Welcome to
Marriage in God's Hands.
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My name is Willie Lee and
I'm your host, and our co-host,
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of course, is my wife Wilma Lee.
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Welcome, and today we're
going to talk to you about
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marriage, "The promise".
And as we begin this day we
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would like for you
to join us in prayer.
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Heavenly Father, we
thank You for this opportunity,
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and we thank
You for this promise
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that You've given us with
marriage, and we ask that You
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would join us here and now
as we join our hands together.
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And knowing, dear Lord,
that You created marriage as You
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created man and woman,
we want to follow Your plan,
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make it clear to us
today, in Jesus' name, amen.
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We welcome you back to Marriage
in God's Hands so that we might
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be able to share some more about
the marvelous things that God
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has planned for our marriages
and for our families, and we
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must know that a good marriage
is a good foundation for
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an excellent family. So let's
pay attention to a few things,
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I guess, as we roll along
today and see what has happened
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to marriage because
marriage is not what it was
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when God made it.
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Yes, and I guess that we can
rejoice because God doesn't make
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a promise that He does not keep.
So when we think about marriage,
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the promise, we can look
forward to what God has to say
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- about marriage. -
Well, if you have your Bibles
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ready to turn to Genesis,
the beginning of all things,
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let's look at Genesis 3, and
we're very familiar with going
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through some of the issues that
the marriage ran into because
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God had given instructions in
the garden, and man and woman,
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Adam and Eve, were to spend
their time with God and with
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each other, and the 2
were not to be separated.
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But something
happened in the garden.
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Yes, somehow or the other
Adam and Eve got separated,
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and with that,
created some problems.
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Oh? What kind of
problems did it create?
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Well, there was a third party
introduced who wasn't supposed
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- to be in the marriage. -
Oh, well this leads us into
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some discussions then that have
some implications that marriage
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between 2 people, with God in
the center, is great, but when
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someone else comes in between
that relationship it begins
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to distort God's plan
for marriage immediately,
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- doesn't it? -
Immediately! And so when
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you have a marriage that doesn't
include God, and includes
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somebody else,
you have a problem.
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Well, we can understand and
appreciate that because many
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things can come in between a man
and a wife because they do come
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- from families,
don't they? - Definitely!
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And those families have
been an intricate part of your
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relationship, my relationship,
for years and then all of
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a sudden God had said in
chapter 2 that when you are
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married you should leave mother
and father and then cleave
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to your spouse, and when that
doesn't happen quite like that
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usually some things
begin to distort the marriage
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- relationship. - And
you notice God had a plan
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and an order, you
leave and then you cleave.
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Ok, no cleaving before leaving.
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Yes, and it doesn't
always happen that way, in fact,
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today's statistics say that
more than 1 of every 3 children
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is born to a
never married mother.
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Great day, that is quite
a statistic, what was that
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- number again? - 1
in every 3 children.
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1 in every 3 children is not
in a complete relationship of
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- marriage - Exactly.
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That can create quite a
few problems, and we've seen
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the kind of challenges
that parents have with children
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today when they don't have
a spouse. And I heard someone
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say, for instance, that they're
the new poor when there is
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a divorce, or when there is
a separation, and there's not
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a mother and a father leading
that family, and with children
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in it, there's poverty, there's
a lot of things that are missing
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- in that child's life. -
Exactly, and you can't really
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have healthy children unless
you have a healthy family,
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which was God's intent when
He said "Don't cleave before"
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- "you leave". -
Yes, because He did say
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that He wanted them to
be fruitful and to multiply,
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- not divide. - Exactly.
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And division causes a problem,
and that division, of course,
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came from the evil one,
from Lucifer, and as you read in
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chapter 3 you will find that
there is a very, very exciting,
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but deadly encounter, that takes
place. Whatever Satan brings
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into the picture is usually
exciting, so don't expect it
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to be boring and dull
when Satan makes his claim upon
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the marriage, because he
will do anything to divide,
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and he can make it sound great,
he can make it feel great,
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and he will do his best to
lure you into the possibility of
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being without God, and
being without your spouse in
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- a marriage. - But
I'm so glad that we serve
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a God who has a promise,
and that His promise is of such
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that His promise is
also exciting, and it is true
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- and sure. - Well,
they needed that promise
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because almost immediately,
not too long after the encounter
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in the garden, what we
see happening is that, as you
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can imagine, God comes
looking for His normal encounter
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with Adam and Eve, the married
couple, and this time He can't
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find them, and He starts calling
for them. And immediately their
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response to Him was that they
were naked. Now, what changed?
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Weren't they naked before?
You see, there's an unclothing
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of your self worth and
your values, and sin undresses
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you in the presence of God
and everyone, and undresses
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the marriage relationship
because almost immediately
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when He talks to Adam, Adam
wants to pin it on the woman,
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he says "Well, this
woman You gave me is part"
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"of that encounter". All of a
sudden this loving relationship
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is distorted and
begins to break down.
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Yes, the woman who a chapter
before, who was "wow", is now...
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[makes negative face].
But the Scripture says they
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were naked and ashamed, so
sin brings shame and blame.
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Yes it does, and that always
creates a very, very difficult
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moment for the family, for
any couple, anything that you go
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through where there's
division or distortion of
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that relationship in which
people are not feeling good
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about each other, or
about their relationship,
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you begin to feel ashamed,
very self-conscious, and that's
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something that sin brings
into the life, and God is in
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the picture, but at the same
time things were not like they
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used to be. And it might
be that you are experiencing
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a marriage that is not quite
like it used to be, and we want
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to assure you that God has a
plan for that, and we're going
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to discuss that in
just a few moments.
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You know that, unfortunately,
in our society today nearly 45%
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of the marriages end in divorce,
so there may be a lot of
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people who are looking today who
are hurting, who are suffering,
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who may be in that shame
and blame position, but we are
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so happy to share with you
that God has a promise, God has
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a solution for shame and blame.
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- He didn't wait long,
did He? - No, He didn't.
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He didn't want to leave
them hanging out there with that
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- difficulty. - And I
like the part that God
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didn't wait for them to
look for Him, He came looking,
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He came calling, He knew where
they were, but He came calling
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- anyway. - That's
unconditional love.
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You must experience
unconditional love from God.
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We don't normally know how to
provide unconditional love for
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those within our spousal
circle, our wife, our husband,
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or sometimes not even our
children, because we become
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upset, we become embarrassed,
we become ashamed, and we
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want to separate ourselves from
them, but God never separates
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Himself from us, and this
is something that we must begin
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to understand, and through our
faith in God, expect Him to do,
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He's always waiting to
make a difference for us.
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And a lot of times we
don't experience unconditional
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love because we're hurting,
and when you're hurting,
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sometimes I've
been in that position,
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it's difficult to
share unconditional love
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when you're hurt and wounded.
And because we serve a God
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who understands us, He made us,
after all He did form Adam and
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Eve from the dust of the ground
with His own hands, and breathed
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into them life with His own
breath. So He knows us better
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than anybody else, He can
then know how to share that love
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and provide that love
unconditionally because He made
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us, and He understands
us better than anybody else
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- possibly could. -
Well, it's too bad that Eve
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didn't know that because she had
to go through this experience
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of having this little
debate with God because when He
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turned towards her
her statement was to Him
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"He tricked me, the serpents
tricked me. I was tricked"
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"into doing this, I
didn't want to do it. "
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But no matter how it happened
God had His promise, and this
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is what He said: "So the Lord
said to the serpent, Because"
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"you have done this you will
be punished, you are singled"
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"out from all the domestic and
wild animals of the whole earth"
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"to be cursed. "
This is in Genesis 3:14.
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And in Genesis 3:15 is
the promise: "From now on"
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"you and the woman will be
enemies, and your offspring"
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"and her offspring will be
enemies. He will crush your"
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"head and you will strike
his heal. " What a promise!
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God says he may trip you up
for a while, but if you claim
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the promise God says "I
will take care of the one who"
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"tricked you, and who
got you into the dilemma of"
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"brokenness, and ashamed,
and feeling naked and exposed. "
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God is taking care of the
problem for us, and that's His
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promise, but there's more to
this promise that we're going
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to talk about, but first of
all, isn't it great the God gave
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the promise, did not
wait, and immediately after sin
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assured man that
He was there for Him.
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Definitely, and you know
it is true, women are afraid
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- of snakes. [Hosts
laugh] - Okay, that's true.
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Well, we're going to have to
be very much aware that Satan
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- has got to be
afraid of God. - Oh sure.
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Because the Creator has now
put in His word on him and said
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"You're on going to get away
with this", and I'm so glad that
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God is ready to rescue
the marriage, and to present
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the marriage once again as a
restored relationship to reflect
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God, and the Father, the
Son and the Holy Ghost in unity.
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I can't wait to get into
the rest of this, how about you?
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- I'm looking forward to
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Welcome back to
Marriage in God's Hands.
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We've been discussing "the
promise", marriage, the promise.
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And as we were leaving the break
we want you to know that we
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are excited about not only what
has happened, but what God will
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do, because the experience that
we've all had is brokenness,
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we've all had some kind of
distortion in our relationships,
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in our marriages, that we've had
to fight through, and with God's
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help we've been able to come
through. If you have not been
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experiencing that it is because
that is the result of sin
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entering in. It's not your fault
as a person that sin is here,
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it's not your spouse's
fault that sin is here.
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A lot of times we want to blame
each other for the problems
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in our marriage, but I think
we have to recognize that sin
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increases, or as Paul says
"it abounds", but grace much
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- more abounds. - And
I'm glad that with God's
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promise He didn't promise
all distress and pain, granted
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women do bear
children in pain...
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And He said that, didn't He?
Right here in the 16th verse.
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Yeah, that's a part of
the problem of sin, we'll have
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to talk to Eve about that in the
kingdom, I'll have to have a few
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words with her about that,
but He did tell Adam that he'd
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have to sweat a bit to
gain the rest of the labor.
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Before all they had to do
was tend the garden, he didn't
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have to sweat, but you
know, when you look over into
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the Song of Solomon, which
is also a part of the Bible,
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not a whole lot of people like
to read that, I don't know why,
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it's always exciting to me.
There's a courtship for you.
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Alright, and there's 2 sides to
this, and we have to know that
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God has provided us through
the promise with such great
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opportunities to meet
the challenges of sin,
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and the recovery and the
forgiveness that takes place
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that God provides is what
we really need to understand,
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and if forgiveness has not
happened in your relationships,
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maybe you are to be a little
bit more attentive to God's plan
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because we need to understand
that God wants to take care
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of sin. It reached such a
point, as a matter of fact,
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within just a couple thousand
years, and there was a great
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flood, and part of the reason
for the flood, it said, that sin
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was multiplying, and that
men and women were marrying
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and giving in marriage. That
means marrying, and divorcing,
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and separating, and distortion
had already taken hold in
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the Antediluvian world to
the point that marriage was
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no longer being honored, that it
was distorted, even as you have
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mentioned, it's happening today.
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Yeah, and when you think about
it, 60% of children in the US
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don't live with their own
biological married parents.
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- That's a lot. -
That is a whole lot of
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children who are
experiencing pain as they grow.
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And that causes a whole lot
of distortions of personalities,
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and temperaments, and
difficulties for them just
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becoming wholesome in their
approach to marriage themselves,
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or even as adults
living in this world.
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It's interesting to me when you
talk to a lot of young adults
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who say "I can't imagine being
married because I don't know"
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"anybody in my circle
who's happily married".
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In fact, I have heard
some other young people say
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"Well, I'm not sure I
want to get married because"
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"in my home... ", they
experienced a lot of distortion,
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there were a lot of arguments,
and a lot of discussions that
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were heated, anger, conflict,
and the level that happens
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in homes just creates distress
for the children growing up
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in the home. It is not a
good thing for children to have
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to experience that kind of
distress because then they have
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no hope for the future
for their own relationships.
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And I think that we need
to realize that a lot of times
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we're talking to Christian young
people, so we need to go back
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to talking about God's
gift - God is love - and that in
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Christian homes that has
to be manifested in Christian
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- marriages. -
You know, what was so
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marvelous about this, God
started out after the flood,
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there were only 8 people,
but from what we can see in
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the Word of God, as we look
throughout the book of Genesis,
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it started with 4
couples, Noah and his wife,
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and their children and
their spouses. So He created
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a wholeness, the
promise was already taking hold,
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and the result of that promise
is that God started again with
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whole couples to create a whole
marriage, and to create a good
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foundation for the
families after the flood.
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And again with a promise "I
do set My bow in the clouds".
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That's right, God keeps His
promises, and that's a wonderful
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thing. Now, when Jesus came
here, and we're going to talk
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more about what happened
after the flood with many of
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the families of the promise,
and that will probably happen
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in the future, but if we look
what happened when Jesus came.
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He began His ministry at
a wedding feast, showing how
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much He cares about the
relationship of marriage.
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And even though He was sort
of goaded into creating that
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happy moment for that
couple when the drink ran out
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and there was no more to
serve the guests, and it was His
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mother who said "Jesus, please
do this for the couple so that"
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"their wedding celebration will
not be spoiled. " God does not
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want our celebrations of
marriage to be spoiled, and He
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will work miracles in our
relationships to guarantee that
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the promise takes hold, and that
the evil one will not have his
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way in bringing
brokenness into our families.
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Well, I like the fact that His
first miracle was at a family
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event because He was
there because that was family.
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I think that that's always
significant, and that Jesus
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came to this earth as a part
of a family, because we often
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forget that part that He was
a member of a family, and that
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families are important,
and that that too is a part of
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the promise that we are
all connected as family.
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And I like His promise because
then He becomes the elder
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- brother, not only Saviour.
- Wow, you know, His plan was
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very easy to see as Jesus
taught on the earth, He brought
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the promise in Himself.
So it wasn't enough for Him
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to just tell us what to do,
but He appeared and He taught,
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and He shared those important
family occasions and encouraged
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marriage. In fact, He said
it may have been, as He talked
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in Matthew, it may have
been so back in the old days
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where you could have a divorce
and just get rid of your wife,
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but He says "Not so when
I come". When Jesus comes at
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a house, we don't talk about
divorce, we don't talk about
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separation, we don't talk about
maintaining the brokenness,
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we talk about the promise being
fulfilled in Christ in order
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to maintain and build
healthy, wholesome, spiritual
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relationships with God, because
that's the way He started it,
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and we must talk about
that spiritual component.
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And I find it interesting that
today if you turn on the TV,
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if you read the newspaper,
if you turn on anything,
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everybody's talking about
the marriage, and the family as
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being the underpinnings of
our society, of our communities,
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everybody's talking about
"What do we do to strengthen"
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"marriages and families? "
Because suddenly people are
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realizing that if we don't
get that right then we can't do
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anything else, and it's back
to God's Word, this is where He
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started in Genesis, this is
what He continues throughout
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His Word, it's the
marriage and the family that
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strengthens and underpins
everything else, and this is
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what God said from the
beginning, and His Word
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continues to be true. He
promises that "if you do it My"
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"way, then you can be
successful", and in the end when
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you look at the back of the
Book, He says "I'm coming for"
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"My bride, the
church", the promise.
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Wow, that is exciting.
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God wants to take whole families
and whole marriages into His
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kingdom, and even if your
family, or marriage has been
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broken or distorted,
God does not leave you out.
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If you are not married
and watching this program,
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God still speaks to
single people because there is
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wholeness and completion even
in singleness, because in this
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world not every time can
a person find the right kind
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of relationship to have a
whole, or wholesome marriage.
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So don't be discouraged
just because yours happens to be
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a single relationship.
There's redemption both for
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- singles and for couples.
- And God says in Psalms
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that He puts the lonely in
families, so He intends that
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among His people there is
no one alone, but that they are
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encompassed in the
healthiness of families.
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Well, God provides redemption,
just as He did to Adam
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and Eve, the promise was
for redemption, redeeming love,
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and that's what He wants
marriages to be composed of:
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redeeming love, and He wants to
redeem you, He wants to redeem
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your marriage and your family.
And if you look into Matthew 20,
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write these verses down,
read them through, verses 26-28,
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or Galatians 3:28, and
also Ephesians 5:21-31.
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You can see very clearly that
God's plan for marriage is to
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redeem the people in
the marriage and to make
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the marriage a place
where redemption takes place,
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because if you look into 1
Peter you'll see also where
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He says, if you're willing
to stay with a rough marriage,
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if you stay committed, He
says "I can actually allow you"
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"to become the cause of the
consecration of that marriage"
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"and the consecration of
your home". Don't give up
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too easily, let God
have His way in your marriage
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- and in your
life. - And the practical
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application of that is just that
living with somebody that's not
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you every day means that
you have to give and take,
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you have to forgive and
that you have to hang in there
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because that's the
only way that it works.
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And God will bring healing
to your marriage, to your
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relationships as
well. Why don't we pray now.
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We know, dear Lord, how
much You love us, and that Your
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willing, and have
already provided for redemption
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in our homes, in our
relationships, in our marriages.
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We ask for You to come in
in a powerful way and make
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that difference for us now,
and no matter what the problem
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has been, dear Lord, we know
that you have the solution and
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will provide it to us according
to Your promise, in Jesus' name
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we pray, amen.
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We thank you for the
times you've spent with us.
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We enjoy sharing God's
promise with you about marriage,
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and we know that if your
marriage is in God's hands
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there can be no better hands
for you to be in because we know
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that God's love is boundless,
it's exhaustless, it is more
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than you can ask or imagine.
And when God's love spreads
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in your heart it can't help but
touch everything and everyone
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with whom you come in contact.
Knowing that, we look forward
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to coming again to share God's
love with you again, and to know
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that God's love and His joy will
be in your heart and your home.
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Love and marriage in God's
hand is what we hope to share
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with you another time.
We share again that the time
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we'll be with you, and God's
joy will abound in your love
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and home, thank you.
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