Welcome back.
00:00:01.56\00:00:02.90
We've been talking about mottos
00:00:02.93\00:00:04.93
that successful couples have
shared with us over Facebook.
00:00:04.97\00:00:08.50
Those mottos have fallen
into three different categories,
00:00:08.54\00:00:11.21
as we've gone through.
00:00:11.24\00:00:12.57
First of all it was about what?
00:00:12.61\00:00:14.18
Choosing. Choosing.
00:00:14.21\00:00:15.54
So, it's making a
choice for your marriage,
00:00:15.58\00:00:17.45
and there are lot of choices
we can make that are positive.
00:00:17.48\00:00:19.81
The second group of mottoes
00:00:19.85\00:00:21.18
we talked about
were on connecting.
00:00:21.22\00:00:22.72
Yes, to connect.
00:00:22.75\00:00:24.19
And this last group has
been about communicating.
00:00:24.22\00:00:26.82
Yes, and we have one
here that I think really
00:00:26.86\00:00:31.19
is one of the best
communication things
00:00:31.23\00:00:32.93
I've ever heard.
00:00:32.96\00:00:34.30
Okay. It comes
from Jerry and Kathy.
00:00:34.33\00:00:36.36
And their motto is this.
00:00:36.40\00:00:37.90
"Be the first
person to tell the other
00:00:37.93\00:00:40.04
that they are
the most loved person
00:00:40.07\00:00:41.94
in the world today."
00:00:41.97\00:00:43.30
That's not bad, if you're
going to have a competition.
00:00:43.34\00:00:45.91
That's a good
competition to have, you know.
00:00:45.94\00:00:47.94
And another one that
came in was "I love you more."
00:00:47.98\00:00:51.15
So, it's basically
the same idea you know,
00:00:51.18\00:00:53.48
we're going to be
in competition here.
00:00:53.52\00:00:55.68
But the competition is
the competition of love.
00:00:55.72\00:00:58.05
Of love. To love 100 percent.
00:00:58.09\00:01:00.86
I go back to
scripture with the Apostle Paul
00:01:00.89\00:01:02.89
telling us to outdo
one another in love.
00:01:02.92\00:01:05.76
You know, so--
00:01:05.79\00:01:07.13
We like to be competitive,
00:01:07.16\00:01:08.50
but if you're
going to be competitive.
00:01:08.53\00:01:09.86
That's a good thing to be
competitive about, is it not?
00:01:09.90\00:01:11.23
That's the area.
00:01:11.27\00:01:13.17
And what a contrast
00:01:13.20\00:01:14.54
to what we're
talking about earlier
00:01:14.57\00:01:16.10
holding a record of wrongs,
00:01:16.14\00:01:18.27
and the
competition would be to see
00:01:18.31\00:01:19.84
who can control the
most by holding that record.
00:01:19.87\00:01:22.51
I'm gonna hold
this over your head,
00:01:22.54\00:01:23.88
so I can make you do
what I want you to do.
00:01:23.91\00:01:25.65
Which is a wonderful way
for you to live, is it not?
00:01:25.68\00:01:27.42
After all, I
remember back in 1957--
00:01:27.45\00:01:30.09
Yeah.
00:01:30.12\00:01:31.45
You know, 1999 or
you know, I mean--
00:01:31.49\00:01:35.12
It was a June, I remember.
00:01:35.16\00:01:36.73
Yeah, and
people have the feeling
00:01:36.76\00:01:39.43
I will never live this down.
00:01:39.46\00:01:42.03
Am I going to have to hear
this over and over and over.
00:01:42.06\00:01:44.90
You know, so that
record of wrongs but instead,
00:01:44.93\00:01:48.20
we're gonna go to a competition
in the other direction.
00:01:48.24\00:01:51.11
A much better competition.
00:01:51.14\00:01:52.64
I love you more.
00:01:52.67\00:01:54.01
Oh, no, I love you more.
00:01:54.04\00:01:55.38
Oh, no. Isn't that great?
00:01:55.41\00:01:56.75
You know, and
to be the first one
00:01:56.78\00:01:58.11
to say that in the
morning when you wake up.
00:01:58.15\00:01:59.61
Now, you know, I'm a slow waker
00:01:59.65\00:02:01.88
and so, you may
beat me on this a lot
00:02:01.92\00:02:04.72
because, you know, my
brain really does not start
00:02:04.75\00:02:06.92
to function in
the first few minutes.
00:02:06.96\00:02:08.29
No, we are blessed in one
thing and that is that we,
00:02:08.32\00:02:10.86
neither of us is
a morning person.
00:02:10.89\00:02:12.69
Yeah, yeah.
00:02:12.73\00:02:14.06
So, I mean, it's good if
you're both morning people
00:02:14.10\00:02:16.46
or you're both night out.
00:02:16.50\00:02:17.83
Yeah.
00:02:17.87\00:02:19.20
But it would not be good
00:02:19.23\00:02:20.57
if you, if you
were crossed over it.
00:02:20.60\00:02:21.94
It was Solomon, who said,
00:02:21.97\00:02:23.30
"A person who
wake in the morning
00:02:23.34\00:02:24.84
with a loud voice."
00:02:24.87\00:02:26.21
That's right
Yeah, I feel that way.
00:02:26.24\00:02:28.31
So, in our house, you know,
00:02:28.34\00:02:30.21
our, our morning
greeting is usually just a touch
00:02:30.25\00:02:33.82
or something
like that, is it not?
00:02:33.85\00:02:35.18
With the eyes
still half way closed up.
00:02:35.22\00:02:38.12
None of that, but if we can
be the first person of the day
00:02:38.15\00:02:43.69
to say, you know, "I love you."
00:02:43.73\00:02:46.09
And not only that,
00:02:46.13\00:02:47.46
but you are the most
loved person in the world.
00:02:47.50\00:02:49.96
You know, can you
imagine how Kathy feels
00:02:50.00\00:02:52.47
if Jerry says that
to her in the morning.
00:02:52.50\00:02:54.44
There's something else here,
and that is that research shows
00:02:54.47\00:02:56.67
that low arousal mode emotions
tend to build on each other.
00:02:56.71\00:03:00.18
If you start the morning with
a positive low arousal emotion
00:03:00.21\00:03:04.55
and then it's easy for
it to build from there.
00:03:04.58\00:03:07.52
And so, you can have another
00:03:07.55\00:03:08.88
and it calls for
another and another.
00:03:08.92\00:03:11.05
You start off
the day positively,
00:03:11.09\00:03:13.12
and it begins to
grow into mushroom.
00:03:13.15\00:03:15.22
Or you set the scene, you know,
00:03:15.26\00:03:17.13
here's what today is
going to be a like, you know.
00:03:17.16\00:03:19.56
You know how you feel if
something terrible happens
00:03:19.59\00:03:22.03
first thing in the morning.
00:03:22.06\00:03:23.50
You just feel like ugh,
you know, well this day a shot.
00:03:23.53\00:03:26.13
Yeah.
00:03:26.17\00:03:27.50
But that's not true necessarily.
00:03:27.54\00:03:29.60
But if you, if
something wonderful does happen,
00:03:29.64\00:03:32.51
first thing in the morning,
00:03:32.54\00:03:33.88
you set the
scene for a good day.
00:03:33.91\00:03:35.98
And this is what this is saying,
00:03:36.01\00:03:37.48
today is going to be
good between you and me.
00:03:37.51\00:03:40.02
The other thing
this does is all right,
00:03:40.05\00:03:41.55
so we start our
morning that way,
00:03:41.58\00:03:43.85
and then we have
to leave for work.
00:03:43.89\00:03:46.09
And all day long,
00:03:46.12\00:03:47.46
that is the
last thing on my mind
00:03:47.49\00:03:49.79
that has to do with
how I wake in this morning,
00:03:49.82\00:03:52.59
and how we greeted one another,
00:03:52.63\00:03:54.16
and how that built
before we left after breakfast.
00:03:54.20\00:03:56.80
It's right.
00:03:56.83\00:03:58.17
And it gives me a
positive expectation
00:03:58.20\00:04:00.04
of what is going to be
like when we come back together
00:04:00.07\00:04:02.30
rather than resenting it
or dreading seeing you again.
00:04:02.34\00:04:06.21
I now have a
positive expectation of this,
00:04:06.24\00:04:08.34
and so it makes the
reunion that much sweeter.
00:04:08.38\00:04:11.41
It does.
00:04:11.45\00:04:12.78
Our relationships really are
I think one of the strongest,
00:04:12.81\00:04:17.49
they have the strongest impact
on our emotions for the day.
00:04:17.52\00:04:21.32
If the morning
relationship is sour,
00:04:21.36\00:04:24.29
if there's something bad,
it stays with you all day.
00:04:24.33\00:04:27.96
So, the reverse is also true.
00:04:28.00\00:04:30.10
If you make sure that,
00:04:30.13\00:04:31.47
that morning
interaction is good.
00:04:31.50\00:04:34.07
Yeah. Then it
stays with you as well.
00:04:34.10\00:04:36.07
Let me give you a
little caveat to that.
00:04:36.10\00:04:37.77
We're talking about
the value of relationships,
00:04:37.81\00:04:39.74
of positive relationships
as far as building your day
00:04:39.77\00:04:42.54
but it's even bigger than that.
00:04:42.58\00:04:44.68
Harvard did a
study on male longevity.
00:04:44.71\00:04:47.88
And they discovered
00:04:47.92\00:04:49.25
that one of the most
critical factors in men
00:04:49.28\00:04:52.39
living a long time,
00:04:52.42\00:04:54.19
even eclipsing the
value of diet and exercise,
00:04:54.22\00:04:57.66
as important as
those are and they are key.
00:04:57.69\00:05:00.53
But even more important was
the existence of meaningful,
00:05:00.56\00:05:04.17
deep relationships for men.
00:05:04.20\00:05:06.67
Men who had those
tended to live longer.
00:05:06.70\00:05:09.34
Men who did not
tended to live a shorter time
00:05:09.37\00:05:12.27
which is one of the reasons
00:05:12.31\00:05:13.64
why bachelors tend to
have a shorter life span
00:05:13.68\00:05:16.75
than do married men?
00:05:16.78\00:05:18.65
You know, he may
think she's killing him,
00:05:18.68\00:05:20.68
but she's
actually toughening him up,
00:05:20.72\00:05:22.62
so that they can
live longer I think.
00:05:22.65\00:05:24.22
That's right.
00:05:24.25\00:05:25.82
Well, you know, there was
another study done in Finland
00:05:25.85\00:05:28.79
not long ago where
they studied 1,400 people.
00:05:28.82\00:05:32.46
And they started this study
when those people were aged 50.
00:05:32.49\00:05:36.46
And they kind of studied
their well being, you know,
00:05:36.50\00:05:39.30
how life was going
for them at that moment.
00:05:39.33\00:05:41.60
Then they came back
to them 20 years later
00:05:41.64\00:05:43.91
and did a follow up study.
00:05:43.94\00:05:45.77
What they found was
00:05:45.81\00:05:47.14
that of that
group those who were--
00:05:47.18\00:05:50.25
that who became
widowed or divorced
00:05:50.28\00:05:53.15
during those
middle years, you know,
00:05:53.18\00:05:54.78
around the 50 age or 50 or
60 and then remained single.
00:05:54.82\00:05:59.25
Right.
00:05:59.29\00:06:00.62
Were much more
likely to have Alzheimer's.
00:06:00.66\00:06:03.22
Really?
00:06:03.26\00:06:04.59
There was an
elevated risk for Alzheimer's.
00:06:04.63\00:06:07.13
And it seemed to be, you know,
00:06:07.16\00:06:08.93
they've found that
if you stay active,
00:06:08.96\00:06:10.63
and mentally active,
00:06:10.67\00:06:12.00
and physically
active that, that--
00:06:12.03\00:06:13.37
Socially active especially.
00:06:13.40\00:06:14.74
Socially active that
that helps but even above,
00:06:14.77\00:06:17.24
the socially active
and all of those things
00:06:17.27\00:06:19.27
had to do with having a partner.
00:06:19.31\00:06:21.58
And that partner in life
and that positive interaction
00:06:21.61\00:06:24.78
between you and that person
00:06:24.81\00:06:26.72
made a difference
even in your brain.
00:06:26.75\00:06:28.98
We have undervalued
00:06:29.02\00:06:31.99
the importance of deep
meaningful relationships.
00:06:32.02\00:06:35.32
And God built us we need those,
00:06:35.36\00:06:37.23
and that's why
He gave us marriage
00:06:37.26\00:06:39.59
as a key source for
that kind of a relationship.
00:06:39.63\00:06:42.43
So, when you're in a marriage
00:06:42.46\00:06:43.80
where you're building
one another up even better.
00:06:43.83\00:06:46.33
Yeah.
00:06:46.37\00:06:47.70
You know, when you're saying,
00:06:47.74\00:06:49.07
you are the most
loved person in the world.
00:06:49.10\00:06:51.21
Right. I just
want you to know that.
00:06:51.24\00:06:52.57
No one could possibly
love you more than I do.
00:06:52.61\00:06:55.64
Well, we got another
motto we need to get to.
00:06:55.68\00:06:58.75
We do, and I love this one.
00:06:58.78\00:07:01.38
This one came
from Polly and Dick.
00:07:01.42\00:07:04.25
And Polly came up
and talked to me one day
00:07:04.29\00:07:06.72
after a marriage
seminar that we did.
00:07:06.76\00:07:08.86
And she said, "I'll tell
you our motto for marriage."
00:07:08.89\00:07:12.16
It was.
00:07:12.19\00:07:13.53
And she, she was
actually widowed at the time.
00:07:13.56\00:07:15.36
Widowed and still
attended the marriage seminar.
00:07:15.40\00:07:17.33
Yes, she came to the
marriage seminar she said,
00:07:17.37\00:07:18.93
here was our motto.
00:07:18.97\00:07:20.37
"Don't waste time fighting,
you may have precious little.
00:07:20.40\00:07:24.87
Don't waste time fighting,
you may have precious little."
00:07:24.91\00:07:27.18
And that, that's
something that, you know,
00:07:27.21\00:07:29.38
it makes sense to all of us.
00:07:29.41\00:07:30.75
Oh, of course.
00:07:30.78\00:07:32.11
You know, don't
waste time fighting,
00:07:32.15\00:07:33.48
it's not worth
it, kind of a thing.
00:07:33.52\00:07:34.85
But she had a very specific
story that went with it.
00:07:34.88\00:07:37.89
She said that she met Dick.
00:07:37.92\00:07:41.06
Well, let me back up.
00:07:41.09\00:07:42.42
When Dick her
husband was 17 years old,
00:07:42.46\00:07:46.43
he was diagnosed with cancer.
00:07:46.46\00:07:49.06
And the doctors,
It was very serious,
00:07:49.10\00:07:50.83
and the doctors told him
00:07:50.87\00:07:52.50
that he probably
would not make it to age 25.
00:07:52.53\00:07:56.34
But Dick was a fighter,
00:07:56.37\00:07:57.71
and he had a really
positive attitude about life,
00:07:57.74\00:08:00.01
and he was fighting his
way through all the treatments
00:08:00.04\00:08:03.31
and everything
else that he experienced
00:08:03.35\00:08:05.08
at that early age.
00:08:05.11\00:08:06.92
She met him when he was 26.
00:08:06.95\00:08:09.12
So he beat the life expectancy.
00:08:09.15\00:08:10.95
That's right, so he had,
00:08:10.99\00:08:12.39
had beat the
doctor's prediction already.
00:08:12.42\00:08:15.32
And they just hit it
off, they fell for each other,
00:08:15.36\00:08:18.46
they fell in love.
00:08:18.49\00:08:19.83
They wanted to get married
00:08:19.86\00:08:21.20
but he was very honest with her.
00:08:21.23\00:08:22.56
He said, "I have this disease,
the doctors do not give me
00:08:22.60\00:08:26.50
any guarantees of life
for any length of time."
00:08:26.53\00:08:30.07
And her response was, "I
don't care how long we have
00:08:30.11\00:08:34.01
as long as we spend
the time truly together."
00:08:34.04\00:08:37.98
And so they
decided to get married.
00:08:38.01\00:08:40.88
And then their motto was,
00:08:40.92\00:08:43.42
"We will not waste time fighting
00:08:43.45\00:08:45.95
because we may
have precious little."
00:08:45.99\00:08:47.99
We don't know how
much time we have.
00:08:48.02\00:08:49.92
And so they said,
00:08:49.96\00:08:51.29
"We, we had to make
this pact with each other,
00:08:51.33\00:08:53.90
that our time together
was going to be positive.
00:08:53.93\00:08:56.60
You know, we might
lose him tomorrow, you know,
00:08:56.63\00:08:59.53
or we might lose him
years later, we didn't know.
00:08:59.57\00:09:02.54
And so, they said
that, what they had to do
00:09:02.57\00:09:05.57
was put aside
everything that didn't matter.
00:09:05.61\00:09:09.14
And they, they realize
00:09:09.18\00:09:11.05
that what mattered only
came down to two things.
00:09:11.08\00:09:14.02
It was loving God and
loving the people around them.
00:09:14.05\00:09:17.45
Right. It all came down to love.
00:09:17.49\00:09:19.69
They said, "We
will love each other,
00:09:19.72\00:09:21.62
we won't let anything
get in the way of that,
00:09:21.66\00:09:23.59
we will love the
people around us,
00:09:23.63\00:09:25.13
our family and friends."
00:09:25.16\00:09:26.90
And they figured out
that that was what mattered.
00:09:26.93\00:09:30.33
You know, you know,
00:09:30.37\00:09:32.10
that I spent quite a bit of time
00:09:32.13\00:09:34.87
as a hospice chaplain
and a hospital chaplain.
00:09:34.90\00:09:38.41
And I've had the privilege
of attending over 500 deaths,
00:09:38.44\00:09:42.44
and people say a privileged,
but yeah, it is a privilege.
00:09:42.48\00:09:45.05
It is a privilege.
00:09:45.08\00:09:46.41
The secret moment.
00:09:46.45\00:09:47.78
It is and to help those
people focus their lives
00:09:47.82\00:09:50.32
as they approach life's end.
00:09:50.35\00:09:52.85
And I discover
something about people
00:09:52.89\00:09:54.66
who are focusing on life's end.
00:09:54.69\00:09:58.39
They tended to focus on
the only things that mattered.
00:09:58.43\00:10:01.46
And actually the only things
that seemed to matter to them
00:10:01.50\00:10:04.27
were these.
00:10:04.30\00:10:05.63
"Am I right with God?"
00:10:05.67\00:10:07.94
And then they may say, "I
wish I had spent more time
00:10:07.97\00:10:10.37
with my family,
can I make that right?"
00:10:10.41\00:10:12.97
And there was a
third thing and that is,
00:10:13.01\00:10:14.84
"I wish I'd just taken more time
00:10:14.88\00:10:16.21
to smell the roses."
00:10:16.24\00:10:17.71
Just to enjoy the
moment, you know, of life.
00:10:17.75\00:10:20.65
And really that's the same thing
00:10:20.68\00:10:22.18
that we just talked about
with this couple where he had,
00:10:22.22\00:10:24.99
where Dick had cancer.
00:10:25.02\00:10:26.76
Is they were reduced
00:10:26.79\00:10:28.12
to that level
of living early on.
00:10:28.16\00:10:32.09
As I talk to
people about their lives
00:10:32.13\00:10:35.76
as they approach life's end.
00:10:35.80\00:10:37.83
And I realize how
focused they get on life
00:10:37.87\00:10:40.64
on those things that matter.
00:10:40.67\00:10:42.54
It taught me a lesson.
00:10:42.57\00:10:44.47
And that is, if it's
that important at life's end
00:10:44.51\00:10:46.88
to focus on those things.
00:10:46.91\00:10:48.61
Maybe it should be as important
at every other stage of life,
00:10:48.64\00:10:53.28
life's beginning,
life's middle, life's end
00:10:53.31\00:10:56.55
that we focus on the only things
00:10:56.58\00:10:58.45
that really matter.
00:10:58.49\00:10:59.82
Love for God,
love for each other.
00:10:59.85\00:11:02.29
And then, enjoying
the life that we have,
00:11:02.32\00:11:04.76
making it positive,
00:11:04.79\00:11:06.13
and enjoying that
experience as we move on.
00:11:06.16\00:11:08.03
Absolutely.
00:11:08.06\00:11:09.40
You know, they knew
that they didn't have time.
00:11:09.43\00:11:11.67
Right.
00:11:11.70\00:11:13.03
Or they might not have time,
they didn't know and they said,
00:11:13.07\00:11:16.57
they were not going
to spend it fighting.
00:11:16.60\00:11:18.27
Well, even then, you
know, that there were times
00:11:18.31\00:11:21.74
that they didn't
agree with each other,
00:11:21.78\00:11:23.48
that there were
times of conflict
00:11:23.51\00:11:25.25
but they learned the lesson
00:11:25.28\00:11:26.75
that we talked
about in another show,
00:11:26.78\00:11:28.65
and that is what
John Gottman says
00:11:28.68\00:11:31.55
in his research
that successful couples,
00:11:31.59\00:11:34.86
happily married couples,
00:11:34.89\00:11:38.19
they deal with
conflict in tender gentle ways.
00:11:38.23\00:11:42.33
Yeah.
00:11:42.36\00:11:43.70
And so, Polly and
Dick learned to do that.
00:11:43.73\00:11:45.73
You know, they had
to deal with conflict.
00:11:45.77\00:11:47.64
But they were,
they behaved as friends
00:11:47.67\00:11:50.61
and they dealt
with their conflict
00:11:50.64\00:11:52.07
in gentle tender ways.
00:11:52.11\00:11:54.41
They cared about
each other so that--
00:11:54.44\00:11:57.11
Because of that, they were
able not to waste any time.
00:11:57.15\00:12:00.15
And now the
interesting thing was.
00:12:00.18\00:12:01.88
You know, I said
"Well, how long did he live?"
00:12:01.92\00:12:04.89
And she said, "You know, he had
his ups and downs physically.
00:12:04.92\00:12:07.89
There were times when
he was just full of energy
00:12:07.92\00:12:10.19
and did great.
00:12:10.23\00:12:11.56
There were other times
when he was back in treatment
00:12:11.59\00:12:13.73
and he had his ups and downs.
00:12:13.76\00:12:15.43
But he passed away
when he was age 50."
00:12:15.46\00:12:18.93
Fifty, he outlived the doctor's
expectation by 25 years.
00:12:18.97\00:12:22.80
He did.
00:12:22.84\00:12:24.17
And you know, when she
told that story she just beamed.
00:12:24.21\00:12:26.78
She said, "We had, we
had all that time together,
00:12:26.81\00:12:30.05
we had 24 years together
that we spent, you know,
00:12:30.08\00:12:34.22
even when we thought
there wouldn't be any.
00:12:34.25\00:12:36.28
And we did not allow
any of it to be sour."
00:12:36.32\00:12:39.39
You know, all of us live
with a limited life expectancy.
00:12:39.42\00:12:43.36
That's right.
00:12:43.39\00:12:44.76
It may be 70
years, 80 years. 90.
00:12:44.79\00:12:47.66
It may be 50 years
or less, we don't know.
00:12:47.70\00:12:51.30
You can be--
00:12:51.33\00:12:52.67
Or maybe a day. We
don't know. That's right.
00:12:52.70\00:12:54.74
You can be in the pink of health
00:12:54.77\00:12:56.50
and have a car
accident on the way home.
00:12:56.54\00:12:58.91
Those things happen.
00:12:58.94\00:13:00.28
The key is, I'm going to
live today to the fullest.
00:13:00.31\00:13:03.61
And I'm not going
to waste time fighting.
00:13:03.65\00:13:05.75
There's a book entitled,
"Don't Sweat the Small Stuff",
00:13:05.78\00:13:07.98
and the subtitle is "By
the Way it's all Small Stuff."
00:13:08.02\00:13:10.72
It's all small stuff.
00:13:10.75\00:13:12.15
And really at the end of
life, when people look back,
00:13:12.19\00:13:14.96
all those things that seemed
00:13:14.99\00:13:16.32
so important to them at the time
00:13:16.36\00:13:18.13
are such small things
that they don't really matter.
00:13:18.16\00:13:21.16
They don't.
Nothing matters but Christ.
00:13:21.20\00:13:24.27
Nothing matters but our
loving relationships here.
00:13:24.30\00:13:28.54
You matter, my children matter,
00:13:28.57\00:13:29.90
the people we've
had contact with,
00:13:29.94\00:13:31.27
we've ministered
to, our friends matter,
00:13:31.31\00:13:33.41
our extended family.
00:13:33.44\00:13:35.04
Not much else really makes
much of a difference, does it?
00:13:35.08\00:13:37.41
It really doesn't matter at all.
00:13:37.45\00:13:38.78
No.
00:13:38.81\00:13:40.15
So, when we look at the
things we talked about today.
00:13:40.18\00:13:41.85
You know to, to
not hold a grudge.
00:13:41.88\00:13:44.62
Yeah. What a waste of time.
00:13:44.65\00:13:47.96
What a waste of
that precious time,
00:13:47.99\00:13:49.56
not hold a grudge.
00:13:49.59\00:13:50.93
Let the other person know
00:13:50.96\00:13:52.29
that they're the most
loved person in the world.
00:13:52.33\00:13:55.30
No one could ever
love you more than I do,
00:13:55.33\00:13:57.17
and no one is
loved more than you are.
00:13:57.20\00:13:59.93
And then don't waste any time.
00:13:59.97\00:14:02.10
We recommend this to you today,
00:14:02.14\00:14:03.67
because we want you to
be happily in love forever.
00:14:03.71\00:14:06.88