Welcome to KICKIN' the habit.
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My name is Raginee Edwards,
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and today we're going to
talk about planning to quit.
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Now, normally when
I do a 13-week course
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on helping
individuals plan to quit
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and quit successfully.
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We actually spend
four entire weeks,
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the first four weeks
just planning to quit.
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Discovering our triggers
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so that we can make
a plan to combat them
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before they actually come.
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Looking at our
choices, that we have a choice
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to pick up that cigarette or not
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and empowering that
choice that we have to quit,
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and to stay smoke free.
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We look at diet...
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We look at so many thing,
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and we're actually
gonna go through a few points
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that I want you to consider,
things that I want you to try.
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Get a pen,
write these tips down,
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so that you can
be prepared to quit.
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Now, the first thing
that I want you to do is,
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ask a friend or
spouse to quit with you.
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Somebody from work,
anybody that's quitting that you
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have an idea they
might want to quit,
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and might need that
extra encouragement.
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Now, remember
most people that smoke
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actually want to quit,
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so if you know
somebody and you're not sure,
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just ask them.
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You'll be happy that you did.
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Get together, talk about it
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and plan how you
will support each other.
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It reminds me of a text,
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found in
Ecclesiastes 4:9 and 10,
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and it reads, "Two
are better than one,
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because they have good
reward for their labor.
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For if they fall, the
one will lift up his fellow:
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but woe to him that
is alone when he falleth,
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for he hath not
another to help him up."
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Remember that,
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you're more
likely to get back up
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if you have that friend.
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It reminds me of,
when I encourage people
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to exercise more.
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Imagine that, you've
decided, I'm gonna exercise
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Monday, Wednesday,
and Sunday of the week.
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And, Monday rolls
around, you roll over in bed,
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and you're like, I
don't want to get up,
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I don't want to go walking.
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But, now imagine if you
have an accountability partner.
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And you knew, that
if you didn't get up
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that friend of
yours will be waiting
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on the road with their shoes on,
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in their workout clothes
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ready to go walk
the neighbor hood
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and you wouldn't be there.
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Would you be more
up to get up and go?
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Probably.
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So, even if the
accountability partner,
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somebody that
doesn't want to quit smoking
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or maybe they
don't smoke at all,
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they just want to be
there for you and support you.
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Then, call that
person, call that friend
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and discuss ways were you
can actually support each other
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and that person can support you.
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Okay.
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Number two, start
cleaning out those ash trays
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and putting
them away one by one.
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Clean other things
that smell like smoke
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such has the
drapes in your house,
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the car, and your office.
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All the clothes in your house,
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everything that
can absorb the smell,
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even if you want a
shampoo, your chairs,
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your couch,
everything in your home,
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you want to try to
get that smell out.
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Just imagine that,
you're trying to stay away
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from eating too many
sweets, having too much sugar
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and you walk by
somebody's kitchen
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and they're baking a
wonderful chocolate cake
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and the smell just fills
your nose and you're like,
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I know I'm supposed
to stay away from sugar.
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But just the smell triggers you
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and you want to have some of it.
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Makes it more difficult, right?
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So, getting that smell
out of your surroundings,
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getting your car detailed,
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that's a gift that
you can give to your self.
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Get your car detailed.
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Get all the
cigarette smoke out of it,
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so that you won't
even want to smoke in there
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and when you won't smell,
that smoke in your car as well.
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Okay?
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The third thing, decrease
the number of cigarettes
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you smoke each day.
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Try smoking only
a half a cigarette
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instead of a whole one.
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Limit smoking to only the,
even or odd hours of the day.
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This just helps you
realize you have a choice.
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Now, at this point where
you're trying these things,
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you're not
actually quitting yet.
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So, in your mind you
can say, okay, today,
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normally I smoke 20 cigarettes,
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but today I'm
only gonna smoke 10.
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So, what you can do now
is, now that you know that
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you are just limiting yourself,
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but that you can
have it whenever you want.
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It's not so big of a
deal, it's more like okay,
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you're just learning how to take
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more control over the habit.
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And you are learning that
you have the choice, okay?
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So, this is just basically
about having the choice
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and knowing that
you have the choice.
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Okay.
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Start exercising
before you quit smoking.
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Now, your doctor can help you
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plan the best
exercise program for you.
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This decreases stress,
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it works as well as
depression medication,
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it increases endorphins as well.
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Those who have mild depression,
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what their finding is that,
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even if you take exercise
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in place of the
medication from mild depression,
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it's working just as well.
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And, the increase of
endorphins just that,
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feel good feeling
that you just want.
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And so, when you exercise,
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it's gonna kind of help
combat that feeling that those
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negative feelings that you have,
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when you're thinking
about quitting smoking.
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I want you to take
that step to actually quit.
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Another thing
that I want you to try.
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Switch to a brand of cigarettes
you don't like as much.
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Okay.
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Now, the point of that is
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you're trying to
make cigarette smoking
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something that is
just not pleasurable.
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You wanted to be something like,
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you're like not looking
forward to actually doing.
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Okay?
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So, whatever works,
whatever brand that you think,
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oh, when I smell
that it's just grose.
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So, it may kind
of keep you away,
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from picking up
that next cigarette.
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Here's something else,
throw away your lighters.
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Smoke alone, if you
like to smoke with people.
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Again, we're talking
about making it difficult
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and undesirable to smoke.
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This will help
you quit more easily.
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Tell yourself,
you can still smoke,
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just not now, okay?
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So, again the purpose
is to help you realize
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that you have
the power of choice.
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And that you can
actually refrain from smoking
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but still in the
back of your mind,
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you know, you can
still smoke if you want to.
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Okay. Another step.
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Try to be aware
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of why you smoke each cigarette,
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then practice
avoiding the things
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that cause you to smoke.
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Okay?
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Now, we've talked about
this a little bit before,
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but even if you
know, getting in your car
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is something that
triggers you to smoke.
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Like I said before,
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you could just
put the cigarettes
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or the lighters in your trunk
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just to make it
more difficult for you.
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If you know that
every time you drink coffee,
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you have the urge to
smoke or drink alcohol
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you have the urge to smoke.
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Try to avoid those things
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and substitute them
with something else,
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maybe fruit juice
or tea and herbal tea,
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something different,
breaking that routine,
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so that you aren't
triggered to do that cigarette.
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Next, write down
a list of reasons
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why you want to quit.
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Review one every
night before you go to bed.
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Now, put this list everywhere.
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Put one next to your bed stand.
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On your bed stand,
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so that when you
wake up in the morning
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and when you go
to sleep at night,
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you can just
review those reasons
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of why you don't
want to smoke anymore.
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Put it on your refrigerator,
put it on the mirror.
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When you go into the bathroom,
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so that you're
reading these reasons
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as to why you are excited about
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becoming a
non-smoker and focus on that.
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Another tip.
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Make big plans for the
day that you quit smoking.
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Celebrate, keep very
busy and treat yourself
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to something special to
celebrate quit quitting.
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Throw your
cigarettes, smokeless tobacco
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and all other
nicotine products away.
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Dispose off any
remaining ash trays.
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Now, this is
what you're gonna do,
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when you get to that quit day.
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Okay?
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On the day, you actually quit,
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change what you
do during the day.
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For example:
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Sit in a different place
at the table during meals,
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drink herbal tea
instead of coffee
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which I've already mentioned
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and hold your cup
in the other hand.
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You're jut trying to
break up routine here.
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Now, these are things
that you want to plan to do
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before the day actually comes.
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So, if you
already know what you do,
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you already know
your, your normal routine.
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So, before you
actually get to quit day,
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start thinking of ways that
you can change up your routine
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so that you will automatically
just be driven to smoke.
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Okay?
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Now, I want to talk
about another thing.
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We're gonna talk
about medications.
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Medications can actually
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double your chances
of quitting successfully.
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I've used this a lot
with some of the participants
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that I've worked
with in the past.
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And for some, it
has been successful
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and for others it has not.
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One thing that I want
you to realize is that,
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even if you use medications,
you still need a good plan.
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That's just part of your plan.
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You still need to know
what your triggers are,
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and ways of
overcoming your triggers.
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Now, using medication
is just something to help
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with the withdrawal symptoms,
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but you still want to
use all the other things
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that we're
talking about as well.
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Now, what you
want to know is that
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you have medications
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that the doctor has
to prescribe for you,
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and there're also medications
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that you can get
over-the-counter.
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The nicotine
replacement therapies or NRT's
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that are available to
you, you've heard of the gum.
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You've heard of lozenges
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and you've also heard the patch.
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So, what they do is
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they basically put a lower level
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of nicotine in your body
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just to help you
cope with the cravings.
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Okay?
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Now, some people feel kind
of hesitant to use that, but,
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what you have to realize is that
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you're getting 4000 chemicals
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just about in
cigarettes themselves.
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And so using nicotine is
just one of the chemicals
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that you'll be
taking in as oppose
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to taking in a
slew of other chemicals.
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I look at this list
that I have here in,
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there's ammonia
you find in cigarettes,
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you find cadmium,
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which you find in
batteries or in cigarettes,
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you find butane
which is lighter fluid.
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Methanol, carbon-monoxide,
there's just so many things
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and a lot of them
are cancer causing,
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so don't feel bad if
you need to take NRT's
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or nicotine
replacement therapies,
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that just deliver the nicotine
that's gonna be far better
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than what you're doing
in smoking a cigarette.
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Okay?
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Now, I want to make
sure that you understand
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that you need
to see your doctor,
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if you're gonna take
any of these medications,
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even if you're doing
over-the-counter medications,
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because some of the medications
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that you might be
taking can be affected
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by the amount of nicotine
that you have in your body.
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So, you want to make sure
that you let your doctor know,
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even if you're taking
over-the-counter medications.
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And if you're
interested in other therapies
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talk to your doctor.
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They can explain what
are the best routes for you.
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All right, let's move
on to our participants
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who have been
sharing their experience
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as far as their
plan for quitting.
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We have been asking
various questions that are to,
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just kind of let you know,
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more of the personal
side of trying to quit.
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And talking to people
who've have actually tried
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and who are
successfully non-smokers now.
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So, the first question we
asked our participants was,
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did you have a plan?
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Let's hear what
they have to say.
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I would really love to say that
I made a plan to quit smoking,
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but the truth is,
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there really
was no concrete plan
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that I knew would work for me
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because it was so addictive,
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that I didn't even
truly want to stop myself.
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I just knew that, that's
what the Lord wanted for me
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and I wanted to do
what Lord wanted me to do,
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and I wanted to do what I
knew it would affect my child.
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So, my only plan
was to ask the Lord
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and take it moment by
moment and not focus on
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three weeks down the
road or a year down the road
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and try to picture
myself without cigarettes,
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it was too hard, and
it was too much for me.
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It was still overwhelming.
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Did I have a plan to quit?
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Well, I had a plan
to quit the first time
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that I quit smoking.
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I had a plan
date to actually stop.
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My plan was to ask God,
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to give me the courage
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and the strength to not smoke.
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And I planned to do
that over the weekend,
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because I planned to be
baptized on one Sabbath,
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but the Sabbath preceding that
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I wanted to be a non-smoker.
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When I first quit,
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I did not make a plan in per se.
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I needed to quit smoking.
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It was mandatory that I needed
to quit smoking so I quit.
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Now, you heard those answers.
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They basically didn't
have a plan or so it seems.
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If you listen carefully to
what the ladies were saying.
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They said, "They
didn't really have a plan."
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And especially Cathleen,
I didn't really have a plan,
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but I was just focused on
asking God to just help me.
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She sounded like, I
didn't want to do it.
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If God wants me to do it,
He's gonna have to work it out.
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And then you
hear Brenda, she says,
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"Well, I have a plan but
my plan was basically God.
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God was gonna have to help me."
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And then you
hear Isaac, he says,
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"Well, it was between my
job or not having a job."
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So, his plan was just to quit,
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because he
wanted to keep his job.
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It was interesting enough
because as a health educator,
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when we go through our program,
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we understand that
there are different things
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that affect our, our choice
to change our health behavior,
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and one of those things
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are the perceived susceptibility
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to a particular illness
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and how that's
going to affect us.
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Now, if you had been there with
us in the pervious episodes.
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You heard that, he
had chronic bronchitis.
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And because of his
job, he can no longer smoke,
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he had to be healed or he
can no longer have his job.
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A lot of times
when we choose to smoke,
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our young
people choose to smoke,
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they think, oh, that
will never happen to me.
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And so, their choice
to smoke is a lot higher
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because the perceived
susceptibility is not there.
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They don't think
it's gonna happen to them,
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but it happened to him.
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So, now he's having to
make the choice, to quit.
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Another part of the
health belief model,
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which is where I'm
referring to is that perception
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of what are my
benefits and what are my costs
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when it comes to, smoking?
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And that also
determines somebody's behavior.
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Now, that's why
it's so important
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that you write down a list
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of why it is
that you want to quit?
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Because if your
perceived benefits
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are higher than
your perceived cost
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or barriers to
actually quitting,
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you're more likely
to change your behavior.
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For him, the cause of
losing his job was higher
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and so, he decide
that he was going to quit.
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Now, the next
question we asked was,
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how did their
lack of plan pan out?
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Because some people
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and as we've seen by
their previous responses,
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just don't have a plan,
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so let's see how
that worked out for them?
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The first time that I
quit, God was so, merciful to me
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because our plan to be
able to go into the watery grave
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without being a
smoker and he did just that.
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He actually took the taste
away and it worked miraculously.
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For ten years, I
had no craving to smoke.
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But the second
time was different.
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Well, after I picked up
smoking again 13-years later,
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I really didn't
have a plan to quit
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'cause really I didn't
considered myself a smoker,
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even though I did smoke.
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Personally, I don't
think that you should focus
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on your attempts to quit.
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I think you should
just focus on realizing
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that you don't have to
smoke that particular cigarette
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that you're
thinking about at the time.
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Okay, now, we've heard how
their lack of plan panned out.
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I really like
those responses though,
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even without the plan.
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You heard, what
Brenda said, she said,
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"He just took the taste away."
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And I've heard many people
say that, no, not everybody.
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I won't even say most,
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but many people have still said,
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they just ask God
to take the taste away
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and that's a miracle.
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And he did that for her.
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And we listen to
Isaac, he affirmed that,
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you know, I didn't
have a plan, and he said,
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I didn't even
consider myself a smoker.
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I think that's
really interesting,
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he didn't even
consider himself a smoker.
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And then you have Cathleen,
again for such a young lady,
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she has such a
wise way of thinking.
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She said, she just went
from cigarette to cigarette.
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She said, "I said to
myself, I don't have to do it."
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I really think
that's interesting
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because sometimes when
we get in our mind that,
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okay, I'm gonna quit smoking,
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I'll never gonna be
able to smoke again.
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I mean it's almost
like you're going through
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the death of a loved one,
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I hate to make
it seem that extreme
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but, I've heard that
explain to me that way.
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And you don't
want to think of being
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without that best
friend, the cigarette forever.
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So, instead of doing that,
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just taking it moment by moment,
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okay, I'm not going
to have this cigarette,
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I'm not going to
have the next cigarette,
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I'm gonna stay quit for today.
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I'm gonna focus on today,
so taking it moment by moment,
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I've had a lot of
people say, I don't promise
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that I'm gonna
stick with tomorrow,
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but today, I'm
gonna stop smoking.
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And I know a lot of people
that have done it that way
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and have been very successful.
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Now, let's get to
our next question.
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We asked the participants,
did you set a specific date?
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Now, I encourage you
to set a specific date
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just like you can have
something to celebrate,
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again these are all tools.
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But everybody does
it very differently.
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So, I want you to
hear from real people,
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what they did when I asked them,
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"Hey, did you set a date?"
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Did I set myself
a particular date
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to stop smoking?
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No, I just knew I was
gonna eventually stop smoking,
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I wanted to quit
smoking, so it just...
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It just, I kind
of waned myself off
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of smoking over
extremely long period of time.
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The second time,
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when I got
involved with smoking again.
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It was a
day-by-day struggle to stop.
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The craving was there,
00:20:04.37\00:20:06.37
something that I
never dealt with before.
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It was hard to stop
the things that I did.
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The triggers which
was get up in the morning,
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you smoke.
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You drink a beverage, you smoke,
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you eat, you smoke,
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so these things were triggers
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that I had to
fight to stop smoking.
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I didn't really set
dates or goals or resolutions,
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because it's too
easy to break them
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and when you break
them, you feel defeated
00:20:36.23\00:20:38.40
and it almost
makes you feel like
00:20:38.43\00:20:39.93
you can't ever pull
yourself out of the cycle.
00:20:39.97\00:20:42.87
So what work for me best
was just focusing on the now,
00:20:42.90\00:20:47.54
focusing on what I'm doing
now to improve my situation
00:20:47.58\00:20:50.68
or letting God
take control of me now.
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Okay, so this
group is just funny
00:20:54.62\00:20:59.02
because I say, "Make a plan."
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They say, "I
didn't make a plan."
00:21:01.02\00:21:02.36
I say, "Try setting a day."
00:21:02.39\00:21:03.99
And they say,
"They didn't set a date."
00:21:04.03\00:21:05.63
But the point is that they quit
and they are now non-smokers.
00:21:05.66\00:21:10.87
And I want you to get that,
00:21:10.90\00:21:12.23
because different things
work for different people.
00:21:12.27\00:21:15.54
And all of these
tools are things you can use
00:21:15.57\00:21:18.31
but there are other
things that you can use as well.
00:21:18.34\00:21:21.28
So, once you have decided
that I really want to quit,
00:21:21.31\00:21:24.31
just know that it's
possible, whatever your plan,
00:21:24.35\00:21:27.58
whatever you're not
planned or not date,
00:21:27.62\00:21:31.35
it can still happen for you.
00:21:31.39\00:21:33.22
Okay? But, I really
like their responses.
00:21:33.25\00:21:36.79
Notice what Isaac said, he said,
00:21:36.83\00:21:39.46
"I didn't set a date,
00:21:39.49\00:21:41.23
but I waned
myself off overtime."
00:21:41.26\00:21:44.87
That's really interesting,
a lot of people do that,
00:21:44.90\00:21:47.77
I find that
especially with males.
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Now, what I want to say,
00:21:51.31\00:21:53.24
that's so
interesting about that is,
00:21:53.27\00:21:55.78
if you can wane yourself
off to two cigarettes a day,
00:21:55.81\00:22:00.48
one cigarette a day,
usually by that point,
00:22:00.52\00:22:03.49
we find that people
aren't even really addicted
00:22:03.52\00:22:06.25
to the nicotine as
much as they think they are.
00:22:06.29\00:22:08.69
They might be addicted to some,
00:22:08.72\00:22:11.69
other part of
the smoking process
00:22:11.73\00:22:14.66
whether it's just having
00:22:14.70\00:22:16.77
something to do
with their hands,
00:22:16.80\00:22:19.03
being connected with
other individuals who smoke.
00:22:19.07\00:22:21.67
So, if you're that person
who is waning yourself off,
00:22:21.70\00:22:25.41
and you're able to get
down, to one or two cigarettes
00:22:25.44\00:22:28.84
know that, the nicotine
probably isn't your problem.
00:22:28.88\00:22:31.65
And you want to
start exploring around
00:22:31.68\00:22:34.35
your smoking situation, to
see what else is keeping you,
00:22:34.38\00:22:38.49
smoking that one cigarette
a day or two cigarettes a day.
00:22:38.52\00:22:43.16
Now, with Brenda, she
said, that the second time,
00:22:43.19\00:22:46.03
it was a day-by-day struggle,
00:22:46.06\00:22:48.76
and that's what she looked at it
00:22:48.80\00:22:50.13
as, day-by-day,
taking it day-by-day.
00:22:50.17\00:22:53.07
And Cathleen kind of mentioned
something of the sort as well.
00:22:53.10\00:22:55.94
She said, that she
didn't set any goals,
00:22:55.97\00:22:58.74
because she didn't
want to feel defeated,
00:22:58.77\00:23:00.91
and that can be so demoralizing.
00:23:00.94\00:23:04.58
It make you feel like, you
just don't want to try again.
00:23:04.61\00:23:07.22
And many of you might
have been there already.
00:23:07.25\00:23:10.85
So, she did not
want to set that goal,
00:23:10.89\00:23:13.15
she just wanted to
keep her eyes on God
00:23:13.19\00:23:15.69
and ask Him to
help her set the goals,
00:23:15.72\00:23:19.76
just step-by-step.
00:23:19.79\00:23:21.13
My goal is not to
smoke this cigarette.
00:23:21.16\00:23:23.26
My goal is not to smoke today.
00:23:23.30\00:23:25.37
Now remember that is something
that you might want to try
00:23:25.40\00:23:28.20
because, when it
boils down to it,
00:23:28.24\00:23:30.64
she just became so desperate
00:23:30.67\00:23:33.38
for God, every
movement of a day.
00:23:33.41\00:23:37.11
It reminds me of a scripture.
00:23:37.15\00:23:40.18
And this is found in
Psalm 107:9, and it reads,
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"For he
satisfieth the longing soul,
00:23:46.59\00:23:50.73
and filleth the
hungry soul with goodness."
00:23:50.76\00:23:56.06
And that's what God did for them
00:23:56.10\00:23:58.27
especially these young ladies.
00:23:58.30\00:23:59.63
I think it's so interesting,
I have to bring this out.
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Ladies, listen up now.
00:24:02.54\00:24:04.61
Guys, just close your ears
00:24:04.64\00:24:06.11
because this
doesn't pertain to you,
00:24:06.14\00:24:08.08
but for the ladies,
I have never met a lady
00:24:08.11\00:24:13.68
who is not...
00:24:13.72\00:24:15.08
who is able to quit
aside from divine intervention.
00:24:15.12\00:24:20.12
Again, we've
talked about this before,
00:24:20.16\00:24:22.42
the women are more relational
00:24:22.46\00:24:25.23
and so the cigarettes
took up so much of their life,
00:24:25.26\00:24:29.26
it was related to so much,
00:24:29.30\00:24:32.53
it was like their best friend,
00:24:32.57\00:24:33.90
I've had many women say,
00:24:33.94\00:24:35.27
cigarettes were
like my best friend.
00:24:35.30\00:24:37.61
So, how do you replace
them by his best friend?
00:24:37.64\00:24:40.91
For guys, it's
not usually the case.
00:24:40.94\00:24:42.84
And we'll talk to
you later, but for women
00:24:42.88\00:24:45.31
it seems like for them,
00:24:45.35\00:24:47.12
they need a new best friend,
00:24:47.15\00:24:48.68
somebody who can be there
00:24:48.72\00:24:50.62
in the closet with
them, when they are crying
00:24:50.65\00:24:52.55
and they are hurting
and they are depressed,
00:24:52.59\00:24:53.92
they can't bring
up a person in there
00:24:53.96\00:24:55.29
but they can
bring Jesus in there.
00:24:55.32\00:24:56.73
Somebody who can
be excited with them,
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somebody who, you
know, they can eat with,
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they can laugh with, they can,
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they need somebody to
replace all of those things
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and all of those
moves and the cigarette
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could follow them
all of these places.
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And so, what we
are finding is that,
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for women out there,
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if smoking is something
that you really want to give up.
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I would advice you,
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don't try to do
without the Lord.
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I've had many
classes with men and women
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and I'll have to say that
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when I was in a setting
where I couldn't introduce
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God into the setting,
into that environment,
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the success rate for
females was very low.
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And I'll never forget
meeting with the client,
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who was actually
trying to quit smoking,
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not just smoking, but
she was also trying to quit
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overeating and
alcohol at the same time.
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And she came to me and she says,
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"I'm a part of AA, I'm
part of OA, I'm a part of in A."
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I was like, "What's OA?"
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She said, "Overeating,
overeaters anonymous."
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What's NA? Narcotics anonymous.
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She was trying to do
all that at a same time
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and I said to
here, and you're trying
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to quit smoking now too?
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I said, maybe you
should try to do this later
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after, you know,
dealt with that some.
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And she says, "No, this
is what God wants me to do,
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I know he does."
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And of all the
women in that class
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with everything
she was up against,
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she was one of the few women
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of all of the
time that I had work
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with men and women that
actually quit as a woman.
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Now, the guys once
they decide in their minds
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that this is what
they're gonna do, they did it.
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But for the females, she
was like my prize student,
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and I sincerely attribute that
to her relationship with God.
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She was able to take
him in as her best friend,
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her new best friend,
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and overcome all
of those addictions
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at the same time
and she was so happy.
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So, a word to the women.
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I want you to
know that God is able
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and He wants to have a
personal relationship with you.
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You know, guys
too, you know that
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and because again
guys compartmentalize
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and put that
cigarette into the box.
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The cigarette is not
necessarily their best friend,
00:27:06.82\00:27:10.93
the cigarette isn't
something that they have to have
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when they're
happy, or sad, or angry
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or you know, guys can
be a little different.
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Now, some guys are
in the same category
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as some females.
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But for the most part,
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women, we have to
have a serious replacement
00:27:24.91\00:27:30.75
for that loss of
that best friend.
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So, I want you
to keep that in mind
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and know that God is
able and He is willing.
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Now, just as I close,
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I really want to review the idea
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that you can do this with a plan
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or you can do
this without a plan.
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But the point is
that you want to do it.
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Learn from your past mistakes.
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Make that plan even
better and by God's grace,
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you too can be a non-smoker.
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