Hi, I'm Dr. Kim, and welcome to Live to be Well. 00:00:35.33\00:00:39.23 I say to myself all the time, 00:00:39.27\00:00:41.00 "I'm not going to let go of God." 00:00:41.04\00:00:44.21 I'm not gonna let go of my family, 00:00:44.24\00:00:46.07 not let go of what God has given me to do. 00:00:46.11\00:00:48.94 Today, I'm blessed to have Pastor Garth Gabriel, 00:00:48.98\00:00:51.38 the Pastor of the Conant Gardens 00:00:51.41\00:00:53.52 Seventh-day Adventist Church. 00:00:53.55\00:00:54.88 Amen. In Detroit, Michigan. 00:00:54.92\00:00:56.48 Welcome, Pastor, how are you? 00:00:56.52\00:00:58.29 It's great to be here. I'm doing great. 00:00:58.32\00:01:00.16 You're doing great, you gonna behave yourself. 00:01:00.19\00:01:02.32 I'm gonna try to make this through. 00:01:02.36\00:01:04.13 You are gonna make it through? I'm gonna make it through. 00:01:04.16\00:01:05.49 Okay, I'm gonna, I'm gonna behave myself. 00:01:05.53\00:01:07.80 Well, I just want to thank you for coming on. 00:01:07.83\00:01:09.80 It's my pleasure. I praise God. 00:01:09.83\00:01:11.33 We want to just talk about not letting go. 00:01:11.37\00:01:13.10 You are not letting go of God, your calling on your life, 00:01:13.13\00:01:17.77 your family, you are committed to your wife, your children, 00:01:17.81\00:01:20.91 your grandchildren, your community. 00:01:20.94\00:01:23.08 You know, why are you not letting go? 00:01:23.11\00:01:25.51 You have so many hats you wear. So why not let something go? 00:01:25.55\00:01:31.72 There is so much to lose 00:01:31.75\00:01:33.89 even when you let go of things that might seem minute, 00:01:33.92\00:01:37.46 because I believe that God has the ability 00:01:37.49\00:01:39.96 to create in us a gift to do different things, 00:01:40.00\00:01:43.43 and to bless different people. 00:01:43.47\00:01:45.17 So it's a difficult thing to let go 00:01:45.20\00:01:47.37 when once you start at something. 00:01:47.40\00:01:49.30 It's easy for lot of people to do, 00:01:49.34\00:01:51.27 but it's always not the right thing to do. 00:01:51.31\00:01:53.31 That's it. 00:01:53.34\00:01:54.68 The Bible says, "He'll make room for your gifts". 00:01:54.71\00:01:56.04 Yes, indeed. 00:01:56.08\00:01:57.41 And, you know, and you sing, 00:01:57.45\00:01:58.78 I remember being at Oakwood College, 00:01:58.81\00:02:00.95 and I saw this group The Heritage Singers. 00:02:00.98\00:02:03.35 Oh, yeah. 00:02:03.39\00:02:04.72 And there was one 00:02:04.75\00:02:06.09 African-American, was it just one? 00:02:06.12\00:02:07.46 Good looking, good looking guy. 00:02:07.49\00:02:08.82 You want me to put that in there? 00:02:08.86\00:02:10.19 Yeah, yeah. Good looking, African-American. 00:02:10.23\00:02:11.66 And I'm like, you know, "Who are these people 00:02:11.69\00:02:14.20 coming to sing at Oakwood," 00:02:14.23\00:02:15.86 I know they want to give us diversity, 00:02:15.90\00:02:17.37 but well, you know, so I was like, "Okay", 00:02:17.40\00:02:20.90 but then I want to, in fact you found a wife there. 00:02:20.94\00:02:23.81 Found my wife at Oakwood. 00:02:23.84\00:02:25.47 Yes, and didn't attend Oakwood. Didn't attend. 00:02:25.51\00:02:27.64 You did attend Atlantic Union College. 00:02:27.68\00:02:29.34 I went to The Great Atlantic Union College. 00:02:29.38\00:02:31.15 Did you say The Great Atlantic... 00:02:31.18\00:02:32.51 The Great Atlantic Union College. 00:02:32.55\00:02:33.88 Oh, my. Great people, great people. 00:02:33.92\00:02:35.28 Great people, well, look at you, great people. 00:02:35.32\00:02:36.65 Well, you are so kind. 00:02:36.69\00:02:38.02 Ah, yeah, I'm being kind right now. 00:02:38.05\00:02:40.56 So you make your wife there, how did you meet her? 00:02:40.59\00:02:43.69 I was sent to audition singers, 00:02:43.73\00:02:48.13 and I don't know if you remember Dunbar Henri? 00:02:48.16\00:02:51.20 Yes, yes. 00:02:51.23\00:02:52.57 Dunbar is a Heritage singer... Yes. 00:02:52.60\00:02:54.14 And he said, "Well, I have a couple singers for you 00:02:54.17\00:02:56.27 to meet that you're going to like." 00:02:56.30\00:02:58.67 And sure enough he brought my wife Rosie 00:02:58.71\00:03:01.11 to valentine back then to sing. 00:03:01.14\00:03:04.25 And I listened to her and said, "Yeah, that's the one." 00:03:04.28\00:03:09.02 But I was only interested in the voice. 00:03:09.05\00:03:11.02 Okay at that time, the voice. 00:03:11.05\00:03:13.79 "No, right, Kim, right, Kim," okay. 00:03:13.82\00:03:17.06 And she sang... Yeah. 00:03:17.09\00:03:19.56 And we asked her to join. 00:03:19.59\00:03:21.96 About three, four months later, and she came out, 00:03:22.00\00:03:24.23 came out to California. 00:03:24.27\00:03:25.60 Came to California? Yeah. 00:03:25.63\00:03:26.97 So how did this marriage begin? 00:03:27.00\00:03:31.91 When Rosie did join the Heritage Singers, 00:03:31.94\00:03:34.48 of course, we travel together on a bus. 00:03:34.51\00:03:38.71 We lived on the bus, men and women lived on the bus. 00:03:38.75\00:03:43.05 And we had a family type atmosphere, 00:03:43.08\00:03:46.62 of course, you know, we stayed in hotels 00:03:46.65\00:03:49.62 on weekends in those days, and in people's homes 00:03:49.66\00:03:52.66 so the ladies would be in one home, 00:03:52.69\00:03:55.26 the men would be in other. 00:03:55.30\00:03:56.63 It was quite nice. 00:03:56.67\00:03:58.87 We enjoyed good home cooking from those days, 00:03:58.90\00:04:02.14 now every night's a hotel. 00:04:02.17\00:04:05.27 Things have changed. But I miss those days. 00:04:05.31\00:04:07.71 But it gave an opportunity for me 00:04:07.74\00:04:09.54 to really talk to my wife, you know, 00:04:09.58\00:04:12.91 especially on those long bus rides 00:04:12.95\00:04:15.58 from city to city, and understand her, 00:04:15.62\00:04:18.32 understand her background, and understand her family, 00:04:18.35\00:04:22.96 really great family. 00:04:22.99\00:04:24.46 And so it was an easy decision when that time came. 00:04:24.49\00:04:27.10 Oh, blessing. 00:04:27.13\00:04:28.73 How many children do you have? 00:04:28.76\00:04:30.43 We have four children. 00:04:30.47\00:04:33.50 And the reason I hesitated, we actually had five, 00:04:33.54\00:04:36.20 we lost one when we first moved to the Detroit in 1986. 00:04:36.24\00:04:40.38 I didn't know that. 00:04:40.41\00:04:41.74 Yes, yes, and she was actually, almost nine months pregnant 00:04:41.78\00:04:46.78 and we lost him, a little Romaine. 00:04:46.82\00:04:49.42 And so he's buried at Mound and Davison 00:04:49.45\00:04:51.95 at the cemetery there. 00:04:51.99\00:04:53.32 So we still go from time to time, 00:04:53.36\00:04:55.32 but we have four children, and love them. 00:04:55.36\00:05:00.23 You have, you dealt with a few of them. 00:05:00.26\00:05:01.63 Yes, yes, yes. 00:05:01.66\00:05:03.00 And how many grandchildren? 00:05:03.03\00:05:04.37 Two grandchildren. Two grandchildren. 00:05:04.40\00:05:06.03 I know, you're saying, 00:05:06.07\00:05:07.44 how could I look so young, like I know... 00:05:07.47\00:05:09.47 Yeah, yeah, yeah, right, 00:05:09.50\00:05:10.84 I can't believe you're grandfather. 00:05:10.87\00:05:12.21 I can't believe it either. 00:05:12.24\00:05:13.58 Okay, moving right along. So now... 00:05:13.61\00:05:17.08 So you were AUC, what were you studying in school? 00:05:17.11\00:05:21.05 I studied behavioral science, psychology, 00:05:21.08\00:05:24.65 sociology, and I minored in theology. 00:05:24.69\00:05:28.32 Really? Yes, yes. 00:05:28.36\00:05:30.26 So when you went to Kansas City, 00:05:30.29\00:05:31.73 were you a pastor there? 00:05:31.76\00:05:33.53 No, no, no. Okay, well, tell us about that? 00:05:33.56\00:05:35.63 When we moved to Kansas City in 1982, 00:05:35.66\00:05:41.64 Pastor Randy Stafford, 00:05:41.67\00:05:43.00 who was your pastor at one time. 00:05:43.04\00:05:45.04 He was our pastor, and he said, 00:05:45.07\00:05:48.71 "Garth, I'm going to make you an elder." 00:05:48.74\00:05:51.68 Being an elder, 00:05:51.71\00:05:53.98 pastor was the farthest thing from my mind. 00:05:54.02\00:05:56.89 And became an elder, and he ordained me, 00:05:56.92\00:06:00.36 and things happened after that. 00:06:00.39\00:06:02.92 So how did you come to be in the Lake Region Conference 00:06:02.96\00:06:06.53 in Detroit? 00:06:06.56\00:06:07.93 I was, my wife, we were in business together. 00:06:07.96\00:06:12.73 When we moved here, I had a million dollar business, 00:06:12.77\00:06:16.81 and we were, you know, 00:06:16.84\00:06:18.44 we're doing pretty, pretty well. 00:06:18.47\00:06:20.58 And believe it or not I, one morning, 00:06:20.61\00:06:25.91 and it's almost that Jonah experience 00:06:25.95\00:06:28.58 that Larry Keith talked about, I just had this urge 00:06:28.62\00:06:33.99 to do something for the Lord. 00:06:34.02\00:06:36.89 We were very successful in what we were doing. 00:06:36.93\00:06:40.00 As a matter of fact, unbeknownst to you, 00:06:40.03\00:06:42.60 and I don't know if I ever told you this before. 00:06:42.63\00:06:44.77 But one of our clients happened to be one of your clients, 00:06:44.80\00:06:47.67 and they spoke... 00:06:47.70\00:06:49.04 This is it in about 1988-89, 00:06:49.07\00:06:51.94 and he spoke very highly of you. 00:06:51.97\00:06:55.21 Because he heard Seventh-day Adventist. 00:06:55.24\00:06:57.31 He says, "I have a Seventh-day Adventist friend," 00:06:57.35\00:06:59.21 and you were, I guess, counseling in the school, 00:06:59.25\00:07:02.08 and so I knew about you even back then 00:07:02.12\00:07:07.46 because we didn't, we didn't attend the same church. 00:07:07.49\00:07:09.22 Same church, no, no. 00:07:09.26\00:07:10.59 So I gave God a challenge, I said, "God, 00:07:10.63\00:07:13.03 if you want me to leave business 00:07:13.06\00:07:15.50 and get into ministry, 00:07:15.53\00:07:17.03 you're gonna have to do something to prove it to me." 00:07:17.07\00:07:19.67 You know, usually God ask us to prove but I asked God, 00:07:19.70\00:07:23.00 you know, I want you to prove it to me 00:07:23.04\00:07:25.64 what you wanted. 00:07:25.67\00:07:27.01 And so we planted a church in Lathrup village, 00:07:27.04\00:07:32.38 the Community Fellowship Seventh-day Adventist Church, 00:07:32.41\00:07:35.08 went there, just my family. 00:07:35.12\00:07:37.02 I was preaching to five of them. 00:07:37.05\00:07:39.59 Just five people? 00:07:39.62\00:07:40.96 Yeah, just five, started with five, and then six, 00:07:40.99\00:07:43.79 and then seven, and then eight. 00:07:43.83\00:07:46.93 And God just blessed the ministry, 00:07:46.96\00:07:49.56 blessed the planting of the church. 00:07:49.60\00:07:51.83 And when we left there in 2006, 00:07:51.87\00:07:56.94 we had about 250 people attending. 00:07:56.97\00:07:59.67 So now, how did it become under the conference 00:07:59.71\00:08:03.35 because this was, you know, a planted church... 00:08:03.38\00:08:05.88 Right. 00:08:05.91\00:08:07.25 So and then they, then they picked you 00:08:07.28\00:08:09.02 because you were not a pastor within the conference. 00:08:09.05\00:08:11.05 Exactly. So how did that happen? 00:08:11.09\00:08:14.82 Dr. Miles, our president at the time, 00:08:14.86\00:08:18.36 I stayed in constant contact with him, and he said that, 00:08:18.39\00:08:23.47 "If you would like to join the conference," 00:08:23.50\00:08:25.53 he said, "we have procedures that we follow." 00:08:25.57\00:08:27.50 And he laid out those procedures for me. 00:08:27.54\00:08:29.77 He said, "We need a parent church." 00:08:29.80\00:08:31.14 And by the way, the Ypsilanti Seventh-day Adventist Church 00:08:31.17\00:08:33.61 became our parent church under pastor Ralph Shelton. 00:08:33.64\00:08:37.31 After that, we just, 00:08:37.35\00:08:40.92 we were voted into the conference, 00:08:40.95\00:08:43.05 and shortly after that they asked me 00:08:43.08\00:08:44.85 to be a full time pastor. 00:08:44.89\00:08:46.22 Wow, God showed up and showed out. 00:08:46.25\00:08:48.42 Showed out. 00:08:48.46\00:08:49.79 Didn't plan on it, did not plan on doing this. 00:08:49.82\00:08:52.49 Oh, my goodness, how long have you been in ministry now? 00:08:52.53\00:08:54.73 Almost 20 years. 00:08:54.76\00:08:56.10 What? Yeah. 00:08:56.13\00:08:57.47 Have you been 20? Almost 20 years. 00:08:57.50\00:08:59.33 You know... Yeah. 00:08:59.37\00:09:00.70 And I've known you since, of course... 00:09:00.74\00:09:02.24 Yeah. 00:09:02.27\00:09:03.61 The community fellowship. Right. 00:09:03.64\00:09:04.97 Of course, over at Coney gardens. 00:09:05.01\00:09:07.81 And then having a good relationship 00:09:07.84\00:09:09.61 with you, and your family. 00:09:09.64\00:09:11.75 The girls were in the hands of praise. 00:09:11.78\00:09:13.45 Those girls, you were excellent. 00:09:13.48\00:09:15.78 Oh. 00:09:15.82\00:09:17.15 You taught them so much and they use it today. 00:09:17.19\00:09:19.02 I have to tell you though. Yes. 00:09:19.05\00:09:20.69 You taught them sign language. Yes. 00:09:20.72\00:09:23.46 And they would often speak in the house 00:09:23.49\00:09:26.53 when they didn't want me to know anything. 00:09:26.56\00:09:29.36 They use sign language. 00:09:29.40\00:09:30.73 They use the sign language. So I thank you for that. 00:09:30.77\00:09:32.10 Oh, you're very welcome, you're very welcome. 00:09:32.13\00:09:34.20 And I remember this stage presence 00:09:34.24\00:09:36.17 'cause remember, we do concerts all over... 00:09:36.20\00:09:39.24 And they, Gabriel girls, and, oh, my goodness, 00:09:39.27\00:09:42.78 your daughter Erika being in the Aeolians. 00:09:42.81\00:09:46.41 Oh, just amazing voice. Thank you. 00:09:46.45\00:09:49.38 How are they doing, you know, because 00:09:49.42\00:09:50.99 Quinn just got his master's from Oakwood. 00:09:51.02\00:09:52.69 Yes, yes, her husband Quinton as well. 00:09:52.72\00:09:54.36 And they're pastoring in Texas. 00:09:54.39\00:09:55.79 Yes, they are in Texas right now, 00:09:55.82\00:09:57.89 probably gonna go through some changes 00:09:57.93\00:09:59.43 'cause being a pastor, you know, 00:09:59.46\00:10:00.83 they may be relocating. 00:10:00.86\00:10:02.60 So we're praying, pray for them because they need prayers 00:10:02.63\00:10:06.40 as to which direction God is leading them. 00:10:06.43\00:10:10.07 Wouldn't it be wonderful to have him come back 00:10:10.11\00:10:12.01 and co-pastor with you? 00:10:12.04\00:10:13.38 That would be awesome. 00:10:13.41\00:10:14.74 I know you would love to have your baby girl here. 00:10:14.78\00:10:16.11 I would, I would love it. 00:10:16.14\00:10:17.48 You know, do you babysit? 00:10:17.51\00:10:20.02 I don't consider taking care of my grandchildren, 00:10:20.05\00:10:23.08 babysitting. 00:10:23.12\00:10:24.45 Okay. 00:10:24.49\00:10:25.82 I think, they babysit me. 00:10:25.85\00:10:27.19 Oh, my Lord, and you know, you know what, 00:10:27.22\00:10:29.72 you need some oil right now 00:10:29.76\00:10:32.96 'cause you're probably dozing out. 00:10:32.99\00:10:34.43 I doze out, and I wake up, and they are looking at me. 00:10:34.46\00:10:39.80 Like, "You are supposed to be taking care of us." 00:10:39.83\00:10:41.44 I know, I know, I know. Okay. 00:10:41.47\00:10:44.17 Marriage, your relationship, 00:10:44.21\00:10:46.11 how do you enjoy marriage and balance a ministry? 00:10:46.14\00:10:51.68 That's a very difficult question 00:10:51.71\00:10:55.48 because ministry has taken 00:10:55.52\00:10:57.59 such an integral part of my life 00:10:57.62\00:11:01.32 that oft times your home suffers. 00:11:01.36\00:11:03.26 A lot of ministers go through that. 00:11:03.29\00:11:04.93 So I'm guilty. 00:11:04.96\00:11:06.80 A lot of my members say, 00:11:06.83\00:11:08.16 "Have you talked to your family? 00:11:08.20\00:11:09.53 Have you taken your wife out? Have you done that?" 00:11:09.56\00:11:11.50 And I'm so caught up in doing church, 00:11:11.53\00:11:14.80 the church's ministry that I often neglect. 00:11:14.84\00:11:17.61 I'm being upfront. Yeah, be transparent. 00:11:17.64\00:11:19.41 Yeah, I'm being very transparent. 00:11:19.44\00:11:20.78 Yeah, that would help someone else. 00:11:20.81\00:11:22.14 But I'm doing a lot better. You're doing better. 00:11:22.18\00:11:23.55 Oh yeah, I have members on me who make sure that I do. 00:11:23.58\00:11:26.48 You do date night? 00:11:26.51\00:11:27.85 Yeah, we do, we go out, we do date days a lot of times. 00:11:27.88\00:11:31.65 So we would go out to restaurants, you know, 00:11:31.69\00:11:34.09 take off during the day, in the middle of the day, 00:11:34.12\00:11:36.86 and we just had a date night on this past Tuesday. 00:11:36.89\00:11:41.76 Tuesday? 00:11:41.80\00:11:43.13 'Cause all the children are gone, the baby is home. 00:11:43.16\00:11:44.70 Yeah, the baby is home. Goth, how old is he now? 00:11:44.73\00:11:46.94 He's 20 years old. What? 00:11:46.97\00:11:49.07 One more year at Oakwood. 00:11:49.10\00:11:51.31 One more. What's his major? 00:11:51.34\00:11:52.97 He's doing political science. 00:11:53.01\00:11:54.41 What? One more year? 00:11:54.44\00:11:55.94 Yes, yes, but, you know, his passion... 00:11:55.98\00:11:59.15 Yes. Is the guitar. 00:11:59.18\00:12:00.52 Is it? And he plays... 00:12:00.55\00:12:01.88 He plays for church? He plays for church. 00:12:01.92\00:12:03.25 He plays guitar and... I haven't heard him. 00:12:03.28\00:12:04.72 He's pretty good. 00:12:04.75\00:12:06.12 That is really wonderful, 00:12:06.15\00:12:07.49 you include him in the service like that. 00:12:07.52\00:12:08.86 Yes, all of, all of my children. 00:12:08.89\00:12:11.13 What is happening to our inner city relationships 00:12:11.16\00:12:15.23 with our youth today? 00:12:15.26\00:12:16.60 Where are our youth in the church? 00:12:16.63\00:12:18.13 What's happening? 00:12:18.17\00:12:20.00 We have prayed, we have looked at data 00:12:20.04\00:12:24.01 as to why young people are leaving the church, 00:12:24.04\00:12:28.34 and why is it even in the inner city 00:12:28.38\00:12:30.45 we can't draw more people to us? 00:12:30.48\00:12:32.45 You know, I... 00:12:32.48\00:12:35.15 That is a very difficult proposition. 00:12:35.18\00:12:38.39 It's good, I think, to look at, you know, 00:12:38.42\00:12:41.49 the beast of Revelation 13, or the harlot in Revelation 17, 00:12:41.52\00:12:47.00 and send those pictures on posters, 00:12:47.03\00:12:48.93 but that does not really appeal to people in the inner city. 00:12:48.96\00:12:53.74 You know, I don't, I can't speak 00:12:53.77\00:12:55.30 for the suburban communities 00:12:55.34\00:12:57.31 but I have come to understand that 00:12:57.34\00:13:00.78 you need one on one meetings. 00:13:00.81\00:13:03.01 You need to spend time with them. 00:13:03.04\00:13:05.51 And show them you love them. Yes. 00:13:05.55\00:13:08.62 Feed them. Yes. 00:13:08.65\00:13:09.98 Take care of them. Yes. 00:13:10.02\00:13:11.35 And then you bring on the Revelation 00:13:11.39\00:13:13.49 and the Daniel's. 00:13:13.52\00:13:14.86 But people aren't really drawn, and I don't believe 00:13:14.89\00:13:17.09 we have enough programs for our young people. 00:13:17.13\00:13:19.83 We need purpose in the church. We do. 00:13:19.86\00:13:22.63 You know, if I have a purpose, I'm gonna serve. 00:13:22.66\00:13:26.03 That's why, you know, when the Lord put on my heart 00:13:26.07\00:13:28.57 with God's Hands of Praise, I remember, 00:13:28.60\00:13:29.94 when a young lady approached me after my oldest daughter 00:13:29.97\00:13:33.51 and I signed for family life program, 00:13:33.54\00:13:36.11 and my pastor didn't really understand, 00:13:36.14\00:13:38.21 he thought I was dance Minister. 00:13:38.25\00:13:39.58 I said, "No. 00:13:39.61\00:13:40.95 We use our hands." Right. 00:13:40.98\00:13:42.35 And we signed we shall behold him. 00:13:42.38\00:13:46.29 After that this young lady, 00:13:46.32\00:13:47.89 the roof as City Temple fell in. 00:13:47.92\00:13:50.29 We had to go to another church to use... 00:13:50.33\00:13:51.79 I remember that. 00:13:51.83\00:13:53.16 Remember that. Yes. 00:13:53.19\00:13:54.53 So this young lady tapped me on the shoulder and said, 00:13:54.56\00:13:56.36 "You need to start a class." 00:13:56.40\00:13:57.73 I said, "Honey I'm too busy." 00:13:57.77\00:13:59.87 For like eight weeks, 00:13:59.90\00:14:02.27 she would ask me to start a class. 00:14:02.30\00:14:04.64 One Sabbath, we went to another church 00:14:04.67\00:14:06.31 so I could avoid her. 00:14:06.34\00:14:08.04 Came back, she was, you know, in the back of me, 00:14:08.08\00:14:11.21 and she was like this. 00:14:11.25\00:14:13.18 She was like 13, 14, 13 years old. 00:14:13.21\00:14:15.92 And she looked at me, she said, "God told me to tell you 00:14:15.95\00:14:19.35 to start a class, 00:14:19.39\00:14:21.59 and God will bless this class." 00:14:21.62\00:14:23.26 Wow. 00:14:23.29\00:14:24.63 And now 23 years later, God's Hands of Praise. 00:14:24.66\00:14:28.16 And that was Meghan Prince King. 00:14:28.20\00:14:30.40 Oh, my goodness! 00:14:30.43\00:14:31.90 And she was just a little bitty thing. 00:14:31.93\00:14:34.20 13 years old. I think, no. 00:14:34.24\00:14:35.57 She was eight. Oh, she was eight at the time. 00:14:35.60\00:14:37.31 Eight years old. Okay, okay. 00:14:37.34\00:14:38.67 She said, "You have to start this class." 00:14:38.71\00:14:41.24 And then the choir grew from 8 to 28, to 38, to a 100, 00:14:41.28\00:14:45.71 you were at concerts. 00:14:45.75\00:14:47.75 And we would go from church to church, 00:14:47.78\00:14:49.88 gave them a purpose. 00:14:49.92\00:14:51.49 We went to Bermuda, went to Canada, Illinois, 00:14:51.52\00:14:54.46 but they will come to church 00:14:54.49\00:14:56.42 because we were a part of the service, 00:14:56.46\00:14:58.79 and then they wanted to be in church 00:14:58.83\00:15:00.66 'cause we were all together. 00:15:00.70\00:15:02.03 It gave them a purpose. 00:15:02.06\00:15:03.40 We need programs in the church. I agree. 00:15:03.43\00:15:07.27 So what kind of programs do we need to implement 00:15:07.30\00:15:10.31 in the church to help our young people to feel like 00:15:10.34\00:15:12.84 they are part of the service? 00:15:12.87\00:15:14.98 And you and I have worked together before... 00:15:15.01\00:15:17.31 We, you know, remember, we bought Smokey and Foland. 00:15:17.35\00:15:19.11 Oh yes, yes. 00:15:19.15\00:15:20.55 And they've got to sign... Yes. 00:15:20.58\00:15:22.45 You know, things like that, and I believe that 00:15:22.48\00:15:24.95 we need to have effective Bible studies. 00:15:24.99\00:15:28.96 Interesting ways of, you know... 00:15:28.99\00:15:31.06 Just innovative ways of incorporating 00:15:31.09\00:15:33.03 our young people. 00:15:33.06\00:15:34.60 In particular into studying the Bible 00:15:34.63\00:15:36.90 and loving the Word of God. 00:15:36.93\00:15:38.63 And we have fallen short somehow. 00:15:38.67\00:15:42.94 I don't know the answer to many of ills 00:15:42.97\00:15:47.48 that we go through, but we're praying. 00:15:47.51\00:15:49.94 We have an excellent prayer team, 00:15:49.98\00:15:51.51 and we pray for our youth every opportunity we have. 00:15:51.55\00:15:55.32 I think, having Chase speaking at our church last week 00:15:55.35\00:15:58.52 brought out so many of our young people. 00:15:58.55\00:16:00.09 He's 15, isn't he? Yes. 00:16:00.12\00:16:01.86 And then having them come hear 00:16:01.89\00:16:04.66 someone from their age group preach... 00:16:04.69\00:16:06.63 That's right. We need more of that. 00:16:06.66\00:16:08.36 Training our young people... Yes. 00:16:08.40\00:16:10.37 We need to have sewing classes, GED classes, 00:16:10.40\00:16:13.94 we need to have math class, we have vacation Bible school. 00:16:13.97\00:16:16.81 Yes. But after a week it's over. 00:16:16.84\00:16:19.21 So we need to open up more programs to the church, 00:16:19.24\00:16:22.94 I mean, to the community. 00:16:22.98\00:16:24.55 And that's what builds our congregation. 00:16:24.58\00:16:26.68 Yeah. 00:16:26.72\00:16:28.05 You know, I did something, Kim, a few years ago, 00:16:28.08\00:16:32.65 I wanted to go right into the heart of the city 00:16:32.69\00:16:35.32 and you know, we don't put tents up anymore. 00:16:35.36\00:16:37.16 No we don't do the tent efforts. 00:16:37.19\00:16:38.59 We don't, but I decided to do it with it, 00:16:38.63\00:16:41.66 the Lord just said, "Do something different." 00:16:41.70\00:16:44.07 And we planted a tent in the middle of Holland Park 00:16:44.10\00:16:46.57 right in the center of Detroit, and the drug dealers were there 00:16:46.60\00:16:50.77 that push us, you name it, homeless folk were there, 00:16:50.81\00:16:55.24 and we spoke, I preached for three weeks. 00:16:55.28\00:16:58.08 The first night there were no lights. 00:16:58.11\00:16:59.98 No lights. 00:17:00.02\00:17:01.45 I preached in the dark, and people were there, 00:17:01.48\00:17:03.39 they came out from the shelters they came. 00:17:03.42\00:17:06.62 Brandon Dent, we talk about Brandon all the time. 00:17:06.65\00:17:08.96 Brandon was my music director with a young lady 00:17:08.99\00:17:11.59 called Lisa Sameano, you know Lisa. 00:17:11.63\00:17:14.16 And we sang, and I preached for three weeks, four weeks. 00:17:14.20\00:17:18.13 Four weeks! 00:17:18.17\00:17:19.50 And what was very interesting, I asked, 00:17:19.53\00:17:23.27 we put up all of our equipment, our sound equipment, 00:17:23.30\00:17:26.54 and I asked some of the drug dealers, I said, 00:17:26.57\00:17:28.58 "Look, please take care of our tent for us, 00:17:28.61\00:17:31.31 make sure that everything is in place." 00:17:31.35\00:17:34.88 Four weeks, we never took a microphone, an amplifier out, 00:17:34.92\00:17:39.79 and everything stayed 00:17:39.82\00:17:41.42 because they bought into what we were doing. 00:17:41.46\00:17:44.39 And by God's grace, we baptized over 60 people in four weeks. 00:17:44.43\00:17:48.10 What? Four weeks. Going right into the city. 00:17:48.13\00:17:50.37 See there. God is good. 00:17:50.40\00:17:52.27 And they are hungry for the Word of God. 00:17:52.30\00:17:53.64 They need it, it's out there and they need it. 00:17:53.67\00:17:56.00 You look at our youth today, they'll get into a gang, 00:17:56.04\00:17:59.01 they'll run away from home because 00:17:59.04\00:18:00.58 they're looking for acceptability, 00:18:00.61\00:18:03.88 they are looking for structure. 00:18:03.91\00:18:05.25 Yes, they are. 00:18:05.28\00:18:06.61 And if mom is on drugs, dad is on drugs, 00:18:06.65\00:18:08.05 or dad is in prison, I need someone to guide me 00:18:08.08\00:18:11.15 so I'll turn to the gangs, and I'll go to anyone 00:18:11.19\00:18:14.72 that's going to help guide me. 00:18:14.76\00:18:16.09 That's right. Even if it's negative guidance. 00:18:16.12\00:18:18.59 They're looking for some type of structure to fit in. 00:18:18.63\00:18:22.00 I think, it's important that 00:18:22.03\00:18:24.03 we do still have the usher board. 00:18:24.07\00:18:25.83 We need to put back in place our AY program. 00:18:25.87\00:18:29.00 Adventist Youth Program. Yes. 00:18:29.04\00:18:30.94 I grew up with that. 00:18:30.97\00:18:32.31 I look forward, 5 o'clock in the afternoon, 00:18:32.34\00:18:34.44 we couldn't wait to get back to church. 00:18:34.48\00:18:35.94 Right, that's right. You know... 00:18:35.98\00:18:37.38 We didn't go home. 00:18:37.41\00:18:38.75 We didn't, yeah, right. We stayed. 00:18:38.78\00:18:40.28 Yes, we would have fellowship dinners. 00:18:40.32\00:18:42.32 That's right. You know... 00:18:42.35\00:18:43.69 And then you stayed for a while. 00:18:43.72\00:18:45.05 We would have it at least three times a month. 00:18:45.09\00:18:47.32 You know, Marshall T. Kelly, you know, 00:18:47.36\00:18:48.92 T. Marshall Kelly was my pastor... 00:18:48.96\00:18:50.76 And he was like, we're having dinner... 00:18:50.79\00:18:53.70 James Parker, Pastor Parker. Yes. 00:18:53.73\00:18:56.40 They wanted us to stay close. 00:18:56.43\00:18:58.83 And I remember we had pastor there, I read you Bill. 00:18:58.87\00:19:02.10 Oh, yes. Bill Conan. 00:19:02.14\00:19:03.81 Bill Conan, his wife, his first wife 00:19:03.84\00:19:07.74 did a class on the Great Controversy, 00:19:07.78\00:19:11.98 and she mandated all the parents 00:19:12.01\00:19:14.52 bring the children back. 00:19:14.55\00:19:16.25 We would sit there like this, I mean, it was unbearable. 00:19:16.28\00:19:22.52 But she would allow us to get involved 00:19:22.56\00:19:27.40 by saying, "What do you understand? 00:19:27.43\00:19:29.33 What you don't understand?" 00:19:29.36\00:19:31.07 And that's when it became engaged. 00:19:31.10\00:19:32.43 You bought into it. 00:19:32.47\00:19:33.80 We bought into it. Yes. 00:19:33.84\00:19:35.17 But you can't just come 00:19:35.20\00:19:37.07 and just let the young people just sit there. 00:19:37.11\00:19:39.41 You know, you know I let the young people 00:19:39.44\00:19:40.78 direct the choir. 00:19:40.81\00:19:42.48 They lead out, I didn't do solos, 00:19:42.51\00:19:45.78 and they were able to bring suggestions. 00:19:45.81\00:19:48.05 Which song would you like to... 00:19:48.08\00:19:49.42 And then Arthur and I would feed them. 00:19:49.45\00:19:51.49 Yes, you know, you gotta have niche. 00:19:51.52\00:19:54.89 Well, I remember with Hands of Praise, 00:19:54.92\00:19:56.83 sometimes it's my daughters, they wouldn't eat at home 00:19:56.86\00:19:59.16 'cause they knew they were going to be eating 00:19:59.19\00:20:00.53 at your home. 00:20:00.56\00:20:01.90 They're gonna eat good. Yes. 00:20:01.93\00:20:03.26 And I would sent Arthur to grocery, we need spaghetti, 00:20:03.30\00:20:05.60 we need garlic bread, we need A, B, C and D. 00:20:05.63\00:20:09.00 salad, we, they would come, and I say, 00:20:09.04\00:20:11.44 "Now we're going to eat," well, I say 00:20:11.47\00:20:13.27 "No, we're gonna rehearse first." 00:20:13.31\00:20:14.84 And then we would stop and eat, fellowship for a little bit 00:20:14.88\00:20:19.11 and get right back to rehearsal. 00:20:19.15\00:20:21.02 And they, you know, sometimes 00:20:21.05\00:20:22.52 they don't want to leave. 00:20:22.55\00:20:23.89 It'll be 9:30 and they would still be there. 00:20:23.92\00:20:25.95 Yeah, I remember because I used to pick them up. 00:20:25.99\00:20:28.12 You used to pick them up. And daddy... 00:20:28.16\00:20:30.43 I say, "Where is your father? 00:20:30.46\00:20:31.79 Oh, I got a call, I'd say, could you call your father? 00:20:31.83\00:20:34.20 I have to go to bed." You know. 00:20:34.23\00:20:36.20 I want you to keep him. No. 00:20:36.23\00:20:38.63 So we praise the Lord, and no matter 00:20:38.67\00:20:40.70 what I asked of you and your wife to do, 00:20:40.74\00:20:43.07 you were there, you participated, 00:20:43.10\00:20:44.71 the members came out to support us. 00:20:44.74\00:20:47.64 You just, you didn't just teach them sign language, 00:20:47.68\00:20:51.15 you also taught them principles that they would be able 00:20:51.18\00:20:53.68 to carry for the rest of their lives. 00:20:53.72\00:20:55.62 Praise the Lord. 00:20:55.65\00:20:56.99 And you probably did not understand it 00:20:57.02\00:20:59.19 even what the impact that you had on their lives 00:20:59.22\00:21:01.59 and the other members of sign language, 00:21:01.62\00:21:05.16 and we missed the concerts, we miss it. 00:21:05.19\00:21:08.16 Well... But we have it in video. 00:21:08.20\00:21:09.56 Yeah, you have the videos. We still look at the video. 00:21:09.60\00:21:11.17 But we're getting ready for our 25th anniversary. 00:21:11.20\00:21:13.74 You're gonna have a big... 00:21:13.77\00:21:15.10 I'm having a big, you know, I'm gonna do it big, 00:21:15.14\00:21:17.47 bring everybody back from all over the country. 00:21:17.51\00:21:20.24 'Cause they are in New York, California, Texas, Huntsville, 00:21:20.28\00:21:23.61 all of them would come back together. 00:21:23.65\00:21:25.48 When you're going to do that? That's going to be 2019. 00:21:25.51\00:21:31.15 We turned to decide if it's going to be 00:21:31.19\00:21:33.49 in the fall, or the spring. 00:21:33.52\00:21:35.49 Okay. 00:21:35.52\00:21:36.86 That deserves enough time to plan. 00:21:36.89\00:21:38.23 You know, not Christmas time, the weather. 00:21:38.26\00:21:39.59 Oh, yeah, enough time to plan. All right, great. 00:21:39.63\00:21:40.96 Everybody is coming in, it's gonna be wonderful. 00:21:41.00\00:21:42.33 Can't wait. 00:21:42.36\00:21:43.70 And it's going to be a whole weekend 00:21:43.73\00:21:45.07 of celebrations. 00:21:45.10\00:21:46.43 But also ministry, 00:21:46.47\00:21:47.80 those who are no longer in the church. 00:21:47.84\00:21:49.44 It'll be a way of bringing them back. 00:21:49.47\00:21:51.44 And we're going to, I'm going to ask that if not, 00:21:51.47\00:21:55.58 I'm hoping that we have a large place 00:21:55.61\00:21:58.65 to have our service, 00:21:58.68\00:22:00.22 and let them know that we need you. 00:22:00.25\00:22:02.38 That's right. 00:22:02.42\00:22:03.75 God needs your services, 'cause some of them 00:22:03.79\00:22:05.12 have left the church. 00:22:05.15\00:22:06.49 Yeah, unfortunate. Unfortunately. 00:22:06.52\00:22:08.32 You know, why haven't you let go? 00:22:08.36\00:22:10.99 You know, of just being, pastors are divorcing. 00:22:11.03\00:22:15.26 You know, Pelk is bringing me in to do a conference 00:22:15.30\00:22:19.23 for the pastors and their wives. 00:22:19.27\00:22:23.24 Pastors need help too. 00:22:23.27\00:22:25.71 A lot of us, sometimes we need somebody we can trust, 00:22:25.74\00:22:28.38 somebody we can talk to because everybody, 00:22:28.41\00:22:30.88 your members confide in you, and you take on all this stuff, 00:22:30.91\00:22:34.58 you take it on and you have to be discreet, 00:22:34.62\00:22:36.79 you can't tell anybody else, you know, you have to, 00:22:36.82\00:22:39.59 and sometimes we hurt. 00:22:39.62\00:22:41.99 And so I'm not just appealing for the young people 00:22:42.02\00:22:45.46 but sometimes the pastors need a way of getting help too. 00:22:45.49\00:22:48.73 Yes, they do. 00:22:48.76\00:22:50.10 So it's unfortunate that, you know, 00:22:50.13\00:22:52.00 we have divorced pastors, 00:22:52.03\00:22:54.30 or pastors who are going through problems. 00:22:54.34\00:22:56.37 It's becoming an epidemic. It is. 00:22:56.40\00:22:59.87 And I have a pastor who just said 00:22:59.91\00:23:03.71 he doesn't understand, 00:23:03.75\00:23:05.95 came in to meet with me for counseling. 00:23:05.98\00:23:07.85 Arthur and I, from another conference, 00:23:07.88\00:23:10.65 and he just said, "I don't understand 00:23:10.69\00:23:12.62 what I did wrong. 00:23:12.65\00:23:14.26 I'm a pastor, I love my family, but, you know, 00:23:14.29\00:23:18.53 that my wife doesn't want to do this anymore." 00:23:18.56\00:23:21.20 It is a lot of responsibility to be a pastor's wife. 00:23:21.23\00:23:23.67 Pastor's wives, they have it tough. 00:23:23.70\00:23:26.03 You know, I dated a pastor. 00:23:26.07\00:23:27.47 You did? Yeah. 00:23:27.50\00:23:28.90 What's his name? I can't tell you. 00:23:28.94\00:23:31.61 He, you know, oh, I can't put his name out there. 00:23:31.64\00:23:34.68 No, I know you wouldn't, I know you wouldn't. 00:23:34.71\00:23:36.75 And we dated four years. Really? 00:23:36.78\00:23:39.55 And he came to me and says, "I'm changing my major." 00:23:39.58\00:23:42.45 I said, "You're changing your major to what?" 00:23:42.48\00:23:44.35 He said, "To theology." I said, "We're done." 00:23:44.39\00:23:47.19 You, but see you didn't do it right. 00:23:47.22\00:23:49.56 I knew that was not my calling. Really? 00:23:49.59\00:23:51.93 I can't have folk walking on my carpet. 00:23:51.96\00:23:54.60 Yeah. Fussing at my husband. 00:23:54.63\00:23:57.07 With sometimes going to board meetings 00:23:57.10\00:23:58.43 or business meetings. 00:23:58.47\00:23:59.80 I would have been in the board meeting, okay, 00:23:59.83\00:24:01.17 you in the board meeting, excuse me, 00:24:01.20\00:24:02.64 why is your wife in the board meeting? 00:24:02.67\00:24:04.57 You have to have thick skin. 00:24:04.61\00:24:05.94 I got to have thick... Oh. 00:24:05.97\00:24:07.31 Yeah, because you can get it there. 00:24:07.34\00:24:09.48 'Cause even watching Arthur being an elder. 00:24:09.51\00:24:11.58 Yeah. It was difficult. 00:24:11.61\00:24:12.95 Yeah. 00:24:12.98\00:24:14.32 You know, and we both were on the board. 00:24:14.35\00:24:15.68 Satan will inflict things 00:24:15.72\00:24:19.49 and he forces his way into any situation 00:24:19.52\00:24:22.56 that has the potential to bring people to Christ. 00:24:22.59\00:24:25.76 He will find a way. 00:24:25.79\00:24:27.86 In your signing ministry... Yes. 00:24:27.90\00:24:29.73 In your church... Yes. 00:24:29.76\00:24:31.20 There's always gonna be problems, always. 00:24:31.23\00:24:34.50 But we just have to live above it, and expect it, 00:24:34.54\00:24:37.14 be prepared because he's like a roaring lion... 00:24:37.17\00:24:39.54 Yes, he is. He is. 00:24:39.57\00:24:41.04 How do you and Rosie to resolve your problems 00:24:41.08\00:24:43.04 when you get to a point, what do you do? 00:24:43.08\00:24:45.05 How do you resolve it? 00:24:45.08\00:24:46.61 You know, we've been married now for 30, almost 39 years. 00:24:46.65\00:24:50.19 What? Yeah. 00:24:50.22\00:24:51.65 Look at God. 00:24:51.69\00:24:53.02 Isn't that amazing? Look at God. 00:24:53.05\00:24:54.39 Yeah, so sometimes... 00:24:54.42\00:24:55.89 I'm just saying look at God, she's still with you. 00:24:55.92\00:24:57.33 I know, I know. Praise the Lord. 00:24:57.36\00:24:59.39 Pray for her. I'm praying for her. 00:24:59.43\00:25:02.73 We understand each other to the point that 00:25:02.76\00:25:05.97 sometimes we don't even have to say anything. 00:25:06.00\00:25:07.87 You know, you finish each others sentences. 00:25:07.90\00:25:10.51 She didn't give you that look 00:25:10.54\00:25:11.87 when you go over time in church, and you preach, 00:25:11.91\00:25:13.44 does she give you that look like... 00:25:13.48\00:25:14.81 I get the look. 00:25:14.84\00:25:16.18 You get the look? I get the look. 00:25:16.21\00:25:17.55 I tend not to go too much, you know. 00:25:17.58\00:25:19.08 Do you look at her when you're preaching? 00:25:19.11\00:25:20.75 You know, what I do, she never knows my sermon 00:25:20.78\00:25:23.59 or anything except if I ask about something. 00:25:23.62\00:25:27.39 I look at her every now and again 00:25:27.42\00:25:30.39 but if I did something that she thought was, 00:25:30.43\00:25:32.69 when I get home... 00:25:32.73\00:25:34.23 You are gonna get it. 00:25:34.26\00:25:35.60 She lets me know, she lets me know. 00:25:35.63\00:25:37.83 I need that. Yes, yes. 00:25:37.87\00:25:39.30 I need that. Get that balance. 00:25:39.33\00:25:40.67 Yeah, yeah exactly. 00:25:40.70\00:25:42.04 So you cook, clean, wash? Ah! 00:25:42.07\00:25:43.97 You know, I tell my church, this is really funny 00:25:44.01\00:25:46.51 because the 29th... 00:25:46.54\00:25:49.31 Everybody knows I can't cook. You can't cook? 00:25:49.34\00:25:51.81 But I've been pretending like I could. 00:25:51.85\00:25:53.95 So I told them that the pastors and elders 00:25:53.98\00:25:56.12 are having a big dinner on the 29th, 00:25:56.15\00:25:59.22 and I invite your friends, and I'm going to be cooking, 00:25:59.25\00:26:02.42 and I told, I'll even do some vegan stuff for you. 00:26:02.46\00:26:04.96 Yeah. I can't cook. 00:26:04.99\00:26:06.76 So what, so are you having the dinner? 00:26:06.80\00:26:08.73 Yeah, we're gonna have the dinner. 00:26:08.76\00:26:10.10 When is this, on the 29th, is this for everyone 00:26:10.13\00:26:12.07 or just for pastors? 00:26:12.10\00:26:13.44 Everyone, Everybody. At your church? 00:26:13.47\00:26:14.80 At my church. 00:26:14.84\00:26:16.17 You can come and enjoy 00:26:16.20\00:26:17.54 'cause I'll probably do a vegan dish for you. 00:26:17.57\00:26:19.24 That's all right, I think, I got something to do that, 00:26:19.27\00:26:21.68 you know, I think, I'm working a day. 00:26:21.71\00:26:24.75 But we're gonna have a good time. 00:26:24.78\00:26:26.11 Really? The pastors are not gonna cook. 00:26:26.15\00:26:27.62 I told them on Sabbath that I'm going to make some juice. 00:26:27.65\00:26:30.42 You're going to do some juice. 00:26:30.45\00:26:31.79 I'll do... I'm good at that. 00:26:31.82\00:26:33.15 You know, so, you know, we're down to about a minute. 00:26:33.19\00:26:35.92 All right, all right. 00:26:35.96\00:26:37.29 So closing remarks to help someone 00:26:37.33\00:26:39.39 that you don't have to let go. 00:26:39.43\00:26:42.80 If you look back over your lives, 00:26:42.83\00:26:45.53 if you look back at how God has brought you 00:26:45.57\00:26:47.90 through certain situations, it's a matter of fact, 00:26:47.94\00:26:50.44 the psalmist in Psalm 13 asked a question, 00:26:50.47\00:26:54.01 when he felt that he was being attacked by Saul. 00:26:54.04\00:27:00.85 He said, "How long, O Lord, how long?" 00:27:00.88\00:27:03.95 In other words, you know, how long am I going 00:27:03.99\00:27:06.25 to keep putting up with this mess? 00:27:06.29\00:27:10.46 This thing that I'm going through. 00:27:10.49\00:27:12.29 And then he answers this question 00:27:12.33\00:27:14.46 by the time it gets to verse 5 and 6, and he says, 00:27:14.50\00:27:16.87 "But I will trust in the Lord, I will rejoice in the Lord." 00:27:16.90\00:27:19.80 So we need to remember what God has done for us. 00:27:19.83\00:27:23.47 And then we can put our total, complete trust in Him. 00:27:23.51\00:27:26.98 And He will bring it to pass. He'll bring to pass. 00:27:27.01\00:27:30.01 My favorite scripture Pastor, Psalms 34:1, 00:27:30.05\00:27:33.31 "I will bless the Lord at all times 00:27:33.35\00:27:35.55 and His praise shall continually be in my mouth." 00:27:35.58\00:27:38.69 You can't curse God and bless Him 00:27:38.72\00:27:40.36 at the same time. 00:27:40.39\00:27:41.72 Pastor Gareth, I want to thank you so much 00:27:41.76\00:27:43.79 for coming on Live to be Well. 00:27:43.83\00:27:45.43 Oh, God bless you. Can you say that for me? 00:27:45.46\00:27:46.90 Live to be Well. Say it again. 00:27:46.93\00:27:48.93 Live to be Well. With Dr. Kim. 00:27:48.96\00:27:51.80 Okay, all right. 00:27:51.83\00:27:53.17 Live to be Well with Dr. Kim. 00:27:53.20\00:27:54.80 I love it. My friend. 00:27:54.84\00:27:56.27 That's right, and I just want to thank all of you, 00:27:56.30\00:27:58.47 never let go. 00:27:58.51\00:27:59.97 I'm Dr. Kim. 00:28:00.01\00:28:01.34 Continue to Live to be Well. God bless. 00:28:01.38\00:28:03.68