Welcome to Marriage in God's
Hands. I'm Willie Lee, your host
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and our co-host is
my wife, Wilma Lee.
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Welcome, today we
talk about "Rejoice".
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Rejoicing, that sounds
like fun, and I think rejoicing
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is what we do first
in the Lord, don't you?
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- Definitely. - Let's pray.
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Dear Lord, we rejoice in you
because You have provided for us
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through our marriage a
source of joy and happiness,
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and we praise
Your name for that.
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Lord, without You our joy could
not be complete, so we thank
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You for all that you have
given us in the name of Jesus
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we pray, amen.
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We've enjoyed in this
series as we have talked about
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marriage in God's hands of many
different areas, and the focus
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that we have on each program
was a little bit different,
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but this is certainly one
that brings a smile to our faces
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and a certain type
of upbeat in the heart.
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Well, I think that it's
important that we realize that
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marriage is something to rejoice
about and in, and through
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because it is serious, but
God intends for us to rejoice.
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The Bible says, in The
Message, Proverbs 5:18,19:
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"Enjoy the wife you married as a
young man, lovely as an angel, "
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"beautiful as a rose, don't
ever quit taking delight in her"
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"body, never take
her love for granted. "
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Wow, boy, is that
permission or what?
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- That says
"Rejoice! " - Yeah, rejoice.
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And it also gives us a lot
of different ways to rejoice,
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and I'm sure that it allows the
imaginations to go into a hyper
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type of manner so that we don't
have to be limited in just one
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way of rejoicing, and that's
what I like about it, God just
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opens up the whole
imagination for us.
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Yes, and I think that He is
encouraging us that it isn't
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something that starts...you know
we've been talking about this
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consistently, that it's
not just the wedding, it's for
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the marriage because you notice
He talks about "the wife you"
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"married as a young man",
so this is obviously something
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that's for maturity and
it's throughout the marriage.
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It also suggests the consistency
and long life of a marriage,
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- doesn't it? - It does.
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...Not multiple wives in
different ages and seasons.
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Oh, you don't trade
in your 40 for two 20s.
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That's right, you
enjoy the wife of your youth,
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and what it says, as we often
do when we have our marriage
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retreats, we encourage our
couples to think about those
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special times that they had,
can you remember some special
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times that you had before
you got married, and just after
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you got married, the fun you
had together, that's what we're
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encouraging them to think about
and for their imaginations to go
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back and re-experience the
joy that you've had with your
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wife that you've
married at a very young age.
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Well, you know I think it's also
interesting that the Bible talks
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to the man because maybe
it's easier for men to forget,
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women tend to remember,
they tend to be the keeper of
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the keepsakes, and they have all
these things tied with ribbons,
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so maybe the Bible thought that
the man needed to be reminded
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to keep these things in
mind across the ages because
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it's not a
typical man thing to do.
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Well, that can be drawn,
but also remember that during
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the age that it is written,
of course, it was up to the man
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as the head to maintain things
and to be the leader in things
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as well, not just to take the
wife for granted, but to also
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know that it was his place and
his leadership role to remember
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that, and to bring joy into
the years gone by, and remember
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- them and recall them now.
- Oh, so you mean that's a part
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of the headship and
the leadership of the man?
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- I think it ought to be
both. - Hey, I like that.
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So it really gives you a
real momentum that you are
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to establish as a male in doing
this, and it doesn't necessarily
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mean that you
have to be a romantic.
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It means that you have to be one
who encourages the imagination
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and the rememberance, so
you don't have to be considered
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a romantic, but it sort of
suggests to you what to do.
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Oh, okay, I can go along
with that, but if you suggest,
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and all that, that seems
to me that you be a romantic.
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Well, sometimes you can
develop that even if you're not
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naturally a temperament, or
by nature, create some romantic
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moments in remembrance.
That's a part of being joyful,
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- don't you think? -
I think so, I like that.
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And then you can't leave out the
troublous times, but remember,
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there's 2 sides of trouble,
isn't there, like James 1:2-4
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says: "Dear brothers and
sisters, when troubles come"
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"your way, consider it an
opportunity for great joy, "
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"for you know that when your
faith is tested your endurance"
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"has a chance to grow. So let it
grow, for when your endurance"
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"is fully developed you
will be perfect and complete, "
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"needing nothing. " Isn't
that great? That's wonderful.
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- That's rejoicing. -
Well, you know, James says
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it's an opportunity for
joy when you have trouble.
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- Yes, that's
right. - Isn't he confused?
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Oh no, you rejoice
because you have it,
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because you know that
God considers you able
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because of your connection
with Him to come through it.
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Remember the Psalmist:
"Weeping for a night, "
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"but joy in the morning. "
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So you mean that this marriage
process isn't all going to be
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- roses and ribbons. -
It's not going to always
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feel like that, but
it's an opportunity for joy.
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- Oh, okay. - And I
think that we have to
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understand that because we have
experienced that and we have
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been through that, and we
have been able to find that even
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the tough moments
opened up into silver linings,
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and the clouds that past gave us
an opportunity for understanding
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things better, we get
to know each other better,
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and appreciate
one another better.
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Okay, so in talking about
the wedding versus the marriage,
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the wedding day may
be magnificent, we hope,
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and that the sun shines
and all of those things that
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go perfectly, but in the
marriage there may be some days
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where everything doesn't go
well, but that's okay because
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you can still count
it as joy and rejoice.
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That's right, because those were
days, it didn't say "forever",
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and that's what you have to
keep in mind, when you look at
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the big picture, when you
pick the long view and look at
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the whole you can see the
joy, you may not see it at that
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moment, but if you stay
round long enough joy will come,
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and we need to be joyous in
our relationships and in our
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marriage partner because we
have been told in Proverbs 18:22
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for instance: "The man who
finds a wife finds a treasure"
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"and receives favor form
the Lord", because God says
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that it's not good for man
to be alone, that means that if
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he's not alone it's going
to be good. If you have a wife
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and you have a treasure,
it's going to get better as you
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- go along. -
Okay, well you know,
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there's more than 1 way to
look at that because you know,
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when you have treasure it's
opening the box and you can't
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get to all of it at
once. So it takes a while
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to do that, and that's
what a marriage is all about,
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- discovering the treasure.
- Ah, yes, because the treasure
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is not just looking at yourself
and what you feel, we're in
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this for each other, and that's
where the joy comes in because
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I can know that there's a
certain joy that I get out
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of pleasing you, there's a
certain joy that I get out of
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brining something special to
you, but it's also a joy just
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to have you with me, you
can bring a joy to my heart
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that I can't provide for myself,
and that makes it joyful.
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I think also that it's
the joy of discovering.
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"Eureka, I found it", and
knowing that when I discover
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things about you that make
you happy, that please you,
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that make you feel safe, then
that also for me is a delight
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to know that I'm creating
an environment, a culture,
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that makes you feel comfortable,
that makes home the place
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you want to be above
any other place, then for me
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- that's treasure. -
And really, when I was
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considering getting married and
I believe that I probably had
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many choices that I could
have made in different ways at
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different times, but I was
looking for someone who would
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bring joy to me, I didn't
look for someone who would bring
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joy to my congregation, or
joy to my parents, but I looked
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at someone that I could
be joyful with, someone that
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could bring a smile to my face,
and bring a song to my heart.
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It has truly been that because
the rich times, the times that
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were poorer, the times that
we were in good health and bad,
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but through it all our
relationship with the Lord
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and with each other has been a
source of joy, and that is worth
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celebrating, and we
need to celebrate marriage.
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Yes, I think that you are right,
I guess that when we look back
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across these past 40 years
there's been lots of laughter
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and lot's of joy, and you
know, actually it's been covered
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with a lot of music, if
that has anything to do with
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rejoicing, then I would think
that that would be reflective
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of our time together, and that
that's what we have shared with
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lot's of people: laughter, and
joy, and music, because that's
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- been how we have rejoiced.
- Well, all that said we also
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share with others, and we hope
that you will be able to look
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back and count those areas
as joyful as you have been able
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to see God's hand moving
and providing you with a spouse,
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with a mate and with
opportunities to enjoy
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one another. But the thing
that I like about it is that
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the fact that we're talking
about it, it's not over yet.
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You see? We don't have to
wait to the end to be joyful,
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we can celebrate what
God has done to this point
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and be joyful even into the
future. A lot of times there
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are those who cannot appreciate
what marriage is because
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we don't show joy in our
wives and in our husbands,
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we don't show joy in the
marriage so they were wondering
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"Should I really get married
because those people over there"
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"don't really look very happy",
so I feel that that's part of
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our witness for the Lord,
is to create joyful moments
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and celebratory moments, so that
when we are out among others
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they look at us and see someone
who's not sad with a long face,
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but they seem to be enjoying
themselves with each other,
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marriage must be
good, and God is good.
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Yes, didn't God say that
after He created Adam and Eve?
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Yes He did, and it was
perfect, very, very good.
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Welcome back to Marriage
in God's Hands, and we've been
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very excited about what we've
been able to share, and we hope
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that you will have an advantage
now in knowing that there
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are others who are like
you, enjoying marriage and want
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to enjoy it even more. We
have some things that we do
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from time to time, be it
marriage retreats, or workshops,
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or seminars, but that
comes out of your work place,
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out of the non-profit.
Give some information to contact
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so that if people want to get
more information than we've been
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able to share just in these
programs they might be able
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to contact you.
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The Center for Family Wholeness
is the area that we do marriage
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and family retreats, and
you can contact us through
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The Center for Family Wholeness,
www.familywholeness.org,
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we'll be happy to hear from you,
and we'll be happy to respond
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to anything you might
like to contact us for.
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We look forward
to hearing from you.
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And also, we'd like for you
to know that we have often done
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things in partnerships with the
North American Division Family
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Ministry Department, and
even this is done out of that
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partnership with them, and
their contact information is
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www.adventistfamilyministry.com,
and if you will contact them
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they also can get in touch
with us in case you can't get us
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through the other number.
We've even done things with
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them as they're continuing
to do now on one of the programs
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on marriage that they do, we
used to do some of those too,
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they were called "From
This Day Forward", and they are
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1 day marriage seminars, you
might be able to celebrate your
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marriage at one of those,
check the website and they'll
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tell you when they're going
to be done in different areas
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of the country. But those are
just some of the things we do.
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With a lot of the counseling
that we've done, and a lot
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of the marriage education
that we do we have found a way
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to inject some of the
celebration and joyfulness.
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I remember, we just came back
recently from a cruise in which
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we did some things on
relationships and some couples
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were there, and we enjoyed
having a cruise that had built
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within it a time for celebrating
marriage, and we did some
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very special
things, including renewing
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of vows, a recommitment service.
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Yes, I think that that was
very, very special, I know that
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the couples who renewed
their vows had an excellent time
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doing that, and you know,
I'm getting kind of partial to
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the cruise and the rejoicing,
and the sharing of marriage
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because there's something
about water and renewal that's
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marvelous. I remember a few
years ago when you were able
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to serve as ship's chaplain
and you were able to minister
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to people aboard a ship, and
you actually renewed a couple's
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vows for them, and he had some
type of illness, and the family
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had brought him along for
the cruise as a rejoicing,
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not only in the renewal of
vows, but because his health had
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- been restored. -
That's right, and what
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a wonderful thing the
restoration of health,
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and recommitment for marriage
for the rest of your life,
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these are things that are
valuable, and you ought to seek
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to do that in your marriage,
every moment, every event
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that you can you ought to
make it a point of celebration
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with the wife of your youth,
or the husband of your youth,
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and that's what it's all about,
you build marriage as God wanted
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it to be from the very
beginning, you're restoring
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the image of God in
marriage, because it is through
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the marriage relationship
that we rejoice in redemption,
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that redemption that
Christ gives also provides for
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a celebration of marriage,
because is only through
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the blood of Christ that
forgiveness comes, that there is
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a new start and that every
new start you can have with
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your marriage makes it
even more fun, more enjoyable.
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Of course, I have to remember
one year, and I can't remember
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which anniversary it was, but
it must have been one of those
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years that was kind of lean
in our marriage because I don't
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think we had a lot of money,
and I think we had some small
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children and they went with us
on our anniversary celebration
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and I remember hearing
in the back seat of the car:
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"Oh good, now next
year where are we going on"
00:19:20.06\00:19:23.19
"our anniversary? "
But we rejoiced anyhow.
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Yes, well that's
what it's all about.
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We read in the Word
of God, 1 John 4:16-19,
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you love The Message, the way it
paraphrases and puts it in words
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that are really celebratory:
"God is love, when we take"
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"up permanent residence in a
life of love, we live in God"
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"and God lives in us. This way,
love has the run of the house, "
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"becomes at home and mature
in us, so that we're free"
00:19:52.88\00:19:57.69
"of worry on Judgment Day
- our standing in the world"
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"is identical with Christ's.
There is no room in love"
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"for fear. Well
formed love banishes fear. "
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Of course, the
opposite of fear is love.
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"Since fear is crippling, a
fearful life - fear of death, "
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"fear of judgment - is one
not yet fully formed in love. "
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So finally, "We, though,
are going to love - love"
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"and be loved. First we
were loved, now we love. "
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"He loved us first.
" What a lovely passage
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in 1 John 4, that is a book to
go to often, isn't that right?
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I think so, and it's a reason
for rejoicing because if God
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loved us first then there's
so much love to give to our
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spouse, and then we don't have
to worry about being fearful
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because God's love never runs
out, and so we can give our love
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to our spouse without being
worried about "Well what if I"
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- "don't get it back? " -
That's right, because God's
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love, agape love, is actually
a love of giving, not a love
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of taking, so that's the
kind of love that we want to do.
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In fact, you have even included
in here something that we can
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read very quickly: "But
for right now, until that"
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"completeness, we have three
things to do to lead us toward"
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"that consummation:
Trust steadily in God, hope"
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"unswervingly, love
extravagantly. And the best of"
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- "the three is love. "
- And that's actually from
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1 Corinthians 13, again, The
Message, but it's one of those
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paraphrases that when you think
about it we tend to love kind of
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stingily, "I'll love you
if... ", "I'll love you when.. "
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"I'll love you
because... ", but the Bible says
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"love extravagantly", and if we
love extravagantly then there's
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always cause for celebration,
there's always cause for
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rejoicing, and I think that
as I look around and as I become
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older I realize that every
day that we have each other is
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a cause for
celebration and rejoicing.
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You know, as we sit here
and share, a lot of people might
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think that this is not something
that is productive, but try
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it first. It's very productive
to talk about loving because
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even to talk about loving
brings a smile to your face.
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You can't sit and talk about
love and being loved and not
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smile and have joy in your
heart, God planned it that way.
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In fact, you wrote some other
things for us to share with
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others, and I'm glad that
you put these Scriptures here,
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and these messages
because they're very important.
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The Word of God talks of love
all the time, and we don't even
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- read it that much. -
Well, Philippians 4:4 says:
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"Always be full of joy in the
Lord, I say it again, rejoice. "
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and as Christians, if we were
always full of joy in the Lord
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then we would rejoice, and
certianly, if God has given us
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each other then we have cause
for rejoicing, and that everyday
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ought to be a celebration,
and we ought to rejoice in
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that love, because when
we look around us there is
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so much hate, and so much
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unhappiness in the world that
if we are blessed with a spouse
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who loves us and cares for
us everyday, that's a reason
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to rejoice, and it's a
reason to be happy, and a reason
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to say to one
another "I love you".
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Alright, now that is really what
celebration is, celebration is
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not, in the words of the
world, "a party time", according
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to the world because at
the end of that party there has
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to be recovery, we're talking
about a celebration by simply
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saying "I love you", that
ought to be a part of everyday,
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"I love you", "I care for
you", "you mean so much to me",
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that is celebration, any time
you take the time to appreciate
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your spouse, your mate for
life, that is a celebration,
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that's what we're talking
about. We're not talking about
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a worldly type of party, we're
talking about the type of joy
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that only God can bring, He
can bring a deep joy, and peace
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to your heart that no one can
touch, and those are the types
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of joyful moments
that we most need.
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Well, Ephesians 5:1,2
says: "Watch what God does, "
00:24:51.39\00:24:55.94
"then you do it, like
children who learn proper"
00:24:55.97\00:24:58.67
"behavior from their
parents. Mostly what God does"
00:24:58.70\00:25:02.66
"is love you. Keep company
with Him and learn a life"
00:25:02.69\00:25:06.66
"of love. Observe
how God loved us. "
00:25:06.69\00:25:10.98
"His love was not cautious,
but extravagant. He didn't love"
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"in order to get something
from us but to give everything"
00:25:15.70\00:25:19.67
"of Himself to
us. Love like that. "
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That's a wonderful expression,
and the Word of God is full
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of such wonderful expressions of
love, and in case you don't know
00:25:29.79\00:25:34.07
how to share that, go to His
Word and read it to one another,
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and then echo it to
your mate, to your spouse.
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As we come down near the close
today I'd like for us to pray
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for all of the couples who have
been a part of this program,
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who have received something,
or would like to receive more.
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So why don't we pray for
them right now, as well as for
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ourselves. Dear
Lord, we are so grateful
00:26:01.45\00:26:06.52
and so thrilled that you could
love us so much and give us
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not only yourself, but
someone else to bring joy
00:26:12.79\00:26:16.88
to our hearts. We are basking
in that joy, and we praise You
00:26:16.91\00:26:22.38
for that joy in our marriage
that comes from the throne
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- of God. - We thank You, Lord,
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that You did not love sparingly,
but that you loved extravagantly
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and we will rejoice in
that love always. In the name
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of Jesus we pray, amen.
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We've had a lot of
things we've talked about across
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a period of time, but
nothing brings as much pleasure
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as being able to just talk
about how much joy, and how much
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enjoyable time we
have with each other.
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God made that possible, God also
makes it possible for others.
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We would like to invite
you to allow God to be in your
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marriage because this topic of
our program for the whole series
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was "Marriage in God's
Hands". We want you to make sure
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your marriage is in God's hands,
and when we leave you today
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we want to leave you with
that theme ringing in your ears
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and in your heart. "Always
be full of joy in the Lord",
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Philippians says in 4:4,
"I say it again, rejoice. "
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