joining us on It Is Written
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Canada.
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It's the oldest legally and
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formally recognized union of
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two people as partners in a
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personal relationship and it
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was created by God Himself
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because, in His own words,
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"It is not good for man
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to be alone."
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[REN巿 God, the architect of
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the universe, created marriage
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for our happiness.
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Eve was created from a rib
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taken from the side of Adam,
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signifying that she was not to
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control him as the head nor to
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be trampled under his feet as
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an inferior, but to stand by
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his side as an equal, to be
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loved and protected by him,
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a part of man, bone of his bone
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and flesh of his flesh, she
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was his second self, showing
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the close union and the
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affectionate attachment that
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should exist in this
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relationship.
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>> Yet so many couples are
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caught in such a destructive
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cycle that more than a third
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of all Canadian marriages end
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in divorce.
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This is particularly painful
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for me, personally, because my
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parents divorced when I was
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three years old and it was
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very traumatic to me and to my
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three brothers.
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>> And during these times, the
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problem is escalating.
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Agencies that deal with mental
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health are reporting that
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there has been an increase in
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domestic violence.
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According to a national
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survey, domestic violence
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during the initial period of
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lock-down in Canada, was more
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severe and more frequent.
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[MIKE] So Rene and I want to
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share with you a better way
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for couples to understand one
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another and actually enjoy
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being together.
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And what better way than to
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meet a couple who have had an
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ongoing experience of the true
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love that God originally
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promised when He created
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marriage.
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They will share with you how
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every marriage can thrive and
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become a burning and a shining
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light of hope to others who
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feel like they're caught in a
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cycle of despair.
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>> Our special guests today
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are pastor Darrell and Lise
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Beaudoin who will share with
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you their personal journey of
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how they found true love and
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how you can find it, too.
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中
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>> Welcome again to It Is
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Written Canada.
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Divorce statistics read like
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horror stories about marriages
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falling apart, broken-hearted
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wives and lonely children.
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Thankfully there is hope.
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Our homes do not have to
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reflect this trend.
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Today we are here in Fort
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Saskatchewan, Alberta where we
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will meet with our good
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friends, Lise and Darrell
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Beaudoin, who, to me, have a
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marriage that reflects what
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God designed marriage to be.
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>> Darrell and Lise, thank you
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so much for joining us on It
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Is Written Canada.
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>> Thank you.
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>> It's an honour and
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privilege to be with you both.
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>> So we're talking about
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marriage and I know all
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marriages have their ups and
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downs, but it seems like the
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two of you have it all
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together.
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>> Well, I am wondering-- we
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are wondering what makes you
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think that.
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>> Well, I guess you're right,
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I mean, I'm judging it from
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external appearances, but it
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looks to me like you really
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have a happy marriage.
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>> We'll take that as a
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gracious compliment.
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Thank you.
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>> So, Lise, did you grow up
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in a Christian home?
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>> No, well, in a Catholic
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home, but Mom never did teach
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us, you know, religion
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in the home.
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>> And what about for you,
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Darrell?
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>> We were influenced in our
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family of five siblings with
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the standard Judeo-Christian
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influences.
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However, growing up in the
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60's, 70's era with the
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hippie generation, if you
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will, the "if it feels good,
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do it," the "Me" generation,
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we had a lot going against
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us also.
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But all those religious
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influences, as sparse as they
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were, were seeds planted
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as God used them later on in
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our lives.
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>> What circumstances led you
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both to Christ?
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[LISE] Well, for me at the age
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of 15, you know, I was
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involved in parties and drugs
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and alcohol and one night I
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just remember at a party, I just
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like, you know, "I don't wanna
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do this for the rest of my
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life," and so I was searching
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and then one of my school
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teachers saw that I was in
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trouble with the drug scene
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and stuff like that and he
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invited me and some of my
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friends to a youth encounter
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with the Catholic church.
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And that weekend it was like I
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saw a glimpse of what Christ
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had done for me, but I didn't
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quite catch it.
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And so the next following
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week, we just went back to our
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drug and alcohol scene because
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they didn't follow up with us
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and so we just sat there and
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like, "What do we do now?"
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You know?
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So we just went back to our
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same lifestyle.
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And then at the age of 17, I
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started to work in a captain's
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submarine shop and there was a
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young girl there that was a
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Christian and she shared a
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pamphlet with me on salvation.
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And she-- and I prayed the
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prayer of salvation and gave
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my heart to Christ and that's
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when my whole life just took a
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turn for the right way and
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they followed up with me and
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we would study the Bible on
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the weekends and they stayed
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with me until I became
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established.
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>> You know, and every time
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Lise tells me that, I marvel
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because it is a blessing to
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her advantage, a credit, you
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know, to give her heart to the
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Lord at 17 years of age where
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for myself, it wasn't 'til at
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least 27 years of age, another
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ten years that I went on with
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the substance abuse and the
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bad decisions in my life and
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I'm paying for it and will
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continue to pay for it with a
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weakened constitution because
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of all the abuse.
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>> The big question is, how
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did the two of you meet?
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>> Well, do you want the long
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version, the short version?
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>> Well, it starts off with
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him and then...
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>> Yeah, in the context with
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my conversion experience, once
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I became a Christian, I, after
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studying the Bible for a
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couple of years and wanting to
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start going door-to-door and
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sharing my faith with others,
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I have a twin brother and my
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twin brother and I, we
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actually started up a company
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where we would go door to door
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and we would give books out on
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a donation basis and we did
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that for a couple of years.
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And during that time, on a
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cold November evening, I
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knocked on the lucky door.
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Friends of Lise, that she had
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just moved to from Edmonton
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from Ontario with, we met them
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going door-to-door, myself,
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and they were very interested
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in the materials that I had to
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offer and my twin brother and
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I went in the next week, sat
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down with a pictorial
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perspectives and we started
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giving them a Bible study on
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the amazing prophecies of
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Daniel and Revelation.
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And so we started the process
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of studying with them and they
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wanted to hear more of what we
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had to say and through the
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course of a few weeks, I
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invited them to an It Is
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Written prophecy seminar with
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Henry Feyerabend and at that
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time, they invited Lise to
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come along.
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Now, Lise had actually warned
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them to stay away from me...
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[LISE] Well, when they started
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to share with me what they
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were learning, I was, like,
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wondering, "OK, well, who are
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these people," and I just
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wanted to protect my friends
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from a possible cult.
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We-- I went to the Christian
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bookstore and I purchased a
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couple of books and...
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>> On how to spot false
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doctrines.
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>> And so I was questioning
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him as to what the book said
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that Seventh-day Adventists
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believed and so we...
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>> I'd give you answers that
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were not quite in harmony with
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that book that you purchased.
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So you had to start asking
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questions, heart-felt
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questions to me personally.
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"Well, what do you believe
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about this and that," and that
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started the process of us
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studying the Bible together.
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And Lise says, after the fact,
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too, I thought this was kind
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of charming, that one of the
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things that impressed her was
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when I picked you up and your
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friends for the first time to
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attend the meeting, it's a
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habit that I always have of
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praying before I drive and I
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always say, "Let's just have a
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word of prayer," and she felt
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that that was charming that he
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likes to pray.
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And through the course of a
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few months, after her
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questions were being answered
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and there were some tough--
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she was a-- you'd been to a
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Bible college, you have a
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degree from a Bible college,
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so she knew her Bible very
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well, being a Christian ten
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years prior to my conversion
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experience.
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But we studied, we overcame
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those doctrinal hurdles and
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answered all those necessary
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questions and...
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>> So we studied for a year
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and a half after the-- Henry
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Feyerabend did his program.
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[DARRELL] That's right.
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And I remember when Henry
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Feyerabend was giving his
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appeals and I was praying,
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just waiting for you to go up
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to the front during the appeal,
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I mean, you never did.
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>> I wasn't ready.
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>> So I could tell you were
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resisting, but God was still
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working in your heart.
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>> That's right.
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But once I was convinced that,
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you know, everything that he
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was teaching was right, then
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we were-- I was baptized.
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>> You put a music video
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together called "True Love."
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So what does that song mean
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to you?
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>> You know, song-writing has
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been an intrinsic blessing,
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maybe a bit of a mystery that
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I can't fully explain 'cause
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sometimes those songs are
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just there.
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There was one day we were out
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for a walk with some friends
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and sometimes these lyrics
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just pop into your head:
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"Many a love song has been
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written of old, songs of
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endearment long to be told."
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And I asked somebody, "Does
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somebody have a piece of paper
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and a pen," and I had to look
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down and look for a cigarette
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package and rip it up and get
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a pen and just write down
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those lyrics spontaneously and
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then put it in my pocket and
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then a few days later I
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continued to develop the
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lyrics, both of us together,
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until we were able to complete
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a whole song, a composition,
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and record it a number of
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years ago.
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So, true love, to answer your
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question, there-- in the
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spectrum of our world that is
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seeking for affection,
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love-sick sentimentalism,
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there truly is only one common
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denominator, one fundamental
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expression of love and that is
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found in our relationship with
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Jesus Christ and it really is
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expressed in the concept of
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giving, of sacrifice.
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And so this song talks about
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the sacrifice of Christ and
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only in Christ can we really
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recognize what is true love.
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中
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刀any a love song
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士ave been written of old
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又ongs of endearment
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子ong to be told
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丁ut the song to be written
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川hat tells of true love
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儿s the song that reveals
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川he most loving above
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中
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三his love that constrains us
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夕s not what some think
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儿t's more than a feeling
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孓ot written in ink
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儿t's free for the asking
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巾et bought with a price
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上hat the world needs
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夕s true love
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刁othing less will suffice
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入esus, we plead for this
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子ove today
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力nly in You, Lord
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夕s true love portrayed
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上hen we recognize the truth
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川hat You gave us Your own
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力nly then can we know
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川his true love
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中
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刀any have sought
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川o define what is love
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力nly to realize
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夕t comes from above
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儿nexpressible with words
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川rue love knows no bounds
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儿n the heart of my Jesus
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川rue love can be found
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中
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三rue love has a motive
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已hose source is divine
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上illing to labour
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口or the good of mankind
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几ong-suffering in trials
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川rue love bears the pain
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上hat the world needs is
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川rue love
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兀nd the power it brings
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入esus we plead for this
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子ove today
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力nly in You, Lord
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夕s true love portrayed
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上hen we recognize the truth
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川hat You gave us Your own
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力nly then can we know this
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川rue love
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入esus we plead for this
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子ove today
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力nly in You, Lord
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夕s true love portrayed
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上hen we recognize the truth
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川hat You gave us Your own
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力nly then can we know this
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川rue love
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力nly then can we know this
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川rue love
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力nly then can we know this
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川rue love
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中
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>> I really love those lyrics
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and there's just certain ones
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that just stick in my mind,
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"True love, it's more than a
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"feeling, not written in ink,
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"Free for the asking yet
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"bought with a price.
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"What the world needs is true
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"love, nothing less will
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"suffice.
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"When we recognize the truth
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"that You gave us Your all,
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"only then can we know
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true love."
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So, Darrell and Lise, tell us
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about the keys to a happy and
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fulfilling marriage.
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>> For me it starts with God.
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You have to have that
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relationship with God on a
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daily basis and you study the
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Bible where you find what God
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is like and you see, you know,
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you learn about love through
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how God related to humanity
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throughout history and not
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only...
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>> Sacrificially, yeah.
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>> ...it through the Bible,
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yeah, but also in your own life
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as to how God has dealt with me
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throughout all my life and it's
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always been in a gentle, kind,
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loving way.
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[DARRELL] You know, you have
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Christ, God, at the top of the
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triangle, husband and wife on
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the bottom of both sides, but
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as each of them are developing
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their personal relationship
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with God, they are both coming
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closer together.
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A family that prays together,
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stays together and truly that
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is a common denominator, but
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if we were to bullet point a
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list of what are the keys, I
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would say first of all,
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communication is an important
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one, mutual respect, and trust.
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In my marriage counselling as
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a pastor to others, I've
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always emphasized the fact to
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husband and wife to go out of
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your way to make sure that you
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give evidence to your spouse
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that they are your only, your
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one and only, and give them
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that evidence of loyalty.
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You know, when it comes to the
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finances of marriage, you
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know, we're very equitable in
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our finances and we share our
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finances and...
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>> The budget is done together
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and then, you know, I'm the
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budgeteer.
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>> "Budgeteer," that's a good
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word, "budgeteer."
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>> So yeah, it works...
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>> My beautiful accountant.
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>> You work together, right?
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>> Yeah.
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[REN巿 So, Darrell and Lise,
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you sang a song together on
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your wedding day...
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[DARRELL] We did.
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>> Can you tell us a little
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bit about that song?
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>> Well, before we were
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married, we were doing the
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dishes one night together
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and..
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>> I was visiting her home
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that you were living in, yeah.
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>> Yeah, and we thought, "You
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know, that would be kinda neat
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to just sing our vows instead
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of say our vows," and so...
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>> And why the washing dishes,
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why does that bring back a
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memory?
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>> Well, it just happened to
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be that-- at that time when we
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put it together.
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[DARRELL] I was-- guitar in my
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hand, usually I have my guitar
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everywhere I go and she was
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washing the dishes and I says,
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"What do you think of this
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tune?"
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Dat-de-dat-de-dat-de-de...
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And she just, "Well, that
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sounds really nice."
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And, again, as song-writing
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goes, some of the best songs
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written are the ones that just
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come out extemporaneously and
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they're just there.
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And those lyrics that evening,
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we composed the lyrics
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together and fine-tuned them
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and then on our wedding day,
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coming right up to the rostrum,
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the podium, before the pastor
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had any chance to say
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anything, we grabbed the
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microphone and the music came
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on and we had a chance to sing
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our vows together with a
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couple hundred people as
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witnesses and it was a sacred
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moment.
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>> It was a nervous moment for
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me, too, because that was my
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first time to sing in public.
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>> So that song, we're gonna
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watch a video of you singing
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that song together.
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>> Mm-hmm.
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It's a video that we produced
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and I hope you enjoy it.
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中
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儿 dedicate my life to you
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孑y promise is
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川hat I'll be true
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刀y heart will always
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叉ver be with you
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儿 give my life to you today
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刃elieving that our love
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已ill stay
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丁ecause God's love
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夕s real to you and me
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丁ut words cannot express the
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士appiness that's in my heart
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八nowing Jesus Christ
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士as bound us, two in one
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乙nd I believe that
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巾ou're the one
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三he only one that's
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孑eant for me
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匕lease receive
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孑y pledge to honour you
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儿'll always love you
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乙nd I'll love you
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[DARRELL] 了or we are not
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寸ur own
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[TOGETHER] 上e pledge our lives
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川o live together
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丸ou and me
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夕n His love
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中
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[DARRELL] 丁ecause you've made
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川his pledge to me
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孑y help-mate for eternity
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卜ejoice, my love
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川here's on one else but you
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三enderly I'd like to say
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孓ow that true love's
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勺ome my way
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三hank You, Lord
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士e truly is the one
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几et heaven's trumpet
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山ound aloud
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三oday you've made this
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孑an so proud
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刀y eyes behold
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川he wonder of it all
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三he joy we share is mutual
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三he love we share
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已ill surely grow
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上hen God is near
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川o help along the way
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儿'll always love you
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乙nd I'll love you
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了or we are not our own
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儿'll cherish you
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儿'll always be true
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上e pledge our lives
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川o live together
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丸ou and me
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儿n His love
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儿n His love
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儿n His love
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儿n His love
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>> Darrell and Lise, thank you
00:24:12.51\00:24:13.65
so much for that beautiful
00:24:13.65\00:24:15.08
music video.
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>> I'm glad you were blessed.
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[REN巿 So you are both very
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active in ministry.
00:24:21.46\00:24:23.43
So can you tell us how this
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has affected your marriage and
00:24:25.13\00:24:27.20
your family life?
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[LISE] Well, it has been a
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wonderful growing experience
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for us personally as well as
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for our children.
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[DARRELL] As a pastor, you
00:24:41.01\00:24:42.28
know, it's a 24/7 calling, but
00:24:42.28\00:24:44.71
there are opportunities, lots
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of opportunities for us to
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spend time together as a
00:24:47.42\00:24:48.98
family doing ministry together.
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So in all of our front-line
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evangelistic endeavours, you
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know, we've walked the path
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together as Bible teachers,
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literature evangelists in the
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publishing ministry of our
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church, all the evangelism
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that we've been involved in,
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we've worked together and so
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it's been such a blessing.
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Our children, both of them
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were baptized following an
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evangelistic series that I
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have conducted and to watch
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the conviction on our sons'
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expressions as each night the
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amazing truths of the Bible
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unfold before them.
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So ministry has been a
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tremendous blessing, we just--
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we've done so much together,
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it's been 35 years of doing
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things together.
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And I would say then it's a
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very important principle for
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all married families, couples,
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to take from this and that is
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doing things together,
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spending time together,
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serving, helping others and,
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again, this is where the true
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love principle comes in,
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understanding Christ's
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sacrificial love of servitude,
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I think that's a key point
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there.
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>> That's a beautiful place to
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end on.
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Darrell, I wonder if you could
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close with a word of prayer
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for us?
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Let's pray.
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>> Loving father in heaven,
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we stand in awe of Your
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demonstration of true love.
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And we ask, Lord, and we pray
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over all those who are
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watching this program who
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might be aspiring to a richer,
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deeper relationship with You
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and a better marriage.
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I pray, Lord, that Your hand
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of blessing would be upon all
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those watching and yearning
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and that you will bless them
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with the principles of true
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love that only come from Jesus
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through applying the
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principles in Your word.
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Thank You, Lord.
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In Jesus' name we pray, amen.
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[ALL] Amen.
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>> Darrell and Lise, I really
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appreciate your commitment to
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one another, your commitment
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to Christ which has kept you
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committed to each other and
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thank you for sharing with us...
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>> Thank you...
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[MIKE] ...that journey here on
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It Is Written today.
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>> ...for allowing us to share
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with you today, too.
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[LISE] Thank you.
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>> Friends, when it comes to
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marriage, there is always room
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for growth, always room for
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improvement, so our free offer
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for you today is How To Love
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Your Marriag.
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>> How to Love Your Marriage
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Learn how to reclaim intimacy
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happiness.
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>> Because we want you to
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experience the truth that is
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found in the words of Jesus,
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our Saviour, when He said,
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"It is written, 'Man shall not
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"'live by bread alone, but by
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"'every word that proceeds out
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of the mouth of God.'"
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[Darrell and Lise singing]
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儿n His love
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儿n His love
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儿n His love
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