Participants: Tom Waters, Alane Waters
Series Code: MGH
Program Code: MGH000017
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00:28 Marriage Heart to Heart with Tom & Alane Waters
00:33 Welcome to Marriage Heart to Heart! 00:36 We're Tom & Alane Waters with Restoration International 00:40 And we're looking forward 00:41 to our time together today as we share with you 00:44 more heart changing, life changing principles. 00:49 So we hope you have your paper and pencil ready. 00:51 We're gonna be talking today about the importance of 00:53 having honesty and integrity in our marriage 00:56 not just in our communication, that's vital 00:58 but in every aspect of our marriage. 01:01 Really honesty is 01:03 a springboard 01:05 for a lot of things that happen or don't happen in a marriage. 01:09 And 01:10 we found in our early marriage that 01:12 to be transparent 01:13 is not necessarily an easy thing to do. 01:16 That's right! It's not always easy! 01:18 Because you only wanna present 01:20 a best to your spouse! 01:22 You don't want him to really know 01:23 some of the things that you really may be struggling with. 01:25 Yes! You don't wanna be misunderstood. 01:27 We went through some of that in our early marriage, 01:30 didn't we? 01:31 Yes we did! And it started sometimes in little things 01:34 but probably the most influential, powerful 01:37 experience that we ever had in this area 01:41 was the time that we were just moving to the country 01:44 and living in that little travel trailer there. 01:47 And you didn't know it 01:48 but I was struggling with my spiritual life. 01:52 And I wanted more than anything 01:54 to 01:56 be a real Christian 01:57 and yet I felt like I was failing, failing, failing 02:00 all the time! 02:01 And we would have made the commitment to 02:03 have morning worship personal and 02:05 take that time for God every day and that had been our habit 02:09 but it seemed like the more I did the worst I got. 02:11 And I was finding myself quite discouraged. 02:14 Well, it was something that it was very interesting 02:15 and I think, that kind of 02:18 pushed us into that scenario. 02:21 And I'm thankful that it happened 02:23 and that was we moved from 02:25 a big beautiful house in the suburbs of Chicago 02:29 to a little fifth wheel trailer 02:31 while we were building our home in Montana. 02:34 And that little trailer 02:35 became a huge 02:38 well, at first it didn't seem like a blessing 02:41 but it became a huge blessing 02:43 because it was in that little trailer 02:44 with the five of us, our three little children, 02:47 that we started to see 02:49 who we were not! 02:51 We weren't always getting the pets on the back, there 02:54 that we were getting in our suburban lifestyle 02:57 and working at the hospital and being 02:59 prominate in church work. 03:01 Now we were just 03:02 facing who we really were. 03:04 And it was uncomfortable. 03:06 It was uncomfortable! I wasn't used to having 03:08 that much time with you every day, 03:09 and being in such a confined space with the children. 03:12 And I wasn't so used to 03:15 you know, occupying them 03:16 with good occupation. 03:18 But in a small space 03:19 you're very closed together all the time. 03:21 -Yes! -And I remember one 03:23 morning in particularly 03:24 I was sitting up 03:26 on the bed, over the fifth wheel 03:28 and you were down at the little kitchen table below 03:30 and I could see you down there, just a few feet from me 03:33 and we were each having our quiet time. 03:35 Our children were still all asleep 03:37 and I was looking down there at you as 03:39 you were studying your Bible 03:41 and it just seemed like you had everything 03:43 together. 03:45 And at that time I was.. 03:46 -I wouldn't believe that you could be thinking that! 03:47 But anyway. 03:48 -Well, that's the way I felt and that's what 03:50 I was experiencing from you. 03:52 And I found myself struggling because I 03:54 knew that there were things in my life 03:57 that really weren't right. 03:59 And I was not wanting to reveal those areas to you 04:02 or to anyone. 04:04 And as I sat there that morning and I was 04:06 supposedly reading I felt like: 04:08 "Is there any help for me? 04:09 I mean is there any more hope for me??!" 04:11 Because the harder I tried 04:13 it seemed like the more I failed. 04:15 And I was very discouraged. 04:16 And you know, when my mind started going down that track 04:19 my heart became very heavy 04:21 and I began to cry silently. 04:23 And all of a sudden 04:25 I mean, totally out of the blue 04:27 you just get up and start walking up 04:29 into the little bedroom, and it's like: 04:31 "Oh no! What am I gonna do!?" 04:32 and I tried dry my tears 04:34 really quick and take that 04:36 gulp, you know, to try to get that lump out of my throat 04:39 and 04:40 you caught me! 04:41 -Yes I caught you honey! 04:42 And it was a providential catching you. 04:45 Because I just looked up there 04:48 and I noticed 04:49 I could see something wasn't right in your countenance. 04:52 And I went up there and I'm so thankful 04:55 because this was another turning point 04:57 in our experience. I'm so thankful 04:59 that you were willing at that time 05:02 to be honest 05:04 and to be vulnerable. 05:06 And I was very honest and very vulnerable. 05:08 And I wasn't sure if you're gonna be 05:10 disappointed with me. I didn't really think you were 05:12 but you know, sometimes when you're feeling very low 05:15 that you think the other person 05:17 isn't gonna be accepting of you. 05:19 And that's the way I was feeling, you know, 05:22 "Do I really tell him like I feel like 05:23 I'm a failure in every way? I'm a failure as mother, 05:26 I'm a failure as a wife, 05:27 I'm a failure in my spiritual experience 05:29 I'm a failure as a Christian." 05:31 You know, and 05:32 you can just imagine those emotions that were crushing 05:35 in on me. 05:36 You weren't really a failure in any of those areas. 05:38 That was a perception and isn't it amazing? 05:41 And I think that the people out there listening 05:44 have probably experienced some of these things 05:47 It's, it can be very overwhelming when you feel like 05:50 everything is going wrong and it's not working right 05:53 and the Devil just loves to come in 05:56 and causes a feeling of hopelessness. 05:59 Well, I was honest with you. 06:00 That's right! 06:01 And I told you, 06:03 I mean I just opened up. 06:04 And I believe, like you said that God's timing 06:07 was perfect, didn't that? 06:09 Fully honest, things that I had not shared with you before. 06:12 And 06:13 in that sharing process 06:15 you were so 06:17 tender and so open 06:20 and I said: "But I see you down there 06:22 and you have your act together 06:24 and I'm never gonna make it!" 06:25 You know, "maybe the world would be better off without me" 06:28 I mean not to that extreme but, 06:30 that's kind of, you know some of 06:32 the thoughts that come in there. 06:33 And 06:35 you said: "Honey 06:36 I've seen you up there study and I 06:37 think you have your act together 06:39 and I was the one who's failing -That's right! 06:42 You know, and I think it's important for 06:44 for the people understand out there 06:46 that 06:47 sometimes this is happening 06:49 not intentionally 06:51 not because we're saying: "I'm gonna be dishonest!" 06:54 but that we don't want to open and expose that 06:58 part of us that's so vulnerable and 07:01 and what if they don't understand. 07:03 And 07:04 it's a blessing that I was really entering into your 07:07 experience because 07:08 I was looking up there you, thinking 07:11 how consistent you were 07:13 and I could count on you always being there 07:15 morning by morning, 07:16 and it was a real encouragement to me 07:18 while I was struggling in my own heart 07:20 with not feeling like I was being 07:23 all that God wanted me to be. 07:25 And so, that led us 07:27 in a turning point 07:28 in our experience. 07:30 From that day forward 07:33 we were committed to never loose touch 07:35 with who we really were spiritually. 07:38 And I was so thankful. 07:39 That morning we made a commitment 07:43 to each other! And you've heard us say this 07:45 we made a commitment, we have made so many 07:48 powerful commitments in our marriage, 07:50 and 07:52 let's face it, without making commitments 07:54 that are wordy of a marriage or wordy 07:57 of whatever we'll making those commitments on 07:59 we're not gonna be successful. 08:01 And so, that day 08:02 we made a resolve that we were going to start spending 08:05 a part of our quiet time 08:08 in study together. 08:10 And so, 08:11 do you remember what we did? 08:13 I do! 08:14 You suggested that we get the book "Desire of Ages" 08:17 and that's a beautiful book 08:18 on the life of Christ! -That's right! 08:20 And you said: 08:21 "Let's take this and let's read it very slowly, 08:24 chapter by chapter and see how Christ 08:28 lived successfully in His life in this world." 08:31 That's right! 08:32 "And then let's share at the end. 08:33 You read your, you know, you read the chapter 08:36 I'll read the chapter and the last 15 minutes 08:38 let's come together and let's share what we've each learned." 08:41 And that was so encouraging to me. 08:44 -It was powerful! 08:45 -It was powerful! 08:46 And it not only 08:47 bound us together 08:49 spiritually 08:50 but it bound our hearts together. 08:52 And from that point forward 08:53 I have been opened and honest with you 08:55 in every aspect of my life! 08:57 Amen! And that 08:59 I saw some things I 09:01 had insides into you that I never had before, 09:05 deep insides, 09:06 in that time that we had together. 09:08 And I wouldn't have traded that for anything. 09:11 So, if you find yourself 09:14 in a situation where you don't really know 09:17 spiritually where 09:19 your wife, your husband is 09:21 we wanna encourage you 09:23 that you open your heart 09:25 open your heart first to God 09:27 and be willing to admit your need and then 09:29 open yourself up in honesty 09:31 and true integrity 09:33 to the one that God has given you in your life. 09:37 Honey why don't you share that verse from Ecclesiastes? 09:40 It's a very powerful verse, it's actually two verses 09:43 Ecclesiastes 4:9 and 10 it says: 09:47 "Two are better than one;" 09:49 Haven't we found that to be the case? 09:50 -Definitely! 09:51 "Two are better than one;" and here's why: 09:53 "For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: 09:58 but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; 10:02 for he hath not another to help him up." 10:06 This is so powerful because 10:08 this is where we should find ourselves 10:11 in honesty and integrity 10:13 in a marriage that's 10:15 heart to heart. We should be encouraging, 10:17 helping rather than criticizing 10:20 pushing one another down and 10:22 fault finding. 10:23 We should be seeing the one, 10:25 when I saw you that morning 10:27 tears, 10:29 quietly, you didn't know I was seeing that, 10:32 but I wanted to come up and encourage you 10:35 little that I know, 10:37 that in us opening that conversation 10:40 that we would be encouraging one another. 10:42 And God would use this for a turning point in our lives. 10:45 But this was an illustration where 10:48 you often have come to me 10:50 and you've encouraged me 10:52 you've helped to 10:53 encourage my spirit to 10:55 to buoy me back up 10:56 when we were going through a difficult time. 10:58 This is what the "two are better than one;" 11:00 when one falls the other can be there to help. 11:05 And in this opened and honest relationship 11:07 that we have 11:09 I can be free with anything 11:11 even telling you some of the mistakes I've made or 11:13 you know, not to unload on you a hard day 11:16 but to honest where I failed in the day 11:18 and, you know, how the Lord has redirected me 11:21 to take care of that with the children 11:23 if I was wrong with the children. 11:25 But to be honest, and that's helped our children 11:27 to see that -That's right! 11:28 -you know, 11:29 they can trust that what has to represent to you, 11:32 you know, some 11:34 husbands come home 11:35 and their wife unloads this terrible thing on them 11:38 and the children are feeling like: 11:39 "Oh this didn't happened! It wasn't really that bad!" 11:42 Because it isn't from their perspective 11:44 So, 11:45 we share the not so good things 11:47 but we try to share them always 11:50 in the real experience as they really happened. 11:54 Not exaggerated, you know, trying to frame it so that 11:58 you'll come to some certain conclusion. 11:59 That's right! 12:00 You know, one of the things that we've noticed and we've 12:02 talked about this before, when it comes to honesty 12:05 our children have seen our mistakes honestly, 12:08 they have seen us 12:10 honestly confess those mistakes, 12:12 get up and keep moving on. 12:14 But you know, we've been in homes 12:16 where the parents are actually teaching 12:19 dishonesty to their children 12:22 by precept and example, 12:24 by their own example and the way they handle 12:26 their interactions and 12:28 mother's hiding things. 12:29 I mean, I remember one mother 12:32 where she was hiding the fact that 12:35 she was involved in a vice that 12:37 everyone 12:39 in her family found out 12:41 but she didn't know they found out. 12:43 And I mean, it's very hurtful for the young people, but 12:46 it's not just those real hard areas 12:49 because we've also seen parents 12:52 who are, I think almost inadvertently, 12:54 teaching their children to be dishonest. 12:57 Imagine this: 12:59 this lady gets 13:01 a phone call 13:02 and here's the scenario 13:03 that happened: 13:05 she gets a phone call, 13:08 her daughter answers the phone 13:10 and when she let's her mother know who's calling 13:13 her mother has this response: 13:16 "Oh no!" 13:18 "I hate talking to her!" 13:21 Ok now, there's the impression 13:22 ok? 13:23 Now 13:25 her mother goes to the phone, 13:26 picks up the phone 13:28 and begins to talk like this: 13:30 "Ho, it's so good to hear from you!!" 13:33 "It's wonderful!" 13:34 and she's closing the conversation 13:36 and at the end of the conversation 13:38 her daughter hears this: 13:40 she's closing like this: 13:42 "Oh, it was so nice to talk to you!" 13:44 She hangs up the phone 13:47 what she says to her daughter next 13:50 "I can't stand! I wish that woman wouldn't call me!" 13:54 She's being honest 13:56 about her feelings 13:57 to her daughter 13:59 but she's being dishonest 14:01 in the way she's handling the phone call. 14:04 And so, her daughter is getting a mixed message. 14:08 Obvious that mother doesn't like talking to this other lady 14:12 but it's also obvious that 14:13 mother's not being honest in how she's handling 14:16 this other lady. 14:17 So, here you see a role model happening 14:20 in a parental situation 14:21 that should not be happening! 14:24 It's a powerful illustration 14:27 of the role model that we can have 14:29 on our children, the impact that makes in their lives. 14:32 We need to take a break right now 14:34 and we'll come back to talk about 14:36 how we can have more honesty 14:39 and integrity in our marriages. 14:41 Stay with us! 14:47 There are many "How to?" books available, 14:49 but there's one that's free and perfect for every couple: 14:52 how you can "Build a Better Marriage". 14:55 Bible-based, matrimonial advice is given in a lighthearted, 14:59 easy-to-read manner, for those contemplating marriage, newlyweds, couples in their 15:04 golden years, and everyone 15:06 in-between. Simply call or write for your free copy of this amazing little booklet, a handy 15:11 little tool to help build a 15:18 better marriage. Welcome back! We've been talking about 15:19 honesty and integrity in the marriage. 15:21 And you know honey, one of the things 15:23 I've appreciated about you 15:25 is that you're willing to be honest before God. 15:27 And that's the most important, because when we're honest 15:29 there 15:30 I know you're gonna be honest with me 15:32 as a husband, 15:33 you're gonna be honest as a father with your children, 15:35 you're gonna be honest with your friends, 15:37 you're gonna be honest in your busyness 15:39 adventures, 15:40 in every aspect. And I remember 15:43 there's been more than a few occasions when you've been 15:46 under a lot of pressure 15:48 to conform to follow after somebody else's 15:51 ideas. 15:52 And 15:54 even though it was very difficult 15:56 the honesty of your heart, 15:57 you stood for what was right! 15:59 Being honest before God 16:00 and honest to the principles 16:02 that you believe in from His Word 16:04 you stood alone and I really respect you for that! 16:06 You're not perfect! And neither am I 16:08 but I really appreciate that honesty! 16:10 And that gives me security, 16:12 trust and confidence in you as the leader in the home. 16:15 And I wanna encourage that in you! 16:17 Thank you! Well, it is encouraging! 16:19 And, you know, when I started recognizing that 16:22 if I was going to be a real Christian 16:24 I needed to be a living Christian in every area! 16:28 And 16:29 that includes honesty, 16:30 honesty of the heart, the motives. 16:33 And the Bible says in 16:34 Psalm 25:21: 16:37 "Let integrity and uprightness preserve me; 16:41 for I wait on thee." 16:44 I wanna be preserved! 16:45 I want our marriage to be preserved! 16:48 And the Proverbs 11 says: 16:49 "The integrity of the upright 16:51 shall guide them" 16:53 So, 16:54 we need this! 16:55 It's another one of those 16:57 Sure Foundations that we've been talking about 16:59 from God's Word. 17:02 I know we've talked with other couples 17:03 and this issue of honesty and integrity has been 17:06 something that's, you know, been difficult for some people. 17:09 That's right! 17:10 I mean, we 17:11 we weren't really that honest! 17:12 I mean we were honest but 17:14 you know, there's again those things 17:15 that you don't wanna really have to 17:17 to let him know, you wanna try to with on your own. 17:19 And that's good! That's where we need to start 17:21 but if we're not finding the victory in that, 17:24 if we're not able to work through it, if we haven't found 17:27 the answer for 17:28 then we need to go to the one who loves us 17:30 -That's right! -more than anyone! 17:32 And that's our spouse! 17:33 Yes! 17:34 And bear our heart in honesty! 17:35 I remember one couple and, you know, 17:37 they were sharing with us and, 17:39 actually it's been more than one couple, and 17:41 the husband has had some real challenges 17:44 in some of the things that he was choosing to look at 17:46 on the internet. -That's right! 17:48 And the willingness to come before his wife 17:51 with honesty 17:53 saying: "I don't want this!" 17:55 "But I need your help!" 17:57 You know, if we start when 17:58 when the problem is little 18:00 it's much easier to remedy! 18:01 That's right! 18:02 And, you know, it was hurtful to her, 18:04 but she saw he was calling to her. 18:06 He was looking to her 18:09 to be a help mate for him, 18:10 to help him have the victory in that area, 18:13 her as kind of the skin on, you know 18:16 the actual person there to nurture him. 18:18 That's right! And, you know, it's so important because 18:22 it did hurt her! 18:24 But, 18:25 the beauty of it is that 18:26 she was able to go pass to her and recognize that he was 18:28 being honest and vulnerable with her 18:30 and that he was doing it because he wanted to preserve 18:33 their marriage. 18:34 That's right! 18:35 You know, that other situation 18:37 where the man 18:39 didn't go to his wife 18:40 and we know many of these situations, 18:43 but he didn't go to his wife 18:46 and as a result 18:47 those thoughts kept 18:49 getting stronger and stronger! 18:52 And if he could have gone to her 18:54 and just open those thoughts while they were young, 18:56 while they were just starting up in his mind, 18:59 but he was fantasizing about situations and 19:03 what ended up happening 19:04 in this case is this man just 19:06 continued on 19:08 and that grew from something that was 19:11 you know, just a thought of his mind 19:13 until one day 19:16 he was driving through an intersection 19:19 and 19:20 the stop light camera 19:21 caught him going through a yellow light. 19:24 But that camera didn't just catch him 19:28 it caught a women 19:30 sitting next to him in his seat 19:32 with his arm around her. 19:35 Now, he didn't know that this had happened. 19:38 And so, 19:39 a few weeks later 19:40 his wife met him at the door 19:42 and you remember what happened, dear. 19:44 Oh yes! 19:45 She asked him a very direct question. 19:47 Yes! And then he wasn't very honest with her. 19:50 And then she pulled out 19:52 this set of photographs: 19:55 front view, 19:57 side view, 19:58 back view! 20:01 And he was caught! 20:03 And you know 20:04 that's really what it says in Proverbs 11:3. 20:07 It says: "but the perverseness 20:09 of the transgressors shall destroy them." 20:13 And I tell you 20:14 that marriage 20:16 went through some very 20:17 painful times, because 20:20 he was caught! He didn't come to his wife 20:22 expressing the pain 20:24 that he was experiencing in his thoughts and 20:27 be honest with his integrity 20:29 he was hiding it. 20:31 And the sin got worst and worst 20:33 until he was caught in his sin. 20:36 Thank the Lord that he was caught 20:38 before it was too late! 20:41 And thank the Lord that there's always forgiveness 20:44 -That's right! -and we can experience 20:46 that forgiveness to restore a marriage. 20:48 So, we have to ask our viewers to 20:50 be honest in your heart! 20:52 Are you living a secret life? 20:55 Behind the closed doors? 20:57 Are you going places you shouldn't be going? 20:59 Doing things you shouldn't be doing? 21:01 Looking at things you shouldn't be looking at? 21:03 Reading books or magazines 21:05 that your wife or your husband 21:07 would not want you to be looking at or reading? 21:10 Those are very important questions 21:12 because all things will be revealed! 21:15 There will be nothing hidden 21:16 and nothing is hidden -That's right! 21:17 -from the sight of God! 21:19 And that alone should help us to remember 21:22 to always live honestly 21:25 and with integrity! 21:27 And that's right! And I think if there's something 21:29 that our viewers 21:31 as they're listening, 21:32 if you are involved in something 21:34 just think about this now, 21:36 if you are involved in something, 21:37 some thought process, 21:39 something on the internet, 21:41 something that you're reading, 21:42 some 21:43 television program, whatever it is 21:45 if you're involved in something 21:47 that you 21:48 are feeling some conviction about, 21:50 something that you wouldn't be comfortable 21:53 sharing with your wife or with your husband 21:57 that's the Holly Spirit 21:58 speaking to your heart! 21:59 If you find yourself in a position where you 22:01 are rationalizing, 22:04 where you're justifying 22:05 "Well it's because my wife never...!" 22:08 If you're in that position 22:10 the first thing that needs to happen 22:13 is that you begin to ask God 22:16 to change your heart. 22:19 Because if you're in that position, 22:20 it's gonna be very difficult for you just to feel like 22:22 going and being vulnerable 22:24 with your husband, with your wife whatever the situation is. 22:28 You need to be asking God 22:30 the same God that's making you uncomfortable, 22:33 the same Holy Spirit 22:34 that is bringing some conviction 22:36 about you dishonesty 22:37 and about the things that you're doing, 22:39 maybe the things that you're seeing 22:41 when your wife thinks you're just doing busyness 22:45 on the internet 22:46 and she finds out 22:48 that she's, that her husband is doing some things 22:51 behind the scenes on the internet 22:52 that are totally inappropriate, 22:54 if the Spirit of Lord 22:55 is bringing conviction there 22:57 then turn to the Lord first 22:58 and ask Him to give you the grace 23:01 to surrender yourself to Him 23:03 and be willing to become honest. 23:06 Because, 23:07 I tell you no matter what 23:08 the consequences are 23:10 honesty 23:12 is always the best policy! 23:13 That is a worldly saying 23:15 but it is very true! 23:18 And you know, it's not just in some of those 23:20 relationship issues of honesty 23:22 it's in other aspects of the marriage. I mean 23:24 honesty in -That's right! 23:25 how the money is being used. 23:27 And are you sneaking things on the side or 23:29 buying things that the other person doesn't know about. 23:32 I mean 23:33 there's all aspects of honesty 23:35 in the marriage that we have to deal with, 23:37 honesty in our communication, 23:39 honesty in our 23:41 relationships outside of the home, 23:43 with our other family members. -That's right! 23:45 It just gets, it's all inclusive 23:48 it's all involved in our lives. 23:50 That's right! 23:52 So, 23:53 we have found 23:55 that as we have been willing to be honest, 23:58 has it ever been painful? 24:00 Painful sometimes and embarrassing sometimes. 24:03 But we have found 24:04 that in spite of those things if we are willing to be honest 24:08 and now 24:09 there's nothing that we can't talk about! 24:11 That's right! 24:12 Am I saying that honestly and truthfully? 24:15 -Absolutely! 24:16 And that is a powerful statement! 24:19 Because we have known so many marriages, 24:21 our is being one of them, 24:23 that there were things that we 24:24 had a difficult time being honest about. 24:27 We can be opened and honest to talk about anything now! 24:32 And there's nothing hidden, there's nothing unresolved. 24:34 Everything it's been brought out, 24:36 everything it's been worked through 24:38 and everything it's been honestly communicated. 24:42 No secret hidden agendas. 24:45 So, we wanna encourage you 24:48 that you consider your motivations, 24:50 consider where you are in your experience, 24:53 are there things that are hidden, 24:55 things that are uncomfortable 24:57 now is the time to face them! 24:59 Don't wait! 25:01 Honey do you wanna share the personal challenge with them? 25:03 We'd like you to begin right where you are 25:06 as Tom just said, open your heart up before God 25:09 and let Him 25:10 be the One to reveal to you 25:12 the areas in your life 25:13 that need to be righted 25:15 in your marriage 25:16 and in your own relationship to God! 25:18 And then to other relationships if there's those areas as well. 25:21 But begin today to open your heart to God 25:24 and enjoy 25:26 the cleansing Power of Jesus Christ 25:29 to give you freedom from dishonesty. 25:32 And I wanna encourage 25:34 the person on the other end of the honesty. 25:37 You know, if your husband comes to you, 25:39 after seeing this program, 25:42 and he says to you: 25:43 "Honey I just, I've got to be honest with you! 25:46 I haven't been doing right!" 25:48 We wanna also encourage you, the one that 25:51 hears this vulnerable honesty, 25:54 let God have you 25:56 with a tender forgiving spirit. 25:59 Let Christ work in you 26:01 to make the difference 26:02 that only He can make! 26:04 So, both sides of the equation 26:06 need a power outside of ourselves! 26:08 Both sides of this honesty issue 26:10 one of us may need to be honest, the other may 26:13 need to be 26:14 open 26:15 to accept and forgive 26:16 and to be able to repair 26:18 the damage in Christ and move forward. 26:21 So, 26:22 in order to do that 26:23 we need to surrender to Christ 26:25 and I believe we need 26:27 communion with Christ 26:29 to go through that. 26:30 And I think it would be a blessing right now 26:31 if we could close together in prayer. 26:33 Do you wanna pray honey? -Sure! 26:36 Father we are thankful that You 26:38 are all knowing and that You reveal to us 26:41 even some of the motives 26:42 that we may not understand, that are in our hearts. 26:45 We pray for honesty and integrity in our lives 26:48 and in our marriages Lord, 26:50 that we can have security and happiness and peace 26:53 and harmony there. 26:55 And we pray also Lord for a spirit of forgiveness 26:59 and of restoration. 27:00 In Jesus name Amen! 27:02 Amen! 27:04 Well, we hope that you'll join us next time! 27:07 We're going to be talking about money matters. 27:11 There's money matter?? 27:12 Do we need money?? 27:14 We know we need money 27:16 and we know that the love of money 27:18 is the root of all evil! 27:20 So, if we can separate those two things 27:23 and when we get together next time 27:24 we're gonna be talking about 27:26 how we can deal with the money matters 27:29 that really matter in our marriages! 27:32 Marriages that we want to be heart to heart 27:36 and that will only happen 27:37 as we're heart to heart with Jesus Christ 27:40 and heart to heart with the one we love. 27:47 Marriage in God's Hands 27:48 Executive Producer Danny Shelton 27:51 Director Jozsef Palhegyi 27:54 Video Kristin Stewart 27:56 Audio Timothy S. 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