
QUESTIONS ? ? I MAY HAVE ?
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? WHETHER GREAT OR
SMALL ? ? I KNOW JESUS DIED ?
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? TO SAVE ME ? ?
AND THAT HE FORGAVE ME ?
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? JESUS IS THE
ANSWER ? ? TO IT ALL ?
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? JESUS IS THE
ANSWER ? ? TO IT ALL ??
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>> HEAVENLY FATHER,
WE THANK YOU FOR THIS
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CHANCE TO COME SPEND
TIME WITH YOU, TO COME TO
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THESE MEETINGS, GOD.
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LORD, WE ASK THAT YOU
PLEASE BE WITH PASTOR DOUG
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AS HE SPEAKS TO US.
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MAY IT BE YOUR
WORDS AND NOT HIS.
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AND PLEASE TOUCH ALL OF
US HEARING THESE SERMONS HERE
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OR ACROSS THE WORLD, LORD.
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MAY YOU CHANGE US FROM
THE INSIDE OUT, IN YOUR NAME,
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AMEN.
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>> AMEN.
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THANK YOU SO MUCH.
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THANK YOU, KELLY, OUR
SINGERS, ZACHARY FOR PRAYER.
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WELCOME, EVERYBODY, TO
THIS PRESENTATION OF "MIQ,"
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AND THAT STANDS FOR
MOST IMPORTANT QUESTIONS.
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WE'VE BEEN WORKING FOR A
YEAR NOW TO TRY TO COALESCE
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IN THIS PROGRAM THESE LESSON
PRESENTATIONS ALONG WITH YOUR
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QUESTIONS THAT WILL DEAL
WITH THE MOST IMPORTANT ISSUES
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IN BEING A CHRISTIAN.
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AND WE'RE LEARNING AS
WE GO, BUT I THINK WE'RE
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MAKING PROGRESS.
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>> WE ARE, PASTOR DOUG.
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WELL, LET'S GET TO
OUR QUESTIONS FOR TODAY.
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>> MY NAME IS NOLO AND MY
QUESTION IS HOW DO YOU KNOW
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YOU KNOW YOURSELF WELL
ENOUGH TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP?
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>> THANK YOU.
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I COULDN'T HELP BUT
NOTICE THAT NOLO WANTS TO KNOW
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HOW DO YOU KNOW.
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HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU'RE
READY TO BE--SORRY ABOUT THAT.
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HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU'RE
READY TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP?
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WELL, WHEN YOUR CAR INSURANCE
GOES DOWN, USUALLY AGE 25,
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PROBABLY OLD ENOUGH TO
START THINKING ABOUT IT.
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NO, I'M--IT'S SOMETHING THAT
YOU DON'T WANT TO RUSH INTO.
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YOU KNOW WHAT
I'VE OFTEN SEEN HAPPEN?
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IS THERE'S SO MANY
OPPORTUNITIES TO STUDY,
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TO BE EDUCATED, TO
TRAVEL, TO DO MISSION WORK.
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AND IT'S ESPECIALLY PROFOUND
IN THE BEGINNING OF YOUR LIFE,
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DURING THOSE TEENAGE
YEARS AND EARLY TWENTIES.
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YOU CAN DO SO MUCH THAT ONCE
YOU DO GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP,
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OFTEN MARRIAGE, CHILDREN FOLLOW
AND YOU DON'T HAVE THAT SAME
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KIND OF FREEDOM.
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AND SO DON'T RUSH IT.
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THERE'S OFTEN A FEAR, "WELL,
BUT IF SOMEONE COMES ALONG,
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I'VE GOT TO GRAB THEM
NOW BECAUSE I NEVER KNOW.
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MIGHT BE THE ONLY ONE THAT'LL
EVER BE INTERESTED IN ME."
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DON'T BELIEVE IT.
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YOU'LL GET
SMARTER, YOU'LL GET BETTER,
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YOU'LL BE MORE ATTRACTIVE.
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AND SO TAKE YOUR TIME
IS THE MAIN THING THAT
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I WOULD ENCOURAGE.
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>> THANK YOU, PASTOR DOUG.
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WE HAVE ANOTHER VIDEO QUESTION.
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>> HI, MY NAME'S THEODORE, AND
I KNOW IT SAYS IN THE BIBLE TO
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RESPECT AND HONOR YOUR PARENTS,
BUT WHAT IF THEY'RE ABUSIVE
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VERBALLY OR
PHYSICALLY IN SOME MANNER?
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>> WELL, THAT, OF COURSE,
MAKES THINGS VERY DIFFICULT.
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AND I THINK WE ALL KNOW
THAT THERE'S SITUATIONS WHERE
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A PARENT OR A STEP-PARENT--
IT COULD BE PHYSICAL ABUSE.
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IT COULD BE SEXUAL ABUSE.
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AND IF YOU'RE EXPERIENCING
THAT, THEN YOU NEED TO TALK
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TO SOMEBODY.
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IT'D BE GREAT IF THERE WAS
ANOTHER FAMILY MEMBER THAT YOU
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COULD OPEN UP TO AND SEE IF
YOU COULD GET SOME HELP, BUT YOU
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KNOW, THE COMMAND TO HONOR
YOUR PARENTS DOES NOT MEAN THAT
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YOU NEED TO BREAK
COMMANDMENTS OF GOD.
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AS FAR AS POSSIBLE,
YOU NEED TO BE RESPECTFUL.
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NOW MY DAD HAD A
DRINKING PROBLEM AND HE WOULD BE
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VERBALLY ABUSIVE.
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BUT YOU KNOW, I WAS
NEVER DISRESPECTFUL TO HIM EVEN
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THOUGH THERE WERE SOME
ANGER OVER THOSE THINGS
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THAT WERE HAPPENING.
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AND SO YOU NEED TO HAVE WISDOM
TO BALANCE OUT THOSE FEELINGS
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THAT YOU MIGHT HAVE TO
KNOW WHERE TO GET HELP AND STILL
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RESPECT YOUR PARENTS.
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THERE MAY BE TIMES WHEN
YOU DON'T LISTEN TO A PARENT
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BECAUSE THEY'RE ASKING YOU
TO BREAK A COMMANDMENT OF GOD.
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AND GOD, YOUR
HEAVENLY FATHER, COMES FIRST.
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>> ALL RIGHT, I THINK WE'RE
READY FOR OUR NEXT QUESTION.
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>> WE HAVE A QUESTION THAT'S
COMING FROM THE WEB SITE AND IT
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IS, HOW DO I KNOW WHEN I'M
READY TO GIVE MY LIFE TO JESUS
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AND GET BAPTIZED?
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>> VERY GOOD QUESTION.
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I THINK EVERYONE HERE KNOWS
THAT JESUS SAID WHEN WE FOLLOW
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HIM, THAT PART OF THAT
COMMITMENT--BAPTISM IS LIKE
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MAKING THE DECISION.
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IT'S THE CEREMONY BY WHICH
WE COMMIT OURSELVES TO CHRIST.
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LAST WORDS OF JESUS
WERE, "GO YE, THEREFORE.
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TEACH ALL
NATIONS, BAPTIZING THEM."
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OBVIOUSLY, THE LAST WORDS
OF JESUS SHOULD BE A FIRST
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PRIORITY FOR CHRISTIANS.
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THEY SAID TO PETER,
"WHAT DO WE DO TO BE SAVED?"
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HE SAID, "REPENT
AND BE BAPTIZED."
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AND EVEN IN JOHN 3, JESUS
SAID TO NICODEMUS, "UNLESS
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YOU'RE BORN OF THE WATER
AND THE SPIRIT, YOU CANNOT ENTER
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THE KINGDOM OF GOD."
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SO IF YOU HAVE MADE A DECISION
TO BE A CHRISTIAN AND YOU'RE
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OLD ENOUGH TO UNDERSTAND THE
BASIC COMPONENTS OF THE GOSPEL,
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AND I THINK EVERY--ALL
THE TEENS WHO ARE WATCHING
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CERTAINLY ARE OLD ENOUGH.
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BIBLE TELLS US TO REPENT,
TO BELIEVE, TO BE TAUGHT THE
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FUNDAMENTALS OF THE CHRISTIAN
COMMITMENT, AND THEN YOU MAKE
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THAT COMMITMENT.
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AND IT'S DONE
PUBLICLY, JUST LIKE A MARRIAGE,
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'CAUSE YOU DON'T WANT
TO BE ASHAMED OF JESUS.
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AND MAYBE WE'LL HAVE
MORE INFORMATION ON THAT
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IN ANOTHER PRESENTATION,
BUT VERY IMPORTANT.
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I HOPE SOME OF YOU ARE PRAYING
ABOUT BAPTISM AND SURRENDERING
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YOUR LIVES TO THE LORD.
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>> ALL RIGHT, WE HAVE ANOTHER
VIDEO QUESTION AT THIS TIME.
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>> HI, MY NAME IS MALACHI,
AND I WOULD JUST LIKE TO KNOW,
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IN THE END TIMES, JESUS
SAID HE'S GOING TO PROTECT US.
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BUT THEN AGAIN, HE DOES SAY
WE ARE GOING TO BE PERSECUTED,
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SO IS HE TALKING TO CHRISTIANS
AS A WHOLE OR IS HE TALKING
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TO--TALKING ABOUT
INDIVIDUAL PEOPLE?
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I'D JUST LIKE TO KNOW THAT.
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THANK YOU.
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>> WELL, REALLY, THAT
IS A VERY GOOD QUESTION.
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THERE ARE OBVIOUSLY PROMISES IN
THE BIBLE OF GOD'S PROTECTION,
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ESPECIALLY DURING
THE TIME OF THE PLAGUES.
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HE PROTECTED THE
WHOLE CHILDREN OF ISRAEL.
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ALL THE PLAGUES WERE FALLING
ON THE EGYPTIANS, AND YET
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HE SHIELDED THEM.
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HE PROTECTED AND
PROVIDED FOR THEM ALL THROUGH
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THE WILDERNESS.
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THE VERY FACT THAT
WE'RE ALL ALIVE IS EVIDENCE
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OF GOD'S PROTECTION.
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WHAT IS THE PENALTY FOR SIN?
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WAGES FOR SIN ARE DEATH.
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WE'RE ALIVE, WHY?
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JESUS HAS INTERVENED.
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EVEN THOSE WHO DON'T
BELIEVE IN JESUS ARE ALIVE
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BECAUSE OF HIS PROTECTION.
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BUT CHRIST SAYS WHEN WE
MAKE DECISION TO FOLLOW HIM,
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YOU KNOW, THERE'S
TRIBULATION IN LIFE.
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YOU MAY BE PERSECUTED.
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WE KNOW THAT SOME HAVE
LOST THEIR LIFE FOR THE FAITH,
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BUT SO MANY TIMES GOD
HAS MIRACULOUSLY INTERVENED
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TO PROTECT THEM.
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NOW IN THE LAST DAYS, WHEN THE
SEVEN LAST PLAGUES FALL DURING
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THAT TIME OF TROUBLE, HE WILL
PROTECT HIS PEOPLE THEN JUST
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LIKE HE DID THE CHILDREN
OF ISRAEL WHEN THOSE SEVEN
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PLAGUES--OR TEN
PLAGUES FELL ON EGYPT.
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SO GOD DOES STILL PROVIDE
AND PROTECT ON A DAILY BASIS,
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BUT SOMETIMES WE'RE PERSECUTED.
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SO IT'S A GOOD QUESTION.
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THERE'S A BALANCE THERE.
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>> ALL RIGHT, I THINK WE
HAVE TIME FOR ONE MORE QUESTION.
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>> THIS QUESTION IS
FROM COMPTON, CALIFORNIA.
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I'M IN A RELATIONSHIP,
BUT I'M NOT SURE HOW TO END IT
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WITHOUT HURTING FEELINGS.
00:12:20.16\00:12:23.33
>> WELL, THE VERY FACT YOU'RE
THINKING THAT YOU NEED TO END
00:12:23.33\00:12:26.00
IT, MAKE UP YOUR MIND TO DO IT.
00:12:26.00\00:12:29.13
YOU MAY NOT BE ABLE TO DO
IT WITHOUT HURTING FEELINGS.
00:12:29.13\00:12:32.90
WHEN PEOPLE GET INVOLVED IN
RELATIONSHIPS, THEN, YOU KNOW,
00:12:32.90\00:12:36.16
SOMETIMES THERE'S TORN ROOTS.
00:12:36.16\00:12:38.26
AND YOU JUST
NEED TO ACCEPT THAT.
00:12:38.26\00:12:40.83
I TELL YOU, IT'S A LOT
BETTER TO EXPERIENCE SOME HURT
00:12:40.83\00:12:44.43
FEELINGS EARLY IN THE STAGES
OF A RELATIONSHIP THAT YOU KNOW
00:12:44.43\00:12:47.86
ISN'T RIGHT THAN, YOU KNOW,
WAIT AFTER YEARS AND MARRIAGE
00:12:47.86\00:12:51.43
AND THEN GO THROUGH THE
TREMENDOUS--THE VIOLENT TEARING
00:12:51.43\00:12:56.00
OF A RELATIONSHIP IN A DIVORCE.
00:12:56.00\00:12:58.10
SO IF THE HOLY SPIRIT'S
SPEAKING TO YOU AND YOU KNOW
00:12:58.10\00:13:01.06
IT'S NOT RIGHT, JUST PRAY
FOR COURAGE TO BITE THE BULLET.
00:13:01.06\00:13:03.73
SOMETIMES IN THE
BIBLE, BECAUSE GOD LOVES US,
00:13:03.73\00:13:05.96
HE TELLS US THE TOUGH
TRUTH, BUT IT'S THE TRUTH.
00:13:05.96\00:13:08.63
AND IF IT'S NOT WORKING, IT'S
NOT RIGHT, THEN YOU NEED TO BE
00:13:08.63\00:13:11.06
HONEST WITH THAT
PERSON AND TELL 'EM THAT.
00:13:11.06\00:13:14.16
>> ALL RIGHT, WELL,
THANK YOU, PASTOR DOUG.
00:13:14.16\00:13:15.93
LET'S SEE, I THINK WE HAVE
ONE MORE QUESTION THAT WE CAN
00:13:15.93\00:13:18.60
GET IN AND WE'LL
TAKE A LOOK AT THAT.
00:13:18.60\00:13:22.00
>> THIS IS ONE FROM
THE MIQTEEN WEB SITE.
00:13:25.03\00:13:27.60
IT'S WHEN IS THE IDEAL AGE TO
GET MARRIED AND THE APPROPRIATE
00:13:27.60\00:13:30.70
AGE TO DATE?
00:13:30.70\00:13:33.80
>> YOU KNOW, THE BEST AGE
TO GET MARRIED IS RIGHT AROUND
00:13:33.80\00:13:36.83
RETIREMENT 'CAUSE
THEN YOU GOT A LOT OF TIME
00:13:36.83\00:13:40.40
TO SPEND TOGETHER.
00:13:40.40\00:13:43.63
WHEN YOU'RE--THEY SAY YOUR
BRAIN ISN'T FULLY DEVELOPED
00:13:43.63\00:13:45.66
UNTIL YOU'RE 25, WHICH IS
INCIDENTALLY WHEN YOUR INSURANCE
00:13:45.66\00:13:49.80
RATES START GOING DOWN.
00:13:49.80\00:13:51.76
SO YOU START DATING AT 24.
00:13:51.76\00:13:55.26
I'M TEASING YOU RIGHT NOW
BECAUSE WE'RE GONNA DEAL WITH
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THAT IN OUR LESSON TONIGHT.
00:13:57.60\00:13:58.80
STAY WITH US.
00:13:58.80\00:13:59.73
WE'RE TALKING ABOUT DATING
AND SOME TIPS ON WHAT THE BIBLE
00:13:59.73\00:14:02.33
SAYS ABOUT THAT IN
OUR PRESENTATION TONIGHT.
00:14:02.33\00:14:04.53
>> ALL RIGHT.
00:14:04.53\00:14:05.36
THANK YOU, PASTOR DOUG.
00:14:05.36\00:14:06.30
JUST A REMINDED TO
THOSE OF YOU WHO ARE WATCHING.
00:14:06.30\00:14:08.20
YOU CAN GET MORE INFORMATION
AT THE MIQ TEENS ANSWER BOOK.
00:14:08.20\00:14:11.60
GO TO THE MIQTEENS.COM WEB SITE.
00:14:11.60\00:14:14.20
YOU CAN ORDER YOUR VERY OWN.
00:14:14.20\00:14:15.46
IT'S FILLED WITH FASCINATING
FACTS AND GREAT INFORMATION.
00:14:15.46\00:14:18.40
AND MOST OF ALL, PASTOR DOUG,
IT'S ANSWERS THAT MAKE SENSE.
00:14:18.40\00:14:21.86
MIQTEENS.COM.
00:14:21.86\00:14:24.76
THERE IT IS.
00:14:24.76\00:14:25.80
PASTOR DOUG'S GOT THE BOOK.
00:14:25.80\00:14:27.56
ALL RIGHT, THANK YOU.
00:14:27.56\00:14:28.83
>> THANK YOU, PASTOR ROSS.
00:14:28.83\00:14:30.03
I'M GONNA FOLLOW
YOU HERE FOR A SECOND.
00:14:30.03\00:14:32.06
YOU KNOW, JUST WHEN WE WERE
READY TO COME OUT, HOW MANY OF
00:14:32.06\00:14:34.30
YOU REMEMBER OPENING
NIGHT WE DID AN EXPERIMENT?
00:14:34.30\00:14:36.80
WE JUST SAW THAT
THING STILL BACK THERE.
00:14:36.80\00:14:40.30
REMEMBER WE WERE TRYING TO SEE
IF YOU CAN MAKE LIFE BY PUTTING
00:14:40.30\00:14:42.36
THE DIFFERENT
INGREDIENTS, REMEMBER?
00:14:42.36\00:14:44.26
HOW MANY REMEMBER THAT?
00:14:44.26\00:14:45.26
WE--IT'S BEEN SITTING
BACK THERE THE WHOLE TIME.
00:14:45.26\00:14:47.53
SO I THOUGHT I'D CHECK.
00:14:47.53\00:14:50.40
OH!
00:14:50.40\00:14:52.40
HELLO.
00:14:54.73\00:14:57.33
NO, NOTHING HAPPENED.
00:14:57.33\00:14:58.23
BOY, THAT'S RIPE, THOUGH.
00:14:58.23\00:14:59.20
IT SMELLS PRETTY BAD.
00:14:59.20\00:15:02.26
WE'LL CHECK IT
AGAIN IN A COUPLE MONTHS.
00:15:02.26\00:15:05.63
GOOD TO SEE EVERYBODY HERE.
00:15:07.46\00:15:09.53
AND TONIGHT WE'RE GONNA BE
TALKING ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS.
00:15:09.53\00:15:12.30
WE'VE BEEN TALKING ABOUT JUST
CERTAIN CORE THINGS, WHAT YOU
00:15:12.30\00:15:15.30
THINK, CARING FOR YOUR
BODY, AND A VERY IMPORTANT PART
00:15:15.30\00:15:18.60
OF LIFE IS HOW DO WE
GET ALONG WITH EACH OTHER,
00:15:18.60\00:15:21.63
OUR RELATIONSHIPS.
00:15:21.63\00:15:23.30
FAMILY, FRIENDS, DATING,
AND SOME OF THOSE ISSUES.
00:15:23.30\00:15:30.06
YOU KNOW, MAN WAS
CREATED IN THE BEGINNING
00:15:30.06\00:15:32.76
AS A SOCIAL CREATURE.
00:15:32.76\00:15:34.66
THE FIRST THING THAT GOD SAID
THAT WAS NOT GOOD IN THE BIBLE,
00:15:34.66\00:15:38.20
HE SAID IT IS NOT
GOOD THAT MAN BE ALONE.
00:15:38.20\00:15:41.20
AND THAT MEANS MAN
AND WOMAN, MANKIND.
00:15:41.20\00:15:43.23
HE'S CREATED US
FOR RELATIONSHIPS.
00:15:43.23\00:15:45.40
WE'RE CREATED TO
BE PART OF A FAMILY.
00:15:45.40\00:15:48.80
YOU KNOW, THEY SAY ONE OF THE
GREATEST FEARS THAT TEENAGERS
00:15:48.80\00:15:52.16
HAVE WHEN THEY DO
SURVEYS IS NOT--OF BEING ALONE.
00:15:52.16\00:15:57.30
AND ONE OF THE GREATEST DESIRES
OF TEENAGERS IS TO BELONG.
00:15:57.30\00:16:01.46
YOU KNOW ONE OF THE REASONS
GANGS ARE EPIDEMIC IS BECAUSE,
00:16:01.46\00:16:06.60
AS CRAZY AS IT IS, AS
MUCH VIOLENCE AND FEAR AS THERE
00:16:06.60\00:16:10.10
IS IN THE GANG, THE DESIRE
TO BELONG TO SOMETHING AND BE
00:16:10.10\00:16:14.36
PART OF SOMETHING
SEEMS TO OVERPOWER THAT.
00:16:14.36\00:16:17.53
AND SO WE'RE GONNA TALK ABOUT
SOME OF THOSE RELATIONSHIPS
00:16:17.53\00:16:20.23
AND I WANT TO GET RIGHT
INTO OUR STUDY 'CAUSE WE'VE GOT
00:16:20.23\00:16:22.76
A LOT OF QUESTIONS.
00:16:22.76\00:16:24.13
QUESTION NUMBER ONE,
HOW AM I RELATED TO GOD?
00:16:24.13\00:16:32.00
THAT'S THE MOST
IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIP OF ALL.
00:16:32.00\00:16:35.10
AND THE ANSWER COMES
TO US FROM 1 JOHN 3:1.
00:16:35.10\00:16:38.63
HE SAYS, "BEHOLD WHAT MANNER
OF LOVE THE FATHER HAS BESTOWED
00:16:38.63\00:16:43.63
ON US."
00:16:43.63\00:16:45.13
CAN'T EVEN DESCRIBE IT.
00:16:45.13\00:16:46.20
HE JUST SAYS, "LOOK AT IT."
00:16:46.20\00:16:48.26
"THAT WE SHOULD BE
CALLED SONS OF GOD!"
00:16:48.26\00:16:51.26
AND OF COURSE, THAT MEANS
SONS AND DAUGHTERS OF GOD.
00:16:51.26\00:16:54.83
THAT WE WOULD BE ADOPTED BY GOD.
00:16:54.83\00:16:57.13
YOU KNOW, WHEN JESUS BECAME
A HUMAN, HE DID SOMETHING WITH
00:16:57.13\00:17:01.33
HUMANITY THAT HE HAD NOT
DONE WITH ANY OTHER CREATURE
00:17:01.33\00:17:04.33
IN THE UNIVERSE.
00:17:04.33\00:17:06.13
HE JOINED HIMSELF TO
US IN A VERY PERMANENT WAY
00:17:06.13\00:17:08.90
BY BECOMING A PERSON.
00:17:08.90\00:17:10.90
WHEN CHRIST ROSE FROM THE
DEAD, WAS HE STILL A HUMAN?
00:17:10.90\00:17:13.83
DID HE STILL HAVE A HUMAN BODY?
00:17:13.83\00:17:15.96
AND SO HOW LONG IS
THAT GOING TO BE FOR?
00:17:15.96\00:17:19.16
FOR ETERNITY.
00:17:19.16\00:17:20.46
HE'S AT ONE WITH US.
00:17:20.46\00:17:22.53
WE'VE BEEN ADOPTED
INTO THE FAMILY OF GOD.
00:17:22.53\00:17:26.83
IT'S LIKE A SPIRITUAL ADOPTION.
00:17:26.83\00:17:28.63
HE DOESN'T TREAT
US LIKE STEPCHILDREN.
00:17:28.63\00:17:32.20
I HEARD ONE TIME THESE TWO
BROTHERS WERE ENROLLING FIRST
00:17:32.20\00:17:36.60
DAY OF SCHOOL AND THEY GAVE
THE TEACHERS THEIR BIRTHDATES,
00:17:36.60\00:17:41.13
AND THEIR
BIRTHDATES WERE 1 MONTH APART.
00:17:41.13\00:17:44.10
AND THE TEACHER SAYS, "YOU'RE
THE SAME AGE AND YOUR BIRTHDAYS
00:17:44.10\00:17:47.86
ARE 1 MONTH APART, SO
YOU'RE OBVIOUSLY NOT TWINS.
00:17:47.86\00:17:50.66
HOW DOES THAT WORK OUT?"
00:17:50.66\00:17:52.13
AND THEY SMILED AND LOOKED AT
THE TEACHER AND THEY LOOKED AT
00:17:52.13\00:17:54.23
EACH OTHER AND THEY
SAID, "ONE OF US IS ADOPTED."
00:17:54.23\00:17:58.33
AND SHE SAID, "WELL, WHICH ONE?"
00:17:58.33\00:18:00.46
SHE JUST CAUGHT HERSELF.
00:18:00.46\00:18:01.33
SHE WAS JUST WONDERING.
00:18:01.33\00:18:02.96
AND THEY SAID, "WE
DON'T KNOW AND DAD SAID
00:18:02.96\00:18:05.13
HE CAN'T REMEMBER."
00:18:05.13\00:18:07.76
AND THAT'S SORT OF HOW IT
IS WITH OUR HEAVENLY FATHER.
00:18:07.76\00:18:11.10
HE JUST COMPLETELY
ADOPTS US AS IF WE ARE HIS OWN.
00:18:11.10\00:18:14.66
HE LOVES US WITH THE LOVE
THAT HE HAS FOR HIS OWN SON
00:18:14.66\00:18:18.13
BECAUSE JESUS GIVES US HIS
OWN CHARACTER AND RIGHTEOUSNESS.
00:18:18.13\00:18:22.03
AND SO NO ONE'S GONNA
LOVE YOU MORE THAN THAT.
00:18:22.03\00:18:24.73
YOU BECOME PART
OF THE FAMILY OF GOD.
00:18:24.73\00:18:27.66
ALL RIGHT, WE'RE GONNA GET
INTO QUESTION NUMBER TWO, THEN.
00:18:27.66\00:18:33.03
WHAT DOES GOD THINK OF ME?
00:18:33.03\00:18:36.83
NOW YOU THINK, "OH, HE KNOWS
WHO I REALLY AM, SO HE MUST
00:18:36.83\00:18:39.53
NOT THINK VERY HIGHLY OF ME."
00:18:39.53\00:18:41.26
WHEN WE ACCEPT CHRIST BECAUSE
HE GIVES US CREDIT FOR HIS OWN
00:18:41.26\00:18:44.13
CHARACTER, HE THEN
LOOKS AT YOU THAT WAY.
00:18:44.13\00:18:47.76
AND HE REALLY CAN.
00:18:47.76\00:18:49.23
JEREMIAH 29:11, "FOR I KNOW THE
THOUGHTS THAT I THINK TOWARDS
00:18:49.23\00:18:54.03
YOU, SAYS THE LORD."
00:18:54.03\00:18:55.46
NOW LISTEN, THIS IS
THE LORD TALKING TO YOU.
00:18:55.46\00:18:58.36
THIS IS GOOD NEWS.
00:18:58.36\00:18:59.70
GOD SAYS, "I KNOW
WHAT I THINK OF YOU."
00:18:59.70\00:19:03.10
NOW YOU MIGHT BE WONDERING,
"I WONDER WHAT MY FRIENDS THINK
00:19:03.10\00:19:05.30
OF ME.
00:19:05.30\00:19:06.70
I WONDER WHAT MY
TEACHERS THINK OF ME."
00:19:06.70\00:19:08.90
WHAT'S THE MOST
PERSON-- IMPORTANT PERSON IN THE
00:19:08.90\00:19:11.46
UNIVERSE TO BE CONCERNED ABOUT?
00:19:11.46\00:19:14.53
WHAT DOES GOD THINK OF ME?
00:19:14.53\00:19:16.80
YOU KNOW, JESUS TRIED TO HAMMER
THIS INTO--I'M NOT DONE WITH
00:19:16.80\00:19:19.73
THE VERSE, BUT I JUST WANT
YOU TO THINK ABOUT WHAT I'M
00:19:19.73\00:19:21.83
ABOUT TO SAY.
00:19:21.83\00:19:22.83
JESUS TRIED TO HAMMER THIS
INTO HIS GENERATION WHEN HE
00:19:22.83\00:19:25.53
STARTED PREACHING.
00:19:25.53\00:19:26.63
HE TALKED TO ALL THE HYPOCRITES
AND HE SAID, "YOU DO EVERYTHING
00:19:26.63\00:19:29.23
BECAUSE YOU WANT
PEOPLE TO LOOK AT YOU.
00:19:29.23\00:19:31.60
YOU PRAY SO
PEOPLE WILL LOOK AT YOU.
00:19:31.60\00:19:33.83
YOU FAST SO
PEOPLE WILL LOOK AT YOU.
00:19:33.83\00:19:35.80
YOU GIVE SO
PEOPLE WILL LOOK AT YOU.
00:19:35.80\00:19:37.86
ALL YOU CARE ABOUT
IS THE PRAISE OF MEN."
00:19:37.86\00:19:39.73
AND HE SAID, "AND YOU DON'T
THINK ABOUT WHAT GOD THINKS
00:19:39.73\00:19:41.53
OF YOU."
00:19:41.53\00:19:42.96
WHO SHOULD WE LIVE FOR, THE
PRAISE AND ATTENTION OF PEOPLE,
00:19:42.96\00:19:46.00
OUR FRIENDS, OR GOD, THE ONE
WHO GIVES US LIFE AND CAN GIVE
00:19:46.00\00:19:50.56
US ETERNAL LIFE?
00:19:50.56\00:19:51.86
SO WHAT DOES GOD THINK OF YOU?
00:19:51.86\00:19:54.20
HE SAID, "I KNOW THE
THOUGHTS I THINK TOWARDS YOU,
00:19:54.20\00:19:56.40
SAYS THE LORD."
00:19:56.40\00:19:57.53
NOW YOU INSERT YOUR NAME
HERE, WHATEVER YOUR NAME IS.
00:19:57.53\00:20:00.36
"THOUGHTS OF PEACE AND NOT
OF EVIL, TO GIVE YOU A FUTURE
00:20:00.36\00:20:05.03
AND A HOPE."
00:20:05.03\00:20:06.73
GOD IS NOT YOUR ENEMY.
00:20:06.73\00:20:09.03
GOD IS IN YOUR FAVOR.
00:20:09.03\00:20:10.53
YOU SEE, THE DEVIL HAS
VOTED AGAINST YOU, GOD HAS VOTED
00:20:10.53\00:20:14.36
FOR YOU, AND NOW YOU
HAVE THE TIE-BREAKING VOTE.
00:20:14.36\00:20:18.00
IF YOU BELIEVE IN GOD AND YOU
BELIEVE THAT HE LOVES YOU AND
00:20:18.00\00:20:20.63
YOU CAN TRUST YOUR LIFE TO
HIM, YOU GOT A FUTURE AND YOU'VE
00:20:20.63\00:20:23.90
GOT A HOPE.
00:20:23.90\00:20:25.03
THAT'S GOOD NEWS, ISN'T IT?
00:20:25.03\00:20:26.66
IT IS TO ME.
00:20:26.66\00:20:28.13
SO WE CAN HAVE THIS
RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD.
00:20:28.13\00:20:30.43
THEY'RE TELLING ME THAT WE GOTá
A TEXT QUESTION THAT'S READY.
00:20:30.43\00:20:34.66
>> I FEEL SPIRITUALLY DRY
IN MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD,
00:20:38.90\00:20:42.23
WHAT SHOULD I DO?
00:20:42.23\00:20:45.00
GOOD QUESTION.
00:20:45.00\00:20:46.16
FIRST OF ALL, IN EVERY
RELATIONSHIP, BECAUSE WE'RE
00:20:46.16\00:20:49.86
HUMANS AND OUR EMOTIONS
CHANGE AND WE GET TIRED AND
00:20:49.86\00:20:53.13
CIRCUMSTANCES CHANGE,
YOU'RE GONNA HAVE WAVES AND EBBS
00:20:53.13\00:20:56.50
AND FLOWS.
00:20:56.50\00:20:57.46
IT DOESN'T MEAN
GOD STOPS LOVING YOU.
00:20:57.46\00:20:59.43
HE'S CONSISTENT,
BUT WE GO UP AND DOWN.
00:20:59.43\00:21:01.83
MARRIAGES SOMETIMES
HAVE THEIR EBBS AND FLOWS.
00:21:01.83\00:21:05.06
RELATIONSHIPS HAVE THAT.
00:21:05.06\00:21:06.96
NOT EVERYBODY'S ALWAYS FEELING
BUBBLY AND AT THEIR BEST.
00:21:06.96\00:21:11.46
BUT IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
WITH GOD, THERE'S THINGS YOU
00:21:11.46\00:21:13.50
CAN DO TO IMPROVE HOW STRONG
YOU FEEL AND THAT SPIRIT--
00:21:13.50\00:21:20.43
SPIRITUAL CONNECTION.
00:21:20.43\00:21:22.26
VERY IMPORTANT THREE THINGS.
00:21:22.26\00:21:23.40
I TOLD YOU THIS--THESE
ARE THE SECRET WEAPONS.
00:21:23.40\00:21:27.36
PRAY, TALK TO GOD ALL THE TIME.
00:21:27.36\00:21:30.06
ANYTHING YOU CAN DO TO
REMEMBER, PRACTICAL THINGS,
00:21:30.06\00:21:32.96
THAT'S OKAY.
00:21:32.96\00:21:34.36
I HEARD ABOUT A GIRL THAT
USED TO THROW HER SHOES UNDER
00:21:34.36\00:21:36.50
HER BED EVERY NIGHT
BEFORE SHE WENT TO SLEEP.
00:21:36.50\00:21:39.13
SHE'D THROW 'EM WAY
UNDER THERE AND SOMEONE SAID,
00:21:39.13\00:21:41.60
"WHY DO YOU DO THAT?
00:21:41.60\00:21:42.66
DO YOU THINK SOMEONE'S
GONNA STEAL YOUR SHOES?"
00:21:42.66\00:21:44.40
SHE SAYS, "NO, I GOT TO GET
ON MY KNEES TO GET THEM OUT.
00:21:44.40\00:21:46.06
THAT MAKES ME THINK TO PRAY."
00:21:46.06\00:21:48.26
AND SO, WHATEVER YOU GOT TO
DO, REMEMBER TO TALK TO GOD.
00:21:48.26\00:21:51.13
MAKE APPOINTMENTS WITH HIM.
00:21:51.13\00:21:52.40
SCHEDULE HIM IN YOUR ALARM
ON YOUR COMPUTER SO IT SAYS,
00:21:52.40\00:21:57.26
"BOOP, TIME TO PRAY."
00:21:57.26\00:21:59.90
READ THE BIBLE.
00:21:59.90\00:22:02.73
MAKE UP YOUR MIND TO GET
IN A BIBLE READING PROGRAM
00:22:02.73\00:22:04.93
WHERE YOU DO IT EVERY DAY.
00:22:04.93\00:22:06.10
I GOT IT ON MY COMPUTER.
00:22:06.10\00:22:07.23
EVERY DAY I READ MY BIBLE.
00:22:07.23\00:22:08.63
I'M AT A DIFFERENT PLACE
ALL THE TIME AND IT NURTURES
00:22:08.63\00:22:11.40
MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD.
00:22:11.40\00:22:12.86
THERE'S SO MUCH MEDIA
BOMBARDING YOUNG PEOPLE THESE
00:22:12.86\00:22:16.16
DAYS THAT YOU NEED
TO COMPENSATE FOR THAT
00:22:16.16\00:22:19.23
BY FEEDING ON THE TRUTH.
00:22:19.23\00:22:21.90
AND THEN SHARE YOUR FAITH.
00:22:21.90\00:22:23.66
LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE.
00:22:23.66\00:22:25.03
AS YOU TELL SOMEONE ELSE
ABOUT JESUS, IT CHANGES YOU.
00:22:25.03\00:22:29.53
AND SO THOSE ARE THREE THINGS
YOU CAN REALLY DO TO REVIVE
00:22:29.53\00:22:32.53
YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD
IF IT'S GETTING A LITTLE DRY.
00:22:32.53\00:22:35.53
ALL RIGHT, WE'RE GONNA MOVE
ON TO QUESTION NUMBER THREE.
00:22:35.53\00:22:40.23
WHY DOES THE BIBLE SAY
THAT I NEED TO HONOR MY PARENTS?
00:22:40.23\00:22:47.00
NOW YOU NOTICE THAT IDEA ABOUT
HONORING YOUR PARENTS, IT'S NOT
00:22:47.00\00:22:50.53
ONE OF THE TEN SUGGESTIONS
OR THE TEN RECOMMENDATIONS.
00:22:50.53\00:22:55.10
IT'S CALLED A COMMANDMENT
AND IT'S RIGHT IN THERE WITH
00:22:55.10\00:22:58.50
DO NOT MURDER, DO NOT STEAL,
HONOR YOUR MOM AND YOUR DAD.
00:22:58.50\00:23:03.53
NOW THAT MUST HAVE
BEEN A PRIORITY TO GOD.
00:23:03.53\00:23:06.06
YOU SEE, THE SUCCESS OF
A CULTURE IS BUILT ON THOSE
00:23:06.06\00:23:10.26
WITH KNOWLEDGE AND EXPERIENCE
TRANSFERRING THAT TO THOSE
00:23:10.26\00:23:14.50
WHO ARE LEARNING
THAT DON'T HAVE THAT YET.
00:23:14.50\00:23:17.16
AND YOUR PARENTS
HAVE LIVED LONGER.
00:23:17.16\00:23:20.33
I USED TO THINK MY
DAD DIDN'T KNOW ANYTHING.
00:23:20.33\00:23:23.03
I USED TO THINK MY
MOM DIDN'T KNOW ANYTHING.
00:23:23.03\00:23:25.53
AND BECAUSE I LEARNED A
FEW THINGS THEY DIDN'T KNOW, I
00:23:25.53\00:23:28.40
THOUGHT I KNEW MORE THAN THEM.
00:23:28.40\00:23:30.66
BUT THE GENERAL WISDOM OF LIFE
FOR NEGOTIATING THE BIG ISSUES
00:23:30.66\00:23:34.86
OF LIFE, YOUR PARENTS HAVE
OFTEN BEEN DOWN THAT ROAD AND
00:23:34.86\00:23:38.43
SOMETIMES, EVEN THOUGH
THEY DO THINGS THAT MAY IRK YOU,
00:23:38.43\00:23:41.43
HONOR GOD BY HONORING THEM.
00:23:41.43\00:23:43.63
NOW YOU KNOW
WHAT THE PROMISE IS?
00:23:43.63\00:23:45.53
HONOR YOUR MOTHER AND FATHER,
THAT YOUR DAYS MAY BE LONG
00:23:45.53\00:23:50.13
ON THE LAND.
00:23:50.13\00:23:52.50
AND BRIEF DEFINITION OF
THAT, YOU WANT TO STAY ALIVE?
00:23:52.50\00:23:57.06
HE SAYS IT'LL
PRESERVE YOUR LIFE.
00:23:57.06\00:24:00.60
IT'S INTERESTING.
00:24:00.60\00:24:02.00
THE COUNTRIES OF THE WORLD
THAT HAVE THE LONGEST LIFESPAN,
00:24:02.00\00:24:04.80
IN ASIA, ALSO HAVE THE GREATEST
REGARD FOR THEIR SENIORS.
00:24:04.80\00:24:10.06
SO I JUST THINK
THAT'S SOMETHING TO CONSIDER.
00:24:10.06\00:24:12.33
HONOR YOUR MOM AND DAD.
00:24:12.33\00:24:13.33
I NEVER DID READ THE
VERSE THAT GOES WITH THAT.
00:24:13.33\00:24:15.63
EPHESIANS 6:1-3, "CHILDREN,
OBEY YOUR PARENTS IN THE LORD."
00:24:15.63\00:24:22.73
NOW SOMEONE ASKED A QUESTION,
"WELL, WHAT IF, YOU KNOW,
00:24:22.73\00:24:25.60
YOUR--WHAT IF YOUR PARENTS
ARE DOING SOMETHING WRONG?"
00:24:25.60\00:24:28.03
HE SAYS, "OBEY
THEM IN THE LORD."
00:24:28.03\00:24:31.33
I USED TO GO TO
THE MOVIES WITH MY MOM.
00:24:31.33\00:24:34.43
SHE WAS A FILM CRITIC.
00:24:34.43\00:24:35.50
AND EVEN AFTER I GOT
PAST THE AGE OF 10 OR WHATEVER
00:24:35.50\00:24:39.33
IT WAS FOR THE CHILD TICKET,
'CAUSE I WAS SHORT, SHE SAID,
00:24:39.33\00:24:42.90
"DOUG, JUST LIE."
00:24:42.90\00:24:44.96
IT WAS MY MOM TELLING ME TO LIE.
00:24:44.96\00:24:46.66
WELL, AT THAT POINT IN MY
LIFE, I DIDN'T REALLY CARE.
00:24:46.66\00:24:49.10
BUT THEN AFTER I BECAME
A CHRISTIAN, MOM ASKED ME
00:24:49.10\00:24:51.73
TO FUDGE ON THE TRUTH, I
SAID, "MOM, I CAN'T DO THAT.
00:24:51.73\00:24:54.53
I'M A CHRISTIAN NOW.
00:24:54.53\00:24:55.66
I LOVE YOU, I RESPECT
YOU, I WANT TO HONOR YOU,
00:24:55.66\00:24:59.36
BUT I GOTTA HONOR GOD FIRST."
00:24:59.36\00:25:01.83
AND SO THAT'S WHAT IT MEANS.
00:25:01.83\00:25:02.96
HONOR YOUR PARENTS IN
THE LORD, FOR THIS IS RIGHT.
00:25:02.96\00:25:06.33
'HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER,'
WHICH IS THE FIRST COMMANDMENT
00:25:06.33\00:25:09.46
WITH A PROMISE, 'THAT IT MIGHT
BE WELL WITH YOU AND THAT YOU
00:25:09.46\00:25:13.50
MIGHT LIVE LONG
UPON THE EARTH.'"
00:25:13.50\00:25:15.76
EVEN AT TIMES IT'S
JUST DRIVING YOU CRAZY.
00:25:15.76\00:25:18.06
YOUR MOM AND DAD, YOU MIGHT
BE THINKING, DRIVING YOU CRAZY.
00:25:18.06\00:25:20.73
AND KEEP IN MIND WE GOT FIVE
KIDS AND SIX GRANDKIDS, SO I
00:25:20.73\00:25:24.80
KNOW A LITTLE BIT HOW IT GOES.
00:25:24.80\00:25:26.96
TWO OF OUR BOYS AT
HOME RIGHT NOW, TEENAGERS.
00:25:26.96\00:25:29.40
HI STEVEN, KAREN.
00:25:29.40\00:25:31.40
KAREN'S MY WIFE.
00:25:31.40\00:25:32.40
SHE'S NOT ONE OF THE CHILDREN.
00:25:32.40\00:25:33.40
AND NATHAN.
00:25:33.40\00:25:34.86
HOPEFULLY THEY'RE WATCHING OR I
JUST WAVED TO ALL THESE PEOPLE.
00:25:34.86\00:25:39.00
BUT, YOU KNOW, IN FAMILIES
SOMETIMES WE CAN IRRITATE
00:25:39.00\00:25:41.90
EACH OTHER.
00:25:41.90\00:25:43.16
DAD'S NOT ALWAYS A SAINT.
00:25:43.16\00:25:45.46
KIDS CAN THINK DAD'S
NOT BEING FAIR OR WHATEVER.
00:25:45.46\00:25:49.50
BUT WHEN YOU HONOR THEM,
YOU PLEASE GOD AND THAT'S
00:25:49.50\00:25:52.76
THE ONE ULTIMATELY
THAT WE NEED TO ANSWER TO.
00:25:52.76\00:25:55.33
NUMBER FOUR, WHAT DOES IT
MEAN TO HONOR YOUR PARENTS?
00:25:55.33\00:26:03.56
WELL, IT MEANS LOVING THEM.
00:26:03.56\00:26:05.36
BY THE WAY, YOU CAN
CHOOSE TO LOVE THEM.
00:26:05.36\00:26:07.83
YOU MAY NOT ALWAYS FEEL LOVING.
00:26:07.83\00:26:09.23
I REMEMBER ONE TIME MY
MOTHER GOT SO IRRITATED WITH ME,
00:26:09.23\00:26:12.20
SHE TOOK ME BY THE THROAT.
00:26:12.20\00:26:15.23
AND YOU'D UNDERSTAND BETTER
IF YOU KNEW ME AT THAT AGE.
00:26:15.23\00:26:18.56
I ACTUALLY DON'T
BLAME HER FOR THAT.
00:26:18.56\00:26:21.90
SHE TOOK ME BY THE THROAT
AND I'LL NEVER FORGET SHE SAID,
00:26:21.90\00:26:26.20
"I LOVE YOU!"
00:26:26.20\00:26:28.10
SHE WASN'T VERY STRONG,
SO I WASN'T WORRIED ABOUT HER
00:26:28.10\00:26:30.16
CHOKING ME TO DEATH.
00:26:30.16\00:26:31.40
I WAS ABOUT 13.
00:26:31.40\00:26:32.63
SHE SAID, "I LOVE YOU, BUT
I DON'T LIKE YOU VERY MUCH."
00:26:32.63\00:26:37.83
AND I'VE HEARD KIDS SAY BEFORE,
"I HATE YOU," TO THEIR PARENTS
00:26:37.83\00:26:43.46
OR THEIR--I FEEL SO BAD.
00:26:43.46\00:26:45.20
ONE TIME, MY BROTHER AND I GOT
INTO A FIGHT THAT WAS SO BAD.
00:26:45.20\00:26:48.73
MOM WAS GONE,
WE WERE HOME ALONE.
00:26:48.73\00:26:51.23
I THINK IT WAS OVER A COMB.
00:26:51.23\00:26:53.56
LOOK AT ME NOW.
00:26:53.56\00:26:54.80
I WAS FIGHTING OVER A COMB.
00:26:54.80\00:26:59.20
AND I SAID, "I
WISH YOU WERE DEAD."
00:26:59.20\00:27:03.03
NOW MY BROTHER IS GONE.
00:27:03.03\00:27:04.16
HE'S BEEN GONE FOR YEARS.
00:27:04.16\00:27:05.30
AND YOU KNOW, I'VE ALWAYS
RUED THE DAY THAT I SAID THAT
00:27:05.30\00:27:07.73
TO HIM.
00:27:07.73\00:27:08.80
SOMETIMES IN A FIT OF ANGER,
EVEN IN FAMILIES WHERE YOU LOVE
00:27:08.80\00:27:11.03
EACH OTHER, YOU SAY REALLY DUMB
THINGS THAT YOU MAY NOT MEAN.
00:27:11.03\00:27:17.03
CHOOSE TO TRUST AND HONOR YOUR
PARENTS, BE RESPECTFUL IN THE
00:27:17.03\00:27:20.50
WORDS THAT YOU SPEAK
TO THEM, AND LOVE THEM.
00:27:20.50\00:27:24.73
I HEARD ABOUT A MAN THAT--
A GENERAL CONQUERED THIS CITY
00:27:24.73\00:27:29.33
AND THEY WERE GONNA
BURN THE CITY THE NEXT DAY.
00:27:29.33\00:27:31.96
AND HE TOLD TWO BROTHERS
THAT HAD SHOWN SOME FAVOR TO THE
00:27:31.96\00:27:35.13
CONQUERING GENERAL, HE SAYS,
"BECAUSE YOU GUYS HAVE BEEN
00:27:35.13\00:27:38.13
REASONABLE," SAYS, "I'M
GONNA LET YOU GO INTO THE CITY
00:27:38.13\00:27:41.03
AND I'M GONNA LET YOU CARRY
OUT ALL OF THE VALUABLES THAT
00:27:41.03\00:27:43.70
YOU CAN CARRY IN YOUR ARMS."
00:27:43.70\00:27:46.23
SO THEY RAN INTO THE CITY
AND THEY CAME OUT PRETTY SOON.
00:27:46.23\00:27:48.40
ONE WAS CARRYING THE MOTHER AND
THE OTHER BROTHER WAS CARRYING
00:27:48.40\00:27:51.46
THE FATHER.
00:27:51.46\00:27:53.83
AND WHAT WOULD YOU CARRY OUT?
00:27:53.83\00:27:56.43
YOU KNOW, A LOT OF PEOPLE
SAY, "IF YOUR HOUSE IS ON FIRE,
00:27:56.43\00:27:59.06
WHAT WOULD YOU GRAB?"
00:27:59.06\00:28:00.40
A LOT OF PEOPLE SAY, "WELL, I
NEED THE PICTURES OF THE KIDS."
00:28:00.40\00:28:02.83
BUT THEY NEVER SAY THE KIDS.
00:28:02.83\00:28:05.70
OH YEAH, BUT AS LONG
AS I GOT THE PICTURES.
00:28:05.70\00:28:10.83
SO, YOU KNOW, WE NEED TO
TRUST OUR PARENTS AND THERE'S
00:28:10.83\00:28:16.30
A BALANCE.
00:28:16.30\00:28:17.20
YOU KNOW WHAT A
PARENT'S JOB IS TO SOME EXTENT?
00:28:17.20\00:28:20.80
AND EVERY PARENT
STRUGGLES WITH HOW TO DO IT.
00:28:20.80\00:28:23.36
WE'RE PREPARING
YOU FOR INDEPENDENCE.
00:28:23.36\00:28:27.53
FROM THE TIME YOU'RE
BORN, YOU ARE 100% DEPENDENT.
00:28:27.53\00:28:32.16
MATTER OF FACT, SOMEONE
ONCE DESCRIBED A BABY AS
00:28:32.16\00:28:35.36
AN APPARATUS WITH A LOUD NOISE
AT ONE END AND NO RESPONSIBILITY
00:28:35.36\00:28:40.30
AT THE OTHER END.
00:28:40.30\00:28:42.50
AND FROM THAT POINT WHEN
YOU ENTER THE WORLD AND YOUR
00:28:42.50\00:28:45.10
PARENTS ARE DOING EVERYTHING
FOR YOU, THEY ARE TEACHING
00:28:45.10\00:28:47.26
YOU--AND YOU'RE ALSO
VERY SELFISH CREATURES
00:28:47.26\00:28:49.50
WHEN YOU'RE BORN.
00:28:49.50\00:28:50.50
YOU REALIZE THAT?
00:28:50.50\00:28:51.56
YOU DON'T CARE IF IT'S
THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT AND
00:28:51.56\00:28:53.63
YOU'RE CRYING AND MOM IS TIRED.
00:28:53.63\00:28:55.40
YOU DON'T CARE.
00:28:55.40\00:28:56.66
YOU JUST--YOU SAY, "I
GOT A PLUMBING PROBLEM.
00:28:56.66\00:28:58.56
I WANT SOME FOOD."
00:28:58.56\00:28:59.96
AND YOU DON'T REALLY
THINK ABOUT HOW OTHER PEOPLE
00:28:59.96\00:29:02.06
MIGHT FEEL.
00:29:02.06\00:29:02.96
THAT MUST BE TAUGHT.
00:29:02.96\00:29:04.20
IF YOU'RE NEVER TAUGHT TO
THINK ABOUT HOW OTHER PEOPLE
00:29:04.20\00:29:06.56
ARE FEELING AND
PUTTING OTHER PEOPLE AHEAD,
00:29:06.56\00:29:08.80
YOU'RE VERY SELF-CENTERED.
00:29:08.80\00:29:10.26
YOU BECOME VERY SELFISH.
00:29:10.26\00:29:11.36
YOU NEED TO LEARN TO SHARE,
TO LOVE, TO CARE ABOUT OTHERS,
00:29:11.36\00:29:14.96
'CAUSE IT DOESN'T
COME NATURAL FOR BABIES.
00:29:14.96\00:29:16.93
THAT'S WHY--YOU EVER
HEARD SOMEONE SAY, "OH,
00:29:16.93\00:29:18.83
YOU'RE BEING A BABY."
00:29:18.83\00:29:19.80
WHAT DO THEY MEAN BY THAT?
00:29:19.80\00:29:20.93
JUST THINKING ABOUT YOURSELF.
00:29:20.93\00:29:23.60
AND SO PARENTS' JOB IS TO RAISE
YOU OUT OF THAT AND TO PREPARE
00:29:23.60\00:29:28.16
YOU FOR MORE AND MORE
INDEPENDENCE, WHERE ULTIMATELY
00:29:28.16\00:29:33.26
YOU FLY OFF ON YOUR OWN.
00:29:33.26\00:29:35.16
AND HOPEFULLY YOU RETURN TO
THE NEST EVERY NOW AND THEN.
00:29:35.16\00:29:37.36
YOU'VE GOT A RELATIONSHIP.
00:29:37.36\00:29:38.86
YOU KNOW,
PRESIDENT HERBERT BUSH,
00:29:38.86\00:29:43.86
SOMEONE ASKED HIM,
"WHAT WAS YOUR GREATEST
00:29:43.86\00:29:46.00
ACCOMPLISHMENT IN LIFE?"
00:29:46.00\00:29:47.26
NOW HE HAD A LOT TO TALK ABOUT.
00:29:47.26\00:29:49.26
YOU KNOW, WORLD WAR II VETERAN,
SURVIVED BEING SHOT DOWN.
00:29:49.26\00:29:52.83
PRESIDENT, CIA
DIRECTOR, A LOT OF THINGS.
00:29:52.83\00:29:55.13
YOU KNOW WHAT HE SAID HIS
GREATEST ACCOMPLISHMENT WAS?
00:29:55.13\00:29:57.06
HE SAID, "MY
KIDS STILL COME HOME."
00:29:57.06\00:30:00.30
SO YOU WANT TO
MAINTAIN A RELATIONSHIP WITH
00:30:00.30\00:30:03.13
YOUR PARENTS.
00:30:03.13\00:30:04.20
AND I KNOW AT TIMES IT CAN
BE TOUGH AND THERE ARE SPELLS
00:30:04.20\00:30:06.83
WHERE YOU FEEL LIKE, "BOY,
THEY HAVE JUST--THEY'VE BEEN
00:30:06.83\00:30:09.00
SUFFOCATING ME WITH CONTROL
AND RULES AND FINALLY I'M OFF
00:30:09.00\00:30:11.56
TO COLLEGE AND WHOOPEE!"
00:30:11.56\00:30:12.80
AND YOU FORGET
TO CALL FOR A MONTH.
00:30:12.80\00:30:16.36
HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER.
00:30:16.36\00:30:17.53
STAY IN TOUCH WITH THEM.
00:30:17.53\00:30:18.93
AND YOU KNOW, WITH EAGLES,
EAGLES AREN'T LIKE SOME BIRDS,
00:30:18.93\00:30:23.86
WHERE AS SOON AS THEY JUMP
OUT OF THE NEST, THEY CAN FLY.
00:30:23.86\00:30:26.80
OR LIKE A BUTTERFLY.
00:30:26.80\00:30:27.86
FIRST TIME, SUCCESSFUL FLIGHT.
00:30:27.86\00:30:31.26
EAGLES NEED TO LEARN TO
FLY AND THOSE FLEDGLING EAGLES,
00:30:31.26\00:30:36.83
WHEN THEY'RE TEENAGERS IS REALLY
WHAT THEY ARE, IF THEY GET OUT
00:30:36.83\00:30:41.43
OF THE NEST TOO SOON,
THEY'LL DROP TO THE GROUND
00:30:41.43\00:30:43.60
AND THEY CAN'T
CLIMB BACK UP LIKE AN OWL.
00:30:43.60\00:30:45.73
AN OWL CAN CLIMB BACK UP
THE TREE WITH ITS TALONS.
00:30:45.73\00:30:47.96
AN EAGLE CAN'T.
00:30:47.96\00:30:49.53
FIFTEEN PERCENT OF ALL
ADOLESCENT EAGLES DO NOT
00:30:49.53\00:30:54.46
SURVIVE LEARNING TO FLY BECAUSE
THEY MAYBE TRY TOO SOON BEFORE
00:30:54.46\00:30:59.36
ALL THE FEATHERS ARE GROWN.
00:30:59.36\00:31:00.80
SO THEIR TIMING IS VERY
IMPORTANT, AND THAT'S WHY YOU
00:31:00.80\00:31:04.20
WANT TO TRUST YOUR PARENTS.
00:31:04.20\00:31:05.23
AND I ADMIT IT.
00:31:05.23\00:31:06.23
I'M SOMETIMES THAT WAY.
00:31:06.23\00:31:07.23
PARENTS MIGHT BE
TOO PROTECTIVE TOO LONG.
00:31:07.23\00:31:09.76
SOMETIMES ONE PARENT IS A
LITTLE MORE PERMISSIVE AND
00:31:09.76\00:31:12.60
THE OTHER ONE IS A LITTLE
MORE LENIENT AND YOU ALWAYS WANT
00:31:12.60\00:31:15.36
TO GO TO THE PERMISSIVE ONE.
00:31:15.36\00:31:16.46
THEN YOU GO BACK TO THE OTHER
AND SAY, "YEAH, BUT DAD SAYS
00:31:16.46\00:31:18.60
IT'S OKAY."
00:31:18.60\00:31:19.93
YOU EVER DO THAT BEFORE?
00:31:19.93\00:31:21.43
UH-HUH, WORKING MOM
AND DAD AGAINST EACH OTHER.
00:31:21.43\00:31:24.36
THAT'S TOUGH.
00:31:24.36\00:31:25.33
I DID IT TOO.
00:31:25.33\00:31:26.93
I KNOW, IT'S STANDARD
OPERATING PROCEDURE FOR KIDS.
00:31:26.93\00:31:31.36
SO WHAT DOES IT MEAN
TO HONOR YOUR PARENTS?
00:31:31.36\00:31:33.36
YOU GOT TO LOVE 'EM.
00:31:33.36\00:31:34.50
IT SAYS HERE IN THE VERSE,
PROVERBS 23:22, "LISTEN TO YOUR
00:31:34.50\00:31:40.23
FATHER WHO BEGAT YOU, AND
DO NOT DESPISE YOUR MOTHER
00:31:40.23\00:31:44.76
WHEN SHE IS OLD."
00:31:44.76\00:31:46.86
YOU WANT TO RESPECT
'EM, YOU WANT TO HONOR THEM,
00:31:46.86\00:31:49.50
AND REMEMBER THEM.
00:31:49.50\00:31:50.86
AND ALSO CARE FOR 'EM
EVEN WHEN THEY'RE OLD.
00:31:50.86\00:31:53.16
QUESTION NUMBER FIVE, HOW
CAN I RESIST PEER PRESSURE?
00:31:53.16\00:32:02.63
NOW I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU, BUT
IF I'M TO BE PERFECTLY HONEST,
00:32:02.63\00:32:07.00
I LIKE TO BE LIKED AS
OPPOSED TO LIKING TO BE LOATHED.
00:32:07.00\00:32:12.10
WOULD YOU RATHER
BE LIKED OR LOATHED?
00:32:12.10\00:32:14.90
MOST OF US I
THINK WANT TO BE LIKED.
00:32:14.90\00:32:17.13
WE--YOU KNOW, YOU DON'T WANT
TO JUST LIVE FOR WHAT EVERYBODY
00:32:17.13\00:32:19.33
THINKS OF YOU.
00:32:19.33\00:32:20.33
AND WE WANT TO FIT IN.
00:32:20.33\00:32:21.33
WE WANT TO BELONG.
00:32:21.33\00:32:23.03
YOU KNOW, THIS IS ESPECIALLY
KEEN FOR ME BECAUSE SOME OF YOU
00:32:23.03\00:32:26.36
HAVE GONE TO A NEW
SCHOOL BEFORE AND YOU DON'T KNOW
00:32:26.36\00:32:29.23
ANYBODY AND EVERYBODY ELSE HAVE
GOT RELATIONSHIPS AND YOU FEEL
00:32:29.23\00:32:32.36
LIKE YOU'RE ON THE OUTSIDE.
00:32:32.36\00:32:33.56
I DON'T KNOW IF ANY OF YOU HAVE
EVER BEEN THROUGH THAT BEFORE.
00:32:33.56\00:32:35.90
I WENT TO 14 DIFFERENT SCHOOLS
AND HALF A DOZEN DIFFERENT
00:32:35.90\00:32:39.26
SUMMER CAMPS, WHERE I WAS
DROPPED INTO THESE STRANGE
00:32:39.26\00:32:42.16
ENVIRONMENTS.
00:32:42.16\00:32:43.30
I DIDN'T KNOW ANYBODY.
00:32:43.30\00:32:44.96
AND I--SOMETIMES I REALLY
PUSHED THE ENVELOPE TRYING
00:32:44.96\00:32:49.23
TO GET SOMEONE TO BE
MY FRIEND OR BE LIKED.
00:32:49.23\00:32:52.23
AND I KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE.
00:32:52.23\00:32:54.73
BUT YOU KNOW WHAT THE
MOST IMPORTANT THING IS?
00:32:54.73\00:32:57.40
YOU MAKE UP YOUR MIND, "LORD,
I HAVE GIVEN MY LIFE TO YOU.
00:32:57.40\00:33:00.80
I AM HERE FIRST AND
FOREMOST TO REPRESENT YOU.
00:33:00.80\00:33:03.26
I AM GONNA BE THE
PERSON YOU WANT ME TO BE.
00:33:03.26\00:33:06.06
I WILL BE NICE TO PEOPLE
AND I WILL HOPE ALONG THE WAY
00:33:06.06\00:33:09.43
I CAN MAKE SOME FRIENDS."
00:33:09.43\00:33:11.13
NOW THERE'S SOME SCRIPTURES
THAT GIVE US SOME GUIDELINES
00:33:11.13\00:33:14.60
ON HOW DO YOU
RESIST PEER PRESSURE.
00:33:14.60\00:33:17.33
PROVERBS 12:26, "THE RIGHTEOUS
SHOULD CHOOSE HIS FRIENDS
00:33:17.33\00:33:23.40
CAREFULLY, FOR THE WAY OF
THE WICKED LEADS THEM ASTRAY."
00:33:23.40\00:33:27.93
PICK YOUR FRIENDS CAREFULLY.
00:33:27.93\00:33:29.50
SOMEONE SAID ONE TIME--WELL, MY
DAD USED TO ALWAYS QUOTE THIS.
00:33:29.50\00:33:32.73
IF YOU SLEEP WITH
DOGS, YOU'RE GONNA GET FLEAS.
00:33:32.73\00:33:36.20
AND SO YOU WANT TO
PICK YOUR FRIENDS CAREFULLY.
00:33:36.20\00:33:39.13
EXODUS 23:2, VERY SIMPLE,
"YOU SHALL NOT FOLLOW A CROWD
00:33:39.13\00:33:45.36
TO DO EVIL."
00:33:45.36\00:33:46.66
IF EVERYBODY'S DOING THE WRONG
THING--YOU KNOW, THE REASON
00:33:46.66\00:33:50.53
THAT DANIEL IS A HERO IN
THE BIBLE AND ELIJAH ARE HEROES
00:33:50.53\00:33:54.46
IN THE BIBLE AND JOSEPH,
THEY DIDN'T DO WHAT EVERYONE
00:33:54.46\00:33:57.43
ELSE WAS GONNA DO.
00:33:57.43\00:33:58.56
THEY DECIDED FIRST, "I'M
GONNA FIND OUT WHAT GOD WANTS
00:33:58.56\00:34:01.33
AND I'M GONNA PUT GOD FIRST."
00:34:01.33\00:34:03.70
IN THE END, LOT OF
PEOPLE LOVED AND RESPECTED THEM,
00:34:03.70\00:34:06.73
BUT THERE WAS A TIME
WHEN THEY WERE OUTSIDERS.
00:34:06.73\00:34:08.93
AND SO DON'T BE AFRAID OF THAT.
00:34:08.93\00:34:11.80
YOU KNOW, I'LL
TELL YOU A LITTLE TRICK.
00:34:11.80\00:34:14.36
IF YOU GO BUY A CAR--NOW,
WHEN I BOUGHT MY FIRST CAR
00:34:14.36\00:34:18.63
BY MYSELF, I WISH I
KNEW THEN WHAT I KNOW NOW.
00:34:18.63\00:34:21.30
I WAS YOUNG, I'D GOTTEN A
LOAN APPROVED BY THE BANK.
00:34:21.30\00:34:24.20
I MARCHED IN THERE, I
PAID THE STICKER PRICE.
00:34:24.20\00:34:27.13
I PROBABLY PAID 10% OR 15%
MORE THAN I SHOULD HAVE PAID
00:34:27.13\00:34:30.13
BECAUSE I JUST DIDN'T KNOW.
00:34:30.13\00:34:31.26
YOU KNOW WHAT THEY DID?
00:34:31.26\00:34:32.60
AFTER THEY SAW I WAS INTERESTED
AND I HAD A BANK APPROVED LOAN,
00:34:32.60\00:34:35.53
THE SALESMAN BROUGHT ME
INTO HIS LITTLE OFFICE AND HE
00:34:35.53\00:34:37.86
BROUGHT IN TWO OTHER GUYS.
00:34:37.86\00:34:38.93
AND THEY ALL BEIN' REAL
FRIENDLY AND NICE TO ME, SAYING
00:34:38.93\00:34:41.06
WHAT A GREAT CAR IT WAS.
00:34:41.06\00:34:42.10
AND THE PEER PRESSURE OF TWO OR
THREE PEOPLE GANGING UP ON ME,
00:34:42.10\00:34:45.13
THEY SAID, "OH MAN,
THIS IS SUCH A GREAT DEAL.
00:34:45.13\00:34:47.23
YOU GOT TO BUY THIS."
00:34:47.23\00:34:48.20
"OH, OKAY."
00:34:48.20\00:34:49.26
AND I BOUGHT THE CAR.
00:34:49.26\00:34:50.23
I KIND OF GOT PRESSURED INTO IT.
00:34:50.23\00:34:51.20
THEY--THIS IS A TACTIC THEY
USE BECAUSE WE ARE INFLUENCED
00:34:51.20\00:34:53.56
BY WHAT A GROUP THINKS.
00:34:53.56\00:34:56.46
THEY'VE DONE A LOT OF
EXPERIMENTS ABOUT THIS AND
00:34:56.46\00:35:01.66
THEY'RE TAKEN ONE PERSON IN
A GROUP IN A SCIENTIFIC STUDY,
00:35:01.66\00:35:04.40
THEY'VE DROPPED HIM INTO
A CLASSROOM WHERE EVERYBODY
00:35:04.40\00:35:06.50
IN THE CLASS WILL SAY SOMETHING
THAT IS CRAZY, MORALLY WRONG,
00:35:06.50\00:35:11.53
AND THEY'LL ALL SAY, "YEAH,
THAT'S REALLY THE RIGHT THING."
00:35:11.53\00:35:13.76
AND THEY FIND, LITTLE BY
LITTLE, MOST YOUNG PEOPLE
00:35:13.76\00:35:16.06
WILL ACQUIESCE.
00:35:16.06\00:35:17.50
THEY'LL GO ALONG AND
SAY, "YEAH, THAT'S WHAT I
00:35:17.50\00:35:19.56
THINK TOO."
00:35:19.56\00:35:20.73
THEY ALLOW THE CROWD
TO MANIPULATE THEM WHEN
00:35:20.73\00:35:23.30
THEY'VE PUT IN THESE TESTS.
00:35:23.30\00:35:24.53
YOU GOT TO THINK FOR
YOURSELF WHAT RIGHT AND WRONG IS
00:35:24.53\00:35:26.50
ACCORDING TO THE SCRIPTURES.
00:35:26.50\00:35:29.20
ALL RIGHT, QUESTION NUMBER
SIX, WHAT ARE SOME PROVEN BIBLE
00:35:29.20\00:35:34.66
PRINCIPLES THAT WILL
HELP YOU TO PICK GOOD FRIENDS?
00:35:34.66\00:35:40.33
ALL RIGHT, WE'RE
GONNA GO THROUGH THIS.
00:35:40.33\00:35:42.33
BY THE WAY, JUST A
FEW QUOTES ON FRIENDS.
00:35:42.33\00:35:46.33
A FRIEND IS A PERSON WITH
WHOM I MIGHT THINK OUT LOUD.
00:35:46.33\00:35:50.70
ISN'T THAT NICE?
00:35:50.70\00:35:51.70
ISN'T THAT TRUE?
00:35:51.70\00:35:52.66
A FRIEND IS SOMEONE WHO
COMES IN WHEN THE WHOLE WORLD
00:35:52.66\00:35:54.56
GOES OUT.
00:35:54.56\00:35:56.40
DO YOU HAVE SOME FRIENDS?
00:35:56.40\00:35:57.56
EVERYBODY NEEDS
A FEW REAL FRIENDS.
00:35:57.56\00:35:59.86
A FRIEND IS ONE WHO
KNOWS ALL ABOUT ME AND THEY
00:35:59.86\00:36:02.16
LIKE ME ANYWAY.
00:36:02.16\00:36:04.56
THAT'S A GOOD ANSWER.
00:36:04.56\00:36:06.36
ALL RIGHT, A.
00:36:06.36\00:36:07.96
I'M GONNA GIVE YOU A LITTLE
LIST OF LETTERS ON HOW DO YOU
00:36:07.96\00:36:09.93
PICK A FRIEND.
00:36:09.93\00:36:11.06
DO NOT BE
FRIENDS WITH A HOTHEAD.
00:36:11.06\00:36:14.63
SCRIPTURE?
00:36:14.63\00:36:16.76
"MAKE NO FRIENDS," AND
THIS IS PROVERBS 22:24-25.
00:36:16.76\00:36:20.90
"MAKE NO FRIENDS WITH AN ANGRY
MAN, AND WITH A FURIOUS MAN DO
00:36:20.90\00:36:25.10
NOT GO, LEST YOU LEARN
HIS WAYS AND HE SETS A SNARE
00:36:25.10\00:36:29.00
FOR YOUR SOUL."
00:36:29.00\00:36:31.96
PEOPLE WHO HAVE GOT BAD TEMPERS
OFTEN COMMIT CRIMES OR THEY DO
00:36:31.96\00:36:34.46
OUTRAGEOUS THINGS.
00:36:34.46\00:36:35.50
AND IF YOU'RE STANDING
TOO CLOSE BY WHEN THEY START
00:36:35.50\00:36:38.06
TO BOIL OVER, YOU
MAY GET BURNED ALSO.
00:36:38.06\00:36:40.93
AND YOU START
LEARNING THEIR WAYS.
00:36:40.93\00:36:42.86
SO YOU WANT TO AVOID
PEOPLE THAT HAVE--DON'T KNOW HOW
00:36:42.86\00:36:45.23
TO CONTROL
THEMSELVES, Aá BAD TEMPERS.
00:36:45.23\00:36:47.36
BY THE WAY, DEMON POSSESSION.
00:36:47.36\00:36:50.46
YOU EVER HEARD A PERSON
SAY, "I LOST MY TEMPER"?
00:36:50.46\00:36:53.16
WELL, YOU LOST IT.
00:36:53.16\00:36:54.16
WHO DO YOU THINK FOUND IT?
00:36:54.16\00:36:55.56
I BELIEVE WHEN YOU LOSE CONTROL,
SOMEONE ELSE GETS CONTROL.
00:36:55.56\00:36:59.10
AND WHEN YOU LOSE YOUR
TEMPER, AT LEAST TEMPORARILY
00:36:59.10\00:37:02.63
YOU ARE DEMON POSSESSED.
00:37:02.63\00:37:04.36
I STAND BY THAT.
00:37:04.36\00:37:06.10
I HAVE SEEN A LOT OF PEOPLE,
WHEN THEY LOSE THEIR COOL
00:37:06.10\00:37:08.26
AND THEY SAY, "I BLEW IT.
00:37:08.26\00:37:09.36
I LOST MY TEMPER," AND
IT'S JUST LIKE THEY'RE BERSERK.
00:37:09.36\00:37:13.16
IT'S LIKE
THEY'RE DEMON POSSESSED.
00:37:13.16\00:37:15.20
PEOPLE THAT HAVE--BY
THE WAY, ONE MORE STATEMENT.
00:37:15.20\00:37:17.73
IT SAYS THE MORE SHALLOW
THE POT, THE QUICKER IT BOILS.
00:37:17.73\00:37:23.80
PEOPLE WHO LOSE THEIR
TEMPERS TOO QUICKLY, USUALLY
00:37:23.80\00:37:26.30
A LITTLE SHALLOW.
00:37:26.30\00:37:27.56
YOU GOT SOME DEPTH, YOU
DON'T BOIL OVER SO FAST.
00:37:27.56\00:37:30.23
ISN'T THAT RIGHT?
00:37:30.23\00:37:31.56
SO THAT'S ONE TIP.
00:37:31.56\00:37:32.73
FIND FRIENDS THAT AREN'T
GONNA BOIL OVER LIKE THAT.
00:37:32.73\00:37:35.46
B, AVOID SHOWOFFS, PEOPLE
WHO ALWAYS WANT TO BE THE CENTER
00:37:35.46\00:37:42.10
OF ATTENTION AND HAVE
EVERYBODY NOTICE THEM.
00:37:42.10\00:37:44.90
HERE'S A SCRIPTURE FOR THAT.
00:37:44.90\00:37:46.96
PROVERBS 16:19, "BETTER
TO BE OF A HUMBLE SPIRIT WITH
00:37:46.96\00:37:52.16
THE LOWLY, THAN TO DIVIDE
THE SPOIL WITH THE PROUD."
00:37:52.16\00:37:56.66
YOU KNOW, THE GREATEST, MOST
POWERFUL PEOPLE IN THE BIBLE,
00:37:56.66\00:37:59.20
SOMEONE LIKE KING
DAVID, I MEAN, HE WASN'T AFRAID
00:37:59.20\00:38:02.03
TO GO AGAINST GIANTS.
00:38:02.03\00:38:03.13
IT TAKES COURAGE TO BE HUMBLE.
00:38:03.13\00:38:05.13
AND YET HE WAS A
HUMBLE MAN IN SO MANY WAYS.
00:38:05.13\00:38:09.26
AND SO THAT'S A
GOOD PRINCIPLE TO FOLLOW.
00:38:09.26\00:38:12.03
BRAGGERS.
00:38:12.03\00:38:13.03
YOU KNOW WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS?
00:38:13.03\00:38:13.96
"A HAUGHTY SPIRIT
GOES BEFORE A FALL."
00:38:13.96\00:38:17.20
I'VE GOT A SCAR
UNDER MY LEFT EYE.
00:38:17.20\00:38:20.00
YOU CAN'T SEE IT NOW
'CAUSE IT'S COVERED BY WRINKLES.
00:38:20.00\00:38:23.10
I WILL SHOW YOU I
GOT SCAR ON MY LEFT HAND.
00:38:23.10\00:38:25.96
CUT MYSELF RIGHT DOWN TO
THE BONE WHEN I LIVED UP TO
00:38:25.96\00:38:28.10
THE CAVE.
00:38:28.10\00:38:29.06
SHOWING OFF.
00:38:29.06\00:38:30.00
I WAS GOING TO SPEAR A FISH IN
FRONT OF SOME HIKERS UP THERE.
00:38:30.00\00:38:32.73
SHOWIN' OFF, CARVING A STICK,
CUT MYSELF DOWN TO THE BONE.
00:38:32.73\00:38:36.13
IT'S STILL NUMB TODAY.
00:38:36.13\00:38:37.13
I JUST STITCH IT UP MYSELF.
00:38:37.13\00:38:39.60
SHOWIN' OFF,
DOIN' FLIPS ON A BIKE.
00:38:39.60\00:38:41.63
GIRLS WERE WATCHING.
00:38:41.63\00:38:42.56
THAT'S WHAT DID IT TO ME.
00:38:42.56\00:38:44.50
I WAS TRYIN' TO DO A
FLIP OFF A RAMP ON MY BIKE,
00:38:44.50\00:38:47.13
BIKE LANDED ON MY FACE.
00:38:47.13\00:38:48.40
IT CUT ME UNDER THE EYE.
00:38:48.40\00:38:49.40
HAD TO WEAR A PATCH FOR A WHILE
AND THIS IS NOW MY BAD EYE.
00:38:49.40\00:38:52.70
CUT MY LEFT FOOT.
00:38:52.70\00:38:54.26
SOME PEOPLE WERE THERE.
00:38:54.26\00:38:55.36
I WAS GONNA DIVE OFF THE ROCKS
INTO THE POOL OF MY CAVE AND
00:38:55.36\00:38:58.73
I'D BEEN LIVING AT
THE CAVE FOR A YEAR.
00:38:58.73\00:39:00.76
SOMEONE HAD PUT A GLASS GERBER
BABY FOOD JAR IN THE CREEK.
00:39:00.76\00:39:04.16
I'D WALKED
ACROSS IT SO MANY TIMES.
00:39:04.16\00:39:06.10
I DIDN'T SEE IT.
00:39:06.10\00:39:07.13
I STEPPED ON THE
GLASS, CUT MY FOOT OPEN.
00:39:07.13\00:39:10.96
SHOWIN' OFF,
SHOWIN' OFF, SHOWIN' OFF.
00:39:10.96\00:39:14.63
HAD TO STITCH THAT UP
MYSELF, TOO, 'CAUSE I WAS UP
00:39:14.63\00:39:17.06
IN THE MOUNTAINS.
00:39:17.06\00:39:19.56
IT WAS NUMB.
00:39:19.56\00:39:20.33
I DIDN'T FEEL IT.
00:39:20.33\00:39:22.10
HAUGHTY SPIRIT
GOES BEFORE A FALL.
00:39:22.10\00:39:24.10
YOU GOT SOMEONE ALWAYS SHOWIN'
OFF, YOU BETTER KEEP YOUR
00:39:24.10\00:39:26.06
DISTANCE BECAUSE THEY'RE GONNA
FALL AND THEY MIGHT HIT YOU
00:39:26.06\00:39:27.93
ON THEIR WAY DOWN.
00:39:27.93\00:39:28.96
SO DON'T PICK FRIENDS--TRY
AND ENCOURAGE YOUR FRIENDS WITH,
00:39:28.96\00:39:31.53
YOU KNOW, CHRISTIAN PRINCIPLES.
00:39:31.53\00:39:32.43
BUT FOR YOUR OWN DEVELOPMENT
IN LIFE, SOME GOOD PATTERNS
00:39:32.43\00:39:35.63
TO FOLLOW.
00:39:35.63\00:39:37.40
SHUN BULLIES.
00:39:37.40\00:39:40.96
BULLIES ARE NOT ALL BOYS.
00:39:40.96\00:39:43.86
GIRLS CAN BE BULLIES TOO.
00:39:43.86\00:39:45.26
IS THAT RIGHT?
00:39:45.26\00:39:46.46
AND BULLIES
AREN'T ALL WITH FISTS.
00:39:46.46\00:39:48.73
SOME PEOPLE
BULLY ON THE INTERNET.
00:39:48.73\00:39:50.70
THEY BULLY WITH GOSSIP.
00:39:50.70\00:39:52.00
AND THERE'S A LOT OF WAYS.
00:39:52.00\00:39:53.03
AND SO PEOPLE WHO LIKE TO
FIND PLEASURE IN MAKING FUN
00:39:53.03\00:39:55.96
OF OTHERS, THOSE ARE
ONES YOU WANT TO AVOID.
00:39:55.96\00:39:59.60
SCRIPTURE FOR
THAT, DEUTERONOMY 27:18.
00:39:59.60\00:40:03.66
"CURSED IS THE ONE WHO MAKES
THE BLIND WANDER OFF THE ROAD."
00:40:03.66\00:40:09.33
THERE'S A CURSE ON
PEOPLE WHO ARE TAKING ADVANTAGE
00:40:09.33\00:40:11.36
OF THE WEAK.
00:40:11.36\00:40:12.53
YOU DON'T WANT
TO BE AROUND THEM.
00:40:12.53\00:40:14.43
AVOID, ANSWER C--
NO, D, AVOID USERS.
00:40:14.43\00:40:23.00
PEOPLE WHO ARE
USING DRUGS IN ANY FORM.
00:40:23.00\00:40:25.93
YOU THINK ABOUT IT, WHY
WOULD YOU WANT TO GIVE SOMEONE
00:40:25.93\00:40:28.83
A DRUG THAT'S ADDICTIVE?
00:40:28.83\00:40:30.30
WHAT WOULD MAKE
YOU EVER DO THAT?
00:40:30.30\00:40:33.73
MAYBE IT'S BECAUSE MISERY LOVES
COMPANY AND YOU WANT TO TAKE
00:40:33.73\00:40:36.36
OTHER PEOPLE DOWN WITH YOU.
00:40:36.36\00:40:38.20
AND SO ANYONE WHO'S GONNA BE
USING, THEY'RE OFTEN TRYING TO
00:40:38.20\00:40:41.06
GET OTHERS TO USE WITH THEM
SO IT'LL MITIGATE THEIR GUILT.
00:40:41.06\00:40:45.56
AND, YOU KNOW, I'M SPEAKING
TO MYSELF BECAUSE I USED TO USE
00:40:45.56\00:40:49.60
AND I WOULD GIVE
IT TO OTHER PEOPLE.
00:40:49.60\00:40:51.60
SAY, "OH YES, SMOKING'S COOL.
00:40:51.60\00:40:52.50
YEAH, I REALLY ENJOY IT.
00:40:52.50\00:40:53.43
I'M NOT ADDICTED.
00:40:53.43\00:40:54.26
I CAN QUIT ANYTIME.
00:40:54.26\00:40:55.13
YOU WANT ONE?"
00:40:55.13\00:40:57.03
AND I HAD SOME FRIENDS,
I TOOK 'EM OUT DRINKING.
00:40:57.03\00:40:59.56
I WAS ABLE TO QUIT, PRAISE
THE LORD, AND THEY NEVER WERE.
00:40:59.56\00:41:02.56
AND LAST TIME I SAW
'EM, 20 YEARS LATER,
00:41:02.56\00:41:04.33
THEY WERE ALCOHOLICS.
00:41:04.33\00:41:05.86
SO YOU COULD
INFLUENCE SOMEONE'S LIFE FOREVER
00:41:05.86\00:41:09.33
BY ENCOURAGING THEM TO USE.
00:41:09.33\00:41:11.13
AND DON'T USE YOURSELF.
00:41:11.13\00:41:13.23
SO STAY AWAY FROM PEOPLE USING
DRUGS OR DEALING WITH DRUGS.
00:41:13.23\00:41:16.16
HABAKKUK 2:15, "WOE TO HIM
THAT GIVES HIS NEIGHBOR DRINK."
00:41:16.16\00:41:20.00
AND THERE, OF COURSE,
THAT GUY'S SMOKIN' SOMETHING
00:41:20.00\00:41:22.00
THAT LOOKS SUSPICIOUS.
00:41:22.00\00:41:23.53
AND ANSWER E,
CHOOSE SMART FRIENDS.
00:41:23.53\00:41:27.86
FIND OUT PEOPLE WHO ARE WISE
AND THAT WISDOM ISN'T ALWAYS
00:41:27.86\00:41:30.66
JUST BECAUSE, YOU KNOW, YOU
GOT A LOT OF BRAINY KNOWLEDGE.
00:41:30.66\00:41:33.33
WISDOM'S ALSO GOOD JUDGMENT.
00:41:33.33\00:41:35.46
PICK WISE FRIENDS.
00:41:35.46\00:41:36.53
AND HERE'S THE
SCRIPTURE FOR THAT.
00:41:36.53\00:41:39.30
PROVERBS 13:20, "HE WHO WALKS
WITH WISE MEN WILL BE WISE,
00:41:39.30\00:41:44.86
BUT THE COMPANION OF
FOOLS WILL BE DESTROYED."
00:41:44.86\00:41:48.43
AND SO, YOU KNOW, YOU CAN
LEARN SOME OF THOSE THINGS.
00:41:48.43\00:41:50.76
HANG AROUND WITH WISE PEOPLE.
00:41:50.76\00:41:52.43
NOW THIS IS THE PART
YOU MIGHT BE INTERESTED IN.
00:41:52.43\00:41:57.43
HOW CAN I BE SMART IN
MY DATING RELATIONSHIPS?
00:41:57.43\00:42:02.50
WELL, ONCE YOU GET TO BE
30 YEARS OLD AND YOU'RE OLD
00:42:02.50\00:42:05.70
ENOUGH TO DATE--JUST KIDDING.
00:42:05.70\00:42:09.43
YOU KNOW WHAT I AM SAYING?
00:42:09.43\00:42:11.93
OUR CULTURE IS SO BOMBARDED
WITH SEX, IT'S JUST LIKE
00:42:11.93\00:42:18.33
SHAKING HANDS, THAT
THEY'RE MAKIN' KIDS THAT ARE 11,
00:42:18.33\00:42:22.50
12 YEARS OLD START
TALKING ABOUT DATING.
00:42:22.50\00:42:24.93
AND YOU'RE THINKING--AS SOON
AS THEY START TO ENTER PUBERTY,
00:42:24.93\00:42:29.03
OH, MUST BE
TIME TO START DATING.
00:42:29.03\00:42:32.36
AND THAT'S REALLY CRAZY.
00:42:32.36\00:42:34.20
THAT'S LIKE A PERSON WANTING
TO DRIVE A FERRARI OFF THE LOT
00:42:34.20\00:42:37.00
BEFORE THEY PUT THE PAINT ON IT.
00:42:37.00\00:42:40.20
YOU'RE GROWING.
00:42:40.20\00:42:41.36
THAT'S JUST A PHASE OF GROWTH.
00:42:41.36\00:42:43.60
DON'T RUSH YOUR LIFE.
00:42:43.60\00:42:47.50
WELL, I'LL GET INTO
THAT IN JUST A LITTLE MORE.
00:42:47.50\00:42:50.63
HOW DO YOU--HOW ARE
YOU SMART IN THIS AREA?
00:42:50.63\00:42:53.16
PROVERBS 4:23, "KEEP
YOUR HEART WITH ALL DILIGENCE,
00:42:53.16\00:42:59.10
FOR OUT OF IT ARE THE
ISSUES OR THE SPRINGS OF LIFE."
00:42:59.10\00:43:03.83
GUARD YOUR HEART.
00:43:03.83\00:43:05.00
IT'S REALLY EASY TO
START GETTING WRAPPED UP IN
00:43:05.00\00:43:07.03
A RELATIONSHIP AND HAVE
YOUR HEART ALL GET BOUND UP
00:43:07.03\00:43:09.43
IN SOMEBODY.
00:43:09.43\00:43:10.90
AND THEN, AGAIN, PSALM 37:7,
"REST IN THE LORD, AND WAIT
00:43:10.90\00:43:17.03
PATIENTLY FOR HIM."
00:43:17.03\00:43:22.83
BE PATIENT.
00:43:22.83\00:43:24.60
YOU KNOW, BY THE TIME I
WAS 23 YEARS OLD, I HAD 3 KIDS.
00:43:24.60\00:43:29.76
AND SO LISTEN,
PLEASE, TO YOUR ELDER HERE.
00:43:29.76\00:43:34.70
I WISH I COULD GO BACK.
00:43:34.70\00:43:37.60
I LOVE MY KIDS, BUT I
DIDN'T KNOW HARDLY ANYTHING.
00:43:37.60\00:43:40.76
ALL OF A SUDDEN, I HAD
THE RESPONSIBILITY OF RAISING
00:43:40.76\00:43:42.66
THREE KIDS AND, YOU KNOW,
I COULD BARELY TIE MY SHOES.
00:43:42.66\00:43:47.26
THAT'S 'CAUSE I WAS BAREFOOT.
00:43:47.26\00:43:49.36
AND SO, YOU KNOW, YOU'RE-- I
THINK BACK NOW AND I THOUGHT,
00:43:49.36\00:43:53.43
"BOY, I THOUGHT I KNEW SO MUCH."
00:43:53.43\00:43:55.36
AND NOW I LOOK BACK AND THINK,
"AH, I STILL--I WAS JUST A KID.
00:43:55.36\00:43:57.96
I WAS JUST A KID."
00:43:57.96\00:43:59.10
AND I WAS
THINKING ABOUT MARRIAGE.
00:43:59.10\00:44:01.06
I WAS THINKING ABOUT
FAMILY AND ALL THESE THINGS
00:44:01.06\00:44:02.93
AND DIDN'T EVEN HAVE A JOB.
00:44:02.93\00:44:05.06
SO TAKE YOUR TIME IS ONE THING.
00:44:05.06\00:44:07.53
BUT I'VE GOT SOME OTHER TIPS.
00:44:07.53\00:44:09.33
MATTER OF FACT, THEY'RE TELLING
ME WE GOT A TEXT AND THEN I'LL
00:44:09.33\00:44:11.50
GIVE YOU SOME TIPS ON DATING.
00:44:11.50\00:44:12.66
LET'S--HOPEFULLY THIS TEXT
QUESTION'S GONNA BE RELATIVE
00:44:12.66\00:44:16.06
TO OUR SUBJECT HERE.
00:44:16.06\00:44:19.23
GRAND PRAIRIE,
TEXAS, I KNOW WHERE THAT IS.
00:44:19.23\00:44:21.73
IS IT OKAY TO LIE TO
SAVE SOMEBODY'S LIFE?
00:44:21.73\00:44:28.03
WHAT DO YOU THINK?
00:44:28.03\00:44:29.10
I'M JUST GONNA PUT
THAT TO THE AUDIENCE.
00:44:29.10\00:44:30.93
I KNOW WHAT I THINK, BUT
I'M CURIOUS WHAT YOU THINK.
00:44:30.93\00:44:32.90
YOU'RE GONNA
SAVE SOMEONE'S LIFE.
00:44:32.90\00:44:34.90
IS IT OKAY TO LIE?
00:44:34.90\00:44:37.86
ALL RIGHT, NOW LET
ME TELL YOU A STORY.
00:44:37.86\00:44:41.00
ONE OF THE COMMANDMENTS
SAYS YOU'RE NOT TO BOW DOWN
00:44:41.00\00:44:43.43
AND WORSHIP GRAVEN IMAGES.
00:44:43.43\00:44:46.16
KING MAKES A LAW THAT
SAYS EVERYBODY'S TO BOW DOWN
00:44:46.16\00:44:48.43
AND WORSHIP AN IMAGE
OR THEY'RE GONNA DIE.
00:44:48.43\00:44:51.56
DANIEL AND HIS THREE FRIENDS
SAID, "WE'RE GONNA STAND UP."
00:44:51.56\00:44:55.66
DID THEY DO THE RIGHT THING?
00:44:55.66\00:44:58.06
ISN'T THAT A LITTLE EXTREME,
TO STAND UP JUST OVER A LITTLE
00:44:58.06\00:45:02.06
COMMANDMENT LIKE--I MEAN,
YOU KNOW, TO SAVE YOUR LIFE.
00:45:02.06\00:45:05.36
JUST WHEN THE KING PLAYS THE
MUSIC AND EVERYBODY BOWS DOWN,
00:45:05.36\00:45:08.86
FIX YOUR SANDALS AND SAY,
"I'M NOT WORSHIPING THE IMAGE.
00:45:08.86\00:45:11.00
I JUST--MY
SANDALS ARE LOOSE HERE.
00:45:11.00\00:45:12.93
I'M JUST GONNA GET DOWN."
00:45:12.93\00:45:13.86
AND JUST LOOK
LIKE EVERYBODY ELSE.
00:45:13.86\00:45:16.70
IF IT'S A COMMAND OF
GOD, HOW SERIOUS IS THAT?
00:45:16.70\00:45:20.90
OH, I COULD GO ON
A WHOLE LAWNCHAIR.
00:45:20.90\00:45:22.86
I THINK THAT YOU MAKE UP YOUR
MIND, "I AM GOING TO OBEY GOD'S
00:45:22.86\00:45:26.36
COMMANDMENTS NO MATTER WHAT."
00:45:26.36\00:45:28.10
BECAUSE YOU OPEN THE DOOR
TO SAY A LITTLE BIT OF LYING IS
00:45:28.10\00:45:30.30
OKAY AND YOU'RE GONNA FIND
THAT DOOR GETS WIDER AND WIDER.
00:45:30.30\00:45:33.36
AND SAY, "OH, IT'S JUST A
WHITE LIE AND OH, I DIDN'T WANT
00:45:33.36\00:45:35.53
TO HURT THEIR FEELINGS."
00:45:35.53\00:45:36.46
AND PRETTY SOON YOU DON'T
KNOW WHAT TRUTH IS ANYMORE.
00:45:36.46\00:45:39.23
IF IT'S A COMMANDMENT OF GOD
AND IF JESUS IS THE TRUTH AND
00:45:39.23\00:45:42.90
THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE,
MAKE UP YOUR MIND THAT YOU'RE
00:45:42.90\00:45:45.93
GONNA TELL THE TRUTH.
00:45:45.93\00:45:48.33
NOW I KNOW YOU'RE PROBABLY
THINKING I'M CRAZY, BUT THAT'S
00:45:48.33\00:45:52.03
WHY I'M UP HERE
TEACHING RIGHT NOW.
00:45:52.03\00:45:55.46
I'M GONNA TEACH YOU THE BIBLE.
00:45:55.46\00:45:57.16
AND IT IS--YOU KNOW WHAT?
00:45:57.16\00:45:58.56
IT IS RADICAL TO
BE A BIBLE CHRISTIAN.
00:45:58.56\00:46:03.36
IT TAKES COURAGE
TO FOLLOW THE LORD.
00:46:03.36\00:46:06.60
AND I DON'T EXPECT EVERYBODY
TO SAY, "YOU KNOW, I WANT TO BE
00:46:06.60\00:46:08.83
A BIBLE CHRISTIAN."
00:46:08.83\00:46:10.66
BUT--OH, ENOUGH ABOUT THAT.
00:46:10.66\00:46:14.10
GET BACK TO DATING.
00:46:14.10\00:46:15.60
AN EASY SUBJECT, RIGHT?
00:46:15.60\00:46:17.30
YOU KNOW, WHAT ARE SOME TIPS
FOR YOUR DATING RELATIONSHIPS?
00:46:17.30\00:46:23.26
MRS. BATCHELOR'S BEEN READING
A BOOK ON TEENS AND DATING AND
00:46:23.26\00:46:28.33
'CAUSE WE STILL, LIKE I
SAID, HAVE TWO TEENS AT HOME
00:46:28.33\00:46:30.33
RIGHT NOW.
00:46:30.33\00:46:31.33
AND SHE FOUND A
GREAT BOOK CALLED "HOOKED."
00:46:31.33\00:46:34.16
AND THE SUBTITLE
IS "HOW CASUAL SEX
00:46:34.16\00:46:36.96
IS AFFECTING OUR CHILDREN."
00:46:36.96\00:46:39.83
AND THIS IS BASED ON SCIENTIFIC
STUDY FROM A COUPLE OF DOCTORS
00:46:39.83\00:46:45.56
THAT HAVE--TWO OR THREE DOCTORS
THAT WROTE THIS BOOK TOGETHER
00:46:45.56\00:46:47.80
ON WHAT'S HAPPENING WITH
CHEMICALS IN THE BRAIN WHEN YOU
00:46:47.80\00:46:50.66
GET INVOLVED EMOTIONALLY OR
PHYSICALLY WITH ANOTHER PERSON.
00:46:50.66\00:46:54.86
AND THEY INCLUDED IN THEIR
BOOK SOME TIPS AND I PROBABLY,
00:46:54.86\00:46:57.70
WITH THEIR PERMISSION,
OUGHT TO POST THESE ONLINE.
00:46:57.70\00:47:01.40
AND BY THE WAY, THESE ARE
PRACTICAL SUGGESTIONS TO OFFER
00:47:01.40\00:47:03.90
YOUNG PEOPLE TO HELP THEM
AVOID SEXUAL ENTANGLEMENTS.
00:47:03.90\00:47:08.46
ONE, IF YOU'VE MADE UP
YOUR MIND YOU WANT TO BE A BIBLE
00:47:08.46\00:47:10.96
CHRISTIAN AND MAINTAIN PURITY
UNTIL YOU'RE MARRIED, ACCORDING
00:47:10.96\00:47:15.93
TO THE BIBLE, ACCORDING
TO THE COMMANDMENTS OF GOD,
00:47:15.93\00:47:19.43
FIND GOOD FRIENDS WITH
THE SAME COMMITMENT ABOUT SEX.
00:47:19.43\00:47:23.53
HAVE FRIENDS THAT ARE WITH
YOU ON THAT SO YOU'RE NOT ALWAYS
00:47:23.53\00:47:27.20
SWIMMING UP CREEK.
00:47:27.20\00:47:29.13
TALK ABOUT YOUR
FEARS AND TEMPTATIONS.
00:47:29.13\00:47:31.26
LEAN ON EACH OTHER FOR STRENGTH.
00:47:31.26\00:47:33.26
TWO, WRITE DOWN YOUR COMMITMENT.
00:47:33.26\00:47:36.30
WRITE IT DOWN.
00:47:36.30\00:47:37.23
SAY, "I'VE MADE A COMMITMENT
TO ABSTAIN FROM SEXUAL ACTIVITY
00:47:37.23\00:47:40.10
UNTIL I GET MARRIED."
00:47:40.10\00:47:41.76
AS RADICAL AS THAT MIGHT SEEM
IN OUR SEX SATURATED CULTURE
00:47:41.76\00:47:46.06
RIGHT NOW, IT'S STILL THE TRUTH.
00:47:46.06\00:47:49.10
MARRIAGE AND
INTIMACY LIKE THAT IS MADE FOR
00:47:49.10\00:47:52.93
THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP.
00:47:52.93\00:47:55.66
THREE, PRACTICE ASSERTIVENESS.
00:47:55.66\00:47:59.73
TAKE TIME TO TALK ABOUT YOUR
RIGHTS AND HOW YOU EXPECT TO
00:47:59.73\00:48:02.30
BE TREATED.
00:48:02.30\00:48:03.26
IF YOU ARE IN SOME
DATING RELATIONSHIP, ESTABLISH
00:48:03.26\00:48:05.50
SOME GUIDELINES
RIGHT AT THE BEGINNING.
00:48:05.50\00:48:07.66
DON'T WAIT UNTIL YOU'RE PARKED
IN THE DARK ON LOVER'S LEAP ALL
00:48:07.66\00:48:10.50
BY YOURSELF TO SAY, "LET'S
TALK ABOUT BOUNDARIES NOW."
00:48:10.50\00:48:14.96
BECAUSE AT TIMES LIKE
THAT, BOY, YOU'VE KIND OF LET
00:48:14.96\00:48:17.73
THE HORSE OUT OF THE BARN.
00:48:17.73\00:48:19.36
YOU WANT TO
ESTABLISH THOSE THINGS.
00:48:19.36\00:48:21.33
ESPECIALLY IF YOU'RE GONNA
HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE
00:48:21.33\00:48:23.23
THAT IS THAT INTIMATE,
YOU OUGHT TO BE ABLE TO SAY,
00:48:23.23\00:48:25.20
"LET ME TELL YOU WHERE I
AM ON THE SUBJECT OF DATING
00:48:25.20\00:48:27.73
AND HERE ARE THE BOUNDARIES.
00:48:27.73\00:48:29.50
DON'T TOUCH
ANYTHING BELOW MY EYEBROWS."
00:48:29.50\00:48:32.40
RIGHT?
00:48:32.40\00:48:34.36
[LAUGHING]
00:48:34.36\00:48:36.36
>> NUMBER FOUR, MAKE SURE YOUR
VALUES ARE KNOWN TO ANYONE YOU
00:48:38.60\00:48:43.06
DATE OR GROW CLOSE TO.
00:48:43.06\00:48:44.73
DON'T HIDE HOW YOU FEEL.
00:48:44.73\00:48:46.40
WE'RE IN A WORLD WHERE
EVERYONE STARTS TO TEASE.
00:48:46.40\00:48:49.36
I WENT TO A MILITARY SCHOOL AND
HERE I WAS, 11 YEARS OLD, AND
00:48:49.36\00:48:52.76
ALL THE BOYS ARE GOING
AROUND, BRAGGING, SAYING,
00:48:52.76\00:48:55.00
"OH, THIS GUY'S A VIRGIN.
00:48:55.00\00:48:56.00
HE'S A VIRGIN.
00:48:56.00\00:48:56.76
ARE YOU A VIRGIN?
00:48:56.76\00:48:57.56
I'M NOT."
00:48:57.56\00:48:58.46
AND IT'S LIKE THEY'RE PUTTING
ON EVERYBODY--THESE LITTLE KIDS
00:48:58.46\00:49:00.36
ARE UNDER THIS TREMENDOUS
PRESSURE TO SOMEHOW ACHIEVE
00:49:00.36\00:49:04.33
SEX, LIKE I SAID, LIKE
SOME KIND OF ANIMAL THAT CAN
00:49:04.33\00:49:06.96
MARK IT OFF ON THE SCOREBOARD.
00:49:06.96\00:49:09.06
JUST KIDS.
00:49:09.06\00:49:10.93
THIS PRESSURE THAT THE DEVIL
IS PUTTING ON THIS CULTURE THAT
00:49:10.93\00:49:13.66
YOU, YOU KNOW, THERE'S
SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU IF YOU
00:49:13.66\00:49:16.00
WANT TO BE PURE.
00:49:16.00\00:49:17.63
WHO DO YOU WANT TO IMPRESS?
00:49:17.63\00:49:20.00
A WORLD THAT'S
SICK WITH SIN OR GOD?
00:49:20.00\00:49:23.06
ARE YOU GONNA GO WITH
YOUR FEELINGS OR YOUR FAITH?
00:49:23.06\00:49:26.46
AND SO DON'T HIDE
HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT IT.
00:49:26.46\00:49:30.00
FIVE, DON'T GET INVOLVED
WITH SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T SHARE
00:49:30.00\00:49:32.83
YOUR VALUES.
00:49:32.83\00:49:34.36
RIGHT OUT OF THE GATE, YOU WANT
TO KNOW, "HEY, LOOK, THEY'RE IN
00:49:34.36\00:49:36.76
A DIFFERENT PLACE AND THIS
IS NOT GONNA END WELL IF I START
00:49:36.76\00:49:40.73
GETTING EMOTIONALLY
ATTACHED TO THIS PERSON BECAUSE
00:49:40.73\00:49:43.40
THEY DON'T SHARE MY VALUES."
00:49:43.40\00:49:45.06
AND YOU KNOW WHAT
A COMMON MISTAKE IS?
00:49:45.06\00:49:47.33
YOUNG PEOPLE GET INVOLVED
IN DATING AND IT'S OFTEN TRUE
00:49:47.33\00:49:51.83
WITH A GIRL, THE GUY'S
VERY AGGRESSIVE AND, YOU KNOW,
00:49:51.83\00:49:56.33
HE SAYS, "OH YEAH, BUT WE'LL GET
MARRIED SOMEDAY, SO LET'S START
00:49:56.33\00:49:58.93
BEING INTIMATE NOW.
00:49:58.93\00:50:01.10
I REALLY LOVE YOU."
00:50:01.10\00:50:02.40
AND EVERYBODY WANTS TO BE LOVED.
00:50:02.40\00:50:04.16
"AND I WANT TO SHOW
YOU HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU."
00:50:04.16\00:50:06.16
AND THEY GOT ALL THESE
ARGUMENTS AND THEY'RE VERY
00:50:06.16\00:50:08.06
CLEVER AND CREATIVE.
00:50:08.06\00:50:09.03
GIRLS, DON'T TRUST 'EM.
00:50:09.03\00:50:09.93
THEY'RE ALL ANIMALS.
00:50:09.93\00:50:11.03
[LAUGHING]
00:50:11.03\00:50:14.16
>> YOU WANT TO MAINTAIN PURITY.
00:50:16.60\00:50:19.13
THE IDEA THAT, "WELL, BUT
I'M GONNA GET CLOSE TO HIM
00:50:19.13\00:50:22.36
AND I'LL CHANGE HIS
VIEWS," FAMOUS LAST WORDS.
00:50:22.36\00:50:28.06
"YEAH, WELL, I KNOW HOW HE
FEELS NOW OR HOW SHE FEELS NOW,
00:50:28.06\00:50:31.06
BUT AS WE GET CLOSE, I
WILL TEACH THEM HOW I FEEL AND
00:50:31.06\00:50:33.86
THEY'LL FEEL THAT WAY TOO."
00:50:33.86\00:50:36.06
DON'T EVEN GO THERE BECAUSE
SOMETIMES WHEN YOU DO THAT KIND
00:50:36.06\00:50:39.73
OF EVANGELISM, YOU END UP
BEING THE ONE THAT'S CONVERTED.
00:50:39.73\00:50:43.86
BECAUSE THEY'VE GOT
NATURE ON THEIR SIDE.
00:50:43.86\00:50:47.70
YOU'RE ALREADY
FIGHTING THE DESIRES IN THE BODY
00:50:47.70\00:50:50.23
THAT ARE THERE AND
SO--OKAY, MOVING RIGHT ALONG.
00:50:50.23\00:50:55.80
SIX, PLAN YOUR DATES TO
AVOID DIFFICULT SITUATIONS.
00:50:55.80\00:51:01.03
LIKE I SAID, YOU KNOW,
DO THINGS WITH A GROUP.
00:51:01.03\00:51:03.96
IT'S WHEN YOU GET OFF BY
YOURSELF, NOT ENOUGH LIGHT,
00:51:03.96\00:51:10.76
GETS LATE, YOU'RE TIRED, YOUR
MIND IS CLOUDY, AND INSTEAD OF
00:51:10.76\00:51:18.13
YOUR CEREBRAL PART OF THE
MIND GOVERNING YOUR ACTIVITIES,
00:51:18.13\00:51:20.86
ALL OF A SUDDEN IT'S THE
ANIMAL NATURE TAKES OVER.
00:51:20.86\00:51:25.46
AND SO DON'T GET YOURSELF
IN THOSE SITUATIONS WHERE
00:51:25.46\00:51:28.30
YOU'RE GONNA HAVE PROBLEMS.
00:51:28.30\00:51:29.50
AVOID ALCOHOL AND DRUGS.
00:51:29.50\00:51:30.73
WE'VE ALREADY TALKED ABOUT THAT.
00:51:30.73\00:51:32.66
YOUR RESISTANCE TO TEMPTATION
IS LOWERED WHEN YOU'VE BEEN
00:51:32.66\00:51:34.70
INEBRIATED BY SOME
KIND OF SUBSTANCE LIKE THAT.
00:51:34.70\00:51:38.36
INTRODUCE YOUR
DATE TO YOUR PARENTS.
00:51:38.36\00:51:43.73
OH, LISTEN TO THAT
GROAN SWEEP OVER THE CROWD.
00:51:43.73\00:51:47.53
WHAT WILL THEY THINK?
00:51:47.53\00:51:48.80
TRUST 'EM.
00:51:48.80\00:51:50.23
SOME COUNTRIES OF THE WORLD,
YOU DON'T EVEN GET TO DATE
00:51:50.23\00:51:52.50
UNLESS THEY APPROVE IT.
00:51:52.50\00:51:54.53
TELL YOU WHAT, LET'S GO BACK TO
PARENTS ARRANGING THE WEDDINGS.
00:51:54.53\00:51:58.66
I MEAN, THE MARRIAGES.
00:51:58.66\00:52:02.46
NUMBER EIGHT--YOU KNOW,
I'VE BEEN TO INDIA AND SOME
00:52:02.46\00:52:04.73
COUNTRIES WHERE THEY
DO THAT AND IT'S AMAZING.
00:52:04.73\00:52:06.63
DO YOU KNOW THEIR DIVORCE RATE
IS A FRACTION OF WHAT OURS IS?
00:52:06.63\00:52:10.53
INTERESTING.
00:52:10.53\00:52:12.53
NUMBER NINE, THIS IS
THE LAST ONE ON THE LIST.
00:52:12.53\00:52:14.60
LIMIT THE AMOUNT
OF PHYSICAL CONTACT.
00:52:14.60\00:52:18.40
NOTHING BELOW THE
EYEBROWS OR ABOVE THE ELBOWS.
00:52:18.40\00:52:22.80
SO IT KEEPS YOU OUT OF TROUBLE.
00:52:22.80\00:52:24.36
IF YOU WANT, IF WE HAVE
PERMISSION--I THINK WE--IF WE
00:52:24.36\00:52:26.90
GIVE THE CREDIT, WE CAN
PROBABLY POST THIS LIST ONLINE.
00:52:26.90\00:52:29.20
BUT WE GOT TO MOVE
ALONG WITH OUR QUESTIONS HERE.
00:52:29.20\00:52:31.86
TALKING ABOUT DATING
RELATIONSHIPS, I THINK ON
00:52:31.86\00:52:35.63
NUMBER EIGHT, DOES THE
BIBLE HAVE ANY PRACTICAL
00:52:35.63\00:52:40.36
DATING TIPS FOR ME?
00:52:40.36\00:52:44.00
YES.
00:52:44.00\00:52:45.83
IT SAYS IN 1 CORINTHIANS
13, TALKING ABOUT LOVE, "LOVE
00:52:45.83\00:52:50.93
SUFFERS LONG AND IS
KIND; LOVE DOES NOT ENVY;
00:52:50.93\00:52:55.36
LOVE DOES NOT PARADE ITSELF."
00:52:55.36\00:52:56.56
BY THE WAY, LIFE SUFFERS LONG.
00:52:56.56\00:52:58.26
PATIENT, THAT'S WHAT THAT MEANS.
00:52:58.26\00:53:00.40
BE PATIENT.
00:53:00.40\00:53:01.26
DON'T RUSH THINGS.
00:53:01.26\00:53:02.23
THAT'S WHERE A LOT OF
PEOPLE GET IN TROUBLE.
00:53:02.23\00:53:05.33
DOES NOT BEHAVE RUDELY.
00:53:05.33\00:53:08.00
NOW WE'RE ALMOST OUT OF
TIME AND I WANT TO GET TO NUMBER
00:53:08.00\00:53:10.40
NINE HERE, SO I'M GONNA
JUMP OVER THERE RIGHT AWAY.
00:53:10.40\00:53:15.20
HOW DO I RESPOND
WHEN SOMEONE HURTS ME?
00:53:15.20\00:53:19.90
SHOW OF HANDS,
HAVE YOU BEEN HURT?
00:53:19.90\00:53:24.63
ANYONE EVER DONE
ANYTHING TO HURT YOU?
00:53:24.63\00:53:27.03
HAVE YOU EVER
FELT BETRAYED BEFORE?
00:53:27.03\00:53:29.83
YOU TOLD SOMEBODY SOMETHING,
YOU TRUSTED THEM, AND THEY
00:53:29.83\00:53:32.76
BETRAYED YOUR TRUST?
00:53:32.76\00:53:34.06
OR YOU THOUGHT THEY WERE
A FRIEND AND THEN THEY WERE
00:53:34.06\00:53:35.83
TALKING ABOUT YOU AND THEY
PUT YOU DOWN OR SAID SOMETHING
00:53:35.83\00:53:39.76
UNKIND ABOUT YOU.
00:53:39.76\00:53:42.53
YOU KNOW, ONE OF THE PRINCIPLE
THINGS YOU WANT TO DO AS A
00:53:42.53\00:53:44.56
CHRISTIAN IS LEARN TO FORGIVE.
00:53:44.56\00:53:48.13
YOU KNOW, IT'S PERFECTLY
NORMAL FOR FRIENDS TO BE NICE
00:53:48.13\00:53:51.23
TO THEIR FRIENDS.
00:53:51.23\00:53:53.33
WHAT MAKES IT UNIQUE IS WHEN
FRIENDS FORGIVE THEIR ENEMIES,
00:53:53.33\00:54:00.73
WHEN SOMEONE HASN'T BEEN KIND
TO YOU AND YOU'RE STILL NICE
00:54:00.73\00:54:03.56
TO THEM ANYWAY.
00:54:03.56\00:54:04.96
AND I KNOW THAT'S HARD.
00:54:04.96\00:54:07.26
FIRST OF ALL, YOU
MAKE FRIENDS WITH JESUS.
00:54:07.26\00:54:10.26
HE IS YOUR BEST FRIEND.
00:54:10.26\00:54:11.80
AND KEEP IN MIND--
YOU MIGHT SAY, "HOW CAN I
00:54:11.80\00:54:14.23
EVER FORGIVE THEM?"
00:54:14.23\00:54:15.96
THERE'S A PROMISE IN THE BIBLE.
00:54:15.96\00:54:17.56
IT SAYS, "LOVE YOUR ENEMIES,"
MATTHEW 5:44, 45, "BLESS THOSE
00:54:17.56\00:54:22.73
WHO CURSE YOU, DO GOOD TO THOSE
WHO HATE YOU, PRAY FOR THOSE
00:54:22.73\00:54:26.96
WHO DESPITEFULLY USE YOU AND
PERSECUTE YOU, THAT YOU MIGHT
00:54:26.96\00:54:30.60
BE THE CHILDREN, THE SONS OF
YOUR FATHER WHO IS IN HEAVEN."
00:54:30.60\00:54:34.86
HOW CAN I FORGIVE?
00:54:34.86\00:54:36.73
IN THE LORD'S PRAYER,
JESUS ADDED ONE COMMENT
00:54:36.73\00:54:40.76
ON THE LORD'S PRAYER.
00:54:40.76\00:54:42.16
SAID, "FORGIVE US OUR DEBTS AS
WE FORGIVE THOSE, OUR DEBTORS,
00:54:42.16\00:54:46.26
OR FORGIVE US OUR TRESPASSES
AS WE FORGIVE THOSE WHO
00:54:46.26\00:54:49.10
TRESPASS AGAINST US."
00:54:49.10\00:54:51.06
WE CAN'T DO THAT
WITHOUT GOD'S HELP.
00:54:51.06\00:54:53.40
JESUS SAID, "IF YOU DO
NOT FORGIVE EVERY MAN HIS
00:54:53.40\00:54:55.56
TRESPASSES, NEITHER WILL YOUR
FATHER IN HEAVEN FORGIVE YOU."
00:54:55.56\00:54:59.43
BY THE WAY, WHEN YOU
DON'T FORGIVE OTHERS WHO HAVE
00:54:59.43\00:55:01.63
HURT YOU, WHO ARE
YOU REALLY HURTING?
00:55:01.63\00:55:03.86
YOU'RE JUST HURTING YOURSELF.
00:55:03.86\00:55:04.76
LET IT GO.
00:55:04.76\00:55:06.60
DON'T LOOK BACK; LOOK FORWARD.
00:55:06.60\00:55:08.66
AND YOU KNOW WHAT?
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YOU'LL FIND PEACE IN
YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD.
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YOU KNOW, SOMETIMES AN
OBSTACLE BETWEEN US AND GOD IS
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UNFORGIVENESS.
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HE IS WILLING TO
FORGIVE YOU SO MUCH.
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YOU LOOK AT THE
CROSS, JESUS WAS BETRAYED.
00:55:21.30\00:55:23.96
HE KNOWS HOW IT
FEELS, AND HE FORGAVE.
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AND IF GOD CAN FORGIVE LIKE
THAT, HE CAN GIVE US THE POWER
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AND THE GRACE TO FORGIVE OTHERS.
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DO YOU BELIEVE THAT?
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HE IS THE KEY TO LOVE
AND HEALING IN ALL OF OUR
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RELATIONSHIPS, PARENTS,
FAMILY, SCHOOLMATES, DATING,
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WHATEVER IT MIGHT BE.
00:55:41.10\00:55:42.33
TURN TO JESUS.
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HE'S THE KEY.
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