Hi, I'm Dr. Kim
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and welcome to Live to be Well.
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Today we're going to
talk about: No Excuses.
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My special guest
is Ms. Nikki Williams.
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Welcome Nikki, how are you?
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I'm great and you?
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You look wonderful.
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Thank you, you
look nice yourself.
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Well, thank you.
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Listen, we're
talking about no excuses,
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in today's society,
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individuals are making
excuses why they can't do this,
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can't do that... can't
get things accomplished
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well, you are a single mom
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and your son is how old?
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My son is 11 years old.
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Eleven years old, all right
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and what's his name?
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Dominic.
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Dominic... can you tell us
what is it like raising a son,
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African-American son
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and I'm not
saying it's any different
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but we have more challenges,
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we've seen our
African-American males
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being in the spotlight
of the news constantly...
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being murdered...
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being brutalized for no reason
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are you worried
about those kinds of things
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and what is it like
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and what has been
the challenges for you?
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Well, I am worried about
those things as a single mom
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or even... a single
mom of a black little boy
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because there are certain things
that I didn't have to go through
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as a little girl
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so, that's what...
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that's... can't think,
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it's really important to me
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that he has a
relationship with his father
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because his father
can give him experiences
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and things that I cannot
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even though things
have not always been perfect
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between he and I
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I do try to make sure
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that he still keeps a
relationship with our son.
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Do you think a mother
can raise excuse me...
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a mother can raise a son?
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I do, yeah.
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But you want...
because he has a father...
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you want him in his life,
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and he sees his
father on a regular basis.
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Yes.
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All right, let's
talk about discipline...
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how do you discipline your son?
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He's 11 years
old and is he tall?
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Yes, he's almost
as tall as me now.
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All right, and he is kind of
going through the pre-teen thing
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where...
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Is he talking back?
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Not really just talking
back but just challenging things
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or, you know, wants to know
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why it has to be this way, yeah.
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Hmmm...
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He's not my little baby anymore,
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he does get
spankings... punishments...
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Well, the Bible says,
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"You spare the rod,
you spoil the child"
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you'd better... yeah,
do what you have to do.
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Yes, and I don't feel bad, yeah.
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Are you a tough mom?
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Yes, I'm very tough.
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All right, can you
define a tough mother
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versus a mother not as
tough or laid-back mom.
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Well, I only have one child
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but I have seen other
friends raise their kids
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and they did spare the rod
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and unfortunately their
kids had ended up in jail
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or just in bad situations.
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I don't want that for my son,
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I don't know exactly
what the future holds
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but I do... I'm
very strict on Dominic,
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I'm aware of where
he is at all times,
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I go through his
iPads, his phones,
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so, I'm just a very hands-on mom
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but me and my son
have a relationship
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to where I don't feel
like he has to sneak around
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or do
anything... he comes to me...
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he can talk to me
because it is just me and him
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so he's like my
little best friend.
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Oh, little best friend
but you are yet still mom...
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you have boundaries
because I know a lot of people,
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parents... "Oh no,
call me by my first name"
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does he call you
by your first name?
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No... not at all.
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Oh, would you ever
allow that? Nikki: No.
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Kim: Neither would
I, I wish you would...
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now, if I'm in
a crowd sometimes,
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my oldest daughter...
if I'm... I'm busy...
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she'll say, "Kim Denise"
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because everybody...
once you say, "Mom... "
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everybody turns around
and she'll get my attention
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but I had to definitely
put her in check about that
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let's go back to something,
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when you talked
about seeing other parents
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raise their children and now
their children are in prison,
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they're not doing as well
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and you are... you have
that hands-on with your son,
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what do you say
to someone who says,
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"I feel that I can
just let him be free
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he's going to do what
he wants to do anyway. "
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Well, I really feel
like you can't tell anyone
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how to raise their child,
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some people get
offended by that.
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Yes.
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I may say my
piece but I really won't
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put any pressure or
interject myself on them
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because I'm raising my
child the way I'm raising mine
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and you're going to do
what you do with yours.
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Do you... do you say to Dominic,
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"See, this is what I'm trying
to prevent you from becoming"
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do you bring
that to his attention?
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I do because there are
some male figures in our...
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our own family
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who did not have the best
upbringing from their mothers
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and so, like when he
is doing something wrong,
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I'm like, "You
want to end up like him
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or you want to end up like him?"
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And he'll be like,
"No mom, I don't. "
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But I'm glad that he
does have those people around
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so he can see, like,
"This is what happens
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when you don't do what
you're supposed to do. "
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Now, I like what you
said, "I check his iPad,
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I go in his room, I
know what's going on. "
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A lot of parents...
they don't do that...
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they don't go into the rooms,
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they don't go into
their iPads, their book bags,
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you need to know
what's going on...
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what they're watching,
what they're listening to,
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you know, you're the mother,
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but they tend like they're
timid... they're afraid...
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"Well, I don't
want to trespass. "
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What? And the
next thing you know,
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your child is out
there selling drugs
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or you know, some
things are going on
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that could have been preventable
you could have prevented it
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so you're trying
to stop your son now
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before he makes those mistakes.
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What kind of
grades is he making?
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Well, that's the thing,
Dominic went to University Prep
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they didn't give out grades,
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K through 5th Grade
they just got "Developing"
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"Accomplished things"
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or things of those nature
so, he was accomplished...
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he's going to the sixth grade
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but they didn't give out
letter grades, unfortunately.
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Really, that's interesting,
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all right, so is he
going back to that school?
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We're still...
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I'm still undecided
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because he wants
to go back to the...
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he wants to go
to the Middle School
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but I want to put him
in a different school.
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Because his friends are there.
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Yes.
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Is he a sociable child?
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Very sociable.
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Social butterfly.
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Yes, he is, everywhere...
everyone is his friend.
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Kim: Everyone... Nikki: Yes.
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Kim: So, he's a
very, very outgoing person
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so you have to be careful.
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Have you ever not
known where he was...
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like, when you went to the store
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I have to tell you the story,
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you know, keep that thought,
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I had Erin with me, she
was only like, two years old
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and my husband said,
"Now, you sure you can do this
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because when you go
shopping, you get distracted. "
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I said, "How am I
going to lose a baby?"
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All right, so he said,
"Okay, don't lose my baby. "
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So I get to the store
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and I'm looking at
something, so I set her down,
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I say, "You stay right here"
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so she was playing
with the tags and everything
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you know,
and... I walked away...
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I totally forgot about the
baby, I get to the cash register
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and I'm like, "No, I had a baby"
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and I went back, Nikki,
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and there Erin was
still playing with it...
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and I said, "I am so
thankful you cannot talk"
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but then she gets
home and she was like,
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playing with the
tags... playing with the tags
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and Arthur
said, "What happened?"
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and I said, "I
forgot that I had a baby
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all right... "
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so, praise God
that I didn't lose her,
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I just kind of
forgot about her, all right,
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so, I was... it was all new,
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I might have been 18
years and I had another baby...
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so, have you ever
been somewhere where...
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you know,
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when you are at
the store or mall
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it's like, "Where are
you?" Do you kind of...
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Me, personally, no...
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I've never ever
forgotten that I was with Dom.
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Okay, make me feel bad... okay.
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But, no, my mother has
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like when I first move
back to Detroit from...
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from Ypsilanti... from school
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my mother had to watch my
son for like, maybe a year,
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and she didn't...
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they didn't tell me
until like years later
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but one time they
were sitting on the porch
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mama turned her head,
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the mail lady
walked down the street
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and Dominic
followed the mail lady
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all the way down the street.
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What? How old was he?
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Nikki: He was
like, two... Kim: No...
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And she had to bring him back.
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Kim: The mail lady
did... Nikki: Hmmm... hmmm...
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Kim: Oh oh oh oh... and
they didn't tell you for a year.
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Nikki: Yeah, they
didn't tell me until...
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Kim: That was so wrong,
they knew you would be livid.
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Nikki: I would flip.
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Kim: Okay, what do
you do or what are your...
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how do you discipline him
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when he does get a
little beside himself
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or he's not doing
what he's supposed to do,
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does he do chores?
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He does chores sometimes
not consistently like he should.
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The most
important thing right now is
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he loves his
video games, like, iPads
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anything online, any Wi-Fi.
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Kim: So you take that away.
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Nikki: So I have to
take that away, yes.
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Kim: So, being a
single mom and you're working
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and you're doing a
lot of different things.
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Now, something new has
just happened in your life,
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and how is this
going to impact your son?
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Why don't you tell us
what God has done for you.
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Well, recently I had...
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I was off of work
for a couple of weeks
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because I had a major surgery
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and during that time period...
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before... like
maybe a week before
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I was getting
ready to go back to work,
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I was like, "Oh, I do
not want to go back to work,
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I'm tired of sitting at a desk,
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tired of
looking at this computer
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I'm just tired of
being still here... "
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so, I prayed and I asked
God for something different
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and He told me to apply
for Flight Attendant positions
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so, May 11th I
filled out my first
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job application as
a Flight Attendant,
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I went on an interview...
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I went on several... I
went on three interviews total
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and... well, video interviews...
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and to one person
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but on... well, as you know,
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June 14th I went to a
face-to-face interview
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and I got the position.
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Kim: And God is so good.
Nikki: Like a month later.
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Kim: Yes, so now you're
getting ready to transition
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to the training to
become a flight attendant
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and then be out there
doing what... a new avenue...
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now, how did your
son feel about this?
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Well, my son is probably
going to be a little happy
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because I am so strict, so,
he'll have a little freedom.
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Kim: Uh hmmm... not too much.
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Nikki: Not too much
because he'll be with his dad...
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between my mom and
his dad. Kim: Okay.
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Nikki: But that is
a big thing right now,
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just trying to
transition on whose...
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I'm going to be gone,
initially, for over a month
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and then, whatever my schedule
permits afterwards, so...
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not being there...
that's going to be different.
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Kim: Hands on.
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Nikki: Yeah, I think
that every day and...
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Kim: Well, you can do
video chat and things like that.
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Nikki: Yeah. Kim:
I want to go back...
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I remember when you
first came to see me
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and you wanted me to
become your Therapist
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and had some real challenges
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and I've seen you become...
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you have just evolved,
Nikki, and I'm so proud of you
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and I'm not just
saying that because
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you know... you and I
have battled in counseling
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and let them know
how you say my name
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when you get upset with
me, go ahead and say it.
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Nikki: Dr. Logan...
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Kim: Dr. Logan...
Dr. Logan, I love it,
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no one says it like you
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and we can deal
with certain issues
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and we have to go there
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so, I remember
when we talked about...
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and the reason why the Lord
put it in my heart, no excuses,
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you would say, "I
hope... I hope... "
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I said, "You have the job"
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and I told you that,
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God would not even
open that door for you
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and allow it...
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He doesn't tease us and
just dangle things in our way
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and say, "Oh I think
I might give you this"
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when the door opens
and you know it's the Lord
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because we prayed...
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and certain things... you...
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you began to change
certain behaviors and lifestyle
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and God began to
open doors for you
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and giving your life to
Christ your son was baptized,
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he is on the
Usher Board. Nikki: Yes.
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Kim: He serves as an
Usher and, you know...
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so, working with your
relationship with God...
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how important
is God in your life
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as you begin to
take this new journey.
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Nikki: God is very
important in my life,
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the one thing that you
said to me that clicked the most
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and I don't know why
it was so important was...
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when I was like, "How do
you know when God is listening?"
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Or, "How do you know when
God wants something for you?"
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And you just nonchalantly
said, "He opens the door
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and if He doesn't open the door,
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it's not for you,
go somewhere else. "
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And even though
that was so simple,
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it was so big for me because
that's what I follow now,
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like, if I want
something, I ask for it,
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if a door opens... it's for me,
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if it doesn't
open, it's not for me.
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Kim: Yes.
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Nikki: Before, I
think, I used to just wait...
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wait, wait, wait,
trying to figure out...
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you know, I didn't
know what I was doing,
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but just... me having this
better relationship with God
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and praying...
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me coming to
you... helping me...
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Kim: Praise the Lord.
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Nikki: Just makes everything
a little bit more clearer now
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and He is number one
in my life right now.
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Kim: I still
hold you accountable
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because we are still working
through our treatment plan
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of accountability
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also, our
standards... our values...
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also, our measurement...
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how do you measure
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the Nikki... where
she was and Nikki now?
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I don't really know
how I would measure myself
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but I do see a difference...
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I was broken when
I first came to you
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and...
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Kim: I remember.
Nikki: I don't want to cry.
00:14:01.44\00:14:04.11
Kim: That's all right,
you're just being real.
00:14:04.14\00:14:06.88
Nikki: I was broken and
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I didn't know
what I was going to do,
00:14:08.74\00:14:10.15
I was just hurt... betrayed...
00:14:10.18\00:14:11.81
and I just felt I'm
a stronger person now
00:14:11.85\00:14:14.32
like, what I came to you
for... I can laugh about it now.
00:14:14.35\00:14:17.85
Kim: Yes you can,
00:14:17.89\00:14:19.22
so, on a scale of zero being the
lowest... ten being the highest,
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where is Nikki now in her
measurement of her growth?
00:14:22.69\00:14:25.63
Nikki: I would say,
like an eight and a half.
00:14:25.66\00:14:27.23
Kim: Eight and a
half... you know,
00:14:27.26\00:14:29.03
listen, your tears are real...
00:14:29.06\00:14:30.77
God has done a
marvelous work in your life
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and there's
nothing to be ashamed about
00:14:34.57\00:14:37.67
because I know your
journey and I'm just...
00:14:37.71\00:14:40.28
I'm proud to be a
part of that journey.
00:14:40.31\00:14:42.78
It's like, put
your hand right here,
00:14:42.81\00:14:44.91
all right... and...
that's how I can tell you
00:14:44.98\00:14:47.68
if God opens it, it connects...
00:14:47.72\00:14:49.82
if it doesn't connect,
00:14:49.85\00:14:51.49
then God says, "I've
got something else for you"
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God is very clear
what He has for you
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and as I sat in the
back office with you
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listening to you
00:14:58.66\00:15:00.06
and you were just
going on and on...
00:15:00.10\00:15:01.43
I said, "Nikki,
stop... stop... "
00:15:01.46\00:15:03.43
and I said, "God is in control,
00:15:03.47\00:15:05.37
He's just waiting
for you to trust Him...
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to lean on
Him... and believe Him"
00:15:07.77\00:15:10.34
that's why I love that
Scripture Proverbs 3:5 and 6,
00:15:10.37\00:15:12.67
"Trust in the LORD
with all thine heart;
00:15:12.71\00:15:15.34
and lean not to
thine own understanding.
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In all they
ways acknowledge Him,
00:15:18.01\00:15:19.61
and He will direct your path. "
00:15:19.65\00:15:21.18
He's making your path,
00:15:21.22\00:15:22.95
so now, you're
going to be flying
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all over the place,
00:15:25.29\00:15:26.62
you love to travel, don't you?
00:15:26.65\00:15:27.99
Nikki: I do, I love to travel.
00:15:28.02\00:15:29.36
Kim: Yes, you're
getting ready to go,
00:15:29.39\00:15:30.73
where are you getting
ready to leave to now?
00:15:30.76\00:15:32.09
Nikki: In two
weeks, I'm going to Cuba.
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Kim: Cuba! Hmmm...
00:15:34.36\00:15:35.96
Nikki: And then a week
later, I have to go to Vegas.
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Kim: And Vegas, yes, and
then you're off to your training
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you know,
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do you have any concerns
now that God has opened the door
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you will pass all your tests.
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Nikki: No concerns...
just in God's hand...
00:15:46.94\00:15:49.04
like you said, "If
he brought it to me,
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He'll bring it... me through...
all the way through it. "
00:15:50.58\00:15:52.65
And He will bring it...
00:15:52.68\00:15:54.02
you put all that
information in your mind,
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He will bring it
back to your remembrance.
00:15:55.85\00:15:58.99
He heard your cry,
He heard your plea,
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He says, "I'm going
to move my daughter"
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because... and
remember what I told you,
00:16:03.76\00:16:05.83
He is not allowing you
to become a Flight Attendant
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for your glory,
00:16:09.46\00:16:10.87
it is for His
glory... for you to witness...
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for you to be a vessel,
00:16:14.30\00:16:15.74
when people walk on that flight,
00:16:15.77\00:16:17.11
they're going to
see that beautiful smile
00:16:17.14\00:16:18.87
that Nikki had, yes...
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"Welcome, how are you?"
00:16:20.71\00:16:22.34
while you're serving beverages,
while you're engaging...
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someone may need to
hear a word from God
00:16:26.08\00:16:29.58
and God is going to
allow you to do that
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because someone
could be hurting...
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someone could be on their way
to... to go through a divorce
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or their child just passed away
00:16:39.26\00:16:41.83
and you may see that
person's head down...
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you may say, "Is
there anything I can do?"
00:16:44.30\00:16:46.70
"Is there
anything I can get you?"
00:16:46.74\00:16:48.07
"Are you all right?"
00:16:48.10\00:16:49.44
And I think you have
the type of discernment
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to key into that
00:16:52.31\00:16:53.64
and I think you're going
to be an absolute phenomenon.
00:16:53.68\00:16:55.88
"Don't be on my plane"
00:16:55.91\00:16:57.28
and I'm going to
be like, "Excuse me...
00:16:57.31\00:16:58.88
I need this... it's to... "
00:16:58.91\00:17:00.42
"Hmmm...
hmmm... don't Dr. Logan"
00:17:00.45\00:17:02.18
"Oh, excuse me,
isn't your name Nikki?"
00:17:02.22\00:17:04.35
Okay...
00:17:04.39\00:17:05.72
So, I am excited,
00:17:05.75\00:17:07.69
what other avenues are you
now looking at for your life,
00:17:07.72\00:17:12.39
you know, your education,
00:17:12.43\00:17:14.73
another type of business
00:17:14.76\00:17:17.00
because you had
a business in mind
00:17:17.03\00:17:18.50
but that... we're
going to keep that quiet
00:17:18.53\00:17:21.04
because it still may
happen... it is a phenomenon...
00:17:21.07\00:17:24.94
my General Manager, Dr.
Lewis, would love it, all right,
00:17:24.97\00:17:27.68
so we can share
it with her afterward
00:17:27.74\00:17:29.94
but anything else
on the table for Nikki?
00:17:29.98\00:17:31.95
Well, I still
want to do my business,
00:17:32.01\00:17:33.62
for instance,
because my niece...
00:17:33.68\00:17:35.22
I was with her the other
day, she did mention like,
00:17:35.25\00:17:37.02
"When are you starting that?"
00:17:37.05\00:17:38.39
And I was like, "Oh,
I am... just hold off"
00:17:38.42\00:17:42.02
of course, you know, I
was studying for the LSA...
00:17:42.06\00:17:44.43
but I put that on the
back burner for right now
00:17:44.46\00:17:46.76
up until after I'm accustomed
to the Flight Attendant position
00:17:46.80\00:17:52.10
because I know I would
have free time to study for that
00:17:52.13\00:17:54.20
but I don't know
exactly what I'm going to do,
00:17:54.24\00:17:56.04
right now, my main concern is
00:17:56.07\00:17:58.01
preparing
Dominic for a new school
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and to be responsible
00:18:00.98\00:18:04.48
while I'm not in his presence.
00:18:04.51\00:18:06.41
Okay and then passing
everything doing everything
00:18:06.45\00:18:09.38
and you're friendly, you're
going to meet a lot of people.
00:18:09.42\00:18:12.09
Let's talk about Counseling.
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Why is Counseling
or how did it help you?
00:18:15.22\00:18:18.29
I feel like it helped me because
I just needed someone to talk to
00:18:18.33\00:18:24.40
I needed someone to give
me a better point of view
00:18:24.43\00:18:29.34
whether it was you telling me,
00:18:29.37\00:18:30.71
"Nikki, that's not
worth you crying about"
00:18:30.74\00:18:32.21
or "Nikki, he was beneath you. "
00:18:32.24\00:18:35.61
Did I say that? I
did say that, hmmm.
00:18:35.64\00:18:37.85
I was having self-esteem issues.
00:18:37.88\00:18:40.52
Yes, you're so beautiful.
00:18:40.55\00:18:43.28
And I just felt like...
that just really helped me...
00:18:43.32\00:18:45.79
I needed, basically,
just to talk to someone.
00:18:45.82\00:18:47.76
You can't talk... you
can't always go to your friends
00:18:47.79\00:18:49.59
or even your parents,
00:18:49.62\00:18:50.96
you need someone
that's unbiased, basically,
00:18:50.99\00:18:53.26
that doesn't even know you.
00:18:53.29\00:18:54.63
And I didn't know
you, I did not know you,
00:18:54.66\00:18:56.30
I didn't... I've been
in a relationship with you,
00:18:56.33\00:18:58.33
the only one in your family,
00:18:58.37\00:18:59.70
but I wanted to help you
00:18:59.73\00:19:01.07
and the first day you
came in, you spoke to me
00:19:01.10\00:19:03.44
and I'm like, "Oooh,
we're going to be here awhile. "
00:19:03.47\00:19:06.37
It's been years...
00:19:06.41\00:19:08.28
Two years.
00:19:08.31\00:19:09.64
Two years... and
you're still with me
00:19:09.68\00:19:11.88
but that's a
good... that's good because
00:19:11.91\00:19:14.88
you did not come
just to hit or miss
00:19:14.92\00:19:17.49
and "Thank you
for a few sessions"
00:19:17.52\00:19:19.99
if you really are going to
work with changes in your life
00:19:20.02\00:19:23.16
and I recommend
everyone go to counseling,
00:19:23.19\00:19:25.76
Premarital Counseling...
when you're married...
00:19:25.79\00:19:28.13
if you're
single, single parents,
00:19:28.16\00:19:30.27
as an individual,
00:19:30.30\00:19:31.63
and even now,
myself, being in Counseling
00:19:31.67\00:19:34.17
after losing my husband,
00:19:34.20\00:19:35.54
there's so many
things inside of me
00:19:35.57\00:19:37.61
that I'm pouring out and
it's good to go to someone
00:19:37.64\00:19:41.91
who does not know you
00:19:41.94\00:19:43.28
and I went back to
my previous therapist...
00:19:43.31\00:19:46.01
psychologist that I knew
00:19:46.05\00:19:48.35
when my grandmother
passed away and my brother...
00:19:48.38\00:19:51.19
so, how has this also helped you
00:19:51.22\00:19:54.99
because you sometimes get
very agitated with your father
00:19:55.02\00:19:59.03
and how old is your father?
00:19:59.06\00:20:01.90
My dad is 86...
00:20:01.93\00:20:03.63
Why do you get so
agitated with him?
00:20:03.67\00:20:06.27
Pause.
00:20:06.30\00:20:08.64
I don't have an answer for that.
00:20:08.70\00:20:10.07
Do you think you
lack patience with him?
00:20:10.11\00:20:12.64
Probably so,
00:20:12.67\00:20:14.48
I think it's just now me
being grown and having to...
00:20:14.51\00:20:18.31
I don't have to be there,
00:20:18.35\00:20:20.22
I'm there by
choice... but to still...
00:20:20.28\00:20:22.15
You're living with
your father. Nikki: Yes.
00:20:22.18\00:20:23.79
Which is really good because
if anything happens to him,
00:20:23.82\00:20:27.49
you are there to help him.
00:20:27.56\00:20:29.06
Right, I think
sometimes it's just frustrating
00:20:29.09\00:20:31.76
it all being on me
00:20:31.79\00:20:34.26
when I have other
siblings that could help.
00:20:34.30\00:20:37.03
That could help, you
recently lost your brother
00:20:37.07\00:20:39.80
and can we talk a
little bit about that?
00:20:39.83\00:20:43.14
Sure.
00:20:43.17\00:20:44.51
How did you handle all of that?
00:20:44.54\00:20:47.24
I know you called, we
dealt with it in therapy
00:20:47.28\00:20:49.81
and you just... you
just celebrated his...
00:20:49.84\00:20:51.75
was it first-year anniversary?
00:20:51.78\00:20:53.52
So, how are you doing with that?
00:20:53.55\00:20:55.25
I'm doing okay,
00:20:55.28\00:20:57.09
although I love my
brother, we were not that close
00:20:57.12\00:21:00.39
because of just
issues that I felt,
00:21:00.42\00:21:04.39
things I disagree with
how he raised his kids,
00:21:04.43\00:21:08.10
how he had kids
and just not really...
00:21:08.13\00:21:12.40
we didn't see eye-to-eye
on a whole bunch of subjects
00:21:12.43\00:21:14.90
but I still love my
brother, I miss him dearly,
00:21:14.94\00:21:17.74
we didn't see eye-to-eye though.
00:21:17.77\00:21:19.21
He was your older
brother. Nikki: Yes.
00:21:19.24\00:21:21.61
All right and
how did he pass away?
00:21:21.64\00:21:23.95
Because you said he
was... he was just...
00:21:23.98\00:21:25.91
why don't you
tell what happened?
00:21:25.95\00:21:27.28
Basically, he just had a
heart attack and died overnight,
00:21:27.32\00:21:31.85
I wouldn't say, "In his
sleep" because he woke up...
00:21:31.89\00:21:33.79
but I guess it would be,
essentially, in his sleep.
00:21:33.82\00:21:35.66
Hmmm...
00:21:35.72\00:21:37.06
48 years old.
00:21:37.09\00:21:38.43
48 years old... and then
you got the call at night
00:21:38.46\00:21:41.30
or the next morning?
00:21:41.33\00:21:42.66
It was around
midnight we got the phone call.
00:21:42.70\00:21:44.37
You got the
phone call. Nikki: Yes.
00:21:44.43\00:21:45.77
Could you believe
it, did you accept it?
00:21:45.80\00:21:47.90
No, even to this day I
still don't believe it,
00:21:47.94\00:21:50.71
it still hurts to just
think he's never coming back,
00:21:50.77\00:21:55.84
he was a truck driver
so you just always assume
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he's coming
home... he's coming home.
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Right, yes, I went
through that with...
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and I still, sometimes, I say...
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but I know he's
not on a golf trip
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and I think that
makes me do better...
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"No, he's not coming back"
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and I have to
tell... and my therapist
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excuse me, said to me,
00:22:12.29\00:22:14.06
"Kim, you have to
say he's not coming back"
00:22:14.10\00:22:16.70
and I said, "I
don't want to say that"
00:22:16.73\00:22:18.53
she said, "But Honey,
he's not coming back. "
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So, in therapy ten times
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I had to say,
"Arthur is not coming back"
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"Arthur... "
then she had me say,
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"He's resting in the Lord...
He's resting in the Lord"
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and this is why, I
wanted it also, a Christian...
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and I have a Seventh-day
Adventist Psychologist
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so that it... it
really helps me to focus in
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on what the Word of God says,
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and then soon the
trumpet shall sound,
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the dead in Christ shall rise.
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What makes Nikki happy?
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Pause.
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Traveling.
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Yes, you love to
travel, shopping?
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I'm not really a shopper,
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you're a shopper,
I'm not a shopper.
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I only shop when I need to.
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You know, those
shoes look kind of familiar
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I think so, I think
they came off my stack
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but I'm going to
leave that alone.
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Thank you for supporting
the Arthur E. Nowlin Foundation.
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I loved to.
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I appreciate
that, but traveling...
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you enjoy going
out... having nice dinners...
00:23:14.16\00:23:16.89
Yes.
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You enjoy spending
time with your family
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specially with
your son. Nikki: My son.
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How do you and
his father get along?
00:23:21.36\00:23:23.10
We have our moments, some
days are better than others
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but like today, we had a
little orientation to school
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I'm happy when he shows up,
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I'm happy that he wants to
be a part of Dominic's life
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because I know
there are some fathers
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that are not a part of
their kids' lives, so...
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You don't like to use
the term, "Deadbeat dads"
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but where do you
think that term came from?
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Deadbeat versus
non-existence... non-involved...
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where do you
think that came from?
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Because there are so many
deadbeat fathers out here,
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there are plenty
of dads that have kids
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and they don't see
them on a regular basis,
00:24:01.70\00:24:03.57
they don't call them,
they don't interact with them
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they just leave it
totally up to the mom
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to figure everything out.
00:24:09.24\00:24:11.78
The responsibility... you know,
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and then a lot of men...
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and that... again, I'm
not trying to jump on men
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but they will quit their jobs
00:24:18.89\00:24:20.92
before they have
to pay child support.
00:24:20.96\00:24:23.43
Yes, I know a few
people that did that.
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"I refuse to pay child support"
00:24:25.93\00:24:28.43
and I remember even an
athlete who killed a woman
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while she was pregnant
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because he didn't want
to pay child support...
00:24:33.70\00:24:35.27
but she lived long enough
to name the person who shot her
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and now he's in prison
for the rest of his life.
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It would have been easy...
00:24:40.98\00:24:42.51
easier to just
pay the child support
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and you would have been
able to go on with your life
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but again, the
selfish modality of it.
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I think that it's important
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that as we continue
the counseling process
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because we're not done yet
00:24:55.96\00:24:57.29
and I can tell you...
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why do you think we're
not done with your counseling?
00:24:58.69\00:25:00.53
Um... I think there
are some family issues
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that we probably need to go over
00:25:05.63\00:25:06.97
that we probably
haven't addressed...
00:25:07.00\00:25:09.10
because, you
know, when I get mad,
00:25:09.14\00:25:11.51
I stop talking to people.
00:25:11.54\00:25:12.87
Yes, you do... you
totally... Nikki shuts down
00:25:12.91\00:25:15.68
and I have never
seen a person get...
00:25:15.74\00:25:18.91
you know, that
look... give me that look.
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I don't know...
00:25:21.82\00:25:23.28
You know that look
you do, you're like...
00:25:23.32\00:25:25.45
your eyes... your
eyes get real small,
00:25:25.49\00:25:27.79
"Dr. Logan, they
shouldn't have done this"
00:25:27.82\00:25:30.36
and "Dr. Logan, well, I
think I have this opinion"
00:25:30.39\00:25:32.73
and "Dr. Logan... this... "
00:25:32.76\00:25:34.10
And I'm like, "Uh huh,
where does all this come from?"
00:25:34.13\00:25:37.73
And so, we have to get
in there and resolve that...
00:25:37.77\00:25:41.70
so it doesn't
pour into your son,
00:25:41.74\00:25:44.24
we don't want
that to go on your son.
00:25:44.27\00:25:46.68
Do you... do you want
to get married some day?
00:25:46.71\00:25:49.14
Yes.
00:25:49.21\00:25:50.58
Why do you say "Yes... yes?"
00:25:50.61\00:25:51.95
Because I don't know who
doesn't want to get married.
00:25:51.98\00:25:54.78
There are a lot
of people who don't
00:25:54.82\00:25:56.55
believe it or not, I
didn't want to get married.
00:25:56.58\00:25:58.72
Well, I want to get married.
00:25:58.75\00:26:00.16
You want to get
married, you know,
00:26:00.19\00:26:01.69
Arthur came from somewhere okay,
00:26:01.72\00:26:03.16
but God is good, because
God knew that's what I needed
00:26:03.19\00:26:06.80
all right, so, you want
to get married, all right,
00:26:06.83\00:26:10.33
let's talk about the type
of man you are asking God for.
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First of all,
are you asking God...
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or are you trying to find him?
00:26:15.67\00:26:17.81
I think before, I
was trying to find him,
00:26:17.87\00:26:20.68
or make an Ex'd
boyfriend be the one
00:26:20.71\00:26:25.18
but right now,
I'm just letting...
00:26:25.21\00:26:27.42
I'm not really
looking right now,
00:26:27.45\00:26:29.15
I have other
things to worry about.
00:26:29.18\00:26:30.79
See, it's like this book,
00:26:30.82\00:26:32.15
it's like, all
those X's have blown away,
00:26:32.19\00:26:34.42
you know, because I've
got your file and all...
00:26:34.49\00:26:38.13
how many people...
00:26:38.16\00:26:40.13
but we had to let
them all go, didn't we?
00:26:40.20\00:26:41.93
Yeah.
00:26:41.96\00:26:43.30
And I didn't... I
never wanted to judge you,
00:26:43.33\00:26:45.73
you know, you
never felt that way
00:26:45.80\00:26:47.14
but I just felt that God has
something so much better for you
00:26:47.17\00:26:51.21
if you could just be patient
and allow God to prepare you
00:26:51.24\00:26:55.41
and someone told me once,
00:26:55.44\00:26:57.01
"While you're waiting,
00:26:57.05\00:26:58.51
what did you
bring in to the table?"
00:26:58.58\00:27:01.02
Work on you...
let God work on you...
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don't look for a man,
00:27:03.45\00:27:04.79
I remember my
Pastor, Marshall T. Kelly
00:27:04.82\00:27:07.49
and he said to me,
00:27:07.56\00:27:08.96
when I was like, 11 years old,
00:27:08.99\00:27:10.33
"Kim, what do you want to be?"
00:27:10.36\00:27:11.69
And I said, "I'd like
to be... get my Ph. D.
00:27:11.73\00:27:15.03
Psychologist... a Counselor... "
00:27:15.06\00:27:17.07
you know, he said, "Good"
00:27:17.10\00:27:18.60
because a lot of young ladies,
leave... go off to school...
00:27:18.63\00:27:21.77
and they want to marry a doctor,
marry a dentist, marry a...
00:27:21.80\00:27:24.64
but he... he
taught us, "Become one"
00:27:24.67\00:27:27.11
become one...
become independent"
00:27:27.14\00:27:29.48
so that you can
take care of yourself,
00:27:29.51\00:27:31.51
and that's what
I like about you...
00:27:31.55\00:27:33.48
you are able to
take care of yourself,
00:27:33.52\00:27:35.42
Nikki, I am just excited
about where your life is going,
00:27:35.45\00:27:39.52
I'm going to
always be here for you,
00:27:39.55\00:27:41.42
I'm glad that you
are waiting on God now,
00:27:41.46\00:27:44.69
and you're praying,
you're reading your Word,
00:27:44.73\00:27:47.76
you're back in church,
you have your son in church,
00:27:47.80\00:27:50.67
you're walking with the Lord,
00:27:50.70\00:27:52.33
so great things ahead
00:27:52.37\00:27:54.17
so, no excuses, say that...
00:27:54.20\00:27:56.34
"No excuses. "
00:27:56.37\00:27:57.71
We're done with excuses.
00:27:57.74\00:27:59.07
We are, definitely.
00:27:59.11\00:28:00.44
We are waiting on the Lord.
00:28:00.48\00:28:01.81
Well, listen, I'm
waiting on the Lord
00:28:01.84\00:28:03.18
and I want you
to wait on the Lord.
00:28:03.21\00:28:04.75
I'm Dr. Kim,
continue to live to be well.
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God bless.
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